This is such an important talk! But I feel so sad with all the pain I could hear in your voice. It’s such a difficult subject and I can’t imagine what it was to go through all this. It’s beautiful that you are using your experience to help others.
I am currently studying to become a therapist, focused mainly on relationship trauma and problems within internal family systems. As a member of the LGBTIQ+ community I would love to work with family groups who have trans members, both with those transitioning and the children, spouse, (other relations) experiencing their loved one’s transition. It’s so important to create resources and affordable healing. Thank you for this talk, it was beautifully done and incredibly motivating
I am glad, people need to provide support for children no matter what the upheaval is in their lives. For me it was an able-bodied father becoming severely disabled when I was twelve. There was nobody to help me as all attention was focussed on my father.
Thank you for this, as a trans-parent I deal with a lot of quilt for not being a cis-gender parent for my children. I love them and I wish I could have fought against being trans forever, but I couldn´t, all i can hope for that they will be able to forgive me and accept me as I will always accept them and love them no matter what.
You can be absurd about this situation all you want. It's not going to help. You're not accomplishing anything by pretending it's a problem. The problem is your self-loathing. Who needs enemies with an attitude like yours?
I think you missed the main point, You are not wrong for being trans, but your children need help to deal with a rather unexpected change. They may be angry but that does not mean you need to be forgiven. The whole family is moving along a path to acceptance and you children need support. this talk gives directions as to where that support can be found.
as a closeted FTM and a parent of two young kids under the age of 10(5 and 7), i am still trying to struggle with trying to be the mom everyone is expecting me to be. but this struggle has given me a now 16 year long deep depression due to me lying to myself and hiding how i really feel. it is extremely toxic.. i just do not know how to let this out and become happy.
talk to a counselor. Also if a kid turns out to be trans then I guess you can transition with them until then see if you can reduce dysphoria. Cut your hair, present more masc, and pack/bind (safely) if that helps. Gender is not something you can cure, so you have to find a way to be comfortable in yourself while making sure your kids are fine too
This talk was POWERFUL. I commend the speaker on her outstanding ability to persevere in the face of a life time of adversity. Wonderful video. Profoundly, life-changing information that must be shared.
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!! This talk is very insightful and I'm so glad that you're drawing attention the KIDS of transparents. We transition too.
I think you gave a wonderful and helpful talk. I am older FTM (older coming out too). I do not have children, but if I had, then I believe I would be very appreciative that there are resources becoming available, such as the spreading of your talk, so that there is more and more compassion and understanding. Education, enlightenment, whatever we want to call it, is a gift to everyone. I believe that most of the negativity towards trans issues is just a lack of knowledge. I think it would be naive of me to believe there is no close-minded hatred out there as well, but I try not to give much attention to that. Thank you so much for this talk as a major step forward for society. I just know it is helping kids of trans parents. Congratulations on your personal success. I believe you will continue to be a light to others in your personal and professional journey.
Hello kids of trans, I have a question. Would it have been easier growing up, if you'd always know your parent to be trans? If they transitioned when you were a baby and always told you with simple words and pictures of the timeline.
My parent transitioned when I was 7 and trans was explained very basically to me at that age. I think it may have still given me trauma, as my mother didn't react to well to my dad becoming a girl. I would say that maybe being younger is better to learn, but I think there is a point of being too young, as a child of a trans parent may not fully understand until the child is older anyway, even with simple explanations, like the ones given to me. I also think telling a child way later can have an impact, maybe even to a higher degree, but the child might be able to process and understand a but better. Overall, I really think it depends on the family and exact situation and exact timeframe of which the parent transitions.
jade it’s fine, I’ve gotten over it, learned to accept it, and live with it, since that early start into what LGBTQIA+ meant gave me the chance to figure out that I was a trans masc genderfluid enby by age 13 or 14, so it’s not all bad
Trans people have done a lot of soul searching and contemplating before deciding to transition. They are doing what is best for them, not what is more comfortable for you. Society needs to accept people as they are.
Kids of trans-parents are not unfortunate. They face a different challenge than other kids do, but kids all over the world face challenges. These challenges have a significant influence on who that kid grow up to be (good or bad). No parent is perfect. Even presumed perfect parents can raise children with challenges.
This is such an important talk!
But I feel so sad with all the pain I could hear in your voice.
It’s such a difficult subject and I can’t imagine what it was to go through all this.
It’s beautiful that you are using your experience to help others.
I am currently studying to become a therapist, focused mainly on relationship trauma and problems within internal family systems. As a member of the LGBTIQ+ community I would love to work with family groups who have trans members, both with those transitioning and the children, spouse, (other relations) experiencing their loved one’s transition. It’s so important to create resources and affordable healing. Thank you for this talk, it was beautifully done and incredibly motivating
Best of luck to you on your career path; you are needed.
I am ftm my kids ages are 12,10 and 8 this here has opened my eyes .
I am glad, people need to provide support for children no matter what the upheaval is in their lives. For me it was an able-bodied father becoming severely disabled when I was twelve. There was nobody to help me as all attention was focussed on my father.
Thank you for this, as a trans-parent I deal with a lot of quilt for not being a cis-gender parent for my children. I love them and I wish I could have fought against being trans forever, but I couldn´t, all i can hope for that they will be able to forgive me and accept me as I will always accept them and love them no matter what.
You can be absurd about this situation all you want. It's not going to help. You're not accomplishing anything by pretending it's a problem. The problem is your self-loathing. Who needs enemies with an attitude like yours?
My best wishes to you. Maybe is going to take time but your children are going to come along with your real self at the end.
I think you missed the main point, You are not wrong for being trans, but your children need help to deal with a rather unexpected change. They may be angry but that does not mean you need to be forgiven. The whole family is moving along a path to acceptance and you children need support. this talk gives directions as to where that support can be found.
as a closeted FTM and a parent of two young kids under the age of 10(5 and 7), i am still trying to struggle with trying to be the mom everyone is expecting me to be. but this struggle has given me a now 16 year long deep depression due to me lying to myself and hiding how i really feel. it is extremely toxic.. i just do not know how to let this out and become happy.
get help?
talk to a counselor. Also if a kid turns out to be trans then I guess you can transition with them
until then see if you can reduce dysphoria. Cut your hair, present more masc, and pack/bind (safely) if that helps.
Gender is not something you can cure, so you have to find a way to be comfortable in yourself while making sure your kids are fine too
Thanks for the talk as a senior trans. So far I have support from all.
AnOpenThought ✌️
This talk was POWERFUL. I commend the speaker on her outstanding ability to persevere in the face of a life time of adversity. Wonderful video. Profoundly, life-changing information that must be shared.
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!! This talk is very insightful and I'm so glad that you're drawing attention the KIDS of transparents. We transition too.
I honour you... What this talk has is an indication that the resources needed are growing and available... thank you
Did anyone else notice that she’s wearing no shoes?
is it important she is not wearing shoes? She talks very well, and it is very important talk...
@@rahelcelabehar1337 It wouldn't hurt to dress for the occasion.
Rahel Cela Behar certainly doesnt help just seems odd and uncommon
She's more comfortable barefoot. I know her personally.
I don’t think that matters
I am so much hoping to see this talk with finished transcription and translations. It is really worth spreading.
I think you gave a wonderful and helpful talk. I am older FTM (older coming out too). I do not have children, but if I had, then I believe I would be very appreciative that there are resources becoming available, such as the spreading of your talk, so that there is more and more compassion and understanding. Education, enlightenment, whatever we want to call it, is a gift to everyone. I believe that most of the negativity towards trans issues is just a lack of knowledge. I think it would be naive of me to believe there is no close-minded hatred out there as well, but I try not to give much attention to that. Thank you so much for this talk as a major step forward for society. I just know it is helping kids of trans parents. Congratulations on your personal success. I believe you will continue to be a light to others in your personal and professional journey.
Thank you for this great talk!
Hello kids of trans, I have a question. Would it have been easier growing up, if you'd always know your parent to be trans? If they transitioned when you were a baby and always told you with simple words and pictures of the timeline.
Trans people*
Jaden Mars I just meant to give the kot term but thank you for your elaborate response very useful.
I think it very much depends on each family. @@alystairmabloch401
My parent transitioned when I was 7 and trans was explained very basically to me at that age. I think it may have still given me trauma, as my mother didn't react to well to my dad becoming a girl. I would say that maybe being younger is better to learn, but I think there is a point of being too young, as a child of a trans parent may not fully understand until the child is older anyway, even with simple explanations, like the ones given to me. I also think telling a child way later can have an impact, maybe even to a higher degree, but the child might be able to process and understand a but better. Overall, I really think it depends on the family and exact situation and exact timeframe of which the parent transitions.
jade it’s fine, I’ve gotten over it, learned to accept it, and live with it, since that early start into what LGBTQIA+ meant gave me the chance to figure out that I was a trans masc genderfluid enby by age 13 or 14, so it’s not all bad
Awesome talk.
Grandmarty is such a cute thing to call someone.
Thank you! This is incredibly important.
"Grand marty" that just makes me laugh for some reason, like he is not just a marty, he is the GRAND marty.
Brilliant video.
Your a great woman
AWESOME
My something happened to my phone I could not complete please erase and I will start over
At least you have a mummy.
I believe that people are born that way what I don't understand is how some people they can say that they love God and Proclaim to be Christians
i don't know if they're born that way, but it sure isn't a choice.
If your mind, soul and body don't align why not change you mind or soul instead of a lifetime injection of hormones and painful expensive surgeries???
Very true
Try changing your soul, i challange you.
I know my self if it was possible most people would do it
Trans people have done a lot of soul searching and contemplating before deciding to transition. They are doing what is best for them, not what is more comfortable for you. Society needs to accept people as they are.
because the mind and soul can't be changed
I'd be like and saying the proper pronouns : BOIIII WHAT DO YOU MEAN BROTHER
imagine this lehsbian is your mother
is that supposed to be an insult?
You have a mommy with a huge-joystick! dont be surprised lol
Kids of trans-parents are soooo unfortunate...Western civilization in decline.
No also why are you here?
Kids of trans-parents are not unfortunate. They face a different challenge than other kids do, but kids all over the world face challenges. These challenges have a significant influence on who that kid grow up to be (good or bad). No parent is perfect. Even presumed perfect parents can raise children with challenges.
homie, you're insane
@Amused Outsider you know Mukhannathun are a thing?
"Marti" sounds like the typical trans narcissist.