Bad Boys vs. Nice Guys | Girls React
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- In this video, I sat down with some girls to get their take on "Bad Boys" and "Nice Guys." People have different ideas of what a "Bad Boy" and a "Nice Guy" are, but the reality might shock you. Thank you all for watching and be sure to comment what we should react to next!
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Sheesh guys, some of these comments are making me cringe. It’s clear that we all have different definitions of what a bad boy and nice guy are so I will say this... just be a good human. Be kind, be confident in yourself and what you bring to the table and you will be just fine. We should all be working towards being the best versions of ourselves and reaching our full potential. Not everyone is going to like you and you don’t have to like everyone either. The end.
Can you do a video on where to meet high valued women? Because bars and clubs are completely out of the question. I even went to church and there were women there that were hitting on me that were no good. I had to leave!!! Im running out of ideas here...
There's a disconnect between what you talk about in here and the actual reality experienced by men.
@@maxwellanderson007 😂😂😂
I'm sorry but from our perspective it is a huge difference, of course everyone has different ideal of male partner but a great number of women date bad guys until their 30 and then they look for the nice/estable men they rejected for being "boring" and expect us to be grateful for that...
Sheeeeeeeeeeesh
So basically what you're saying is that nice guys should accept leftovers? "Sometimes you have to go through a few years of bad relationships so you can realize that you need to be in a good one. Usually around 28 through 35 when we're so exhausted!" You can't make this up!!!
when we're so exhausted! ? what does this mean ?
"I like a sweet guy who is a gentleman."
Then she goes with a bad boy who treats her badly.
She wants that bad boy to be sweet only for her,the world doesent work like that doe
Yessirrr facts
@@casualcookin3893 if that bad boy treats her sweet then thats a nice guy too know what i mean?
Bad Boys stir the girls' emotions.
@@casualcookin3893 Doe, a deer, a female deer...
This does rather confirm that when a girl is young and most desirable she'll wanna be ravaged and rolled in dirt, then once a bad boy or three have had their way with her and her marketplace value's dropped a bit, she'll offer herself to a nice guy provider who'll support her for the rest of her natural life. No doubt those bad boys saw the better end of the deal 🤷♂️
The bad boys are extremely physically attractive tall men. They arouse and get women’s sexual best if they do it.
True@@Gustavog74- they have a physical head start- and no doubt it operates the same the other way round, where pretty girls have way more choices than homely ones until their youth and beauty fade when they need to hope they made more good choices than bad.
@@videowilliams Everyone wants to date someone that is extremely physically attractive.
@@Gustavog74 True. And only with maturity, which comes from experience both good and bad, does either gender start to see beyond the surface.
@@videowilliams Just looks.
This only confirms what we already know: Nice guys finish last! When girls are in their prime, they go for the Chadrones and oftentimes get imprinted by them! When they're in their decline with a high bodycount, and the biological "wall" hits them, they SETTLE for the betabucks nice guy, or become alphawidows with cats and wine😂!
It used to be called falling head over heels in love, now it's called being a simp. Unfortunately that is the world we live in today.
@@tonii5690 Head Over Heels is also the title of a Go-Go's song, from their 1984 album, Talk Show. I'm Casey Kasem, and this is American Top 40!
One thing I’ve learned about women that is 100% true . They just adore drunks and a-holes . I’ve seen it over ,over and over again. If Anyone says otherwise their a liar plain and simple. Experience is the best teacher .
Bad boy = Doesn’t care about much, except for what he wants
Nice guy = Cares too much about being nice towards women
Polite guy = Silent, polite&follows a talking “protocol”, while being 100% honest with his body language. If the women see him losing interest, it will show.
One can communicate in variety of ways (body language, voice intonations, topic interest and how somebody acts. Not only how one moves but, also what one does)
1:40 "he's a player but not honest about it" player speaking here, yea I tried the honest route and found out there's no such thing as an honest player 😂😂. I was idealistic enough to believe such a feat was possible but overtime you learn that the overwhelming majority of women will not sleep with a guy if he verbally announces he only wants her for sex. So yea you have to lie 🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️ it is what it is.
Do you respect yourself, as a lady, in your 30s because you've "learnt" or because you're running out of options? I don't think you need 10 years of life to learn/realise this.
They are all in the epiphany phase...
Rollo is truly a genius.
Bad boys gets it in the bedroom quicker than nice guys. Nice guys jump over hoops to get into the bedroom. Sorry. I am not paying more when past guys barely had to work for it.
What are you after, sex or a long term relationship? If the former, be a bad boy and sleep around with not a single care for the girl. If the latter, be a self-respecting good guy who knows how to treat a girl but won't allow himself to be used. The 'nice guy' misconception is someone who jumps through hoops for the girl with no regard for himself. Don't be that, be your own man who knows what he wants and won't play games. It's so easy to get caught up in the stereotypes
@@romansmusic1722 Why would you want a long term relationship with a woman who won't break her own rules for you?
That's what bad boys do... women break any and all rules they have... just for them. That kind of devotion is involuntary, and cannot be negotiated for. You either prompt these feelings from her, or you don't.
Nice guys NEVER get this kind of reward.
Sorry but with a mindset as paranoid as yours you're better off staying single. It may be hard for you to believe, but happy long-term relationships, and marriages, do exist. If she breaks the rules on you, it's her problem. If you're making such a big deal about it, maybe you need to work on yourself. Don't be a 'nice guy', or a 'bad boy'. Be your own man who lives by his own rules
thing with bad boys an the chicks that spread eagle for them is their both emotionally immature .nice guys seem to be the opposite of that i think where the nice guys mess up is that .they tend to take these women more seriously than they take themselves
@@romansmusic1722 Hey, why say sorry? I think you're absolutely right. I have something similar to your ultimatum, and it's closer to what Moo Lis and Javi Azar said. "If women don't make it obvious that they like you, they don't. Move on." We're doing exactly as you suggest, and staying single, though I guess "paranoid" is a bit much.
I can still believe in the idea of a happy long-term relationship, and marriage. I just don't count on it ever happening to me. Basically, too much trouble for what it's worth. For the one's where getting women's attention is easy, have them commit. Women give their worth to them, and it's no trouble for those guys. It's perfect. Good luck, have fun.
This video is the perfect example of "Never listen to what women say, instead watch their actions".
Women only care about a guy’s looks.
I agree with your slogan because actions speak louder than words. However, we should also apply your slogan to this woman. Her actions in her real life probably don't match the advice that she gives.
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Yup. They're smiling and swooning, as if they're being offered one.
As a nice guy, I’ve come to find this world is merciless. My two serious relationships both ended from the girls cheating on me. Don’t give too much guys, they’ll take advantage if you let them. That goes for anyone. Know your boundaries, this is just my experience.
That's why you don't rely on women for your happiness
@surprisedpikachu I was TOTALLY just thinking the same. We need to make sure other men and young men know not to take this info serious.
@ad izzle watch this video, it came out yesterday too and COMPLETELY counters this one by Courtney ruclips.net/video/JxPxG8pkan0/видео.html
Sorry to hear that bro. You should hold your head up high, you’ve done nothing wrong. They don’t know what they’ve lost. Stay solid, King.
Nice guys never win! Stop putting up with a woman's shit and respect yourself!
"I grew out of that really quickly,"
The problem is growing out of it means in most cases that the bad boy was rewarded with sex for his poor behavior in the prime of a woman's life. When the woman is no longer in her prime and has 'grown up' she, (often with kids) now recognizes the worth of the good guy (The guy she skipped over).
It's not a coincidence.
So the “good guy or nice guy” is the fall guy who’s coming in to pick-up the pieces. That’s what it comes down to
The problem with that is that very few men want to raise another man's kids and not a lot of men want to be Your last resort .
Well said my friend. Bad boys for life! 🤝😅
Christopher Faulkner “ I grew out of that stage” is no excuse. What ur asking a guy to do is , pick up another guys left-overs, not happening!
Exactly
Interesting to watch all the girls' expressions when describing or talking about BB/NGs... a lot more smiles and grins and apparent excitement evident when talking about the BBs. Words do not match Actions.
I noticed that too 😂
That's because body language is an action. Its easy to deceive someone with words on the radio or over the phone.
However its very difficult to deceive someone with words when you can see their body language.
The fact is Courtney Is out of her lane and way out of her league.
And bringing on her buddies to somehow support and bring merit to her last podcast is only doging a deeper hole for herself.
She should stay in the lane she's qualified to be in , sushi as fashion advice.
Their words: 🧢
Yup, right on the money
lol yep women will always want them type of men cause what do they love to watch on tv???? drama shows that have to do with alot of conflict so they want an adventure like that, and what type of man u think brings that???
Definition of bad boy: when you don't care if she fakes it in bed because you faked everything to get her there 😂
@Michael Thomas if u gotta label yourself a alpha most likely you’re not
@@namm1on that’s so true
Why would you care whether she fakes it or not. As long as your satisfied.
@@bosanac3174 btw did you know the “alpha male” or “beta male” is just from a crappy “study” by a guy who saw a wolf pack. And the father or mother wolf being “dominate”
Also don’t believe this crap of alpha males, or beta it’s just boys grow to be men. Guys get better with age like wine 👍
@Michael Thomas imagine calling yourself an alpha male unironically.
It's quite misleading and dangerous advice for men. Judging by the smile of the first girl she had her fair share of bad boys and enjoyed it.
@Randy Ayala - Finance Wizard Nice guys are invisible to attractive women in the 20-26 age range. Listen to women in this age range's opinion on men. You'll realise they think nice men don't exist. Courtney is the outlier of all outliers and should be the first photo that comes up in the "Statistical Outlier" wikipedia.
@Randy Ayala - Finance Wizard Yeah, guys get screwed over, but it's cool, they actually did you a favor... That makes sense. Getting screwed over is a good thing, go ahead and get gamed on by girls and their bad boys. Got it.
LOL, most women want honest, genuine, great potential, and cares for them? Great example of half-truths and euphemisms.
Honest? Of course they want honest. They don't want to get screwed over. It's the same with money, where they require you to be self-made and ambitious, otherwise they can't trust that you'll always be a top earner. Personality-wise, if you're not naturally charming or funny, AKA, it's not easy for you, they'll think you're just not being you, and will revert back once they're settled down and he doesn't have to try so hard anymore. What I'm saying is, it's not honesty, but SECURITY that they really want. And genuine means the same thing, basically.
And we ALL know what "great potential" and "cares for them" means, haha. "Make big bucks and spoil me like a princess!! WOOOHOOO!! ;D"
Oh, and that's just SOO convenient that women "realize" this AFTER riding the C--eh hem, I mean, dating and chasing bad boys. How does a woman want a nice guy but also have a history of chasing and dating bad boys, lol. Women get fooled that many times, or need that much "experience" to finally know what they want? The first, or even second bad experience wasn't enough of a warning?
I don't know, it's looking more plausible that they were getting f*cked as much as they could because they wanted to, before needing to settle down with someone who'd actually commit. Yeah, real winner.
@Randy Ayala - Finance Wizard Girls in their reproductive primes will inately gravitate towards the archetypal "bad guys" because biologically, and primitively, that gives them the best genes. Girls reaching the end of their reproductive primes, or have had children with the archetypal "bad guys", will innately gravitate towards the archetypal "nice guys", because, at this stage of their life, they optimize for resource and stability. Hence the saying, "alpha fucks, beta bucks". I'm not saying there is anything wrong with this, but don't sugar-coat it. Every girl follows this path at least to some degree because they are biologically programmed to do so through human evolution. That's part of the reason why humans are so successful as a species.
@@AvadaKedavra943 Those who can't provide are not best genes. Yes there is everything wrong, who will provide only they have the right to take virginity.
@@AvadaKedavra943 So true. So true. I wanna know why no one is talking about the recent genetic studies that say that nearly half of married women have lied to their nice guy husbands about paternity.
Being told "your too nice" is like a knife in the chest for a guy, it's unfortunate but modern day men need to have specific traits of a bad boy to do well in today's dating market
Evolutionary psychologists say there is an increasing number of women in the West living fast-life histories. They are 'r-strategists' as opposed to the traditional 'K-strategists'. They procreate a lot and don't invest much in their offspring. They are attracted to the bad boys - the pump-and-dumpers -, because they are r-strategists too.
Courtney seems to dismiss this as a phase certain women go through, but I disagree. The women who hanker after the exciting bad boys when they are young still want them as they get older; however, they come to realise they need the resources of the stable, but boring, beta males and try to lock them down.
You can be too nice. You should not be too giving. She even said in a video, what a woman says she wants and what she really wants subconsciously are two different things. A woman should only add to you. Once you reach that point in your life, women just come and go and the right one will go out of her way to let you know she likes you. I promise.
@@dpstrial You should’ve made this a main comment
@@dpstrial Haha
Absolutely and anyone who tells you anything different is lying to you(whether they realize it or not).
Many girls say one thing and do another. They say they don't like bad guys to save face, but they low key love em bc they love the excitement the bad boy brings.
Exactly. Not to mention the fact that subconsciously they are attracted to them over nice guys because they are more dominant and that's what counts. Thousands of years of biological evolution can't be wrong.
Women speak in opposites sometimes unfortunately
@@johngonzalez4298 I think they just don't know what they are actually attracted to they just know what they think they are attracted to. There's a reason why very few women are successful dating coaches for men.
karma is a bitch, bad guys are dangerous
Men too 🤣
If a woman has had a bad boy phase, never date/marry her. She's just settling for you because she's had all her fun and finally wants to settle down at 35.
But if you as a man is pushing 60, 35 is still a spring chicken. 😆
@@visaman hell yeah. You just don't want to be dating a 35 year old when you're in your 30s.
@@ericv5435 When I was 28 I fell for a 38 year old. This was in 1992, she would tell me stories of being a Hippy Wannabe in her teens, when I want to scare myself, I imagine her now at 67! 😵
Sooo men can go play the field and have their fun then settle down at 40 when they ready to at least have children???😒
@@kayla_battle yes because men can have kids at any age. Women have a time limit. Women date/sleep with men that are bad for them because they like the drama. Then when they get tired of that and their biological clock starts ticking then they decide to settle down with one of their many beta males that give them attention and validation. A man's prime is in his 30s and 40s. A woman's prime is in her 20s. So if she sleeps around a lot at that age she's considered low value and a sloot.
Honestly all the girls descriptions of what they think “bad boys” look like is why I think so many girls fall for them. They don’t look ratty and unkempt . A majority of the guys who fit the personality type of a “bad boy” tend to be the best dressed, most outgoing, and most seductive.
Like her Ambercrombie ex.
@Randy Ayala - Finance Wizard how tall are you?
@Randy Ayala - Finance Wizard sounds like you’re a high value man dude, glad to hear your happy
Well they 'can' be the bad boy because they can dress well and are seductive , otherwise even if you want to you can't be a bad boy 😂
Cause they don’t have to settle just for one when they got lots of girls hitting them up?
With all due respect , if you ask any girl about bad boy Vs good boy they'd say the same things that the girls in this video said , but in reality they'd end up with a bad boy
Their talk is the usual cosmetic nonsense. But since the desirable bad boys are perhaps only 5 percent of all men, most women do not end up with a bad boy. Instead they have to settle for loneliness or some poor guy they find less desirable. And that poor guy will often have to endure a lot of complaining.
I hear what you are saying and I understand. In my opinion, modern young females are confused, and just plain full of sh*t.
Here is something else to consider: When it comes to sex, I hear so many women complain that men only want to satisfy themselves, men just want a "quickie", men are too rough with them sexually, men want to dominate and control them sexually and won't let them initiate or take control sexually, along with many other complaints. THIS IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING LOVE WITH "BAD GUYS" AND NOT "NICE BOYS". If a man truly is a nice man or a good man, he will be kind, gentle, loving, caring, tender-hearted, benevolent, sensitive, and generous to you as a lover. He will care about pleasing you, as well as himself. He may even care MORE about your sexual needs and desires, than his. Unlike the "bad boy", who only wants to please himself, the "nice boy" will be more of a GIVER than a TAKER when it comes to sex. Here is a humorous riddle for everyone:
Q. Why do nice guys make better lovers?
A. Because nice guys "finish " last.
But all joking aside. THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
the moment you said bad boy she starts smiling like wow lol
@@Dasher49225 I don't see Vladimir Putin as a Love God though.
Fact# woman are more attracted to men who's feelings are unclear. The second a woman knows where she stands with you, you're done..
@@Dasher49225 lmao nice guys = weak men lol. My father is quite nice and extremely respectful and let me tell you he'll hand you your ass on a plater. You guys could learn a lot from the Europeans on how to be more respectful and nice on a day to day instead of dressing like youre ready for bed and acting like gangsters, the way some of you talk is appalling beyond belief. It's just a shame
Yup ,,,, And she's still thinking about him years later despite any long term relationship she currently involved in.
If I were her current boyfriend I would consider this a huge and, very serious RED FLAG.
@@jimtart4271 women are actually attracted to men with no feelings at all
So many women love to chase the bad boys when they’re young but settle down with a ‘nice guy’ who is a push over, and will provide and have her children, all the while lying to him about her past 🙄
Most girls that chase bad boys end up in a bodybag or shallow grave in the middle of the woods.
@@Rick_Cleland bruh your talking about ted bundy lmao
@@一-v7r 😏😏😏
@@Rick_Cleland no? most just end up cheated on.
@@boineelobats9143 I waited for that type of girl for awhile haven’t seen one of them yet hopefully I will find one I actually avoid every girl who enjoy bad behavior or tell me that I should be more fun because unlike them I take relationship seriously and I value manner and loyalty more than FKING entertainment
I've been a 'post bad boy chick repair service' too many times to admit~ sorry Courtney, this is not usually just a 'phase'.
It is not a phase, indeed. Courtney is going through a "phase" in which she tries to get the nice guys that stepped out of the hamster wheel to get back into it. That "phase" begins at age 30 and lasts until the end of her life.
Women cant get over the bad boy phase 😂
I hear what you are saying and I understand. In my opinion, modern young females are confused, and just plain full of sh*t.
Here is something else to consider: When it comes to sex, I hear so many women complain that men only want to satisfy themselves, men just want a "quickie", men are too rough with them sexually, men want to dominate and control them sexually and won't let them initiate or take control sexually, along with many other complaints. THIS IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING LOVE WITH "BAD GUYS" AND NOT "NICE BOYS". If a man truly is a nice man or a good man, he will be kind, gentle, loving, caring, tender-hearted, benevolent, sensitive, and generous to you as a lover. He will care about pleasing you, as well as himself. He may even care MORE about your sexual needs and desires, than his. Unlike the "bad boy", who only wants to please himself, the "nice boy" will be more of a GIVER than a TAKER when it comes to sex. Here is a humorous riddle for everyone:
Q. Why do nice guys make better lovers?
A. Because nice guys "finish " last.
But all joking aside. THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Tl:dr They will get ran through by Chad, but eventually she'll come around when they're done with her.
A woman's bad boy phase=getting ran through by the "chads" until they hit the wall in her mid 30s.
Brutal but true. Its so over 😂
More true than ever before. The only way out of the whole scam that women and society forced on us from birth is to never get married. Marriage is simply a way to perpetuate the power they have over us and that problem of them always getting what they want.
Try late 20s.
lmao love it
@@Cobe1976 you the GOAT! Right on point (27+)
This video is anouther reminder not to take advice about women from women. They will never admit what they actually think because it is so much out of the anel character that men have built about them.
When she suddenly wants you in your prime (35-60), dont accept her during her decline(past 28).
💀
? Decline and prime are usually going to be fluid...can the other person self-actualize what's going on?
@@troytalbot5746 he means the wall women tend to hit in their late 30’s early 40’s
😂
Well said.
Please Recognize that while the girl is taking her time "figuring out what she likes", chasing the bad Boys and hot guys exclusively, the nice guys and good guys, were invisible or at best friend zoned. The guy on the other hand does not have the option to take his time. He has to spend all his time meeting, in some cases, unattainable standards to even get a foot in the door. So don't blame the guy, when he finally achieves that status, for not settling for often jaded or entitled women that have already given their best years to someone else. To the men I say, Strive to be the best version of yourself financially and spiritually for yourself and not for a girl. Pursue your purpose and you will find they will pursue you.
@@christopherfaulkner8514 Bingo. I'm paraphrasing, but women don't give a sh*t about your struggles. They wait at the finish line and f*ck the winner.
And OP, who really cares to be the best version of themselves? Me, I don't care to be the best. That sounds like a colossal pain in the ass. I will work on myself until I'm satisfied. Period.
@@b-0220 They don’t f**k the winner, they sleep with the winner and f**k all the losers
@@b-0220 Agreed. I was simply stating to do what you do for yourself and not for a woman.
@@donnybrook8824 Lol, the tall ones, yes.
@@kyrk2112 Yep. And if being your best is anyone's thing, they want to get on the grind and whatever else, then best of luck.
I'm content just lying low. Life's hard enough.
3:02 "why intentionally try to be different than you are?"
Because it works.
All that to attract low quality women, miss me with that sh*t lol
Sorry Court, this is a common misconception preached by female dating coaches. Men with enough experience knows women will get with the bad boys but will saddle with a dutiful, nice guy.
What I was gonna say
yep, they may know logically that a bad boy is bad for them but they cant really change what they are attracted too. IMO its risk assessment, why risk getting married and losing everything when there is a good chance they are not attracted to you in the same way they are to men their type
i find it funny how you speak for all women and generalize them lol. in the video there were a few women who said they prefer a nice guy (btw, nice guy doesn't equal pushover or "beta") and why would they lie on camera? what reason do they have? also, it's true how most women in a relationship/marriage are with men that treat them well. nothing wrong with being a good partner to your woman
@@Nicolas-zq7cl They SAY this, but they don't do this. Courtney is asking the wrong questions. Instead of asking which kind of guy they want, she should be asking them to describe the last 5 guys they had sex with. Actions > Words.
@@Nicolas-zq7cl There are always exceptions to a "rule". I could be wrong but I believe that what most of the replies saying these girls are not being totally truthful are based on the majority not the exceptions. I think Javi is right in that the wrong question were being asked.
Fellas: don't ever take dating advice from a woman. The next time you are on a date with a woman...ask her what she expects of her man to bring to the relationship. She will rattle off 5 or 6 things with most of them being politically correct half truths. Most women will not truly tell you what they want for fear of appearing to be shallow. She expects an income higher than hers...ideally high 5 or low 6 figures (the average man makes 50k per year), driven because she will more than likely want more in the future, taller than her (more than likely 6 foot and over...which is 5% of the population) and at least an 8/10 because no woman is lower than an 7/10 and women rarely, if ever, will "date down". They are mostly chasing the guys in the top 10% with the other 90% of guys being virtually invisible to her. Then ask her what she thinks men want in a long term committed relationship and what does she have to offer. This will give you a good idea if she is wifey material or if she should be avoided like the plague. If she is willing to get on your team and is willing to be led, proceed ahead. No matter how attractive she may be, ALWAYS be ready to walk away. Respect and love yourself first and you will have a much better chance of finding a woman worthy of a key to your castle.
@ad izzle Virtually every stat out there would state otherwise.
I'm 5'6 and never had issues with getting a GF.
Right! Thank you! Like honestly! Never take advice from Women. Not even a Woman she do that either. Most women of the Modern Day are at the Status of a Concubine. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, check out Jason Black’s video called “Message to the Concubine Generation”.
Exactly my thoughts bro!!! Are we twins or something? Jokes aside... I just met a girl online and we were chatting and she was laughing at my jokes and anything really... but suddenly she was being rude to me... she was very beautiful. I just texted her "Thanks, I dodged a bullet." And then blocked her.
Good Riddance (Tobey maguire blink*)
How much experience do you actually have with dating
It kinda sucks that you can't love someone genuinely.
Right.
Romantic love is conditional. You can’t love your girlfriend/wife like you would your parents. That’s boring.
@@Gustavog74 that's a good way to put it
I AGREE. Love by its very nature SHOULD be unconditional. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY.
Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Gents... "be yourself" is the worst advice anybody could ever give you. With women you have to contantly be framing yourself to her as the top dog.
That would be the very definition of "simping."
For me, it would be pointless anyways. Cause if I bring her to my crib, she’ll see all my Marvel and DC Figure collection and that might be enough to turn her off lol.
@@visaman The objective is to improve yourself to be a better person. Don’t simply accept it if you’re less confident, not well dressed, no game etc. Make more money, get better hair cuts, buy some new cloths that fit well, etc so that you feel better about YOURSELF. Then women will come to you.
I hear what you are saying and I understand. In my opinion, modern young females are confused, and just plain full of sh*t. Nonetheless, I still say "be yourself" and to hell with what females think.
Here is something else to consider: When it comes to sex, I hear so many women complain that men only want to satisfy themselves, men just want a "quickie", men are too rough with them sexually, men want to dominate and control them sexually and won't let them initiate or take control sexually, along with many other complaints. THIS IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING LOVE WITH "BAD GUYS" AND NOT "NICE BOYS". If a man truly is a nice man or a good man, he will be kind, gentle, loving, caring, tender-hearted, benevolent, sensitive, and generous to you as a lover. He will care about pleasing you, as well as himself. He may even care MORE about your sexual needs and desires, than his. Unlike the "bad boy", who only wants to please himself, the "nice boy" will be more of a GIVER than a TAKER when it comes to sex. Here is a humorous riddle for everyone:
Q. Why do nice guys make better lovers?
A. Because nice guys "finish " last.
But all joking aside. THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
When I was a nice guy some years ago, I wouldn´t get any girls...and as you said - nice guy, not simp. Seemed to me I was always something like "second choice" - and as a quite good looking, funny and kind guy I couldn´t understand that. Than some time after I gave up with girls and stop caring about them at all, how they see me and what they think, sometimes I even treated them badly, but guess what? Girls started showing interest...
I hear what you are saying and I understand. In my opinion, modern young females are confused, and just plain full of sh*t.
Here is something else to consider: When it comes to sex, I hear so many women complain that men only want to satisfy themselves, men just want a "quickie", men are too rough with them sexually, men want to dominate and control them sexually and won't let them initiate or take control sexually, along with many other complaints. THIS IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING LOVE WITH "BAD GUYS" AND NOT "NICE BOYS". If a man truly is a nice man or a good man, he will be kind, gentle, loving, caring, tender-hearted, benevolent, sensitive, and generous to you as a lover. He will care about pleasing you, as well as himself. He may even care MORE about your sexual needs and desires, than his. Unlike the "bad boy", who only wants to please himself, the "nice boy" will be more of a GIVER than a TAKER when it comes to sex. Here is a humorous riddle for everyone:
Q. Why do nice guys make better lovers?
A. Because nice guys "finish " last.
But all joking aside. THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
A hybrid of both, is a well balanced meal. Don't chase let her find you. Most importantly, be yourself lads. 👍🏽
I agree, this is optimal. Understanding a woman's innate desires for emotional stimulation will help any nice guy. Along with confidence which occurs when men are comfortable with who they are over time, and their faith in themselves in their ability to handle and deal with life.
I agree. Be yourself, follow your own heart, and don't be directed by others. And don't chase her, let her find you. Here is something else to consider: If life is seen as an endurance trial, rather than a sprint, rather than "finishing last" (as nice guys are said to do) is a good thing.
Here is something else to consider: When it comes to sex, I hear so many women complain that men only want to satisfy themselves, men just want a "quickie", men are too rough with them sexually, men want to dominate and control them sexually and won't let them initiate or take control sexually, along with many other complaints. THIS IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING LOVE WITH "BAD GUYS" AND NOT "NICE BOYS". If a man truly is a nice man or a good man, he will be kind, gentle, loving, caring, tender-hearted, benevolent, sensitive, and generous to you as a lover. He will care about pleasing you, as well as himself. He may even care MORE about your sexual needs and desires, than his. Unlike the "bad boy", who only wants to please himself, the "nice boy" will be more of a GIVER than a TAKER when it comes to sex. Here is a humorous riddle for everyone:
Q. Why do nice guys make better lovers?
A. Because nice guys "finish " last.
But all joking aside. THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
That's what a dad is for. Teaching their daughter what to look for... and why.. and what to avoid .. and why... and not by telling them by words like "daughter you need to take a good guy because he's good to you and the bad guy won't" .. but by showing them by how they interact with their mother and other women when out of home. They're supposed to make their daughters think like "i want a husband who treats me like my dad treats my mother ...and nothing else".. but yes.. also by having conversations with their daughters about their future and stuff
THAT is the role a father has to fulfill (and only a male father can do that!) as a parent. If he's a dickhead.. or if he's just not there .. for whatever reason.. girls will "need to get it out of their system" and this will most likely lessen their chance for a real good guy.. not because of the "number" itself but by the psychological traits the girl will develop during that time.
Yes, fathers should "teach" daughters what a man should treat them, but also "teach" their sons how to treat a woman, which I think is equally important. Fathers and mothers should show their children how to treat the other, and how to be treated.
My parents divorced when I was 15, up until the age of 12/13 I wanted to be like my father, but at one point I started realizing how bad of a person he was. As time passed I started realizing he was never really a good father figure and know I know that I don't want to be like him. The thing is I know what's wrong and what NOT TO do, but I still don't know what TO do...
Of course someone (there's unfortunately always a person like that) could just say "Well do the opposite" but that doesn't help the situation at all... So young people like me turn to internet and see people like Alpha m. and others like him. And some people take some of their advice too seriously and become "bad boys".
@@kikibrnadic8788 I didn't say anything that denies your point. At all.
I was saying: Dads are supposed to teach their daughters how to choose a good man for herself(amongst other things..)
EVERYTHING ELSE is an EXTENSION to this.. and especially teaching their sons how to be a good man is the exact opposite equivalent to that.
Of course there will be plenty of fathers NOT teaching their sons how to be a good man.. but another fathers job is teaching their girls how to filter those out.. there is no such thing as a perfect world... and there will never be EVER
...and of course to be able to fulfill this job position.. the dad needs to be a good man himself.. but do i REALLY need to write that out?
I agree with this but unfortunately a lot of people suffer from parent issues and not getting taught things that needs to be teached
Girl's opinions like we see in this video and their actions on this topic are epitomized by the statement I have heard many many times from women, "why can't I ever meet nice guys?" They say they want one thing but when it comes to attraction and going out with guys, its a totally different story. Most grow out of this at some point but all the same, dating for nice guys in their 20s totally sucks. This time factor attributes to the cliché "nice guys finish last".
They don't know what they want. No logic whatsoever.
No man they know what they want and this to be nice is not what they want. But most nice guys aren't they nice. They just nice thing to sneaky into girls pants. Some of girl are b*chy and they have to be treated bad. Some of girls are normal. But if you have no game your f*cked.
@@guitarchris4775 I don't agree at all. I have known tons of nice guys and their goal isn't to get in to girls pants, it is to create a relationship. Also- from my experience, any guy that talks about "game" is normally not a nice guy and speaks of game as a way to get in to girls pants.
But anyway, to repeat my point in plain English, the type of guys girls say that they want and the type they actually date are basically opposite, especially when they are younger.
This video is getting a lot of comments like mine because the women being interviewed sound exactly like all women. Courtney admits she dated at least one bad guy when she was younger and I bet you she would have said she wanted a nice guy before, during and after that experience. The trick is discovering when it became the truth, as is also the case with the women she is interviewing.
@@charlessaftner4208 Yes you right. But we know the true and the things never change it doesn't matter that exposed to the world. The game is just a tricks and flirty thing to help with girls. This is help with all girls. Of course there's more that one factor than game. Look money status. Every guy has to have a basic skill with girls. I think more man have to focus on what they respond rather that they has say. Because they try to make herself saint, but they don't. I don't judge girls for then chooses, im focus to find a girl that attracted to me and it depends girlfriend or just F buddy to me. 😉
Nice guys finish in divorce court. Bad Boys finish on her face.
Don't ask fish for advice on catching fish, ask a fisherman.
Humans aren’t fish, dating isn’t hunting.
@@askurgirlaboutmee you obviously didn't get it
@@satoru9119 I did get it but it’s a horrible analogy.
@@askurgirlaboutmee Snow flake
@@ahmeTX005 Oooh
At the end of the day a bad boy/alpha/player type of guy will still attract the attention of 80% of the women out there and this is factual. Attraction is not a choice. The nice guy will be moved to the friend zone zone faster than it takes to read this. Not judging just accepting things as they are. Now if you're a smart nice guy you'll learn to embody some of the traits of the bad boy your and then you'll have choices. How I know this? Personal experience :)
This is a good video, however I believe that these women are similar to your personality and mindset so when you ask them questions if feels like they are just agreeing to fit the narrative of the question. I would try finding girls that are much different than you and ask these questions and let them respond organically without leading the conversation. This may present more deeper conversations especially if they think differently than you.
Was looking for a comment like this. I appreciate the videos these girls have done, but it’s past time for Courtney to interview other women. We’ve seen these women so much, we almost already know what they will say before saying it. Not to mention, they’re very much like Courtney and we see a complete hegemony of thought. Would love to see a more thought diverse panel of women.
Sometimes girls don't understand what they actually want. Don't ask the fish what they fall for, ask the fisherman.
Wow did you come up with that one yesterday? Original
Yea,but in case you hadn't noticed women aren't fish
They know they wont admit it
@@danaililiev1404 sadly they actually don't, they try to articulate but they can't reach the root, they talk a lot about how something made them feel something, they cannot understand why, unless they do years of psychology, even then there would be endless denials
Like one of those dumbass "Live Laugh Love" quotes in the bathroom
Tom Leykis says females want to have fun with the bad boy but then settle down with the nice guy who will be expected to pay for everything going forward......
I wish I could believe chasing the "Bad boy" was just a phase, but I've not seen evidence of it being the case.
I hear what you are saying and I understand. In my opinion, modern young females are confused, and just plain full of sh*t.
Here is something else to consider: When it comes to sex, I hear so many women complain that men only want to satisfy themselves, men just want a "quickie", men are too rough with them sexually, men want to dominate and control them sexually and won't let them initiate or take control sexually, along with many other complaints. THIS IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING LOVE WITH "BAD GUYS" AND NOT "NICE BOYS". If a man truly is a nice man or a good man, he will be kind, gentle, loving, caring, tender-hearted, benevolent, sensitive, and generous to you as a lover. He will care about pleasing you, as well as himself. He may even care MORE about your sexual needs and desires, than his. Unlike the "bad boy", who only wants to please himself, the "nice boy" will be more of a GIVER than a TAKER when it comes to sex. Here is a humorous riddle for everyone:
Q. Why do nice guys make better lovers?
A. Because nice guys "finish " last.
But all joking aside. THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Guys, focus on your career and have your fun, be the bad boy 'cause honestly, women only look for the nice guy when they're in their 30s and have no other options, then you can decide if you give em a chance to settle with you
FACTS 💯💯💯💊
back pilled
Now that, I truly understand the method of the Bad boy vs Nice guy dynamic.
i dunno honestly this sounds sad
If you're genuinely a nice guy, you can't pretend to be a "bad boy" effectively. Your good character will always take the lead over your temporary want to look "more desirable" to others. I've always been happy to be seen as a nice guy!
Thats why you need to learn game don't be fool and stay like this
I understand you Jason. I am and always been a "nice guy", the type everyone would be happy to be friend be, but it's still frustrating to be dumped by girls after just a couple of dates, always for no reason evident to me... So i don't really know what to do 🤔
Then continue to be a free meal ticket for chicks who won't sleep with you, ever.
-@@giovanniquargentan6198- u can be nice just not tooo nice. It`s okay to want the girl but as soon as u need them for some kind of validation, etc. they lose interest-needy vibe- u good with or without them. also don`t be afraid to genuinely disagree with them if u do. females like to experience both good and negative emotions so don`t feel u always have to be on your best behavior being so agreeable and have the power to walk away if she is disrespectful or not too interested after a while.
Shows u have self-respect, an abundance mindset and not willing to take crap. Don`t be afraid to tease and be playful with them either. They like when your compelling not knowing what to expect from u here and there instead of the same routine which can be boring for anyone esp. females who like to experience different emotions. Why they tend to like an edgier guy. Experiment and find what works for u and what u want in a girl.
@@giovanniquargentan6198 Find your purpose & focus on that. The paradox is that if you care less about them and focus on what your mission in life, they will care more about you. They are wired to want confident guys who are valued and respected by their peers & get stuff done. The more you focus that that, the more they will come to you. You develop an abundance mindset. Don’t tolerate BS, and you continue to become more attractive as you grow in your awareness of self and purpose.
"Now that I've grown out of that and I know what I deserve..." Sorry, what you think you deserve after making your mistakes is vastly different than what your "nice guy" thinks you are worth. Guys with high value have options. The narrative to young girls needs to change. They are getting told to be independent and enjoy life (sleep around if you want) while they're in their early 20's. Unfortunately, this hugely de-values a woman's worth. If you want to get the good guy, you need to start valuing what the good guys value, and bring that to the table.
*Epic profile photo man... I need to read book 4 soon myself.*
Only insecure guys care that a woman sleeps around. They worry their size or performance isn't up to par with her previous lovers. Somehow they think shaming a woman into being a prude will benefit them. Statements like "this hugely de-values a woman's worth" is exactly the sort of shit that leads to women lying and being deceptive since they know some guys with that attitude can try to hurt them physically or hurt their reputations. Women will sleep with guys they want no matter this "de-values" bs. And the odds are quite high that even the first couple guys she slept with already gave her a feeling you never will. The dots you aren't connecting is that a woman who only focuses on riding the cock carousel throughout her 20s will find her choices diminishing due to age - not experience as concerned by any real man.
@@00dfm00 all guys care about body count a some are just honest
@@00dfm00 nothing to do with insecurity. Speaks to her character. Sex used to be special. Something that bonded people together. Our society has turned it into a business transaction. I’m advocating for women to place more value there. It benefits them in the long run. Women who have 4 or more partners (+\-) lose the ability to have sex mean anything in the way of bonding. Women want to be valued? Then stop giving away something that makes them more valuable. Take a poll from the guys out there looking for a wife /LTR: you want to be with a virgin or one that’s run the “cock carousel”?
@@00dfm00 *Yup, shame, insults, guilt and the need to be right... the M.O. of those who don't want to admit the truth. Blame the man.*
It's not that sometimes "girls through a stage", it's that women are always in an unknown "stage"
that stage is 'I'll take what I can get' stage.
Hilarious!!! You all admitted to having a bad boy but proclaim you're not interested in them. Guys like bad girls and know what they are good for but certainly don't want to marry one. You're no different with bad boys. Stick with fashion, you're a lot better at it.
She was 16 mate she made this clear. Bad boy attracts women but either younger and in experienced or emotional issues. Being a nice guy and being a doormat are two different things. A nice guy with confidence and high self esteem will beat a bad boy any day
Girls can say it all the time yes I want a "good guy" but are only going to date a Chad for the rush the chance to be the one that can change him but in the end will regret doing it when they are 30yrs old and a single mother wishing that they went out with Sam instead who has a good paying job, a house, and a 25yr old girlfriend now
“Nice guys” are definitely not the ones who get the girl(s).
In fact, I’ve upped my attraction to women greatly since being far less nice than I was in the past.
Let’s cut the crap. I’ve been experimenting this myself. When I treated a girl like trash or ignored her on purpose, the probability of she falling for me increased drastically. She would ask me to hug her; she would put her head on my shoulder when sitting next to me; she would mostly say yes when I asked for sex etc. None of these ever happened when I treated a girl like a princess or a sensitive human being.
Although I was always a good actor, I am a still a nice guy at heart. I never took advantage of any girl. Once she agreed to have to sex with me, I would stop contacting her immediately because I knew exactly why she would be interested, and I found that disgusting.
THIS. I hate that this is true . We just can't be happy if we be ourselves . It's saddening . I'm such a nice guy at heart but Ive learned to turn that switch off when I'm dealing with relationships . It's awful but it works like 99% of the time
@@ARSHXVNbro that ain’t right mane you can’t pretend for ur life you gotta find a real queen but they’re mostly in foreighn non wester countries
I never understood the "go through bad relationships to learn what you want" argument....like...isn't obvious that bad people need to be avoided?
I hear what you are saying and I understand. In my opinion, modern young females are confused, and just plain full of sh*t. They should go for what they want early on.
Here is something else to consider: When it comes to sex, I hear so many women complain that men only want to satisfy themselves, men just want a "quickie", men are too rough with them sexually, men want to dominate and control them sexually and won't let them initiate or take control sexually, along with many other complaints. THIS IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING LOVE WITH "BAD GUYS" AND NOT "NICE BOYS". If a man truly is a nice man or a good man, he will be kind, gentle, loving, caring, tender-hearted, benevolent, sensitive, and generous to you as a lover. He will care about pleasing you, as well as himself. He may even care MORE about your sexual needs and desires, than his. Unlike the "bad boy", who only wants to please himself, the "nice boy" will be more of a GIVER than a TAKER when it comes to sex. Here is a humorous riddle for everyone:
Q. Why do nice guys make better lovers?
A. Because nice guys "finish " last.
But all joking aside. THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
You need to get some different women talking, because these women are dishonest as hell. They want to present themselves in a good way, so they're lying about their attitudes towards bad boys.
Most women prefer to lie for the same reason most women use cosmetics - to improve appearance and hide less flattering traits. So I doubt it will be easy to find honest women. Maybe some old women would be really honest because they don’t need to pretend?
To be fair, Courtney is leading them.so they wind up agreeing with her. Willing to be if you asked them non leading questions, you would get different answers.
I wonder how many women dated one or two "Bad Boys" and decided that this phase is over. I could imagine that the percentage is really low. The actual number of dated "Bad Boys" is possibly much higher than one or two.
From what I can conclude from this video, they admitted
Nice guys finish last..
Men want to be a woman's first, women want to be a man's last. Ultimately, my philosophy is not to make someone a priority, who sees you as just an option. Men with self respect don't wait around in the friend zone. "nice guys" act a certain way until they get what they want. What you want is a "good guy"
I hear what you are saying and I understand. Men with self-respect (nice boy or bad boy) don't wait around because life is too short. In my opinion, modern young females are confused, and just plain full of sh*t.
Here is something else to consider: When it comes to sex, I hear so many women complain that men only want to satisfy themselves, men just want a "quickie", men are too rough with them sexually, men want to dominate and control them sexually and won't let them initiate or take control sexually, along with many other complaints. THIS IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING LOVE WITH "BAD GUYS" AND NOT "NICE BOYS". If a man truly is a nice man or a good man, he will be kind, gentle, loving, caring, tender-hearted, benevolent, sensitive, and generous to you as a lover. He will care about pleasing you, as well as himself. He may even care MORE about your sexual needs and desires, than his. Unlike the "bad boy", who only wants to please himself, the "nice boy" will be more of a GIVER than a TAKER when it comes to sex. Here is a humorous riddle for everyone:
Q. Why do nice guys make better lovers?
A. Because nice guys "finish " last.
But all joking aside. THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
courtney you basically reinforced the whole nice guy finishes last thing because you said “all the women who you know are married to nice guys” 💀
Women are able to fake their interest level when they get married. That’s messed up because a guy would never marry if he’s not interested.
With this in mind, nice guys really do finish last. In this case, that's a good thing, IF MARRIAGE IS YOUR GOAL. Here is something else to consider: When it comes to sex, I hear so many women complain that men only want to satisfy themselves, men just want a "quickie", men are too rough with them sexually, men want to dominate and control them sexually and won't let them initiate or take control sexually, along with many other complaints. THIS IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING LOVE WITH "BAD GUYS" AND NOT "NICE BOYS". If a man truly is a nice man or a good man, he will be kind, gentle, loving, caring, tender-hearted, benevolent, sensitive, and generous to you as a lover. He will care about pleasing you, as well as himself. He may even care MORE about your sexual needs and desires, than his. Unlike the "bad boy", who only wants to please himself, the "nice boy" will be more of a GIVER than a TAKER when it comes to sex. Here is a humorous riddle for everyone:
Q. Why do nice guys make better lovers?
A. Because nice guys "finish " last.
But all joking aside. THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Judging from a quick review of a few dozen comments, it is clear that the viewers know more than the narrator.
This channel has been going downhill with bluepill BS, sorry to say.
If its a woman giving advice to guys about women it will always be blue pill bs.
The like to dislike video says otherwise. Just the red pill incels flooding the comments. I thing more.
Men, remember that being nice is not enough! Don’t be boring. Be interesting. Bring value to her life. And expect the same from her.
This is good, put value into yourself and others will see it. It's a shame that we always go into relationships selfishly wanting things from others. When most relationships that work long term are based more off selflessness. But I will admit this is rare!
Keep adding value to yourself, keep learning and don't be discouraged. :)
Yeah, no. No, I don't think I will.
Exactly! Nice guy is not a good term, in my opinion. From what I can tell, bad boys are often all very similar. If you are a genuinely interesting and passionate person, you will attract attention. Strive to be the interesting guy, have hobbies. Don't try to be the bad boy. If girls still want bad boys, then at least you still have your life together and know yourself well.
Shut up Nico XDDDDD why always a guy has to be interesting? While 90% of modern women do nothing but scrolling TikTok 😆
Get out with this bullshit. You have to attract us as well :) and I don't mean by any sexual vibe or something because I can always get that for 100$ whenever I want to
You get her when she's fat, ran through, and everything's sagging. Oh and has the bad boy's kids! Yeah you really "win in the end"....hahahahahaha!!!!!!
Nice guys be getting cheated on with the "bad boys" 😅
There's a time and place to be both "bad" and "nice", you just have to find that balance.
Just look how they smile when they talk about the bad guys
Women only care about a guy’s looks.
@@Gustavog74 height, money, status and looks
@@gerardoa9179 just height and looks. Women get their own money and have status. They rather put up with a guy who’s good looking and makes 30k than an unattractive guy who makes 100k. Good looking guys are rare so they want what they can’t have. Good looking guys are more rarer than millionaires.
I have to disagree with you on this one Courtney. As a former nice guy, I had zero luck and was friend-zoned more times than I care to admit. I put out the Bad Boy vibe and it made a big difference in my interactions and outcomes with women. I may still be a nice guy once someone gets to know me but I never allow that perception at the beginning. The dark, mysterious, I don't give a F attitude is like a magnet.
Any luck bro like getting attention from girls more or sex stuff or did you learn game ??
@@subhajitmondal525 Most of it was just not giving a F. Read Mark Manson's book. I made myself the priority. I gave myself options. Game knowledge helped however It wasn't everything. Perseverance and trial and error were what made the difference.
I wish I could become that bad boy who doesn't give a F whether he gets this girl or not. But I just can't become something I'm not. Wish I could. You did it right by making that change. You're getting laid, and I'm not. Plain and simple.
@@karickbend6509 The whole " nonchalant bad boy " mentality is bullsh*t, plain and simple. The words " nice guy " has been warped into something baseless and perverted.
Really to be honest broski, when I think about it now, anytime someone says that some women like " bad boys ", all that goes through my mind is that these type of women are attracted to carbon copies of Ganondorf/Demise, Raven Beak (Metroid Dread), and Ghirahim from The Legend of Zelda: Skyward Sword. Just look em' up and see how their personalities are and you'll see EXACTLY what I mean, and if it isn't already obvious, they're villains. I'm sorry, but I ain't about to gain a superficial and apathetic personality just to please a woman that's only lookin' for monogamy and meaningless mingling.
_Nice guys finish last_ , F*** that bullsh*tty psychobabble (not saying that you said that, because you obviously didn't, I'm just addressing a glaring stigmatization issue in society). I'd rather be the LAST man standing instead of making a FIRST mistake to get involved in a toxic relationship. Ain't nobody got time to be pussyfootin' around and shuckin' and jivin', wasting valuable time on fruitless and desert land relationships. I've never been in a relationship, I've never been on a date, and I've never had my first kiss dawg, but regardless of that, even I know that you've got to tread VERY carefully when steppin' into the dating scene, it's a bleakin' minefield mate.
I mean for Christ's sake, it's that same apathetic mentality that further encourages certain women (directly or indirectly, depending on the situation) to further avoid guys that genuinely respect women. Listen to this, " _Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you_ ". In other words, " Treat people the way you want to be treated ". I don't want a woman that wouldn't give a flyin' f*ck about me, I want a woman that genuinely cares and loves me for who I am and for loving her and respecting her with all my heart, soul, mind and body.
I mean no disrespect when I say any of this dawg, I'm bein' real wit' you, it's just that the very notion that you have to live a nonchalant and haphazardly happy-go-lucky lifestyle in order to attract women is just ludicrously asinine man. If I'm missing something, or if I'm misunderstanding your entire comment, then please, with all due respect, make the necessary corrections so that I can be sure that I'm not just graspin' at straws here. I'd be glad to have a (civil and level) conversation with you about this.
@@Enigmaculate, I'll pass thank you. You obviously have your opinions and that's fine and I respect that but it does not mean I agree. It's not my job to try and dissuade or convince you otherwise. I just know my history and what has worked and what has not. There is a saying, perhaps you've heard it, "Before you judge a man try walking a mile in his shoes".
Usually agree with Courtney's advice, but gotta agree with the many in here that this one actually puts on display the disconnect between what women claim they want and the traits men "who just get it" have: alpha leading, so much respect they don't put up with non-submission, and the ability to create genuine desire. This seemed pretty dismissive of the raw attraction many women feel due to the indifference of a bad boy.
Women only care about a guy’s looks.
Lol I dated a girl and when I was a “nice guy” and she friend zoned me. 2 years later and I run into her at a bar and ignore her for other females..she slides into my DMs “omg you’re so different!” “You’re a player now huh!?” Blah blah blah. Long story short we hook up about a month later I was clear I didn’t want a relationship and then she still kept clinging on. Wtf lol? Girls are a trip. It’s like a cat and mouse game for them. She only likes me now cause she know I have other options smh
Seems like what you are saying is: "I want a guy with the potential to be bad, but the maturity to be nice."
You definitely don't want a guy who is nice because he has no other option.
So this entire video was a pointless game of semantics, redefining the "nice guy".
Do you want a bad car or a nice car? Of course you want the nice car. The real question is: Can you afford it?
When the ideal modern man is independent socially, financially and emotionally, then what does the modern woman bring to the table?
@beta153100 you are sounding bitter and entitled. Have you considered you're not that nice after all?
@@peterpwn9558 Maybe he was nice and now is BADass
This is far from reality 😕. Both of them said they like nice guys but I bet both of them dating bad boys. No offence and no problems with thier choice. Just putting out my thoughts.
well I love how people say girls are more mature but aren't good at choosing tho :D
Well said!
LOL Come on Courtney, what you said starting around 2:45.....she is totally settling for the "nice guy" or "good guy" at that point. She had her fun with the "bad boys" and now she is wanting something safe and secure cause time is running out. She is going for the guy that is "SAFE"
I hear what you are saying and I understand. In my opinion, modern young females are confused, and just plain full of sh*t.
Here is something else to consider: When it comes to sex, I hear so many women complain that men only want to satisfy themselves, men just want a "quickie", men are too rough with them sexually, men want to dominate and control them sexually and won't let them initiate or take control sexually, along with many other complaints. THIS IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING LOVE WITH "BAD GUYS" AND NOT "NICE BOYS". If a man truly is a nice man or a good man, he will be kind, gentle, loving, caring, tender-hearted, benevolent, sensitive, and generous to you as a lover. He will care about pleasing you, as well as himself. He may even care MORE about your sexual needs and desires, than his. Unlike the "bad boy", who only wants to please himself, the "nice boy" will be more of a GIVER than a TAKER when it comes to sex. Here is a humorous riddle for everyone:
Q. Why do nice guys make better lovers?
A. Because nice guys "finish " last.
But all joking aside. THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Alright. I'm going to tell you what I hear when you say 'we went through a bad boy phase'.
What I hear is 'I had no vision for the type of relationship I wanted, I dated purely on biological instinct, then when it didn't work, I learned a couple of things about what it takes to make a relationship work, I went for the guy who could do those things and now, I have a working transaction. It's not quite what I wanted, i.e. I settled, but such is life. You can't get everything in one person'.
I see no evaluation for compatibility in this conversation. Which means that you didn't learn the main life-lessons from dating a bad boy, which is, to not be a codependent/doormat and to be in your truth. Did you take a break from dating and find yourself? Cuz that's what you have to do if you want to recover from the experience of dating a narcissist. And, one final question - what did you do differently to make things work with the nice guy, how did you convince him to stick around? Because someone who truly sees his self-worth had better be sure that he's dealing with a compatible woman.
good commnet i also wonder wyh so many women fall for it and dont share their negatibes experiences
Bad boys are just for the bedroom, nice guys are for boyfriend and marriage material, if you just want only good times on women, go bad boy, but if you want meaningful and lasting relationships, go nice guys, each have its own advantages, though personally I'm on the nice guy side, but I'd like to call it good guys🇵🇭
I love how this is written like the description on a character select screen. I'm over trying to decide if I should go melee or caster.
I would like to go bad boy, but i`m afraid i tend to be nice most of the times :c
@@Agaroth3010 then it just means you know what kind of girl to attract or to go for man
@@Agaroth3010 you go bad boy when you get a muscular chest and arms. Women only care about a guy’s looks.
I feel there's a difference between a "nice guy" who can also be considered a "Simp", but the nice guy Courtney advocates for is more of a "good guy" definition.
Definitely!
There was also video about this on this channel.
Yeah the typical nice guy that we associate with tends to be a bit more toxic. I believe she is talking about (like you said,) a good guy.
100% agree
Look up Sigma male for more on the good guy vs simp. It was really eye opening for me.
What girls say is different from what they do. Girls just was excitement and if they haven't had any in some time, and if they have had excitement for a while they maybe calm down for a bit. Example: Will Smith's wife.
Majority of the women I knew who went through the Bad Boy phase are single mothers. I will never be around them ever again. Back when I was younger I dated a couple of them and it turned out horrible. The relationship went bad in weeks because they keep talking about their exes comparing me to them and sex was no longer fun. The kids became a problem because they have a hard time bonding with you or with them. Next is financial. Both of them were in dire straights when it comes to income. Both wanted me to foot their bills. Both women came into my life after my first divorce which I lost everything the first time. After that when I was dating again I always slipped in a question of "So do you like kids?" and watch their reaction. After my second divorce with a woman with no kids but also with an average job working at a supermarket also let me down from her own Bad Boy experience. She drained my bank account and I filed for divorce again. All done by the time I was 23 years old. Honestly I just have bad luck till this day.
The “nice guys” that guys are unintentionally talking about are guys that will bend over backwards to agree with everything and not have a personality of their own. Making them a yes man and a pushover that’s not mentally stimulating to talk to.
The “nice guys” girls are unintentionally talking about are confident caring men that have their own interests but are genuinely interested and considerate of the interests of the woman and are able to have playful banter.
This is why “bad boys” do well they have most of the traits of a “good guy” from
The girls standpoint EXCEPT the ability to care about the interests of the woman. Making them fun to be with but overtime mentally and emotionally destructive.
You probably the only comment here that able to see the obvious truth lol.
Whats your age and profession or at least what kind of habits you do make you think this clearly and accurately? You are very smart incase nobody told you.
Some girls never get out of that bad boy stage even after they go through a lot of shit. I've found it's their own issues that has kept them in this stage, and I'm talking about girls into their 30's and beyond. It's sad and those are the type who end up damaged goods. Single mothers, a broken heart that will never heal, will never trust, but it's their own fault when it comes down to it because they don't change themselves. And the bad boy can be clean cut but still have a noticeable edge that put him in this category. He can be well spoken, a gentleman in the correct circumstances, and have the charisma of a professional con artist. And you ladies will continue to fall for it.
I hear what you are saying and I understand. In my opinion, modern young females are confused, and just plain full of sh*t. They don't know how to practice good judgment. And it is their own damn fault.
Here is something else to consider: When it comes to sex, I hear so many women complain that men only want to satisfy themselves, men just want a "quickie", men are too rough with them sexually, men want to dominate and control them sexually and won't let them initiate or take control sexually, along with many other complaints. THIS IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING LOVE WITH "BAD GUYS" AND NOT "NICE BOYS". If a man truly is a nice man or a good man, he will be kind, gentle, loving, caring, tender-hearted, benevolent, sensitive, and generous to you as a lover. He will care about pleasing you, as well as himself. He may even care MORE about your sexual needs and desires, than his. Unlike the "bad boy", who only wants to please himself, the "nice boy" will be more of a GIVER than a TAKER when it comes to sex. Here is a humorous riddle for everyone:
Q. Why do nice guys make better lovers?
A. Because nice guys "finish " last.
But all joking aside. THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I think the "bad boy vs. nice guy" dichotomy reveals some uncomfortable truths about female psychology, so it's hardly surprising that women have been trying so hard to deny it. Consider the popularity of movies like "50 Shades of Grey", in which the object of the female audience's adoration is a manipulative, emotionally abusive, and sadistic stalker. Consider romance novels, where the most popular theme centers around the manipulation and eventual sexual domination of the female character. Why is rape the most common sexual fantasy among women? Feminists like Naomi Wolf predictably blame it on "patriarchal oppression", but they don't deny that women are in fact sexually attracted to abusive men. A Canadian porn author once commented on this, saying that to gain an insight into female psychology, one has only to notice how often the writers of BDSM fantasies are themselves women. Perhaps this "bad boy" attraction is some kind of evolutionary artifact from a time when the reproductive strategy favored by "alpha males" amounted to domination and rape, while males who didn't share this propensity failed to pass on their genes. Whatever the reason, it's undeniably still present in one form or another, and despite popular denials from women, every man knows it.
The moment I became selfish and cruel to women the moment women started to reward me with attention and sex.
Women these days reject even good men who aren't simps,no matter what they say,pay attention to their actions and the men they are sleeping with.
You are just maturing and exploring polarity, in the past you used to shun down your beastly side and it hid in your unconscious, now you are exploring it, eventually both your beast and saint side will have union. Its part of maturing as a man.
No disrespect, but I don’t buy it. I don’t think these ladies are being truly honest with themselves. Many of the girls I know say they want a “nice guy”, but they end up falling for a “bad boy”.
Maybe it should have been “hot, arousing, independent guys” vs “attractive, dependable, supportive guys”... I loved the sly smile and sparkle in the eyes when bad boys was mentioned. 😏
They say they want a nice guy "100%", but their eyes light up w/ "bad boy". It's easy to observe in the convo: bad boy was impressionable (couldn't stop talking about them), while the nice guys... Nothing specific to say; just Nice. We're more than that, if women didn't just settle, but were passionate in making a relationship work. But they aren't. I'd love a LTR, even to get married someday, but what's the point when her "bad boy" is only a phone call away? Nice guys fully understand the situation, we're supposed to support, protect, & maintain her & the relationship; while women have the option to make a "mistake" whenever she's feeling frisky. Because "nice guys" are supposedly easy to manipulate, bad boys aren't. We just want honesty. Claiming women want nice guys, while nice guys see overwhelming evidence to the contrary, makes it seem like there's some hidden agenda here. Literally, where are all these emotionally secure, kind-hearted, monogamous women? Where?...
Yes being a "dick" to women actually works! Never text more than her, once she knows she can't be with you whenever, you have a better chance with her. It's crazy!
It's not because some girl is only used to " chaos" or has "issues within herself" or some confusing hippie crap like that. It's simply that bad boys give girls emotional experiences that nice guys don't. It really is like a musical instrument where nice guys only play the same 3 boring notes, hitting the same sugary sweet emotions, after awhile your palette is over saturated with sugar you can't even taste it. The bad boy will snatch that guitar and play all the loud clashing notes all the other guys are afraid to play and feed the girl a smorgasbord of emotional flavors from sugar love to salty hate, and these polar opposite emotional experiences leaves the girl obsessively craving love in times of hate and hate in times of love to go back to craving love again like a cracked out addict. It's the same reason ppl watch movies. No one ever watches a movie with all highs and no lows. It's a microcosm of life, no one appreciates the highs without the lows, unfortunately the nice guys only give the highs until the girl's nose is through the ceiling, while the bad boys have learned to rig the system of giving the girls just enough highs, then taking them away to get them BEGGING for more. They sell a drug of emotions. They are a bunch of dope dealers, dealing a dope only found in relationships.
If each cornel of popcorn was huge and not so small and thin, do you think you'd still go through 3 bags in one sitting? He fed you a cornel of hope and made you crave an outcome never coming, that this guy , who doesn't love ypu, will love you one day, one thing a woman will work her whole life to obtain, unrequited love, the most valuable. And that's not because of she desires chaos or whatever, but because of that void that everyone has that says they are missing something and if they just get this one thing they deem so valuable , in this case unrequited love, then they will be whole. Nice guys give the love and she leaves them, bad boys give the love and take it away before she can think about leaving.
I've tried to live my life by being kind, generous, friendly, trustworthy, and honest (almost to a fault). My success with women, however, has been very very limited. And I'm in my 60's now. I'm always myself, cause I don't know how to be anything else. The problem with being a "nice guy" is I'm not bold, confident, or pushy enough to go after who or what I want. The "bad boys" out there are very forward, show confidence (even if they're not), and have a I don't care attitude. Let's be real here - that's what gets women - not the shy nice guy approach. I have a bunch of girl friends, but no girlfriend, if you know what I mean. Women tell me all the time that I'm a nice guy, that I'll find someone, that I deserve a good woman. Funny thing, though. NONE of these women have ever gone out with me, hint that they would be interested, or set me up with anyone. I'm a nice guy - as long as they don't have to date me. Ok, then!
I don't have a pickup line, I'm not particularly good looking, and I can't pretend not to care what people think of me. I really do have a lot of love to give, but no one to give it to. I'm at a loss. I'm what women are "supposed to" want - nice, funny, caring, sincere, honest. But it doesn't translate into getting women. And I'm not talking about getting laid. I want a companion. Someone to enjoy things with. But It's kind of ironic - the one person who would be 100% faithful to whoever I was with, is the one guy that has no chance of getting married. I wuld never cheat. I think it's so wrong, so hurtful to women. But guys like me are boring to women. I'm not wild, crazy, carefree, risky. I wish I could be want women are attracted to. But I'm not. Never have been. Probably never will be. And let me be clear - I'm not blaming women. It's all my fault. I'm not complaining for being rejected. I just know that whatever I have inside me isn't enough. I don't know why, but it's a fact. Life is all about love - you know it, and I know it. And there's been almost none in the majority of my life. My heart hurts. I'm a great person, but it doesn't seem to matter. Whatever it takes, I don't have it. I'm destined to die alone.
This is a really bad attitude. It is never too late for a change. One year ago I started character developement with the help of Videos on RUclips. The Thing is to understand that you dont have to be rude or treat a woman badly, it is just about accepting youself, be Confident and say what you think. I think becoming a man that women want is to have the bad boy attitude but also know when it is time to shut up and bring the intellegence of a nice guy and the charm of a badboy into one final result you can stand for a 100%. I also was in a nice guy attitude and it brought me nothing. But after this one year of character developement I am more confident and I try it everyday to work on myself and never be pleased. This is the one and only way to get a higher self acceptance and be proud of my goals. So dont take yourself too serious, dont take others too serious, go YOUR way and everybody who wants to join, can join. Now go out, talk to women you like and remember my words. It helped me a lot and I think it can help everybody who wants a change. We all have the potential to change our mindset. If that would be impossible nobody would be able to become the person he wants to be. "Be yourself" in this case is wrong. If we cant change the condition around us, we have the possibility to change ourself.
Good luck
No. You're saying it's your fault because you're old and it makes you feel better about that injustice. But IT IS AN INJUSTICE. The fact women don't want to admit it doesn't mean you have to buy into the lie and believe you were wrong.
Look grandpa, if I may call you so, you were right. You did the right thing. It's just that we live in a society that in some areas works backwards, and dating is the area where it is _definitely_ backwards. I'm young, and a nice guy. I'm terribly frustrated about that situation, but I don't want to change. I don't want to be a bad boy, I don't want to treat anyone badly or with indifference just for the sake of it. It's nonsense, it's gratuitous chaos, it's a waste of opportunity and bliss.
If most women do not want to acknowledge that, if what they really motivate in our society is for men to be walking dicks, literally and figuratively, then so be it. I'll remain alone and learn to enjoy things by myself. It's sadder than being with someone, but it's still better than faking a persona and lying to a person that is supposed to love you for who you are.
I don't want you to punch yourself for what women did to you and continue to do to other nice men. As a fellow "boring" but generous dude, I'll give you a virtual bro hug. It won't replace the solace one could find in the arms of a woman who genuinely loves him for what he is, but it's better than nothing.
You were right. Be at peace with this, even if all of the world made it seems otherwise.
@Specoups thank you for the words of support. Going thru life with almost never finding that person that gets me, that realizes I'm a good person with love in my heart, really hurts inside. I can blame them for being unable to see the good in me. But I also know that I played a major part in being either ignored or rejected. I failed to try hard enough. I give up easily. I feel inferior to others. I even think why would they want me instead of some other guy. Taking that attitude and approach is not a recipe for success with women. If I had felt better about my self worth, maybe I could have fought thru it. Instead, I just accepted I was a failure or loser. That's the real reason I'm alone, depressed, and beat myself up. I'm my own worst enemy.
@skysurf1063 thank you. My attitude toward my own self worth is the root of it all. When I was younger, I totally missed any signs of interest from a woman. Always just thought oh they like me as a friend. Never realizing they might want more. Always looked at myself as "why would they want me?". Wrong mindset. Wrong attitude. I never tried to be anyone but myself, but deep inside I felt inferior to others, unsure of myself, and never know how to rid myself of my insecurities, shyness, and fears. I can't blame anyone else. No woman treated me badly or belittled me in any way. I have to live with that and it would take years of therapy to straighten out the mess I've made of my head all these years. I know I'm a good person but it never translated to any success with women. 2 girlfriends in my entire life, and was intimate with only one. A very sad indictment in 68 years of life.
Clearly this woman rode the bad boy carrousel earlier in her life and got used to the chads just treating her like shit! And now shes wants the nice guy cause shes hit the wall!
Women only care about a guy’s looks.
Was watching a lot of these videos because I started dating again and followed advice to the T and it did not work out. Was waiting for a video to come out that proves I need to stop watching these. This one did it.
Lmao this is hilarious. You can see them smile/smirk when mentioning bad boys & how ALL women at "one point" like/date them and let's be honest still do. Nice guys are amazing, kind, considering but let's go with the bad boy who will treat me bad. They are literally admitting they like bad boys in this video. Nice guys finish last is more reliable than death and taxes.
Women only like/date bad boys because they are extremely physically attractive and tall. They are above average in their physical attractiveness. This is what all women want and like in dating.
*Guys you are a fool if you listen to any of this advice from these women. Remember the "Candy Store" analogy from Fresh&Fit.*
It’s almost inevitable, most woman will lose attraction for the nice guy. Resulting in a sexless marriage.
What women want is a man who can cheat on them in a heartbeat, but doesn't.
I have tattoos, a nose piercing, I play music, I ride motorcycles so, I'm the stereotypical 'bad boy'. People look at me and assume right away I'm a bad boy... let me tell you, I was born in a successful family, with traditional values and even 'believed' in fairy tales. I'm a smart, well-put-together guy with values, I'm a good man, I love animals and treat people with respect. I've owned a business. I treated women with love, respect, kindness and what did I get from that? Being taken for granted, cheated on, unappreciated... so, I'll never go back to that place. I'm not disrespectful, I started to respect myself and my boundaries. You women say you love nice guys but you fuck the bad boys and, you don't even know what you want in the first place... I'm sure you've had your fare share of bad boys in the past... my unconditional love is to my mother... We become bad boys because of all the fucked up women that crossed our lives. peace and love to all
This really explains why I was always single in high school. High school girls dating the douchey bad boys. Very proud to say I've always been a nice guy. Sorry but not sorry for not being "edgy" enough for you.
So were you a Wally Cleaver or an Eddie Haskel?
Right on, Matthew. Be true to yourself, follow your own heart, and don't be directed by others. Here is something else to consider: If life is seen as an endurance trial, rather than a sprint, rather than "finishing last" (as nice guys are said to do) is a good thing. In my opinion, modern young females are confused, and just plain full of sh*t.
Here is something else to consider: When it comes to sex, I hear so many women complain that men only want to satisfy themselves, men just want a "quickie", men are too rough with them sexually, men want to dominate and control them sexually and won't let them initiate or take control sexually, along with many other complaints. THIS IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING LOVE WITH "BAD GUYS" AND NOT "NICE BOYS". If a man truly is a nice man or a good man, he will be kind, gentle, loving, caring, tender-hearted, benevolent, sensitive, and generous to you as a lover. He will care about pleasing you, as well as himself. He may even care MORE about your sexual needs and desires, than his. Unlike the "bad boy", who only wants to please himself, the "nice boy" will be more of a GIVER than a TAKER when it comes to sex. Here is a humorous riddle for everyone:
Q. Why do nice guys make better lovers?
A. Because nice guys "finish " last.
But all joking aside. THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Lol how many smiles when describing bad boys
It's not realistic to think that being a nice guy will help you - it's a basic social expectation to be kind. It's what do you have in addition to that that will make the difference - confidence, passion, charisma, appearance ect.
Ok, so don’t take this too badly, because I think you’re really being genuine here, but you’re super young & naive about this stuff. You’ve got a super blue pill perspective that will ruin guys who think this way.
We’ve been brainwashed to think women outgrow their “party years” behavior, but they don’t. They realize eventually the want a secure provider type, but get bored with their nice guy, miss the “tingles” of all that “Eros.” Typically at either the 1.5 year point or 7 year itch zone, sometimes midlife crisis related, they cheat. Kids don’t matter, women enable it “Yass Queen, you go gurl,” etc. Family courts are hugely unjust towards men, and guys are ruined. We’ve got *five times* the self-ending rate of females for reasons.
You also skip over the “bad boy phase” idea but it’s really important to remember that genuinely nicer guys are watching and learning about what women do vs. what they say. If we genuinely care about a girl, respect & value her, we’re afraid of messing up. We come across as shy or less assertive, less confident, and get rejected. Meanwhile you like the confidence of that player because he doesn’t care. He’s got lots of options and knows it. What you (women) often see as confidence is a guy who doesn’t really give a crap about you. We know better than you do who the good guys and bad guys actually are, and we learn *from women* that A-hole guys with game are the ones who get you, and the nice guy “friend” gets to be the shoulder you cry on when the inevitable heartbreak happens.
Eventually a nice guy gets more sure of himself and his role in the world, falls for the lie that a hoor can become a housewife because “she outgrew that phase,” has a couple kids, but then loses everything because *they don’t change.*
The best advice for men today is from guys like Rich Cooper & the Apex Mindset guy… Be on your purpose & never let a woman deflect you from your purpose. Don’t ever let a woman be your focus. You’ve always got to stay in your frame and cut her loose the moment she isn’t enhancing your life.
So proud of so many guys that know the truth , 5 years ago comments were full of white knight . Really proud of you brothers.
@5:13 it's definitely a phase, and it last anywhere from 18 to early 30's. And it's commonly referred to as the "hoe" phase @8:25. That's the phase where most women will friendzone a lot of nice and well rounded guy friends, to chase the guys they know will not be solid long term partners, but are sexually appealing and exciting to them. Then after that phase is over, they'll reach back into the friendzone @7:11 to grab some poor dude whose been there all along, with no self respect whatsoever (as you mentioned in this video) and who's thrilled about it lol. Men have there flaws as well, don't get me wrong. But common, let's not pretend that women don't play the field as much as they can before they realize "hey, my looks are starting to fade; I have to settle down with a 'nice guy' @8:37 now before I'm no longer appealing to any guy." Guys do it too in other ways. It's human nature ☺️
You've talked about what clothing to wear, what fragrances to put on, not to be a simp, what to text, red flags, green flags, what she really wants, signs she's crazy, what to say on first dates, what behaviors that make me attractive, how to be confident, etc. It can be exhausting! I truly respect what you are presenting on your videos but I don't think I can come close to enacting much of what you talk about. The confusion part? Women like to say, "just be yourself!" As long as you do about 90% of the things you have mentioned in your videos. This does not even mention height, weight, etc. What if the man does not have many of these qualities? It comes down to "just be yourself, with qualifiers!
fr "be yourself" is so vague and stupid it gets annoying after awhile
i totally agree.....what's with this "be yourself" non-sense, when the whole channel is dedicated to changing you into someone else than who you are.
it makes no sense.
either they are confused about the purpose of the channel, or courtney should have shut that girl down when she said "be yourself," instead of just nodding and blah blah blah.
by not correcting someone one YOUR channel (when she says "be yourself")...the watcher will think that's what YOU"RE saying, Courtney.
Now that they are hit by the wall and full of the bad boys seed, they suddenly want a nice guy.