He's rushing things. They've been "seeing each other" since the beginning of the year, and "dating most of that time." What does that exactly mean? My sense is that she is busy with residency, dating a guy that she likes and is really just getting to know, and he's already on a fast track in his head to marriage and financial committments. What he thought was some kind of "shame" about her debt may have just been uncomfortability about discussing her finances with a guy she is just dating. He is making some big assumptions about where their relationship stands.
Exactly, this guy is assuming a lot about their relationship. He's getting way ahead of himself and they could easily breakup because to her it might just be dating and not marriage.
@@blackworldtraveler3711 Definitely. And unless she is really crazy in love with him, the moment he puts the timeline out there, she would say, "Forget it. I'm out of here. I don't have time for this."
I used to work in a medical school and one of the residents told me that all but one of his fellow residents got divorced that year. That's how busy and stressful it is. This guy sounds like he's going to be a pain in the rear to her.
I would normally say financial responsibility is a big deal, but med school and residents can be exempt, because that's top priority and they will have the resources to fix any issues later, unlike normal people. this could apply to lawyers, but financials should be less stressful for lawyers
Hubby and I have been together going on 25 years (I was 34, he was 45) ....NO WAY I would have stayed in a relationship with him had he done ANY OF THIS after 10 months. David, you are just way too intense for dating 10 months.... then add in her residency. The engagement period may be "this much to YOU'...what about her?
He’s more into it than she is. She’s going to be obsessed with her residency program-three years or longer-depending on the specialty. He needs to slow down and find out that if the relationship is as serious for her as it is for him.
With all shows we really don't hear the other side of the relationship; however, his occupation and earning potential was not asked. I'm a retired medical provider and I can tell you that spouses especially husbands are threatened by not the debt portion because obviously if you are in medical school you probably have some debt but its the threat of a wife earning more money than he is. It would be interesting to know his own occupation, his expectations from a woman in a marriage, and why he is not honoring the boundaries she has set with him in regards to finances. She probably was uneasy talking about it not due to shame of what she owes but the mere fact he is still pursuing her to discuss highly personal stuff when she has set boundaries at this stage in the dating relationship. He is overstepping his boundaries at this stage of a dating relationship. Sounds very controlling.
My girlfriend didn't want to talk finances because she was hiding income and spending it behind my back. Turns out she was exploiting my charity and legally "embezzling" us. Rather than continuing to enable her, I dumped her
@@thegenxgamerr When he says "legally 'embezzling' us", he's probably meaning that she used him to pay for all her dinners, ask for expensive gifts, etc. (or stated another way, she treated him as a meal ticket / sugar daddy).
@@heathmcconnell3901 Yes, I understand what she did was bad, but it doesn't rise to the level of embezzlement. Fact is, he chose to give her that money and pay for things when she was still at the girlfriend stage and they lacked true transparent financial ties to one another.
@@HelloWorld-hb7yt She never indicated she was for sale. She literally never said she was marrying him, he's just a boyfriend. If she was serious about him she would be planning just like him.
They have been dating less then a year and he’s talking about all this? That’s wild to be talking about that so soon. Slow it down. And wanting a 3rd party to mediate? That’s real weird
Give this girl some space when it comes to the money convo. She doesn't want to come home from work and school to a man asking about her finances all the time.
I respect his question and stance. If you are dating with the intent of finding a marriage partner, why not find out if there are things that are deal breakers sooner rather than later? Why waste people’s time or get them too emotionally involved and then break up b/c you have reached an impasse?
I think bf/gf couples should talk about their money SPENDING and SAVING habits early on and their thoughts on paying off debts, investing, to see their financial mindset. People have no business knowing specific numbers about their partner’s salary and savings until after the engagement stage where marriage becomes a serious possibility. This is to prevent people from attracting others who just want them for their money and nothing else which are people you don’t want in your life. But it also gives people a chance to be fully transparent before they decide to tie the knot or not.
This guy thinks he has caught someone who has a potential "big money" career; he is rushing it so they can be official before she meets Dr. Right. Just imo.
@@Primitive_Code A little creepy, too. I wonder what he would be like during stressful times when his partner does not fit the box he checked for her. From the movie 'Dirty Dancing,' "Nobody puts Baby in the corner,"...or, in this case, a box.
I think he’s saying the ridiculously long engagements which are often kind of fake is the problem. If you’re going to get engaged it’s like a real thing and you actually set a date and you start planning and inviting people to a real wedding not we are engaged and then like three years go by and you’re still engaged. That’s just fake
@@unelectedleader6494 A lot of time is needed to plan a wedding, plus she is in a busy med. program. Many things that this guy said about their relationship and how he sees it is so odd as to be creepy and off-putting. If it was my daughter, I'd say run from this man.
I have two 23 year old nieces who are doing great money-wise. I have beat it into their heads about not discussing their finances with boyfriends and friends. This guy is too much.
@@johnsradios484 He wanted to push marriage after less than a year of being together. He wanted to only be engaged 3-6 months. She hasn’t known him for even two years and is expected to be a certain way. He didn’t even know if she was comfortable with that. He just knew his expectations.
Dating someone with massive debt is a red flag but a guy whos just dating a girl and wants to know everything about her money issues is a bigger red flag.
@@jimmymcgill6778 Yes it is, she might not even be looking to marry him. He's all up in her finances and doesn't actually know if that's his business or not.
He stated at the very beginning they started “seeing” each other at the beginning of the year and have been dating most of that time; it seems too soon to be talking marriage. The manner in which he is rushing things reeks of desperation; usually it’s the female who is pushing for marriage not the guy. She should be running from him.
What about enjoying time together? Why rush ? This is a difficult time for her and a lot if stress. So back off, be general in the conversations and just ease into this.
I get the feeling he is the issue here. there's no time frames for life. you read the room and go with the flow. sounds like he already picked out his wedding dress and centerpieces and she's like, let's talk about where we should go drinking this weekend.
I broke it off with a girl after almost 2 years when her friends told me things that were deal breakers for her that she’d never told me. Right before that she drained her savings to buy a camper and never told me until she sent me a picture bc “she didn’t want me to tell her it was a bad idea”
It is very wise to ask about debt, mostly because, if you plan to move forward with somebody, it's imperative to know that they have a plan and desire to move forward financially.
Disagree. Don't give your account passwords, but by month 2 I think it's reasonable to at least discuss ballpark numbers. For example, huge loans and in neurosurgery residency? Probably going to be ok. But it's reasonable for him to want to know the order of magnitude
@@arh1234 agree to disagree. thats a talk to have, but not after dating for such a short time and decided together not to progress the relationship from its current stance.
He is "getting ready to be married" and she is just trying to survive her residency. He needs to back off or end the relationship and get someone else who is ready to get married. IMHO, it is fine to ask about the other's finances if they have been dating for 10 months and are getting serious. If you are in a serious, long-term, committed relationship, you should know each other's finances.
Medical Degrees are extremely difficult, expensive and can take up to Seven Years to complete. Yet his fiancé is only in her first year. At 27 years of age she is also a late starter as most successful graduates do have an advantage of a relative that was or still maybe in the profession. Besides over 40% of American female Medical students - after graduation never ever end up working in the profession at all. This is due to the gruelling hours and the endless days of working grinding shifts back-to-back. I don't think that marriage is beneficial or a sensible choice for this chap.
The timeline to me isn’t the biggest problem; it’s that he is rushing this with the plan being only what *he* wants, and he isn’t thinking about what she wants at. all. Even tho she’s voiced that she needs everything to chill for a bit. The pushing after that point is the red flag to me.
My guess is that they've already had a conjugal relationship so talking about finances later is irresponsible it's supposed to be the other way around which in most cases it isn't
@@georgewagner7787 good for her, that’s a great price if she was happy with it 😊 I don’t see sense in spending an arm and a leg now. I had spent $1500 on mine and it was ruined before the reception from my now ex husband stepping on it and ripping. It was a waste of money looking back. Learned my lesson.
Her career comes first (and thats ok, for her) and if you are ok with being 2nd or 3rd in her list of priorities, keep up what you are doing. You are blinded by her looks...
So you’re saying that she should completely set aside all of her goals, all of her dreams and become a wife/mom? Yikes. He sounds like a man who then he would expect her to have a kid within a year and put aside her residency goals for him. That is not OK. She has a lot on her plate.
@@maryd1495 may not be compatible. I definitely wouldn’t want a career focused woman. Id need her to put me and the kids first. If she’s focused on career goals first, she’s not my type
@@maryd1495 not saying that at all! She isn't the one who called in. She should follow her goals. Facts are, her career is her priority and he needs to accept that! He needs to find someone who is ready to put a relationship first. Then talk about all of the important stuff after a few months of dating.
That’s presumptuous. Maybe she wants someone who makes her feel safe. Maybe she wants to not be pressured while she has a ton of other pressure on her plate. Maybe you don’t understand how stressful residency is. Depending on the field, it’s a lot of long hours, a lot of work, and a lot of stress. She doesn’t want to add on a wedding, which is extremely stressful, to her plate. She just is setting a boundary. If you don’t accept boundaries, you’re a walking red flag.
@@maryd1495 If he was Henry Cavill she wouldn't care how stressful her residency is, she'd marry him in an instant. Women always want to marry up...and to a Chad. If she lands a surgeon, she'd dump this guy in a heartbeat and you know it.
@@maryd1495 Gaslighting & shaming language doesn't work on me. If she wanted this man he wouldnt be calling into the show. The fact she's setting boundaries is a clear indication that he doesn't give her the tingles. Women break rules for men they desire. Women set rules for men they're not attracted to. So don't act like I'm presumptuous about a possible motive on keeping her options open.
Dude, at least she is going to have a good income. If she is not a big spender and will work on paying off debt then she might be a keeper. If not, cut bait.
Ramsey personalities when a Woman calls in to say significant other won’t talk about their finances: “he’s a loser goob and being a big baby” Personalities when a man calls in about significant other not talking about their finances: “you need to talk about their values and don’t push her into it and you seem extreme” God the double standards are nauseating. Now cue the women with cognitive dissonance in the comments 🙄🙄
That's "Adam bad, Eve good" Evangelical Christians for you. We hold men to higher standards (especially in regards to protection and financial provisioning), but want to claim marriage is a 50/50 equal partnership.
He needs to slow down. First, I don't know the difference between "seeing each other" and "dating," I can tell you that residency is rough, no matter what specialty she is pursuing. Some are rougher than others. It takes 3-7 years depending on specialty. Yes, the maximum working hours have been limited since I did it, but it is still rough. Unless she was one of the lucky ones who fell into just the right category, she probably has a ton of med school debt. That's not scary IF you share the same feelings about paying it off. The key there will be to continue to live like a resident when she finishes and gets a real job--do that, and the debt can be rapidly extinguished. The problem is that most people want to buy the nice car and house when they finish, and that's going to incur more debt. You never said what you do or where you are in your career path. He needs to work on getting himself debt free and perhaps talk to her about why he considers that important....and lose the "time line." Engagement is when they agree it should be, and marriage might be 3-6 months or at the end of residency! Learn what HER live plan is.
He needs to slow his roll! He's at the age he's ready to marry and I get it but she's 29 and in school focusing on her career. They haven't even been dating for a full year and he's talking about marriage. She may not be that into him to tell her all her financial business. He sounds rigid and needs to chill out!
This guy should approach this logical and realize the red flags here. She's not on the same page and he should just pull back. He should not even be thinking about marriage, especially with the debt she's has from medical school.
Sounds like a headache. Just run away and enjoy your life. There is a good chance she will eventually take everything. If you like putting generalities into boxes, as soon as she says i do, she doesnt. O wait she will. She will take at least half and take it to her next marriage.
I agree about the length of engagement for sure, but if you’re sleeping together and everything else for a year plus. You’re not so special. Just go to the courthouse. Organize something afterward. If that’s going on you guys didn’t save yourselves or anything so why dress it up like that. That’s weird
"A third party to mediate"? Yeah..that's a red flag. Doesn't sound like they are anywhere near getting engaged.
Run away as fast as you can from this man. Control freak
Caller - sounds like a desperate dork not to mention controlling. Run girl run.
HE needs to get rid of HER.
UPDATE: She's now dating a doctor that doesn't over analyze silly expectations of schedules on life.
I hope so!
@@Elizabeth-yg2mg 🤣🤣🤣
It seems like the guy so into relationship than his career
And they have $700k in student loan debt combined and call Dave Ramsey when they're done with residency in 5+ years.
She’s a few months into first year of residency, probably working 80-100 hours/week. Let her breathe for a few more months
yeah ,he should be more considerate about this
He's rushing things. They've been "seeing each other" since the beginning of the year, and "dating most of that time." What does that exactly mean? My sense is that she is busy with residency, dating a guy that she likes and is really just getting to know, and he's already on a fast track in his head to marriage and financial committments. What he thought was some kind of "shame" about her debt may have just been uncomfortability about discussing her finances with a guy she is just dating. He is making some big assumptions about where their relationship stands.
he sounds kinda crazy tbh
I think Ken picked up on that too
He sounds controlling--I feel pressured just hearing him talk.
I had a completely different take. I thought he seem organized and responsible.
@@imveryhungry112 not in a rude way but how in the world could you possibly come to that conclusion. I think these two completely missed the mark
3-6 months of being engaged is such a short time frame… like at least give it a year dude, you haven’t even been dating her for a year.
6-12 is a "normal" time frame
Dude is planning this all in his head and she nay not be ready, especially if she's studying.
Exactly, this guy is assuming a lot about their relationship. He's getting way ahead of himself and they could easily breakup because to her it might just be dating and not marriage.
Yeah shes definitely not there yet, he's going to have to decide if this is something he's wanting to stick around and wait for
I think he’s more into this relationship than she is.
Yeah seems he has a marriage checklist with time table.
Yeah he’s a true Simp
100%
Beta male for sure.
@@blackworldtraveler3711 Definitely. And unless she is really crazy in love with him, the moment he puts the timeline out there, she would say, "Forget it. I'm out of here. I don't have time for this."
This guy sounds like a control freak.
I used to work in a medical school and one of the residents told me that all but one of his fellow residents got divorced that year. That's how busy and stressful it is. This guy sounds like he's going to be a pain in the rear to her.
Exactly right
Yup. That “ha ha ha”. Lol
I would normally say financial responsibility is a big deal, but med school and residents can be exempt, because that's top priority and they will have the resources to fix any issues later, unlike normal people. this could apply to lawyers, but financials should be less stressful for lawyers
@@joechang8696 Lawyers aren't normal people? Why would financials be less stressful for them than anyone else?
She's hoping to meet a rich doctor during residency before she commits to marrying you
Hubby and I have been together going on 25 years (I was 34, he was 45) ....NO WAY I would have stayed in a relationship with him had he done ANY OF THIS after 10 months. David, you are just way too intense for dating 10 months.... then add in her residency. The engagement period may be "this much to YOU'...what about her?
He’s more into it than she is. She’s going to be obsessed with her residency program-three years or longer-depending on the specialty. He needs to slow down and find out that if the relationship is as serious for her as it is for him.
Whooooaaaa Nellie! Dude! You are rushing things. You are just getting to know someone, you have no right to nose into her finances.
With all shows we really don't hear the other side of the relationship; however, his occupation and earning potential was not asked. I'm a retired medical provider and I can tell you that spouses especially husbands are threatened by not the debt portion because obviously if you are in medical school you probably have some debt but its the threat of a wife earning more money than he is. It would be interesting to know his own occupation, his expectations from a woman in a marriage, and why he is not honoring the boundaries she has set with him in regards to finances. She probably was uneasy talking about it not due to shame of what she owes but the mere fact he is still pursuing her to discuss highly personal stuff when she has set boundaries at this stage in the dating relationship. He is overstepping his boundaries at this stage of a dating relationship. Sounds very controlling.
Exactly!
I think he's rushing because of his age
Or just because her career 😅 he didn’t mentioned how much he is making 😂
Rachel is so cool, I just like her sense of humor and she gets what’s going on!!!
This guy is crazy they have been dating less than a year. Slow down. “3-6 month window” is stupid.
My girlfriend didn't want to talk finances because she was hiding income and spending it behind my back. Turns out she was exploiting my charity and legally "embezzling" us. Rather than continuing to enable her, I dumped her
Did you sue her? "embezzling" is a crime.
Good for you!
@@thegenxgamerr When he says "legally 'embezzling' us", he's probably meaning that she used him to pay for all her dinners, ask for expensive gifts, etc. (or stated another way, she treated him as a meal ticket / sugar daddy).
Beautifully done
@@heathmcconnell3901 Yes, I understand what she did was bad, but it doesn't rise to the level of embezzlement. Fact is, he chose to give her that money and pay for things when she was still at the girlfriend stage and they lacked true transparent financial ties to one another.
You moving to fast bro….move back, keep your distance.
Don't ever marry a spendthrift. Period. Don't do it. They rarely change their ways.
It's none of your business if she's just a girlfriend.
do you ask for price of the car before you buying it?
@@HelloWorld-hb7yt exactly. Definitely his business. Maybe not every single detail. But a herbal overview definitely
Shut up clown , it is his business.. the same way a women wants to know a man’s job title and income before they even consider dating you.
@@HelloWorld-hb7yt She never indicated she was for sale. She literally never said she was marrying him, he's just a boyfriend. If she was serious about him she would be planning just like him.
@@littleripper312 maybe you have lots of debt, so dont focus on it.
Rachel's face says it all.
What does it say? Can you describe it to the blind listeners?
I can tell Rachel feels uncomfortable with the caller. It's obvious he's into her way more she is into him. He's gonna scare her away
So true, she is much more like Dave than I realize sometimes w those expressions 😂. Love it!
They have been dating less then a year and he’s talking about all this? That’s wild to be talking about that so soon. Slow it down. And wanting a 3rd party to mediate? That’s real weird
A lot of people know early on, but this doesn't seem like one of those situations.
Give this girl some space when it comes to the money convo. She doesn't want to come home from work and school to a man asking about her finances all the time.
I respect his question and stance. If you are dating with the intent of finding a marriage partner, why not find out if there are things that are deal breakers sooner rather than later? Why waste people’s time or get them too emotionally involved and then break up b/c you have reached an impasse?
That guy needs to grow a pair and walk away.
David is in his mid thirties, is his biological clock ticking?😂😂
I think bf/gf couples should talk about their money SPENDING and SAVING habits early on and their thoughts on paying off debts, investing, to see their financial mindset.
People have no business knowing specific numbers about their partner’s salary and savings until after the engagement stage where marriage becomes a serious possibility. This is to prevent people from attracting others who just want them for their money and nothing else which are people you don’t want in your life. But it also gives people a chance to be fully transparent before they decide to tie the knot or not.
This guy thinks he has caught someone who has a potential "big money" career; he is rushing it so they can be official before she meets Dr. Right. Just imo.
Yeahhhhh din din din we have a winner
The red flag for this guy is his propensity to arbitrarily put life events into boxes in his head according to a calendar year.
setting calendar dates for life events is a big turn off specially if it's a one way street.
@@Primitive_Code A little creepy, too. I wonder what he would be like during stressful times when his partner does not fit the box he checked for her. From the movie 'Dirty Dancing,' "Nobody puts Baby in the corner,"...or, in this case, a box.
I dated a guy who wrote a list of every date we had. Weird
I think he’s saying the ridiculously long engagements which are often kind of fake is the problem. If you’re going to get engaged it’s like a real thing and you actually set a date and you start planning and inviting people to a real wedding not we are engaged and then like three years go by and you’re still engaged. That’s just fake
@@unelectedleader6494 A lot of time is needed to plan a wedding, plus she is in a busy med. program. Many things that this guy said about their relationship and how he sees it is so odd as to be creepy and off-putting. If it was my daughter, I'd say run from this man.
Ken & Rachel are honestly my favorite duo. They are the most down-to-earth and able to have a good, fun, and genuine conversation
i miss dave :(
I prefer Dave, but Rachel is a strong second and then Ken at third.
They do have an easy and constructive rapport - I think you’re right.
@@craighendricks2994 Dave is fine until he gets off on his right wing rants and assumptions
@@kbanghart true but he’s old so you just have to take it as ignorance and jokes. Old people are smart but also really ignorant about many things.
How about selling the car?
She is not serious about the relationship :v
She doesn't want to "Talk Her Finances"?! Oh my. Change title :)
It's a daily thing. Embarrassing.
I think that you just started dating and I can see why she doesn’t want to share.
I agree share your values and see what happens
I have two 23 year old nieces who are doing great money-wise. I have beat it into their heads about not discussing their finances with boyfriends and friends. This guy is too much.
Thank you!
They are getting ready to discuss marriage at some point so yea discussing financials is important.
@@johnsradios484 He wanted to push marriage after less than a year of being together. He wanted to only be engaged 3-6 months. She hasn’t known him for even two years and is expected to be a certain way. He didn’t even know if she was comfortable with that. He just knew his expectations.
Of all thing/lessons to beat into their heads, this strikes me as really odd Cathy!
Her finances are NONE of your business unless she says so. What’s wrong with this guy.
Dating someone with massive debt is a red flag but a guy whos just dating a girl and wants to know everything about her money issues is a bigger red flag.
No it's not.
@@jimmymcgill6778 Yes it is, she might not even be looking to marry him. He's all up in her finances and doesn't actually know if that's his business or not.
@@littleripper312 no it’s not shut up 🤡
@@littleripper312 I'm talking about dating someone with debt isn't a red flag
That’s not a Red Flag. People need to be Honest about their Debt and Money Situation to their Significant Other
Already Off on the wrong foot.
He stated at the very beginning they started “seeing” each other at the beginning of the year and have been dating most of that time; it seems too soon to be talking marriage. The manner in which he is rushing things reeks of desperation; usually it’s the female who is pushing for marriage not the guy. She should be running from him.
Hahaha no wonder he's single 😁. Im sure he has a great relationship with his right hand 🤣🤣
What about enjoying time together? Why rush ? This is a difficult time for her and a lot if stress. So back off, be general in the conversations and just ease into this.
He says his girlfriend don't want to talk about her finances.
But then he also say's they did talk about it?
So which one is it.
Yep. Also the problem is probably his marriage timeline in his mind. Sounds like he is rushing to check off items on his mental list.
Bro… grab your Nike’s & run.. run fast
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I think he needs a "Rocketeer" jet backpack...
@@IgoOutlateAtnight Elon musk should be able to help him with that
High step! This guy has issues. If a woman doesn’t talk finances bad sign 🪧. Kardashians lifestyle and Instagram has ruined dating
She needs to run from him...I feel this dude got major insecurities
I get the feeling he is the issue here. there's no time frames for life. you read the room and go with the flow. sounds like he already picked out his wedding dress and centerpieces and she's like, let's talk about where we should go drinking this weekend.
I broke it off with a girl after almost 2 years when her friends told me things that were deal breakers for her that she’d never told me. Right before that she drained her savings to buy a camper and never told me until she sent me a picture bc “she didn’t want me to tell her it was a bad idea”
This guy sounds so beta.
She's uneasy because you are not her idea if marriage material.
Dave needs to hire a proofreader or fire the person who writes the titles. It's embarrassing. Yesterday they misspelled 'separation'. SMH
Agree -- the other day Deloney had a byline that misspelled "disappoint."
They live in Tennessee. Not known for elementary and secondary education…bad schools.
It is very wise to ask about debt, mostly because, if you plan to move forward with somebody, it's imperative to know that they have a plan and desire to move forward financially.
it is.....but there is a time and a place. dating for less than a year and having decided not to progress for now.....isnt the time.
Stay single best advice!
And life is beautiful
dating for less than a year.
"TELL ME ABOUT YOUR FINANCES"
that girl should run away.
Disagree. Don't give your account passwords, but by month 2 I think it's reasonable to at least discuss ballpark numbers. For example, huge loans and in neurosurgery residency? Probably going to be ok. But it's reasonable for him to want to know the order of magnitude
@@arh1234 agree to disagree. thats a talk to have, but not after dating for such a short time and decided together not to progress the relationship from its current stance.
If she refuses to talk finances you refuse to commit, simple.
He also said that they did talk about it.
He is "getting ready to be married" and she is just trying to survive her residency. He needs to back off or end the relationship and get someone else who is ready to get married. IMHO, it is fine to ask about the other's finances if they have been dating for 10 months and are getting serious. If you are in a serious, long-term, committed relationship, you should know each other's finances.
Medical Degrees are extremely difficult, expensive and can take up to Seven Years to complete. Yet his fiancé is only in her first year. At 27 years of age she is also a late starter as most successful graduates do have an advantage of a relative that was or still maybe in the profession.
Besides over 40% of American female Medical students - after graduation never ever end up working in the profession at all. This is due to the gruelling hours and the endless days of working grinding shifts back-to-back.
I don't think that marriage is beneficial or a sensible choice for this chap.
The timeline to me isn’t the biggest problem; it’s that he is rushing this with the plan being only what *he* wants, and he isn’t thinking about what she wants at. all. Even tho she’s voiced that she needs everything to chill for a bit. The pushing after that point is the red flag to me.
Move on my friend and find someone who will get with the program.
Yea, he clearly is looking to be the breadwinner, dating a doctor isn't going to work for him.
Would she want to put things on hold for her first year of residency if you were Henry Cavill proposing marriage? No. You're not the one.
hes living in a fantasy
My guess is that they've already had a conjugal relationship so talking about finances later is irresponsible it's supposed to be the other way around which in most cases it isn't
Culture is different now. Now people hook up the day they meet and maybe have a relationship. It sucks but that's the way out culture is now.
I love this channel 😂
It takes 8-12 months just to have a dress made , enjoy each phase on its own. No need to rush.
So where's your husband?
I got my dress of the mannequin of David's Bridal. It was the only dress in my size and I wanted it.
My college roommate got hers for 25 bucks at Sears. A long time ago
@@I_like_turtles_67 That’s a long story….😂
@@georgewagner7787 good for her, that’s a great price if she was happy with it 😊 I don’t see sense in spending an arm and a leg now. I had spent $1500 on mine and it was ruined before the reception from my now ex husband stepping on it and ripping. It was a waste of money looking back. Learned my lesson.
Her career comes first (and thats ok, for her) and if you are ok with being 2nd or 3rd in her list of priorities, keep up what you are doing. You are blinded by her looks...
So you’re saying that she should completely set aside all of her goals, all of her dreams and become a wife/mom? Yikes. He sounds like a man who then he would expect her to have a kid within a year and put aside her residency goals for him. That is not OK. She has a lot on her plate.
@@maryd1495 may not be compatible. I definitely wouldn’t want a career focused woman. Id need her to put me and the kids first. If she’s focused on career goals first, she’s not my type
@@maryd1495 not saying that at all! She isn't the one who called in. She should follow her goals. Facts are, her career is her priority and he needs to accept that! He needs to find someone who is ready to put a relationship first. Then talk about all of the important stuff after a few months of dating.
@@maryd1495 She said the exact opposite.
I love the fact my woman is more career focused and makes more than I do 😂 if anything ever goes wrong she can’t get me for alimony.
This guy is a red flag himself. She's probably feeling of losing her independence and getting pressured into marriage. "So uhhh not yet...."
4:08 definitely a red flag. But dude is head over hills in love and won’t see it
Caller is in love with her earning potential. How much does caller earn? I must have missed that part.
@@jeromehenry4484 yep and they didn’t ask
The put a ring on it comment might be the cringiest thing I’ve heard on this channel, and Dave is pretty cringey
Exactly, the sad thing is the dude doesn’t realize how cringy.
She doesn't want to get tied down incase she lands a surgeon at work. If she can't. He will be the fallback safe provider.
That’s presumptuous. Maybe she wants someone who makes her feel safe. Maybe she wants to not be pressured while she has a ton of other pressure on her plate. Maybe you don’t understand how stressful residency is. Depending on the field, it’s a lot of long hours, a lot of work, and a lot of stress. She doesn’t want to add on a wedding, which is extremely stressful, to her plate. She just is setting a boundary. If you don’t accept boundaries, you’re a walking red flag.
@@maryd1495
If he was Henry Cavill she wouldn't care how stressful her residency is, she'd marry him in an instant.
Women always want to marry up...and to a Chad.
If she lands a surgeon, she'd dump this guy in a heartbeat and you know it.
@@terriesmith2616 sadly I agree
@@maryd1495 Gaslighting & shaming language doesn't work on me. If she wanted this man he wouldnt be calling into the show. The fact she's setting boundaries is a clear indication that he doesn't give her the tingles.
Women break rules for men they desire. Women set rules for men they're not attracted to.
So don't act like I'm presumptuous about a possible motive on keeping her options open.
@@I_like_turtles_67
💯💯💯💯100% agreed with you and I'm a woman.
Dude, at least she is going to have a good income. If she is not a big spender and will work on paying off debt then she might be a keeper. If not, cut bait.
Ramsey personalities when a Woman calls in to say significant other won’t talk about their finances: “he’s a loser goob and being a big baby”
Personalities when a man calls in about significant other not talking about their finances: “you need to talk about their values and don’t push her into it and you seem extreme”
God the double standards are nauseating. Now cue the women with cognitive dissonance in the comments 🙄🙄
So happy to see men realize the game in rigged. Some of us find out when it's too late.
That's "Adam bad, Eve good" Evangelical Christians for you. We hold men to higher standards (especially in regards to protection and financial provisioning), but want to claim marriage is a 50/50 equal partnership.
Eve was equally to blame. Don't know who you've been hanging around
First time I've heard a man say he wants a short engagement...
Here comes all the woman hating comments.
It’s not about residency. She’s not as serious about the relationship as David is.
She’s not that into you bro. I could write an essay, but I’ll leave it at that. You’re in your feminine energy.
Deal breaker • no hard feelings
He needs to slow down. First, I don't know the difference between "seeing each other" and "dating," I can tell you that residency is rough, no matter what specialty she is pursuing. Some are rougher than others. It takes 3-7 years depending on specialty. Yes, the maximum working hours have been limited since I did it, but it is still rough. Unless she was one of the lucky ones who fell into just the right category, she probably has a ton of med school debt. That's not scary IF you share the same feelings about paying it off. The key there will be to continue to live like a resident when she finishes and gets a real job--do that, and the debt can be rapidly extinguished. The problem is that most people want to buy the nice car and house when they finish, and that's going to incur more debt. You never said what you do or where you are in your career path. He needs to work on getting himself debt free and perhaps talk to her about why he considers that important....and lose the "time line." Engagement is when they agree it should be, and marriage might be 3-6 months or at the end of residency! Learn what HER live plan is.
RUN!
He needs to slow his roll! He's at the age he's ready to marry and I get it but she's 29 and in school focusing on her career. They haven't even been dating for a full year and he's talking about marriage. She may not be that into him to tell her all her financial business. He sounds rigid and needs to chill out!
This guy should approach this logical and realize the red flags here. She's not on the same page and he should just pull back. He should not even be thinking about marriage, especially with the debt she's has from medical school.
Please give examples of what caller has to offer. What's on HIS side of the ledger?
Sounds like a headache. Just run away and enjoy your life. There is a good chance she will eventually take everything.
If you like putting generalities into boxes, as soon as she says i do, she doesnt. O wait she will. She will take at least half and take it to her next marriage.
She’s planning on taking half of yours just leave it in the streets
She said she doesn't want to even think about engagement yet and she is in residency. She seems like she doesn't want any from him.
Im sure she’s gonna be making 4-5x the salary than the caller though
David and his girlfriend needs to talk about money and Finances now and the furture
Seems like they haven’t been dating all that long
Find a new girlfriend
Run for the hills my guy
“We had a lot of other things going on we were dealing with” a year in?? What possibly could you already be this stressed about.
He’s to poshly and want what he want at a certain time it’s about him not about them.
Lol the title 😂
He sounds like a decent guy!!
Find a different girl!
maybe SHE doesn't have daddy's money to fall back on.
Man, can't believe how many people are beating up on the guy!
Slow your roll, ask values, later work through everything.
Dont try to justify the situation with values and self righteousness. It looks so pathetic.
lol what
Where's Dave?
What are you a lawyer or something? Slow down. Tried communicating. If she’s gonna be busy and residency, then you need to back off.
Tinderella no talky about my debt,,,because its yours romeo soon.
He's probably going to get his heart broken unfortunately.
He is so whipped he can’t even see straight.
The song should be first comes fiancés then comes marriage then comes a baby in the baby carriage
Lol typical
I agree about the length of engagement for sure, but if you’re sleeping together and everything else for a year plus. You’re not so special. Just go to the courthouse. Organize something afterward. If that’s going on you guys didn’t save yourselves or anything so why dress it up like that. That’s weird
There are no red flags here, he really likes her and wants to make sure she spends responsibility. He's a dork and she probably is too.