@@unstoppablegirl8girl dont regret it you cant do anything about it anymore its done thats it, youre just hurting yourself by regretting, youre going to live with it and it wont matter that much in months, present is painful
the 'stop creating fantasies' part had me reflecting all of my relations and friendships. the way I had created fantasies about everyone and when they didn't meet the expectations, I got hurt and it was difficult to see that it was me who gave them that false image and not them who hurt me
I have a really bad habit of romanticizing everything and everyone. Then get disappointed when they do not meet my standards. This is something that I just realized. This year, I plan on operating from an abundant mindset and stop selling myself so short! I always shortchange myself for others and always get the bad end of the deal. This year will be a whole 180! Thanks Liz!
Same for me. I don't agree with Liz saying that people who get attached easily have no life, it's not that easy to explain. I do have a life, I constantly meet up with friends, go to events, restaurants, try out something new and I do have things I'm passionate about. I can be on my own and never get bored because I always find stuff to do. But I just tend to romanticize a lot. Especially because I've never been in a relationship, I just get excited when I like someone, wonder if they like me back, daydream about them and then get disappointed when they're not reciprocating my feelings the same way. I need to learn to not depend my emotional state so much on how that person is feeling about me.
Felt this I dilute myself into thinking that one day they will change and I romanticize them to the point where I actually think it is them so when I find out that they aren’t going to change and that the person inside of my head isnt them I get disappointed and upset, but I’m already attached so it’s hard to detach from the person that created in my mind. Because I want it to be them .
when u really get into these two mindsets "it is what it is" & "there is always someone or something better for me when it comes about ending things",your life really gets better. Edited: I didnt know that this has so many likes and some people are telling me that this is narcissistic but the truth is u have to work thru some things with ur someone but when they do hurt u intentionally you dont have to hold onto them anymore.I am not narcissistic I just got broken up by someone and im hurt rn as i should be but you have to let go of things which are not meant to be with you & there really are good people that u havent even met on this earth 🤍
@@rando7290like, life goes on regardless! Anything can happen, anything can make you happy when it comes to things ending. Detaching yourself, will help you believe that and it will do good for you! Never depend on someone for your own happiness
@@profile1936 i’m so sorry for your loss Gunter.. life is not fair sometimes.. It’s okay to be angry.. and I hope you can find some peace with what you’re dealing with & see brighter days ahead 🙏🏼
@@profile1936 i'm a complete and total stranger but i hope the lessons you learned from your friendship and the experiences you had leave a positive impact on you and help you become a better person. i'm not just gonna lie and say i pity you or i'm so sorry for you, because pity never helped anyone, but i'm praying you find a healthy way to not only cope with your grief but to live your life to the fullest and most fulfilling it can be :). (i hope i don't sound insensitive, if i do just ignore this x_x)
I finally understood. I became sick because I was way too attached to a fantasy I created in my head about who he should have been, what we should have become. It made me truly ill, physically, mentally, emotionally. And I can finally let go. I can go no contact. I can heal. This video was a happy slap on my face to know that I am not special, many people go through this, and I can change my situation.
@@samanwaya6388I went through that as well , ik how hard it actually is . I really do wish you the best , if i can advice u : do every single thing that you know you have to do for your own good , no matter how hard it looks /is. At the end you will always have to think and act for yourself cause your own happiness is your duty . Here's a quote that i really do appreciate ( hope it can help you even if you don't believe in God ... ) : " When a thing disturbs the peace of your heart , give it up " - the prophet ( ص ) . Hope my comment can help u in any kind of way :) .
"If God was done with you, you would not be alive." The power that this one line holds. I promise to work on myself from this very moment and not cry for worthless people anymore. I am going to be a better, happier and healed version of myself.
I wouldn't say that I am happy as much as I want to be but I definitely feel better than what I used to be like and am still a work in progress but also proud of myself for not giving up.@@ayamekkaoui2779 😇
as an overly emotional person and as a person who literally loves people unconditionally this was so important because I am completely sick and tired of people constantly taking advantage of my loyalty and love, thank you liz you literally are an angel edit: WHEN DID THIS GET SO MANY LIKES LMAOO but anyways to all the beautiful angels and amazing human beings who related to this, I just want to say that I'm so proud of you I'm so happy you came this far and did not decide to give up, and it shows that you are trying to do smth better for yourself (as you're watching the queen liz), so don't give up beautiful you got this and all of you strong and amazing individuals have my prayers
It's crazy how is she talking about the exact things i needed to hear. I was creating those fantasies about this one guy in my head during 9 MONTHS, crying non stop because he never made any steps, and then i realized that my desperarion was my biggest mistake. You can not allow yourself to wait for some random guy to text you or talk to you for days and not be able to focus on anything else. I was always blaming myself that i'm not doing enough, i could be more funny or talk more or do more things to get his attention: excuse me WHAT? If anything was supposed to happen between us, it would FOR SURE, i would not have to rip myself into parts so that something happens. Now, i've completely realised that and i don't let myself to even think abt all of that, i just focus on myself and my life, on friends and family. So, just be 10000% sure, if something is meant to happen in your life, it will happen REGARDLESS, nothing can take something that was meant for you. Be ready and open to get all the blessings that are on your way and be grateful. Sending so much love to everybody❤
"When you're not controlled by your ego, then you attract everything. You would not get attached to someone or something because you know you have abundance in your life." Thank you so much. I needed to hear it.
Attachment usually occurs due to a limited mindset of a "limited" ambition or "limited" options. Have hobbies, goals, plan a daily routine for yourself, keep yourself busy, shower, workout, eat healthy, affirm, walk your daily steps, soak the sun for 10 minutes daily. And most importantly, KNOW YOUR WORTH. Like Liz said, anyone in your life is there to TEACH you. It's done by them either staying or by leaving so know that they can go and there are a ton of other people :)
@@chillpill2098 sure! We all serve a purpose in each other's lives. Think logically : love is just a hormone. A certain chemical which we crave, oxytocin. No one owes anything to anyone.
Exactly! You have not seen the world yet and are unaware of all the goodness waiting for you in abundance ! Don't despair. Everything happens for a reason and everyone enters your life to teach you. Have ambitions for yourself. Have daily must-do's like getting 10 min sun, walking 5000 steps, eating fruits once and showering. Other than that, invest in yourself. Expand your horizons. Learn a new word or language. Try reading or writing. Maybe dance on your fav song. Call a family member or friend to catch up with. Draw and paint like you did when you were a child. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT. Stop looking at the details. We are literally living on a petite planet earth. There is no such thing as "time" or past in the higher dimensions. What is time anyway ? When the earth rotates and revolves you call it seasons and time lol. Stop stressing over the small stuff. Come on, live a little. Cook yourself a nice healthy meal and watch a funny movie. Do a DIY facial, take 5 extra mins in the shower, moisturize your body and sleep like a God/goddess. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I AM SO PROUD OF YOU ❤
Everything that comes out of Liz's mouth is pure gold. These are the things we all need to hear but we don't want to hear because its painful or because its too difficult to act on it. We are all meant for so much more. Radiate positivity, be kind, your turn is coming. We are all deserving.
Timestamps 👀: 1:32 - Realise you are operating from your ego 5:55 - Everyone in your life has a purpose 8:58 - Stop creating fantasies 9:33 - Have an "It is what it is." mindset 10:57 - Get a life 12:23 - Realise that you're operating from a lack mindset 14:07 - What is FOMO? 16:04 - You will never arrive to happiness 17:54 - Realise you will never leave you
i just had like the worst breakup ever and i was so depressed. he cheated on me with so many other girls and my whole world came crumbling down when i found out. the thing that kept boiling my blood was the fact that he was so unbothered like it was like he was happy that he was free of me. i felt like screaming against the whole world telling everyone how he is the bad one not me. but then, i decided to let go. like, completely, let go. yes, it still hurts and the memories come back everytime and i hate myself for not being unbothered and heartless like him just so i could've suffered less. but ive decided to let God do His job. I CANNOT MAKE ANYONE REALISE MY WORTH AND YOU DONT HAVE TO BEG THE REAL ONES TO STAY :)
I went through the same thing and my therapist only told me one thing... If someone is hurting an innocent person and has band intentions that person will never be happy that person will never be successful and those with pure intentions will always be happy after sometime (cause the heartbreak will make you strong "shayad tumhe strong banne ke liye tumhara tutna jaruri tha.") and KARMA is not just a theory it is real...
Preach sister!!! Here’s my biggest takeaways: 1. Get a life!!! Replace all the time you’re thinking of them with a passion, hobby, or goal. 2. If it’s not out of love it’s ego!! I was friends with this girl for over a year, then become real close friends, then started talking and being intimate. But she was never interested in taking it further, just wanted to be friends with benefits. I set a boundary so no initimacy, just friends, but weirdly enough, started finding myself being jealous of her, because I am popular at my university. But she is more popular because she is foreign, beautiful, travels all around the world, is super well known, comes from a family with money, dances sings and presents all the time. Being jealous is not love. I have no self love if I’m being jealous. I’ve put her on a pedestal, but I need to remember that we are all equal.
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This is absolutely INSANE, I have been consistently telling God and trying to detach. I have been really starting to learn about the Law of Detachment the past 2-3 weeks and Liz comes out w this video...she's intuitive, empathic like me, and knows what we need. Kudos to you sister, thank you so much for helping me in my healing journey!
She has literally helped me get over a highly toxic, one-sided friendship which I was NEVER able to get out of. I tried so much for 2 years but couldn't get out of the trap and toxicity. She told me what I needed to hear. This. My best friend who recommended this channel to me really meant it when she said "it will change your life" and "she will heal you".
Funny how when you get rid of 1 toxic person, many more are revealed. It started with a best friend since childhood, then it was my dad, an aunt, and now the older brother. I'm just letting them all out.
It wasn't toxic for me but in our friendship we weren't the same, she always had the higher priority in our friendship and then she started treating me like shit and I had to get over it because she apologized and then we had to break apart and a couple of weeks after that she came to my college and had an argument with me infront of my classmates and I felt so vunerable. I depended on her at my lows and so I thought it was okay to have be on the giving end of the friendship. It hurts but it is for the best, really happy that it helped you. hope I look back at this and it doesn't hurt me anymore.
This video really opened my eyes. Trying to detach yourself from a situation is not easy but the longer you hold onto whoever is hurting you it will start to control you. Personally, I’m glad for the people in my life good or bad because they brought to my attention what I really need to focus on in my life. I will detach from anybody, I will stop creating ideas in my head of people, I will focus on my life and goals, and most importantly I will love and put myself first before anybody. ❤️
Trust me, Liz, I’ve been abiding by these rules of detachment for the past 3 years and my life’s been drama free and stress free ever since. No one or situation controls me and nothing scares me anymore. I feel more independent and confident now 🖤
@@DearDaryana Ig when you’ve been hurt by multiple ppl in different situations, you toughen up and understand exactly why you should be self reliant when it comes to company and distant yourself from ppl. Talking to humans sometimes is nice but I’ve always been the type of person who loves being alone and these days, I rarely interact with ppl. The more I tried connecting with others, the more I realized I feel more comfortable and at peace when I’m alone. Not like I’m completely antisocial but I do love enjoying myself alone and ppl these days just tire me out. They come and go, nobody really stays but I’ll always have myself so that’s why i just don’t seek other ppl at all these days and I’ve been better than ever with myself. Plus, makes shit so much easier for an introvert like me 🖤
i am an empath and being empath is both a strength and weakness but i also figured out that detachment is the key to fell less pain or be less emotional or less affected. Being strong mentally and emotionally is very difficult thing to do for an empath because as much as possible we want to be gentle and soft and give it all out but we also know giving it all away wont make us get what we deserve…. We can do this 💪🏻
Empaths don't exist...it's not even a true medical term. It comes from Star Trek. You're just emotionally in tune. And can read body language. Therapists aren't even allowed to use the word because it's seen as super unprofessional
Is it only me who feel like writing every single thing she said in the notebook because every thing she said is so valuable and shouldn't be forgotten in the whole life?!
After a deep anxiety attack yesterday, I found this video. I’ve gotten so attached to this person, or this situation or this certain lifestyle that I was always triggered when it seemed that they would leave me, and when things would change. I felt like I had no life outside of that. This video really changed my thought process and revealed why I was so triggered. I’m in the process of “getting my life” and I can’t thank Liz enough.
Liz, i literally have been into a guy since a few months, I idealized him, and realized that my mood depended on him. So I am working on myself to get over him and focusing on not to repeat the same situation with another guy. Your video is the thing that I needed rn. You're really helping me, and helping millions of people. Thank you, so, much. (My english isn't perfect, if I have mistakes, I apologize)
Heyyy, I feel what you’re saying so deeply. I’ve idolized a guy too for years actually and I’ve recently removed him from my life and it has been really hard because I still see that idealized version of him in my head. But I had to detached myself, and I’m trying really hard everyday to keep it that way 😊
If you’re watching her videos then you should know to not be sorry for not being good in a certain language especially if you can speak more than one language. Also, I wouldn’t have known English isn’t your language if you hadn’t mentioned it:) It’s good!
Omg same. I idolized him for two years despite him not deserving such attention. Nothing about him is remarkable and outstanding for me to be hooked on to him for this long 😭 Her videos literally woke me up from my delusions 😅😂
This might be so weird for you but what I do whenever I put people on a pedestal is I make a list of their flaws and red flags. Does he have a receding hairline, not laugh at your jokes etc. make a list and every time you think if this idealized version read it again and see them as they are.
Liz has the next level knowledge about how to be happy and peaceful alone. I'm also like that. I enjoy my company. I eat at restaurants alone, I go to watch movies alone, I go to the park alone, I go to the office at night when all the people work during the day. There's a special type of charm and peace in being alone and enjoying your company. If anyone talks with me or gives me something it's extra value if I get nothing I'm still happy. I'm complete, and I don't need anything from these people out there. Only God can reward you with things so keep in touch with God and enjoy your ride.
"The love that you are searching for outside is already within you" ... that's such a powerful thought, we need to remind ourselves that every single day.
Actually I am psychiatrist but Im always watching you , you are amazing, u give in each video a big lesson of life and im sure you helped so many people. RESPECT
@@user-du4gw First of all, I'm sorry you went through this. I'm sorry on behalf of anyone who caused you this. You will be Okay when you accept your pain as it is. say that despite you suffered this , it's okay you are still alive, this trauma did not kill you but made you strong. I recommend long-term hypnosis (every day and not just once a week). ( with simple deep breathing and there are so many hypnosis videos on youtube they will help you) . Don't give up I know you will get there to fight this disorder. Me i trust you. You should also to trust me and accept that u will be okay 💜
This is arguably the best video regarding mental health that I have ever seen in my whole life. I have been depressed for some time and started seeing a therapist because of failed relationship that happened a long time ago. Liz just woke me the fudge up and it helped me made sense of things. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for all you do Liz. You made me realized I am truly blessed.
EXACTLYYY what I needed to hear! I used to have attachment issues but now I'm just way too detached and I really needed to hear this. "If Allah(God) was done with you, You would not be Alive." and "Allah (God) is not done with you because you are meant to be Blessed." Really made me tear up man.
I really needed to hear this . I’m living abroad right now and I felt completely alone , I met this guy and he was the only thing that made me feel more at home. My mood depends completely on his attention and I need detach from him and work on myself Thank you for the vid Liz you are amazing
I'm watching this for probably the 250th time since getting my heartbroken in April 2024. Healing is not linear so yes I keep falling off. But I've been going gym and reading, watching my diet and just trying to improve myself. I won't chase again or forget myself for someone else. Yes its lonely but I'm learning to make something of it and working towards not needing anyone else.
Crying while listening to this. I always end up attaching myself to people that come in my life and end up heartbroken. Edit: listened to this the night before and im completely detached. Thank you god and thank you Liz. (:
OMG HOWBDID MT COMMENT GET SO MANY LIKES 😭😭😭😭😭 also update, im still struggling with attachment but it’s gotten much better 🫶🏻 to all those who’ve commented here, i hope you guys are doing well
I woke today so heavy. And was forced to lay down with tears in my eyes. I’ve gotten so attached to people and to the outcome with those people but I’ve been the unhappiest I’ve ever been in my entire life and this attatchment has had me feeling so stuck so hopeless. Thankyou for this video I will be watching your content as I can see myself and realise I’m hurting me in the long run, by externalising my peace that I’ve stayed in places that are no longer for me pleasing people to just belong.
Kinda similar situation. I ignore my self-worth & try to please others. I have been able to create boundaries with friends but not yet in relationships. I always put the other person on Pedestal & ignore that ‘I am the prize’ not him. Babe you r everything as u are. Just realise & remember ur self worth. Things will get better & gradually one day stop hurting. Fingers crossed 🤞
its so difficult but I promise you in the end it is definitely worth it to be able to detach from those types of guys that like to keep people attached to them so they can always come back, dont let them do that because you are worth more than what he gives you.
I legit love her so much . I had been facing attachment issues in my friendships and relationships which was really unhealthy, I had lost all my apetitie , happiness and self respect but after watching this video , I got this sudden spark and now I've been the healthiest version of me recently
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im going through the same thing right now. im really happy u got past this and i hope that one day i can look back at this moment and just laugh. how are you doing now?
Liz, I don't know how to say it but... I've been in a 12-year relationship and we just broke up last December 2022. I've been crying every night. It's been so hard. And this whole video is just what I needed in my life right now. It made it easier for me to let go and detach myself from him. Thank you, Liz, for blessing us with your wisdom. Keep doing what you're doing!
“When you say “nobody was there for me.” You were there the whole time! Give yourself some credit!” Well I’m crying. Thank you for posting this video. ❤
Liz, PLEASE make a video on how to stop being so addicted to social media and how to stop wasting all your time there ! and thank you for this wonderful video, i've written down all the tips💓
liz is so smart, I legit use her videos to help me journal and honestly it helps so much to tap myself back into reality to focus on the bigger pictures and how attachments really do affect my present moment. its like a reminder I appreciate her sm
Omg! I just agreed with her on every sentence. She’s so on point. Stop creating fantasies about the other person becz they were never that person and the person your attached to is not them,but the one that you imagined to be him. Your in love with that imaginary person… So move on and give yourself chances to find that imaginary person that your heart desires…
„you think that you can not have more and thats the issue." just amazing. we should never settle for less because we all deserve more, we deserve the best. 🙏
I asked the universe to help me deal with this man. I've been telling myself all day that if I have to be with this person, I'll just be. (you know, what belongs to me will find me) and that the universe knows what's best for me. Liz, your video is a sign for me, thank you very much 💗💗
This video was like a slap on my face I needed a long time back, the way I changed my everything for some person is the reason why I feel so empty now when they aren't in the scenes anymore:)
i feel so happy that i am able to understand her to a point where i know what she's going to say , truly blessed of this life , and for myself thanks to god .
this video is exactly for me. my best friend found some new friends and started chatting with them even more than he is chatting with me. I was so jealous. I hated him and his friends, I wanted to block him and I was constantly checking him in social media. I cried every single day. but I found this video and it made me realize a lot of things. Liz, thank you so much. you opened my eyes. now I’m detached from this guy, he is still texting me, but since I started living in present I just enjoy every second of my life, no matter how often he texts me. glad that I found this perfect channel❤❤❤
how did you do that? I have the exact same problem, except that I cut the strings with that person and I was the one to end the relationship but I cant prevent the sadness and the anxiety…
@@guccisnacc4893 it takes time but you need to know ur worth and know that u cant be like this forever u can make a change you will make a change no matter what. You wont stay like this trust me and u will get over it sooner or later and something better will approach u in the future
She always lifts my mood whenever I am sad or when I was demotivated and thought that I was not good enough but she made me realise that I am good the way I am .
"you did your purpose in his life and he did his purpose in your life and you guys were meant to separate". That made me realize how much I care about the time we spent together. And the thing is that I always think I'm the problem why they left.
I love how you’re telling us all of this as if it’s life or death. The way you speak is so passionate and the things you are saying are true. Love your videos!!
I'm a guy and I'm seeing mostly women in this comment section but I'd still say it, this woman is a real bro. She is so transparent about the problem I'm facing and I now know my solutions too. Real good work liz
What an inspiring woman is Liz. I love people like her, people who use their brain for good, people who have the wisdom that they kindly share with others. Powerful advice.
The entire video felt like, 'Oh my god, she just read my mind and articulated it'. what a valuable teaching is being given by you Liz. "you have you", that's what I keep saying to myself these days and it really empowers me. Could not agree more to each and every word being said here.
im in the middle of a best friend break up and i cant tell you how much this video helped me relax. we've been friends for over 10 years and as much as I hate to let it go, I know that whatever walks out of my life isn't meant to be there anymore. thank you so much for your words. def the wake up call I needed.
In the Last month, past few weeks, Ive been watching your videos on "becoming a better version of yourself" I remember glancing at the break up and detachment video titles thinking " thank goodness i dont and wont need those videos anymore because i feel like I met the man of my dreams, alll perfect, and fulfilling in every way" We lasted 2 years and he ended things with me LAST week. Im devastated but ready to put him into my past and HEAL thank you for your videos big sis!!!!!!!! ♥️ i know the best love I can have in my life is my own love for myself ( and my child) 😊
This video tremendously helped me to break my pattern of being attached to ppl and finding happiness in them. I had my breakup 4 months ago and I was waiting for my ex to come back and was constantly waiting for him as I thot he is the source of my happiness and I won't be happy if I do not get this person back. Now I feel I wasted my precious 4 months waiting for this person in search of closure and happiness. Glad I saw this video, now I will literally work on myself to become the best version and I will be my source of happiness and will never search for peace, happiness, or affection outside. Thank you Liz❤ love you
This is a video I didn’t know I needed until it popped up… I’ve been out of high school for 7 years and haven’t done anything because o have spent all of that time attaching to people that already served their purpose and it has driven me to a point of depression so deep that I have been having passive suicidal thoughts in recent weeks. Thank you for this.
OMG. I can't believe it's been 2 days since I feel like I am smiling way too much while receiving a message and being sad and waiting for the person to reply me .and today Liz came up with this video maybe this is the sign i should stop getting heartbroken again and gain my power back.❤️❤️ Lots of love liz
Thank you so much Liz, I’m now healing my anxious attachment style. This video literally helps me, I used to think why this or that situations happened to me, but now I learned how to seek lesson from bad situations, start forgive myself and try to become a better version of me!❤
wow. I am blown away. I just got out of a toxic 3 year relationship with someone I was very dependent on. This video just kicked me in the ass and made me realize I am being dumb for not enjoying my liberty that I've finally achieved at the present moment. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this video!! It really helped me snapping back into reality, I even cried a little. It was the push I needed in order to move on with my life!! TYSM!! ❤
I really needed to hear this. I had a crush on someone for the very first time in my life. And I was kinda attached to them. I was also fantasizing a perfect relationship with them .They are in a messed up situation right now and I felt like it's my job to make sure that they are doing well. But they didn't show any interest in getting better. And it made me sad. But yes Liz is always there to make me open my eyes. Lots of love sister ❤️
I really try to get a new life by watching Liz because since I have had that boy in my head for six months I kind of lost it. I’ve lost my passion for music, for walks, for romanticizing life. She inspires me to get that back again and no matter how dumb I think I am after these videos I always know that Liz also talks about her own experience on that so I know that even this is meant to be. I am meant to be watching her right now!
She was so right when she said people who get attached to others are lifeless. I was constantly focusing on just loving my bsf more and more and getting so attached I created a perfect version of her in my head while she wasn't that way. She lied to me she manipulated me she hurt me harassed me like she literally did so many things and I would still see her good. I had no life no hobbies literally nothing to do. When I started getting busy and actually having a life I Lost my 2 years attachment in a week. Thank u liz !
This made me truly realize that I’ve never truly had self love for myself. I would get attached to every little thing that my ex did, or everything he interacted with to the point he completely controlled whether I was happy or sad that day. Looking back I realize he taught me much lessons and now it truly “is what it is” and that I’m so much more.
I just want to say thank you so much for these videos I am going through the worst betrayal of my life right now, and your video popped up. I’ve watched all of your videos now and seriously feel like you have been a blessing from god to tell me all the things I need to hear. Please keep doing what you are doing. You are a role model women need to be looking up to !!
Liz is a big part of my improvement. I've learned a lot from her, i have loved myself even more and i couldn't thank her enough for it. I love you, girl! Keep inspiring people ❤️
The love you are searching is already within you. When the fantasies are not m eet your mind feels sad. And also there always something better coming to you. You are complelte by your self . Great thoughts Liz
Yes I absolutely felt the difference in my own mindset, reality getting closer to the best version of myself. It’s a process that gets better over time and has to get at least 1% better everyday. I also just found your channel, I love the energy and information you provide. Definitely subscribed already.
I'm so grateful for all the people I've met in my life. Because had I not met them I would've been okay with an okay life with okay dreams. But because I met them they made me push harder for myself. They taught me to choose myself and that the greatest love I can ever receive is from myself. I also grateful for those who betrayed me. They taught me to choose myself.
Hi Liz, a good friend of me sent me this video and it's surprising how much it sums up all what I've been teaching to myself trought a lot of introspection and self talk, journalising, reading....so much.I was like " omg totally" every sentence you said.And yeah, the moment you enjoy little things, your own self and you are not afraid to be alone, you become powerful because boyfriend, friend, collegue....whatever person leaves you have yourself.True, it is tough, and you have to let out the sadness, to let go, but eventually you have you !!
This is sooo spot on I’m literally in this situation of transition and growth it’s absolutely mind boggling the things you learn about yourself to take back your power..I appreciate your insight
I needed this SO MUCH. And I really appreciate how your approach is still coming from a place of love and attraction but I LOVE your anger and passion behind it ❤ ty
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"YOU GET ATTACHED TO A FALSE REALITY OF HAPPINESS."
this hits me very hard.
this was me today I got attached to a false reality and now it hurts and I regret it.
@@unstoppablegirl8 don't regret it girl Learn from it :)
@@unstoppablegirl8girl dont regret it you cant do anything about it anymore its done thats it, youre just hurting yourself by regretting, youre going to live with it and it wont matter that much in months, present is painful
@@unstoppablegirl8you’re going to be okay - you are okay. You’ve got this, love ❤
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the 'stop creating fantasies' part had me reflecting all of my relations and friendships. the way I had created fantasies about everyone and when they didn't meet the expectations, I got hurt and it was difficult to see that it was me who gave them that false image and not them who hurt me
This is literally me🥲.
Me too.
That’s so relatable
Same
Me too....
I feel like I’m at the point that I need to watch this everyday to remind myself
Let's all make a better version of ourselves!!
Same :)
Same 🤍
Same
Same
I have a really bad habit of romanticizing everything and everyone. Then get disappointed when they do not meet my standards. This is something that I just realized. This year, I plan on operating from an abundant mindset and stop selling myself so short! I always shortchange myself for others and always get the bad end of the deal. This year will be a whole 180! Thanks Liz!
why does this hit home.. i like romanticising places, experiences and music. people disappoint.
Same for me. I don't agree with Liz saying that people who get attached easily have no life, it's not that easy to explain. I do have a life, I constantly meet up with friends, go to events, restaurants, try out something new and I do have things I'm passionate about. I can be on my own and never get bored because I always find stuff to do. But I just tend to romanticize a lot. Especially because I've never been in a relationship, I just get excited when I like someone, wonder if they like me back, daydream about them and then get disappointed when they're not reciprocating my feelings the same way. I need to learn to not depend my emotional state so much on how that person is feeling about me.
Felt this I dilute myself into thinking that one day they will change and I romanticize them to the point where I actually think it is them so when I find out that they aren’t going to change and that the person inside of my head isnt them I get disappointed and upset, but I’m already attached so it’s hard to detach from the person that created in my mind. Because I want it to be them .
same i like to be delusional smh
@@saffy771 same but it’s so hard.. like i try not to have expectations or daydream avout someone i just met but i just cant help it
Liz sure is an intelligent woman with high moral standards. Each advice she gives is noteworthy.
Facts
frr
I'm literally taking notes during her videos, because every word she says is so meaningful.
she saved my freaking life
@@divineeyesight can you actually drop out at 14? and why would you just to help other ppl?
Give this woman an award for saving us and for making us loving ourselves ❤️
You saved yourself
Thank you for guiding us and putting out this invaluable content FOR FREAKIN FREE !!!!
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Right, she's amazing and so straightforward
“YOU THINK YOU CANNOT HAVE MORE, THAT IS THE ISSUE” that seriously hurt in the chest
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when u really get into these two mindsets "it is what it is" & "there is always someone or something better for me when it comes about ending things",your life really gets better.
Edited: I didnt know that this has so many likes and some people are telling me that this is narcissistic but the truth is u have to work thru some things with ur someone but when they do hurt u intentionally you dont have to hold onto them anymore.I am not narcissistic I just got broken up by someone and im hurt rn as i should be but you have to let go of things which are not meant to be with you & there really are good people that u havent even met on this earth 🤍
What
@@rando7290like, life goes on regardless! Anything can happen, anything can make you happy when it comes to things ending. Detaching yourself, will help you believe that and it will do good for you! Never depend on someone for your own happiness
@Rando it's really simple buddy! ❤
You don't have to feel bad about ending things! There's always something better for us no matter what.
yeah i’m still trying to get through this my head rn
@@lynnsusulynn peak narc statement
“if you are still alive, then God is not done with you” WOW! this was the EXACT message my preacher preached today 🙏🏼❤️
@@profile1936 i’m so sorry for your loss Gunter.. life is not fair sometimes.. It’s okay to be angry.. and I hope you can find some peace with what you’re dealing with & see brighter days ahead 🙏🏼
muslims believe this, its a very core value in islam its an absolutely beautiful concept
@@profile1936 head up man, god has a plan everything might seem unclear at the moment but just know you have an angel by your side.
@@profile1936 i'm a complete and total stranger but i hope the lessons you learned from your friendship and the experiences you had leave a positive impact on you and help you become a better person. i'm not just gonna lie and say i pity you or i'm so sorry for you, because pity never helped anyone, but i'm praying you find a healthy way to not only cope with your grief but to live your life to the fullest and most fulfilling it can be :). (i hope i don't sound insensitive, if i do just ignore this x_x)
yess I heard Steve Harvey say this a lot too ❤
I finally understood. I became sick because I was way too attached to a fantasy I created in my head about who he should have been, what we should have become. It made me truly ill, physically, mentally, emotionally. And I can finally let go. I can go no contact. I can heal. This video was a happy slap on my face to know that I am not special, many people go through this, and I can change my situation.
startded the 0 contact today. It hurts but i'm glad to know we're not alone. Twins haha
@@asldfiwrn when i become independent he started contacting me
Remember you were doing just fine before you met him
@@samanwaya6388I went through that as well , ik how hard it actually is . I really do wish you the best , if i can advice u : do every single thing that you know you have to do for your own good , no matter how hard it looks /is. At the end you will always have to think and act for yourself cause your own happiness is your duty .
Here's a quote that i really do appreciate ( hope it can help you even if you don't believe in God ... ) : " When a thing disturbs the peace of your heart , give it up " - the prophet ( ص ) .
Hope my comment can help u in any kind of way :) .
Thank God your eyes are open. I am incredibly happy for you. Live your best life.
" If god was done with you ,you wouldn't have been alive " that line hitted hard ,thank you sooo much liz for that
"If God was done with you, you would not be alive."
The power that this one line holds. I promise to work on myself from this very moment and not cry for worthless people anymore. I am going to be a better, happier and healed version of myself.
Amen suloka
How are you now you have started to ne happy
The “cry for worthless people” got me
amen to that
I wouldn't say that I am happy as much as I want to be but I definitely feel better than what I used to be like and am still a work in progress but also proud of myself for not giving up.@@ayamekkaoui2779 😇
as an overly emotional person and as a person who literally loves people unconditionally this was so important because I am completely sick and tired of people constantly taking advantage of my loyalty and love, thank you liz you literally are an angel
edit: WHEN DID THIS GET SO MANY LIKES LMAOO but anyways to all the beautiful angels and amazing human beings who related to this, I just want to say that I'm so proud of you I'm so happy you came this far and did not decide to give up, and it shows that you are trying to do smth better for yourself (as you're watching the queen liz), so don't give up beautiful you got this and all of you strong and amazing individuals have my prayers
I can relate to this! Completely agree with you! xx
Same ❤
real
i relate to this so bad
Im with you all ❤ we gotta give ourselves some credit though, we have the most beautiful heart and souls ✨ Sending love to you all
It's crazy how is she talking about the exact things i needed to hear. I was creating those fantasies about this one guy in my head during 9 MONTHS, crying non stop because he never made any steps, and then i realized that my desperarion was my biggest mistake. You can not allow yourself to wait for some random guy to text you or talk to you for days and not be able to focus on anything else. I was always blaming myself that i'm not doing enough, i could be more funny or talk more or do more things to get his attention: excuse me WHAT? If anything was supposed to happen between us, it would FOR SURE, i would not have to rip myself into parts so that something happens. Now, i've completely realised that and i don't let myself to even think abt all of that, i just focus on myself and my life, on friends and family.
So, just be 10000% sure, if something is meant to happen in your life, it will happen REGARDLESS, nothing can take something that was meant for you. Be ready and open to get all the blessings that are on your way and be grateful.
Sending so much love to everybody❤
"When you're not controlled by your ego, then you attract everything. You would not get attached to someone or something because you know you have abundance in your life."
Thank you so much. I needed to hear it.
Except when you don’t have abundance
@jewelsessences what type of abundances do you believe you are lacking
Attachment usually occurs due to a limited mindset of a "limited" ambition or "limited" options. Have hobbies, goals, plan a daily routine for yourself, keep yourself busy, shower, workout, eat healthy, affirm, walk your daily steps, soak the sun for 10 minutes daily. And most importantly, KNOW YOUR WORTH. Like Liz said, anyone in your life is there to TEACH you. It's done by them either staying or by leaving so know that they can go and there are a ton of other people :)
Thank you for this comment reading this gave me a new perspective
@@chillpill2098 sure! We all serve a purpose in each other's lives. Think logically : love is just a hormone. A certain chemical which we crave, oxytocin. No one owes anything to anyone.
Nice one! Thank you for this.
Exactly! You have not seen the world yet and are unaware of all the goodness waiting for you in abundance ! Don't despair. Everything happens for a reason and everyone enters your life to teach you. Have ambitions for yourself. Have daily must-do's like getting 10 min sun, walking 5000 steps, eating fruits once and showering. Other than that, invest in yourself. Expand your horizons. Learn a new word or language. Try reading or writing. Maybe dance on your fav song. Call a family member or friend to catch up with. Draw and paint like you did when you were a child. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT. Stop looking at the details. We are literally living on a petite planet earth. There is no such thing as "time" or past in the higher dimensions. What is time anyway ? When the earth rotates and revolves you call it seasons and time lol. Stop stressing over the small stuff. Come on, live a little. Cook yourself a nice healthy meal and watch a funny movie. Do a DIY facial, take 5 extra mins in the shower, moisturize your body and sleep like a God/goddess. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I AM SO PROUD OF YOU ❤
@@darkspice6339Very true💯. Thank you for the kind words❤
Everything that comes out of Liz's mouth is pure gold. These are the things we all need to hear but we don't want to hear because its painful or because its too difficult to act on it. We are all meant for so much more. Radiate positivity, be kind, your turn is coming. We are all deserving.
Timestamps 👀:
1:32 - Realise you are operating from your ego
5:55 - Everyone in your life has a purpose
8:58 - Stop creating fantasies
9:33 - Have an "It is what it is." mindset
10:57 - Get a life
12:23 - Realise that you're operating from a lack mindset
14:07 - What is FOMO?
16:04 - You will never arrive to happiness
17:54 - Realise you will never leave you
thank you ✨
I LOVE it when people do this! THANK YOU!
What's the name of the book she mentioned ?
@@jeevithar8918 It is "Spirit Junkie by Gabrielle Bernstein" .
Thanks
"im not looking for someone to complete me because i complete myself" SHE'S SO REALL
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i’m crying rn and was feeling very worthless and vulnerable and you just pulled me out of that. thank you you’re amazing
you're not worthless bby ❤
i just had like the worst breakup ever and i was so depressed. he cheated on me with so many other girls and my whole world came crumbling down when i found out. the thing that kept boiling my blood was the fact that he was so unbothered like it was like he was happy that he was free of me. i felt like screaming against the whole world telling everyone how he is the bad one not me.
but then, i decided to let go. like, completely, let go. yes, it still hurts and the memories come back everytime and i hate myself for not being unbothered and heartless like him just so i could've suffered less.
but ive decided to let God do His job. I CANNOT MAKE ANYONE REALISE MY WORTH AND YOU DONT HAVE TO BEG THE REAL ONES TO STAY :)
I went through the same thing and my therapist only told me one thing... If someone is hurting an innocent person and has band intentions that person will never be happy that person will never be successful and those with pure intentions will always be happy after sometime (cause the heartbreak will make you strong "shayad tumhe strong banne ke liye tumhara tutna jaruri tha.") and KARMA is not just a theory it is real...
@@Ak_0604 I hope you heal as well and ik you're gonna achieve everything one day 💪🏻
Watching this video again, I am crying at this part, that “ you were always there for you, please acknowledge that, that was such a powerful thing . “
I cried too girl!
This is so insightful. I'm a grandmother, and I'm still learning. I'm going to send this to my teen granddaughter. I hope she watches it. Thank you.
that's sweet
you’re a nice grandma for this
you’re a wonderful human
W grandma
that is so adorable
Preach sister!!! Here’s my biggest takeaways:
1. Get a life!!! Replace all the time you’re thinking of them with a passion, hobby, or goal.
2. If it’s not out of love it’s ego!! I was friends with this girl for over a year, then become real close friends, then started talking and being intimate. But she was never interested in taking it further, just wanted to be friends with benefits. I set a boundary so no initimacy, just friends, but weirdly enough, started finding myself being jealous of her, because I am popular at my university. But she is more popular because she is foreign, beautiful, travels all around the world, is super well known, comes from a family with money, dances sings and presents all the time. Being jealous is not love. I have no self love if I’m being jealous. I’ve put her on a pedestal, but I need to remember that we are all equal.
Hi hope you are doing well. I am a certified relationship coach who is helping people to set healthy goals and to bring out best of themselves. Would you like to have a small session with me free of cost?
This is absolutely INSANE, I have been consistently telling God and trying to detach. I have been really starting to learn about the Law of Detachment the past 2-3 weeks and Liz comes out w this video...she's intuitive, empathic like me, and knows what we need. Kudos to you sister, thank you so much for helping me in my healing journey!
me too, sis!
Me too
She has literally helped me get over a highly toxic, one-sided friendship which I was NEVER able to get out of. I tried so much for 2 years but couldn't get out of the trap and toxicity. She told me what I needed to hear. This. My best friend who recommended this channel to me really meant it when she said "it will change your life" and "she will heal you".
Uss same thing happened to me I moved on last year
Us same.... It took me 4 year but she did help alot..
I am.going though this situation now and I just randomly scroll I found her video and now I feel bit relax
Funny how when you get rid of 1 toxic person, many more are revealed. It started with a best friend since childhood, then it was my dad, an aunt, and now the older brother. I'm just letting them all out.
It wasn't toxic for me but in our friendship we weren't the same, she always had the higher priority in our friendship and then she started treating me like shit and I had to get over it because she apologized and then we had to break apart and a couple of weeks after that she came to my college and had an argument with me infront of my classmates and I felt so vunerable. I depended on her at my lows and so I thought it was okay to have be on the giving end of the friendship. It hurts but it is for the best, really happy that it helped you. hope I look back at this and it doesn't hurt me anymore.
This video really opened my eyes. Trying to detach yourself from a situation is not easy but the longer you hold onto whoever is hurting you it will start to control you. Personally, I’m glad for the people in my life good or bad because they brought to my attention what I really need to focus on in my life. I will detach from anybody, I will stop creating ideas in my head of people, I will focus on my life and goals, and most importantly I will love and put myself first before anybody. ❤️
"They were never fantasy people, you created that by yourself out of your attachment". This line crawled down to my spine and will never forget ever.
Trust me, Liz, I’ve been abiding by these rules of detachment for the past 3 years and my life’s been drama free and stress free ever since. No one or situation controls me and nothing scares me anymore. I feel more independent and confident now 🖤
I'm happy for you! Glad you are doing well and I hope to achieve this level of detachment during this year
SLAY
Wow, How did you come to this?
@@maryn4150 omg thank you and I hope you get to achieve what you desire soon 🖤
@@DearDaryana Ig when you’ve been hurt by multiple ppl in different situations, you toughen up and understand exactly why you should be self reliant when it comes to company and distant yourself from ppl. Talking to humans sometimes is nice but I’ve always been the type of person who loves being alone and these days, I rarely interact with ppl. The more I tried connecting with others, the more I realized I feel more comfortable and at peace when I’m alone. Not like I’m completely antisocial but I do love enjoying myself alone and ppl these days just tire me out. They come and go, nobody really stays but I’ll always have myself so that’s why i just don’t seek other ppl at all these days and I’ve been better than ever with myself. Plus, makes shit so much easier for an introvert like me 🖤
i am an empath and being empath is both a strength and weakness but i also figured out that detachment is the key to fell less pain or be less emotional or less affected. Being strong mentally and emotionally is very difficult thing to do for an empath because as much as possible we want to be gentle and soft and give it all out but we also know giving it all away wont make us get what we deserve…. We can do this 💪🏻
Sometimes the kindest thing we can do is stop ✋ offering unconditional kindness. Give it to your self ❤️
Empaths don't exist...it's not even a true medical term. It comes from Star Trek. You're just emotionally in tune. And can read body language. Therapists aren't even allowed to use the word because it's seen as super unprofessional
Right here with you
@@bostonb4kedbeans I believe an empath is an empathetic person
And naturally kind
Is it only me who feel like writing every single thing she said in the notebook because every thing she said is so valuable and shouldn't be forgotten in the whole life?!
After a deep anxiety attack yesterday, I found this video. I’ve gotten so attached to this person, or this situation or this certain lifestyle that I was always triggered when it seemed that they would leave me, and when things would change. I felt like I had no life outside of that. This video really changed my thought process and revealed why I was so triggered. I’m in the process of “getting my life” and I can’t thank Liz enough.
In Tears when you mentioned "You have you and if you believe in God, you have him as well". Needed this reminder today! God bless you, beautiful
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Liz, i literally have been into a guy since a few months, I idealized him, and realized that my mood depended on him. So I am working on myself to get over him and focusing on not to repeat the same situation with another guy. Your video is the thing that I needed rn. You're really helping me, and helping millions of people. Thank you, so, much.
(My english isn't perfect, if I have mistakes, I apologize)
Heyyy, I feel what you’re saying so deeply. I’ve idolized a guy too for years actually and I’ve recently removed him from my life and it has been really hard because I still see that idealized version of him in my head. But I had to detached myself, and I’m trying really hard everyday to keep it that way 😊
If you’re watching her videos then you should know to not be sorry for not being good in a certain language especially if you can speak more than one language. Also, I wouldn’t have known English isn’t your language if you hadn’t mentioned it:) It’s good!
Girl no justifying! 🙅🏼♀️❤️ You owe nobody
Omg same. I idolized him for two years despite him not deserving such attention. Nothing about him is remarkable and outstanding for me to be hooked on to him for this long 😭 Her videos literally woke me up from my delusions 😅😂
This might be so weird for you but what I do whenever I put people on a pedestal is I make a list of their flaws and red flags. Does he have a receding hairline, not laugh at your jokes etc. make a list and every time you think if this idealized version read it again and see them as they are.
Liz has the next level knowledge about how to be happy and peaceful alone. I'm also like that. I enjoy my company. I eat at restaurants alone, I go to watch movies alone, I go to the park alone, I go to the office at night when all the people work during the day. There's a special type of charm and peace in being alone and enjoying your company. If anyone talks with me or gives me something it's extra value if I get nothing I'm still happy. I'm complete, and I don't need anything from these people out there. Only God can reward you with things so keep in touch with God and enjoy your ride.
"The love that you are searching for outside is already within you" ... that's such a powerful thought, we need to remind ourselves that every single day.
Actually I am psychiatrist but Im always watching you , you are amazing, u give in each video a big lesson of life and im sure you helped so many people.
RESPECT
hello doctor, quick question. what is your number 1 advise to those with ptsd (I have diagnosed ptsd) i was molested at 6 lol
@@user-du4gw First of all, I'm sorry you went through this.
I'm sorry on behalf of anyone who caused you this.
You will be Okay when you accept your pain as it is.
say that despite you suffered this , it's okay you are still alive, this trauma did not kill you but made you strong.
I recommend long-term hypnosis (every day and not just once a week). ( with simple deep breathing and there are so many hypnosis videos on youtube they will help you) .
Don't give up I know you will get there to fight this disorder.
Me i trust you.
You should also to trust me and accept that u will be okay 💜
This is arguably the best video regarding mental health that I have ever seen in my whole life. I have been depressed for some time and started seeing a therapist because of failed relationship that happened a long time ago. Liz just woke me the fudge up and it helped me made sense of things. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for all you do Liz. You made me realized I am truly blessed.
"I don't need someone else to complete me because I am complete myself" that hit me hard 👌💆♂️
EXACTLYYY what I needed to hear! I used to have attachment issues but now I'm just way too detached and I really needed to hear this. "If Allah(God) was done with you, You would not be Alive." and "Allah (God) is not done with you because you are meant to be Blessed." Really made me tear up man.
this woman is fixing something she didn't break!!! i'm glad that people like you exists who unconditionally supports people and helps people like us!
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I really needed to hear this . I’m living abroad right now and I felt completely alone , I met this guy and he was the only thing that made me feel more at home. My mood depends completely on his attention and I need detach from him and work on myself
Thank you for the vid Liz you are amazing
I feel you Iris, I was in a similar situation. I'm finally learning to piece myself back together.
I’ve been through the exact same situation as you Iris! We’ve got this.
stay strong
@@deinfakio3775 thank you sm!! I hope you are also doing better
@@izabelasoja9417 thank you sm!!❤ that is so kind
I'm watching this for probably the 250th time since getting my heartbroken in April 2024. Healing is not linear so yes I keep falling off. But I've been going gym and reading, watching my diet and just trying to improve myself. I won't chase again or forget myself for someone else. Yes its lonely but I'm learning to make something of it and working towards not needing anyone else.
Crying while listening to this. I always end up attaching myself to people that come in my life and end up heartbroken.
Edit: listened to this the night before and im completely detached. Thank you god and thank you Liz. (:
We will be okie oneday ...God is here with us 🫂
Power to you girl I need to do the same.
Yupp now I feel so free
OMG HOWBDID MT COMMENT GET SO MANY LIKES 😭😭😭😭😭 also update, im still struggling with attachment but it’s gotten much better 🫶🏻 to all those who’ve commented here, i hope you guys are doing well
I woke today so heavy. And was forced to lay down with tears in my eyes. I’ve gotten so attached to people and to the outcome with those people but I’ve been the unhappiest I’ve ever been in my entire life and this attatchment has had me feeling so stuck so hopeless. Thankyou for this video I will be watching your content as I can see myself and realise I’m hurting me in the long run, by externalising my peace that I’ve stayed in places that are no longer for me pleasing people to just belong.
Kinda similar situation. I ignore my self-worth & try to please others. I have been able to create boundaries with friends but not yet in relationships. I always put the other person on Pedestal & ignore that ‘I am the prize’ not him.
Babe you r everything as u are. Just realise & remember ur self worth. Things will get better & gradually one day stop hurting. Fingers crossed 🤞
Currently I'm attached to a guy who doesn't give a shit about me...but slowly I'm trying to heal...and this video helped me a lot...thanks❤
its so difficult but I promise you in the end it is definitely worth it to be able to detach from those types of guys that like to keep people attached to them so they can always come back, dont let them do that because you are worth more than what he gives you.
im in the same situation idk i feel like im so alone tho but i need to break up with him your going to get through it your not alone!! 🫶
@@esoterica111 hopefully I just move on from him🥲
@@camiv844 🥲🥲🥲❤️❤️
@@esoterica111 yeah he ignores me a lot and also doesn't accept the fact that he's ignoring me....argues with me all the time saying he's busy
Detachment is important in order to move on from the past and not let things or people control your emotions.
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I legit love her so much . I had been facing attachment issues in my friendships and relationships which was really unhealthy, I had lost all my apetitie , happiness and self respect but after watching this video , I got this sudden spark and now I've been the healthiest version of me recently
Love that for you
How do u deal with the loss of appetite
Hi. Sorry to hear you are dealing with these issues. I am a certified relationship coach and I am helping people to set healthy goals and to bring best out of themselves. Would you like a small session free of cost with me?
im going through the same thing right now. im really happy u got past this and i hope that one day i can look back at this moment and just laugh. how are you doing now?
I’ve been physically ill from being too attached to people. Taking medications I didn’t need. I just needed to heal within. This is healing!
Liz, I don't know how to say it but... I've been in a 12-year relationship and we just broke up last December 2022. I've been crying every night. It's been so hard. And this whole video is just what I needed in my life right now. It made it easier for me to let go and detach myself from him. Thank you, Liz, for blessing us with your wisdom. Keep doing what you're doing!
I just want to say good luck and you’re very strong!❤
12 YEARS?!? omg i wish u well, and damn that is such a long time (coming from a 17 year old lol)
My 6 year relationship ended December 6th, 2022…. So I’m right there with ya. Stay strong. We got this.
Damn 12 years. I’m sorry you got this just know when it lasts long give yourself some grace to get through it 💛
“When you say “nobody was there for me.” You were there the whole time! Give yourself some credit!”
Well I’m crying.
Thank you for posting this video. ❤
Same here, absolute tears because we dont give ourselves credit; we’re there for us
Liz, PLEASE make a video on how to stop being so addicted to social media and how to stop wasting all your time there ! and thank you for this wonderful video, i've written down all the tips💓
No happiness can be found on social media, your happiness is within yourself. You dont need that bs.
liz is so smart, I legit use her videos to help me journal and honestly it helps so much to tap myself back into reality to focus on the bigger pictures and how attachments really do affect my present moment. its like a reminder I appreciate her sm
Omg! I just agreed with her on every sentence. She’s so on point. Stop creating fantasies about the other person becz they were never that person and the person your attached to is not them,but the one that you imagined to be him. Your in love with that imaginary person… So move on and give yourself chances to find that imaginary person that your heart desires…
„you think that you can not have more and thats the issue."
just amazing. we should never settle for less because we all deserve more, we deserve the best. 🙏
Amen 🙏🏻
You earn best
I can actually feel the positive change in my life, all because of you, THANK YOU SO MUCH
I asked the universe to help me deal with this man. I've been telling myself all day that if I have to be with this person, I'll just be. (you know, what belongs to me will find me) and that the universe knows what's best for me. Liz, your video is a sign for me, thank you very much 💗💗
Me too!!!!
Now I understand how does it feels like, being heard by Univers, I'm so grateful right now
This video was like a slap on my face I needed a long time back, the way I changed my everything for some person is the reason why I feel so empty now when they aren't in the scenes anymore:)
The earth's age is more than 4 billion years old and we are existing at the same time with this woman 👑❤ what's a blessing !
i feel so happy that i am able to understand her to a point where i know what she's going to say , truly blessed of this life , and for myself thanks to god .
this video is exactly for me. my best friend found some new friends and started chatting with them even more than he is chatting with me. I was so jealous. I hated him and his friends, I wanted to block him and I was constantly checking him in social media. I cried every single day. but I found this video and it made me realize a lot of things. Liz, thank you so much. you opened my eyes. now I’m detached from this guy, he is still texting me, but since I started living in present I just enjoy every second of my life, no matter how often he texts me. glad that I found this perfect channel❤❤❤
how did you do that? I have the exact same problem, except that I cut the strings with that person and I was the one to end the relationship but I cant prevent the sadness and the anxiety…
@@guccisnacc4893 it takes time but you need to know ur worth and know that u cant be like this forever u can make a change you will make a change no matter what. You wont stay like this trust me and u will get over it sooner or later and something better will approach u in the future
She was a sign for you to stop thinking about him and to know your worth
Same thing happened to me, now I’m also detached thanks to this video. :) it was like a slap into reality
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She always lifts my mood whenever I am sad or when I was demotivated and thought that I was not good enough but she made me realise that I am good the way I am .
I wont stop watching this videos for the whole year
"you did your purpose in his life and he did his purpose in your life and you guys were meant to separate". That made me realize how much I care about the time we spent together. And the thing is that I always think I'm the problem why they left.
It brutally woke me up from everything that I've been doing. Thank you for this
I love how you’re telling us all of this as if it’s life or death. The way you speak is so passionate and the things you are saying are true. Love your videos!!
My mindset gets better every time I watch your videos Liz! You're a person I really needed in my life. You're like my wise big sister I never had🥹
I'm a guy and I'm seeing mostly women in this comment section but I'd still say it, this woman is a real bro. She is so transparent about the problem I'm facing and I now know my solutions too. Real good work liz
What an inspiring woman is Liz. I love people like her, people who use their brain for good, people who have the wisdom that they kindly share with others. Powerful advice.
The entire video felt like, 'Oh my god, she just read my mind and articulated it'. what a valuable teaching is being given by you Liz. "you have you", that's what I keep saying to myself these days and it really empowers me. Could not agree more to each and every word being said here.
im in the middle of a best friend break up and i cant tell you how much this video helped me relax. we've been friends for over 10 years and as much as I hate to let it go, I know that whatever walks out of my life isn't meant to be there anymore. thank you so much for your words. def the wake up call I needed.
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In the Last month, past few weeks, Ive been watching your videos on "becoming a better version of yourself" I remember glancing at the break up and detachment video titles thinking " thank goodness i dont and wont need those videos anymore because i feel like I met the man of my dreams, alll perfect, and fulfilling in every way" We lasted 2 years and he ended things with me LAST week. Im devastated but ready to put him into my past and HEAL thank you for your videos big sis!!!!!!!! ♥️ i know the best love I can have in my life is my own love for myself ( and my child) 😊
This video tremendously helped me to break my pattern of being attached to ppl and finding happiness in them. I had my breakup 4 months ago and I was waiting for my ex to come back and was constantly waiting for him as I thot he is the source of my happiness and I won't be happy if I do not get this person back. Now I feel I wasted my precious 4 months waiting for this person in search of closure and happiness. Glad I saw this video, now I will literally work on myself to become the best version and I will be my source of happiness and will never search for peace, happiness, or affection outside. Thank you Liz❤ love you
always remember happiness can be found in ourself ,not in people.....
This is a video I didn’t know I needed until it popped up… I’ve been out of high school for 7 years and haven’t done anything because o have spent all of that time attaching to people that already served their purpose and it has driven me to a point of depression so deep that I have been having passive suicidal thoughts in recent weeks. Thank you for this.
OMG. I can't believe it's been 2 days since I feel like I am smiling way too much while receiving a message and being sad and waiting for the person to reply me .and today Liz came up with this video maybe this is the sign i should stop getting heartbroken again and gain my power back.❤️❤️ Lots of love liz
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Thank you so much Liz, I’m now healing my anxious attachment style. This video literally helps me, I used to think why this or that situations happened to me, but now I learned how to seek lesson from bad situations, start forgive myself and try to become a better version of me!❤
wow. I am blown away. I just got out of a toxic 3 year relationship with someone I was very dependent on. This video just kicked me in the ass and made me realize I am being dumb for not enjoying my liberty that I've finally achieved at the present moment. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this video!! It really helped me snapping back into reality, I even cried a little. It was the push I needed in order to move on with my life!! TYSM!! ❤
You’ve literally fixed a problem I’ve been dealing with for weeks in just 10 minutes, keep it up!
I really needed to hear this. I had a crush on someone for the very first time in my life. And I was kinda attached to them. I was also fantasizing a perfect relationship with them .They are in a messed up situation right now and I felt like it's my job to make sure that they are doing well. But they didn't show any interest in getting better. And it made me sad. But yes Liz is always there to make me open my eyes. Lots of love sister ❤️
as a 14 year old girl I found this really enlightening, thank you.
Thank you Liz! You are literally saving millions of peoples lives. May you be infinitely blessed and protected forever
I really try to get a new life by watching Liz because since I have had that boy in my head for six months I kind of lost it. I’ve lost my passion for music, for walks, for romanticizing life. She inspires me to get that back again and no matter how dumb I think I am after these videos I always know that Liz also talks about her own experience on that so I know that even this is meant to be. I am meant to be watching her right now!
She was so right when she said people who get attached to others are lifeless. I was constantly focusing on just loving my bsf more and more and getting so attached I created a perfect version of her in my head while she wasn't that way. She lied to me she manipulated me she hurt me harassed me like she literally did so many things and I would still see her good. I had no life no hobbies literally nothing to do. When I started getting busy and actually having a life I Lost my 2 years attachment in a week. Thank u liz !
This made me truly realize that I’ve never truly had self love for myself. I would get attached to every little thing that my ex did, or everything he interacted with to the point he completely controlled whether I was happy or sad that day. Looking back I realize he taught me much lessons and now it truly “is what it is” and that I’m so much more.
I have bpd so I kinda cried through this not because it’s harsh but because you’re speaking the absolute truth
I have bpd to and I’m currently on a train to my parents house just left a verbally abusive relationship this is needed ❤️
"I make social media work for me, I do not work for social media" this!
universe's timing is the most perfect thing to ever exist
I just want to say thank you so much for these videos I am going through the worst betrayal of my life right now, and your video popped up. I’ve watched all of your videos now and seriously feel like you have been a blessing from god to tell me all the things I need to hear. Please keep doing what you are doing. You are a role model women need to be looking up to !!
Attachment grows so hard that person can't leave it - it really got me
Liz is a big part of my improvement. I've learned a lot from her, i have loved myself even more and i couldn't thank her enough for it. I love you, girl! Keep inspiring people ❤️
this is literally all i needed rn. thank you liz 🌸
i’m so happy we have liz. someone who’s very real, straight up and doesn’t sugar coat anything is EXACTLY what we all needed.
this video has helped me more than probably any self help style video on youtube ever has. thank you forever liz!
The love you are searching is already within you.
When the fantasies are not m eet your mind feels sad.
And also there always something better coming to you. You are complelte by your self . Great thoughts Liz
18:24 this made me cry!! I never give myself any grace. I have been so strong and accomplished so much. Thank you for this
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Yes I absolutely felt the difference in my own mindset, reality getting closer to the best version of myself. It’s a process that gets better over time and has to get at least 1% better everyday. I also just found your channel, I love the energy and information you provide. Definitely subscribed already.
I'm so grateful for all the people I've met in my life. Because had I not met them I would've been okay with an okay life with okay dreams. But because I met them they made me push harder for myself. They taught me to choose myself and that the greatest love I can ever receive is from myself. I also grateful for those who betrayed me. They taught me to choose myself.
Hi Liz, a good friend of me sent me this video and it's surprising how much it sums up all what I've been teaching to myself trought a lot of introspection and self talk, journalising, reading....so much.I was like " omg totally" every sentence you said.And yeah, the moment you enjoy little things, your own self and you are not afraid to be alone, you become powerful because boyfriend, friend, collegue....whatever person leaves you have yourself.True, it is tough, and you have to let out the sadness, to let go, but eventually you have you !!
This is sooo spot on I’m literally in this situation of transition and growth it’s absolutely mind boggling the things you learn about yourself to take back your power..I appreciate your insight
I needed this SO MUCH. And I really appreciate how your approach is still coming from a place of love and attraction but I LOVE your anger and passion behind it ❤ ty