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my children and I have been watching your video for well now you always make our day my little girl who is 5 years old ask me to start channel like this so I did I will like to invite you to check it out💓🥰😊
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You should normalize feeling insulted by being situationshipped. You should normalize feeling insulted by being side-chicked. You should normalize feeling insulted by being pushed in the position of place-holder in any form. The average American married man proposed to his fiance after one year of dating and knew he would propose after 7 months. THATS IT!! Don't sell yourself short by allowing yourself to be put into these situations.
True the best and only currently lasting marriage I’ve seen was from my aunt who got married just after 6 months of dating. They both said they knew instantly they would marry eachother :)
I was obsessively checking my story to see if he watched it, it was beginning to consume me. I just had to unfollow him and move on. I feel at peace now✨
I spent 5 months in a situationship. Month 1-2, I was lovebombed & future faked Month 3-4, the hot and cold started Month 5, I finally asked for answers and was ghosted. I’m 3 weeks post ghosting/break up and realized just yesterday I was dealing with a narcissist. And that’s their classic cycle. My advice, if he doesn’t choose you from the beginning, LET THEM GO. Also trust your gut and don’t make excuses for red flags 🤘🏻
Forgiving yourself is soooo important. Sometimes you can get so stuck on how you got into the toxic situation in the first place, that you continuously question your self worth. You know you didn't do anything wrong but you blame yourself for even allowing the situation to happen...you have to forgive yourself and just let go. Easier said than done, but forgiving yourself is just as important as forgiving the other person. It is absolutely necessary! 🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉
It's such a game with some men. I was dealing with a guy who kept asking to "be in a relationship" however he always prioritized his guy friends, sports, guy trips over me. I think he just wanted me to commit, and have me "sitting there" whilst he ran around and returned to me when convenient
Isn’t that what all men do I’ve dated a few men and yeah they want you to be home when they call. My boyfriend would go away on weekend trips with his friends, hiking and exploring that man if I wasn’t home when he called, he’d come unglued.
I was in one for 3 years mostly because of my ego and admiration for his talent. I tried to show him loyalty and kindness. I did everything and basically paid for everything while we were seeing each other all while he was seeing and sleeping with others. The crazy part is I knew that he didn't want a relationship because he said it in the beginning that he wasn't ready yet but wouldn't mind us dating and seeing where it goes. After 4 to 5 months it was shown that hecwas not the one for me but I ignored it. 3 years later, after breakup number 12, He finally admitted he loved someone else. It broke my heart because now I would have to leave him alone for good. I couldn't ignore that even if I tried. He wanted to continue seeing me casually while he "loved" someone else. So here I am watching this video and crying because its SPOT ON! THANK YOU! I WILL MOVE ON AND I WILL FORGIVE MYSELF AND HIM! 🍉 Better is coming my way!
@jessicahitchens6926 It's crazy I know, but I was able to make excuses for it because he literally had nothing, and I had much more! I almost treated it like charity work in a sense. I understand now that he was playing me all along and never really appreciated the things I did for him. I didn't look at it as Me "paying for a man" Instead, I looked at it as he would see how valuable I was and want to do for me when he was able. Sad I know, but guess what? IM FREE OF HIM AND IN THERAPY FOR SELF ESTEEM AND SPEAKING TO OTHER WOMEN WHO WERE JUST LIKE ME So I WIN! HE will be a loser until he dies because if he can treat me and others that way, even the one he so-called loved, then he needs more help than me.
I can't thank you enough for this video! I've been feeling sad because I cut off a situationship a couple of weeks ago and I've been missing him. But this video reminded me why I made that decision. I chose myself and gave myself another chance to find the love that I desire instead of the hot and cold the extreme highs followed by sadness or disappointment. I feel so much better now thank you!💛
I hope you are doing well. I just made the decision to cut off mine a few days ago. Its been agony. I cant stop the ruminating thoughts and not contact him. Your reply gives me hope. 😊🙏🏻
I got out of mine because I was feed up mentally even tho my heart thought differently I knew in order for me to thrive to my fullest I had to let him go because I felt myself falling into the category of “okay, now I’m truly allowing myself to be in this toxic loop”
6 months of situationship is finally over the other night! 🎉 I’d been aware that we stop seeing each other at some point, but I was still so confused with his behaviours. Then I ended up hearing that he is seeing someone else, and I asked him for a confirmation about our “thing” is clearly over. (When I asked if he still has a feeling, he said “It’s complicated” 🤷🏻♀️) I’m still recovering from that experience by myself, and it’s not easy, but I’ll keep moving forward for my happiness. Thank you so much Asha🫶🏻🍉🍉🍉
I’ve had an on and off, toxic af, heart breaking situationship go on for 11 damn years now!!! I have been feeling such fog, constantly trying to figure things out in my head and it feels scary, but I AM READY TO LET GO!!! There has to be better, I have to be better to myself!! I release, and will not repeat ☺️
It happens! The foggy feeling is a clue it is not good for you. The only way to move on is to completely cut them off and don’t let them weasel their way back in your life.
I’m finalllyy learning to recognize and move on quickly at 34 doesn’t matter how many guys you reject as long as you do it and keep going after what you actually want not what you’re offered ❤
🍉 I think what's make these environments hard is when you both generally like each other, but are just to afraid to be vulnerable with one another. So it turns into a frustrating and annoying case of what do I do? I know for me I just don't want to be the energy I keep. So I just fell back and stop giving it energy.
🍉(it’s a secret 🤫) but I’m making the decision today and to end my situationship. I was with a guy off and on for 3 years. I found myself constantly comparing my appearance and behavior to his ex… I feel like crap but I’m thankful for the comments that state you have to forgive yourself ❤🎉 it’s a celebration, not a loss.
Oh yeah a lot of toxic men make those comments. "Maybe your standards are too high" Its very telling as to how much this kind of man will actually value his partner. We dont need to lower our standards and tolerate abuse, laziness, unsupportive behaviour or anything negative from men.
Thanks!! I was stuck in situationship few months ago and it's the worst thing which you can do to yourself. Sometime I feel like going back but I know it's gonna end up hurting me so I refuse to look back🍉🍉🍉
I’m currently in a situation w/someone now only out of obligation. I’m just tired of struggling w/this person because I don’t feel my best when I’m in a constant state of instability. He just not my type of guy and I just want out🍉
I've been through something like this and it didn't go well and I'm still recovering from that experience. Been keeping my head in novels just to not think about that person. And that has actually worked. These advice tips help also. It is hard though, seeing him in a relationship while I'm here looking like collateral damage.
I love the positivity in the comment section. I can relate to a few comments so much. You let yourself disrespected for years in hope that they will melt down but trust me it’s not even worth trying. There’s someone out there for whom you wouldn’t have to try so much and everything will happen naturally. I’m waiting for mine while I try to move on from a situationship. It’s tough. I’m miserable specially during the nights when my emotions are at peak but I know I will get through it.
🍉🍉 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Thank you so much! I allowed a situationship to break me years ago but the Lord kept me and gave me clarity. Right now I am coming out of another with my ex-husband. Different situation but still no good since this was purely out of comfort. THANK YOU for being you and speaking in love (including tough love) 🥰
🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉I just left a toxic situation ship and of course I feel sad and I miss him but he was not good for me and we weren’t compatible especially on the communication side…. so I’m forgiving myself and I have to work on forgiving him and I will be good I really enjoyed watching your video it made me feel better better 🙂🙂❤️❤️❤️❤️
Just got out of a situationship that lasted for 10 months part of me is still delusional 😩. Wondering how long what I’m feeling was going to last so I came to RUclips to see if I could get help. I was already feeling better after a month of separation and boom Casper came back like he never ghosted. Made me even more confused
What i love about your content is that it can be used as a constant reminder on red flags during dating period. It helps people pay attention on what the guy is saying. I strongly believe that the first conversation give you a hint on whenever he is looking for a situationship or relationship 🍉 🍉 🍉 🍉 🍉
Thanks to your videos and finding your videos today, I’ve decided to end our situationship. He’s married and there’s no plans of divorce. He tells me that I’m not a side piece but his actions proven otherwise. I’m finally deciding to choose myself and stop giving myself physically to him for his sexual gratification, meanwhile I keep getting mixed signals and feeling empty. It’s mentally and emotionally draining. Yes it hurts knowing that his actions have shown me time and time again that he does not care about me or my feelings. But like you said I need to use that to add it to my fuel to move forward and never look back! Thank you🖤💯
Yeah but also keep in mind I just did this and the same day I really let him go, he comes begging . Those vampires feel your wonderful heart and energy let go on another level and come back grasping for it
🍉 wasn’t healed when I started it but the more healing I did i ended up catching feelings and it just been the same and I just simply got sooo over it . I been in a situationship for 2 years now and I basically got over it and ghosted / ended it . It’s a New year and I want something new now. I just realized I might have to heal a bit from this because I had no emotions since I already felt them before but lately this person been on my mind randomly or in my dreams so I had to watch a few videos but I’m strong as in mentally , emotionally & spiritually & know this is not it anymore. I’m just growing and changing as a person and it doesn’t serve me since I been healing a lot and might have to heal a little more from this since it’s been nothing to me and all of a sudden I’m getting a little bit of feels. Thank you soo much for your advices and insight on this it was great! 🙌🏽💯👏🏽
I've seen many of these videos on other channels but it hit on a completely different level. Like this video was made specially for me. Don't know how you managed to do it but feels like you went right into my thoughts and my situationship, wow
Best watermelon I ever had! 😉🍉 No more settling or letting him convince me I need to be someone I’m not to have his approval and love. Done with the story I told myself that he was the one that I was crazy about him and that he alone could make me happy.
I just recently started my self-awareness journey. And every recent post from you just hits home. P.S.: Thank you for being good at what you do. You're a blessing.
we love U, thank you for letting God use you, for my girlies healing over their ex like me, stay strong you have more strength then you think and Im praying for you
Watermelon 🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉💕😘😘😘. This legitimately might have saved my life. Not suicidal, but stress will kill. It's like you took the words out of my soul, heart.....What I have been feeling and experiencing my whole entire life. I'm about to be 40... Oh well. Plenty of life left, love myself and be the best mom I can be... Keep on keeping on. 🙏
Thank you I needed this! I think I’m only making myself suffer more because of my mindset. I can’t wait to start my healing journey and find someone who actually meant for me🍉
where did you read about not being able to tap into your full authentic self? i’ve always thought of that in my past relationship so would like to read further about it ☺️
Your advice is amazing and actually life changing! I can honestly say I listen to what you say and then actually apply it in my real life afterwards instead of advice in the past from Other people going in one ear and out the other! You are very logical. Please can you do a video on how to overcome the damage of being emotionally and physically cheated on and knowing your worth, as strong as I try to be I feel this is a never ending battle at the moment of overcoming this! xx
Honestly it’s not all about women! Im a full grown man, and im absolutely devastated from a 6 month situationship,she started dating someone else and i wanted from the start to be with her.I know im supposed to walk away and im slowly starting too after thousands of dollars of therapy.
Love your content! I’m definitely in a situationship. With my child’s dad! There’s literally no communication between us. Always manipulations just to get my attention.
Thank you this video was definitely confirmation for me. I'm recently just got out of toxic relationship. I have my moments where I distrust myself then I remember what you have taught. Thank you goddess. You are truly an asset.
Earned a subscriber.😊 this is actually what i just got of. It was too much my intuition was screaming at me to leave that boy alone. I was in a situationship i just learn from it an let the other girls fight over him god protected me
love love love this video! you truly spoke to me! ❤️ a video suggestion - could you maybe make a new video about getting over revenge or anger through forgiveness? also maybe something about not thinking of a breakup as a competition
I am sorry to myself.... That i allowed myself to go through this..... I didn't know that time... Having my lesson now..... Never gonna repeat... But the broken part is so realllllll...
Mine was a non physical strictly mental and emotional situationship. We texted only. He was younger so I went along with thinking men didn't want to spend too much time on the phone and to only use phone to set plans. I could never express myself fully via text. I felt like I needed to do a detox from men before we even started and eventually we got too deep and now I am sure it's time to do me for a month to six months to love and learn myself. Great video ❤❤❤
🍉 Omg can we please be besties?! You give the greatest advice. Literally been binging your podcast and RUclips because you give me the strength and motivation to keep working on becoming my best self. Words can’t express how grateful I am to have come across your content 🙏🏽 Love to you Asha ♥️
This was me with a girl thank God I'm trying to move on as from last week I told her everything that kinda pissed me off about our situationship bc we both had communicated what we wanted and I thought it could win her over despite us connecting on such a deep level.....but finally I'm trying to move on I unfollowed etc and moved on
Thank you I really needed to hear this after repeating the cycle constantly making it impossible to get out of. 9 months of wasted time and now I’m ready to heal and take a break to align with what I deserve. Honestly, the back and forth situation was the number 1 thing that killed me and I began to change to a whole different person that I myself didn’t recognise. If someone really loves you, you will be able to openly be yourself around them if not they’re not the one. 🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉
After two years of this back and forth I’m DONE! he called me last Saturday on FaceTime and had a girl with him. I had never felt more embarrassed and discarded as I did that night. The girl called me the next day and asked me if we were together bc he was taking her to eat and the biggest L was he had never even asked me to go anywhere but his house when he needed his ego stroked! THAT HURT CHANGED ME. NEVER AGAIN.
I got into a situationship with a guy who used to be my bf when I was 14/15. We dated for a year that time and he left me being so toxic then, playing with me, saying he wanted me but then leaving me again; I was so devastated that time I couldn’t even live normally. Now, ten years after we are in a situationship I cannot get out of. He makes me feel stressed, not attractive, not worth anything but I’m still letting him be in my life. I used to think he was the love of my life and now when I am rly aware he is not and there is no way for us to become a couple I am still in this s*itty something 😢
This was spot on you said everything I lve had thoughts about with myself what I’ve calculated in my head of understanding how a happy ending will turn out. Currently going through this.
May I add that some of these guys wants you to be Ina situationship with them, so everytime you pack up to leave they find a way to come into your life. In order to continue the nonsense the have for you
Currently I don’t know what to do I am talking to a guy post brkup We talked for hours for 1 months Shared pics but all of a sudden when i asked for frequent texts m calls he just said dnt expect too much from me and stop being pushy
Just stumbled across your channel thank you so much 🍉! Starting over after 17 yrs in a relationship/ situationship!! Excited for this new chapter in my life!!
Thank you so much! I already decided to let him go. Im going through the healing process and really understanding what happened so i dont make the same mistakes again. Your channel is such a blessing
🍉🍉🍉 I loved this video, this one hit home different. I loved how you can express and put together everything so adequately to really make you reflect about yourself. Once you really change your mindset and realize you deserve better, you prove it by your actions. And once you discover your true self and actually walk in your essence, better will be attracted to you❤️
i decided to quit after frequent ghosting. He came back begging but now am keeping God's standard no sex before marriage so he can leave again if he desires i careless
This is crazy because I am currently trying to move on from this guy that wanted me first and it was all lovey dovey like we’re ft everyday checking in with each other calling me bae and shi and then after 30 days I pranked him and he took it serious and blocked me and got all upset about it and girl it’s a long story-😭 but I ended up calling him something he did like and ever since we’ve been distant and he is super sensitive and acting like we weren’t just fine the other day but it’s been a month but I’ve tried to reach out to him and he talks to me and we are on one page about how we feel but he makes it seem like we’ll never be the same and I was super bummed abt it crying not eating but then I had to realize if he wanna block me and shit so be it my life goes on reguardless so I just puts that energy towards myself and becoming the woman of my dreams, like I really felt like I lost everything when he distanced me but I’m living and I’ve lost 25lbs focusing on me and letting him go! I love him ❤️though but it’s for the greater good!
Thank you so much Asha, honestly you are an angel, just what I needed to hear as always and giving me the strength I need to get outta this situation 🍉🍉🍉
Last year he ended things after two weeks. He came back around 3ish months ago and things seemed so much better until he began to put in minimal effort and i had to end it. He views my profiles and still wants to be friends its weird because i cant completely cut him off again because our families are friends. I want to let him completely go but its so rough.
Hi Angels!!! give this video a big thumbs up if this is the sign that you needed!!! I am so grateful for each and everyone of you and grateful for all the support!!! ROAD TO 200K HERE WE COME!!!!! I will be posting an extra special video for when we hit that milestone. You guys make me so happy and I love this community that we have cultivated together! Please check my description box for where I got my top from!!! Im obsessed with it!!!!
my children and I have been watching your video for well now you always make our day my little girl who is 5 years old ask me to start channel like this so I did I will like to invite you to check it out💓🥰😊
Supporting you ashaaa :-) . Going by & saw you uploaded just 1 hr ago and I clicked & liked it because you said you needed the support. Tip over the algorithm. Love you babe. Thanks
You're really in tune with the holy spirit. I appreciate you so much Asha ❤️✌🏽
Keep up the good work, you’re needed♥️
You should normalize feeling insulted by being situationshipped. You should normalize feeling insulted by being side-chicked. You should normalize feeling insulted by being pushed in the position of place-holder in any form. The average American married man proposed to his fiance after one year of dating and knew he would propose after 7 months. THATS IT!! Don't sell yourself short by allowing yourself to be put into these situations.
Thank you 🙏
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True the best and only currently lasting marriage I’ve seen was from my aunt who got married just after 6 months of dating. They both said they knew instantly they would marry eachother :)
Just don't allow it. 99% of the time women settle for nonsense is because they gave the man sex & have a soul tie.
this hurts to read, but you're right
I was obsessively checking my story to see if he watched it, it was beginning to consume me. I just had to unfollow him and move on. I feel at peace now✨
I’m proud of you!!!!
Girl literally same 🥴
@@leptune yes I need to get to that point
Girl I’m the same. Idk how tf I got myself into this bs mess but it totally consumed me
Girl this is me right now
Never give a situationship 100% you’ll be wasting your energy 🍉
I spent 5 months in a situationship.
Month 1-2, I was lovebombed & future faked
Month 3-4, the hot and cold started
Month 5, I finally asked for answers and was ghosted.
I’m 3 weeks post ghosting/break up and realized just yesterday I was dealing with a narcissist. And that’s their classic cycle.
My advice, if he doesn’t choose you from the beginning, LET THEM GO.
Also trust your gut and don’t make excuses for red flags 🤘🏻
girl, same here. i learned the hard way that lesson🥲
Girl same but in 2weeks
Same thing happened to me but he got an actual girlfriend afterwards.
@@riyagupta2533 so sad
I was love BOMBED. He was telling me he wanted to have my kids and all 🤦🏿♀️ by month 5 , completely ghosted 🙃
Forgiving yourself is soooo important. Sometimes you can get so stuck on how you got into the toxic situation in the first place, that you continuously question your self worth. You know you didn't do anything wrong but you blame yourself for even allowing the situation to happen...you have to forgive yourself and just let go. Easier said than done, but forgiving yourself is just as important as forgiving the other person. It is absolutely necessary!
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I absolutely agree!!!!!
Thank you
DO NOTTTTT TEXT HIM!
😢 I just stopped texting back and he's completely blocked from everything! I should be good in two weeks 😅
@@sunshinedoesit8272any update?
It's such a game with some men. I was dealing with a guy who kept asking to "be in a relationship" however he always prioritized his guy friends, sports, guy trips over me. I think he just wanted me to commit, and have me "sitting there" whilst he ran around and returned to me when convenient
Isn’t that what all men do I’ve dated a few men and yeah they want you to be home when they call. My boyfriend would go away on weekend trips with his friends, hiking and exploring that man if I wasn’t home when he called, he’d come unglued.
She explained all of our situationships perfectly. This woman is right y'all.
"...We are curating a million different ways to have a happy ending."
that was a bar🔥
I was in one for 3 years mostly because of my ego and admiration for his talent. I tried to show him loyalty and kindness. I did everything and basically paid for everything while we were seeing each other all while he was seeing and sleeping with others. The crazy part is I knew that he didn't want a relationship because he said it in the beginning that he wasn't ready yet but wouldn't mind us dating and seeing where it goes. After 4 to 5 months it was shown that hecwas not the one for me but I ignored it. 3 years later, after breakup number 12, He finally admitted he loved someone else. It broke my heart because now I would have to leave him alone for good. I couldn't ignore that even if I tried. He wanted to continue seeing me casually while he "loved" someone else. So here I am watching this video and crying because its SPOT ON! THANK YOU! I WILL MOVE ON AND I WILL FORGIVE MYSELF AND HIM! 🍉 Better is coming my way!
You paid for a "man"??? I can't even compute this.
@jessicahitchens6926 It's crazy I know, but I was able to make excuses for it because he literally had nothing, and I had much more! I almost treated it like charity work in a sense. I understand now that he was playing me all along and never really appreciated the things I did for him. I didn't look at it as Me "paying for a man" Instead, I looked at it as he would see how valuable I was and want to do for me when he was able. Sad I know, but guess what? IM FREE OF HIM AND IN THERAPY FOR SELF ESTEEM AND SPEAKING TO OTHER WOMEN WHO WERE JUST LIKE ME So I WIN! HE will be a loser until he dies because if he can treat me and others that way, even the one he so-called loved, then he needs more help than me.
I can't thank you enough for this video! I've been feeling sad because I cut off a situationship a couple of weeks ago and I've been missing him. But this video reminded me why I made that decision. I chose myself and gave myself another chance to find the love that I desire instead of the hot and cold the extreme highs followed by sadness or disappointment. I feel so much better now thank you!💛
I hope you are doing well. I just made the decision to cut off mine a few days ago. Its been agony. I cant stop the ruminating thoughts and not contact him. Your reply gives me hope. 😊🙏🏻
@@heatherp7836 yes I'm cut mine off today. Next step will be removing from social media
@@heatherp7836 have yours tried to contact you?
i made the same decision about 2 months ago. same feelings.
Hi how are u now. I just cut off mine 2 days ago and I miss him, I am fighting the urge to unblock, its hard
These braids look absolutely STUNNING on you. Just beautiful.
awww thank you so much!!!!
Right!
No relationship, no problems.
This isn't about relationship tho that's the thing
Amazing how many women don't realize this is the male version of the friend zone 😂😂
Ouch
I got out of mine because I was feed up mentally even tho my heart thought differently I knew in order for me to thrive to my fullest I had to let him go because I felt myself falling into the category of “okay, now I’m truly allowing myself to be in this toxic loop”
6 months of situationship is finally over the other night! 🎉
I’d been aware that we stop seeing each other at some point, but I was still so confused with his behaviours. Then I ended up hearing that he is seeing someone else, and I asked him for a confirmation about our “thing” is clearly over. (When I asked if he still has a feeling, he said “It’s complicated” 🤷🏻♀️)
I’m still recovering from that experience by myself, and it’s not easy, but I’ll keep moving forward for my happiness.
Thank you so much Asha🫶🏻🍉🍉🍉
I understand your pain, faced the same
Need this 😭 going through one right now
awww ill see you tomorrow angel
Yesss
This hit on SUCHH a deep level.
Frfr😭
I’ve had an on and off, toxic af, heart breaking situationship go on for 11 damn years now!!! I have been feeling such fog, constantly trying to figure things out in my head and it feels scary, but I AM READY TO LET GO!!! There has to be better, I have to be better to myself!! I release, and will not repeat ☺️
11 years????
@@MrRedxblader 😂 😫
It happens! The foggy feeling is a clue it is not good for you. The only way to move on is to completely cut them off and don’t let them weasel their way back in your life.
It's called a soul tie, honey. Turn to Jesus.
Me too, 11 years💀
I’m finalllyy learning to recognize and move on quickly at 34 doesn’t matter how many guys you reject as long as you do it and keep going after what you actually want not what you’re offered ❤
Yes!!!!
🍉 I think what's make these environments hard is when you both generally like each other, but are just to afraid to be vulnerable with one another. So it turns into a frustrating and annoying case of what do I do? I know for me I just don't want to be the energy I keep. So I just fell back and stop giving it energy.
Girl i am on the same page till I don't give back the same energy to the guy I let them persue me first
YES EXACTLY THIS
🍉(it’s a secret 🤫) but I’m making the decision today and to end my situationship. I was with a guy off and on for 3 years. I found myself constantly comparing my appearance and behavior to his ex… I feel like crap but I’m thankful for the comments that state you have to forgive yourself ❤🎉 it’s a celebration, not a loss.
Oh yeah a lot of toxic men make those comments. "Maybe your standards are too high" Its very telling as to how much this kind of man will actually value his partner. We dont need to lower our standards and tolerate abuse, laziness, unsupportive behaviour or anything negative from men.
Thanks!! I was stuck in situationship few months ago and it's the worst thing which you can do to yourself. Sometime I feel like going back but I know it's gonna end up hurting me so I refuse to look back🍉🍉🍉
“im so grateful for the situations that never worked out for me because it wasnt meant to be.”
I’m currently in a situation w/someone now only out of obligation. I’m just tired of struggling w/this person because I don’t feel my best when I’m in a constant state of instability. He just not my type of guy and I just want out🍉
I've been through something like this and it didn't go well and I'm still recovering from that experience. Been keeping my head in novels just to not think about that person. And that has actually worked. These advice tips help also. It is hard though, seeing him in a relationship while I'm here looking like collateral damage.
That's a good idea which kind of novels did you read
I've been there. I gave my life to Christ. Best decision I've ever made. Peace, joy and fulfillment.
I love the positivity in the comment section. I can relate to a few comments so much. You let yourself disrespected for years in hope that they will melt down but trust me it’s not even worth trying. There’s someone out there for whom you wouldn’t have to try so much and everything will happen naturally. I’m waiting for mine while I try to move on from a situationship. It’s tough. I’m miserable specially during the nights when my emotions are at peak but I know I will get through it.
🍉🍉 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Thank you so much! I allowed a situationship to break me years ago but the Lord kept me and gave me clarity. Right now I am coming out of another with my ex-husband. Different situation but still no good since this was purely out of comfort. THANK YOU for being you and speaking in love (including tough love) 🥰
Thanks for the video....I just dump him after 2 5 yrs of toxic undefined situationship that goes nowhere....proud of myself!
Update? 👀
You are so right. I just left and asked him to stay away from me!
🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉I just left a toxic situation ship and of course I feel sad and I miss him but he was not good for me and we weren’t compatible especially on the communication side…. so I’m forgiving myself and I have to work on forgiving him and I will be good I really enjoyed watching your video it made me feel better better 🙂🙂❤️❤️❤️❤️
🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉 thank you for this message! So helpful! Let’s find the heaven we belong in angels!!!!! Be celebrated not tolerated!
Yesssss
I needed this . Ive been in a situationship for 3 years. So over it, ily for these videos.
Did you end up leaving the situationship? I am in the process of stepping back from my situationship of 3 years…
You both deserve so much more
@@KimJileneupdate?
Just got out of a situationship that lasted for 10 months part of me is still delusional 😩. Wondering how long what I’m feeling was going to last so I came to RUclips to see if I could get help. I was already feeling better after a month of separation and boom Casper came back like he never ghosted. Made me even more confused
What i love about your content is that it can be used as a constant reminder on red flags during dating period. It helps people pay attention on what the guy is saying. I strongly believe that the first conversation give you a hint on whenever he is looking for a situationship or relationship 🍉 🍉 🍉 🍉 🍉
Thanks to your videos and finding your videos today, I’ve decided to end our situationship. He’s married and there’s no plans of divorce. He tells me that I’m not a side piece but his actions proven otherwise. I’m finally deciding to choose myself and stop giving myself physically to him for his sexual gratification, meanwhile I keep getting mixed signals and feeling empty. It’s mentally and emotionally draining. Yes it hurts knowing that his actions have shown me time and time again that he does not care about me or my feelings. But like you said I need to use that to add it to my fuel to move forward and never look back! Thank you🖤💯
🍉🍉🍉 This was sooo good! I need to write that letter, and send that thing to God burning. Let it go 😌
Yesss and thank you angel 😇
Yeah but also keep in mind I just did this and the same day I really let him go, he comes begging . Those vampires feel your wonderful heart and energy let go on another level and come back grasping for it
🍉 wasn’t healed when I started it but the more healing I did i ended up catching feelings and it just been the same and I just simply got sooo over it . I been in a situationship for 2 years now and I basically got over it and ghosted / ended it . It’s a New year and I want something new now. I just realized I might have to heal a bit from this because I had no emotions since I already felt them before but lately this person been on my mind randomly or in my dreams so I had to watch a few videos but I’m strong as in mentally , emotionally & spiritually & know this is not it anymore. I’m just growing and changing as a person and it doesn’t serve me since I been healing a lot and might have to heal a little more from this since it’s been nothing to me and all of a sudden I’m getting a little bit of feels. Thank you soo much for your advices and insight on this it was great! 🙌🏽💯👏🏽
The accuracy of this video😢 Literally my life right now
I've seen many of these videos on other channels but it hit on a completely different level. Like this video was made specially for me. Don't know how you managed to do it but feels like you went right into my thoughts and my situationship, wow
Awww well I’m happy to help and I am honored it resonated with you!!!!🥰
God bless you Asha ! I let that 🍉 go over 1 month ago and I am so proud of my self-love journey 💓 it’s only up from here 🙏🏻
Im choosing the temporary pain of letting go and moving on….🍉🍉🍉🍉
Best watermelon I ever had! 😉🍉 No more settling or letting him convince me I need to be someone I’m not to have his approval and love. Done with the story I told myself that he was the one that I was crazy about him and that he alone could make me happy.
I have been trying to leave couple of times but everytime he comes back I always take him back and the cycle repeats. Honestly so draining.
This is amazing. Spot on. From this video I realised that ‘intimacy is earned’. Thanks for the great content. You’re so articulate.
I’d say maybe get some help with editing, it’s a bit jumpy, nonetheless great video
I just recently started my self-awareness journey. And every recent post from you just hits home. P.S.: Thank you for being good at what you do. You're a blessing.
Is she not one of the most straight forward and wisest on RUclips touching on the psychology of it all?👐🏽👐🏽
He ended everything by telling me he's apathetic and disinterested in me.. this is so painful
we love U, thank you for letting God use you, for my girlies healing over their ex like me, stay strong you have more strength then you think and Im praying for you
Awww thank you so much angel 😇
Watermelon 🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉💕😘😘😘. This legitimately might have saved my life. Not suicidal, but stress will kill. It's like you took the words out of my soul, heart.....What I have been feeling and experiencing my whole entire life. I'm about to be 40... Oh well. Plenty of life left, love myself and be the best mom I can be... Keep on keeping on. 🙏
Golden advice from this beautiful girl. A true, caring, philanthropic lady.
Thank you I needed this! I think I’m only making myself suffer more because of my mindset. I can’t wait to start my healing journey and find someone who actually meant for me🍉
I couldn’t decide to finally let go and I started to watch this video and it enlightened me so much! Thank you! 🍉
where did you read about not being able to tap into your full authentic self? i’ve always thought of that in my past relationship so would like to read further about it ☺️
Your advice is amazing and actually life changing! I can honestly say I listen to what you say and then actually apply it in my real life afterwards instead of advice in the past from
Other people going in one ear and out the other! You are very logical. Please can you do a video on how to overcome the damage of being emotionally and physically cheated on and knowing your worth, as strong as I try to be I feel this is a never ending battle at the moment of overcoming this! xx
Thank you so much angel 😇 and I will consider this!
🍉 It is so true, cannot be your authentic self around these types. Cannot embrace a settling moment… yes.
Ok Asha! DAMN! The scenario at 6:32 - TOO DAMN ACCURATE! How do you know our realities so well sis! Thank God for you and this channel!
I am currently in this situationship and l am ready to walk away. Your video is really helpful and great. Hope to listen to more of this 😊
Did you walk away?
This chignon braids baby hairs look is GIVINGGGG, you look absolutely radiant omg
Thank u so much I already feel better after almost 10 years of situationship I feel ready to let go 🍉🍉 🍉Much love from France
Honestly it’s not all about women! Im a full grown man, and im absolutely devastated from a 6 month situationship,she started dating someone else and i wanted from the start to be with her.I know im supposed to walk away and im slowly starting too after thousands of dollars of therapy.
Love your content! I’m definitely in a situationship. With my child’s dad! There’s literally no communication between us. Always manipulations just to get my attention.
Aww thank you angel :/ I can imagine that’s tough
Thank you this video was definitely confirmation for me. I'm recently just got out of toxic relationship. I have my moments where I distrust myself then I remember what you have taught. Thank you goddess. You are truly an asset.
Aww thank you so much angel 😇
I don’t even know you but you genuinely helped me heal. Thank you Asha.
Earned a subscriber.😊 this is actually what i just got of. It was too much my intuition was screaming at me to leave that boy alone. I was in a situationship i just learn from it an let the other girls fight over him god protected me
Welcome to the A teaammmm
love love love this video! you truly spoke to me! ❤️
a video suggestion - could you maybe make a new video about getting over revenge or anger through forgiveness? also maybe something about not thinking of a breakup as a competition
I think I have some videos coming up that will help with that! And thank you!!!!
@@AshaChristinaFoster yay!!! can’t wait 👏👏 thanks for the consistency!!!
I feel i keep putting excuses for him and i dont exactly want to end it because a part of me has hope. But i realize what im allowing :(
🍉🍉🍉. This was so refreshing. I am looking forward to my healing journey.
I am sorry to myself.... That i allowed myself to go through this..... I didn't know that time... Having my lesson now..... Never gonna repeat... But the broken part is so realllllll...
Mine was a non physical strictly mental and emotional situationship. We texted only. He was younger so I went along with thinking men didn't want to spend too much time on the phone and to only use phone to set plans. I could never express myself fully via text. I felt like I needed to do a detox from men before we even started and eventually we got too deep and now I am sure it's time to do me for a month to six months to love and learn myself. Great video ❤❤❤
🍉 Omg can we please be besties?! You give the greatest advice. Literally been binging your podcast and RUclips because you give me the strength and motivation to keep working on becoming my best self. Words can’t express how grateful I am to have come across your content 🙏🏽 Love to you Asha ♥️
I agree! She'd be my bestie too
🍉 Omg, dun noe of her but, we can..🙂(if u respond
This honestly helped me so much but I still have to mourn about my situationship at least a little bit 😢💔
This was me with a girl thank God I'm trying to move on as from last week I told her everything that kinda pissed me off about our situationship bc we both had communicated what we wanted and I thought it could win her over despite us connecting on such a deep level.....but finally I'm trying to move on I unfollowed etc and moved on
Laughing and crying...and healing
Thank you I really needed to hear this after repeating the cycle constantly making it impossible to get out of. 9 months of wasted time and now I’m ready to heal and take a break to align with what I deserve. Honestly, the back and forth situation was the number 1 thing that killed me and I began to change to a whole different person that I myself didn’t recognise. If someone really loves you, you will be able to openly be yourself around them if not they’re not the one. 🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉
This just helped me reach a new understanding of letting go and forgiveness 🙏🏾
THIS is definitely one of your top 10 most helpful videos to me, thank you so much! Gonna take action literally right now. Love you ♡
Omg my old Situationship sounds exactly like mine! I admired him also
After two years of this back and forth I’m DONE! he called me last Saturday on FaceTime and had a girl with him. I had never felt more embarrassed and discarded as I did that night. The girl called me the next day and asked me if we were together bc he was taking her to eat and the biggest L was he had never even asked me to go anywhere but his house when he needed his ego stroked! THAT HURT CHANGED ME. NEVER AGAIN.
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What a freakin loser he is. Why would he FaceTime you with a girl? I am so sick of these weird ass people
Girl you are so on point!! I am listening to your words and nodding my head nonstop
I got into a situationship with a guy who used to be my bf when I was 14/15. We dated for a year that time and he left me being so toxic then, playing with me, saying he wanted me but then leaving me again; I was so devastated that time I couldn’t even live normally. Now, ten years after we are in a situationship I cannot get out of. He makes me feel stressed, not attractive, not worth anything but I’m still letting him be in my life. I used to think he was the love of my life and now when I am rly aware he is not and there is no way for us to become a couple I am still in this s*itty something 😢
This was spot on you said everything I lve had thoughts about with myself what I’ve calculated in my head of understanding how a happy ending will turn out. Currently going through this.
You are a jackpot, I wish my son will find a woman like you!
May I add that some of these guys wants you to be Ina situationship with them, so everytime you pack up to leave they find a way to come into your life. In order to continue the nonsense the have for you
Currently I don’t know what to do
I am talking to a guy post brkup
We talked for hours for 1 months
Shared pics but all of a sudden when i asked for frequent texts m calls he just said dnt expect too much from me and stop being pushy
I am so disappointed not in that guy , in myself
Just stumbled across your channel thank you so much 🍉! Starting over after 17 yrs in a relationship/ situationship!! Excited for this new chapter in my life!!
Thank you so much! I already decided to let him go. Im going through the healing process and really understanding what happened so i dont make the same mistakes again. Your channel is such a blessing
🍉🍉🍉 I loved this video, this one hit home different. I loved how you can express and put together everything so adequately to really make you reflect about yourself. Once you really change your mindset and realize you deserve better, you prove it by your actions. And once you discover your true self and actually walk in your essence, better will be attracted to you❤️
i decided to quit after frequent ghosting. He came back begging but now am keeping God's standard no sex before marriage so he can leave again if he desires i careless
Asha you are wise beyond your years... Thanks for the advice.
This was so helpful, I hold onto a lot and tell myself I don’t but deep down my ego’s hurt. This was very helpful thank you!!!🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉
I wish I can like this video twice ! Awesome job, I just subscribed. Your points were clear and digestible, thank you . ☺️
This is crazy because I am currently trying to move on from this guy that wanted me first and it was all lovey dovey like we’re ft everyday checking in with each other calling me bae and shi and then after 30 days I pranked him and he took it serious and blocked me and got all upset about it and girl it’s a long story-😭 but I ended up calling him something he did like and ever since we’ve been distant and he is super sensitive and acting like we weren’t just fine the other day but it’s been a month but I’ve tried to reach out to him and he talks to me and we are on one page about how we feel but he makes it seem like we’ll never be the same and I was super bummed abt it crying not eating but then I had to realize if he wanna block me and shit so be it my life goes on reguardless so I just puts that energy towards myself and becoming the woman of my dreams, like I really felt like I lost everything when he distanced me but I’m living and I’ve lost 25lbs focusing on me and letting him go! I love him ❤️though but it’s for the greater good!
I love you for this. Cried throughout the video. Thank you so much 🫶
Thank you so much Asha, honestly you are an angel, just what I needed to hear as always and giving me the strength I need to get outta this situation 🍉🍉🍉
You’re so welcome Angel!!!! You’re strong! And I believe in you!
Perfect timing 😩
AMEN..GOD BLESS ME MOVE I ON WE GIVE GOD ALL THE GLORY!!
Last year he ended things after two weeks. He came back around 3ish months ago and things seemed so much better until he began to put in minimal effort and i had to end it. He views my profiles and still wants to be friends its weird because i cant completely cut him off again because our families are friends. I want to let him completely go but its so rough.