I researched on trauma & childhood trauma & what was explained is that no matter how many years goes by the TRAUMA never goes away! Even if a person seeks professional help,you can't erase bad memories or hurt & pain! Stay strong 😇🙌✊
Cheryl -- you grew up in a world that is all about appearance. I saw you on DWTS talking about "numbing" with AJ. I can't tell you how refreshing it is to see how you are revealing yourself -- not just to those in your inner circle but with the world. YOU GO, GIRL!! You are a woman of integrity and strength and a model for all of those who have come before and will come after you.
As someone who also experienced trauma at a young age (not as young as you, but it became a constant from 6th grade through 12th grade due to an emotional abusive family member), I also got stuck in a pattern of abusive, toxic relationships and thought that THAT was what love was. I related a lot to what you said about now you're really sensitive to any tiny bit of toxic behavior and are quick to shut it down because I've become like that within the last 2 years. Thanks for sharing your story ❤️
I’m so happy I found you’re Chanel. I definitely relate to you, I my self went through something like you when I was a little girl, Till this day I’m still traumatized & it’s really hard for me to forgive there’s days when I just want to run away & cry & scream my lungs out and wish this never happened. 🙏🏻
Hi Cheryl, I’ve been a fan for a long time. As someone who’s also been through a lot of things, I can’t tell you how grateful I am for your openness and honesty in sharing your story. There an be so much shame or stigma in trying to talk about these things. I’m sorry for what you’ve been through, but your journey of overcoming is really encouraging, and gives me hope that maybe I can too. Hope you will continue to share. Thank you.
You are such an amazing person. You are stronger for what you've been through, but I wish that none of it had ever happened to you. Thank you for helping me in ways you'll never know.
Thank you for sharing your story! I too am a survivor of sexual trauma. My mother didn't pick very good men and they sexually abused me. I was really abused in many different ways as a child. She was just continuing the cycle of abuse. She was physically abused as a kid. It's been hard but talking to a therapist helps. I would love to find out about the meditation you do among other things to apply what you learned. I just found your channel.
Thank you for sharing, I blocked out my trauma until about 7 years ago, I think it was ment to be because as a adult I am more equipped to handle it. Long term sexual trauma made me not want to date for a very long time, I have now been married for 30 years to a great man.
Cheryl, thank you so much for having the courage to share these experiences. I can relate to almost all of them, except for sexual abuse. I was psychologically and sometimes physically abused though, and I tried to bury the trauma for years without confronting it. If only knew how much you have inspired so many other people to rise above their past traumas. Hope you do more of these videos!
Thank you so much Cheryl! I've always been biased in my like for you because you are part Filipino and it's always good to see representation as a Filipina, but I am so grateful you are opening up about your experiences and being vulnerable. Before, you were an amazing dancer and choreographer but now it's so wonderful to see who you are as a person too! Continuing to root for you from Canada! Go Cheryl go!
Cheryl thank you for your courage in sharing such vulnerable experiences with strangers just to help others. I don't think that people realize that these videos are to help those who need to hear your stories and the fact that you are willing to share them is selfless. Thank you and your words pierced my heart ❤ so happy that you are in a great place in your life and continuing to grow and become the best you!
This is my first Cheryl Burke Utube interview I am so intrigued by how honest she is watching her on DWTS I never thought that all this that happened to her and she has a beautiful soul. I will continue to listen to her journey.
Just have to thank you for this openness and willingness to help others through your story. Brave and beautiful and so many more beautiful adjectives you empower woman in the most vulnerable way. Thank you!
Hi Cheryl, I’m such a huge fan of yours. Thank you for sharing this very hard time of your life. I’m so grateful to you for sharing this. I was in a abusive Relationship and after that I made the same mistakes over & over again that still effect my relationships to this day. I love you & thank you again for sharing. I believe in you Cheryl. ❤️
I am hearing your voice tell my story.... without the money parts. Hence very late start in therapy when the Roman Catholic Diocese started to pay .So, at 71 still in therapy to learn to live with ME after many failed and sick relationships . Thank you Cheryl as you have now become part of that help. You and Matt look so happy. God bless ya's.................(Please turn the background music off.)
Hi Cheryl, I have watched this video n really admire u for your courage to share your story about" sexually abused". This is Lorna G from Ontario Canada. I watched you at " Dancing with the stars" and of course coming from a filipino family gave me the opportunity to watch u as well. Upon hearing your abused story( from your video), really an admiration to a woman who speak up from a very traumatic experience. I loved the way u handled it and so proud of u. Things happened for a good reason n look at u now . You look amazing , very open from that experience n u spoke with a lot of composure. Stay safe!
Thank you so much for sharing. I have watched you for years on dancing with the stars and I am much more appreciative of getting to know you through your channel. I look forward to all of your videos.. love your honesty and sincerity... you just that seem so down to earth and genuine. 😘
I was sexually abused as a child....I was raped as a teen by 2 “friends” and left to die from alcohol poisoning in my parents driveway that night and thankfully found by my brother...while I was in high school I had a sexual relationship with a coach and definitely touched and flirted with by all the others...when I was 14 my boyfriend was 21...when I was 15 I “dated” a cop that was 33....all of this felt normal to me because of the sexual abuse from my childhood....I married right out of high school a guy 1 yr younger than me who was good to me and never laid a hand on me in a bad way...about a year after we married ..I was 20 he was 19....he got really heavy into some hard drugs..I was beaten and continuously....one night he held me down by my neck on our kitchen table and and he allowed his 5 friends to gang rape me.....I suffered miscarriages from this man...I was put in the hospital 5 times from him from being beaten so bad....when I found out I was pregnant again...with the help of my family I divorced him...I was able to have all of his parental rights terminated for my son...I was never going to allow that man be alone with my son...being pregnant with my son saved my life..I was not going to let that man take anymore of my babies from me...life “mentally” was very hard for me for many years....it’s been almost 30 years since that gang rape in my kitchen..I still wake up with night terrors in the middle of the night screaming..I can literally feel his hands are around my neck......it doesn’t go away..abuse stays with you forever...I talk to teens and woman all the time about my life..to try and save them from what I went through...I am married to a wonderful man now..we have been together for 22 yrs...he adopted my son and we have another son together they are grown men now and I have always been overly honest with them about my life..they are so protective of me.........I too am the best therapist to other people but I have never taken time to take care of myself..I am very open..but sometimes not as open about all the repercussions I still deal with daily from it.......I adore you and I applaud you for your honesty...you are helping so many young girls and women!!! I was a singer and a star athlete..got scholarships to 2 different colleges for 3 different sports.....I turned them down to marry this fool....and I haven’t sung publicly...unless drunk at karaoke..lol....in 30 yrs........singing was my release....I don’t think I will ever have that back...too many things he said to me still in my head...I just put on a smile and go on with life! I am so proud of you!!
I can’t quite see the emoji after music.... but thank you.....I write a lot.....it’s an escape...helps to empty out the emotion for sure...I really miss singing the most
I am so glad I saw this video because I know someone who has a lot of emotional baggage with people. She constantly has issues with patients, co-workers, tenants, nannies & family members. She would always call me to unload on me about a tenant or a patient. The irony of it is, she is actually a licensed psychotherapist & social worker....and she and I also used to go to self-help/self-empowerment seminars together. So my qualms about her is that she doesn't practice what she preaches. She has all the tools & knowledge but doesn't even apply it into her own life. The most ironic thing about her is that she is a trauma/grief specialist...yet she doesn't seem to know how to help herself in order to help others. I recognized that she has a victim mentality & she is stuck there. In fact, she is in complete denial that she has a victim mentality. I am glad you came to terms with your past & that you did the work to help you navigate yourself to healing that trauma. I can see that you have taken full responsibility for your own life regardless of your dad's abandonment. From how you speak about it, you are so in control of your own story & narrative. And you created an extraordinary life for yourself.
Thank you for your courage and strength to share. I too as American flipino born in USA was a victim of child sexual abuse. I'm very very sorry that has happened to you.... God bless 🙏 you & your family
Hi Cherly I am a fan of you . I want you to let you that I’m sorry for the things you went through. Just let you know these things get better and you will over come them. Congrats on being two + years sober. I want you to know that your fans care and we are listening to you. I love you so much and Hope you have a wonderful
Thank you for sharing your journey Cheryl! I know it is not easy. Sharing your life story on RUclips is another type of therapy. You are beautiful inside and out and I am happy that you are in a better place. We never know what someone is going through which you are living proof. Love Queen B
Thank you for sharing ❤ I'm able to relate when you say that you needed to start finding out what you liked, to make your own decisions. That is hard for me. I feel that all my life I've let others make decisions for me, and i don't know if it's because of my traumas and abuse I've experienced. Thank you so so much for being open and vulnerable to all of us. God Bless you!
Wow! That’s pretty sad! For me, the start of my trauma started when I was 6/7 years old when I witnessed my parents fighting a lot and when I was almost 8 my parents divorced. My ex-Aunt/Godmother (she was my Aunt by marriage) turned the whole family against my mom and as a result alienated me and my sisters. As a child/teen, I was bullied for being the “weird kid” and some members of my extended family treated me differently from my sisters because I was different from them.
Wow, Cheryl, thank you so much for sharing this. Very vulnerable and definitely one I will re-listen to again. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences. Sending you lots of love
Thank you for sharing this, Cheryl. I saw similarities in my life within yours. It totally makes sense as to why I act and think the way I do. I think that seeing a therapist is such a great way to figure yourself out, will be looking into this for myself. Again, thank you for sharing your story and for being a positive example to many. 🤍
I really liked your presntation, very forthright and honest, and I am sure a very healing moment for many. Therapy is so helpful, thank you for promoting meditation, too!!
I'm so glad I found your sight. I can relate to most of it. You tell yourself that no one else has these problems. And they do. I've gone through many years of therapy too. And it was the best thing I did. I do have a couple family members think that I shouldn't of gone through therapy. But they don't have me at their beck and call. I too had to apply what I was learning through therapy. And sad that family members don't agree. We only have one life to live and why not be happy with what we have each day. What has helped me lately is listening to a couple great ministers sermons.
Cheryl, You are such an inspiration to so many! God bless you! You are so down to earth and transparent about your life challenges and traumas. What you have done to deal with it, thank you for sharing, serves as encouragement for all of us to face traumas and to learn to live a good life knowing that you can come out of this as a better human when you can confront the person (s) who have hurt a vulnerable child if possible but most of all to deal with the issue by facing it, learning to forgive and most of all to treat yourself with the upmost care and love. Wishing you the best always! You are such a great dancer, such a beautiful and courageous woman.
Thanks for sharing your story..it must be tough to tell but healing for your self. I didn't watch it...didn't want to flair up my PTSD...My dad took my virginity when I was 3. I saw the title of this and knew it was tough for you...I prayed for you...
Hi Cheryl my name is Sergio, I definitely identify I’ve been cleaned and sobered for a year what an amazing feeling. I following the 12 step program I strongly recommend it. God bless you and good luck to you and your family 🙏
I always love you from watching you DWS. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. Your story reminds me of the same thing my granddaughter is going through.
I was abused emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually, by my now ex husband of 23 years. He ruined my singing voice, out of spite, when he choked me. He caused me to miscarry all of my babies. He told me that he couldn't "dance" anymore. I was rushed by ambulance to a hospital, because I was throwing up blood. He messaged me and said it's not that he couldn't, but not with me. He found my body hideous. He told me that no man will want me. If I get lucky and a guy wants me, I need to have sex in the dark, so I don't scare the guy away.
Thank you for sharing this, Ate Cheryl. When you were talking about your earliest memory... it hit me close because my earliest memory isn't the happiest either. My earliest memory is when I was like 3 years old and I was watching the Flintstones in my livingroom and I was looking for my parents and when I went towards their room.. the door was slightly open and I remember looking in seeing my parents fighting and screaming at each other and my mom crying. My parents divorced when I was 3 years old.
I can relate, I had trauma in my past life with marriage....so much to take but now I am blessed with a very good life, not perfect but I can say I surpassed the hardship because I was strong. You are inspiration by sharing your story, so others can be inspired by you. Thank you and May God be always be with you.
Hi Cheryl, Thank you for sharing ur life experiences, I feel like I'm learning things about myself watching this. Your soo brave and amazing, keep being the strong woman u are, I always feel certain traumas make us who we are.. Never stop being you xx
Cheryl Burke you inspire and many others to tell their story of physical mental emotional and verbal and sexual abuse. I am a victim too and didn't talk about by abusive experience till this year
So much of your story, i relate to. I wasn’t as young as you were , but a lot of what you say about your father. Is exactly what i went through. I was 12 when my first traumatic experience happened.
Great Job Cheryl in sharing your younger life and upbringing. Fascinating to see images of your mom on her wedding day. Sending you sister LOVE and LIGHT, right back! Can’t wait to watch more. #CherylBurke-NESS.
Why are parents too busy to be parents? Its sad you only interacted w your mom when she checked your homework. An older man nanny is not even in my realm of comprehension. Was your mom a doctor too? Prayers for your healing and coping. I doubt it just goes away.
THANK U FOR SHARIN' UR TIME Y TAKIN' THE X TO MAKE THIS VIDEO! I CAN SO RELATE 2 U! THANK FOR HAVIN' THE COURAGE TO TALK Y MAKE THESE VIDEOS! I AM NEW TO UR CHANNEL! U JUST CAME INTO MI PHONE THIS MID-AFTERNOON! SUNDAY DEC. 13TH 2020! WOW! WE HAVE CLOSE STORIES! THANK U FOR LETTIN' ME KNOW THAT I AIN'T ALONE! 🙃🤭✝️📖🙏🕊️🛐🤗👒💐🦋
Was sexually assaulted by my stepdad from the time I remember, the age 5 till I left home when I was 16. In my late 20’s I found out he had done it to my brother as well. I want to write a book and I want to get the laws changed to where the statute of limitations are longer or what I would really like is that there is no statute of limitations. This has totally messed with me my whole life, have been in therapy for years and take medications for PTSD, depression, major anxiety, and sometimes I just get really moody and in my own head about it. I have had so many issues in relationships, my husband now is really the only one who understands me, and he talks me down. I ran away so many times trying to get away from my stepdad, that I am a runner and if things get rough I run. I can tell my husband that I feel like running, he would talk to me about it. But now he won’t do that much anymore. I just don’t think people understand unless it happens to them. He has an amazing family, he is the youngest of 10 kids. They are all so close. I don’t speak to anyone in my family. My brother passed away in 2008, he was like my best friend. After he passed away I had an on and off relationship with my family but now I don’t have anything to do with them. The last thing my mother said to me was she wished I was dead instead of my brother.
Yes yes yes,... thank u for REAL sharing 👏👏💖.. and Absolutely..... more more more.. and most Definitely... go deep and real... u r sooo brave... u r a heroe... in my book....👍👍😇😇👍💖
Peace and all Blessings of God be with you..Cheryl its good to see and hear You share openly your story its just one way of Healing..but I Noticed You have not even Tried Prayers and GOD! Im not sure about your Religion ..but if you are a Catholic I would highly Recommend the Daily Mass and Holy Euchatist recieving Jesus regularly and daily Meditations on the Scriptures will surely 100% heal you gradually as you Open to His Immense Grace and Love that could Heal you and bring you back Your Dignity..God Bless you and your dear Good Loving Husband..We assure you of our Prayers for your Continual Healing and Freedom from any enslavements..hugs Srs,OSC Yarze🙏😇🙏😘💞💓😷😷😷🙏 Please keep safe And Praises Thank the good Lord for the courage and Grace that He is giving You to Share your Story that could help so many out there GOD Bless your New Life on the road to healling and Freedom..🙏😂🙏We Love You
I absolutely love this beautiful women. She inspires me she is everything and I wish to get to where you are in dance. I love you sooo much stay sweet pretty 💗
This is not relevant to the video but you are sooo pretty inside and out I did not who you where before dance moms but I have never watched a full episode dew to living in the uk and then I found out you where on dance with the starts as a coach. But I really want to meet you and you are someone who I look up too .♥️♥️❤️♥️❤️♥️❤️❤️❤️❤️
🙏🏿🙏🏿♥️♥️🎯🎯👏🏿👏🏿💪🏿💪🏿. I’ve actually been though this situation and I’m currently doing the work as well it’s been hard for me but I’m truly glad that I’m learning to find the truth about myself.
As Dr. Laura says, "Don't put yourself on the discount rack. Understand that you are worth the full price."
I researched on trauma & childhood trauma & what was explained is that no matter how many years goes by the TRAUMA never goes away! Even if a person seeks professional help,you can't erase bad memories or hurt & pain! Stay strong 😇🙌✊
There is trauma therapy like EMDR and Somatic therapy which does help. There’s research on that too
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It is so inspiring to know that you've chosen to become an inspiration to others by sharing your story to teach awareness.
As an abuse victim and survivor (family member) I applaud you
Cheryl -- you grew up in a world that is all about appearance. I saw you on DWTS talking about "numbing" with AJ. I can't tell you how refreshing it is to see how you are revealing yourself -- not just to those in your inner circle but with the world. YOU GO, GIRL!! You are a woman of integrity and strength and a model for all of those who have come before and will come after you.
As someone who also experienced trauma at a young age (not as young as you, but it became a constant from 6th grade through 12th grade due to an emotional abusive family member), I also got stuck in a pattern of abusive, toxic relationships and thought that THAT was what love was. I related a lot to what you said about now you're really sensitive to any tiny bit of toxic behavior and are quick to shut it down because I've become like that within the last 2 years. Thanks for sharing your story ❤️
This video was incredibly insightful Cheryl and allowed me to confront my own traumas. Thanks for being so open and honest with us.
You are so welcome! xx
I’m so happy I found you’re Chanel. I definitely relate to you, I my self went through something like you when I was a little girl, Till this day I’m still traumatized & it’s really hard for me to forgive there’s days when I just want to run away & cry & scream my lungs out and wish this never happened. 🙏🏻
Cheryl, thank you so much for opening up & telling your story. I went through a lot with my dad. You have given me hope again.
Hi Cheryl,
I’ve been a fan for a long time. As someone who’s also been through a lot of things, I can’t tell you how grateful I am for your openness and honesty in sharing your story. There an be so much shame or stigma in trying to talk about these things. I’m sorry for what you’ve been through, but your journey of overcoming is really encouraging, and gives me hope that maybe I can too. Hope you will continue to share. Thank you.
You are such an amazing person. You are stronger for what you've been through, but I wish that none of it had ever happened to you. Thank you for helping me in ways you'll never know.
Philippines 4 13 says I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me I have faith in Him and I believe in Cheryl
Amen
Thank you for sharing your story! I too am a survivor of sexual trauma. My mother didn't pick very good men and they sexually abused me. I was really abused in many different ways as a child. She was just continuing the cycle of abuse. She was physically abused as a kid. It's been hard but talking to a therapist helps. I would love to find out about the meditation you do among other things to apply what you learned. I just found your channel.
Thank you for sharing, I blocked out my trauma until about 7 years ago, I think it was ment to be because as a adult I am more equipped to handle it. Long term sexual trauma made me not want to date for a very long time, I have now been married for 30 years to a great man.
Cheryl, thank you so much for having the courage to share these experiences. I can relate to almost all of them, except for sexual abuse. I was psychologically and sometimes physically abused though, and I tried to bury the trauma for years without confronting it. If only knew how much you have inspired so many other people to rise above their past traumas. Hope you do more of these videos!
Thank you so much Cheryl! I've always been biased in my like for you because you are part Filipino and it's always good to see representation as a Filipina, but I am so grateful you are opening up about your experiences and being vulnerable. Before, you were an amazing dancer and choreographer but now it's so wonderful to see who you are as a person too! Continuing to root for you from Canada! Go Cheryl go!
Cheryl thank you for your courage in sharing such vulnerable experiences with strangers just to help others. I don't think that people realize that these videos are to help those who need to hear your stories and the fact that you are willing to share them is selfless. Thank you and your words pierced my heart ❤ so happy that you are in a great place in your life and continuing to grow and become the best you!
This is my first Cheryl Burke Utube interview I am so intrigued by how honest she is watching her on DWTS I never thought that all this that happened to her and she has a beautiful soul. I will continue to listen to her journey.
Just have to thank you for this openness and willingness to help others through your story. Brave and beautiful and so many more beautiful adjectives you empower woman in the most vulnerable way. Thank you!
Hi Cheryl, I’m such a huge fan of yours. Thank you for sharing this very hard time of your life. I’m so grateful to you for sharing this. I was in a abusive Relationship and after that I made the same mistakes over & over again that still effect my relationships to this day. I love you & thank you again for sharing. I believe in you Cheryl. ❤️
I love your vulnerability. It's amazing how this journey led you to stability and a career that you love. Looking forward to hearing more!
Thank you for sharing your story. I've been in therapy for years and I'm finally trying heal my wounds.
I am hearing your voice tell my story.... without the money parts. Hence very late start in therapy when the Roman Catholic Diocese started to pay .So, at 71 still in therapy to learn to live with ME after many failed and sick relationships
. Thank you Cheryl as you have now become part of that help. You and Matt look so happy. God bless ya's.................(Please turn the background music off.)
Hi Cheryl, I have watched this video n really admire u for your courage to share your story about" sexually abused". This is Lorna G from Ontario Canada. I watched you at " Dancing with the stars" and of course coming from a filipino family gave me the opportunity to watch u as well. Upon hearing your abused story( from your video), really an admiration to a woman who speak up from a very traumatic experience. I loved the way u handled it and so proud of u. Things happened for a good reason n look at u now . You look amazing , very open from that experience n u spoke with a lot of composure. Stay safe!
Thank you so much for sharing. I have watched you for years on dancing with the stars and I am much more appreciative of getting to know you through your channel. I look forward to all of your videos.. love your honesty and sincerity... you just that seem so down to earth and genuine. 😘
Thanks so much for your comment Rhonda, and thank you for all your support! xx
Honestly I would love another video. Thanks for opening up to the world and encouraging others to tell their story is amazing.
More to come Lyniah! Stay tuned!
I was sexually abused as a child....I was raped as a teen by 2 “friends” and left to die from alcohol poisoning in my parents driveway that night and thankfully found by my brother...while I was in high school I had a sexual relationship with a coach and definitely touched and flirted with by all the others...when I was 14 my boyfriend was 21...when I was 15 I “dated” a cop that was 33....all of this felt normal to me because of the sexual abuse from my childhood....I married right out of high school a guy 1 yr younger than me who was good to me and never laid a hand on me in a bad way...about a year after we married ..I was 20 he was 19....he got really heavy into some hard drugs..I was beaten and continuously....one night he held me down by my neck on our kitchen table and and he allowed his 5 friends to gang rape me.....I suffered miscarriages from this man...I was put in the hospital 5 times from him from being beaten so bad....when I found out I was pregnant again...with the help of my family I divorced him...I was able to have all of his parental rights terminated for my son...I was never going to allow that man be alone with my son...being pregnant with my son saved my life..I was not going to let that man take anymore of my babies from me...life “mentally” was very hard for me for many years....it’s been almost 30 years since that gang rape in my kitchen..I still wake up with night terrors in the middle of the night screaming..I can literally feel his hands are around my neck......it doesn’t go away..abuse stays with you forever...I talk to teens and woman all the time about my life..to try and save them from what I went through...I am married to a wonderful man now..we have been together for 22 yrs...he adopted my son and we have another son together they are grown men now and I have always been overly honest with them about my life..they are so protective of me.........I too am the best therapist to other people but I have never taken time to take care of myself..I am very open..but sometimes not as open about all the repercussions I still deal with daily from it.......I adore you and I applaud you for your honesty...you are helping so many young girls and women!!! I was a singer and a star athlete..got scholarships to 2 different colleges for 3 different sports.....I turned them down to marry this fool....and I haven’t sung publicly...unless drunk at karaoke..lol....in 30 yrs........singing was my release....I don’t think I will ever have that back...too many things he said to me still in my head...I just put on a smile and go on with life! I am so proud of you!!
You can write music 🎶 if you wanna. ❤️💕
I can’t quite see the emoji after music.... but thank you.....I write a lot.....it’s an escape...helps to empty out the emotion for sure...I really miss singing the most
@@christiesmith6096 they are hearts 🥰. I encourage you to make a joyful sound Be well.
Thank you so much....you are very kind...the world needs more of that! 💗💗
Thank you for sharing I think these are definitely topics we are need to speak about and not be ashamed. Thank you so much for sharing !
I am so glad I saw this video because I know someone who has a lot of emotional baggage with people. She constantly has issues with patients, co-workers, tenants, nannies & family members. She would always call me to unload on me about a tenant or a patient. The irony of it is, she is actually a licensed psychotherapist & social worker....and she and I also used to go to self-help/self-empowerment seminars together. So my qualms about her is that she doesn't practice what she preaches. She has all the tools & knowledge but doesn't even apply it into her own life. The most ironic thing about her is that she is a trauma/grief specialist...yet she doesn't seem to know how to help herself in order to help others. I recognized that she has a victim mentality & she is stuck there. In fact, she is in complete denial that she has a victim mentality.
I am glad you came to terms with your past & that you did the work to help you navigate yourself to healing that trauma. I can see that you have taken full responsibility for your own life regardless of your dad's abandonment. From how you speak about it, you are so in control of your own story & narrative. And you created an extraordinary life for yourself.
Thank you for your courage and strength to share. I too as American flipino born in USA was a victim of child sexual abuse. I'm very very sorry that has happened to you....
God bless 🙏 you & your family
Hi Cherly I am a fan of you . I want you to let you that I’m sorry for the things you went through. Just let you know these things get better and you will over come them. Congrats on being two + years sober. I want you to know that your fans care and we are listening to you. I love you so much and Hope you have a wonderful
Thank you so much Amber! xx
@@CherylBurke love you so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️
You’re right, trauma changes you. With us it made us stronger but, some people also prefer to stay in the past sadly.
You are a warrior for a reason!!!!
Thank you for sharing your journey Cheryl! I know it is not easy. Sharing your life story on RUclips is another type of therapy. You are beautiful inside and out and I am happy that you are in a better place. We never know what someone is going through which you are living proof. Love Queen B
Thank you for sharing ❤ I'm able to relate when you say that you needed to start finding out what you liked, to make your own decisions. That is hard for me. I feel that all my life I've let others make decisions for me, and i don't know if it's because of my traumas and abuse I've experienced. Thank you so so much for being open and vulnerable to all of us. God Bless you!
Wow! That’s pretty sad! For me, the start of my trauma started when I was 6/7 years old when I witnessed my parents fighting a lot and when I was almost 8 my parents divorced. My ex-Aunt/Godmother (she was my Aunt by marriage) turned the whole family against my mom and as a result alienated me and my sisters. As a child/teen, I was bullied for being the “weird kid” and some members of my extended family treated me differently from my sisters because I was different from them.
Wow, Cheryl, thank you so much for sharing this. Very vulnerable and definitely one I will re-listen to again. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences. Sending you lots of love
Thank you for sharing this, Cheryl. I saw similarities in my life within yours. It totally makes sense as to why I act and think the way I do. I think that seeing a therapist is such a great way to figure yourself out, will be looking into this for myself. Again, thank you for sharing your story and for being a positive example to many. 🤍
I really liked your presntation, very forthright and honest, and I am sure a very healing moment for many. Therapy is so helpful, thank you for promoting meditation, too!!
I'm so glad I found your sight. I can relate to most of it. You tell yourself that no one else has these problems. And they do. I've gone through many years of therapy too. And it was the best thing I did. I do have a couple family members think that I shouldn't of gone through therapy. But they don't have me at their beck and call. I too had to apply what I was learning through therapy. And sad that family members don't agree. We only have one life to live and why not be happy with what we have each day. What has helped me lately is listening to a couple great ministers sermons.
Cheryl, You are such an inspiration to so many! God bless you! You are so down to earth and transparent about your life challenges and traumas. What you have done to deal with it, thank you for sharing, serves as encouragement for all of us to face traumas and to learn to live a good life knowing that you can come out of this as a better human when you can confront the person (s) who have hurt a vulnerable child if possible but most of all to deal with the issue by facing it, learning to forgive and most of all to treat yourself with the upmost care and love. Wishing you the best always! You are such a great dancer, such a beautiful and courageous woman.
Thanks for sharing your story..it must be tough to tell but healing for your self. I didn't watch it...didn't want to flair up my PTSD...My dad took my virginity when I was 3. I saw the title of this and knew it was tough for you...I prayed for you...
Hi Cheryl my name is Sergio, I definitely identify I’ve been cleaned and sobered for a year what an amazing feeling. I following the 12 step program I strongly recommend it. God bless you and good luck to you and your family 🙏
I have to tell my story as well.
I always love you from watching you DWS. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. Your story reminds me of the same thing my granddaughter is going through.
I was abused emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually, by my now ex husband of 23 years. He ruined my singing voice, out of spite, when he choked me. He caused me to miscarry all of my babies. He told me that he couldn't "dance" anymore. I was rushed by ambulance to a hospital, because I was throwing up blood. He messaged me and said it's not that he couldn't, but not with me. He found my body hideous. He told me that no man will want me. If I get lucky and a guy wants me, I need to have sex in the dark, so I don't scare the guy away.
Thank you for sharing this, Ate Cheryl. When you were talking about your earliest memory... it hit me close because my earliest memory isn't the happiest either. My earliest memory is when I was like 3 years old and I was watching the Flintstones in my livingroom and I was looking for my parents and when I went towards their room.. the door was slightly open and I remember looking in seeing my parents fighting and screaming at each other and my mom crying. My parents divorced when I was 3 years old.
The resemblance between your husband and Dad physically, is uncanny. ♥️
I agree.
I can relate, I had trauma in my past life with marriage....so much to take but now I am blessed with a very good life, not perfect but I can say I surpassed the hardship because I was strong. You are inspiration by sharing your story, so others can be inspired by you. Thank you and May God be always be with you.
Hi Cheryl,
Thank you for sharing ur life experiences, I feel like I'm learning things about myself watching this. Your soo brave and amazing, keep being the strong woman u are, I always feel certain traumas make us who we are.. Never stop being you xx
Thank you for sharing 🖤 it’s lovely to see a more vulnerable side of you
Cheryl Burke you inspire and many others to tell their story of physical mental emotional and verbal and sexual abuse. I am a victim too and didn't talk about by abusive experience till this year
So much of your story, i relate to. I wasn’t as young as you were , but a lot of what you say about your father. Is exactly what i went through. I was 12 when my first traumatic experience happened.
Thank you for being vulnerable 😌🙏🏽
You are an amazing, strong Pinay, inspiring and healing for many. Much respect for you.
Great Job Cheryl in sharing your younger life and upbringing. Fascinating to see images of your mom on her wedding day. Sending you sister LOVE and LIGHT, right back! Can’t wait to watch more. #CherylBurke-NESS.
Thank you for sharing part of your journey! 🙏🏼💗
Why are parents too busy to be parents? Its sad you only interacted w your mom when she checked your homework. An older man nanny is not even in my realm of comprehension. Was your mom a doctor too? Prayers for your healing and coping. I doubt it just goes away.
Thank you for sharing your story❤️your so strong
Thanks so much for sharing ❤️
Cheryl...you are awesome! ..I love seeing /hearing ....your story...amazing!...💜😍
Thank you for sharing your story an god bless you. You are a talent woman. Love to see you dancing.
Thank you for such courage and grace in sharing you life experience.
Very interesting! Nice to find your channel! ❤️
So interesting! Thank you for your honesty and sharing.
THANK U FOR SHARIN' UR TIME Y TAKIN' THE X TO MAKE THIS VIDEO! I CAN SO RELATE 2 U! THANK FOR HAVIN' THE COURAGE TO TALK Y MAKE THESE VIDEOS! I AM NEW TO UR CHANNEL! U JUST CAME INTO MI PHONE THIS MID-AFTERNOON! SUNDAY DEC. 13TH 2020! WOW! WE HAVE CLOSE STORIES! THANK U FOR LETTIN' ME KNOW THAT I AIN'T ALONE! 🙃🤭✝️📖🙏🕊️🛐🤗👒💐🦋
Your so brave Cheryl I look forward to more videos from you. 🧎♀️🧎♀️🧎♀️
Thank you for sharing this. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks for sharing Cheryl, your life story inspire me a lot
Thanks for watching! xx
Was sexually assaulted by my stepdad from the time I remember, the age 5 till I left home when I was 16. In my late 20’s I found out he had done it to my brother as well. I want to write a book and I want to get the laws changed to where the statute of limitations are longer or what I would really like is that there is no statute of limitations. This has totally messed with me my whole life, have been in therapy for years and take medications for PTSD, depression, major anxiety, and sometimes I just get really moody and in my own head about it. I have had so many issues in relationships, my husband now is really the only one who understands me, and he talks me down. I ran away so many times trying to get away from my stepdad, that I am a runner and if things get rough I run. I can tell my husband that I feel like running, he would talk to me about it. But now he won’t do that much anymore. I just don’t think people understand unless it happens to them. He has an amazing family, he is the youngest of 10 kids. They are all so close. I don’t speak to anyone in my family. My brother passed away in 2008, he was like my best friend. After he passed away I had an on and off relationship with my family but now I don’t have anything to do with them. The last thing my mother said to me was she wished I was dead instead of my brother.
Thank you for sharing your story 🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️
The sad reality is that you are so powerfully aware of yourself partly due to the traumas you endured.
You’re mom is from Nueva Ecija? My dad was from there too! Thanks for sharing your life story. You’re so humble and pretty.
Yes yes yes,... thank u for REAL sharing 👏👏💖.. and Absolutely..... more more more.. and most Definitely... go deep and real... u r sooo brave... u r a heroe... in my book....👍👍😇😇👍💖
Beautiful story Cheryl 💖💖 stay fighting
Thank you for sharing your story Cheryl. You’ve lived such an interesting life. I love learning more about you.
Thanks for watching Rachel! Welcome to my channel. xx
Cheryl Burke Thank you 😊
Thank you for sharing your story.
Just found your channel. And a new subscriber. ✌❤❤
Cheryl Me and Mom Can't not wait to See What you and AJ Do on Monday Night
God bless you and thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you so much for sharing your story.
I am a fan and love your dancing.
Sharon
Definitely can relate to alot of this
hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for sharing your story...
Peace and all Blessings of God be with you..Cheryl its good to see and hear You share openly your story its just one way of Healing..but I Noticed You have not even Tried Prayers and GOD! Im not sure about your Religion ..but if you are a Catholic I would highly Recommend the Daily Mass and Holy Euchatist recieving Jesus regularly and daily Meditations on the Scriptures will surely 100% heal you gradually as you Open to His Immense Grace and Love that could Heal you and bring you back Your Dignity..God Bless you and your dear Good Loving Husband..We assure you of our Prayers for your Continual Healing and Freedom from any enslavements..hugs Srs,OSC Yarze🙏😇🙏😘💞💓😷😷😷🙏 Please keep safe And Praises Thank the good Lord for the courage and Grace that He is giving You to Share your Story that could help so many out there GOD Bless your New Life on the road to healling and Freedom..🙏😂🙏We Love You
I absolutely love this beautiful women. She inspires me she is everything and I wish to get to where you are in dance. I love you sooo much stay sweet pretty 💗
My question is what was it that brought your dad to the Philippines? Was it work, vacation?
Wow your mother is absolutely beautiful
This is not relevant to the video but you are sooo pretty inside and out I did not who you where before dance moms but I have never watched a full episode dew to living in the uk and then I found out you where on dance with the starts as a coach. But I really want to meet you and you are someone who I look up too .♥️♥️❤️♥️❤️♥️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My name is Cheryl thank you!!!!
Cheryl you are a very beautiful and talented woman please know that and dont' let anyone or anything define you.
You're an inspiration to share your story so you can continue to heal and move forward, while bringing awareness to being sexually abused as a child.
Thx for sharing.
🙏🏿🙏🏿♥️♥️🎯🎯👏🏿👏🏿💪🏿💪🏿. I’ve actually been though this situation and I’m currently doing the work as well it’s been hard for me but I’m truly glad that I’m learning to find the truth about myself.
thanks for sharing this video and good luck to you and aj on mon night
Correction, I mean Matthew Lawrence. He favors your biological dad.
What type of therapy did you do I'm tring so hard to get help and 61 no money
Very brave! Keep going girlfriend
Thank u for sharing
How can you remember and be aware of that at 2 years old?! Hmmmm....
Alot of people do..