I'm a 16 year old girl, with no high school friends because I'm socially awkward. I have social anxiety and I always try to make friends with the other kids, even tried to do stuffs to fit in with the other cool kids , but nobody wants to be friends with me. I always watch videos to feel better and confident. Thanks Psych2go
Like the video says, why not join a club on something you're intrested in trying, or with people you would like to get to know. I also have social anxiety, so I understand how hard it is, but you got this!
The fact I searched up "how to make friends" really shows how lonely I am. And reading other peoples experiences reassures me that I'm not the only one struggling. I regret not being social during high school days so much. I'm quiet in class, no matter how hard I try to engage in conversation, it's always short. The kids even bully me for this and I'm glad how you always cover the most relatable topics
Try writing down your thoughts and problems. That way you can SEE where things go wrong and you can make research on particular problems. Maybe you're self-conscious, maybe you're afraid, maybe you act too differently. Try to really realize by yourself that everyone is in their own heads just like you, and once you realize that no one cares, you'll rule the world. I hope that could help you out a bit! Be strong!💪
"Imagine being introverted, socially awkward and anxious all at the same time. That's me. Fortunately, I developed social skills, and I'm still working on them. " - Courage the Cowardly Dog
I'm like that but I'm not sure if I'm introvert. Because if I was introvert at least in would feel good when I come home and I'm alone, but I feel lonely and being struggling with making new friends feels even worse
It sounds funny, but in 5th grade, I was rejected BIG TIME, and he wasn't very nice about it haha. So I got really afraid of rejection then I got into a depressive state all of middle school and started being very awful to myself, so I kinda have some battle scars left from that but hopefully it will all be okay.
im really sorry.. i think you have to train yourself and your mind into thinking that talking to people wont bring u any harm. just keep telling yourself that
At some point as people begin to converse with you less and less, it comes to the point where it's difficult not to overthink every conversation and what to say-therefore creating a social awkwardness oftentimes. It's difficult to simply enjoy hanging out for what it is and have a complex personality when reconsidering every word choice you should use solely to stabilize a positive image of yourself. I envy those who naturally speak loosely and without as much concern.
HOW IS THIS EXACTLY ME!!! Every second I'm hanging out with people online I always edit my stuff and have severe anxiety of how people think of me. I have really no irl friends and it just makes me sad all the time. I'm not ok
@@RealBolter As after I graduated I rarely meet my friends because they have their own things and I don't want to bother them. So sometimes I just text them and reply to their story to keep in contact. I only text 2 or 3 of my friends tho haha.
I’m fairly socially awkward and have made a decent amount of close friends by just talking to various people and seeing where it goes. Simple kindness and being open with people can go a long way
@@chasbodaniels1744 I’m 23, it took me some time to figure this out but I’m glad I did. I think there’s something to be learned from our experiences with every person we meet
for socially awkward people: 1. Start talking to strangers 2. Start up a conversation with those who intrigues you 3. Awkward moments are bound to happen 4. Be around with those who have the same values, hobbies and passion with you 5. Pretend you’re an extrovert at first and tell yourself you’re just saying a few words 6. If you’re invited somewhere, say YES GOODLUCK :)
What if it’s hard to find people who share the same hobbies and passions that you have (like your even judged for having those hobbies and passions) and that’s why you have social anxiety.
Oh, so these are for people who get a little nervous, not people who haven't had a non-transactional conversation with anyone outside their immediate family for years.
@@mr.nobody5082 honestly i don’t think tht u shld feel that ur being judged for what you like to do. Do things that makes you happy thats important for self-care
I can HEAR Psych2go getting more and more comfortable, confident and, over all, better at editing! Adding new quips like 'the lasagna' part instead of just reading off the script. They've come so far and its fascinating to see! I'm so proud of y'all! ♡(˃͈ દ ˂͈ ༶ )
The best advice I've ever heard is to stay comfortable with staying uncomfortable around people, it's a normal thing to happen and all people pass through it (even the person you're talking to) so it's just nice feeling free talking to a person you want to meet, you'll never know how much you can meet them 😊
Sometimes I get so uncomfortable that my heart starts beating its way out of my chest and I stiffen up and start breathing hard and literally feel like I'm about to die.
I’ve actually been able to make a lot of friends despite my social awkwardness. I don’t know what it is, but I been told I have a presence like no other. I’d certainly like to research that though.
It's likely the body language and posture and vibe you give off. I have often had a very powerful vibe. If I go to the hardware store I always get asked questions by other random people in there. I asked one guy why he asked me and he said "you look like a guy who knows what he's doing". You may likely hold a certain sense of style or inner confidence or at least give off BODY LANGUAGE that looks like deep seated confidence.
For me its the same. Strangers and foreigners always ask me questions or for directions. Some people I just met start telling me their problems. Homeless want money from me and mostly I gave them.
samee i am socially awkward, but i've made a lot of frnds recently, a lot more than i imagined i'd have bout 2-3 yrs ago when i barely had any frnds, and ppl like me surprisingly lol😂
*How To Make Friends When You're Socially Awkward* (Time Stamps) 1. 0:18 Start talking to strangers! 👀 2. 1:28 Start up a conversation with those who intrigue you. 3. 2:22 Awkward moments are bound to happen! 4. 3:21 Be around those who have the same values, hobbies, or passions as you! 5. 3:58 Pretend you're an extrovert or first and tell yourself you're just saying a few words. 6. 5:03 If you're invited somewhere, say yes! Hope this helps! ⁽⁽ଘ( ˊᵕˋ )ଓ⁾⁾
Well, i pretend to be an extrovert and 90% of my friends shock to know thai i actually have social anxiety. After few years, i think i didn't realise i've become an ambivert...
I always thought I was socially awkward but then when I left to use the bathroom and came back to my friends one of them texted to me “Dude it was so awkward without you” And then I realized I was the one who was always starting the conversation Wacky world
I had the same realization! You have this perception that it’s only you who is feeling this, and your the awkward one, but it really isn’t true at all. One time me and my friend went out. I see him as the outgoing one in our group, so I never assumed he’d ever feel awkward around strangers. When we got there he asked me if I could do the talking because he was too nervous. It’s small but damn, I felt so powerful then. Really goes to show how all of us go through awkward moments everyday and we really aren’t as bad as how we look at ourselves
I’m a teenager who was completely socially reset during the virus. 2020 destroyed my social skills and I have been walking on a tightrope of depression ever since. I simply find it hard to know what to talk about these days
This is literally me 😭 it’s so hard to know what to talk about bcuz I know nothing about the person and my interests are honestly embarrassing 💀 and most ppl don’t share my humor :( I hope we both get our social skills back soon lol
@@pariscortez4190 try making friends at 18 when you haven’t been to school since the 4th grade meaning you have been isolated for 7 years and can’t even talk to family
Good to feel like Im not the only one whose also 25 and still socially awkward. I Kind if scared of interacting with people and making a fool of myself. Im not talkitive and its awkward... Its a lot easoer to message people thab speak on person or on a phone...that makes me sweat and feel weak
talking to people, even online is really scary to me..I feel a pit in my stomach and my mind races, thinking of all the things that could possibly go wrong. Social anxiety sucks man. ;-;
And here I thought I was the only one being picky about who I choose. Well I'm not exactly picky, but there are certain people I want to talk to more than others. In the end the said friend says I'm being dependent on them or others.....it just makes me sad really I know I can't be, but its probably one reason why I want a partner to be with too.
You see it’s not just about being picky it’s about being approached by people you don’t want to be friends with and don’t know how to approach the ones you want to be friends with. 🤧
I've begun to realise that I'm just a background friend in my friend group and I don't have any other groups to go to when I feel left out but my friends have hundreds of friends. thank you for making this! I'm gonna start working hard to make more friends
Talk to strangers (like just hello) Make small talk with someone that intrigues you (and mention that which intrigues you about them) Awkward moments are bound to happen (silence isn't bad) Be around people who share things like hobbies with you and stuff. Join clubs and such Pretend to be an extrovert If you're invited somewhere, say yes! (stop making excuses)
I’m just gonna say it. I’m in middle school, and my best friend abandoned me for her other friends. I always tell myself other peoples friend groups are fake to try and make myself feel better. I feel like a terrible person, and if I were to cry about having no friends then everyone would care. I have “friends” who are only my friends in school and do not have the same interests as me. There is a friend group that has the same interests as me but im trying to squeeze myself in but some of the people there just simply don’t like me. I don’t feel like I should start journaling because someone’s going to read it. Yeah, that’s how bad my trust issues are. Im an introvert with new people but when im around people I know I am a big extrovert, I don’t know if that’s what makes me “not” likeable. But I know im not the only one. This time in life all people care about is social media, TikTok, and dating. So it’s obvious to feel pressured to try and fit in. I want to find people who actually like me. Not someone who only texts me to ask questions about how much something costs. What do I do?
Each and every word of yours fit me.. I can feel your pain because I am also dealing with the same.. I have friends but they have their other best friend and I feel left out I don't know what to do so I try to make an online friends the one who I can call my close friend but what comes as an obstacle is my introvert self🥺😔
Same actually not so long ago my connections with my only bestfriend/friend broke we where bffs for like 8 years or something i was kind of sad but trying to accept it later i made another bff now we have been bffs for like 7 years and soon we would be our own seperate ways too it's hard for me to make new connections because i feel insecure about myself and most of the time i am socially awkward i feel like even if i do make friends with someone they will eventually go seperate ways
Some people might not like you at first, but that’s okay! There was once a new girl at my school who was often perceived as annoying and loud when everyone first met her. But as time passed when she first joined people eventually grew to like her, instead of annoying and loud they thought of her as funny and outgoing, which can happen to you too! Though it may take a while it’s not impossible to change someone’s first impression of you. You just have to keep trying and some people would recognise your persistence and find it admirable which may earn you more friends. It’s also good to have something on the top of your head that you can always talk about when starting a conversation, whether or not it’s a joke or some recent news. So to put it simply: don’t try to give up making friends, continue doing what you’re doing and learn to be more easygoing and interesting. Another thing to state when starting a conversation is to always keep asking questions and say stuff people can comment on so the conversation doesn’t end so quickly. Sure, it may take some time and you may always have to be the one starting the conversations but I promise you, it’s all worth it in the end.
I tried number five once and felt terrible acting extroverted. As an introvert I tried pushing myself by approaching strangers who intrigued me. I give genuine compliments and I also ask about things that person is interested in and say what I have in common. I'm a social introvert, still don't have friends... because they are no people my age where I live but it's helped with daily interactions in life and people confuse me as an extrovert. I've got a bunch of friends online and I still use some of these tips.
As a 17 year old this really helps I’ll try to make friends by my senior years. Because I’ve tried the beginning of the school year and everyone was really mean they stayed away and now I kinda sit alone or hide in the bathroom because I’m afraid with people and crowds. I’ve lost weight and school stresses me out I can’t have friends because of my anxiety and depression. So thank you
exactly my situation and it sucks lol I feel like crying myself to sleep sometimes for real. I am a 17 year old senior with no friends it’s embarrasing and I want to just die everyday
@@turksduhfs1924 I used to cry in my sleep. I feel numb now. And everyone tells me everything will be okay. I hope your doing okay dear wish you the best:)
Same heeeree!! I'm 17 and I really struggle to make friends, last year of school was horrible and a lot of times I was just all the day alone, spending recess on the bathroom and wanting to be home... A lot of other ppl always has their friends and ppl to talk with and I didn't, I never knew how and even with "friends" I always ran out of things to say and bored them... I'm afraid of going to uni now and stay alone forever... I really want yo have friends, at least 3/4 whom I feel really confortable and can talk without fear... But I never can :(
Omg I am socially awkward and I get anxiety at the beginning of every gathering but later I start warming up to ppl…&& I did notice that complimenting ppl helps them be comfortable and in turn it makes me comfortable ♥️
same, but am not really good at complimenting or taking compliments, but if i got comfortable around them i will show it with my actions instead of actually telling them how i feel.
My problem is I don’t know how to go from small talk to deeper more meaningful conversations that I’d like to have, I also sometimes just can’t think of anything to talk about and the conversation dies.
In my group chat, or when I’m texting in general, when I can’t hear their tone of voice, whenever someone types something even remotely negative I feel like a rock drops into my stomach, like I’d done something wrong or offensive. Even something as small as typing no to a question I ask, I have that sort of nervous dread feeling. Also, sometimes I send a comment or thought in the chat, and someone will just respond with an ok or ignore me entirely. I know that they might just not have any meaningful reply and don’t mean to come off as rude, but I die a little inside whenever someone does that. It feels like they don’t care about what I have to say. Argh, this is why I like being by myself or with children. Children are usually super energetic and always have something to say or to do, and they will carry the whole conversation. I don’t have to do anything with myself either, I have a diary where I express all my thoughts and passions that I feel that I can’t properly explore with people. I’m happy that I have a fun, chaotic group of friends, but I don’t really click with most of them, you know? Maybe one day I’ll find someone who I can pour my heart out to. (Heh, sorry. I’m only 12 and I sometimes go on rambles like this online.)
This is one of the most relatable things I have read. Whenever I talk with someone online, I feel like I can't fully express myself and they will get me wrong. I haven't been in a group chat for quite some time because of that. But it's nice to see that I am not the only one who feels the same way Also, sorry for my English I am still learning :)
THE GOOD OMENS REFERENCES OH MY GOOOSHHH 😭✨❤️ I love how Psy subtly puts fandom references in their videos, it makes things so much more cozy? Is that the word? XD
I really needed this!!! You see I am a 14 year old kid who is fairly socially awkward and always wait for other people to make the first move!! And I try hard to talk to people, but even if I do, they ignore me most of the time. I even get frustrated because I don't feel like I can do this. I'll try to use the tips as best as I can!! Thank you :)
I'm in highschool, and over quarantine I became a real recluse and lost what little was left of my extroverted nature, which used to be dominant in my personality. Now I have social anxiety and can hardly talk to anyone except for my friends. What I've noticed, though, is that I become much more social and loud when I get to know someone and their humor. It's absolutely true (for me, at least) that the hardest part is just getting the conversation going.
You posted the video at the right time ! I am an introvert. All my classmates are new to me but I don't have friends in my new class yet. I feel lonely when during the free time everyone talk to each other but I remain on my desk only. When someone try to talk to me then I answer back but in a really awkward way and I feel like I am being rude when others do try to talk to me but I feel disinterested in their conversation. But the reality is that I do want to talk to people and wanna make friends like I had in my previous class but I don't know how to start a conversation or keep my conversation going if started. I am always interested to talk to others and make new friends but it's just that I feel awkward even when I talk to my teacher and I hate this Edit : I am here after a year and I want to share something. I actually did make friends after 2-3 months of writing this comment and later we became extremely good friends but the timing was not right. I have now graduated my highschool and we all are separated and I miss my friends badly. I wish I could spend more time with them because they were all a good company and I didn't feel alone but it's all lonely now.
HUGE PROBLEM THOUGH, I'm not that attractive yet. Still working on it, but anyway. I've noticed that when people get compliments from unattractive people it doesn't seem to have anywhere near the same weighting that an attractive person's words would have. It only makes sense, but it's been a huge limiter on me. I'm an extrovert and I can tell. It's just that I can't help but know that people just don't want to be talking to me or around me.
I've got an asymmetrical face and that makes me look ugly (at least that's how I see it). But until I can afford rhinoplasty, I've worked on my looks by 1.improving personal hygiene 2.going to the gym and getting bigger(helps in so many ways I highly recommend you do it) 3. Meditate to suppress my intrusive thoughts 4. Smile and hold eye contact
I am also quite similar to you. Other than my height, I don’t have many attractive traits. Some unattractive things that I have include obesity, people not really knowing what I like and don’t like, “crybaby” and a lot more.
To everyone who may struggle with making friends and being in a crowd ( Or simply, anyone ) Hi!! I’m really happy you found this video to watch, and came to the comment section I personally am watching this video for better communication, but I thought of writing this, for a little bit of more brightness to the hearts :3 Making friends and doing anything in public might be so scary sometimes, especially when you feel small in there But hey Nothing is as small as being doubtful about yourself We’re humans Created to take care of ourselves, make a great life even if we’ve not been born in one, and have fun Be yourself, take care of yourself and do whatever that makes you happy Nothing in our lives needs to be taken so harshly!! Unless it’s about serious topics in jobs and issues So, firstly love yourself Breath and be proud of your every second living With practice and learning Do whatever you want Even if your wish is simply just making friends, you got it
I spent most of my schooling career bouncing around friend groups and trying way too hard to “fit the scheme” and to be cool. I always felt alone because I’m so socially awkward and keep replaying awkward moments in my head. As an adult now, I’ve managed to stay in contact with the very few true friends I made over the last few years and can now say I have real friends. Thank you for posting videos like these, to assure me that I’m truly never alone😌
I'm a 13 years old girl, and I have childhood friends but I'm not really that close with them because my anxiety keeps attacking me. It's like we're strangers again, I thought no one likes me but I was just the one thinking that. I had no idea that they actually like me but they're just staying in silence because they think im awkward because i was just sitting alone on my chair in silence. But this time, i would start making some new friends in my class. I have social anxiety and I struggle a lot to start a conversation especially when someone starts a conversation to me. I wasn't that confident enough, but watching your videos makes me confident and i had the courage sometimes. This really helps me since our school is starting at August 9.
I’m currently a senior in highschool and I feel like I have a lot of acquaintances I really like and few close friends, I’ve always been scared to approach these people that I admire (platonically) but this video has given me the push to be the first to reach out! The best advice on friendship or relationships in general I’ve ever been given is to always be the first to reach out or be honest, it’s great for avoiding regret and it also applies to relationships that might be fading. I’ve had so many times where I’ve been unsure of where I stand or I miss spending time with someone and after I work up the courage to talk to them about it (often after months or years) they feel the same way and it’s instant relief
1. 0:18 Start Talking to strangers 2. 1:28 Start up a conversation with those who interest you 3. 2:22 Awkard moments are bound to happen 😁 4. 3:16 Be around those who have the same values, hobbies, or passions as YOU!! 5. 3:57 Pretend you're an Extrovert at First and tell yourself you're just saying a few words 6. 5:02 If you're invited somewhere SAY YES!
the whole day i have been panicking, because i got my first job as a lifeguard and im just sooo awkward around coworkers and strangers. i manage to make them laugh without really trying which is a confidence boost but i dont willingly say things to people and i cant talk to people unless they talk to me and i will only respond with vague answers. ive just been down this past month because i feel as though my coworkers all find me boring or dull to work around. i know really im a fun person and i can have a laugh.. but only with people i trust.
even tho you shouldnt care ab what ppl think ab you, i know thats a hard thing to do. you should start with baby steps, like starting to compliment them from time to time. makes them feel more comfortable around you and automatically like talking to you :)
Even tho i'm still kinda young and i don't need this type of stuff. I still need it, I cant even walk up to someone and say "Hi!" (unless its someone I know) without wanting to walk away after trying to start a conversation. Besides that I love your videos and I mostly like you "how to know if your crush likes you back" or the " (number) sighs your crush likes you back!" I've got a lot of advice from your crush videos and I really thank you. You'r one of my favorite RUclipsrs because of these advice videos and stuff. Thank you. Before i post this I also wanted to say thanks for helping me with my anxiety. I really love this account. This account has helped me a lot. Love this account
At this point I think I should just accept the fact that I don't have any friends. Its been a real struggle these past years, trying to find friends to fill that empty void, but ultimately it was all fruitless. Its automatic for me to be alone, its where I feel happiest. Even though I get those hard moments of loneliness, I think its fine. It feels like so much effort to work on getting friends, with so little chance of getting actual results. So, why bother? Jesus filled that empty void I mentioned earlier anyways. God and my parents will be my close friends and I'm completely fine with that. Thanks for your supportive videos, I think they really offer great and practical advice, though it appears that nothing has really helped my situation. Best of luck to everyone else going on this journey.
A long time ago I had social anxiety and I tried watching videos like this. I thought social anxiety and social awkwardness were the same thing but they aren't. It's important to identify what you are and my advice would be to work on the anxiety first
As someone with really bad social anxiety, this is really helpful. I struggle and overthink the hell out of approaching people and figuring out what to say.
As someone who forces themselves to hide their true personality from most people even when trying to make friends are difficult. I am stuck in this trap of having such a fake personality when meeting new people that I am unable to actually have fun with them because I restrict myself. Changing personalities drastically in a friendship changes everything. As someone who struggles to talk to people my age and having fake personalities , it’s even harder to make friends. I want friends who hang out with you when you are alone. Currently I have 2 casual friends who speak a few kind words a day but that’s it. The reason I change personalities when meeting someone new is because many did not like my true self which led me to become insecure about every little detail I do. I wish to go back to a time where people were friends with me for who I was.
I'm basically a social vegetable and at some point i even accepted that i will be alone forever, focusing completely on my personal goals and getting extremely comfortable in solitude, but somehow managed to find the most amazing friends i couldn't ever dream of. I am overthinking a lot, not being entirely honest about my feelings and sometimes my friends obviously struggle with the mess my mind is. I'm 19 and only now i started learning how to stop being emotionally detached 100% of the time
I’m socially different from people because of my hobbies I do. And how people judge me. In school. I daydream, stare for no reason, I’m really quiet and calm, I get criticized, and other things. People think I’m infected because I cough, they think I’m ugly, I get bullied for no reason sometimes, and it just goes on. I love making people laugh tho because I imitate memes I watch. And I just wanna make friends, so thanks for the tips!
in the begining, always explain them how you are feeling, people tend to accept and embrace your honesty. good luck with making friends! hope this helps!😭❤️
As a young adult, I’ve been having a hard time trying to make friends because I shy around people and don’t know how to start a conversation. After watching this video, I think these tips are helpful to keep in mind.
this video really comes in a good moment, a few weeks ago I started college and it´s been a really akward time, my friends really encouranged me to talk with people, but i just don´t know how, still, i managed to talk a few times with classmates a couple of times (almost all of them mandatory) but still, is the little progress that count, when I talk to someones, even if it´s just a "hi" or "do you have a pencil?" my friends congratulate me for those small achievements and it make me feel good with myself. Oh and a little advice my therapist told me, when you make something that you found not so fun, reward yourself with something that you like, so next time you found it a little less tedious (sorry bad english)
This year I finally someone I consider a friend. But I’m very insecure, & I feel like they don’t want me around cause I’m annoying, too attached or touchy. They tell me I need to calm down (in a polite way) so I feel like I annoy them. They’re very sociable and have a lot of friends. I feel like they dont really care cause they have so many other people they can be with instead of me. I’m not special either, not good looking or that smart. My personality is terrible & im self deprecating. So I just feel like they have so many other better people they would rather be with.
i have a hard time talking to people bc i grow up “don’t talk unless taken to” and i was also abused by my mother when ever i talked so now im socially awkward and shy
Mine only saw the normal part which is the fact that I am an introvert but not my lack of empathy and emotions and morality, impulsiveness,agression and my disregard for people and rules
The thumbnail says it all! I have good friendships but with conversations I can either have nothing to say or I have sensory overloads so I have to try to make up jokes or talk about stories to keep it going.
I love how the animator just put in some references from the dream smp.... that gave me a weird yet gr8 sense of happiness :DD I would go like AYOOO IS THAT TECHNO?? also this video is very helpful to people like me who find it difficult to make friends, I really appreciate you guys for helping everyone :))
I watched this when it came out I used these tips to talk to a girl at my school She’s now my best friend, and the most amazing person I’ve ever met Thank you so much ❤
Well, this came out at the perfect time. There is someone that I kind of want to talk to (first conversation though) and the next time I see her is Monday. Hopefully it goes well. Also love the Good Omens references in the background.
I am a VERY socially awkward girl, I’ll try this…but Im very afraid- of people and everyone around me at school…And I get worried about it- because I want to have friends finally. But I have this fear that pulls me back from engagement with someone…it scares me a lot
AAAA I WENT TO THIS WEDNESDAY BIBLE THING AND I CANT TALK TO PEOPLE WITHOUT CRYING AND RUNNING AWAY AND I SAW THIS GIRL WHO WAS SITTING ALONE JUST LIKE ME AND I TALKED TO HER AND DIDNT CRY OR SHAKE OR RUN AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA IM SO HAPPY
THIS VIDEO REALLY HELPED ME 😭😭😭; I pretended I was an extrovert and kept talking to anyone on the first day of school, not clearly talking, but I asked them some stuff about what to do in school. Also, I started participating in recitation and tried to make my voice louder. FOR A WEEK, I WAS NOMINATED AS MUSE IN SCHOOL FOR A. WEEK. I HAVE NEVER BEEN A MUSE IN MY LIFE😫😫 ALSO THE GREAT THING IS ALMOST EVERYONE VOTED FOR ME 😆 SO I'M REALLY GRATEFUL I FOUND THIS VIDEO, I KNOW I HAVE WATCHED A LOT OF VIDEOS LIKE THIS AND THAT BUILT UP MY MOTIVATION😢😢🎉🎉🎉
I said yes to going somewhere even though I barely knew only one person there and it was kinda weird me being there at first. But I think it was a good thing to do. I said yes because there was no reason to say no and now I’m so glad that I said yes. It hasn’t been very long since I said yes but the people I’ve met are so wonderful and I feel so happy around them. Sure it’s still a bit awkward and I still get anxious, but it’s getting better. I think for me, the best thing I can do for my social anxiety and awkwardness is to challenge it and call it stupid.
dude i CANNOT talk to people for some reason. In the last day of school 2 girls invited me to sit with them and i just sat there and did and said nothing. Also happened when i went to a birthday party of one of the girls in my class and i just stood in the corner with a plastic cup doing NOTHING and talking to NOBODY FOR HOURS. I am so socially inept it makes me want to cry.
I have only one friend at school cause im too shy to start a conversation and i thought everybody hated me but last week a classmate asked my friend why i didn't talk to them and if i hated all of them and i was like " what?? I thought you guys hated me " and it changed my life. Sometimes people don't hate or don't wanna talk to u , they just think u don't like them . im gay so sometimes i get nervous when im trying to talk to straight boys cause last year i tried to talk to a boy and he thought i was flirting with him
YYYYEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!! I NEEDED THIS! THANK YOU! I love the positivity! I needed this SO MUCH! I'm sorry if I'm cringe or awkward but I really needed this positivity. I was extremely sad and I was talking myself down a ton, but this video took my mind off of my negative thoughts for at least a little while. Again, thank you! I know I'm probably mental but I just wanted to share my extreme thanks to you!
It's probably because I always say No to occassions I'm invited in that people got tired of it. But I actually prefer to be alone now, since it's much more peaceful. I have a few friends around and that's fine. No drama. No trying to please everyone or pretend to be someone else. Just me. You don't need many friends to be happy in life, you just need the true ones to stay during your ups and downs. 😊
For me it's definitely hard to to talk to stranger's and people in general I'm socially awkward I find it much easier to keep to myself then talk to people
its different with friends tho :) when they're your friends its not as hard to talk to them, you know? u can try being friends with people that you know are generally nice, start easy and one step at a time.
@@crow3370 u dont even have to talk to strangers. unless they approach u, ofc. and when they approach you, you can tell yourself youre an actor and playing the role of an extrovert. it may work :)
being alone for such a long time make it harder, when you realised you are too comfortable being alone yet you still feel the need of having someone beside you
Well. It was the first time that in this week I taked a step and started conversation with a TOTALLY stranger and it was supeised! He enjoyed the conversation with me! Very hard to try new things but you can develop with it. :)
Big consideration near the end: Don't feel like you HAVE to say yes to everything! If you took the effort to show up, congrats, you won half the battle! But if you feel completely drained, this can be detrimental to your health. I've been drained before and overextended myself at parties and leave feeling worthless and exhausted because I feel like I need to stay long enough to feel like I'm making an impact on my new friend so they remember and value me - but probably just making a fool of myself. These are great times to be thankful that a friend invited you and more thankful that you know when enough is enough. Hopefully they'll see that and want to continue the friendship. Oh it's so confusing.
I really needed this! School is gonna start soon and I don't think any of my friends are in the same class so I'll have to make new friends but I'm really social awkward
1. Try to say hello 2. Start stuttering 3. Keep trying to go even though they're giving you a weird look 4. Panic and pull out a knife 5. Stab the in the stomach 6. When they're distracted by the pain run away 7. Get arrest 8. Go to jail 9. Try again 10. Repeat steps 2 to 5 11. Make jail friends because they respect you for shanking a random dude
I'm a socially awkward person and i can't even have a proper conversation with my families because the words won't come out of my mouth. this really boost my confidence so thank you Psych2Go
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The worst feeling is when you know someone and would like to be friends, but have no clue how to talk with another human being.
Same. It sucks.
That's me rn!!!
REAL
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Same
I'm a 16 year old girl, with no high school friends because I'm socially awkward. I have social anxiety and I always try to make friends with the other kids, even tried to do stuffs to fit in with the other cool kids , but nobody wants to be friends with me. I always watch videos to feel better and confident. Thanks Psych2go
Like the video says, why not join a club on something you're intrested in trying, or with people you would like to get to know. I also have social anxiety, so I understand how hard it is, but you got this!
Aw that sucks! Hopefully you'll be able to make friends soon
Talking in video games helped me alot but it doesnt work for everyone
You don't need to do what other people do to make friends. Just be yourself! Being your truth self, is better than being someone else
Same here
The fact I searched up "how to make friends" really shows how lonely I am. And reading other peoples experiences reassures me that I'm not the only one struggling. I regret not being social during high school days so much. I'm quiet in class, no matter how hard I try to engage in conversation, it's always short. The kids even bully me for this and I'm glad how you always cover the most relatable topics
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Try writing down your thoughts and problems. That way you can SEE where things go wrong and you can make research on particular problems. Maybe you're self-conscious, maybe you're afraid, maybe you act too differently. Try to really realize by yourself that everyone is in their own heads just like you, and once you realize that no one cares, you'll rule the world. I hope that could help you out a bit! Be strong!💪
So glad you're lonely, nobody want's to be friend with an racist hypocrite.
K1ll me in my sleep
Stay strong you got this
I said hello to a stranger and they just gave me the most disgusted look in all of humanity lol, real self esteem boost 😭
:( not your fault
Same
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"Start talking to strangers" see, that's where things go downhill
Agree, but not everybody will approach and say hello
"Imagine being introverted, socially awkward and anxious all at the same time. That's me. Fortunately, I developed social skills, and I'm still working on them.
" - Courage the Cowardly Dog
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I am like this and I hate it😞
Me asf
I'm like that but I'm not sure if I'm introvert. Because if I was introvert at least in would feel good when I come home and I'm alone, but I feel lonely and being struggling with making new friends feels even worse
My parents is extrovert my brother is extro
Me being the only introvert
Brooooo why meee 😭
I wish im extro
As someone who can't even text someone without overthinking everything I hopes this helps :]
same lol
Saaaaame tho!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ur not alone man 😅
Currently me
Same bro
I felt that 😑 lately I've been putting in an effort to open up and make friends and I push myself to be extroverted but over think EVERY THING
Being shy extravert due to childhood issues is damn hard: You want to talk to people but too afraid of being shouted on.
This is very relatable, wow
It sounds funny, but in 5th grade, I was rejected BIG TIME, and he wasn't very nice about it haha. So I got really afraid of rejection then I got into a depressive state all of middle school and started being very awful to myself, so I kinda have some battle scars left from that but hopefully it will all be okay.
Or being ignored and made to feel like you don’t matter.
im really sorry.. i think you have to train yourself and your mind into thinking that talking to people wont bring u any harm. just keep telling yourself that
@@pancakeart5747 you okay? :(
Quarantine taught me that it's not that actually hard making friends but keeping them does 😞
Let's be friends I don't mind be your friend 😊
@manya1118hi u wanna be friends??
It's hard making friends too
At some point as people begin to converse with you less and less, it comes to the point where it's difficult not to overthink every conversation and what to say-therefore creating a social awkwardness oftentimes.
It's difficult to simply enjoy hanging out for what it is and have a complex personality when reconsidering every word choice you should use solely to stabilize a positive image of yourself.
I envy those who naturally speak loosely and without as much concern.
Relatable :/
HOW IS THIS EXACTLY ME!!! Every second I'm hanging out with people online I always edit my stuff and have severe anxiety of how people think of me. I have really no irl friends and it just makes me sad all the time. I'm not ok
@@RealBolter As after I graduated I rarely meet my friends because they have their own things and I don't want to bother them. So sometimes I just text them and reply to their story to keep in contact. I only text 2 or 3 of my friends tho haha.
Oh dam
I’m fairly socially awkward and have made a decent amount of close friends by just talking to various people and seeing where it goes. Simple kindness and being open with people can go a long way
I agree! (:
Bravo. I don’t know how old you are, but that’s a wonderful formula to build a life upon.
@@kit-cat. ❤️
@@chasbodaniels1744 I’m 23, it took me some time to figure this out but I’m glad I did. I think there’s something to be learned from our experiences with every person we meet
I’m much older, and I wish I had learned that lesson earlier in life. (Good for you!)
Best wishes to you.
for socially awkward people:
1. Start talking to strangers
2. Start up a conversation with those who intrigues you
3. Awkward moments are bound to happen
4. Be around with those who have the same values, hobbies and passion with you
5. Pretend you’re an extrovert at first and tell yourself you’re just saying a few words
6. If you’re invited somewhere, say YES
GOODLUCK :)
Thanks!
What if it’s hard to find people who share the same hobbies and passions that you have (like your even judged for having those hobbies and passions) and that’s why you have social anxiety.
Oh, so these are for people who get a little nervous, not people who haven't had a non-transactional conversation with anyone outside their immediate family for years.
@@mr.nobody5082 honestly i don’t think tht u shld feel that ur being judged for what you like to do. Do things that makes you happy thats important for self-care
The last point, no. 6 ...
Becareful folks.
Except they're someone we know like schoolmates or else.
I love that you cover every single possible scenario that people may need. It makes us feel less alone and more understood 💜
Me too. It's awesome
It’s truly marvelous.
I agree I think that it really helps to make people feel more included and not so isolated or alone ;-;-;
I agree
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3:15 idk why but the way she said “You can, I believe in you.” Made me tear up a bit
Real. We all need to hear that sometimes
I can HEAR Psych2go getting more and more comfortable, confident and, over all, better at editing! Adding new quips like 'the lasagna' part instead of just reading off the script. They've come so far and its fascinating to see! I'm so proud of y'all! ♡(˃͈ દ ˂͈ ༶ )
The best advice I've ever heard is to stay comfortable with staying uncomfortable around people, it's a normal thing to happen and all people pass through it (even the person you're talking to) so it's just nice feeling free talking to a person you want to meet, you'll never know how much you can meet them 😊
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Sometimes I get so uncomfortable that my heart starts beating its way out of my chest and I stiffen up and start breathing hard and literally feel like I'm about to die.
@@jayl5752 I'm the same way
I’ve actually been able to make a lot of friends despite my social awkwardness. I don’t know what it is, but I been told I have a presence like no other. I’d certainly like to research that though.
It's likely the body language and posture and vibe you give off. I have often had a very powerful vibe. If I go to the hardware store I always get asked questions by other random people in there. I asked one guy why he asked me and he said "you look like a guy who knows what he's doing". You may likely hold a certain sense of style or inner confidence or at least give off BODY LANGUAGE that looks like deep seated confidence.
For me its the same. Strangers and foreigners always ask me questions or for directions. Some people I just met start telling me their problems. Homeless want money from me and mostly I gave them.
samee
i am socially awkward, but i've made a lot of frnds recently, a lot more than i imagined i'd have bout 2-3 yrs ago when i barely had any frnds, and ppl like me surprisingly lol😂
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*How To Make Friends When You're Socially Awkward* (Time Stamps)
1. 0:18 Start talking to strangers! 👀
2. 1:28 Start up a conversation with those who intrigue you.
3. 2:22 Awkward moments are bound to happen!
4. 3:21 Be around those who have the same values, hobbies, or passions as you!
5. 3:58 Pretend you're an extrovert or first and tell yourself you're just saying a few words.
6. 5:03 If you're invited somewhere, say yes!
Hope this helps! ⁽⁽ଘ( ˊᵕˋ )ଓ⁾⁾
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#4 *same
@@priscillajimenez27 lol ty
Well, i pretend to be an extrovert and 90% of my friends shock to know thai i actually have social anxiety. After few years, i think i didn't realise i've become an ambivert...
@@syalamontana2508 and thats perfectly fine :)
I always thought I was socially awkward but then when I left to use the bathroom and came back to my friends one of them texted to me
“Dude it was so awkward without you”
And then I realized I was the one who was always starting the conversation
Wacky world
I had the same realization! You have this perception that it’s only you who is feeling this, and your the awkward one, but it really isn’t true at all. One time me and my friend went out. I see him as the outgoing one in our group, so I never assumed he’d ever feel awkward around strangers. When we got there he asked me if I could do the talking because he was too nervous. It’s small but damn, I felt so powerful then. Really goes to show how all of us go through awkward moments everyday and we really aren’t as bad as how we look at ourselves
I’m a teenager who was completely socially reset during the virus. 2020 destroyed my social skills and I have been walking on a tightrope of depression ever since. I simply find it hard to know what to talk about these days
This is literally me 😭 it’s so hard to know what to talk about bcuz I know nothing about the person and my interests are honestly embarrassing 💀 and most ppl don’t share my humor :(
I hope we both get our social skills back soon lol
I feel you ever since 2020 hit my social skills fell off.
same here honesty, i feel like i'll never be the same, i have small panic attacks the minute someone wants to talk to me. :(
I'm 25 and still socially awkward I'm glad I found your channel and really enjoy the calming way you explain things 😊
agreed 😭 also i have felt that it is harder to make friends in our 20s, but their channel helps a bit, despite that!
Try trying to make friends in your 30’s ughh
28 and counting, go us!
@@pariscortez4190 try making friends at 18 when you haven’t been to school since the 4th grade meaning you have been isolated for 7 years and can’t even talk to family
Good to feel like Im not the only one whose also 25 and still socially awkward. I Kind if scared of interacting with people and making a fool of myself. Im not talkitive and its awkward...
Its a lot easoer to message people thab speak on person or on a phone...that makes me sweat and feel weak
You know a character design is good when you can make them adorable in so many art styles.
talking to people, even online is really scary to me..I feel a pit in my stomach and my mind races, thinking of all the things that could possibly go wrong. Social anxiety sucks man. ;-;
Being an introvert making friends is difficult. I'm extremely picky on who I become friends with.
And here I thought I was the only one being picky about who I choose.
Well I'm not exactly picky, but there are certain people I want to talk to more than others. In the end the said friend says I'm being dependent on them or others.....it just makes me sad really I know I can't be, but its probably one reason why I want a partner to be with too.
You see it’s not just about being picky it’s about being approached by people you don’t want to be friends with and don’t know how to approach the ones you want to be friends with. 🤧
I've begun to realise that I'm just a background friend in my friend group and I don't have any other groups to go to when I feel left out but my friends have hundreds of friends. thank you for making this! I'm gonna start working hard to make more friends
Bro has a friend group
How has it been going so far?
I felt like that too.
Talk to strangers (like just hello)
Make small talk with someone that intrigues you (and mention that which intrigues you about them)
Awkward moments are bound to happen (silence isn't bad)
Be around people who share things like hobbies with you and stuff. Join clubs and such
Pretend to be an extrovert
If you're invited somewhere, say yes! (stop making excuses)
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I’m just gonna say it.
I’m in middle school, and my best friend abandoned me for her other friends. I always tell myself other peoples friend groups are fake to try and make myself feel better. I feel like a terrible person, and if I were to cry about having no friends then everyone would care. I have “friends” who are only my friends in school and do not have the same interests as me. There is a friend group that has the same interests as me but im trying to squeeze myself in but some of the people there just simply don’t like me. I don’t feel like I should start journaling because someone’s going to read it. Yeah, that’s how bad my trust issues are. Im an introvert with new people but when im around people I know I am a big extrovert, I don’t know if that’s what makes me “not” likeable. But I know im not the only one. This time in life all people care about is social media, TikTok, and dating. So it’s obvious to feel pressured to try and fit in. I want to find people who actually like me. Not someone who only texts me to ask questions about how much something costs. What do I do?
Each and every word of yours fit me.. I can feel your pain because I am also dealing with the same.. I have friends but they have their other best friend and I feel left out I don't know what to do so I try to make an online friends the one who I can call my close friend but what comes as an obstacle is my introvert self🥺😔
Same actually not so long ago my connections with my only bestfriend/friend broke we where bffs for like 8 years or something i was kind of sad but trying to accept it later i made another bff now we have been bffs for like 7 years and soon we would be our own seperate ways too it's hard for me to make new connections because i feel insecure about myself and most of the time i am socially awkward i feel like even if i do make friends with someone they will eventually go seperate ways
Just gonna leave this here in case you find a solution because your situation is crazily similar to mine.
frrrr
Some people might not like you at first, but that’s okay! There was once a new girl at my school who was often perceived as annoying and loud when everyone first met her. But as time passed when she first joined people eventually grew to like her, instead of annoying and loud they thought of her as funny and outgoing, which can happen to you too! Though it may take a while it’s not impossible to change someone’s first impression of you. You just have to keep trying and some people would recognise your persistence and find it admirable which may earn you more friends. It’s also good to have something on the top of your head that you can always talk about when starting a conversation, whether or not it’s a joke or some recent news.
So to put it simply: don’t try to give up making friends, continue doing what you’re doing and learn to be more easygoing and interesting.
Another thing to state when starting a conversation is to always keep asking questions and say stuff people can comment on so the conversation doesn’t end so quickly. Sure, it may take some time and you may always have to be the one starting the conversations but I promise you, it’s all worth it in the end.
I tried number five once and felt terrible acting extroverted. As an introvert I tried pushing myself by approaching strangers who intrigued me. I give genuine compliments and I also ask about things that person is interested in and say what I have in common. I'm a social introvert, still don't have friends... because they are no people my age where I live but it's helped with daily interactions in life and people confuse me as an extrovert. I've got a bunch of friends online and I still use some of these tips.
As a 17 year old this really helps I’ll try to make friends by my senior years. Because I’ve tried the beginning of the school year and everyone was really mean they stayed away and now I kinda sit alone or hide in the bathroom because I’m afraid with people and crowds. I’ve lost weight and school stresses me out I can’t have friends because of my anxiety and depression. So thank you
exactly my situation and it sucks lol I feel like crying myself to sleep sometimes for real. I am a 17 year old senior with no friends it’s embarrasing and I want to just die everyday
Hi stranger, I get your feelings so much. Im too 17 and started the same way my high school :(( lost weight too
@@burgersandbingo8918 feel better dear
@@turksduhfs1924 I used to cry in my sleep. I feel numb now. And everyone tells me everything will be okay. I hope your doing okay dear wish you the best:)
Same heeeree!!
I'm 17 and I really struggle to make friends, last year of school was horrible and a lot of times I was just all the day alone, spending recess on the bathroom and wanting to be home...
A lot of other ppl always has their friends and ppl to talk with and I didn't, I never knew how and even with "friends" I always ran out of things to say and bored them...
I'm afraid of going to uni now and stay alone forever... I really want yo have friends, at least 3/4 whom I feel really confortable and can talk without fear... But I never can :(
Omg I am socially awkward and I get anxiety at the beginning of every gathering but later I start warming up to ppl…&& I did notice that complimenting ppl helps them be comfortable and in turn it makes me comfortable ♥️
same, but am not really good at complimenting or taking compliments, but if i got comfortable around them i will show it with my actions instead of actually telling them how i feel.
Complimenting is always how I start a conversation. Makes me feel good to make other ppl feel good as well :)
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My problem is I don’t know how to go from small talk to deeper more meaningful conversations that I’d like to have, I also sometimes just can’t think of anything to talk about and the conversation dies.
Need to learn to ask better questions . Open ended questions are the best & just saying "why" is very effective
In my group chat, or when I’m texting in general, when I can’t hear their tone of voice, whenever someone types something even remotely negative I feel like a rock drops into my stomach, like I’d done something wrong or offensive. Even something as small as typing no to a question I ask, I have that sort of nervous dread feeling.
Also, sometimes I send a comment or thought in the chat, and someone will just respond with an ok or ignore me entirely. I know that they might just not have any meaningful reply and don’t mean to come off as rude, but I die a little inside whenever someone does that. It feels like they don’t care about what I have to say.
Argh, this is why I like being by myself or with children. Children are usually super energetic and always have something to say or to do, and they will carry the whole conversation. I don’t have to do anything with myself either, I have a diary where I express all my thoughts and passions that I feel that I can’t properly explore with people. I’m happy that I have a fun, chaotic group of friends, but I don’t really click with most of them, you know? Maybe one day I’ll find someone who I can pour my heart out to.
(Heh, sorry. I’m only 12 and I sometimes go on rambles like this online.)
Hey!!
This is one of the most relatable things I have read. Whenever I talk with someone online, I feel like I can't fully express myself and they will get me wrong. I haven't been in a group chat for quite some time because of that. But it's nice to see that I am not the only one who feels the same way
Also, sorry for my English I am still learning :)
Me too I just started a new school so um yea.
Same but 💀
Okay we can be friends, I'm exactly like that! I'm also around the same age LOL
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I love how Psy subtly puts fandom references in their videos, it makes things so much more cozy? Is that the word? XD
I really needed this!!! You see I am a 14 year old kid who is fairly socially awkward and always wait for other people to make the first move!! And I try hard to talk to people, but even if I do, they ignore me most of the time. I even get frustrated because I don't feel like I can do this. I'll try to use the tips as best as I can!! Thank you :)
Yes. This is perfect
0:57 yeah, that book can surely help you find friends - i found most of mine in the go fandom ☺️
The host has such a soothing voice and emotional intelligence of a genius. It makes me swoooon and want to have a deep conversation with her 🥰
"start talking to strangers" no
i got an anxiety attack just watching this video 💀💀💀
tyy! i’m personally very weird and socially awkward, but this helped me build up my courage to make a friend group!
I’m so proud you put yourself out there!! I wish you and your new friends the best :)
me too ! I hope we get new friends soon ;)
Same 😔
I'm in highschool, and over quarantine I became a real recluse and lost what little was left of my extroverted nature, which used to be dominant in my personality. Now I have social anxiety and can hardly talk to anyone except for my friends. What I've noticed, though, is that I become much more social and loud when I get to know someone and their humor. It's absolutely true (for me, at least) that the hardest part is just getting the conversation going.
the timing of this video is so perfect for mee
Same. I’m trying to make more friends and find a mate.
You posted the video at the right time ! I am an introvert. All my classmates are new to me but I don't have friends in my new class yet. I feel lonely when during the free time everyone talk to each other but I remain on my desk only. When someone try to talk to me then I answer back but in a really awkward way and I feel like I am being rude when others do try to talk to me but I feel disinterested in their conversation. But the reality is that I do want to talk to people and wanna make friends like I had in my previous class but I don't know how to start a conversation or keep my conversation going if started. I am always interested to talk to others and make new friends but it's just that I feel awkward even when I talk to my teacher and I hate this
Edit : I am here after a year and I want to share something. I actually did make friends after 2-3 months of writing this comment and later we became extremely good friends but the timing was not right. I have now graduated my highschool and we all are separated and I miss my friends badly. I wish I could spend more time with them because they were all a good company and I didn't feel alone but it's all lonely now.
Same.
I have the same experience. It's like you said what I'm feeling... It's a little conforting 🙂
0:19 “If you’re homeless just buy a house”
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Ye lol. That’s pretty much the hardest part.
HUGE PROBLEM THOUGH, I'm not that attractive yet. Still working on it, but anyway. I've noticed that when people get compliments from unattractive people it doesn't seem to have anywhere near the same weighting that an attractive person's words would have. It only makes sense, but it's been a huge limiter on me. I'm an extrovert and I can tell. It's just that I can't help but know that people just don't want to be talking to me or around me.
I've got an asymmetrical face and that makes me look ugly (at least that's how I see it). But until I can afford rhinoplasty, I've worked on my looks by 1.improving personal hygiene
2.going to the gym and getting bigger(helps in so many ways I highly recommend you do it)
3. Meditate to suppress my intrusive thoughts
4. Smile and hold eye contact
I am also quite similar to you. Other than my height, I don’t have many attractive traits. Some unattractive things that I have include obesity, people not really knowing what I like and don’t like, “crybaby” and a lot more.
To everyone who may struggle with making friends and being in a crowd ( Or simply, anyone )
Hi!!
I’m really happy you found this video to watch, and came to the comment section
I personally am watching this video for better communication, but I thought of writing this, for a little bit of more brightness to the hearts :3
Making friends and doing anything in public might be so scary sometimes, especially when you feel small in there
But hey
Nothing is as small as being doubtful about yourself
We’re humans
Created to take care of ourselves, make a great life even if we’ve not been born in one, and have fun
Be yourself, take care of yourself and do whatever that makes you happy
Nothing in our lives needs to be taken so harshly!! Unless it’s about serious topics in jobs and issues
So, firstly love yourself
Breath and be proud of your every second living
With practice and learning
Do whatever you want
Even if your wish is simply just making friends, you got it
Thank you so much!
I wish I could be as encouraging as you, I have learned a lot.
God Bless you! ✌️
God bless u! Thanks a lot, this really helped❤😊
I spent most of my schooling career bouncing around friend groups and trying way too hard to “fit the scheme” and to be cool. I always felt alone because I’m so socially awkward and keep replaying awkward moments in my head. As an adult now, I’ve managed to stay in contact with the very few true friends I made over the last few years and can now say I have real friends. Thank you for posting videos like these, to assure me that I’m truly never alone😌
I'm a 13 years old girl, and I have childhood friends but I'm not really that close with them because my anxiety keeps attacking me. It's like we're strangers again, I thought no one likes me but I was just the one thinking that. I had no idea that they actually like me but they're just staying in silence because they think im awkward because i was just sitting alone on my chair in silence. But this time, i would start making some new friends in my class. I have social anxiety and I struggle a lot to start a conversation especially when someone starts a conversation to me. I wasn't that confident enough, but watching your videos makes me confident and i had the courage sometimes. This really helps me since our school is starting at August 9.
I’m currently a senior in highschool and I feel like I have a lot of acquaintances I really like and few close friends, I’ve always been scared to approach these people that I admire (platonically) but this video has given me the push to be the first to reach out! The best advice on friendship or relationships in general I’ve ever been given is to always be the first to reach out or be honest, it’s great for avoiding regret and it also applies to relationships that might be fading. I’ve had so many times where I’ve been unsure of where I stand or I miss spending time with someone and after I work up the courage to talk to them about it (often after months or years) they feel the same way and it’s instant relief
1. 0:18 Start Talking to strangers
2. 1:28 Start up a conversation with those who interest you
3. 2:22 Awkard moments are bound to happen 😁
4. 3:16 Be around those who have the same values, hobbies, or passions as YOU!!
5. 3:57 Pretend you're an Extrovert at First and tell yourself you're just saying a few words
6. 5:02 If you're invited somewhere SAY YES!
@Jaclyn Ann VLOGS!💚 My pleasure!!
the whole day i have been panicking, because i got my first job as a lifeguard and im just sooo awkward around coworkers and strangers. i manage to make them laugh without really trying which is a confidence boost but i dont willingly say things to people and i cant talk to people unless they talk to me and i will only respond with vague answers. ive just been down this past month because i feel as though my coworkers all find me boring or dull to work around. i know really im a fun person and i can have a laugh.. but only with people i trust.
even tho you shouldnt care ab what ppl think ab you, i know thats a hard thing to do. you should start with baby steps, like starting to compliment them from time to time. makes them feel more comfortable around you and automatically like talking to you :)
Me: sees the title
Also me: FINALLY I CAN HAVE FRIENDS
Same
@ThatGirlJackie VLOGS!💚 me I think I'm gonna have none soon 🥲
@ThatGirlJackie VLOGS!💚 ok yay! Thanks 😁
You have discord or anything?
@ThatGirlJackie VLOGS!💚 oh, I sorta post here when I get super excited about smth I made and don't have anywhere else to post it lol
Ikr 👍
Even tho i'm still kinda young and i don't need this type of stuff. I still need it, I cant even walk up to someone and say "Hi!" (unless its someone I know) without wanting to walk away after trying to start a conversation. Besides that I love your videos and I mostly like you "how to know if your crush likes you back" or the " (number) sighs your crush likes you back!" I've got a lot of advice from your crush videos and I really thank you. You'r one of my favorite RUclipsrs because of these advice videos and stuff. Thank you. Before i post this I also wanted to say thanks for helping me with my anxiety. I really love this account. This account has helped me a lot. Love this account
At this point I think I should just accept the fact that I don't have any friends. Its been a real struggle these past years, trying to find friends to fill that empty void, but ultimately it was all fruitless.
Its automatic for me to be alone, its where I feel happiest. Even though I get those hard moments of loneliness, I think its fine. It feels like so much effort to work on getting friends, with so little chance of getting actual results. So, why bother? Jesus filled that empty void I mentioned earlier anyways. God and my parents will be my close friends and I'm completely fine with that.
Thanks for your supportive videos, I think they really offer great and practical advice, though it appears that nothing has really helped my situation. Best of luck to everyone else going on this journey.
A long time ago I had social anxiety and I tried watching videos like this. I thought social anxiety and social awkwardness were the same thing but they aren't. It's important to identify what you are and my advice would be to work on the anxiety first
As someone with really bad social anxiety, this is really helpful. I struggle and overthink the hell out of approaching people and figuring out what to say.
As someone who forces themselves to hide their true personality from most people even when trying to make friends are difficult. I am stuck in this trap of having such a fake personality when meeting new people that I am unable to actually have fun with them because I restrict myself. Changing personalities drastically in a friendship changes everything. As someone who struggles to talk to people my age and having fake personalities , it’s even harder to make friends. I want friends who hang out with you when you are alone. Currently I have 2 casual friends who speak a few kind words a day but that’s it. The reason I change personalities when meeting someone new is because many did not like my true self which led me to become insecure about every little detail I do. I wish to go back to a time where people were friends with me for who I was.
Сподіваюсь ви найшли вирішення проблеми
me too ..
I'm basically a social vegetable and at some point i even accepted that i will be alone forever, focusing completely on my personal goals and getting extremely comfortable in solitude, but somehow managed to find the most amazing friends i couldn't ever dream of. I am overthinking a lot, not being entirely honest about my feelings and sometimes my friends obviously struggle with the mess my mind is. I'm 19 and only now i started learning how to stop being emotionally detached 100% of the time
I’m socially different from people because of my hobbies I do. And how people judge me. In school. I daydream, stare for no reason, I’m really quiet and calm, I get criticized, and other things. People think I’m infected because I cough, they think I’m ugly, I get bullied for no reason sometimes, and it just goes on. I love making people laugh tho because I imitate memes I watch. And I just wanna make friends, so thanks for the tips!
in the begining, always explain them how you are feeling, people tend to accept and embrace your honesty.
good luck with making friends!
hope this helps!😭❤️
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As a young adult, I’ve been having a hard time trying to make friends because I shy around people and don’t know how to start a conversation. After watching this video, I think these tips are helpful to keep in mind.
I just love the hidden fandom Easter eggs I really appreciate you and your animators!
this video really comes in a good moment, a few weeks ago I started college and it´s been a really akward time, my friends really encouranged me to talk with people, but i just don´t know how, still, i managed to talk a few times with classmates a couple of times (almost all of them mandatory) but still, is the little progress that count, when I talk to someones, even if it´s just a "hi" or "do you have a pencil?" my friends congratulate me for those small achievements and it make me feel good with myself.
Oh and a little advice my therapist told me, when you make something that you found not so fun, reward yourself with something that you like, so next time you found it a little less tedious
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This year I finally someone I consider a friend. But I’m very insecure, & I feel like they don’t want me around cause I’m annoying, too attached or touchy. They tell me I need to calm down (in a polite way) so I feel like I annoy them. They’re very sociable and have a lot of friends. I feel like they dont really care cause they have so many other people they can be with instead of me. I’m not special either, not good looking or that smart. My personality is terrible & im self deprecating. So I just feel like they have so many other better people they would rather be with.
i have a hard time talking to people bc i grow up “don’t talk unless taken to” and i was also abused by my mother when ever i talked so now im socially awkward and shy
Same. It sucks .
Mine only saw the normal part which is the fact that I am an introvert but not my lack of empathy and emotions and morality, impulsiveness,agression and my disregard for people and rules
The thumbnail says it all! I have good friendships but with conversations I can either have nothing to say or I have sensory overloads so I have to try to make up jokes or talk about stories to keep it going.
*Literally me*
I love how the animator just put in some references from the dream smp.... that gave me a weird yet gr8 sense of happiness :DD I would go like AYOOO IS THAT TECHNO??
also this video is very helpful to people like me who find it difficult to make friends, I really appreciate you guys for helping everyone :))
i was so happy when techno showed up rip may he rest in peace
bruh🥹
can we all just appreciate that the feature the dsmp in the video, which makes me actually want to try out these tactics
I watched this when it came out
I used these tips to talk to a girl at my school
She’s now my best friend, and the most amazing person I’ve ever met
Thank you so much ❤
Omg that's so coool :3
Well, this came out at the perfect time. There is someone that I kind of want to talk to (first conversation though) and the next time I see her is Monday. Hopefully it goes well. Also love the Good Omens references in the background.
I am a VERY socially awkward girl, I’ll try this…but Im very afraid- of people and everyone around me at school…And I get worried about it- because I want to have friends finally. But I have this fear that pulls me back from engagement with someone…it scares me a lot
AAAA I WENT TO THIS WEDNESDAY BIBLE THING AND I CANT TALK TO PEOPLE WITHOUT CRYING AND RUNNING AWAY AND I SAW THIS GIRL WHO WAS SITTING ALONE JUST LIKE ME AND I TALKED TO HER AND DIDNT CRY OR SHAKE OR RUN AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA IM SO HAPPY
good for you 👍
Wow that's a Big 💖
Congrats dude!!
THIS VIDEO REALLY HELPED ME 😭😭😭; I pretended I was an extrovert and kept talking to anyone on the first day of school, not clearly talking, but I asked them some stuff about what to do in school. Also, I started participating in recitation and tried to make my voice louder. FOR A WEEK, I WAS NOMINATED AS MUSE IN SCHOOL FOR A. WEEK. I HAVE NEVER BEEN A MUSE IN MY LIFE😫😫 ALSO THE GREAT THING IS ALMOST EVERYONE VOTED FOR ME 😆 SO I'M REALLY GRATEFUL I FOUND THIS VIDEO, I KNOW I HAVE WATCHED A LOT OF VIDEOS LIKE THIS AND THAT BUILT UP MY MOTIVATION😢😢🎉🎉🎉
The only problem I have is coming up with what to talk about…my life is so boring and I don’t want to get personal with a stranger!
I said yes to going somewhere even though I barely knew only one person there and it was kinda weird me being there at first. But I think it was a good thing to do. I said yes because there was no reason to say no and now I’m so glad that I said yes. It hasn’t been very long since I said yes but the people I’ve met are so wonderful and I feel so happy around them. Sure it’s still a bit awkward and I still get anxious, but it’s getting better. I think for me, the best thing I can do for my social anxiety and awkwardness is to challenge it and call it stupid.
dude i CANNOT talk to people for some reason. In the last day of school 2 girls invited me to sit with them and i just sat there and did and said nothing. Also happened when i went to a birthday party of one of the girls in my class and i just stood in the corner with a plastic cup doing NOTHING and talking to NOBODY FOR HOURS. I am so socially inept it makes me want to cry.
I just look approachable and wait for an extrovert to come take pity on me and adopt me as one of their friends
Why is this so accurate 😅
I have only one friend at school cause im too shy to start a conversation and i thought everybody hated me but last week a classmate asked my friend why i didn't talk to them and if i hated all of them and i was like " what?? I thought you guys hated me " and it changed my life. Sometimes people don't hate or don't wanna talk to u , they just think u don't like them . im gay so sometimes i get nervous when im trying to talk to straight boys cause last year i tried to talk to a boy and he thought i was flirting with him
Whenever I go to wi-fi I always keep to myself I instantly feel like I'm being judged
Same, I only talk to others when I have to and even when I don't talk I can still hear people judging me. Within earshot, so that's off putting.
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I NEEDED THIS! THANK YOU! I love the positivity! I needed this SO MUCH! I'm sorry if I'm cringe or awkward but I really needed this positivity. I was extremely sad and I was talking myself down a ton, but this video took my mind off of my negative thoughts for at least a little while. Again, thank you! I know I'm probably mental but I just wanted to share my extreme thanks to you!
Yay, spread positivity everyone!!!
@@Psych2go Congrats on 9 million subscribers, by the way! You deserve it 👏
I dont say hello to strangers for one reason.... i feel like im bothering them...
Well ig I'll bother you
Hiii
HELLOOOO🎉🎉🎉🎉
It's probably because I always say No to occassions I'm invited in that people got tired of it. But I actually prefer to be alone now, since it's much more peaceful. I have a few friends around and that's fine. No drama. No trying to please everyone or pretend to be someone else. Just me. You don't need many friends to be happy in life, you just need the true ones to stay during your ups and downs. 😊
The fact that I clicked this instantly after reading the title once
I love how in sync your expressions and feelings are with the animation.
It gives a good immersion to the video :D
For me it's definitely hard to to talk to stranger's and people in general I'm socially awkward I find it much easier to keep to myself then talk to people
its different with friends tho :) when they're your friends its not as hard to talk to them, you know? u can try being friends with people that you know are generally nice, start easy and one step at a time.
@@userm180 that's true I do find it easier to talk to my friends then strangers
@@crow3370 u dont even have to talk to strangers. unless they approach u, ofc. and when they approach you, you can tell yourself youre an actor and playing the role of an extrovert. it may work :)
I NEEDED THIS SO MUCH!!!!! THANK UUUU
Thank you sm! After homeschooling most of my life im finally gonna start going back to school in person and im very nervous! Love you guys! ❤️
i haven’t even started the video and may i just say: THANK YOU OMG
being alone for such a long time make it harder, when you realised you are too comfortable being alone yet you still feel the need of having someone beside you
I'm watching this video and keep thinking "no, making friend is not that easy" 😖
Fr.
Well. It was the first time that in this week I taked a step and started conversation with a TOTALLY stranger and it was supeised! He enjoyed the conversation with me! Very hard to try new things but you can develop with it. :)
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I love the animation! The colors, and expression and the art style are really nice
My gosh, not having friends ruins my life so much
Big consideration near the end: Don't feel like you HAVE to say yes to everything! If you took the effort to show up, congrats, you won half the battle! But if you feel completely drained, this can be detrimental to your health. I've been drained before and overextended myself at parties and leave feeling worthless and exhausted because I feel like I need to stay long enough to feel like I'm making an impact on my new friend so they remember and value me - but probably just making a fool of myself. These are great times to be thankful that a friend invited you and more thankful that you know when enough is enough. Hopefully they'll see that and want to continue the friendship. Oh it's so confusing.
I really needed this! School is gonna start soon and I don't think any of my friends are in the same class so I'll have to make new friends but I'm really social awkward
1. Try to say hello
2. Start stuttering
3. Keep trying to go even though they're giving you a weird look
4. Panic and pull out a knife
5. Stab the in the stomach
6. When they're distracted by the pain run away
7. Get arrest
8. Go to jail
9. Try again
10. Repeat steps 2 to 5
11. Make jail friends because they respect you for shanking a random dude
Thanks😊
I'm a socially awkward person and i can't even have a proper conversation with my families because the words won't come out of my mouth. this really boost my confidence so thank you Psych2Go
watched this because recently i cleared all two friends from my life since i noticed they were rude, and not true friends
Dude her voice is soooo soothing and relaxing.