There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've learned that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years back, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to work things out. It was a hard time, but we got past it.
I really get why what you're saying matters, and I honestly want to find happiness too. I've got a partner, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine life without her; my love for her is strong. I really miss her, and I'm fully committed to bringing her back. We've explored different paths, like therapy, to fix things.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Your guidance is well-received. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; her absence is keenly felt.
As you always do, YOU ROCK! You always give me that fair perspective for being so open-minded in fully understanding how my current relationship’s dynamics. Everyone has his/ her flaws and imperfections. Nevertheless, we don’t need To be perfect.
She makes a good point about the female behaviors that men reward. Underlying this problem is the need of men to be taught to control their sexuality which I also relate to the problem of the lack of Initiation for men in our culture. Controlling sexual energy doesn't mean repressing, but learning how to utilize it as an asset rather than being a slave to it. It isn't easy and takes years of practice. But there are no voices in our culture trying to impart this to young men. The best we have is some influencers simply saying, 'Stop looking at porn!' But no surprise that the most powerful organic force on Earth is incredibly destructive when it isn't properly utilized.
💯 I second this to the Max. I wasn’t able to conquer my 🌽 addiction until I learned that I had to Tame the Wolf not Slay the Wolf (my motto). The sexual energy is potent and highly useful when you channel and conserve this precious natural resource especially for advanced spiritual practices Then when you want to use this energy for sexual pleasure and romantic connections you are more potent psychologically and physically. Basically you have to make peace with your sexual energy not go to war with it which is how for years how I dealt with it. This one psychological realization that came all at once did what years of effort and motivation could not.
The two comments above give me hope and encouragement for an honest, enduring and loving partnership. Thank you for your willingness to seek a higher path and a higher potential to your most evolved self and to move beyond societal conditioning. 🙌🏼
My number one quality im looking for in a partner Is someone who values integrity as I do. Someone who is very consistent in their behavior and doing the right thing.
I am always blown away by this woman's honesty and willingness to speak the truth. A couple of years ago, her blanket statements would have triggered the fuck out of me - now that I am willing to recognise myself in them, I find myself being flooded with relief and cheering her on. Sweet common sense! There is a reason why stereotypes are stereotypes. The New Cage spiritual bypassing in romantic partnerships is causing and hiding massive amounts of suffering and dysfunction in the name of "healing" and "evolution" - it's about time we got real!
I LOVE to hear that more women in their 20s arent committing to having children. We have healing to do in our lifetimes & we change constantly. Hopefully for the better! I KNEW I didnt want kids when I was very young & it was a trauma response. After 7 years of healing I would love a child now but if I had kids in my 20s, without question I would have accidentally destroyed their sense of self because i didnt have that to offer. Disagree firmly on that one. If you dont feel called to motherhood, my God don't have them just because you can or because you think they will heal you some way. They wont!
Sadia Khan have some great insights in some points but I find her still so entrenched in the 3d world, no transcendence at all. She seems oblivious of the fact that happiness and fulfillment in life does not come from others, like kids. It comes from inner work. Some people decide not to have kids for spiritual reason, but she never acknowledges that. For example, instead of being a vessel for another soul to biologically incarnate in the material world (by being a parent) why not spend this lifetime re-birthing oneself and becoming one's best version of oneself (the way you would want to ideally raise your kid if you are a conscious parent). In this way, you are ending karma/trauma and samsara or the endless cycle of death and re-birth. If we just keep on having kids (as investments or source of happiness which has a selfish agenda in it) and repeating the same patterns, how can we evolve? In this aspect, I find Sadia Khan to be limited within the box of the same old human drama. Shortsighted and no transcendence beyond the usual human condition.
@@j0e1s2s3same. It was pretty disappointing to hear and very small-minded. I’m 43 and I never wanted kids and I’m very happy with my decision and I’ve found multiple ways to “be of service” to the world throughout my life that had nothing to do with children.
This man here is what is a perfect example and the epitome of a divine masculine!❤ I actually think the only problem we have, Maybe it's the massive lack and the elusiveness of divine masculine and divine feminine here-- and the only fix , is it be the "OTHER WAY AROUND"!!
Sadia has a lot of knowledge coupled with common sense and shes also very street wise. A fantastic guest, I really appreciate this conversation thank you both 🙏❤️
I agree. It's wild how people get married with someone who they've never gotten into a disagreement with or have seen genuinely angry. I think it's good to be in stressful situations with your partner near the beginning of your relationship to see how they react. Do they avoid conflict or are they confrontational? Do they look for solutions or do they pout in the corner? Do they get violent and aggressive? Their reaction can be a deal breaker and can outweigh many other things in the relationship. Edit: Stress, disagreements and anger are not necessarily bad things. Everyone feels it on occasion. It's the matter of how a person expresses their anger or feelings of stress that might be incompatible with you.
@@octobersky8694 it's not at all about judging. It's the basics of getting to know the person you're in a relationship with. Of course everyone has their own paths but most people aren't willing to accept the challenges on their paths and try to avoid them. If they're OK with throwing caution to the wind and accepting what may come their way, that's their choice. If they actually want to see if they're compatible with who they want a long term relationship with, common sense and practicality does play a role in that.
You’re comparing what you would do and what others should do, as to what common sense and practicality is. There is such wide range of what could be considered common sense and practicality, again based on your or another’s experience and perspective, not to mention social, religious, moral etc. beliefs. That alone is judging another because you could never understand how someone else makes those choices because you are not them, perhaps you could come close through common upbringing, experience etc. but you’ll never have all the same information or perspective to make the same, as you say, “common sense and practical” choices.
@@coolbreeze5683I agree with you. Healthy relationships have markers and they are what you listed. Unhealthy relationships also have markers & I think there is line between judgement and discernment. Sometimes people perceive judgement when a person is actually being discerning. ❤
@@ashley5627 you hit the nail on the head! Seeing people's range of emotions are the basics of getting to truly know them. It's strange how some even try to dispute that fact nowadays.
I disagree that men's sex drive doesn't decrease with age. Wise men channel more of their sex drive into creative endeavors at work, art, career, family, purpose etc. as they age. The sex drive at 15 was untammed and wild. At 27 to 65 it tends to become more skillfully managed and channeled.
Well if it doesn't, why is the "little blue pill" so popular? My ex turned 40, and suddenly he stopped wanting sex. I hear it from other women that age too, that their partners need help to get it up. Those companies make millions!
It's not that women's sex drive goes down and his goes up. Its the fact that He has been hypersexualized for thousands of years, By this patriarchal run society! Whill he gets content to look at, and places to go 247- whill shes put though an internal and external shedder--- She has the reality of knowing what ( society , and the human male) thinks of her, and how he treats her.
I trust in you Lord carry me as I struggle to provide for my children. As a single mother things can be challenging. Both of my sons are special needs yet I’m so blessed to have them they are my life. God please hear my prayers protect me and my children from homelessness. Give me Strength as I struggle to pay the bills. Bless me to be a better mother everyday.❤️
I disagree. I think marriage isn’t working out because people don’t focus on inner growth, self awareness, or self esteem. They marry for the wrong reasons and that’s why divorce rates are high. I’m single not because I have high standards but because I want a good connection. Lots of men lack depth, self awareness, and self esteem. I don’t want a broken guy. People do not know how to connect emotionally with others and this is becoming a problem in society.
You say you want these things but are you embodying these things yourself? - Someone who is doing the work (life time process) will attract the right person when they are ready. If its not in your reality maybe you are not ready for it........ If you have high standards - why are you not meeting someone of the same type - its not true that there are no men out there with high standards. The mirror is you - so change yourself and watch reality reflect that back
@@tileshp3762 I’ve been engaged before and proposed to twice. I’ve chosen to be single to really find that ultimate love. I don’t want to settle as most people do. I think most marry out of pressure to meet society’s goals and to have kids. I’m fortunate enough to be born into a financially stable situation where I can focus on my self growth and choose someone that matches my frequency. I’m a psychic so I have seen my soul mate and know his characteristics but it’s up to God when I meet him.
@@tileshp3762 Also, I have learned astrology and have psychic abilities. The sad truth is true love is rare. Most people never touch true love in their lifetimes bc you have to be an advanced or evolved soul to get true love in your life. It has to be in your destiny and birth chart and you have to have a certain level of self awareness and compassion to attract true love. Most people are not at this level and never get true love in their lifetimes. That is the sad reality 🙁 most will never know what love really is. People think they are in love but that true unconditional type love is only achievable when you become that type of love yourself. Most people on earth are too selfish to get love.
Sadia, while obviously a very beautiful and educated woman seems to live in a small bubble of the 1.5%. She may resonate with the most wealthy and glamorous of people. But like Matthew Hussey, nothing she says resonates with me as a matchmaker and dating coach in Chicago. I am fairly certain that my small following of 10,000 subscribers would also be unable to relate to any of her elite and jaded theories and viewpoints on love and relationships. It’s seriously feels to me like she is speaking another language.
She speaks about people choosing aesthetics too much. It points to good health, nutrition, perhaps a life with the ability to have rest. These are good things to pass down to a child. Even if logically people can admit a less attractive person who loves you is a good deal, the evolutionary desire to be with someone attractive is still strong.
Sadia is not only intelligent, experienced, empathetic and expressive, she is natural. Best of all she has that trait become rare: wisdom. As a defender of the male (the first-born is the eldest son regardless of gender) I so appreciate her understanding of men. And I love Andre's engagement in a subject we know has always fascinated him!
Amazing! You two interact so nice. I am 58 years and still learn so much of Sadia. I wished she was around when I married to my ex 34 years ago. This was so good!
Thank you! This was my first deep dive into Sadia's offerings, and wow I feel like she delivered to us a solid gold treasure chest of grounded practical fair advice, and clear perspective to consider. I'm taking some key gems with me into my journey towards a reality of having healthy partnership! I resonate with her message, vibe, and appreciate them a lot. May this sister be protected at all costs!
"We attract what we judge, until we no longer judge what we attract" - Robert Edward Grant. I.e - what we absorb, is what we see reflections of ourselves in other people around us. A trigger is the smallest part of an armed weapon, but in order for us to get triggered, we must have at least a fraction of the explosive material within us in order to see it in others. This helps me see it within myself when I judge others
Andre' is a great interviewer. Depth of wisdom comes through. Some of Sadias points needed refinement and more research but love that Adrea was clear enough to state when he disagreed ..like the point on Monogamy and that people are bound to change in their relationships as they grow. Thanks Andrea for your channel, it's really great.
This has been very insightful for me. I was recently left by my gf of almost 6 years and while I’m still very sad about it, this helped me see more of our issues through a more refined lens and understand each perspective more clearly. Thank you for this wonderful podcast and for introducing me to this profound mind
I so agree about the dealbreakers. I’ve dated guys who seemed so perfect in many areas, but they had this ONE dealbreaker quality I simply couldn’t live with (mostly addictive behaviors). All even said that they didn’t like this about themselves either and desired to change it, but never did, except for maybe a short spurt and they were right back to it. I so wish I would have told them that unless or until this changes, I can’t be with you in a serious relationship, because I ended up wasting my time. Not only that, but resentment built up and it ruined the relationship anyway. It wasn’t worth it at the end of the day.
There is so much wisdom and truth in what she is saying, even just in the first few minutes of this video interview. Basically what she is saying is, become love, motivated, and be open, take your time give things a chance don’t just judge one thing and swipe, there are hidden diamonds and gems everywhere in everyone, but if you don’t take the time to explore that, sitting where you are all alone is all you will ever have. And for God, sakes, stop focusing on one negative thing about someone. How many negative things do we all have about ourselves that would knock us out of the game at any point? Being a good person means working with things working on things and working past things, people need to really lighten up, yeah, it’s good to have universal morals and values that fit, but everyone is somewhere different in the journey of life, we are all fractals, of a hole, that is the point of our journey. Here, none of us is the complete perfect package by design, that’s why we look for others to partner up with in the first place.
This woman has guided me in understanding my past mistakes, healing from them, and moving forward with wiser, healthier expectations. Her practical, straightforward views on attraction and relationship dynamics are valuable perspectives often lacking in conventional sources of help. Thank you, Sadia! 🙏🏼
There are some men out there who are shaming women for not playing into their fantasies that are no doubt derived from watching too much porn and telling a woman she is boring if she expresses boundaries and doesn’t act like a porn star. Pressuring women into filming explicit content for their own pleasure without thinking how this can affect the woman and put her in potential danger needs to be called out.
She has smart thoughts but her view on getting kids startled me. Everyone should have kids? the only true connection you will have is the one with your kids? you should have kids because when you are old you cannot travel anymore - whoat?! The motivation to have children so you won't be lonely is one of the worst ones you could imagine and setting you off for a big failure.... Yes, having kids is one of the most strenuous experiences on earth and this is why only people who adore children and cannot wait to have the experience of being a parent should have kids. People who do not have this desire for whatever reasons, should trust their gut feeling and not have kids! It's a wise and healthy decision, preventing both parents and kids from a lot of misery.
Amen! You speak so much sense. She lost me completely with this misogynistic and outdated attitude towards women who do not want children (particularly confusing as she herself does not have children).
I truly do respect her opinion and her advice but you guys gotta keep in mind one of those very attractive women who deal strictly with upper class higher earning clients so her advice would be for the general masses just for the top one and that’s where everything get twisted
Another great podcast! Thank you. I think the trajectory of human evolution towards androgyny is sad. Somehow there is more division between the sexes than ever before creating so much mistrust and disharmony that we rather be alone. Perhaps this is a period of time where important issues once taboo or hidden in the shadows are surfacing into the light so we can address and resolve them. Idk. I do know however, the more internal "work" one does in terms of healing and alignment in turn will affect the quality of their existing relationships or new ones they attract in their life. Looking forward to the next podcast. Hint* ---Bentinho Massaro, Bashar and Billy Carson are pretty cool :)
I love all the insight Sadia brings here and how you're both able to shine a light from a masculine and feminine perspective in the subject matter. I understand it's likely outside of her focus in her work and it may not be something you experience André, but I was slightly hoping for a bit more discussion regarding polyamorous relationships. It's a huge dynamic that would probably require it's own episodes worth of discussion haha. Thank you for everything you do, m'dude 🙏🩵
Polyamory is definitely not something she discussed because Sadia is monogamous. A few times on different podcasts she spoke of polygamy, but only through the lens of her faith which is fine. You might want to look to others who are actual polyamorous folks for more content. There is poly Phillia as a good start. She has lots of content and common sense things polyamorous folks deal with on the daily. You also may want to look at Kenya and Carl Stevens who have been married 25+ years and have created tools in helping folks deal with open/polyamorous relating. They also can be found on RUclips and Instagram. Perhaps Andre will have prominent Polyamorous folks on podcast for discussion in the future.
Thanks for having poignant guests on your show that may seem different than your usual guests. I think it's helpful to see what others may be sharing that could differ from the normal guest here. I think she has a lot of insight to offer, but I would agree with a lot of the other commentators that the info didn't resonate at large. As an Intuitive Love Guide, I can understand and agree with some of what she shares as I have worked extensively with more conservative, affluent and less spiritually-natured men. As a result of working with this demographic, I learned the horrors of what many may call the toxic masculine, but I also learned that what they deeply craved was not what they thought they were craving, sex, power, etc. It was actually a deep need to be seen and the heart deeply touched and held by the feminine and as Sadia shares, to be appreciated. They actually wanted to feel sacred, in devotion, and in love, they simply had never been taught how. Hence why I agree with so many of the other commentators as well, that the lack of positive male rites of passage and healthy male influence likely perpetuates the most horrific shadow side of men and at times woman. But I am optimistic that this work provides a pathway towards more mutually satisfying, devotional, honest and sacred ways to connect and love each other. Thanks your bringing a variety of guests to the show.
If there is One thing to Realise is that All Begins With The Self. Know They Self,Respect Your Self Value Your Self,See Your Self , Heal Your Self ,Honor Your Self in Order To Be.Then you can Truly Care 💛✨️
Good points of Saadie as always ❤ But: Why on Earth are the RUclips ads so damn irritating? Only repeating useless catch grades. They don’t get me trapped at any time, only irritated enough to shut down the hole thing!
Note taken for any weird spontaneous desires that you think indicate adventurousness. Could be fatal- even if you only try it once or indulge in a taboo once. Fatal Attraction a perfect movie for what could happen with a small indiscretion.
Exactly. We're still hearing this tiresome babble about how women aren't as horny as men. No. We are. We just get tired of having sex with selfish partners. It takes many of us more time and skill to bring us to orgasm. And even if we didn't reach it, we still enjoy the activity.
Everyone's pain and pleasure is different i believe. I've learned that: 1) Establishing realistic and logical expectation is the first thing we need to re-evaluate within ourselves before asking someone else to change. 2) Practicing patience and self-control to allow enough time before making an assumption about the partner. 3) Admiting that no spouse, partner, or child will ever think of your happiness before their own. 4) Never do things in life to impress others, allow them to see you as you really are. So, it's really a life-long battle of balancing all elements. But it would work perfect if all involved people parctice and believe the same. If any single partner has their own selfish beliefs and rules, then you're probably not going to be successful.
So many people are unfaithful without changed behavior. In response to the man who giot caught texting. I'm sure it wasn't just a friendly text. I believe in taking accountabilty and showing a willingness to correct wrongs. We also dont know what other behaviors he may have displayed prior. That level of accountabilty could provide a safety net for something he truly values, his marriage. He reassures and displayed it through his agreeance to share his social. A lot of healthy partners have access to each others accounts, but may never use them. It could also be for a sorcufic tume frame. To each there own, of course.
Men sex drive and stamina does decrease as they age. I don’t know where she gets this from. It decreases a lot. Erectile dysfunction is common in older men.
I’m out of my mind, listening to this about women changing and being less valuable. What about a man who does not care for himself physically mentally or spiritually a man who doesn’t have the drive to make more money have a code of ethics for caring for his family when he passes. the double standard coming from a woman makes me really upset
What about it, I don’t understand the point? If a man like that isn’t in alignment with what she desires, then they aren’t a match. Rather, a woman will often commit to a man that’s not a match, then do everything she can to change him.
My mom met her third husband when she was 50. He was 51. The woman he was dating at the time was 33. My mother clearly was what he was looking for, because he dumped the young woman for a woman his age. They were married 18 years until his death. Not all men are shallow, or think a woman expires at 35. This is Red Pill nonsense that tries to scare young women into getting hitched so incels have a chance at starting a family.
Yes…I’ve heard her in other interviews and personally am appalled by so much of what she says. Tons of logical fallacies and very “pickme”. Also I get narcissistic vibes from her. Again, have watched several interviews.
@@olivegoddess1 I completely agree with you! I have seen her on a few different shows now, on RUclips and Podcasts, and I am also appalled by what she says. It is not based in science. I myself am a therapist of 20 years and a lot of what she is sharing is actually harmful. I also got personality disorder vibes. I also agree with you about logical fallacies and the pick me essence. It seems to me she is trying to cater to in cells and red pill men in order to get them as clients
Hmm...I'm actually baffled by this conversation. Transparently, I am in a long term committed relationship (11 years) and felt that what Sadia was sharing is very narrow, mundane and superficial in understanding. There's a lack of nuance in this dialogue, especially from her expert background. The other part of me is wondering if this is simply the level of maturation currently exhibited in dating scene? Honestly I was a bit disappointed due to the abundance of cliches and stereotypes vs. subtle, creative and solution-based insights like most of Andre's podcasts.
I completely agree! She doesn’t seem like she actually has a degree in psychology. I myself am and have been a therapist and have worked with couples and individuals for 20 years now. I’ve seen this guest on other peoples channels as well and every time she makes me cringe. There’s so much that she says that feels detrimental for society and for the audience to be taking in.
@@TheKittiShowshe isn’t a psychologist. She is a fraud and extremely abusive if her credentials are questioned. She will call you racist . She’s abused me and others
And openly admits to emotionally abusing her own husband by keeping score. There were a lot of things that she said that didn’t add up and sounded like BS Definitely not aligned with this particular show.
I totally agree about having children. I see that with my son. Being the only child caused a sense of selfishness in him. Having a child of his own opened his heart to think outside of himself. Life is no longer about you. There's another person who depends on you.
I like that she’s vulnerable and makes good points about what values people are rewarding. Nevertheless, her answers to certain basic questions about herself were very “basic” ( like how do you receive love) and show little self reflection, so that made me question her as a professional to seek advise from.
The comment about keeping score with her husband which is emotional manipulation, but here she is giving relationship advice. Go figure 🤷♀️ Definitely not someone I would seek out for relationship advice.
No one knows their full potential. Self actualization is rarely achieved throughout life, not to mention money has tilted everyones perspective. Her discredit of her own achievements is a moving of the finish line, she came, she saw, she achieved. Now she will move to the next and repeat. I would call it living in the void of infinite potentialities. There are no limits on these people but the ones they place on themself, every human is capable of the same.
Am I the only one who gets the feeling that her opinions might not be complete truth? I want to know about the people who are connected to their hearts and devoted to God and living at a higher consciousness. It feels like she’s in a different reality.
I’m a therapist of 20 years and this guest gives a lot of red flags. Out of what she is sharing is not based in peer reviewed science. And a lot of what she says seems to be quite biased and sexist at that, seeming to cater to red pill men in an effort to get them as clients.
Ofc if it’s an opinion is just an opinion (not universal truth) and you can take it or leave it. I find it interesting that people are so put off when someone brings something different to their own confirmation biases that it’s just easier if they just discard it by calling it as a red flag or putting their own judgement.. I guess getting to know themselves (as Sadia was advocating for in this podcast) it’s just too much work.
We all have our own personal truths depending of our life experiences and adaptations in Society. The truth of others ( or their realities ) It doesn't mean it has to be our reality .We take what serves us depending of our own perspectives and biases. We all have biases!.. it is inevitable! We are Spirit, having a human experience !
Awesome advice & insight from this savvy woman: 'If you know you want children, have not yet found the 'right' partner to make those babies with, & it's getting 'late' (40yrs old+) - then settle on a partner who will at least make a great co-parent.' (Paraphrased a little)
She is so real. Loved his ability to pull out all her gems but imagination and hope are strong with his outlook. Sorry but the house always wins and a gambler throwing all his chips with hope is not going to have a good day.
I agree on all points except the sexuality: As a woman in upper 40s I can say women like myself can have very very strong drive up until any age! As long as they are with a man they are physically attracted to 😉 Men on the other hand might want same amount of sex but their ability is severely put down after forties and up in 50s most get nearly impotent or not able to have sex as before - why are you ignoring this fact?! I’ve been disappointed on so many men this age. After 40 they get a crisis and try their last prowesses (enter younger girls, more porn etc) until they finally can’t preform mostly after 50s and later. Severely impaired sexuality for men there. Where as women can handle it still, specially with some hormone therapy around menopause and after 🎉
Thank you Sadia 🫶🫶🙏🏻 Thanks to the host. I love to understand the human psychology , it is so liberating , it is so useful to create better relationships and, hopefully , a better society!
I can respect that if that is your personal belief system. If it isn't then that is not a fit for people who have different value systems. You have to do what is best for your relationship and even then in either case, you cannot escape working on yourself.
The context behind why she used the word “worship” there matters. She just means you should adore one another as opposed to, per se, settling for someone you’re not attracted to or who doesn’t treat you well.
It seems that when a person doesn’t have something in their life, they overly focus on getting that and think it will solve everything- e.g., if a man is not getting sex, he will become obsessed with getting it, often rushing into physical intimacy, when the real underlying desire is for genuine EMOTIONAL connection, which takes time to build. As a result, too many men find themselves having unsatisfying one-night stands, feeling empty, restless and resentful. It doesn’t help that men are often more fixated on external appearance, and as Sadia says, often setting themselves up for disappointment and bitter resentment. Meanwhile, women need to learn their own value and set appropriate boundaries around physical intimacy. (Note: many women also rush too quickly and prematurely into physical intimacy that lacks the depth and authenticity of genuine emotional intimacy, leaving them feeling empty and lonely.)
Instant gratification rather than patience that’s built in gyms, wars, construction sites,hospitals. Reality and individual perspective is day and night in 2024.Neil Young said for the homeless I am Satan , I don’t feel that way . Attention on us while there’s genocide in the world , if u were born in Palestine would that be a crime ? Moderation in thoughts acts and deeds. Ms Sadia is sound . Parenthood over wonderlust and urges. Basic insticts are for basic people, the rest you have a heart . Experience from dudes that have been there and done that, look out for them , listen and try and learn. Otherwise torcher yourself for another 30 years 🎉 Buena suerte
It's easy for people to give advice when a person is comfortable with their lifestyle. People don't notice that fact you pointed out. I didn't! She makes good points though.
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've learned that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years back, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to work things out. It was a hard time, but we got past it.
I really get why what you're saying matters, and I honestly want to find happiness too. I've got a partner, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine life without her; my love for her is strong. I really miss her, and I'm fully committed to bringing her back. We've explored different paths, like therapy, to fix things.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Your guidance is well-received. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; her absence is keenly felt.
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Good for you! Marriage is stomped on today!
Thank you so much for having me
Thank you for sharing with us Sadia 🙏
Absolutely 💯 loved this, thankyou ❤
As you always do, YOU ROCK! You always give me that fair perspective for being so open-minded in fully understanding how my current relationship’s dynamics. Everyone has his/ her flaws and imperfections. Nevertheless, we don’t need To be perfect.
Thank You, dearest Sadia 🙏 smart, wise & beautiful woman 💝
Sadia your dress here is my absolute favourite!! ❤️
“Control what you currently desire for long term vision of self..”
She makes a good point about the female behaviors that men reward. Underlying this problem is the need of men to be taught to control their sexuality which I also relate to the problem of the lack of Initiation for men in our culture. Controlling sexual energy doesn't mean repressing, but learning how to utilize it as an asset rather than being a slave to it. It isn't easy and takes years of practice. But there are no voices in our culture trying to impart this to young men. The best we have is some influencers simply saying, 'Stop looking at porn!' But no surprise that the most powerful organic force on Earth is incredibly destructive when it isn't properly utilized.
💯 I second this to the Max.
I wasn’t able to conquer my 🌽 addiction until I learned that I had to Tame the Wolf not Slay the Wolf (my motto).
The sexual energy is potent and highly useful when you channel and conserve this precious natural resource especially for advanced spiritual practices
Then when you want to use this energy for sexual pleasure and romantic connections you are more potent psychologically and physically.
Basically you have to make peace with your sexual energy not go to war with it which is how for years how I dealt with it.
This one psychological realization that came all at once did what years of effort and motivation could not.
The two comments above give me hope and encouragement for an honest, enduring and loving partnership.
Thank you for your willingness to seek a higher path and a higher potential to your most evolved self and to move beyond societal conditioning. 🙌🏼
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My number one quality im looking for in a partner Is someone who values integrity as I do. Someone who is very consistent in their behavior and doing the right thing.
True character!
I am always blown away by this woman's honesty and willingness to speak the truth. A couple of years ago, her blanket statements would have triggered the fuck out of me - now that I am willing to recognise myself in them, I find myself being flooded with relief and cheering her on. Sweet common sense! There is a reason why stereotypes are stereotypes. The New Cage spiritual bypassing in romantic partnerships is causing and hiding massive amounts of suffering and dysfunction in the name of "healing" and "evolution" - it's about time we got real!
I LOVE to hear that more women in their 20s arent committing to having children. We have healing to do in our lifetimes & we change constantly. Hopefully for the better! I KNEW I didnt want kids when I was very young & it was a trauma response. After 7 years of healing I would love a child now but if I had kids in my 20s, without question I would have accidentally destroyed their sense of self because i didnt have that to offer. Disagree firmly on that one. If you dont feel called to motherhood, my God don't have them just because you can or because you think they will heal you some way. They wont!
Your attitude is the perfect way to make yge human race die out
Sadia Khan have some great insights in some points but I find her still so entrenched in the 3d world, no transcendence at all. She seems oblivious of the fact that happiness and fulfillment in life does not come from others, like kids. It comes from inner work.
Some people decide not to have kids for spiritual reason, but she never acknowledges that. For example, instead of being a vessel for another soul to biologically incarnate in the material world (by being a parent) why not spend this lifetime re-birthing oneself and becoming one's best version of oneself (the way you would want to ideally raise your kid if you are a conscious parent). In this way, you are ending karma/trauma and samsara or the endless cycle of death and re-birth. If we just keep on having kids (as investments or source of happiness which has a selfish agenda in it) and repeating the same patterns, how can we evolve? In this aspect, I find Sadia Khan to be limited within the box of the same old human drama. Shortsighted and no transcendence beyond the usual human condition.
Totally agree, I was quite shocked by her recommendation for everyone to just have kids.
@@j0e1s2s3same. It was pretty disappointing to hear and very small-minded. I’m 43 and I never wanted kids and I’m very happy with my decision and I’ve found multiple ways to “be of service” to the world throughout my life that had nothing to do with children.
Her message is consistent and spot on with perhaps 80% of the population...and from the standpoint of different cultures and socioeconomic positions.
This man here is what is a perfect example and the epitome of a divine masculine!❤ I actually think the only problem we have, Maybe it's the massive lack and the elusiveness of divine masculine and divine feminine here-- and the only fix , is it be the "OTHER WAY AROUND"!!
Sadia has a lot of knowledge coupled with common sense and shes also very street wise. A fantastic guest, I really appreciate this conversation thank you both 🙏❤️
I agree. It's wild how people get married with someone who they've never gotten into a disagreement with or have seen genuinely angry. I think it's good to be in stressful situations with your partner near the beginning of your relationship to see how they react. Do they avoid conflict or are they confrontational? Do they look for solutions or do they pout in the corner? Do they get violent and aggressive? Their reaction can be a deal breaker and can outweigh many other things in the relationship.
Edit: Stress, disagreements and anger are not necessarily bad things. Everyone feels it on occasion. It's the matter of how a person expresses their anger or feelings of stress that might be incompatible with you.
You really shouldn’t judge other people’s paths. If it’s not yours, great! However, it is theirs and that too is great!
@@octobersky8694 it's not at all about judging. It's the basics of getting to know the person you're in a relationship with.
Of course everyone has their own paths but most people aren't willing to accept the challenges on their paths and try to avoid them. If they're OK with throwing caution to the wind and accepting what may come their way, that's their choice.
If they actually want to see if they're compatible with who they want a long term relationship with, common sense and practicality does play a role in that.
You’re comparing what you would do and what others should do, as to what common sense and practicality is. There is such wide range of what could be considered common sense and practicality, again based on your or another’s experience and perspective, not to mention social, religious, moral etc. beliefs. That alone is judging another because you could never understand how someone else makes those choices because you are not them, perhaps you could come close through common upbringing, experience etc. but you’ll never have all the same information or perspective to make the same, as you say, “common sense and practical” choices.
@@coolbreeze5683I agree with you. Healthy relationships have markers and they are what you listed. Unhealthy relationships also have markers & I think there is line between judgement and discernment. Sometimes people perceive judgement when a person is actually being discerning. ❤
@@ashley5627 you hit the nail on the head!
Seeing people's range of emotions are the basics of getting to truly know them. It's strange how some even try to dispute that fact nowadays.
Finally someone down to earth talking about relationships 🙏🏽
I disagree that men's sex drive doesn't decrease with age. Wise men channel more of their sex drive into creative endeavors at work, art, career, family, purpose etc. as they age. The sex drive at 15 was untammed and wild. At 27 to 65 it tends to become more skillfully managed and channeled.
Well if it doesn't, why is the "little blue pill" so popular? My ex turned 40, and suddenly he stopped wanting sex. I hear it from other women that age too, that their partners need help to get it up. Those companies make millions!
Pretty sure testosterone and sex drive go hand in hand... and T drops with age naturally right? So you have to eat right and or supplement.
Feeling shame and guilt (based on reality or based on taking on crap from outside) has a strong negative impact on sex drive.
It's not that women's sex drive goes down and his goes up. Its the fact that He has been hypersexualized for thousands of years, By this patriarchal run society! Whill he gets content to look at, and places to go 247- whill shes put though an internal and external shedder--- She has the reality of knowing what ( society , and the human male) thinks of her, and how he treats her.
@@christopherlamott9351 So his Catholic upbringing killed his sex drive? 🤣
I trust in you Lord carry me as I struggle to provide for my children. As a single mother things can be challenging. Both of my sons are special needs yet I’m so blessed to have them they are my life. God please hear my prayers protect me and my children from homelessness. Give me Strength as I struggle to pay the bills. Bless me to be a better mother everyday.❤️
wishing you blessings and strength 🤍
I disagree. I think marriage isn’t working out because people don’t focus on inner growth, self awareness, or self esteem. They marry for the wrong reasons and that’s why divorce rates are high. I’m single not because I have high standards but because I want a good connection. Lots of men lack depth, self awareness, and self esteem. I don’t want a broken guy. People do not know how to connect emotionally with others and this is becoming a problem in society.
… that’s true. But women too…
You say you want these things but are you embodying these things yourself? - Someone who is doing the work (life time process) will attract the right person when they are ready. If its not in your reality maybe you are not ready for it........ If you have high standards - why are you not meeting someone of the same type - its not true that there are no men out there with high standards. The mirror is you - so change yourself and watch reality reflect that back
@@tileshp3762PREACH PREACH PREACH ❤❤❤
@@tileshp3762 I’ve been engaged before and proposed to twice. I’ve chosen to be single to really find that ultimate love. I don’t want to settle as most people do. I think most marry out of pressure to meet society’s goals and to have kids. I’m fortunate enough to be born into a financially stable situation where I can focus on my self growth and choose someone that matches my frequency. I’m a psychic so I have seen my soul mate and know his characteristics but it’s up to God when I meet him.
@@tileshp3762 Also, I have learned astrology and have psychic abilities. The sad truth is true love is rare. Most people never touch true love in their lifetimes bc you have to be an advanced or evolved soul to get true love in your life. It has to be in your destiny and birth chart and you have to have a certain level of self awareness and compassion to attract true love. Most people are not at this level and never get true love in their lifetimes. That is the sad reality 🙁 most will never know what love really is. People think they are in love but that true unconditional type love is only achievable when you become that type of love yourself. Most people on earth are too selfish to get love.
I appreciate Sadia so much more the more she talks to people. What a relatable person. Self awareness can be such a double edged sword. 😂
Sadia, while obviously a very beautiful and educated woman seems to live in a small bubble of the 1.5%. She may resonate with the most wealthy and glamorous of people. But like Matthew Hussey, nothing she says resonates with me as a matchmaker and dating coach in Chicago.
I am fairly certain that my small following of 10,000 subscribers would also be unable to relate to any of her elite and jaded theories and viewpoints on love and relationships. It’s seriously feels to me like she is speaking another language.
She does say her client base are men who are very financial successful. So that 1.5% number you say make sense. Small sample size of the population.
She speaks about people choosing aesthetics too much. It points to good health, nutrition, perhaps a life with the ability to have rest. These are good things to pass down to a child. Even if logically people can admit a less attractive person who loves you is a good deal, the evolutionary desire to be with someone attractive is still strong.
Sadia is not only intelligent, experienced, empathetic and expressive, she is natural.
Best of all she has that trait become rare: wisdom.
As a defender of the male (the first-born is the eldest son regardless of gender) I so appreciate her understanding of men.
And I love Andre's engagement in a subject we know has always fascinated him!
hmmm... yes we should work to overcome our trauma. It leads to self destruction if we don't take steps to overcome them.
Amazing! You two interact so nice. I am 58 years and still learn so much of Sadia. I wished she was around when I married to my ex 34 years ago. This was so good!
Great that she talked about the pinnacle of womanhood as being a mother. Thank you.
Thank you! This was my first deep dive into Sadia's offerings, and wow I feel like she delivered to us a solid gold treasure chest of grounded practical fair advice, and clear perspective to consider. I'm taking some key gems with me into my journey towards a reality of having healthy partnership! I resonate with her message, vibe, and appreciate them a lot. May this sister be protected at all costs!
These are so well made, the editing and quality are really clean
I’m the same way, i don’t like compliments because it does not seem sincere, once i get their action showing it, i can receive it better.
Andre, you and your team are amazing content creators 🔥
It’s incredible how my own life experiences directly conflicts with nearly everything that she said.
"We attract what we judge, until we no longer judge what we attract" - Robert Edward Grant. I.e - what we absorb, is what we see reflections of ourselves in other people around us. A trigger is the smallest part of an armed weapon, but in order for us to get triggered, we must have at least a fraction of the explosive material within us in order to see it in others. This helps me see it within myself when I judge others
Andre' is a great interviewer. Depth of wisdom comes through. Some of Sadias points needed refinement and more research but love that Adrea was clear enough to state when he disagreed ..like the point on Monogamy and that people are bound to change in their relationships as they grow. Thanks Andrea for your channel, it's really great.
This has been very insightful for me. I was recently left by my gf of almost 6 years and while I’m still very sad about it, this helped me see more of our issues through a more refined lens and understand each perspective more clearly. Thank you for this wonderful podcast and for introducing me to this profound mind
I so agree about the dealbreakers. I’ve dated guys who seemed so perfect in many areas, but they had this ONE dealbreaker quality I simply couldn’t live with (mostly addictive behaviors). All even said that they didn’t like this about themselves either and desired to change it, but never did, except for maybe a short spurt and they were right back to it. I so wish I would have told them that unless or until this changes, I can’t be with you in a serious relationship, because I ended up wasting my time. Not only that, but resentment built up and it ruined the relationship anyway. It wasn’t worth it at the end of the day.
There is so much wisdom and truth in what she is saying, even just in the first few minutes of this video interview. Basically what she is saying is, become love, motivated, and be open, take your time give things a chance don’t just judge one thing and swipe, there are hidden diamonds and gems everywhere in everyone, but if you don’t take the time to explore that, sitting where you are all alone is all you will ever have. And for God, sakes, stop focusing on one negative thing about someone. How many negative things do we all have about ourselves that would knock us out of the game at any point? Being a good person means working with things working on things and working past things, people need to really lighten up, yeah, it’s good to have universal morals and values that fit, but everyone is somewhere different in the journey of life, we are all fractals, of a hole, that is the point of our journey. Here, none of us is the complete perfect package by design, that’s why we look for others to partner up with in the first place.
This woman has guided me in understanding my past mistakes, healing from them, and moving forward with wiser, healthier expectations. Her practical, straightforward views on attraction and relationship dynamics are valuable perspectives often lacking in conventional sources of help. Thank you, Sadia! 🙏🏼
The background is outstanding!
There are some men out there who are shaming women for not playing into their fantasies that are no doubt derived from watching too much porn and telling a woman she is boring if she expresses boundaries and doesn’t act like a porn star. Pressuring women into filming explicit content for their own pleasure without thinking how this can affect the woman and put her in potential danger needs to be called out.
She has smart thoughts but her view on getting kids startled me. Everyone should have kids? the only true connection you will have is the one with your kids? you should have kids because when you are old you cannot travel anymore - whoat?! The motivation to have children so you won't be lonely is one of the worst ones you could imagine and setting you off for a big failure.... Yes, having kids is one of the most strenuous experiences on earth and this is why only people who adore children and cannot wait to have the experience of being a parent should have kids. People who do not have this desire for whatever reasons, should trust their gut feeling and not have kids! It's a wise and healthy decision, preventing both parents and kids from a lot of misery.
Amen! You speak so much sense. She lost me completely with this misogynistic and outdated attitude towards women who do not want children (particularly confusing as she herself does not have children).
Great conversation you two! I love the way you both contributed perspective and insights. Thank you
I love her
Great episode
She’s so fluent and on point
Love this! Any chance we can get Terrance Howard on the podcast?
I truly do respect her opinion and her advice but you guys gotta keep in mind one of those very attractive women who deal strictly with upper class higher earning clients so her advice would be for the general masses just for the top one and that’s where everything get twisted
Right!
I love the top that she’s wearing
Another great podcast! Thank you. I think the trajectory of human evolution towards androgyny is sad. Somehow there is more division between the sexes than ever before creating so much mistrust and disharmony that we rather be alone. Perhaps this is a period of time where important issues once taboo or hidden in the shadows are surfacing into the light so we can address and resolve them. Idk. I do know however, the more internal "work" one does in terms of healing and alignment in turn will affect the quality of their existing relationships or new ones they attract in their life. Looking forward to the next podcast. Hint* ---Bentinho Massaro, Bashar and Billy Carson are pretty cool :)
She's such a beautiful woman.
@@atmccready603 trying to convince me she's not? Are you jealous?
Plastic surgeries 😂
42:20 that's a must, having your perspective ignored is a relationship killer
I love all the insight Sadia brings here and how you're both able to shine a light from a masculine and feminine perspective in the subject matter. I understand it's likely outside of her focus in her work and it may not be something you experience André, but I was slightly hoping for a bit more discussion regarding polyamorous relationships. It's a huge dynamic that would probably require it's own episodes worth of discussion haha. Thank you for everything you do, m'dude 🙏🩵
Polyamory is definitely not something she discussed because Sadia is monogamous. A few times on different podcasts she spoke of polygamy, but only through the lens of her faith which is fine.
You might want to look to others who are actual polyamorous folks for more content.
There is poly Phillia as a good start. She has lots of content and common sense things polyamorous folks deal with on the daily.
You also may want to look at Kenya and Carl Stevens who have been married 25+ years and have created tools in helping folks deal with open/polyamorous relating. They also can be found on RUclips and Instagram.
Perhaps Andre will have prominent Polyamorous folks on podcast for discussion in the future.
Thanks for having poignant guests on your show that may seem different than your usual guests. I think it's helpful to see what others may be sharing that could differ from the normal guest here. I think she has a lot of insight to offer, but I would agree with a lot of the other commentators that the info didn't resonate at large. As an Intuitive Love Guide, I can understand and agree with some of what she shares as I have worked extensively with more conservative, affluent and less spiritually-natured men. As a result of working with this demographic, I learned the horrors of what many may call the toxic masculine, but I also learned that what they deeply craved was not what they thought they were craving, sex, power, etc. It was actually a deep need to be seen and the heart deeply touched and held by the feminine and as Sadia shares, to be appreciated. They actually wanted to feel sacred, in devotion, and in love, they simply had never been taught how. Hence why I agree with so many of the other commentators as well, that the lack of positive male rites of passage and healthy male influence likely perpetuates the most horrific shadow side of men and at times woman. But I am optimistic that this work provides a pathway towards more mutually satisfying, devotional, honest and sacred ways to connect and love each other. Thanks your bringing a variety of guests to the show.
If there is One thing to Realise is that All Begins With The Self. Know They Self,Respect Your Self Value Your Self,See Your Self , Heal Your Self ,Honor Your Self in Order To Be.Then you can Truly Care 💛✨️
Your behaviors reveal what your values are ❤
Good points of Saadie as always ❤
But:
Why on Earth are the RUclips ads so damn irritating? Only repeating useless catch grades. They don’t get me trapped at any time, only irritated enough to shut down the hole thing!
Such a deep and meaningful conversation. I'm calling on the Universe to attract a woman who wants to risk drowning in the depths of life with me.
where do you live on this planet and what is you age roughly?
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Thank you💝💝💝💝💝. Watching Sadia Khan is never a waste of time🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Note taken for any weird spontaneous desires that you think indicate adventurousness. Could be fatal- even if you only try it once or indulge in a taboo once. Fatal Attraction a perfect movie for what could happen with a small indiscretion.
That was a wonderful interview on so many different levels!
We love your self esteem and self respect 💯
I’m so tired of these blanket statements about women. How on Earth do you know how much sex I or any women likes!!
Exactly. We're still hearing this tiresome babble about how women aren't as horny as men.
No. We are. We just get tired of having sex with selfish partners. It takes many of us more time and skill to bring us to orgasm. And even if we didn't reach it, we still enjoy the activity.
Yes! My experience has definitely been the opposite.
Yes the blanket statements about women and even men are driving me up the wall. She does this on every podcast and interviews she’s in
You're not so different
yeah i agree but you can make fair generalizations like educated guesses.
Everyone's pain and pleasure is different i believe. I've learned that: 1) Establishing realistic and logical expectation is the first thing we need to re-evaluate within ourselves before asking someone else to change. 2) Practicing patience and self-control to allow enough time before making an assumption about the partner. 3) Admiting that no spouse, partner, or child will ever think of your happiness before their own. 4) Never do things in life to impress others, allow them to see you as you really are. So, it's really a life-long battle of balancing all elements. But it would work perfect if all involved people parctice and believe the same. If any single partner has their own selfish beliefs and rules, then you're probably not going to be successful.
My God, the things u said about desire was spot on.
Another awesome podcast with Sadia Khan!!
The more I listen to Sadia, the more I am believing in her words! She is accurate in almost every insight! Thank you
I digged it! & hear a lot of what she’s saying, puuuur usual Andre thx for being you.
So many people are unfaithful without changed behavior.
In response to the man who giot caught texting.
I'm sure it wasn't just a friendly text.
I believe in taking accountabilty and showing a willingness to correct wrongs.
We also dont know what other behaviors he may have displayed prior.
That level of accountabilty could provide a safety net for something he truly values, his marriage.
He reassures and displayed it through his agreeance to share his social.
A lot of healthy partners have access to each others accounts,
but may never use them.
It could also be for a sorcufic tume frame.
To each there own, of course.
Yay Love! 🖤🤍 First! Everytime you drop new content I get a rush of dopamine~
I love Sadia and Andre"s content so much! So excited to see these two together, super insightful, thank you 🙏
I absolutely love the ending of this
Men sex drive and stamina does decrease as they age. I don’t know where she gets this from. It decreases a lot. Erectile dysfunction is common in older men.
Very good conversation! Thank-you. I integrated the the information as you spoke.
I love her content, listening an intelligent woman offering perspective.
Falling for potential or ignoring behavior = desperation. Been there
Stealing and not contributing with each other - so deep true 👍
@sadiapsychology I cant get enough of your take on relationships, triggering at times but also empowering. Thank you
I’m out of my mind, listening to this about women changing and being less valuable. What about a man who does not care for himself physically mentally or spiritually a man who doesn’t have the drive to make more money have a code of ethics for caring for his family when he passes. the double standard coming from a woman makes me really upset
What about it, I don’t understand the point? If a man like that isn’t in alignment with what she desires, then they aren’t a match. Rather, a woman will often commit to a man that’s not a match, then do everything she can to change him.
My mom met her third husband when she was 50. He was 51. The woman he was dating at the time was 33. My mother clearly was what he was looking for, because he dumped the young woman for a woman his age. They were married 18 years until his death.
Not all men are shallow, or think a woman expires at 35. This is Red Pill nonsense that tries to scare young women into getting hitched so incels have a chance at starting a family.
Yes…I’ve heard her in other interviews and personally am appalled by so much of what she says. Tons of logical fallacies and very “pickme”. Also I get narcissistic vibes from her. Again, have watched several interviews.
@@olivegoddess1 I completely agree with you! I have seen her on a few different shows now, on RUclips and Podcasts, and I am also appalled by what she says. It is not based in science. I myself am a therapist of 20 years and a lot of what she is sharing is actually harmful. I also got personality disorder vibes. I also agree with you about logical fallacies and the pick me essence. It seems to me she is trying to cater to in cells and red pill men in order to get them as clients
Great Conversation!! Informative, Intelligent and Authentic. Thanks For Sharing 🙏🏾👍🏾
Hmm...I'm actually baffled by this conversation. Transparently, I am in a long term committed relationship (11 years) and felt that what Sadia was sharing is very narrow, mundane and superficial in understanding. There's a lack of nuance in this dialogue, especially from her expert background. The other part of me is wondering if this is simply the level of maturation currently exhibited in dating scene? Honestly I was a bit disappointed due to the abundance of cliches and stereotypes vs. subtle, creative and solution-based insights like most of Andre's podcasts.
I completely agree! She doesn’t seem like she actually has a degree in psychology. I myself am and have been a therapist and have worked with couples and individuals for 20 years now. I’ve seen this guest on other peoples channels as well and every time she makes me cringe. There’s so much that she says that feels detrimental for society and for the audience to be taking in.
She has a Bsc in Psychology...
@@TheKittiShowshe isn’t a psychologist. She is a fraud and extremely abusive if her credentials are questioned. She will call you racist . She’s abused me and others
She dont have Kids her self! Do you think this is a part of it?
And openly admits to emotionally abusing her own husband by keeping score.
There were a lot of things that she said that didn’t add up and sounded like BS
Definitely not aligned with this particular show.
Amazing podcast, very insightful, thank you for making this content available to all!
You both are so insightful. I have learned so much from you so far and I hope to be able to experience more wisdom from your channel.
I totally agree about having children. I see that with my son. Being the only child caused a sense of selfishness in him. Having a child of his own opened his heart to think outside of himself. Life is no longer about you. There's another person who depends on you.
I like that she’s vulnerable and makes good points about what values people are rewarding. Nevertheless, her answers to certain basic questions about herself were very “basic” ( like how do you receive love) and show little self reflection, so that made me question her as a professional to seek advise from.
The comment about keeping score with her husband which is emotional manipulation, but here she is giving relationship advice. Go figure 🤷♀️ Definitely not someone I would seek out for relationship advice.
My oerception of what she is sharing may be off.
But her views on women having children seemed a bit conflicting in different scenarios.
Agreed, that whole idea of a woman not being complete/fulfilled without physically having a child was shockingly anachronistic.
@@maricelaelizondo2482doesn’t necessarily mean it’s wrong though? Newtons law of gravity still applies today right 😅
No one knows their full potential. Self actualization is rarely achieved throughout life, not to mention money has tilted everyones perspective. Her discredit of her own achievements is a moving of the finish line, she came, she saw, she achieved. Now she will move to the next and repeat. I would call it living in the void of infinite potentialities. There are no limits on these people but the ones they place on themself, every human is capable of the same.
André, you are such a good host and interviewer. Thank you for making these talks!
Am I the only one who gets the feeling that her opinions might not be complete truth? I want to know about the people who are connected to their hearts and devoted to God and living at a higher consciousness. It feels like she’s in a different reality.
I’m a therapist of 20 years and this guest gives a lot of red flags. Out of what she is sharing is not based in peer reviewed science. And a lot of what she says seems to be quite biased and sexist at that, seeming to cater to red pill men in an effort to get them as clients.
Ofc if it’s an opinion is just an opinion (not universal truth) and you can take it or leave it. I find it interesting that people are so put off when someone brings something different to their own confirmation biases that it’s just easier if they just discard it by calling it as a red flag or putting their own judgement.. I guess getting to know themselves (as Sadia was advocating for in this podcast) it’s just too much work.
We all have our own personal truths depending of our life experiences and adaptations in Society.
The truth of others ( or their realities )
It doesn't mean it has to be our reality .We take what serves us depending of our own perspectives and biases.
We all have biases!.. it is inevitable! We are Spirit, having a human experience !
She’s a grifter and not a psychologist but a school teacher. She caters to lonely men.
@@TheKittiShowHello fellow therapist..I concur
I disagreed with many of what she said. However, I liked what she said about determining if you will still like your partner at 20% worse
Wow this is not what I expected loved the conversation
Awesome advice & insight from this savvy woman:
'If you know you want children, have not yet found the 'right' partner to make those babies with, & it's getting 'late' (40yrs old+) - then settle on a partner who will at least make a great co-parent.'
(Paraphrased a little)
She is so real. Loved his ability to pull out all her gems but imagination and hope are strong with his outlook. Sorry but the house always wins and a gambler throwing all his chips with hope is not going to have a good day.
I agree on all points except the sexuality:
As a woman in upper 40s I can say women like myself can have very very strong drive up until any age! As long as they are with a man they are physically attracted to 😉
Men on the other hand might want same amount of sex but their ability is severely put down after forties and up in 50s most get nearly impotent or not able to have sex as before - why are you ignoring this fact?!
I’ve been disappointed on so many men this age. After 40 they get a crisis and try their last prowesses (enter younger girls, more porn etc) until they finally can’t preform mostly after 50s and later. Severely impaired sexuality for men there. Where as women can handle it still, specially with some hormone therapy around menopause and after 🎉
Amazing conversation 👏👏👏👏
Very helpful, salute from Holland! ❤😊
Sadia you are so cool!! Love the realness and transparency.
Thank you Sadia 🫶🫶🙏🏻 Thanks to the host. I love to understand the human psychology , it is so liberating , it is so useful to create better relationships and, hopefully , a better society!
What about Worshiping God & Jesus together instead of Worshiping eachother 🤷♀️
Why? Why worship something from a book or the past?
I can respect that if that is your personal belief system. If it isn't then that is not a fit for people who have different value systems. You have to do what is best for your relationship and even then in either case, you cannot escape working on yourself.
The context behind why she used the word “worship” there matters. She just means you should adore one another as opposed to, per se, settling for someone you’re not attracted to or who doesn’t treat you well.
I like this comment 😅
With all of the respect..Jesus is God. The trinity: God the father, the son, the holy spirit.
It seems that when a person doesn’t have something in their life, they overly focus on getting that and think it will solve everything- e.g., if a man is not getting sex, he will become obsessed with getting it, often rushing into physical intimacy, when the real underlying desire is for genuine EMOTIONAL connection, which takes time to build. As a result, too many men find themselves having unsatisfying one-night stands, feeling empty, restless and resentful. It doesn’t help that men are often more fixated on external appearance, and as Sadia says, often setting themselves up for disappointment and bitter resentment. Meanwhile, women need to learn their own value and set appropriate boundaries around physical intimacy. (Note: many women also rush too quickly and prematurely into physical intimacy that lacks the depth and authenticity of genuine emotional intimacy, leaving them feeling empty and lonely.)
Same here Sadia, I think the same, if i can do it it is “easy” 😅❤ lots of love ❤
Society is so messed-up.....people should just look inside and develop their energy / vibes - manifest!
Sadia is great ❤
Instant gratification rather than patience that’s built in gyms, wars, construction sites,hospitals. Reality and individual perspective is day and night in 2024.Neil Young said for the homeless I am Satan , I don’t feel that way .
Attention on us while there’s genocide in the world , if u were born in Palestine would that be a crime ?
Moderation in thoughts acts and deeds.
Ms Sadia is sound .
Parenthood over wonderlust and urges. Basic insticts are for basic people, the rest you have a heart .
Experience from dudes that have been there and done that, look out for them , listen and try and learn.
Otherwise torcher yourself for another 30 years 🎉
Buena suerte
Love her!
It’s not hard-watch their behaviors, and walk away if your needs aren’t being met, that’s setting healthy boundaries.
Andre, your insight, compassion and level of vibration attracts higher and higher and higher level of podcast guests.
I ain’t gonna lie she had me in the first half until she started talking about children then she lost all my attention
She saids that she’s not into the notoriety but she still wearing her Chanel earrings 😂
It's easy for people to give advice when a person is comfortable with their lifestyle. People don't notice that fact you pointed out. I didn't! She makes good points though.