How to Make Friends When You're Socially Awkward

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  • Опубликовано: 31 июл 2024
  • Do you have trouble making friends? Would you say you are socially awkward? Well, you’ve come to the right place my friend because if you’re looking for help on making friends when you're socially awkward.
    How do you turn your awkwardness into attraction? Here are a few tips:
    Writer: Michal Mitchell
    Script Manager: Kelly Soong
    Voice: Amanda Silvera / amandasilvera
    Animator: Fluffy Starlaxy / fluffystarlaxy_
    RUclips Manager: Cindy Cheong
    References:
    Liana Georgoulis, P. D. (2021, August 27). How to make friends when you are not social. wikiHow. Retrieved November 12, 2021, from www.wikihow.com/Make-Friends-when-You-Are-Not-Social.
    B.Sc., V. S., & Morin, D. A. (2021, July 15). How to make friends when you're socially awkward. SocialPro. Retrieved November 12, 2021, from socialpronow.com/blog/make-friends-awkward/.
    Dembling, S. (2019, February). 7 awkward tips for making New Friends. Psychology Today. Retrieved November 12, 2021, from www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-introverts-corner/201902/7-awkward-tips-making-new-friends.
    Meissner, M. (2017, October). Michael Meissner Answer to: "How do I make friends? I’m socially awkward. What are the questions I should discuss?". Quora. Retrieved November 2021, from www.quora.com/How-do-I-make-f....
    Haber, D. (2016, May 20). I'm introverted and socially awkward. how can I make friends? GoodTherapy.org Therapy Blog. Retrieved November 12, 2021, from www.goodtherapy.org/blog/dear-gt/im-introverted-and-socially-awkward-how-can-i-make-friends.

Комментарии • 2,5 тыс.

  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  2 года назад +1019

    What’s your favourite Pokémon?

  • @chynabarbieeeeee
    @chynabarbieeeeee 2 года назад +5294

    I'm a 16 year old girl, with no high school friends because I'm socially awkward. I have social anxiety and I always try to make friends with the other kids, even tried to do stuffs to fit in with the other cool kids , but nobody wants to be friends with me. I always watch videos to feel better and confident. Thanks Psych2go

    • @didjaseemyjams1582
      @didjaseemyjams1582 2 года назад +288

      Like the video says, why not join a club on something you're intrested in trying, or with people you would like to get to know. I also have social anxiety, so I understand how hard it is, but you got this!

    • @nausheenn_
      @nausheenn_ 2 года назад +128

      Aw that sucks! Hopefully you'll be able to make friends soon

    • @AceofAcre
      @AceofAcre 2 года назад +114

      Talking in video games helped me alot but it doesnt work for everyone

    • @frappuccinoartz1733
      @frappuccinoartz1733 2 года назад +145

      You don't need to do what other people do to make friends. Just be yourself! Being your truth self, is better than being someone else

    • @Nike_707
      @Nike_707 2 года назад +15

      Same here

  • @raissacaba9826
    @raissacaba9826 2 года назад +1057

    The worst feeling is when you know someone and would like to be friends, but have no clue how to talk with another human being.

  • @chynabarbieeeeee
    @chynabarbieeeeee 2 года назад +2147

    The fact I searched up "how to make friends" really shows how lonely I am. And reading other peoples experiences reassures me that I'm not the only one struggling. I regret not being social during high school days so much. I'm quiet in class, no matter how hard I try to engage in conversation, it's always short. The kids even bully me for this and I'm glad how you always cover the most relatable topics

    • @etizipasatizi
      @etizipasatizi 2 года назад +4

      Вот это английский

    • @Aaron-nl9ji
      @Aaron-nl9ji 2 года назад +67

      Try writing down your thoughts and problems. That way you can SEE where things go wrong and you can make research on particular problems. Maybe you're self-conscious, maybe you're afraid, maybe you act too differently. Try to really realize by yourself that everyone is in their own heads just like you, and once you realize that no one cares, you'll rule the world. I hope that could help you out a bit! Be strong!💪

    • @yesha3306
      @yesha3306 2 года назад

      So glad you're lonely, nobody want's to be friend with an racist hypocrite.

    • @jojen4083
      @jojen4083 2 года назад

      K1ll me in my sleep

    • @Metal12111
      @Metal12111 2 года назад +9

      Stay strong you got this

  • @Melody36785
    @Melody36785 2 года назад +562

    I said hello to a stranger and they just gave me the most disgusted look in all of humanity lol, real self esteem boost 😭

  • @ComicalRealm
    @ComicalRealm 2 года назад +452

    "Imagine being introverted, socially awkward and anxious all at the same time. That's me. Fortunately, I developed social skills, and I'm still working on them.
    " - Courage the Cowardly Dog

    • @channelinamedmyself4324
      @channelinamedmyself4324 2 года назад +11

      ♥️

    • @Jon80959
      @Jon80959 2 года назад +4

      I am like this and I hate it😞

    • @mello.1483
      @mello.1483 2 года назад +2

      Me asf

    • @user-cw9kt1kh1h
      @user-cw9kt1kh1h 2 года назад +2

      I'm like that but I'm not sure if I'm introvert. Because if I was introvert at least in would feel good when I come home and I'm alone, but I feel lonely and being struggling with making new friends feels even worse

    • @Yassi_gorl
      @Yassi_gorl Год назад +2

      My parents is extrovert my brother is extro
      Me being the only introvert
      Brooooo why meee 😭
      I wish im extro

  • @Dorian_Nox
    @Dorian_Nox 2 года назад +835

    As someone who can't even text someone without overthinking everything I hopes this helps :]

    • @Seasoned._.3eef-
      @Seasoned._.3eef- 2 года назад +15

      same lol

    • @fennecmoon
      @fennecmoon 2 года назад +16

      Saaaaame tho!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ur not alone man 😅

    • @hectorvega621
      @hectorvega621 2 года назад +7

      Currently me

    • @Shshy566
      @Shshy566 2 года назад +1

      Same bro

    • @user-nf9xm7is3m
      @user-nf9xm7is3m 2 года назад +14

      I felt that 😑 lately I've been putting in an effort to open up and make friends and I push myself to be extroverted but over think EVERY THING

  • @misterwolf3817
    @misterwolf3817 2 года назад +610

    Being shy extravert due to childhood issues is damn hard: You want to talk to people but too afraid of being shouted on.

    • @pancakeart5747
      @pancakeart5747 2 года назад +19

      This is very relatable, wow

    • @squidwardsdiary2776
      @squidwardsdiary2776 2 года назад +29

      It sounds funny, but in 5th grade, I was rejected BIG TIME, and he wasn't very nice about it haha. So I got really afraid of rejection then I got into a depressive state all of middle school and started being very awful to myself, so I kinda have some battle scars left from that but hopefully it will all be okay.

    • @latisha334
      @latisha334 2 года назад +15

      Or being ignored and made to feel like you don’t matter.

    • @userm180
      @userm180 2 года назад +5

      im really sorry.. i think you have to train yourself and your mind into thinking that talking to people wont bring u any harm. just keep telling yourself that

    • @userm180
      @userm180 2 года назад +2

      @@pancakeart5747 you okay? :(

  • @AB-xe1ov
    @AB-xe1ov 2 года назад +2544

    for socially awkward people:
    1. Start talking to strangers
    2. Start up a conversation with those who intrigues you
    3. Awkward moments are bound to happen
    4. Be around with those who have the same values, hobbies and passion with you
    5. Pretend you’re an extrovert at first and tell yourself you’re just saying a few words
    6. If you’re invited somewhere, say YES
    GOODLUCK :)

    • @reinasanchez1718
      @reinasanchez1718 2 года назад +10

      Thanks!

    • @mr.nobody5082
      @mr.nobody5082 2 года назад +66

      What if it’s hard to find people who share the same hobbies and passions that you have (like your even judged for having those hobbies and passions) and that’s why you have social anxiety.

    • @hye3922
      @hye3922 2 года назад +22

      How one can find people with the same values, hobbies and passion with me, i feel so unique that easily people is so bored to me but i talk and they are not interested at all, meet real friends is difficult, and i am only sad when i remember a history of fake and toxic friends and crushes until now, and i do always these steps and nothing :(

    • @redeye4516
      @redeye4516 2 года назад +10

      Oh, so these are for people who get a little nervous, not people who haven't had a non-transactional conversation with anyone outside their immediate family for years.

    • @AB-xe1ov
      @AB-xe1ov 2 года назад +4

      @@mr.nobody5082 honestly i don’t think tht u shld feel that ur being judged for what you like to do. Do things that makes you happy thats important for self-care

  • @khalilahd.
    @khalilahd. 2 года назад +1223

    I love that you cover every single possible scenario that people may need. It makes us feel less alone and more understood 💜

    • @setsers1
      @setsers1 2 года назад +6

      Me too. It's awesome

    • @Driggsdamonstah
      @Driggsdamonstah 2 года назад +6

      It’s truly marvelous.

    • @EmEmTv7585
      @EmEmTv7585 2 года назад +5

      I agree I think that it really helps to make people feel more included and not so isolated or alone ;-;-;

    • @Caramel_Candy123
      @Caramel_Candy123 2 года назад +2

      I agree

    • @michaelmccoy7644
      @michaelmccoy7644 2 года назад

      preach

  • @admirbarucija2018
    @admirbarucija2018 2 года назад +917

    I’m fairly socially awkward and have made a decent amount of close friends by just talking to various people and seeing where it goes. Simple kindness and being open with people can go a long way

    • @kit-cat.
      @kit-cat. 2 года назад +10

      I agree! (:

    • @chasbodaniels1744
      @chasbodaniels1744 2 года назад +21

      Bravo. I don’t know how old you are, but that’s a wonderful formula to build a life upon.

    • @admirbarucija2018
      @admirbarucija2018 2 года назад +2

      @@kit-cat. ❤️

    • @admirbarucija2018
      @admirbarucija2018 2 года назад +9

      @@chasbodaniels1744 I’m 23, it took me some time to figure this out but I’m glad I did. I think there’s something to be learned from our experiences with every person we meet

    • @chasbodaniels1744
      @chasbodaniels1744 2 года назад +3

      I’m much older, and I wish I had learned that lesson earlier in life. (Good for you!)
      Best wishes to you.

  • @Skiizophrenia
    @Skiizophrenia 5 месяцев назад +27

    3:15 idk why but the way she said “You can, I believe in you.” Made me tear up a bit

    • @Depressedweeboo
      @Depressedweeboo 6 дней назад

      Real. We all need to hear that sometimes

  • @mariafe1315
    @mariafe1315 2 года назад +321

    The best advice I've ever heard is to stay comfortable with staying uncomfortable around people, it's a normal thing to happen and all people pass through it (even the person you're talking to) so it's just nice feeling free talking to a person you want to meet, you'll never know how much you can meet them 😊

    • @hotanimarpt8472
      @hotanimarpt8472 2 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/8H9neHxIYng/видео.html

    • @ryans988
      @ryans988 Год назад +3

      Sometimes I get so uncomfortable that my heart starts beating its way out of my chest and I stiffen up and start breathing hard and literally feel like I'm about to die.

    • @Abdulmalik2k6
      @Abdulmalik2k6 10 месяцев назад

      @@jayl5752 I'm the same way

  • @Driggsdamonstah
    @Driggsdamonstah 2 года назад +403

    I’ve actually been able to make a lot of friends despite my social awkwardness. I don’t know what it is, but I been told I have a presence like no other. I’d certainly like to research that though.

    • @OffGridInvestor
      @OffGridInvestor 2 года назад +45

      It's likely the body language and posture and vibe you give off. I have often had a very powerful vibe. If I go to the hardware store I always get asked questions by other random people in there. I asked one guy why he asked me and he said "you look like a guy who knows what he's doing". You may likely hold a certain sense of style or inner confidence or at least give off BODY LANGUAGE that looks like deep seated confidence.

    • @alohaaful8475
      @alohaaful8475 2 года назад +13

      For me its the same. Strangers and foreigners always ask me questions or for directions. Some people I just met start telling me their problems. Homeless want money from me and mostly I gave them.

    • @nolife8209
      @nolife8209 2 года назад +9

      samee
      i am socially awkward, but i've made a lot of frnds recently, a lot more than i imagined i'd have bout 2-3 yrs ago when i barely had any frnds, and ppl like me surprisingly lol😂

    • @hotanimarpt8472
      @hotanimarpt8472 2 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/8H9neHxIYng/видео.html

    • @josephham5216
      @josephham5216 2 года назад +2

      need friend, friend?

  • @azazeru6974
    @azazeru6974 Год назад +68

    Quarantine taught me that it's not that actually hard making friends but keeping them does 😞

  • @roxiethecockapoo1138
    @roxiethecockapoo1138 2 года назад +68

    At some point as people begin to converse with you less and less, it comes to the point where it's difficult not to overthink every conversation and what to say-therefore creating a social awkwardness oftentimes.
    It's difficult to simply enjoy hanging out for what it is and have a complex personality when reconsidering every word choice you should use solely to stabilize a positive image of yourself.
    I envy those who naturally speak loosely and without as much concern.

    • @wuvie6164
      @wuvie6164 2 года назад +4

      Relatable :/

    • @RealBolter
      @RealBolter 2 года назад +6

      HOW IS THIS EXACTLY ME!!! Every second I'm hanging out with people online I always edit my stuff and have severe anxiety of how people think of me. I have really no irl friends and it just makes me sad all the time. I'm not ok

    • @yazyaz2969
      @yazyaz2969 Год назад +1

      @@RealBolter As after I graduated I rarely meet my friends because they have their own things and I don't want to bother them. So sometimes I just text them and reply to their story to keep in contact. I only text 2 or 3 of my friends tho haha.

    • @RealBolter
      @RealBolter Год назад

      Oh dam

  • @rblunatic
    @rblunatic 2 года назад +139

    I can HEAR Psych2go getting more and more comfortable, confident and, over all, better at editing! Adding new quips like 'the lasagna' part instead of just reading off the script. They've come so far and its fascinating to see! I'm so proud of y'all! ♡(˃͈ દ ˂͈ ༶ )

  • @LazyPillowCase
    @LazyPillowCase 2 года назад +80

    I always thought I was socially awkward but then when I left to use the bathroom and came back to my friends one of them texted to me
    “Dude it was so awkward without you”
    And then I realized I was the one who was always starting the conversation
    Wacky world

    • @lazuliartz9008
      @lazuliartz9008 2 года назад +21

      I had the same realization! You have this perception that it’s only you who is feeling this, and your the awkward one, but it really isn’t true at all. One time me and my friend went out. I see him as the outgoing one in our group, so I never assumed he’d ever feel awkward around strangers. When we got there he asked me if I could do the talking because he was too nervous. It’s small but damn, I felt so powerful then. Really goes to show how all of us go through awkward moments everyday and we really aren’t as bad as how we look at ourselves

  • @nevanread
    @nevanread 2 года назад +70

    Being an introvert making friends is difficult. I'm extremely picky on who I become friends with.

    • @PrincessofKeys
      @PrincessofKeys Год назад +9

      And here I thought I was the only one being picky about who I choose.
      Well I'm not exactly picky, but there are certain people I want to talk to more than others. In the end the said friend says I'm being dependent on them or others.....it just makes me sad really I know I can't be, but its probably one reason why I want a partner to be with too.

  • @Blue-di9hw
    @Blue-di9hw 22 дня назад +7

    I've begun to realise that I'm just a background friend in my friend group and I don't have any other groups to go to when I feel left out but my friends have hundreds of friends. thank you for making this! I'm gonna start working hard to make more friends

  • @theeditingdragon69
    @theeditingdragon69 2 года назад +104

    I'm 25 and still socially awkward I'm glad I found your channel and really enjoy the calming way you explain things 😊

    • @starbits24
      @starbits24 2 года назад +10

      agreed 😭 also i have felt that it is harder to make friends in our 20s, but their channel helps a bit, despite that!

    • @pariscortez4190
      @pariscortez4190 2 года назад +7

      Try trying to make friends in your 30’s ughh

    • @ImjeaxLundrack
      @ImjeaxLundrack 2 года назад +5

      28 and counting, go us!

    • @okayxden226
      @okayxden226 Год назад +1

      @@pariscortez4190 try making friends at 18 when you haven’t been to school since the 4th grade meaning you have been isolated for 7 years and can’t even talk to family

    • @PrincessofKeys
      @PrincessofKeys Год назад +1

      Good to feel like Im not the only one whose also 25 and still socially awkward. I Kind if scared of interacting with people and making a fool of myself. Im not talkitive and its awkward...
      Its a lot easoer to message people thab speak on person or on a phone...that makes me sweat and feel weak

  • @phransphan
    @phransphan Месяц назад +7

    "Start talking to strangers" see, that's where things go downhill

  • @Cerebrum123
    @Cerebrum123 2 года назад +21

    You know a character design is good when you can make them adorable in so many art styles.

  • @Batlyx22
    @Batlyx22 2 года назад +18

    talking to people, even online is really scary to me..I feel a pit in my stomach and my mind races, thinking of all the things that could possibly go wrong. Social anxiety sucks man. ;-;

  • @dollytori
    @dollytori Год назад +32

    I’m just gonna say it.
    I’m in middle school, and my best friend abandoned me for her other friends. I always tell myself other peoples friend groups are fake to try and make myself feel better. I feel like a terrible person, and if I were to cry about having no friends then everyone would care. I have “friends” who are only my friends in school and do not have the same interests as me. There is a friend group that has the same interests as me but im trying to squeeze myself in but some of the people there just simply don’t like me. I don’t feel like I should start journaling because someone’s going to read it. Yeah, that’s how bad my trust issues are. Im an introvert with new people but when im around people I know I am a big extrovert, I don’t know if that’s what makes me “not” likeable. But I know im not the only one. This time in life all people care about is social media, TikTok, and dating. So it’s obvious to feel pressured to try and fit in. I want to find people who actually like me. Not someone who only texts me to ask questions about how much something costs. What do I do?

    • @crystaldecodes_98
      @crystaldecodes_98 Год назад +8

      Each and every word of yours fit me.. I can feel your pain because I am also dealing with the same.. I have friends but they have their other best friend and I feel left out I don't know what to do so I try to make an online friends the one who I can call my close friend but what comes as an obstacle is my introvert self🥺😔

    • @nevermind9718
      @nevermind9718 Год назад +4

      Same actually not so long ago my connections with my only bestfriend/friend broke we where bffs for like 8 years or something i was kind of sad but trying to accept it later i made another bff now we have been bffs for like 7 years and soon we would be our own seperate ways too it's hard for me to make new connections because i feel insecure about myself and most of the time i am socially awkward i feel like even if i do make friends with someone they will eventually go seperate ways

    • @awildnoviceappears
      @awildnoviceappears Год назад +1

      Just gonna leave this here in case you find a solution because your situation is crazily similar to mine.

    • @delilahispeachyfresh2835
      @delilahispeachyfresh2835 Год назад

      frrrr

    • @mrgwo
      @mrgwo Год назад +1

      Some people might not like you at first, but that’s okay! There was once a new girl at my school who was often perceived as annoying and loud when everyone first met her. But as time passed when she first joined people eventually grew to like her, instead of annoying and loud they thought of her as funny and outgoing, which can happen to you too! Though it may take a while it’s not impossible to change someone’s first impression of you. You just have to keep trying and some people would recognise your persistence and find it admirable which may earn you more friends. It’s also good to have something on the top of your head that you can always talk about when starting a conversation, whether or not it’s a joke or some recent news.
      So to put it simply: don’t try to give up making friends, continue doing what you’re doing and learn to be more easygoing and interesting.
      Another thing to state when starting a conversation is to always keep asking questions and say stuff people can comment on so the conversation doesn’t end so quickly. Sure, it may take some time and you may always have to be the one starting the conversations but I promise you, it’s all worth it in the end.

  • @honeybunny5323
    @honeybunny5323 2 года назад +81

    Me: sees the title
    Also me: FINALLY I CAN HAVE FRIENDS

    • @UnstablePhantom
      @UnstablePhantom 2 года назад +3

      Same

    • @honeybunny5323
      @honeybunny5323 2 года назад +1

      @ThatGirlJackie VLOGS!💚 me I think I'm gonna have none soon 🥲

    • @honeybunny5323
      @honeybunny5323 2 года назад

      @ThatGirlJackie VLOGS!💚 ok yay! Thanks 😁
      You have discord or anything?

    • @honeybunny5323
      @honeybunny5323 2 года назад

      @ThatGirlJackie VLOGS!💚 oh, I sorta post here when I get super excited about smth I made and don't have anywhere else to post it lol

    • @Je11keng
      @Je11keng 2 года назад

      Ikr 👍

  • @youtubecommentergal4346
    @youtubecommentergal4346 2 года назад +13

    I tried number five once and felt terrible acting extroverted. As an introvert I tried pushing myself by approaching strangers who intrigued me. I give genuine compliments and I also ask about things that person is interested in and say what I have in common. I'm a social introvert, still don't have friends... because they are no people my age where I live but it's helped with daily interactions in life and people confuse me as an extrovert. I've got a bunch of friends online and I still use some of these tips.

  • @itzdat.kim_9240
    @itzdat.kim_9240 2 года назад +103

    As a 17 year old this really helps I’ll try to make friends by my senior years. Because I’ve tried the beginning of the school year and everyone was really mean they stayed away and now I kinda sit alone or hide in the bathroom because I’m afraid with people and crowds. I’ve lost weight and school stresses me out I can’t have friends because of my anxiety and depression. So thank you

    • @turksduhfs1924
      @turksduhfs1924 2 года назад +22

      exactly my situation and it sucks lol I feel like crying myself to sleep sometimes for real. I am a 17 year old senior with no friends it’s embarrasing and I want to just die everyday

    • @burgersandbingo8918
      @burgersandbingo8918 2 года назад +10

      Hi stranger, I get your feelings so much. Im too 17 and started the same way my high school :(( lost weight too

    • @itzdat.kim_9240
      @itzdat.kim_9240 2 года назад +1

      @@burgersandbingo8918 feel better dear

    • @itzdat.kim_9240
      @itzdat.kim_9240 2 года назад +1

      @@turksduhfs1924 I used to cry in my sleep. I feel numb now. And everyone tells me everything will be okay. I hope your doing okay dear wish you the best:)

    • @maggieluvtacos
      @maggieluvtacos 2 года назад +8

      Same heeeree!!
      I'm 17 and I really struggle to make friends, last year of school was horrible and a lot of times I was just all the day alone, spending recess on the bathroom and wanting to be home...
      A lot of other ppl always has their friends and ppl to talk with and I didn't, I never knew how and even with "friends" I always ran out of things to say and bored them...
      I'm afraid of going to uni now and stay alone forever... I really want yo have friends, at least 3/4 whom I feel really confortable and can talk without fear... But I never can :(

  • @justanothersofia2125
    @justanothersofia2125 2 года назад +17

    My problem is I don’t know how to go from small talk to deeper more meaningful conversations that I’d like to have, I also sometimes just can’t think of anything to talk about and the conversation dies.

    • @Rampage1Rules
      @Rampage1Rules 2 года назад +4

      Need to learn to ask better questions . Open ended questions are the best & just saying "why" is very effective

  • @zulanova1209
    @zulanova1209 2 года назад +74

    Talk to strangers (like just hello)
    Make small talk with someone that intrigues you (and mention that which intrigues you about them)
    Awkward moments are bound to happen (silence isn't bad)
    Be around people who share things like hobbies with you and stuff. Join clubs and such
    Pretend to be an extrovert
    If you're invited somewhere, say yes! (stop making excuses)

    • @hotanimarpt8472
      @hotanimarpt8472 2 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/8H9neHxIYng/видео.html

  • @monicagonzalez4977
    @monicagonzalez4977 2 года назад +66

    Omg I am socially awkward and I get anxiety at the beginning of every gathering but later I start warming up to ppl…&& I did notice that complimenting ppl helps them be comfortable and in turn it makes me comfortable ♥️

    • @Seasoned._.3eef-
      @Seasoned._.3eef- 2 года назад +6

      same, but am not really good at complimenting or taking compliments, but if i got comfortable around them i will show it with my actions instead of actually telling them how i feel.

    • @pariscortez4190
      @pariscortez4190 2 года назад +2

      Complimenting is always how I start a conversation. Makes me feel good to make other ppl feel good as well :)

    • @cheddarsunchipsyes8144
      @cheddarsunchipsyes8144 Год назад

      fr

  • @chloeeoeoe
    @chloeeoeoe Год назад +8

    i got an anxiety attack just watching this video 💀💀💀

  • @ShinkTD
    @ShinkTD 2 года назад +5

    I love how in sync your expressions and feelings are with the animation.
    It gives a good immersion to the video :D

  • @die4deuce
    @die4deuce 2 года назад +9

    “Start talking to strangers”
    Me: *Immediate no*

  • @fidimusic1351
    @fidimusic1351 2 года назад +4

    I just love the hidden fandom Easter eggs I really appreciate you and your animators!

  • @FA3WILDES
    @FA3WILDES 2 года назад +10

    THE GOOD OMENS REFERENCES OH MY GOOOSHHH 😭✨❤️
    I love how Psy subtly puts fandom references in their videos, it makes things so much more cozy? Is that the word? XD

  • @smileyfroggyz
    @smileyfroggyz 2 года назад +8

    Yes. This is perfect

  • @leafybugs0
    @leafybugs0 2 года назад +18

    tyy! i’m personally very weird and socially awkward, but this helped me build up my courage to make a friend group!

    • @NeziesStories
      @NeziesStories 2 года назад +5

      I’m so proud you put yourself out there!! I wish you and your new friends the best :)

    • @annauwuu
      @annauwuu 2 года назад +1

      me too ! I hope we get new friends soon ;)

    • @Je11keng
      @Je11keng Год назад +1

      Same 😔

  • @HardBloodNelza
    @HardBloodNelza Год назад +16

    HUGE PROBLEM THOUGH, I'm not that attractive yet. Still working on it, but anyway. I've noticed that when people get compliments from unattractive people it doesn't seem to have anywhere near the same weighting that an attractive person's words would have. It only makes sense, but it's been a huge limiter on me. I'm an extrovert and I can tell. It's just that I can't help but know that people just don't want to be talking to me or around me.

    • @natilus5440
      @natilus5440 Год назад +2

      I've got an asymmetrical face and that makes me look ugly (at least that's how I see it). But until I can afford rhinoplasty, I've worked on my looks by 1.improving personal hygiene
      2.going to the gym and getting bigger(helps in so many ways I highly recommend you do it)
      3. Meditate to suppress my intrusive thoughts
      4. Smile and hold eye contact

  • @snaining2054
    @snaining2054 2 года назад +51

    In my group chat, or when I’m texting in general, when I can’t hear their tone of voice, whenever someone types something even remotely negative I feel like a rock drops into my stomach, like I’d done something wrong or offensive. Even something as small as typing no to a question I ask, I have that sort of nervous dread feeling.
    Also, sometimes I send a comment or thought in the chat, and someone will just respond with an ok or ignore me entirely. I know that they might just not have any meaningful reply and don’t mean to come off as rude, but I die a little inside whenever someone does that. It feels like they don’t care about what I have to say.
    Argh, this is why I like being by myself or with children. Children are usually super energetic and always have something to say or to do, and they will carry the whole conversation. I don’t have to do anything with myself either, I have a diary where I express all my thoughts and passions that I feel that I can’t properly explore with people. I’m happy that I have a fun, chaotic group of friends, but I don’t really click with most of them, you know? Maybe one day I’ll find someone who I can pour my heart out to.
    (Heh, sorry. I’m only 12 and I sometimes go on rambles like this online.)

    • @swatigarg8196
      @swatigarg8196 2 года назад

      Hey!!

    • @zc7027
      @zc7027 2 года назад +7

      This is one of the most relatable things I have read. Whenever I talk with someone online, I feel like I can't fully express myself and they will get me wrong. I haven't been in a group chat for quite some time because of that. But it's nice to see that I am not the only one who feels the same way
      Also, sorry for my English I am still learning :)

    • @bastienx3420
      @bastienx3420 Год назад +2

      Me too I just started a new school so um yea.

    • @cheddarsunchipsyes8144
      @cheddarsunchipsyes8144 Год назад

      Same but 💀

    • @bee.booops
      @bee.booops Год назад

      Okay we can be friends, I'm exactly like that! I'm also around the same age LOL

  • @mc116
    @mc116 2 года назад +8

    The host has such a soothing voice and emotional intelligence of a genius. It makes me swoooon and want to have a deep conversation with her 🥰

  • @casey7171
    @casey7171 2 года назад +56

    the whole day i have been panicking, because i got my first job as a lifeguard and im just sooo awkward around coworkers and strangers. i manage to make them laugh without really trying which is a confidence boost but i dont willingly say things to people and i cant talk to people unless they talk to me and i will only respond with vague answers. ive just been down this past month because i feel as though my coworkers all find me boring or dull to work around. i know really im a fun person and i can have a laugh.. but only with people i trust.

    • @userm180
      @userm180 2 года назад +1

      even tho you shouldnt care ab what ppl think ab you, i know thats a hard thing to do. you should start with baby steps, like starting to compliment them from time to time. makes them feel more comfortable around you and automatically like talking to you :)

  • @helsenberg_
    @helsenberg_ 2 года назад +2

    Even tho i'm still kinda young and i don't need this type of stuff. I still need it, I cant even walk up to someone and say "Hi!" (unless its someone I know) without wanting to walk away after trying to start a conversation. Besides that I love your videos and I mostly like you "how to know if your crush likes you back" or the " (number) sighs your crush likes you back!" I've got a lot of advice from your crush videos and I really thank you. You'r one of my favorite RUclipsrs because of these advice videos and stuff. Thank you. Before i post this I also wanted to say thanks for helping me with my anxiety. I really love this account. This account has helped me a lot. Love this account

  • @outorii4659
    @outorii4659 2 года назад +4

    I’m currently a senior in highschool and I feel like I have a lot of acquaintances I really like and few close friends, I’ve always been scared to approach these people that I admire (platonically) but this video has given me the push to be the first to reach out! The best advice on friendship or relationships in general I’ve ever been given is to always be the first to reach out or be honest, it’s great for avoiding regret and it also applies to relationships that might be fading. I’ve had so many times where I’ve been unsure of where I stand or I miss spending time with someone and after I work up the courage to talk to them about it (often after months or years) they feel the same way and it’s instant relief

  • @mardiniwati429
    @mardiniwati429 2 года назад +12

    I'm watching this video and keep thinking "no, making friend is not that easy" 😖

  • @ariayeetsu
    @ariayeetsu 2 года назад +7

    I really needed this!!! You see I am a 14 year old kid who is fairly socially awkward and always wait for other people to make the first move!! And I try hard to talk to people, but even if I do, they ignore me most of the time. I even get frustrated because I don't feel like I can do this. I'll try to use the tips as best as I can!! Thank you :)

  • @justsomegirl7342
    @justsomegirl7342 2 года назад +4

    Thank you sm! After homeschooling most of my life im finally gonna start going back to school in person and im very nervous! Love you guys! ❤️

  • @ace_5813
    @ace_5813 2 года назад +6

    I just look approachable and wait for an extrovert to come take pity on me and adopt me as one of their friends

  • @daisy4892
    @daisy4892 2 года назад +10

    i have a hard time talking to people bc i grow up “don’t talk unless taken to” and i was also abused by my mother when ever i talked so now im socially awkward and shy

    • @Je11keng
      @Je11keng 2 года назад +5

      Same. It sucks .

    • @mikoajkulinski7753
      @mikoajkulinski7753 2 года назад +2

      Mine only saw the normal part which is the fact that I am an introvert but not my lack of empathy and emotions and morality, impulsiveness,agression and my disregard for people and rules

  • @dillpickel6767
    @dillpickel6767 11 месяцев назад +4

    I’m a teenager who was completely socially reset during the virus. 2020 destroyed my social skills and I have been walking on a tightrope of depression ever since. I simply find it hard to know what to talk about these days

    • @pinnapop7895
      @pinnapop7895 11 месяцев назад +3

      This is literally me 😭 it’s so hard to know what to talk about bcuz I know nothing about the person and my interests are honestly embarrassing 💀 and most ppl don’t share my humor :(
      I hope we both get our social skills back soon lol

    • @Abdulmalik2k6
      @Abdulmalik2k6 10 месяцев назад +2

      I feel you ever since 2020 hit my social skills fell off.

    • @mrmonkey______
      @mrmonkey______ 6 месяцев назад +1

      same here honesty, i feel like i'll never be the same, i have small panic attacks the minute someone wants to talk to me. :(

  • @psychoticcoconut4047
    @psychoticcoconut4047 2 года назад +1

    I am embarrassed at how much I needed this. Thank you so much

  • @averagepyromain5399
    @averagepyromain5399 2 года назад +1

    This channel has helped me so many times that I can’t thank it enough

  • @nikoniko-nicomuffler
    @nikoniko-nicomuffler 2 года назад +7

    I love the animation! The colors, and expression and the art style are really nice

  • @a.198
    @a.198 2 года назад +14

    You posted the video at the right time ! I am an introvert. All my classmates are new to me but I don't have friends in my new class yet. I feel lonely when during the free time everyone talk to each other but I remain on my desk only. When someone try to talk to me then I answer back but in a really awkward way and I feel like I am being rude when others do try to talk to me but I feel disinterested in their conversation. But the reality is that I do want to talk to people and wanna make friends like I had in my previous class but I don't know how to start a conversation or keep my conversation going if started. I am always interested to talk to others and make new friends but it's just that I feel awkward even when I talk to my teacher and I hate this
    Edit : I am here after a year and I want to share something. I actually did make friends after 2-3 months of writing this comment and later we became extremely good friends but the timing was not right. I have now graduated my highschool and we all are separated and I miss my friends badly. I wish I could spend more time with them because they were all a good company and I didn't feel alone but it's all lonely now.

    • @Je11keng
      @Je11keng 2 года назад +2

      Same.

    • @godiswithus8488
      @godiswithus8488 Год назад +1

      I have the same experience. It's like you said what I'm feeling... It's a little conforting 🙂

  • @fantasyland5506
    @fantasyland5506 Год назад +2

    The only problem I have is coming up with what to talk about…my life is so boring and I don’t want to get personal with a stranger!

  • @dishasajan862
    @dishasajan862 2 года назад +2

    My new term at school starts tomorrow and this was reallyyyy needed. Thank you and have a great day !!😁🌻

  • @chaeremika
    @chaeremika 2 года назад +7

    the timing of this video is so perfect for mee

    • @TheRisingStorm316
      @TheRisingStorm316 2 года назад

      Same. I’m trying to make more friends and find a mate.

  • @justkaz8805
    @justkaz8805 2 года назад +4

    I'm in highschool, and over quarantine I became a real recluse and lost what little was left of my extroverted nature, which used to be dominant in my personality. Now I have social anxiety and can hardly talk to anyone except for my friends. What I've noticed, though, is that I become much more social and loud when I get to know someone and their humor. It's absolutely true (for me, at least) that the hardest part is just getting the conversation going.

  • @eckitronix
    @eckitronix 2 года назад +1

    I have DESPERATELY needed a video like this.
    So thanks!

  • @epicgirl65060
    @epicgirl65060 2 года назад

    i’m so glad u made this

  • @crow3370
    @crow3370 2 года назад +20

    For me it's definitely hard to to talk to stranger's and people in general I'm socially awkward I find it much easier to keep to myself then talk to people

    • @userm180
      @userm180 2 года назад

      its different with friends tho :) when they're your friends its not as hard to talk to them, you know? u can try being friends with people that you know are generally nice, start easy and one step at a time.

    • @crow3370
      @crow3370 2 года назад

      @@userm180 that's true I do find it easier to talk to my friends then strangers

    • @userm180
      @userm180 2 года назад +1

      @@crow3370 u dont even have to talk to strangers. unless they approach u, ofc. and when they approach you, you can tell yourself youre an actor and playing the role of an extrovert. it may work :)

  • @ThePersonWhoAsked204
    @ThePersonWhoAsked204 2 года назад +5

    I NEEDED THIS SO MUCH!!!!! THANK UUUU

  • @shaneculbertson4055
    @shaneculbertson4055 2 года назад +1

    I'd like to thank the voice actress for helping me get through the darkest times in my life to the whole team I say thank you. I recommend this to other people I'm a psychologist student and I haven't even started school yet.

  • @armitahassani4811
    @armitahassani4811 2 года назад +46

    To everyone who may struggle with making friends and being in a crowd ( Or simply, anyone )
    Hi!!
    I’m really happy you found this video to watch, and came to the comment section
    I personally am watching this video for better communication, but I thought of writing this, for a little bit of more brightness to the hearts :3
    Making friends and doing anything in public might be so scary sometimes, especially when you feel small in there
    But hey
    Nothing is as small as being doubtful about yourself
    We’re humans
    Created to take care of ourselves, make a great life even if we’ve not been born in one, and have fun
    Be yourself, take care of yourself and do whatever that makes you happy
    Nothing in our lives needs to be taken so harshly!! Unless it’s about serious topics in jobs and issues
    So, firstly love yourself
    Breath and be proud of your every second living
    With practice and learning
    Do whatever you want
    Even if your wish is simply just making friends, you got it

    • @godiswithus8488
      @godiswithus8488 Год назад +1

      Thank you so much!
      I wish I could be as encouraging as you, I have learned a lot.
      God Bless you! ✌️

    • @chonkyfroggy3421
      @chonkyfroggy3421 11 месяцев назад +1

      God bless u! Thanks a lot, this really helped❤😊

  • @iiantixsocial
    @iiantixsocial Год назад +3

    As someone with really bad social anxiety, this is really helpful. I struggle and overthink the hell out of approaching people and figuring out what to say.

  • @rattagail
    @rattagail Год назад +6

    AAAA I WENT TO THIS WEDNESDAY BIBLE THING AND I CANT TALK TO PEOPLE WITHOUT CRYING AND RUNNING AWAY AND I SAW THIS GIRL WHO WAS SITTING ALONE JUST LIKE ME AND I TALKED TO HER AND DIDNT CRY OR SHAKE OR RUN AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA IM SO HAPPY

  • @patrickandrew7886
    @patrickandrew7886 10 месяцев назад +1

    Am 19 years old painfully awkward in social settings, and introverted. Seeing how people relate to this is a little comforting knowing am not really alone :)

  • @bluberry1517
    @bluberry1517 Год назад +6

    A long time ago I had social anxiety and I tried watching videos like this. I thought social anxiety and social awkwardness were the same thing but they aren't. It's important to identify what you are and my advice would be to work on the anxiety first

  • @konichan-gv7sn
    @konichan-gv7sn 5 месяцев назад +4

    "start talking to strangers" no

  • @nausheenn_
    @nausheenn_ 2 года назад +5

    I really needed this! School is gonna start soon and I don't think any of my friends are in the same class so I'll have to make new friends but I'm really social awkward

  • @sabertooth_shark5047
    @sabertooth_shark5047 2 года назад +10

    Well, this came out at the perfect time. There is someone that I kind of want to talk to (first conversation though) and the next time I see her is Monday. Hopefully it goes well. Also love the Good Omens references in the background.

  • @zofiaszymanska5578
    @zofiaszymanska5578 10 месяцев назад

    I have like social issues and I find it very hard to make friends. You are such of a comport person and I really appreciate the way you make us videos 💛

  • @Averageyoutubenjoyer
    @Averageyoutubenjoyer 2 года назад +4

    this video really comes in a good moment, a few weeks ago I started college and it´s been a really akward time, my friends really encouranged me to talk with people, but i just don´t know how, still, i managed to talk a few times with classmates a couple of times (almost all of them mandatory) but still, is the little progress that count, when I talk to someones, even if it´s just a "hi" or "do you have a pencil?" my friends congratulate me for those small achievements and it make me feel good with myself.
    Oh and a little advice my therapist told me, when you make something that you found not so fun, reward yourself with something that you like, so next time you found it a little less tedious
    (sorry bad english)

  • @meik2119
    @meik2119 Год назад +7

    As someone who forces themselves to hide their true personality from most people even when trying to make friends are difficult. I am stuck in this trap of having such a fake personality when meeting new people that I am unable to actually have fun with them because I restrict myself. Changing personalities drastically in a friendship changes everything. As someone who struggles to talk to people my age and having fake personalities , it’s even harder to make friends. I want friends who hang out with you when you are alone. Currently I have 2 casual friends who speak a few kind words a day but that’s it. The reason I change personalities when meeting someone new is because many did not like my true self which led me to become insecure about every little detail I do. I wish to go back to a time where people were friends with me for who I was.

    • @user-ls8vr7kn8z
      @user-ls8vr7kn8z 2 месяца назад

      Сподіваюсь ви найшли вирішення проблеми

    • @Yalublumarocco
      @Yalublumarocco 15 дней назад

      me too ..

  • @kenanembarek5787
    @kenanembarek5787 Год назад +1

    You have a calm voice that makes me relaxed

  • @pooterpan8075
    @pooterpan8075 Год назад +1

    Dude her voice is soooo soothing and relaxing.

  • @samaayraparveen6648
    @samaayraparveen6648 2 года назад +8

    I love how the animator just put in some references from the dream smp.... that gave me a weird yet gr8 sense of happiness :DD I would go like AYOOO IS THAT TECHNO??
    also this video is very helpful to people like me who find it difficult to make friends, I really appreciate you guys for helping everyone :))

  • @Jaidyn333
    @Jaidyn333 Год назад +5

    I said yes to going somewhere even though I barely knew only one person there and it was kinda weird me being there at first. But I think it was a good thing to do. I said yes because there was no reason to say no and now I’m so glad that I said yes. It hasn’t been very long since I said yes but the people I’ve met are so wonderful and I feel so happy around them. Sure it’s still a bit awkward and I still get anxious, but it’s getting better. I think for me, the best thing I can do for my social anxiety and awkwardness is to challenge it and call it stupid.

  • @jayashrejanani4480
    @jayashrejanani4480 2 года назад

    Hey, I've always watched all the videos as soon as it gets uploaded. These are really informative and helpful. Sometimes I feel lonely and disinterested with everything, I just come here and it makes me feel better. Thank you so much Psych2go ❤️❤️ 💖💖❤️❤️

  • @RandomKattt
    @RandomKattt 2 года назад +1

    I love your channel the theme is so cute and you have a calming voice your channel helps me with situations in life i give this channel 10/10 totally recommended

  • @imaketrashvideos
    @imaketrashvideos Год назад +3

    dude i CANNOT talk to people for some reason. In the last day of school 2 girls invited me to sit with them and i just sat there and did and said nothing. Also happened when i went to a birthday party of one of the girls in my class and i just stood in the corner with a plastic cup doing NOTHING and talking to NOBODY FOR HOURS. I am so socially inept it makes me want to cry.

  • @PrettyBoyVoiceOvers
    @PrettyBoyVoiceOvers 2 года назад +15

    I spent most of my schooling career bouncing around friend groups and trying way too hard to “fit the scheme” and to be cool. I always felt alone because I’m so socially awkward and keep replaying awkward moments in my head. As an adult now, I’ve managed to stay in contact with the very few true friends I made over the last few years and can now say I have real friends. Thank you for posting videos like these, to assure me that I’m truly never alone😌

  • @joannar1886
    @joannar1886 2 года назад +1

    love the small dsmp hints and this helped a lot :)

  • @TheIZKiller
    @TheIZKiller 2 года назад

    Honestly thank you for this video. It’s exactly what I needed

  • @damianfell5112
    @damianfell5112 2 года назад +4

    0:57 yeah, that book can surely help you find friends - i found most of mine in the go fandom ☺️

  • @Sergei_Ivanovich_Mosin
    @Sergei_Ivanovich_Mosin Год назад +5

    1. Try to say hello
    2. Start stuttering
    3. Keep trying to go even though they're giving you a weird look
    4. Panic and pull out a knife
    5. Stab the in the stomach
    6. When they're distracted by the pain run away
    7. Get arrest
    8. Go to jail
    9. Try again
    10. Repeat steps 2 to 5
    11. Make jail friends because they respect you for shanking a random dude

  • @potatoes4lifersxd813
    @potatoes4lifersxd813 2 года назад +1

    i haven’t even started the video and may i just say: THANK YOU OMG

  • @endertoa6049
    @endertoa6049 Год назад +2

    At this point I think I should just accept the fact that I don't have any friends. Its been a real struggle these past years, trying to find friends to fill that empty void, but ultimately it was all fruitless.
    Its automatic for me to be alone, its where I feel happiest. Even though I get those hard moments of loneliness, I think its fine. It feels like so much effort to work on getting friends, with so little chance of getting actual results. So, why bother? Jesus filled that empty void I mentioned earlier anyways. God and my parents will be my close friends and I'm completely fine with that.
    Thanks for your supportive videos, I think they really offer great and practical advice, though it appears that nothing has really helped my situation. Best of luck to everyone else going on this journey.

  • @pakiaki9775
    @pakiaki9775 2 года назад +3

    This year I finally someone I consider a friend. But I’m very insecure, & I feel like they don’t want me around cause I’m annoying, too attached or touchy. They tell me I need to calm down (in a polite way) so I feel like I annoy them. They’re very sociable and have a lot of friends. I feel like they dont really care cause they have so many other people they can be with instead of me. I’m not special either, not good looking or that smart. My personality is terrible & im self deprecating. So I just feel like they have so many other better people they would rather be with.

  • @miguelguzman4573
    @miguelguzman4573 2 года назад +4

    2:16 that's a preaty nice reference

    • @hotanimarpt8472
      @hotanimarpt8472 2 года назад +1

      ruclips.net/video/8H9neHxIYng/видео.html

  • @terrileawegner8563
    @terrileawegner8563 6 дней назад

    Thank you I needed this!

  • @hopeless7323
    @hopeless7323 2 года назад +2

    The fact that I clicked this instantly after reading the title once

  • @flamegamer3424
    @flamegamer3424 2 года назад +22

    As a young adult, I’ve been having a hard time trying to make friends because I shy around people and don’t know how to start a conversation. After watching this video, I think these tips are helpful to keep in mind.

  • @AceLoveType
    @AceLoveType 2 года назад +23

    I am a VERY socially awkward girl, I’ll try this…but Im very afraid- of people and everyone around me at school…And I get worried about it- because I want to have friends finally. But I have this fear that pulls me back from engagement with someone…it scares me a lot

  • @Alrek1245
    @Alrek1245 2 года назад +1

    This is exactly the information I needed! Thank you!

  • @user-qe1tn8ww3v
    @user-qe1tn8ww3v 4 месяца назад +1

    I watched this when it came out
    I used these tips to talk to a girl at my school
    She’s now my best friend, and the most amazing person I’ve ever met
    Thank you so much ❤

  • @isaiahvoss
    @isaiahvoss 2 года назад +11

    The thumbnail says it all! I have good friendships but with conversations I can either have nothing to say or I have sensory overloads so I have to try to make up jokes or talk about stories to keep it going.

  • @cinti2880
    @cinti2880 2 года назад +8

    Well. It was the first time that in this week I taked a step and started conversation with a TOTALLY stranger and it was supeised! He enjoyed the conversation with me! Very hard to try new things but you can develop with it. :)

    • @hotanimarpt8472
      @hotanimarpt8472 2 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/8H9neHxIYng/видео.html

  • @addyakaasayu3886
    @addyakaasayu3886 2 года назад +2

    omg what timing i have recently joined a coaching centre and it's been hard for me to make friends tysm for this video 😭😭

  • @KarmaaArts
    @KarmaaArts 6 дней назад

    I haven’t had any real life friends for 4 years. It’s really affected me mentally so thank you so much I need this video❤