Thank you for defining what a toxic relationship IS, and for advising people to hold themselves accountable for allowing it to happen. That's so important! Equally important, however, was a part of accountability that wasn't mentioned and that's the fact that it takes two to tango. 100% of toxic relationships are forever an always toxic RELATIONSHIPS. Both parties contributed. So it's not okay to judge the other person, blame the other person, an it's pretty uncool to label that person as being toxic. Additionally uncool and likewise narcissistic is brandishing anyone forever; it's not as easy, but it is critically important for both parties to work on them SELVES independently (so that everyone can grow from the experience) if they choose, and while I would never suggest forgiving a person who has sub/consciously committed harm to anyone, I will say that if that person goes off and faces their private dilemma, then returns and humbly apologizes (depending upon the offense), we each have the opportunity to be virtuous, to be kind and to be vulnerable in a strong way by forgiving them.
that's totally possible... sadly, not because it's family means is "normal" or you should tolerate it... we like to think of family as alway reliable and always looking out for us... but they can severely damage your self-esteem and distort the way you handle yourself in other relationships
strangely i suddenly think that my best friend is toxic... She is that boss typ of girl, always planing and wanting to achieve everything SHE wants. I have noticed, that all the time (even when she is a bit cooperative) we do the things that she wants and everybody just follows. For example, I was suggesting an event and nobody had a problem. Than she comes, has a problem and BOOM. Everyone is on her side... Some time ago i told her that things cant always go like she wants them to be and that she has to respect her friends and their freedom and not always be jealous or mad at someone, if they dont want to do certain stuff or just want to hang out with other friends. She totaly lost it on me, because she was just not used to someone telling her to stop. Logic and facts are no big deal nowadays anyway. We lost two good friends because of her not understanding that and she constantly brings in new people, whom we dont even like. And then we have to try to be friends with them just because of her. She has that special idea of a friendgroup, which is just not logical, considering each and every persons life in our friendzone. Talking to her doesn't change anything. I just have to take some distance to her until she gets it...
I had 2 different toxic friends. Here is what they did. Toxic friend one: •Made fun of what I like •was plain mean •attempted to make me and a male friend date, even though him and I both weren't comfortable with dating in 5th grade •broke my only pair of headphones for school •told people me and my friend we're dating Toxic friend 2: •Mocked me •was mean and would NEVER apologize •was VERY rude to me and my other friend •caused lots of drama •tried to spread a lie that I was dating my friend’s crush. Why do these both involve spreading lies about dating? •lied I left the first friend after being super mean to my friend on her birthday. I am trying to leave the other one. I also had a friend who asked me to come back over to her home every weekend. I felt miserable at her house. I kept going because she guilted me into going every time! She was also a ”visko girl” she liked to have her other friends over while I was there. Both times they forgot about me and would only make tic toks and talk about visko girl stuff.
Now I’m DEFINITELY sure my friends in a toxic relationship. She’s oblivious like all people are when they are used or in a toxic relationship. I’m going to try help, convince her that her friend isn’t actually her REAL. FRIEND. I hope it goes well and she gets the happiness she deserves 💕
thinking back on it, i feel like every romantic relationship i've been in has been toxic, but i never recognize it until after the relationship has ended. the guy i'm currently in love with is absolutely making a doormat out of me but i dont know how to 'punish' him or to extricate myself-- i'm way to in love. it makes me miserable, actually. in fact, i dont know what healthy love is. the only kind of love i've ever known is to desperately need that person at all times...how do i stop this in myself?
I'd try looking for love & partnerships from different kinds of people than you've had the tendency to be initially attracted towards. The types of people you've been ending up going in head over heels may not be what you are really want for a longer term / meaningful / mutual relationship. I see so many people -both men and women- fall into this trap all the time.
everybody needs to understand each over needs and to know if you are in a toxic relationships to know and trust family and true friends who will help you get through this. :)
For me my friendship with someone has been good, until recently. She has become more popular, and I'm okay with that, we don't even go to the same school. But now, ever sense the popularity, she only talks about herself and her problems, but if I say anything, she doesn't help me, but changes the situation to her life. She also sometimes puts me down, like I one time jokingly said I'm ugly, and now she calls me ugly sometimes, like if I say in a story about a guy might like me, I will say "Idk why he likes me, I'm ugly" Then she'll say that I'm ugly, but I don't get to mad for that, as she might just be quoting me when I say that stuff, but it still hurts a little. Also, we just have grown apart quite a bit over the last 7 years. But, she also helps me sometimes, so idk what to do
so I have a problem. I used to be friends with someone, but now they have changed and we both have found new people to hang out ith. Suddenly this person says that this other person replaced me and finally I won the argument because my former friend said I was right. The point is, I don't know what to do now. Should I cut that person out of my life totally? And if I do, how? Because I want to dound badass. I came up with: Look, you didn't "dump" me. I noticed you had changed, into a person I don't want in my life. If your narcissistic childish brain doesn't get that, I understand. This person is a bad person now and this isn't the first trick he has pulled on me. I want this person removed from my life, but I don't mind being friends with the person whom I used to be friends with. Do you get me? Can anyone help?
I usually love these videos...... But.....DUDE, STOP SAYING SELFIE #1 SELFIE#2 SELFIE SELFIE SELFIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! STOP IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ARRRRRRRGAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
what if a toxic friendship is the only love you have in your life? what if this person is only toxic to you because for a long time you were toxic to them? toxic relationships are not as simple as they put...
Okay, here's a great outburst of someone in need of a psychologist: I've researched some sites before, but now watching this video I can be sure that yes, my best friend is not as "good" with me as I thought. My family and my others friends - who are also her friends - have already said that to me, but we have been friends for so long that I pretended not to know what they were talking about. We are both very similar at various points and I felt we would be friends until we had our own families. But if I tell her "I don't wanna be your friend anymore" it's going to be ... strange, even more so that I'm still in school (I'd have to see her every day) and because I've done it once and I apologized to her after a few days (when in fact she was the wrong one). Anyway, it was very bizarre. In the end, we're still friends. Well, I really don't know what to do. She thinks she can handle it in my life and worse: she said in my face that "she sent me and wanted me to just obey her." And it took FOUR YEARS for me to realize that hey, this isn't right. Besides she says personal things - that I only tell her - to classmates and that really embarrasses me on an abnormal level - in fact anybody else would feel that way. I just know that I'm so deep in this "friendship" that I don't know how to leave :/
Do a video on loving yourself. I don't feel like I can. I'm tired of crying myself to sleep wishing I could just be someone else for a change. I just wanna be able to wake with a smile and say "I'm happy to be alive." It's even harder to try to hide my feelings to keep those that I care about from worrying about me. Please help me.
Im the one who is toxic right now, i apologized and confessed what i truly feels and think but, i actually dropped bomb on him without realizing it at first. Now, i feel sad, awkward and idk what should i do. Im just stupid.
I had a friend like that and now we are like ok with each other, we altered the relationship to a better one, after months of me having to deal with their neediness and the toxic relations with them. We're still fine now.
That didn't really describe how to end it but rather how to tell if you are in one. Now, telling someone to fuck off it how you end it. It worked wonders for me. Seriously.
i want to be with this person for the rest of my life relationship wise and we have been best friends for years but this person doesnt want a relationship
I knew a friend for 13 years. He was always shy and kind and trustworthy. By the 13th year we went to two different colleges. He became a business major and I went into the sciences. The signs were showing ever since high school. He used to be very timid and I always seemed to initiate the conversation. He become really arrogant at the transition from high-school to college. And pardon my 'french,' but rather 'douchey.' He would say things to me like, "What math class are you taking?" I would reply," Calculus AB." He would say, "Ha! I'm taking Calculus BC!" But happened more often over time. I ended it pretty much. It's odd... Some people, after getting to know them for so long, all of a sudden, as if 'over-night' turn a 180 in their personality. The kind, gentle person I once knew is now a completely different person. Good riddance.
This is especialy helpful information for a certain little pony with yellow coat and pink mane (who does Rainbow Dash think she is traiding Fluttershy for a book).
But what if they only want to change one thing about you, and the rest is all fine. They're only pricks when it comes to one thing that you care about. It's not exactly toxic....but it's not good....what then??
thank you for making this video. i've known that my brother is a toxic person to be around for years (he's extremely bigoted and can be physically violent, sometimes.). however, this week has been kind of a breaking point, and i think i'm gonna take this advice to cut him off and surround myself with my chosen family. i was looking for advice on how to recognize and remove yourself from toxic relationships, and throughout the years this channel has always been my go to when i'm struggling. this was an amazing project, and i hope everyone on the team knows it's still making a positive impact today. thank you so much.
TIP: Never ask mutual friends with the toxic person thier op on them, no wrong can be done infront of a friend unless it's towards THEMSELF. P.S If somone doesnt cosistently enjoy and value u ditch em' u dont need em
Dear Wellcast, im would not right this if I didnt need help what do i do if I HAVE 3 GIRLS FIGHTING OVER ME i not a person to stand up I had the same prolem last year but the olnly difference was i had double the friends i have now but i kinda there like an extra and not really included how can ileave my friends and start fresh P.S im a 6th grader
Exactly - and that's why marriage and divorce courts have to be re-balanced (!) because divorce normally hurts men more (financially speaking) and marriage doesn't have any realy advantages (except tax breaks) anymore (at least if you don't want children - everything else can be handled by a good lawyer as well, like having a health care proxy (note: It wouldn't be a girlfriend for me, but a long time friend - girlfriends come and go, but true friends stay forever normally!))...hell, this is one of the reasons I will never get married (among other things, like the fact that marriage was NEVER meant for love - we just adapted it - it was for political bargaining and to merge assets and end feuds between families etc. etc.)...then again: In my mind a relationship of equals can only work if both keep their own household (so nobody has to compromise on how they want the place they live at to look like - from the decorations to how clean the place is kept (I mean a neat freak and a slob are the worst example but even if you only slightly differ on how clean your space should be it's not worth the energy fighting about it!)), pay their own bills (putting everything in a joint account is unfair to the one making more money - why should he or she pay more? It's not like that person forced the other person to take up a job that makes less money, did they?) etc. etc. Essentially: Living apart together (I mean look at history: The rich almost always lived like that (!) - nobles had either different castles (one for each partner in the marriage) or at least different spaces (like very very large appartments!) in the same place! They often even had seperate entrances and their own household staff!)...this "we got to live together" thing is fairly recent (among the rich at least)! It's not like most people couldn't afford their own place!) ps: In this situation there's not fighting about furniture ("I don't like this sofa - you will not buy it!") and there will be no "man-cave" (which is what often happens: Men get very little space for themselves in a shared house! They get - at best - their office (if they need one!), a single room for their stuff (often in the cellar or attic!) and maybe the garage! While women take over the rest of the house (am I biased? Maybe, but that's how my parents live - my dad has a small office, a small table in the living-room and a small space in a closet nearby...and one of three spaces in their large wardrobe (she's got the other two!) - that's it! My stepmother has the rest of the house (and most of the adjacent building (an older house they bought in order to store stuff and re-build)...fair? Nope, but my dad is so whipped that he hates fighting her! "It's not worth fighting over it" is what he always says about almost everything (there's some things where he puts his foot down, but only a few!))
I don't even know if I am so I need to think... my boyfriend always tells me to do stuff cause I am a nice person and all that but anytime I want him to do something he refuses.. he's turning into my other friend and its really bugging me... I also know that I like him more than he likes me anyway so our relatoinship is already weird... we never talk about our relationship in person only on like gmail or something... don't even know D:
Can someone help me? Every time I do something that is cool for myself, my friend always copies me! She always texts me and asks me if I can video chat all the time! When I made a radio station for me, her, and another friend to use, they never took it seriously and just made broadcasts whenever they felt like it and even though I created the station winged the broadcast (they had the subjects but didn't write down a script of what they were going to say) and I had to leave it and become a website created for the station. Then when I decided to go on the station, she asked if I was taking their station. Please help me decide if I should still be friends with her and if so how to stop being friends!
I have a girl friend that I love very much but I feel like we have a toxic relationship we used to have a great relationship and we would talk and love each other. Now we don't talk much and she is always busy and I feel like I am being held down she loves me and I love her but we make each other unhappy and we don't know what to do. we are probably going to break up for good but still be friends. Lately I have tried to be around friends and family that love me and she gets jealous or mad or sad that I don't talk to her its not that I don't want to talk to her its just I don't want to hurt her or feel like I am held down anymore. We would fight sometimes and we hate fighting because we love one another so much can anyone give me advise of how to fix are relationship so we can at least be good friends?
I have a friendship that is not toxic but I don’t necessarily want to be in, I just entered high school and this person is the only friend I have, we play games together but only what he wants, but if I leave the game I just feel really bad and enter the game again. I met this really nice person that I want to be friends with but I don’t want to make this person feel bad even though I’m not sure about it. I have no idea what to do, Help Please
I cant though..... They will just get all their friends to gang up on me and not play with them >~< I just cant get out of this mess I managed to get myself into... I just feel depressed all the time
I did this and all he does would be either to a: ignore it and won't leave me alone or b: hang out with me and then go "oh yah I'm not your friend" how is this still happening? He's old enough. Also he's the loneliest kid here so it makes you feel bad
My friend is being really social and loud and pretty much is always showing off should I tell them there making me feel bad and making me feel left out all the time
my "friend" lives next door and we go to school together every day but she is a bit obsessed with me she gets mad at me when I have family over and I can't hang out is that toxic?
I live in a hick town with no car. Have been for a long time. There's nothing to be done about it. What's more, I was fired from my job last July and its been hard for me to deal with that and its been hard for me to lad a jo, even when I land interviews. The house I live in is a decaying wasteland, a sort of Pit of Wrath, so to speak. The animals that share space in the house don't make things any better....but the worse thing about it is, it isn't my house. It's my mom. My self-loathing, arrogant, over-sensitive mom, who is difficult to talk to about important subjects. and when I do muster up the courage to bring something up, she just yells at me. Three days ago, we got in an argument and she shouted at me, in front of her friends, stating that I am crazy and I always have been. That is when it clicked. I remember why I even hated her guts, when I was in high school, and I began to question why I decided to forgive her, and accept her. She is destroying herself with her own problems, and it's affecting me too. I can't escape it. I have no car, no job, no money, no one to turn to who will trust me. I'm trapped. You're advice can't help me.
MrARKY89 well u have to have friends Mabey they can help and Mabey try talking to the police about this or see a doctor you can also look up how to get a temporary job work a Starbucks I hear they pay well-ish
U should play the solar system.How u play is that ur the sun and the person that is bothering u is Pluto so they have to stand alllllllllll the way over there so they don't bother u.Works every time 😄😄. Ur welcome, Celloin Strings
this one girl I know always sucks in her stomach (I know she sucks it in because her ribs are raised and her stomach is completely reduced in size) when she lays down, and she tries to do splits right in front of all the boys I like to out do me. I want to stop being friends with her but I mean, I don't know what do do...
Severing a toxic relationship is like tearing off a leech, it hurts at first, but its way better for you long-term.
But the relationship will still be with you like the leech
Saeed Perez Sure, if you fall back into the bad habits.
But doesn't that turn to a scar that make you feel super useless
is she saying "selfie (1,2,3,4,5,6)" instead of step or am I the only one who heard that
Yeah, lol.. thought it was just me
I just realized that
did you say selfie or step?
Yeah she said selfie
Is it just me or did she say selfie instead of step?
i would say i'm in a toxic relationship with my parents then (if that's possible)
I am too, with my mother
I love no bullshit xxx like u name
WAIT! Why are you saying 'selfie' instead of 'step'? I'm so confused
I just ended toxic relationship with my ex-friends......
Tsu Tsu me to
I just ended 3 separate toxic friendships.
Good for you.
Thank you for defining what a toxic relationship IS, and for advising people to hold themselves accountable for allowing it to happen. That's so important! Equally important, however, was a part of accountability that wasn't mentioned and that's the fact that it takes two to tango. 100% of toxic relationships are forever an always toxic RELATIONSHIPS. Both parties contributed. So it's not okay to judge the other person, blame the other person, an it's pretty uncool to label that person as being toxic. Additionally uncool and likewise narcissistic is brandishing anyone forever; it's not as easy, but it is critically important for both parties to work on them SELVES independently (so that everyone can grow from the experience) if they choose, and while I would never suggest forgiving a person who has sub/consciously committed harm to anyone, I will say that if that person goes off and faces their private dilemma, then returns and humbly apologizes (depending upon the offense), we each have the opportunity to be virtuous, to be kind and to be vulnerable in a strong way by forgiving them.
So does this mean I'm in a toxic relationship with my mom...
Aren't we all?
Lol we all are!
Judith Chukwueloka LOL
Jessica Lee MEEEE
that's totally possible... sadly, not because it's family means is "normal" or you should tolerate it... we like to think of family as alway reliable and always looking out for us... but they can severely damage your self-esteem and distort the way you handle yourself in other relationships
strangely i suddenly think that my best friend is toxic... She is that boss typ of girl, always planing and wanting to achieve everything SHE wants. I have noticed, that all the time (even when she is a bit cooperative) we do the things that she wants and everybody just follows. For example, I was suggesting an event and nobody had a problem. Than she comes, has a problem and BOOM. Everyone is on her side... Some time ago i told her that things cant always go like she wants them to be and that she has to respect her friends and their freedom and not always be jealous or mad at someone, if they dont want to do certain stuff or just want to hang out with other friends. She totaly lost it on me, because she was just not used to someone telling her to stop. Logic and facts are no big deal nowadays anyway. We lost two good friends because of her not understanding that and she constantly brings in new people, whom we dont even like. And then we have to try to be friends with them just because of her. She has that special idea of a friendgroup, which is just not logical, considering each and every persons life in our friendzone. Talking to her doesn't change anything. I just have to take some distance to her until she gets it...
I had 2 different toxic friends. Here is what they did.
Toxic friend one:
•Made fun of what I like
•was plain mean
•attempted to make me and a male friend date, even though him and I both weren't comfortable with dating in 5th grade
•broke my only pair of headphones for school
•told people me and my friend we're dating
Toxic friend 2:
•Mocked me
•was mean and would NEVER apologize
•was VERY rude to me and my other friend
•caused lots of drama
•tried to spread a lie that I was dating my friend’s crush. Why do these both involve spreading lies about dating?
•lied
I left the first friend after being super mean to my friend on her birthday. I am trying to leave the other one. I also had a friend who asked me to come back over to her home every weekend. I felt miserable at her house. I kept going because she guilted me into going every time! She was also a ”visko girl” she liked to have her other friends over while I was there. Both times they forgot about me and would only make tic toks and talk about visko girl stuff.
Now I’m DEFINITELY sure my friends in a toxic relationship. She’s oblivious like all people are when they are used or in a toxic relationship. I’m going to try help, convince her that her friend isn’t actually her REAL. FRIEND. I hope it goes well and she gets the happiness she deserves 💕
thinking back on it, i feel like every romantic relationship i've been in has been toxic, but i never recognize it until after the relationship has ended. the guy i'm currently in love with is absolutely making a doormat out of me but i dont know how to 'punish' him or to extricate myself-- i'm way to in love. it makes me miserable, actually. in fact, i dont know what healthy love is. the only kind of love i've ever known is to desperately need that person at all times...how do i stop this in myself?
I guess u can find someone to fill him
I'd try looking for love & partnerships from different kinds of people than you've had the tendency to be initially attracted towards. The types of people you've been ending up going in head over heels may not be what you are really want for a longer term / meaningful / mutual relationship. I see so many people -both men and women- fall into this trap all the time.
everybody needs to understand each over needs and to know if you are in a toxic relationships to know and trust family and true friends who will help you get through this. :)
For me my friendship with someone has been good, until recently. She has become more popular, and I'm okay with that, we don't even go to the same school. But now, ever sense the popularity, she only talks about herself and her problems, but if I say anything, she doesn't help me, but changes the situation to her life. She also sometimes puts me down, like I one time jokingly said I'm ugly, and now she calls me ugly sometimes, like if I say in a story about a guy might like me, I will say "Idk why he likes me, I'm ugly" Then she'll say that I'm ugly, but I don't get to mad for that, as she might just be quoting me when I say that stuff, but it still hurts a little. Also, we just have grown apart quite a bit over the last 7 years. But, she also helps me sometimes, so idk what to do
so I have a problem. I used to be friends with someone, but now they have changed and we both have found new people to hang out ith. Suddenly this person says that this other person replaced me and finally I won the argument because my former friend said I was right. The point is, I don't know what to do now. Should I cut that person out of my life totally? And if I do, how? Because I want to dound badass. I came up with: Look, you didn't "dump" me. I noticed you had changed, into a person I don't want in my life. If your narcissistic childish brain doesn't get that, I understand. This person is a bad person now and this isn't the first trick he has pulled on me. I want this person removed from my life, but I don't mind being friends with the person whom I used to be friends with. Do you get me? Can anyone help?
I usually love these videos...... But.....DUDE, STOP SAYING SELFIE #1 SELFIE#2 SELFIE SELFIE SELFIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! STOP IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ARRRRRRRGAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
what if a toxic friendship is the only love you have in your life? what if this person is only toxic to you because for a long time you were toxic to them? toxic relationships are not as simple as they put...
Lol, why did she keep saying 'selfie' instead of 'step'? Anyway, this is a great video 😂❤️☑️💙
Okay, here's a great outburst of someone in need of a psychologist: I've researched some sites before, but now watching this video I can be sure that yes, my best friend is not as "good" with me as I thought. My family and my others friends - who are also her friends - have already said that to me, but we have been friends for so long that I pretended not to know what they were talking about. We are both very similar at various points and I felt we would be friends until we had our own families. But if I tell her "I don't wanna be your friend anymore" it's going to be ... strange, even more so that I'm still in school (I'd have to see her every day) and because I've done it once and I apologized to her after a few days (when in fact she was the wrong one). Anyway, it was very bizarre. In the end, we're still friends. Well, I really don't know what to do. She thinks she can handle it in my life and worse: she said in my face that "she sent me and wanted me to just obey her." And it took FOUR YEARS for me to realize that hey, this isn't right. Besides she says personal things -
that I only tell her - to classmates and that really embarrasses me on an abnormal level - in fact anybody else would feel that way. I just know that I'm so deep in this "friendship" that I don't know how to leave :/
Do a video on loving yourself. I don't feel like I can. I'm tired of crying myself to sleep wishing I could just be someone else for a change. I just wanna be able to wake with a smile and say "I'm happy to be alive." It's even harder to try to hide my feelings to keep those that I care about from worrying about me. Please help me.
MAW GAWD IM IN A TOXIC RELATION SHIP WITH MY BEST FREIND'
Jude Thompson same...well he was my best friend he betrayed me
Jude Thompson i was too untill i left until i realise she was a jerk and was takeing advantage of me.
Selfie ??
Im the one who is toxic right now, i apologized and confessed what i truly feels and think but, i actually dropped bomb on him without realizing it at first. Now, i feel sad, awkward and idk what should i do. Im just stupid.
I had a friend like that and now we are like ok with each other, we altered the relationship to a better one, after months of me having to deal with their neediness and the toxic relations with them. We're still fine now.
That didn't really describe how to end it but rather how to tell if you are in one. Now, telling someone to fuck off it how you end it. It worked wonders for me. Seriously.
Why selfie ?
*Im a student and she cries when I leave her and she tells the teacher! Please help me! **#StuckOnBadRelationshipWithFriendGirl*
I am writing a novel about toxic relationship and this actually helps.
Vivilota V. Best of luck
+AidenLikesPancakes //// Artism11 Thanks.
+Vigilante L Cool. What is it about?
Venus is it done yet.
Very intresting, found out alot about myself.
Am I the only one who noticed she said "selfie" instead of step...? xD
I know I was wondering about that too x)
Heh.
What can we do to help someone who's toxic without hurting each other?
i want to be with this person for the rest of my life relationship wise and we have been best friends for years but this person doesnt want a relationship
I knew a friend for 13 years. He was always shy and kind and trustworthy. By the 13th year we went to two different colleges. He became a business major and I went into the sciences. The signs were showing ever since high school. He used to be very timid and I always seemed to initiate the conversation. He become really arrogant at the transition from high-school to college. And pardon my 'french,' but rather 'douchey.' He would say things to me like, "What math class are you taking?" I would reply," Calculus AB." He would say, "Ha! I'm taking Calculus BC!" But happened more often over time.
I ended it pretty much.
It's odd... Some people, after getting to know them for so long, all of a sudden, as if 'over-night' turn a 180 in their personality. The kind, gentle person I once knew is now a completely different person. Good riddance.
Anyone else noticed she said selfie instead of steps
Yeah I thought it was just me at first
This is especialy helpful information for a certain little pony with yellow coat and pink mane (who does Rainbow Dash think she is traiding Fluttershy for a book).
She said selfie 1,2 and 3
Thanks for the tip! I was scared to stop being a doormat because I thought that they will talk about me.. I'm gonna try doing this tomorrow. ^_^
But what if they only want to change one thing about you, and the rest is all fine. They're only pricks when it comes to one thing that you care about. It's not exactly toxic....but it's not good....what then??
thank you for making this video. i've known that my brother is a toxic person to be around for years (he's extremely bigoted and can be physically violent, sometimes.). however, this week has been kind of a breaking point, and i think i'm gonna take this advice to cut him off and surround myself with my chosen family.
i was looking for advice on how to recognize and remove yourself from toxic relationships, and throughout the years this channel has always been my go to when i'm struggling. this was an amazing project, and i hope everyone on the team knows it's still making a positive impact today. thank you so much.
TIP: Never ask mutual friends with the toxic person thier op on them, no wrong can be done infront of a friend unless it's towards THEMSELF.
P.S If somone doesnt cosistently enjoy and value u ditch em' u dont need em
This video makes stepping away very easy. It's a lot harder that this, I speak from experience.
Dear Wellcast, im would not right this if I didnt need help what do i do if I HAVE 3 GIRLS FIGHTING OVER ME i not a person to stand up I had the same prolem last year but the olnly difference was i had double the friends i have now but i kinda there like an extra and not really included how can ileave my friends and start fresh P.S im a 6th grader
Exactly - and that's why marriage and divorce courts have to be re-balanced (!) because divorce normally hurts men more (financially speaking) and marriage doesn't have any realy advantages (except tax breaks) anymore (at least if you don't want children - everything else can be handled by a good lawyer as well, like having a health care proxy (note: It wouldn't be a girlfriend for me, but a long time friend - girlfriends come and go, but true friends stay forever normally!))...hell, this is one of the reasons I will never get married (among other things, like the fact that marriage was NEVER meant for love - we just adapted it - it was for political bargaining and to merge assets and end feuds between families etc. etc.)...then again:
In my mind a relationship of equals can only work if both keep their own household (so nobody has to compromise on how they want the place they live at to look like - from the decorations to how clean the place is kept (I mean a neat freak and a slob are the worst example but even if you only slightly differ on how clean your space should be it's not worth the energy fighting about it!)), pay their own bills (putting everything in a joint account is unfair to the one making more money - why should he or she pay more? It's not like that person forced the other person to take up a job that makes less money, did they?) etc. etc.
Essentially: Living apart together (I mean look at history: The rich almost always lived like that (!) - nobles had either different castles (one for each partner in the marriage) or at least different spaces (like very very large appartments!) in the same place! They often even had seperate entrances and their own household staff!)...this "we got to live together" thing is fairly recent (among the rich at least)! It's not like most people couldn't afford their own place!)
ps: In this situation there's not fighting about furniture ("I don't like this sofa - you will not buy it!") and there will be no "man-cave" (which is what often happens: Men get very little space for themselves in a shared house! They get - at best - their office (if they need one!), a single room for their stuff (often in the cellar or attic!) and maybe the garage! While women take over the rest of the house (am I biased? Maybe, but that's how my parents live - my dad has a small office, a small table in the living-room and a small space in a closet nearby...and one of three spaces in their large wardrobe (she's got the other two!) - that's it! My stepmother has the rest of the house (and most of the adjacent building (an older house they bought in order to store stuff and re-build)...fair? Nope, but my dad is so whipped that he hates fighting her! "It's not worth fighting over it" is what he always says about almost everything (there's some things where he puts his foot down, but only a few!))
Doing these things and getting accused of bullying and making people depressed...?
Helpful video otherwise.
Yes ,I was in toxic relatinship but fortunantlly we have broken.
ThankGod
I'm confused with my relationship with my best friend.... :/
I don't even know if I am so I need to think... my boyfriend always tells me to do stuff cause I am a nice person and all that but anytime I want him to do something he refuses.. he's turning into my other friend and its really bugging me... I also know that I like him more than he likes me anyway so our relatoinship is already weird... we never talk about our relationship in person only on like gmail or something... don't even know D:
Can someone help me? Every time I do something that is cool for myself, my friend always copies me! She always texts me and asks me if I can video chat all the time! When I made a radio station for me, her, and another friend to use, they never took it seriously and just made broadcasts whenever they felt like it and even though I created the station winged the broadcast (they had the subjects but didn't write down a script of what they were going to say) and I had to leave it and become a website created for the station. Then when I decided to go on the station, she asked if I was taking their station. Please help me decide if I should still be friends with her and if so how to stop being friends!
how do you know you're not the toxic person?
How to avoid being a toxic person?
what if you already are a toxic person?
I have a girl friend that I love very much but I feel like we have a toxic relationship we used to have a great relationship and we would talk and love each other. Now we don't talk much and she is always busy and I feel like I am being held down she loves me and I love her but we make each other unhappy and we don't know what to do. we are probably going to break up for good but still be friends. Lately I have tried to be around friends and family that love me and she gets jealous or mad or sad that I don't talk to her its not that I don't want to talk to her its just I don't want to hurt her or feel like I am held down anymore. We would fight sometimes and we hate fighting because we love one another so much can anyone give me advise of how to fix are relationship so we can at least be good friends?
I have a friendship that is not toxic but I don’t necessarily want to be in, I just entered high school and this person is the only friend I have, we play games together but only what he wants, but if I leave the game I just feel really bad and enter the game again. I met this really nice person that I want to be friends with but I don’t want to make this person feel bad even though I’m not sure about it.
I have no idea what to do, Help Please
I used to always borrow money, Now I don't. I only ask for something if i can give back.
I cant though..... They will just get all their friends to gang up on me and not play with them >~< I just cant get out of this mess I managed to get myself into... I just feel depressed all the time
I said that i had to set boundaries between my mom and she said it was toxic to do that, shes a horrible person in reality.
I did this and all he does would be either to a: ignore it and won't leave me alone or b: hang out with me and then go "oh yah I'm not your friend" how is this still happening? He's old enough.
Also he's the loneliest kid here so it makes you feel bad
My friend is being really social and loud and pretty much is always showing off should I tell them there making me feel bad and making me feel left out all the time
my "friend" lives next door and we go to school together every day but she is a bit obsessed with me she gets mad at me when I have family over and I can't hang out is that toxic?
My toxic friend used his depression and mental health issues as a way to use me beyond belief
We'll my best friend is using a really awsome friend just to get something from her :|
i think im Toxic to myself lol i put myself down all the time for the fun of it... i know im weird lol
Great video butnwhy is she saying selfie instead of step
So....my friends are toxic people
I'm very scared that my mom could be a toxic person cause I have many doubts about her
Thank you so much! This helps me a lot
Has friends that beat me up on the bus, I beat them up on the bus. Those are my friend .-.
... but what if you think the toxic person in your life is your parent?
Does this work on almost divorsed parents?
I live in a hick town with no car. Have been for a long time. There's nothing to be done about it. What's more, I was fired from my job last July and its been hard for me to deal with that and its been hard for me to lad a jo, even when I land interviews. The house I live in is a decaying wasteland, a sort of Pit of Wrath, so to speak. The animals that share space in the house don't make things any better....but the worse thing about it is, it isn't my house. It's my mom. My self-loathing, arrogant, over-sensitive mom, who is difficult to talk to about important subjects. and when I do muster up the courage to bring something up, she just yells at me. Three days ago, we got in an argument and she shouted at me, in front of her friends, stating that I am crazy and I always have been. That is when it clicked. I remember why I even hated her guts, when I was in high school, and I began to question why I decided to forgive her, and accept her. She is destroying herself with her own problems, and it's affecting me too. I can't escape it. I have no car, no job, no money, no one to turn to who will trust me. I'm trapped. You're advice can't help me.
MrARKY89 well u have to have friends Mabey they can help and Mabey try talking to the police about this or see a doctor you can also look up how to get a temporary job work a Starbucks I hear they pay well-ish
I have low self esteem so I don't really have any real friends not even one that bothers about me
You should make a video about How to stay fresh in summer
hey wellcast can you please do how to admit to your crush that you like them
I thought that I was in a toxic relationship,but then I realized that I really wasnt
Question mark?
U should play the solar system.How u play is that ur the sun and the person that is bothering u is Pluto so they have to stand alllllllllll the way over there so they don't bother u.Works every time 😄😄.
Ur welcome,
Celloin Strings
Lol, good one.
Shit. I think I'm the toxic person in most relationships
Yeah I'm in a toxic friendship :/
Can you help my friends hates my other friend
I don't need to. Because i'm not even in a relationship.
I just relize she is saying selfie1 selfie2 and so on XD
this one girl I know always sucks in her stomach (I know she sucks it in because her ribs are raised and her stomach is completely reduced in size) when she lays down, and she tries to do splits right in front of all the boys I like to out do me. I want to stop being friends with her but I mean, I don't know what do do...
sucking in your stomach actually toughens the muscles in your stomach making you thiner...just saying.
Definitely Disappearing.
im looking out for myself.... OH!!! i have spotted me self! SHOOT IT DOWN!!!
How come you always re-upload videos?
First
can you do: how to stay quiet when you want to talk.
I have one of those
She said selfie
do how to admit to your crush that you like them
this is the best channel on the internet
Like if this is happening with you
Your the best say hello to colombia
watchwellcast my bff went to middle school but I am stuck in 3rd grade and I don't know what do I do HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well that's sick
+Lily Janus you'll be fine, okay? just hang in there. you'll find other friends!
U said SELFIE. HAHAHAHAHAHA!
i think i'm in a toxic relationship.
Hi there! This is a great video! Would we be able to use it for educational workshops? Thanks :)
True
make a video on growing high
Alas, I have no such people.
lol its STEP not selfie
:(