The Three Symptoms of Grief

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  • Опубликовано: 22 май 2024
  • Discussing grief can be difficult, especially if we are still mourning the death of a loved one. A common question we ask is, “What is my life going to be like now?” In this week’s episode, counselor Margaret McGahon discusses the three symptoms of grief - physical, psychological, and spiritual. “It’s important to connect the symptoms to the grief experience,” says McGahon. “We must honor this process and see it as part of the human experience.” She offers consolation and reminds us that the symptoms of grief are very common. She also offers ways to manage our grief and cope well.
    You can view any or all of the counselors McGahon and Kathryn Clarke videos in our video counseling library to enjoy more of their insights. Today’s episode is the first in Season 3 of our popular video counseling series.

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  • @AgingwithDignity
    @AgingwithDignity  Месяц назад +1

    Our deepest condolences to so many in the comments who have experienced profound loss. Many folks have expressed ongoing suffering from grief and asked questions on what can be done to manage it - below are three other videos by Ms. McGahon that may be helpful resources.
    ruclips.net/video/JTGiHmgFlpM/видео.html&t
    ruclips.net/video/dER2PNaGOjE/видео.html&t
    ruclips.net/video/aoNNACEFqfA/видео.html&t
    These are no substitute for individualized counseling or medical assistance, and RUclips has many other great resources. We hope these are just that - helpful resources for those struggling with grief.

  • @tonyrobinson362
    @tonyrobinson362 7 месяцев назад +36

    Lost my dear wife 6 weeks ago after knowing her for 53 years I'm in a right dark place cannot even breath at times, I do wish I could turn the clock back I love her so much.❤

    • @smarterthanawaffle
      @smarterthanawaffle 5 месяцев назад +1

      how are you doing now Tony?

    • @pjones7012
      @pjones7012 5 месяцев назад +3

      i lost me wife of 51 years. i did not know this level of sadness existed.

    • @barron4755
      @barron4755 4 месяца назад

      Lost my Wife 4 Years ago. The Pain is often indescribeable. We are so caught up in Grief, that I sometimes tend to forget how many Men are going through the same thing as me. 😢😢

    • @stephaniewood1547
      @stephaniewood1547 4 месяца назад

      So sorry for your loss. 😢

    • @sheilafletcher3083
      @sheilafletcher3083 3 месяца назад

      My mother died.
      11 years ago today.
      Ends by dog.
      Just died.
      3 weeks ago.
      I am sad lonely.
      Depressed.
      And don't know what to do.

  • @litafrench7413
    @litafrench7413 7 месяцев назад +46

    I lost my son, my heart has been ripped out, I'm 72 and I see no relief for the rest of my life, I have no desire to go anywhere or see anyone!

    • @angelahosein2482
      @angelahosein2482 7 месяцев назад +4

      😢I also loose my son.
      It really not easy thing.
      I also felt this ripping part of me, yes we are really torn apart.😂.
      But God.
      Hold an know our future.

    • @rajangp2001
      @rajangp2001 7 месяцев назад +4

      Peace be with you..
      Divine works for the better..
      Your son continues to live...
      Divinity promotes us upwards.
      Divinity has already put your son in the safest place.
      He continues to live

    • @J2LO
      @J2LO 7 месяцев назад +6

      Lost my dad 61😢 😭 feel the same

    • @BarbaraHolroyd-tw1xc
      @BarbaraHolroyd-tw1xc 7 месяцев назад +8

      Go minutes to minutes ,that’s all you can do, and you will do it ,let your body do what it wants, it knows what it needs, I lost my son also ,aged 35

    • @mariefricchione437
      @mariefricchione437 7 месяцев назад +3

      I pray for you all. May Our Lady comfort you all to the best of your abilities. Love to you all🙏

  • @bbygrlpt2
    @bbygrlpt2 24 дня назад +3

    I just lost my grandma and feel so much guilt for not bein by her side bc I live in another country just to think I wont hear her voice again is so painful I cant sleep I cry all the time 😔

  • @kushkingla7385
    @kushkingla7385 6 месяцев назад +13

    When I am gone, release me - let me go I have so many things to see and do. You must not tie yourself to me with tears. Be happy that we had so many years. I gave you love, you can only guess, how much you gave me in happiness. I thank you for the love each have shown, but now it is time I travelled alone. So grieve awhile for me if you must, then let your grief be comforted by trust. It is only for a while that we must part so bless those memories within your heart. I will not be far away, for life goes on. So if you need me, call and I will come, I will be near and if you listen with your heart, you will hear all of my love around you, soft and clear. Then when you must come this way alone, I will greet you with a smile and “welcome home”

  • @TrayDyer38
    @TrayDyer38 6 месяцев назад +8

    I had complicated grief disorder for almost 3 years after my dad died suddenly moments after I had just been over at is house. I lost my head. I have no friends anymore. I treated everyone like crap and said horrible things to so many people. I literally have no friends anymore.

    • @joyslove3858
      @joyslove3858 5 месяцев назад +7

      I understand that. I withdrew into an even deeper cave after my mother's death 2 years ago. I'm trying to ease out of it.
      Your true friends will forgive you.

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 5 месяцев назад +4

      I’m sorry.
      You’ve got a friend here with me. Reach out anytime.

    • @horizonxx_1
      @horizonxx_1 5 месяцев назад +3

      Sorry to hear of your loss. I think losing friends when you experience grief is all too common.

    • @angelacramer9273
      @angelacramer9273 4 месяца назад +1

      I'm so sorry for your pain. I understand. Hugs to you. F*** right.

  • @neiberviva8363
    @neiberviva8363 6 месяцев назад +7

    I lost my mother couple of weeeks ago and I cannot control the sadness and thoughts!

    • @user-yr5tm3bt2o
      @user-yr5tm3bt2o 11 дней назад +1

      Sorry for your loss I am 12 weeks in heartbroken 💔 xx

    • @neiberviva8363
      @neiberviva8363 11 дней назад

      @@user-yr5tm3bt2o It is very very difficult, sending you positive vibes!

  • @fleaman7665
    @fleaman7665 5 месяцев назад +4

    I lost my wife of 44 years suddenly. I just feel numb, I do not know what I am going to do with my life.

  • @gillianlee6229
    @gillianlee6229 6 месяцев назад +10

    Lost my husband suddenly four weeks ago. He was 62 1/2 years old. We had so many plans and had both just retired early. I have experienced and am still experiencing shock, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, etc. Don’t know how to go on without him. We were so close. I plan to reach out for help.

    • @christinelucchese6323
      @christinelucchese6323 6 месяцев назад +1

      I'm going thru the same thing there's nothing here for me I have his service dog I live fir her I miss himm so m6ch

    • @anthonyburke5656
      @anthonyburke5656 6 месяцев назад +1

      My sincere condolences, I wish I could say something to help. I think perhaps helping someone else may help you.

    • @christinelucchese6323
      @christinelucchese6323 4 месяца назад

      I know I've been going thru the same si ce nov22

    • @anthonyburke5656
      @anthonyburke5656 4 месяца назад

      @@christinelucchese6323 my condolences, I’ve just got off the phone with my oldest friend, he was sitting with his wife who is in her final days. I can say it gets better over time, but sometimes a trigger will throw you into a paroxysm of grief. Remember the good, if you have to remember the bad, that’s the cost. Grow, live, thrive.

    • @mariefricchione437
      @mariefricchione437 3 месяца назад

      Therapy is vital.

  • @underthetornado
    @underthetornado 4 месяца назад +3

    Ever since I had to watch my mom die of frontal lobe dementia 8 years ago it still feels like last week. I've been on a downhill spiral. Im still living ina travel trailer bhind her house. Stepdad is a cold unloving stepdad😢 I'm quite sure hes a functioning autistic man. Hecan only discuss weather.nothing deep or loving. My mom never realized how different he was for over 50 years of their marriage. He remarried within a year and stepmom hates me. I am declining physically and mentally😢 i need assisted living now. I have no idea how to get help. Im just gonna end up in hospital begging for help. Ive reached bottom! Everyones been so cold to me and I was cut out of everything my mom wanted me to have. But I'm so depressed I can't pull out of this. Im really bummed out.🙏💔

  • @alices.1824
    @alices.1824 Месяц назад

    I lost my husband in January and my emotions are all over the place. I avoid places that remind me of my husband. I can’t go in the backyard for more than a minute or two. We used to spend quite a bit outside and he would water the plants. My life has drastically changed and I am trying to accept the loss and emptiness I feel.

  • @overarainbowov7520
    @overarainbowov7520 11 месяцев назад +6

    Thank you very much for recording this.

  • @claudiamanta1943
    @claudiamanta1943 3 месяца назад +2

    There’s only that much one can take.

  • @carmesebranch725
    @carmesebranch725 6 месяцев назад +8

    Damnit got all of these symptoms...but I will not run to substances

  • @horizonxx_1
    @horizonxx_1 5 месяцев назад +3

    Everything she is talking about it exacerbated when there is depression and anxiety present prior to loss. I loss my Mother who I was extremely close to and within a year lost my sibling to suicide. In my experience the grief is harder to process and becomes debilitating.

  • @user-yr5tm3bt2o
    @user-yr5tm3bt2o 11 дней назад

    Yes this is me xx

  • @sarahreid9206
    @sarahreid9206 10 месяцев назад +5

    I miss my gran a lot and I feel distant from ever one

    • @anthonyburke5656
      @anthonyburke5656 6 месяцев назад

      Sarah, only people in our position know what it’s like. I’ve been trying to figure it out, so far, I just keep coming across things he liked, things he said, things he wanted to do. I remember his flaws and faults, I never took him to task on them, waiting for the maturity and right time to come, it never did. Is there some within your purview who needs help? If so, help them, think of it as being for him.

  • @leonalii1533
    @leonalii1533 5 месяцев назад +1

    This was a very comprehensive summary of the ways in which grief can manifest itself, thank you. I feel a bit reluctant to use the word symptom though since for me that word is so strongly associated with illness and grief is a natural process we undergo after a loss as you point out. I would prefer using sign/manifestation etc. Only my personal opinion.

  • @anthonyburke5656
    @anthonyburke5656 6 месяцев назад +4

    After I lost my son, I had to give up having the occasional drink, I am scared I would turn into a maudlin drunk.

  • @robertvalincius6228
    @robertvalincius6228 3 месяца назад +2

    My wife dead after 22 years she was everything to me its been 5 weeks im dead inside!!!!!!

  • @jn3098
    @jn3098 Месяц назад

    U hav talk about all the symptoms I hav.

  • @AliceTolson
    @AliceTolson 4 месяца назад

    Lost just about all members of my family.since I was younger..got a divorce after 20 yrs to childhood sweetheart..25 yrs ago..lost a career of 20 yrs .4 yrs ago..due to back injuries..problems..suffered with anxiety/depressiion..my adult life..lost my oldest child of 3 kids to suicide 32 months ago..my depression and anxiety worsened.

  • @L35423
    @L35423 6 месяцев назад +4

    How long do these symptoms go on and still considered normal?

    • @AgingwithDignity
      @AgingwithDignity  Месяц назад

      It is difficult to put a time horizon on these symptoms - it can take a long time to process, and it varies from person to person. I would talk to your doctor if you are worried about the duration of symptoms you're experiencing.

  • @user-nn1wx4sc4x
    @user-nn1wx4sc4x 5 месяцев назад +6

    My life is a constant torture since the death of my Husband Robert on 07 September 2022. He had a integrity that very few have. I would make the choice to marry him every time. ❤️ To all who are grieving and other sufferings. i look forward to the return of Yeshua HaMashiach_Jesus Christ, when death shall be no more.

    • @becca4559
      @becca4559 2 месяца назад

      Amein sister. I lost my husband as well. We were newlyweds. You truly become one right away. It hurts so bad. Yah bless you for sharing. Integrity.... that's the word for my hubby as well. So rare.

  • @the1972bulldog
    @the1972bulldog 2 месяца назад +1

    I thought there was 6 Stages of Grief

    • @AgingwithDignity
      @AgingwithDignity  2 месяца назад +2

      Maggie is describing here the three types of grief symptoms - physical, psychological, and spiritual. The stages of grief are a slightly different subject. Hope this helps!

    • @the1972bulldog
      @the1972bulldog 2 месяца назад +1

      @@AgingwithDignity yeah it does. Thank you for explaining.🙏🏻💙✌️

  • @delboyoelmundo4718
    @delboyoelmundo4718 4 месяца назад +1

    Pretty rubbish actually the loved ones are out of here leaving us to carry on pick up the pieces and get thru it

  • @carmesebranch725
    @carmesebranch725 6 месяцев назад +3

    I'm tired and foggy all the time. Lethargic, heavy achy, sleep is affected...lowered immunity...just caught a cold...headaches appetite changes...lost friend mom dad brother2023...in 5 months ruminating, lost track of time. Guilt blame damn dead on it. I have all of these symptoms

    • @leonalii1533
      @leonalii1533 5 месяцев назад +1

      So sorry for your losses, one is enough, hope you can get through, step by step, one little moment a time❤️

    • @stephaniewood1547
      @stephaniewood1547 4 месяца назад

      I am so so sorry! Grief like this sucks terribly! I lost 3 friends, an Aunt, and my mom in a year and a half within the last 2 years. That sucked!! I still have a hard time. How are holding up?!