That's because she's reading as she speaks. Coming prepared to talk about this as just doing it off the top of your head would be a lot harder and make less sense
Tbh if I was her friend back then and seen him doing that $hit to her I wouldve beat his a$$ Iike why was is parents watching it and not saying anything. Like you should never put your hand on a women like watt he would’ve gotten a shoe thrown at his face and then I would’ve took his belt and beat the living crap out of him
@@Elong. facts and if Cheryl read my comment I don’t mean to be rude or anything but if I was your friend I would’ve take his belt and beat him with it and then go to his parents and do the same then get you out of there then drive you once your safely inside your home give you hug goodbye and check up on atleast every half hour to make sure ur okay. Then go back to his house to whoop his a$$ again
Cheryl, I have watched you on Daning with The Stars, and I have always admired you as a dancer. But now I admire you as a person. Your strength is astounding. Thank you for sharing your experience.
This topic you spoke about with your own journey is so relatable to my own story. I do believe us who've gone through sexual abuse in our adolescent years share the same experiences in dating. Through the years of my own healing I realized that I was so broken and didn't have much self worth within myself. It took a lot of healing and understanding about all the abuse I've gone through in my life. As you spoke upon with your own husband. I am grateful to have a great husband who understands and loves the broken parts of me. He knows all about my sexual abuse and past abusive relationships I found myself in the past. But I totally think when you've gone through sexual abuse in your adolescent years it really sets you up to experience not so healthy relationships. We are so custom to making the other person happy even if that means we are miserable. I have always been drawn to you and watching and hearing your own stories of trauma it makes total sense now. It takes true courage to share stories of abuse and I appreciate you being so open to your fans about all your experiences from the sexual abuse to now going through your own abusive relationships. If anyone is in a abusive relationship right now get out. I know it's the most scariest time is when you are trying to leave. But find someone you can trust and make a plan to leave the abuse. Also domestic abuse is not always physical abuse. You can be with a partner who abuses you both mentally and verbally. Many times we think since we're not being hit that we aren't in a abusive relationship. But that is not true I've had experiences with both physical and emotional abusive relationships Honestly, the emotional abusive relationship I still carry a lot of scars from because emotional abuse really plays tricks with your mind. True love won't hurt you. It took me years to heal my own wounds and find my own self worth. Everyone has a story and no one is alone when it comes to any form of abusive pasts. Much love to you and will forever have me as a fan ❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️.
Dear Cheryl, you put this exactly the way that life is when you are abused. You are precise in your wordings. Thank you for stating these facts for others, as you help them through this. I am extremely old and I wish that I could have, back, in my day say what you said. God bless you and my heart goes out to you and all that have gone through this. You and Matthew are just a beautiful couple and I am so happy you both have each other. Written Sincerely with Love and Hugs
This video was a hug. I have been beating myself up for allowing someone toxic into my life and not knowing how to get out last year. Sharing your story helps me and other woman know and believe that this can happen to anyone. Growth is possible, development, boundaries, assertiveness and leaving is Brave. These aren’t just your battle scars, they are all of ours too. Your pain, elegance, and strength is basically a hug to a lot woman. Thank you
You just gave me chills reading your beautiful message just now. Thank you for sharing and this is the reason I’ve chosen to share my story. Thank you again. Sending you so much love & light, my fellow survivor. Xx
Cheryl, you have gone through so much in your life. You are indeed a very strong and brave woman to be able to share these terrible things you went through. I am very blessed to never have gone through a life like that, but, my heart goes out to women that has and those that are going through this. Keep up the great of self healing. Thank God that you survived, so many women don't. You are very blessed to have the wonderful man/husband in your life. God is so good to us. KEEPING YOU IN MY PRAYERS. By the way, I just love you on dancing with the stars. You are my favorite female dancer and Derek and Max were my favorite male dancers.
This video made me cry... I'm sorry that you had to go through all those situations and I admire you for the strength that you have ... you are an amazing woman Cheryl ... Thank you for sharing this with us and for inspiring me every day to be the best version of myself ... You have my unconditional love and support ❤️
I am so sorry that this happened to you..... I’m just so happy that you found your way to get out of that toxic relationship. I will never understand what makes them abusers thinks that they have the right to hit women.... thank you for sharing this and hoping that this will help others.
Thank you very much for being so candid . I believe that by your sharing your experience, you facilitate others sharing and commencing their own healing journeys. Abusive, toxic relationships are so often kept secret and too many people feel that is all they can have in life. That thinking can leave such long lasting imprints, but we don’t have to be limited to those toxic relationships. Bless you!
Thank you, Cheryl, for sharing your story. I am so proud of you for speaking your truth and reaching out to help others. You may remember me as Patti Hight (counselor from La Entrada). I have followed your career on DWTS and have always rooted for you. My heart aches for the things you have had to endure and I just wish I could have been more help when you were younger. Thank you again for being so open and honest and for showing such courage. Sending you lots of love!
Thank you Cheryl, listening to your story is helping me heal from my abusive relationship; hearing about your journey and your awareness of why you put up with things for so long is very insightful and thought provoking, truly thank you for sharing your journey, helping people like me heal and move on. I’m working on not judging myself for staying in the situation, instead understanding what happened and working on self love. You are such an inspiration and I’m working on being self assured and taking all I can out of the experience after watching your video ❤️
I am thankful you found help. Abusive relationships put you in such an addictive mindset. It is really hard to get out of that situation. Keep growing. I know I am. You are my favorite female dancer on DWTS. Keep up the good work, and thank you for being brave enough to share your story!
I can relate to everything you’re saying, sadly so many women go through similar experiences. I’m so sorry this happened to you but seeing how you are now gives me so much hope❤️ I hope young women see this, thank you for your honesty❤️
Thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable, Love. In listening, I don’t feel so alone with my own childhood abuse & the unhealthy choices I made due to an altered, unnatural sense of sexual expression. I appreciate you, 🌼Jalynn
I am sure women or young girls will get strength from hearing your story. I personally have never been in a abusive relationship with a romantic partner but I was sexually abused and physically abused by my father and other people. Thank God for His hand because I could have easily been in a abusive relationship. In highschool my best friend since grade school, this was end of junior year, she found herself this awful bad boy. He was abusive & he was driving me home, I was in backseat & best friend in passenger seat. At this time into their relationship he was already abusive to her verbally, got her into drugs, later it escalated into physical abuse. But as he drove me home he began running his mouth and I remember reaching over and hitting him in the face and then taking both my legs and kicking him in the back as hard as I could. He did nothing. Most men who are abusive are only this way to those who they think they can do it too. I always say don't mistake my kindness for weakness. It felt good to stick up for her and horse kick his ass because she never spoke up she was too nice. He kept running his mouth and I made it home. He threatened me and family so I ran in to get my dad who was huge and was abusive toward us. He ran outside but the kid left, lucky for him. The sad part was I lost my best friend. I had told her him or our friendship because he was coming in between everything in her life. He sucked all good things dry. It was my senior year and here it was supposed to be the most memorable and I began it without her. I was depressed. She picked him. Eventually they broke up and it was a disaster for her and family because of his antics. Eventually she started speaking to me and said how sorry she was. But it was never the same after that even though we reconciled. She was doing drugs, going to the club, partying all the time. Drinking. She was no longer that sweet girl from grade school who was closer to me than my sister. At least my parents modeled and taught me a few things, they didn't drink or ever do drugs so we always knew that was not an option. Her life became about partying. She had a baby from a boyfriend, then another. Never wed and just went guy to guy. I think she has 3kids now not sure. Her dreams of culinary school to be a chef never happened. Our friendship fizzled because we no longer had common interests which didn't bother me but it did for her. I started inquiring more about God and found a church. Lol I took her with me she said it wasn't for her and I respected it. She wasn't ready to give up the life. A while later I ran into her at a walking track and she looked awful. Lost so much weight, said she still was partying. I could see she was doing drugs by how she looked. I never stopped having love for my amiga. But I couldn't participate in her choices. I went on to do missions work overseas in South America. Through God's love I received a lot of inner healing by discovering a father's love in God. I traveled a lot for ministry in my young age. Took trips with friends and lived. It was awesome. Fast forward I am 39 and moved away from home state for ministry purposes, met my husband and we have a good life. Whatever is next for me I await on God's time and plans to unfold. I still think of her and sometimes dream of her and family. Before she went downhill her family gave me a childhood. I grew up with neglect and if it wasn't for them I wouldn't of had a childhood. I didn't have parents who were involved in my life not grade school years and even now. We won't always understand the reason for why people abuse, in a lot of cases it was done to them and they repeated a modeled behavior. But at some point it is good to heal and move on and give ourselves what we didn't get as children. This year I have had a lot of personal growth and gave myself stability, within my own self. People who are victims of abuse so often look to others for security and stability and God will give that to us but for a time so we can heal but it is important to have stability within yourself. Life changes and people come and go for good and tough reasons. But we can rely on ourselves for stability and God. Jesus said He would never leave us. What a promise. I have found my peace in His arms in times of fear, worry, uncertainty. I was very blessed because I met my pastor and she became a mother to me. I met her at 17 and she died a few months ago from cancer. She modeled stability to perfection. Taught me how to react in the face of life's challenges and problems. People's attacks and how to show compassion and be slow to anger, to forgive. I had a beautiful mother. So this was gone this year. But I knew God was saying I needed to be stable within my own self and stand on my own two feet. I was never given this as a kid so I was starting for the first time this year. I have done well. I also do counseling. Which is a huge help. So I have overcome much but I am still a work in progress. Pray for the friend who is making wrong choices that destroy. We can't stop them only talk to them and pray.
No doubt that the wounds and pain are deep but the real take away is the growth into a confident woman who loves herself and values her voice! I commend you. You continue to be an inspiration. Your dance talent speaks to us all but even more, your entire journey inside and outside dance touches us in such deep ways. Continue to shine your light. You never know for whom you are helping out of darkness. Namaste. ❤️🙏🏽
I am right there with you. From 4/5 until I recently left my abusive sex addict husband. I am now 52. I have also been in therapy since the age of 18. My entire family turned on me at 27 when I charged one of my abuser's....which was an uncle. They still have nothing to do with me. I haven't found any therapist that has been qualified to help me. The ones that are? Are inpatient programs, that are 25,000 to 40,000. I had set up a GoFundMe page, but haven't had much luck. I am so glad that you had you mom to support you. I never did. My mom actually knew about her brother, but chose to keep the family secret and told me to keep quiet. The family friends wife? She knew about her husband as well, but it was a daily thing, that had never been discussed. He raped me for the 1st time at 5 years old. I am in a horrible divorce with my sex addicted, abusive husband. I struggle daily to stay alive and keep fighting. Thank you for bringing this to light. Also, a former dancer.❤🙏
I am so sorry @Lin Sin. Unfortunately as far as my Uncle went? He admitted to it, so my family had no choice but to believe me...and, my mom walked in on us when I was very young. They still turned on me. 47 family member's in seconds. It is heartbreaking. Now with my divorce, my soon to be ex husband, has turned my stepchildren and grandchildren against me. Heartbreaking. I am so sorry that you are hurting. Nobody should have to live this kind of pain. Sending you love.❤🙏
I loved that you are so TransPARENT. You are a true light inside & out. I feel your soul speaking to my younger self . Mistakes are a fact of life: It is the response to the error that counts. Nikki Giovanni
Thanks so much for sharing ❤️❤️your sharing is helping a lot of people (like me). I suffered from abuse in the past as well. I’m SO thankful that my husband is NOTHING like the men from my past ❤️ I hear you, girl
I totally have been there done that only my first abuser was my mother. And she split me and a man who was 12 years older and treated me like gold. I’m now on my second marriage to that same man and very happy!
You are a rare jewel Cheryl. You speak from a hurt and pain that brought you to a point of truth about yourself, relationships and life. Thank you and I know many will benefit from your story. Much love and happiness.
You have always been my favorite DWTS dancer and now I know why. You truly are a beautiful person both inside and out and deserve all the happiness and health that you have found now. G-d bless you and know that there are so many people that have been in your shoes and hope that hearing you will also help them find the strength that you have found to finally reach the other side with you and your partner, Matt. Happy and Healthy Holidays and New Year
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I can relate to much of what you said. It takes a lot of courage to be so candid and reveal the details of the abuse that you suffered. So glad you are happy and healed now and that you have a great husband. I look forward to your future videos.
Sorry to hear what abusive relationship you"ve been through in the past. You're never alone in these horrible, terrible scenarios of your life but what counts most is you are peaceful, happy & safe now. Nothing is perfect in this very complicated world. You speak so intelligently & brave enough to share your experiences good or bad with us. After all, you became a serial victim while growing up pursuing your artistic career in dancing & becomes a huge success & accomplishment! You really dance so well & magnificently ! You also create dance partners who can be proud of themselves to say, hey, "I can dance & entertain too like magic! KEEP ON DANCING CHERYL, YOU MAKE PEOPLE VERY HAPPY!!! LOVE U MUCH!
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We appreciate you for using your voice and platform to help others and to speak about the things that happen to you. Just by you sharing your story helped someone in the world today. I’m sorry you’ve been through the stuff you been through . From as a child to a wonderful and beautiful women. Sometime we do ask ourselves wat would’ve happen if this or these things didn’t happen. But we will never know and I ask myself that question everyday like wat my life be like and look like if my dad was here or I didn’t have as much siblings as I do right now. I don’t understand why that person abused you and then have the audacity to stalk you Iike watt. And for his parents to sit there and watch like know we know where he get that behavior from. I don’t understand what the purpose of abusing someone. Where is that gonna lead you too? But Cheryl We thank you for sharing these stories. And yes not everyone is perfect but you sharing your stories and the true Cheryl Burke not the one covered in glitter and rhinestones and tan spray( don’t get wrong me you look beautiful and stunning in them ) but you sharing us the real Cheryl Burke is perfect. You could use your platform for anything else but you choose to speak about the stuff that happen to you , about meditation, and mental health is amazing. I wanna jumped through the screen and give you a hug Sending you lotttssssss ooffff llooooovvvveeeee❤️❤️❤️💖💖💖💖💕💕💕💕😘😘😘😘🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰💗💗💗💓💓💓
My dear Cheryl. So sorry for the trauma you have passed through. Only the strength of God can guide one through such experiences. Anyone else would have given up on life and love, but you renewed both for yourself. Our unhealthy need for external love instead of self-love is what lands us in trouble. It is like a signal that bad boys pick up from us and they interprete it that we enjoy being abused. It takes the strength of your highest self to see the toxic patterns for what they really are and say, "No more of this bulls**t!" On some level, I understand how you feel. I understand the vicious toxic cycle and patterns and I am on a healing journey myself. Your story stands for hope and light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you. I wish you a loving and blissful married life. God bless you, Cheryl.
It takes courage to open yourself up in such a public way. I hope your message will help others to reflect on their relationships. Personal growth never stops.
You are very strong Cheryl ! Not just for coming out of bad situations but for the person that you are today ! Please take care we love you ! God Bless !
Others have said it but I will too. Showing us this side of you...the non overly made up, overly tan, rhinestoned person...is so helpful to those of us who get blinded by the celebrity glitz and feel like only us civilians have these personal issues to deal with. Thank you for the vulnerability and the transparency. Its needed in this life of smoke and mirrors where most people put on their pretty, shiny faces.
You are a brave & strong person to be able to tell your subscribers (I'm one of them) about your past abusive relationships. I'm glad those experiences made you a person you are today & I'm so happy that you met your husband who is nice & who loves you. Have a happy life, Cheryl!
Cheryl I want to thank you for sharing your Story it makes me feel like I’m not alone I was in a Abusive Relationship and I was afraid to leave cause he would always remind me that he had a pocket knife and it scared me he made me feel like I was Worthless and alone he destroyed my self Confidence and he tore me down Emotionally my Family made attempts to take me away from him but at the time I was reluctant to leave but I knew deep down that I didn’t deserve to be treated that way and with my Family’s help I was able to leave him Thank you Cheryl for being one of my biggest inspirations
Cheryl, I have watched you on DWTS since it started and you are an amazing dancer! I'm so sorry for what you have gone through. But as you said, you wouldn't be where you are today if you didn't go through all of that. You are making a difference to others by sharing your story. Just know that you are loved by many and you are beautiful inside and out.
I'm sorry you had to go through things like that. No one person should be hurt. We're to love, and appreciate each other. Your a truly beautiful lady. Anyone should be honored to be dating a lady such as you. I would do my best to spoil you, and let you know every minute of the day how much I care. But I know people are different. I pray your doing so much better now. I will keep you in my prayers. May God bless you 🙏
El abuso domestico es tan prevalente pero muchas personas tienen verjuenza sobre la tema. Yo te elogiar por tener la fuerza para enfrentar estas traumas y ser un ejemplo para las chicas y chicos que están sufriendo. Sin soner tan dramatico, este video pudia salver alguien y empezar el proceso de cura heridas profundas. Cuando alguien quita tu poder te sientes sin valeo. Ahora es el tiempo para apoyar personas en tu vida que están sufriendo en silencio.
I so sorry, you have gone through so much abuse. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. If you had not shared your story, I thought of you as a beautiful qnd lucky young lady with all the fame and beauty. Thank you for sharing. I really hope that you now have all the 💘 you had been missing . You are a beautiful person inside and out and a fantastic dancer.
Cheryl i was always a big fan of yours with dwts. I to have been abused and then as a adult gone through toxic relationships. The last relationship was just recently with a separated woman. It was an emotional roller coaster. I know this video old and I realize you just went through a tough break up and divorce. I am doing the same thing you are which is learning to truly love myself again and not jump right back into another relationship again. I am trying to become a better version of myself. God bless you Cheryl ❤
Cheryl, thank you so very much for sharing this part of your story-I know it isn't easy/comfortable, but it's something I think EVERYONE needs to hear, no matter what their situations are. I have watched you since day 1 on DWTS-well except this season-but have subscribed to your channel and share your videos with loved ones of mine who have similar stories, as well as my own. I love you, I love your courage , again, thank you for sharing.
I can’t help but laugh about the baby mama throwing rocks at him a moron can come up with brighter idea for an excuse. But anyways, ‘nough with that. You coming out with your story will serve us who have very young girls in our family to pay attention and have that conversation and never totally trust anyone. Just want to thank you. I have a granddaughter and I will certainly want my daughter to hear your story. So thank you and more power to you 🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing. I’ve always thought you had such a unique beauty and learning more about you is very inspiring and influences more healthy healing with all the hurt that each of us can carry inside. People have no idea sometimes, what’s behind one’s life. I would have never imagined you went through all that. I know my sister went through her share of abuse too from undeserving assholes. It’s horrible the abuse that some people inflict and how they can think it’s ok to treat someone that maliciously with such irreverence of any possible punishment for their violence. I don’t understand how any one, including someone’s parents can simply watch. That’s so disheartening that no one was there to take care of you and help you. Truly good friends can really help and it’s just sad that it took so long for you to hear more often that you didn’t deserve any of that. It’s a blessing how you had the one connection that would bring you real love.❤️ God bless. Was really cute how you put Matt in art with the leaves and flowers.🌼
You are so courageous and strong. I wish I’d have known the signs when I was 18 that the man I was about to meet would be psychologically abusive and as a disabled woman (and dancer) I was “not ALLOWED” other carers. This will help SO many people, I promise. You’ve done the most wonderful thing here, brutal honesty and it could save people. I was (although much less severe) in the same collateral pattern particularly with addicts, and when I sought help for my codependency in CODA I broke the pattern. You are such an inspiration to me, as a person and a dancer. Even as a wheelchair dancer my most honed skill from jazz to ballet to tap is that I put every single emotion into every single dance move. The way you preach that makes me feel validated as a performer. Never doubt the light you shine in the world ✨
TY for being strong and brave enough to not let it be your entire life, wasted years, health struggles, hindsight is great, but, keep encouraging those who are hopeless and tired and afraid. We are not alone, others walk the road with us
Good job Cheryl. Your situation is indicative of the twisted expectations that our society tends to promote and to which so many women feel they have to adhere to feel they are loved. Appreciation is certainly not a part of that destructive dynamic. Certainly glad that you have lived to tell about the experience and grow from it. Congratulations and keep up the good work. So many need to hear and benefit from your story.
I've been a fan for a long time,and I applaud your candor and bravery to share the darker moments of your past.I hope it can help someone in a similar situation see the light and get help.No one deserves to be abused in any way,though I have known women who have put up with it for years.
Hey Cheryl, you and my Eldest sister share the same name, and spelling. Fond memory for me. She died in 2010 from a horrible brain tumor. (Forever missed). Both of my sisters were as tough as they come, and my next eldest sister was nearly raped, but she managed to knee the guy and get away... thank God! I was not so lucky myself. I grew up being abused mentally, emotionally and physically. I couldn't tell someone which of these types of abuse were worse, they all were to me, but it was the yoke I was forced to live under. I think, all people who suffered abuse would do well to allow themselves to talk about it, with those who can help, or with those whom have gone through it themselves. There's more healing in "relating" than there is in a therapist who learns about it, but has never experienced it "to TRULY KNOW" the core or depths of thee experience. I'm rambling off course here sorry, it IS an extremely sensitive arena, hard not TO relate first on that level with you here. However-- to your cause,,, I commend you for what you're doing. I'm glad to see you are Married and found what I assume to be a GOOD Spouse. Congrats! I hope that by sharing YOUR story so openly, others will feel they can share theirs and perhaps heal some, or realize that they CAN GET THE HELP NEEDED... TO GET THEM TO SAFETY.... AWAY FROM THEE ABUSE! I'm sharing as I have, simply because tho I'm a very private person in my day to day life, I am also as inclusive or open as one can be. A walking contradiction of sorts. :--)) Honesty can be very hard at times. But, to share... it was some years back now, that I had befriended another female. This seems to happen moreso than other guys, but they both seem to attach to me as a fellow human being. Anyway-- in short time, she shared with me that she had been living in terribly abusive relationships throughout her life... a repeat after repeat etc... A horrible pattern. Finally she was out and staying on her own to re-find "herself." And she did with the help of family, friends, and therapy. (Thank God!) But for me, when she shared that with me, it was like a reckoning. I realized that very day, that nearly EVERY FEMALE I KNEW in my life, had been abused in one way or another. I thought to myself about a percentage of females I knew who had been and those who had not been, and it was tragic. I figured that probably 90+ % of every female I'd ever known, had been raped, beaten, yelled at non stop... abused. It was shattering for me to realize. It was at that time, that my own abuse faded in comparison. Tho I had been beaten physically, mentally and emotionally horribly, I had not suffered rape. Which seemed to me worse than all I had experienced. I came here, because I saw this article on Yahoo front page about you. My initial thought, "My goodness, how does someone hurt such a darling human being?" I have seen the worst done to human beings, having been a CSI for many years. And tho I know what human being ARE CAPABLE OF, I won't ever understand it, and I honestly don't want too. I just think of, "The LOSS, and what those dear human beings might have brought to our world... perhaps changed it for the better. Who knows?" But it doesn't take DEATH of someone, for us to LOSE THEM, and ALL THEY COULD HAVE BEEN OR BE. Abuse is just short of killing, It destroys the personal character of someone, and WE LOSE... what THAT HUMAN BEING may have brought into our world, had they NOT been treated so horribly. Many many prayers to you and EVERYONE who experiences abuse IN ANY FORM. I pray they FIND THE WAY AWAY FROM IT, and reach the path to a happy wonderful kind and whole life! It's always JUST DOWN THE ROAD A PIECE! God Bless and peace be everyone! Stay Safe out there!!! Kindly Nicholas
I'm much older than you Cheryl but my childhood was one of constant abuse as well after my parents divorced when I was 3. We are meant to have solid foundations from birth onward but if there is break-up and abuse the foundation becomes re-bar & Styrofoam and one can't change the foundation once the building is erected. I never had therapy - probably should have - but I found solace in the Bible and my faith journey. I identify with the analysis of your various reasons for your experiences because I see the same in my self as I'm sure many watching do as well. TY!
Thank you Mrs Burke for sharing your personal story so eloquently as the clarity of your words allowed me to revisit my own experience of past abuses. I was married at age of 18 without the Blessings of my parents as they loved me enough to verbalize their concerns regarding my being unprepared in so many ways to enter into such a mature relationship. Long story short it was a nightmare marriage that I am feeling truly Blessed in even being still here to listen to your fixation on past abusive relationships and experiences and struggles. Thanks again for sharing your story with courage, strength, insight, compassion and personal growth helping others to see that their is a light At the end of the tunnel just have to take 1st step in recognizing you need help and second reaching out to someone for help to regain your life and instill hope towards the future.
well CB, I’m glad your story had a happier ending and I’m glad for you to have the courage and higher self esteem to share with me your sad past in this and your other videos. Let’s continue to see awesome growth with your hubby and your desire to help others who may have had or are in what I call undesirable relationships. Btw, I share the same first name has husband only I chose to spell it a bit different. See he & I grew up being called Matty...so keep on healing and making your life great!
OMG I always tell my doctors that no one can understand, but I truly think you can. The only difference is my life wasn't privileged, but there are so many similarities, it is spooky. I wish I had your voice. I have tried many times to explain my childhood and my past experiences, but I get to embarrassed or just don't know how to put it into words. You are my hero, Bravo CB 🔔
Thank you for this message. My advice to you would be to own who you are, battle wounds and all! I understand more than most, that feeling of embarrassment and shame, but know that you’re not alone and by telling your story, I guarantee you will help at least one person. I tell mine and do so often because I know that the more we communicate about the reality of our lives, the good, the bad, and the ugly; we are making a difference. Sending you so much love and strength during this holiday season. One day at a time my friend and thank you again for opening up to me and for your support. ♥️
Thank you for sharing your journey. I’m a big fan❤️ You are an amazing & talented woman. I went through similar experiences throughout my life, but through all that, I also found the love of my life. I’ve been married and blessed with an amazing husband for 24yrs. I wish you continued Love, Positivity and Success in your life💖🙏🏽
I had no idea. I'm so sorry. Thank you for sharing such an intimate story, I am most certainly am gonna try to find a therapist. The only part that stinks is insurances won't pay so it all has to be out of pocket
Your life's story is amazing. I get my sense of self-love and worth from my relationship with Jesus Christ. He's a loving and perfect savior and friend.
Thank you for sharing it helps me because I always felt less valuable after being in one abusive relationship after another. I was also abused by my mother and my father ignored it which empowered her. So needless to say I ran to men for love protection and support but what I recieved was abuse tons of abuse. I began dancing in my early 20's because my mother wouldn't let me have lessons when I was younger. It was difficult since everyone else was so advanced by the time they were my age. Like you I have also been in therapy my whole life well since I left my mother's house. After my last abusive relationship I found a really great therapist who helped me see my patterns and my trauma response to things. I am healing and hope to be a mom and wife one day soon. 💗💋
Ms. Cheryl, I’m just so happy u found love! U seem so down to earth, I’ve commented before on your videos. Thanks for posting this! You’re amazing, stay strong 💪 💜
I love music and dance so I have been watching Dancing With the Stars for years. I have learned so much from all who shared their trauma stories when they do their letting go dance. I came upon you, Cheryl, sharing your abuse story a few moments age . I am expert in women who suffer from PTSD doing all can to bring awareness how differently women experience trauma due our reproductive cycles. I am reaching out because my mother came to me in a dream two ago to share she did not know my father was a rape victim. I am women with a different which can risky as we all have learned. I would be deeply grateful Cheryl if you might be open to having a conversation as my knowledge expanded incredibly listening to the stories shared on your show. Once Music, Dance and storytelling was the path healing.
The thing I think women should know first and foremost is that even though you're basically hardwired to liking "bad boys type", do know what you're getting into with them. Don't look at those types of guys as someone you see in movies and TV shows, those are written with the honest purpose of getting women, and gay men, look into those types of men. But in the real world, the reality of the situation is that these "bad boys" are the type of guys who came from a bad/lack of love background, which means they haven't been conditioned the right way (could be by their own mother, father, brothers or whoever someone else in their life who have been abusive to them), so basically these types of guys grow learning to toughen up or even worse, to hardened their emotions. So guess what happens when you decide to pick someone who's emotionally hardened and knows coming from an abusive relationship? Why do we, as a society, act so surprised when these EMOTIONALLY HARDENED people get so abusive. Now they stereotyped women as the smarter of sex, so I expect you ladies to answer that question correctly so. But you get defensive about it, then I promise you, as of right now, that there's definitely something happening in your life that is causing you to feel that way. And you can respond to me with some sort of insult like "fuck you, or you don't know what you're talking about" to me, but I can promise you that the emotional turmoil you will receive or have been receiving from these "bad boys" is not my doing. And letting your ego getting the best of your emotions just from reading this and telling me to go fuck myself won't stop the reality of whatever situations you've been in. Cheryl said it herself that she's into the "bad boys" type, so when she said that she's been abused by them/him, it didn't surprise me whatsoever. Here's the reality of the situation that these talk show host won't bring up, or at least from my experience watching them for so little at a time is that: 1. women need to know OR take a quick second to consider the type of men they're dating, so if you're someone who is into bad boys like, Cheryl was, then I suggest you take some more time to gather your thoughts on it before you jump into types of relationship. Especially when it comes with labeled BAD in front. 2. I fully understand that it sucks that people (like Cheryl and many others, and not just women but men could also experience these type of relationships with someone who were poorly nurtured) get themselves into these type of relationships, but guess what, when you're searching for someone that even you are given a label "bad boy" or even "bad/tough girls" type, and it was completely your choice to get into a relationship with these types of a relationship then you have to recognize that. And for everyone else, know that it's OK to say it was those people's fault for getting into those type of relationships. EVERYONE should LEARN from this, we as a society shouldn't just be "aw woe is you" but as a whole, we should come together and tell people TO STOP getting into those types of relationships and avoid it altogether if they hope of ever ending "abusive relationship" or at least put a huge dent in it for everyone from now and future sake. So yes, I do feel bad for Cheryl or ANYONE for getting into a relationship with someone who has a labeled "bad" in front of them. If someone walks into a land mine field KNOWING there were signs saying this is a "warning land minefield", wouldn't you agreed it was the person's fault for walking into it in the first place? 3. This whole "bad boy" issue in of itself, is a root problem, and usually, that's stems from the home life. So we need to teach mothers and father how to properly raised a gentleman and properly raised a lady (don't get mad now feminists, I'm not advocating for suppressing of women just because I just said type. What's being said here is me expressing that I wanting, and advocate for mom and dad to properly nurture a well mannered and behaved men and women, and when they do that society doesn't have to suffer anymore like Cheryl here, and men and women TO NOT search for these types of idiotic relationship anymore when these relationships obviously are causing pain and misery, and I'm hoping people would stop actively walking into pain no more. Hopefully, any sensible feminists here agree with that too) 4. So how about this from now on, instead of looking for someone that even you labeled as bad, who about you find someone who is WHOLESOME. Someone who has it figured out, or at least can hold themself together enough, who would love you enough and stop seeking for someone who is emotionally hardened because of either the way they were raised or grew up in an abusive life, so that same mistake this won't happen, and tt doesn't have to happen, AND you can finally receive the proper love you were hoping for from those wholesome men or women instead. How about that. Because it's so plainly obvious to me that every time we see someone opened up that they went through an abusive relationship, I damn near 100% see in the comments how bad you feel for them, but never include the parts that actually matter which is "STOP seeking for those types of men or women, AND learn to avoid those people and find yourself someone who is actually wholesome and would love every inch of you). How about that for a change, society?
This woman has been through a lot.
You tell all your life stories so well, and so eloquently.
That's because she's reading as she speaks. Coming prepared to talk about this as just doing it off the top of your head would be a lot harder and make less sense
I am so shocked that you were beat by the “boyfriend” and that his parents didn’t stop him! I wish I was your friend back then.
Tbh if I was her friend back then and seen him doing that $hit to her I wouldve beat his a$$ Iike why was is parents watching it and not saying anything. Like you should never put your hand on a women like watt he would’ve gotten a shoe thrown at his face and then I would’ve took his belt and beat the living crap out of him
@@ambermercado790 that’s exactly what I had in mind for him 👊
@@Elong. facts and if Cheryl read my comment I don’t mean to be rude or anything but if I was your friend I would’ve take his belt and beat him with it and then go to his parents and do the same then get you out of there then drive you once your safely inside your home give you hug goodbye and check up on atleast every half hour to make sure ur okay. Then go back to his house to whoop his a$$ again
@@ambermercado790 same I just wish I was her friend then and could have talked to her. I’m sure she had supportive friends back then though
@@Elong. yea I believe so too but I wish I was her friend in general but we will support Cherbear and always there for her 💖❤️
Cheryl, I have watched you on Daning with The Stars, and I have always admired you as a dancer. But now I admire you as a person. Your strength is astounding. Thank you for sharing your experience.
God Bless you, Cheryl! I was in an abusive marriage so I can relate to all the feelings!
Those Lawrence brothers were raised right ❤️
Incredible courage, Cheryl, to step up and relive dark times of your life in order to help others. God bless.
This topic you spoke about with your own journey is so relatable to my own story. I do believe us who've gone through sexual abuse in our adolescent years share the same experiences in dating. Through the years of my own healing I realized that I was so broken and didn't have much self worth within myself. It took a lot of healing and understanding about all the abuse I've gone through in my life. As you spoke upon with your own husband. I am grateful to have a great husband who understands and loves the broken parts of me. He knows all about my sexual abuse and past abusive relationships I found myself in the past. But I totally think when you've gone through sexual abuse in your adolescent years it really sets you up to experience not so healthy relationships. We are so custom to making the other person happy even if that means we are miserable. I have always been drawn to you and watching and hearing your own stories of trauma it makes total sense now. It takes true courage to share stories of abuse and I appreciate you being so open to your fans about all your experiences from the sexual abuse to now going through your own abusive relationships. If anyone is in a abusive relationship right now get out. I know it's the most scariest time is when you are trying to leave. But find someone you can trust and make a plan to leave the abuse. Also domestic abuse is not always physical abuse. You can be with a partner who abuses you both mentally and verbally. Many times we think since we're not being hit that we aren't in a abusive relationship. But that is not true I've had experiences with both physical and emotional abusive relationships Honestly, the emotional abusive relationship I still carry a lot of scars from because emotional abuse really plays tricks with your mind. True love won't hurt you. It took me years to heal my own wounds and find my own self worth. Everyone has a story and no one is alone when it comes to any form of abusive pasts. Much love to you and will forever have me as a fan ❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️.
Dear Cheryl, you put this exactly the way that life is when you are abused. You are precise in your wordings. Thank you for stating these facts for others, as you help them through this. I am extremely old and I wish that I could have, back, in my day say what you said. God bless you and my heart goes out to you and all that have gone through this. You and Matthew are just a beautiful couple and I am so happy you both have each other. Written Sincerely with Love and Hugs
This video was a hug. I have been beating myself up for allowing someone toxic into my life and not knowing how to get out last year. Sharing your story helps me and other woman know and believe that this can happen to anyone. Growth is possible, development, boundaries, assertiveness and leaving is Brave. These aren’t just your battle scars, they are all of ours too. Your pain, elegance, and strength is basically a hug to a lot woman. Thank you
You just gave me chills reading your beautiful message just now. Thank you for sharing and this is the reason I’ve chosen to share my story. Thank you again. Sending you so much love & light, my fellow survivor. Xx
Cheryl, you have gone through so much in your life. You are indeed a very strong and brave woman to be able to share these terrible things you went through. I am very blessed to never have gone through a life like that, but, my heart goes out to women that has and those that are going through this. Keep up the great of self healing. Thank God that you survived, so many women don't. You are very blessed to have the wonderful man/husband in your life. God is so good to us.
KEEPING YOU IN MY PRAYERS.
By the way, I just love you on dancing with the stars. You are my favorite female dancer and Derek and Max were my favorite male dancers.
This video made me cry... I'm sorry that you had to go through all those situations and I admire you for the strength that you have ... you are an amazing woman Cheryl ... Thank you for sharing this with us and for inspiring me every day to be the best version of myself ... You have my unconditional love and support ❤️
Thank you so much for your support, it means so much to me. ❤️
I went through this for 3 years starting at age 16. It really shaped who I am now. I wish I was as strong then as I am now. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for being so open, you have a amazing platform and I know this will help others. You are a amazing women.
I am so sorry that this happened to you..... I’m just so happy that you found your way to get out of that toxic relationship. I will never understand what makes them abusers thinks that they have the right to hit women.... thank you for sharing this and hoping that this will help others.
This is so important even if you haven't been through something like this. I really respect how strong you are to talk about all of it. 🙏🏻
Thank you very much for being so candid . I believe that by your sharing your experience, you facilitate others sharing and commencing their own healing journeys. Abusive, toxic relationships are so often kept secret and too many people feel that is all they can have in life. That thinking can leave such long lasting imprints, but we don’t have to be limited to those toxic relationships. Bless you!
Thank you, Cheryl, for sharing your story. I am so proud of you for speaking your truth and reaching out to help others. You may remember me as Patti Hight (counselor from La Entrada). I have followed your career on DWTS and have always rooted for you. My heart aches for the things you have had to endure and I just wish I could have been more help when you were younger. Thank you again for being so open and honest and for showing such courage. Sending you lots of love!
Thank you Cheryl, listening to your story is helping me heal from my abusive relationship; hearing about your journey and your awareness of why you put up with things for so long is very insightful and thought provoking, truly thank you for sharing your journey, helping people like me heal and move on. I’m working on not judging myself for staying in the situation, instead understanding what happened and working on self love. You are such an inspiration and I’m working on being self assured and taking all I can out of the experience after watching your video ❤️
I am thankful you found help. Abusive relationships put you in such an addictive mindset. It is really hard to get out of that situation. Keep growing. I know I am. You are my favorite female dancer on DWTS. Keep up the good work, and thank you for being brave enough to share your story!
I can relate to everything you’re saying, sadly so many women go through similar experiences. I’m so sorry this happened to you but seeing how you are now gives me so much hope❤️ I hope young women see this, thank you for your honesty❤️
Thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable, Love.
In listening, I don’t feel so alone with my own childhood abuse & the unhealthy choices I made due to an altered, unnatural sense of sexual expression.
I appreciate you,
🌼Jalynn
Cheryl, such an important video, THANK YOU FOR BEING VULNERABLE!
I am sure women or young girls will get strength from hearing your story. I personally have never been in a abusive relationship with a romantic partner but I was sexually abused and physically abused by my father and other people. Thank God for His hand because I could have easily been in a abusive relationship. In highschool my best friend since grade school, this was end of junior year, she found herself this awful bad boy. He was abusive & he was driving me home, I was in backseat & best friend in passenger seat. At this time into their relationship he was already abusive to her verbally, got her into drugs, later it escalated into physical abuse. But as he drove me home he began running his mouth and I remember reaching over and hitting him in the face and then taking both my legs and kicking him in the back as hard as I could. He did nothing. Most men who are abusive are only this way to those who they think they can do it too. I always say don't mistake my kindness for weakness. It felt good to stick up for her and horse kick his ass because she never spoke up she was too nice. He kept running his mouth and I made it home. He threatened me and family so I ran in to get my dad who was huge and was abusive toward us. He ran outside but the kid left, lucky for him. The sad part was I lost my best friend. I had told her him or our friendship because he was coming in between everything in her life. He sucked all good things dry. It was my senior year and here it was supposed to be the most memorable and I began it without her. I was depressed. She picked him. Eventually they broke up and it was a disaster for her and family because of his antics. Eventually she started speaking to me and said how sorry she was. But it was never the same after that even though we reconciled. She was doing drugs, going to the club, partying all the time. Drinking. She was no longer that sweet girl from grade school who was closer to me than my sister. At least my parents modeled and taught me a few things, they didn't drink or ever do drugs so we always knew that was not an option. Her life became about partying. She had a baby from a boyfriend, then another. Never wed and just went guy to guy. I think she has 3kids now not sure. Her dreams of culinary school to be a chef never happened. Our friendship fizzled because we no longer had common interests which didn't bother me but it did for her. I started inquiring more about God and found a church. Lol I took her with me she said it wasn't for her and I respected it. She wasn't ready to give up the life. A while later I ran into her at a walking track and she looked awful. Lost so much weight, said she still was partying. I could see she was doing drugs by how she looked. I never stopped having love for my amiga. But I couldn't participate in her choices. I went on to do missions work overseas in South America. Through God's love I received a lot of inner healing by discovering a father's love in God. I traveled a lot for ministry in my young age. Took trips with friends and lived. It was awesome. Fast forward I am 39 and moved away from home state for ministry purposes, met my husband and we have a good life. Whatever is next for me I await on God's time and plans to unfold. I still think of her and sometimes dream of her and family. Before she went downhill her family gave me a childhood. I grew up with neglect and if it wasn't for them I wouldn't of had a childhood. I didn't have parents who were involved in my life not grade school years and even now. We won't always understand the reason for why people abuse, in a lot of cases it was done to them and they repeated a modeled behavior. But at some point it is good to heal and move on and give ourselves what we didn't get as children. This year I have had a lot of personal growth and gave myself stability, within my own self. People who are victims of abuse so often look to others for security and stability and God will give that to us but for a time so we can heal but it is important to have stability within yourself. Life changes and people come and go for good and tough reasons. But we can rely on ourselves for stability and God. Jesus said He would never leave us. What a promise. I have found my peace in His arms in times of fear, worry, uncertainty. I was very blessed because I met my pastor and she became a mother to me. I met her at 17 and she died a few months ago from cancer. She modeled stability to perfection. Taught me how to react in the face of life's challenges and problems. People's attacks and how to show compassion and be slow to anger, to forgive. I had a beautiful mother. So this was gone this year. But I knew God was saying I needed to be stable within my own self and stand on my own two feet. I was never given this as a kid so I was starting for the first time this year. I have done well. I also do counseling. Which is a huge help. So I have overcome much but I am still a work in progress. Pray for the friend who is making wrong choices that destroy. We can't stop them only talk to them and pray.
No doubt that the wounds and pain are deep but the real take away is the growth into a confident woman who loves herself and values her voice! I commend you. You continue to be an inspiration. Your dance talent speaks to us all but even more, your entire journey inside and outside dance touches us in such deep ways. Continue to shine your light. You never know for whom you are helping out of darkness. Namaste. ❤️🙏🏽
I am right there with you. From 4/5 until I recently left my abusive sex addict husband. I am now 52. I have also been in therapy since the age of 18. My entire family turned on me at 27 when I charged one of my abuser's....which was an uncle. They still have nothing to do with me. I haven't found any therapist that has been qualified to help me. The ones that are? Are inpatient programs, that are 25,000 to 40,000. I had set up a GoFundMe page, but haven't had much luck. I am so glad that you had you mom to support you. I never did. My mom actually knew about her brother, but chose to keep the family secret and told me to keep quiet. The family friends wife? She knew about her husband as well, but it was a daily thing, that had never been discussed. He raped me for the 1st time at 5 years old. I am in a horrible divorce with my sex addicted, abusive husband. I struggle daily to stay alive and keep fighting. Thank you for bringing this to light.
Also, a former dancer.❤🙏
I am so sorry @Lin Sin. Unfortunately as far as my Uncle went? He admitted to it, so my family had no choice but to believe me...and, my mom walked in on us when I was very young. They still turned on me. 47 family member's in seconds. It is heartbreaking. Now with my divorce, my soon to be ex husband, has turned my stepchildren and grandchildren against me. Heartbreaking.
I am so sorry that you are hurting. Nobody should have to live this kind of pain. Sending you love.❤🙏
This is so inspiring. Thank you for being so open.. you are a great role model for young women and girls💕
I loved that you are so TransPARENT. You are a true light inside & out. I feel your soul speaking to my younger self .
Mistakes are a fact of life: It is the response to the error that counts.
Nikki Giovanni
Thank u so much for talking about this I had one and it was the worst and my mental health went down
Thank you for speaking about your experiences. You're helping a lot of people.
Thanks so much for sharing ❤️❤️your sharing is helping a lot of people (like me). I suffered from abuse in the past as well. I’m SO thankful that my husband is NOTHING like the men from my past ❤️ I hear you, girl
Thank you for your support and for hearing me. Truly appreciate it and thank you for writing this message. Stay safe and sending love!
I feel you i have been through a lot too😭😥but I never have therapist but im just trying to be strong for my kids❤️
I totally have been there done that only my first abuser was my mother. And she split me and a man who was 12 years older and treated me like gold. I’m now on my second marriage to that same man and very happy!
You are a rare jewel Cheryl. You speak from a hurt and pain that brought you to a point of truth about yourself, relationships and life. Thank you and I know many will benefit from your story. Much love and happiness.
You have always been my favorite DWTS dancer and now I know why. You truly are a beautiful person both inside and out and deserve all the happiness and health that you have found now. G-d bless you and know that there are so many people that have been in your shoes and hope that hearing you will also help them find the strength that you have found to finally reach the other side with you and your partner, Matt. Happy and Healthy Holidays and New Year
oh my god Cheryl those stories are horrific hun. you are very courageous and brave to share this to help others thank you for your strength
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I can relate to much of what you said. It takes a lot of courage to be so candid and reveal the details of the abuse that you suffered. So glad you are happy and healed now and that you have a great husband. I look forward to your future videos.
Sorry to hear what abusive relationship you"ve been through in the past. You're never alone in these horrible, terrible scenarios of your life but what counts most is you are peaceful, happy & safe now. Nothing is perfect in this very complicated world. You speak so intelligently & brave enough to share your experiences good or bad with us. After all, you became a serial victim while growing up pursuing your artistic career in dancing & becomes a huge success & accomplishment! You really dance so well & magnificently ! You also create dance partners who can be proud of themselves to say, hey, "I can dance & entertain too like magic! KEEP ON DANCING CHERYL, YOU MAKE PEOPLE VERY HAPPY!!! LOVE U MUCH!
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Cheryl, thank you for sharing your story. I know you will help a lot of people. Sending much light and love to you
We appreciate you for using your voice and platform to help others and to speak about the things that happen to you. Just by you sharing your story helped someone in the world today. I’m sorry you’ve been through the stuff you been through . From as a child to a wonderful and beautiful women. Sometime we do ask ourselves wat would’ve happen if this or these things didn’t happen. But we will never know and I ask myself that question everyday like wat my life be like and look like if my dad was here or I didn’t have as much siblings as I do right now. I don’t understand why that person abused you and then have the audacity to stalk you Iike watt. And for his parents to sit there and watch like know we know where he get that behavior from. I don’t understand what the purpose of abusing someone. Where is that gonna lead you too? But Cheryl We thank you for sharing these stories. And yes not everyone is perfect but you sharing your stories and the true Cheryl Burke not the one covered in glitter and rhinestones and tan spray( don’t get wrong me you look beautiful and stunning in them ) but you sharing us the real Cheryl Burke is perfect. You could use your platform for anything else but you choose to speak about the stuff that happen to you , about meditation, and mental health is amazing. I wanna jumped through the screen and give you a hug Sending you lotttssssss ooffff llooooovvvveeeee❤️❤️❤️💖💖💖💖💕💕💕💕😘😘😘😘🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰💗💗💗💓💓💓
My dear Cheryl. So sorry for the trauma you have passed through. Only the strength of God can guide one through such experiences. Anyone else would have given up on life and love, but you renewed both for yourself. Our unhealthy need for external love instead of self-love is what lands us in trouble. It is like a signal that bad boys pick up from us and they interprete it that we enjoy being abused. It takes the strength of your highest self to see the toxic patterns for what they really are and say, "No more of this bulls**t!" On some level, I understand how you feel. I understand the vicious toxic cycle and patterns and I am on a healing journey myself. Your story stands for hope and light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you. I wish you a loving and blissful married life. God bless you, Cheryl.
It takes courage to open yourself up in such a public way. I hope your message will help others to reflect on their relationships. Personal growth never stops.
You are very strong Cheryl ! Not just for coming out of bad situations but for the person that you are today ! Please take care we love you ! God Bless !
Thank you for sharing your experiences and being so open and honest.
And thank you for listening and for your kind words. Sending you love
Sorry for the rough times of your past the Bible says the end is more important than the beginning keep looking up your best may yet to be
Abuse and neglect sucks, and it's very hard to break out of the victim pattern. Self-love isn't always easy at first.
Others have said it but I will too. Showing us this side of you...the non overly made up, overly tan, rhinestoned person...is so helpful to those of us who get blinded by the celebrity glitz and feel like only us civilians have these personal issues to deal with. Thank you for the vulnerability and the transparency. Its needed in this life of smoke and mirrors where most people put on their pretty, shiny faces.
You are a brave & strong person to be able to tell your subscribers (I'm one of them) about your past abusive relationships. I'm glad those experiences made you a person you are today & I'm so happy that you met your husband who is nice & who loves you. Have a happy life, Cheryl!
Thank you for sharing your story. You are such a strong woman.
Cheryl I want to thank you for sharing your Story it makes me feel like I’m not alone I was in a Abusive Relationship and I was afraid to leave cause he would always remind me that he had a pocket knife and it scared me he made me feel like I was Worthless and alone he destroyed my self Confidence and he tore me down Emotionally my Family made attempts to take me away from him but at the time I was reluctant to leave but I knew deep down that I didn’t deserve to be treated that way and with my Family’s help I was able to leave him Thank you Cheryl for being one of my biggest inspirations
I am so very sorry. My youngest daughter has had her ribs broken twice. She thinks she can change people.
Cheryl, I have watched you on DWTS since it started and you are an amazing dancer! I'm so sorry for what you have gone through. But as you said, you wouldn't be where you are today if you didn't go through all of that. You are making a difference to others by sharing your story. Just know that you are loved by many and you are beautiful inside and out.
Thank you, Cheryl. I wish I had more words, but I just can’t find them.
I'm sorry you had to go through things like that. No one person should be hurt. We're to love, and appreciate each other. Your a truly beautiful lady. Anyone should be honored to be dating a lady such as you. I would do my best to spoil you, and let you know every minute of the day how much I care. But I know people are different. I pray your doing so much better now. I will keep you in my prayers. May God bless you 🙏
El abuso domestico es tan prevalente pero muchas personas tienen verjuenza sobre la tema. Yo te elogiar por tener la fuerza para enfrentar estas traumas y ser un ejemplo para las chicas y chicos que están sufriendo. Sin soner tan dramatico, este video pudia salver alguien y empezar el proceso de cura heridas profundas. Cuando alguien quita tu poder te sientes sin valeo. Ahora es el tiempo para apoyar personas en tu vida que están sufriendo en silencio.
I so sorry, you have gone through so much abuse. You never know what goes on behind closed doors.
If you had not shared your story, I thought of you as a beautiful qnd lucky young lady with all the fame and beauty.
Thank you for sharing.
I really hope that you now have all the 💘 you had been missing .
You are a beautiful person inside and out and a fantastic dancer.
Cheryl i was always a big fan of yours with dwts. I to have been abused and then as a adult gone through toxic relationships. The last relationship was just recently with a separated woman. It was an emotional roller coaster. I know this video old and I realize you just went through a tough break up and divorce. I am doing the same thing you are which is learning to truly love myself again and not jump right back into another relationship again. I am trying to become a better version of myself. God bless you Cheryl ❤
Cheryl, thank you so very much for sharing this part of your story-I know it isn't easy/comfortable, but it's something I think EVERYONE needs to hear, no matter what their situations are. I have watched you since day 1 on DWTS-well except this season-but have subscribed to your channel and share your videos with loved ones of mine who have similar stories, as well as my own. I love you, I love your courage , again, thank you for sharing.
I can’t help but laugh about the baby mama throwing rocks at him a moron can come up with brighter idea for an excuse. But anyways, ‘nough with that. You coming out with your story will serve us who have very young girls in our family to pay attention and have that conversation and never totally trust anyone. Just want to thank you. I have a granddaughter and I will certainly want my daughter to hear your story. So thank you and more power to you 🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing. I’ve always thought you had such a unique beauty and learning more about you is very inspiring and influences more healthy healing with all the hurt that each of us can carry inside. People have no idea sometimes, what’s behind one’s life. I would have never imagined you went through all that. I know my sister went through her share of abuse too from undeserving assholes.
It’s horrible the abuse that some people inflict and how they can think it’s ok to treat someone that maliciously with such irreverence of any possible punishment for their violence. I don’t understand how any one, including someone’s parents can simply watch. That’s so disheartening that no one was there to take care of you and help you. Truly good friends can really help and it’s just sad that it took so long for you to hear more often that you didn’t deserve any of that. It’s a blessing how you had the one connection that would bring you real love.❤️ God bless. Was really cute how you put Matt in art with the leaves and flowers.🌼
Thanks for sharing the tough stuff - but the most important. I know if will help lots of young girls to walk away from abuse for good. ❤️🇨🇦
Watching your videos feels like therapy to me, THANK YOU!
You are so courageous and strong. I wish I’d have known the signs when I was 18 that the man I was about to meet would be psychologically abusive and as a disabled woman (and dancer) I was “not ALLOWED” other carers. This will help SO many people, I promise. You’ve done the most wonderful thing here, brutal honesty and it could save people. I was (although much less severe) in the same collateral pattern particularly with addicts, and when I sought help for my codependency in CODA I broke the pattern. You are such an inspiration to me, as a person and a dancer. Even as a wheelchair dancer my most honed skill from jazz to ballet to tap is that I put every single emotion into every single dance move. The way you preach that makes me feel validated as a performer. Never doubt the light you shine in the world ✨
Thanks for your courage
TY for being strong and brave enough to not let it be your entire life, wasted years, health struggles, hindsight is great, but, keep encouraging those who are hopeless and tired and afraid. We are not alone, others walk the road with us
Thank you for sharing your experiences!
Good job Cheryl. Your situation is indicative of the twisted expectations that our society tends to promote and to which so many women feel they have to adhere to feel they are loved. Appreciation is certainly not a part of that destructive dynamic. Certainly glad that you have lived to tell about the experience and grow from it. Congratulations and keep up the good work. So many need to hear and benefit from your story.
Giving you a HUGE virtual hug. What a powerful story. Thank you for sharing, much love to you
WOW Cheryl, I can so identify with some of the type of abuse you went through. God bless you for finding the strength to find your voice.
I've been a fan for a long time,and I applaud your candor and bravery to share the darker moments of your past.I hope it can help someone in a similar situation see the light and get help.No one deserves to be abused in any way,though I have known women who have put up with it for years.
Hey Cheryl, you and my Eldest sister share the same name, and spelling. Fond memory for me. She died in 2010 from a horrible brain tumor. (Forever missed). Both of my sisters were as tough as they come, and my next eldest sister was nearly raped, but she managed to knee the guy and get away... thank God! I was not so lucky myself. I grew up being abused mentally, emotionally and physically. I couldn't tell someone which of these types of abuse were worse, they all were to me, but it was the yoke I was forced to live under. I think, all people who suffered abuse would do well to allow themselves to talk about it, with those who can help, or with those whom have gone through it themselves. There's more healing in "relating" than there is in a therapist who learns about it, but has never experienced it "to TRULY KNOW" the core or depths of thee experience. I'm rambling off course here sorry, it IS an extremely sensitive arena, hard not TO relate first on that level with you here. However-- to your cause,,, I commend you for what you're doing. I'm glad to see you are Married and found what I assume to be a GOOD Spouse. Congrats! I hope that by sharing YOUR story so openly, others will feel they can share theirs and perhaps heal some, or realize that they CAN GET THE HELP NEEDED... TO GET THEM TO SAFETY.... AWAY FROM THEE ABUSE! I'm sharing as I have, simply because tho I'm a very private person in my day to day life, I am also as inclusive or open as one can be. A walking contradiction of sorts. :--)) Honesty can be very hard at times. But, to share... it was some years back now, that I had befriended another female. This seems to happen moreso than other guys, but they both seem to attach to me as a fellow human being. Anyway-- in short time, she shared with me that she had been living in terribly abusive relationships throughout her life... a repeat after repeat etc... A horrible pattern. Finally she was out and staying on her own to re-find "herself." And she did with the help of family, friends, and therapy. (Thank God!) But for me, when she shared that with me, it was like a reckoning. I realized that very day, that nearly EVERY FEMALE I KNEW in my life, had been abused in one way or another. I thought to myself about a percentage of females I knew who had been and those who had not been, and it was tragic. I figured that probably 90+ % of every female I'd ever known, had been raped, beaten, yelled at non stop... abused. It was shattering for me to realize. It was at that time, that my own abuse faded in comparison. Tho I had been beaten physically, mentally and emotionally horribly, I had not suffered rape. Which seemed to me worse than all I had experienced. I came here, because I saw this article on Yahoo front page about you. My initial thought, "My goodness, how does someone hurt such a darling human being?" I have seen the worst done to human beings, having been a CSI for many years. And tho I know what human being ARE CAPABLE OF, I won't ever understand it, and I honestly don't want too. I just think of, "The LOSS, and what those dear human beings might have brought to our world... perhaps changed it for the better. Who knows?" But it doesn't take DEATH of someone, for us to LOSE THEM, and ALL THEY COULD HAVE BEEN OR BE. Abuse is just short of killing, It destroys the personal character of someone, and WE LOSE... what THAT HUMAN BEING may have brought into our world, had they NOT been treated so horribly. Many many prayers to you and EVERYONE who experiences abuse IN ANY FORM. I pray they FIND THE WAY AWAY FROM IT, and reach the path to a happy wonderful kind and whole life! It's always JUST DOWN THE ROAD A PIECE! God Bless and peace be everyone! Stay Safe out there!!! Kindly Nicholas
I love how authentic you are !
I'm much older than you Cheryl but my childhood was one of constant abuse as well after my parents divorced when I was 3. We are meant to have solid foundations from birth onward but if there is break-up and abuse the foundation becomes re-bar & Styrofoam and one can't change the foundation once the building is erected. I never had therapy - probably should have - but I found solace in the Bible and my faith journey. I identify with the analysis of your various reasons for your experiences because I see the same in my self as I'm sure many watching do as well. TY!
Thank you Mrs Burke for sharing your personal story so eloquently as the clarity of your words allowed me to revisit my own experience of past abuses. I was married at age of 18 without the Blessings of my parents as they loved me enough to verbalize their concerns regarding my
being unprepared in so many ways to enter into such a mature relationship. Long story short it was a nightmare marriage that I am feeling truly Blessed in even being still here to listen to your fixation on past abusive relationships and experiences and struggles. Thanks again for sharing your story with courage, strength, insight, compassion and personal growth helping others to see that their is a light
At the end of the tunnel just have to take 1st step in recognizing you need help and second reaching out to someone for help to regain your life and instill hope towards the future.
God Bless you You are an inspiration to all these young people who are abused I hope they’re all listening and watching this video
well CB, I’m glad your story had a happier ending and I’m glad for you to have the courage and higher self esteem to share with me your sad past in this and your other videos. Let’s continue to see awesome growth with your hubby and your desire to help others who may have had or are in what I call undesirable relationships. Btw, I share the same first name has husband only I chose to spell it a bit different. See he & I grew up being called Matty...so keep on healing and making your life great!
OMG I always tell my doctors that no one can understand, but I truly think you can. The only difference is my life wasn't privileged, but there are so many similarities, it is spooky. I wish I had your voice. I have tried many times to explain my childhood and my past experiences, but I get to embarrassed or just don't know how to put it into words. You are my hero, Bravo CB 🔔
Thank you for this message. My advice to you would be to own who you are, battle wounds and all! I understand more than most, that feeling of embarrassment and shame, but know that you’re not alone and by telling your story, I guarantee you will help at least one person. I tell mine and do so often because I know that the more we communicate about the reality of our lives, the good, the bad, and the ugly; we are making a difference.
Sending you so much love and strength during this holiday season. One day at a time my friend and thank you again for opening up to me and for your support. ♥️
Thank you for sharing your journey. I’m a big fan❤️ You are an amazing & talented woman. I went through similar experiences throughout my life, but through all that, I also found the love of my life. I’ve been married and blessed with an amazing husband for 24yrs. I wish you continued Love, Positivity and Success in your life💖🙏🏽
I am so sorry about all the hurt you've had to endure. But I am so thankful that you're STILL here. ❤
Thank you for sharing. You are an inspiration!
I had no idea. I'm so sorry. Thank you for sharing such an intimate story, I am most certainly am gonna try to find a therapist. The only part that stinks is insurances won't pay so it all has to be out of pocket
Your life's story is amazing. I get my sense of self-love and worth from my relationship with Jesus Christ. He's a loving and perfect savior and friend.
I love you even more Cheryl, Thank you!! ❤️
This was so emotional to listen to. My life is pretty much the opposite of Cheryl's.
God bless you Cheryl.
Thank you for sharing it helps me because I always felt less valuable after being in one abusive relationship after another. I was also abused by my mother and my father ignored it which empowered her. So needless to say I ran to men for love protection and support but what I recieved was abuse tons of abuse. I began dancing in my early 20's because my mother wouldn't let me have lessons when I was younger. It was difficult since everyone else was so advanced by the time they were my age. Like you I have also been in therapy my whole life well since I left my mother's house. After my last abusive relationship I found a really great therapist who helped me see my patterns and my trauma response to things. I am healing and hope to be a mom and wife one day soon. 💗💋
Ms. Cheryl, I’m just so happy u found love! U seem so down to earth, I’ve commented before on your videos. Thanks for posting this! You’re amazing, stay strong 💪 💜
I really enjoy your stories. The way you talk and self reflection. I love it! Please keep doing these!
You are beautiful ❤️ Good job!!
Details made my jaw drop. So glad you found happiness.
Thank you for sharing.
Wow, thank you for sharing your stories with us💕❤️
You are so welcome. ❤️
thank you I really needed to hear this video, i went through this and still am going through this
I love music and dance so I have been watching Dancing With the Stars for years. I have learned so much from all who shared their trauma stories when they do their letting go dance. I came upon you, Cheryl, sharing your abuse story a few moments age . I am expert in women who suffer from PTSD doing all can to bring awareness how differently women experience trauma due our reproductive cycles. I am reaching out because my mother came to me in a dream two ago to share she did not know my father was a rape victim. I am women with a different which can risky as we all have learned. I would be deeply grateful Cheryl if you might be open to having a conversation as my knowledge expanded incredibly listening to the stories shared on your show. Once Music, Dance and storytelling was the path healing.
The thing I think women should know first and foremost is that even though you're basically hardwired to liking "bad boys type", do know what you're getting into with them. Don't look at those types of guys as someone you see in movies and TV shows, those are written with the honest purpose of getting women, and gay men, look into those types of men. But in the real world, the reality of the situation is that these "bad boys" are the type of guys who came from a bad/lack of love background, which means they haven't been conditioned the right way (could be by their own mother, father, brothers or whoever someone else in their life who have been abusive to them), so basically these types of guys grow learning to toughen up or even worse, to hardened their emotions. So guess what happens when you decide to pick someone who's emotionally hardened and knows coming from an abusive relationship? Why do we, as a society, act so surprised when these EMOTIONALLY HARDENED people get so abusive. Now they stereotyped women as the smarter of sex, so I expect you ladies to answer that question correctly so. But you get defensive about it, then I promise you, as of right now, that there's definitely something happening in your life that is causing you to feel that way. And you can respond to me with some sort of insult like "fuck you, or you don't know what you're talking about" to me, but I can promise you that the emotional turmoil you will receive or have been receiving from these "bad boys" is not my doing. And letting your ego getting the best of your emotions just from reading this and telling me to go fuck myself won't stop the reality of whatever situations you've been in. Cheryl said it herself that she's into the "bad boys" type, so when she said that she's been abused by them/him, it didn't surprise me whatsoever. Here's the reality of the situation that these talk show host won't bring up, or at least from my experience watching them for so little at a time is that:
1. women need to know OR take a quick second to consider the type of men they're dating, so if you're someone who is into bad boys like, Cheryl was, then I suggest you take some more time to gather your thoughts on it before you jump into types of relationship. Especially when it comes with labeled BAD in front.
2. I fully understand that it sucks that people (like Cheryl and many others, and not just women but men could also experience these type of relationships with someone who were poorly nurtured) get themselves into these type of relationships, but guess what, when you're searching for someone that even you are given a label "bad boy" or even "bad/tough girls" type, and it was completely your choice to get into a relationship with these types of a relationship then you have to recognize that. And for everyone else, know that it's OK to say it was those people's fault for getting into those type of relationships. EVERYONE should LEARN from this, we as a society shouldn't just be "aw woe is you" but as a whole, we should come together and tell people TO STOP getting into those types of relationships and avoid it altogether if they hope of ever ending "abusive relationship" or at least put a huge dent in it for everyone from now and future sake. So yes, I do feel bad for Cheryl or ANYONE for getting into a relationship with someone who has a labeled "bad" in front of them. If someone walks into a land mine field KNOWING there were signs saying this is a "warning land minefield", wouldn't you agreed it was the person's fault for walking into it in the first place?
3. This whole "bad boy" issue in of itself, is a root problem, and usually, that's stems from the home life. So we need to teach mothers and father how to properly raised a gentleman and properly raised a lady (don't get mad now feminists, I'm not advocating for suppressing of women just because I just said type. What's being said here is me expressing that I wanting, and advocate for mom and dad to properly nurture a well mannered and behaved men and women, and when they do that society doesn't have to suffer anymore like Cheryl here, and men and women TO NOT search for these types of idiotic relationship anymore when these relationships obviously are causing pain and misery, and I'm hoping people would stop actively walking into pain no more. Hopefully, any sensible feminists here agree with that too)
4. So how about this from now on, instead of looking for someone that even you labeled as bad, who about you find someone who is WHOLESOME. Someone who has it figured out, or at least can hold themself together enough, who would love you enough and stop seeking for someone who is emotionally hardened because of either the way they were raised or grew up in an abusive life, so that same mistake this won't happen, and tt doesn't have to happen, AND you can finally receive the proper love you were hoping for from those wholesome men or women instead. How about that. Because it's so plainly obvious to me that every time we see someone opened up that they went through an abusive relationship, I damn near 100% see in the comments how bad you feel for them, but never include the parts that actually matter which is "STOP seeking for those types of men or women, AND learn to avoid those people and find yourself someone who is actually wholesome and would love every inch of you). How about that for a change, society?
😔 You’ve been through so much Cheryl at such a young age.
Wow Cheryl! Thank you for being so real!! This is helping me
I've experienced some of the stories you shared; and love you all the more for telling your story to help others; FWTS gave you to us, and I'm glad!
Thank you for being so open. But how does your husband feel about this all being so public? How much of this is new info for him?