Why She Comes Back After YOU Give Her DISTANCE!

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  • @Tysmusic7
    @Tysmusic7 4 года назад +5070

    Don’t be anyone’s second choice.. if she leaves and chooses someone else.. let her realise later what she lost.. be strong and respect yourself.. walk away..

    • @quamifilms
      @quamifilms 4 года назад +71

      Absolutely!!!!!!

    • @jacklance6395
      @jacklance6395 4 года назад +64

      She doesnt want an eager puppy for a man. She wants you to be much more than that.

    • @Watsonclem
      @Watsonclem 4 года назад +30

      You are a man👍

    • @jameswillshier5948
      @jameswillshier5948 4 года назад +20

      cannot agree with you more

    • @nellynel6141
      @nellynel6141 4 года назад +1

      john smith Really John?! I thought I was the only one that realized that lol

  • @DonMcClain2015
    @DonMcClain2015 4 года назад +2749

    RULES:
    1. No contact
    2. Don’t beg
    3. No friend zone
    4. Be Mysterious
    5. Move on and stay away from them
    6. Don't be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me

    • @johnbingaman3645
      @johnbingaman3645 4 года назад +64

      Don McLean, you couldn't say it any more perfect than that🌞

    • @7xprofitplan871
      @7xprofitplan871 4 года назад +19

      Very well said

    • @KingOfNeptune_
      @KingOfNeptune_ 4 года назад +13

      Beautiful rules

    • @logicalgoblin454
      @logicalgoblin454 4 года назад +10

      what If she comes back to you after 2 weeks of you doing no contact with a text of, "hey hows it been, it's been a while". Should I still move away from her or do I start texting her again?

    • @karlosmuschek
      @karlosmuschek 4 года назад +52

      Rule one
      Hit it and quit it 😏

  • @cryptoalliance9346
    @cryptoalliance9346 3 года назад +2140

    “If you can’t handle me at my worst then you don’t deserve me at my best.” Words to live by. Stay strong fellas

    • @bobwreck3775
      @bobwreck3775 3 года назад +87

      True. Women are so quick to toss a man to the curb. They don't want to work through anything and come out the other side better and stronger. If you look at the womens lives who do that they are broken and the men are all over the place feeling bad about themselves.

    • @astrostar7018
      @astrostar7018 3 года назад +39

      @@bobwreck3775 very wise introspective. They wanna the best but they don’t want work for it. Most women want easy battle. But to win the war we have to fight easy and hard battles. It’s amazing when you know you have a true partner by your side that’s you can count for : good weather, and bad weather as well.

    • @vuurmen
      @vuurmen 3 года назад

      @@dylanbatchelor8485 what do you mean? Why is it unhealthy!

    • @tylerlowery7587
      @tylerlowery7587 3 года назад +50

      HELLLLLLLL NO. No grown ass adult should have to put up with someone at their worst to “earn” a place in their life when things are going well. That’s narcissistic and toxic AF.

    • @natedogg26n
      @natedogg26n 3 года назад +19

      @@dylanbatchelor8485 Completely agree! As a man, I take ownership of my life. It's my responsibility to be healthy. The woman should be a compliment to my life.

  • @H2OWarhawk
    @H2OWarhawk 4 года назад +2690

    Gents, you are responsible for your own happiness. No one else is.
    Always remember with or without her. You will be okay.

    • @JustWatchingYoutube94
      @JustWatchingYoutube94 4 года назад +50

      Thank you for the reminder. Genuinely.

    • @Exxon300
      @Exxon300 4 года назад +15

      Amen

    • @davidallen346
      @davidallen346 4 года назад +26

      You will be lonely and depressed and those could caused mental and physical illnesses , sure you can survived but it's the after effects that will make future dating more difficult

    • @lewismoreton3619
      @lewismoreton3619 4 года назад +1

      💯

    • @MrPapdogz
      @MrPapdogz 4 года назад +2

      @@JustWatchingRUclips94 I second that

  • @brandonhunter3166
    @brandonhunter3166 4 года назад +3730

    I’ve found after giving enough distance I don’t want her back :)

  • @gerry2706
    @gerry2706 3 года назад +381

    Funny thing is that after you give her space and make yourself a better version, you then don't have the feeling to get her back!

  • @HassanPoyo
    @HassanPoyo 4 года назад +930

    Going no contact made me realise i don’t need her as much as i thought i did.

    • @ApostleThe344
      @ApostleThe344 4 года назад +30

      I got dumped monday. Going through it now. Didnt chase, said later and on my way. 4 days later 20 different date requests got 3 new set ups with women. Later

    • @detectivehawk4976
      @detectivehawk4976 4 года назад +49

      Guildnam Style I’m happy that you’re getting more attention and sorry that you got dumped. But bro i’d encourage you to take tiMe for yourself

    • @peterchou5161
      @peterchou5161 4 года назад +3

      Worked wonder for.me. Red.pill that bitch.

    • @Thatguy777m
      @Thatguy777m 4 года назад +38

      @@ApostleThe344 I mean no disrespect what so ever. But 4 days later and your already doing all that. You gotta wonder why she dumped you, doesn't seem you loved her if your already meeting up with different women a few days later.

    • @Frankya92
      @Frankya92 4 года назад +3

      I learned this too the last time I was friend zoned. After being rejected by women my whole life that experience taught me to finally start growing up

  • @78SHAFER
    @78SHAFER 4 года назад +818

    If you want to know someone's mind, listen to their words. If you want to know someone's heart, watch their actions.

  • @pipvalley7987
    @pipvalley7987 3 года назад +215

    Never make the mistake of begging her if she chooses to leave. Just tell her OKAY once she request for space. Stop sending messages or chats. Ignore her completely. Many fishes are waiting for what she left. Never you allow her again. Just focus on your personal progress ... This has worked for me

    • @standground7956
      @standground7956 2 года назад +7

      I’ve been with my fiancé for 3yrs total. 7 months ago she asked for a break with no contact to work on herself, but didn’t give a timeline. She said that no matter what she does make sure I don’t break the no contact rule. I didn’t fight it or try to make her feel about it. I moved to a different apartment, relocated to a different branch with the same company within the city. I don’t contact her or check in. I ignored all her calls and texts. Deleted texts and voicemails without reading. Not to be mean but because I didn’t want to break the no contact rule. I’ve been tempted to answer her calls or call her but I don’t want to let her down. It’s been tough but I haven’t even spoken to another woman during this break. How long do these ‘no contact periods’ normally last?

    • @qsplak
      @qsplak 2 года назад +7

      @@standground7956 Move on my boy...it'll hurt but, it's well needed.

    • @prevbean
      @prevbean 2 года назад +11

      @@standground7956 No contact was supposed to be when they reach out to you in which you were then supposed to speak back in a casual way. If that is what you wanted you weren't supposed to ignore her when she reached out. Again if this is what you want

    • @prasannagupchup7887
      @prasannagupchup7887 2 года назад +4

      You always deserve better! So just forget what is gone. It's your life. Live it the way you please. Not what somebody else thinks or wants. Lead my friend, don't follow or get dragged!

    • @BayouTottedHue
      @BayouTottedHue 2 года назад

      @@standground7956 "Deleted all her texts and voicemails without reading" wow you are such a clown. You deserve the L.

  • @terrelladams2905
    @terrelladams2905 4 года назад +517

    I gave her so much space she can't locate me anymore.

    • @JoJo-vz5yh
      @JoJo-vz5yh 4 года назад +11

      LMao!!..that shit had me dying

    • @johnbingaman3645
      @johnbingaman3645 4 года назад +4

      Captain Kirk said( space) the final frontier, I got that from a girl years ago and it was the final frontier🌒

    • @MastaJP
      @MastaJP 4 года назад +1

      ba haaaa

    • @ubongikpatt1015
      @ubongikpatt1015 4 года назад +1

      😃 😃 lol

    • @joeswan8864
      @joeswan8864 4 года назад +4

      Lol did that, moved to Bali. She came here last week to just let me know she wants to be ‘friends’. Lol no thanks, next

  • @silentwitness536
    @silentwitness536 4 года назад +394

    Because she tried to find someone "better", and FAILED and she comes crawling back to "settle". Dont let her.

    • @RyuEnGamer
      @RyuEnGamer 4 года назад +24

      Exactly! And then when they come back they’ll try to make it your fault for not being Plan B.

    • @dominicbrogsdale3348
      @dominicbrogsdale3348 4 года назад +12

      @@RyuEnGamer RIGHT!!!! after dude done nuttin in you and on you and i gotta get sloppys !! NAH B!!!! IM GOOD!!!

    • @Curtis_George
      @Curtis_George 4 года назад +20

      I love leftovers. I hit all my hoes after they come back... with a vengeance. I’m in the process with one now. I just don’t care as much as I used to.

    • @bighomie2494
      @bighomie2494 4 года назад +1

      @@dominicbrogsdale3348 😂😂nahfr these women outta they mind bruh

    • @cipryan96
      @cipryan96 4 года назад +1

      Exactly my case. They all the same 🙄

  • @RB-sc3uk
    @RB-sc3uk 2 года назад +5

    If she walks away, let her walk away! You walk the opposite way. This is the best advice and it`s free.

  • @adetayoadegoke
    @adetayoadegoke 4 года назад +717

    The problem with this , is the idea that the man is the only one that needs to "change" during said space

    • @appeljuicesurf
      @appeljuicesurf 4 года назад +26

      no, there are reasons you give the woman space and it might be she did some major mistakes, but you still use that time to fix or improve yourself ;)

    • @adetayoadegoke
      @adetayoadegoke 4 года назад +57

      @@appeljuicesurf No I'm talking about when the woman purposely pulls away from you or breaks up with you.

    • @Yadeen.Merhaba
      @Yadeen.Merhaba 4 года назад +121

      Exactly apparently girls don’t have to do shit they can just come and go as they please and fuck with peoples minds but men have to “work on themselves” like what if we’ve always been doing that?

    • @ahmedshinko5142
      @ahmedshinko5142 4 года назад +1

      Touche!

    • @lolliman21
      @lolliman21 4 года назад +18

      Truth. was with my girl 11years during lock down we couldn't see eachother so tried to spend time gaming with her or video calling. I would ask and she'd so no most times. Time pasted it became frustrating. In turn I became needy which is not me normally. Saw her a few times but had to keep distance which was frustrating. She felt like I was controlling her which was news to me. She breaks up with me. I understood they way I had been was not the best but I knew she could have done more too. Yet some how I'm the one being dumped for wanting her time. Point being it ain't enough to break up cause of those reasons.she fails to see should could do more to give me more attention.

  • @lemmetellusum4884
    @lemmetellusum4884 4 года назад +909

    Remember guys , She's not yours , it's just your turn.

    • @francescofashionconsultant4659
      @francescofashionconsultant4659 4 года назад +21

      Quite wise sentence👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻😁😁😁

    • @samuelt.kisaame7787
      @samuelt.kisaame7787 4 года назад +9

      🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @Katd1974
      @Katd1974 4 года назад +4

      puzh golatj absolutely

    • @johnbingaman3645
      @johnbingaman3645 4 года назад +39

      When she's not with you, it's everybody's turn....I

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 4 года назад +39

      Also remember, she also doesn't own you. It's just her turn.

  • @patrickrodriguez3275
    @patrickrodriguez3275 3 года назад +168

    When the feelings are mutual the effort is equal! 💯

    • @brianlane9534
      @brianlane9534 9 месяцев назад +1

      And no games are played.

  • @keepingit100withl.e.x6
    @keepingit100withl.e.x6 4 года назад +1158

    If any girl leaves me there is no coming back. They say it's real if it comes back. It's real if it never left.

    • @ohhstoopiesbark8259
      @ohhstoopiesbark8259 4 года назад +62

      Facts

    • @Namebot2830
      @Namebot2830 4 года назад +41

      Bars

    • @darrylwhitehead854
      @darrylwhitehead854 4 года назад +22

      They say that to fuck around that's the purpose

    • @alanray5101
      @alanray5101 4 года назад +42

      only us Men feel this way .. hoes aint got no heart

    • @goodjob3337
      @goodjob3337 4 года назад +33

      Real talk ant no coming back aint no telling who she been with

  • @HVAC_Jae
    @HVAC_Jae 4 года назад +803

    Doesn’t matter why she comes back, don’t take her back.

    • @Papi_Ragu
      @Papi_Ragu 4 года назад +24

      Factssss

    • @alanray5101
      @alanray5101 4 года назад +6

      yep truth

    • @basketballplays6911
      @basketballplays6911 4 года назад +60

      Straight up if a woman truly has your back she will never leave

    • @robbieanderson227
      @robbieanderson227 4 года назад +9

      Had this with a girl who ridiculed me in front of her pal after a 1 night stand,
      All because I wanted to hold her hand the next day,
      She ghosted me and came back after 5 months!
      Had a date with her 5 months later, met her at the restaurant, the first words out her mouth were “I like the
      (............) on the menu, it was the most expensive thing on the menu, total gold digger had been watching me on social media knowing that I was doing well for myself and reactivated her interest and messaged me to choose a date the following week to meet up.
      We did meet up but She was acting strange for all of 1 1/2 hrs in the restaurant, we didn’t eat at all.. too busy talking I guess.
      Anyway, went home and I blocked her on social media, she fukn deserved it ... a total user / gold digging bitch got what she deserved.. I was wise to her after mentioning the menu before we’d even took our seat in the pub.
      Never take back a woman who wasn’t falling over herself to see you in the beginning, really liked her too but that was gratifying to show her the door 😊

    • @cipryan96
      @cipryan96 4 года назад +19

      The other guy fucked then dumped her, that's why. Don't take her.

  • @caurbine1228
    @caurbine1228 2 года назад +50

    If somebody loves us, and Someone wants to be with us, then they shouldn’t need space away from you. Either be with them or walk away. Working on yourself should always happen. Sometimes the woman is too emotionally unavailable and needs too much distance no matter how “good” of a man you are

  • @legendarytonyclutch
    @legendarytonyclutch 4 года назад +320

    listen fellas never be a backup option she don't miss you she only misses the attention that you gave her & stroking her ego too

    • @Katd1974
      @Katd1974 4 года назад +5

      Legendary Tony absolutely

    • @larrydaugherty2605
      @larrydaugherty2605 4 года назад +5

      Total truth

    • @RyuEnGamer
      @RyuEnGamer 4 года назад +13

      Yup. The girls that are too used to getting orbiters and having low value bums chase her is flabbergasted and mad as hell when a high value man tells them no. My God they get some spiteful. Lolz

    • @abanuverse
      @abanuverse 4 года назад

      @@RyuEnGamer That's true

    • @jesseolivas9959
      @jesseolivas9959 4 года назад +1

      BOOM!

  • @OnderHassan
    @OnderHassan 4 года назад +1076

    They come back because they want to know if they still have you. It's all a game. I would advise those who got dumped to just keep moving forward. The right girl would not have broken up with you and would have supported you despite feeling vulnerable. Nobodies perfect.

    • @filiphanic802
      @filiphanic802 3 года назад +43

      So much truth man happened to me just recently

    • @Wolfeyes.
      @Wolfeyes. 3 года назад +10

      Well said

    • @cluggyahoo
      @cluggyahoo 3 года назад +12

      You're spot on mate

    • @carlmarch9591
      @carlmarch9591 3 года назад +8

      Spot on mate 💯

    • @6AM96
      @6AM96 3 года назад +5

      So true 💯

  • @Nigel__
    @Nigel__ 4 года назад +185

    When she comes back, I won't be there.

  • @thatguy1475
    @thatguy1475 4 года назад +549

    She left because she had the "Grass Is Greener Syndrome" (GIGS), and her friends got into her head, to leave you,
    Only to find out:
    !!!THE GRASS WAS DRY AND YELLOW!!!
    That's why she is back!!!
    Don't be fooled.

    • @Rootazz
      @Rootazz 3 года назад +10

      the grass is greener where you water it, if you're doing same thing over and over again, you will get same results... as my ex run away for a greener grass... she not really valued what she had.

    • @mr.hemlock1900
      @mr.hemlock1900 3 года назад +18

      My woman of 6 plus years up and bounced on me... I wish I could just have zero contact but she has my baby girl... So I have to talk to her... She always tries to talk to me when I call for my daughter... Small talk bullsh!t... I don't care what you've been up to... Let me talk to my kid

    • @josephozurumba
      @josephozurumba 3 года назад +6

      There is no grass in the first place, it's turf!

    • @magicj599
      @magicj599 2 года назад

      The grass is greener because it is fertilized with s**t.

    • @wisemanoncesaid9498
      @wisemanoncesaid9498 2 года назад +1

      My heart is shattered

  • @UaghBrian2000
    @UaghBrian2000 3 года назад +85

    A breakup or separation proves that it wasn't meant to be. If she starts to come back keep the answers in a conversation short. Anything else is really none of her business since she was gone during the self improvement phase. Afterwards, move on and continue your own path without her.
    "They left your life because God knew you deserved better. Don't trip." - Trent Shelton

    • @menaceflame
      @menaceflame 2 года назад

      Very well said thank you!

    • @JT-gm4fk
      @JT-gm4fk 2 года назад +15

      Not always true, there are times when someone truly needs to work on issues or times in their life. I'm surrounded by several happily married couples who had to take a break when they were dating. Life is not perfect, but sometimes people find their way back to each other

    • @shkrsimpson44
      @shkrsimpson44 2 года назад +7

      You can be meant for each other and still go through a breakup. Not every road is paved with gold.

    • @bsexboy
      @bsexboy 2 года назад

      @@JT-gm4fk I agree with you, there's alot of males that are bitter and say things like this and never improve, themselves, seems like your mad at the fact rhat she wants better, if she leaves and it's for good reasons then you just take a step back and fix yourself.

    • @themastermaster8514
      @themastermaster8514 Год назад

      @@shkrsimpson44 factd

  • @karlosmuschek
    @karlosmuschek 4 года назад +80

    If she didn’t help you build your kingdom she doesn’t deserve the spoils at the end
    Focus on yourself

  • @keithcardwell7275
    @keithcardwell7275 4 года назад +717

    When there's a break like that it means you're not her first choice. Don't be her backup plan!

    • @Juli-n-David
      @Juli-n-David 4 года назад +25

      Mayne i be thinking that too but just never know nowadays

    • @ethaningoa7461
      @ethaningoa7461 4 года назад +24

      You’re not her first choice.. but sometimes people don’t know what their first choice is.. mine has never dated anyone else so she doesn’t want to regret never trying to be with other people to see what it’s like. No point being with someone if they feel like they settled

    • @LeashMechanic
      @LeashMechanic 4 года назад +34

      EthanInGoa you seriously ought to move on from anyone who says that. It’s good you have empathy in your heart for her ‘conundrum’ but nothing but heartache awaits you on that path. There are plenty of women out there who would love to have a guy with a good heart and would be devoted. If she’s telling you she would regret not having more experience with other guys she’s telling you she wants to date other guys. Plenty of fish in the sea buddy! You deserve much better!

    • @jaymendoza6920
      @jaymendoza6920 4 года назад +67

      Honestly all girls will pull away or become distant as some point. Girls are like cats they'll roam around after they get bored, loss of excitement, loss of fun or the man started showing low value traits such as being just a tad bit needy, caring to much, stalking behavior. A women will sense that'll she lose her freedom and no human or animal wants to ever lose there freedom. You'll must love in a way that the person feels free. If she wants to cheat there's nothing you can do or say will stop her. You can only control your reaction. This is why you must look a for a woman with values and that family is important to her. If she goes and wants to come back it'll be up to you depending on how you feel if you want to take her back or not. Follow your heart. No relationship is perfect to many men fall in love with the fantasy in the movies. That isn't real life. In order for the women to fall head over heals in love with you she'll have to invest and crave to see you. You must act in a such a way that you can never be crumbled. Be her rock always make her feel that she needs you more that you need her. You'll have to have the power as the man not the other way around. As soon as the woman feels she has the power she'll test you more. Which 97% of men fail as they'll chase more.

    • @nicolaikessler7399
      @nicolaikessler7399 4 года назад +11

      Maybe but in my case I only now notice that I also need to grow and work on myself.. So does she. If she chooses to go for other men it's her loss but if we both grow we would only be stronger.

  • @LDAGamingDivision
    @LDAGamingDivision 3 года назад +13

    "You couldnt live with your failure..so what did it bring you? Back to me."
    If she leaves don't let her come back. Remind her what she started you will finish and say "I hope you are happy now have a nice life because I know I am!"

  • @BalticLab
    @BalticLab 4 года назад +1121

    Her: You need to change, else we cant be together. Him: Okay, but there are some things I'd like for you to change as well. Her: If you cant accept me the way I am, we can't be together. 🙄

    • @hedontexistfr
      @hedontexistfr 4 года назад +21

      LOL shit is stupid

    • @barryglenn1847
      @barryglenn1847 4 года назад +78

      They are so selfish to their own feelings

    • @jons2936
      @jons2936 4 года назад +45

      LMAO right on the nail

    • @unodostres8440
      @unodostres8440 3 года назад +33

      Wants cake and eat it too. 🎯

    • @harshjones1688
      @harshjones1688 3 года назад +25

      My god, this is exactly why we broke up haha

  • @JerryLee..
    @JerryLee.. 4 года назад +232

    She comes back because you are now a better man because she left. She wants what she now realizes she should have been patience with.

    • @bluesmoke8826
      @bluesmoke8826 3 года назад +18

      Yup after you turned into a butterfly. I always just fly the eff away.

    • @michaelmiller8455
      @michaelmiller8455 3 года назад +4

      Well said Big-J. Short and profound.

    • @vaggs003
      @vaggs003 2 года назад +1

      Pretty much

  • @NPALTA
    @NPALTA 3 года назад +2

    This woman right here. This woman right here is an enabler. If you have to prove anything to anyone you already lost. Be the best you possible and you won’t look twice at the person that didn’t know your worth. Remember . One mans trash is another mans garbage.

  • @jimjones1232
    @jimjones1232 4 года назад +417

    It's not hard to find a good guy. The problem is that women really don't want the good guy.

    • @gazza2933
      @gazza2933 4 года назад +13

      Let's hope they get 'left on the shelf'

    • @dominicbrogsdale3348
      @dominicbrogsdale3348 4 года назад +32

      right! they want a guy doing life in prison with the possibly of parole!!! you see it over and over again!!!!

    • @thelecturetheatre
      @thelecturetheatre 4 года назад +1

      Interesting, this has also been my opinion, but who is the good guy? any attributes?

    • @supererick13
      @supererick13 4 года назад +35

      If your a good guy now days they said it mean your a simp & they laugh at you 🤦🏾‍♂️

    • @eatanotherzio6811
      @eatanotherzio6811 3 года назад +18

      @@supererick13 No worshipping women and sucking their asses is simping. Being a good man is being honorable, caring, and empathetic and determined. Which both is seen as weakness. The former is deserved ridicule while the latter is not.

  • @fix-and-drive-diy-repairs
    @fix-and-drive-diy-repairs 4 года назад +247

    They come back because of insecurity and they think you might find someone else.

    • @wapwap3951
      @wapwap3951 4 года назад +32

      Nailed it bro gave my girl space for 4 days and now her first question was if I was talking to somebody else!!!

    • @andrescantu2087
      @andrescantu2087 4 года назад +5

      Wap Wap what was your situation? And how long were you all together

    • @troyesivan7069
      @troyesivan7069 4 года назад +2

      this is so true

    • @lilalphatee3608
      @lilalphatee3608 2 года назад +1

      And I will

  • @rhemamusic6502
    @rhemamusic6502 3 года назад +40

    Sometimes it's actually too late for the woman cos after working on himself, he would acttract so many better options by the time she's back. It's best she tells the man the truth about her dissatisfaction so he can adjust, instead of playing childish games that'll cost her a good man. Some things aren't that hard

    • @handsomebarber424
      @handsomebarber424 3 года назад +9

      But that means they have to take responsibility which women won’t do , Turn the tables and do it right back to them

  • @Avalara88
    @Avalara88 4 года назад +183

    The biggest problem we make as men is to lose ourselves in the process of trying to show up to the woman we are in love with.

  • @chongsfury4358
    @chongsfury4358 4 года назад +107

    Remember if you ex gets in touch with you it's because her life is in a downward spiral, if it would have worked out she would have never hit you up in the first place.

    • @GMacII
      @GMacII 3 года назад +4

      Damn...never thought of it that way. That heaux in the gutter & for the streets

    • @LaRueDuConsommateur
      @LaRueDuConsommateur 3 года назад +1

      That is.

  • @xtralionusone4644
    @xtralionusone4644 3 года назад +7

    When a female rejects me it just makes me more confident. Took me years to figure this out, but better late than never.

  • @Azav312
    @Azav312 4 года назад +457

    Guys, I'm a 38 years old alpha male type, and I have dealt with countless women since I was 14.. dont dismiss what she is saying, she is dead on. But I'm going to tell you to just move on. The women with their act together will not let you go. Just always be on you're own path to be the best you.

    • @midorian12491
      @midorian12491 3 года назад +3

      What if you messed up and she wants a break..should she still stay with u and work it out? Or should she test the waters

    • @falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543
      @falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543 3 года назад +8

      I do think not being neeedy is good but she is just asking us to feed teh shallowness of a women, how about not dating a woman who is weak and sleeps around, how about that, integrity, how many western womenwear white dresses with integrity, you serius?

    • @bluesmoke8826
      @bluesmoke8826 3 года назад +14

      @@midorian12491
      My heart says that if she is meant for you she will stay. She will sit down with you and have a conversation. People that want you in their lives will try to resolve issues. I think that you should go on to improve the weak areas of your existence and the right person will come to you. That's what I am doing for myself.

    • @CPATuttle
      @CPATuttle 2 года назад +2

      And you’re still single?

    • @hywong5332
      @hywong5332 2 года назад

      We are all too beta to deal with women... and they got that power to dump us

  • @birmanets
    @birmanets 4 года назад +459

    She needs distance... That's when I go after her best friend, sister or even her mother. That really pisses them off.

  • @bpexodus
    @bpexodus 3 года назад +92

    She came back because she got dumped by your replacement!

    • @jesspeachie
      @jesspeachie 3 года назад +3

      Big facts. I still don’t understand the thought process though.

    • @EternalxFrost
      @EternalxFrost 2 года назад

      Or because you became a stronger man than your replacement after she dumped you.
      This new chump actually ends up to be a simp bitch, and since she had a stronger emotional bond to you, it's easy to do the maths on why she comes back when you're stronger than this new dude.

    • @manifesting1428
      @manifesting1428 11 месяцев назад

      Correct mate

    • @muhammadhuka7170
      @muhammadhuka7170 10 месяцев назад

      😂😂😂

    • @Owennevulis
      @Owennevulis 10 месяцев назад

      Only correct answer

  • @videomaniac108
    @videomaniac108 4 года назад +529

    When they tell you they need space/distance give it to them and maintain that distance. Don't ever make the mistake of letting them back in if they try to come back, as it has been shown that they don't really care enough about you or respect your feelings to be worthy of any more of your time. Move on to better things to do with your life and leave these self-absorbed and psychologically challenged people in the rear-view mirror as you drive away from them.

    • @Juli-n-David
      @Juli-n-David 4 года назад +8

      Hmm so if they ask for it leave them alone?

    • @Juli-n-David
      @Juli-n-David 4 года назад

      Ah im learning little more as i go the biggest thing is time gotta give it time ...days seem like weeks ugh but its going

    • @Hanafimaslak-UK
      @Hanafimaslak-UK 4 года назад

      Very good words for those women...hahah

    • @davicherosero5962
      @davicherosero5962 4 года назад +3

      What if you left them?

    • @may998
      @may998 4 года назад +1

      This exactly encapsulates all these videos about women and their twisted psyche.

  • @willharper8346
    @willharper8346 4 года назад +282

    “You will be tested. Remain solid.” Thanks Apollonia for speaking truth to power. 🙏🏾

    • @boss4330
      @boss4330 4 года назад +10

      Stop simping.

    • @MrDontfeedthematrix
      @MrDontfeedthematrix 4 года назад +5

      There’s no such thing as sh*t testing, women just treat men like sh*t if they’re not into them and are trying to turn the guy off them. They come back because they see the guy as a shoulder to cry on. Nothing more.

    • @LaRueDuConsommateur
      @LaRueDuConsommateur 3 года назад

      Tested for proving what kind of skills ? Nonsense !

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 3 года назад

      @@LaRueDuConsommateur They are testing to see if you have internal fortitude.

    • @flav_35_l86
      @flav_35_l86 2 года назад +2

      If she test you, ignore, hookup with others women, give her own medicine so at least she'll learn to be a grown ass adult.
      And don't think she will change for the next guy, insrcurities remains until beauty fades

  • @keilobrown
    @keilobrown 2 года назад +6

    If you love her let her go if she comes back she's yours if she don't she never was I went through the exact thing I was so in love to the point I had to let her go cuz she wasn't ready for a relationship after a year and 6 months we started back talking now she's extra nicer to me and we have a better understanding about each other now

  • @ArtOfMoney1
    @ArtOfMoney1 4 года назад +204

    She comes back because she found out the dude she was creeping with actually still lives with his mom and doesn’t have a car. True story of mine.

    • @cipryan96
      @cipryan96 4 года назад +4

      Jesus, my case too

    • @jesspeachie
      @jesspeachie 3 года назад +10

      💀 grass was dry and brittle on the other side lol

    • @alankeni
      @alankeni 3 года назад +4

      Same here bro 😂

    • @martinnlaudico1494
      @martinnlaudico1494 3 года назад +1

      Bwahahah!

    • @handsomebarber424
      @handsomebarber424 3 года назад +4

      A lot of people don’t have their shit together so if you are on your purpose and have some value they will come back because there are a lot of losers out there

  • @chrisearle40
    @chrisearle40 4 года назад +184

    You know what’s sad about women who give up on their man in search of something better? When they leave their man absorbs the hurt and becomes what they wanted in their absence. The problem is that now he’s become hardened and now he doesn’t care if she’s back. He’s lost the woman he loves and becomes what she wants and no longer loves her. She gives up the man she doesn’t love to return to a man she loves but can never lose because she can never truly have him again. Tragic really.

    • @bobwreck3775
      @bobwreck3775 3 года назад +5

      My women left me recently. No forgiveness. Looking at her life she doesn't talk to her mother and she doesn't talk to her daughter. Its no wonder she left me. No love in that women.

    • @carlmarch9591
      @carlmarch9591 3 года назад +1

      Yep my ex wife

    • @crashtestdummie67
      @crashtestdummie67 2 года назад +1

      Holy shit! This is truth! This happened to me and I can feel it...

    • @al333
      @al333 2 года назад

      Divine Comedy

    • @TomFox1
      @TomFox1 2 года назад

      Story of my life and many men. 😔🙏

  • @carljacobs2901
    @carljacobs2901 3 года назад +30

    So let me get this straight. The man has to have integrity, strength, great picture book active life blah blah blah, but the woman can punish at the first sign of any weakness, then run to another guy, and when bored, return only if we show even more integrity?? This is so stupid

  • @jimanderson8602
    @jimanderson8602 4 года назад +312

    Is 30 years too much space?

    • @georgeanastasopoulos5865
      @georgeanastasopoulos5865 4 года назад +3

      I think so. 30 years may not be too much space. But it is up to you. Last time I saw, and heard the hottest, most physically fitness women in the world was in 2001. However, since I am interested in Miss Right, maybe it is good to wait more. Maybe it is going to be something such as her; a hot, confident, strong, fitness, or athlete woman.

    • @ivandiaz2813
      @ivandiaz2813 4 года назад +3

      According to her...no

    • @captainmarcelo5269
      @captainmarcelo5269 4 года назад +1

      Yes,,,,, too much,,,,,, she will be a grand mom by the way

    • @TomFox1
      @TomFox1 4 года назад +20

      No, I’d give it 30 more.

    • @davalddert5359
      @davalddert5359 4 года назад +5

      Not if you're both 5 years old.

  • @peterchou5161
    @peterchou5161 4 года назад +117

    I used to chase this girl. The more I chased, the further she ran. So I let her run. I used the time to focus on myself. I looked at the big picture, changed my diet, workout and be more positive. After a month of no contact, she started to notice me. She couldn't keep her eyes off me. Her mind game was so turnoff that I have lost interest. I taught myself to let her go and focus on my priorities. I have challenges that I want to accomplish. Friends to gather with and meet new ones. No matter how much she wants me, and I know she has a crush on me. To me, she's nothing more than just a hello w a smile.

    • @ruledbyvenus2041
      @ruledbyvenus2041 3 года назад +1

      🤨

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 3 года назад +11

      It sounds like you grew up. Cheers.

    • @manavm7883
      @manavm7883 3 года назад +4

      Well done Peter. You did the right thing invest in yourself first .

    • @yddvngggyu782
      @yddvngggyu782 3 года назад

      This is currently my plan right now to grow myself and learn to forget her completly .

    • @jlkinney5970
      @jlkinney5970 9 месяцев назад

      Wow brother . My life at this moment

  • @Kretencekk
    @Kretencekk 2 года назад +40

    As an introvert this "game" thing can be blood sucking hard... We don't accept many people in our life and we are somehow dependable to the people that we accept, especially a person with who will you maybe share a life

  • @PastorClive
    @PastorClive 4 года назад +129

    I don't have time to chase after women.

    • @markwhittaker6866
      @markwhittaker6866 4 года назад +2

      PREACH!

    • @MONKEYSCHANNEL327
      @MONKEYSCHANNEL327 4 года назад +2

      If that's you in the pick you defiantly don't have time

    • @noelthomas7509
      @noelthomas7509 4 года назад +2

      Alpha males don’t chase women.. they chase us.. beta, omega males are the ones that love to chase women who’s not really interested in them.. smh

    • @eliasturndale5019
      @eliasturndale5019 3 года назад

      @@MONKEYSCHANNEL327 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @JC-bj5cv
    @JC-bj5cv 4 года назад +122

    The distance thing is a game. You are being conditioned like Pavlov's dog when it's ok and not ok to see her. She is in control when she plays the space game. If that's how she rolls give her the space and go find another woman the last thing a man needs is some grown woman playing games like they are still in junior high school

    • @jesspeachie
      @jesspeachie 3 года назад +5

      Took me a while to realize this was happening to me but with a man. Playing games is for insecure and scared people. It’s sad but they weed themselves out.

    • @TEUTONIC__ORDER699
      @TEUTONIC__ORDER699 2 года назад +1

      My ex told me she wanted to see me and cleaned her house And bed, and a Day later she said no i dont want to
      That same week she was seeing someone else
      What a dirty ass slut move

    • @EternalxFrost
      @EternalxFrost 2 года назад +1

      The distance thing is not a game, but a test of strength.
      While you are focussing on yourself and not paying attention to her at all, she expects you to act a certain way and reach out / blow off her phone. But you don't. And you stay away. It makes her think that maybe you're not as weak as she thought you were.
      And when she misses you enough, she reaches out.

    • @alexanderkohary1690
      @alexanderkohary1690 2 года назад

      Exactly. EG - ZAK - TLY.

    • @alexanderkohary1690
      @alexanderkohary1690 2 года назад

      @@EternalxFrost What you say is true for young people, most middle aged women do not do this because the time clock is ticking and there is no time for mind games, In my opinion.

  • @stephonpervez4646
    @stephonpervez4646 3 года назад +104

    I miss the good old days, when love was a pleasure!!! Not a business.... 😂 ✌️

  • @khumbuzampono8494
    @khumbuzampono8494 4 года назад +57

    Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Familiarity breeds contempt. Sometimes it's good to be away from your partner.

    • @kingwealthbeatz2442
      @kingwealthbeatz2442 2 года назад +3

      The game is unbearable anymore stuck in d middle of blocking her or not

  • @Void_of_Light
    @Void_of_Light 4 года назад +108

    Never accept a person back into your life after you have cut them off. You cut them off for a reason. Move on, they are the ones missing their blessings.

  • @realgeneral1947
    @realgeneral1947 3 года назад +19

    I find that when i give space i become o become disintrested for real so when she come back its like i forgot everything even my feelings

  • @Scott-be1cq
    @Scott-be1cq 4 года назад +155

    If she wants distance, the old "I just need space argument", it is so she can cheat. She wants to but you're in the way, if she comes back it is because once she cheated the excitement wore off and she thinks now she can just pick up things with you like they were before. If she says she needs space, give her space, all of it and don't let her come back. Giving someone space is not working on a relationship it is abandoning one. There are plenty of other women out there that you can have a relationship with, why pick one that does want to be with you but needs "space".

    • @UncleBensChannel
      @UncleBensChannel 3 года назад +9

      Chuck her out like last week's garbage.

    • @sbj97
      @sbj97 3 года назад +6

      She's for the streets dawg

    • @MrWillreed
      @MrWillreed 2 года назад +3

      if she says this out of nowhere, like say yall have been going well for a little while just rollin along and then she says this, then i 100% agree. but if you get into a fight and then she says she needs space, alot of times its just a re-evaluation period for her. although i agree, a woman taking space is not fun for you and it is inconsiderate of your feelings, not every girl just wants some other guy. a normal and mentally sound woman doesn't gobble the next guy she sees after a breakup, but girls like that definitely do exist unfortunately.

    • @Handle18880
      @Handle18880 Год назад

      Not true. Most ppl take space bc they want to feel valued and appreciated. If something is missing ppl pull back when they feel vulnerable and sad.

    • @pietjestront2858
      @pietjestront2858 Год назад

      Then it is not cheating anymore bro.
      And if that is the case be glad she first cut you off

  • @danh4435
    @danh4435 4 года назад +118

    Let me tell you something people. Read this carefully. This life we live has a purpose and I know for a fact that purpose isn't watching videos on If she/he is going to come back. We put way too much time in things that aren't our soul purpose. Purpose of this life isn't a man or a woman it's God. Focus on him do your thing in life and you will find someone genuine. Again don't make women or men your purpose it's a deception. There's one remedy in life with women and men and that's destiny. No matter what happens if you're destined together you will be together. If you're not destined no matter how many tactics you use to win them back it won't happen. So do you be happy and just strive and destiny will bring everything in place.

    • @georgeanastasopoulos5865
      @georgeanastasopoulos5865 4 года назад +4

      I agree, and like this point! Well said.

    • @sambeezy007
      @sambeezy007 4 года назад +8

      Finally somebody says it. Too many people put penis/vagina on a pedestal

    • @technobrain1461
      @technobrain1461 4 года назад +2

      What the fuck is God?

    • @QBlond84
      @QBlond84 4 года назад

      👌🏻

    • @lamingtongirl123
      @lamingtongirl123 4 года назад

      What about for us atheists? We need self fulfillment as well.

  • @patrickdelia2653
    @patrickdelia2653 2 года назад +2

    Just because she reached out to you doesn’t mean she misses you… I like that.

  • @ediniojeanphilippe9432
    @ediniojeanphilippe9432 4 года назад +52

    She will come back for own benefits. Not because she cares. Very simple.

    • @Roadrunner-g3e
      @Roadrunner-g3e 3 года назад +1

      True she came back yesterday after 3 years

  • @stevenwahl3440
    @stevenwahl3440 2 года назад +6

    If you have to change to get someone back, they didn't want you in the first place. They wanted someone that they could mold to their liking. Leave her alone, move on and wish for her that she finds someone she can make into what she wants 🙄

  • @TheRosswise
    @TheRosswise 4 года назад +35

    They always came back to me. The thing is, I never took them back.

  • @brunomoreira1706
    @brunomoreira1706 3 года назад +2

    The comment section is more useful than the video itself.
    A good relationship isn't brittle.
    Do work on yourself. Be better. For yourself. Find another girl.

  • @millertime6906
    @millertime6906 4 года назад +449

    I’m losing hope in the modern western woman. Feminism and social media has ruined the potential of a healthy relationship and or even marriage. Good luck fellas if that’s what you choose. Proceed with caution 😂

    • @thefearlesskibaarka9642
      @thefearlesskibaarka9642 4 года назад +27

      Not only western women but mostly all women in this era, women still women no matter ,

    • @kuunami
      @kuunami 4 года назад +25

      I'm realizing that a better option for me is a woman who grew up in America but has the influence of another culture that her parents were from. This way she has more than the capitalist mindset when it comes to family and relationships. Purely American women see men as business opportunities. Resources to be explioted for their own purposes. Not partners to build with. For me it makes them undatable and unreliable partners.

    • @isaiahkenny3544
      @isaiahkenny3544 4 года назад +5

      Miller u aint lying

    • @robertpadua6096
      @robertpadua6096 4 года назад +3

      Wise man

    • @GMan2670
      @GMan2670 4 года назад +9

      Yes I agree. Social media and the fact everybody almost has access to everybody else on the planet. Trust is SO HARD to keep

  • @freshness_ah7534
    @freshness_ah7534 4 года назад +171

    Because she realized that those guys that were flirting with her on social media or the streets just wanted one and one thing only! Yes that thing down there and now she got played by another dude and she has awoken to the fact that men just want to hit it and not be there for her. However, I am standards and now the next lady will be younger and prettier!!! Peace out

    • @sammysam2615
      @sammysam2615 4 года назад +11

      Never understood why they hold the pussy hostage. Give a man what he wants reasonably of course, between 1st and 3rd date. Do that and they're so shocked to realize that yes, we will treat you right and make sure things are fluid.

    • @bboy1481
      @bboy1481 4 года назад +8

      Yup I just got out of a 6 year relationship few months back and I was so broken. Have me time to think about the relationship and it was absolute shit. All the crap I put up with. Well needless to say she was 32 with three kids and now I found myself a damn fine 20 year old. I'm NOT complaining.

    • @dominicbrogsdale3348
      @dominicbrogsdale3348 4 года назад

      Im with you there!! I have things to do when Im done.. IM DONE!!! i lost interest !!!

    • @bennyanthro4891
      @bennyanthro4891 4 года назад

      🙏🏾

    • @cipryan96
      @cipryan96 4 года назад

      My case

  • @robertbaca988
    @robertbaca988 3 года назад +15

    Thank you so much for this. I spent weeks begging and pleading for her to come back to me and was just ghosted. I finally decided to let go and work on me and leave it to destiny. If it’s meant to be she will come back when she’s ready and if not, then I’m still grateful for the years she spent with me.

  • @BigBrothaAlmighty
    @BigBrothaAlmighty 4 года назад +575

    She comes back because the other dude is done with her and she know you a simp

    • @Havoc-g7v
      @Havoc-g7v 4 года назад +59

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏿‍♂️ true true

    • @Brandon_gar123
      @Brandon_gar123 4 года назад +26

      Haha right that’s not what this women is telling y’all she just being positive . But the truth is that solo cooper

    • @MONKEYSCHANNEL327
      @MONKEYSCHANNEL327 4 года назад +67

      That's when you hit it and quit it, I realised I can never get back with a girl once she sleeps with someone else, especially someone I know. I can never again be with her

    • @captainkirk197
      @captainkirk197 4 года назад +26

      If she want dick give it to her and that’s all .

    • @nellynel6141
      @nellynel6141 4 года назад +5

      Absolutely!! You should have done this vid...it would only have been 10 seconds

  • @harleighdavidson5065
    @harleighdavidson5065 4 года назад +76

    She didn't want me when I was down why the f*** would I let her have me when I'm up

  • @GMacII
    @GMacII 3 года назад +62

    Yoooo! My ex came back last night banging on the door after I fully cut contact in January. I refused to open the door, I respect myself too much and my peace is paramount. I’m no longer PROVING myself to anyone, I can’t get down with this message/video in its entirety. You can’t build a relationship with someone who expects you to do all of the work.There will be Zero Monkey Branching with me. When someone walks out your life, LET THEM GO, especially if they are a Covert Narcissist.

    • @JoJo-vz5yh
      @JoJo-vz5yh 3 года назад +2

      She randomly just knocked on your door at night 😂...

    • @andrepledger4371
      @andrepledger4371 3 года назад +1

      factual statement

    • @adamdanmusic
      @adamdanmusic Год назад

      You seriously saw her knocking on your door through the window and didn’t open it? And are somehow watching this video?

    • @manifesting1428
      @manifesting1428 11 месяцев назад

      Well spoken mate.

  • @smoothdesire9203
    @smoothdesire9203 4 года назад +71

    She comes back because your the pay check or shes had a bit of fun with chad and now wants a bit of security ..until next time

  • @muziq99
    @muziq99 4 года назад +60

    She has come back because the grass wasn’t greener on the other side.

    • @sammysam2615
      @sammysam2615 4 года назад +3

      Yeah and now he's a free agent

  • @Mr_BUSINESS_24_7
    @Mr_BUSINESS_24_7 3 года назад +11

    I think this might be your best piece of general advice. Letting a lady know that you're curious about her, vs. trying to verbally sell ourselves to her, to convince her that she should be with us... ...two different things.

  • @RAJ1
    @RAJ1 4 года назад +44

    The women that I let go of, they are not coming back.

    • @MONKEYSCHANNEL327
      @MONKEYSCHANNEL327 4 года назад +2

      Maybe you never had a connection for them to miss in the first place

  •  4 года назад +156

    if she wants space, give it to her, then if she comes back, make her your side hoe instead. lol

    • @reshw0ztxt
      @reshw0ztxt 4 года назад +2

      Bbf might be the main thing lol

    • @armandelezi8449
      @armandelezi8449 4 года назад +7

      Word.... That's what im doing and she's playing all sort of mind games and shit tests through texts....cut texts off that's where her power lies... Listen bitch only phone calls... Go text your orbiters instead

    • @abdmors1960
      @abdmors1960 4 года назад +4

      That's exactly what I am doing now...hhhhhhhhaaaa

    • @RichardMartinke6rji
      @RichardMartinke6rji 4 года назад +1

      @@armandelezi8449 Orbiters... I like that! You mean like moons?

    • @rayjohnsantos8151
      @rayjohnsantos8151 4 года назад

      Thats what I did honestly

  • @frankysanou2113
    @frankysanou2113 3 года назад +3

    What I’ve learned is that they come back because the “grass wasn’t greener on the other side”..100%

  • @spineintellabs4215
    @spineintellabs4215 4 года назад +26

    My best advice, never go back to a broken relationship. Get better and keep moving and let them know you have options. Don’t reward bad behavior. If she comes back, out her in her place and let her know, you are doing better without her and there are too many women. Live a life of abundance.

  • @itsmattnow
    @itsmattnow 4 года назад +36

    Yeah I’ve seen this advice a lot. After enough time passes I just don’t even want her anymore, space and distance can work against many people

  • @weecher8956
    @weecher8956 3 года назад +2

    I like this woman’s videos. She’s classy and she’s very informative.
    She’s passionate about her work. She has a mind for it and outshines the majority of other relationship coaches.

  • @cubanboy1981
    @cubanboy1981 4 года назад +27

    After having a very very bad 15 days I have realized I DO NOT WANT HER BACK. Her lost, not mine.

  • @jamesharris30096
    @jamesharris30096 4 года назад +25

    If a girl calls you back after a break up run like hell!!!

  • @samuelharding257
    @samuelharding257 3 года назад +3

    This is what I’m going through right now my girlfriend and I are on a break because she’s been feeling overwhelmed with school, work, and me. I love her very much I do and trust me I’ve done both trying to change her and just feeling so attached to our relationship we share that I haven’t been doing my own things. You are really helping me and I’ve realized that I shouldn’t be changing her as I should just be loving her and focused on helping her with everyday things. Changing her values can only be done by her and I never realized that before now. I also have found that I was so needy because I just wanted to make sure that she still loved me and wanted me and lost sight of my own things in life… I wasn’t seeing that her and I can love each other and be involved with each other and still do our own things. I’m using this break to work on these things and let her take the space she wants and hopefully the road leads to a good ending.

  • @ECO473
    @ECO473 4 года назад +164

    She came back to you because she wanted to borrow bail money to get her true love out of jail.

  • @albertodeulofeu5277
    @albertodeulofeu5277 4 года назад +138

    2 years and counting after a 6 year relationship. Said she’d never leave and wanted to marry me. Guys once she leaves, she left mentally months, If not years before. No amount of distance or time will make her unsee what she saw that pushed her away in the first place. It might work at the beginning of the split because of separation anxiety and the strength you’re portraying. Other than that, it’s garbage. Women will keep searching for what they deem is the bigger better deal, or even just the POSSIBILITY of the bigger better deal, until she’s no longer as desirable as she once was. Point blank period.

    • @Comeswoopfam
      @Comeswoopfam 2 года назад +2

      I left my ex wife, should I reach out? I miss her & it’s been awhile with no contact

    • @SPECTRA890
      @SPECTRA890 2 года назад +1

      @@Comeswoopfam why did you leave? Why would you want to go back?

    • @adonismartinez2891
      @adonismartinez2891 Год назад +2

      This!. It’s incredibly true. We as guys age just like fine wine. And we will be wanted more as we get older in contrast to women as they age their looks decline. And guys will be bore inclined to cheating. And if that woman didn’t want the real man that was longing for her to stay. She lost big time

    • @noctis8305
      @noctis8305 Год назад

      ​​​@@adonismartinez2891lol aging makes people look more like a decaying lettuce than a fine wine , it declines looks in all beings regardless of gender especially if its a rotten grape it only fills the air with a terrible smell . both genders could look terrible as they age and both could look good as they age its all about physical features and has nth to do with hormones and gender , what's this stupid misconception people have come up with thinking women turn into a quazimodo and men turn into Benjamin button as they age ?? That women need to hold unto someone or they will lose their chances ? That men will be wanted more as they age ? Well guess what it's men's bank account that's wanted as they age , don't have that and we'll see how many would approach you for your fine wine aesthetics besides rarely happens for a man to want the same food for everyday as this is what they always say belittling women . Its what I've heard and seen among most , give em the most beautiful the greatest and they still want another and another and another there is no loyalty.

  • @davidmcknight236
    @davidmcknight236 Год назад +1

    Don't go back to an ex. Improve yourself and do better than her or any man she could get. You win!

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 Год назад

      ... and you are still single a year later

  • @naturalbornkiller361
    @naturalbornkiller361 4 года назад +5

    It's very rare for a woman in this modern feminism era to say "never chase a woman". I commend your honesty and courage to say that.

  • @everardotorres4688
    @everardotorres4688 4 года назад +16

    Why go back to a toxic person who is already damaged goods and they are always right no matter what and they know more about everything then you?
    Why out your self in that place... You are better than that people dont change?
    Pray and work on yourself move on

  • @mainecordero3297
    @mainecordero3297 5 месяцев назад +1

    I gave her space and she came back and this is why all her exes was bumps and when I love I love for real try finding something better than that self independent and self-motivated and self love I'm going to always choose me at the end of the day and always put God first

  • @jimmydavis7885
    @jimmydavis7885 4 года назад +37

    By distancing myself and let go of being needy. I do things to take my mind off her and after a while, I asks myself, why was I with her in the first place.

  • @user-qo8xk7tg5b
    @user-qo8xk7tg5b 4 года назад +103

    The only thing a man should never distance himself from is his money! Never chase a female. Your money will always treat & be there for you. Have a couple of female friends to have sex with & don't get attracted to them. Remember these words. No women no cry!!!!

    • @lancelima9786
      @lancelima9786 4 года назад +5

      Amen brother amen

    • @lancelima9786
      @lancelima9786 4 года назад +9

      When you got your money and not give a shit about them,then they come crawling and as soon as you get with them then their bullshitting starts again.

    • @ruinned
      @ruinned 4 года назад +4

      Dumb advice.

  • @Coyote-wm5op
    @Coyote-wm5op 3 года назад +2

    You should always improve yourself for yourself. Not for her. She left because she thought there was something better. She’s back because it wasn’t better or she wasn’t good enough. No take backs

  • @donkndave7811
    @donkndave7811 4 года назад +192

    No she's not. She's getting boned by the next Chad to come along. And don't take an ex back.. it's like heating up leftovers you got from the garbage pile. Move on. You will be ok without her.

    • @hulkgreen6786
      @hulkgreen6786 4 года назад +3

      In reality we are all exes from previous partners

  • @nicke2307
    @nicke2307 4 года назад +14

    Stay on your purpose in life, have options, keep your cool

  • @RealtorDaveVanNus
    @RealtorDaveVanNus Год назад +8

    I fell hard and got lost in this girl. 2 months of amazing stuff but I suffocated her. I am so happy about all I've learned since the break-up. I was codependent and now I'm independent. Your courses and videos are saving me from a toxic cycle. Thank you. I am meeting her for coffee tomorrow and we will see but I'm also being asked out now lol. Love being this new 2.0 version of me, the good guy vs the nice guy. Investing in me is my new jam! Best for all parties in the end.

  • @ivoxmusica
    @ivoxmusica 4 года назад +23

    I gave my last so much space, she ain’t seen me in a light year. She been buzzing my line every since.

    • @misterb1132
      @misterb1132 3 года назад +1

      Ha haa......you almost made a Buzz Lightyear reference.

  • @MajinErick
    @MajinErick 4 года назад +26

    I just been slapped with a divorce by a court order and had three days to move out after 16 years, so I definitely gave her space. Now she's asking me things like "what are you up to today?" as if she don't understand the hardship that I endured. I had to put up a firewall and only say, "I'm good" at this point.

    • @sfa-voiceofafrica
      @sfa-voiceofafrica 3 года назад +1

      Cut her off completely, only talk to her about kids etc.

  • @31684Cooper
    @31684Cooper 2 года назад +11

    I had to take space for myself today. It was the toughest thing I've ever had to do... but I had to detach from her, emotionally. There needed to be a big change in our dynamic before it was brought to the point of not being able to save the feelings we have for each other. She said she won't be available once I am. This is a way of testing your emotional dependency. I have to show her that I'm ok if she's not. Time to keep working on me... not with the intention of getting her back, but to be a better man for whoever ends up with me. I know I have a LOT of growing to do. It'd be nice if she sees the result, but she's not a necessity. Power of abundance, fellas. There are so many gorgeous women out there. Don't put one on a pedestal above yourself. You are the prize. She has to earn you.

  • @JeffreyJeffreyFLF
    @JeffreyJeffreyFLF 4 года назад +19

    Give her 6 feet social distance. Try it! it worked out very well for me today on one girl that I've given her space.
    As soon as she saw me, I protended I did not see her.
    The next thing is that she's following me, walking behind me 6 feet away.
    I then said "hello", and she's the one who wanted to know what i've been doing for the last 3 month, lol.

  • @Theclassiccarnut
    @Theclassiccarnut 4 года назад +10

    the issue is you might not want them back. She needs to show change as well.

  • @heyjonbray
    @heyjonbray 3 года назад +26

    Going through a breakup of many years currently-at a point where it's uncertain if it will make it-I realized not long after taking space that all of the things I was doing to fix "problems" in our relationship were just symptoms. I'd become so concerned with being "a good partner" that I wasn't putting in work where it really needed to be: myself. Just a few weeks of time off and I'm already rediscovering things I love to do.

  • @VoiceOfThe
    @VoiceOfThe 4 года назад +25

    18 months and she’s back saying she’s realised who the good guys are...

    • @rebelaris
      @rebelaris 3 года назад +1

      Give some details what happened

  • @KungFuChopstick
    @KungFuChopstick 4 года назад +64

    What pisses me off so much is how always the guy has to change. Why should i change for her and she will continue with what annoyed me?

    • @derekhenriquez5740
      @derekhenriquez5740 4 года назад +1

      Study evolution in sexual di-morphism among living species. You'll realize nature designed the politics of sex as such, and you wont be so angry haha.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 3 года назад

      You can only change yourself. She can only herself.

    • @jesspeachie
      @jesspeachie 3 года назад

      I mean you shouldn’t. No one should try to change you or force you to! Someone like that more than likely needs to change and grow themselves.

    • @falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543
      @falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543 3 года назад

      @@derekhenriquez5740 tree of life evolution is bull shit. Dna and Rna are c o - op langauges, never has a single cell become a dual celled organism, and never has it been recorded an asxual being became a sxual being...
      Intel Design, Creator, God, Marraige, atheism built 0 civilizations!

  • @DVTOM
    @DVTOM 3 года назад

    Walk away........and keep walking............there is always something better around the corner. If you don't believe it, you haven't looked around the corner.

  • @Mikeh2077
    @Mikeh2077 4 года назад +132

    It’s been four months, and easier to live and breathe without her. That being said, even if she does come back, I’m okay with not taking her back. No hate, just not gonna be anyone’s second choice.

    • @BraVo8
      @BraVo8 4 года назад +3

      Any update?

    • @Mikeh2077
      @Mikeh2077 3 года назад +5

      @Jay Porter
      Actually, she came back last October. We had some fun, she got pregnant, and had a miscarriage. Then, ghosts me for six months, then came back a few weeks ago.

    • @PIOVRAME
      @PIOVRAME 3 года назад +2

      @@Mikeh2077 wtf that's fucked up

    • @fredrickkoech8396
      @fredrickkoech8396 2 года назад +1

      Great

    • @fredrickkoech8396
      @fredrickkoech8396 2 года назад +1

      Do not be anyone's number two or spare tire