❤️ Please read me.... After being in relationship with him for nine years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted my fiance to be back so much because of the love I have for him,I begged him with everything,I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and he suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring my fiancee back but I am the type that never believed in spell,I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, DR_ IRIBHOGBE and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my fiancee will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My fiance called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened,that he wanted me to return to me, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made a promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem,or health problem would be of help to such person by referring him other to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from others. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster Email address doctoriribhogbe@gmail.com Whatsapp or call +234 7058 448 789
As long as the health of a romantic relationship remains important to you, it is going to require your attention and effort. Follow the link below and lean how can help to preserve that falling in love experience and keep your romantic relationship healthy. sites.google.com/view/relationship-guide5/
Yes! Attachment styles are so great to know about when you're in a relationship. I first learned about them in a book called Attached by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. I highly recommend it for anyone who want to go more in-depth into their/their partner's attachment styles. 💗
I’ve recently learned about attachment styles. I know with my first marriage, now, that he was an avoidant, who didn’t want to change. I was right to divorce him, ( can’t change him) and find someone who is available to give me the love I deserve. I was an anxious style in my younger years, but after much personal work, I now test as a secure attachment style . Bravo me🤗
@@Rene-po7im Hey Rene, actually practicing meditation is extremely helpful with this. I have an anxious style as well and have been losing upon my closest relations due to my own insecurities. Recently, a few months before i started w chanting meditation, and i feel more relaxed n secure of my feelings. I do get anxious, i do have insecurities even now but I have started to become a little more aware of my feelings. It is when u realise that u have to love the person the most, even if they r down, unhappy, fidgety and may lose u. Love doesnt care about losing, it stays. Try meditating and being more aware of ur feelings, it helps.
I’ve learned a lot from this video, it’s just a shame that modern times and modern relationships fall due to social media and the temptation of looking for the next best thing. A lot of people nowadays think the grass is always greener, but the grass is greenest where you water it. Relationships I feel should be about teamwork and communication.. but relationships these days are based on looks and materialistic lifestyles which neglects the importance of talking and understanding one another. The second a relationship shows any signs of flaws or complications, one of the couple most likely leave as they think they’ll find someone easier to be with. It’s a shame really.
💯🙌 spot on.. we are replaceble and disposable in this modern day and age.. sad but it is the truth to digest.. people don't value people no more.. they just drop you and move on to the next person as if they will find someone better which usually not the case
Omg I got 1,3,2 and avoidance is because my husband of 22 yrs is more verbally abusive than abusive so I avoid him at all times. When hes not manic hes an angel. Either way I stay
Read a quote by James Baldwin : “Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within”- What does it mean ? Specially the last line * “ and know we cannot live within” ❤
Here is what it means: Love takes off masks (causes us to be vulnerable and to show ourselves in a way that nobody else or few others see) that we fear we cannot live without (in daily life, we act a certain way with other people. I have an extremely basic way of interacting, I say hi, conduct whatever business, I say bye, and I leave. If I don't have business with you, I'll probably talk to you if I have to, but definitely won't if I don't. Anyway, whatever your "mask" is, it is possible that it is deliberate and that you feel you need to not expose your inner self. You may fear being known.) And know we cannot live within, this is the part that struck the deepest chord with me. My mask adds yet another thing that keeps me from having relationships, particularly the one I'm dying without. But I'm kind of an example of when "love taking off the mask" backfires. Love took off the mask, it didn't work out for stupid reasons, I felt worse than I ever have before and still feel just as bad years later, I am strongly tempted to say, don't take those walls down. They're there for a reason, and a good one.
Thank you Jay, im soo happy I found you a year ago. I have been battling with mental and physical health for many years now. Sometimes its hard to even understand myself. You have helped to figure out myself and guided me to be the better person I am. I'm currently reading think like a monk (which is awsome by the way.. I wish u soo much success and I think to myself, what a wonderful path you have taken. This life is so unpredictable and uncertain, recently so many people have died due to the virus, sickness, war and racism. Makes us feel soo unsupirior yet how wonderful to think if my life did come to an end so suddenly atleast in your heart you would feel I did my part to help someone at their roughest time. Sharing your kindness and wisdom to help others is such a wonderful gift and living a life with meaning) when ever I feel at my worst I always listen to one of your podcasts or RUclips videos and you remind all over again why I matter and why I should not give up. Thank you 🙏
I hope I will be able to bring as much insight to people as you do one day. I don’t only admire you as well as your wife’s positivity, but you both are breathes of fresh air to learn without having to argue with a partner or loved one. Thank you !
Mantra for long lasting relationship : Forget & forgive __ Forget the good done by you and forgive the harm done by your partner. If you don't forgive your loved one than who will???! Love each other more and experience divinity through it♥️ Love is life♥️
Thanks you so much Jay, I'll never stop being thankful for the day you came into my life. I have been looking forward to knowing about my attachment style and to know about it generally, now I know and understand it well.
I have anxious and avoidant attachment style. I am single because probably meeting the wrong men because they always want more of what i don't know. My last partner told me men don't know what they want I said to him what more u want from me I am loyal honest caring loving with a heart of gold. See I just walk out I couldn't take anymore. So I'm not secure to be in another because I can't take it anymore.😢😢😢😢 sometimes I cry.
Such a great, on point video!✨ Healing from any of these attachment style to secure style (mine was anxious) takes time, dedication and unconditional love!!! One needs to be internally focused (bring awareness) yet utilizing the external feed back (triggers) within our relations to guide us as to what needs to be worked on (healed) within our selves. when getting triggered we really have to ask what am I learning from this? Relationships of all sorts are in our life to teach us more about ourselves so we can heal those aspects. secure attachment style is life changing! Inner state is no longer depended on anyone or thing....all one needs in any relations is one secure attachment style individual to hold space for the other, while they work on themselves but it is challenging and one needs to allow and give permission to themselves and the partner for this healing to take place. In some level we are all doing our best and want better for ourselves but at times evolvement doesn’t take place and one needs to move on. I believe this is the future! unified consciousness works hand in hand with secure attachment style. Most if not all conflicts will dissolve or not ever come up if we all work on ourselves and become emotionally intelligent and secure✨
Avoidant attachment. Absolutely. Life has constantly detached me from everyone & everything in order to find my truth and my Path. Thanks Jay for sharing💛
To do anything great, you have to be able to trust yourself and believe in your capabilities. Success is not something that just happens but something you create.
Omg I got 1,3,2 and avoidance is because my husband of 22 yrs is more verbally abusive than abusive so I avoid him at all times. When hes not manic hes an angel. Either way I stay I stay guarded
Binge watched videos from THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SCHOOL. Everything made more sense after I understood my attachment style and what is self sabotage.
I think for the most of us we’ve been through probably all relationship styles I also think as you grow into your own and believe in yourself more your need to attach and hold on for dear life lessens too As you become more at peace with being in your own company You strengthen and fear less! And just accept life as it comes and people for what they are!! My perspective anyway! Great video jay as usual very thought provoking!!!
Attachment styles can grow and evolve over time if we are aware, and aware, how we want to be. Trauma, heartbreak, etc all play a factor. Though, there is no empirical evidence supporting attachment style is cemented as a young child.
God says.. "Love is kind and patient. It does not boast r dishonor r point others wrongdoings!" Every relationship should add value, meaning n strength to one's life. It should deepen our insights, thoughts n attitudes towards positive, loving co-habituation n growth as a secured family,community, nation n global peace!!!!
Another thing that has stopped me dead in my tracks with that dead and useless thing I jokingly call a love life is the fact that I have an amazing skill with women. An impossibly amazing skill that is sure to astound anyone that knows about it. I am the master at picking the most ill fitted woman for me possible. I am the wizard of misfit relationships involving myself. (I do not do this intentionally, in fact she *always* feels like the perfect fit for me until reaching the hindsight stage) So, understandably, I choose not to use this amazing ability and I just don't choose anyone. Add to that, I do not pick up on subtlety. Ever. If a woman flirts with me, she is wasting her time. Flirting with me is like whispering to a deaf man one mile away. I've even looked it up before, but honestly I don't even know what flirting specifically is. Just something people do to get attention or something. I dare say, only a bold woman can have me. But even then, she has to do certain things a certain way, nothing really hard, just specific, or else it doesn't work and has no possibility of working. I think it's safe to say that in the area of love, I am a foreigner, an outsider, and am simply just doomed.
Thanks Jay!! These questions make you think 🤔 of what kind of person you really are but Only You Can Change! I really enjoy listening to your videos. Many Blessings to you & your wife. 😊
Hey Jay u didn't yet tell abt relationships which are broken cz of parents what do u think abt this make a video on tht Parents r also important in some of relationships
Come to think of it, I don't think I'm struggling with love. My crushes liked me (lucky me!) but I sabotaged my relationship with them. Once they started to show their interest with me, I backed off. Not sure if I have issues with intimacy or commitment or both or something elses.
I'm not struggling with love either. Girls seem to find me attractive often enough. I am pretty sure I've been flirted with even more than I realize. I'm not closed to the idea of commitment or intimacy, either. And I'm not one that keeps saying "this one isn't good enough, that one doesn't do it". The problem is, I just don't have a response. If my brain were a computer and my thoughts were software, the romantic part of my brain would be that part that the programmer seems to have skipped. There is no framework even, there's nothing there. If I try to learn romance or love it just doesn't seem to mean anything to me, the logic of it I mean which there seems to be none. I wasn't always like this, but I've been devastated enough times, due to my incredibly and almost comically bad judgement, that there really just isn't anything left :( Well also add the fact that I am very isolated. I don't meet girls. I don't have opportunities even to be rejected. Even to be considered. And it's been like that for so long, I don't even have a concept of anything else
Wow! Secure is dominant with slight Avoidant. 4c 2 b. Is being avoidant just sometimes wise, time tends to change perspectives. Sometime what you believe is just plain wrong.
Thank you very much for all your videos. This video hit me like wow, I knew I'm an anxious person, but this test helps me to think about the situation & my own insecurities, my relationships with the others etc. Thank you very much, I can't wait to do other personnality tests like that on your channel !
When I was growing up I didn’t have a father figure. My mom worked early late so my uncle had to watch me. He was married into the family and both mentally and physically abusive. Constantly yelling at me for being small because I was born 8 weeks early something I couldn’t control. I was also moved between schools due to bullying because I was small. Actually got physically injured from bullying a few times. When I was 9 my mom got married and we moved to a city like area, it took me 3 years to call my new dad dad. I still experienced bullying through middle school to the point I failed every class in middle school. But in freshman year of high school my wrestling and football team who’ve known me for years gave me an award for being strong and kind to everyone always being helpful. They started standing up for me and it almost made me cry. I had also started gaining muscle and played varsity wrestling and 9th grade football. My sophomore year, 10th grade, I had gotten a head injury in my last foot ball game and wasn’t allowed to wrestle that year when coach had said I could make it to nationals that year. In addition a good friend of mine had drowned. Junior year I had finally recovered from my year long concussion and was looking forward to wrestling that year. But I had slipped on ice and gotten another concussion concluding that I would never get to play a contact spot again. In addition I had lost my first ever friend that I’ve known since 4th grade to depression and my teams where starting to stop talking to me for they had thought I gave up on the sports. Shortly after my close friends girlfriend who I was friends with also lost her fight against depression. They where amazing people, and never showed signs of depression. I’m in my senior year and currently aside from COVID nothing bad has happened. I’m beating down anxiety and finally making my way out of my own depression. There’s a kind girl I’m talking to who’s been through just as much as me and I’ve secretly had a crush on her for 6 almost 7 years now. We are friends and hopefully I can end this year on a good note. Honestly don’t know what my attachment style is still. Never dated or been to a party.
This is bloody brilliant it actually helped me realised my attachment style is B I know I currently have no partner unfortunately now but its never a bad thing to discuss it with yourself atleast like this your helping yourself grow a person:) however I would love to talk it out with the one I still love but its important that I respect myself as much as respecting them:)
I am 22 years old but I still haven't been able to be in any sort of serious relationship.... Things just doesn't work... I don't know if something is wrong with me or with someone I get attach to...... Most of the time I just push someone away the second I feel like I am falling for him .. I just feel like I am not enough for him or I am not able to give my partner the love he deserves or he needs.... I feel I can never be loved my someone nor I can love someone enough.... I feel alone and empty inside every single night before I fall asleep 💔💔
My husband behaving stubborn and I wish to move on with my life but because of my daughter I want her father to be there for her I also want to have a future with our family to be together but a house we need I pray I get one soon and our family be together and live as family
Hey Jay love your content it's been a motivation to many people. Just one request could you please make a video on relationship with different religion 🙏
A hard video to watch for me personally because.... I tend to be avoidant these days. Being a people pleaser with adhd had done nothing but shown me how easily other people were willing to take advantage of my out-of-control kindness. With no need to help me out of it. Learning that lesson through therapy and careful medication use, I now do the opposite. I avoid. I get more respect overall....but I find myself blindly fearing "how trusting the next person will end up being that they will take advantage of me....Again." Perhaps I currently just don't trust my myself enough right now to stand up for myself if/when new situations with people turn into trust destroying ones. Trying to take life and accept people as they come, but it's just frustrating to separate the deceivers from the trustworthy ones.
Thanks for jay shetty the current love situation generation is surrounded by to let it go a lot of things demands in life and have to be massive effort
🤣🤣the only question i could andwer was nr 4...if i have a partner i want that team feeling...through the hard and easy times...one day I'll find that man and until now i will be happily single and enjoy my(mostly) independent life together with my little one🥰🥰
I am sharing in my opinion because different people different opinion once time I fall in love our relationship start but one year later he refuge her relationship and he broke my heart 😭 I really love him and present time I am not believe love and relationship
I hurt a lot, but I can’t seem to find the right sedative to numb my pain. I never knew love could be this wicked. I need a true woman who I can love.😓😥😢💔
No matter how badly people treat you, never drop down to their level, just know you’re better and walk away.
"Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction." Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Damn right.
We also have google🤣
@@chandanshivalingaiah9861 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I wish I had a relationship already dang
❤️ Please read me.... After being in relationship with him for nine years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted my fiance to be back so much because of the love I have for him,I begged him with everything,I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and he suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring my fiancee back but I am the type that never believed in spell,I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, DR_ IRIBHOGBE and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my fiancee will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My fiance called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened,that he wanted me to return to me, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made a promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem,or health problem would be of help to such person by referring him other to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from others. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster
Email address doctoriribhogbe@gmail.com
Whatsapp or call +234 7058 448 789
"Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
Is that a quote from Teal Swan?
@@MC-dz8be its from rumi
@@seemranhorooh, thank you 🙏🏽
As long as the health of a romantic relationship remains important to you, it is going to require your attention and effort.
Follow the link below and lean how can help to preserve that falling in love experience and keep your romantic relationship healthy.
sites.google.com/view/relationship-guide5/
Very very true well said
A relationship is not about ownership; it is about partnership
Yes! Attachment styles are so great to know about when you're in a relationship. I first learned about them in a book called Attached by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. I highly recommend it for anyone who want to go more in-depth into their/their partner's attachment styles. 💗
I’ve recently learned about attachment styles. I know with my first marriage, now, that he was an avoidant, who didn’t want to change.
I was right to divorce him, ( can’t change him) and find someone who is available to give me the love I deserve.
I was an anxious style in my younger years, but after much personal work, I now test as a secure attachment style . Bravo me🤗
Can you suggest what kind of work I can do to heal this anxious style? Or tell me the most important concept?
Can you suggest what kind of work I can do to heal this anxious style? Or tell me the most important concept?
Bravo to you 👏🏻 ✨
@@Rene-po7im Hey Rene, actually practicing meditation is extremely helpful with this. I have an anxious style as well and have been losing upon my closest relations due to my own insecurities. Recently, a few months before i started w chanting meditation, and i feel more relaxed n secure of my feelings. I do get anxious, i do have insecurities even now but I have started to become a little more aware of my feelings. It is when u realise that u have to love the person the most, even if they r down, unhappy, fidgety and may lose u. Love doesnt care about losing, it stays. Try meditating and being more aware of ur feelings, it helps.
@@Rene-po7im * and u may lose them.
Secure attachment style is definitely me!!! I carefully ,listen to my partner then decipher the facts & then respond with my honest feelings.
Bridgett Smith,you deserve better 🙏🙏🤙
I’ve learned a lot from this video, it’s just a shame that modern times and modern relationships fall due to social media and the temptation of looking for the next best thing. A lot of people nowadays think the grass is always greener, but the grass is greenest where you water it. Relationships I feel should be about teamwork and communication.. but relationships these days are based on looks and materialistic lifestyles which neglects the importance of talking and understanding one another. The second a relationship shows any signs of flaws or complications, one of the couple most likely leave as they think they’ll find someone easier to be with. It’s a shame really.
💯🙌 spot on.. we are replaceble and disposable in this modern day and age.. sad but it is the truth to digest.. people don't value people no more.. they just drop you and move on to the next person as if they will find someone better which usually not the case
Rule nr.1: DONT. BE. NEEDY.
Scream at the top of your lungs, "I WILL NEVER BE NEEDY AGAIN"!!!
He we also bring back your ex
ruclips.net/video/0rvsTCZ3z5U/видео.html
You’re not “needy” to the right person....
I do not agree with you
I've been needy and I've been not needy. Didn't seem to make a difference. Now, I just don't need anybody
I think you missed disorganized attachment style. I tallied my scores and I got 2 A, 2B and 2C.
LOL
Sounds pretty balanced lol
Mine 2A 2B 2C can anyone say what is that?
Yea what do we do?
Omg I got 1,3,2 and avoidance is because my husband of 22 yrs is more verbally abusive than abusive so I avoid him at all times. When hes not manic hes an angel. Either way I stay
To understand each other in a relationship is the best relationship one could ever wish for...
Hey all hopes not lost I urge you to make use of the greatest relationship expert he can certainly put a smile on your face okay
Trust me he is very perfect at reuniting broken relationship I am a living testimony of the great spellcaster okay
Read a quote by James Baldwin : “Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within”-
What does it mean ?
Specially the last line * “ and know we cannot live within” ❤
Here is what it means: Love takes off masks (causes us to be vulnerable and to show ourselves in a way that nobody else or few others see) that we fear we cannot live without (in daily life, we act a certain way with other people. I have an extremely basic way of interacting, I say hi, conduct whatever business, I say bye, and I leave. If I don't have business with you, I'll probably talk to you if I have to, but definitely won't if I don't. Anyway, whatever your "mask" is, it is possible that it is deliberate and that you feel you need to not expose your inner self. You may fear being known.) And know we cannot live within, this is the part that struck the deepest chord with me. My mask adds yet another thing that keeps me from having relationships, particularly the one I'm dying without. But I'm kind of an example of when "love taking off the mask" backfires. Love took off the mask, it didn't work out for stupid reasons, I felt worse than I ever have before and still feel just as bad years later, I am strongly tempted to say, don't take those walls down. They're there for a reason, and a good one.
Thank you Jay, im soo happy I found you a year ago. I have been battling with mental and physical health for many years now. Sometimes its hard to even understand myself. You have helped to figure out myself and guided me to be the better person I am. I'm currently reading think like a monk (which is awsome by the way.. I wish u soo much success and I think to myself, what a wonderful path you have taken. This life is so unpredictable and uncertain, recently so many people have died due to the virus, sickness, war and racism. Makes us feel soo unsupirior yet how wonderful to think if my life did come to an end so suddenly atleast in your heart you would feel I did my part to help someone at their roughest time. Sharing your kindness and wisdom to help others is such a wonderful gift and living a life with meaning) when ever I feel at my worst I always listen to one of your podcasts or RUclips videos and you remind all over again why I matter and why I should not give up. Thank you 🙏
Jay shetty one of the greatest inspiration !
One Love from Nepal❤️
Relationships don't last bcz of the good times 👍
I hope I will be able to bring as much insight to people as you do one day. I don’t only admire you as well as your wife’s positivity, but you both are breathes of fresh air to learn without having to argue with a partner or loved one. Thank you !
Mantra for long lasting relationship : Forget & forgive __ Forget the good done by you and forgive the harm done by your partner. If you don't forgive your loved one than who will???! Love each other more and experience divinity through it♥️ Love is life♥️
All of mine were with Anxious Style all A...and my mom has noticed that I am generally an anxious person. Going to see a psychologist about my anxiety
Mee too the same but I only got 3 tick of A
*YOUR EYE COLOUR + SKIN COLOUR COMBO IS ABSOLUTELY STUNNING😋 VERY HANDSOME!!!* 👌😍😍😍
Thanks you so much Jay, I'll never stop being thankful for the day you came into my life. I have been looking forward to knowing about my attachment style and to know about it generally, now I know and understand it well.
All my ticks were in column C. 🙏💖
Oh😂😂😂
Well!
Love this guy man , has helped me in most path of my life😊
If you read this, I hope you have a great week!! ❤
thank you Jay for inspiring me to take action and film videos about self development
I have anxious and avoidant attachment style. I am single because probably meeting the wrong men because they always want more of what i don't know. My last partner told me men don't know what they want I said to him what more u want from me I am loyal honest caring loving with a heart of gold. See I just walk out I couldn't take anymore. So I'm not secure to be in another because I can't take it anymore.😢😢😢😢 sometimes I cry.
Such a great, on point video!✨ Healing from any of these attachment style to secure style (mine was anxious) takes time, dedication and unconditional love!!!
One needs to be internally focused (bring awareness) yet utilizing the external feed back (triggers) within our relations to guide us as to what needs to be worked on (healed) within our selves. when getting triggered we really have to ask what am I learning from this? Relationships of all sorts are in our life to teach us more about ourselves so we can heal those aspects.
secure attachment style is life changing! Inner state is no longer depended on anyone or thing....all one needs in any relations is one secure attachment style individual to hold space for the other, while they work on themselves but it is challenging and one needs to allow and give permission to themselves and the partner for this healing to take place. In some level we are all doing our best and want better for ourselves but at times evolvement doesn’t take place and one needs to move on.
I believe this is the future!
unified consciousness works hand in hand with secure attachment style. Most if not all conflicts will dissolve or not ever come up if we all work on ourselves and become emotionally intelligent and secure✨
Avoidant attachment. Absolutely. Life has constantly detached me from everyone & everything in order to find my truth and my Path. Thanks Jay for sharing💛
So spot on what I allready knew the problem is that a-b attract eachother ... unless you do the hard work
To do anything great, you have to be able to trust yourself and believe in your capabilities. Success is not something that just happens but something you create.
LOVE IS THE GREATEST GIFT THAT GOD HAS GIVEN US. IT'S FREE SO LOVE CHOOSE. 💕 ❤
Omg I got 1,3,2 and avoidance is because my husband of 22 yrs is more verbally abusive than abusive so I avoid him at all times. When hes not manic hes an angel. Either way I stay I stay guarded
Hey all hopes not lost I urge you to make use of the greatest relationship expert he can certainly put a smile on your face okay
Trust me he is very perfect at reuniting broken relationship I am a living testimony of the great spellcaster okay
Thank you sti much for sharing all your knowledge, love and inspiration, It has helped me thru many dark times.
Love is an understanding between two people to come together and committ to each other come what may.
Binge watched videos from THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SCHOOL. Everything made more sense after I understood my attachment style and what is self sabotage.
Helpful indeed.Stay blessed for leading us to the right way .
I think for the most of us we’ve been through probably all relationship styles
I also think as you grow into your own and believe in yourself more your need to attach and hold on for dear life lessens too
As you become more at peace with being in your own company
You strengthen and fear less!
And just accept life as it comes and people for what they are!!
My perspective anyway!
Great video jay as usual very thought provoking!!!
I agree 👌
@@enlightenedheart740 Thank you 😊
Totally totally totally agree
@@anaabbas1 Thanks so much Ana ✨
@@anaabbas1 I dont
Attachment styles can grow and evolve over time if we are aware, and aware, how we want to be. Trauma, heartbreak, etc all play a factor. Though, there is no empirical evidence supporting attachment style is cemented as a young child.
Got an anxious attachment style ! (like if I didn't know it before..)
Good assessment in relationship.I learned how to be in secure zone.Thanks Jay ❤️
I ticked all As I can't believe I have anxious style I consider my self as a confident and self aware person
God says.. "Love is kind and patient. It does not boast r dishonor r point others wrongdoings!" Every relationship should add value, meaning n strength to one's life. It should deepen our insights, thoughts n attitudes towards positive, loving co-habituation n growth as a secured family,community, nation n global peace!!!!
its GODs word listen to it
Hey all hopes not lost I urge you to make use of the greatest relationship expert he can certainly put a smile on your face okay
Trust me he is very perfect at reuniting broken relationship I am a living testimony of the great spellcaster
Another thing that has stopped me dead in my tracks with that dead and useless thing I jokingly call a love life is the fact that I have an amazing skill with women. An impossibly amazing skill that is sure to astound anyone that knows about it. I am the master at picking the most ill fitted woman for me possible. I am the wizard of misfit relationships involving myself. (I do not do this intentionally, in fact she *always* feels like the perfect fit for me until reaching the hindsight stage) So, understandably, I choose not to use this amazing ability and I just don't choose anyone. Add to that, I do not pick up on subtlety. Ever. If a woman flirts with me, she is wasting her time. Flirting with me is like whispering to a deaf man one mile away. I've even looked it up before, but honestly I don't even know what flirting specifically is. Just something people do to get attention or something. I dare say, only a bold woman can have me. But even then, she has to do certain things a certain way, nothing really hard, just specific, or else it doesn't work and has no possibility of working. I think it's safe to say that in the area of love, I am a foreigner, an outsider, and am simply just doomed.
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I'm avoidant which is why I avoided watching the whole video, cuz I knew this already haha
I am mostly A. I noticed this pattern in myself hence why I am never happy with anyone or myself. I feel trap and unhappy with anyone.
me too
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Anxious attachment style, sounds about right
A really good three step process that let's us have time to really think about the relationship. Very valuable share once again
Thanks Jay!! These questions make you think 🤔 of what kind of person you really are but Only You Can Change! I really enjoy listening to your videos. Many Blessings to you & your wife. 😊
Hey Jay u didn't yet tell abt relationships which are broken cz of parents what do u think abt this make a video on tht
Parents r also important in some of relationships
Come to think of it, I don't think I'm struggling with love. My crushes liked me (lucky me!) but I sabotaged my relationship with them. Once they started to show their interest with me, I backed off. Not sure if I have issues with intimacy or commitment or both or something elses.
I'm not struggling with love either. Girls seem to find me attractive often enough. I am pretty sure I've been flirted with even more than I realize. I'm not closed to the idea of commitment or intimacy, either. And I'm not one that keeps saying "this one isn't good enough, that one doesn't do it". The problem is, I just don't have a response. If my brain were a computer and my thoughts were software, the romantic part of my brain would be that part that the programmer seems to have skipped. There is no framework even, there's nothing there. If I try to learn romance or love it just doesn't seem to mean anything to me, the logic of it I mean which there seems to be none. I wasn't always like this, but I've been devastated enough times, due to my incredibly and almost comically bad judgement, that there really just isn't anything left :(
Well also add the fact that I am very isolated. I don't meet girls. I don't have opportunities even to be rejected. Even to be considered. And it's been like that for so long, I don't even have a concept of anything else
Wow! Secure is dominant with slight Avoidant. 4c 2 b. Is being avoidant just sometimes wise, time tends to change perspectives. Sometime what you believe is just plain wrong.
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Thank you very much for all your videos. This video hit me like wow, I knew I'm an anxious person, but this test helps me to think about the situation & my own insecurities, my relationships with the others etc. Thank you very much, I can't wait to do other personnality tests like that on your channel !
I was an anxious type untill I was cheated on and dumped and then I became an avoidant
Sounds like you are disorganized, fearful avoidant.
When I was growing up I didn’t have a father figure. My mom worked early late so my uncle had to watch me. He was married into the family and both mentally and physically abusive. Constantly yelling at me for being small because I was born 8 weeks early something I couldn’t control. I was also moved between schools due to bullying because I was small. Actually got physically injured from bullying a few times. When I was 9 my mom got married and we moved to a city like area, it took me 3 years to call my new dad dad. I still experienced bullying through middle school to the point I failed every class in middle school. But in freshman year of high school my wrestling and football team who’ve known me for years gave me an award for being strong and kind to everyone always being helpful. They started standing up for me and it almost made me cry. I had also started gaining muscle and played varsity wrestling and 9th grade football. My sophomore year, 10th grade, I had gotten a head injury in my last foot ball game and wasn’t allowed to wrestle that year when coach had said I could make it to nationals that year. In addition a good friend of mine had drowned. Junior year I had finally recovered from my year long concussion and was looking forward to wrestling that year. But I had slipped on ice and gotten another concussion concluding that I would never get to play a contact spot again. In addition I had lost my first ever friend that I’ve known since 4th grade to depression and my teams where starting to stop talking to me for they had thought I gave up on the sports. Shortly after my close friends girlfriend who I was friends with also lost her fight against depression. They where amazing people, and never showed signs of depression. I’m in my senior year and currently aside from COVID nothing bad has happened. I’m beating down anxiety and finally making my way out of my own depression. There’s a kind girl I’m talking to who’s been through just as much as me and I’ve secretly had a crush on her for 6 almost 7 years now. We are friends and hopefully I can end this year on a good note. Honestly don’t know what my attachment style is still. Never dated or been to a party.
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After watching one minute i suddenly strike with... Wait m single... 😂... Why so tensed 🤣
Same here, am single but watch till end
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*instead of thinking about what we want in another person, maybe it's time we start thinking about who we want to BE in a relationship.* thoughts?
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This is bloody brilliant it actually helped me realised my attachment style is B I know I currently have no partner unfortunately now but its never a bad thing to discuss it with yourself atleast like this your helping yourself grow a person:) however I would love to talk it out with the one I still love but its important that I respect myself as much as respecting them:)
Admirable speech l always admire
I truly believe attachment styles change in a LTR scenario.
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I always learn a lot from this channel. You have very helpful and quality content Jay. Thanks!
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I am 22 years old but I still haven't been able to be in any sort of serious relationship.... Things just doesn't work... I don't know if something is wrong with me or with someone I get attach to...... Most of the time I just push someone away the second I feel like I am falling for him .. I just feel like I am not enough for him or I am not able to give my partner the love he deserves or he needs.... I feel I can never be loved my someone nor I can love someone enough.... I feel alone and empty inside every single night before I fall asleep 💔💔
My husband behaving stubborn and I wish to move on with my life but because of my daughter I want her father to be there for her I also want to have a future with our family to be together but a house we need I pray I get one soon and our family be together and live as family
Hey Jay love your content it's been a motivation to many people. Just one request could you please make a video on relationship with different religion 🙏
A hard video to watch for me personally because....
I tend to be avoidant these days.
Being a people pleaser with adhd had done nothing but shown me how easily other people were willing to take advantage of my out-of-control kindness. With no need to help me out of it.
Learning that lesson through therapy and careful medication use, I now do the opposite. I avoid. I get more respect overall....but I find myself blindly fearing "how trusting the next person will end up being that they will take advantage of me....Again."
Perhaps I currently just don't trust my myself enough right now to stand up for myself if/when new situations with people turn into trust destroying ones.
Trying to take life and accept people as they come, but it's just frustrating to separate the deceivers from the trustworthy ones.
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Anxious - digest and process
-share! This point
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Anxious style attachement.. but it doesn't matter now i guess..
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💙 amazing...your voice is really calming and in Radhi,s video you feel the happiness.
🤣🤣the only question i could andwer was nr 4...if i have a partner i want that team feeling...through the hard and easy times...one day I'll find that man and until now i will be happily single and enjoy my(mostly) independent life together with my little one🥰🥰
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Thankyou Jay 🥰 helpful video am the anxious one😉
I am sharing in my opinion because different people different opinion once time I fall in love our relationship start but one year later he refuge her relationship and he broke my heart 😭 I really love him and present time I am not believe love and relationship
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This video really helped me alot , thnx man
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I have got equal number.. 2 for A, 2 for B and 2 for C.. please describe about this
Please also add that part when wr apply your views than How our life will change
Well said I totally agree
Informative..thank you..🙏
I hurt a lot, but I can’t seem to find the right sedative to numb my pain. I never knew love could be this wicked. I need a true woman who I can love.😓😥😢💔
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Anxious attachment style...damn i need some work
Don’t ruin a good today by thinking about a bad yesterday. Let it go.
Thank you so much for this life changing post❤️
I hurt a lot, but I can’t seem to find the right sedative to numb my pain. I never knew love could be this wicked.
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2 in each category. I must be balance!
Thank you. .The test is very useful. .I was always wonder about my attachment style