Jay Shetty: 4 Simple Rules For The Perfect Relationship!

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Комментарии • 262

  • @TheDiaryOfACEOClips
    @TheDiaryOfACEOClips  Год назад +13

    Watch the full episode here - ruclips.net/video/cLTUA1lneS0/видео.html

  • @arteeejr
    @arteeejr 11 месяцев назад +32

    Jay Shetty's advice on nurturing relationships by going beyond just watching TV is incredibly insightful. He highlights the importance of conscious, quality time spent together. It reminds me of my coach Lisa Haisha's did to me, where she encourages me to transform routine interactions into opportunities for deep connection. By engaging in new experiences, learning together, and serving together, couples can truly grow and evolve. It's a valuable reminder to prioritize the quality of our relationships and invest in moments that matter.

  • @evlexnet
    @evlexnet Год назад +350

    The Actual 4 Rules:
    1. Experience something new together
    2. Learn somenthing new together or apart and share the experience and the knowledge with each other
    3. Serve the world together. Do something good for the world together.
    4. And sadly, watch the telly together >D... but I guess it's generally Entertainment

    • @kmdglobe5402
      @kmdglobe5402 Год назад

      ♥️ thank you!

    • @lrfolkins6692
      @lrfolkins6692 Год назад +13

      He did NOT advocate for watching Telly- no closer to intimacy than crawling into the same bed
      Put the phone down , et al.
      BE PRESENT

    • @kraftwerk974
      @kraftwerk974 8 месяцев назад

      In my opinion this is all BS. We all have tremendous sex with our girlfriend but once there are children it slowly or quickly desappears because as a species we've already reproduced and served our DNA. That's why half of couples get divorced and the other half share invoice payments. That's a sad conclusion but so accurate.

    • @piak78
      @piak78 3 месяца назад

      Do whatever floats your boat. Watching the show which both love on tv together is actually therapeutic. I got rid of my retroactive jealousy after I started watching our favorite detective show on Netflix every single day cuddled up in bed.

    • @piak78
      @piak78 3 месяца назад

      Definitely serving the world together keeps you together is not true. Example Bill gates. You are better off serving each other. Give him a massage. Cook him fav food. Likewise he should do some stuff for her as well

  • @anatun2011
    @anatun2011 Год назад +51

    This is probably the most realistic and valuable advice about relationships. Thank you great channel, wonderful context. Every interview is very informative, wether I agree with certain opinions or not!

  • @tanjasmit7535
    @tanjasmit7535 9 месяцев назад +8

    Jay gives real practical advice that couples can use in their relationship ❤🇿🇦

  • @danielle8.
    @danielle8. Год назад +8

    Jay, I love you explanation of “ watching tv”! So true !

  • @MsJennjenn22
    @MsJennjenn22 Год назад +1

    My partner and I moved into with only dating for 3 months and we’ve been together going on 4 years.
    We do watch specific TVs together but we also enjoy going window shopping together and trying new restaurants together.
    He love the gym and I do my best to engage in his love for the gym.
    Currently pregnant with our friends kid.
    He is my best friend and love spend a lot of time and just being in the same space together as well since I work from home

  • @cedrusatlantica7
    @cedrusatlantica7 Год назад +14

    This is so great advice!!! It is the only way to make a relationship work, to be more concious about it and more present. Love you both!!

  • @johnlombardo7816
    @johnlombardo7816 Год назад +3

    ❤❤ this is what it means to be with someone you are head over heels in love with.. to want to be better and make them better as well... I would love to find this in my next relationship because it wasn't present in the last 2 .. and that's equally my fault as theirs sadly.. you just don't always realize it or are too comfortable in the moment

  • @krishnakanth.m6027
    @krishnakanth.m6027 Год назад +14

    Jay is a great human not only for his knowledge because of his heart ❤️

  • @eneveasi
    @eneveasi Год назад +356

    Everyone should ask themselves why tf they would be in a relationship with someone if they don’t want to be present with them! Like, that’s so fundamental to human connection.

    • @inorite4553
      @inorite4553 11 месяцев назад +7

      Ask people in the military.

    • @eneveasi
      @eneveasi 11 месяцев назад +5

      @@inorite4553 yea thats a different situation of course. I guess my comments are context dependent. But a lot of those military relationships are a mess too.

    • @LydiaSmith-yx5jc
      @LydiaSmith-yx5jc 10 месяцев назад

      wow so nice I love it

    • @nathantrujillo471
      @nathantrujillo471 10 месяцев назад +2

      Idk I’m currently in a predicament where we are forced together what seem like 80-90% of the time we’re awake. And it’s not by choice. Thereby extremely problematic as of late. We try to work on it but there’s not really an undoing of an overstayed welcome. And you can still love them in that predicament. Just my critical thought on it. But yeah sure some people aren’t in a forced situation.

    • @LydiaSmith-yx5jc
      @LydiaSmith-yx5jc 10 месяцев назад

      Hi

  • @ashleysoudah
    @ashleysoudah Год назад +10

    That was so good. Saved video for future reference (and gf). Thanks :)

  • @vaczi_lelek_katalizator
    @vaczi_lelek_katalizator Год назад +3

    Omg, Jay is a walking, talking wisdom. Thanks for your contribution and consciousness!

  • @yoginid672
    @yoginid672 Год назад +60

    Mr Shetty's whole philosophy on relationships is based around his own life and situation, and how he "wants" to view life. You could say this is inevitable, when someone gives advice, but actually the people worth listening to or reading for advice - who put themselves out there to give 'advice on love and relationships' to the public - are precisely the ones who do not give a perspective or advice rooted in or from "their personal" situation. e.g. Esther Perel, Matthew Hussey.
    Mr Shetty is a confident and articulate communicator. This does not make him an authority (at all) on love and relationships.

    • @vivavidadela
      @vivavidadela Год назад +6

      I love Esther, she is the best in the fiel and her tips on relationships make the most sense to me. Jay sometimes sells tips that are very centered around his own perspective, wants and needs.

    • @lorralorra222
      @lorralorra222 Год назад +6

      I like what u had to say, its funny but if I'm apart from my loved one, it doesn't take time to reconnect, it's a bit like if u have kids that go off to college will it take time to reconnect?? No it's unconditional love...

    • @aprililes8355
      @aprililes8355 Год назад +6

      Thank you for saying that and very well said!! If your love is sincere, real, and true, then I don't think reconnecting would be an issue. If anything, the heart would grow fonder in missing them, not the other way around! That's my take anyway.

    • @aprililes8355
      @aprililes8355 Год назад +1

      @@lorralorra222 You said that perfectly in a nutshell! Unconditional love!!

    • @lorralorra222
      @lorralorra222 Год назад

      @@aprililes8355 Thanks,

  • @jennsmith77
    @jennsmith77 5 месяцев назад

    Yes! Serving together! ❤

  • @stefanborek7101
    @stefanborek7101 7 месяцев назад

    W shetty, the TV things hits hard, inspired to reread the book - live like a monk

  • @markelinadedej2868
    @markelinadedej2868 10 месяцев назад +1

    Omg now that I'm thinking, I have a great relationship ❤

  • @alessaray6050
    @alessaray6050 10 месяцев назад +3

    Do you have to communicate your partner not to use their phone/laptop when they are with you?
    If I have to communicate that to someone for me it immediately means we don’t have the same values. I went once on a first date with a guy who was using his phone. I didn’t tell him anything, I just decided not to see him again.

  • @matthewroyce7315
    @matthewroyce7315 11 месяцев назад +5

    I really liked this.

  • @amani745
    @amani745 11 месяцев назад

    Excellent advice to help others together.

  • @africansaint4986
    @africansaint4986 Год назад +1

    Just subscribed to the channel cox this are things people are going through and yet not talked about

  • @carl5959
    @carl5959 11 месяцев назад +3

    My grandparents and parents seem to just do relationships easily... Parents 30+years, grandparents were 50/60years. I'm not aware they schedule time apart, schedule how to watch tv, or even schedule dates half the time. Sometimes as humans we try to be too clever, if you love each other that much, I believe it will work unconsciously 🤷🏾‍♂️ Perhaps I'm naive, who knows, but some of the stuff he's saying sounds a bit perfectionist/unrealistic for most couples.

    • @Brandor667
      @Brandor667 8 месяцев назад +1

      I wae kind of thinking the same thing. It must be nice, to go on retreats and have experiences, or bring your wife on your world tour. But, for the average person, this may not be affordable.
      "Rent prices are through the roof, do we want to take an art class together or make rent this month" Is just an example.

  • @unknown11215
    @unknown11215 Год назад +3

    PLEASE get Deli alli on

  • @polyxenikoutla134
    @polyxenikoutla134 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you!

  • @lms7584
    @lms7584 Год назад +1

    Amazing advice

  • @creelabellehoward
    @creelabellehoward 8 месяцев назад

    This is really cool because many couples in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints will serve in the temple together, doing sacred ordinances on behalf of those who have passed on. It is a great way to serve others and always brings me closer to God. I can only imagine how much it brings couples closer together. It's like God knows we need to serve together to improve our relationships. Like He's omnipotent or something. Lol ;)

  • @tamarmarkosian1841
    @tamarmarkosian1841 Год назад +7

    That’s exactly what our loving creator has communicated 2000 years ago at
    1 Corinthians 7:5 “Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent for an appointed time, so that you may devote time to prayer and may come together again, in order that Satan may not keep tempting you for your lack of self-control”.

  • @Mayamariaruth
    @Mayamariaruth Год назад +17

    The offended people in these comments didn’t even watch the video 😂

  • @woohoo2023
    @woohoo2023 Год назад +2

    Relationships are bad when some people have baggage from the previous relationships....

  • @lucytaylor4225
    @lucytaylor4225 Год назад +1

    Use the right language! Go on holiday not take a vacation your're English 😉
    I do like jay Shetty but nothings wrong with just being together watching the TV!!
    I also think if his relationship is so important and intimacy is so important why he's jetting off for months on end - jay you need to set boundaries with your career then perhaps you wouldn't need to spend energy fixing the damage done from being apart. Moments, memories and love are the most valuable precious gifts. Focus on those jay not your tours. These days with technology you can work from home etc. Not trying to argue just like to think about the issues and come up with my own view.. have a beautiful like my friend x

  • @gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489
    @gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489 Год назад +2

    My favourite speaker Jay genius l love his speech very much

  • @JeffreyGillespie
    @JeffreyGillespie 11 месяцев назад +9

    I don’t want a perfect relationship. I wanna be left alone so I can make and eat a perfect grilled cheese.

    • @NgG-g2n
      @NgG-g2n 5 месяцев назад

      🤣
      not bad to be honest
      and understandable

  • @teachernickinsaigon1201
    @teachernickinsaigon1201 Год назад +11

    Lots of toxic comments. Just curious, why do you guys consume this content? Or do you follow Steven but just dislike Jay Shetty?

    • @Rocko1990
      @Rocko1990 Год назад +1

      Where's the negative comments? I'm seeing only positive

    • @LydiaSmith-yx5jc
      @LydiaSmith-yx5jc 10 месяцев назад

      So nice

    • @NgG-g2n
      @NgG-g2n 5 месяцев назад

      because it's none of your business what we do and why.
      go cry elsewhere!

  • @ibehvictor8392
    @ibehvictor8392 Год назад

    This is great

  • @sarahpaun9688
    @sarahpaun9688 6 месяцев назад

    Please I need an advice. Is about my distance relationship. We are together for 3 years by now and we saw each other 2 weeks in total. I feel very sad day by day and I lose hope that we will end up together. How to reconnect of we love each other but don't have enough financial support to visit each other often?
    and now I wanna go there in India again...I am from Romania. He still didn't come to visit me just I go there 2 weeks in 2023. He promises he will come in 2025...but feels so much time 😔🥺

    • @NgG-g2n
      @NgG-g2n 5 месяцев назад

      he wants your European passport
      he doesn't love you
      no matter what, do NOT send him money and for the love of God do NOT have sex with him he'll get you pregnant and cling to your passport or give you an STD.
      please value yourself and cut this grifter off

  • @LanceNRusso
    @LanceNRusso Год назад +7

    Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash.

    • @LanceNRusso
      @LanceNRusso Год назад

      @Rose Allen well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer

    • @LanceNRusso
      @LanceNRusso Год назад

      @Rose Allen her name is Shelly Renee White, and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster

    • @LanceNRusso
      @LanceNRusso Год назад

      @Rose Allen you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.

    • @iky183
      @iky183 Год назад

      Mine definitely falling apart because he doesn't Believe in seeking help/advice

    • @LydiaSmith-yx5jc
      @LydiaSmith-yx5jc 10 месяцев назад

      wow 😍

  • @LW-wg4ny
    @LW-wg4ny Год назад +2

    I only counted 2 things, taking time apart and not watching telly, did I miss something? Also I noticed he doesn’t wear a wedding ring…hmmm

    • @br8541
      @br8541 Год назад +3

      Well you didn't listen til the end:
      - TV time together is the lowest form of connectivity if anything drives more apart
      - go do an activity together where both are not expert so you can experience and share that together build that connection
      - learning something together like book, podcast, courses...
      - serving together as in giving back together and helping communities around

    • @eneveasi
      @eneveasi Год назад +1

      @@br8541she said “not watching telly” so she didn’t really miss that it is a low form of connection..

    • @MissOJAY
      @MissOJAY Год назад

      Rings are not everyones culture.

  • @kimslife_de
    @kimslife_de Год назад

    Finally‘ since 2013 I hate watching TV…

  • @James-ip7zk
    @James-ip7zk 3 месяца назад

    Couples without children have the craziest ideas

  • @sirizihindula
    @sirizihindula Год назад +3

    as a single, i am taking note.

  • @CandyLemon36
    @CandyLemon36 10 месяцев назад

    The inspiring depth of this content is a call to action. A book I read with related messages changed my life's direction. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

  • @vihodanyet
    @vihodanyet 9 месяцев назад +1

    Who is watching TV in 2023… genuinely .. I’m almost 30 and I don’t know anyone my age who watches Tv or has in years

  • @ivanmalau4945
    @ivanmalau4945 10 месяцев назад

    Stop chasing this there is no such thing. Everyone has flaws and you do to and because of that chasing perfection in you guys being together is rediculous. Rather aim to better yourself and grow with your partner

  • @yukisanderson6907
    @yukisanderson6907 Год назад

    We watch RUclips alone separately, which doesn't create intimacy at all.

  • @maryngugi8155
    @maryngugi8155 Год назад +3

    With all due respect this is the very FIRST time Jay is talking and not even getting anything of what he is saying😶😶

  • @NgG-g2n
    @NgG-g2n 5 месяцев назад

    I don't watch tv

  • @fatboyannie
    @fatboyannie 9 месяцев назад

    I think Jay Shetty will never use perfect to describe a relationship.

  • @bayvladimir7960
    @bayvladimir7960 11 месяцев назад

    Somehow I kinda stopped watching TV and nonsense entertainments almost 8 years ago, just saying :D

  • @Harun_Abdullhi
    @Harun_Abdullhi 8 месяцев назад

    I dont think it’s Helpful to be apart too long it is Hartful ☹️

  • @rebeccak5846
    @rebeccak5846 8 месяцев назад +1

    Is it just me or does this seem like advice for incredibly privileged people? I get that we can all come up with our own rules, but 3 days a month together with no phones, an annual vacation, spending extra quality time together at the equivalent of time spent apart and joining each other’s work trips where possible sounds like too much of a fantasy to even slightly relate to. Who in real-life has that amount of time and flexibility to play with ?

  • @jennak9779
    @jennak9779 7 месяцев назад +1

    No such thing as a perfect relationship

    • @vwlisa
      @vwlisa 2 дня назад

      True that

  • @lyndamedley543
    @lyndamedley543 9 месяцев назад

    I don't think it's helpful to be apart too long . It is hurtful. 😢

  • @geemolegeorge3815
    @geemolegeorge3815 Год назад +7

    There will come a day when he will be exposed as a fraud.

    • @roshnirumi6858
      @roshnirumi6858 Год назад

      Yes, i agree....unfortunately

    • @SomeBody-ce3gq
      @SomeBody-ce3gq Год назад +1

      Why do you guys think so?

    • @geemolegeorge3815
      @geemolegeorge3815 Год назад

      @@SomeBody-ce3gqThere is nothing original about him. He is always recycling someone else's work and showcasing as his own.He is all about chasing clout.

    • @SomeBody-ce3gq
      @SomeBody-ce3gq Год назад

      @@geemolegeorge3815 Interesting, I appreciate your answer!

  • @NgG-g2n
    @NgG-g2n 5 месяцев назад +1

    I dont watch tv or netflix or hollywood s#!t that's why I can see through this guy's bull$#!t :)

  • @PJ-Sparkles
    @PJ-Sparkles Год назад +1

    This know it all guy is so annoying…maybe why it took 6 months to reconnect with his spouse. Too much mansplaining.

  • @shivanisorakhe4589
    @shivanisorakhe4589 Год назад

    Too stretched up/made up reasons..

  • @DannyBoy443
    @DannyBoy443 11 месяцев назад

    Why are two grown men talking about this? Lol.

  • @HannahOgden
    @HannahOgden 8 месяцев назад +1

    Dude knows nothing about intimacy.

  • @NgG-g2n
    @NgG-g2n 5 месяцев назад

    interview his wife now and get her version of his bull$#!t

  • @NgG-g2n
    @NgG-g2n 5 месяцев назад

    Jay Sh!tty is a marketer, it's all he's done...pure marketing...
    it's all so tiresome

  • @pts13miffy16
    @pts13miffy16 7 месяцев назад

    Dudes wife been cheating

  • @2017phattang
    @2017phattang 11 месяцев назад +1

    Stopped talking about everything decided to my owner , not everyone has been to do any way on my owner .

  • @xxxElizabethxxx
    @xxxElizabethxxx Год назад

    4 simple rules for the perfect relationship -
    Get
    With
    Jay
    Shetty 👍

  • @tanzila_29
    @tanzila_29 11 месяцев назад +62

    To me, there's nothing called 'A Perfect Relationship'. It's a team work & it needs consistency. That's the thing. Physical presence or intimacy is important but true connection that takes place between souls is beyond that.

    • @andreab.1943
      @andreab.1943 11 месяцев назад +1

      I agree to that - sharing the same values and reaching for the same goals in live, that's a good start. But also probably the question "What can we give back to the world by being together? What is the higher purpose of our relationship?" Something greater than our happy 2 time together. That does not always have to be children. Probably we can push each other to become better human beings, to grow, to share our experiences with others. Our our souls did meet to resolve some kind of karma?

    • @grantgilbert4853
      @grantgilbert4853 11 месяцев назад +1

      Y’all are missing the point of the thumbnail of “Perfect”
      Your version of what you consider perfect is what really be framed in this context.

  • @samera.k.5120
    @samera.k.5120 5 месяцев назад +5

    Free Palestine

    • @LeoKing-fz6ws
      @LeoKing-fz6ws 2 месяца назад

      Wtf has that got to do with anything fool

    • @LeoKing-fz6ws
      @LeoKing-fz6ws 2 месяца назад

      Free Yemen - free Lebanon - free UK

  • @JasmineGarcia-ji6yb
    @JasmineGarcia-ji6yb 10 месяцев назад +18

    1000% this is exactly the type of relationship I want to have and create. It takes effort and creativity and two people willing to live at a higher form of living together ❤❤❤
    Hope God blesses me to have this.

  • @kpozniakov
    @kpozniakov 11 месяцев назад +77

    Been in a relationship for 8 years now. We've spent time apart, spent time together. We're not engaged, but from experience now, I can say it's not easy at all. If you think it is you're not thinking from a conscious place. If you are a couple that claims to love each other, like REALLY love each other. The attraction is there, you're going to places, doing things together, meeting each others families, it's never going to be easy. You will always have to work for the love. Always. Thank you for this show. I've only recently started watching and it's already helping me in my personal life.❤❤❤

    • @RosemaryCole-fm3xc
      @RosemaryCole-fm3xc 11 месяцев назад +1

    • @amalnaseem626
      @amalnaseem626 8 месяцев назад +1

      Sounds wonderful, I hope you get married to your partner soon💯

    • @NgG-g2n
      @NgG-g2n 5 месяцев назад

      when is he proposing?
      he's getting the girlfriend experience for free
      he'll find someone younger and leave you
      do not give men the girlfriend experience if they do not give you engagement/marriage

    • @NgG-g2n
      @NgG-g2n 5 месяцев назад

      @@amalnaseem626 it's been 8 years...he parked the car there, if she asks he'll pout "you deserve someone better" and bail. She can't rock the boat, she's walking on eggshells and using this concious coupling blabla to justify that in 8 years he has not proposed and it's not clear for her when he will. If she asks she'll rock the boat. It's a lose-lose scenario for her. This is why you NEVER give sex without commitment.

    • @kpozniakov
      @kpozniakov 5 месяцев назад

      @@NgG-g2n not interested in marriage. Stop falling into societal norms. Life isn't about a ring and a wedding day loser.

  • @CrappyProducts
    @CrappyProducts Год назад +60

    I'd been dating my girlfriend for 5 years and we only see each other during the weekends and it's the best thing ever since it gives us the week to miss each other and then be super happy to be together, but I agree it should be conscious and deliberate

    • @SpontaneousTalents
      @SpontaneousTalents Год назад +18

      I like this idea...but I'm curious what happens if you eventually start living with your partner? Would you all of the sudden grow bored of them since you're seeing each other pretty much every day?

    • @slaveyamihaylova5687
      @slaveyamihaylova5687 Год назад +2

      😮😮😮 I have been with my husband for 5.5 years and we build 2 businesses together, bought an apartment then a house. We go on trips and vacays every 2-3months. How did this relationship survive the Covid Era? Omg

    • @battybeef
      @battybeef 11 месяцев назад +3

      Interesting point and happy its working out for you. But, there is something really nice about coming home every day and waking up every day next to someone you love as well. The weekend dating theory may work great for dating but at some point I would imagine, if you're into the traditional life, you'll want to get married and have kids and live together 24/7 and that will thrust your relationship into a level that you may not be prepared for or know how to handle if the entirety of your relationship for so long has been built on "weekend dating".

    • @CrappyProducts
      @CrappyProducts 11 месяцев назад +3

      @@battybeefBut that's precisely the point, I don't want a traditional life, so no marriage and no kids, never wanted and probably never will

    • @dh1474
      @dh1474 11 месяцев назад

      That's all about you, what about your partner. Where do they want to be in 5 years time?@@CrappyProducts

  • @pamelalovesboundaries
    @pamelalovesboundaries Год назад +12

    What works for some may not work for others. One doesn't need a seminar or podcast to understand that couples need to get out and explore new things. It's not that hard.

    • @traceybyrne1690
      @traceybyrne1690 Год назад

      We haven't watched television for 3 years of our 3 year relationship

  • @zahrahussain7895
    @zahrahussain7895 11 месяцев назад +4

    I’ll stick to Esther Perel and the Gottmans to learn from when it comes to relationships

  • @chitrasingh44
    @chitrasingh44 Год назад +7

    No matter what peeps saying.. this is dope!! Glad for the perspective.
    With anything course, pick what u like n leave the rest.:)

  • @mercifulmermaidtarot2630
    @mercifulmermaidtarot2630 Год назад +42

    I’m not dismissing any of this advice at all. But am I the only single person who wants to stay single even more after every interview or speech I watch about how to make romantic relationships work? 😂 Good grief. We don’t have these kinds of conversations as often about friendships. Why is romance so frigging hard?

    • @lafset1064
      @lafset1064 Год назад +8

      Sounds as if you dont like the idea of putting effort into a person outside of yourself. And thats fine

    • @mercifulmermaidtarot2630
      @mercifulmermaidtarot2630 Год назад +9

      @@optimusctts Yes 😂 But only a few very close ones built on trust, respect and the ability to have difficult conversations. When I say “we don’t have these conversations as often about friendships,” I meant that, I see many discussions, posts by mental health professionals, etc. about how to have a healthy romantic relationship, yet I’ve never seen so many people unable to actually apply any of that advice. What I meant was, I don’t see as much content about how to make friendships last or work. People seem to make friends more gradually and naturally, and stay close longer. Many of my closest friendships are 15+ years long. And those relationships feel so easy compared to what I hear about romantic relationships. All the media content about romantic relationships makes me go, “wow there are a LOT of ways this can go wrong, are we as a society overthinking it and trying too hard to get it perfect? Or is it actually that hard?”

    • @mercifulmermaidtarot2630
      @mercifulmermaidtarot2630 Год назад +3

      @@lafset1064 I put effort into my close friendships with people I trust and respect though. 👍 Yet there is also an ease and comfort around those friends that is mutual and doesn’t feel like hard work. I just find that all the social media content about making romantic relationships work makes it “sound” incredibly difficult from where I stand as a single person. There seems to be more information about this subject than ever, from mental health professionals, coaches, etc. and it makes me wonder if we have TOO much information about it, overthink it, and yet still end up breaking up, divorced, etc. The last time I had a falling out with a friend was 7 years ago and we repaired the friendship. Why is it when we add romance into the connection, everything is ten times harder? That’s all.

    • @samreplete1842
      @samreplete1842 Год назад

      @@mercifulmermaidtarot2630 may be we can be friends if you want.

    • @noted_insolence1894
      @noted_insolence1894 Год назад +15

      The main reasons are that with friends you don't have commitment (potentially forever). That's the big one. We aren't as choosy about our friends bc they can come and go and we just don't worry about it as much. We aren't possessive. Next is you don't have sex with friends and you don't have the desire to want and be wanted in the same intimate ways. So a lot of the insecurities are mute points. Friendships don't exist if they don't make us feel better inherently. Relationships, good or bad, can make us feel like shit. Our insecurities and overthinking and paranoia surface in ways they don't in friendships. Lastly you don't build a family or home with friends, so you don't have the pressure to make sure you are both putting in your all and proving yourself. Your friends can work deadend jobs, drinking or smoking weed every day and that's fine. But you might cause a lot of friction in a relationship if this is the case bc that might not be what you want long term

  • @Jessicawatt521
    @Jessicawatt521 Год назад +39

    I think it’s problematic to describe any relationship as ‘perfect’. The idea of perfection is thought created and thoughts change moment to moment and I believe it’s problematic because it puts unrealistic pressures on people’s romantic relationships

    • @spiceboxify
      @spiceboxify Год назад +2

      you dont think the same thing about a job. Strive for perfection. Make love not war.

    • @eneveasi
      @eneveasi Год назад +1

      I think that totally depends on what you view perfection as. If it’s some unrealistic ideal, that doesn’t exist anywhere! If it’s something without challenge, tension, or flaws, that certainly doesn’t exist either and I don’t think would qualify as perfection either since any relationship like that either isn’t real or is sweeping shit under the rug. But a relationship, in my view, can be perfect if it is truly dedicated to the process of human growth and two people are able to meet each other deeply through the range of who they are. It requires a lot of personal growth and vulnerability from both people

    • @Jessicawatt521
      @Jessicawatt521 Год назад +2

      @@eneveasi Hi Calvin, yes from what you've shared 'perfection' is down to each individual's perspective because we are living from our own experience of life and what's a 'perfect relationship' and what isn't

    • @eneveasi
      @eneveasi Год назад

      @@Jessicawatt521 👍

    • @traceybyrne1690
      @traceybyrne1690 Год назад

      I loved hearing the awareness guidelines..no TV, choose vulnerable experiences together and spend 'presence' time together
      Great suggestions
      I'm also a Life Coach l learn from people that are looking into what works and what doesn't.

  • @nadiyaahmed7954
    @nadiyaahmed7954 Год назад +113

    I feel like this advice is great for a young couple with no kids but for the rest of us with young kids we’re always exhausted and sleep deprived.

    • @annaoslo8650
      @annaoslo8650 Год назад +21

      Some couples who are also just working their butts off to survive, try to get ahead in this economy and wondering how they will manage to have children are also massively exhausted.

    • @nadiyaahmed7954
      @nadiyaahmed7954 Год назад +2

      @@annaoslo8650 yes completely agree!!

    • @aprililes8355
      @aprililes8355 Год назад +5

      Yes and that's a very real reality for many of us!! Jay Shetty doesn't have kids so great point!!!

    • @annarold1709
      @annarold1709 Год назад

      @@annaoslo8650 thank you for sharing that experience. You wouldn’t recommend to have kids ? I’m on my thirties and when I read or hear about this kind of experiences I get more convinced that having kids is not the best choice. My list of pros of having kids gets shorter and shorter😥

    • @vaczi_lelek_katalizator
      @vaczi_lelek_katalizator Год назад +13

      I have kids and yes, they are great excuses for NOT having a happy life 🤔😄🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @F_Dot_
    @F_Dot_ Год назад +22

    He says a lot without saying much.

  • @simonjames772
    @simonjames772 Год назад +6

    the comments r hilarious

  • @mohammadshakoorifaraznehei3706
    @mohammadshakoorifaraznehei3706 5 месяцев назад +2

    I can't find more useful podcast regarding relationships than this specific podcast. Thanks a lot man! your words are such a big help.

  • @gouthamim2405
    @gouthamim2405 Год назад +2

    You haven’t covered all the situations couple face. Kids play a major role and change the relationship dynamics

  • @GB-ws1sc
    @GB-ws1sc Год назад +27

    This is such basic advice… who just gets up and leaves their partner without planning or discussing when or how long the time will be. Relationships definitely are in danger if this is podcast worthy advice geez

    • @alexperkins8433
      @alexperkins8433 Год назад +3

      lol no kidding

    • @Raysmakeupbox
      @Raysmakeupbox Год назад +12

      Some times it’s the most basic of change or basic bit of advise that makes the biggest difference. Yes it seems so obvious. We all know to loose weight we should eat healthy, be active…doesn’t make putting the basic info into practise so easy for everyone. The smallest realisation of habit can make a huge difference

    • @theMrsMJG
      @theMrsMJG Год назад +1

      Unfortunately, that’s way it has to be said.

  • @teamcarenna
    @teamcarenna 6 месяцев назад +2

    Jay I absolutely adore all your episodes- so valuable

  • @JuliaBrett
    @JuliaBrett 11 месяцев назад +2

    Sorry but I won’t take any advice from someone who hasn’t had children with their partner/wife/husband. Try and run a business or work full time and have 3 children especially if you haven’t got your family with you in the same country. Also, try and go through lockdowns with 3 children and running a business at the same time making sure it doesn’t fail or when your partner goes through a mental breakdown when you have young children to look after.. then it will definitely test your marriage!

    • @NgG-g2n
      @NgG-g2n 5 месяцев назад

      correct
      he's the speaker "entrepreneur" who lives travelling, his advice is not applicable for those who do not have his lifestyle, which is the vast majority of us
      plus the advice he gives is unrealistic even for himself and is used to reinforce the marketing of his brand...he doesn't apply the stuf he advices and it's quite evident in his increasingly agitated state and rising voice

  • @selfridges7
    @selfridges7 Год назад +2

    Wow loved ur podcast. It’s the first time I’ve heard a talk on long distance relationship for the first time and it has realy helped. Thank you

  • @vishanmangar4108
    @vishanmangar4108 Год назад +3

    Jay Shetty is getting very seriously open up in his podcast and interviews

  • @forreal4643
    @forreal4643 Год назад +2

    Say too much without substance

  • @d5051
    @d5051 11 месяцев назад +1

    Three days un-phoned vacation at least 3 hours from their home together per month because they didn't want to wait for their annual vacation. Must be nice to have that freedom.

  • @srishtiparjapat
    @srishtiparjapat Месяц назад

    Great advice I never ever listened from anyone seriously....👍❤️💯

  • @NgG-g2n
    @NgG-g2n 5 месяцев назад

    sometimes he has an indian accent, sometimes he has a British accent...which one it it entrepreneur bro?

  • @laurawalker6431
    @laurawalker6431 11 месяцев назад +1

    Is it always women who complain that their men are not spending time with them? Or it’s the same for both and we’re not talking about it??? Could you or someone comment or talk about this point please ?

    • @rejectionisprotection4448
      @rejectionisprotection4448 8 месяцев назад

      They don't want to alienate too much of their subscriber base, so won't make that differentiation.

  • @spencerd9325
    @spencerd9325 11 месяцев назад +1

    Surfing lol. I bet you do that on a Wednesday evening. What about every other day??

  • @pauline6005
    @pauline6005 Год назад +2

    After 3 years of trying my long distant relationship ended at the weekend. All because I questioned my then partner about being alone with a maid. When he had said to me that he couldn't be alone with any female because indian society won't accept it.
    This wasn't about cheating this was about him saying one thing to me then doing the opposite. But he kept changing his story.
    One minute he was within the same house as the maid , she offering him tea the going about her cleaning. Which I had no problem with at all. Next they just exchanged keys. The next she only offered tea of an evening which baffled me. So I wondered which story it was
    So when I kept questioning him he called me sick in the head.
    Said im the reason why men keep secrets , I'm toxic and controlling.
    He's also said im too sensitive and I shouldn't hold onto baggage.
    He had told me to leave to topic alone its finished with. And when I asked did he mean to go back to it at a later time when we've cooled down . He said no. When he says it's finished it's finished. Which I said I weren't ready to move on just because he said so.
    We had started talking again and so I still had the awful words in the back of my head. So I asked him does he still think im those things he had said to me. He said yes and doesn't have no regrets. I said he should say sorry and he said , I'll say sorry for upsetting you. But not for them words I think he called me. Though in the same breath he said they weren't that bad nor did he swear at me.
    He even said if I hadn't questioned him so much he wouldn't of got so angry and said it to me.
    Fast forward a few days and finally got a sorry and he said he has never asked for an apology for my behaviour that let to his outburst.
    And that I'm not like indian women who don't hold onto such things. They would build the relationship not let it go. I said you let your ego and sharp tongue get in the way. Which he has told me before. And he said an indian woman would break down his ego.
    I said you shouldn't have such an ego that it needs breaking down and I'm glad im not and indian woman. That needs to walk on egg shells. I said we both need to work on ourselves. Then he said he has nothing to work on and even his friends say he doesn't need to go to councilling
    I ended the relationship which he keeps adding the the message and previously he's ended it multiple times. And I said we have tried for 3 years we are both different. We both see things differently and we just don't match. We've tried it's time to end and let go . Andveven said I dont hate him
    My god after rereading that it's so exhausting.
    I wish he would of worked at it because I know even I need to work on myself and rebuild on myself. But I'm not gonna be in a relationship were I feel I can't be open about my feelings or have to pick and choose words so he doesn't take offence if I have a problem which what he said or did.
    He even liked other eomens photos on fb and commented how lovely they are. And when I said I found them disrespectful because some were half naked. He said his fb account had been hijacked and he would pick and choose which ones were him and which ones weren't. And then said they should be left in the past. Even though he always said to me he didn't like public displays of affection and was careful of what he said to my photos very rarely liked or even sent hearts.
    So glad though its over I can look after myself now and start to make myself happy again
    Sorry for the long post
    Rant over

    • @netayconnection6236
      @netayconnection6236 Год назад +1

      I'm quite surprised 😮 no one has responded to your comment honestly. It does sounds like a very toxic relationship, and honestly anything toxic whether that be a friendship or relationship you shall definitely stay away from. I know from experience as well, and this guy you dated some of his traits match the person I had an experience with, they're they're narracistic as well. Just attempt to be careful being with who you are. Other than that you seem like a very patient person to me, and very understanding with your responses to his behaviour. Always remember that looking after yourself should be the upmost pirority, which should enable you with more energy, happiness and positive. Have a nice day 😊

    • @pauline6005
      @pauline6005 Год назад

      @netayconnection6236 Thank you very much for your response..seems like a lifetime away.
      I had got low my mental health suffered. That I didn't want to do anything. Up until recently I started to look after myself.
      He was the typical manipulative narcissist. And I was always running after the guy who loved bomb me in the beginning. But a therapist said that's what they do to get you to lower your wall.
      But I'm good now
      Again thank you 😊

  • @HelpdeskHonky
    @HelpdeskHonky 5 месяцев назад

    If I had eyes like that people would listen to me too lol

  • @adrianazollo2688
    @adrianazollo2688 11 месяцев назад +1

    Does not exist

  • @MyrnaDeJesus
    @MyrnaDeJesus 7 месяцев назад +1

    Excellent guidance on essential necessities for nurturing relationships.

    • @mahendrajadav2286
      @mahendrajadav2286 2 месяца назад

      I have observed a common issue among young people in our society, and I would like to discuss it with you to understand if my perspective is correct. Many young individuals, particularly in their early 20s, seem to spend their time in casual relationships without taking them seriously. This pattern often continues until they are 26-28 years old. When it comes time to consider marriage, they realize that many good potential partners are already taken by others who have been more serious about building meaningful relationships from an earlier age. In contrast, those who invest time in developing good relationships early on often find the perfect partner and enjoy a happy married life.
      What are your thoughts on this?

  • @KC-10
    @KC-10 Месяц назад

    Women don’t want to choose good men and run away when they have one. So disappointing

    • @vwlisa
      @vwlisa 2 дня назад

      Define “good”

  • @NgG-g2n
    @NgG-g2n 5 месяцев назад

    ugh the speaker entrepreneur giving idealistic unrealistic advice that he clearly doesn't apply...and he yells...ughhhhhhhhhh I can't

  • @dvd_12337
    @dvd_12337 Год назад +1

    What are questions to ask self or of the relationship, before deciding to marry?

    • @queenj.8i895
      @queenj.8i895 11 месяцев назад

      Ask the Lord to guide you. Always. In all things. He helps those who ask Him to.
      God bless 🦋

  • @YuliaGrushevskaya-bi6he
    @YuliaGrushevskaya-bi6he 6 месяцев назад

    Perfection is enemy of réal relationship, for me : attraction physical and intellectuel, each is being him self and lots of space to each other and for being together, i never look further or think too much, if i care for à person if i send love and forgive then for me it is à good relationship ❤🎉

  • @seliar7586
    @seliar7586 8 месяцев назад

    Watching tv together is
    The most intimate chillest time with my man
    Feeling his heart beat while
    i lay on his chest and I get to caress him
    For hours
    while we watch something interesting or funny
    = pure bliss
    Do you
    and what feels good to both of you
    I just heard the first minute cause I was curious
    Choose your lover with your heart
    That’s it

  • @englishwithmuzammal3596
    @englishwithmuzammal3596 Год назад +4

    This seems to be effortless to talk about such things for the sake of a podcast for the audience; the reality on the ground is not even an ounce closer to what is being said here. No one can understand your pain. Period. They are talkers, nothig else, if you ask me, which might be amiss; I am open to other notions; I am not an hauteur, nor am I endeavour to bring eristic perspective. My propensity for the truth vis-a-vis building castles in the air/verbal diarrehe/gift of the gab.
    They both are assiduous in what they do, but I can't buy this gibberish. The phenomenon of this talk-show has recenty been nothing but interminable noise pollution.
    Thank you for reading.

  • @andywhata
    @andywhata 10 месяцев назад

    Keep your videos short like this n we will watch em all. Skipped so many of your videos coz they are too long.