Why Nice Guys Don't Finish Last... (Nice Guys vs. Simps)
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- Опубликовано: 20 дек 2020
- In this video we discuss the important distinction between nice guys and simps and why labeling nice guys as finishing last is simply not the case.
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Hi everyone! I know this can be somewhat of a sensitive topic but I wanted to make this video because of the disbelief I received when I said I like nice guys in a previous video 😂 I also just had a close friend who was going through a similar situation so I figured it made sense to talk about this. Hope you all find this helpful - have you experienced this? Leave comments below!
You explained the difference between a simp and a nice guy very well.
1:38 noted. thank you so much. I finally know where I stand and which side I should be in(nice guy).
@@motodashes9769 👏🏼👏🏼❤️
Yeah I guess was a simp once, but now i think I'm in the gentleman side. I have too thank you and alpha M aka Aron. But i think he has to give you that title now since you are coming with great topics which you are helping us😅. So that makes you a better alpha!❣️
just recently, I give up on the idea of meeting the right person or what not. and now, not so much cause of your videos. they(you) help me realize whom I have been messaging/talking etc.
“Only go where you are celebrated, never go where you’re merely tolerated” -Coach Corey Wayne
So...never leave my house then?
@@johnsampson6387 👍
Amen
Honestly, Wayne is a bit of a dinosaur, or caveman. Take what he says with a HUGE pinch of salt.
perfect .
If you don’t want me in your prime, I don’t want you in the decline.
amen!!!
Case closed
Like she would want you in her "decline" lol
@@mississipi1103 lol go away
@@mississipi1103 someone got triggered, must have hit too close to home hahahahaha
"Ladies, guys are sick of hearing you ask where all of the nice guys are. They're in the friendzone where you left them."
- Barney Stinson
This is actually the route of the problem. Why are these nice guys in the friend zone? Because they mistakenly believe being nice to a girl creates attraction, it doesn't. Courtney actually has some good videos on creating attraction by flirting. Nice guys are in the friend zone because they act like her friend they don't flirt with her and don't take the risk of acting like a man who's interested in dating her. I think being a simp is a related but separate issue.
Exactly!!!
@@markj6854 both sides are to blame.
@@Shadowdoc26 how is a girl to blame for wanting to be your friend particularly if you act like you're happy with the friendship and never show that you're attracted to her?
@@markj6854 that's a good point
"Sure, she'll go through the bad boys. She'll have that little stage."
...It lasts 15 years. Then you pick up the tab
Preach
Indeed.
simp
It lasts a lot longer than 15 years, i just got rejected by a 43 yr old woman in favour of a woman using player ! dont buy this BS that says you can have a nnice woman in your 30s, you definatly can not !
You said she will get out of her bad boys phase and then it will be your turn. That is literally finishing last.
Only if you’re keeping track of her past rather than just meeting a person and looking forward
@@anonymousbosch9265 A woman's past matters. The more intimate partners she has, the less ability she has to pair bond and stay loyal to a man in the future. Oxytocin wiring gets all messed up.
I know of a girl who wanted to get back with her ex after entering into a new relationship with another guy. She dumped her ex at first because he was a bad boyfriend, but suddenly had a change of mind when the ex tried to talk to her again.
If you're counting your dating location as being "last" because you're the most recent, you're already messed up in your thinking. Finishing _last_ means you don't ever walk away with your prize. I'm the last person my wife ever dated. I really don't care about anyone she's dated before.
Something you need to consider putting in your head is: the previous people she dated were learning mistakes; you're supposed to show her you're the right one.
Jajajajajaja!!! Crazy right!!
She destroy herself in her badboy stage. Now in her 35+ and expect good guys to be her prince to show up. The problem her prince came for her in her 20s and she reject him.
And at the same time, when she's in her 30's all of her friends and the feminists will tell her she's a "queen" who shouldn't settle for anything but perfection. Yet, she expects the guy to "settle" for her along with her mileage and baggage.
Date her younger sister.....LOL
Ong you speaking facts 💯
@@tidefanyankee2428 Facts right here. And when their vayjay's check engine light comes on they want a sweet and providing male. GTFOH.
Thats cuz that simp thought he was a nice guy.
Spencer delete his comment. No Spencer she can reject anyone she want. The point is a good man did came to love her in her prime but she reject him. Now that she's 35+ plus, fertility issue, emotional issues, multiple children later and unable to pair bond expect a good man now to wife her up. It doesn't work that way Spencer.
"Women have choices, men have responsibilities." - YT personality Stardusk.
Let that sink in for a few minutes...
Actually Steve Martin said this at the end of Parenthood movie in 1989. True then true now.
Only babies women and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is loved under the condition that he provides something.
See, its better to live as a woman
I believe it's choices and responsibilities between male and female.
@@tenniswerewolf8095 What? Reiterate for us again.
“It’s true. Nice guys don’t finish last because they don’t even finish the race in the first place, G.” - StephIsCold
they don't even start the race !
@@MrBurk3y More like they didn't even qualify and weren't allowed to race.
Damnit. I thought I was the original person to state that.
nice guys do NOT always win. In fact they seldom win and women usually dismiss them or friend zone them because they know that these suckers are basically doormats who will cater to the woman’s every whim while simultaneously not getting anywhere with the object of their affection, and while the same woman chases after the proverbial bad boy IN THEIR FACE!!!
@@dakotaxu4792 👀👀
”Sure, she’ll go through the badboy, have that ”little” stage.” Right
I started laughing when she said that 😂 complete contradiction and defeated the purpose of this video 😂😂 the “nice guys finish last” saying stays undefeated.
This “little stage” lasts for 15 years until she is 35 and then bad boys don’t want her anymore. Even nice boys who finish last, get their turn on 30, so, this “little stage” ruins life for most females nowadays.
This is gold 😂😂😂
All that rejection is worth it when you won that old woman who rode the carousel and is now ready to suck your bank account (but not your ****).
NO THANKS!
@@pipebomber04 yeah you won a Price that the 10 other winners didn't want to accept anymore.
Its like winning windows 98 today
"She'll go through that bad boy stage". Leave them in the street.
Where she belongs
Facts
This is why I worship Future, our TRUE lord and savior
"She's for the streets," he says. HAHAHA!!! 😁😁😂😂🤣🤣😌😌😎😎
Nothing turns a girl on more than a taken man, especially a married one.
This is facts af
Chad and Tyrone the selected can be single or no marriage and still get it
Honestly we need to start analyzing the purpose of women if they feel more attached to married men than they do a sophisticated, single gentleman. Women aren't worth it anymore
@@KhaiYTC yeah bro true fact there just a compliment to our life
@@KhaiYTC anymore? its always been this way. in nature the majority of males do not reproduce. it is how you vent for genetics worth preserving.
I was always nice, I was never a simp. I didn't have a lot growing up though, only became successful when I was about 30 (all on my own), then suddenly I've got women who've spent 15 years in their bad boy stage hoping I'll settle down with them. That's what finishing last is. Alpha fux beta bucks.
Some of these women still demand that I pay for dates. I already know they've been letting guys fuck them for free for years, now I'm expected to pay for the privilege of courting them and the chance to buy them a house and raise their kids? Doesn't make any sense.
Truth man
Preach On
Indeed.
alpha fux beta bux indeed
“Sure she’ll go through the badboy stage”...soooo in other words, the nice guy still finishes last. Kind of contradicting a little bit don’t you think? Here’s the real cycle of this whole screwed up love circle. She goes for the bad boy, Bad boy crushes her heart because she finds out she’s just another tally mark on his scoreboard, and the “nice guy” is left to pay the price. The “nice guys” are always the ones having to go through her trust issue stage and having to work double time to earn what she gave the badboy. Long story short guys, just live your lives the way you want. If miss perfect comes around, great. If she doesn’t then at least you know your living your life to the fullest and not missing out on anything. Live worry free kings 😎🤙🏻
So well stated.
Yep, be willing to walk away. It's like when you buy a vehicle. If you hear or see something you don't like, walk away. Approach it like that. Most vehicles can be far, FAR less expensive than a woman so why not look at it the same way? But with women there is also the time and emotional investment. Pick the wrong woman and if she gets pregnant you could be sending her checks for at least 18 years.
Cj Rodriguez, what you said is nicely put. A guy who's with her now, shouldn't have to pay for anyone else's mistakes.....ever. No more than she should have to pay for any previous woman's (who was in your life) mistakes. It's not all on the guy, and if the nice guy has something going for him, like a nice income etc....she needs to be worthy of him as well.
@@tidefanyankee2428 exactly!
Then stop being so nice. Respect yourself. You can smash girls without being a bad boy dick. Just be confident in yourself
@@nicbell8090 Exactly!!!!! Guys have to remember that after family, they come first, not some woman he's seeing. Too many guys think they have to be the "nice guy" to get close to her, but all the guy ends up being is a meal ticket and a doormat. If a guy isn't going to respect himself, then a woman never will. Draw your line of what you find acceptable, and unacceptable, without regard to her input. Gents it's YOUR life, live it on your terms. Women play men because they know that men think (wrongly) "if only I'm nice enough she'll let me in to that moist little orifice between her legs". She's not going to let a guy she views as a doormat anywhere near her "holy of holies". Be willing to walk away if you hear or see something you don't like. Don't just put up with it.
"Nice Guys Always Win"
No, no they don't. Take it from me.
She's wrong there Jon. Happy New Year!
Nice guys get very little sex. Bad boys get a lot. Why, ladies?
@@Angrybogan Cuz they with bad girls, if you measure the richness of the relationship using sexual acts only, bad guys are getting it all without having a relationship.
Bad girls get with guys more quickly, have a passionate night then leave, Good girls are looking for something more long term.
@@michaeldavis6993 I work with MSCs and PhDs. Many of the women have degrees and would be considered "good".
They also make these stupid sexual choices. When asked why they are with a thug or a detachable hipster, they will tell you they "don't want a serious relationship right now". I presume they are going to have the "serious" (sex-denying harpy) relationship sometime in the fertility-twilight of their lives.
Bad girls? I met a single mother at a cafe who was on her way home from a notorious pick-up beach. She goes there specifically for anonymous sex with randoms....Okay.
Yes, yes they do. Take it from me.
In my early 20s I definitely acted like a simp and I would meet the worst kind of girls that would take advantage of me. It wasn't until later in life that I've finally got over my insecurities and found true confidence that I started meeting quality girls. Lack of options and insecurities definitely make you an easy target for the wrong sorts of women to take advantage of you. But I'm thankful for those experiences nonetheless because it taught me what I needed to look out for.
As a Nice Guy I can say that most SIMPs are actually involved in narcissistic abuse. Been there, done that, and have healed my inner child. Thank you Courtney.
She means well and makes a lot of good points, but the truth is, people in general, are opportunistic. As soon as someone she deems is better comes along she'll drop you like a bad habit and somehow make you believe it was something you did. There are no rules for dating or relationships. Physical attraction is the majority in any relationship. Also, timing is a huge factor. You could meet the person of your dreams that might be perfect for you, and you for her, but you meet her on a bad night and you don't stand a chance.
Very insightful. Good point
@@iamnoone5614 True but those kind of girls shouldn’t even be in a relationship because they’re going to break someone’s heart over and over again.. She is just off being just a one night stand and thats it.. Because she does not need a guy that is truly a gentleman and a good person..
Everyone means well but there’s a huge difference in feel good talks and bodily cravings/actions. Most people are easily fooled by the pretty words
Not all girls. I married a girl who makes more money, taller, and is more attractive than me. Later she told me she married me because I'm "a nice, normal guy". The guys she dated before me were either too obsessive (simp), aggressive, or had commitment issues.
@@boredoreos How long have you been with her?
"Sure, she'll go through the bad boy. She'll have that little stage."
I'm not sure why you think this is a selling point. It's not. Men don't want women that have been passed around. I don't want a woman who's been "through the bad boys". I'm not sloppy seconds. I'm not here to scoop you up off the floor after you've had your fun throughout your 20s, squandering your prime years, so you can settle down. If you can't offer me you in your prime, I don't want you AT ALL. And no man on the planet will believe you when you say, "It was just one bad boy." No woman will believe that either. We all know women lie about their body counts. Men do too, but when we lie we inflate it. When you lie, you divide by 6.
What I meant by that is some women will be attracted to guys that are not ideal for them when they are young because they don’t know what a real man looks like. The same can be said for men when going for the “hot” girl that other guys find attractive but they are ultimately crazy and they are in no way someone you can settle down with. If a girl is just sleeping around for years going from guy to guy and uses a guy as a fallback plan then that guy should in no way entertain her. Like I said, all about knowing your worth and demanding respect in return 👏🏼
@@CourtneyRyan "Some" or "Most"?, Difference Is that when Women screw it up or their break their promises, they never have to face consequences for their Actions, Men do.
@@CourtneyRyan lol so you basically admit that nice guys get sloppy seconds and indeed finish last. Good job 👏 👍
@@normalguy8499 this i agree. I ain't choosing from the leftovers.
@@CourtneyRyan How do modern women respect men, with all the education and social messaging tell them that men are below them?
Why are we putting so much emphasis on being a simp instead on focussing on people being manipulative ? That's the real problem.
Let's face it this world is not a nice place people are horrible I wish I was in my grandparents generation instead.
Whether or not the nice guy finishes, the bad boy had her first 😂😂 always
I feel sorry for that you can only attract women who had a “bad” phase.
@@tommyliu7020 I feel bad that you’re getting sloppy seconds from the bad boy 😂😂
@@essgee4225 He is actually saying that there are women who never had this bad boy phase to begin with, but if you re only getting those that did have one, then you should look at the common denominator.
Exactly
2:36 "you're not losing, you're winning"
Me: *sleeping alone in my bed for the 5th year straight* "Are you sure about that?"
5Years? Those are rookie numbers!
26, turning 27 this year. Pfff, amateurs
@@SergioKoolhaas Skippy the Virgin: AMATEURS. AFTER WATCHING THESE NUMBERS, I'M A FUCKIN GOD AMONGST MEN
It's the 28th year for me, and i'm 28 years old
Damn...almost 23, not straight but still. I'm a virgin so...
she contradicted herself multiple times. Dont be the nice guy fellas
Late realization much? Women contradict themselves all the time.
@@Nabneet1507 im just stating the obvious. chill
@@LoneWolf22_ it's all good.
I will. No one'll stop me😎
My man yes true
The big trouble with dating - and trying to establish a relationship with - a woman who had that "bad boy stage" in her life, is emotional. I don't care if she's had every bad boy in three towns over, but I resent being treated emotionally like those bad boys deserved to. Let me paint the picture:
Well Girl, you finally landed that sweet guy who hold doors for you, takes out the trash without being told and who brings you a bouquet of roses the first Thursday every month. He pays his own bills, and never refuses to help you over that last week before payday. He even remembers your significant days. Perfect Husband Material. AND YOU TREAT HIM LIKE HE WAS ONE OF THE LOW LIFES YOU USED TO DATE FOR LESS THAN A WEEK EACH, FIVE OR TEN YEARS AGO!!!
If you want a nice guy, be a nice girl.
Speaking gospel!
Yep! That bad boy stage, the 304 phase 10-14 years of her life, and what is left after that? No thank you, I don’t want to be her therapist, and I also don’t want to be the guy who she settled for and was never her first choice, the writing on the wall says “RUN”
This “little stage” lasts for 15 years until she is 35 and then bad boys don’t want her anymore. Even nice boys who finish last, get their turn on 30, so, this “little stage” ruins life for most females nowadays.
My 2002 Pontiac Grand Prix was beautiful when I bought used in 2004. It was cherry, everything worked, the plastic was still good.
Today it's a 21 year old car that has had it's engine rebuilt twice, the driver's seat backing is broken, switches are missing covers, plastic is cracked.
I should have just leased.
The same applies to women; it's better to rent/lease than to buy.
Bad boys still want her but for entertaining purposes only, and most women should keep doing that since they already started it
Indeed.
simp
Please believe us, nice guys. We need that provider after we hit that wall.
Can you explain what you mean?
@@xillion2751 TRANSLATION: 👉 when women start approaching their mid 30(expiry date), they'll try to find nice guys to settle down and provide for them.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
@@loustavern5210 “expiry date” LMFAOOOOO
Exactly! They need someone for that maintenance and upkeep after their tires are bald and they hit over 100,000 miles.
What I get from this is: "wait till your 30's, women will be struck by reality and they will finally go for someone who they can settle down with"
Exactly this is logical when you consider culture and social norms. Women are far more likely to go with this flow as opposed to men who tend to be much more independent. Then you throw in the fact that men must earn their value versus women who only have to maintain it which the lion share can no longer do. Even if you're with a woman that says she's not like that there will be cultural Bleed through will be there.
Sucks tbh
Ikr?!
In conclusion:
Nice guys finish first, when the girl already likes him
And last, when the girl hasn't liked him already. In which case, he has been unwittingly transformed into a simp.
Yeah, that often happens.
There is a lot of fallacies in this I knew nice guys who got married right out of high school and I knew tough guys who became good successful guys. I never understood this nonsense. To be honest I'd rather be nice and be single than change my attitude to suit some person who contradicts themselves over time anyways.
Same man. I'm 27 and getting to the point where I'm just accepting I'll be single for good. I try to be a good person not to attract girls but because I believe it's the right thing to do; to support others, to treat people with respect, to be positive etc. However, unless you find nice girls then the rest of them will not be attracted to you. I am from a town and tbh I could probably be engaged/married rn as I had several opportunities to date nice girls and blew them cos I had not matured yet. Now I live in a city and these girls have been replaced by girls who just wanna sleep around and then settle down in their 30s+ (I see some couples in their mid 40s, and even older, pushing around prams).
Cities are a hotbed for these types of women, and dating apps give them a false impression of their worth. I cant really complain cos I had my chances in the past (these were nice girls who would reject Chad's and go after me cos they were actually looking for a good partner at a young age). Good luck finding these girls nowadays. I dont use dating apps and stopped drinking a couple of years ago, so basically have no interactions with women atm bar some random conversations whilst out and about. Honestly I have no idea how to date without drinking/apps/friend circles, as asking out randoms on the train seems romantic in theory but not as successful in practice.
Anyways rambling now, it is what it is.
Indeed. 👏👏🙏🙏
Those are outliers, your experience dose not reflect the rest of the world
You can still be nice but the point is to have enough self respect to walk away when things are not being reciprocated by a woman.
The less you care the more she will. Who ever cares less has the power.
U can’t even measure that. You probably think it’s a “vibe”. You sound like the kinda guy who says he’s an intellectual.
Love is an amalgamation, not a game.
@@mariog1490 all im sayin is too be kool with whatever.
I had a similar experience. A woman I liked decided for the bad boy type, she dumped him about a year later, then tried to reconnect with me. I said no. It was actually really fun doing that, because I knew it would happen sooner or later. Of course there are women who will choose the nice guy, but unfortunately those are becoming very rare. Unfortunate for them. Because, a "nice guy" will always have your back.
I respectfully disagree w you on one point, any women who would continue to accept gifts, etc etc from a guy they know likes them but have absolutely no intention of reciprocating any feelings back ,other then to throw a few crumbs to keep leading that poor sole on ,is in my estimation a scumbag and not worth anyone's time. obviously a very sensitive topic as I've been there ,done that. other then that , again appreciate your input.
And then people claim the friendzone doesn't exist
Well said.
I recognize myself as being a former SIMP. I used to do too much for a girl that was just using me. She ended up dumping me anyways. What an idiot I am. Now I just don't give a $hit equally about anyone, ever again. I give up on "love", but not lust.
I feel for ya bro. It was the same with me years ago. You have to unlearn the lies we've been fed in movies and television all our lives. You have to learn the cold fact that a woman's love is always conditional. No woman is ever going to love you like you mother loved you (unconditionally). Once you realize this truth, you're free to focus on your true purpose in life. Never make a woman the focus or centre of your life; she's only a compliment to it. And never let a women make rules for you or tell you what to do; you lead, she follows (just like in dancing).
N.A.S.A.
Not A Simp Anymore
Yoo, there’re more to life fundamentally than a women. How about immersed yourself into something you are passionate about and focused on that as your priorities.
The world doesn’t revolve around women and once you make it that way, she immediately dislikes you.
Find some hobby, set ambitions and have a life of abundance’s of your own.
Everyone has been on someone's hook.
I wouldn't just give up on love my bro. Just focus that "love" that you used to give the bitches on yourself. Trust me youll be waaay happier
After this video, I have to take Courtney's words with a big grain of salt. Like a really big grain, as big as a ball for football. I'm helpful and nice, but not to be considered a simp. Unfortunately, I never was fun and unpredictable as those bad boys. Women always choose those bad boys, even if someone was a drug dealer. So I can't believe that nice guys win ever. Until now I have experienced "Nice guys finish last". Until women had some package of experience and children I never get much attention from them but after that, they started giving me attention. And that is not for me. I will not let myself be used as a backup or insurance plan for someone's mistakes.
Ikr?!
Nice guys finish last because they are the ones who end these women after they have been washed up and run through. After spending their 20's having their fun, you get to marry her in her 40's and provide for her.
@@RiseUpToYourAbility ahhh what a dream right. The man went to school career trade worked has no kids sexually responsible didn’t date much in his 20-30’s now at 45 he gets a 45 year old woman with 5 kids by 5 men she has not much education cause she always got sexual access and attention since she’s been 12. By 25 she had 3 kids by 3 men she often could get sex dates free gifts guys simping over her so she has no need to educate herself or even work at times. She has welfare food stamps to fill in the gap when the bad boys didn’t pay child support. So now at 45 with 5 kids by 5 men she’s ready for stability a retirement plan if you will from. The dating game and from life. Here comes the 45 year old man childless that didn’t get a lot of sexual access when he was younger and he has a great career job education since he didn’t have an outlet for his sexual dating desires he put it into his career. So he wants a kid and she wants stability. She didn’t work on a career or even picking a good man to marry when she was younger and he didn’t work hard enough dating wise he only approached 3 women a year and used dating apps where there’s 5x as many men than women on there and a lot of attention seeking women. He gets her last legs of fertility and her other 5 kids 5 baby daddies that never married her. And she gets a guy she wouldn’t have maybe dated if she was 25 and childless but he’s good enough now as she’s just tired of being chads 11pm release she wants stability and a day to day man for marriage.
Best advice for men I’m 25 myself now is to work hard and be BALANCED have a career job eduction trade and approach a lot of women eat the rejections and only date women who have legit interest that will go 50/50 on dates and cook clean for you. Don’t out of desperation date golf diggers get drained $$$ and then recluse from women for 10 years and after 2 rejections hide away again for 5 years THATS HOW YOU END UP MARRYING A 45 year old woman with 5 kids by 5 men never married that’s selfish cause he didn’t work hard enough.
@@RiseUpToYourAbility big facts bro you spoke golden knowledge check out how I can see it playing out too bro
Translation: Guys, I still gonna need my beta after the 50 smashs and chad is not picking up my calls. I need support and maintenance while I recover from the drama of being left like a cun tissue and failing to secure my bad boy.
Don't listen to a fish.... listen to a fisherman.
Sorry 30 year old who's now looking for a nice guy. I'll pass. The wall is coming though
The wall will never negotiate. Ever
Great point! Nearly every dude with lots of girlfriends has told me that you have to "treat them like $hit" if you want them to like you.
These guys are true "A$$ Masters" and know what they're talking about.
I myself can't find it in my heart to treat anyone like $hit, unless they truly are. In those cases I'm not even interested in them!
The thing is, a fish can't talk lol
What do you mean by the 'wall'. I've heard that term and do not know what it means
@@iamnoone5614 I don't get it either. I guess it's some kind of Southern Border reference that a group of "undesirable" people (like me, ha ha) is going is going to be cut out of his life.... or the other way around.
Have you ever seen Pink Floyd's The Wall? Dude builds a "wall" around himself and goes crazy.
But you've admitted that "nice" guys finish last . I don't want to be settled for when a woman gets tired of or can't get a bad boy to stay anymore. OLD has shown me that my few options are eating buckshot, becoming a step dad who will always be 4th priority, or paying a professional. And you know what's depressing? Only one of those options leaves me with any dignity
As a fellow old guy, l gotta agree.
The pro does what you've paid her for, and you KNOW what you're getting. AND, if you look at it like an accountant....the pro is actually cheaper (in the long run) when you take all the costs of having a woman into consideration. Food, housing, clothing, jewelry (because she's going to want it), healthcare etc....etc......etc......
It's like the Jack Reacher movie.
Jack (Tom Cruise), "I can't afford you"
Girl, "I'm not a hooker"
Jack, "Then I really can't afford you"
@@tidefanyankee2428 love that quote lol
I'm 50 with many option, not sure how old you are, but make yourself desirable, get a good job, if your car is O.K. clean it, clean your house to the point of spotless, learn to drink wine stop drinking beer(only drink three glasses of wine) only drink on the weekends, buy new clothes, welcome her into your life, whats wrong with becoming a step dad(Better than eating buckshot) if she treats you well (do get a prenup before she moves in, you don't want to loose your house in two years). having a loving caring woman by your side is better than any Prostitute ,even if she's a little lacking on the looks side
@@geoffreymoulton5707 I agree with everything you wrote initially. Good job, nice car, clean house, learn to say "when" with alcohol. Yep, I'm onboard with all of that.
What's wrong with being a step dad? There is the potential for several things to go very wrong with it. Are the kids dad in the picture? If not, if she leaves in some states you could be on the hook for support. If the bio dad is in the picture, you're GOING to have to deal with him at some point. It's not an "if" but rather a "when". Is bio dad going to start drama between you and his kids or his ex? Does bio dad pay his child support on time? If not, in the meantime you'll have to make up for that. Does bio dad pick the kids up on time or does he cancel at the last minute? That's going to create drama. Will bio dad tell his kids they don't have to listen to you in your own home? What kind of parent is your girlfriend/wife? Oh, and those kids are always going to come first with her, and there's nothing wrong with a mother putting her kids first, she should. Just be aware of that. Will bio dad turn those kids against you and make them believe that if you aren't in the picture that he and his ex (your girlfriend/wife) might get back together??? If one of those kids is a teenage girl you might want to read up on "metoo" and "Ibelieveher". A teenage girl can make a false allegation and her mom is GOING to believe her unless there is some concrete proof that she's lying.
Your girlfriend/wife might have an agenda as well. And let's be honest, unless you've known someone for years you don't really know them THAT well. There are false allegations of domestic violence that happen. But guess who's going to leave the house in handcuffs??? It's not her, AND she'll be backed up by her kids. Then she'll be living in YOUR house while you're in jail and then there's the inevitable no contact/restraining order. She might not have to be the one to leave the house either. It depends on the judge. So I hope you have friends/family you can stay with until it gets sorted out. In the meantime she can sell your stuff.
Prenups? Those get tossed out of court all the time. They aren't the guarantee many think they are.
Here is some advice, guys. Do not hang out in the friend zone. She thinks of you has a friend, that will never change. If she wants to just hang out, do not , make an excuse not to.
Thank you so much for making this video. I realised that I was more of a simp and because of which I started thinking that I am not good enough. "Why don't girls like me?' and all that stuff. But in reality, I was losing my self-respect and self-love. Courtney... You are a blessing for me!! 🙏
Thank you changing my perspective towards myself and making me a better nice guy!! 🙂 Loads of love and blessings!!
"If you want to fish, go ask the fisherman not the fish"
Don’t be a “nice guy”, be a gentleman.
Doesn't work
@@Suspect333 It depends where you should be that. If you want a serious relationship - yes. Picking up a girl off the street - maybe not so much.
Be whatever you want to be and don't care what some other moron on the internet labels it.
Don't be a gentleman, be righteous
@@Concatenate if everyone understood this. That is what gives you attraction from other. Doing what you enjoy doing and being what you wanna be
I believe that the stereotypical "nice guy" doesn't have healthy boundaries. He also backs down from a fight or conflict, so he doesn't make her feel safe.
This is the most accurate answer
"A relationship should not be transactional." That's ALL a relationship is!
Lmaooo
and... it could work the other way around. "Nice" girls who finish last. Essentially, if you want respect, you need to respect yourself and don't be a doormat.
@@joyfulbeing596 😊😊😊
Nope, Nice guys still finish last, simps can’t even find the starting line lol 😂
Exactly.
Precisely. Yes I am walking away if I am not treated fair, but that is all I have. Nothing.
@@tulenik71 What do you mean?
@@tulenik71 You have yourself!
Simps dont even know what a starting line is!
Nice guys win in the end. He gets an old and loose muffin with an elevated chance of having downies.
I'm 50 and been single for two years and not one "loose muffin" recently high body count, In my thirties I found a few. So if you like her sleep with her and if the "Muffin" isn't quite what you want find the next one, don't complain about it, woman eventually want the nice guy, trust me on that point. so set yourself up to receive a nice woman, get that good job,car,house. Make yourself attractive and welcome a nice woman into your life, don't just go for looks(problem with my first wife) Second wife looks and personality were wonderful but she had been abused buy her parents as a kids and never worked through it and deep down she was broken, so now I'm looking for personality and any underling issue, But they still have to take care of themselves, no fatties or woke's
Or just stay single forever, make a ton of money, and drive expensive cars but not let any female into them.
@@snakeeyes9246 Better spend money on Victoria Secret models who low-key sell their bodies.
Nice guys don't finish last. Men who care finish last. I'm extremely nice and always polite, I just never express or show that I like them at all. Women know that I won't bat an eye when they're gone.
Exactly lmao
I blast a laugh when you said "it's not a relationship, it's a charity case."😂
Courtney Ryan, I am insulted that you would think that I would take left overs! I have been in relationships where the woman has had her “fun” and expected me to sit on the sidelines waiting for them. I am not a “nice guy”, but I am a guy who has treated women with dignity, faithfulness, dependability, and respect and have received garbage in return. I’ve watched women that I have loved give the best parts of themselves and give me the complete stench that is leftover. I have plaid the role of a boyfriend without actually being one and have had women try to pin me down after having their “fun”. I can’t beive you have the nerve to put a video up like this, and the audacity to believe that “nice guys” would settle for anything less than the best. We deserve to be with a woman who will make us their first and only choice when we are pursuing them. We are tired of being “beta males” when we are the ones who depended upon to clean up yours and the “alpha males” messes. I speak for all gentleman when I say:
“You can keep your emotional baggage, your psychological breakdowns, and your used up kitty kat!” We deserve to the best just as women claim they deserve.
Bravo, could not have said that better!
Since when can't you have fun and then decide to settle down? Tf you want, a virgin? You just sound bitter af
So in other words, there are women who simp for the bad boys. I wonder how well they tend to listen to men if men would teach them not to be a simp but a nice girl. We're not quite seeing this education. Correct me if I'm wrong anyone, but there's not videos here from content creating men teaching women how they can enjoy a better life by not being a simp.
I mean what you described are “left overs.” If you’re giving her all the attention and in return she gives you “garbage” ant uses you for “fun” then you’re what she describes as a SIMP. A nice guy as she describes it would know when a relationship is worth having and when it’s better breaking up. If all you’ve done is been in relationships where you’ve been used then you’re either hooking up with the wrong people or can’t tell that the person isn’t right for you until it’s too late. She never said nice guys don’t settle. In fact she said that nice guys expect to be treated equally in a relationship.
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nice guy is a misleading misnomer - nice guy means: codependent DOOR MAT
Usually the result of an abusive mom and a weak dad.
@@philipp.5419 or an abusive father and a weak mother
😂😂😂😂
@@philipp.5419 is there research on that
@@slicksteve22 Unfortunately it's my family dynamic. Thankfully I'm resilient and strong.
I love your videos. I watch them whenever I have free time. Folding clothes, washing dishes, morning/night grooming. If you’re posting then I’m watching 👍🏽
Thanks Courtney ❤
This video of yours really changed my outlook on life and how I view myself. It’s not worth sacrificing your self respect for someone who doesn’t value you at all. Keep making such amazing videos ✨🙏
So first off, I consider it an insult to be called a 'nice guy' because that's what women call the men they like the personality of but have no attraction to physically. Call them a GOOD guy.
Secondly, yeah nice/good guys still finish last. From personal experience as a good guy, that's average looking, Ive NEVER been in a relationship. I've never been given a chance by a woman to be 'her man'. Its always 'You're nice, BUUUUT' and its just so deflating to constantly be turned down hence why I consider it an insult to be called a nice guy.
Women WANT the bad boys.That's just a fact They want the men that give them the tingles of excitement and to make their hearts pound. Then once those bad boys are done with them and shes had her heart broken, multiple times, because she thinks she 'can land the bad boy this time!', THEN they go for the good guy, when those same good guys aren't interested anymore.
The bottom line is this: women only care about what a man provides. End of discussion. With the way society is telling women to 'not settle for anything less than Mr Perfect' its causing such a huge rift in the dating world because guys are so confused about what women actually want. They tell us that theyre too independent and strong for us to hold doors open for them etc but then they'll turn around and say 'oh I was just trying to play hard to get I actually want a good guy'. ?!?! Then just TELL US YOU LIKE US. Its actually the most frustrating thing trying to tell if a womam actually is interested or not.
Add onto that all the laws being passed in multiple countries world wide that even asking a woman out could be considered harrassment and involve prison time, a lot of guys are just saying 'nah I'm out'.
So no, good guys always finish last. Or they finish last until the woman decides to settle for an average Joe. When she's past her 'bad boy' phase, probably has a kid or 2(nothing wrong with that but guys dont want to step in to be a dad to another's kid), and has had far more partners than he'd like, THEN she chooses to be with the average good guy.
I agree I've known women like this they have had the bad guy who treats them like dirt and the woman thinks she can change him and she can't and by the time she's had a couple of kids to him and a put up with his behaviour she'll then go for the guy who will care for her and treat her right from the word go only thing wrong with that is the nice/good guy now has to get to know her and becomes and instant dad to some other guys kids, which I can assure you wouldn't of been in his life plan at all. He may want children but HIS own children not some other man's, but that's how it goes.
Very well put together 👍🏻
I have been in plenty of relationships, I regret them all.
Despite what videos say there is no 5 step tutorial on how to have a perfect relationship, you try something, sometimes it fails, sometimes it fails really badly,gl. It depends on more than just individual woman, also timing and wlot of factors that ,make it almost as difficult as telling what the exact weather will be like in 2 weeks, idk, if you've given up, you've given up,being single in of itself is not a nightmare.
@@michaeldavis6993 That I agree with. I've long since embraced the gift of singleness and not looking for some nonexistent fairy tale.
I'm imagining SIMPs paying her coaching so they will learn how to find a single mom wall hitter and save her. No risks, just love! Hahaha 😂
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I must truly Thank you Courtney, I was afraid I was being too nice and I have been duped before by lying women.
I will stop beating myself up from now on and be A Nice guy for myself and the right woman in the future....
Love your boldness and personally you've helped change my perspective. I was not raised properly (which seems to be more common) and I grew up with fear of women and thought most were not good to be with. So, I'm still learning but thank you.
"That is not a relationship, that's a charity case." Damn, I wished I heard that years ago!!
savage but true.
Remember theres actually 3. nice guy, good guy and simp.
Facts
Yea sounds about right. Charity to keep leading them on
I was simp before and then I stood up for my self and became assertive.
TRANSLATION: when women start approaching their mid 30(expiry date), they'll try to find nice guys to settle down and provide for them.
You should read that article from Sydney, Australia "Why women loses the dating game." Trust me. It was a big hit online few years back
I have a beta step father who married a chick with 4 kids by 4 different men, I can confirm this is indeed true.
@@Karmalu dammn man.
Of course what's on the inside is what counts. But the truth is that even when it comes to looks women don't have "expiration dates" (and I suppose neither do men). That's a youth culture myth. Great looking women (and probably men too) come in all shapes, sizes, and ages. Trust me, if you have a photo of anyone, as you get older the people in that photo will look younger and younger to you as you age. Let me say two words to the disbelieving young reading this, "you'll see." Thus one couple famously said after 70 years of marriage that they were "still on their honeymoon!"
I'd honestly rather be single for the rest of my life.
Thank you, Courtney. Sometimes it’s good to have someone to tell you that because you blind yourself.
I always say that nice guys finish last but they finish and bad boys get their foot in the door first, but don’t end up finishing.
Great video! It is best to not expect anything in return when doing an act of kindness for another person. It is great when you make another person’s day by doing something you didn’t have to do. Keep up the content!
To clarify: a simp is too generous to an undeserving person. A nice person is respected and loved by a person attracted to them.
But you're also counting on her being able to distinguish between the two. The other thing is, you never know what is going on inside someone else's head.
@@tidefanyankee2428 a simp cannot determine if she is capable of figuring that out. intelligence is required to know your value.
@@okihaveaname Oh, I agree. My suggestion for guys is (as you said) know your worth and be willing to walk away. A simp is going to be a simp until HE figures it out. Some guys need to get their heart stomped on a few times before they realize their method of catering to a woman (the way they do it) isn't working. Most of those guys haven't discovered their "inner asshole" yet but they will, hopefully. Every guy has that in them...but most don't or haven't tapped into it yet. I said in an earlier comment on this thread that guys should also be a "gentlemen" but for no one else but themselves. But even a gentleman knows they can and should simply walk away when they hear/see/experience something they find unacceptable. The "inner asshole" comes in when she realizes she's pushed too far and is going to lose him and she comes back with "oh, I'm sorry" etc.... That when the guy taps into it and responds with "no thank you, and please don't contact me again" and leaves it at that.
@@tidefanyankee2428 its a fine balance of maturity and wisdom. typically beautiful young girls dont have that, but young males are also immature and oblivious to nice girls. Love is tricky and sometimes needs a painful loss.
Thank you. These are the comments that are mature, not that stupid red pill stuff.
I like to refer to nice guys as janitors. As in they clean up the mess that the bad boys leave behind
I've been here reading the comment section for the past 1 and a half hour and i just want to thank you and say that i appreciate what you are doing with these videos. I Can't imagine how your DM's are looking but good god is this some juicy content to not be taken seriously! wow! i am on a little binge of your videos and i enjoy them a lot even tho i don't really need the advice personally, i find them very good!.
Guys, don't take advice from a deer, about hunting deer?
Switch over to Alpha Male Strategies. Take the "Red Pill"
Deadass man!
My man!
It's like me making a video about what to expect when you get your first period.
That guy is a massive simp in the body of a tool
Listening to alpha male crap is why you guys are still single.
Maybe "kind guy" might be a more accurate label than "nice"
Exactly... And NEVER take "dating advice" from a woman. Women DONT know what they want
@_jeff _ thanks
I had a girl say "I make her feel like a beautiful woman and I am a good friend" I need to go and watch Seal team and de-simp
I really agree with the eye of the storm analogy, found myself there plenty of times lol, great video thanks for the content.
Ridiculous...
Do women throw themself at Rockstar or at math teachers?
GTFOH
Both lol
Who told rockstar are bas and all math teachers are nice , some math teachers are bullies and some rockstars are nice, look at Shawn mendes girls like him cause he's sweet
@@stgeorge4559 yeah .... I'm a "math teacher" or music theory teacher so to speak, but I'm ALSO the bad boy FUCKING ROCK STAR. I have a million problems but getting women isn't one of 'em. Unless it's one specific woman, I can be picky lol
@@lotuswolf1518 It's the perception of who is a bad or nice guy.... If a math teacher is hot and rich, of course he will have women, still a Rockstar will be always more attractive, at least to a quick "ride".
@@michaelsmusic3532 music teacher is not math teacher, and it was a semplificaton to get the point.
A Rockstar will always find a hot girl easily than you, also
@Courtney Ryan I just subscribed to your channel today - You bring a fresh perspective to the style/grooming/relational game and it is very valuable. Congrats on going full-time, and I wish you great success in 2021!!
She hit the nail on the head. I've been a "simp" in one (recent) relationship out of many in my life... And didn't realize it at the time.
Beautifully said!!! 💯
Best to be your true self when dating so there are minimal surprises later and you can finish the race together.
I am glad you have address this as soon as you can. I started watching you thanks to your video response to Alpha M. I can tell you were coming from a genuine place and the flack you got bummed me out. I am an Alpha M. subscriber myself but sometimes his tactics doesn't really work for me and I am not a fan of this whole bad boy bullshhh. I am currently in a relationship with a woman who makes me happy and I make her happy. It completely takes two to tango. You earned this subscription for addressing the criticism head on instead of leaving it on the table.
I've walked away from so many crushes that Craig David often comes along for the moment and sings I'm walking away.
Hey, there are also nice girls. They may be the ones who don't get asked out. The chubby girl, nerdy girl, etc. She's usually a bombshell when she grows up. If she goes for the bad boy, well you might have dodged a bullet. You don't have to take her back and don't.
Kinda late to this video haha. I feel like there's a difference between being nice and being naive. As a guy, I feel like it's important to be nice, but don't let yourself be taken advantage of. That goes for anything else too: school, workplace, etc. Great advice, Courtney.
Our older sister always delivers!!! So relatable and easy to understand!!! Merry Christmas!!! 🎄
A woman who don't hate nice guys and actually help them, what a Girl ! Damn
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they say that bad boys don't make good husbands if you plan on having a girl for life you should be the nice guy in my opinion this is how it goes
nice guys: get girls but also make good husbands and they can really maintain a long relationship
simps: mostly they don't get any girls cause they always expect something in return and girls see through that
bad boys: maybe get girls easily and most of the time but they can't maintain a long and strong relationship either because they're not really looking for that or they just can't
@@ismailelmassaoudi4317 beautiful!
@@ismailelmassaoudi4317 Bad boys : also the kind of men that women cheat, lust, and have the most mind-blowing sex with.
@@ismailelmassaoudi4317 Sounds like you want the leftovers of a bad boy. Have fun raising another man’s kids.
Thank you for your solid advice. I completely agree, put your time with someone who will reciprocate your effort, not waste it.
Thanks for the video. I used to be a SIMP, somehow, but I've moved on. And things improved greatly, I must say.
Seems like Simps often confuse the difference between value and respect. They put too much value in a woman and not enough in themselves. And really there’s no respect being shown. A Simp is practically ‘bribing’ someone to like them in return. And if he is able to start a relationship with this person, it won’t last. The power dynamics are going to be way off kilter and, as you said, she’s just going to always expect this behavior.
Whereas a Nice Guy recognizes the difference as well as the relationship between value and respect. He values and respects himself and the fact that he does, now he is able to show respect to others. He won’t be offended by women turning him down and won’t seem like a desperate creep. You have to start with yourself first.
Great channel Courtney keep it up! 👏🏻🙂
Yes, this is a good explanation. I honestly think that more men should focus on building themselves before trying to add another person into their life.
A nice guy always finishes last if he is short. That's pretty much the #1 top turn off for women these days.
Hi Courtney, boy was this a wakeup call for me. I had never heard of this term
"simp" until I watched this video tonight. It really discribes a lot of my behaviors when I am
attracted to a lady. I am so afraid that I'm going to lose her that I don't realize what an idiot I have been. You really opened my eyes to a situation thet I seriously need to work on. Thank you so much. I owe you a debt of gratitude..David
Your insight and ability to articulate the nuances of this issue for our benefit is stunning. Well done!
Never ask a fish, how to catch fish
Thanks for sharing the differences. We really needed to hear this.
Miss Ryan, thank you for making this video. I found it very informative and re-assuring.
I love your advice. You always seem to slip in a chuckle or two. Thank you
Happy New Year Courtney! I did a response to your video. It's nothing bad but you might get some heat here in the comments. I hope all is well and finally, 2020 is over...Thank God. Be well, and I hope all the best for you in 2021!
Yes James! I also left my factual but not disrespectful comment here for her. No surprise, I've had no reply, as the multitudes of men saying the same sorts of things here will be keeping her quite busy I believe! It's quite astounding how many there are!
I wonder when these women will wake up to what feminism has fooled them to follow, burn down those dispicable divorce courts, disband their folly & follow the order that worked for centuries once more, by honoring a man as her head, husband & provider, & get busy having babies in their prime & youth when they should?! I'm not holding my breath on that happening any time soon hey James?😉👍
@@richardteale8203 someone women just don’t want babies. Nothing wrong with that. You’ve been lied to about what feminism is. People profit off of fear mongering.
@@tommyliu7020 Yes, some don't, but not many, if hardly any, as most women eventually decide it's their primary purpose to bear children by the time they're 30 & near on all of them do so by the time they're 40! Unfortunately they're leaving it too late, as peak fertility for females is at age 22!
Please explain how feminism has lied to me, as I agree it did, if you mean in my pre "blue pilled" days, but I'd say definately not now!
Yes, agreed, they do profit from fear mongering.
As my boy from hybrid calisthenics says, "Do something nice and expect nothing in return." Thanks for talking about this Courtney :)
My boy Hampton speaking facts
Haha love that dude, such a beauty
😂 "Think twice before you Venmo that Russian model..." Haha, I loved the entire video, and the previous one too (so many great points!), but this ending was the best!! My circumstance was rare back then, and would probably be just about impossible in today's world, but in the last 15+ years I have been able to cultivate and grow several friendships in order to become good friends with a handful of women in the EU, a couple of whom have since even moved here to the U.S. in the last 3-4 years with their husbands. One of them lives in the next city over from my aunt and uncle and we'll all be meeting up for lunch the next time I go visit my aunt and uncle this Autumn. :) Thank you again for making these videos!
Every time you say “simp” I start to laugh😂😂😂😂. Thanks for the lesson sista🤙🏽🤠.
Il be honest. Rolled my eyes when I first came accross these videos. I thought here we go. Someone talking down to me telling me what I need to change about my self in order to seek validation from women. But you actually give good advice not just for women in life. Be yourself, know who you are and what you bring. Good stuff. Thanks
Yep
Well said Courtney.
In my opinion, it’s nice to know what you want in a relationship - but it’s more important to know what you won’t accept.
While I was listening to your definition of nice guys, I just realized that my man is a really nice guy! I'm so lucky! for 7 years now 😊❤️
Remember, there only want a "nice guy" to PAY FOR HER, to PROVIDE FOR HER.
In other words they want a man to work for her; for she to give to that man the things that she gave for FREE to Chad and Tyrone.
I totally agree. Your best video yet, Courtney! And I'm an old guy :)
A few things. 1.) Simps hang around because they think she'll magically wake up and be interested. 2.) Most women will settle down with the nice guy for stability... but will still be attracted to the bad boy for if and when they decide to cheat
I say shes very right cause I have seen great results just being nice without seeming overlynice. I love these short and to the point vids👍🏼
My life as a younger man was almost always miserable, and it was almost always miserable because of women. Now that I'm older and single, life is so much more stable, simple, easy, and fun. Fastest way to wreck your life is to let a woman into it.