Thanks for reminding us what a real woman should be. I am from Germany and most women here forgot what a woman really is. When I do a journey to another land women behave like a female where in Germany they always want to prove that they are better than you in every aspect.
"self help" is an industry because it gets people hooked on consumption rather than the doing of. A big problem people often have is they consume the content but never process it to internalize it. And thus they end up repeating it word for word. A professor once asked the class if we read the material before hand. We said yeah. He said, no I don't mean that you looked at the ink on the page, but actually thought about every sentence and worked out all the math equations. This ties into many learning techniques which have some form of writing down or speaking out a rewording of something into your own phrasing. That is its to help you internalize the ideas because you have to actively engage with it. It also helps to sort of role play act it out with thought experiments or day dreams. Then actually put it in practice. The big problem many people take with listening to pod casts is they think simply hearing the words alone will somehow change their lives. They don't actually put in any effort to actualize the concepts behind the words. And thus they keep consuming hoping that the change will happen.
If you find a humble lady in today's society who has an inward beauty that is vibrant. That is a good woman. Focus on inward beauty, and the ouward will become all the more beautiful. These women are rare these days.
Yeah they should start attaching breeding or mating to the term value. Cause all humans have innate value but maybe not for every context. Like I’m a high value brother and son but not so high value as a mate or say musician.
Some are against the definition of high value man because getting drunk surrounded by 304s in a yacht ain't their idea of what high value is. There is a lot of hedonism and emptiness around those terms for both men and women.
@@gabrielegagliardi3956 Definitely think people like F&F’s high value man/woman definitions are missing the mark by a long shot. Hedonism is something different.
to compare people by “value” is an extremely shallow way of viewing the world, and at the end of the day, the most “valuable” person sees the same ending as the least.
One major aspect that people miss out on is when you take away all forms of media, specifically in the dating sense, you will realize most people's real value. The pretty girl who thinks she has all options but in real life maybe only 5 guys approach her in person a month, that is her real value. There is a bad side to being really good looking, that people's perception of you, good or bad. Dating has way more to do with you as a person, not just how you promote yourself. Unfortunately, people are addicted to the perceived value than the actual truth. Most people will do tricks to increase their value, like no contact or acting as if they don't like the other person, but the truth is it only hurts that person. Authenticity pierces all. The more authentic you are, the faster the other persons personality will be revealed to you.
I mean it’s also easier to meet on insta because it doesn’t mean as much. In person I would never go up to a really handsome guy because I would assume he’s either taken or is an f boy.. 😅
That's sadly not true. Pretty girls on insta are usually popular girls in school/ college. They know they are attractive hence the confidence. I honestly don't believe hot bikini girl on insta has any trouble finding men in real life. Pretty privilege is real
@@Ak1996feb nah man, i know plenty of pretty women who never get approached. The camera tells lies. And most popular women in school are not on social media posting themselves, they have no need to.
Would Jack be interested in going on a date with a friend of mine? She's 25, lives in seattle, emotionally and financially intelligent, listens to this podcast, and thinks Jack is such a catch!!
A high value man/woman can justify a bad behavior because they are high value. Someone with values will most likely not. Yes it’s better to be both but it’s better to be someone with values than to be a high value
When you are a person of values you should be considered high value. But because value is subjective the majority of people just have a herd mentality especially in western civilization we just gravitate to whatever is popular in dating culture and that becomes what the majority of people value in that time
“Soulmates” (at 43 minutes) just reinforces that men are never truly loved unconditionally. It’s sad. The only thing that will love a man unconditionally is his mom and his dog.
i think breakups hurt men more because they are often blindsided by the woman. Most break ups are initiated by the woman. When she pulls the cord she already has a backup in place. She has affectively already gone through the breakup grieving process before even ending the relationship. Where the man has to process what happened after the fact. When fully blind sided it can also feel like a betrayal and so i think that hits even deeper.
That's why they usually have another relationship going shortly after the break-up. But I think women also sell men a Disney dream, all that stuff with soulmates and eternal love isn't a story for women but for men. In reality they fall in love with what they need to survive, and as quickly as that they can fall out of love. Especially when they're given attention from someone they think they can monkey branch to.
@@Princess15732 We aren't, you are. We can clearly see what's happening. And I mean, a certain gender nowadays claims to be stronger and have more muscles than men, how can we even expect you to not have a deluded perspective on your own relationships?
Also she mentions so many times women want a man that can spot their lies. But im shocked grahm never asked her why would anyone want a woman who lies? I don't. And contrary to popular belief not all women lie.
@rodplays2936 there's this and then there's really the distinction let's say a woman tells you that she was somewhere that she really wasn't but she actually didn't do anything but she didn't want to raise suspicion cuz maybe she was with a guy that she has no interest in but then maybe want to make you jealous in any way and conceal it. Is that a little white lie or is that a big lie?
I think she more so meant be able to spot a woman’s capabilities of deceiving and manipulating. Not that all women do this but all people have the capability to lie and trick.
Sadia is so lovely! She is quite enchanting. Very beautiful, intelligent and likeable while being firm in what she believes. Hard to pull all of that off. I love all of her content and I also love this podcast.
High/low value men and women is another term for men or women with or without self esteem. That is all it comes down to. I agree with Sadia that when you have high self esteem you take care of yourself, eat healthy, want to grow as a person, value maturity, and will not take crap from people or lower yourself in sleeping around without connection or dress provocatively. I’m not religious at all but this is how I lived my life. People may call me conservative bc I dress modestly but overall I’m a new age thinker, and I’m feminine but good at making money. Almost every guy I dated has wanted marriage but I haven’t married them bc I want a guy who is very confident and emotionally fit. Very hard to find these days.
@@_andrewpeters not necessarily. With more context, one could see the correlation. As we could safely assume as the marriage rates fall, those who are getting married are likely more sure about their parter as there is less societal pressure for folks to get married. And highly religious couples, who are still marrying and less likely to divorce. So although there are less marriages overall, the ones that are happening are "stronger" as those not cut out for marriage are staying unmarried since there is less stigma surrounding it in current western society.
@@PORTERHAUS_ So do you mean that because they're so few people getting married those kinds of people who are getting married are less likely to divorce?
It seems, in Sadia's deeply cynical view, that the majority of men really only care about high quality sex and physical attractiveness. It quietly suggests that when a woman gets cancer, or suffers from depression, or gains weight that men's love for their spouse or significant other decreases accordingly. Also in keeping with her cultural heritage (of which I am familiar having roots there myself), she very much tends to want to corral men and women into specific boxes of characteristics - men should handle business matters and women should naturally gravitate towards children, looking good, and the home. The reason she has this perspective is because these are the men and women she's surrounded herself with either by family proximity, social standing, or career choice. Sadia's cultural history and clientele have deeply biased her perspective. Keep that in mind as you listen to this.
And to add something else. From just the 18 minutes of me watching her, it's funny you say that because the advice is sound, but she is saying it to the wrong crowd. Remember, in the beginning, she said that most of the clients she dealt with is rich people, not the average Joe. So the stuff she is towards rich people, but because she is saying this to the average population, it doesn't make sense to them.
@@garygreen3638 Yes she's biased, just like every other human. Yes she caters to a specific niche of ppl, she even stated that at the beginning of her video. Though her advice is not only for the ultra rich but also for ppl from the upper middle class or middle class guys striving for more. Her advice might not be too useful for your average Joe who's working at a construction site or delivering pizza. That's true. You have to judge wether her views and advices are valid for your own situation or not.
Unfortunately the decline in attraction is true in MOST cases. Many men are not equipped to fully take on a role as a caregiver. I have known of cheating husbands who had their wives in hospitals being treated for cancer; maybe their affair is escapism from the harsh reality of losing their mate? And when both partners said I DO, he did not imagine AT THAT TIME that she would gain weight. People are only human and sometimes they grow apart versus together.
I def could tell that the other guy has been struggling in the dating world - from the questions asked .. And the other guy really asked questions from a curious and open mindset - good luck to both of them
A woman who chases a man is going against her biology. We carry the greatest risk in relationships as we have the ability to bear children, and men are more biologically driven to chase. Never worry about pursuing the right woman. If you're working hard on yourself, and she's smart - she'll choose you back
I think divorce rates are going down because situationships are becoming more common. That those who are most likely to divorce are now, more than ever, less likely to get married.
I love SADIA! So surprise to see her on your podcast. I started dating again and taking her advice, and I am in such an amazing relationship right now. Its all new, but I think it will work out if I continue to follow her advice
@@P.90.603 This is far from the only issue. She's wrong 30% of the time and just says nice sounding opinions.. And I was always annoyed when people called porn harmful, including her, JPeterson or these sperm retainer channels. But just 2 days ago I heard a doctor talk about a study that porn increases the strength of one's immune system. T-cells seem to stick to pathogens for a longer time after the consumption of porn. Isn't that interesting. We aren't living in a world of education, we are living in a world of lies.
@@P.90.603 This is far from the only issue. She's wrong 30% of the time and just says nice sounding opinions.. And I was always annoyed when people called pn harmful, including her, JPeterson or these.. erm... retaining channels. But just 2 days ago I heard a doctor talk about a study that pn increases the strength of one's immune system. T cells seem to stick to pathogens for a longer time after the consumption of pn. Isn't that interesting. We aren't living in a world of education or enlightment, we are living in a world of lies.
@@P.90.603 Btw I was always annoyed prn haters. But just 2 days ago I heard a doctor talk about a study that pn increases the strength of the immune system. T cells seem to stick to pathogens for a longer time because of it. Isn't that interesting. I don't think people want you to know this.
@@azaanhussain1724 a lot, I mean, should I start at the beginning? Dunno if this platform will allow me to make a normal comment without censoring every little..
3:35 her answer is false. You can never replace the mother of your children. If you cant find her attractive after she has raise a family for you, you failed to biuld a meaningful relationship
Honestly that belief is really skewed now more than ever because we have social media and people with video cameras which are now prolific and inexpensive now more than ever and we're just coming now to realize how shallow and fruitless a lot of people's lives are when he probably isn't that far off from what it was before the internet
Part of this is really depressing period for those who didn't grow up in families that were well-rounded and put together with morals, it's almost as if you have to relearn everything and if you don't catch on more quickly it comes into adulthood and you're still struggling period personally the best thing that I've noticed for myself is that if I can just be as open and honest in a peaceful and respectful way that will tell me Across-the-board if the woman is right for me Part of that includes kind of what Saudi was talking about which is being open and honest calling out the BS of your woman doing something that's just not okay that's why I think that open and honest communication is extremely helpful besides I've also noticed that any advice my dad who is a womanizer LOL it's just simply wrong I hope that some of this may help some of you let me know what you think I would love The feedback
Thanks Graham having the mic in the prefect position, you sounded great and look very professional. you don't have to hide behind the mic . Great show.
As a guy who has no female friends, i think theres only three situations that allow a male/female platonic friendship to exist between individuals not connected by family (eg a guy being friends with his sister in law doesnt count since your friendship is basically a condition of her relationship with your brother). 1. She is married or taken but they both share a serious hobby or intellectual interest (for example both are doctors who research the same thing). 2. He doesnt find her sexually attractive but enjoys her company/conversation (usually because they share a hobby or intellectual interest that they can bond over) 3. They are both minors who know each other through school so by that association alone they call themselves friends.
Great video guys, learned a lot. I think the way Justin and Myron operate with the ladies was mis represented by her, it’s a lot more nuanced and then understand the male female dynamic very well. Ex: they won’t simply spoil any beautiful girl with their money, they see if she’s worth it by watching her demeanour, the way she carries her self, by watching out for some who traits etc… 1:39:49 yup she doesn’t know much about them especially Justin, so it’s very bad to make such wild comments on someone you don’t know much about especially by knowing them only through clips
Ah this flow interruption is a great comment! I had this situation recently, where I went clubbing with my friends and we were dancing hard (that's what we came for). And a random guy who arrived with a friend of a friend started talking to me etc. And I"m like bruh... please don't interrupt me, I am here to dance. And then he kept looking for me and pestering me the whole night, even though, it was pretty clear that I do not want to talk. DO NOT INTERRUPT HER FLOW.
Funny how she's a professional, with male clients, & still can't grasp many things from a male pov. Makes you think women won't ever understand certain differences
What she is saying is that she doesn’t allow it and that’s why they cant sexulize her. She is saying this from a women’s brain of course but she means her actions and boundaries dictate sex (no sex) even though she knows the men would if they could. Make sense?
Theres no excuse for cheating on a partner. And the person who was cheated on may contributed to it but if the cheating partner doesn't communicate what led to their fidelity then the person who was cheated on is not at fault.
00:30 She's 1,000% correct about corrupt people in this world today. From my own life experience, I've seen the most corrupt people(men & women) be greatly rewarded in society. I first noticed this when I was a teenager. It hasn't changed, but has even more pronounced over these last 20 years since my teen years. It quite honestly disguses me.
There's nothing new Under the Sun there's always been times in history where the corrupt and immoral have flourished and succeeded with great worldly gain in the eyes of the righteous and upright.
I 100% agree with her! That’s why I have a hard time finding a good woman that share my values in the U.S. I’ve been single 8 years… No one wants something serious… so sad.
Lmao sadly when she listed all the high value male qualities and Graham was like “that sounds like me” she realized that he’s right but also he doesn’t strike as a high value lmao 😬. So what else should be added - good sense of fashion (suits or whatnot), some muscles and a nice haircut ?
@@Happy-I-Am- I think that the view that pulling girls is how you are considered high or low value is kind of silly. Its not about how many girls you can pull, its about the quality of a life partner you can attract. Anything else is just some ''alpha male'' mindset. High value is derived from mindset, upbringing, quality of relationship with parents, good financials, positive healthy personality traits, and then looks unless your insanely unlucky is the lowest variable. Its clear both of them are 'high value'. They run a financials channel, present and communicate well, are clearly smart and going places. They seem to hold stable relationships or have good well rounded personalities. So what makes this 'lower value?' Females aren't as shallow as men are visual. They are looking below the surface for the values they are after, not skin deep generally (unless they're 18) Wrong measuring stick imo.
@@Hunting4Data to hold stable relationship .. so when Jack dating 2 girls at the same time as he said . Or .. Graham that I feel like is more monogamous . How does that play in high value ? Bcuz “the quality of a partner you can attract” - idk if a girl is ok w you dating others too that she’s high value at all. Could I get your opinion on that ? However what exactly makes Tate in Sadia’s eyes so much more high value than Graham ? 🤔 is it the looks that is not such a little component after all? Yes you can make up for that. But helps tremendously if you got them too.
The problem is she's going to put some inherent bias because she's putting things out there that she sees as high value. Some women have different sliding scales of what they see as qualities that make a man high value don't get me wrong in the general median and average of where women fall they all pretty much value the same things but not all of them
I had a very rough childhood, dead dad, abusive mother, achieved Phds in Physics and Math. My first wife was very sweet, but not too bright. She liked games like backgammon and go, but I couldn't play with her, because I couldn't play against her. I would either put in an effort an destroy her, or not try and let her win. She eventually got tired of me and filed for divorce. At 61 I have a young GF that I pander to. I don't know how to have an equal relationship. I'm OK with an unequal relationship, but I always feel a bit guilty about it.
At 1:08:35, I think guys are just more used to taking a shot and say YES first regardless. The girls rather say NO as a default answer, panic, then decide.
What she said about handsome man was dead on. I am that. I've never had to pursue a woman in my life because of women have always came to me so if a woman doesn't come to me I assume she's not interested. I settled down and had a family with a woman who is attractive but not like the best I could do physically but she's a good mom and takes care of the house and does all the traditional duties. That is more valuable to me than a woman more beautiful who's a typical modern woman.
I wish people would get into long-term relationships accepting the fact that appearances change over time and not base their future feelings on future appearances. There are guys who validate separating from their partners because they gained weight. Unbelievable. Please know that appearances are shallow. Fall in love with the character and values instead.
Sadia seems to have a blind spot where her male friends are concerned @1:06:30. No, you haven't de-sexualized yourself for these men and the friendship doesn't mean more than the attraction. One person has set boundaries and the other has accepted the boundary. Unless both people are not attracted to each other the one person is going to be open to being more than friends unless they have another commitment. it doesn't mean the friendship isn't valuable but I don't think it's true to say most people and men especially wouldn't take the shot at a relationship with someone they know, like and are attracted to because they value the lesser connection more. We all have plenty of friends.
Sadia, CONSTRUCTIVE Criticism from a Public Speaker and Certified Instructor. SPEAK S-L-O-W-E-R. People miss much of your Contant due to your "machinegun" style of speech. On the POSITIVE, Your Content is OUTSTANDING! Keep UP the GREAT Work.
Even Sadia I feel like didnt understand the friend zone part of the conversation. Maybe its just something difficult for women to understand. As a man I understood that they were trying to say that the vast majority of male to female friendships, the guy would immediately sleep with that person, whereas the other way around thats obviously not the case. She said its reciprocal.... HA. Every guy if there honest knows this to be true.
To me it's simple most people aren't honest with who they are and what they want. Men want, and think they deserve all these hot women when they haven't done the work. Women especially if they're hot and given a lot of attention when young don't spend anytime developing their personality or progressing academically. I was told straight up as a kid, twice, that women didn't want to date me because I was handicapped. I carried that resentment and pain for many years, until, on the night I was finally ok with myself, and I mean really ok, I walked into a bar and met my future wife. I've been with her 10 years, and recently I went back to my hometown and started drinking with some people I knew just slightly younger than me, One of the girls was crying because she was like yeah, I've always been a bit chubby, but I ws with the quarterback of our school, but now he dumped me. What am I going to do? I said move, obviously, because there are a lot of shitty people in this town. What I should've said was that she met a fuck boy. She needs to be honest with herself, what she wants and what she can attain.
Well, this was great. I had learned enough. I've been watching podcasts for a couple of weeks now, and it's true. You need real-life experience (even though I wanted the strategic plan, there is no perfect formula). Sometimes you don't have a mentor and want highly educated individuals to help guide you, but I was called a loser LOL!!!!!!!! It's time to go out into the real world. Thanks for this.
No relationship expert is going to be perfect or completely right on what they say and she had some valid points but I think she was wrong about the friend zone. Also when she starts talking about the disadvantage of being a really attractive woman and saying that not only do females turn to hate an attractive woman but men do and with men it tends to be the red pill community can humble her that's a very specific context. It's when a woman is attractive and thinks that her attractive qualities can get her anything she wants or demands a certain High worth partner when she is older and age and has already been through a couple of divorces and even has kids. No one male or female alike for the most part enjoy a highly attractive woman who isn't humble and can't lower her expectations given that situation
I always consult ppl in relationships and I concluded that many ppl, men or women want the now. The women want the man that has it all, and the men want the women that has it going on right now.. I tell them that’s a very very slim pickings. I tell them they have to see the potential.. I tell them to ask two questions, • What sacrifices are you “giving” and what risks are you “taking” to reach your goal, if they have one.. and why haven’t they started if they have one..
I really enjoyed the conversation. Unfortunately I am turned off by the fact Iced Coffee Hour neglected to lust Sadia’s name or contact in their description. The only way I found to contact her is when she thanked you in the comments. Very low level guys!!
I’m on Graham’s side on Jack’s mustache, it just looks weird to me, either like a pedo-stache or a weak cop-stache. Might be weird coming from a guy but I think men need beards if they have facial hair, a mustache alone looks odd in most cases IMO.
She is entitled to her thoughts but the idea that "Eastern" culture has much less influence about materialism and consumer products is really far-fetched. UAE is basically the archetype of a country that truly has embraced capitalism at all levels.
Since when was the UAE the prominent example of eastern values? Not only is the country heavily influenced by western culture, there are also a ton of immigrants, and Dubai itself was founded only in the last 200 years. Besides, if you go to the less touristy areas and the more cultural and religious ones, you'll see a less heavy reliance on material pleasure.
The people that hate Low - High value system is usually in the low value bracket, if you work hard, keep in shape, be respectful and respected, carry yourself well, you are automatically higher value
Not necessarily, sometimes we women just become desperate unfortunately. I meant about the submitting to men we respect. Sometimes, we just get exhausted and give in to reality.
Thank you for having me
Thanks for reminding us what a real woman should be. I am from Germany and most women here forgot what a woman really is. When I do a journey to another land women behave like a female where in Germany they always want to prove that they are better than you in every aspect.
Who hurt you 😂
Thank you so much for this. I really did appreciate hearing you speak. I really needed this where I am in my journey.
@@FrankBendlersadly there’s podcasts out there that try to teach women to do this if they want a man to stay.
Fantastic.
Very much enjoyed. ❤
Sadia was answering questions and dropping gems so fast I re-checked my playing speed. Valuable content. Thank you.
Hahaha me too bro 👥🤣🤣
Too bad people don't see that 20-30% of the things she says are made up and wrong.
She does speak quite quickly. Lol.
I thought it's at 1.5 speed lol
"self help" is an industry because it gets people hooked on consumption rather than the doing of. A big problem people often have is they consume the content but never process it to internalize it. And thus they end up repeating it word for word.
A professor once asked the class if we read the material before hand. We said yeah. He said, no I don't mean that you looked at the ink on the page, but actually thought about every sentence and worked out all the math equations. This ties into many learning techniques which have some form of writing down or speaking out a rewording of something into your own phrasing. That is its to help you internalize the ideas because you have to actively engage with it. It also helps to sort of role play act it out with thought experiments or day dreams. Then actually put it in practice.
The big problem many people take with listening to pod casts is they think simply hearing the words alone will somehow change their lives. They don't actually put in any effort to actualize the concepts behind the words. And thus they keep consuming hoping that the change will happen.
Yea but it's still better than consuming garbage, having a reference to be better is the start
If you find a humble lady in today's society who has an inward beauty that is vibrant. That is a good woman. Focus on inward beauty, and the ouward will become all the more beautiful. These women are rare these days.
No she is not
Women blossom when loved and cherished.
People hate the terms high value and low value because that implies that they actually have to do something to be desirable
I agree. I also think that it’s parroted too much it’s losing its meaning.
Yeah they should start attaching breeding or mating to the term value. Cause all humans have innate value but maybe not for every context. Like I’m a high value brother and son but not so high value as a mate or say musician.
Some are against the definition of high value man because getting drunk surrounded by 304s in a yacht ain't their idea of what high value is. There is a lot of hedonism and emptiness around those terms for both men and women.
@@gabrielegagliardi3956 Definitely think people like F&F’s high value man/woman definitions are missing the mark by a long shot. Hedonism is something different.
to compare people by “value” is an extremely shallow way of viewing the world, and at the end of the day, the most “valuable” person sees the same ending as the least.
One major aspect that people miss out on is when you take away all forms of media, specifically in the dating sense, you will realize most people's real value. The pretty girl who thinks she has all options but in real life maybe only 5 guys approach her in person a month, that is her real value. There is a bad side to being really good looking, that people's perception of you, good or bad. Dating has way more to do with you as a person, not just how you promote yourself. Unfortunately, people are addicted to the perceived value than the actual truth. Most people will do tricks to increase their value, like no contact or acting as if they don't like the other person, but the truth is it only hurts that person. Authenticity pierces all. The more authentic you are, the faster the other persons personality will be revealed to you.
I mean it’s also easier to meet on insta because it doesn’t mean as much. In person I would never go up to a really handsome guy because I would assume he’s either taken or is an f boy.. 😅
That's sadly not true. Pretty girls on insta are usually popular girls in school/ college. They know they are attractive hence the confidence. I honestly don't believe hot bikini girl on insta has any trouble finding men in real life. Pretty privilege is real
@@Ak1996feb nah man, i know plenty of pretty women who never get approached. The camera tells lies. And most popular women in school are not on social media posting themselves, they have no need to.
Women get approached 5 times a month?
I'm 42 and never once been approached 😂
24:40 🔥 is a really sharp point about women not being high-value if they get with a guy with no self-control
Would Jack be interested in going on a date with a friend of mine? She's 25, lives in seattle, emotionally and financially intelligent, listens to this podcast, and thinks Jack is such a catch!!
Sliding in the RUclips comments for your friend is crazy 💀
can she fit in a regular size row boat?
Has she seen his haircut?
@@garydrago right. She must be such a catch /s
You didn’t mention if she’s hot, big red flag. Looks is most important above all else.
Pro-tip: Don't be a high-value man/woman, be a man or woman of values.
Be both.
A high value man/woman can justify a bad behavior because they are high value. Someone with values will most likely not. Yes it’s better to be both but it’s better to be someone with values than to be a high value
Yes...having high values.
@@funkspinna😂
When you are a person of values you should be considered high value.
But because value is subjective the majority of people just have a herd mentality especially in western civilization we just gravitate to whatever is popular in dating culture and that becomes what the majority of people value in that time
“Soulmates” (at 43 minutes) just reinforces that men are never truly loved unconditionally. It’s sad. The only thing that will love a man unconditionally is his mom and his dog.
Oof
Some men aren't even loved unconditionally by their moms either. Dogs is men's best friend for a reason
@@raymondrivera2670 yeah cause they're still human. human are so selfish.
i think breakups hurt men more because they are often blindsided by the woman. Most break ups are initiated by the woman. When she pulls the cord she already has a backup in place. She has affectively already gone through the breakup grieving process before even ending the relationship. Where the man has to process what happened after the fact. When fully blind sided it can also feel like a betrayal and so i think that hits even deeper.
That's why they usually have another relationship going shortly after the break-up.
But I think women also sell men a Disney dream, all that stuff with soulmates and eternal love isn't a story for women but for men. In reality they fall in love with what they need to survive, and as quickly as that they can fall out of love. Especially when they're given attention from someone they think they can monkey branch to.
I have broken up multiple times with guys only to have my peace back. Stop making stuff up about women!
@@Princess15732 You're the one making stuff up, while we can clearly observe these things happening.
@@Princess15732 We aren't, you are. We can clearly see what's happening. And I mean, a certain gender nowadays claims to be stronger and have more muscles than men, how can we even expect you to not have a deluded perspective on your own relationships?
@@nightmareTomek that's not even related to what I said ....chatting with guys like you is useless.
Also she mentions so many times women want a man that can spot their lies. But im shocked grahm never asked her why would anyone want a woman who lies? I don't. And contrary to popular belief not all women lie.
Never heard of white lies?
@rodplays2936 there's this and then there's really the distinction let's say a woman tells you that she was somewhere that she really wasn't but she actually didn't do anything but she didn't want to raise suspicion cuz maybe she was with a guy that she has no interest in but then maybe want to make you jealous in any way and conceal it.
Is that a little white lie or is that a big lie?
All people lie.
Not lie - perhaps ‘test’ is a better term.
I think she more so meant be able to spot a woman’s capabilities of deceiving and manipulating. Not that all women do this but all people have the capability to lie and trick.
Sadia is so lovely! She is quite enchanting. Very beautiful, intelligent and likeable while being firm in what she believes. Hard to pull all of that off. I love all of her content and I also love this podcast.
High/low value men and women is another term for men or women with or without self esteem. That is all it comes down to. I agree with Sadia that when you have high self esteem you take care of yourself, eat healthy, want to grow as a person, value maturity, and will not take crap from people or lower yourself in sleeping around without connection or dress provocatively. I’m not religious at all but this is how I lived my life. People may call me conservative bc I dress modestly but overall I’m a new age thinker, and I’m feminine but good at making money. Almost every guy I dated has wanted marriage but I haven’t married them bc I want a guy who is very confident and emotionally fit. Very hard to find these days.
Divorce rates are going down because marriage rates are plummeting. There aren't enough marriages to support the divorce rate.
A rate is a ratio. It’s has nothing to do with volume. It’s a relative measure.
@@_andrewpeters not necessarily. With more context, one could see the correlation.
As we could safely assume as the marriage rates fall, those who are getting married are likely more sure about their parter as there is less societal pressure for folks to get married. And highly religious couples, who are still marrying and less likely to divorce.
So although there are less marriages overall, the ones that are happening are "stronger" as those not cut out for marriage are staying unmarried since there is less stigma surrounding it in current western society.
Economic reasons, rates of having children are also going down.
@@PORTERHAUS_ So do you mean that because they're so few people getting married those kinds of people who are getting married are less likely to divorce?
Truth
I feel like this was shockingly underrated advice that a lot of people really need to hear.
You have to take it in bits and pieces not all of it was really solid and grounded in truth some of it was grounded in her own truth and perceptions
The guests you have on are such bangers! Your guests are the same people I'm bingeing. Keep them coming!!
Favorite coffee hour interview. Very genuine and informative.
It seems, in Sadia's deeply cynical view, that the majority of men really only care about high quality sex and physical attractiveness. It quietly suggests that when a woman gets cancer, or suffers from depression, or gains weight that men's love for their spouse or significant other decreases accordingly. Also in keeping with her cultural heritage (of which I am familiar having roots there myself), she very much tends to want to corral men and women into specific boxes of characteristics - men should handle business matters and women should naturally gravitate towards children, looking good, and the home. The reason she has this perspective is because these are the men and women she's surrounded herself with either by family proximity, social standing, or career choice. Sadia's cultural history and clientele have deeply biased her perspective. Keep that in mind as you listen to this.
And to add something else. From just the 18 minutes of me watching her, it's funny you say that because the advice is sound, but she is saying it to the wrong crowd. Remember, in the beginning, she said that most of the clients she dealt with is rich people, not the average Joe. So the stuff she is towards rich people, but because she is saying this to the average population, it doesn't make sense to them.
She’s righr
@@garygreen3638 Yes she's biased, just like every other human. Yes she caters to a specific niche of ppl, she even stated that at the beginning of her video.
Though her advice is not only for the ultra rich but also for ppl from the upper middle class or middle class guys striving for more.
Her advice might not be too useful for your average Joe who's working at a construction site or delivering pizza. That's true.
You have to judge wether her views and advices are valid for your own situation or not.
Unfortunately the decline in attraction is true in MOST cases.
Many men are not equipped to fully take on a role as a caregiver.
I have known of cheating husbands who had their wives in hospitals being treated for cancer; maybe their affair is escapism from the harsh reality of losing their mate?
And when both partners said I DO, he did not imagine AT THAT TIME that she would gain weight.
People are only human and sometimes they grow apart versus together.
I def could tell that the other guy has been struggling in the dating world - from the questions asked .. And the other guy really asked questions from a curious and open mindset - good luck to both of them
Friendzone every woman you meet then you don't have to worry about the outcome. You let them chase you.
A man is designed by nature to chase a woman
@@irene4633 The average man yes, but not the best of men. Gorillas don't chase but monkeys have to.
A woman who chases a man is going against her biology. We carry the greatest risk in relationships as we have the ability to bear children, and men are more biologically driven to chase.
Never worry about pursuing the right woman. If you're working hard on yourself, and she's smart - she'll choose you back
Or you get a chance to find out the real version of them.
A Real woman would not chase cos chasing is a masquline trait not feminine.The ones that chase will only be the broken women which you deserve.
Honestly my body count is only two and wish it was less. Protect your energy.
Mine is one and that was a terrible person for me. Wish I could take it back.
I think divorce rates are going down because situationships are becoming more common. That those who are most likely to divorce are now, more than ever, less likely to get married.
I love SADIA! So surprise to see her on your podcast. I started dating again and taking her advice, and I am in such an amazing relationship right now. Its all new, but I think it will work out if I continue to follow her advice
She does have some great advice. Just don’t follow anyone’s words completely. In the end they are essentially her opinion. I’m glad it is helping tho
I'm only 55min in and so far she's been knocking it out of the park!
@@P.90.603 This is far from the only issue. She's wrong 30% of the time and just says nice sounding opinions..
And I was always annoyed when people called porn harmful, including her, JPeterson or these sperm retainer channels. But just 2 days ago I heard a doctor talk about a study that porn increases the strength of one's immune system. T-cells seem to stick to pathogens for a longer time after the consumption of porn. Isn't that interesting. We aren't living in a world of education, we are living in a world of lies.
@@P.90.603 This is far from the only issue. She's wrong 30% of the time and just says nice sounding opinions..
And I was always annoyed when people called pn harmful, including her, JPeterson or these.. erm... retaining channels. But just 2 days ago I heard a doctor talk about a study that pn increases the strength of one's immune system. T cells seem to stick to pathogens for a longer time after the consumption of pn. Isn't that interesting. We aren't living in a world of education or enlightment, we are living in a world of lies.
@@P.90.603 This is far from the only issue. She's wrong 30% of the time and just says nice sounding opinions..
@@P.90.603 Btw I was always annoyed prn haters. But just 2 days ago I heard a doctor talk about a study that pn increases the strength of the immune system. T cells seem to stick to pathogens for a longer time because of it. Isn't that interesting. I don't think people want you to know this.
@@P.90.603 goddammit this fking platform
Really enjoyed this discussion. You guys asked some fantastic questions. Well done.
You need to be a fast listener for this one!
If these concepts are new to you, then yes.
@Guitar806 what a useless reply
I watch that in 1.5 speed, but really, Sadia is wrong 30% of the time and I can't keep watching that bs.
@@nightmareTomekWhat is she wrong about
@@azaanhussain1724 a lot, I mean, should I start at the beginning? Dunno if this platform will allow me to make a normal comment without censoring every little..
3:35 her answer is false. You can never replace the mother of your children. If you cant find her attractive after she has raise a family for you, you failed to biuld a meaningful relationship
It's unbelievable how shallow and immature we have become.
Honestly that belief is really skewed now more than ever because we have social media and people with video cameras which are now prolific and inexpensive now more than ever and we're just coming now to realize how shallow and fruitless a lot of people's lives are when he probably isn't that far off from what it was before the internet
Great content. 0.75x playback speed helps with this one.
This interview is very informative. Great job. Thanks to all of you!🇩🇲
I’m a therapist and I teach my clients that all people have intrinsic high value, high worth, and are important.
So you get paid to lie 😂
In some sense all you're really doing is just putting out there the participation trophy lie and that people are snowflakes
Part of this is really depressing period for those who didn't grow up in families that were well-rounded and put together with morals, it's almost as if you have to relearn everything and if you don't catch on more quickly it comes into adulthood and you're still struggling period personally the best thing that I've noticed for myself is that if I can just be as open and honest in a peaceful and respectful way that will tell me Across-the-board if the woman is right for me Part of that includes kind of what Saudi was talking about which is being open and honest calling out the BS of your woman doing something that's just not okay that's why I think that open and honest communication is extremely helpful besides I've also noticed that any advice my dad who is a womanizer LOL it's just simply wrong I hope that some of this may help some of you let me know what you think I would love The feedback
Thanks Graham having the mic in the prefect position, you sounded great and look very professional. you don't have to hide behind the mic . Great show.
As a guy who has no female friends, i think theres only three situations that allow a male/female platonic friendship to exist between individuals not connected by family (eg a guy being friends with his sister in law doesnt count since your friendship is basically a condition of her relationship with your brother).
1. She is married or taken but they both share a serious hobby or intellectual interest (for example both are doctors who research the same thing).
2. He doesnt find her sexually attractive but enjoys her company/conversation (usually because they share a hobby or intellectual interest that they can bond over)
3. They are both minors who know each other through school so by that association alone they call themselves friends.
Some of what she said is correct, but definitely not all.
Really interesting points but I would say I definitely have been listening to a lot of extra episodes lately I noticed. This is super insightful.
I love this woman! Love to hear from her and learn from her.
Guys you asked all the right questions for Sadia and not the usual questions all the time. An eye opener.
What an amazing interview! She literally changed my life.
Great video guys, learned a lot.
I think the way Justin and Myron operate with the ladies was mis represented by her, it’s a lot more nuanced and then understand the male female dynamic very well.
Ex: they won’t simply spoil any beautiful girl with their money, they see if she’s worth it by watching her demeanour, the way she carries her self, by watching out for some who traits etc…
1:39:49 yup she doesn’t know much about them especially Justin, so it’s very bad to make such wild comments on someone you don’t know much about especially by knowing them only through clips
Ah this flow interruption is a great comment! I had this situation recently, where I went clubbing with my friends and we were dancing hard (that's what we came for). And a random guy who arrived with a friend of a friend started talking to me etc. And I"m like bruh... please don't interrupt me, I am here to dance. And then he kept looking for me and pestering me the whole night, even though, it was pretty clear that I do not want to talk. DO NOT INTERRUPT HER FLOW.
“My male friends cannot sexualize me anymore” 🤔 righhttt… lol
Funny how she's a professional, with male clients, & still can't grasp many things from a male pov. Makes you think women won't ever understand certain differences
@@martianmandelamy thoughts exactly lol
@@martianmandelaenlighten us then!
Yea I struggled to watch this one. Her takes on most things were off or dishonest in the service of public receptivity.
What she is saying is that she doesn’t allow it and that’s why they cant sexulize her. She is saying this from a women’s brain of course but she means her actions and boundaries dictate sex (no sex) even though she knows the men would if they could. Make sense?
Theres no excuse for cheating on a partner. And the person who was cheated on may contributed to it but if the cheating partner doesn't communicate what led to their fidelity then the person who was cheated on is not at fault.
I could listen to Sadia all day, thank you so much!
00:30 She's 1,000% correct about corrupt people in this world today. From my own life experience, I've seen the most corrupt people(men & women) be greatly rewarded in society. I first noticed this when I was a teenager. It hasn't changed, but has even more pronounced over these last 20 years since my teen years. It quite honestly disguses me.
There's nothing new Under the Sun there's always been times in history where the corrupt and immoral have flourished and succeeded with great worldly gain in the eyes of the righteous and upright.
Sadia did a great job as usual, thank you guys for having her and thank you for this episode
I only started consuming your content after watching the aquarium content and then stayed for the rest. Rare Clownfish are my only financial goal.
Amen!
This is the first time I’ve ever had to slow a video down to .75 speed because the person speaks so much and so quick 😂😂
Wow I was at times 2x the speed 😅🤣
This is one of the best episodes. Impressive guest 👏
She’s so pretty 😩
Thankyou Sadia. Interesting Greetings from Panama
I 100% agree with her! That’s why I have a hard time finding a good woman that share my values in the U.S. I’ve been single 8 years… No one wants something serious… so sad.
Love this lady we all need to listen to her she is amazing.
You guys are really good interviewers
Guest: Thank-you for these type of questions they have been quite refreshing....,,
Jack: haha we're only just getting started lady
Great podcast! You guys should have Dr. Pryce on
Trust is everything
Lmao sadly when she listed all the high value male qualities and Graham was like “that sounds like me” she realized that he’s right but also he doesn’t strike as a high value lmao 😬. So what else should be added - good sense of fashion (suits or whatnot), some muscles and a nice haircut ?
Why isn’t he? Because hes not buff and 6foot?
@@Hunting4Data idk which one you think would pull more girls : Graham or Jack ?
@@Happy-I-Am- I think that the view that pulling girls is how you are considered high or low value is kind of silly. Its not about how many girls you can pull, its about the quality of a life partner you can attract.
Anything else is just some ''alpha male'' mindset.
High value is derived from mindset, upbringing, quality of relationship with parents, good financials, positive healthy personality traits, and then looks unless your insanely unlucky is the lowest variable. Its clear both of them are 'high value'. They run a financials channel, present and communicate well, are clearly smart and going places. They seem to hold stable relationships or have good well rounded personalities. So what makes this 'lower value?'
Females aren't as shallow as men are visual. They are looking below the surface for the values they are after, not skin deep generally (unless they're 18)
Wrong measuring stick imo.
@@Hunting4Data to hold stable relationship .. so when Jack dating 2 girls at the same time as he said . Or .. Graham that I feel like is more monogamous . How does that play in high value ? Bcuz “the quality of a partner you can attract” - idk if a girl is ok w you dating others too that she’s high value at all. Could I get your opinion on that ? However what exactly makes Tate in Sadia’s eyes so much more high value than Graham ? 🤔 is it the looks that is not such a little component after all? Yes you can make up for that. But helps tremendously if you got them too.
The problem is she's going to put some inherent bias because she's putting things out there that she sees as high value.
Some women have different sliding scales of what they see as qualities that make a man high value don't get me wrong in the general median and average of where women fall they all pretty much value the same things but not all of them
Good stuff!
Love the pod, and thank you for decreasing adds!
Mark Tilbury would be a great future guest, just saying 😉
Congratulations man!!!! That's awesome to hear! I hope you enjoyed every minute of it.
Absolutely! Went by way faster than I expected!
I LOVE Sadia's advice thank you sooo much
Jack is such a good host
I had a very rough childhood, dead dad, abusive mother, achieved Phds in Physics and Math. My first wife was very sweet, but not too bright. She liked games like backgammon and go, but I couldn't play with her, because I couldn't play against her. I would either put in an effort an destroy her, or not try and let her win. She eventually got tired of me and filed for divorce. At 61 I have a young GF that I pander to. I don't know how to have an equal relationship. I'm OK with an unequal relationship, but I always feel a bit guilty about it.
At 1:08:35, I think guys are just more used to taking a shot and say YES first regardless. The girls rather say NO as a default answer, panic, then decide.
Nice Throne Babe ❤
What she said about handsome man was dead on. I am that. I've never had to pursue a woman in my life because of women have always came to me so if a woman doesn't come to me I assume she's not interested. I settled down and had a family with a woman who is attractive but not like the best I could do physically but she's a good mom and takes care of the house and does all the traditional duties. That is more valuable to me than a woman more beautiful who's a typical modern woman.
I wish people would get into long-term relationships accepting the fact that appearances change over time and not base their future feelings on future appearances. There are guys who validate separating from their partners because they gained weight. Unbelievable. Please know that appearances are shallow. Fall in love with the character and values instead.
Very great conversation guys!! Thanks
Well you deserve it man!!! Hope you have good days coming and staying.
Wow, can’t believe I watched so far!
Sadia seems to have a blind spot where her male friends are concerned @1:06:30. No, you haven't de-sexualized yourself for these men and the friendship doesn't mean more than the attraction. One person has set boundaries and the other has accepted the boundary. Unless both people are not attracted to each other the one person is going to be open to being more than friends unless they have another commitment.
it doesn't mean the friendship isn't valuable but I don't think it's true to say most people and men especially wouldn't take the shot at a relationship with someone they know, like and are attracted to because they value the lesser connection more. We all have plenty of friends.
Working on my success
Im gaining grounds with my adult kids now life has a way of taking time away we get busy with it my son makes 6 figures today so proud of him
Great advice by Sadia
Sadia, CONSTRUCTIVE Criticism from a Public Speaker and Certified Instructor. SPEAK S-L-O-W-E-R. People miss much of your Contant due to your "machinegun" style of speech. On the POSITIVE, Your Content is OUTSTANDING! Keep UP the GREAT Work.
"As you get richer your criteria in a woman gets more shallow."
The truth. That's why rich men have high divorce rates.
Opportunist are everywhere opportunities come but few in a life time
Even Sadia I feel like didnt understand the friend zone part of the conversation. Maybe its just something difficult for women to understand. As a man I understood that they were trying to say that the vast majority of male to female friendships, the guy would immediately sleep with that person, whereas the other way around thats obviously not the case. She said its reciprocal.... HA. Every guy if there honest knows this to be true.
Best pod yet mate 👍🏾👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾. I listen every min of it. First seeing and hearing of her. She goat ✊🏿✊🏿🫡🫡
To me it's simple most people aren't honest with who they are and what they want. Men want, and think they deserve all these hot women when they haven't done the work. Women especially if they're hot and given a lot of attention when young don't spend anytime developing their personality or progressing academically. I was told straight up as a kid, twice, that women didn't want to date me because I was handicapped. I carried that resentment and pain for many years, until, on the night I was finally ok with myself, and I mean really ok, I walked into a bar and met my future wife. I've been with her 10 years, and recently I went back to my hometown and started drinking with some people I knew just slightly younger than me, One of the girls was crying because she was like yeah, I've always been a bit chubby, but I ws with the quarterback of our school, but now he dumped me. What am I going to do? I said move, obviously, because there are a lot of shitty people in this town. What I should've said was that she met a fuck boy. She needs to be honest with herself, what she wants and what she can attain.
Well, this was great. I had learned enough. I've been watching podcasts for a couple of weeks now, and it's true. You need real-life experience (even though I wanted the strategic plan, there is no perfect formula). Sometimes you don't have a mentor and want highly educated individuals to help guide you, but I was called a loser LOL!!!!!!!! It's time to go out into the real world. Thanks for this.
No relationship expert is going to be perfect or completely right on what they say and she had some valid points but I think she was wrong about the friend zone.
Also when she starts talking about the disadvantage of being a really attractive woman and saying that not only do females turn to hate an attractive woman but men do and with men it tends to be the red pill community can humble her that's a very specific context. It's when a woman is attractive and thinks that her attractive qualities can get her anything she wants or demands a certain High worth partner when she is older and age and has already been through a couple of divorces and even has kids. No one male or female alike for the most part enjoy a highly attractive woman who isn't humble and can't lower her expectations given that situation
asian traditional values = looks and money.
Ain't you heard about the new fashion honey all you need is a whole lot of looks and money
I always consult ppl in relationships and I concluded that many ppl, men or women want the now. The women want the man that has it all, and the men want the women that has it going on right now..
I tell them that’s a very very slim pickings. I tell them they have to see the potential..
I tell them to ask two questions,
• What sacrifices are you “giving” and what risks are you “taking” to reach your goal, if they have one.. and why haven’t they started if they have one..
Sadia, keep asking them questions. See what they come up with. 😊
I really enjoyed the conversation. Unfortunately I am turned off by the fact Iced Coffee Hour neglected to lust Sadia’s name or contact in their description. The only way I found to contact her is when she thanked you in the comments. Very low level guys!!
I’m on Graham’s side on Jack’s mustache, it just looks weird to me, either like a pedo-stache or a weak cop-stache. Might be weird coming from a guy but I think men need beards if they have facial hair, a mustache alone looks odd in most cases IMO.
Amazing episode guys!
27:24 well, that’s definitely not the case in Dubai. It’s all about expensive cars, expensive number plates and expensive prostitutes.
Based on this conversation, society and relationships are doomed. How shallow.
They're trying to insinuate that I'm a try hard. But you already knew that.
I’m 5 minutes in and I’m already thinking this woman knows what’s up. No doubt
DO NOT CUT HER OFF
I got a biological daughter but she adopted at least they still let me talk with her thats a blessing
She is entitled to her thoughts but the idea that "Eastern" culture has much less influence about materialism and consumer products is really far-fetched. UAE is basically the archetype of a country that truly has embraced capitalism at all levels.
A large reason for that is so many people from the western world migrating there
@zuhayralam2146 And who set those policies to encourage that?
Since when was the UAE the prominent example of eastern values? Not only is the country heavily influenced by western culture, there are also a ton of immigrants, and Dubai itself was founded only in the last 200 years. Besides, if you go to the less touristy areas and the more cultural and religious ones, you'll see a less heavy reliance on material pleasure.
She speaks fr herself poit of view.... 80% females way different
The people that hate Low - High value system is usually in the low value bracket, if you work hard, keep in shape, be respectful and respected, carry yourself well, you are automatically higher value
Not necessarily, sometimes we women just become desperate unfortunately.
I meant about the submitting to men we respect. Sometimes, we just get exhausted and give in to reality.
A great deal of monitoring than socializing with me