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I had a realization this morning actually, 90% of the self improvement space is filled with tips, tricks, and hacks. That's all it is. There is very little substance anymore. It's all just marketing and courses and nonsense.
Been thinking about this too! Every day I ask myself, "What do you really want?" because that is the first step in changing your life, according to those in the know. And every day I have no clue. It makes me miserable because I feel like I am missing out on something better.
Enjoy what you have and keep an eye out for what could really excite you and fit into your life now. I’m in the same boat! It’s hard to figure out what you want when you have such limited time to go after it. It feels like the most impactful decision ever!! But whatever it is, make sure it’s what YOU want and what’s good for YOUR life. Good luck!! 🤗🩷
I have done this every single day for 6 months and I just realized all that I "really want" is to feel okay with whatever it is I choose to do. The misery is from assuming I've missed out on making the better decision. I also haven't watched the video yet so maybe he talks about this. I don't know if this is also true for you but I thought I'd share because I know this feeling all too well and would never want someone else to have to continue running in this circular thinking.
I admire your honesty and it makes me trust you more than anyone else on RUclips. Thank you so much for your immense support and help. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I'm so sick of the influencers and the fake ego persona they show online. They don't post for intention but attention. I'm also sick of the ones who are all about "look at me, look at what I'm doing". These are the ones in constant lack mentality at their core.
This youtuber has 1,7 million followers. and carefully chooses background and hair.... it seems its not about look at me but the passion to introduce people to options. At least some youtubetrs use non-vulgar language.
I am from the EU and I am astonished that you are the only American I have found on RUclips who understands that making money is not the goal of life! I hope other Americans will learn from you. 🖖 Good life!"
GOSHHH I needed this video! I’ve been trying to “leveling up” these past 4 months because my ex bf implied I had trauma from previous relationships. Made me feel like something was wrong with me.. therefore I started to work on myself to improve but then it has became this thing that is so exhausting like I feel bad the days I don’t meditate, I feel bad for not starting my business yet.. makes me feel not ready yet to talk to another man or start something with someone because I feel like I’m not ready.. I’ve been isolated from people and friends :( I’m very social but these past months I’ve been feeling like so alone.. thank you for reminding me that life is about balance and loving ourselves and accepting ourselves
Good Lord Clark! You are literally talking to me right now. Thank you so so so much for this video. I also make videos and I understand when you said: this video is not for views, it's just a conversation between friends. Let me tell you every word you said made echo in my head and gave me so much peace. Thank you again for your time and dedication ❤
These are your best videos imho because its the truth. The truth is where the real value lies. Hearing what you don't want to hear. An example being doing what you hate, having the discipline to follow through is what actually produces the results, at least in the beginning until you form the habits that serve you. For me personally, becoming connected more with God has been the biggest change for me, above anything else I have done up to this point, including some short term therapy. You can only serve one master. Choose wisely. Thank you Clark for sharing this!
Wow I loved this. Super rare to find this level of authenticity in the “self-improvement” market & it’s a breath of fresh air. Clark, I think you’re really honing in on your niche. Keep speaking what you truly think & you have a life-long supporter, your genuine self is full of wisdom and it’s very refreshing to hear so thank you
One of the best videos I have watched in a very long time thank you so much for making this video and we would like to see more of your thoughts on this subject thank you so much we are grateful to have you as a creator may God bless you and me he inspire you to spread happiness all over the world
Also, I am seeing this trend that people are going back to old school religion. There's a movement in this too so just be careful. All of this technique shit still makes us feel powerless, which is why most people go back to religion to feel a sense of security. But it's truly within us
Great video - in a world where many people including myself listen to too much “self-help” content all day long and don’t take in half of what we watched this resonated a lot. I felt you came off as very authentic and genuine, which made the message a lot stronger. Thank you for deciding to post, it really helps put into perspective a lot of similar thoughts I’ve also had that I’ve just left in the back of my mind.
Fuck yeaach it was worth uploading. Congrats on making one of the best videos that I have watched in a while. So much useful informations to consider in life and reflect on.
Man oh man, I could feel you all the way from London. This is truly the best video I’ve seen from you. I could feel the passion and the honesty oozing out of you. Thank you man - I love that doing this video helped you too.
Thank you for posting this after all. So many people are mindlessly obsessed with self-improvement and the worst part - there’s no end to it. It’s so important to know why we do it and have clear goals in mind.
In one of your videos I saw a month ago or so you said people get addicted to the feeling of being a victim. I turned it off in anger till I realised it was a reflection in me. Thanks for that honesty. It was very helpful to produce changes in my thought patterns.
A.m. routine ~ journal, pen, quiet/meditation/prayer time (whatever you want to call it)…….ask yourself this simple question: “how/where/who am I to serve today?” Let divine order guide your inspired actions for the day by tuning in. We are ALL already enough in this very moment…. Clark, you are transitioning in perfect divine order. Thanks for being authentic….
This is the best video for anyone and everyone. I'm the type of person who searches for answers to what I'm feeling and the problems I face sometimes, and I would usually go to motivational videos to do that. Now, I have a different understanding about self improvement. Thank you for this video, we need more of these Clark. I can definitely see you as one of the greats!
I started following your content just recently, and I have to say it has helped me a lot. I think all the points you make about self-improvement are so insightful! You put into words many thoughts I have but never had real answers for. Thank you, Clark. God bless you and your family! Hugs from Brazil!
Just discovered your videos today and loved this one, really spoke to me. And I’ve noticed alot of people turning back to God too. We’re all kind of prodigal sons and daughters returning home.
Yes thank you Clark- however, I do think it's important that when you're trying to start a new life that it's not easy to be around people who are doing things that you're trying to stop. This doesn't mean you can't hangout with those people at all. It just means spending LESS time
Honestly I like the video, but self improvement for the last 6 months has drastically changed my life. But my life has become less about me and more about my family and friends. I now just connect and stop worrying so much about doing "right: all the time, and just being the my version of the best me in that moment. When your glass is overflowing, start filling other people's glasses is the best thing I learned
Glad you posted this, I hadn't watched any of your videos for a while because of the artificiality of some of them, but this one resonated, and judging by how you said you felt at the end of it, you already knew that 😄👍🏻
Wow, what a video. It's amazing how synchronistic this video is. I came up in my recommended videos 10 minutes after being released. Only got the chance to see it now! I've been feeling this way too recently. Really seeing the truth of self-improvement. The pros and cons and most importantly, what I got was to be grateful for where I am and enjoy the process more instead of chasing the next 'breakthrough' I'm curious what you guys got from the video! Feel free to leave a comment below Much love!❤
Clark I love your content. I am in the early journey of self development and this video has been a great red flag marker for me, THANK YOU! I would love to connect as I am about to launch my own online community on here for the over 40s´ A non-alcoholic Cheers Chris
This was a good video. I've read a TON of "self improvement" books and watched thousands of hours of videos. My #1 book after all of them is 7 Habits of Highly Effective People because it promotes character ethic over personality ethic, living a principle centered life. Interdependence vs independence. Begin with the end in mind. It keeps me centered on relationships, my core beliefs, and it's God centered. Thank you, Clark, for this video! You're a good dude!! Respect!!👊
Clark, this was one of the best videos I've watched! So raw and so vulnerable! I did your course last year and did it again this year... last year, I felt like it was more for improving myself because there's something wrong with me. This year, it was somewhat similar, but with more conviction because I knew it worked. I finished the course the 2nd time round in May or April. 1 week or so ago, I realised all of this and that self-acceptance and contentment with myself and my life is what I need. These last 2 weeks have been the best 2 weeks I've had in a while. They weren't perfect by no means! I was upset, I was unhappy, tired, short, but I've also been happy and content with the fact that I'm not 'perfect' and that is ok❤ much love to you Clark and to the Metamorphic team
Working on myself has been exhausting. I’m guilty of telling myself that once I accomplish my goals, then I can enjoy myself. It has helped me stay more focused but I’ve been experiencing fatigue and sadness.
I loved that video! So many insights and also stories that totally matched with me. Thank you for breaking with that pattern in the “self-improvement” trend and industry!!! 😁👍🏻 I caught myself in your thoughts and what happened during this journey of “getting better”. Keep going with such videos! These are great. For me, as I am watching your videos (and waiting for the next ones) it seems more and more that you have grown into a new phase. I could totally feel it from here (👉🏻Germany) Now I will recommend this video to a friend who really needs this. Because she is exactly in that spot of self-improvement and does not know when this will end to be “good enough “.
Fair enough, Clark. I believe you can't really talk anyone out of going their own journey, because only the experience leads to realization. Jim Carrey said: "I wish everyone became rich and famous just to realize that it wasn't the point." Well, I'm sure even if Jim Carrey went back yo his younger self, he couldn't talk him out of wanting ti achieve his big dreams, and that he has, millions of people listen to him when he speaks. I know I also want to have the same influence and for that I guess you know better what needs to be done. I understand you're just expressing yourself and I feel ya on that, living with less pressure would be sweet if you think about it for a moment's notice, but in the end, deep down inside, we all love the thrill of the journey of trying to reach our goals, at least the people who signed up for it in the first place.
Hey Clark, Thank you for the different perspective on selfimprovement. Now I really know why I felt off even though I religiously followed all the selfimprovement formulas. Feeling the need to improve kills the selfworth in essence and you pointed that out! Right now I feel worse than before self improvement. Thank you for the great work in all the years!
Ok next time I will watch the whole thing b4 I comment.. hahaha JUST B YOURSELF DUDE.. your genuine self is truth you who are.. that's key for everyone.. Don't overthink and yes I love all your content even jokes... I can't say I agree with everything but it's an excellent break and a window into the real Clark Kent hahahaa I said it yes.. be real I lovit dude Live your excellent life always 🔥💋 Jane..and we are all God's n Goddesses we are spirit we never die our souls are in this vessel the God.. We are creators everything we think of say do is our creation. And we are never alone and God sees and knows all therefore, we are spirit having this experience through the God Head.. Therefore nothing is wrong or right it's life it's choices it's consequences . Was it fun right wrong .. did you learn the lesson if there was one.. So far this was one of my fav videos keep it up I am sure others found this as valuable
Hi Clark ! It's gonna be a looong one, sorry 😑 (but I have much to say) TL;DR: it pains me to say, but for the first time I'm gonna comment because this is the first video of yours I can't really connect to and, worse, disagree notably with on some points. Let me explain. First, at 1:30 - Well, it took me almost 4 decades before I started realizing that it had some real merits and adjust accordingly. It did me a LOT of good. Then, at 2:51 - Overall, I agree. I get what you're saying. What you own or what your status is doesn't make your inherent value, I agree 100%. But that's something I can't connect to when I see all the fubar people in this world and what they do. Let's take the example of someone who hurts a child and said child. I'm sorry, they do _not_ have the same value. Not to me anyway. And that is true for many things. Some humans are unfortunately not fit for life among other humans and the sooner one accepts that, the better. I used to be so empathic I could barely function. Now I have accepted that some people are lost or evil beyond saving. The older I get, the more unforgiving I am of some people who are clearly irredeemable. And that helps me with living in the reality of this world we share. Maybe there are valid explanations for why they are how they are but I don't care. It's a them problem. Not mine. If they do harm, it's not my job to find reasons and circumstances. I was infinitely more miserable when I used to. It won't bring unalived people back or unharm innocents, or undo damage and undestroy anything. Another example, the amount of animals I see everyday through many channels that endure things I can't even bring myself to talk about here? I have bona fide violent thoughts sometimes. No, we do not all have the same value. I'm not religious, despite being from a deeply catholic culture, but some humans downright belong in the pits of hell. 3.43 I personally never have followed any rulebook of any sort. Even when I started tiptoeing in noob mode in this domain. I listen, I agree or disagree, sometimes my thoughts and experiences (therefore perception) evolve, I reconsider stuff that I had previously heard... it's a whole process. Like anything in life. I consider rules and lack of flexibility are either there to give structure to something in order to reach the most unbiased outcome possible (like say in science) or are there to control. Self-improvement is neither to me (although self-control can definitely be good) so I've never seen whatever advice and "rules" I came across through that lens nor made it such a big deal. My happiness has never been conditional, let alone in relation to what self-improvement has told me I should be doing or working on. I always decide what's worth my time, effort and introspection. It's like a friend giving you advice on stuff you're not seeing objectively. You can take it or leave it, but it's nice to have someone who cares giving it in the first place so you can think about it. 7:24 Self-isolation has probably been the best and biggest catalyst in me taking my life into my own hands again. The time and space to think, without having to act and think in reaction to others, is in my humble opinion a luxury nowadays. It helped me take the necessary steps back to actually, objectively observe what was going on in my life, who was in it, who deserved access to me or not, who I was in unbalanced relationships with, who was crossing and abusing my boudaries, etc. Isolation also meant indeed that I reevaluated some dynamics and that I cut off some people, including from my family, and it definitely was for the better. I still love them. But from afar. The amount of disrespect I could receive without even really noticing is now mind-blowing to me. Isolation has helped me make room for new and better aligned connections and redirect my energy and care towards people and things deserving of it. Basically, my hands were full of bs and I couldn't grab anything better because I was holding onto said bs out of loyalty and the belief that I had some kind of duty/role or something. Well, turns out, I finally figured out - took me long enough - that I don't and now better people came in and there is always room for more when it just flows. Some are back after a couple years apart and we both evolved and now benefit greatly from it. I feel better, freer, more aligned with the woman I actually am and want to become, and better suited for healing some stuff now that I don't have all that noise distracting me. Sometimes you have to walk alone to think clearly. So in response to 8:09 In fact yes, sometimes it is. 9:53 You know what? It's when I _finally_ started to love myself, respect myself and do what was hard in order to give myself what others didn't, that self-improvement started to really attract me and make sense. Granted, it coincided with a spiritual awakening and soon after the total deletion of my socials, which helped with that too, but I didn't get into it out of feeling "not enough" (although I'm definitely NOT judging, each person has their own story and reasons). In fact I did it out of curiosity and eagerness to, for once, being able to exploit the awesome that was dormant in me, the untapped potential, acknowledging the parts of me that I had been neglecting for so. damn. long. Self-improvement was somewhat of a guiding light in that it was a starting point for me to understand myself better, what makes me tick, what I want to pursue, what self-limiting beliefs I could have, and so much more. I didn't want to fix myself per se. I mean if I can do that to some brittle parts of me in the process, heck yeah 🤘🏻 but that's not what fueled/fuels me. I wanted to polish the raw diamond (that we all intrinsically have, it's just a matter of realizing it) because if I didn't, who would? I don't want to sound self-centered or narcissistic, but I've spent my entire life living for and serving others and most of the time gave substantially more that what I've received. And now I understand... what, and how I gave? Some people would kill to have half of this kind of stuff. I'm a genuine giver, a lover, a caring individual, who more often than not puts on an armor and a shield of "idgaf" because if I don't, I may break from sensitivity and empathy like I used to. I'm at a point in my life where I'm finally giving those same things I gave others for so long to _myself_ and you know what? That makes me an even better giver because now I really measure what it is I'm giving, to whom, and the sincerity behind it has real meaning, it's not out of habit or loyalty. Quality is better. Quantity less. I'm not giving from an almost empty cup anymore. So yeah, in essence, self-improvement the way you consider it (and have been sharing with us) was my entry point into an "I'm gonna become my best possible self and won't waste everything great in me on people and things undeserving of it" and it still is my primary reason to this day. I'm an eternal student and love improvement in everything. Objects, techniques, recipes, knowledge, skills, workouts, you name it, I'll find ways to make it better to suit my needs and reach my objectives. Always have, always will. So why not myself overall? Yes, I am flawed, I'm human like all of us (I think 👀) and that's what makes me me, too. I wouldn't have it any other way. And yes, I see myself as a "project" as you said, in a way. But in my eyes, that's definitely a positive. Because I know that I will love what I will become. Even without self-improvement, I wouldn't go back to relive my younger decades even if I could. I like this 40s woman SO much better !! Even physically, which my younger self would never have believed in a million years. Granted, I'm a millennial - we're mostly aging like fine wine - true lol, but still 😋 Did I always feel great and high vibe while seeking advice and guidance? Of course not. But you know what else? I found people like you and a couple others who made a deep mark on me and in how I reflect and think about things. You unknowingly and single-handedly helped me reach some of my most precious and deep realizations. On which, consequently, I have been able to reflect, take stock of, act and heal sometimes too. The self-acceptance part you mentioned has been progressing in part thanks to the reflection and acknowledgment of some stuff you incited in me. Many things and people have played a part, but you did as well. A sizeable chunk of my shadow work has been instigated through your content alone - and I haven't watched everything, far from it, not even all that you've published since I subscribed around the first covidfest iirc, to be honest - which has been very valuable to me and for that I'm immensely grateful. Thank you. It feels to me like you're projecting a bit yourself (not a judgement, merely an observation) and that you lost yourself among people for whom appearances and status are it, maybe you're going through an existential crisis. You're approaching mid-thirties, correct? Been there. What I mean is don't throw away everything you've once helped people with just because you're temporarily uncertain, probably tired, disappointed, and that you feel like your life is lacking meaning in the self-improvement "community". I hope you find what you're looking for and if that's religion instead, then so be it. That's where (if it sips into your content I mean) our paths will fork, but again I'm grateful for what has been available and valuable to me during these few years. In the meantime, take care, Clark.
Just found you recently. We're very much on the same page. Giving from your heart comes back to you. I assist people that are in extreme life crises. Your advice is awesome for some of these people. Promoting you big time! 🔥💜🔥💙🔥💚🔥
During the pandemic,🌻 I hand-made pillows for children to keep my mental health strong, and the families that thanked me for the for the free charitable gift, gave me strength. 🌻I felt like my life-purpose depended on my courage to be there for others, without expecting a return for the time-alloted. Altruism can be abused if the "serving and generousity" was made for 'likes' or some sort of credit.🌻
Heck yeah, this vid popped up on my feed from nowhere but I've always felt the 'grind' as a fairly empty, one-dimensional pursuit. Good to be in solitude sometimes to go inward, but opening oneself to experience the nuances of the outer world is also valuable.
I've been watching your videos since 2017, when you had 80k or subscribers. You kept on. You've read alot of things, did you manage to read the quran too? Are you able to do a genuine dive into the book please? Rock on Clark, I wish to see you better and better always
Hmm I appreciate you so much. I think there are people who are happy in spirituality outside religion... but it's about not losing ourselves and serving others like you say here. You're just my favorite. I'm not mad at any church. But anything can be harmful. Everything is an inside job, isn't that beautiful?
Hi, I'm new to your videos and so far I've watched two of them, multiple times, this one and the one on chakras. I absolutely love both and it amazed me how they were exactly what I needed to know for where I'm in my self growth/spiritual journey. I'm currently building up the courage to become a teacher in my field of massage therapy and videos like this help build that encouragement/self belief. Anywho, back to this video... I don't know your age but there is a portion in your chakra video where you correlate the chakras with how we grow every 7 years and the high chakras where we connect to something greater than ourselves start around age 35. I found it interesting that you mentioned God in this video and was wondering if maybe you're entering your higher chakras? At least, that's what I have been finding to be true for myself at age 37. It's a beautiful thing ❤
I love this, because it’s application. Application of what you’ve “learned”. You’ll get to that point after reading & watching so much…now we practice ❤
I literally had to pause the video and comment when you said you feel yourself being called back to God and religion and community. I’ve been in spirituality space for almost 20years and I’m still struggling. I’ve done many plant medicine journeys, many workshops, read all the spiritual books, invested in courses, etc. It feels like I’ve literally tried everything and yes, it’s been this feeling like I have to be better, I have to “fix” myself. I think this worked initially, when I was in a really dark space, however it’s not working anymore… For months I kept randomly being called to buy a bible. I thought it was such an odd thing for me to feel called to considering, I partially grew up in somewhat of a Christian cult family and a lot of the religion thing terrified me for many years. Long story short, I finally bought one this past month and randomly opened up to a page not once but twice, I began to read the first thing that caught my eye and it was something I had been struggling with internally for quite sometime. It gave me a pretty solid answer straight from the teachings of Jesus, which I thought was pretty miraculous. ❤
This is my favorite video on your channel by far! Thank you so much for all these deep thoughts! I’ve been on a very similar journey realizing this and being an over achiever 😅. Letting myself to slow down and enjoy every moment. And really loved your thoughts about values of people we take advice from! Thank you for all you do Clark!
Super helpful and the exact message I needed to hear today. Thank you. Yes, please more content like this. You being authentic and just sort of vlogging and having more of a one on one conversation with me, the viewer is just as valuable as the more thought out content with your cool charts and white papers. Thanks for all that you do!!
100% agree, this is definitely very refreshing when it comes to the "self improvement" niche. However, I definitely encourage people to stop compromising on what they want because it might seem ordinary or not normal to other people, and sometimes the cliche things you hear from gurus are actually right. BUT NOT every time lol. For example, I resonate a lot with people like David Goggins and Alex Hormozi, but I don't try to be them, I have parts of my life that I love doing and I don't want to give up those things. Although, I will take things they do that I know I want to do and implement it into my own life where I see fit. All in all, live the life you ultimately want to live, and for some people going to extreme lengths to change is necessary to get out of the hole they are in, just don't cave in on yourself when it comes to "self improvement" so much to the point you are miserable. Do it your way!
This guy is cool and he makes sense, but I always wondered what band he drummed for, so I googled it and got... Andrew W.K... oh, I understand why he doesn't specify. He's cool and he makes sense.
I just turned 36 and these have been my daily thoughts. I was wrapped up in the self-improvement game for so long, then woke up to the fact that I always felt this separation from who I am and who I was becoming. After over a decade of trying to become this other person, I still felt the separation. I realized that if I continue to try to become my “higher self”, I would always feel like I was not them. So, I’ve really been switching my focus on just being. Learning how to be content with being who I am and knowing that instead of trying to become some ideal person, I just need to focus on stripping away all of the conditioning and stories that have continued to keep me believing that I am not my higher self, right now.
This video was good. Loved it. Though this style of vid would be best done, once every 5-6 months, based on my gut feeling. As this kind of vid seems to be aimed at addressing ‘trends of behaviour and perceptions’. So you’d want to build up a 6month collection of history to make a vid about recent history.
Oh, it was useful. Definitely. I spent 2 years in isolation trying to improve myself and now I’m so depressed! I always felt I know who I’m and where I’m going and now I realized it wasn’t me. Now I have no one around and I have no freaking idea who I’m. 😅 time to find out, but by going out of the hermit mode. And it scares the sh*t out of me 😂
Clark, you’re awesome, man! I loved this video. I took your course about 3 years ago & it was one of the most insightful & positive experiences I’ve ever had.
Clark Kegley, it is my very first video I am watching that you uploaded to RUclips, why did I watch your video? I am just binging video watcher that makes me happy does it make me money most likely not but it is fun to watch videos for me. I came from family of farmers there was only plans at certain season the other seasons was just clean place up look after animals that what my world was from birth to 16 years of age at 17 years of age I started getting jobs. today I am 66 years of age retired 9 years ago so RUclips very entertaining for me plus it gives me something to do oh, I do clean my house. So, I watch your video for the titled you gave it. thanks for your video. After 66 years we all need to conduct our very own lives call it good enough.
These things may be true for some, but I spent the first 30+ years of my life focusing on others and it didn’t do anything for my life. Now that I have focused on learning about and improving myself I have more balance and I feel closer to others, understanding them, and making mindful choices about who I spend my time with. Not everyone we “enjoy” is good for us to be around. Not every well-thought out choice of company is transactional, sometimes it is for the greater good as well as our own. I’ll never go back to giving my valuable time to the wrong people and letting the negativity of others rub off on me. It’s not all about money, it’s about mentality. Someone can be not wealthy but have a healthy rich mindset, while someone can have money and have a scarcity mindset, for me it’s more about character and perspective than wealth.
This is why you have millions of followers including me. You really care about our mental health. RESPECT Clark. Thanks for coming into our lives and sharing your thoughts 💛 Everyone just try to be kind to yourself and long is a marathon. Failure today doesn't mean you are stuck in this situation forever. Move on and learn from your experience. CHEERS1
I think people need to connect all these advices with all the advices of self-improvement and find something that works for them personally. And they will get were they want to be. There is nothing wrong with limiting yourself to things that do not lead you to your goals, that distract you. You can live your life while going to your dreamlife, but it's two different lives! You need to be consistent and concetrated on your goals to get it!
When you talked about checking all the boxes from self improvement recommendations and it ending up being conditions to do everyday to be happy, this spoke to me deeply. I track habits on an app, I must have like 12 of them to do everyday, I've been asking myself lately, is it really making me feel better ? Cause I never accomplish them all in a day, so I always have a reason to feel bad about myself. I deleted about half of them just yesterday, feeling much lighter and better already
This video was one of my favorite videos you've ever created. I can feel your authenticity and to me, that is the most empowering for others. I'm really grateful for your insight and clear way of communicating all sides of self improvement and spirituality and being able to stay grounded in who you are, and not what others are telling you you are. There is SO much toxicity in many spirituality information circulating the media as well as constantly striving for more - and I agree thats beautiful to want more but if you're losing yourself in the process and severing connection with others - that is the complete opposite of the goal. I also resonate with coming back to more traditional beliefs and ways of life which God plays a big role in guiding that, or whatever that higher power is for you. I feel thats why a lot of people are being called back to this! It's so beautiful as long as we don't use it in the same ways to judge others or isolate of course. Thank you, again.
I agree that giving makes you feel good and I do that on x-mas and such but the issue is is many times when i give people are so ungrateful. I did this at work and people just said "really?" Nobody said "thank you" or anything. I learned to only do it for family and nobody else.
Im glad you decided to upload this video. I was getting the same feeling when listening to these 'gurus' and deep in my heart i knew to take every word with a grain of salt. Definitely ask what your values are! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic!! It was finally said outloud!!
This is the best down right video I have seen on this topic Nice Clark! Spot on. Always thinking I was a freak thinking like this. Maybe I still am haha thanks!
Loved this video... it seems that more and more poeple are turning away from the occult, I did too a year ago. Of all your videos, this was probably the most insightful for me.
If a person sitting at rock bottom is not focused on themselves and their problems how will they survive? Survival needs focus. Imagine a hungry man who does not care that he is hungry. I admit that all of the advice in self-help books is not valid or applicable to everyone but it does not mean that people should not make serious attempts to improve themselves or their life.
Sandra Pogodova said that when you change your life or you go trough a personal transformation, want to be happy and find new solutions or do new business or passion work, or finding purpoise.... Its about how to be calm and understanding what makes you trive what friends resonate with you, but but she said there is one rule, "everythiong you do is about what intention you have" When you travel you do it with some intention, when you write abook you do it with good intention that someone may laugh because the book is humorous, when you exercise you you do it with good intention , when you meet friends you do it with good intention. She probably ment that you dont neccessarily analyze every aspect of the purpose or resolution, but the intention. Because some people get inspired some not. her philosoiphy as she read lot of books, is that we shouldnt judge peopelk for mistakes, because its the best they do at the moment. Its seems nothing is wrong unless you have a good intention. You learn something new.
Just because someone's hourly rate is higher than you doesn't mean they are worth more than you. We are all, still remain human. Nothing more. This goes to looks, fame, success and anything else that is as temporary as our lives are.
I love you Clark ❤ Rants like these are my favorite. Just spewing whatever's on your mind is so relatable & a refreshing reminder we are not the only ones in this world feeling/thinking/questioning these things. We're all in this together. Thank you ✌🏻💖🤗😁
I really loved this video. I think this needed to be addressed and you thoughtfully did so. I hope you are very careful as you bring up religion as thats a loaded box and tbh I like that you don’t talk about it much other than its a factor of things to balance in your personal journey.
Jesus Christ is the way man! I got very lost in self help and spirituality and realized everything in this world is empty roads and God is the way to true peace ❤
Thank you for sharing❤ the thing is though that in a way I feel it is a lot easier to share this if one has 'made it' in some way before... Make it and then become relaxed...the other way around affords a lot of confidence?
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I had a realization this morning actually, 90% of the self improvement space is filled with tips, tricks, and hacks. That's all it is. There is very little substance anymore. It's all just marketing and courses and nonsense.
Yeah, I'm self improvement for lazy people.
Thanks for being authentic. Internet needs more of this.
This video should be called " 5 Self-improvement tips for people who are sick of self improvement"
might have to split test this one 🤔🤣
Been thinking about this too! Every day I ask myself, "What do you really want?" because that is the first step in changing your life, according to those in the know. And every day I have no clue. It makes me miserable because I feel like I am missing out on something better.
Enjoy what you have and keep an eye out for what could really excite you and fit into your life now. I’m in the same boat! It’s hard to figure out what you want when you have such limited time to go after it. It feels like the most impactful decision ever!! But whatever it is, make sure it’s what YOU want and what’s good for YOUR life. Good luck!! 🤗🩷
@@lionandtheprideband3958 thank you for the insight
I have done this every single day for 6 months and I just realized all that I "really want" is to feel okay with whatever it is I choose to do. The misery is from assuming I've missed out on making the better decision. I also haven't watched the video yet so maybe he talks about this. I don't know if this is also true for you but I thought I'd share because I know this feeling all too well and would never want someone else to have to continue running in this circular thinking.
@@jaedynramirez2907 It's funny, I've been thinking about doing a video like this. Clark beat me to it
I feel you! I'm a writer and life coach 😂 and I get like this too! My best tool: micromoments of joy. They stack!
I admire your honesty and it makes me trust you more than anyone else on RUclips. Thank you so much for your immense support and help. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
that advice of hanging out with people better than you is so DAMN STUPID!!!!! why would they want to hang out with you then?
comment not about Clark, he is awesome.
I have a PhD and I feel sooo unworthy... This video is what I needed. Thank you!
Why? You have a PhD 🎉🎉🎉🎉
that's what he said, if you feel not enough, you will always feel not enough no matter what
What would make you feel worthy?
I'm so sick of the influencers and the fake ego persona they show online. They don't post for intention but attention. I'm also sick of the ones who are all about "look at me, look at what I'm doing". These are the ones in constant lack mentality at their core.
This youtuber has 1,7 million followers. and carefully chooses background and hair.... it seems its not about look at me but the passion to introduce people to options. At least some youtubetrs use non-vulgar language.
yeah another stupid advice is "dont go out to dinner ever! if you have debt" like come onnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn gtfou
comment not about Clark, he is awesome.
yeah another stupid advise you hear, NEVER BE CONFORTABLE lol so stupid lol
comment not about Clark, he is awesome.
Wow! This is one of the best videos I’ve seen from you so far. Thank you so much for showing this side of you. 👍
"I'm not trying to make this viral I'm just trying to....." Hard to get when you've got over 1.000.000 subscribers
I am from the EU and I am astonished that you are the only American I have found on RUclips who understands that making money is not the goal of life! I hope other Americans will learn from you. 🖖 Good life!"
GOSHHH I needed this video! I’ve been trying to “leveling up” these past 4 months because my ex bf implied I had trauma from previous relationships. Made me feel like something was wrong with me.. therefore I started to work on myself to improve but then it has became this thing that is so exhausting like I feel bad the days I don’t meditate, I feel bad for not starting my business yet.. makes me feel not ready yet to talk to another man or start something with someone because I feel like I’m not ready.. I’ve been isolated from people and friends :( I’m very social but these past months I’ve been feeling like so alone.. thank you for reminding me that life is about balance and loving ourselves and accepting ourselves
Loving and accepting ourselves is the most important step ,because then, we can really improve ❤
Good Lord Clark! You are literally talking to me right now. Thank you so so so much for this video. I also make videos and I understand when you said: this video is not for views, it's just a conversation between friends. Let me tell you every word you said made echo in my head and gave me so much peace. Thank you again for your time and dedication ❤
These are your best videos imho because its the truth. The truth is where the real value lies. Hearing what you don't want to hear. An example being doing what you hate, having the discipline to follow through is what actually produces the results, at least in the beginning until you form the habits that serve you. For me personally, becoming connected more with God has been the biggest change for me, above anything else I have done up to this point, including some short term therapy. You can only serve one master. Choose wisely. Thank you Clark for sharing this!
Wow I loved this. Super rare to find this level of authenticity in the “self-improvement” market & it’s a breath of fresh air.
Clark, I think you’re really honing in on your niche. Keep speaking what you truly think & you have a life-long supporter, your genuine self is full of wisdom and it’s very refreshing to hear so thank you
One of the best videos I have watched in a very long time thank you so much for making this video and we would like to see more of your thoughts on this subject thank you so much we are grateful to have you as a creator may God bless you and me he inspire you to spread happiness all over the world
Wise words, I agree! 🎉
Also, I am seeing this trend that people are going back to old school religion. There's a movement in this too so just be careful. All of this technique shit still makes us feel powerless, which is why most people go back to religion to feel a sense of security. But it's truly within us
Great video - in a world where many people including myself listen to too much “self-help” content all day long and don’t take in half of what we watched this resonated a lot.
I felt you came off as very authentic and genuine, which made the message a lot stronger. Thank you for deciding to post, it really helps put into perspective a lot of similar thoughts I’ve also had that I’ve just left in the back of my mind.
Well said!
Thank you for posting this...self improvement is a journey not a destination...
I really admire your authenticity.
Seems like an. "I made it doing this, but it's bad, and you shouldn't " pulling up the ladder behind you
Fuck yeaach it was worth uploading. Congrats on making one of the best videos that I have watched in a while. So much useful informations to consider in life and reflect on.
Show us that you not a scammer n don't post any videos again we got all we need unless you didn't get much from us than needed 😮😮
Man oh man, I could feel you all the way from London. This is truly the best video I’ve seen from you. I could feel the passion and the honesty oozing out of you. Thank you man - I love that doing this video helped you too.
Thank you for posting this after all. So many people are mindlessly obsessed with self-improvement and the worst part - there’s no end to it. It’s so important to know why we do it and have clear goals in mind.
In one of your videos I saw a month ago or so you said people get addicted to the feeling of being a victim. I turned it off in anger till I realised it was a reflection in me. Thanks for that honesty. It was very helpful to produce changes in my thought patterns.
A.m. routine ~ journal, pen, quiet/meditation/prayer time (whatever you want to call it)…….ask yourself this simple question: “how/where/who am I to serve today?” Let divine order guide your inspired actions for the day by tuning in. We are ALL already enough in this very moment…. Clark, you are transitioning in perfect divine order. Thanks for being authentic….
Trusting that n other channel is such accepting a stranger invitation as a minor
This is the best video for anyone and everyone. I'm the type of person who searches for answers to what I'm feeling and the problems I face sometimes, and I would usually go to motivational videos to do that. Now, I have a different understanding about self improvement. Thank you for this video, we need more of these Clark. I can definitely see you as one of the greats!
I started following your content just recently, and I have to say it has helped me a lot. I think all the points you make about self-improvement are so insightful! You put into words many thoughts I have but never had real answers for. Thank you, Clark. God bless you and your family! Hugs from Brazil!
Just discovered your videos today and loved this one, really spoke to me. And I’ve noticed alot of people turning back to God too. We’re all kind of prodigal sons and daughters returning home.
Yes thank you Clark- however, I do think it's important that when you're trying to start a new life that it's not easy to be around people who are doing things that you're trying to stop. This doesn't mean you can't hangout with those people at all. It just means spending LESS time
Honestly I like the video, but self improvement for the last 6 months has drastically changed my life. But my life has become less about me and more about my family and friends. I now just connect and stop worrying so much about doing "right: all the time, and just being the my version of the best me in that moment.
When your glass is overflowing, start filling other people's glasses is the best thing I learned
Spot on loved the whole video man keep it up
Glad you posted this, I hadn't watched any of your videos for a while because of the artificiality of some of them, but this one resonated, and judging by how you said you felt at the end of it, you already knew that 😄👍🏻
Thanks for your authenticity, the best video I’ve watched from you and it really really helped
It's not the destination but the journey 🤔
Project 😅
Never accomplished 😅
OMG 🎉
Toxic shame. Adam and Eve....
I am so happy that I found your channel! Thank you for sharing this content. I am 52, and I'm on my journey of self-improvement.
Wow, what a video. It's amazing how synchronistic this video is. I came up in my recommended videos 10 minutes after being released. Only got the chance to see it now! I've been feeling this way too recently. Really seeing the truth of self-improvement. The pros and cons and most importantly, what I got was to be grateful for where I am and enjoy the process more instead of chasing the next 'breakthrough'
I'm curious what you guys got from the video!
Feel free to leave a comment below
Much love!❤
Clark I love your content. I am in the early journey of self development and this video has been a great red flag marker for me, THANK YOU! I would love to connect as I am about to launch my own online community on here for the over 40s´
A non-alcoholic Cheers
Chris
This was a good video. I've read a TON of "self improvement" books and watched thousands of hours of videos. My #1 book after all of them is 7 Habits of Highly Effective People because it promotes character ethic over personality ethic, living a principle centered life. Interdependence vs independence. Begin with the end in mind. It keeps me centered on relationships, my core beliefs, and it's God centered.
Thank you, Clark, for this video! You're a good dude!!
Respect!!👊
Clark, this was one of the best videos I've watched! So raw and so vulnerable! I did your course last year and did it again this year... last year, I felt like it was more for improving myself because there's something wrong with me. This year, it was somewhat similar, but with more conviction because I knew it worked. I finished the course the 2nd time round in May or April. 1 week or so ago, I realised all of this and that self-acceptance and contentment with myself and my life is what I need. These last 2 weeks have been the best 2 weeks I've had in a while. They weren't perfect by no means! I was upset, I was unhappy, tired, short, but I've also been happy and content with the fact that I'm not 'perfect' and that is ok❤ much love to you Clark and to the Metamorphic team
Working on myself has been exhausting. I’m guilty of telling myself that once I accomplish my goals, then I can enjoy myself. It has helped me stay more focused but I’ve been experiencing fatigue and sadness.
I loved that video! So many insights and also stories that totally matched with me.
Thank you for breaking with that pattern in the “self-improvement” trend and industry!!! 😁👍🏻
I caught myself in your thoughts and what happened during this journey of “getting better”.
Keep going with such videos!
These are great.
For me, as I am watching your videos (and waiting for the next ones) it seems more and more that you have grown into a new phase. I could totally feel it from here (👉🏻Germany)
Now I will recommend this video to a friend who really needs this. Because she is exactly in that spot of self-improvement and does not know when this will end to be “good enough “.
Fair enough, Clark.
I believe you can't really talk anyone out of going their own journey, because only the experience leads to realization.
Jim Carrey said: "I wish everyone became rich and famous just to realize that it wasn't the point."
Well, I'm sure even if Jim Carrey went back yo his younger self, he couldn't talk him out of wanting ti achieve his big dreams, and that he has, millions of people listen to him when he speaks.
I know I also want to have the same influence and for that I guess you know better what needs to be done.
I understand you're just expressing yourself and I feel ya on that, living with less pressure would be sweet if you think about it for a moment's notice, but in the end, deep down inside, we all love the thrill of the journey of trying to reach our goals, at least the people who signed up for it in the first place.
Hey Clark,
Thank you for the different perspective on selfimprovement. Now I really know why I felt off even though I religiously followed all the selfimprovement formulas. Feeling the need to improve kills the selfworth in essence and you pointed that out! Right now I feel worse than before self improvement. Thank you for the great work in all the years!
Ok next time I will watch the whole thing b4 I comment.. hahaha JUST B YOURSELF DUDE.. your genuine self is truth you who are.. that's key for everyone.. Don't overthink and yes I love all your content even jokes... I can't say I agree with everything but it's an excellent break and a window into the real Clark Kent hahahaa I said it yes.. be real I lovit dude Live your excellent life always 🔥💋 Jane..and we are all God's n Goddesses we are spirit we never die our souls are in this vessel the God.. We are creators everything we think of say do is our creation. And we are never alone and God sees and knows all therefore, we are spirit having this experience through the God Head.. Therefore nothing is wrong or right it's life it's choices it's consequences . Was it fun right wrong .. did you learn the lesson if there was one.. So far this was one of my fav videos keep it up I am sure others found this as valuable
Hi Clark ! It's gonna be a looong one, sorry 😑 (but I have much to say)
TL;DR: it pains me to say, but for the first time I'm gonna comment because this is the first video of yours I can't really connect to and, worse, disagree notably with on some points. Let me explain.
First, at 1:30 - Well, it took me almost 4 decades before I started realizing that it had some real merits and adjust accordingly. It did me a LOT of good.
Then, at 2:51 - Overall, I agree. I get what you're saying. What you own or what your status is doesn't make your inherent value, I agree 100%.
But that's something I can't connect to when I see all the fubar people in this world and what they do. Let's take the example of someone who hurts a child and said child. I'm sorry, they do _not_ have the same value. Not to me anyway. And that is true for many things. Some humans are unfortunately not fit for life among other humans and the sooner one accepts that, the better. I used to be so empathic I could barely function. Now I have accepted that some people are lost or evil beyond saving. The older I get, the more unforgiving I am of some people who are clearly irredeemable. And that helps me with living in the reality of this world we share. Maybe there are valid explanations for why they are how they are but I don't care. It's a them problem. Not mine.
If they do harm, it's not my job to find reasons and circumstances. I was infinitely more miserable when I used to. It won't bring unalived people back or unharm innocents, or undo damage and undestroy anything. Another example, the amount of animals I see everyday through many channels that endure things I can't even bring myself to talk about here? I have bona fide violent thoughts sometimes. No, we do not all have the same value. I'm not religious, despite being from a deeply catholic culture, but some humans downright belong in the pits of hell.
3.43 I personally never have followed any rulebook of any sort. Even when I started tiptoeing in noob mode in this domain. I listen, I agree or disagree, sometimes my thoughts and experiences (therefore perception) evolve, I reconsider stuff that I had previously heard... it's a whole process. Like anything in life. I consider rules and lack of flexibility are either there to give structure to something in order to reach the most unbiased outcome possible (like say in science) or are there to control. Self-improvement is neither to me (although self-control can definitely be good) so I've never seen whatever advice and "rules" I came across through that lens nor made it such a big deal. My happiness has never been conditional, let alone in relation to what self-improvement has told me I should be doing or working on. I always decide what's worth my time, effort and introspection. It's like a friend giving you advice on stuff you're not seeing objectively. You can take it or leave it, but it's nice to have someone who cares giving it in the first place so you can think about it.
7:24 Self-isolation has probably been the best and biggest catalyst in me taking my life into my own hands again. The time and space to think, without having to act and think in reaction to others, is in my humble opinion a luxury nowadays. It helped me take the necessary steps back to actually, objectively observe what was going on in my life, who was in it, who deserved access to me or not, who I was in unbalanced relationships with, who was crossing and abusing my boudaries, etc. Isolation also meant indeed that I reevaluated some dynamics and that I cut off some people, including from my family, and it definitely was for the better. I still love them. But from afar. The amount of disrespect I could receive without even really noticing is now mind-blowing to me.
Isolation has helped me make room for new and better aligned connections and redirect my energy and care towards people and things deserving of it. Basically, my hands were full of bs and I couldn't grab anything better because I was holding onto said bs out of loyalty and the belief that I had some kind of duty/role or something. Well, turns out, I finally figured out - took me long enough - that I don't and now better people came in and there is always room for more when it just flows. Some are back after a couple years apart and we both evolved and now benefit greatly from it. I feel better, freer, more aligned with the woman I actually am and want to become, and better suited for healing some stuff now that I don't have all that noise distracting me. Sometimes you have to walk alone to think clearly. So in response to 8:09 In fact yes, sometimes it is.
9:53 You know what? It's when I _finally_ started to love myself, respect myself and do what was hard in order to give myself what others didn't, that self-improvement started to really attract me and make sense. Granted, it coincided with a spiritual awakening and soon after the total deletion of my socials, which helped with that too, but I didn't get into it out of feeling "not enough" (although I'm definitely NOT judging, each person has their own story and reasons). In fact I did it out of curiosity and eagerness to, for once, being able to exploit the awesome that was dormant in me, the untapped potential, acknowledging the parts of me that I had been neglecting for so. damn. long.
Self-improvement was somewhat of a guiding light in that it was a starting point for me to understand myself better, what makes me tick, what I want to pursue, what self-limiting beliefs I could have, and so much more. I didn't want to fix myself per se. I mean if I can do that to some brittle parts of me in the process, heck yeah 🤘🏻 but that's not what fueled/fuels me. I wanted to polish the raw diamond (that we all intrinsically have, it's just a matter of realizing it) because if I didn't, who would? I don't want to sound self-centered or narcissistic, but I've spent my entire life living for and serving others and most of the time gave substantially more that what I've received.
And now I understand... what, and how I gave? Some people would kill to have half of this kind of stuff. I'm a genuine giver, a lover, a caring individual, who more often than not puts on an armor and a shield of "idgaf" because if I don't, I may break from sensitivity and empathy like I used to.
I'm at a point in my life where I'm finally giving those same things I gave others for so long to _myself_ and you know what? That makes me an even better giver because now I really measure what it is I'm giving, to whom, and the sincerity behind it has real meaning, it's not out of habit or loyalty. Quality is better. Quantity less. I'm not giving from an almost empty cup anymore.
So yeah, in essence, self-improvement the way you consider it (and have been sharing with us) was my entry point into an "I'm gonna become my best possible self and won't waste everything great in me on people and things undeserving of it" and it still is my primary reason to this day. I'm an eternal student and love improvement in everything. Objects, techniques, recipes, knowledge, skills, workouts, you name it, I'll find ways to make it better to suit my needs and reach my objectives. Always have, always will. So why not myself overall? Yes, I am flawed, I'm human like all of us (I think 👀) and that's what makes me me, too. I wouldn't have it any other way.
And yes, I see myself as a "project" as you said, in a way. But in my eyes, that's definitely a positive. Because I know that I will love what I will become. Even without self-improvement, I wouldn't go back to relive my younger decades even if I could. I like this 40s woman SO much better !! Even physically, which my younger self would never have believed in a million years. Granted, I'm a millennial - we're mostly aging like fine wine - true lol, but still 😋
Did I always feel great and high vibe while seeking advice and guidance? Of course not. But you know what else? I found people like you and a couple others who made a deep mark on me and in how I reflect and think about things. You unknowingly and single-handedly helped me reach some of my most precious and deep realizations. On which, consequently, I have been able to reflect, take stock of, act and heal sometimes too. The self-acceptance part you mentioned has been progressing in part thanks to the reflection and acknowledgment of some stuff you incited in me. Many things and people have played a part, but you did as well. A sizeable chunk of my shadow work has been instigated through your content alone - and I haven't watched everything, far from it, not even all that you've published since I subscribed around the first covidfest iirc, to be honest - which has been very valuable to me and for that I'm immensely grateful. Thank you.
It feels to me like you're projecting a bit yourself (not a judgement, merely an observation) and that you lost yourself among people for whom appearances and status are it, maybe you're going through an existential crisis. You're approaching mid-thirties, correct? Been there. What I mean is don't throw away everything you've once helped people with just because you're temporarily uncertain, probably tired, disappointed, and that you feel like your life is lacking meaning in the self-improvement "community". I hope you find what you're looking for and if that's religion instead, then so be it. That's where (if it sips into your content I mean) our paths will fork, but again I'm grateful for what has been available and valuable to me during these few years.
In the meantime, take care, Clark.
Just found you recently. We're very much on the same page. Giving from your heart comes back to you. I assist people that are in extreme life crises. Your advice is awesome for some of these people. Promoting you big time!
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During the pandemic,🌻 I hand-made pillows for children to keep my mental health strong, and the families that thanked me for the for the free charitable gift, gave me strength. 🌻I felt like my life-purpose depended on my courage to be there for others, without expecting a return for the time-alloted. Altruism can be abused if the "serving and generousity" was made for 'likes' or some sort of credit.🌻
Heck yeah, this vid popped up on my feed from nowhere but I've always felt the 'grind' as a fairly empty, one-dimensional pursuit. Good to be in solitude sometimes to go inward, but opening oneself to experience the nuances of the outer world is also valuable.
I've been watching your videos since 2017, when you had 80k or subscribers. You kept on.
You've read alot of things, did you manage to read the quran too? Are you able to do a genuine dive into the book please?
Rock on Clark, I wish to see you better and better always
As a mass consumer of every 4+ star self improvement book, I feel called out 😂 Luckily, I’ve stopped since joining Metamorphic
I, for one, am filled with immense gratitude that you posted this! Thanks for deciding to. 🙏🏼💓
Hmm I appreciate you so much. I think there are people who are happy in spirituality outside religion... but it's about not losing ourselves and serving others like you say here. You're just my favorite. I'm not mad at any church. But anything can be harmful. Everything is an inside job, isn't that beautiful?
Hi, I'm new to your videos and so far I've watched two of them, multiple times, this one and the one on chakras. I absolutely love both and it amazed me how they were exactly what I needed to know for where I'm in my self growth/spiritual journey. I'm currently building up the courage to become a teacher in my field of massage therapy and videos like this help build that encouragement/self belief. Anywho, back to this video... I don't know your age but there is a portion in your chakra video where you correlate the chakras with how we grow every 7 years and the high chakras where we connect to something greater than ourselves start around age 35. I found it interesting that you mentioned God in this video and was wondering if maybe you're entering your higher chakras? At least, that's what I have been finding to be true for myself at age 37. It's a beautiful thing ❤
I love this, because it’s application. Application of what you’ve “learned”. You’ll get to that point after reading & watching so much…now we practice ❤
I literally had to pause the video and comment when you said you feel yourself being called back to God and religion and community. I’ve been in spirituality space for almost 20years and I’m still struggling. I’ve done many plant medicine journeys, many workshops, read all the spiritual books, invested in courses, etc.
It feels like I’ve literally tried everything and yes, it’s been this feeling like I have to be better, I have to “fix” myself.
I think this worked initially, when I was in a really dark space, however it’s not working anymore… For months I kept randomly being called to buy a bible. I thought it was such an odd thing for me to feel called to considering, I partially grew up in somewhat of a Christian cult family and a lot of the religion thing terrified me for many years. Long story short, I finally bought one this past month and randomly opened up to a page not once but twice, I began to read the first thing that caught my eye and it was something I had been struggling with internally for quite sometime. It gave me a pretty solid answer straight from the teachings of Jesus, which I thought was pretty miraculous. ❤
This is my favorite video on your channel by far! Thank you so much for all these deep thoughts! I’ve been on a very similar journey realizing this and being an over achiever 😅. Letting myself to slow down and enjoy every moment. And really loved your thoughts about values of people we take advice from!
Thank you for all you do Clark!
Super helpful and the exact message I needed to hear today. Thank you.
Yes, please more content like this. You being authentic and just sort of vlogging and having more of a one on one conversation with me, the viewer is just as valuable as the more thought out content with your cool charts and white papers. Thanks for all that you do!!
100% agree, this is definitely very refreshing when it comes to the "self improvement" niche. However, I definitely encourage people to stop compromising on what they want because it might seem ordinary or not normal to other people, and sometimes the cliche things you hear from gurus are actually right. BUT NOT every time lol. For example, I resonate a lot with people like David Goggins and Alex Hormozi, but I don't try to be them, I have parts of my life that I love doing and I don't want to give up those things. Although, I will take things they do that I know I want to do and implement it into my own life where I see fit. All in all, live the life you ultimately want to live, and for some people going to extreme lengths to change is necessary to get out of the hole they are in, just don't cave in on yourself when it comes to "self improvement" so much to the point you are miserable. Do it your way!
This guy is cool and he makes sense, but I always wondered what band he drummed for, so I googled it and got... Andrew W.K... oh, I understand why he doesn't specify. He's cool and he makes sense.
Love this style of content Clark! Hope you're doing well \m/
I just turned 36 and these have been my daily thoughts. I was wrapped up in the self-improvement game for so long, then woke up to the fact that I always felt this separation from who I am and who I was becoming. After over a decade of trying to become this other person, I still felt the separation. I realized that if I continue to try to become my “higher self”, I would always feel like I was not them. So, I’ve really been switching my focus on just being. Learning how to be content with being who I am and knowing that instead of trying to become some ideal person, I just need to focus on stripping away all of the conditioning and stories that have continued to keep me believing that I am not my higher self, right now.
This video was good. Loved it. Though this style of vid would be best done, once every 5-6 months, based on my gut feeling. As this kind of vid seems to be aimed at addressing ‘trends of behaviour and perceptions’. So you’d want to build up a 6month collection of history to make a vid about recent history.
Your content is so similar to Dan Mohler's, and Mark DeJesus; especially Mark DeJesus.
You should give them a watch if you get a chance.
Oh, it was useful. Definitely. I spent 2 years in isolation trying to improve myself and now I’m so depressed! I always felt I know who I’m and where I’m going and now I realized it wasn’t me. Now I have no one around and I have no freaking idea who I’m. 😅 time to find out, but by going out of the hermit mode. And it scares the sh*t out of me 😂
Yup. Right on. Having been in this industry for over 20 years, I agree. some excellent insights you shared. you are on point with this topic!❤
Thanks Clark for being honest and striking the important points. Always useful!
Clark, you’re awesome, man! I loved this video. I took your course about 3 years ago & it was one of the most insightful & positive experiences I’ve ever had.
Clark Kegley, it is my very first video I am watching that you uploaded to RUclips, why did I watch your video? I am just binging video watcher that makes me happy does it make me money most likely not but it is fun to watch videos for me. I came from family of farmers
there was only plans at certain season the other seasons was just clean place up look after animals that what my world was from birth to 16 years of age at 17 years of age I started getting jobs. today I am 66 years of age retired 9 years ago so RUclips very entertaining for me plus it gives me something to do oh, I do clean my house. So, I watch your video for the titled you gave it. thanks for your video. After 66 years we all need to conduct our very own lives call it good enough.
These things may be true for some, but I spent the first 30+ years of my life focusing on others and it didn’t do anything for my life. Now that I have focused on learning about and improving myself I have more balance and I feel closer to others, understanding them, and making mindful choices about who I spend my time with. Not everyone we “enjoy” is good for us to be around. Not every well-thought out choice of company is transactional, sometimes it is for the greater good as well as our own. I’ll never go back to giving my valuable time to the wrong people and letting the negativity of others rub off on me. It’s not all about money, it’s about mentality. Someone can be not wealthy but have a healthy rich mindset, while someone can have money and have a scarcity mindset, for me it’s more about character and perspective than wealth.
This is why you have millions of followers including me. You really care about our mental health. RESPECT Clark. Thanks for coming into our lives and sharing your thoughts 💛
Everyone just try to be kind to yourself and long is a marathon. Failure today doesn't mean you are stuck in this situation forever. Move on and learn from your experience. CHEERS1
I think people need to connect all these advices with all the advices of self-improvement and find something that works for them personally. And they will get were they want to be.
There is nothing wrong with limiting yourself to things that do not lead you to your goals, that distract you.
You can live your life while going to your dreamlife, but it's two different lives!
You need to be consistent and concetrated on your goals to get it!
When you talked about checking all the boxes from self improvement recommendations and it ending up being conditions to do everyday to be happy, this spoke to me deeply.
I track habits on an app, I must have like 12 of them to do everyday, I've been asking myself lately, is it really making me feel better ? Cause I never accomplish them all in a day, so I always have a reason to feel bad about myself.
I deleted about half of them just yesterday, feeling much lighter and better already
This video was one of my favorite videos you've ever created. I can feel your authenticity and to me, that is the most empowering for others. I'm really grateful for your insight and clear way of communicating all sides of self improvement and spirituality and being able to stay grounded in who you are, and not what others are telling you you are. There is SO much toxicity in many spirituality information circulating the media as well as constantly striving for more - and I agree thats beautiful to want more but if you're losing yourself in the process and severing connection with others - that is the complete opposite of the goal.
I also resonate with coming back to more traditional beliefs and ways of life which God plays a big role in guiding that, or whatever that higher power is for you. I feel thats why a lot of people are being called back to this! It's so beautiful as long as we don't use it in the same ways to judge others or isolate of course.
Thank you, again.
I agree that giving makes you feel good and I do that on x-mas and such but the issue is is many times when i give people are so ungrateful. I did this at work and people just said "really?" Nobody said "thank you" or anything. I learned to only do it for family and nobody else.
if You Wish To Be Better You Get To Back Up And Work On Yourself Are Return Becoming Better At Something
Im glad you decided to upload this video. I was getting the same feeling when listening to these 'gurus' and deep in my heart i knew to take every word with a grain of salt. Definitely ask what your values are! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic!! It was finally said outloud!!
This is the best down right video I have seen on this topic
Nice Clark! Spot on. Always thinking I was a freak thinking like this. Maybe I still am haha thanks!
Loved this video... it seems that more and more poeple are turning away from the occult, I did too a year ago.
Of all your videos, this was probably the most insightful for me.
Thx you for this information
I’ve been thinking about this recently. I stopped listening to ALOT of stuff
If a person sitting at rock bottom is not focused on themselves and their problems how will they survive? Survival needs focus. Imagine a hungry man who does not care that he is hungry. I admit that all of the advice in self-help books is not valid or applicable to everyone but it does not mean that people should not make serious attempts to improve themselves or their life.
Sandra Pogodova said that when you change your life or you go trough a personal transformation, want to be happy and find new solutions or do new business or passion work, or finding purpoise....
Its about how to be calm and understanding what makes you trive what friends resonate with you, but
but she said there is one rule, "everythiong you do is about what intention you have"
When you travel you do it with some intention, when you write abook you do it with good intention that someone may laugh because the book is humorous,
when you exercise you you do it with good intention , when you meet friends you do it with good intention.
She probably ment that you dont neccessarily analyze every aspect of the purpose or resolution,
but the intention. Because some people get inspired some not.
her philosoiphy as she read lot of books, is that we shouldnt judge peopelk for mistakes, because its the best they do at the moment.
Its seems nothing is wrong unless you have a good intention. You learn something new.
Just because someone's hourly rate is higher than you doesn't mean they are worth more than you. We are all, still remain human. Nothing more.
This goes to looks, fame, success and anything else that is as temporary as our lives are.
I love you Clark ❤ Rants like these are my favorite. Just spewing whatever's on your mind is so relatable & a refreshing reminder we are not the only ones in this world feeling/thinking/questioning these things. We're all in this together. Thank you ✌🏻💖🤗😁
Super, super helpful video. Some really grounding information.
Everything in life changes, bar the distance between what you have, and what you desire, that stays constant. 'Osho'
I really loved this video. I think this needed to be addressed and you thoughtfully did so. I hope you are very careful as you bring up religion as thats a loaded box and tbh I like that you don’t talk about it much other than its a factor of things to balance in your personal journey.
Jesus Christ is the way man! I got very lost in self help and spirituality and realized everything in this world is empty roads and God is the way to true peace ❤
can be isolated is so true... I have been feeling it. Focusing on myself is important but I feel too alone sometimes...
I think this video was MUCH needed! Thank you
Thank you for sharing❤ the thing is though that in a way I feel it is a lot easier to share this if one has 'made it' in some way before... Make it and then become relaxed...the other way around affords a lot of confidence?
awesome video brother - been thinking about these things lately myself.
YOUR THE BEST!! Not sure if you were told that today😂💚
I'm so glad you ended up posting this. Thanks for being real. ❤