Does Silence Make A Woman Miss You! Here’s the TRUTH (This WORKS!) | Apollonia Ponti

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  • @LivingALifeOfAbundance
    @LivingALifeOfAbundance 3 года назад +3065

    Any time some woman whines "where are all the good men?", I always answer "they're with the good women."

  • @LivingALifeOfAbundance
    @LivingALifeOfAbundance 3 года назад +2166

    The one who cares the least runs the relationship. get with the girl that adores you the most. Not the one you breakin your neck for.

    • @danpost18
      @danpost18 3 года назад +27

      So true

    • @lordvenus7999
      @lordvenus7999 3 года назад +8

      🤣👍

    • @TraeZoe
      @TraeZoe 3 года назад +75

      I feel that. But whats the point in it if you dont care?

    • @izzy561
      @izzy561 3 года назад +81

      What of you're not attracted to the girl who adores me the most? What if I'm attracted to the one I break my neck for? Do I settle for someone I'm not attracted to?

    • @adamgafa1693
      @adamgafa1693 3 года назад +2

      Thanks needed this ❤

  • @MrSimpoge
    @MrSimpoge 3 года назад +1199

    I step away and be silent when I don’t get what I give. If I’m the only one trying, time to walk away and be silent. If they like me, they’ll reach out. Leave the ball in their court.

  • @andhikaranugraha5665
    @andhikaranugraha5665 Год назад +33

    if relationship doesn't work...leave it and find your own happiness...don't make it hard to yourself

  • @ceevishus4130
    @ceevishus4130 3 года назад +292

    I started following Apollonia and others to get over being dumped and heartbroken a year ago. Now I'm here to make sure that never happens again. I've learned as long as you focus in yourself in the relationship, continue to evolve as a man and as a being, you can not go wrong. The woman is not your life, she is one of the many blessings in your life.. Do you 80% of the time and give her 20%.... Never be too available to her even if you want to be.. Learn to say no even when you want to yes..

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 года назад +2

      What if you like her 🤔.!

    • @gogo-bi9qh
      @gogo-bi9qh 2 года назад +16

      @@travisandrews3909 The percent you give her is the percent that will be gutted when she decides she's not happy anymore. I like the 80/20 approach.

    • @samelbamel3500
      @samelbamel3500 2 года назад +9

      @@travisandrews3909 you need to love yourself more. Just appreciate your life and your strengths and goals and look after yourself like you're caring for a loved one who needs you. Ofcourse you want to shower her with love but the end result is you have to give up the time you should spend on yourself to love her. Value your time! And give her what you are willing to.

    • @Veefive5
      @Veefive5 2 года назад +7

      I wish I saw this 3 weeks ago, I gave her way too much of me way too early on and barely said no to her because she's been hurt and I was afraid to hurt her. I broke it off shortly after because I felt I couldn't handle all of her insecurity and self esteem issues. Even though the relationship was short overall the fact that I gave her so much so soon just hurt her more when I broke it off and it made her think all my effort was disingenuous on my end.

  • @ryanbailey8588
    @ryanbailey8588 3 года назад +391

    No silence doesn’t make her miss you. When a woman steps out it’s because she doesn’t respect you or have emotions for you. You can’t make someone miss something/someone they don’t care about. When/if a woman returns, it’s not because she misses you, it’s because she tried climbing to the rung above you (the new guy), missed i (he didn’t want her or she found out he wasn’t worth it), fell, and is trying to latch onto you to avoid falling further down the ladder. Let her fall.

    • @TheFishinDad
      @TheFishinDad 2 года назад +56

      I've had 3 exes now come back to me and tell me they loved me the whole time... after seeing someone else... I turned them all away. Im not a second choice. I know my value. There is a difference between someone wanting you and someone valuing you and that was a hard lesson to learn.

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 года назад +15

      You definitely should make her fall

    • @corby1228
      @corby1228 2 года назад +2

      Blah

    • @FunkyRay2012
      @FunkyRay2012 2 года назад +19

      Your personal experience do not make your statement true

    • @hummingbird7220
      @hummingbird7220 2 года назад +11

      Let everything fall and destroy! Be the watcher, enjoy the view like they did...

  • @fuzzypanda1684
    @fuzzypanda1684 Год назад +12

    Ignoring a girl or giving her the silence treatment will not make her suddenly like or desire you. If she wasn't into you before, all it would do is make her glad that you're leaving her alone, if she hadn't already forgotten you existed. Ignoring a girl only works if she's into you already, in which case, you don't need to ignore her.

  • @AlexMageeTV
    @AlexMageeTV 3 года назад +472

    I go silence when I am completely done. That's when I don't care if she misses me, or what she is up to. I wouldn't go silent as a tactic. Those type of "games" could backfire if someone cares of someone.

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 года назад +17

      That is a good point

    • @jaquariturner6748
      @jaquariturner6748 2 года назад +75

      Unfortunately the reality women do & want the opposite what they say. You show them love, they think u needy, you spoil them, they think you a trick or simp. You have to go silent especially when you working. If you make her a priority she will make you a fan!!!

    • @musicalgapattack3583
      @musicalgapattack3583 2 года назад +1

      💯💯💯

    • @Hohmies86
      @Hohmies86 2 года назад +5

      You use it briefly whether it be a couple hours, half a day or a few times throughout every day.
      Then give attention then no attention
      Too much attention is bad and not enough is also bad
      Ebb n flow

    • @thelegendarycltm7898
      @thelegendarycltm7898 Год назад

      @@jaquariturner6748 thats what im doing now

  • @SomXee
    @SomXee 2 года назад +37

    Silence is my best weapon. I show no emotion at all.

  • @michaellopez9465
    @michaellopez9465 3 года назад +367

    We still talk. That’s enough for me. Right now I’m giving her space. I need her to know I trust her because I was insecure before. I’ve used this time to focus on myself. It’s given me peace within myself to where I don’t need to be constantly validated. I need her to trust that I can be dependable when she asks for space. I love her more than I love the relationship. I think it’s what has allowed me to let go. Doing that has brought us closer. Emotional control is attractive. Self worth is the ticket to avoiding so much friction. You can hear it a thousand times, but until it’s organic to your own thinking... It’ll be easy to see through. Self worth is everything.

    • @algrande2841
      @algrande2841 3 года назад +41

      Bro to hell with her. You was fine before her. Put her on ice. Have a blah attitude and watch the movement

    • @chadrowe8452
      @chadrowe8452 3 года назад +11

      @@algrande2841 is dude a simp? She's getting some "space" alright

    • @chadrowe8452
      @chadrowe8452 3 года назад +1

      @@emstroop8859 I agree that he probably does love her.

    • @grantrmoore
      @grantrmoore 2 года назад +23

      @@emstroop8859 Idk. How many women. Say they want space just to cheat? The past week my gf of 3 yrs was spending her days with me & her nights with another man. I found out about it.. Idk if I should keep her cut off or fold & go back to the relationship.. I have to cut her off I think despite how much I care about her.. I gotta respect myself

    • @aaronwoloshin2113
      @aaronwoloshin2113 2 года назад +1

      Hopefully she isn't out getting banged in her space time

  • @jetclntn
    @jetclntn 3 года назад +205

    It doesn’t matter if she will miss me
    Once she has betrayed me, I won’t put any more effort into her, or call her again

  • @Kratos70
    @Kratos70 2 года назад +41

    If She's Interested In You Then You'll Get Messages From Her, If She Doesn't Message You, Well Then She's Messaging Someone Else. Just Keep That In Mind And Don't Let One Woman Control You, From What I've Learnt Is Just Date Multiple Women And Enjoy Life.
    Unfortunately No Such Thing As A Long Term Relationship Anymore. Lucky They Last 5 Years Today.

    • @Smiler2724
      @Smiler2724 2 года назад +1

      How many husbands and wives broke up relationships? The modern day were better than this era were women love their man be with them till they died

  • @mgu1N1n1
    @mgu1N1n1 2 года назад +88

    Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!

    • @stevieberisha561
      @stevieberisha561 Год назад

      Hahahaha boss move I did this to my. Bipolar ex and got her charged with common assault ✌️

    • @blueduck9409
      @blueduck9409 4 месяца назад

      Damn bro. Sorry to hear you had to do that.

  • @me8999
    @me8999 3 года назад +198

    Im 34 years of age; I learn so much and the reality something that always works is the following: be there for her but not all the time, you need to become an absent individual at least once a week, make her think she's not all special even if she means the world, women love passive aggressive interactions. You cannot be so good nor be an ashole.

    • @yusufalshmere6585
      @yusufalshmere6585 3 года назад +1

      Looking for a marriage is not the real war of life of the life in Yemen I need helps it's asking me to marry him to travel to his country and then ask her divorce

    • @imshaun4563
      @imshaun4563 3 года назад +2

      Nice to hear this from a woman. Thx

    • @Moneyoverbullshit850
      @Moneyoverbullshit850 3 года назад +6

      Damn this coming woman

    • @antoinelyons5323
      @antoinelyons5323 3 года назад +3

      Facts

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 года назад +1

      Facts

  • @chuckhines459
    @chuckhines459 2 года назад +28

    Don't even bother with relationships follow your dreams do your thing and forget about everyone else. Relationships will drag you down play with your emotions and spit you out like your nothing.

    • @Smiler2724
      @Smiler2724 2 года назад

      Of course, loving women is beautiful and getting married is honey moon but after born children than the problem Start.

    • @SolidGeddoe
      @SolidGeddoe Год назад +1

      I keep hearing this but I just don't agree with it all,for me yes I am bettering myself but I can also smash with some females at the same time,the whole black pill including mindset is horrible I don't like it.

  • @LovingYouDaily
    @LovingYouDaily 3 года назад +378

    Lol, everything you've said in this video is exactly what women do. Women always play this ghosting game.
    I literally just went through this. Literally!
    I've noticed like 5 weeks ago that my lady was becoming distant and less available.
    I've made mentioned of what I saw via her actions, to her, she denied it and I left it alone.
    Like 4 weeks ago it got worse.
    if I didn't call or text her, I didn't hear from her period🤐.
    Like I said, I've already made mentioned of those ill actions that she was displaying towards me, and she denied it, so I'm not going to bring that up again to create an argument.
    We literally spoke 3 weeks ago via text messaging briefly. I didn't push the issue as it already became apparent/obvious that she's ghosting or want someone else period.
    As I made mentioned we spoke 3 weeks ago, and throughout the 3 weeks I haven't heard from her, and I haven't message or call her either. Now, here comes today, literally 3 weeks later she messages me out of the blue trying to make small talk🤔.
    I'm not responding because I'm done. That's what the ghosting game gets you, nothing at all. At least from me. I'm to grown and mature for childish games.

    • @danieljoza331
      @danieljoza331 3 года назад +51

      Text her and ask her to hang out. Ask her to go back to your apartment that same night.
      Her attraction towards you dropped but since you distance yourself it went back up. You were probably too needy and shes definitely talking to other people that are displaying more value and are on a more masculine frame than you. Text her and ask to hang out be direct.

    • @frorasu3949
      @frorasu3949 3 года назад +29

      Same thing happened to me exactly. Once you see it and bring it to her attention, let her go. She has already emotionally and mentally checked out.

    • @LovingYouDaily
      @LovingYouDaily 3 года назад +104

      @@danieljoza331 I don't want her back bro. I meant it when I said I'm done. I don't have time for childish games of ghosting. If you can't be an adult, and be direct with me, I don't want you. I mean that. She's done. I have no desire to call or message her. On to the next one who has high interest in me.

    • @markoblanko8377
      @markoblanko8377 3 года назад +59

      Text her and invite her to your spot for “some chill” time. Then you ghost her after you smash.

    • @jeffsmith8065
      @jeffsmith8065 3 года назад +23

      You've talked to her about it and nothing changed,it seems like she doesn't have the courage to tell you the truth and hoping you get the message and she will probably hover around in case things don't work out on the other end if you get my frift

  • @NickNotas
    @NickNotas 3 года назад +96

    Preach Apollonia. Thinking that pretending to be aloof is the answer is so short-sighted. You're still coming from a place of neediness and manipulation. You will also encourage this behavior back and attract the wrong people.
    Instead, do what you're actually trying to accomplish: become an independent, confident man. Have your own hobbies, social lifestyle, friends, etc and balance her within it. If you're actually doing that, then naturally won't get obsessed early on with an idea of someone and she can see you're a high-value prospect. Then if you're both investing in one another and excited by what you see, the connection will grow organically.

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 года назад

      I have hobbies that i do

    • @JT-gm4fk
      @JT-gm4fk 2 года назад

      Pretending to be aloof? Who said anything about Pretending? If you walk away, you walk away. That is independence in itself.

  • @abilitypeta
    @abilitypeta 3 года назад +101

    There's nothing like a good man - good woman .. we attract who we are in the inside , what we attract isn't always what we want... the balance between what we attract & what we want is the only good thing , if not ,be positive , make peace with everything , move on.

  • @joseignaciomartinez1782
    @joseignaciomartinez1782 2 года назад +10

    This is so wise, sound and necessary!!!! There are many gurus out there who suggest to use silence or no contact to attract women, but they rarely reveal something: does that silence comes from a place of lack and insecurity or from your wholeness and calmness? If it comes from an insecure place, you will play mind games or power games with her and that’s not healthy. Neither for you, nor for her.

  • @vanditsampat2768
    @vanditsampat2768 2 года назад +24

    At times, you just want who will accept you how you are.

  • @colinlaidlaw7661
    @colinlaidlaw7661 3 года назад +109

    Man this vid was solid. Beyond the banter, flirtation and game lies the blueprints for healthy relationship dynamics. Pace yourself, prioritise your life and set your sights on someone worthy of your valued attention. So much maturity is lacking but the actual good ones (not the women focused obsessively on her looks) are your green light to success.

  • @matthewellis8626
    @matthewellis8626 3 года назад +32

    When women become distant it's already been Over. Show some self respect and move on with your life.
    It's Very Hard but you will Thank yourself later

  • @johanwaltar5247
    @johanwaltar5247 3 года назад +43

    Hi Apollonia, you've made a very important Comment that resonate deeply in me and probably to other men.
    You mentioned that we can't seek happiness from others. Which is absolutely right, I have to love myself first before I can genuinely love my partner.
    Thanks for sharing your wisdom, you're a real woman.
    Weloveyou.

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  3 года назад +4

      Thanks for sharing!!

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 года назад

      @@ApolloniaPonti yes Apollonia you've did made a very important comment.!

  • @joelombrdo
    @joelombrdo 3 года назад +13

    It depends on the woman. if she really like you it'll bother here that you're silent. If she doesn't really like you she won't give a damn.

  • @CHill-tj4gw
    @CHill-tj4gw 3 года назад +94

    I just had this talk with my girlfriend I told her don’t make our relationship like a job she should want ta call and hang out because she likes being around me enjoy each other let things flow when you force things they fall apart great video ✌🏾

  • @bentikpaulus4335
    @bentikpaulus4335 3 года назад +13

    For a man you need to know what is or will be her role in your life... what men oversee is that women always have more than one option in dating or intimate partners. Work on yourself to become a high value man and women will come and than you will also have options to choose.

  • @jacekbil
    @jacekbil 3 года назад +10

    Guys, if u were prioritizing yourself, goals, Ur vision, friends and her at the end, she would never stop chasing and u wouldn't have to play..the game is natural if Ur mindset is set correctly. Life is simple we build empires,women chase us, that is the dynamic in the relationship that makes her the happiest, to chase best possible, mysterious, strong-willed option she might have.

  • @ArshadAli-sn2cd
    @ArshadAli-sn2cd 3 года назад +41

    Today's modern life dating is very complex and you have tried successfully to make us understand it in a right way. Silence may be used to improve your love life to lessen unnecessary noise in relationship. Delicate subject, delicately described. THANKS. 🌺🙏

  • @Its_antny07
    @Its_antny07 3 года назад +12

    Your idea of having a silence with the women also can happen with the face to face -Thank you for this !! A great insight

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 года назад

      Who do you become silence with a woman when you are face to face?.!

    • @jimishmong
      @jimishmong 2 года назад

      @@travisandrews3909 i am assuming smile and go on with whatever you were doing? Maybe?

  • @DaweshDawesh
    @DaweshDawesh Год назад +1

    ATTRACTIVE IS 1ST IMPORTANT ROLE IS RESPECT. YOU APOLLIONIA PONTIO YOU NEED RESPECT MORE THAN SEDUCING A WOMAN. RESPECT COVERS ALL BRANCHES OF ATTRACTION

  • @andrewparker6574
    @andrewparker6574 3 года назад +10

    I appreciate your presenting silence as a function of our own purpose, rather than a reaction to her or an attempt to draw her attention (though it sounds like that will often be the end result).

  • @adonis6193
    @adonis6193 2 года назад +8

    i love how when I do this its taken as a sign I'm not interested and lose a good one.

  • @PsychicMedium777-uw4mm
    @PsychicMedium777-uw4mm 3 года назад +142

    When it's over, it's over, people!
    Hold your head up, and... move on!
    End of story! 🤨

  • @nesalonso76
    @nesalonso76 3 года назад +115

    This is way too complicated, just find someone who love your mess and then try to be a better man everyday.

    • @steeloned
      @steeloned 3 года назад +8

      Talk about hitting the nail on the head.

    • @CMTEQ
      @CMTEQ 3 года назад +2

      You got it.

    • @FunkyRay2012
      @FunkyRay2012 2 года назад +3

      Then you’ll never be better

  • @arthurdane8508
    @arthurdane8508 Год назад +13

    So essentially
    1) Abundance mindset. Dont go completely cold etc but dont go out of your way to initiate contact.
    2) Face to face silence. Learn to pace your interactions with her, dont go out of your way to overly do it when youre even with her.

  • @josecruz8915
    @josecruz8915 2 года назад +5

    I don't consider myself a therapist, but I do hold a degree in social science. And I have to say this is a very analysis. Good for you. You hit the nail in the head.

  • @TekkLuthor
    @TekkLuthor 2 года назад +69

    The fact that I have to do these things is the reason I don't stress relationships. Women come and go, enjoy as they are, know they'll be gone sooner or later.
    Edit: I like your breakdown in your video. I did feel I have a balanced communication style

  • @turnbucklemagazine7296
    @turnbucklemagazine7296 3 года назад +235

    "Going silent wont work against a mature, healthy woman." Me: A guy likely wouldnt go silent to that type of quality woman to begin with.

    • @jackandbenny
      @jackandbenny 3 года назад +10

      Why would you give her that sole power "thinking that she's mature & healthy". What about you?
      With all due respect. Portray that you are an abundant and not a needy player in this romance dance you're part of... or else she'll truly not miss you!!! There's nothing wrong in seeking more emotional equality in your relationship... if that's what you really want to make you happy. You deserve it and it's also healthy.
      Any concurring or opposing thoughts are welcomed.

    • @danpost18
      @danpost18 3 года назад +14

      So true but that healthy women have to work to be in a relationship. To me if I text her and she never texts me back. She is telling me to hit the road. A reasonable and Purdent person would think the same

    • @MuhammadAliGOAT
      @MuhammadAliGOAT 3 года назад +15

      wrong, I have been hot for a girl who was as high-class as they come.. and it repelled her.. she was always playing the game and making you chase even more (when i was young, immature and inexperienced) then when I got older and experienced she reached out to me and I ignored the message for 7 months.. then I replied and she replied back instantly! then I did not get back to her for 2 months, she replied instantly, then I left it two weeks, she got back instantly, I replied 2 weeks later, she replied instantly, I replied and she replied instantly, I left it for 2 days, she replied instantly, I left it for 2 hours, she replied instantly, I left it for 2 minutes, she replied instantly.. then I replied instantly and she dissapeared for 2 weeks and counting. FUCK THIS, NO GIRL IS WORTH THIS MUCH TROUBLE ha ha ha

    • @deepdiver849
      @deepdiver849 3 года назад

      @@MuhammadAliGOAT Look into yourself, why did you engage with her in the first place when you saw her behavior. This says something about you. Probably you have to fix something within yourself to then choose the proper woman , not the woman you have the “ Hots” for but the woman you admire on a deeper level not only superficial.

    • @ommar460
      @ommar460 3 года назад

      True asf, I went no contact. Because she's just not on my level man emotionally.

  • @fullthrill7314
    @fullthrill7314 2 года назад +17

    My problem is I respond quickly to everything. At work I’m instantly responding and solving problems. I don’t like leaving it hanging over my head. As a result, I do the same in dating and some women find me too available or eager. I hate these games.

    • @rickyticky3350
      @rickyticky3350 2 года назад +4

      i know. women are the only ones who complain about this. but its because they have so much power over men (alot of options.) The one who doesn't give it to them women are out chasing them.

    • @ontumetseqdiane7327
      @ontumetseqdiane7327 Год назад +1

      LIFE should not and does not revolve around women bro. I'm just like you i don't like leaving things hanging, that's being irresponsible plus these women we are chasing don't really know what they want cause they are still in their twenties and just move with trends. Do you and one day the right one will come and will show you what a real women is. TRUST THE PROCESS.

    • @Lboogs7
      @Lboogs7 Год назад

      ​@@ontumetseqdiane7327facts bro. Definitely. I definitely think they are all the same. Whether they are 20 30, 40. They All Play games and bullshit. Rule of thumb: if it feels like she isnt interested, she isnt. No intimacy or affection shown towards u, leave her alone. immediately
      She is definitely giving that attention to someone else. Trust me more than likely she is for the streets

  • @PeaceAchance-os6lj
    @PeaceAchance-os6lj Год назад +3

    To answer the question, I think it depends on how much she is into you. I've had situations where it felt like a woman is pulling away, so i fell back too, and that was the last I heard from them lol. In those situations, I don't think it really makes a difference what you do. Other times, yeah, they came back strong after my silence.

  • @Josueabrahamluna
    @Josueabrahamluna 3 года назад +8

    Precisely. Very good advice, as a Christian we always say seek first the Kingdom of God and everything else will come naturally.

    • @niltonsilva3027
      @niltonsilva3027 2 года назад

      Yes, brother becoming spiritual makes you like an alpha because you don't care about things even those that hurts you know the value you have by God

  • @mrgee5752
    @mrgee5752 3 года назад +43

    This couldnt of come at a better time, thank you so much🙌🏽

  • @skyritt15
    @skyritt15 2 года назад +11

    My girlfriend is in college only 2 hrs away. I initially got anxiety about the separation but that’s gotten a lot better. When she gets in a funk or something I say come across in the wrong way has put a damper on the mood. She has also said things and have been very dry with me at times and she says she can’t get upset at that cause she does the same thing and it would be hypocritical which is true. When those moods pop up the lovey dovey stuff stops and I don’t like when it stops. I try to be lovey and get nothing in return my schedule is pretty open and I live in a small town and there’s not much to do so I always want to talk cause she’s my person. During those weird times I feel like being affectionate should help but I don’t want to push her away if that makes sense. When things are good they are AWESOME and she calls all the time. But when these moods pop up she doesn’t call like normal and when things arnt normal I start to overthink. Any advice will help thank you

    • @KosekVideos
      @KosekVideos 2 года назад +1

      When she goes cold you gotta match it, don’t reward bad behavior

    • @d-rex6846
      @d-rex6846 Год назад

      Make sure you set boundaries and if her energies changing thats her wanting to explore elsewhere with hypergamy.

  • @Nicey90
    @Nicey90 10 месяцев назад

    As a Person that considers myself a decent guy, your advice is really helpful. I don’t have it in me to resort to manipulation like so many of these red pill RUclipsrs.

  • @davidcasillas285
    @davidcasillas285 3 года назад +13

    Apollonia! You 'hit the nail on the head!' After all of the vids on RUclips by everyone, what you stated is Golden. I will replay this because it is true. You said, 'be happy with yourself,' or words to that affect. Know who you are and why you possibly want that other person. Again, gonna replay this video, but it's that "aha moment," and I want to hear it again. Thank you so much, but that's what I feel many of us need to realize. I'm happy here in the now, do I really want or need another person in my life. Good stuff Apollonia, we at least for me. Ok, got to replay that portion of the video as it hit me like a ton of bricks-for once..so thanks again! You're wonderful! 🙏🏽

    • @davidcasillas285
      @davidcasillas285 3 года назад

      That's it.."seeking happiness within another individual!" Those are the key words you've stated. Thanks young lady, awesome stuff!

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 года назад

      @@davidcasillas285 yes it is seeking happiness

  • @davidrobinson925
    @davidrobinson925 2 года назад +1

    You can be a good man and if your not good enough for her then you just aren't good enough...but you will be good enough for the right one..

  • @atljames97
    @atljames97 3 года назад +34

    I'm silent towards my ex because she got out of line with me and she knows it. 3 weeks later she texted me an apology saying she was going to work on herself. Other than checking on her once via text a few days ago, I've been silent towards her. She needs to do her own internal work. She knows how to find me if she wants me.

    • @fitzgerald434
      @fitzgerald434 3 года назад

      How did that go? What happened?

    • @uunz4435
      @uunz4435 2 года назад +1

      @@fitzgerald434 of course she moved on lol

  • @Amir76fresno
    @Amir76fresno Год назад +1

    I really do appreciate that you share your knowledge and thoughts with us. Wishing you a wonderful weekend. Cheers from Stockholm 🎉❤

  • @d0cn0tes
    @d0cn0tes 3 года назад +12

    And there it is @3:25 the reason why silence works in every case. It's called ghosting.
    Ghosting is the great equalizer in dating; it's confusing to both men and women. If a man or woman ghost you at anytime, he/she isn't really interest you. What is confusing to women is the level of delusion in thinking every man will bow to the altar. The dating landscape has forever changed, making things truly equal in a liberalized world. Isn't that what women really want? (fiendish laugh at the end) Good video

  • @tonyodum5685
    @tonyodum5685 3 года назад +8

    'You attract what you are not what you want'

  • @Neptunianist
    @Neptunianist 3 года назад +31

    So here's the thing: My instinct is to chase, especially if the initial conversation went well and then she pulls away or backs off. My anxiety goes through the roof. I get what you're saying about using paced communication as a way of assessing whether she is a good match but my instinct and anxiety overwhelm me. I can't switch this off so how do I replace it with something that is effective to the point that I can see it working and use the positive result to sooth my anxiety and get what I actually want: her and her love?

    • @Shawn6751
      @Shawn6751 3 года назад +18

      Dude, ignore your instincts as I have to learn the hard way. If she wants you, she would have to put in the work.
      It's best to show respect for yourself by trying to move on.

    • @Spookyaki1
      @Spookyaki1 3 года назад +7

      Show some self control, dude. Dont be a slave to your emotions.

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 года назад +1

      Where this work???

    • @hamzahkhan4319
      @hamzahkhan4319 2 года назад +7

      don’t chase avoidants

    • @rider9187
      @rider9187 2 года назад +2

      You need to take a break. You won’t get anywhere like this.

  • @nicolasj5940
    @nicolasj5940 3 года назад +17

    Balance is the key.

  • @ponggabor
    @ponggabor 2 года назад +7

    Women fall in love with you when they are doing things for you, not the other way around.

  • @langadasun8075
    @langadasun8075 Год назад

    I’m glad this video was recommended for me to watch. It’s good to get a women’s perspective.

  • @antoniogonzales6096
    @antoniogonzales6096 3 года назад +7

    I don't look for beautiful in a woman I look for a beautiful heart cause looks will fade in time but a beautiful heart will stay forever and I want someone who will stand by me and never give up on me you know what I mean

  • @Trancymind
    @Trancymind 5 месяцев назад

    Even having just a female friend, if she doesn't try to help you on a certain issue that can be easily be approachable to help with , then don't ask for her help again since you can't trust her anymore. Especially if you ask for her help twice in one day and tells you the reason she didn't help you is because nobody helps each other in your working environment/neighborhood/or any place in general. I reward females who helped me if I can and it makes me feel good as a person.

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 3 года назад +6

    It sucks we have to go through all this. If someone is nice give them a chance. It must be our instant gratification society where no one wants to work for anything. They want the man of their dreams to pop up out of no where.

    • @rickyticky3350
      @rickyticky3350 2 года назад +1

      they will never find him because he does not exists.

  • @FranklyTheyCallMeFrankie
    @FranklyTheyCallMeFrankie Год назад +1

    I love how brutally honest this woman is, she got me laughing so hard when she said “it won’t work for highly desirable women, and if you had standards you’d want a woman like that” oooo shit she said it!!! Hahaha😂 So in summation, a marriageable woman should be sought for by a man who’s made himself a marriageable man! 🙌 Boom! The honest truth is beautiful.

  • @4H54N
    @4H54N 3 года назад +12

    YOU ALWAYS SAY THE RIGHT THINGS ✅

  • @knightsaha
    @knightsaha Год назад

    Be independent.
    Do have your own life purposes.
    Give space but don't let them go astray.
    Be kind but don't be nice / doormat.
    Even a bland food item tastes good when you are hungry.
    Work to keep the hunger alive, not only in your relationship but also in the other person you are focusing on, right now, as long as she prefers to reciprocate.
    You may never get her the same way again or people may say it's not worth it if you need to put in effort but genuine efforts make you stronger, genuine efforts will never let you live in regrets.
    We all commit mistakes, we all have our drawbacks, but living a life with regrets is a curse.
    Don't let that happen ladies and gentlemen.
    It will be very easy for you to move on too when you have given your best too.
    Keep expectations low coz you are the one who completes yourself at the end of the day.
    Relationships are add-ons.
    You may feel sad but you won't die because you are heart-broken.

  • @bombarde1701a
    @bombarde1701a 3 года назад +5

    The fact that we have a woman telling us these things goes to show you how much of an enigma and how elusive they are. Scholars have been trying to figure out women since the dawn of time.
    They haven’t still.
    Meanwhile, most men are fairly simple. I know its a general term, but just my observation.

    • @benhartart9487
      @benhartart9487 3 года назад +2

      its easy to figure out women brah, Never give them compliments, never give them too much attention, act confident, and like you have a life and many other options, and do not talk much.

  • @lakz_1844
    @lakz_1844 Год назад +2

    Not all woman are the same. I talk to my girl and spend time with her everyday. Only times I go silent/absent is when I'm busy working out or doing other things in my day but I don't intentionally just go silent for some dumb ass reason 🙄 , my advice is just be genuine, don't try copy other guys out there and come off as fake. Me and my gf are both obsessed with each other, she also has autism, bad temper, jealous and we still going strong. I'm not saying be ultra clingy, just love your partner but also be busy in your own life too, goals, chores, job, etc whatever it is. Even if you don't have a job, get busy in your day, clean up, dishes, mow the lawn, water your garden, exercise, etc. Then spend time with her when you're done, easy. And repeat. I'm also a nice guy so shame to the people that say nice guys finish last 👎

    • @ontumetseqdiane7327
      @ontumetseqdiane7327 Год назад

      True, every girl and relationship is different. What works for mine might not work for you.

    • @jamescollier7360
      @jamescollier7360 7 месяцев назад

      I’m a nice guy and though you have found someone genuine nice guys get trampled more often than not.

  • @kevinpham_
    @kevinpham_ 3 года назад +34

    i have to disagree, sometimes people are so dedicated to their purpose they shut everything out and then realize they have no time for anyone, if that woman really wants to reach him that bad after everything she has to prove it, she can reach people that are apart of his life. And then it's their choice to let that person in. For better or worse that person is dedicated to their new purpose in life and they don't want to fall off from that path ever again for just anyone. I don't know where this no contact stuff play stuff came from... but sometimes there are people who have realized it's time to make changes for their future to have the life they always wanted for the long term. With or without her.

    • @usercs_2682
      @usercs_2682 3 года назад +3

      When we contact them all the time they think we are creep. When we completely ghosted them they think we are assholes. It’s harder to be men nowadays, we have to focus on our job and dealing with women bs problem at the same time

  • @MrBrandonLau
    @MrBrandonLau Год назад

    The time it is appropriate to be silent is when you get dumped. That is the correct time to be silent it’s effective sometimes

  • @dakotastein9499
    @dakotastein9499 3 года назад +3

    This is why I'm thankfully aeromantic

  • @pmdal
    @pmdal Год назад +1

    Silence is the language of the angels

  • @algrande2841
    @algrande2841 3 года назад +3

    Yes : in the correct way!!!!!
    I’ve dated over 100 women 90% silence does what energy effort does in a fraction of the time.

  • @JamesWhite-mb8mg
    @JamesWhite-mb8mg 2 года назад +2

    She acted like she was better than me and often got brand new around her family and friends. She was also quick to criticize and judge and often flaunted her education and salary, but the truth was she was in debt. Took her out for nice romantic dinner and she made it an early night while returning her home and she made the excuse about going in the office early Sunday morning to get a head for the week. She got out of the car, did not thank me for the expensive dinner and walked to her garage and went inside. I waited with the car lights on to make sure she was safe. She called about 6 hours later (1 am), I picked up the phone and said I'm sleep and she started to talk, so I hung up. Four days later she texted and left messages. One of her final messages was about some tools that I left in her garage while repairing her car. She left one final message to say that she loved me and it went unanswered. When you ghost a woman, ghost hard. Let them love somebody else and find your peace.

  • @vinodreddy3263
    @vinodreddy3263 3 года назад +18

    She texts and calls me at her convenience and I replied at my comfort.
    She treated me like an option and I left her as a choice.

    • @Shawn6751
      @Shawn6751 3 года назад +1

      That's sounds like something that I need to do, respect myself by trying to move on by choice. Perhaps my silence would make her miss me.
      Then again it won't make a difference.

    • @vinodreddy3263
      @vinodreddy3263 3 года назад +1

      @@Shawn6751 I am sorry to say , your silence is gonna miss you , but that’s not permanent. Again she will do what she d done before ( whatever that prompted to make you silence )
      Are you gonna be silent again , to make her miss you ??
      Lolzzzz : More than of your life is in mute.

    • @moniquefacey5760
      @moniquefacey5760 2 года назад

      Dud you tell her how you felt?

  • @mofo7689
    @mofo7689 Год назад +1

    The answer is simple. Learn to dance. There isn't a woman alive that can resist being entirely possessed by a man that knows how to dance. He has taken her center of gravity from her. She is not follow a lead. She is emotionally allowing herself to react, just as if you walk up to her and she points her chin to return a kiss. When you get her to relax and enter your world, she is all yours for the taking long before your first step on the correct beat of music. It's called "bedroom eyes". The magic takes over after that moment.

  • @paulhuynh6228
    @paulhuynh6228 3 года назад +3

    I really needed this today. Thank you for the video and the Comments from everyone else

  • @michaelmich00
    @michaelmich00 6 месяцев назад

    never listen to a womans advice to get a woman. she proved with this video she doesnt understand rational and emotional. silence is gold. dont call, dont text, dont validate

  • @zenmasterj9497
    @zenmasterj9497 3 года назад +6

    Awesome advice...Thank You!
    I'm currently in a situation like this right now. I really don't wont to lose her.

    • @tfkvng3187
      @tfkvng3187 3 года назад +3

      *Face Palms*
      If you lose her, there's a ton more out in the open wild. Lol If she even gets a whiff of this statement, she's gonna be gone like smoke.

    • @deepdiver849
      @deepdiver849 3 года назад +5

      Just be honest. Tell her you like her. Tell her exactly why you like her and what do you want to form with her. But be brave enough to loose her, as she may say no.
      An upfront “ No “ is much better than you being tagged along for months and years and missing out on other options...

    • @SolidGeddoe
      @SolidGeddoe Год назад

      @@tfkvng3187 Yeah,I don't know why some men like to say she has other options,well us men have options too,I am trying to get with this one female right now but I know there are plenty others that as soon I get a chance I will hook up with them.

  • @joobebescorner1985
    @joobebescorner1985 Год назад

    When a guy did this to me i disconnect I thought he wasn't interested later he said he was but now he wants to stay friends things lead to another we got into an argument we havent spoken i do miss him 😢...men should listen to you

  • @anthonyvasquez5128
    @anthonyvasquez5128 3 года назад +8

    I'm new to your channel. Your advice is so interesting because over the years and the amount of women I've dated, I've learned to actually think just like the way you advise your subscribers. I don't chase anyone around anymore. I take my time, talk to them and it seems like things fall into place much easier.
    Your suggestions are very much appreciated.
    I'm completely content with myself and don't feel like I need to impress anyone.

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  3 года назад

      Thanks and welcome

    • @deepdiver849
      @deepdiver849 3 года назад +1

      So glad you have reached this realization. No one should chase anyone. Neither a man nor a woman.
      Both should pursue some one and have a “ Miner mindset “ than a “ Chaser mindset “
      A Miner looks for Diamond, a Chaser , chases for immediate hunger fulfillment.

  • @sansrival7102
    @sansrival7102 2 года назад +2

    I think it depends, when a girl has so many men on her list to deal with your absence then being silent could not help.

  • @Daniel-bd5ur
    @Daniel-bd5ur 3 года назад +3

    Excellent tip on knowing women more and more after each video! Keep posting applonia im looking for this type of content as usual

  • @QuiDocetDiscit
    @QuiDocetDiscit Месяц назад

    Appreciative reciprocity...if I don’t get it, I check myself and reconsider my choices.

  • @louieibarbol1569
    @louieibarbol1569 3 года назад +22

    Just like this woman tricked me into watching this video just to get what she wants (to buy her stuff) lol, they all play games- just follow the vibe; if she ain’t giving the same attention it’s time to bounce- it’s a two way communication- 🤷‍♂️

  • @SorayaSultan-b6z
    @SorayaSultan-b6z Год назад

    wow!!! i really need to watch more of your vids..... great tips advice etc etc!!! thanx heaps👍🏾👌🏾😊

  • @teddygonzalez6235
    @teddygonzalez6235 3 года назад +60

    To bad ive moved on so theres no one to miss anymore,im to old for this cat and mouse shit

    • @chrismcphatter7218
      @chrismcphatter7218 3 года назад +3

      Amen to hell with the fucking games played !

    • @JESUSCHRIST91126ad
      @JESUSCHRIST91126ad 3 года назад +4

      Moved on and your watching this video?

    • @Petroglyph1
      @Petroglyph1 3 года назад

      If you think that way, you may be making it true.

  • @TheShadowWalker502
    @TheShadowWalker502 4 месяца назад

    I rarely ignore a woman, but I will pull away if I feel she doesn't appreciate the effort I'm making. Even then, I don't have the tolerance I once had for that type of behavior. But if I feel I'm being used for validation too often, I'll block, avoid, and go permanently silent. At that point, I don't even want to know she exists anymore. In every case I've experienced, the girl never fathomed I would walk away and not look back.
    I have NEVER met a woman who understands a man has limits for being toyed with by a woman.

  • @elconquistador5095
    @elconquistador5095 3 года назад +9

    Sometimes being alone is not so bad.

  • @dwightjackson1270
    @dwightjackson1270 11 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks again for your time ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @KarelChytilArt
    @KarelChytilArt 3 года назад +5

    Should it work with long distance relationship?

  • @phillippalato8613
    @phillippalato8613 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you ❤ I am in LDR for 15 months I do everything for her & she a single mother of 6 & I build my relationship with the kids but I have aquariums but I know you understand me

  • @undergroundwes2682
    @undergroundwes2682 2 года назад +9

    "She's never yours, it's just your turn."

  • @lilmatt9067
    @lilmatt9067 2 года назад

    What I do now not for attraction either just tired of being lied to and disrespected due to others advances and my several disadvances

  • @gearheadnation9254
    @gearheadnation9254 3 года назад +69

    How do you make a woman miss you? Easy! Spend way too much time in your garage building your race car!! 🤣🤣🤣

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  3 года назад +7

      LOL!

    • @chrismcphatter7218
      @chrismcphatter7218 3 года назад +9

      Stay with the car , at least it's reliable.. And hell when it breaks at least your able to fix it .. Lol ..

    • @smokeybirdman
      @smokeybirdman 3 года назад +1

      Exactly my experience. When I catered to her it was never good enough in one way or another. Always compared to others etc.. So I've spent the last 2 months on my car, even just tinkering here and there and you can't make this shit up.. She's not nagging, she's asking if im hungry can she cook something, buying me new shoes and best sex ever. Nothing is truer in life than treat them mean and keep them keen. Sad but true

  • @ChrisBirmingham-j8i
    @ChrisBirmingham-j8i 5 месяцев назад

    My girls been gone for 4 days no answer ..her videos help much

  • @dailyentertainment5460
    @dailyentertainment5460 3 года назад +10

    I mean my ex went in a relationship with my best friend couple mins after we broke up , stopped talking to her, she left him for me and I didn't want her because she missed me dwl😂

  • @kevinanderson7672
    @kevinanderson7672 2 года назад

    You're telling me the truth. Thank you The woman that is my friend is established in life. Haven't spoken to her in awhile. She told me that she is wanting to get married. I'm ready to get married to her, but I don't know how to persuade her to marry me. I have to wait for her to open up her heart to me. It's hard just to wait! Thanks Appollonia.

  • @richardstockhausen9044
    @richardstockhausen9044 Год назад +3

    Exactly! That's why good men are stepping away. It's a pain in the ass playing these games all the time. Meet, talk a little, get to know each other and have fun together. Pretty simple. The good women will do this. The texting, head game silent things not for me

  • @debanganchanda5259
    @debanganchanda5259 Год назад

    She doesn't want a break from me, but she says that in our past days she was happy when she thought about me but now she feels sad when she think about me, she feels like this because she feels that her dating is the only reason for all her failures in her life that she faced this days. She feels she is lying to her mom, but still when i tell her let's stop this for few days she tell me to stay with her.
    I just want her to be happy and i really don't know how to make her that.

  • @danielsantana540
    @danielsantana540 3 года назад +3

    Apollonia. you get this alot here on youtube but wow your a very Beautiful Woman. Your Husband is such a blessed Human being to have someome like you in his life

  • @davypatt1
    @davypatt1 2 года назад +1

    I think it's just a bit of headspace until next time, silence alone for a while is good for your mind and hers, she will be doing the same thing, so the next meeting should be on a new and better tack. Onwards and upwards.

  • @missingnoglitch520
    @missingnoglitch520 3 года назад +5

    This is exactly what I need, thank you

  • @Saunatomorrow
    @Saunatomorrow Год назад

    That view you have behind the window is outrageous, that is all ✌🏾❤️

  • @MidN1t3SMD
    @MidN1t3SMD 2 года назад +4

    if you ghost someone who is respectful, unintruding, and tells you what he felt, you are emotionally immature and childish

  • @AnthonyCarrier
    @AnthonyCarrier 3 года назад

    We had a date it went real well I sent flowers the next day and hopefully she decides to come back another day...!