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Do 'Open' Relationships Work?
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- Опубликовано: 11 июн 2019
- Nedd writes, “Hi Susan! I love watching your videos, as they’re so insightful. I just want to know if there is such thing as an 'Open Relationship?” Is it even possible for people who are engaged with each other to seek other sex partners while still loving each other? Love to hear your thoughts.”
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I believe most people want an open relationship because they want to forever be in the “honeymoon” stage of a relationship. It’s the excitement of a new relationship that they crave. Unfortunately, that never lasts unless you have multiple partners.
It can if you decide to date your wife. You have to decide to date them. Dating doesn’t end
@@DivineLoveMachineGun absolutely everyday it’s something new, but it exclusively only works with one person.
Wrong. Honeymoon is long gone, they are trying to reanimate it
It's sex addiction. Nothing more or less
My opinion is that open relationships are for people who can't commit, don't want to spend the rest of their lives with one person and have intimacy with one individual. While I know people that do it it's just not for me. Open relationships can cause issues with jealousy for all parties. I'll choose monogamy. Not judging just my choice.
So maybe polyamory is therefor good for 50% of all people who try monogamous marriage, seeing as those marriages fail 50% of the time. Maybe that = long term commitment problems? Just a thought.
I know my partner for 13 years.
So far our relationship is great.
And yes. Its open.
We both are very se*ual. Both love to travel. We are in the distance sometimes due to our careers.
I trust him 100%.
We dont really have the need to be with others at all but we love adventure and that option is available whenever we want to have fun.
We are happy this way enjoying our feelings. We want each other to be happy and enjoy life.
He is also my best friend and my family apart from partner and lover.
We also set rules with the other people.
"No emotional attachment or secondary relationships."
And "Always honesty".
So basically, we can have fuckfriends that we can meet individually or together whenever we want fun.
So far, it works because we only look for people who only want sex.
Depends on your partner as well. If you date a jerk or a guy with a Peter Pan mentality not ready to commit, you shouldn't have expectations indeed but if your love is solid it can last. Like our relationship.
13 years and counting.
So it depends.
For some people it works for others it doesn't work.
You just need to love, trust, know your partner very well and do what makes you grow and be happy.
Lots of love everyone ❤️
Open relationship is way too complicated. No time & energy for that!! Either in or out, nothing in between
@@darthvader1793 It's Vietnamese.
All relationships are complicated
All relationships require time and energy.
Susan, I just think you are the best. So grounded, so mature, so needed in a time where so many people are wanting and trying a variety of relationship styles. You don’t judge, rather you simply point out what people need to consider to relate to be another in a respectful manner. I wish the majority of people could be as grounded, mature and honest.
Susan - This is an excellent video and you hit the nail on the head. I am a bisexual woman and I have been in open relationships. They are very complicated and time consuming. In theory, an open relationship sounds great, but the reality is a totally different story. Most of the time one person wants an open relationship due to ego reasons (liking the idea of having multiple sexual partners being attracted to him/her) or to fulfill an unmet need. It's VERY rare that two individuals (in the primary relationship) are on the same page. To do an open relationship ethically requires a HUGE time and energy commitment. Most people cut corners. There are many grey areas. An open relationship can work, but it's akin to finding a needle in a haystack. As you state in this video, most of the time it's a dead end. This is my opinion based on my experiences.
I think the presumption is (or should be) that everybody is on board. Otherwise it’s not an open relationship by definition. Difficult? Sure. So is monogamy in my experience. Constant effort.
@@iridescentsquids I've never been in an open relationship where everyone has been completely honest. People have good intentions but when it comes down to it, they will skew the truth for one reason or another, maybe they don't want to hurt the person they're with, etc. It's a shame. Because I still believe in the theory of open relationships, but the reality is, it's very rare that they work in the long term.Also, you can't "presume" anything. Everything really needs to be spelled out. Because what is a given for one person is not a given for another person. For example, I had a guy I was previously involved with in the distant past, recently telling me half truths. He was physically involved with another woman but he thought it was ok to text me and flirt (to the point of sexting) because we were not physically involved. To him, he was upholding his "commitment" to the other woman as long as he didn't get involved with me physically. He told me he "didn't have a girlfriend" leading me to believe he was totally single. That was misleading on his part and a false assumption on my part. He did not reveal his situationship and, IMO, he was dishonest and caused a lot of hurt that could have been avoided had he been totally truthful. I would not have been in contact with him had I known he was having sex with another woman. You can extrapolate this concept of absolute truth to open relationships. My experience is people bend the truth to their advantage. (myself included in younger years.)
@@transitionsnc well yeah…which is why standards for honesty are arguably higher for open relationships than monogamous--not because people ARE more or less honest but because the standards are higher to keep it healthy. Which is why I question the old “commitment” trope…the claim that open relationships are for people who can’t commit. It’s as untrue as saying say that monogamy is just for people who are pessimists about honesty. I am highly wary of any individual trying to prescribe relationship dynamics for others, given how individualistic they are. Might as well school people on what car to drive or house to buy. When I said “presume” before…I didn’t mean assume. I meant it’s not by definition open, as open also means disclosed. Lying is cheating. Open would not be lying. I understand theory and practice are two different things…but that’s my point also…when looking at so-called “monogamy”, which so often isn’t monogamy at all. I just think we should differentiate between the model and the practice…and point to the model for expected standards, and accept that both have high standards for honesty, and both often involve in practice people frequently falling short of those standards. Follow? We can “presume” monogamy assumes honesty…as a standard. Just like non monogamy. They both do by definition. Even as they both involve frequent failures to meet those standards.
Even in the scenario you describe, the boundary pushing behaviors are so common among married “monogamous” couples. Especially ambiguous boundaries like emotional infidelity or sexting. At least In open relationships boundaries are usually explicitly defined and more often not taken for granted, whereas monogamous relationships are often based on unspoken assumptions and often survive with a good amount of silence and denial.
Many years ago the “alpha couple” in our social grouping announced that they were in an “open relationship”. This immediately created immense turmoil as the woman was extremely sensual and beautiful while the man, while not bad-looking, was reserved and intellectual. Most of the wives/girlfriends immediately started pulling back. The woman was active while the man was not. Eventually they broke up, she ran off with a guy from the group and the nice circle of friends was never the same.
That's one of the things that makes me doubt open relationships. Even if there's no jealousy in principle and from the start, it might evolve gradually as one part in the relationship realize that it's much harder for them to find dates than the other.
Thank you for this video Susan. I personally am not a fan of open relationships, like yourself I feel that having one partner is enough. And I'm a monogamous person at heart, so sharing a romantic partner doesn't work for me
I understand your point but what to a person who is polygamous at heart. What should he/she do?
Also, I see a problem for people who are sure they found their love of life but are not ready yet to commit. What should they do? Broke with their loved ones because it's not socially acceptable to be in an open relationship?
I believe most people cannot appreciate a taste of tea enough until they taste multiple types of tea. And definitely there will be unsatisfied wonder how other kinds of tea do taste.
The basements of any healthy relationships should be trust and acceptance. As long as it doesn't hurt the other one. There should be clearly set boundaries and rules and yes, you have the right to leave the person if needs of you two aren't similar, but you shouldn't automatically refuse everything without even considering it.
@@alexisricky2 If you truly love your partner then stick to your partner, If not then find a different partner.
@localhost# echo Ero If their not ready to commit then for sure don’t marry.
OPEN RELATIONSHIPS ... code for someone that will inevitably get the SHORT end of the stick. Unfortunately, it’s a setup for crisis. Also, personally I’m I too serious about my feelings and worth to tolerate playing second fiddle to ANYBODY, period. No kidding ... no bullsh*t.
My.gf wanted an open relationship i walked away and let her go its the hardest thing ever but absolutely not a chance ill ever accept that this was so hard to watch but its so true. This is not me i let her go i had to its nit about jealousy its just not true to my values. I walked away and never looked back
Right on the edge now.. either agree or loose her forever..i love her
@@dominickenneally458 hope things got sorted out for you.
Bless you
I’m exactly in the same situation. My boyfriend of 5 years just told me that or I give him the chance to have an open relationship or bye bye. He even told me: I could never become the father of our child unless I knew I could be in an open relationship. Man! That hurt! I’m awake and is 5:00 am. I don’t know how I’m going to be able to go over this shit.
@@SANDRAKAETHNER how are you doing now? 💜
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My husband told me he wanted more wives like his grandfather did (Mormans). I told him he could as soon as he can make ONE wife happy, Me, he could. He didn't even come close, a covert Narc with porn addiction so bad he couldn't perform with me..... We divorced I filed. He died at age 52 very unhappily remarried. Humm
Wow , Interesting story. Funny men are meant to live longer when married and women less. But Men are usually the ones that are keen on open relationships.
MORMONS do practice polygamy albeit not legally in the United States.
@sosaboy sosa Yes very much better off now.
Unforeseen feelings can come up. People that thought they'd be okay with it can turn on somebody. I don't recommend it at all. I would include the risk of disease too
@Gay, spiritual and dating It can become PROBLEMATIC.
I appreciate you not knocking polyamorous relationships down. Yes, it's a mindset and a chosen lifestyle that takes a lot of work. I'm in one with my boyfriend who is married and their relationship was open before I met them. I've since had 2 boyfriends and he's continued to be my rock. I currently and daring someone new and if anything polyamory has helped me not settle for less than what I want or deserve.
Interesting. So youve been with him and at the same time dated others? You call him boyfriend while he is married to another. I am curious as this is similar to my experience... he too is my rock..
Yes. Watered down isn't where it's at. It does take many relationship skills and open communication in a way that transforms ALL relationships. It involves a deep respect for every kind of relationship so that every level of engagement is protected from wantonness and manipulation. Very respectful treatment of the subject by Susan.
I know my partner for 13 years.
So far our relationship is great.
And yes. Its open.
We both are very se*ual. Both love to travel. We are in the distance sometimes due to our careers.
I trust him 100%.
We dont really have the need to be with others at all but we love adventure and that option is available whenever we want to have fun.
We are happy this way enjoying our feelings. We want each other to be happy and enjoy life.
He is also my best friend and my family apart from partner and lover.
We also set rules with the other people.
"No emotional attachment or secondary relationships."
And "Always honesty".
So basically, we can have fuckfriends that we can meet individually or together whenever we want fun.
So far, it works because we only look for people who only want sex.
Depends on your partner as well. If you date a jerk or a guy with a Peter Pan mentality not ready to commit, you shouldn't have expectations indeed but if your love is solid it can last. Like our relationship.
13 years and counting.
So it depends.
For some people it works for others it doesn't work.
You just need to love, trust, know your partner very well and do what makes you grow and be happy.
Lots of love everyone ❤️
Do you have kids? I think that kids changes the dynamic as there are higher stakes at play
He is your partner but not a husband. That explains everything. If a married couple agrees on an open marriage it is not longer a marriage since they are not longer a couple but partners who do not love each other anymore.
Open relationship is like squint vision. Look here, see there.
I can’t wrap my head around how ppl think this is even remotely ok. Ppl are meant to be loved, to be couples we aren’t meant to roam this earth as second best, put in a shoe box and taken back out when you want to change partners the next day.
I’d go absolutely nuts if I wasn’t your one and only. It just shows me you don’t have the emotional maturity to settle down and be a one woman man. No one should ever settle for being a number on a hand, number one or nothing.
Lol
That sound good but most of history not even marriage had anything to do with love
People are meant... Because of Christian traditions?
I think you have the wrong idea here, there shouldn't be a 'second best' in an open relationship
Open relationship is cheating intentionally.. im not talking bout the girl you have agreed to have an open relationship with, but the upcoming 2nd gf..
Why?
Would you tell a girl you really like that she will be your no.2?
I dont think so...
Many people had suffer from this kind of selfishnes.
sufferings from deppresion that many ended up commiting suicide..
Am i the only one here who thinks this kind of evil has to be illegalized?
Beautifully stated Susan. And yes it does take a whole deeper level of maturity and communication.
Not something I will ever chose to engage in although it is being pushed on everyone these days from all angles. It takes a lot of effort, time, investment to build a relationship with one person and to commit to making that person realize their potential and strive to be better. This work can never be done so why invite something fleeting into the mix and potentially disrupt the dynamic as well as downplay the work that was done with mere lustful notions?! Does not make any sense to me at all.
Hi Susan! Nedd here from Singapore. Didn't expect that my question was chosen for this video 😂. My initial outlook on this subject might have been the same as majority of the comments here. But in gay relationships (where there is lesser "commitment") it certainly becomes a trend I am seeing. Sometimes I even thought to myself "maybe i am too traditional?" Nonetheless your sharing has made me reaffirm of what kind of partner is better suited for me. Thanks!
It is only for people who are not in love.
Ms TC they just attracted to physical body and chemistry on the surface ! I call them sex Addict bc if they are accepting a third party in the mix they aren’t happy with themselves in life. And they don’t love themselves, how can they love another person and be faithful??? Interesting clip .
@@silvermont331
I knew some of them and they all tried to play it like my love, monogamy, was selfish. But in the end they all said. Sure they wanted one love who would really love them.
Exactly! 🤣
I found out for myself years ago. If i get distracted and i see more than one person i am just not in love and i do not care. It is a waist of my energy and boring.
Now i only wait for the one who sets me on fire on all levels..
Guess i will stay single for a long time. 😂
G T - I completely agree with you when you said, "It is only for people who are not in love" .. As soon as one is in love, all the 'fooling around' and 'playing the field' will stop... I think what you said is very true and insightful.. Open relationships aren't for me either...
@@grikmyr I completely understand open relationship is not for everyone and I agree with the choice to be monogamy.
I disagree with the notion people who are open are not in love. I believe the heart can love multiple people, multiple things and multiple activities.
@@alexisricky2 I agree. Being in an open relationship does not necessarily mean the parties are insecure as many suggest. Being in monogamous relationships does not necessarily mean both parties are secure or in love as many also imply. Additionally, monogamous relationships are no more secure and can guarantee love any more than do open relationships or polyamory.
Currently I am thinking about being in an open relationship... but mostly because she is my first love and real relationship... so later on my partner and I don’t want me to resent her or myself for not having more experiences or dating or other people. I love her completely which is why we even considering open relationship
Are you still together?
I can relate to this. I would really appreciate to hear from your experience how you worked it out.
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I LOVE your comments!! Thank you "Naughty"- much appreciated
naughty by nature hi
What a beautifully explained video. Wish i could express myself in such a clear and efficient way. Superb ❤️
Another reason for monogamy if you ask me. Unfortunately, people seem to want to keep "experimenting". I guarantee that once they find something they really like, it will all stop. In my book, it goes against everything that should be included in a loving caring relationship. It's a dead end like you said...
Exactly! I don’t understand women who claim they can have relations without any emotions. Literally goes against our healthy feminine biology.
I dont agree on open relationship😣 thats not love💏 and caring thats just the person using you for what they need on you. Thats all . Ones they get tired of you they forget you where there for them when they needed u. Great Vedios Susan 👏, Thank u for sharing.🌻🌾🌻🌹🌻🌹🌻🌹🌻🌹
Thank you
Nope.
Each person gets to define their own relationship and what that is and looks like. Personally I can’t see how dividing your time and attention with more than one person can be all that deep and fulfilling. Deep Trust and care is hard enough to do for ones self let alone another or multiple people. I think the term quality over quantity is fitting. Some people want to spread out their energy and time and as a result I think you can only go so deep with each person (seems more superficial less deep connection). One person is more than enough for me. Probably too much sometime lol! To each their own, decide what works for you as long as your not hurting anyone else.
I think your talking about polyamorous partnerships. I don’t think a one night stand every once and a while is so much time consuming.
Open Relations do have a risk factor, and that is you never know who you are going to fall in love with. Lady on one of those afternoon soccer Mom shows. You can find her interview on RUclips. After the kids moved out she felt she missed something. She had given her husband 25 years of the best years of her life. They opened their relationship and she took an apartment in the city during the week and would come back home on the weekends. To avoid getting emotional connected to the other person she was sleeping with, she would only date them for a month or less. She had 12 lovers, 10 male and 2 female. After a year she gave up the apt. and moved back home for what she thought was for now on. Three months had passed when one of the guys she slept with found her again. She divorced her husband and married the other guy.
I feel like if you dont really love all the way and just date loosely then its whatever but if you are in a serious relationship it will end poorly and 99% of them do. And many crime shows have been created due to this type of dynamic never working.
My observation is that many people who went into this in the 70s when it was very popular pre Aids the couple thought they could do this with no emotional bonding with others. Humans dont always work this way. Many find it tough to react to the oxytocin and emotional bonds DO.start to form...the women had the bonding feelings first usually but in time men in the couples did too.
I'm open to open relationships because I'm terrible at being open. So thought being honest and open about my doubts, fears, desires and confusion might be possible in one. I could start from not pretending I have all the answers.
Good 1
Many comments make the all encompassing statement, "I want to spend or find the person I want to spend the rest of my life with". Is it possible the this fits the bill for everyone ? We live a long time . So much changes over time . We change so much. I think we all benefit from commitment but how long and what expectations we have should be talked about. You could have a fantastic relationship that last one year that changes you for life. You might learn how to let go and really enjoy life. With a lasting memory and skills learned . Then for no fault of anyone it ends. You had deep commitment for a year . Some people never experience any form of deep connection ) commitment. Waiting for the right person. In other words , this is complex and there are no simple answers in my opinion.
its bullshit i fucken knew it!!!
thanks susan for speaking so much sense.
Life is a simple or as complicated as you make it.
It's women who suggest open relationship. Men just have affairs and expect the relationship to end.
Women want fun while at the same time keep their regular man who still pays the bills.
I feel like its the same as having an affair.
Men would have affairs, but still keep their wives for God knows what reason.
I think both are unecessary and a punch to one's respect and trust. Affairs are as bad as a 'woman in an open marriage'
Hi Susan- thanks for your post. My ex-wife told me on our 3rd date that she was bi and wanted an open relationship. We would be with other women together but she wanted to see other couples on her own. She was open and honest as to what she wanted and I had the choice to take it or leave it. I chose the lifestyle with her, it was not always easy, jealousy for both of us at time but I would not change any part of what we had together. We were together 12 years and broke-up over money matters.
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if it is open, it`s not a relationship.
I feel like for some people this sort of relationship could work really well. For example, I'm in an asexual relationship with my partner. I love her a lot and of course I'm going to respect her boundaries and sexuality. I'm not ace, so for us a form of an open relationship works best. Should I feel the need/want I talk with her openly and can satisfy this thing that she can't give me. It of course only works with a lot of honesty and communication. It absolutely isn't for everyone!
@9/8c ?
Thanks I’m learning so much from your clips Susan .. I always wanted to find out about all these sexual trends I hear .. society is messed up .. we got to stop that by not allowing it final !! Either you are exclusive to me and vrs or I’m out either one !! My opinion 🙃
If your significant other asks for an open relationship before you even get married.......run for the hills.
Open relationships are no different than friends with benefits. You’re just not happy with calling yourself single that’s why you say “open relationship”.
Incorrect
Amazing insights! I'm learning so much from you. Thank you.
It depends on the person , not for me .
What do you get when your brother is in an open relationship while his wife is pregnant?
You get alienated from the family and lose faith in humanity.
My open relationship lasted 4 years until she met her 'perfect match'. Last month she left me for him. So, it did work for us for awhile but it seems we weren't as solid as I thought. Oh, she also admitted keeping secret that she's considering transitioning to being a man. I guess legally changing her name to the masculine version of it said as much.
I think "open relationships" are just another way of justifying being promiscuous.
Hi thank you so much for videos..
you can also have a monogamish relationship , monogamous by default and if it temporarrily doesnt work be open and honest without fear of judgment and rejection or verbal abuse and character assassination , the best of both worlds
Hi Susan.. 🙋♀️
Thanks. This was great!
Basically having several relationships on life support that is supposedly worth it because you’re “in love”.
I was in an open relationship for years, but didn't know it!
It never works it only works in people's heads. Only weird strange kind of people who aren't really in a relationship but are just together do this stuff
Love your answer! Great question & great video.
I love how open-minded you are
Love the video. Please do a video on. What if you’re the rebound unwillingly????
If you found your soul mate, why would you want to share them with someone else? Just met a nice guy and he was actually honest and said he was engaged but in an open relationship for last 4 years, but has know his fiance for 12 years. I'm confused. You're engaged, but for the last 4 years you're in an open relationship but still not married? Sounds like the wedding isn't happening. I can't really get involved with that. I would feel like a homewrecker.
You make a good point. When it comes down to it, you really don't know what's going on in these people's lives...what they're saying to their other partners, etc.
Open relationship = he is cheating , she is crying.... 😉
Women love bringing up the idea of open relationships then realise the options their "man" actually has.
Spooky....you realizing the female has those options too.
It can't be cheating if someone openly agreed to have an open relationship before hand. If they lied that they were open to it then it would be their fault for not being honest. Cheating is Common, honest realationship in my opinion , not so common.
No dear
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My wife wants an open marriage but I am not comfortable with that I said yes a cpl times then got afraid of getting hurt no1 I know who have done this ended up good I just love her so much I dont really want to share her or even want to be with others am I being selfish cause I really want her happy but believe I will only end up hurt
get the hell out of the marriage. she already cheats on you
What is the thought process if you have kids together?
you said it your original mate that all stay..........13:11 love is love. even a 3 some can be JUST fun but stay together swinging than you or they have to leave ....love is love, hey and i am gay. :)
that's why so many people and especially young gay men are not at all happy, as they do it with all, and when they are 20 are feeling alone. yeah well sorry that's what you are into ..5 min sex and no commitment
there not PARTNERS they are just LUST ...... you have to leave it ....x love will previal . indeed Fxxxck society i love my ( x) man but he loved a app .) sad hey .xxx nope he will be back as i did love him. xxx
Don't do it - and if your SO asks you to open you relationship leave them immediately !!!
Hi Susan, where can one post vid requests? I couldn't find it on your page.
One man's trash is another man's treasure.
I don't know how any woman would want her man making out with another woman. I wouldn't tolerate that for 10 secs. Hit the road Jack.
@@1ilaalejandra Beautifully said. :)
Exactly. And any man who enjoys seeing his woman with other men doesn’t really love her. It goes against biology.
Hello Susan im just looking for open and causal dating its works out for me
They work......only IF both parties can agree.
Danny Rand I wonder just long they will agree?
Hi.. I’m India I’m like long distance relationship my name hitesh
Personally I am an all in or nothing kind of guy you can’t half ass anything in life an expect a nominal out come loving anyone with half a Heart in my opinion isn’t love at all
Wow the judgemental comment.. I get not wanting open relationship but to proclaim that people who do "don't truly love" etc.. So arrogant
who would even dare to suggest an open relationship thats like suggesting closet cheating , thats like relationship armegeddon verbal abuse and character assassination
why do you think infidelity is a taboo subject which means NO ONE TALKS ABOUT IT
I read the book. very little about it was sex.
There's nothing sophisticated about this, it's cheating 101.
How is it cheating if all parties consent?
@@PerthCycleChanBadDrivers It comes down to semantics. If you call yourselves a couple that connotates an intimate relationship between two people And involving outside influences is cheating. Otherwise, you're just fuck buddies.
Yeah I don’t know why they call it sophisticated
@@jcassidy938 it really isn't. Is having a threesome cheating as well if you argue like that? You need to communicate in an open relationship. It isn't for everyone and btw, it doesn't have to last forever (we shouldn't look at ended relationships as failures)
Most ppl want to be in an open relationships is they watch too much swinger porn and want to reenact that fantasy
So what you are saying is you want what you want and if you can't have it f it
For some they work. Do they last? They are less likely to be successful by their very nature.
Yes they do
Susan, a very attractive and sexually open minded woman invited me to become her lover, she is married to a cuckold man.. I made one rule, no sex in front of him, and she said its ok.. she likes that I am very dominant.. Could this lead to heartbreak?
Sloppy seconds 🤢
Ufff nasty nasty . That’s not love
you may have the occasional fling , bit on the side , sometimes you want to have your cake and eat it
I am scottish from my mothers side living in holland
OK. I disagree. Open relationships never ever work partners can try to understand each other's dynamics till the cows come home but someone will get jealous...open relationships are a recipe for disaster. No commitment an ii mean 100% hands off anyone else commitment. You can't be with ur partner 199% of the time to make sure they are abiding by the rules established. So someone will be dishonest someone gets betrayed. Don't even try to explain uniqueness to a open relationship....it's a BAD policy.
I look its up, 80% of open relationships are started by Women., And usely its dont end well, now if your two are single, then there no legal commitment, but when your married are have kids, then its get ugly, You may set rules and boundaries, but the heart mind dont care, and the new partner dont care about you rules and boundaries, also. Many time one of two will start sending more time with the outside partner, and the other is forgotten, are one want to make love after getting home but the other had a partner are few that day, and the other left hanging, The date show that, lots of married in open relationship end, as one of them far for the outside partner, i know two ladies got pregnant , and the marriage was over, .STD ok you set rules that use protection when with others with your spouse, and at a party drink flowing and you forget, now you person in a open relationship too, with others ib open relationship, now when with your spouse you open up that person to everone down the line from your last outside partner. There no good in it, If your marriage is prefect then why look for more.
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I would say no. Delusional that people think they do