How to Get Motivated and Stay Motivated
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- Опубликовано: 1 июн 2024
- Knowing how to get motivated is really important.
How to stay motivated is even more important.
There are tons of videos teaching tips and tricks and rah rah motivation, but in this video I’m going to teach you how your brain works so you understand the principle behind how to get motivated and how to stay motivated. You’re going to learn how dopamine, the neurotransmitter of reward and motivation, works in your brain, and four simple things you can do to get motivated and stay that way.
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If you feel overwhelmed by a to do list, reverse it! Some days my to do list is daunting and I just ditch it completely, start a small task and write it down when I’m done. Even small things like taking my vitamins. Instead of crossing off something, you can see what you have accomplished! Mrs Hinch calls it the Tadaa list :)
Ooh I like that!
Thank you for sharing! I'm starting my Tadaa list today :)
That's brilliant, and I'm glad you shared it on this very worthy channel! The name "Tadaa" makes all the difference. I had thought of doing such a list before, but having this name for it envisions a trumpet blast and a hand flourish, in a magician's hat, white gloves and tuxedo. I'm not a big fan of magic, but I'm a big fan of this idea! Thanks again!
@@natashamudford4011 haha yes! I feel like saying tadaa everytime I’ve done something. You described it perfectly. It’s all about the feeling you create :)
@@bw753 how did it go? :)
I am also a therapist. This video is beyond AMAZING. Your ability to clearly explain mental health concepts so anyone can understand and act to improve their lives is a gift. Thank you for sharing you knowledge and gift with this community! 😊
Thanks Laura 😀
you are so right Emma you are truly wonderful
Absolutely
She’s the best out there! On RUclips and in real life ;)
Well said, my sentiments exactly! She is the best!
“I’ll just watch RUclips videos until I feel motivated!” I feel attacked and seen at the same time 😂😂
i do the same thing sometimes!
😄
Also guilty, and lying in bed while doing it!
Me right now ! In bed watching and also looking at weight loss videos!
Me too😂
Guilty of “waiting to become motivated” to begin my tasks, which is repeating my anxiety cycles.
Didn’t realize this.
Today, I pushed myself to do my tasks then I became motivated to do more. It WORKED. I had a really productive day.
So Awesome!!
So awesome! What a great win that was for you!! The more you do that, you are now self-motivated! Remember to celebrate small wins during your journey! You're awesome! :)
Summary of the video in six points - how to stay motivated:
1. Action doesn't follow motivation; motivation follows action. Want to do that one thing? Don't wait for motivation. Just go do it!
2. Take a moment to write down your values. Remind yourself what the purpose of your life may be. That can drive you to do things.
3. Track your accomplishments. Create a way to keep track of what you've achieved so you always remember that you're accomplishing tasks.
4. Reward yourself before a task. E.g., thinking how good you'll feel once a task is over is one way of rewarding yourself before a task.
5. Don't reward yourself for bad behaviour. If you're procrastinating and start doing something fun instead of doing what you're supposed to, you're rewarding yourself for bad behaviour. Use boredom as a motivator if you must.
6. Stop beating yourself up. It's bad for you in the short and long term.
Bonus: when you've achieved a task, regardless of how small it may be, celebrate it. Give yourself credit. Release the dopamine to let your mind know "this was good! Let's do more."
Thank you❤
When u said „good work u are trying to get better“ I cried. This video is exactly what I needed
@@dasdwdw when I saw this comment I didn’t expect it to hit that hard when when she said that I actually cried
Omgoodness! Knew that criticism was a motivation killer!!
Love the little positive step in - toward another! Build on progress not perfection!!
Same
Don’t cry - Smile
“The more you do, the more you are motivated.”
This shook me.
I’ve lost a lot of motivation, and this is what I needed to hear. I’m gonna also take some other tips here like marking the stupid little boxes in a tracker, and imagine how I feel once I reach my goals.
It sounds so silly, but I do genuinely feel good when I complete the tasks I’ve put off for a bit.
And remember, when you feel like procrastinating, put it off! Seriously though, I've been depressed for 40 years. I think she just showed me why. I'm in shock. 12 therapists and thousands of dollars, when what I really needed may have been this one video.
👍👍
I know rite!!!!
Me too. All my life being told “finishing that task is it’s own reward” meant nothing to me, and now I understand why. This is life- changing.
I’m 62 and I’ve had anxiety, depression, fear, and motivational issues my whole life. All of your information is great and I could listen to you all day long but that’s not getting me off the couch. I’ll finish this video and then I’ll go make the bed and find something else that needs doing. Then I’ll make one of my rewards to watch another of your videos.
Thank you for your helpful video!!
How to stay motivated:
1. Write down your values!
2. Track your accomplishment!
3. Reward yourself before the task!
4. Stop rewarding bad behavior!
5. Stop negative self-talk!
I love u, u guys can do it, make it and conquer it!!
Hi Emma, I found you when I was in the lowest point of my life. You have helped me alot. I can't thank you enough for putting out those videos for us. I pray for you and your family's good health,joy,happiness.
Thank you Anxina, God Bless You!
Thank you very helpful
I'm gonna try your plan
My business coach does a "Brain Dump" every day first thing when she gets to her office. Dumps everything out on the paper. Absolutely everything, even if it has nothing to do with work. Then she gets a coffee, takes a few minutes, then goes through that list and picks out only the things that are most important as the days' "to do list'. After she gets even some of it done she takes another break, rewards herself somehow, and begins again. She said she feels great all day and rarely feels overwhelmed. Especially if she gets the things she doesn't like doing done first. Then the rest of the day is a bonus. I like it.
Making supper, esp. a bigger supper used to be a daunting task that I would put off until I was starved, or just pick instead and not eat a decent meal. I had a friend who did a genius thing that helped so much. She would slowly get her utensils and ingredients out. Then she'd start cutting or prepping things. When the cooking part came, it was a lot less to do than starting it all from scratch. I've done it every since.
You had me at "You watched this instead of a cat video." 🥰👍🤩💯👏 I told myself "SO true!" Thank you!
am i the only one who takes notes while watching these videos?
so helpful as always:)
awesome! if you are willing to learn the skills, your life will get better :)
I am right there with you... Jumped up to get a pen and paper!
I am always do but it is only helpfull when you apply it in reality.
And when you start applying it, other factors of your life start telling that your paper notes are just a hypothesis
Yes! I have a document on my pc with links to the videos and a short summary. I write what she says and how this works/affects me. So when she gives examples I write what my situation is. This works wonders!
I am watching it on repeat.
My mother's advice when I was 10 years old in 1963: "if you have to do something, learn to enjoy it." Learning to find joy in everything you do motivates you to move on to the next task. I love calisthenics, exercising 3 hours a day, sometimes only an hour, and when I start sometimes I'm too exhausted to continue. But after a few short exercises, dopamine kicks in and motivates me to do even more. Dopamine also kicks in when I see people who smoke, drink in excess, exhibit road rage, and give myself a pat on the back for not having any self-destructive vices (intrinsic Rewards).
I’m a psychology minor and have never watched a video that was so effective in laying out how motivation works from a truly biological perspective. This is a fantastic video that everybody in the world should be required to watch!
You just helped me realize I use fear to motivate myself to do well in school. I was actually raised in a fearful manner where I was exposed to lots of parental threats and emotional abuse to where I basically didn't say anything and hid a lot of my problems and stress. It's like I'm reconstructing that for myself now. Thanks for this, it really helped me take a step in understanding myself today. Now to apply my new understanding: the fun part. 🙂
Ditto. Resulted in trauma from childhood. As an adult, it's as if I'm re-learning life from scratch from teaching myself healthy values & actions that I would teach my child one day if I want to raise them in a proactive, supportive home.
Wow I gotta say you said it in such a interesting manner actually I was and being raised in a fearful manner where its all about society and literally not about us... but now iam learning a new job and making money 💰 🙂♥️
I am the exact same way! I realized recently that I have NEVER been able to self-motivate without a looming deadline, leading to extreme procrastination and a LOT of anxiety. I'm trying to break out of that and just, being kind to myself
@@na3rial isn't that ADHD ? Me too Relearning life
Wow, you saying that made me realize that I also used fear to ensure I was successful in what I valued. When I recently began the transition to adult hood and college, I just balled up and allowed my stress to take over. In a way, the fear that was induced throughout child hood motivated me. Now I have to rewire my brain to gain motivation without a negative driving force
I've been struggling with chronic procrastination all my life, I suspect I am an undiagnosed Adult ADHD. Your videos are sensational Emma. I've spent years in counselling hoping to be given a model of good mental health. Your simple yet profound words are transformative to me. What a gift to the world. What a legacy you leave. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. :))
I am sorry you had such bad counselling, that they weren't competent or willing to engae to get you helped!. That has been my own experience too, I have lost my life to rubbish and wish I had listened to my disturbed mother who happened to be right about most psychologists etc.Why does no-one do like memma and others online? I think they withhold us knowledge in order to keeo us coming and giving out a lot of money for years. They don't want us to get well as quickly as we could, confirmed also by former therapist Daniel Mackler (Has a YT video on why he stopped being one, it helps at least lifting the fear that it was my fault not egtting help.)Do the 12 steps programs instead?
This video is HIGHLY underrated and recommended
This is actually genius. Motivation is based on the last thing we did, not the thing we are going to do.
Hello Emma, I am so glad I found you! Since adolescence I have lived every day as if it were my last. What motivated me was my 6th grade teacher who I overheard telling my parents I won't do much past the 6th grade. I didn't get sad. I got mad. Now I am a very senior citizen who was a dynamic individual12 years ago. In spite of graduate degrees, knowledge of 5 languages, studying art and music, living in Europe, teaching graduates, young adults and children along with many more reinventions of myself, I am finding difficulty revisiting those accomplishments that made me happy. I write you now with anxiety, depression, and the stress that comes with caring for a loved one who is ill. You have provided me with some sensible and convincing strategies to try and find myself again. Thank you very much.
Thanks for sharing. I too inherited the care of an older sibling. It is my excuse for not excelling or setting goals for myself. I hope this video will help me take back my joy and self care.
*Motivation comes after action*
This video also proves how experience is the best teacher. And how there is no better teacher than experience and no better experience than cheating. A quote.
I had no idea I was causing myself depression. I push myself so hard everyday and I hate when people praise me for it, especially when i think I can do better. In my head I believe I am giving myself room to grow but in reality I’ve been stunting my own growth and causing misery.
our way of expressing these concepts always attracts me, and nothing, but nothing compares with it-- the tone, the depth of spirituality, I can't put it into words. Your Manifesting Manual is something I can read over and over and soak up. ruclips.net/user/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq I am in process of making the routine a solid part of my life, and it has made a difference! I LOVE your 12 meditations too! I know I am a different person after 9 months with Super Manifestor, and in process of continued positive change! You deserve accolades every day of the year! Keep on with everything, and as we say in Spanish, ANIMO! Lots of love and every blessing to you both.
Building Intrinsic Motivation
1. Take down a moment to write down your values
2. Track your accomplishments
3. Reward yourself before the task
4. Stop rewarding bad behavior
5. Stop the negative Self talk
+ Thank you very much Ms. Emma for this wonderful video.
I find it hard to really move on from past lost and it's been quite a while that I've been stuck at the bottom of the pit,
but I believe God graced us life to live for His purpose and I'm trying to embrace and stay with this truth.
I don't want to pity myself for the mistakes I have done, sometimes life lessons are learned best with hard truths.
I tend to be a people pleaser and most of the time I find it hard to face the truth on myself.
I don't want to justify anymore my desolations and yeah, little by little, with one step at a time,
I'll try and make it happen to live life courageously to be able to fully live it.
Thank you so much again for your sense of mission and may God always bless you, your family and your work.
May you be able to help and reach out more people from different walks of life that need to build up this good habit.
I worked very hard to graduate from an intense 2-year community college program under very difficult situations -personal, and work enviroment related situations.
I lost motivation because I ended up with an anxiety disorder and have not been able to find a work place suitable for me. It's been extremely discouraging that after so much effort, time and money I did not have what I thought I'd have after graduation but student loans. I need to start working and taking care of myself, start enjoying myself again, maybe I'll find the motivation to either quit my whole career or keep on trying.
I know God will help me, but man it's tough when you are depressed and also your efforts didn't initially work
Thank you for posting this video. I never noticed that my upbringing destroyed any motivation in me by believiing that if I failed it was all my fault, but if I succeeded it was because someone, or something else was the reason for me achieving it. There was never a reward for me accomplishing anything, just guilt and shame. Now I understand that I was never lazy (like they said) I was afraid. As usual, your posts are helping me grow and become the person I desire to be.
Sometimes you come across a video that makes so much sense and can literally change your life. I’m so glad I came across this one. It’s amazing!
I seriously cannot believe there are ANY dislikes on this video. What you said is absolutely brilliant, and beyond helpful. You explained so perfectly, and made me feel like this is something tangible I can do for myself. God bless you!!
"The more you do, the more you are motivated." It's sooo true. While I was single, I studied, worked in the same time, finished law school, had two bussinesses, I was taking singing lessons, learned two foreign languages and I was all the time "on the go". Then I married and my husband prefered me to be a housewife because we moved to another country and we decided that for the moment I will stay home. In time, I lost my motivation, even if I had a lot of free time, I felt it was never enough and I didn't do almost anything. And I was asking myself..how I could do sooo much just 2 years ago and now I just feel so overwhelmed and unmotivated..and here is my answer. Because in time, doing things like cooking and cleaning (which I consider insignificant) made me loose my motivation. Now we have a bussiness together and I do have my part in it, but not as much as I would like. I just understood what happened with my motivation. Thank you!
Thank you! I just set up an "Awesome" List on my iPhone for things I've already completed. "Hey, Siri, add showered to my Awesome List." Instantly, I felt motivated. Thank you!
We love you Emma, you are a real life-saver! Hope you and your family will have a content year ahead!
Thanks Shabna! I hope you have a wonderful year ahead too!
I can’t explain how grateful I am for you. I used to go to therapy but one day she called me and said they are pausing their practices because of Covid and when they resumed they didn’t even contact me or try to work over the phone. I trusted the therapist and I told myself I’d never go to one again. Thank you so much for spreading your knowledge. I’ve been struggling with depression, adhd and ocd for so long and when I get in a rut it’s so hard to get out. This is my longest one by far been almost 1.8 years but your video has helped me see ways in which I can increase motivation and function like I used to thank you!
Excellent, so true! 👌 When we had to move, my daughter suggested we pack for an hour, take a break for an hour, and repeat. We accomplished SO much knowing a break was within reach. 👍🌞
Pleasure is a state that a person experiences when he obtains something suitable for himself
Have a vision, have a plan, and make steps everyday 💪🏽
Summarizing it like that can be a little problematic too though. As someone who has struggled with motivation, that type of optimism and decisiveness always put me off. Like I didn't even want to think about the concept of motivation, or the relationship between reward and motivation. For people who don't want to think about it, thinking about having a vision, or formulating a plan can be overwhelming. That level of optimism to a pessimist is scary 😅
Like the tl:dr vibe about it just doesn't force us to research and be educated about it
@@asma-pc1og It's good knowing people out there actually think in line with what is realistic.
@@asma-pc1og What is tl:dr?
@@natashamudford4011 Too long, didn't read.
I do this with exercise, small steps first to create a habit. Great information in all your videos, 😊 My reward for yoga exercises is a back that is no longer sore lol
This video has helped me tremendously. I’m newly diagnosed ADHD and even on medication, I still have trouble getting motivated. I’ve been using the tips on here for a few weeks now and I feel the most productive I’ve ever been. Just that has raised my self esteem and given me hope that I can accomplish some of my more challenging goals. I did miss a few days of my medicine and found that I was a lot less competent, so I’m learning that I do need meds, but that is not enough. The tip that helped the most is just making my bed to get the ball rolling and build up to more complex tasks. Thank you ❤
I found this channel after praying for help. You are a God send gift to my life. Thank you God. Thank you Emma ✝️❤️!
Absolutely loved this! I had gotten back into bed, felt like sleeping and feeling low, now I'm up, getting dressed and feeling motivated to enjoy the beautiful day that it is. Thank you 😊
Thank you, after procrastinating for months watching useless videos, I finally found this. Your a gem 🙏
Starting anything against chronic CPTSD and chronic fatigue is a whole different box of tricks!
I feel like depression for me was because I did too much for other people and not enough for myself. The reasons for it also is believing people you live with aren't part of your problems.
In my case people was my problem. They refuse to acknowledge your pain and you put it down deep in your body.
Taking advantage of the one that gives too much of herself away.
I took back my personal power with Boundaries and believing no one was coming to rescue me, I had to stand alone and learn to love myself before I released myself from depression.
I choose to not get depressed again because of people dedicated to keeping me down. I love your videos. Thank you.
I just wanted to let you know that just the fact of listening to you gets me into a hope state. I feel as if someone actually cares about my struggles. ❤ thank you for choosing your career 🎉May God keep blessing you!
What do you want to be doing with your one wild and precious life? I love that poem. God bless you Emma
This may apply perfectly to people with relatively stable feelings of self worth and confidence, however, anyone who has been abused and traumatized around achievement may understand that taking a productive action unlikely results in a reward/dopamine reaction, but instead triggers feelings of deep shame or sadness; maybe anger towards one's abusers, but that's on the good days. I can't remember the last time any of my actions resulted in a feeling of reward - most of the time I have to draw from sheer willpower and get through an extremely ugly process of inhibition, feelings of worthlessness and grief - and I know it's that way for many others, too.
I don't mean to devalue the content of these videos, I know they're incredibly helpful to many people and I have learned a lot from them as well. Sometimes I just think that they oversimplify reality; or maybe rely too closely on the theoretical formula, disregarding that there are obstacles created - especially through early or chronic abuse or other forms of trauma - that can't always be bypassed or even worked through easily. It makes me feel lonely, frustrated and defective at times, watching these videos, trying to apply what they teach me and then realizing that it just doesn't work the same way for me.
Excellent video! No one has told this truth before. This is so simple yet many of us don’t get it and then we get stuck in the loop of being unmotivated, unorganized and lazy. Thank you so much 🙏
This video is Godsend. Also, I mean...I have been in a rut. For 4 months. It's been so hard. But now that you have explained the dopamine cycle, I can see what is all wrong in there. Thank you. Thank you so much.
Important takeaways-
Action -> Reaction -> motivation
Reward yourself even small things. Praise yourself. Most depressed people, don't behave well to praises (toxic masculinity and the pressure to stick to it), or keep saying that 'I am a loser'. Instead, praise yourself even if you wrote just a paragraph. Because it's better than a blank page.
Thank you. God bless you. 🙏
This describes me so much! When you talked about meditation well I was on Aderall for ADHD and Xanax for anxiety all for about 14 years prescribed by doctors! I also struggle with alcohol abuse. Went to treatment almost two years ago and cut off cold turkey from my prescription meds and didn’t drink for two months. I relapsed on drinking but can’t even be on those meds anymore. I have lost interest in doing the things I love so much it drives me crazy! I swear the Adderall being taken away is part of it! My struggle with alcohol and anxiety is the other part! I wouldn’t be able to write a comment like this if I drank to the point of not being capable. Just wanted to share this for someone else who might be in my situation.
I am a 76 yr old practicing dentist who graduated #1 in my class and I still like my work, but I want to learn to play the piano and have been unable to force myself to get started on what will be a difficult journey. I think you have given me the keys I need. Thank you.
You seem like such a kind person thank you for your motivating videos..
thank you :)
This is literally the best explanation and advice regarding motivation that I've ever found! I've been struggling and searching for answers for a while now. Everything in this video makes so much sense and is really practical. I already feel motivated! Thank you so much for all that you do and for being genuine and caring. You are truly a gift! 💛
I like how you've not scripted this but talking from what you know
I think every time I watch Emma’s videos I just smile. She is just so great and helpful.
As a university student with depression and humongous workload, I just want to say thank you so much for making all these videos. I should have found this video and this channel in general last school year. I was a mess. But, oh well, the past can’t be changed anyways. I hope I do better this upcoming semester. You’ve helped me greatly this past month. Thank you so so much!!
You recognized your problem and found the help you need. Both of with God's help will be successful. One day at a time.
Thank you.
i like "The more you do the more motivated you are"
Greetings from Scotland!
Thanks for watching! I'm pretty sure that most americans have this idealist view of scotland as being a magical place of wonderful accents and beautiful scenery. and Unicorns. :) is it true? As a McAdam I feel like I need to visit someday soon
Like all stereotyoes, partly true indeed, aldo the 50 ways of raining;)
But on a sunny day, absolutely heavenly beautifuf mounyains lakes and tbe sea, all together,
As soon as freedom to travel is back, ylu are welcome, and all who read the comme ts, too!
Thank you so much! My mantra is now “motivation comes after actions”
I have recently lost my father and motivation just went down hill from there but I found this video today and already just from the video I feel motivated to try and fix my life and most importantly build myself up to be the motivated person I used to be. Thank you so much for this video.
Thanks Emma I'm glad I found you I'm living on an island so it's hard for me to access this info. I'm going through a lot of stuff so thanks alot
Glad it was helpful!
I need to exercise today.
I went on RUclips to watch a bunch of rah rah type videos and somehow came across this and this was just better.
Thanks
Excellent, I’ve been stuck in bed/ sofa for 3 days and watching this video has just inspired me to finish the dishwasher task. Thank you 🙏
I love this! The dopamine reward makes so much sense in terms of motivating us. I follow Law of Attraction coaches who recommend changing how you feel as much as possible, and now it makes sense that if there is not a true feeling of accomplishment or reward, you end up feeling even more anxious about manifesting. That's why "rah rah" forms of motivation are not as effective because you need to actually bask in how good something feels and not just distract yourself. I really appreciate how you brought out that you can't feel motivated all the time, but you can develop habits that can motivate you more easily and more frequently. Thanks so much!
yeah! thanks for the comment!
Thank you once more, too bad i couldn't even spend 65 a month for any therapy, but these tips are very powerful. Namasté!
Believe me, her tips are so much more efficient than most therapy!
At least from my vast experiences.
And you can check her tips out anytime you want.
@@lisajohnson6351 agreed!
I’m having so much trouble staying on task with mental health even though there’s so much riding on it I just stop and it’s killing my life
Thank you for explaining that an object in motion stays in motion! Because of the pandemic and my ex partner, I just stopped doing… everything… and now don’t understand the lack of motivation until you explained it. I have to get moving again and I’ll naturally find my energy again! Thanks for the wisdom:)
This is super helpful for someone like me who has ADHD and it’s very hard for me to get motivated to do the “right thing” even when I have the right amount to do that certain task. ☺️
Your friend is not the only student having trouble with motivation these days. I'm going to share this with my teens!
For three years, I've been trying to motivate myself; I graduated during the beginning of the Pandemic, and my parents don't help. Although I try not rely on them (because they don't help out with a lot to help me keep on going without it being forced), it feels so difficult to do so. I love working out and learning, especially writing and art. With only bursts of being able to do all of that now.
Damn, I needed to hear that.
I had such a hard time making myself start things.
This video came at the right time. I've been struggling with motivation the last few months and have been feeling pretty stuck. This video makes so much sense. I've been focusing too much on the feeling rather than the doing. Thank you so much for sharing!
To the person reading this, remember that everything begins with you. You are Light, You are Peace, You are Harmony
God bless you, Emma McAdam. You're light when life gets dark.
My ADD has led me to begin countless "new and exciting" projects. I know that's not just an ADD thing, but for me, sustained focus has always been a challenge. Then, I look around at all these half finished projects and feel overwhelmed and depressed. I now know I've relied on the dopamine rush I get from the positive feelings and excitement by beginning something new. Your advice and demeanor in this video is a very welcome and sensible elaboration of the Action/Reward/Motivation cycle. So now...my task is to CHOOSE to override the FEELINGS of no motivation by taking ACTION FIRST. Thank you!
This is just beyond amazing! Thank you for putting it out. I have been using the same principle from the last two years and I have cultivated so much self-trust and self-discipline within me that not following through on my word is no longer an option. It's all about CONSISTENTLY PRACTICING. After a while, our subconscious gets reprogrammed to the point that our disciplined, intentional habits become the new autopilot. Thank you for making this wonderful video! ❤️
Omg this video is AMAZING!!!!! Ive been stuck for years procrastinating from doing important tasks and waiting till I get the motivation. I've watched loads of videos on RUclips on motivation but this is by far the best one I've seen! I Love the way you simplify everything and give loads of examples, thank you very much x
Thank you for this video, i wrote a sticky note on my bathroom mirror quoting you; "Motivation comes AFTER action." I will tell my college students about this.
Thank you for this. I have a good understanding of if you accept challenge... you will be rewarded, and knew that I needed to work to get the motivation.. but still, hearing you explain it in such a brilliant way (i.e. it's not magic - it's the brain) really helped. Thank you so much!
I keep watching this video over and over, and taking notes!!! ❤️ With the virus, most of my normal community activities have gone away, and I am an empty nester (husband still works). I need to create more of a new daily routine, (also to help with anxiety and low level depression) and this is WONDERFUL!!! So many amazing recommendations well organized and packed into 16 minutes! Thank you ❤️!
I’ve had a spinal injury for four years now. One failed surgery in 2017, been waiting for fusion since June. I appreciate the delay can’t be helped because of the pandemic.
I’ve gained 43lb’s gone up 3 dress sizes. I can’t exercise because I’m in chronic pain and get spasms if I move too quickly.
I used to be very motivated most of the time, more than most.
I have to force myself out of bed to do little chores. I’ve become a hoarder and clutter everything. I can’t clean very well because I can’t bend or lift without pain.
It’s got me in a cycle of depression.
I feel stuck....
Is there a way for family member or friends to come over and help with the the cleaning? Maybe you do one big clean for January and then once a week they come over and just help with maintenance? I know having my space clean makes me feel like I can breath. If no family or friends maybe getting someone to help with the big clean up ? And then asking family or friends. For the weight gain, try to meal prep when you feel good then you can track your food and that'll help with the weight gain. Cbd has helped my pain soo much I do smoking and edibles. Theres lotions also and bath products. I use everything magnesium internal and external. Try to get inflammation down, turmeric is really good. I truly hope you get your surgery soon so your not in so much pain. :)
I totally understand. I injured my back caring for my parents 24/7 a couple years back. I’m in constant pain. I’ve gained almost 50lbs. Everything is a struggle. I’m depressed and deal with feelings of anger, regret and guilt all day, every day.
@@LuanaOnMaui I’m sorry 😢 I don’t feel angry just frustrated that I can’t help myself, it’s humbling to be physically disabled.
Today was a good day for motivation, I think I’ve started to think more positive because I’ve joined Noom and lost 3 lb in a few days but not had to diet. I think it’s more about self awareness, little steps, as in every little helps.
I’m hoping I wake up as motivated tmw 😆
@@AJLORACLE - That’s awesome!! 👍👍
My tip: do not think about it, don't stare at the task at hand. Don't let your mind trick you and fool you telling you it's too hard and you can't do it. Just start. It doesn't have to be perfect. Even if it makes no sense at the beggining, the sole action of trying will give you enough gratification to keep on doing it better and better until it starts making sense. Once that happens, hyperfocus kicks in and pieces of the puzzle become easier to put together. Do not give up, ever! Just keep on trying!
Wow, thank you for the explanation on the action --> reward --> motivation
On extrinsic motivation: I started smoking 5 yrs ago and know it is horrible to stop now because is the main reason why I work
I'm working hard to develop intrinsic motivation, and knowing that it comes after the action makes me feel relive
This video came right on time! 2021, we’re ready for you!
yes!
Your about says your channel is rolling but nothing to see or sub for att all
@@froglobster we are rolling this Sunday. The very first episode premieres at 9am CT! Thank you for your patience!
@@reallifepsych3309 That’s 3 1/2 hours away -going back to sleep now -I’ll check it out thanks you!
@@froglobster Thank you! Very excited.
OMG 🤯 thank you so much. I am very happy to learn this! I was asking my therapist about how to improve my motivation and self esteem but never got a clear answer. You gave me the exact well explained answer I was looking for! Thanks a lot ❤️❤️❤️
Omg this was so informative and your so right . When I didn’t work and had all the time in the world I got nothing done. Now I’m bac teaching and more motivated to do things even after work. I never understood why. Interesting ty
OMG... Thank you so much for making me understand why I just can't get started or motivated anymore.
I've been trying to get my life back together after I was wrongly accused and sent to prison, thus losing my wife, job, my friends and nearly my home.
I work again now, but have no interest in anything after work....IVE BEEN WAITING TO GET MOTIVATED....I now understand, thank you so much, you've made me make a small task sheet, things are going to get started and completed, hopefully snowball onwards and I'll be up and running again soon.
I'm totally unmotivated, at present, need a solution
One baby step, then congratulate yourself
Great, because this is doable!
I honestly don’t know the last time I actually got dressed and did my hair. Blah.
Omg! This is perfect timing ... really needed this🙏
I am sooo due for a medication adjustment, but with Covid & living in a new area, it's going to take a while til I find someone other than my GP, whom I've relied on because I've had such a hard time finding a psychiatrist. I'm unipolar, so I'm down a lot, but the worst is when the crash comes & I can barely crawl out of bed. I've set up a sort of system for myself so that I can have those days without it causing chaos -- it almost runs itself. It's been trial & error, but I'm kind of proud of how far I've come. I measure progress by how much food I've been forced to throw out (None in two months! YES!), how glad I am the kitties have clean catpans -- weird little things that will haunt me when I let them slide on a down cycle.
I'm hoping that in spring, I can take more steps towards forcing myself out of bed & doing the things you're mentioning here. The biggest most important lesson I've learned is to pace myself so I don't get overwhelmed.
Thanks so much for making these videos for us, they're actually helpful, and HAPPY CHRISTMAS
Loyal Love: “motivated by commitment, integrity, loyalty, and deep attachment. It is often used in connection with God’s love for humans, but it is also love shown between humans”
I have had times when I could achieve a lot because I felt good getting good grades but other times if there is not a deadline, I keep putting off something till I feel like it's good enough which it never is and I can't get it done and then I feel bad and it's harder to do things.
Damn I really needed to hear this today. Immediately subscribed. Thank you for taking the time to explain this in full. I think this is the first time I’ve watched a motivational RUclips video and actually felt better for watching it. You’re a great speaker (and motivator) Cheers ❤️
Boredom is such a good motivator! Boredom often causes me anxiety, panic and discomfort. I’m always hunting for ways to curb boredom at all times of day, whether that be sleeping, working on a project, going out, or eating, it doesn’t matter. Many a time have I wanted to clean to get rid of my boredom as well as the overwhelm and anxiety that my messes cause me. Hell, I found this video because I’m trying to clean my room! This video is unbelievably helpful and has taught me so much so far about how motivation works and why I struggle to start projects or continue them. So, thank you, I appreciate this very much! ❤❤❤❤
So, upon learning that I have persistent reactive depression, a lovely young lady known to me sent me the link to this video.
This video reminded me of why I actually got interested in behaviour analysis (what you do when you suggest the marking off of calendars or items on lists and so on is in fact data collection for analysis, which is what applied behaviour analysis is about). It brought back the things I used to suggest to others ... start small, let the dopamine come after that first couple of instances the behaviour to be reinforced and allow the anticipatory spikes to build up slowly.
Thank you for making these videos.
And, if D is reading, thank you too!
Oh thank god, some motivation advice from someone who actually knows what they're talking about. Thank you!
Thank you for this! It makes so much sense and I'm grateful I can rewatch to remind myself. Your videos are very helpful. Thanks you!
Thank you. I am going to try and reset my motivation-action cycle to start with action and not motivation. The reward aspect will be difficult for me as I can be very harsh with myself. I will have to try and lighten up on self criticism.
The fact that I could feel my muscles in my entire face and head shift and an actual positive feeling at the first "good job!" says I definitely found the right video. I've seen it come up but I've been *that* low and overwhelmed - I couldn't bring myself to even watch the video. I'm glad I finally did. Good job me!
Biggest takeaway: actions and thoughts drive motivation, trying to bring up the feeling of motivation in isolation is tough