@@lessismore8533 "We suffer more in imagination than in reality." -Seneca "Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems." -Epictetus
"The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own…" -Epictetus💜
I divide problems into 3 groups. 1. I can fix it now. 2. There is a fix, but not right now. 3. I can't do anything about it. For group 1, I fix it right now, so no need to worry. For group 2, I let it go until the fix is possible, then I fix it, so no need to worry in the interim. For group 3, if it's a problem beyond my control, there's no point in making myself sick with worry over something that is completely out of my hands. It is what it is. Life is like that, sometimes.
1. Schedule Worry Time to problem solve 2. Challenge negative thoughts with positive ones. 3. Recognize, understand, and be in touch with your emotions.
To be in touch with your emotions, is welcoming them as they are, not trying to fix them or saying there are good or bad. So you're not attached or trying to avoid them. I'm reading Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender, by David R. Hawkins, it's really a good book. I also do meditation everyday to help me slow my mind and relax my body.
Agree. I watch a lot of these, take down notes, use the techniques and review them periodically. I figure it's about the same stuff I'd get from in-person counseling (if I'm lucky) 😄
Thank you for this information. I've been having a hard time lately. I've barely eaten in a week, have a hard time falling and staying asleep and woke up the last 4 days feeling so bad I cried. I'm at my wits end. Your videos help. I feel like the more I learn the better I feel. There's hope for self improvement yet.
I just want to take a moment to thank you. I have been having anxiety and panic attacks over the last several years. It was a new feeling because I have always been mentally and emotionally very strong. I did not even realize what I was experiencing was due to emotional trauma. I have always plowed through even the most difficult of circumstances and that’s why this new feeling that made me so uncomfortable was frightening. The harder I got on my self to try to make myself get through it the more the anxiety increased. You have been so instrumental throughout the years to help me manage my anxiety to make room for it and to understand my emotional well-being. I was so comforted to know that Olympic gold medalists NFL players etc. have suffered with their trauma and emotional physical responses. To know that these professional athletes who are obviously mentally strong, emotionally strong and disciplined have had to learn how to cope with these feelings made me understand that it was not a weakness on my part. Anyhow realizing what is happening in your own body and then figuring out how to change it is no easy task. That’s where you came in and I appreciate you so much because I have honestly reaped the benefits! There are no words to express the gratitude that one feels by being able to eliminate or greatly reduce and manage anxiety.
A lot of my friends are experiencing increased anxiety recently and I didn’t realise that it’s a symptom to both menopause and peri menopause. You may be too young but just in case it is another factor women should know about. I knew what you meant re weakness, there was definitely no harm meant.
@@tiddlywinks456 thanks for the info. And your confirmation on my comment. At first that’s what I thought, that it was… menopause. Recall that I said I’m strong and plow through things? People have often said things like, “ a train can knock you down and you get right up”. That’s the part that eventually caught up to me. Decades of pressures and stresses that I didn’t deal with properly. I was all mind. My emotions were my greatest WEAKNESS. On my journey with the anxiety/panic attacks, I now realize I must change. It’s a great change…. I’ve been forced to recognize and learn emotional regulation and rebuilding myself. It’s interesting 🤔 something that was confusing, frightening and robbed me from peace and joy has become the catalyst of a new improved me 😃. Its s journey and as you know…we benefit greatly from each other and from the resources online. Like this channel! Thanks you and carry on on this journey as we all look to understand ourselves and others.
@ wendy Diaz, thanks for sharing your journey, I found your openess and honesty about how you struggled with this to be really refreshing and honest. That took bravery (yes it did, putting yourself out there always does). Knowing others who look strong also have struggles reinforces in me the need to not judge by appearances.
I am a mental health counseling student ending my second year and I watch your videos every day. I am an online student so watching your videos has just added so much depth and value to what I am learning. I picked up your emotional processing course yesterday and I’m really looking forward to it! Thank you so much for these videos.
Very helpful I'm 72 years old I've worried my whole life to prepare myself for things that never happened the one thing I never worried about what's my wife dying I'm in therapy now trying to find out what went wrong thank you so much
Hey Christian, the only time that exists is right here right now. I hope you find peace and reclaim the joy of the present moment by becoming deeply centred in the now and taking some deep breaths and becoming still.
Your videos have helped me so much over the past year. I’m like a different person mentally and everyone around me has noticed the change yet my family/friends aren’t the type to watch therapy videos on RUclips and it’s so frustrating not to be able to share your knowledge with them! Plus your voice is amazing…🙏 TY!
You know what, your channel is the most helpful thing ever happened to me since I’ve been back in a bad anxiety circle with lots of physical symptoms. Thank you. Honestly i am so grateful for u
I have no words for what you do for all of us. I wish we were neighbors 😂 u r truly an amazing human being. Your videos are now part of my everyday- your voice and compassion is remarkable ❤❤❤❤ everybody watching your videos is thinking the same thing on behalf of myself and everybody else I’m sure we wanna all thank you 2000 times for all of your information… God bless
Someone overstepped my boundaries and I have been worried about them doing it again. Its been in my head for days and days. It made me feel really vulnerable, angry and helpless. Right now there is nothing I can do about it, but if it happens again, I will definitely speak up.
Used to worry a lot, and blamed myself for both not getting it right *despite* having rightfully worried about something, or for having worried for nothing, and for worrying, and for not worrying - the whole thing. #1 worked for me (putting time aside to address those worries) but not until I switched my mindset to being gratful (or least pretending to be at first) towards my brain for coming up with those worries, no matter how silly they were ... some sort of "ok yes I get it, doesn't sound great, doesn't look very likely to happen either, but if it did here's how we should probably react, good? ok, thanks, see you next time"
I wish I could give you a billion thumbs up because I been doing this my whole life. Thank you for addressing this! In the past I noticed when I focus in writing a story or using my imagination with fun things I overthink less. I drive better and slept better. I need to try that again.. busting bad habits looking too much in phone is so difficult..
This was so good and helpful. I began doing neuroplasticity 2 years ago and I also implement Dr Caroline Leafs Neurocycle! Has truly changed my life! Thanks so much for this video! Educating and getting this truthful info out there will help so many overcome depression. It’s not a chemical imbalance but an imbalance in the nervous system because the brain is off balance because our thoughts and beliefs are so off balance due to the childhood traumas! Medication can’t treat a unhealthy soul - mind will and emotions- out thoughts and beliefs! God bless you!
@@lucyprice7679 I read Caroline’s book and feel it helped me locate the root of my anxiety and rebuild over the trauma experiences. I also started roller skating because I learned how doing something physical can literally help the mental part of the brain 🧠 that helps with regulation. Skating is mental, emotional and physical, so it’s been a real great journey. Use what ever works for you.
You really have a gift! I’ve been in therapy off and on for years and I’ve never had anyone touch on this. It’s so helpful! I’m really glad I found you.
Worrying is what led me to the discovery that all my autoimmune problems are stemming from a MAJOR liver fluke infestation. Can't believe I've had them for years! But really, THANK YOU because your videos literally changed my life and helped me to heal and reprogram my nervous system from cptsd. It's also what led me to the discovery that I had ADHD. Thank you so so much!
@@maxdatsun a video about them. I got feeling.. Starting a parasite cleanse (be CAREFUL with the dosing it can cause MAJOR major problems if you take too much and put you in the ER) and passing them in my stool. When they start to die off it creates a lot of anxiety and moodiness it's weird. I also have started to eat for my blood type which has been seriously life changing.
OMG!! This video is an eye-opener for me. For years, I have been thinking that expecting good things would jinx at me and thinking the worst case scenario would bring good outcomes; it happened many times and this notion got rooted in my mind in such way that I am literally anxious to think about any good/positive outcomes !! I just never had an explanation why things are always like that till I watched Emma dissected the whole thing. I am truly grateful to her for guiding people like me through such tough times. Thank You so much Emma! Love, Prayer and Best Wishes for you! ❤
Your videos are so well structured, no matter how anxious I am when I start watching them, I always feel a ton of relief once they're done playing. Thank you!
Hey Emma! Thank you for another great video ❤ May I ask you to talk about this phrase? I think it's closely relate to how we think and feel to all events in life, either inside or outside of us. Dr Joe Dispenza says: The body doesn't know the difference between a experience and a thought. You can literally change your chemistry, hormones and genes simply by having an inner event.
Feels like a Jedi mind trick every time I watch your videos, because I love all of them! They’re so informative and you’re so charming thanks for all the info!!!
Thank you! I'm going to implement all 3 things now. I am imagining myself doing them and feeling so much lighter, free, and smiling/laughing more...and sleeping peacefully.
Incredibly helpful. This channel is my morning walk buddy and I am not only becoming physically healthier but mentally more stable and strong. I am more accepting my situation now than before more incredibly at peace with it all than before. Every step, every breath, every blink became so testing at one stage (note I changed my status to testing where as before I would run to words like difficult, painful, etc). I am registered in the course and I am reading the books and I am so greatful to realise how powerful my mind is how it can ground me or steer me in both right or unwanted directions. Thank you for the work you are doing. Love and respect from Sydney
Psilocybin containing mushrooms saved my life. The drastically reduced my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quite illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would had became medically dangerous to quit. It has also helped me survive depression.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across *dr.jeromespore* a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
I witnessed death up close to someone who raised me! It was Very unexpected and traumatic events that happened that I honestly wished I wouldn't have seen or experienced! RIP PAPA But Every since then I have high ANXIETY with major ATTACKS and was diagnosed with PTSD! These attacks happen so often I can't hold down a job. It literally controls my life! I could be feeling fine and then all of a sudden it feels like a wave of fear starts at my head and goes to my toes. and now I'm in panic mode!!! I have these attacks bc I experience "normal" things such as tickle in my throat or body aches or pains in random places! I assume the worst and automatically think that I am going to die. My attacks seem to get worse at night and every single day I have an attack of some sort. Most of the attacks last about an hour and I am SICK of existing and wasting my life bc I am like a ticking time bomb. Do you have a video to help. I've watched just about every video you have posted. please please write back! 🙏
Yes, worry may be a reaction but you've put your finger on one of the things I've been struggling with: daily I find it harder and harder to move on and/or cut the umbilical cord of my past. However you live your life, your past is something thats in a sense "happened" to you. The more we live, the more the past enlarges.
Our life experiences accumulate every day and the past enlarges, yes. But they also move further away from the present. So there should be time to analyze your experiences and heal, because you’ve survived said experiences and that HAS to make you stronger :)
The past is just that. The past. What we have is Now. Face forward and live in Now, don't keep looking back at the past. The past only exists in your mind, it's gone. Again, live Now, all we have for certain is Now.
Hi MoodyDude, your comment spoke to me. I have had a habit of replaying past scenarios of betrayal, reliving them over and over. I have made a conscious effort to say to the "betrayors" (in my own head), "I forgive you. I release you." The more I do this, the more peace I experience and the more distant and faded those memories have become. I pray you have peace in your life and are free from past trauma. 🙏 Much love ❤️ Alaska Granny
@@ccpperrett7522 I believe the quicker you identify objective problems in your life, the more forgiving you can be to the situation. Believe me, the things I find hardest to forgive in my life are things I have let myself be deluded to the longest. I also believe that getting rid of your old self is not enough, nor is letting your new self grow. Glad to give you my experience and insight, however small.
I'm not sure I've commented on your videos before, but I've enjoyed them for quite some time. I've found them very helpful as well as the fact that I'm just really amused we have the same name, general age/stage of life, and religion. I was recently diagnosed with POTS (Postural orthostatic takicardia syndrome) and since getting treatment not only has the dizziness gone way down but for the first time in literally years I'm no longer in fight or flight. I was telling my husband this evening that it's weird. I feel such relief and excitement that I can finally be productive, but there's also this numbness that I can't explain. I can't be positive, but I don't think it's the beta blocker. I think it's because I literally have forgotten how to function out of fight or flight. With the drastic increase in POTS the last couple of years, and because it effects the automatic system and messes up not just physical health but mental health as well, do you think you could do a video on mental health and POTS? While I've seen a lot of evidence of correlation, I've not seen any actual mental health specialist talk about it
Just wanted to tell you, how good your videos work if you constantly look them. I'm working together with a professional therapist, to not develop delusions about psychology and it really works well altogether. Thank you very much for providing free, very important informations about our psyche.
I live in Iran and we are having severe protests here , i am hopeful for good changes in my country but sometimes i am sick of anxiety . Your videos are a big help Emma 💜
Blessings Risa, to You and your friends. So many people across the world are silently spporting you, (including me of course)....I am glad you are watching this channel....I can't imagine how hard it must be in situations like yours or in warzones etc. Take care and good luck.
Misuse of imagination is a real worry driver. Imagination is an innate resource we often need to be taught to manage usefully. Education emphasises 'paying attention' and 'focussing' - and these are useful skills. Yet we'd do well by learning to break our attention and mindfully focus on other things - especially when it comes to worry! The compulsive what-ifs (?) that keep us locked in a state of hypervigilance. Often, worrying is a response to uncertainty or feeling attached to a specific outcome. Acknowledging this is a useful step - in addition to all your excellent advice. Thanks, Emma. Best wishes, Dominic
This is the coolest channel I have ever found. Thank you so so much for making the first step towards social anxiety treatment that much closer for my type of overthinker! I live in a college town where wait times are extremely long.
One of the things i learn from your videos is emotions are the sign/lead to our inner world, it helps us understand ourself and our past, negative emotions aren't bad or meant to wash away. We can choose to proactive work with them to improve our lives in general. This lesson is very helpful for me, thank you 💗
Thank you so much! I loved everything about this video, what you said, the way you said it, your smile, the colours and the environment around you. God bless you
It's interesting how I feel how chronic stress can be both a blessing and a curse at the same time. For instance, I do custom cabinetry and finish carpentry for my business. There are so many variables with the work I do that could screw the project up and cost me my own time and money as well as the emotional stress that goes with failure...mostly shame. I do well with taking out as many of those variables as possible. However, the stress that I put myself through every job is taxing. Thank you for sharing these exercises and will try them out. Also, thank you for all that you do as it has a positive impact:)
I just want to be more cheerful. I’ve noticed myself thinking more negative thoughts about myself instead of positive. I used to be so positive & happy & as I’ve gotten older (62 & retired), I catch myself thinking more of a negative thought pattern & then I scold myself, redirect my thought & move on. I’ve got to get out of this mode. I guess it’s become a habit I am just noticing. I’ll be working on this. Thanks for your ideas! 😊 🙏🏻
Catch 22. If you’ve broadened your outlook, & let go of anticipating the worst… but then the worst happens (more catastrophic than you first imagined years ago) - almost reinforcing you were wrong to relax. And then you feel immense bad feelings, so turn to reflection, analysis, worry, (unable to see fixes) … it’s a tough one to get out of. I’ve tried to engage my brain in work, being useful. But it’s a temporary reward. I wish counsellors knew many of these topics and could unlock the tools / options of sight.
I am an avid mental health awareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my RUclips channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💚
I am new to having an anxiety disorder. It makes me want to cry all the damn time. And it's even worse, because I'm also struggling with depression at the same time. So, it's like I'm constantly battling between the past and the future on a constant level. It's so tiring. The tiniest things, such as asking a question, put so much pressure on my chest. Sometimes I just simply don't want to live. And I don't know what to do.
I have Complex PTSD and it's ruined my life. I'm also diagnosed with Schizotypal PD so the "magical thinking" part was not lost on me! This was a very good video and I would recommend "The Chimp Paradox" by Professor Steve Peters, it's similar to what you discussed but has its own specific and simple model. Thank you, all the best from England 🇬🇧 🏴 ❤
To me, I worry a lot about the future of this earth. The news, politics, and wars are all things that I worry about a lot. To combat these worries, I don't usually do things like "scheduling" times to worry. I combat these problems by doing more things that increase my happiness. I love to solve Calculus Problems, do Sudoku, Watch video game RUclips videos, and listen to Disturbed music. That's usually how I combat my worries.
Thank you for the great content, Emma. I am always anxious for all my life, but now i understand why i worry. I will practicing to change my worry in a more helpful way.
I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. ruclips.net/user/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!
This is helpful for people who have not experienced significant childhood traumatic abuse. In those cases worry may have actually saved their lives by keeping them from acting in ways that might have caused their abusers to behave even worse. Sad but true.
True, worry saved their lives then. But if the trauma is in the past, then it becomes a maladaptive behavior to behave as if the trauma is still ongoing. Actually that's the goal of therapy for CPTSD, to teach the body and mind that the trauma is over, it's actually safe now
My thing is. I worried about getting fired and got fired. So my brain was worrying about getting fired because of actual things that were happening that made me feel as though I was about to get fired. Sometimes worry isn't irrational and what I need is to figure out a way to think "well even if it does happen, i'll be fine rather than it probably won't and this is an irrational fear".
Worrying often comes from things and subjects that are never fixed in the common culture. It is many times a question of thoughts and matters that are not addressed in anywhere and not told in anywhere as such that they would not cause trouble or worry. There are big holes in things that are addressed publicly regarding many things that are important and cause much worrying in life. Usually, things that are addressed properly do not cause worry and things that are left out of it cause it. They are always experienced alone with things that are thought to exist only with him or her and no-one else, because of wrong and misleading information. This kind of loneliness is very important in matters that connect to this subject. There is not enough information available about the certain things that cause it and they are not handled consciously enough in the public culture. There should always be a general consciousness about the common things that cause worries in life and they should be taken in to notice with these subjects and not ignored totally. It is very childish to ignore things like this and this is something very fundamental. More care for the importances of things should be shown in this connection. Worrying is a consequence of irresposibleness in the society or in the public channels, in connection with wrong and misleading information. Usually homelessness is a major thing that causes a lot of worrying and nothing is done to improve anything about this. Losing health is another thing. It's like they don't care anything about how these things are experienced, although it is important and has always been. No-one should ever understate the importance of worrying that people experience in life. They should be seen as a signal of the most important things in life as being in danger and treated as such.
How do you not worry about your grown up kids? Seeing them on paths that aren't right. How do you stop worrying about your aging parents and all that comes with that? Im 51. And am filled with constant worries
Thank you for your helpful videos!! Also thx for reminding me of Dr Rossman… he’s a great resource & his office is right around the corner from where I live 🙏 I will check out his book. 😊
On the flip side, if worry is excessive thinking about the worst case scenario, we could help ourselves by making it into a game where we also think a lot about the best case scenario - then we can teach ourselves to have balance between the good and the bad.
Just a suggestion: If one could train the mind to replace worry thoughts with whatever prayer or mantra, it can change our cognition to being more mindful.
I get so anxious about things going badly but they have never gone bad at all. Despite the evidence of nothing bad happening i still cant stop worrying and being very anxious. I cant control things
very helpful content presented in a way thats easy to receive, thank you so much, i sent a BAT token Tip from Brave browser to Therapy in a Nutshell, but it said that youre not yet set up to receive it, thank you again, for your understanding demeanor and frank truths im now becoming aware of, looking forward to sharing your info with my therapist
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"I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened."
-Mark Twain
Hope that can be me too
@@lessismore8533 "We suffer more in imagination than in reality."
-Seneca
"Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems."
-Epictetus
"The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own…"
-Epictetus💜
I divide problems into 3 groups.
1. I can fix it now.
2. There is a fix, but not right now.
3. I can't do anything about it.
For group 1, I fix it right now, so no need to worry.
For group 2, I let it go until the fix is possible, then I fix it, so no need to worry in the interim.
For group 3, if it's a problem beyond my control, there's no point in making myself sick with worry over something that is completely out of my hands. It is what it is. Life is like that, sometimes.
Thank you, Glen, for your insightful comment! Your 3 group idea is very educational and helpful!
Easier said than done with the 3rd point. I try to stop worrying about things out of my control, but the thoughts constantly come back to me
@@darthzayexeet3653same here
@darthzayexeet3653 Yes, same... thanks for this though, it was helpful
No jokes, this helped me. I‘m writing this down. Thanks!
1. Schedule Worry Time to problem solve
2. Challenge negative thoughts with positive ones.
3. Recognize, understand, and be in touch with your emotions.
Thank you
is this a summary of what she said?
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@@louern123 no its just something A RUclipsr decided to pull out of their hat
To be in touch with your emotions, is welcoming them as they are, not trying to fix them or saying there are good or bad. So you're not attached or trying to avoid them. I'm reading Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender, by David R. Hawkins, it's really a good book. I also do meditation everyday to help me slow my mind and relax my body.
I talk to a lot of people who can’t afford therapy and always recommend this channel. It’s so helpful. ❤
Same!
Agree. I watch a lot of these, take down notes, use the techniques and review them periodically. I figure it's about the same stuff I'd get from in-person counseling (if I'm lucky) 😄
Richest country in the world and we can't afford Housing, vehicles, food, or healthcare. Sad
Thank you for this information. I've been having a hard time lately. I've barely eaten in a week, have a hard time falling and staying asleep and woke up the last 4 days feeling so bad I cried. I'm at my wits end. Your videos help. I feel like the more I learn the better I feel. There's hope for self improvement yet.
Same
Same
Stay persistent, god bless
Hope you're doing better now
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I just want to take a moment to thank you. I have been having anxiety and panic attacks over the last several years. It was a new feeling because I have always been mentally and emotionally very strong. I did not even realize what I was experiencing was due to emotional trauma. I have always plowed through even the most difficult of circumstances and that’s why this new feeling that made me so uncomfortable was frightening. The harder I got on my self to try to make myself get through it the more the anxiety increased. You have been so instrumental throughout the years to help me manage my anxiety to make room for it and to understand my emotional well-being. I was so comforted to know that Olympic gold medalists NFL players etc. have suffered with their trauma and emotional physical responses. To know that these professional athletes who are obviously mentally strong, emotionally strong and disciplined have had to learn how to cope with these feelings made me understand that it was not a weakness on my part. Anyhow realizing what is happening in your own body and then figuring out how to change it is no easy task. That’s where you came in and I appreciate you so much because I have honestly reaped the benefits! There are no words to express the gratitude that one feels by being able to eliminate or greatly reduce and manage anxiety.
What a beautiful and open-hearted response! It was a joy to read it ❤
@Dani You are judging without understanding. I do apologise that you feel like that is what I was communicating.
A lot of my friends are experiencing increased anxiety recently and I didn’t realise that it’s a symptom to both menopause and peri menopause. You may be too young but just in case it is another factor women should know about.
I knew what you meant re weakness, there was definitely no harm meant.
@@tiddlywinks456 thanks for the info. And your confirmation on my comment.
At first that’s what I thought, that it was… menopause. Recall that I said I’m strong and plow through things? People have often said things like, “ a train can knock you down and you get right up”. That’s the part that eventually caught up to me. Decades of pressures and stresses that I didn’t deal with properly. I was all mind. My emotions were my greatest WEAKNESS. On my journey with the anxiety/panic attacks, I now realize I must change. It’s a great change…. I’ve been forced to recognize and learn emotional regulation and rebuilding myself. It’s interesting 🤔 something that was confusing, frightening and robbed me from peace and joy has become the catalyst of a new improved me 😃. Its s journey and as you know…we benefit greatly from each other and from the resources online. Like this channel! Thanks you and carry on on this journey as we all look to understand ourselves and others.
@ wendy Diaz, thanks for sharing your journey, I found your openess and honesty about how you struggled with this to be really refreshing and honest. That took bravery (yes it did, putting yourself out there always does). Knowing others who look strong also have struggles reinforces in me the need to not judge by appearances.
Thank you, Emma. What you do is extremely helpful to people.
Thanks, I couldn’t pay for myself 👍
I am a mental health counseling student ending my second year and I watch your videos every day. I am an online student so watching your videos has just added so much depth and value to what I am learning. I picked up your emotional processing course yesterday and I’m really looking forward to it! Thank you so much for these videos.
Hi Emma, would you be able to make a health anxiety video for people who have actual health issues? Love your content, thanks for all you do.
Very helpful I'm 72 years old I've worried my whole life to prepare myself for things that never happened the one thing I never worried about what's my wife dying I'm in therapy now trying to find out what went wrong thank you so much
I don't know what I'm worried about like it started about 3 months ago and I'm worried it's not going to go away
Hey Christian, the only time that exists is right here right now. I hope you find peace and reclaim the joy of the present moment by becoming deeply centred in the now and taking some deep breaths and becoming still.
Your videos have helped me so much over the past year. I’m like a different person mentally and everyone around me has noticed the change yet my family/friends aren’t the type to watch therapy videos on RUclips and it’s so frustrating not to be able to share your knowledge with them! Plus your voice is amazing…🙏 TY!
You know what, your channel is the most helpful thing ever happened to me since I’ve been back in a bad anxiety circle with lots of physical symptoms. Thank you. Honestly i am so grateful for u
I have no words for what you do for all of us. I wish we were neighbors 😂 u r truly an amazing human being. Your videos are now part of my everyday- your voice and compassion is remarkable ❤❤❤❤ everybody watching your videos is thinking the same thing on behalf of myself and everybody else I’m sure we wanna all thank you 2000 times for all of your information… God bless
Someone overstepped my boundaries and I have been worried about them doing it again. Its been in my head for days and days.
It made me feel really vulnerable, angry and helpless. Right now there is nothing I can do about it, but if it happens again, I will definitely speak up.
I'm a therapist and you are great! Thanks!
Used to worry a lot, and blamed myself for both not getting it right *despite* having rightfully worried about something, or for having worried for nothing, and for worrying, and for not worrying - the whole thing.
#1 worked for me (putting time aside to address those worries) but not until I switched my mindset to being gratful (or least pretending to be at first) towards my brain for coming up with those worries, no matter how silly they were ... some sort of "ok yes I get it, doesn't sound great, doesn't look very likely to happen either, but if it did here's how we should probably react, good? ok, thanks, see you next time"
I wish I could give you a billion thumbs up because I been doing this my whole life. Thank you for addressing this! In the past I noticed when I focus in writing a story or using my imagination with fun things I overthink less. I drive better and slept better. I need to try that again.. busting bad habits looking too much in phone is so difficult..
This was so good and helpful. I began doing neuroplasticity 2 years ago and I also implement Dr Caroline Leafs Neurocycle! Has truly changed my life!
Thanks so much for this video! Educating and getting this truthful info out there will help so many overcome depression. It’s not a chemical imbalance but an imbalance in the nervous system because the brain is off balance because our thoughts and beliefs are so off balance due to the childhood traumas! Medication can’t treat a unhealthy soul - mind will and emotions- out thoughts and beliefs!
God bless you!
Are you talking about her App? I just started today and praying it helps me. 🙂
Yes , I read Caroline’s book and worked on rebuilding past experiences. So very helpful.
Neuroplasticity is like Neurofeedback? Does it really help?
@@lucyprice7679 I read Caroline’s book and feel it helped me locate the root of my anxiety and rebuild over the trauma experiences. I also started roller skating because I learned how doing something physical can literally help the mental part of the brain 🧠 that helps with regulation. Skating is mental, emotional and physical, so it’s been a real great journey. Use what ever works for you.
You really have a gift! I’ve been in therapy off and on for years and I’ve never had anyone touch on this. It’s so helpful! I’m really glad I found you.
Best wishes. Are you from Allen, Texas?
Worrying is what led me to the discovery that all my autoimmune problems are stemming from a MAJOR liver fluke infestation. Can't believe I've had them for years! But really, THANK YOU because your videos literally changed my life and helped me to heal and reprogram my nervous system from cptsd. It's also what led me to the discovery that I had ADHD. Thank you so so much!
Hey! How did you figure out what it was?
@@maxdatsun a video about them. I got feeling.. Starting a parasite cleanse (be CAREFUL with the dosing it can cause MAJOR major problems if you take too much and put you in the ER) and passing them in my stool. When they start to die off it creates a lot of anxiety and moodiness it's weird. I also have started to eat for my blood type which has been seriously life changing.
@@ZombieKayla sure it wasn't Candida? What were your symptoms going get that book one type o any pain symptoms?
OMG!! This video is an eye-opener for me. For years, I have been thinking that expecting good things would jinx at me and thinking the worst case scenario would bring good outcomes; it happened many times and this notion got rooted in my mind in such way that I am literally anxious to think about any good/positive outcomes !! I just never had an explanation why things are always like that till I watched Emma dissected the whole thing. I am truly grateful to her for guiding people like me through such tough times. Thank You so much Emma! Love, Prayer and Best Wishes for you! ❤
I'm unlearning so much unhelpful stuff, thanks to you. Your videos on neuroplasticity are awesome.
Your videos are so well structured, no matter how anxious I am when I start watching them, I always feel a ton of relief once they're done playing. Thank you!
Hey Emma! Thank you for another great video ❤
May I ask you to talk about this phrase?
I think it's closely relate to how we think and feel to all events in life, either inside or outside of us.
Dr Joe Dispenza says: The body doesn't know the difference between a experience and a thought. You can literally change your chemistry, hormones and genes simply by having an inner event.
Thank you so much! This actually makes a lot of sense, I will put all your recommendations into practice right away!
Feels like a Jedi mind trick every time I watch your videos, because I love all of them! They’re so informative and you’re so charming thanks for all the info!!!
Thank you! I'm going to implement all 3 things now. I am imagining myself doing them and feeling so much lighter, free, and smiling/laughing more...and sleeping peacefully.
Incredibly helpful. This channel is my morning walk buddy and I am not only becoming physically healthier but mentally more stable and strong. I am more accepting my situation now than before more incredibly at peace with it all than before. Every step, every breath, every blink became so testing at one stage (note I changed my status to testing where as before I would run to words like difficult, painful, etc). I am registered in the course and I am reading the books and I am so greatful to realise how powerful my mind is how it can ground me or steer me in both right or unwanted directions. Thank you for the work you are doing. Love and respect from Sydney
Psilocybin containing mushrooms saved my life. The drastically reduced my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quite illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would had became medically dangerous to quit. It has also helped me survive depression.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across *dr.jeromespore* a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
I witnessed death up close to someone who raised me! It was Very unexpected and traumatic events that happened that I honestly wished I wouldn't have seen or experienced! RIP PAPA
But Every since then I have high ANXIETY with major ATTACKS and was diagnosed with PTSD! These attacks happen so often I can't hold down a job. It literally controls my life! I could be feeling fine and then all of a sudden it feels like a wave of fear starts at my head and goes to my toes. and now I'm in panic mode!!! I have these attacks bc I experience "normal" things such as tickle in my throat or body aches or pains in random places! I assume the worst and automatically think that I am going to die. My attacks seem to get worse at night and every single day I have an attack of some sort. Most of the attacks last about an hour and I am SICK of existing and wasting my life bc I am like a ticking time bomb. Do you have a video to help. I've watched just about every video you have posted. please please write back! 🙏
i hope you're feeling better
Yes, worry may be a reaction but you've put your finger on one of the things I've been struggling with: daily I find it harder and harder to move on and/or cut the umbilical cord of my past. However you live your life, your past is something thats in a sense "happened" to you. The more we live, the more the past enlarges.
Our life experiences accumulate every day and the past enlarges, yes. But they also move further away from the present. So there should be time to analyze your experiences and heal, because you’ve survived said experiences and that HAS to make you stronger :)
The past is just that. The past. What we have is Now. Face forward and live in Now, don't keep looking back at the past. The past only exists in your mind, it's gone. Again, live Now, all we have for certain is Now.
Hi MoodyDude, your comment spoke to me. I have had a habit of replaying past scenarios of betrayal, reliving them over and over. I have made a conscious effort to say to the "betrayors" (in my own head), "I forgive you. I release you." The more I do this, the more peace I experience and the more distant and faded those memories have become. I pray you have peace in your life and are free from past trauma. 🙏 Much love ❤️ Alaska Granny
@@ccpperrett7522 I believe the quicker you identify objective problems in your life, the more forgiving you can be to the situation. Believe me, the things I find hardest to forgive in my life are things I have let myself be deluded to the longest. I also believe that getting rid of your old self is not enough, nor is letting your new self grow.
Glad to give you my experience and insight, however small.
I'm not sure I've commented on your videos before, but I've enjoyed them for quite some time. I've found them very helpful as well as the fact that I'm just really amused we have the same name, general age/stage of life, and religion.
I was recently diagnosed with POTS (Postural orthostatic takicardia syndrome) and since getting treatment not only has the dizziness gone way down but for the first time in literally years I'm no longer in fight or flight. I was telling my husband this evening that it's weird. I feel such relief and excitement that I can finally be productive, but there's also this numbness that I can't explain. I can't be positive, but I don't think it's the beta blocker. I think it's because I literally have forgotten how to function out of fight or flight. With the drastic increase in POTS the last couple of years, and because it effects the automatic system and messes up not just physical health but mental health as well, do you think you could do a video on mental health and POTS? While I've seen a lot of evidence of correlation, I've not seen any actual mental health specialist talk about it
This video just changed my life
Just wanted to tell you, how good your videos work if you constantly look them.
I'm working together with a professional therapist, to not develop delusions about psychology and it really works well altogether.
Thank you very much for providing free, very important informations about our psyche.
Thank you so much for this video. It was very informative and helpful. I have always worried about everything and it is exhausting.
I live in Iran and we are having severe protests here , i am hopeful for good changes in my country but sometimes i am sick of anxiety .
Your videos are a big help Emma 💜
As a man I'll tell you to go for your own independence. You don't need those men.
Blessings Risa, to You and your friends. So many people across the world are silently spporting you, (including me of course)....I am glad you are watching this channel....I can't imagine how hard it must be in situations like yours or in warzones etc.
Take care and good luck.
@@JediDarkForce
Ah i believe we are all human before we are men and women , I myself go for my rights and noone can stop me from thinking this way 🤍
@@em945 Thanks for your kindness :*)
Misuse of imagination is a real worry driver. Imagination is an innate resource we often need to be taught to manage usefully. Education emphasises 'paying attention' and 'focussing' - and these are useful skills. Yet we'd do well by learning to break our attention and mindfully focus on other things - especially when it comes to worry! The compulsive what-ifs (?) that keep us locked in a state of hypervigilance. Often, worrying is a response to uncertainty or feeling attached to a specific outcome. Acknowledging this is a useful step - in addition to all your excellent advice. Thanks, Emma. Best wishes, Dominic
This is the coolest channel I have ever found. Thank you so so much for making the first step towards social anxiety treatment that much closer for my type of overthinker! I live in a college town where wait times are extremely long.
One of the things i learn from your videos is emotions are the sign/lead to our inner world, it helps us understand ourself and our past, negative emotions aren't bad or meant to wash away. We can choose to proactive work with them to improve our lives in general. This lesson is very helpful for me, thank you 💗
Thank you so much! I loved everything about this video, what you said, the way you said it, your smile, the colours and the environment around you. God bless you
It's interesting how I feel how chronic stress can be both a blessing and a curse at the same time. For instance, I do custom cabinetry and finish carpentry for my business. There are so many variables with the work I do that could screw the project up and cost me my own time and money as well as the emotional stress that goes with failure...mostly shame. I do well with taking out as many of those variables as possible. However, the stress that I put myself through every job is taxing. Thank you for sharing these exercises and will try them out. Also, thank you for all that you do as it has a positive impact:)
Thank you so much Emma ❤️ this was so helpful, i'll start implementing your tips right away =)
I just want to be more cheerful. I’ve noticed myself thinking more negative thoughts about myself instead of positive. I used to be so positive & happy & as I’ve gotten older (62 & retired), I catch myself thinking more of a negative thought pattern & then I scold myself, redirect my thought & move on. I’ve got to get out of this mode. I guess it’s become a habit I am just noticing. I’ll be working on this. Thanks for your ideas! 😊 🙏🏻
Thank you so much. I am going to use this for myself and share it with clients. It was quite helpful and I took notes. ❤
These videos have been so helpful.
Catch 22. If you’ve broadened your outlook, & let go of anticipating the worst… but then the worst happens (more catastrophic than you first imagined years ago) - almost reinforcing you were wrong to relax. And then you feel immense bad feelings, so turn to reflection, analysis, worry, (unable to see fixes) … it’s a tough one to get out of.
I’ve tried to engage my brain in work, being useful. But it’s a temporary reward.
I wish counsellors knew many of these topics and could unlock the tools / options of sight.
I am an avid mental health awareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my RUclips channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💚
Sometimes the algorithms creep me out but sometimes they hand me the right video at the right time.
I am new to having an anxiety disorder. It makes me want to cry all the damn time. And it's even worse, because I'm also struggling with depression at the same time. So, it's like I'm constantly battling between the past and the future on a constant level. It's so tiring. The tiniest things, such as asking a question, put so much pressure on my chest. Sometimes I just simply don't want to live. And I don't know what to do.
I have Complex PTSD and it's ruined my life. I'm also diagnosed with Schizotypal PD so the "magical thinking" part was not lost on me!
This was a very good video and I would recommend "The Chimp Paradox" by Professor Steve Peters, it's similar to what you discussed but has its own specific and simple model.
Thank you, all the best from England 🇬🇧 🏴 ❤
Prayers for healing and peace for you. Much love ❤️ Alaska Granny
Thank you so much! This is where I am at, I am so grateful!! 💖
Thank you so much for making these videos, Emma! And your voice is so pleasant to listen to.
Thank you Emma for sharing this. God Bless You....
Great video, thankyou. The scheduled worry time, has been a most effective tool, for getting my compulsive worrying under control.
To me, I worry a lot about the future of this earth. The news, politics, and wars are all things that I worry about a lot. To combat these worries, I don't usually do things like "scheduling" times to worry. I combat these problems by doing more things that increase my happiness. I love to solve Calculus Problems, do Sudoku, Watch video game RUclips videos, and listen to Disturbed music. That's usually how I combat my worries.
Thank you for the great content, Emma. I am always anxious for all my life, but now i understand why i worry. I will practicing to change my worry in a more helpful way.
I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. ruclips.net/user/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!
This was helpful. Thank you! I've been worried a LOT these past few months
Revealing information as always! Thank you!
Can you make a video for people experiencing stress and anxiety caring for a sick loved one? (Person or pet)
04:11 Gotcha my brain!
AMAZING CONTENT!!!! this is so liberating! thanks!
Thank you. So many wake up moments in things you said! I need to get better at feeling my emotions!
This is so awesome! I am learning so much about myself from your videos. You are a God send 🙏 thank you!
This was so helpful, thank you!
Everyone needs to see this video! Thank you!
This is helpful for people who have not experienced significant childhood traumatic abuse. In those cases worry may have actually saved their lives by keeping them from acting in ways that might have caused their abusers to behave even worse. Sad but true.
True, worry saved their lives then. But if the trauma is in the past, then it becomes a maladaptive behavior to behave as if the trauma is still ongoing. Actually that's the goal of therapy for CPTSD, to teach the body and mind that the trauma is over, it's actually safe now
God bless you bunches!!! You are a treasured gift to humanity! Thank you 😊 💓 ☺️ 💗
I appreciate your help and also it’s awesome that you also love Christ 💜☀️
I've been a worrier since I was born! Good video.....
My thing is. I worried about getting fired and got fired. So my brain was worrying about getting fired because of actual things that were happening that made me feel as though I was about to get fired. Sometimes worry isn't irrational and what I need is to figure out a way to think "well even if it does happen, i'll be fine rather than it probably won't and this is an irrational fear".
Doing the world a great service.
I sincerely appreciate this video 🙏🏾
Thank you .it was really helpful
This is so true. This channel helps me a lot. Thank you.
your explanation of magical thinking, sounds alot like the OCD cycle I used to get into. Anxiety is always asking what if?
Gosh, this was so helpful. Thanks so much for this!
Thank you for your content
Thanks!
Worrying often comes from things and subjects that are never fixed in the common culture. It is many times a question of thoughts and matters that are not addressed in anywhere and not told in anywhere as such that they would not cause trouble or worry. There are big holes in things that are addressed publicly regarding many things that are important and cause much worrying in life. Usually, things that are addressed properly do not cause worry and things that are left out of it cause it. They are always experienced alone with things that are thought to exist only with him or her and no-one else, because of wrong and misleading information. This kind of loneliness is very important in matters that connect to this subject. There is not enough information available about the certain things that cause it and they are not handled consciously enough in the public culture. There should always be a general consciousness about the common things that cause worries in life and they should be taken in to notice with these subjects and not ignored totally. It is very childish to ignore things like this and this is something very fundamental. More care for the importances of things should be shown in this connection. Worrying is a consequence of irresposibleness in the society or in the public channels, in connection with wrong and misleading information.
Usually homelessness is a major thing that causes a lot of worrying and nothing is done to improve anything about this. Losing health is another thing. It's like they don't care anything about how these things are experienced, although it is important and has always been. No-one should ever understate the importance of worrying that people experience in life. They should be seen as a signal of the most important things in life as being in danger and treated as such.
Thank you so much Emma for a truly wonderful and helpful clip.
How do you not worry about your grown up kids? Seeing them on paths that aren't right. How do you stop worrying about your aging parents and all that comes with that? Im 51. And am filled with constant worries
I worry or get anxious when people shout and when there are special events ,gathering s and I feel submerged by people around me .
Thank you Emma! These videos are very helpful!
Thank you for your helpful videos!! Also thx for reminding me of Dr Rossman… he’s a great resource & his office is right around the corner from where I live 🙏 I will check out his book. 😊
I really like your uploads a lot. Thank you!!
СПАСИБО, Дорогая !!! ВСЕХ БЛАГ Вам !!!
On the flip side, if worry is excessive thinking about the worst case scenario, we could help ourselves by making it into a game where we also think a lot about the best case scenario - then we can teach ourselves to have balance between the good and the bad.
Do you have any content on being stuck in fight mode? (Angry too often too easily)
Just a suggestion: If one could train the mind to replace worry thoughts with whatever prayer or mantra, it can change our cognition to being more mindful.
I get so anxious about things going badly but they have never gone bad at all. Despite the evidence of nothing bad happening i still cant stop worrying and being very anxious. I cant control things
Thanks dear sister..
Love and bless from bottom of my heart😍
Bless from india
Thanks mam for simplified explanation 🙂
Great reminders - thank you for sharing!
very helpful content presented in a way thats easy to receive, thank you so much, i sent a BAT token Tip from Brave browser to Therapy in a Nutshell, but it said that youre not yet set up to receive it, thank you again, for your understanding demeanor and frank truths im now becoming aware of, looking forward to sharing your info with my therapist
Thank you very much for your videos. They are life saving❤
Thank you so much for this. You are a miracle
This is lifee saving for mee . So much thankss 😍
Thank you so much this is very helpful to me.