i don't agree with your view on porn....i don't think porn is neutral...i think it does have negative effects....but to say porn contributes to rape culture is as ridiculous as saying video games contribute to violence...i've had multiple talks with my own therapist about your recent interviews [edit] also wondering....do you think it's even possible to have an objective perspective on porn? if you don't consume it, you really don't know what's going on in porn....but if you do consume it, it may affect you.
Hi Sadia. Looking at the reality of arranged marriages, Pakistani too, it doesn't seem to be something better. 38 to 49 percent of marriages between Pakistanis is between 1st cousins, which is the cause of children being born with very serious mental and physical problems, for example. The divorce rate in 2019 in Pakistan was at an all time high. Over 90 percent of women in Pakistan have experienced domestic violence in their lifetime.
I really like the idea of taking full responsibility during a breakup. I also like the idea of not calling everyone who hurt you a narcissist. I also like that she asks Mark questions.
But there really are Narcissists--- some say ten percent of the population. And they do a tremendous amount of harm, often as parents (who are not chosen by victims).
Sadia explains perfectly: when a woman finds the right person, a responsible, trustworthy man, when she feels the safety and security, she will be soothing and calm, there will be much less anxiety and much less negativity.
This lady is smart and intuitive. I love the fact that she is not afraid to tell the truth and NOT sugarcoat the issue. Sometimes you just have to tell it like it is!
@@daniellamoreno3616she is no oh saving nothing. The reason why she have data is because many many many people have conflict in relationship. Conflict is the rule in human relationship.
Hmm. Interesting. I thought it was called interrupting the shit out of people because you think what you're saying is more important than what they're saying, or manners in general, even if it's the answer to a question they asked....
lf u put her looks aside and the fact shes foreign yall would get shes boring and says what men already know that women use them for money lol duh and legal marriage benefits broke women l been knew ths
Sadia’s interaction is absolutely so appreciated. One of that sessions I relook at all the time. She is so knowledgeable, sincere and to the point. Love her honesty. A beautiful intelligent women. Tx for introducing her to us Mark
It's sad that you don't see the professional side where she as a psychologist is observing and trying to prove maybe some theory and Mark participates very aware of this
Truth! Everyone shows you “who” they really are. It all boils down to, do you want to see it and accept or see it and ignore it, or see it and move on. Every individual is responsible for what they tolerate!
I want to hear more from her. Great point of views offered, and as a bonus get to hear some personal insight into Mark himself. She is a great listener, and her multicultural upbringing has given her a unique advantage. Thank you for bringing us these talks Soft White Underbelly.
and zero social skills .... My first meeting with my niece's psych friend was a disappointing one where she promptly blurted out something tactless like 'Oh YOU'RE Olivia! I've heard a lot about you' ... to which I promptly showed my disdain with silence and a tired smile@@baublesanddolls
@@yourfriendmelanie shes hot but boring on both lnterviews as good as she looks for her age l had lt on ln the background not really watchn more focused on computer while lT was on tv
She told no lies. And that’s why now I leave from the beginning. Met someone recently and I could tell she’s not a nice person based on how she is brutally honest and says anything with little to no regard for ppl feelings and when corrected she sees it as an attack. I told her have a blessed life, we don’t align and her response confirmed that I made the best decision for me. This video was a confirmation for me. Thanks
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So you want a woman to lie to you ? Do you have her number handy ?
Your response says it’s all 🤦🏽♂️. People can be honest with class and tack not brutally honest. Or just speak without thinking. I also listed other things that confirmed it for me. But you only read what you wanted. You don’t even know what the response was so how did you even draw that conclusion? Have a nice day sweetie 🙄
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@@NattyByNature- didnt realize you were a girl until now so now i understand the ' feelings ' part . But it doesnt change what i said ,i rather the truth over a lie because thats the way i am ,brutally honest . Be more concerned with the truth then getting your feelings hurt because on the day the truth comes out it will hurt way more child . It is what i would tell my daughter ...whose middle name was monique too . I am a Campbell as well .
@@jjonez787 🤣😆…if you only heard my voice to go along with it in real life too - you’d prob wanna punch me or you’d love it . But seriously, do you not think she is articulate? Especially after being subjected to an abundance of Rebecca’s rambling, nonsensical pontifications and diatribes. I mean this is damn near Rhodes Scholar material compared to that shit lol ! 🤷🏻♀️
This woman’s observations and advice are absolutely amazing! This is one if the best conversations/ interviews you have done so far. Thank you so very much!👏👏👏👏👏👏
@@Smethells2023so she studied psychology but is not a registered psychologist. I mean anybody can study psychology, the hardest part is trying to become a board certified one. Seems there are so many of these types on social media now 😂😂
That was a great talk Mark, nice to see you doing more interviews with deep thinkers, I have been watching you for so many years, I dont know how you have done so many hard depressing street living ones, so I enjoy theses quality people!
I know what you mean. I like getting different perspectives. I'm also a bit sexist bc I'd rather get insight about relationships from women than men. One interview with a man who was a psychologist or something started out with his explanation of what women want, and I stopped listening right after I heard his take on that. I also wish Mark would do interviews with high functioning people. So we get to hear what their realities are. I bet we'd be surprised.
@@christinacampbell5952 I'm curious if you're referring to his episode with Orion Taraban that was posted 2 weeks ago because that guy was on the Whatever podcast and I think he has some bad takes so I don't subscribe to his philosophy. I know you said you prefer to listen to women but I was jw if you've ever listened to a male youtuber who was given the moniker "hoe_math"? He discusses dating & relationship dynamics of men & women and I'm wondering how you'd score his accuracy and emotional intelligence.
i have been researching relationships for 2 years and this is one of the best interviews i have heard. this is what no one wants to hear today. i love her. he's great too
Holy smokes this interview and her analysis parallels my personal experiences, almost word for word in the way I would've described it. I feel much better about myself and the decisions I've made and why I've made them. I feel validated. I'll definitely rewatch this, and I've already subscribed to her channel. I wish she were my therapist!
You can never get enough of talking relationships in that they are so vital to our lives whether they're good and serve us well or are in the process of demolishing our life. Granted there will be a next episode with Sadia I would call for a discussion about human development of children under the care of a couple, both in the case of a positive outcome or very unfavourable one. All the best to all of those who are struggling in whatever way that has been taken place.
I loved this interview! She speaks so well about interesting things and Im looking forward to seeing the things that she has on her channel . Very thought provoking. I was crying when she said that being in a relationship can calm a nervous system.
You’ve gone from strength to strength to bring quality interviews which translate into such specific insights. These have really been helpful in helping me develop as a person. Can’t thank you enough.
I love your conversations with this beautiful woman and I appreciate the insight. I’ve learned so much and grown from this channel. Building up the courage to submit a tape. Keep up the good work
Sadia is such a well spoken intelligent woman and u can see she has that glimmer of childlike girly shyness in her eyes. It's actually very endearing. What a beautiful interview between Sadia and Mark.
That is so true. I am overweight and long for a relationship, but realized I have been running from the truth. I have low self esteem due to my weight and am self conscious of it. Rightfully so, I suppose. Now on a weight loss journey to correct my wrongs. Lost 17 pounds. I was 320 at my heaviest, but am 300.4 now. You'd think that may not be much, and it is not really. However, I didn't realize guys really viewed me, and that is because they did not. Who would? That fact made me feel the heaviest rejection from society. It is verrryyy hard to accept that while looking in the mirror. Once I did, I felt accepting of where I am at now, but ambitious of where I could be. It truly shows because I did not get defensive at all. I just accepted it and putting in the work to change :). Just love this channel.
Your weight should only be a problem because of your health. I understand you would like a relationship, but there definitely is someone for everyone. Don't forget, men are not the saviors of this world! Much succes with your weight loss❤
Good for you! And that IS a lot of weight lost. One pound at a time, just keep it going. 🙌🏼 This is why the body positive movement has gotten very dangerous. It convinces women (men don’t fall for it) that they’re perfectly healthy and attractive, and that if men don’t find us attractive they’re just terrible. The reality is just what it is and deluding ourselves doesn’t change it. When you feel good from making your body healthier, it shows via confidence and happiness, which is appealing.
Love that she got out a bit of background on you Mark! As a married woman of 8years the advice on emotional connection and physical is bang on. Im learning alot here about what my husbands needs even if he can't express it. If only they educated us on this subject properly at school! It's fascinating and enlightening ❤
Thank you for an enlightening talk, Sadia K. :) Honestly, as an old SWU sub I've thoroughly enjoyed both your and Orion's takes on the social dicotomy situation and transactional emotional & physical exchanges that continouously run through all of our daily social- and especially romantic- relationships. These have been true eye('third eye' especially perhaps) opening experiences for me, and I hope you'll both be back many more times in the future :) with love and respect from Sweden,
Ronald Fairbairn explained this really well; he described the "exiting yet frustrating" object. This is well explained in a paper titled "The Allure of the Bad Object", that can be found online. Its the best single paper on this subject. "There had been indications that the other was incapable of reciprocating, or loving, or accepting them in the way they desire. They had been pursuing an alluring but rejecting object; an exciting yet frustrating object. The object initially may have offered the conditions of hope but it failed to satisfy. It had awakened an intensity of yearning but it is essentially the elusive object of desire, seemingly there but just out of reach."
Great video! I love these types of interviews, and love that you mentioned doing more of them. Digging in to relationships at every level is such a critical component of our every day lives and interactions. Would appreciate more interviews with Sadia and others with a unique perspective and/or advice on relationships as a whole.
Sadia - I have learned so much from your insights and appreciate your brutal honesty. You're the real deal - beautiful, super intelligent and yet extremely down to earth and willing to listen. Thank you for what you've shared in both interviews on this channel.
Thank you so much for having Sadia back on. This Woman is a treasure, she's one of very few people on this world, that I agree 💯 with. She is spot on each and every time.
One of my favorite things about Sadia is that she ALWAYS engages the interviewer and asks their opinion on whatever is being discussed-or just totally flips the script and asks them a more personal (but appropriate) question. She comes across as very genuine in doing so, too. Always enjoy listening to her perspective.
Sadia and Mark, I adore you two to pieces. 1000x thank you!!! This interview has been outstanding and has helped me think about how I am treating my spouse and what I can do better. Lots of great advices. I have shared this video with my peers, family, friends, and my significant other. Also, I did not know men live longer if they are married. That is really good to know. Mark, you are extremely appreciated for all the work you have done and shared with us. You have given us so much. Please do not forget to give back to yourself. You deserve nothing but success, love, respect and happiness. Sadia, please keep sharing these advices. They are extremely valued and appreciated by folks like me.
I am confused by Sadia’s and Mark’s support for Andrew Tate. Tate’s actions and words do not align. Most of what Tate does is a scam. I would like them to elaborate on that. Did anyone else think that was weird?
I've listened to Tate some and he does say somethings I disagree with but he does present an intelligent perspective that you will not get from many sources these days. It's hard to find masculine perspective in popular media today. Remember the media will only focus on the negative angle of a person, but he says some e uplifting things for men that are needed. Most of the people that dislike him don't really even listen to him. That is how society is, to me it's just weird how people want to erase people they disagree with. I've heard more positive things from him than bad, he has said some bad advice but I use MY mind to make judgement on whether I agree or disagree. I don't listen to him much, but he is popular for a REAL reason. Someone tried to tell me he was a bad person once, and she showed me a video someone made about how bad he was. I thought that was weird. In the video he basically was talking about a form of virtual pimping with only fans and how to do it, which is Immoral and I can see why he would be called a misogynist. But that video was old. But from the videos that Ive seen... It's none of that. I simply wouldn't be watching that, because that's not what I'm into. Most of the videos I've seen are about male empowerment and life lessons and people don't like that. Dude has gotten a lot of media hate coverage which is strange to me.
For a woman pregnancy is the number one factor for weight gain in my opinion,which can be healthy and beautiful. Other than that maybe an accident for men or woman could be an issue out of your hands. Bit for the large majority its laziness.
@@roxannedunlop1044 that makes sense and I agree,I think that still applies with what I'm saying. That if all individuals take accountability for their life, that can bring them closer to solutions in their lives over not taking accountability.
@@threadgrassone, There is another Woman of the same name who is named Sadia Khan who is an actress. I mistook her for the psychologist Sadia Khan. Please disregard what I said. I will be deleting my comments.
Important for men to hear the perspective of women. Relationships are so complex and the way to break that down is knowledge (of the opposite sex). Another great interview Mark!
This girl is by far the most entertaining and informative guest he's had on. I'm glad hes bringing her back. I'm gonna keep an eye out for more of her work.
Love Sadia, a fellow Londoner ❤ I can relate and really accept what she says in all her interviews! Relationships and people are so interesting keep her coming back Mark 😊
BAM!! She speaks TRUTH to Mark on porn and OF and sex industry!! He is adamantly protective of sex work, so it was GREAT that she spoke on TRUTH of it. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
This interview was very informative and agreeable. I love her transparency, intelligence, and beauty. Hey family did a great job setting a foundation for her to blossom 🌸💯
Excellent interview, Mark; monumentally insightful. Any chance for a boom mic in the future? Those clipped mics always pick up sound from the clothing of your guests.
For some reason, her saying that women are inherently manipulative and that they are more likely to cheat than men in her last interview rlly rubbed me the wrong way 😩
She’s brainwashed by patriarchy … she stated she respects Andrew Tate and what he’s done for masculinity, so it’s no surprise her views are misogynistic with her view that women are more manipulative.
Rewarding the entitlement…. Damn. I immediately cried at that. I have never asked for anything and did so much for my husband. After missing Christmas, my birthday and Valentine’s Day I gave up. I couldn’t even get a ring from him after doing all his immigration work. I never wanted him to feel alone in such a stressful situation. I tried to do everything hoping he’d do everything and rise up as a partner. Never asked for him to pay my bills nor had he ever offered. My son asked me if it’s worth it, my husband left me in October hoping we could just make it long distance while reworking through immigration. Other men have wanted to marry me and take care of me but I feel so much that there is value and respect in marriage. I can’t even get him to tell his parents we are married. I’m a hidden wife and I hate myself for allowing this.
Another great interview with Sadia. There were a few points that reminded me that I made the right decision (sometimes just luck) and a couple of reminders where I really screwed up. The key is to stay open for learning. Thank you for more valued information. Sadia. ♥
I learned a thing or two off of this session. She's got the brains and the beauty. Kudos to Sadia for speaking on women taking accountability for their choices. "If we don't reflect, we repeat." Solid interview.
She’s right about so much stuff, and Mark talking about being a late bloomer, I turned 40 last week and the ladies are now making moves on me ! Wtf ? But in my teens when I was partying I had girlfriends here and there but I was always holding back. Life is a strange journey.. . Nice one Mark, this is a great guest to have on. 💯🙏☮️🙏
Most of what she said I figured out from a young age, that’s why I’ve never been interested in sleeping around or accepted cheating. No matter how society tried to normalize it. I’ve always wanted relationships with connections and depth.
While I do not necessarily agree with everything she says, I think she has a major point saying that we are letting our childhood traumas and insecurities choosing our partners, and that is how the broken homes and consequently broken people epidemic is going on and worsening. That being said, I do not think arranged marriages are the solution !
@alejandragarcia9337 Maybe. You seem to think that (healthy) parents have universal knowledge of their children. Or that their children are puppets who are beholden to their parents' needs and desires. "Healthy parents" are often in a position to make helpful suggestions. However, the ultimate arbiter of what is "best" for any individual, is that individual. Nevermind the fact that the concept of "best for" is ill-defined from the outset. Should your parents make all of your decisions for you right now based on the premise that they "know what is best for you"? What happens when you disagree with their position?
This is so rich and insightful! I never understood the two sexes so well. It’s so hard to find answers as to why I’m the way I am and to not only understand myself but my husband. The men are simple yet completely different. I didn’t understand myself as a woman. The emotions as a woman are so intense that looking at something more logically to understand oneself is rough. I appreciate this knowledge so deeply! I love this!
Thank you for having me ❤
sadia always looking amazing 😍
The grift that keeps on grifting
i don't agree with your view on porn....i don't think porn is neutral...i think it does have negative effects....but to say porn contributes to rape culture is as ridiculous as saying video games contribute to violence...i've had multiple talks with my own therapist about your recent interviews
[edit] also wondering....do you think it's even possible to have an objective perspective on porn? if you don't consume it, you really don't know what's going on in porn....but if you do consume it, it may affect you.
Intelligent, interesting, confident lady. Thank you for coming on the show again and sharing your perspectives, Sadia!
Hi Sadia. Looking at the reality of arranged marriages, Pakistani too, it doesn't seem to be something better. 38 to 49 percent of marriages between Pakistanis is between 1st cousins, which is the cause of children being born with very serious mental and physical problems, for example. The divorce rate in 2019 in Pakistan was at an all time high. Over 90 percent of women in Pakistan have experienced domestic violence in their lifetime.
I really like the idea of taking full responsibility during a breakup.
I also like the idea of not calling everyone who hurt you a narcissist.
I also like that she asks Mark questions.
Yes. Yep. Ya. Me too!
Mark said it was wrong and unhelpful when he interpreted the divorce as his fault.
But there really are Narcissists--- some say ten percent of the population. And they do a tremendous amount of harm, often as parents (who are not chosen by victims).
Some people do suck though.
@@tyrellanderson4722 Most
Microphone placement is everything….hard to listen to the excess noise on the microphone in both interviews but SHE IS AN AMAZING WOMAN!!!
agreed. mark you should consider displaying audio levels in your setup during your interviews so you can see in real time if quality is poor
It's not the mic it's just that her hair it's brushing over it
Sound is sooo bad & poor quality. Amazing woman though 👏
I was wondering what all the rustling was.@@clementinecasino3700
Her voice sounds kinda mumble ly it’s hard to listen clearly
Sadia explains perfectly: when a woman finds the right person, a responsible, trustworthy man, when she feels the safety and security, she will be soothing and calm, there will be much less anxiety and much less negativity.
I always tell people, “when people show you who they are, believe them!” Great video
That was Maya Angelou.
"believe them the 1st time"
Maya Angelou said the same.
She ripped that off Maya Angelou
This lady is smart and intuitive. I love the fact that she is not afraid to tell the truth and NOT sugarcoat the issue. Sometimes you just have to tell it like it is!
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Yes she truly is gem and she truly saving people relationships.
I wish she was around 10 years ago before getting previous relationship.
@@daniellamoreno3616she is no oh saving nothing. The reason why she have data is because many many many people have conflict in relationship. Conflict is the rule in human relationship.
Mark, I like that you were more involved in the “conversation”
Yes
yes me too
l been noticing they overtalk a lot he just listens
Hmm. Interesting. I thought it was called interrupting the shit out of people because you think what you're saying is more important than what they're saying, or manners in general, even if it's the answer to a question they asked....
@@subtomypageon what planet? He's interrupted her almost 50 times at an hour in.
I really love how she’s asking Mark questions throughout the interview. We never get to hear his pov in detail. Great interview ❤
because shes a fraud too
This lady is a pleasure to look at, listen to, and learn from. Thank you both for doing this…
The entire world needs relationship advice in 2024
lf u put her looks aside and the fact shes foreign yall would get shes boring and says what men already know that women use them for money lol duh and legal marriage benefits broke women l been knew ths
Sadia’s interaction is absolutely so appreciated. One of that sessions I relook at all the time. She is so knowledgeable, sincere and to the point. Love her honesty. A beautiful intelligent women. Tx for introducing her to us Mark
not really dont need her advice to know women use guys for money and that legal marriage only benefits a broke woman.
The interviewer was interviewed and he had no choice but to answer.
Sadia was just being a woman all women do is ask questions and the most questions when talking to a man
It's sad that you don't see the professional side where she as a psychologist is observing and trying to prove maybe some theory and Mark participates very aware of this
That's what psychologists do lol
shes hot so thats y
@@milliem1969 shes a fraud posng
If we don’t reflect, we repeat
Gorgeous 😊 actually I recount dat statement your a pig ignorant woman!
@thematriarchy2075 I'm saying your gorgeous
@@peterallen. Move on, Peter, move on
@thematriarchy2075 okay I wont compliment u your not nice 🙂
@@peterallen. Fine by me. 🙂
"courage is a huge part of being a man " truth
Such a great interview, listening to two intelligent and compassionate people. Thank you Sadia and Mark.
Truth! Everyone shows you “who” they really are. It all boils down to, do you want to see it and accept or see it and ignore it, or see it and move on. Every individual is responsible for what they tolerate!
I want to hear more from her. Great point of views offered, and as a bonus get to hear some personal insight into Mark himself. She is a great listener, and her multicultural upbringing has given her a unique advantage. Thank you for bringing us these talks Soft White Underbelly.
I love that she's asking mark these questions 🤣
and zero social skills .... My first meeting with my niece's psych friend was a disappointing one where she promptly blurted out something tactless like 'Oh YOU'RE Olivia! I've heard a lot about you' ... to which I promptly showed my disdain with silence and a tired smile@@baublesanddolls
@@baublesanddollsshes a counselor posng
Same. It would be interesting if they switched places for an interview.
@@baublesanddollstell me you had a bad therapy experience without telling me you had a bad therapy experience
She’s very straight to the point. Love this about her. Such an intelligent woman.
Her point not necessarily anyone else’s
Please do not listen to this woman she is misogynistic and manipulative.
She is good. Less than three minutes in and she is interviewing Mark 😂
i love it 😂 she’s such a good guest
How does that make her good?
It's a way to keep someone interested- ask them about themselves...
She's a psychologist, that's what they do
@@yourfriendmelanie shes hot but boring on both lnterviews as good as she looks for her age l had lt on ln the background not really watchn more focused on computer while lT was on tv
She told no lies. And that’s why now I leave from the beginning. Met someone recently and I could tell she’s not a nice person based on how she is brutally honest and says anything with little to no regard for ppl feelings and when corrected she sees it as an attack. I told her have a blessed life, we don’t align and her response confirmed that I made the best decision for me. This video was a confirmation for me. Thanks
So you want a woman to lie to you ? Do you have her number handy ?
Your response says it’s all 🤦🏽♂️. People can be honest with class and tack not brutally honest. Or just speak without thinking. I also listed other things that confirmed it for me. But you only read what you wanted. You don’t even know what the response was so how did you even draw that conclusion? Have a nice day sweetie 🙄
@@NattyByNature- didnt realize you were a girl until now so now i understand the ' feelings ' part . But it doesnt change what i said ,i rather the truth over a lie because thats the way i am ,brutally honest . Be more concerned with the truth then getting your feelings hurt because on the day the truth comes out it will hurt way more child . It is what i would tell my daughter ...whose middle name was monique too . I am a Campbell as well .
Very interesting the name coincidence. I won’t date anyone that’s brutally anything but to each their own.
lol that start to reply was rude hahha
She is extremely articulate and informative . I really do enjoy her!
I enjoy u 2 😊😊😊
@@peterallen.
You enjoy Every woman in the comments😂
@radfoo72 respect bro 💯 😄
sHeS sO aRtIklAte!!! 😂😂😂😂
@@jjonez787 🤣😆…if you only heard my voice to go along with it in real life too - you’d prob wanna punch me or you’d love it . But seriously, do you not think she is articulate? Especially after being subjected to an abundance of Rebecca’s rambling, nonsensical pontifications and diatribes. I mean this is damn near Rhodes Scholar material compared to that shit lol ! 🤷🏻♀️
Honestly: What fascinating me is Mark engagement with the whole conversation! Loved it
Her hair covering the mic which is messing with the audio is driving me nuts
She moves her hands too much that's why.
i feel you, i hate noisy sounds too
Terrible sounds quality on this one, had to skip it completely. 🫤
@@carolgosenheimer9415 I skipped it too
Yeah someone wasn't wearing headphones when he filmed this time
This woman’s observations and advice are absolutely amazing! This is one if the best conversations/ interviews you have done so far. Thank you so very much!👏👏👏👏👏👏
not really put her looks aside and her foreign accent and guess what shes boring
She is right about the difference in cultural rejection, people who have the ability to move on after being told no seems more attractive.
Maybe they are more attractive to begin with and that is why it doesn't phase them.
@@justinzrandomvideoz5475 Maybe not, they just are able carry themselves in that way.
@@Smethells2023so she studied psychology but is not a registered psychologist. I mean anybody can study psychology, the hardest part is trying to become a board certified one. Seems there are so many of these types on social media now 😂😂
I had a friend from Africa a few years back and he embodied that same exact outgoing positivity!
@@Smethells2023 I agree with you 💯
Thank you for having her back! She is SO insightful.
That was a great talk Mark, nice to see you doing more interviews with deep thinkers, I have been watching you for so many years, I dont know how you have done so many hard depressing street living ones, so I enjoy theses quality people!
Well, I understand your sentiment, the labeling of quality people is a bit harsh.
I know what you mean. I like getting different perspectives. I'm also a bit sexist bc I'd rather get insight about relationships from women than men. One interview with a man who was a psychologist or something started out with his explanation of what women want, and I stopped listening right after I heard his take on that. I also wish Mark would do interviews with high functioning people. So we get to hear what their realities are. I bet we'd be surprised.
I hands down prefer This deep conversation over an episode of "Rebecca" rambling.
@@christinacampbell5952
I'm curious if you're referring to his episode with Orion Taraban that was posted 2 weeks ago because that guy was on the Whatever podcast and I think he has some bad takes so I don't subscribe to his philosophy.
I know you said you prefer to listen to women but I was jw if you've ever listened to a male youtuber who was given the moniker "hoe_math"?
He discusses dating & relationship dynamics of men & women and I'm wondering how you'd score his accuracy and emotional intelligence.
"Deep thinker"
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i have been researching relationships for 2 years and this is one of the best interviews i have heard. this is what no one wants to hear today. i love her. he's great too
"please don't take this to mean that i'm a good person in any way shape or form..." humility yet seeting boundries clearly. beautiful
Holy smokes this interview and her analysis parallels my personal experiences, almost word for word in the way I would've described it. I feel much better about myself and the decisions I've made and why I've made them. I feel validated. I'll definitely rewatch this, and I've already subscribed to her channel. I wish she were my therapist!
She’s a great therapist. Thanks for bringing her back on mark and for the discussion you shared. It was packed with so much great insight.
You can never get enough of talking relationships in that they are so vital to our lives whether they're good and serve us well or are in the process of demolishing our life.
Granted there will be a next episode with Sadia I would call for a discussion about human development of children under the care of a couple, both in the case of a positive outcome or very unfavourable one.
All the best to all of those who are struggling in whatever way that has been taken place.
I loved this interview! She speaks so well about interesting things and Im looking forward to seeing the things that she has on her channel . Very thought provoking. I was crying when she said that being in a relationship can calm a nervous system.
You’ve gone from strength to strength to bring quality interviews which translate into such specific insights. These have really been helpful in helping me develop as a person. Can’t thank you enough.
I love your conversations with this beautiful woman and I appreciate the insight. I’ve learned so much and grown from this channel. Building up the courage to submit a tape. Keep up the good work
Sadia is such a well spoken intelligent woman and u can see she has that glimmer of childlike girly shyness in her eyes. It's actually very endearing. What a beautiful interview between Sadia and Mark.
That is so true. I am overweight and long for a relationship, but realized I have been running from the truth. I have low self esteem due to my weight and am self conscious of it. Rightfully so, I suppose. Now on a weight loss journey to correct my wrongs. Lost 17 pounds. I was 320 at my heaviest, but am 300.4 now. You'd think that may not be much, and it is not really. However, I didn't realize guys really viewed me, and that is because they did not. Who would? That fact made me feel the heaviest rejection from society. It is verrryyy hard to accept that while looking in the mirror. Once I did, I felt accepting of where I am at now, but ambitious of where I could be. It truly shows because I did not get defensive at all. I just accepted it and putting in the work to change :). Just love this channel.
Your weight should only be a problem because of your health. I understand you would like a relationship, but there definitely is someone for everyone. Don't forget, men are not the saviors of this world! Much succes with your weight loss❤
Good for you! And that IS a lot of weight lost. One pound at a time, just keep it going. 🙌🏼 This is why the body positive movement has gotten very dangerous. It convinces women (men don’t fall for it) that they’re perfectly healthy and attractive, and that if men don’t find us attractive they’re just terrible. The reality is just what it is and deluding ourselves doesn’t change it. When you feel good from making your body healthier, it shows via confidence and happiness, which is appealing.
Good luck in your journey!
Love that she got out a bit of background on you Mark! As a married woman of 8years the advice on emotional connection and physical is bang on. Im learning alot here about what my husbands needs even if he can't express it. If only they educated us on this subject properly at school! It's fascinating and enlightening ❤
Thank you for an enlightening talk, Sadia K. :)
Honestly, as an old SWU sub I've thoroughly enjoyed both your and Orion's takes on the social dicotomy situation and transactional emotional & physical exchanges that continouously run through all of our daily social- and especially romantic- relationships.
These have been true eye('third eye' especially perhaps) opening experiences for me, and I hope you'll both be back many more times in the future :)
with love and respect from Sweden,
What a great interview very informative and how awesome is that Mark was the counterpart on the conversation.
Ronald Fairbairn explained this really well; he described the "exiting yet frustrating" object.
This is well explained in a paper titled "The Allure of the Bad Object", that can be found online. Its the best single paper on this subject.
"There had been indications that the other was incapable of reciprocating, or loving, or accepting them in the way they desire. They had been pursuing an alluring but rejecting object; an exciting yet frustrating object. The object initially may have offered the conditions of hope but it failed to satisfy. It had awakened an intensity of yearning but it is essentially the elusive object of desire, seemingly there but just out of reach."
*exciting (?)
@@radfoo72 Yes, that's correct. English is not my native language.
Chasing The Dragon 🐉
So insightful. So much she says hits spot on for me. I really enjoy these type of interviews once in a while.
Great video! I love these types of interviews, and love that you mentioned doing more of them. Digging in to relationships at every level is such a critical component of our every day lives and interactions. Would appreciate more interviews with Sadia and others with a unique perspective and/or advice on relationships as a whole.
it's unfortunate the mic noises, I just can't focus on what she's saying which I'm sure is pure gold, she always provides amazing insights.
Sadia - I have learned so much from your insights and appreciate your brutal honesty. You're the real deal - beautiful, super intelligent and yet extremely down to earth and willing to listen. Thank you for what you've shared in both interviews on this channel.
Thank you so much for having Sadia back on. This Woman is a treasure, she's one of very few people on this world, that I agree 💯 with. She is spot on each and every time.
I love that Sadia asks Mark questions.
Man, great talk! One of the more interesting discussions you've had in a while w/somebody. Thank you both.
She gives me a new outlook on relationships.
i'm curious what people other than me think, what's this new outlook on relationships you have?
One of my favorite things about Sadia is that she ALWAYS engages the interviewer and asks their opinion on whatever is being discussed-or just totally flips the script and asks them a more personal (but appropriate) question. She comes across as very genuine in doing so, too.
Always enjoy listening to her perspective.
I normally hear thru my headphones and im like hold up! Voice and accent!!! Who is this angel!!
you're not boring at all miss Sadia, this is what we need, education on relationship.
Sadia and Mark, I adore you two to pieces. 1000x thank you!!! This interview has been outstanding and has helped me think about how I am treating my spouse and what I can do better. Lots of great advices. I have shared this video with my peers, family, friends, and my significant other. Also, I did not know men live longer if they are married. That is really good to know. Mark, you are extremely appreciated for all the work you have done and shared with us. You have given us so much. Please do not forget to give back to yourself. You deserve nothing but success, love, respect and happiness. Sadia, please keep sharing these advices. They are extremely valued and appreciated by folks like me.
I am confused by Sadia’s and Mark’s support for Andrew Tate. Tate’s actions and words do not align. Most of what Tate does is a scam. I would like them to elaborate on that. Did anyone else think that was weird?
Tate has popularized misogyny.
@@ukalypseand is a pathological and idiotic liar. Not sure why mark thinks he is intelligent
@@ukalypse Misogyny was never unpopular.
I've listened to Tate some and he does say somethings I disagree with but he does present an intelligent perspective that you will not get from many sources these days. It's hard to find masculine perspective in popular media today.
Remember the media will only focus on the negative angle of a person, but he says some e uplifting things for men that are needed.
Most of the people that dislike him don't really even listen to him. That is how society is, to me it's just weird how people want to erase people they disagree with. I've heard more positive things from him than bad, he has said some bad advice but I use MY mind to make judgement on whether I agree or disagree. I don't listen to him much, but he is popular for a REAL reason.
Someone tried to tell me he was a bad person once, and she showed me a video someone made about how bad he was. I thought that was weird. In the video he basically was talking about a form of virtual pimping with only fans and how to do it, which is Immoral and I can see why he would be called a misogynist. But that video was old.
But from the videos that Ive seen... It's none of that. I simply wouldn't be watching that, because that's not what I'm into.
Most of the videos I've seen are about male empowerment and life lessons and people don't like that.
Dude has gotten a lot of media hate coverage which is strange to me.
The duty of caring….. soooooo true! Well said.
People do go through ups and downs physically. We need to love the person.
Thank you.
For a woman pregnancy is the number one factor for weight gain in my opinion,which can be healthy and beautiful. Other than that maybe an accident for men or woman could be an issue out of your hands. Bit for the large majority its laziness.
I think there are many reasons people gain weight. How about depression? That is one. Whatever it is have compassion for the individual.
@@roxannedunlop1044 that makes sense and I agree,I think that still applies with what I'm saying. That if all individuals take accountability for their life, that can bring them closer to solutions in their lives over not taking accountability.
REALLY enjoyed this one. Keep the mental health and repairing relationships interviews coming !
@@karenlubeck3294 she isn’t a therapist? I thought that was the whole premise of this interview.
@@threadgrassone, There is another Woman of the same name who is named Sadia Khan who is an actress. I mistook her for the psychologist Sadia Khan. Please disregard what I said. I will be deleting my comments.
How thoughtful. Fascinating.
Important for men to hear the perspective of women. Relationships are so complex and the way to break that down is knowledge (of the opposite sex). Another great interview Mark!
Thank you Mark for sharing your therapy session.
Hahaha, really though
I wish I could like a video twice.
You guys are my relationship gurus.
Much love.
This girl is by far the most entertaining and informative guest he's had on. I'm glad hes bringing her back. I'm gonna keep an eye out for more of her work.
I enjoyed this interview more than the rest.
It also makes me want to refresh my own relationship. Thank you for this boost !
Imagine having dinner with her and Orion. They’re both so interesting but also frustrating in the same way. They’d probably talk over each other.
She gets it! Everyone in the comments berating her was probably touched by some of her truths. A hit dog will always holler.
Thank you for saying the bit about reward the women that” don’t ask for anything “ vs the entitled ones…
Yes. It breeds the "nice gals finish last" attitudes in women.
yes it really means appreciate your partner ... it works both ways ... no one likes being taken for granted for very long
Love Sadia, a fellow Londoner ❤ I can relate and really accept what she says in all her interviews! Relationships and people are so interesting keep her coming back Mark 😊
BAM!! She speaks TRUTH to Mark on porn and OF and sex industry!! He is adamantly protective of sex work, so it was GREAT that she spoke on TRUTH of it. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
This interview was very informative and agreeable. I love her transparency, intelligence, and beauty. Hey family did a great job setting a foundation for her to blossom 🌸💯
I couldn't listen longer than 10 due to the microphone rubbing. Mark please remember to keep it clear from obstruction.
Yes everyone please remember to do everything perfectly all the time or else someone might complain. Lol bunch of bozos
@@OlRubberNuts I have sensory issues. Thanks for your understanding.
@@sublime7480 that is nobody else's problem thanks for understanding
@@sublime7480Your sensory issues aren't anybody else's problem thanks for understanding
@@OlRubberNuts Or when you have a show whose primary focus is audio, ensure the audio quality is good. This isn't complex stuff, bud. Try to keep up.
Excellent interview, Mark; monumentally insightful. Any chance for a boom mic in the future? Those clipped mics always pick up sound from the clothing of your guests.
For some reason, her saying that women are inherently manipulative and that they are more likely to cheat than men in her last interview rlly rubbed me the wrong way 😩
I think the numbers are pretty equal, as far as cheating goes
Its give and take with internet view ... i dont take her view
She’s brainwashed by patriarchy … she stated she respects Andrew Tate and what he’s done for masculinity, so it’s no surprise her views are misogynistic with her view that women are more manipulative.
@@thematriarchy2075is that just what you think or is there any research that suggests this
Well she’s not lieing.
Very cool seeing Mark being indirectly interviewed. Thank you Mark and guest.
Rewarding the entitlement…. Damn. I immediately cried at that. I have never asked for anything and did so much for my husband. After missing Christmas, my birthday and Valentine’s Day I gave up. I couldn’t even get a ring from him after doing all his immigration work. I never wanted him to feel alone in such a stressful situation. I tried to do everything hoping he’d do everything and rise up as a partner. Never asked for him to pay my bills nor had he ever offered. My son asked me if it’s worth it, my husband left me in October hoping we could just make it long distance while reworking through immigration. Other men have wanted to marry me and take care of me but I feel so much that there is value and respect in marriage. I can’t even get him to tell his parents we are married. I’m a hidden wife and I hate myself for allowing this.
What a gift both her interviews are
Another great interview with Sadia. There were a few points that reminded me that I made the right decision (sometimes just luck) and a couple of reminders where I really screwed up. The key is to stay open for learning.
Thank you for more valued information. Sadia. ♥
another boring 1 but since she hot and foreign people act like lnteresting
I learned a thing or two off of this session. She's got the brains and the beauty. Kudos to Sadia for speaking on women taking accountability for their choices. "If we don't reflect, we repeat." Solid interview.
felt like a therapy sesh
Mark said he was having his fun now lol I would love to know more about that Mark 😂
She’s right about so much stuff, and Mark talking about being a late bloomer, I turned 40 last week and the ladies are now making moves on me ! Wtf ? But in my teens when I was partying I had girlfriends here and there but I was always holding back.
Life is a strange journey.. .
Nice one Mark, this is a great guest to have on. 💯🙏☮️🙏
THE BEST, most wholesome and grounded advice I’ve EVER heard. What an exceptional therapist…one of a kind…amazing and empowering!
Always enjoy listening to her interviews! Informative insight ❤
I could listen to her all day long. Such a smart, insightful woman!
I love Sadia! Thanks for bringing her back. ❤️🙏🏼
Another all time episode by Mark and A Great speaker. Thank you Sadia ! It's priceless for most listeners.
“Access increases, but quality decreases…” So in other words, the odds are good but the goods are odd…
Such a delight that she came on twice. An amazing interview, thank you both 👏🏿
She’s so beautiful 😭😭
I'm happy Sadia is back, I always learn a lot from her.
Fantastic interview 💎
Thank you Mrs. Khan & SWU
Most of what she said I figured out from a young age, that’s why I’ve never been interested in sleeping around or accepted cheating. No matter how society tried to normalize it. I’ve always wanted relationships with connections and depth.
While I do not necessarily agree with everything she says, I think she has a major point saying that we are letting our childhood traumas and insecurities choosing our partners, and that is how the broken homes and consequently broken people epidemic is going on and worsening. That being said, I do not think arranged marriages are the solution !
People want to believe what they want to believe and often ignore the truth. That’s why I love her.
"Your parents will know what is best for you"
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Healthy parents yes
@alejandragarcia9337 Maybe. You seem to think that (healthy) parents have universal knowledge of their children. Or that their children are puppets who are beholden to their parents' needs and desires.
"Healthy parents" are often in a position to make helpful suggestions. However, the ultimate arbiter of what is "best" for any individual, is that individual.
Nevermind the fact that the concept of "best for" is ill-defined from the outset.
Should your parents make all of your decisions for you right now based on the premise that they "know what is best for you"? What happens when you disagree with their position?
She’s just so lovely and full of wisdom.
watching things like this remind me why i choose to be single
She is very well educated and well spoken. I learn a lot from her
Why is the audio perfect on all of your videos, except the ones with Sadia?
This is so rich and insightful! I never understood the two sexes so well. It’s so hard to find answers as to why I’m the way I am and to not only understand myself but my husband. The men are simple yet completely different. I didn’t understand myself as a woman. The emotions as a woman are so intense that looking at something more logically to understand oneself is rough. I appreciate this knowledge so deeply! I love this!
second time she has been on with awful audio :(
Yes it's sounds like she rubbing the mic or maybe her shirt
I think it's her hair rubbing on the mic.?.?