Autism: 3 Easy Tips YOU NEED To Make Friends (FAST)
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- Опубликовано: 28 июл 2024
- Autism and making friends can be easy for you with these 3 tips in this video. Start making friends today.
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Autism causes all kinds of difficulties in people living with autism, this can range from anxiety and depression to difficulty making friends.
Individuals with an autism spectrum disorder can find it difficult and hard sometimes to make friends. This is no exception for autism in adults or autism in children, it impacts them just the same.
In this video I am talking about 3 main ways that an individual with autism can make friends fast. It is simple and effective.
I have used these same strategies to make friends in all my friends circles. So I would advise anyone who wants to start making friends to follow these 3 tips.
Making friends can be difficult but knowing how to make friends is a good way to start overcoming the hard part.
So take note, stand up straight and get out there and start making friends. The benefit from having friends is social interaction and the less likely you are to feel lonely.
Loneliness is a big issue for people on the spectrum so making friends is a great way to stop feeling lonely.
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Hey from the Aspie World and a big welcome into my life! I am a Dan from the UK and I have Aspergers Syndrome or ASD which is a form of Autism, often referred to as High Functioning Autism or Autism Spectrum Disorder. I make videos every week on my journey and offer tips and tricks to help everyone who has Autism.
I also have help videos for helping people get a diagnosis of Autism or Aspergers Syndrome, and also some advise and help for anyone who is friends, partners or loved ones who suffer from Autism or Aspergers Syndrome and just about anyone on the Autism Spectrum.
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Thank you so much for making this video i love you❤️❤️❤️
Making friends isn’t that hard for me. Keeping friends is hard. I meet people all the time and become friends, but once I am not seeing them all the time I lose touch.
I have the exact same problem. Sooner or later they move away or move jobs and the friendship just dies.
That's the struggle I have. I never find out why I lose friendships, I only have theories. But a pattern I've noticed is that people seem interested and entertained by the "quirks" that come from autistic traits... and a few months later, when they start realizing it's NOT a fun bit, it's just how I am, they get annoyed and start distancing themselves.
That’s the difference between friends and associates 😅 I’m cool with my associates but how do I switch from associates to friends
For me it feels almost like an "object permanence" thing, like if they're not in my line of sight they don't really exist. I'm terrible at remembering or even thinking to call or message most people with any regularity.
Personally, my difficulty with establishing friendships does not revolve around an inability or otherwise limited ability to read others, or to understand what's deemed appropriate or inappropriate. My problem is that I am not a very talkative person, and am somehow submerged into my own world so to speak. Even if I do want to strike up a conversation, the hyperfocus on all the possible ways it could end awkwardly just filters all the things I could potentially talk about out of my mind, and deters me from making an effort. It's getti
Ah yeah It is difficult to read others. Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
Meditation worked wonders for me to blend out all these distracting thoughts and concentrate on the present moment, i.e. the conversation. Also has a lot of other great benefits! The counterpart to it is that you start to annoy all the people around you by telling them they should start to meditate :D
Oh my goodness, I flipping Adore you right now!!!!! This is the best way I’ve ever heard someone explain this. It’s so hard to explain but I get it😞💛
@@bancelutters8654 could you tell me more about meditation and what it did for you
@@kingwolfiaka I would recommend HealthyGamerGG (RUclips and Twitch) if you are interested in this topic. Has a lot of videos about meditation and mental health
Some tips for friendship in general:
-Friendships have to build up slowly, you have to create a lot of good memories with someone and create a deeper connection with someone in order to become best friends for example.
-You need multiple friends, not just one best friend. People can get really annoyed if you claim them, so don't do that. Show them you want to be friends, but let them be free to do other things as well (this was a really big problem for me when I was younger).
-Be aware that there are people who can take advantage of you. Don't let them do that, because those people are not real friends. For people with autism it can be difficult to seperate friends and enemies. For example: if someone only wants to meet with you when he has no other option, that person is not a real friend. If someone only wants to spend time with you because you have something they like such as video games or money, that person is not a good friend.
-If you have a friend that likes you and your weirdness and does not make fun of you, you have found a real good friend.
Now some tips for making new friends:
-If you already have a friend, you can use them to meet new people! If you are good friends, you probably will like their friends as well because they will have similar interests.
-If you are afraid of talking to people on your own, go to a social place with someone that is good at social things. Look at how they do it and cling on to the conversations that the person you're with is having with others. This really helped me getting more friends!
-Do not just talk all the time, and not just about your own interests. Listen to what someone is telling you, and then ask them a question related to that topic. People don't like it when you don't say anything at all, but they also don't like it when you are speaking all the time. Learn to find that balance.
-Show them good body language. Make eyecontact regulary (I know this is difficult, but you can find a balance with this. For example: I make eyecontact when I want to show someone that I am listening to what they are saying, but when I answer I look away because then I can think better) and stand "open" to someone. Use your hands when you talk, all those kinds of things.
-Remember the things that someone tells you and sometimes bring them up again the next time you see that person. This helped me getting tons of friends! For example: When you talk to someone at school and that person tells you that he/she is going to an amusement park that weekend and after the weekend you see him/her again, ask him/her of he/she had a good time at the amusement park and have a conversation about it. People really appreciate it if you remember those type of things and they really like it when people are interested in them. And it's also great because you will have something to talk about!
I hope this helps someone, it helped me for sure. These are things I used to struggle with, but found out through trial and error. Don't be afraid to fail, there are tons of people in the world. If someone doesn't like you, that's fine. You can actually learn social skills by observing others and trying it yourself. Just make sure you don't play someone else. People will like you for who you are, they just need a little bit of guidance when it comes to becoming friends.
Good advice. Too bad I suck at group conversations 😭😭😭
Thank you so much for the comment!
About having multiple friends and not being so invested in one is so true. Took me way too long to realize that, I did realize that I was being quite annoying, but not truly why I was, so it made me think that I just needed to try more, but property, which just made it worse lol
What if you do not already have a friend?
@exoticcar5482 is there something you are interested in? I have adhd which makes it hard to maintain friends. It helps if my friends, and I have a hobby in common. I've met many of them through these hobbies.
This is my hardest challenge. Not only making friends but maintaining relationship is so overwhelming. I have embraced having no friends but sure would be nice finding the like minded. 😁
I am in Oregon, USA btw.
I know how you feel I never had friends growing up n still don’t have any It sucks that I have nobody to hang out with but it’s fine I have my Cartoons/Shows/Anime/Movies/VideoGames that I enjoy
Talking about my crush I made friend easily because I talk about my crush so much to my new classmate that I wasn't scared to talk anymore then we became freinds
I can't stop looking at the naked guy on the shelf with the banana near him. Sorry it sounds weird.
Thank God it wasn't just me Haha
I thought that was a saw.. XD
It’s Stretch Armstrong
@@TheAspieWorld haven't seen a Stretch Armstrong in, like, forever
Yeah
Thanks
Now I wont be able to stop looking
although I find conversation awkward..(the transitions involved)..I tend to talk and talk and talk
Yes ✌🏼
My nephew has been diagnosed with aspergers ... but unfortunately as an adult I can't seem to get a diagnosis there doesn't seem to be the money for assessments .I find your videos really helpful and it's so good to feel like someone understands .keep up the good work and thank you
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You're one of the only channels that I have my notifications on for
Are you in the UK ?
@@oluwashubomik yeah
@@paulafletchaa2613 you can go to your GP to get a referral. I have and got assessed and I'm an adult
I prefer texting over real life communication. They can take their time reading what I said, and there is no "interrupting". I can re-read what they said in Text, unlike real life where I have to deeply concentrate for every instant second they say something, and I cant hear it again because most people hate repeating. I have a hard time remembering spoken word! Text communication is better for me because there is no eye contact, no tones, no body language, I can re-read, look over my own words before I send it, and it lets me leave at any time I feel agitated for any reason.
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Me too!! Only, i tend to imagine what the tone is, and im almost always wrong. I found this is mostly because whatever mood, or attitude of mind i have will determine what tone i apply to someone's text if they dont provide me with enough information. 🤔 Which is why i believe emojis were created.
@@MoonPhaze5 I ❤ emojis 😁👍
@@shoshanafox727 😀YAAAS!! I like to make 'em WORK work... 💃🙆💃🖒😎
You can't text all.of the time. People like one on one interaction. Like spending time with each other. Otherwise, there are going to be issues with the other person feeling neglected or rejected
I don't have the problem of talking too much, I have the problem of not talking enough 😂😂
But talking through text/online is still helpful for the time pause. It gives me time to actually get my thoughts in order and have the words I need
Same here! It's hard to come up with what to say on the spot... It also just takes me a while sometimes
@@anascarlet yes! And it really sucks when you're hanging out with someone irl and there's that pause and they look at you and you know they want you to say something. I tend to just internally panic and they always seem disappointed. I don't know what people want me to say!
@@idledreamsasmr399 exactly 😭
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Thank you for the video The Aspie World. I am a 15 yr old girl from Hampshire, England with Aspergers and my best/only friend I made semi-independently is a 4 year old I have to babysit who is my mums friends daughter
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I took my aspie grandson to a game store. Wow. It was like a family reunion. Talk about birds of a feather! It was amazing and made me so happy that he found his people.
Hello Dan I suffer from schizophrenia and Aspergers, I am medicated through the schizophrenia and suffer a real bad times of paranoia and fear through watching your videos they have given me great insight into how my Asperger’s affects me as for two years I was unsure how it affected me I was diagnosed with Aspergers at the age Of 45 I am now 47 so for two years I was wondering about in the dark not knowing clearly what the definition of autism was although they did explain it to me but couldn’t to have all the information I have a four and half hour Assessment and then a follow-up assessment for another hour or so to explain the diagnosis of Aspergers find the end of all that I was very unsure how it related to me and how I fit in with Aspergers Like I said through watching your videos it has helped me out great deal I can see how it affects you therefore how it affects me I’ve watched other videos around autism late diagnosis in adults I have subscribed to your channel and look forward to more content you put out there I have my own channel around schizophrenia medication addiction I’m am recovering addict And I can identify with how your Aspergers Relates to me so thank you
I've always been able to make friends but my problem is keeping them
Anyone who cant handle walls of text is usually someone whom I wont get along with.
Gimme long walls of text! I find them fascinating, and I naturally type them myself!
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Im so glad I came across your channel. My 12 old son has Aspergers and school is a struggle due to his social struggles with other kids. He gets picked on and called a nerd and weird. Your videos are very helpful and I think will be beneficial for him. Thank you for sharing!
Hi Dan, love your videos! Every chance I get, I watch. You're an inspiration for my granddaughter! I'm watching from Quebec, Canada. She has trouble making friends so this video surely will help! Thanks for sharing your life, opinions, and recommendations!
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Hi bro I’m in New Zealand,my name is Richard most people know me as snowy. I was diagnosed with Asperger’s,adhd and giftedness in January of this year, I turned 53 in April.
I had a breakdown/through in November last year working on a movie in Australia (Kong vs Godzilla 2)
I was the A camera dolly grip on the avatar sequels, the latest lord of the rings,mulan etc, I worked directly with James Cameron.
Since my diagnosis I have shut myself away from the world trying to process what the f#ck happened to the first 52 years of my life, I have 2 failed marriages and have never been able to connect with anyone but at least I know why now.
I’m incredibly grateful for finally being told what I am and it’s pretty cool,it’s just thaty I don’t trust people anymore.
Anyway I’m thankful for people like you sharing your story it all helps.🤟🤟🤟🤟🤟❤️❤️
Therapy is amazing thanks so much dan
You are welcome!!
I have Autism and recently I moved to a new state. Prior to moving I haven’t had any friends, and whenever I did they didn’t value me as much as the rest of their friends, they were bad influences, were too quiet, or losers. My goal is to in one year from now to have a high value friend group.
I found this to be one of my fave videos of yours so far. love that mic 'stand' and will look it up.
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Thank you Dan, that was very helpful.
Hey you are welcome!! Thank you so much for the comment!
this was really helpful. thanks dan!
You are welcome!! Thank you so much for the comment!
Great tips! That was very helpful, thanks, Dan!
You are welcome!!
Watching from Hibbing, Minnesota USA. Totally appreciate the content of your videos. Stay awesome! ✌
Thx. Need this. Good job! Best!
I'm watching from Newcastle, Maine! Love your channel Dan!
Thanks for this Dan, this is something I really struggle with so hopefully these tips will help! Would you ever do a video on how the school system treated you as someone who was different, and how you coped?
Yes I am going to be doing videos on school very soon!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
Thank you, Dan! This is cool! I live in America! 🇺🇸! My symptoms are very mild! I can look people in the eyes! It's very light in me
I am watching from Northern Ireland. I am 30 and was diagnosed with autism last month, although I was told I might have dyspraxia but was never officially diagnosed. I never thought about it much before as I was just used to things but getting diagnosed has started to make me understand better with some of the things I do and why.
I actually didn't find it hard making friends growing up as I made quite a few friends in school , but it was keeping them I found harder as often when I tried to communicate with someone, I'd know what to say sometimes but couldn't get myself to actually say it (I called it a block, like a physical barrier was stopping me) and I ended up losing friends as we'd drift apart. I think growing up in an area with few kids around, who didn't stay there more than a year or two, wasn't that helpful either. I have learned to deal with it over the years and I do find it easier communicating with people now than I used to.
The hardest thing for me making new friends in person now is that I can't yet drive. I am learning to drive at the moment and I getting better at it. I could get public transport to places and sometimes have to, but I often I find vehicle and house chimney and other fumes and smells, those overpower my sensis and make me feel sick and any events that are going on that are to do with things I am interested in are often too far away for me to get to. Any group I have joined in the past, most of the people in it are usually either a lot older than I am or younger and although I haven't really had problems with that much, I'd rather meet some people around my age.
The one good thing with getting diagnosed and explaining my situation to the people I went to see about my diagnosis is that they are trying to help me find groups I can join and ways I can get out and about so just waiting to hear back from them about it, although one of them said she'd found a music group I might be interested to join since I love making music and playing musical instruments so waiting to hear more about it.
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thankyou my son has adhd and aspergers and has awful trouble trying to fit in and make friends i appreciate your videos.
Denver CO. Much appreciate the insight as I’m recently diagnosed. Found you on Spotify. Thank you again.
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I've already given up mostly, people are exhausting. I do have some friends/people I know that I enjoy being around, but I really have no patience when it comes to difficult social interactions. I just check out.
Do you let people know, when you meet them, that you have Aspergers whether or not you meet a neurotypical or someone you guess is on the spectrum?
Some times. I guess it depends on the situation.
Yeah I guess you’re right. As the mother of a child on the spectrum who is 12 going on 13, I almost always tell people about it. Guess my momma instinct is to protect him from being hurt (mentally) and to make sure others aren’t either. 🤷♀️ You being an adult and more self aware can choose from each situation.
Gabriella Rosenfeld i don’t think you should be outing a teenager, if people cannot tell they don’t need to know unless a problem develops (ie. Girlfriend crying about why is he so cold) but unless your kid is way down the spectrum they need to have the autonomy to make that choice for themself. Ask yourself this “if my son was gay, would i tell this person? How would that help my son?”
jerk fudgewater Hi, I get what you mean but being that it is not visible to people that he is on the spectrum and he up and swears at a person or other rude behavior (has happened) I ‘d rather let them know when possible. I guess I ‘d rather not hide it and people will ask questions, which I see as positive. Being gay doesn’t effect social behavior (normally ), so no I would not out a gay person.
Gabriella Rosenfeld ok so re-read what i said then see if that covers everything you just said.
Swearing at people = problem
People may react poorly and use what makes your son different against him even though it doesn’t matter or warrant hostility = gay
You’re outing your son will stunt his growth socially and eventually lead him to resent you for it. BUT you could always ignore me and hurt your son, it’s up to you, you’re the parent
this is useful. thank you dan!
Any time!!
Hi Dan
Watching from cork Ireland Im a single mom with an 8 year old girl who has been diagnoised with Asd
SPD dysprixia and suspected dyslixia.I find your videos very honest and informative .Huge thanks ☘
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Thanks for the tips Dan.
Any time!!
Yorkville IL. Thanks so much for sharing!
Thank you for these videos. I have been following your channel for a while but I think this is the first time I've commented. I would love to see videos on your special interests. :) Keep being awesome good sir.
Thank you so much!! ✌🏼
Great video. I was recently diagnosed myself. Keep it up!
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I would love to hear about your obsessions and interests. This video is super cool. Thank you! Aspie Proud! Shari
Love your videos! Would love to see videos about your interests as well! To me, it's always interesting to hear from someone who's really into a specific topic, plus who doesn't like conspiracy theories?
Hey!! Thank you. Haha yeah!! Conspiracy theories!
Watching from Nashville, TN. Love your channel.
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Watching all the way from Brazil, Rio. ✌🏼
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Thanks for the video! I am watching from Ontario, Canada!!
I have been diagnosed with general anxiety disorder, and being treated with medication for adhd andddd I am pretty sure I might have autism now lol
I found out I'm an aspie a year ago this month :) life is hard but it's easier to understand and help my feelings
Thanks man.. this made me feel better.
I’m watching from Maryland in the US.
Awesome!!
Well at the moment I don't really have too much time to have irl friends besides the ones I already have, but I enjoy talking about my obsessions. So I "accidentally" fell into a Fandom on Twitter, and my days are so much brighter. I like every post, I love the fanarts, jokes everything. It's just wonderful to be there.
So I'm very much backing up the idea of searching online for people with same obsessions 😸
You're helping sooo much
Thank you ❤❤
You are more than welcome!!
V mask on the shelf looks absolutely tremendous. Strenuously agree friendships are difficult dislex also.
I am actually at a stage where I don't really want to start new friendships. I just sorted out (deleted a bunch of) my contacts, and got rid of FB and IG. I just want to get to know myself more and learn to love myself more. But I'd still love to meet ya. But thank you for the video Dan Man
Awesome video! Thankyou!
You are welcome
Have you ever heard of the Meetup app? Meetup is an app where you can join or create groups related to a particular interest and then schedule events so you can meet up with others who share that interest. I created a plan-based dining out group which is awesome and I’ve enjoyed meeting and eating out with other like-minded plant-eaters! I also joined a few outdoor adventure groups where I’ve gone camping and hiking with other outdoor/nature enthusiasts. Apps like Meetup are a great way to find and meet like-minded people who share common interests.
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Thanks for the tips Dan
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I'm from Australia am twenty- four going on 25 years of age in 4 days, yay!! haha 😁
I was diagnosed when I was four years old, with a form of Autism my kindergarten teacher picked it up, she'd worked with kids on the spectrum in the past ❤💙💜
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D&D is a family tradition for me and my kids ;-) I cannot suggest this enough.
Thank you so much @TheAspieWorld you are the best
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My girlfriend has autism and your chanel helps us a lot to underdtand different aspects of it. We are from México 🇲🇽💚
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That's so cool to be the first comment in your video:) I really want you to do videos like this:) Btw I'm from Russia and I really enjoy your videos and I also find them very useful:)
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this is very helpful to me because with having autism I really struggle to make friends so thank you for making this video also you said you like skateboarding I also like skateboarding as well
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just wanted to tell you that i love your videos. keep it up!
im from west europe btw
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Hi from Utah. Great tips! I met a couple good friends from playing MMO games.
watching from Paris, thanks for the tips !
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I'm actually watching this trying to find friends to play dungeons and dragons with so it's kinds cool that you mentioned it.
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Thanks for this video! Good suggestions. The thing I feel I struggle with is getting to know people beyond your shared interest, though... Like, it gets kind of old when your conversation is only confined to your common interest with someone, and I don't always know how to breach that... Besides that, it seems that people consider other people friends when they know personal stuff about each-other. I guess you just have to ask them personal questions at some point... Do you have any tips on this aspect of making friends, Dan?
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I love the emoji idea! And in gonna try that with my son!
Awesome!! Let me know how you get on!
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Great video! My problem is I have been told that I am to needy. This causes me to be overly self conscious and I end up shutting myself off because I am afraid of being clingy/needy.
totally the same here.
Don’t let people tell you who you are. You be you!!
The people who told me I was too needy ended up being toxic people anyway. They were people who ended up abusing me. From this experience, I say that anyone who calls you needy probably doesn't need to be I your life anyway. Find people who enjoy your love and deserve your friendship. Good luck!
Laurie Mrdjan , thanks for this comment,this is so true and helps me so much
@@lauriemrdjan Thanks 👍
Great video can very useful. I'm from London.
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Ty this vid actually helps
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I’m watching from Germany! And I feel very related to the part with the talking about science. They think i‘m arrogant because I say things they might not understand.
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Thanks this rlly helped
Very interesting thoughts. However it is one thing to have certain interests, but another altogether to be able to discuss those interests in a social context. There are numerous times when I was talking to group of people around a subject I knew about, however, I couldn't really join in, as I couldn't relate my knowledge to the context of the conversation. Examples would include conversations around politics - and I'm not talking about arguments or taking sides here. It was coming from a different angle so to speak, than the way I learnt about things. I may be able to recite some facts textbook style, but somehow the conversation can come from a different starting point.
Really like your channel, It's helping me learn more about myself and my son. My son was diagnosed with ADHD, and mild Aspergers when he was 5, he is 8 now. Learning more about it in the past few years, I strongly believe I also have Aspergers even though I have never been officially diagnosed.
I myself have used the methods you talked about in this video. I actually met my Wife over online communication first as well.
I was wondering if there were any ways you know of to help a child with Aspergers make friends. My son is a lot like me and tends to keep to himself, and his family. I thought about maybe having him get involved in a local stem club that uses Legos. He loves Lego's, Minecraft, Transformers, and Math.
Thanks for your response and your channel.
Also what kind of POPS! do you collect? Maybe I can send you some! (My POP! obsession is kind of out of control)
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my best friend was really mean to me and after i had no friends and i find it really hard to make friends so thank you for making this video i think it might help me a bit!
Hi, how have these tips helped you one year later? I have Autism and moved to a new state and prior to moving to NC I haven’t had any friends, and hope in one year from now I can make a big positive friend group.
For me I try to find out what topics other people like, and if it overlaps with something I’m interested in I can be very sociable. This is everything from certain comic book characters, certain video game lore, dogs, animals, ecosystems, mechanics of engines, American football, basketball, MMA, and the history related to the development of those sports, historical events, etc.
when it comes to topics of corruption and libertarianism, I’ve learned to use a sort of Socratic method and a way of suggesting where to look into the topics on the internet to verify things themselves. I used to be quite evangelical and have a ‘tell them how it is’ mindset, but since I changed into this more Socratic type of communication I have had large degrees of success being persuasive
I can make connections and be quite sociable despite struggling with it when I was younger, and I actually think it is because of how I’ve learned to use the Asperger’s traits
And with a little guidence and research I’ve actually found that I can be better than the average person with understanding body language and nonverbal ques because of how analytical my mind is, the difference is that it’s just not intuitive. I’ve also found that it can be mentally stimulating rather than draining like it is for many people with Asperger’s, because I enjoy making analysis
thank you
I'm watching from Ireland I am 34 diagnosed at 12
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Sweet 'N Sour I'm going to be in Ireland in one week! My daughter is studying abroad in Galway! What part do you live in, if you don't mind me asking?
laurah6381 Hi, I live in Dublin. Galway is beautiful I’ve been there a few times.
Thanks for the great video! I'm a chemist too!
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Dan, thank you so much for this video. I hope this will help, a lot. Especially if we make it to Vidcon. Please disregard the long, FRIGHTFUL paragraph I left on your other video. Thank You!
Hey Dan! Awesome video! 😊 Anyways I was wondering if you could give me some kind of advice that's on the topic of friendships. I never really been an outgoing person due to Asperger's and everything. I've been dealing with a lot lately. Including trying to figure out to do with someone who was a very close friend of mine. My friend has been doing lots of bad stuff and has a negative attitude. And I don't know what to do anymore. I want to talk about it with this friend but I find it super hard. And if this friend continues (which they have continued after being asked before not to do stuff that makes others uncomfortable) I might just have to end the friendship. And I really don't know how. Or even what to do. If you have any advice I would sure love to hear it.
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I was skittish about gaming, but a psychologist recommended it as a way for my child to have some control in her world. Minecraft is her passion and some of her best friends were made there.
We love you, Dan!!!! Such good tips. Love the banana light! Thank you so much for your wonderful work!!!!
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Watching from Falkirk today. Great video.
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@@TheAspieWorld been a subscriber for over a year. Love your videos.
I just subscribed to your channel. As a person who was born with Autism, I love your videos. My question is you done any videos about Autism on the dating environment?
Hey!! Not yet but I am going to be!!
holy shit i just youtubed boosted boards and i'm in love. I'm a 44yo female ex skater..maybe i should get back into the game huh? esp if it's already electric, giving my old bones that extra push huh? i could prolly get my balance back if i worked it out. plenty of flat land and bike lanes here in florida!
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I'm watching from Arkansas in the US.
Greetings from Germany! Your Videos are very interesting and I've noticed that too that I have like minded Friends, because almost all of my Friends like the same Videogames, such as Super Mario, SingStar and Just Dance and Super Mario Kart and FiFa and most of them also have the same Musical interests!
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Unfortunately most of my family hav it so I don't get on
Ahh! That’s tough!
I was diagnosed with high functioning autism when I was eleven. Most people on the Autism Spectrum are usually diagnosed with it when they are toddler. People always say I annoy them because I obsess over certain topics.
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watching from Dallas, Texas, USA
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I am not autistic, I have ADHD and OCD. But I related about making friends tips because that's the way I make friends and how I feel more comfortable to talk to people, writting, without call, video or the need to meet in person. When I find people with same interest or having a hard time with the same feelings I've felt before I like to chat a lot. But even in online conversation there are some people who needs that I reply immediately and say the formal stuffs like goodnight and kisses and see you tomorrow that makes me feel uncomfortable having to say back those things. They make me feel the same way as if I was in person and maybe worse because if they say that they will talk to me tomorrow they really will and I will have to respond them because they will be expecting me to @.@ but those people drains out my energy and I need to be far from them from some while till I have energy to talk to them again.
As kid I realized I used to use stickers or share candies with others kids to make friends and now I frequently start a conversation noticing something about the people that I like, for example fashion clothes or geek accessories.
Watching from The Hague Netherlands, still trying to get my son with Asperger to follow you...
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Greeting from Lanarkshire!
Social media is great for meeting like-minded people. I have made quite a few friends through RUclips. We have had arranged meet-ups at Barassie, Carlisle and Holytown, and sometime I've just bumped into other youtubers at Bo'ness, Model Rail Scotland and Bridgton bus garage.
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I talk too much gonna write a book
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I’m watching from Alberta Canada
I am EXCLUDED in groups. People ignore me. People talk over me. Case in point: I attempted to join a committee meeting in my building. One person said a slow cooker was needed. I had one. Brand new. Still in the box. I Was willing to give it to them free. After a half dozen attempts to say something I gave up. People ignore me. It's really not worth the effort trying.
@Anne-Lou I no longer do that because nobody listens and if they do, I'm berated for making excuses. I have no allies or advocates. I often feel I should just shut up. Who is the person in this video? I'm sorry I forget names. But I wish I had the speaking skills that he has.
@Anne-Lou that matters little to me since I don't speak body language. Not only can I not read others, but many think they can read me and do it wrong. I get blamed for this.
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I WANT TO SEE VIDEOS OF WHAT IS GOING ON IN YOUR HEAD :D I want to see hour-long lectures from you in chemistry etc... then I won't feel so weird lecturing myself on wormholes while doing laps in the pool :D
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