Our deepest condolences to so many in the comments who have experienced profound loss. Many folks have expressed ongoing suffering from grief and asked questions on what can be done to manage it - below are three other videos by Ms. McGahon that may be helpful resources. ruclips.net/video/JTGiHmgFlpM/видео.html&t ruclips.net/video/dER2PNaGOjE/видео.html&t ruclips.net/video/aoNNACEFqfA/видео.html&t These are no substitute for individualized counseling or medical assistance, and RUclips has many other great resources. We hope these are just that - helpful resources for those struggling with grief.
Lost my dear wife 6 weeks ago after knowing her for 53 years I'm in a right dark place cannot even breath at times, I do wish I could turn the clock back I love her so much.❤
Lost my Wife 4 Years ago. The Pain is often indescribeable. We are so caught up in Grief, that I sometimes tend to forget how many Men are going through the same thing as me. 😢😢
Peace be with you.. Divine works for the better.. Your son continues to live... Divinity promotes us upwards. Divinity has already put your son in the safest place. He continues to live
When I am gone, release me - let me go I have so many things to see and do. You must not tie yourself to me with tears. Be happy that we had so many years. I gave you love, you can only guess, how much you gave me in happiness. I thank you for the love each have shown, but now it is time I travelled alone. So grieve awhile for me if you must, then let your grief be comforted by trust. It is only for a while that we must part so bless those memories within your heart. I will not be far away, for life goes on. So if you need me, call and I will come, I will be near and if you listen with your heart, you will hear all of my love around you, soft and clear. Then when you must come this way alone, I will greet you with a smile and “welcome home”
I have every single thing that was mentioned for years now. It's basically my new normal, with no obvious reason to think it will change. I interact ok socially, hiding it well, all the while just missing what I lost, and there's no replacing it.
Sorry for your loss. It is important to try and not lose hope! We have pinned more resources at the top of the comment thread that may help you navigate your grief.
I had complicated grief disorder for almost 3 years after my dad died suddenly moments after I had just been over at is house. I lost my head. I have no friends anymore. I treated everyone like crap and said horrible things to so many people. I literally have no friends anymore.
I understand that. I withdrew into an even deeper cave after my mother's death 2 years ago. I'm trying to ease out of it. Your true friends will forgive you.
Thank you Ms McGahon for this excellent analysis of what really happens to person presented with a serious loss. Many of us had no idea what was to come before the loss occured. Your video is a great help in taking the mystery out of this terrible process of grief.
Lost my husband suddenly four weeks ago. He was 62 1/2 years old. We had so many plans and had both just retired early. I have experienced and am still experiencing shock, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, etc. Don’t know how to go on without him. We were so close. I plan to reach out for help.
@@christinelucchese6323 my condolences, I’ve just got off the phone with my oldest friend, he was sitting with his wife who is in her final days. I can say it gets better over time, but sometimes a trigger will throw you into a paroxysm of grief. Remember the good, if you have to remember the bad, that’s the cost. Grow, live, thrive.
I've been grieving for 11 years.. I'm 72 and have lost hope for any real happiness ever again.. nothing to look forward to. Just way too many losses, 2 of the losses were suicides.. just waiting for this life to finally be done with.
That's where I'm at. I distract myself as much as possible (one example is hours of RUclips time). My best to you, I hope things turn around for both of us.
I just lost my grandma and feel so much guilt for not bein by her side bc I live in another country just to think I wont hear her voice again is so painful I cant sleep I cry all the time 😔
I lost my husband in January and my emotions are all over the place. I avoid places that remind me of my husband. I can’t go in the backyard for more than a minute or two. We used to spend quite a bit outside and he would water the plants. My life has drastically changed and I am trying to accept the loss and emptiness I feel.
Ever since I had to watch my mom die of frontal lobe dementia 8 years ago it still feels like last week. I've been on a downhill spiral. Im still living ina travel trailer bhind her house. Stepdad is a cold unloving stepdad😢 I'm quite sure hes a functioning autistic man. Hecan only discuss weather.nothing deep or loving. My mom never realized how different he was for over 50 years of their marriage. He remarried within a year and stepmom hates me. I am declining physically and mentally😢 i need assisted living now. I have no idea how to get help. Im just gonna end up in hospital begging for help. Ive reached bottom! Everyones been so cold to me and I was cut out of everything my mom wanted me to have. But I'm so depressed I can't pull out of this. Im really bummed out.🙏💔
Everything she is talking about it exacerbated when there is depression and anxiety present prior to loss. I loss my Mother who I was extremely close to and within a year lost my sibling to suicide. In my experience the grief is harder to process and becomes debilitating.
Sarah, only people in our position know what it’s like. I’ve been trying to figure it out, so far, I just keep coming across things he liked, things he said, things he wanted to do. I remember his flaws and faults, I never took him to task on them, waiting for the maturity and right time to come, it never did. Is there some within your purview who needs help? If so, help them, think of it as being for him.
This was a very comprehensive summary of the ways in which grief can manifest itself, thank you. I feel a bit reluctant to use the word symptom though since for me that word is so strongly associated with illness and grief is a natural process we undergo after a loss as you point out. I would prefer using sign/manifestation etc. Only my personal opinion.
It is difficult to put a time horizon on these symptoms - it can take a long time to process, and it varies from person to person. I would talk to your doctor if you are worried about the duration of symptoms you're experiencing.
My life is a constant torture since the death of my Husband Robert on 07 September 2022. He had a integrity that very few have. I would make the choice to marry him every time. ❤️ To all who are grieving and other sufferings. i look forward to the return of Yeshua HaMashiach_Jesus Christ, when death shall be no more.
Amein sister. I lost my husband as well. We were newlyweds. You truly become one right away. It hurts so bad. Yah bless you for sharing. Integrity.... that's the word for my hubby as well. So rare.
Lost just about all members of my family.since I was younger..got a divorce after 20 yrs to childhood sweetheart..25 yrs ago..lost a career of 20 yrs .4 yrs ago..due to back injuries..problems..suffered with anxiety/depressiion..my adult life..lost my oldest child of 3 kids to suicide 32 months ago..my depression and anxiety worsened.
It's so hard to get back on your feet when there's been slam after slam with hardly a break in between to try to recover. And, it's not just little things, it's huge, catastrophic things, one after another after another. I'm sorry for your suffering, I can't pretend to know your pain, but I do have some of my own and the depression/anxiety has become a way of life. I've yet to find relief in the standard treatments for depression. I think a person would have to be semi-conscious before any easing of suffering could be felt.
Margaret is indeed an upbeat person, sorry to hear it's annoying for you! If you watch her other videos I hope you can discern, at least, her depth and sympathy. Her life's work is helping people manage grief.
Maggie is describing here the three types of grief symptoms - physical, psychological, and spiritual. The stages of grief are a slightly different subject. Hope this helps!
I'm tired and foggy all the time. Lethargic, heavy achy, sleep is affected...lowered immunity...just caught a cold...headaches appetite changes...lost friend mom dad brother2023...in 5 months ruminating, lost track of time. Guilt blame damn dead on it. I have all of these symptoms
I am so so sorry! Grief like this sucks terribly! I lost 3 friends, an Aunt, and my mom in a year and a half within the last 2 years. That sucked!! I still have a hard time. How are holding up?!
Our deepest condolences to so many in the comments who have experienced profound loss. Many folks have expressed ongoing suffering from grief and asked questions on what can be done to manage it - below are three other videos by Ms. McGahon that may be helpful resources.
ruclips.net/video/JTGiHmgFlpM/видео.html&t
ruclips.net/video/dER2PNaGOjE/видео.html&t
ruclips.net/video/aoNNACEFqfA/видео.html&t
These are no substitute for individualized counseling or medical assistance, and RUclips has many other great resources. We hope these are just that - helpful resources for those struggling with grief.
Lost my dear wife 6 weeks ago after knowing her for 53 years I'm in a right dark place cannot even breath at times, I do wish I could turn the clock back I love her so much.❤
how are you doing now Tony?
i lost me wife of 51 years. i did not know this level of sadness existed.
Lost my Wife 4 Years ago. The Pain is often indescribeable. We are so caught up in Grief, that I sometimes tend to forget how many Men are going through the same thing as me. 😢😢
So sorry for your loss. 😢
My mother died.
11 years ago today.
Ends by dog.
Just died.
3 weeks ago.
I am sad lonely.
Depressed.
And don't know what to do.
I lost my son, my heart has been ripped out, I'm 72 and I see no relief for the rest of my life, I have no desire to go anywhere or see anyone!
😢I also loose my son.
It really not easy thing.
I also felt this ripping part of me, yes we are really torn apart.😂.
But God.
Hold an know our future.
Peace be with you..
Divine works for the better..
Your son continues to live...
Divinity promotes us upwards.
Divinity has already put your son in the safest place.
He continues to live
Lost my dad 61😢 😭 feel the same
Go minutes to minutes ,that’s all you can do, and you will do it ,let your body do what it wants, it knows what it needs, I lost my son also ,aged 35
I pray for you all. May Our Lady comfort you all to the best of your abilities. Love to you all🙏
When I am gone, release me - let me go I have so many things to see and do. You must not tie yourself to me with tears. Be happy that we had so many years. I gave you love, you can only guess, how much you gave me in happiness. I thank you for the love each have shown, but now it is time I travelled alone. So grieve awhile for me if you must, then let your grief be comforted by trust. It is only for a while that we must part so bless those memories within your heart. I will not be far away, for life goes on. So if you need me, call and I will come, I will be near and if you listen with your heart, you will hear all of my love around you, soft and clear. Then when you must come this way alone, I will greet you with a smile and “welcome home”
❤
@@stephanie67348. ❤️
I have all thrse systoms. My husband passed away almost a year. I just wish people would leave me alone. My grief is my own
May you find faith and strength as you work through this difficult time.
I have never been the same since my mum and dad died, I think of them eveyday ,
We are so sorry for your loss. For more resources, please reference Margaret's other videos, we hope you find them helpful.
I have every single thing that was mentioned for years now. It's basically my new normal, with no obvious reason to think it will change. I interact ok socially, hiding it well, all the while just missing what I lost, and there's no replacing it.
Sorry for your loss. It is important to try and not lose hope! We have pinned more resources at the top of the comment thread that may help you navigate your grief.
Thank you very much for recording this.
I had complicated grief disorder for almost 3 years after my dad died suddenly moments after I had just been over at is house. I lost my head. I have no friends anymore. I treated everyone like crap and said horrible things to so many people. I literally have no friends anymore.
I understand that. I withdrew into an even deeper cave after my mother's death 2 years ago. I'm trying to ease out of it.
Your true friends will forgive you.
I’m sorry.
You’ve got a friend here with me. Reach out anytime.
Sorry to hear of your loss. I think losing friends when you experience grief is all too common.
I'm so sorry for your pain. I understand. Hugs to you. F*** right.
Thank you Ms McGahon for this excellent analysis of what really happens to person presented with a serious loss. Many of us had no idea what was to come before the loss occured. Your video is a great help in taking the mystery out of this terrible process of grief.
So glad you found it useful.
Lost my husband suddenly four weeks ago. He was 62 1/2 years old. We had so many plans and had both just retired early. I have experienced and am still experiencing shock, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, etc. Don’t know how to go on without him. We were so close. I plan to reach out for help.
I'm going thru the same thing there's nothing here for me I have his service dog I live fir her I miss himm so m6ch
My sincere condolences, I wish I could say something to help. I think perhaps helping someone else may help you.
I know I've been going thru the same si ce nov22
@@christinelucchese6323 my condolences, I’ve just got off the phone with my oldest friend, he was sitting with his wife who is in her final days. I can say it gets better over time, but sometimes a trigger will throw you into a paroxysm of grief. Remember the good, if you have to remember the bad, that’s the cost. Grow, live, thrive.
Therapy is vital.
I lost my mother couple of weeeks ago and I cannot control the sadness and thoughts!
Sorry for your loss I am 12 weeks in heartbroken 💔 xx
@@LorraineDavis-q8d It is very very difficult, sending you positive vibes!
I understand, it never gets better just time easily it along. Awful I know but everyone in life has to go through this ❤
I lost my wife of 44 years suddenly. I just feel numb, I do not know what I am going to do with my life.
I've been grieving for 11 years.. I'm 72 and have lost hope for any real happiness ever again.. nothing to look forward to. Just way too many losses, 2 of the losses were suicides.. just waiting for this life to finally be done with.
That's where I'm at. I distract myself as much as possible (one example is hours of RUclips time). My best to you, I hope things turn around for both of us.
I just lost my grandma and feel so much guilt for not bein by her side bc I live in another country just to think I wont hear her voice again is so painful I cant sleep I cry all the time 😔
We are sorry for your loss.
I lost my husband in January and my emotions are all over the place. I avoid places that remind me of my husband. I can’t go in the backyard for more than a minute or two. We used to spend quite a bit outside and he would water the plants. My life has drastically changed and I am trying to accept the loss and emptiness I feel.
So sorry for your loss - may he rest in peace.
U hav talk about all the symptoms I hav.
My wife dead after 22 years she was everything to me its been 5 weeks im dead inside!!!!!!
Ever since I had to watch my mom die of frontal lobe dementia 8 years ago it still feels like last week. I've been on a downhill spiral. Im still living ina travel trailer bhind her house. Stepdad is a cold unloving stepdad😢 I'm quite sure hes a functioning autistic man. Hecan only discuss weather.nothing deep or loving. My mom never realized how different he was for over 50 years of their marriage. He remarried within a year and stepmom hates me. I am declining physically and mentally😢 i need assisted living now. I have no idea how to get help. Im just gonna end up in hospital begging for help. Ive reached bottom! Everyones been so cold to me and I was cut out of everything my mom wanted me to have. But I'm so depressed I can't pull out of this. Im really bummed out.🙏💔
Everything she is talking about it exacerbated when there is depression and anxiety present prior to loss. I loss my Mother who I was extremely close to and within a year lost my sibling to suicide. In my experience the grief is harder to process and becomes debilitating.
I miss my gran a lot and I feel distant from ever one
Sarah, only people in our position know what it’s like. I’ve been trying to figure it out, so far, I just keep coming across things he liked, things he said, things he wanted to do. I remember his flaws and faults, I never took him to task on them, waiting for the maturity and right time to come, it never did. Is there some within your purview who needs help? If so, help them, think of it as being for him.
I have all these....6 months in to this awful reality. I scream for him.. I don't care or feel anything.Numb.
This was a very comprehensive summary of the ways in which grief can manifest itself, thank you. I feel a bit reluctant to use the word symptom though since for me that word is so strongly associated with illness and grief is a natural process we undergo after a loss as you point out. I would prefer using sign/manifestation etc. Only my personal opinion.
How long do these symptoms go on and still considered normal?
It is difficult to put a time horizon on these symptoms - it can take a long time to process, and it varies from person to person. I would talk to your doctor if you are worried about the duration of symptoms you're experiencing.
Yes this is me xx
After I lost my son, I had to give up having the occasional drink, I am scared I would turn into a maudlin drunk.
My life is a constant torture since the death of my Husband Robert on 07 September 2022. He had a integrity that very few have. I would make the choice to marry him every time. ❤️ To all who are grieving and other sufferings. i look forward to the return of Yeshua HaMashiach_Jesus Christ, when death shall be no more.
Amein sister. I lost my husband as well. We were newlyweds. You truly become one right away. It hurts so bad. Yah bless you for sharing. Integrity.... that's the word for my hubby as well. So rare.
There’s only that much one can take.
Lost just about all members of my family.since I was younger..got a divorce after 20 yrs to childhood sweetheart..25 yrs ago..lost a career of 20 yrs .4 yrs ago..due to back injuries..problems..suffered with anxiety/depressiion..my adult life..lost my oldest child of 3 kids to suicide 32 months ago..my depression and anxiety worsened.
It's so hard to get back on your feet when there's been slam after slam with hardly a break in between to try to recover. And, it's not just little things, it's huge, catastrophic things, one after another after another. I'm sorry for your suffering, I can't pretend to know your pain, but I do have some of my own and the depression/anxiety has become a way of life. I've yet to find relief in the standard treatments for depression. I think a person would have to be semi-conscious before any easing of suffering could be felt.
Why is she so chirpy and upbeat about grief? One of my grief symptoms is feeling really annoyed by videos like this. Ugh!
Margaret is indeed an upbeat person, sorry to hear it's annoying for you! If you watch her other videos I hope you can discern, at least, her depth and sympathy. Her life's work is helping people manage grief.
Damnit got all of these symptoms...but I will not run to substances
Pretty rubbish actually the loved ones are out of here leaving us to carry on pick up the pieces and get thru it
I thought there was 6 Stages of Grief
Maggie is describing here the three types of grief symptoms - physical, psychological, and spiritual. The stages of grief are a slightly different subject. Hope this helps!
@@AgingwithDignity yeah it does. Thank you for explaining.🙏🏻💙✌️
I'm tired and foggy all the time. Lethargic, heavy achy, sleep is affected...lowered immunity...just caught a cold...headaches appetite changes...lost friend mom dad brother2023...in 5 months ruminating, lost track of time. Guilt blame damn dead on it. I have all of these symptoms
So sorry for your losses, one is enough, hope you can get through, step by step, one little moment a time❤️
I am so so sorry! Grief like this sucks terribly! I lost 3 friends, an Aunt, and my mom in a year and a half within the last 2 years. That sucked!! I still have a hard time. How are holding up?!