how to get princess treatment + servant mindset
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In this episode, Elle shares her insights and strategies on how to get princess treatment. From treating yourself like a princess to drawing boundaries and dropping everyone who does not give you princess treatment, Elle shows you how to cultivate value in yourself and attract the people who will treat you like the royalty you are.
Elle covers a range of topics including how to be mysterious, how to be sensitive to the ick, and how to check people when they need to be checked. She also dives into the importance of having an abundance mindset and creating accessible value.
But it's not just about being a princess for the sake of it. Elle emphasizes the importance of making people feel positive feelings when they are with you, whether it's a man who wants to feel the ego boost of being seen with an attractive woman or a woman who wants to feel that she is in the company of equally high social/cultural capital women.
So if you're ready to get the princess treatment you deserve, listen to this episode now! Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more content like this.
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“ stop getting mad and start getting paid” love it sis 😂. I literally watch your videos before going on a date just to remind myself of the truth .
yesss👏🏽👏🏽 get that bag, bestie
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Okay period 😂
@@therealmanifestelle💲💸💸💰💰💳😂😂
I really needed that video. I first got a really cheap treatment, only after I asked myself why I even do this, bye. It really helped me, thank u❤
"You're not a rat. You are a princess" LORD I NEEDED THAT
Rats backwards is STAR ⭐️ LOL
But you're not a princess though lmao
1. Fitness - do exercise. Capatilise it. Looking good gives you princess treatment.
How you dress, how you talk, how you treat others. All about the vibe. Go to places where are good vibes. People are good.
Treat yourself like a princess. Have a ick meter. Don't go with people who don't give you princess treatment.
No more negative self talk. Be kind to yourself.
You are your own bestie. Talk to yourself kindly and as you are a princess. Be your own cheer leader
Gatekeepers - you are always protected. Be delulu. Pretend you are having a assistant.
I am raised this way.
Be firm on your boundaries.
Abundance mindset.
Be so delulu that uou know that there is Abundance of everything.
2. Don't get mad, get paid.
3. Pour into yourself. Invest in yourself.
4. People give you princess treatment on the basis of how you made them feel.
To get princess treatment you should make other people feel royal.
For friendships - Servant mindset- pour heavily on your people.
The best way to get princess treatment is exactly to remove people who don’t give you princess treatment
Included getting rid of my parents to an extent unfortunately
@@Myatheroses so true!, I'm not about to literally disappear from their lives, but gotta stop letting my emotional state depend on how they treat me (getting the ick on a daily basis, multiple times). We're individuals and we deserve way more
❤ yeah interesting 😊 thank you
I was told that there was something wrong with me for wanting how to be treated well because they see me as too sensitive. For a lot of times, I believed it! Your video is just a confirmation that my sensitive ick meter is a gift, not a bad thing. I'm just surrounded by the wrong crowd.
I LOVE how you phrased "my sensitive ick meter is a gift". Yes so true!!
Amen sis
@Nananana09174if you haven't already, I suggest you watch her video "a private life is a better life" I totally get where you are coming from... especially the last part of your comment. And because I truly understand, because I felt this way, too!! But, I can promise you, you only THINK you need/want that. You don't. In fact, you are suffering because you believe this. It is tough to realize, but not only will this desire continue to ache from within, it will hurt from outside, too (the ppl this energy attracts is no good) Everything that has happened in the past only helps when you learn from it and let it make you stronger, like a boot camp would. Trauma is an initiation to being stronger than you ever knew possible. Not a place to wallow forever about. Only positivity intended ✨ Bright Blessings
Edit: it's helpful to explore why you are a people pleaser. Having been one, I can say from experience, it's not serving anyone's highest good (especially yours!!❤) NOW that I've recovered from being a people pleaser (a result of childhood trauma) I finally understand why so many people have left me. Healthy people run from people pleasers, because on a subconscious energetic level there is a clingy, needy, strings attached vibe. The only people it attracts are people who want to exploit this coping mechanism (people pleasing is unhealthy, for everyone. It's related to codependency. Sorry to say.)
@Nananana09174I would recommend going to therapy seriously. It sounds like you’ve got some serious abandonment issues especially if your willing to put up with shitty behavior just so you won’t be left. It’s a terribly difficult cycle and hard life your living right now that really could be so much better. We instinctually attract what we think we deserve and I promise babe you deserve so much more 💗 don’t ever forget rejection is just redirection and everything in life is hard but we can chose our hard.. you either do something easy now to pay the consequences later or you do something difficult now to enjoy the fruition later, but either way there will be a struggle
Me too girly ❤️
"Because if they are my people, they will pour heavily into me."
- I need to remind myself of this because I pour so much into other people, but don't get it back. So I need to stop that. It needs to come back for me to continue. ❤
If you do that, you will pour until you are empty and have nothing left to give 😢 been there. Never going back.
Being valuable is a magnet and attracts everything you love to you.
Instead of "servant mindset", I will say find people who are givers just like you. People who give to each others will create a balanced relationship. If you are a giver and the person in front of you is a taker, this is an imbalance. Give, find givers, set boundaries.
It’s giving sprinkle, sprinkle. Shera always says don’t get mad, figure out how to get money. Love this awakenings❤
100% surround yourself only with those who bring out the best in you, not those that hold you stagnate.
i love listening to u as i work. im a cleaner and work 12 hours a day and it just gives me so much hope that this isnt gonna be my life forever.
I wish u get everything u want😊
📣 YOU GOT THIS!!! 📣
good luck and you will get everything you want
You are on your way to the life you want! ✨️ you deserve everything you desire.
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"Nuance Nellie" I love your sense of humour😅 in all seriousness... last year I started doing the things I wanted to do no matter if ppl didn't want to join, from small things like getting coffee alone and learning to go to the gym alone to big things like language classes and a two month solo trip. I could not agree more that giving yourself princess treatment is key, I think this was the turning point in my relationships and my self-esteem. Ultimately, my friends wanted to join cause I was enjoying myself and I was leaning into my interests and meeting new ppl (that were on my level and shared my values/passions).
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I wanna be at that level and I am going to access that level for myself.
This is having a royal mindset. Thank you for the energetic straightening of my crown, soul sis. Only true princesses feel happy helping other princesses thrive.👑💕✨️
Yessss, 💯❤
It works! If you give yourself princess treatment, people automatically start to ick you when they treat you anything less than that
"Whenever you find out that something is working for the benefit of others, and that something is attainable by you... what are you doing? ATTAIN IT."
I feel guilty for taking so long to realize that my parents neglected me emotionally and bec of that Im behind in certain aspects of life but also ur right I didnt do anything unethical so Im okay ❤❤❤
Girl me too. We will overcome it😩
@@Rosierose902 😭😭😭 I hope ur slowly getting better each day bec it can be traumatic 😭
@@bronzedflames are you of age? +18? +21? If yes you overgrew the age you can still blame your parents for something
Real life ain’ t a therapist delusional chat. In real life our parents are human beings with flaws and they did what they could. We are grown ups and are responsible for ourselves.
You can’t blame your parents
And you have to know the concept of “trauma” was not even invented 100 years ago and it’s only a theory.
It’ s not proven scientifically that you you undergo X event in your life you will become Y or Z
Cause there are people that underwent X event too and they did W instead of X or Z
So the whole concept of trauma is not even real.
Wake up and taste the taste of responsibility
Go look up Lukashenko childhood and “””trauma””” and then look up what amazing manly man he become!
@@ZharaJameelah Thank you for your advice 💗💗💗
learning your attachment style is really helpful to be aware. love heidi priebes videos
damn, the idea of pretty privilege symbolising determination, dedication and discipline is so mind blowing!! on my healing journey rn and I absolutely love your content
Dating standards should be applied to ALL humans around you - their aesthetics, characters, personalities, mindsets, or even physical appearances. The only exception would be sexual attraction.
I think I give myself princess treatment often, instinctively. My threshold for suffering physically is solid. Any little thing leads to blocking. I just need to work on sorting out my threshold when it comes to emotional neglect. I grew up in an emotionally distant home so I can easily cope with emotionally unavailable people, but I'm going to weed that out. Areas for improvement are having higher expectations for people and getting rid of this covid weight. I love the idea of seeing going to the gym as princess treatment. Internal work vs superficial princess treatment.
Took me a long time to learn how well the princess treatment and service mindset work together but once I saw the light 🤩 yeah, never going back to anything else lol. Have a great day!
yesss seems counterintuitive but it works🫶🏽🫶🏽
The people who haggle your boundaries are the ones your boundaries are there for..
*snap snap snap* 💯
You don’t know how hard it is to be at a school filled with toxic girls and guys. Your videos bring me a sense of peace and calm. Thank you
17:31 I disagree with this. Sometimes family is so toxic you need to replace them or just cut them off and be ok alone for your mental health. I love your videos btw.
Or they do it for you. My cousin disowned me and complained about me to everyone when I didn’t agree with communist/Marxist beliefs. I was civil, but that’s just bad behavior. My cousin is a trans-man. Whatever you do you but he got mad when I ran for office bc he didn’t like my libertarian political affiliation. Ok good riddance! This cousin has literally done NOTHING nice for ANYONE in the family. They are a black hole. And my aunt knew that too bc she ignored her child and attended my wedding and we’re on good terms. It’s just this cousin. Sometimes you just piss em off by standing your ground and don’t gotta do anything else 🤷🏼♀️ saying no has that effect on crazy people
Agreed
This channel is a miracle in my life. Just discovered it last night 44.4K subs and straight up, it's a blessing-- to the entire world. Bc who CAN'T the world do without?
Women... women like us.
What you’re describing is being co-dependent. A great book on the subject is “Co-dependent No More”. The last part of your video reminds me of a fave quote from a book I read years ago, “The Diva Principle”, she’s says: “Go where you’re celebrated”.
I found this book in a second hand shop and bought it spontaneously months ago. Maybe I should pluck it from my bookshelf.
"we did not evolve to be couch potatoes" dyinggg bestie why did that make me laugh so much
‘A selectively timed social butterfly’ lol me too.
I'm SO glad I found your channel. I was at a point where I stopped believing that people like you even exist anymore.
But that abundance mindset that you explained is really a life changer for me. And I'm very thankful for that.
Thank you Elle ❤❤❤
Agreed! I felt the same way.
You have no idea how much my self-confidence improoved since I started watching you back in February. Thank you so much!
This is just great. It made me realize I was so familiar with the servant mindset - which is so rare here! - I didn't see it as 'love bombing' when it was.
And yes, it happens when you've been conditioned to ignore your ick-meter. If anyone can relate - we can fix this, and it's not our fault. Others have vilified and duped us out of natural self-protection. For their gain, usually from very early on.
I love what Elle does - not just repeating we should see our own worth, but also how we constantly have those coming at us trying to deceive us out of it, and she reminds us to not fall for it.
Elle , your videos are so different . You make things easy to understand and you’re so relatable. I feel like I’m listening to a friend 💕 love your channel bestie !
thank you bestie 😭 i appreciate you so much 🫶🏽🫶🏽 i love our spoiled girlie support group ✨
Wow I was passing a message to an older lady customer at work and spoke about women being oppressed by society and told her us women we need to encourage each other and be supportive with each other and bestie you popped up. ❤ realness❤
I love love love this attitude toward friendship!!! I grew up with my overworked underpaid single mom modeling snippets of it when she could and encouraging me to be generous and thoughtful to friends. As I’ve gotten older I take it more and more seriously. Friendships like the ones you’re talking about make life worth living.
Wow, the assistant tip was genius! Truly, if I were my assistant I would have removed a lot of people and things from my life by now.
Hi, I just found this channel and I feel I manifested/ attracted this particular video with something I was thinking all day (after a horrible date yesterday!) and I wanted to share it with somebody who would understand! So I feel I should share it here, as it is exactly on the topic. I apologize if the comment is too long, but I really must share it - it is not a coincidence I run into your content. 🙂
So, here it is: Imagine a prince/ a king goes from his kingdom to another kingdom, he enters the castle and he has an intention to look for a wife. Who is he looking for? Will he go to the kitchen to see the ladies who cook? Is he going to look for the cleaning ladies or the servants in the castle? No...he will be looking for the princesses (who are with the mindset to potentially be queens), correct? Now, imagine who will be looking for the cleaning ladies, the cook or the other servants as a potential wife material - will he be a prince or a king? Please think about this energetically, not literally.
Now, remember Cinderella? What did she do to get the prince? Did she kept slaving for everybody else, keeping her head down? No, she broke the rules, dressed up and went to the castle, despite being forbidden to do so! She consequently got herself into a princess vibration - that's how she attracted the prince. 😉
There’s a reason why Cinderella is perhaps the quintessential and best Disney film out there and saved Disney company early on. Cinderella is a determined, compassionate lady who knows what she wants and navigates the toxic people in her life with grace to herself. The prince is not even a character in the film - it is a female centered story. He doesn’t even speak, he just beelines toward her because he feels/knows she’s his princess. Everything she worked for pays off bc she put herself first even through adversity of crazy pick me step sisters and stepmom dumping on her and treating her like a servant. A dream is a wish your heart makes when you’re fast asleep. Cinderella is living her dream from the start of the film even when the mice are confused af about the importance of shifting to your future Princess dream girl self. Cinderella knew 💖
Just discovered your videos and WOW! I’m completely smitten. I’m devouring your videos and learning so much. Thank you, thank you for your words. Some of your words bring tears to my eyes as I think about my past. It so true with the saying, “ when the student is ready, the teacher will come.”
i just got out an emotionally abusive realtionship and your videos have helped build me up i know this video isnt about this but thank you .
Thank you for the video! This helps a lot! Especially about friendships. I feel so often being used by my friends, and that they are not repaying me with the same amount. Even they are repaying me by doing something, that I perceive as mean. Like, I wouldnt do the same thing to them, but they do it to me. I just need to keep my boundaries better, and be friends with people who ”deserve” my friendship.
They are not friends they are abusers. Get rid of them
I found your videos a few days ago and am obsessed with your channel! One thing I’d suggest to other viewers in the comment section is before you start cutting some people out of your life (I’m specifically talking about friends you’ve either had for a long time or are just very close to you) to remind yourself that some of your friends might be unaware of what your needs and expectations are in the relationship, so it’s essential to set boundaries with them and communicate what your needs are. Drop them if they fail to respect you enough to follow your boundaries/expectations! Again, I love your content! 🤍🤍
I am happy that I found your channel! A confirmation that my life is changing!
glad to have you here bestie ✨
I was late to a date and this guy told me I have to pay the dinner because of my tardiness. That was the last date. He kept asking me for another date. I just ghosted him
This gives me hope when I'm currently in a very bad economic situation, a dysfunctional family, loneliness and a lot of ideas pass through my mind on how to make this better.
Thank you so much for explaining this so well, I was also raised with the servant mindset but I'd get in a state where it'd be a waste of time 90% of the time, but then the remaining percents I find golden people, so I was confused about what to do with myself, listening to you talk about it had a lightbulb effect, the missing piece was to pour into others but also watch their behaviors and figure out if you're to continue pouring or say i'm out 💁♀
EXACTLY 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 you get it
So true. "Friends" Cancelling and rescheduling over and over. And then I was like nope. We're not doing this.
I'm neurodivergent and have always studied people and society but had a hard time really understanding how to deal with and ineract with people and the world in a positive way that isn't at my own expense. Your videos have been a guiding light through learning ro navigate life while also learning to unmask and be more myself. ❤❤❤ Thank you, bestie.
I like you, girl. Thanks to you I am now hopeful that there are people, women, with common sense, good vibes, friendly, positive, feminine, kind and willing to give their time and energy generously to the right people. Greetings from Geneva, Switzerland meanwhile I'm still praying to meet my besties
I’m the same way when it comes to not going to locations with bad vibes! Usually those places have high turnover, so eventually i can go back to those locations anyway.
"Did CrossFit once and I died, never going back": same bestie same 🤣
Love your content (I'm binging it), it resonates so much and I am finally awake now. Not gonna sleep on my standard ever again, but still need my 8 hours beauty sleep like the princess I am. Please keep spreading wisdom and nuance. Cheers from France ~
Always listen to your intuition.
now that I think about it they call them acts of service for a reason. you've got to be willing to serve and tend to before you can get something out of it. this just goes to show how the spoilt girlies support group isn't a way to deflect responsibilities. spoilt girlies are hardworking too❤
Every time I attend one of your classes I just know I will be heard, validated, supported, understood. I am so so glad you make this supportive videos for other women. Big big thank you bestie ❤
I love the advice for how you talk to yourself making such a difference for your self-esteem. I've also realized that I need to stop sarcastically saying things like "this makes me want to die" because even though I don't actually mean that literally, I do have depression and words truly are powerful. If I exaggerate everything to being "horrible" or "the worst" when I'm only annoyed or slightly dysregulated, then that lowers my vibrations even more. So I've been training myself to shed off the edgy teenage behaviors I have and honestly am looking to my Grandma as just the best example of how to behave like an adult with class. Making an effort to change my mindset and language is really helping with lowering the frequency of depressive episodes and I feel like this is really helping my healing.
Yesssss I dated a guy once he ONLY goes to bars/restaurants that treats him like VIP
That is a smart man.
no wonder my friends say I’m so lucky I always meet people who r good to me, just found out, I do all of this stuff hhh, it’s so nice to hear someone explaining it.
I really love your channel and podcast! Your content and mentality are a gift - promoting self-love always but balanced with the firmness to motivate us to get off our butts and be strategic instead of wallowing. The perfect middle ground between sprinkle sprinkle and "soft life" content
I’m listening to this lesson as I clean the bathroom: and this is so helpful for me to reconcile these 2 things. I sometimes don’t think I am a princess cuz I’m a mom, ‘a dame’, I commute everywhere by bike, etc. But hearing this lesson while cleaning made me realize that treating yourself like a princess does not mean we don’t do hard things, clean the bathroom, etc. It is the treatment u expect/accept from others; and how I treat and speak to myself. I loved what u said about who boundaries r for. Yes!!
There's so much value from this video!❤ Yes, i can totally relate to the point where you said to not go places where the vibe or people are negative.❤
Wow I love that you're basically talking about reciprocal relationships!
I’ve only watched two videos and I already have a new bestie and feel fabulous
Really love the way you break these topics down
thank you 🥹🥹
You are so right. I have been doing all of that on my own with therapist help and it is amazing how what you describe is exactly what is happening to me. Treat yourself as a princess and demand that treatment from everyone else, it is okay if some people don't like you. Speak to yourself kindly and always choose yourself first!
This is interesting. I changed workplace this year and I always had a pattern of treating people with kindness and with little acts of service. It's funny that my new colleagues always got frozen or thought they were bothering me, but I just like beeing useful and kind. After less than 5 days, I started getting the same treatment from most of them. And now they even protect me when they think I'm beeing mistreated or taken advantage. Watching your video I finally undestood why this is happening. I found my new people!
Elle, I've discovered you this week, and I just cannot stop watching your content !! You literally feel like a bestie I could talk for hours with.💖
I was already on my journey, understanding my own value, bettering myself and trying to see how to build that life I felt I want.
It's been a struggle after the split with my fiancé (ugh, such a low effort bare minimum man, I really dodged a bullet by leaving him).
Not because I miss him, that's just pure relief, more due to the fact that I have to rebuild everything : find my own place, evolve in my job to cover all my fees, etc.
I'd LOVE to hear about your journey, how you have evolved and what fruit you've reaped since you entered into your Princess self ?
Thank you so much for EVERYTHING - I'm here for it ! x
This is my fav video of yours so far. So valuable and packed with useful info. Thank you!
The checking people thing was so on point
There's so much useful advice in the same video that I can't even process it at the same time! I though he was the problem, but I realised that if I don't value my social skills and I feeI like I want to be better in that term, I should focus on that instead of meeting him. He deserves better (but not in the people pleaser mindset) BECAUSE I do.
Not me already pouring into people who I KNOW will pour into me.
The fact that i do this instinctively and never really knew really blows my mind but now, i can be more discerning about who i give that to and honestly, the princess treatment has gotten MUCH better when i stopped pouring into people who didn’t pour into me.
I love that assistant tip!
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I love that you don’t talk only about romantic life but also about job, family and friends!
I listen to your videos repeatedly on Spotify and RUclips like they are songs. Thank you for these ,like seriously ❤hearing someone living like this with this philosophy is so encouraging and inspiring.
i could listen to you talk all day😂🥰new subbie
welcome to the support group bestie 🫶🏽🫶🏽
Didnt know you were a scientist, now it makes sense!! Go girl you are rocking
This reminds me of this person whom i used to do group projects with. I gave him a few opinions of him I had, since he asked. After that he became obsessed with me. It was embarrassing, i learned my lesson to be genuine and sincere with my words because if i had given him the raw uncensored opinions he wouldn't have caused so much trouble for me.
i dont think people who can just "go to the gym" to attain pretty privilege are mad about it, its the people like me that have to shell out thousands and thousands of dollars for cosmetic surgery just to not even come close to having pretty privilege who actually suffer from not having it.
You’re going to blow up ☺️🧡
🥹🥹 thank you bestie
I’m addicted to your videos I’m so glad I discovered you ahhhhhh !! I love being a part of the sgsg now lol. I was wondering do you have any thoughts about making friends in your level or just making new friends in general? I feel likes it’s always been hard for me (as someone who is neurodivergent firstly) as I am very guarded and don’t vibe with people who’s idea of a good time is drinking or drugs 😵💫 my idea of a good first date/friend date is going to the book store but idk I just feel like it’s really hard to put yourself out there. Sorry for the rant but it would be really cool if you could share your thoughts about female friends/making friends with people that aren’t bad for you lol
I met my best friend in a private facebook support group. Wherever you go or whatever you do, be authentic, and like-minded people will come your way. You don't have to be online. Take classes or pursue a hobby. Act intuitively. Good luck :)
This is what I concluded, too! You’re a sovereign, a Queen of your realm. 👑 ✨
It is times like these I am grateful to the algorithm. Thankful to be connected to such a conscious creative.
I can just tell by what you know and what you teach, you took a lot of time to heal and invest in yourself. Especially the family part, how they like to break time boundaries or emotional boundaries. I am still setting boundaries to this day.
I love this channel I really needed this content and hearing this kind of words. Thanks 🙏
“attain it” changed my life
I love the way you said "you are a princess" we all are living now in our land of dreams by making it in reality thankyou so much love you a lot from India. Thankyou god, Har har mahadev ❤😇♾🙏
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Omg I'm so happy you uploaded! I subscribed yesterday and i already can't get enough of your videos ❤️ keep up the good work 🥰👑
thank you bestie 🫶🏽🫶🏽
Princess treatment is what we all deserve and should be the bare minimum! Thank you for the reminder beautiful Queen! 🙏🏻💕✨
I don't know if anyone has brought this up, but I really appreciate that you have captions or subtitles. I have sensory processing issues so it's helpful to be able to read and listen. Thank you, Elle. You're awesome.
I love the servant mindset you are talking about, be careful I have seen it show it’s true color and manifest as covert narcissism love bombing the moment you put a boundary or in some cases it is just the expression of self righteousness (like mentionned from a religious standpoint)
you are a genius bestie 💘 thank you for your work
I am here for the delulu mindset💚❤ and definitely the value
This is just perfect! I never go to places where I'm not treated well, no matter where it is! And I also need to figure it out some activities to leave my house too! Hahaha! Thanks for the amazing video! ♥
in poland there is (was?) also this mindset of doing a lot for your friends and family, i dont know if its related to being catholic but i relate to your story with the friend haha. there is a lot of effort put into maintaining social and family bonds, and into hospitality (being a generous host and guest)
i’m so happy i found this video, i used to be like this all the time and then i let people beat it out of me and use me and i lost myself. i’m so happy im finally getting back to this!
This is life changing. Thank you!
Girl, I want to be friends with you so bad! It's so hard to find like minded women where I live but I just hunger for friendships with badass women like you, I feel like I relate so much to everything you're teaching and I appreciate your intelligence and all the value you bring to us here on RUclips!
Elle got me eating plain boiled chicken breast with a little salt on it.
She's a true bestie.
(It's actually good- after 6 hours of not eating at least)
Girl im so glad i found u ❤❤
Spoiled girl group I love it.
Spoiled wife / mom over here 👏🏿👏🏿💕
Holy shit. Just found out about your channel from watching a couple videos.
I resonate so much with what you said and it all started to click with me with the knowledge you imparted
Very grateful to you , my mindset has changed alot about self worth and servant mindset
Don't get mad, get paid 😂😂😂 omg that so true