Don’t be anyone’s second choice.. if she leaves and chooses someone else.. let her realise later what she lost.. be strong and respect yourself.. walk away..
RULES: 1. No contact 2. Don’t beg 3. No friend zone 4. Be Mysterious 5. Move on and stay away from them 6. Don't be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me
what If she comes back to you after 2 weeks of you doing no contact with a text of, "hey hows it been, it's been a while". Should I still move away from her or do I start texting her again?
True. Women are so quick to toss a man to the curb. They don't want to work through anything and come out the other side better and stronger. If you look at the womens lives who do that they are broken and the men are all over the place feeling bad about themselves.
@@bobwreck3775 very wise introspective. They wanna the best but they don’t want work for it. Most women want easy battle. But to win the war we have to fight easy and hard battles. It’s amazing when you know you have a true partner by your side that’s you can count for : good weather, and bad weather as well.
HELLLLLLLL NO. No grown ass adult should have to put up with someone at their worst to “earn” a place in their life when things are going well. That’s narcissistic and toxic AF.
@@dylanbatchelor8485 Completely agree! As a man, I take ownership of my life. It's my responsibility to be healthy. The woman should be a compliment to my life.
You will be lonely and depressed and those could caused mental and physical illnesses , sure you can survived but it's the after effects that will make future dating more difficult
I got dumped monday. Going through it now. Didnt chase, said later and on my way. 4 days later 20 different date requests got 3 new set ups with women. Later
@@ApostleThe344 I mean no disrespect what so ever. But 4 days later and your already doing all that. You gotta wonder why she dumped you, doesn't seem you loved her if your already meeting up with different women a few days later.
Never make the mistake of begging her if she chooses to leave. Just tell her OKAY once she request for space. Stop sending messages or chats. Ignore her completely. Many fishes are waiting for what she left. Never you allow her again. Just focus on your personal progress ... This has worked for me
I’ve been with my fiancé for 3yrs total. 7 months ago she asked for a break with no contact to work on herself, but didn’t give a timeline. She said that no matter what she does make sure I don’t break the no contact rule. I didn’t fight it or try to make her feel about it. I moved to a different apartment, relocated to a different branch with the same company within the city. I don’t contact her or check in. I ignored all her calls and texts. Deleted texts and voicemails without reading. Not to be mean but because I didn’t want to break the no contact rule. I’ve been tempted to answer her calls or call her but I don’t want to let her down. It’s been tough but I haven’t even spoken to another woman during this break. How long do these ‘no contact periods’ normally last?
@@standground7956 No contact was supposed to be when they reach out to you in which you were then supposed to speak back in a casual way. If that is what you wanted you weren't supposed to ignore her when she reached out. Again if this is what you want
You always deserve better! So just forget what is gone. It's your life. Live it the way you please. Not what somebody else thinks or wants. Lead my friend, don't follow or get dragged!
Exactly apparently girls don’t have to do shit they can just come and go as they please and fuck with peoples minds but men have to “work on themselves” like what if we’ve always been doing that?
Truth. was with my girl 11years during lock down we couldn't see eachother so tried to spend time gaming with her or video calling. I would ask and she'd so no most times. Time pasted it became frustrating. In turn I became needy which is not me normally. Saw her a few times but had to keep distance which was frustrating. She felt like I was controlling her which was news to me. She breaks up with me. I understood they way I had been was not the best but I knew she could have done more too. Yet some how I'm the one being dumped for wanting her time. Point being it ain't enough to break up cause of those reasons.she fails to see should could do more to give me more attention.
Had this with a girl who ridiculed me in front of her pal after a 1 night stand, All because I wanted to hold her hand the next day, She ghosted me and came back after 5 months! Had a date with her 5 months later, met her at the restaurant, the first words out her mouth were “I like the (............) on the menu, it was the most expensive thing on the menu, total gold digger had been watching me on social media knowing that I was doing well for myself and reactivated her interest and messaged me to choose a date the following week to meet up. We did meet up but She was acting strange for all of 1 1/2 hrs in the restaurant, we didn’t eat at all.. too busy talking I guess. Anyway, went home and I blocked her on social media, she fukn deserved it ... a total user / gold digging bitch got what she deserved.. I was wise to her after mentioning the menu before we’d even took our seat in the pub. Never take back a woman who wasn’t falling over herself to see you in the beginning, really liked her too but that was gratifying to show her the door 😊
If somebody loves us, and Someone wants to be with us, then they shouldn’t need space away from you. Either be with them or walk away. Working on yourself should always happen. Sometimes the woman is too emotionally unavailable and needs too much distance no matter how “good” of a man you are
Yup. The girls that are too used to getting orbiters and having low value bums chase her is flabbergasted and mad as hell when a high value man tells them no. My God they get some spiteful. Lolz
They come back because they want to know if they still have you. It's all a game. I would advise those who got dumped to just keep moving forward. The right girl would not have broken up with you and would have supported you despite feeling vulnerable. Nobodies perfect.
She left because she had the "Grass Is Greener Syndrome" (GIGS), and her friends got into her head, to leave you, Only to find out: !!!THE GRASS WAS DRY AND YELLOW!!! That's why she is back!!! Don't be fooled.
the grass is greener where you water it, if you're doing same thing over and over again, you will get same results... as my ex run away for a greener grass... she not really valued what she had.
My woman of 6 plus years up and bounced on me... I wish I could just have zero contact but she has my baby girl... So I have to talk to her... She always tries to talk to me when I call for my daughter... Small talk bullsh!t... I don't care what you've been up to... Let me talk to my kid
A breakup or separation proves that it wasn't meant to be. If she starts to come back keep the answers in a conversation short. Anything else is really none of her business since she was gone during the self improvement phase. Afterwards, move on and continue your own path without her. "They left your life because God knew you deserved better. Don't trip." - Trent Shelton
Not always true, there are times when someone truly needs to work on issues or times in their life. I'm surrounded by several happily married couples who had to take a break when they were dating. Life is not perfect, but sometimes people find their way back to each other
@@JT-gm4fk I agree with you, there's alot of males that are bitter and say things like this and never improve, themselves, seems like your mad at the fact rhat she wants better, if she leaves and it's for good reasons then you just take a step back and fix yourself.
You’re not her first choice.. but sometimes people don’t know what their first choice is.. mine has never dated anyone else so she doesn’t want to regret never trying to be with other people to see what it’s like. No point being with someone if they feel like they settled
EthanInGoa you seriously ought to move on from anyone who says that. It’s good you have empathy in your heart for her ‘conundrum’ but nothing but heartache awaits you on that path. There are plenty of women out there who would love to have a guy with a good heart and would be devoted. If she’s telling you she would regret not having more experience with other guys she’s telling you she wants to date other guys. Plenty of fish in the sea buddy! You deserve much better!
Honestly all girls will pull away or become distant as some point. Girls are like cats they'll roam around after they get bored, loss of excitement, loss of fun or the man started showing low value traits such as being just a tad bit needy, caring to much, stalking behavior. A women will sense that'll she lose her freedom and no human or animal wants to ever lose there freedom. You'll must love in a way that the person feels free. If she wants to cheat there's nothing you can do or say will stop her. You can only control your reaction. This is why you must look a for a woman with values and that family is important to her. If she goes and wants to come back it'll be up to you depending on how you feel if you want to take her back or not. Follow your heart. No relationship is perfect to many men fall in love with the fantasy in the movies. That isn't real life. In order for the women to fall head over heals in love with you she'll have to invest and crave to see you. You must act in a such a way that you can never be crumbled. Be her rock always make her feel that she needs you more that you need her. You'll have to have the power as the man not the other way around. As soon as the woman feels she has the power she'll test you more. Which 97% of men fail as they'll chase more.
Maybe but in my case I only now notice that I also need to grow and work on myself.. So does she. If she chooses to go for other men it's her loss but if we both grow we would only be stronger.
"You couldnt live with your failure..so what did it bring you? Back to me." If she leaves don't let her come back. Remind her what she started you will finish and say "I hope you are happy now have a nice life because I know I am!"
Her: You need to change, else we cant be together. Him: Okay, but there are some things I'd like for you to change as well. Her: If you cant accept me the way I am, we can't be together. 🙄
This woman right here. This woman right here is an enabler. If you have to prove anything to anyone you already lost. Be the best you possible and you won’t look twice at the person that didn’t know your worth. Remember . One mans trash is another mans garbage.
@@supererick13 No worshipping women and sucking their asses is simping. Being a good man is being honorable, caring, and empathetic and determined. Which both is seen as weakness. The former is deserved ridicule while the latter is not.
Sometimes it's actually too late for the woman cos after working on himself, he would acttract so many better options by the time she's back. It's best she tells the man the truth about her dissatisfaction so he can adjust, instead of playing childish games that'll cost her a good man. Some things aren't that hard
Remember if you ex gets in touch with you it's because her life is in a downward spiral, if it would have worked out she would have never hit you up in the first place.
Guys, I'm a 38 years old alpha male type, and I have dealt with countless women since I was 14.. dont dismiss what she is saying, she is dead on. But I'm going to tell you to just move on. The women with their act together will not let you go. Just always be on you're own path to be the best you.
I do think not being neeedy is good but she is just asking us to feed teh shallowness of a women, how about not dating a woman who is weak and sleeps around, how about that, integrity, how many western womenwear white dresses with integrity, you serius?
@@midorian12491 My heart says that if she is meant for you she will stay. She will sit down with you and have a conversation. People that want you in their lives will try to resolve issues. I think that you should go on to improve the weak areas of your existence and the right person will come to you. That's what I am doing for myself.
Or because you became a stronger man than your replacement after she dumped you. This new chump actually ends up to be a simp bitch, and since she had a stronger emotional bond to you, it's easy to do the maths on why she comes back when you're stronger than this new dude.
When they tell you they need space/distance give it to them and maintain that distance. Don't ever make the mistake of letting them back in if they try to come back, as it has been shown that they don't really care enough about you or respect your feelings to be worthy of any more of your time. Move on to better things to do with your life and leave these self-absorbed and psychologically challenged people in the rear-view mirror as you drive away from them.
There’s no such thing as sh*t testing, women just treat men like sh*t if they’re not into them and are trying to turn the guy off them. They come back because they see the guy as a shoulder to cry on. Nothing more.
If she test you, ignore, hookup with others women, give her own medicine so at least she'll learn to be a grown ass adult. And don't think she will change for the next guy, insrcurities remains until beauty fades
If you love her let her go if she comes back she's yours if she don't she never was I went through the exact thing I was so in love to the point I had to let her go cuz she wasn't ready for a relationship after a year and 6 months we started back talking now she's extra nicer to me and we have a better understanding about each other now
A lot of people don’t have their shit together so if you are on your purpose and have some value they will come back because there are a lot of losers out there
You know what’s sad about women who give up on their man in search of something better? When they leave their man absorbs the hurt and becomes what they wanted in their absence. The problem is that now he’s become hardened and now he doesn’t care if she’s back. He’s lost the woman he loves and becomes what she wants and no longer loves her. She gives up the man she doesn’t love to return to a man she loves but can never lose because she can never truly have him again. Tragic really.
My women left me recently. No forgiveness. Looking at her life she doesn't talk to her mother and she doesn't talk to her daughter. Its no wonder she left me. No love in that women.
So let me get this straight. The man has to have integrity, strength, great picture book active life blah blah blah, but the woman can punish at the first sign of any weakness, then run to another guy, and when bored, return only if we show even more integrity?? This is so stupid
I think so. 30 years may not be too much space. But it is up to you. Last time I saw, and heard the hottest, most physically fitness women in the world was in 2001. However, since I am interested in Miss Right, maybe it is good to wait more. Maybe it is going to be something such as her; a hot, confident, strong, fitness, or athlete woman.
I used to chase this girl. The more I chased, the further she ran. So I let her run. I used the time to focus on myself. I looked at the big picture, changed my diet, workout and be more positive. After a month of no contact, she started to notice me. She couldn't keep her eyes off me. Her mind game was so turnoff that I have lost interest. I taught myself to let her go and focus on my priorities. I have challenges that I want to accomplish. Friends to gather with and meet new ones. No matter how much she wants me, and I know she has a crush on me. To me, she's nothing more than just a hello w a smile.
As an introvert this "game" thing can be blood sucking hard... We don't accept many people in our life and we are somehow dependable to the people that we accept, especially a person with who will you maybe share a life
The distance thing is a game. You are being conditioned like Pavlov's dog when it's ok and not ok to see her. She is in control when she plays the space game. If that's how she rolls give her the space and go find another woman the last thing a man needs is some grown woman playing games like they are still in junior high school
Took me a while to realize this was happening to me but with a man. Playing games is for insecure and scared people. It’s sad but they weed themselves out.
My ex told me she wanted to see me and cleaned her house And bed, and a Day later she said no i dont want to That same week she was seeing someone else What a dirty ass slut move
The distance thing is not a game, but a test of strength. While you are focussing on yourself and not paying attention to her at all, she expects you to act a certain way and reach out / blow off her phone. But you don't. And you stay away. It makes her think that maybe you're not as weak as she thought you were. And when she misses you enough, she reaches out.
@@EternalxFrost What you say is true for young people, most middle aged women do not do this because the time clock is ticking and there is no time for mind games, In my opinion.
Never accept a person back into your life after you have cut them off. You cut them off for a reason. Move on, they are the ones missing their blessings.
If she wants distance, the old "I just need space argument", it is so she can cheat. She wants to but you're in the way, if she comes back it is because once she cheated the excitement wore off and she thinks now she can just pick up things with you like they were before. If she says she needs space, give her space, all of it and don't let her come back. Giving someone space is not working on a relationship it is abandoning one. There are plenty of other women out there that you can have a relationship with, why pick one that does want to be with you but needs "space".
if she says this out of nowhere, like say yall have been going well for a little while just rollin along and then she says this, then i 100% agree. but if you get into a fight and then she says she needs space, alot of times its just a re-evaluation period for her. although i agree, a woman taking space is not fun for you and it is inconsiderate of your feelings, not every girl just wants some other guy. a normal and mentally sound woman doesn't gobble the next guy she sees after a breakup, but girls like that definitely do exist unfortunately.
Let me tell you something people. Read this carefully. This life we live has a purpose and I know for a fact that purpose isn't watching videos on If she/he is going to come back. We put way too much time in things that aren't our soul purpose. Purpose of this life isn't a man or a woman it's God. Focus on him do your thing in life and you will find someone genuine. Again don't make women or men your purpose it's a deception. There's one remedy in life with women and men and that's destiny. No matter what happens if you're destined together you will be together. If you're not destined no matter how many tactics you use to win them back it won't happen. So do you be happy and just strive and destiny will bring everything in place.
If you have to change to get someone back, they didn't want you in the first place. They wanted someone that they could mold to their liking. Leave her alone, move on and wish for her that she finds someone she can make into what she wants 🙄
The comment section is more useful than the video itself. A good relationship isn't brittle. Do work on yourself. Be better. For yourself. Find another girl.
I’m losing hope in the modern western woman. Feminism and social media has ruined the potential of a healthy relationship and or even marriage. Good luck fellas if that’s what you choose. Proceed with caution 😂
I'm realizing that a better option for me is a woman who grew up in America but has the influence of another culture that her parents were from. This way she has more than the capitalist mindset when it comes to family and relationships. Purely American women see men as business opportunities. Resources to be explioted for their own purposes. Not partners to build with. For me it makes them undatable and unreliable partners.
Because she realized that those guys that were flirting with her on social media or the streets just wanted one and one thing only! Yes that thing down there and now she got played by another dude and she has awoken to the fact that men just want to hit it and not be there for her. However, I am standards and now the next lady will be younger and prettier!!! Peace out
Never understood why they hold the pussy hostage. Give a man what he wants reasonably of course, between 1st and 3rd date. Do that and they're so shocked to realize that yes, we will treat you right and make sure things are fluid.
Yup I just got out of a 6 year relationship few months back and I was so broken. Have me time to think about the relationship and it was absolute shit. All the crap I put up with. Well needless to say she was 32 with three kids and now I found myself a damn fine 20 year old. I'm NOT complaining.
Thank you so much for this. I spent weeks begging and pleading for her to come back to me and was just ghosted. I finally decided to let go and work on me and leave it to destiny. If it’s meant to be she will come back when she’s ready and if not, then I’m still grateful for the years she spent with me.
That's when you hit it and quit it, I realised I can never get back with a girl once she sleeps with someone else, especially someone I know. I can never again be with her
Yoooo! My ex came back last night banging on the door after I fully cut contact in January. I refused to open the door, I respect myself too much and my peace is paramount. I’m no longer PROVING myself to anyone, I can’t get down with this message/video in its entirety. You can’t build a relationship with someone who expects you to do all of the work.There will be Zero Monkey Branching with me. When someone walks out your life, LET THEM GO, especially if they are a Covert Narcissist.
I think this might be your best piece of general advice. Letting a lady know that you're curious about her, vs. trying to verbally sell ourselves to her, to convince her that she should be with us... ...two different things.
Word.... That's what im doing and she's playing all sort of mind games and shit tests through texts....cut texts off that's where her power lies... Listen bitch only phone calls... Go text your orbiters instead
My best advice, never go back to a broken relationship. Get better and keep moving and let them know you have options. Don’t reward bad behavior. If she comes back, out her in her place and let her know, you are doing better without her and there are too many women. Live a life of abundance.
I like this woman’s videos. She’s classy and she’s very informative. She’s passionate about her work. She has a mind for it and outshines the majority of other relationship coaches.
This is what I’m going through right now my girlfriend and I are on a break because she’s been feeling overwhelmed with school, work, and me. I love her very much I do and trust me I’ve done both trying to change her and just feeling so attached to our relationship we share that I haven’t been doing my own things. You are really helping me and I’ve realized that I shouldn’t be changing her as I should just be loving her and focused on helping her with everyday things. Changing her values can only be done by her and I never realized that before now. I also have found that I was so needy because I just wanted to make sure that she still loved me and wanted me and lost sight of my own things in life… I wasn’t seeing that her and I can love each other and be involved with each other and still do our own things. I’m using this break to work on these things and let her take the space she wants and hopefully the road leads to a good ending.
2 years and counting after a 6 year relationship. Said she’d never leave and wanted to marry me. Guys once she leaves, she left mentally months, If not years before. No amount of distance or time will make her unsee what she saw that pushed her away in the first place. It might work at the beginning of the split because of separation anxiety and the strength you’re portraying. Other than that, it’s garbage. Women will keep searching for what they deem is the bigger better deal, or even just the POSSIBILITY of the bigger better deal, until she’s no longer as desirable as she once was. Point blank period.
This!. It’s incredibly true. We as guys age just like fine wine. And we will be wanted more as we get older in contrast to women as they age their looks decline. And guys will be bore inclined to cheating. And if that woman didn’t want the real man that was longing for her to stay. She lost big time
@@adonismartinez2891lol aging makes people look more like a decaying lettuce than a fine wine , it declines looks in all beings regardless of gender especially if its a rotten grape it only fills the air with a terrible smell . both genders could look terrible as they age and both could look good as they age its all about physical features and has nth to do with hormones and gender , what's this stupid misconception people have come up with thinking women turn into a quazimodo and men turn into Benjamin button as they age ?? That women need to hold unto someone or they will lose their chances ? That men will be wanted more as they age ? Well guess what it's men's bank account that's wanted as they age , don't have that and we'll see how many would approach you for your fine wine aesthetics besides rarely happens for a man to want the same food for everyday as this is what they always say belittling women . Its what I've heard and seen among most , give em the most beautiful the greatest and they still want another and another and another there is no loyalty.
Why go back to a toxic person who is already damaged goods and they are always right no matter what and they know more about everything then you? Why out your self in that place... You are better than that people dont change? Pray and work on yourself move on
I gave her space and she came back and this is why all her exes was bumps and when I love I love for real try finding something better than that self independent and self-motivated and self love I'm going to always choose me at the end of the day and always put God first
By distancing myself and let go of being needy. I do things to take my mind off her and after a while, I asks myself, why was I with her in the first place.
The only thing a man should never distance himself from is his money! Never chase a female. Your money will always treat & be there for you. Have a couple of female friends to have sex with & don't get attracted to them. Remember these words. No women no cry!!!!
You should always improve yourself for yourself. Not for her. She left because she thought there was something better. She’s back because it wasn’t better or she wasn’t good enough. No take backs
No she's not. She's getting boned by the next Chad to come along. And don't take an ex back.. it's like heating up leftovers you got from the garbage pile. Move on. You will be ok without her.
I fell hard and got lost in this girl. 2 months of amazing stuff but I suffocated her. I am so happy about all I've learned since the break-up. I was codependent and now I'm independent. Your courses and videos are saving me from a toxic cycle. Thank you. I am meeting her for coffee tomorrow and we will see but I'm also being asked out now lol. Love being this new 2.0 version of me, the good guy vs the nice guy. Investing in me is my new jam! Best for all parties in the end.
I just been slapped with a divorce by a court order and had three days to move out after 16 years, so I definitely gave her space. Now she's asking me things like "what are you up to today?" as if she don't understand the hardship that I endured. I had to put up a firewall and only say, "I'm good" at this point.
I had to take space for myself today. It was the toughest thing I've ever had to do... but I had to detach from her, emotionally. There needed to be a big change in our dynamic before it was brought to the point of not being able to save the feelings we have for each other. She said she won't be available once I am. This is a way of testing your emotional dependency. I have to show her that I'm ok if she's not. Time to keep working on me... not with the intention of getting her back, but to be a better man for whoever ends up with me. I know I have a LOT of growing to do. It'd be nice if she sees the result, but she's not a necessity. Power of abundance, fellas. There are so many gorgeous women out there. Don't put one on a pedestal above yourself. You are the prize. She has to earn you.
Give her 6 feet social distance. Try it! it worked out very well for me today on one girl that I've given her space. As soon as she saw me, I protended I did not see her. The next thing is that she's following me, walking behind me 6 feet away. I then said "hello", and she's the one who wanted to know what i've been doing for the last 3 month, lol.
Going through a breakup of many years currently-at a point where it's uncertain if it will make it-I realized not long after taking space that all of the things I was doing to fix "problems" in our relationship were just symptoms. I'd become so concerned with being "a good partner" that I wasn't putting in work where it really needed to be: myself. Just a few weeks of time off and I'm already rediscovering things I love to do.
@@derekhenriquez5740 tree of life evolution is bull shit. Dna and Rna are c o - op langauges, never has a single cell become a dual celled organism, and never has it been recorded an asxual being became a sxual being... Intel Design, Creator, God, Marraige, atheism built 0 civilizations!
Walk away........and keep walking............there is always something better around the corner. If you don't believe it, you haven't looked around the corner.
It’s been four months, and easier to live and breathe without her. That being said, even if she does come back, I’m okay with not taking her back. No hate, just not gonna be anyone’s second choice.
@Jay Porter Actually, she came back last October. We had some fun, she got pregnant, and had a miscarriage. Then, ghosts me for six months, then came back a few weeks ago.
Don’t be anyone’s second choice.. if she leaves and chooses someone else.. let her realise later what she lost.. be strong and respect yourself.. walk away..
Absolutely!!!!!!
She doesnt want an eager puppy for a man. She wants you to be much more than that.
You are a man👍
cannot agree with you more
john smith Really John?! I thought I was the only one that realized that lol
RULES:
1. No contact
2. Don’t beg
3. No friend zone
4. Be Mysterious
5. Move on and stay away from them
6. Don't be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me
Don McLean, you couldn't say it any more perfect than that🌞
Very well said
Beautiful rules
what If she comes back to you after 2 weeks of you doing no contact with a text of, "hey hows it been, it's been a while". Should I still move away from her or do I start texting her again?
Rule one
Hit it and quit it 😏
“If you can’t handle me at my worst then you don’t deserve me at my best.” Words to live by. Stay strong fellas
True. Women are so quick to toss a man to the curb. They don't want to work through anything and come out the other side better and stronger. If you look at the womens lives who do that they are broken and the men are all over the place feeling bad about themselves.
@@bobwreck3775 very wise introspective. They wanna the best but they don’t want work for it. Most women want easy battle. But to win the war we have to fight easy and hard battles. It’s amazing when you know you have a true partner by your side that’s you can count for : good weather, and bad weather as well.
@@dylanbatchelor8485 what do you mean? Why is it unhealthy!
HELLLLLLLL NO. No grown ass adult should have to put up with someone at their worst to “earn” a place in their life when things are going well. That’s narcissistic and toxic AF.
@@dylanbatchelor8485 Completely agree! As a man, I take ownership of my life. It's my responsibility to be healthy. The woman should be a compliment to my life.
Gents, you are responsible for your own happiness. No one else is.
Always remember with or without her. You will be okay.
Thank you for the reminder. Genuinely.
Amen
You will be lonely and depressed and those could caused mental and physical illnesses , sure you can survived but it's the after effects that will make future dating more difficult
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@@JustWatchingRUclips94 I second that
I’ve found after giving enough distance I don’t want her back :)
Same here Brandon feeling change it's just not worth it to many GAMES I'm out.
I will not go back to any female that just up, and left.
Lmao
the same here :D
Same! 👌
Funny thing is that after you give her space and make yourself a better version, you then don't have the feeling to get her back!
Facts
True
Real shit
And I think it's always better that way😁
It's better way then
Going no contact made me realise i don’t need her as much as i thought i did.
I got dumped monday. Going through it now. Didnt chase, said later and on my way. 4 days later 20 different date requests got 3 new set ups with women. Later
Guildnam Style I’m happy that you’re getting more attention and sorry that you got dumped. But bro i’d encourage you to take tiMe for yourself
Worked wonder for.me. Red.pill that bitch.
@@ApostleThe344 I mean no disrespect what so ever. But 4 days later and your already doing all that. You gotta wonder why she dumped you, doesn't seem you loved her if your already meeting up with different women a few days later.
I learned this too the last time I was friend zoned. After being rejected by women my whole life that experience taught me to finally start growing up
If you want to know someone's mind, listen to their words. If you want to know someone's heart, watch their actions.
💯
Love this quote
AWESOME !!!
Amen
Tes
Never make the mistake of begging her if she chooses to leave. Just tell her OKAY once she request for space. Stop sending messages or chats. Ignore her completely. Many fishes are waiting for what she left. Never you allow her again. Just focus on your personal progress ... This has worked for me
I’ve been with my fiancé for 3yrs total. 7 months ago she asked for a break with no contact to work on herself, but didn’t give a timeline. She said that no matter what she does make sure I don’t break the no contact rule. I didn’t fight it or try to make her feel about it. I moved to a different apartment, relocated to a different branch with the same company within the city. I don’t contact her or check in. I ignored all her calls and texts. Deleted texts and voicemails without reading. Not to be mean but because I didn’t want to break the no contact rule. I’ve been tempted to answer her calls or call her but I don’t want to let her down. It’s been tough but I haven’t even spoken to another woman during this break. How long do these ‘no contact periods’ normally last?
@@standground7956 Move on my boy...it'll hurt but, it's well needed.
@@standground7956 No contact was supposed to be when they reach out to you in which you were then supposed to speak back in a casual way. If that is what you wanted you weren't supposed to ignore her when she reached out. Again if this is what you want
You always deserve better! So just forget what is gone. It's your life. Live it the way you please. Not what somebody else thinks or wants. Lead my friend, don't follow or get dragged!
@@standground7956 "Deleted all her texts and voicemails without reading" wow you are such a clown. You deserve the L.
I gave her so much space she can't locate me anymore.
LMao!!..that shit had me dying
Captain Kirk said( space) the final frontier, I got that from a girl years ago and it was the final frontier🌒
ba haaaa
😃 😃 lol
Lol did that, moved to Bali. She came here last week to just let me know she wants to be ‘friends’. Lol no thanks, next
Because she tried to find someone "better", and FAILED and she comes crawling back to "settle". Dont let her.
Exactly! And then when they come back they’ll try to make it your fault for not being Plan B.
@@RyuEnGamer RIGHT!!!! after dude done nuttin in you and on you and i gotta get sloppys !! NAH B!!!! IM GOOD!!!
I love leftovers. I hit all my hoes after they come back... with a vengeance. I’m in the process with one now. I just don’t care as much as I used to.
@@dominicbrogsdale3348 😂😂nahfr these women outta they mind bruh
Exactly my case. They all the same 🙄
If she walks away, let her walk away! You walk the opposite way. This is the best advice and it`s free.
The problem with this , is the idea that the man is the only one that needs to "change" during said space
no, there are reasons you give the woman space and it might be she did some major mistakes, but you still use that time to fix or improve yourself ;)
@@appeljuicesurf No I'm talking about when the woman purposely pulls away from you or breaks up with you.
Exactly apparently girls don’t have to do shit they can just come and go as they please and fuck with peoples minds but men have to “work on themselves” like what if we’ve always been doing that?
Touche!
Truth. was with my girl 11years during lock down we couldn't see eachother so tried to spend time gaming with her or video calling. I would ask and she'd so no most times. Time pasted it became frustrating. In turn I became needy which is not me normally. Saw her a few times but had to keep distance which was frustrating. She felt like I was controlling her which was news to me. She breaks up with me. I understood they way I had been was not the best but I knew she could have done more too. Yet some how I'm the one being dumped for wanting her time. Point being it ain't enough to break up cause of those reasons.she fails to see should could do more to give me more attention.
Remember guys , She's not yours , it's just your turn.
Quite wise sentence👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻😁😁😁
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puzh golatj absolutely
When she's not with you, it's everybody's turn....I
Also remember, she also doesn't own you. It's just her turn.
When the feelings are mutual the effort is equal! 💯
And no games are played.
If any girl leaves me there is no coming back. They say it's real if it comes back. It's real if it never left.
Facts
Bars
They say that to fuck around that's the purpose
only us Men feel this way .. hoes aint got no heart
Real talk ant no coming back aint no telling who she been with
Doesn’t matter why she comes back, don’t take her back.
Factssss
yep truth
Straight up if a woman truly has your back she will never leave
Had this with a girl who ridiculed me in front of her pal after a 1 night stand,
All because I wanted to hold her hand the next day,
She ghosted me and came back after 5 months!
Had a date with her 5 months later, met her at the restaurant, the first words out her mouth were “I like the
(............) on the menu, it was the most expensive thing on the menu, total gold digger had been watching me on social media knowing that I was doing well for myself and reactivated her interest and messaged me to choose a date the following week to meet up.
We did meet up but She was acting strange for all of 1 1/2 hrs in the restaurant, we didn’t eat at all.. too busy talking I guess.
Anyway, went home and I blocked her on social media, she fukn deserved it ... a total user / gold digging bitch got what she deserved.. I was wise to her after mentioning the menu before we’d even took our seat in the pub.
Never take back a woman who wasn’t falling over herself to see you in the beginning, really liked her too but that was gratifying to show her the door 😊
The other guy fucked then dumped her, that's why. Don't take her.
If somebody loves us, and Someone wants to be with us, then they shouldn’t need space away from you. Either be with them or walk away. Working on yourself should always happen. Sometimes the woman is too emotionally unavailable and needs too much distance no matter how “good” of a man you are
listen fellas never be a backup option she don't miss you she only misses the attention that you gave her & stroking her ego too
Legendary Tony absolutely
Total truth
Yup. The girls that are too used to getting orbiters and having low value bums chase her is flabbergasted and mad as hell when a high value man tells them no. My God they get some spiteful. Lolz
@@RyuEnGamer That's true
BOOM!
They come back because they want to know if they still have you. It's all a game. I would advise those who got dumped to just keep moving forward. The right girl would not have broken up with you and would have supported you despite feeling vulnerable. Nobodies perfect.
So much truth man happened to me just recently
Well said
You're spot on mate
Spot on mate 💯
So true 💯
When she comes back, I won't be there.
Good man.
Amen brother
She left because she had the "Grass Is Greener Syndrome" (GIGS), and her friends got into her head, to leave you,
Only to find out:
!!!THE GRASS WAS DRY AND YELLOW!!!
That's why she is back!!!
Don't be fooled.
the grass is greener where you water it, if you're doing same thing over and over again, you will get same results... as my ex run away for a greener grass... she not really valued what she had.
My woman of 6 plus years up and bounced on me... I wish I could just have zero contact but she has my baby girl... So I have to talk to her... She always tries to talk to me when I call for my daughter... Small talk bullsh!t... I don't care what you've been up to... Let me talk to my kid
There is no grass in the first place, it's turf!
The grass is greener because it is fertilized with s**t.
My heart is shattered
A breakup or separation proves that it wasn't meant to be. If she starts to come back keep the answers in a conversation short. Anything else is really none of her business since she was gone during the self improvement phase. Afterwards, move on and continue your own path without her.
"They left your life because God knew you deserved better. Don't trip." - Trent Shelton
Very well said thank you!
Not always true, there are times when someone truly needs to work on issues or times in their life. I'm surrounded by several happily married couples who had to take a break when they were dating. Life is not perfect, but sometimes people find their way back to each other
You can be meant for each other and still go through a breakup. Not every road is paved with gold.
@@JT-gm4fk I agree with you, there's alot of males that are bitter and say things like this and never improve, themselves, seems like your mad at the fact rhat she wants better, if she leaves and it's for good reasons then you just take a step back and fix yourself.
@@shkrsimpson44 factd
If she didn’t help you build your kingdom she doesn’t deserve the spoils at the end
Focus on yourself
When there's a break like that it means you're not her first choice. Don't be her backup plan!
Mayne i be thinking that too but just never know nowadays
You’re not her first choice.. but sometimes people don’t know what their first choice is.. mine has never dated anyone else so she doesn’t want to regret never trying to be with other people to see what it’s like. No point being with someone if they feel like they settled
EthanInGoa you seriously ought to move on from anyone who says that. It’s good you have empathy in your heart for her ‘conundrum’ but nothing but heartache awaits you on that path. There are plenty of women out there who would love to have a guy with a good heart and would be devoted. If she’s telling you she would regret not having more experience with other guys she’s telling you she wants to date other guys. Plenty of fish in the sea buddy! You deserve much better!
Honestly all girls will pull away or become distant as some point. Girls are like cats they'll roam around after they get bored, loss of excitement, loss of fun or the man started showing low value traits such as being just a tad bit needy, caring to much, stalking behavior. A women will sense that'll she lose her freedom and no human or animal wants to ever lose there freedom. You'll must love in a way that the person feels free. If she wants to cheat there's nothing you can do or say will stop her. You can only control your reaction. This is why you must look a for a woman with values and that family is important to her. If she goes and wants to come back it'll be up to you depending on how you feel if you want to take her back or not. Follow your heart. No relationship is perfect to many men fall in love with the fantasy in the movies. That isn't real life. In order for the women to fall head over heals in love with you she'll have to invest and crave to see you. You must act in a such a way that you can never be crumbled. Be her rock always make her feel that she needs you more that you need her. You'll have to have the power as the man not the other way around. As soon as the woman feels she has the power she'll test you more. Which 97% of men fail as they'll chase more.
Maybe but in my case I only now notice that I also need to grow and work on myself.. So does she. If she chooses to go for other men it's her loss but if we both grow we would only be stronger.
"You couldnt live with your failure..so what did it bring you? Back to me."
If she leaves don't let her come back. Remind her what she started you will finish and say "I hope you are happy now have a nice life because I know I am!"
Her: You need to change, else we cant be together. Him: Okay, but there are some things I'd like for you to change as well. Her: If you cant accept me the way I am, we can't be together. 🙄
LOL shit is stupid
They are so selfish to their own feelings
LMAO right on the nail
Wants cake and eat it too. 🎯
My god, this is exactly why we broke up haha
She comes back because you are now a better man because she left. She wants what she now realizes she should have been patience with.
Yup after you turned into a butterfly. I always just fly the eff away.
Well said Big-J. Short and profound.
Pretty much
This woman right here. This woman right here is an enabler. If you have to prove anything to anyone you already lost. Be the best you possible and you won’t look twice at the person that didn’t know your worth. Remember . One mans trash is another mans garbage.
It's not hard to find a good guy. The problem is that women really don't want the good guy.
Let's hope they get 'left on the shelf'
right! they want a guy doing life in prison with the possibly of parole!!! you see it over and over again!!!!
Interesting, this has also been my opinion, but who is the good guy? any attributes?
If your a good guy now days they said it mean your a simp & they laugh at you 🤦🏾♂️
@@supererick13 No worshipping women and sucking their asses is simping. Being a good man is being honorable, caring, and empathetic and determined. Which both is seen as weakness. The former is deserved ridicule while the latter is not.
They come back because of insecurity and they think you might find someone else.
Nailed it bro gave my girl space for 4 days and now her first question was if I was talking to somebody else!!!
Wap Wap what was your situation? And how long were you all together
this is so true
And I will
Sometimes it's actually too late for the woman cos after working on himself, he would acttract so many better options by the time she's back. It's best she tells the man the truth about her dissatisfaction so he can adjust, instead of playing childish games that'll cost her a good man. Some things aren't that hard
But that means they have to take responsibility which women won’t do , Turn the tables and do it right back to them
The biggest problem we make as men is to lose ourselves in the process of trying to show up to the woman we are in love with.
Remember if you ex gets in touch with you it's because her life is in a downward spiral, if it would have worked out she would have never hit you up in the first place.
Damn...never thought of it that way. That heaux in the gutter & for the streets
That is.
When a female rejects me it just makes me more confident. Took me years to figure this out, but better late than never.
Guys, I'm a 38 years old alpha male type, and I have dealt with countless women since I was 14.. dont dismiss what she is saying, she is dead on. But I'm going to tell you to just move on. The women with their act together will not let you go. Just always be on you're own path to be the best you.
What if you messed up and she wants a break..should she still stay with u and work it out? Or should she test the waters
I do think not being neeedy is good but she is just asking us to feed teh shallowness of a women, how about not dating a woman who is weak and sleeps around, how about that, integrity, how many western womenwear white dresses with integrity, you serius?
@@midorian12491
My heart says that if she is meant for you she will stay. She will sit down with you and have a conversation. People that want you in their lives will try to resolve issues. I think that you should go on to improve the weak areas of your existence and the right person will come to you. That's what I am doing for myself.
And you’re still single?
We are all too beta to deal with women... and they got that power to dump us
She needs distance... That's when I go after her best friend, sister or even her mother. That really pisses them off.
birmanets BOOM!!! Great idea!!!
😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Her mother though?
Nice standards.
I banged my ex’s worst enemy. That losses get off totally
She came back because she got dumped by your replacement!
Big facts. I still don’t understand the thought process though.
Or because you became a stronger man than your replacement after she dumped you.
This new chump actually ends up to be a simp bitch, and since she had a stronger emotional bond to you, it's easy to do the maths on why she comes back when you're stronger than this new dude.
Correct mate
😂😂😂
Only correct answer
When they tell you they need space/distance give it to them and maintain that distance. Don't ever make the mistake of letting them back in if they try to come back, as it has been shown that they don't really care enough about you or respect your feelings to be worthy of any more of your time. Move on to better things to do with your life and leave these self-absorbed and psychologically challenged people in the rear-view mirror as you drive away from them.
Hmm so if they ask for it leave them alone?
Ah im learning little more as i go the biggest thing is time gotta give it time ...days seem like weeks ugh but its going
Very good words for those women...hahah
What if you left them?
This exactly encapsulates all these videos about women and their twisted psyche.
“You will be tested. Remain solid.” Thanks Apollonia for speaking truth to power. 🙏🏾
Stop simping.
There’s no such thing as sh*t testing, women just treat men like sh*t if they’re not into them and are trying to turn the guy off them. They come back because they see the guy as a shoulder to cry on. Nothing more.
Tested for proving what kind of skills ? Nonsense !
@@LaRueDuConsommateur They are testing to see if you have internal fortitude.
If she test you, ignore, hookup with others women, give her own medicine so at least she'll learn to be a grown ass adult.
And don't think she will change for the next guy, insrcurities remains until beauty fades
If you love her let her go if she comes back she's yours if she don't she never was I went through the exact thing I was so in love to the point I had to let her go cuz she wasn't ready for a relationship after a year and 6 months we started back talking now she's extra nicer to me and we have a better understanding about each other now
She comes back because she found out the dude she was creeping with actually still lives with his mom and doesn’t have a car. True story of mine.
Jesus, my case too
💀 grass was dry and brittle on the other side lol
Same here bro 😂
Bwahahah!
A lot of people don’t have their shit together so if you are on your purpose and have some value they will come back because there are a lot of losers out there
You know what’s sad about women who give up on their man in search of something better? When they leave their man absorbs the hurt and becomes what they wanted in their absence. The problem is that now he’s become hardened and now he doesn’t care if she’s back. He’s lost the woman he loves and becomes what she wants and no longer loves her. She gives up the man she doesn’t love to return to a man she loves but can never lose because she can never truly have him again. Tragic really.
My women left me recently. No forgiveness. Looking at her life she doesn't talk to her mother and she doesn't talk to her daughter. Its no wonder she left me. No love in that women.
Yep my ex wife
Holy shit! This is truth! This happened to me and I can feel it...
Divine Comedy
Story of my life and many men. 😔🙏
So let me get this straight. The man has to have integrity, strength, great picture book active life blah blah blah, but the woman can punish at the first sign of any weakness, then run to another guy, and when bored, return only if we show even more integrity?? This is so stupid
Don't listen to her if she ghosts just move on
@@crazymonkey60123 society just went to shit
Is 30 years too much space?
I think so. 30 years may not be too much space. But it is up to you. Last time I saw, and heard the hottest, most physically fitness women in the world was in 2001. However, since I am interested in Miss Right, maybe it is good to wait more. Maybe it is going to be something such as her; a hot, confident, strong, fitness, or athlete woman.
According to her...no
Yes,,,,, too much,,,,,, she will be a grand mom by the way
No, I’d give it 30 more.
Not if you're both 5 years old.
I used to chase this girl. The more I chased, the further she ran. So I let her run. I used the time to focus on myself. I looked at the big picture, changed my diet, workout and be more positive. After a month of no contact, she started to notice me. She couldn't keep her eyes off me. Her mind game was so turnoff that I have lost interest. I taught myself to let her go and focus on my priorities. I have challenges that I want to accomplish. Friends to gather with and meet new ones. No matter how much she wants me, and I know she has a crush on me. To me, she's nothing more than just a hello w a smile.
🤨
It sounds like you grew up. Cheers.
Well done Peter. You did the right thing invest in yourself first .
This is currently my plan right now to grow myself and learn to forget her completly .
Wow brother . My life at this moment
As an introvert this "game" thing can be blood sucking hard... We don't accept many people in our life and we are somehow dependable to the people that we accept, especially a person with who will you maybe share a life
Bingo
I feel yah brother.
I don't have time to chase after women.
PREACH!
If that's you in the pick you defiantly don't have time
Alpha males don’t chase women.. they chase us.. beta, omega males are the ones that love to chase women who’s not really interested in them.. smh
@@MONKEYSCHANNEL327 😂😂😂😂😂
The distance thing is a game. You are being conditioned like Pavlov's dog when it's ok and not ok to see her. She is in control when she plays the space game. If that's how she rolls give her the space and go find another woman the last thing a man needs is some grown woman playing games like they are still in junior high school
Took me a while to realize this was happening to me but with a man. Playing games is for insecure and scared people. It’s sad but they weed themselves out.
My ex told me she wanted to see me and cleaned her house And bed, and a Day later she said no i dont want to
That same week she was seeing someone else
What a dirty ass slut move
The distance thing is not a game, but a test of strength.
While you are focussing on yourself and not paying attention to her at all, she expects you to act a certain way and reach out / blow off her phone. But you don't. And you stay away. It makes her think that maybe you're not as weak as she thought you were.
And when she misses you enough, she reaches out.
Exactly. EG - ZAK - TLY.
@@EternalxFrost What you say is true for young people, most middle aged women do not do this because the time clock is ticking and there is no time for mind games, In my opinion.
I miss the good old days, when love was a pleasure!!! Not a business.... 😂 ✌️
Ikr
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Familiarity breeds contempt. Sometimes it's good to be away from your partner.
The game is unbearable anymore stuck in d middle of blocking her or not
Never accept a person back into your life after you have cut them off. You cut them off for a reason. Move on, they are the ones missing their blessings.
I find that when i give space i become o become disintrested for real so when she come back its like i forgot everything even my feelings
If she wants distance, the old "I just need space argument", it is so she can cheat. She wants to but you're in the way, if she comes back it is because once she cheated the excitement wore off and she thinks now she can just pick up things with you like they were before. If she says she needs space, give her space, all of it and don't let her come back. Giving someone space is not working on a relationship it is abandoning one. There are plenty of other women out there that you can have a relationship with, why pick one that does want to be with you but needs "space".
Chuck her out like last week's garbage.
She's for the streets dawg
if she says this out of nowhere, like say yall have been going well for a little while just rollin along and then she says this, then i 100% agree. but if you get into a fight and then she says she needs space, alot of times its just a re-evaluation period for her. although i agree, a woman taking space is not fun for you and it is inconsiderate of your feelings, not every girl just wants some other guy. a normal and mentally sound woman doesn't gobble the next guy she sees after a breakup, but girls like that definitely do exist unfortunately.
Not true. Most ppl take space bc they want to feel valued and appreciated. If something is missing ppl pull back when they feel vulnerable and sad.
Then it is not cheating anymore bro.
And if that is the case be glad she first cut you off
Let me tell you something people. Read this carefully. This life we live has a purpose and I know for a fact that purpose isn't watching videos on If she/he is going to come back. We put way too much time in things that aren't our soul purpose. Purpose of this life isn't a man or a woman it's God. Focus on him do your thing in life and you will find someone genuine. Again don't make women or men your purpose it's a deception. There's one remedy in life with women and men and that's destiny. No matter what happens if you're destined together you will be together. If you're not destined no matter how many tactics you use to win them back it won't happen. So do you be happy and just strive and destiny will bring everything in place.
I agree, and like this point! Well said.
Finally somebody says it. Too many people put penis/vagina on a pedestal
What the fuck is God?
👌🏻
What about for us atheists? We need self fulfillment as well.
Just because she reached out to you doesn’t mean she misses you… I like that.
She will come back for own benefits. Not because she cares. Very simple.
True she came back yesterday after 3 years
If you have to change to get someone back, they didn't want you in the first place. They wanted someone that they could mold to their liking. Leave her alone, move on and wish for her that she finds someone she can make into what she wants 🙄
They always came back to me. The thing is, I never took them back.
The comment section is more useful than the video itself.
A good relationship isn't brittle.
Do work on yourself. Be better. For yourself. Find another girl.
I’m losing hope in the modern western woman. Feminism and social media has ruined the potential of a healthy relationship and or even marriage. Good luck fellas if that’s what you choose. Proceed with caution 😂
Not only western women but mostly all women in this era, women still women no matter ,
I'm realizing that a better option for me is a woman who grew up in America but has the influence of another culture that her parents were from. This way she has more than the capitalist mindset when it comes to family and relationships. Purely American women see men as business opportunities. Resources to be explioted for their own purposes. Not partners to build with. For me it makes them undatable and unreliable partners.
Miller u aint lying
Wise man
Yes I agree. Social media and the fact everybody almost has access to everybody else on the planet. Trust is SO HARD to keep
Because she realized that those guys that were flirting with her on social media or the streets just wanted one and one thing only! Yes that thing down there and now she got played by another dude and she has awoken to the fact that men just want to hit it and not be there for her. However, I am standards and now the next lady will be younger and prettier!!! Peace out
Never understood why they hold the pussy hostage. Give a man what he wants reasonably of course, between 1st and 3rd date. Do that and they're so shocked to realize that yes, we will treat you right and make sure things are fluid.
Yup I just got out of a 6 year relationship few months back and I was so broken. Have me time to think about the relationship and it was absolute shit. All the crap I put up with. Well needless to say she was 32 with three kids and now I found myself a damn fine 20 year old. I'm NOT complaining.
Im with you there!! I have things to do when Im done.. IM DONE!!! i lost interest !!!
🙏🏾
My case
Thank you so much for this. I spent weeks begging and pleading for her to come back to me and was just ghosted. I finally decided to let go and work on me and leave it to destiny. If it’s meant to be she will come back when she’s ready and if not, then I’m still grateful for the years she spent with me.
Update?
She comes back because the other dude is done with her and she know you a simp
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏿♂️ true true
Haha right that’s not what this women is telling y’all she just being positive . But the truth is that solo cooper
That's when you hit it and quit it, I realised I can never get back with a girl once she sleeps with someone else, especially someone I know. I can never again be with her
If she want dick give it to her and that’s all .
Absolutely!! You should have done this vid...it would only have been 10 seconds
She didn't want me when I was down why the f*** would I let her have me when I'm up
Yoooo! My ex came back last night banging on the door after I fully cut contact in January. I refused to open the door, I respect myself too much and my peace is paramount. I’m no longer PROVING myself to anyone, I can’t get down with this message/video in its entirety. You can’t build a relationship with someone who expects you to do all of the work.There will be Zero Monkey Branching with me. When someone walks out your life, LET THEM GO, especially if they are a Covert Narcissist.
She randomly just knocked on your door at night 😂...
factual statement
You seriously saw her knocking on your door through the window and didn’t open it? And are somehow watching this video?
Well spoken mate.
She comes back because your the pay check or shes had a bit of fun with chad and now wants a bit of security ..until next time
She has come back because the grass wasn’t greener on the other side.
Yeah and now he's a free agent
I think this might be your best piece of general advice. Letting a lady know that you're curious about her, vs. trying to verbally sell ourselves to her, to convince her that she should be with us... ...two different things.
The women that I let go of, they are not coming back.
Maybe you never had a connection for them to miss in the first place
if she wants space, give it to her, then if she comes back, make her your side hoe instead. lol
Bbf might be the main thing lol
Word.... That's what im doing and she's playing all sort of mind games and shit tests through texts....cut texts off that's where her power lies... Listen bitch only phone calls... Go text your orbiters instead
That's exactly what I am doing now...hhhhhhhhaaaa
@@armandelezi8449 Orbiters... I like that! You mean like moons?
Thats what I did honestly
What I’ve learned is that they come back because the “grass wasn’t greener on the other side”..100%
My best advice, never go back to a broken relationship. Get better and keep moving and let them know you have options. Don’t reward bad behavior. If she comes back, out her in her place and let her know, you are doing better without her and there are too many women. Live a life of abundance.
Yeah I’ve seen this advice a lot. After enough time passes I just don’t even want her anymore, space and distance can work against many people
I like this woman’s videos. She’s classy and she’s very informative.
She’s passionate about her work. She has a mind for it and outshines the majority of other relationship coaches.
After having a very very bad 15 days I have realized I DO NOT WANT HER BACK. Her lost, not mine.
If a girl calls you back after a break up run like hell!!!
This is what I’m going through right now my girlfriend and I are on a break because she’s been feeling overwhelmed with school, work, and me. I love her very much I do and trust me I’ve done both trying to change her and just feeling so attached to our relationship we share that I haven’t been doing my own things. You are really helping me and I’ve realized that I shouldn’t be changing her as I should just be loving her and focused on helping her with everyday things. Changing her values can only be done by her and I never realized that before now. I also have found that I was so needy because I just wanted to make sure that she still loved me and wanted me and lost sight of my own things in life… I wasn’t seeing that her and I can love each other and be involved with each other and still do our own things. I’m using this break to work on these things and let her take the space she wants and hopefully the road leads to a good ending.
She came back to you because she wanted to borrow bail money to get her true love out of jail.
ECO473 lol.. dude I cant with you
Lol 🤣
@@belladoniusmonk6256 LOL! 😁
Bingo!!! 🤜🤛
Yooo🤣 why it be like that tho
2 years and counting after a 6 year relationship. Said she’d never leave and wanted to marry me. Guys once she leaves, she left mentally months, If not years before. No amount of distance or time will make her unsee what she saw that pushed her away in the first place. It might work at the beginning of the split because of separation anxiety and the strength you’re portraying. Other than that, it’s garbage. Women will keep searching for what they deem is the bigger better deal, or even just the POSSIBILITY of the bigger better deal, until she’s no longer as desirable as she once was. Point blank period.
I left my ex wife, should I reach out? I miss her & it’s been awhile with no contact
@@Comeswoopfam why did you leave? Why would you want to go back?
This!. It’s incredibly true. We as guys age just like fine wine. And we will be wanted more as we get older in contrast to women as they age their looks decline. And guys will be bore inclined to cheating. And if that woman didn’t want the real man that was longing for her to stay. She lost big time
@@adonismartinez2891lol aging makes people look more like a decaying lettuce than a fine wine , it declines looks in all beings regardless of gender especially if its a rotten grape it only fills the air with a terrible smell . both genders could look terrible as they age and both could look good as they age its all about physical features and has nth to do with hormones and gender , what's this stupid misconception people have come up with thinking women turn into a quazimodo and men turn into Benjamin button as they age ?? That women need to hold unto someone or they will lose their chances ? That men will be wanted more as they age ? Well guess what it's men's bank account that's wanted as they age , don't have that and we'll see how many would approach you for your fine wine aesthetics besides rarely happens for a man to want the same food for everyday as this is what they always say belittling women . Its what I've heard and seen among most , give em the most beautiful the greatest and they still want another and another and another there is no loyalty.
Don't go back to an ex. Improve yourself and do better than her or any man she could get. You win!
... and you are still single a year later
It's very rare for a woman in this modern feminism era to say "never chase a woman". I commend your honesty and courage to say that.
Why go back to a toxic person who is already damaged goods and they are always right no matter what and they know more about everything then you?
Why out your self in that place... You are better than that people dont change?
Pray and work on yourself move on
I gave her space and she came back and this is why all her exes was bumps and when I love I love for real try finding something better than that self independent and self-motivated and self love I'm going to always choose me at the end of the day and always put God first
By distancing myself and let go of being needy. I do things to take my mind off her and after a while, I asks myself, why was I with her in the first place.
The only thing a man should never distance himself from is his money! Never chase a female. Your money will always treat & be there for you. Have a couple of female friends to have sex with & don't get attracted to them. Remember these words. No women no cry!!!!
Amen brother amen
When you got your money and not give a shit about them,then they come crawling and as soon as you get with them then their bullshitting starts again.
Dumb advice.
You should always improve yourself for yourself. Not for her. She left because she thought there was something better. She’s back because it wasn’t better or she wasn’t good enough. No take backs
No she's not. She's getting boned by the next Chad to come along. And don't take an ex back.. it's like heating up leftovers you got from the garbage pile. Move on. You will be ok without her.
In reality we are all exes from previous partners
Stay on your purpose in life, have options, keep your cool
I fell hard and got lost in this girl. 2 months of amazing stuff but I suffocated her. I am so happy about all I've learned since the break-up. I was codependent and now I'm independent. Your courses and videos are saving me from a toxic cycle. Thank you. I am meeting her for coffee tomorrow and we will see but I'm also being asked out now lol. Love being this new 2.0 version of me, the good guy vs the nice guy. Investing in me is my new jam! Best for all parties in the end.
🤣🤣🤣 that's hilarious
How it go
I gave my last so much space, she ain’t seen me in a light year. She been buzzing my line every since.
Ha haa......you almost made a Buzz Lightyear reference.
I just been slapped with a divorce by a court order and had three days to move out after 16 years, so I definitely gave her space. Now she's asking me things like "what are you up to today?" as if she don't understand the hardship that I endured. I had to put up a firewall and only say, "I'm good" at this point.
Cut her off completely, only talk to her about kids etc.
I had to take space for myself today. It was the toughest thing I've ever had to do... but I had to detach from her, emotionally. There needed to be a big change in our dynamic before it was brought to the point of not being able to save the feelings we have for each other. She said she won't be available once I am. This is a way of testing your emotional dependency. I have to show her that I'm ok if she's not. Time to keep working on me... not with the intention of getting her back, but to be a better man for whoever ends up with me. I know I have a LOT of growing to do. It'd be nice if she sees the result, but she's not a necessity. Power of abundance, fellas. There are so many gorgeous women out there. Don't put one on a pedestal above yourself. You are the prize. She has to earn you.
Give her 6 feet social distance. Try it! it worked out very well for me today on one girl that I've given her space.
As soon as she saw me, I protended I did not see her.
The next thing is that she's following me, walking behind me 6 feet away.
I then said "hello", and she's the one who wanted to know what i've been doing for the last 3 month, lol.
the issue is you might not want them back. She needs to show change as well.
Going through a breakup of many years currently-at a point where it's uncertain if it will make it-I realized not long after taking space that all of the things I was doing to fix "problems" in our relationship were just symptoms. I'd become so concerned with being "a good partner" that I wasn't putting in work where it really needed to be: myself. Just a few weeks of time off and I'm already rediscovering things I love to do.
18 months and she’s back saying she’s realised who the good guys are...
Give some details what happened
What pisses me off so much is how always the guy has to change. Why should i change for her and she will continue with what annoyed me?
Study evolution in sexual di-morphism among living species. You'll realize nature designed the politics of sex as such, and you wont be so angry haha.
You can only change yourself. She can only herself.
I mean you shouldn’t. No one should try to change you or force you to! Someone like that more than likely needs to change and grow themselves.
@@derekhenriquez5740 tree of life evolution is bull shit. Dna and Rna are c o - op langauges, never has a single cell become a dual celled organism, and never has it been recorded an asxual being became a sxual being...
Intel Design, Creator, God, Marraige, atheism built 0 civilizations!
Walk away........and keep walking............there is always something better around the corner. If you don't believe it, you haven't looked around the corner.
It’s been four months, and easier to live and breathe without her. That being said, even if she does come back, I’m okay with not taking her back. No hate, just not gonna be anyone’s second choice.
Any update?
@Jay Porter
Actually, she came back last October. We had some fun, she got pregnant, and had a miscarriage. Then, ghosts me for six months, then came back a few weeks ago.
@@Mikeh2077 wtf that's fucked up
Great
Do not be anyone's number two or spare tire