LEAVE QUIETLY IF YOU CAN!!!! I don't know why I thought I could have a sensible, civil adult conversations with him. Every time I tried to break up with him, he'd rage, gaslight, blame, spin things on me. Act the victim. Act like I was randomly abandoning him, and not because he was consistently abusing me mentally, emotionally, verbally and financially (he used me like his personal ATM). he weaponised my compassion and wore me down EVERY SINGLE TIME. I essentially slipped away when he wasn't paying attention and I BLOCKED him EVERTHING!!! LEAVE QUIETLY IF YOU CAN BECAUSE THOSE MONSTERS WILL MAKE IT HARD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Absolutely! I've found it's best to have a bag packed & do it when they are off cheating, "sleeping ", "hanging out with friends ", their phone is turned off & they have to work the next morning, etc. Then already be on your way out!
And DONT let them come by to “talk” or whatever. They can start stalking you and hunt you down. God knows what they will try to do once they find you. They’re impulsive emotional toddlers in their minds remember.. what to toddlers do when they’re upset? They hit people.. or break things. STAY AWAY!
Thank you. I am trying to leave quietly and already got the government assistance to search for an apartment because my maternity leave will end in August. All of a sudden he is fixing spy recorders and all sorts that monitors and stores data on the Wifi line. I can’t do anything sensitive when connected to the wifi. I even had to turn it off to make this comment. He is an IT guru but isn’t aware I know of his moves lately. The only reason why I suspect he is doing all that is because he is trying to get something to use against me to friends and family when the marriage ends. Or even the government because due to his abuse, he has been denied his Naturalization application. Plus he desires to take the both kids from me just because of children allowance from government. I’ve never seen such a greedy father. We are all business to him
The last thing we are even thinking about is another relationship Do you think that we are stupid enough to take this baggage that we collected and go and dump it on someone else. We are too busy healing from an unhealthy relationship that has left us in broken pieces. So now we got to fix ourselves like Humpty Dumpty again.
This isn’t true for everyone. Many victims get involved immediately with a new person. They have their own fucked up issues such as can’t be with themselves, have to have someone, etc. Can’t put all victims in the same box. Although often if they go from one toxic relationship to next.
@@michelleparker6202 You will once healed !! It takes time and a processing alot of pain and discomfort but out the other side is a beautiful place 🥰 not everyone is a toxic abuser like Narcissists. ❤
Him - "Have you met someone else?" Me - "No." "Then why are you leaving?" "Because I can't handle your foul temper any more." "Don't make me angry then..." 🙄
They would say ,"so you were envolved with someone else .. you could have told me before ... you made me lose a lot of time waiting on you ... ( you owe me a lot )
The crazy part about the reverse discard is that sometimes they dont expect you to be gone for good. Youre expected to simmer on the backburner until they get bored.
Yeah mine got a rude awakening. He used reverse psychology on me so I'd stay because he knew I'd be done after he betrayed me with cheating. I played the game but then left his ass..he never saw it coming. He just called me yday (after I insta-blocked him a month ago) ..met with the vmail😂😂😂
@NatzTalk thats the safest way to do it....i kept warning my ex what would happen if he continued to mistreat me....he didn't believe I would leave....then I blocked him EVERYWHERE! He had the nerve to pop up at my house afterwards but never could pop up when I was with him....too late now.
My narc filed for divorce. A few days later he called crying asking me to stay. I said no. So he told everyone I divorced him. He even asked me why I wanted a divorce now- even though he filed. The mind games are insane.
My ex friend reached to me after I left and forced me to talk about it. He then started to attack me, after hours of waiting in order to calm things in case there was a chance of solving everything so I defended myself from his attacks in the best way I could. He didn't ever read it at first, he just got offended that I messaged him againg he had a bad day (even when I got literally sick because of them, he literally forced me to talk and attacked me) attacking me againg múltiple times that evening and even forbidding me from responding (even after he was attacking me again with non sense) and forcing me to come back and forget everything among other things. He even got to the point of responding back a few weels after asking me if I was already calmed, yeah, not only he messaged me again when he attacked me for less but acted as if I was the one who lost his shit and he the one who tried to solve everything when he himself admited the oposite before. I didn't fall on his trap
My narcissist wife played those same games with me too. You can be experiencing some pain in your body, and they'll think you're faking it. There is no empathy, or concern on their part. Now, if there are others around to see what's happening, the narc plays a different role to give the impression that they care, only then will you doubt yourself and wonder why all of a sudden they do care? Maybe I was wrong, you may say to yourself. Unfortunately that's just how the narcissist plays this sick game. When you live with a narcissist, you'll always have a catch-22 moment with them. This is why it is so exhausting and draining to deal with them. I don't like drawing parallels between narcissists and children, yet the similarity lies in the inability to articulate emotions. While children lack the maturity to express their feelings, narcissists exhibit a childlike mentality within an adult frame. When you live with a narcissist, they're always right in everything they do, according to them. You have no say so or right to tell them how they feel, think, see things, but for a narcissist these boundaries do not exist. They feel they are justified in telling you how you feel, think, or see things, and it's all your fault and how dare you even try to make them look like the bad guy. It's complete chaos and disorder. PERIOD!
Its so hurtful at first and then you become numb to all the games, verbal abuse, gas lighting, then it just becomes funny because what else can you do but laugh. When you think about it, its so stupid that its funny and you can predict their behaviors.
He told me to leave. Instead of putting up a fight, crying, or sitting in quiet protest, I immediatley got up grab my bag and "acted" like I was going to walk out the door. Instead of his usual smug grin, he loudly asked, "WHO IS HE?!"
My ex friend reached to me after I left and forced me to talk about it. He then started to attack me, after hours of waiting in order to calm things in case there was a chance of solving everything so I defended myself from his attacks in the best way I could. He didn't ever read it at first, he just got offended that I messaged him againg he had a bad day (even when I got literally sick because of them, he literally forced me to talk and attacked me) attacking me againg múltiple times that evening and even forbidding me from responding (even after he was attacking me again with non sense) and forcing me to come back and forget everything among other things. He even got to the point of responding back a few weels after asking me if I was already calmed, yeah, not only he messaged me again when he attacked me for less but acted as if I was the one who lost his shit and he the one who tried to solve everything when he himself admited the oposite before. I didn't fall on his trap
@@ktwhimsy6946 I honestly wasn’t even “ending things.” We were exchanging words and HE told ME TO LEAVE…. And, yes- so many times I’ve read/heard “I’m done.” Earlier today the email ended with “You will never see me again.” I later discovered he’d unblocked my number… 🤷🏽♀️💔🖤
I dont think people realize how disorienting it is to see a person go into a rage and then come back like nothing ever happened or like you’re supposed to act like what happened didn’t just happen 😳 I had never seen anything like it. He raged and stormed out the house at 2:30 in the morning. I packed my bags, got in my car and drove 700 miles north back to my home and never saw him again. He called 10 days later talking about he needs closure after he saw that I wasnt trying to hear his gaslighting and blame shifting. I told him to continue doing whatever he’s been doing for the last 10 days. Hopefully he can find someone who knows how to do and say everything juuuuussssst right for him. I blocked him and never looked back. The rage did it for me. Very scary to see in real time 👀
My abusers' final victim broke up with him in person and got murdered. Make a plan, get help, and leave without their knowledge. Lie to them and then escape. Honesty does NOT work with these crazy mofos.
I can believe that, when I told mine I nolonger want him I can't deal with his anger and gaslighting He shouted to shut up & be glad I didn't do to you what I truly want to do to you YET...... 👀 I silence down and prayed until he left my home, 😢
I started saying, “You cannot logic your way out of a situation, the other person didn’t logic you into!” Know your narc! Be cautious! Make a plan 🤫 Be safe! 🙏❤️🩹🙏
Wow!! This is so true… I lived this last week. I broke up with my ex- narc for cheating on me. I Found evidence in his phone. He became so inraged screaming in my face raising his hand to me punching walls. While he’s doing all this I’m trying to leave his house. He would not let me leave until about 3 hours later. I guess he got tired. I Thank GOD for covering me.🙌🏽🙌🏽 NO CONTACT!!!
Omg...my son's father Literally held me Hostage in his house..locked me in his Bedroom😢 smdh He told me I can leave but his Baby is Staying. My Baby was Still in my stomach. 😒 I was scared to Death. I got away and went into a shelter. Then moved away. This was almost 20 yrs ago. Apparently I attract Narcissist still. I give up. I am Happy and at Peace alone.
Someone called the cops on my ex for following me down the street and I told them he blocked the door from me leaving and the cops arrested him for "Unlawful Restraint" on the other hand my current ex lied to the police that I hit him and I got arrested 😩
I walked out 9 months ago. Absolutely no contact of any kind. Any connection that we have had has been blocked and dropped. We live within a mile of one another and I have taken myself completely off of their supplier list. If they are watching me, I wouldn't know because I'm so focused on being grateful that I got out alive. I don't look back, I don't wonder what went wrong, I'm just gone and I watch these videos to remind myself as to why I left. Thank you for all of your help and insight. It is greatly appreciated.
What do you mean thier "supplier" list?? I live about a 30 minute walk away from mine and I'm scared. I've told him its over via text because I need to focus on my health and education. I was also really nice and did not block him in order to prevent him from going into rage and calling me or showing up at my house. Im so glad I've decided it over as well but how do you deal with the threat that they could show up at any time? He said if we ever broke up hed understand, and even now is saying he understands - but I think its a part of the love bombing phase because next comes the emotional manipulatioon and guilt trips. Its only been a week and hes texting me to come by as freinds or to see my son. Id like to be like you and just be greatful its over but some of these videos make me really panic and lose sleep. I have no idea what kind of Narcissist I am dealing with. Just that Ive never broke up with him and stayed broken up because Ive gotten suckered back in within dayssssss. Sorry for the long comment. Just havent seen anyone else on here who lives near thier ex like this as well.
My advice.... "PLEASE DON'T TELL THEM THAT YOU ARE LEAVING"... " LEAVE THEM FOR GOOD AFTER THEY DO SOMETHING MAJORLY WRONG TO YOU and Yes I'm screaming 😱 for a reason. They can lose their Mother Loving Minds, that is 1 of the scariest things that you could ever do, especially if they left you first. So, you thinkbbecause they left you first, that you now have the green light to move on like a healthy person would😂😂😂Huh??? Sadly NO‼️ Those evil hound dogs will track you down like a run away slave and harass you, the new person, and your family, friends, neighbors and all attached to You 😢 And Yes, they will stalk your family members too, from my experience. My Advice to you, if you want to leave a narc is: 1).DON'T GO AND GET IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP RIGHT AWAY, that will make them go crazy and snap because trust me, they will be stalking you from a distance and it will put your new person in danger. So, lay low for a while, use this time to execute your plans and HEAL from their wrath. 2). DON'T BLOCK THEM NOR GO NO CONTACT, YET that makes them come looking for you, change their cell number, stalk you on ALL social sites, and start stalking your job, friends, family, and places that they know you frequent. Again, them having some type of access to you somehow keeps them from going all Rambo on you and keeps them calm. So allow them to talk to your voicemail and text messages just DON'T RESPOND NOR REPLY BACK. 3). LEAVE ONLY AFTER THEY HAVE WRONGED YOU IN A MAJOR WAY... This is the 1 that I used to leave my narc, that I bet you've probably never heard anyone say before. Yes, This is the ONLY TIME when a narc is Vulnerable. It is the ABSOLUTE ONLY TIME you can get away without things becoming severely violent and dangerous because their Guilt will be at an all time High and they will allow you to leave. So play on that guilt, make them leave or you leave, don't shut them out your life, but DON'T GO BACK TO THEM. This only works if you use what they have done to you as the excuse for NEVER giving them another chance and going back to them. Besides, if or when you go back their niceness is very short lived and they WILL abuse you way worse the next time for leaving them and showing them your true strength in the first place. I hope this helps you'll escape the narcs in y'all's lives as well. 💖STAY NARC FREE💖
Sometimes their shame/guilt isn’t enough (or long lived enough) to keep them from narcissistic injury/rage. My ex lost his mind & became violent towards my 10 year old son… it was “the big incident” that caused me to realize I HAD to get out (me & my 2 kids, thankfully from a prior relationship, not his kids) - after the big blow up, he was walking towards me with contempt in his eyes, clenching his fists, repeating over & over “that kid deserves to be punched in the face, he deserves to be punched”… I was afraid. I asked him to please leave. He did … for about an hour. When he returned, he walked in the door & calmly said to me “you are abusive.” It was his way of shifting the blame - no apology or admittance of guilt, instead it was my fault for “always protecting my kids & choosing their side over his” - that’s what made him so angry he lost his temper repeatedly. What followed was a huge smear campaign accusing me of years of emotional abuse & “selfishness” towards him. He made a whole RUclips channel about it. Thankfully I had support of friends & family despite his attempts to isolate me over the 7 years we were together. He still claims I was abusive & cheating on him & that I left him for someone else, when in reality I still haven’t been able to bring myself to try dating again… 4 years later. I think it was more a fear of being exposed than it was his own guilt that at least kept him from trying to come back. If they know you understand the truth about them, regardless of everything else, you might be in danger when you try to leave. What I did to counteract this, was write him an apology letter in which I admitted fault for ALL the things he was accusing me of, even though it was bogus & I know I wasn’t the cause of my own abuse, it did the trick & he hasn’t bothered me since. Even the RUclips videos have ceased, because he no longer thinks I can “prove” he was a monster. It was a hard letter to write, but my kids & I are safe & regaining our peace little by little every day that passes without him in it…
@ktwhims6946... It DEFINITELY was the Guilt/Shame that made him leave, even though he came back, but when he did return an hour later, he returned in a very calm manner. That is the ONLY TIME in my 16 years of experience that the narc in my life was calm, I noticed that I would now have the upper hand, and he would now do ABSOLUTELY WHATEVER I wanted for him to do😂. I'm glad that you and your kids are now safe, but that admission of Guilt letter that you wrote him, is the very same letter, that he is going to use to try and disrupt your new relationship, whenever you do decide to start seeing someone else, in the future. So, remain NO CONTACT, for as long as humanly possible, because he is going to use that same letter to try to get back with you or to try to smear you later, if you don't take him back. It is my hope and prayer that he permanently has left you and yours alone, just be VERY MINDFUL, that if it seems to Good to be true, that he has left you alone for Good, then it probably is. If you don't already, PLEASE have a plan together in place, just in case, he comes back and starts trying to be with you again... My prayers are with you and your family... Thanks for sharing your experience with me, hopefully we can keep each other strong from them🙏💖
He accidentally left a butt dial voicemail and he was comforting a woman asking her if she’s sad, if she wants him to fix her boxing gloves, if she wants the light on. He told her he found his phone, she asked where. He said here in my room. Then told her, you know why I act like that? Because I’m an asshole. That whole conversation was exactly how he would have them with me. Even if I have shown him the voicemail he says he has not been with anyone else. There are many text messages on his phone flirting with so many women and now that I’m really blown with anger and hurt, he told me I can be with who ever I want. Just the day before he text me saying he loves me so freakin much. He’s totally homeless now cause I threw him out and is with a bunch of crackheads so I don’t get why it’s so hard for me to just get him out of my heart and mind if he put me through hell. Stole all my stuff, stole my new car, even my food and some un replaceable items. When he packed he had stuff like, my favorite shirt in his stuff, my ID’s that I saved from 7th grade all the way to my current license. I have them all and he had those in his stuff. All this is so weird and confusing. He told me not long ago that he hopes I find someone so he can shoot them in the face but now tells me to find a weak minded man that I can control. What’s happening? He only calls when he needs something
Blocked him and it been 6 going on 7 months of NC. Don’t entertain those texts messages because they believe they still have a chance with you. Your walking away is all the closure you need. Watch how many doors open watch how God bless you in ways that had been held up. Messing with those birds will handicap you and hinder you. They have been sent by the enemy
Girl this was a word !! I’m in tears when I left God begin to open doors that were closed while I was dealing with him. I’m thankful I got out of that relationship
My ex saw me last week after 5 months of us broken up and said I love you and I looked at him crazy and said don’t say that and he said I do love u and u know that and it’s a game to him but I’m over it period and thank u for all of these videos because of you I know about narcissists
I think he had a grand discard planned for soon but I went the day when he broke boundary to see if I would cave. He believed I would cave. I didn't cave. Exit stage left. I didn't block him till last week.
My narcissist ex did the 3rd one. He begged me not to leave him. He swore that he’d never hurt me again. I never gave him another chance. After I saw his true color, I couldn’t unsee it. Also I knew perfectly well that he apologized & acted “remorseful” simply because he got caught cheating, lying, using me for money, manipulating me, & much more. If he didn’t get caught, he would NEVER stop doing all those evil things to me. And of course I was right. Later on I caught him trying to get back with his mistress at the same time he begged me for another chance. My next step was exposed him to his mistress then blocked him for good.
My ex boyfriend acted like he didn't care until I left..an when he's in some crap he put himself in he knew how to act all of a sudden. I really pray for people with this disorder 😢😮
I left while he was at work & he came home to me and my stuff gone.. He called me LOSING HIS DAMN MIND!! He surely would've hit me if I was there. Be careful yall!
If the narcissist was waiting for the victim to let them go then why in the hell the narcissist comes right back again. If the narcissist wants to be let go then just stop coming back to us victims when we can just move on to someone else our selves 😉
Our break up got violent in the streets in front of neighbors we both were on the ground called the police made a report so glad the neighbors got to see what I had to deal with for 6 years really got embarrassed because other men saw what he did.
My therapist told me he was diagnosed as having NPD. After a few months, it became clear that he needed therapy more than I did, so I changed therapists. He found out and bombarded me with emails and texts and voicemails asking why I abandoned our therapeutic relationship. Crazy!
You nailed this one. I dumped my narcissistic ex, she immediately started the cheating allegations, threw a temper tantrum, then wouldn't let me leave. Then came the begging and the smear campaign.
Reverse Discard was what happened for me. So when I filed for divorce I got it all ~ she wanted a second chance, then temper tantrums, then lies, then new supply and finally secretly moving out when I was at work. You're killin' it Lee!
When I told my narc ex that I wanted to leave he said good one. Then he started cleaning out of no where. My mom called the authorities based from what I had told her. He was in the military, and they made him leave. He was livid and made my life a living hell for years after we split up. Thankfully, we have been in no contact for 11 years. But he did move near by, I really hope to never run into him.
I had been questioning if the guy I been seeing for 3 months if he was a narcissist. I was with one previously and the new guy was showing all the signs. It’s crazy this video popped up because I broke up with him yesterday and I forgot I had my location shared with him and he popped up on me where I was shopping! He would not let me go home. He took my house key and told me if I did not go to his house, he was going to follow me all night! I ended up going to his house and I pray he actually leaves me alone but he knows where I live and has popped up. He told me before he will never let me leave😢
My narc twice said “don’t think this is working we should split up “ cos he kept starting on me and got to stage where I reacted - reactive abuse ….so I said “ yep agree f……. Off “ and he said “ no ur not going ! “ and I said “ it’s ur idea and I agree “ now he’s like a stalker …ur not leaving me blah blah blah …. I feel trapped plus difficult business wise
I feel trapped business wise too but I think we just have to wait it out until they go away. They need supply so they have to get distracted. That or we use Pseudonyms or business titles. Maybe we can brainstrom together! I was hoping I lost my sh*t in the form of reactive abuse enough to scare him into not ever getting domineering with me again. I told him I stored all the emails from his contact list and all it would take was one mass email to all of his contacts to ruin his preistine professional image. I told this to him when he was calm one day and he said it freaked him out (and I was GLAD!). I was pshyah you think i;m stupid? I've got my own insurance for you. I hope it pays off now because I just left him. This is my third NARC partner so I hope to GOD I have a good handle on this LAST one.
😂😂😂 they put you in position to do this knowing there the one that push you to that limit.I kicked mine out for his lies and cheated on me.he was in shock no words to say.
I did a reverse discard 10 months ago. He was already sneaking off to talk to the old/new supply. He became inconsistent so I stopped returning his calls and blocked/deleted that narc. His mask fell off and he became so toxic I had to get rid of him asap. I thank GOD everyday for giving me the strength to walk away from someone who I cared about but never existed. He’s a 63 year old loser. 😊TGBTG
@@user-by4sd2jy2c I'm a very nice person. Very giving and caring, but when I feel it's off I completely disconnect and pull the rug and have zero emotions. He didn't even know what to do.
He convinced his delusional self that it’s for someone else- I left FOR MY KIDS AND MYSELF he tried to be sweet but when it didn’t work he got so much worse til I was able to escape- but he pretends I was the bad one he was arrested for stalking me
😂 when I got discarded, a month later after NC we reconnected to try and talk some things out - not fix things just talk cuz this man literally threw me out like garbage without a word and I just wanted to hear something from his mouth about what happened. Y'all why was this "man" so shook and heartbroken that I was already seeing other people?? The relationship was over a long time ago I just wanted him to fix his issues and it never happened. Why did he ask "why are you dating other people? Are you done with me? Does that mean things are over between us?" SIR?! YOU *dumped* ME and told me not to talk to you for 30 days!!! Delulu is not just a river in Egypt y'all wtf. The weirdest/worst part about it too, like Lee said I'm positive he was pulling a reverse discard, he became a total monster in the months leading to the discard. He definitely wanted me to be the one to leave
He said not that i have someone else but, as i told him the relationship was over as he never thought of me. He replied ive had enough of you changing your mind insulting me. I never want to have anything to do with you again. I said you said this before its emotional abuse if you dont leave me alone. He said ill leave you alone alright i dont want to speak to you. He got angry when i called him a fake and began verbal abuse. I hung up on him. Blocked, deleted etc. 2 months on im free.
They Flip it arround because they are ignorant and You killed His Ego !!! I left in Silence to avoid the Drama and blocked Him , Im glad that I moved and He don't know where I live now , thank GOD ❤
When the narc finally left, she was forced out by my rescuer, who has now become family to me. But for WEEKS after, she kept calling trying to attack me and play up my rescuer, then apologizing, etc. and then swear off the rescuer and trying to be buddy-buddy with me again. SMH. So back and forth. It never worked. Once my eyes were opened, I’ve never seen or been the same.
My ex did this when I tried to leave. He would make me feel guilty for leaving and would accuse me of cheating and lying when he was the one doing it and that’s why I was leaving. When he raged over me not giving him any money and he ran back to his ex, again, I blocked him on everything and closed the door for good and forever. This was a horrific over two years experience of him abusing me, cheating on me, lying to me, then blaming me for him putting his hands on me and then calling me sick in the head for documenting those beatings. I am so glad that it’s over but so sad I allowed myself to tolerate that mess for so long.
I told her good bye, and then I blocked her. On a closing note, watering your front yard to look like a swamp and placing land mines may deter future hoover attempts.
I have been preparing my escape for 5 months. In these months i kept silent and i made sure i acted like the robot i have been for years. After my escape he was angry. I had lied to him for 5 months while he had lied to me for 13 years. But still in his mind my 5 months of hiding my escape was far worse than his 13 years of lying to me and using me. I am glad i did not tell him. He has been agressive in the past so i was sure he would do anything to stop me if i told him
There was this cowardly, passive aggressive, effeminate Covert Narc in my life. I thought that we were platonic friends. He was telling everyone that I was in love with him even though he initiated 99 percent of contact. He’d play nothing but mind games and ignore me after asking me to hang out. He’d play dumb and fiend innocence when I’d confront him about his bizarre behaviour. I’ve finally gone no contact one year ago. At first, he laughed about our friendship ending. After a few months of seeing that I was serious and not coming back, he’s still harassing me with creepy, cryptic and baiting texts every 3-6 months. I’ve outright told him that I’m not attracted to him but he won’t snap out of the delusion. I’ve recently blocked his number.
Always keep one foot out the door in a relationship with a narcissist. Save up some cash. Always have a back door plan of escape when they least expect it. Once the other foot is out the door, be sure to slam the door shut on this chapter and never look back. Things will only get better once the abused person takes their life back and reclaim their power.
It is enought to find out the truth about them... They will run over the hills because they know you will confront them (and they just can´t handle confrontation). And they are very angry if the lose (so when you have the upper hand - they don´t like that at all). I experienced the hell at the end - what you see clearly that person is really not well. Just be safe and careful everyone.
When I discarded him a week later he gonna text me and say “I texted you that I miss you you didn’t respond, I was really concerned about you and wanted to talk to you about you and what you think about me” I said nothing and blocked him smh. I see him still because we work together I make it my business to keep it moving don’t want him in my space he be wanting to talk and I just move right along. Then got the courage one day and asked me did I block him I said yes he looked shocked and I kept it moving. ✌🏾✌🏾stand on your business with that disregard don’t go back yall it won’t never 👎 be good it gets worse trust me
Mine did the reverse discard because he’s a coward and wanted to get rid of me as soon as he started making more money. Not realizing that he wouldn’t have any options without his money because his personality is trash.
Lee is ABSOLUTELY correct. My ex husband held me hostage until he was convinced that I wasn’t going to leave. After that terrifying incident I plotted and planned carefully, raising no suspicion and left with the clothes on my back, cash I secretly saved, my driver’s license and birth certificate. I didn’t care about the material things or anything else. I only wanted to escape to take my life back before he took it literally. My advice to anyone who is dealing with this type of person is to plan carefully, secretly ,and safely. No good things come from being in a relationship with a narcissist.
That's how it is with me. I'm done with him and he's trying everything, but I'm no longer receptive to it. He love bombs me, he thinks I have someone else, and so on and so forth. His affair, which he's been having for 1 3/4 years, can't give him what he got from me. Now he doesn't get anything from me, I don't even make him a coffee anymore. He runs away to his affair for a few days and then comes back so he can get on my nerves again. Unfortunately he still lives in my house. When I told him I'm done with you, he said I know, but I'm not done with you yet. That sounds like a threat to me.
I dated mine on/off for ten weeks. Turned out he was on ankle tag so I did Clare’s Law (a disclosure scheme where the police will tell you their domestic related criminal history if you’re in danger). He stalked and harassed me until he ended up in prison. Then his flying monkeys stalked me and reported my every move to him whilst he was in prison. He got released and somehow has managed to convince the entire town that me and ALL FIVE of his ex girlfriends are lying and that there’s evidence to prove his innocence… Despite pleading guilty to ALL TEN convictions with evidence to back it all up. His only “evidence” is a legal document describing one of his physical attacks on his ex girlfriend and he has gotten a pencil, drawn an arrow to it and written “this didn’t happen” 🤦🏻♀️ The flying monkey’s are more baffling than he is at this point.
I definitely know about that reverse discard! Then started boohooing once I left and try to hoover me back in, naw I'm good after seeing the proof after questioning what I was I concerned about.
The first time, I tried to leave, he love bomb me right back into the relationship. I wasn't quite ready yet. About two weeks later. I wanted to work on the relationship, but I found out that he's cheating and lying to me. I blocked 🚫 his number and disconnected my second line. I was done ✔️ no looking back. No Contact for 53 days now! I am so proud of myself. It can be done! Good luck 👍
They love the reverse discard because it helps them preserve that false image they strive to maintain. That way they play victim to the flying monkeys for validation. Ole Uno Reverso!
So will they TELL YOU every awful thing they did then promise to get help? Mine told me he was leaving and had a place ready, then I called his bluff and said "ok" and started making plans, and he came to pieces. 😶
Yep, the keeping you in the dark- the putting you on the back burner until they are board- the using you as a personal ATM - the the MANY other women- but if I leave.. it’s MY fault. Yeah right, ok buddy. 🙄🤦♀️. They are really pitiful sad people.
Mine is in the "lets get marriage counseling so i can understand why you are so hell bent on leaving me" stage. I almost did not leave this comment but Im so sick of living in fear, under emotional, mental and financial abuse and in isolation. Im not taking it anymore and im working hard at getting back on my feet for me and our kids because this is an evil and dark environment and i wish this on no one. 🙏🏽praying so hard for all of us. We got this and we are worth it!
My narc husband cried for hours said " I'm sorry, I promise to change" non stop. I said no it's over, i showed no emotion. Two days later threatened to have me arrested, called me a lot of harsh names. Thank goodness I got a support system.
I cosign with everything that was described in this video. I went through damn near all of those things when I broke up with my ex. I ended up breaking it off with her 3 different times before it stuck. The first time she literally tried to bust up my steel reinforced front door with a big ass rock. My dumb ass took her back about 2 weeks later and got the most intense love bombing of my life, with promises of reforming herself. The second time was when she was out of work and I was helping her out with her bills. Cut her off again and she found a great job in what seemed like days, so I got the love bombing plus gifts. The third time was a charm because she knew that I had no problem cutting her off and my boundaries got stronger each time. My guess is that she had a new supply (thank goodness) because she didn't put up much of a fight. I still find myself looking over my shoulder, but it's been all good for a long time. (Edited to add that the banging on the door happened because she thought I had another woman at my place. I didn't, but that was her first thought.)
I left. And he had someone already. He said “what did you want me to do …. You left me !” After the hovering 5 days later. I wish I knew then what I know now.
Hey Lee, I don't know if you covered this, but what happens if you tell a narc to stop playing the victim? If you haven't done it, maybe it could be a good topic.
I would advise you have a 3rd party with you for protection, and try and keep someone around you for months at all time. Never ever put yourself in a vulnerable situation with a narc. They are extremely dangerous and have no limits. You will be in danger
Yes my narc H is waiting for me to file the divorce but then threatens me when I talk about the divorce. Recently he lost his supply(I’m guessing, through his actions) because suddenly he went from being a wall, neglectful, not talking or interacting(for years) to suddenly love bombing. I don’t even know how to react to his love bombing because I’ve been grey rocking for so long and he’s been a wall for so long. My(adult)kids and I don’t know how to handle his love bombing. I wish it was easier to divorce these narcs. I can’t just secretly leave. I wish I could.
@@VGH1967 There’s lots of reasons why I can’t escape quietly but the main one is no support. It’s 20 years worth of stories with this narc. Not enough money to just take off. Also 11 years ago(before I figured out what he truly was) he had me quit my job(love bombing and a lot of it to get his way) to start a business for his trade skills. This was my last ditch effort to “salvage” the marriage, back then. I thought we’d work together and be successful. I didn’t know he was a huge scammer. He took total control over the clients and business making it appear as if I didn’t even exist. He’s made it to where we completely relied on him and this business. To this day he threatens to take all the clients when he leaves. This business is all I have to survive with. I also suffer from a birth defect on my face which needed constant care. We couldn’t even afford insurance because he controls how many clients we have. There’s too much to these stories I’m leaving out. Instead he watches me suffer and deteriorate as the time passes. I also have endometriosis and adenmoisis which is debilitating. Ive been falling apart in those years as he watches. I’m still suffering from my health issues. There just not enough solid help and support for people in our position. I figured out what he(and what my family was) in 2017. That’s also when I found out I needed brain surgery. It is very difficult to carry the world on your back(because of their inability to handle normal life) and on top of that have serious health issues that needs attention. All these years I’ve been trying to stay alive and afloat. Since 2017, I’ve been working on myself on recognizing and breaking the abusive cycles I was so conditioned to accept since my childhood. Now that I’m fully aware of what is all going on, I still can’t just escape. My now adult kids and I have learned how to deal with him. But now that he’s suddenly love bombing, we don’t know how to handle it. We can’t accept his sudden fake “kindness” after so many years of neglect and hate from him. It would have been easier had we had support a long time ago. Once you’re stuck in their deep web with kids, It’s hard to escape.
I hope my comment reaches the person who is confused if they were in a situation of reverse discard because it could be very confusing. I have years of narcissistic abuse experience before that, I didn't even know the term "narcissist". It's when I started to Google my scenarios and came across some people talking about the same exact scenario. That's when I was introduced to "narcissist" and that's when I realized I'm not crazy. Unfortunately, I didn't have anyone to explain to me because I'm an orphan and don't have much friends. Also I was embarrassed of him consistently telling there's something wrong with "me". I'll make it easy for whoever is reading this to understand the difference between when they wanted to discard you VS when they feel discarded by you and take that offensively. When a narcissist has a replacement supply to replace you, slowly he'll become sour & unavailable to you because something or someone else is entertaining him. This is their 1st tactic to make you react or make you leave him. If you don't leave him immediately, it'll get worse, day by day. Until the day, you have no choice but to leave him. If you reach that point and finally tell him that you'll leave him. He'll 1st make you feel guilty of taking that decision just to confuse you & make you feel bad for him, so they feel a better person than you. 2nd, he'll make sure that you feel that you're the bad person for leaving them & that you'll miss out on all the good things. 3rd, (very important to notice this), although he might show fake emotion and make you feel guilty, if you suddenly feel bad and change your mind to want to make it work, suddenly you'll notice how he'll make it seem impossible to fix it example "no no its ok, I understand, it's fine, you're right we should break up, bye" suddenly cut the conversation real quick so there's no way of reconciliation. Because this is his opportunity to go cry to the new supply of how you mistreated them and seek sympathy. Extremely soon, trust me, he's gonna be in an official new relationship with new supply. Now, how does the narcissist react when they don't have a solid new supply? They might react in many ways (because I have seen all the reactions lol), 1. They might make you feel sooo guilty 2. When that won't work, they'll break down in front of you, if possible they'll wanna meet in person and show you how broken they are. 3. If that doesn't work, they will explode in love bombing and make fake promises about things you have always asked for (FAKE PROMISES PLS REMEMBER), 4. if all that didn't work, they might forcefully show up at your place, work, start talking about you to your friends, make plans with them and 5. When nothing worked, they might threaten you by telling you harmful things or tell you that your new partner will be harmed if you don't return to him. Lastly, if you call the police or don't react to anything, they'll stalk you forever everywhere !!! Seriously obsessed over you and will ALWAYS contact you or find new ways to contact you here n there. Why? Because you're the best thing that ever happened to them. They know but they don't appreciate because to them everything has a flaw except themselves. It's beyond their understanding that some people love genuine because they can't offer same thing.
I moved in silence and didn't tell him I was moving out until it was time to start packing. I blamed it on the therapist that he wanted me to see so he wouldn't completely rage out.
Don't forget narcissistic think they own you! Everytime i tried to leave he wouldn't let me. (but when he discarded me there was no talking to him) untill I found away and I took it and never looked back!
Don't tell them. Just up and be gone one day without a word. Best decision you will ever make in life .. oh an block them that they as if they never existed.
Funny he started ghosting me again last night after finding he was cheating for almost a year with a coworker and the kitchen light was flickering all last night.
My Narc ex started, literally, begging me to reconsider and promised he would end things with the girl he was cheating with. He even shed some tears! Lol! I went on and gave it another round and he behaved for a good 2 months ..... before I found out he was back seeing the girl he was cheating with. I walked away for good that time. And he started a relationship with her. I ran into his older brother one day at the end of 2023 and he filled me in. We broke up in 2018 ... cut all communication in 2019. He and the girl he was cheating with ended their relationship in 2023. So, he was with her for 4 years. His brother told me the entire 4 years, they were on and off, due to his cheating. And she finally cut him loose right before Thanksgiving last year when she found out about another woman he was cheating with. So, she basically went thru what I was dealt with. But I don't feel sorry for her one bit because she knew he had a girlfriend when she was cheating with him and didn't care about me. These people that Narcs cheat with are so funny. For some strange reason, they think when the Narc ends up with them, they are going to be faithful. Smh....
LEAVE QUIETLY IF YOU CAN!!!! I don't know why I thought I could have a sensible, civil adult conversations with him. Every time I tried to break up with him, he'd rage, gaslight, blame, spin things on me. Act the victim. Act like I was randomly abandoning him, and not because he was consistently abusing me mentally, emotionally, verbally and financially (he used me like his personal ATM). he weaponised my compassion and wore me down EVERY SINGLE TIME. I essentially slipped away when he wasn't paying attention and I BLOCKED him EVERTHING!!! LEAVE QUIETLY IF YOU CAN BECAUSE THOSE MONSTERS WILL MAKE IT HARD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Absolutely! I've found it's best to have a bag packed & do it when they are off cheating, "sleeping ", "hanging out with friends ", their phone is turned off & they have to work the next morning, etc. Then already be on your way out!
That’s how my ex was acting and I told him I’m breaking up with him
And DONT let them come by to “talk” or whatever. They can start stalking you and hunt you down. God knows what they will try to do once they find you. They’re impulsive emotional toddlers in their minds remember.. what to toddlers do when they’re upset? They hit people.. or break things. STAY AWAY!
Just dissapear.
Thank you. I am trying to leave quietly and already got the government assistance to search for an apartment because my maternity leave will end in August. All of a sudden he is fixing spy recorders and all sorts that monitors and stores data on the Wifi line. I can’t do anything sensitive when connected to the wifi. I even had to turn it off to make this comment. He is an IT guru but isn’t aware I know of his moves lately. The only reason why I suspect he is doing all that is because he is trying to get something to use against me to friends and family when the marriage ends. Or even the government because due to his abuse, he has been denied his Naturalization application. Plus he desires to take the both kids from me just because of children allowance from government. I’ve never seen such a greedy father. We are all business to him
The last thing we are even thinking about is another relationship Do you think that we are stupid enough to take this baggage that we collected and go and dump it on someone else. We are too busy healing from an unhealthy relationship that has left us in broken pieces. So now we got to fix ourselves like Humpty Dumpty again.
YES!!!!😢
Exactly! I’ll never be with anyone else again- no trust
This isn’t true for everyone. Many victims get involved immediately with a new person. They have their own fucked up issues such as can’t be with themselves, have to have someone, etc. Can’t put all victims in the same box. Although often if they go from one toxic relationship to next.
@@michelleparker6202 You will once healed !! It takes time and a processing alot of pain and discomfort but out the other side is a beautiful place 🥰 not everyone is a toxic abuser like Narcissists. ❤
Omg..I swear he thinks I’m out here just being a hoe.. like bro I putting my life back together…
Him - "Have you met someone else?" Me - "No." "Then why are you leaving?" "Because I can't handle your foul temper any more." "Don't make me angry then..." 🙄
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Exactly the same reaction I got
They would say ,"so you were envolved with someone else .. you could have told me before ... you made me lose a lot of time waiting on you ... ( you owe me a lot )
Same here
Same reaction, even decided to make up a fib saying one of his family member seen me on a date in another town smh 🤦🏽♀️
The crazy part about the reverse discard is that sometimes they dont expect you to be gone for good. Youre expected to simmer on the backburner until they get bored.
Girl you never lied that’s exactly how they are smh just pitiful
Yeah mine got a rude awakening. He used reverse psychology on me so I'd stay because he knew I'd be done after he betrayed me with cheating. I played the game but then left his ass..he never saw it coming. He just called me yday (after I insta-blocked him a month ago) ..met with the vmail😂😂😂
@@jamiethomas627 you already know
@NatzTalk thats the safest way to do it....i kept warning my ex what would happen if he continued to mistreat me....he didn't believe I would leave....then I blocked him EVERYWHERE! He had the nerve to pop up at my house afterwards but never could pop up when I was with him....too late now.
My narc filed for divorce. A few days later he called crying asking me to stay. I said no. So he told everyone I divorced him. He even asked me why I wanted a divorce now- even though he filed. The mind games are insane.
Who filed first is public record 😂
My ex friend reached to me after I left and forced me to talk about it. He then started to attack me, after hours of waiting in order to calm things in case there was a chance of solving everything so I defended myself from his attacks in the best way I could. He didn't ever read it at first, he just got offended that I messaged him againg he had a bad day (even when I got literally sick because of them, he literally forced me to talk and attacked me) attacking me againg múltiple times that evening and even forbidding me from responding (even after he was attacking me again with non sense) and forcing me to come back and forget everything among other things. He even got to the point of responding back a few weels after asking me if I was already calmed, yeah, not only he messaged me again when he attacked me for less but acted as if I was the one who lost his shit and he the one who tried to solve everything when he himself admited the oposite before. I didn't fall on his trap
My narcissist wife played those same games with me too. You can be experiencing some pain in your body, and they'll think you're faking it. There is no empathy, or concern on their part. Now, if there are others around to see what's happening, the narc plays a different role to give the impression that they care, only then will you doubt yourself and wonder why all of a sudden they do care? Maybe I was wrong, you may say to yourself. Unfortunately that's just how the narcissist plays this sick game. When you live with a narcissist, you'll always have a catch-22 moment with them. This is why it is so exhausting and draining to deal with them.
I don't like drawing parallels between narcissists and children, yet the similarity lies in the inability to articulate emotions. While children lack the maturity to express their feelings, narcissists exhibit a childlike mentality within an adult frame. When you live with a narcissist, they're always right in everything they do, according to them. You have no say so or right to tell them how they feel, think, see things, but for a narcissist these boundaries do not exist. They feel they are justified in telling you how you feel, think, or see things, and it's all your fault and how dare you even try to make them look like the bad guy. It's complete chaos and disorder. PERIOD!
Its so hurtful at first and then you become numb to all the games, verbal abuse, gas lighting, then it just becomes funny because what else can you do but laugh. When you think about it, its so stupid that its funny and you can predict their behaviors.
@@thatjamericankidd6637 yep and the narc does not care about facts lol
He told me to leave. Instead of putting up a fight, crying, or sitting in quiet protest, I immediatley got up grab my bag and "acted" like I was going to walk out the door. Instead of his usual smug grin, he loudly asked, "WHO IS HE?!"
They are so damn stoopid.
My ex friend reached to me after I left and forced me to talk about it. He then started to attack me, after hours of waiting in order to calm things in case there was a chance of solving everything so I defended myself from his attacks in the best way I could. He didn't ever read it at first, he just got offended that I messaged him againg he had a bad day (even when I got literally sick because of them, he literally forced me to talk and attacked me) attacking me againg múltiple times that evening and even forbidding me from responding (even after he was attacking me again with non sense) and forcing me to come back and forget everything among other things. He even got to the point of responding back a few weels after asking me if I was already calmed, yeah, not only he messaged me again when he attacked me for less but acted as if I was the one who lost his shit and he the one who tried to solve everything when he himself admited the oposite before. I didn't fall on his trap
Yup. I got “what’s his name?!” (… after 7 years of saying I can’t put up with this behavior anymore, this is your last chance, etc…)
@@ktwhimsy6946 I honestly wasn’t even “ending things.” We were exchanging words and HE told ME TO LEAVE…. And, yes- so many times I’ve read/heard “I’m done.” Earlier today the email ended with “You will never see me again.”
I later discovered he’d unblocked my number… 🤷🏽♀️💔🖤
😂😂😂😂
With me it was mask drop -> narcissistic rage for 5 seconds -> mask back up. Scary stuff seeing that in real time!
Same
Same for me
I dont think people realize how disorienting it is to see a person go into a rage and then come back like nothing ever happened or like you’re supposed to act like what happened didn’t just happen 😳 I had never seen anything like it. He raged and stormed out the house at 2:30 in the morning. I packed my bags, got in my car and drove 700 miles north back to my home and never saw him again. He called 10 days later talking about he needs closure after he saw that I wasnt trying to hear his gaslighting and blame shifting. I told him to continue doing whatever he’s been doing for the last 10 days. Hopefully he can find someone who knows how to do and say everything juuuuussssst right for him. I blocked him and never looked back. The rage did it for me. Very scary to see in real time 👀
what does it look like??
@@MPR2007 Evil and sadistic
My abusers' final victim broke up with him in person and got murdered. Make a plan, get help, and leave without their knowledge. Lie to them and then escape. Honesty does NOT work with these crazy mofos.
What 😮
I can believe that, when I told mine I nolonger want him I can't deal with his anger and gaslighting He shouted to shut up & be glad I didn't do to you what I truly want to do to you YET...... 👀 I silence down and prayed until he left my home, 😢
I started saying, “You cannot logic your way out of a situation, the other person didn’t logic you into!”
Know your narc! Be cautious! Make a plan 🤫
Be safe! 🙏❤️🩹🙏
You damn skippy I did that lied to him to get away from him because he was freaking nuts
They knew what they had and what they needed to do to make you happy. 💯
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Wow!! This is so true… I lived this last week. I broke up with my ex- narc for cheating on me. I Found evidence in his phone. He became so inraged screaming in my face raising his hand to me punching walls. While he’s doing all this I’m trying to leave his house. He would not let me leave until about 3 hours later. I guess he got tired. I Thank GOD for covering me.🙌🏽🙌🏽 NO CONTACT!!!
Omg...my son's father Literally held me Hostage in his house..locked me in his Bedroom😢 smdh He told me I can leave but his Baby is Staying. My Baby was Still in my stomach. 😒 I was scared to Death. I got away and went into a shelter. Then moved away. This was almost 20 yrs ago. Apparently I attract Narcissist still. I give up. I am Happy and at Peace alone.
LIVE LONG AND PROSPER ALONE LOVE, JUST LIVE!!!
and im SO sorry
Someone called the cops on my ex for following me down the street and I told them he blocked the door from me leaving and the cops arrested him for "Unlawful Restraint" on the other hand my current ex lied to the police that I hit him and I got arrested 😩
They take no for an answer. He just keeps being nice in hope that I will change my mind.
The same thing is happening to me
Yup! Same here, they really, truly believe we are that stupid to fall for their same old games.
SAME. AND I KEEP BEING NICE BACK (BUT STAYING AWAY) BECAUSE IM SO FREAKING SCARED.
They can never take no for an answer 🙄🙄🙄
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Nope but they have every excuse in the world to force you to take no for an answer
Mine cried and i was like YOU HATE ME!
I walked out 9 months ago. Absolutely no contact of any kind. Any connection that we have had has been blocked and dropped. We live within a mile of one another and I have taken myself completely off of their supplier list. If they are watching me, I wouldn't know because I'm so focused on being grateful that I got out alive. I don't look back, I don't wonder what went wrong, I'm just gone and I watch these videos to remind myself as to why I left. Thank you for all of your help and insight. It is greatly appreciated.
What do you mean thier "supplier" list?? I live about a 30 minute walk away from mine and I'm scared. I've told him its over via text because I need to focus on my health and education. I was also really nice and did not block him in order to prevent him from going into rage and calling me or showing up at my house. Im so glad I've decided it over as well but how do you deal with the threat that they could show up at any time? He said if we ever broke up hed understand, and even now is saying he understands - but I think its a part of the love bombing phase because next comes the emotional manipulatioon and guilt trips. Its only been a week and hes texting me to come by as freinds or to see my son. Id like to be like you and just be greatful its over but some of these videos make me really panic and lose sleep. I have no idea what kind of Narcissist I am dealing with. Just that Ive never broke up with him and stayed broken up because Ive gotten suckered back in within dayssssss. Sorry for the long comment. Just havent seen anyone else on here who lives near thier ex like this as well.
I dont tell nartistic I'm leaving I just disappear
My advice.... "PLEASE DON'T TELL THEM THAT YOU ARE LEAVING"... " LEAVE THEM FOR GOOD AFTER THEY DO SOMETHING MAJORLY WRONG TO YOU and Yes I'm screaming 😱 for a reason. They can lose their Mother Loving Minds, that is 1 of the scariest things that you could ever do, especially if they left you first. So, you thinkbbecause they left you first, that you now have the green light to move on like a healthy person would😂😂😂Huh??? Sadly NO‼️ Those evil hound dogs will track you down like a run away slave and harass you, the new person, and your family, friends, neighbors and all attached to You 😢 And Yes, they will stalk your family members too, from my experience.
My Advice to you, if you want to leave a narc is:
1).DON'T GO AND GET IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP RIGHT AWAY, that will make them go crazy and snap because trust me, they will be stalking you from a distance and it will put your new person in danger. So, lay low for a while, use this time to execute your plans and HEAL from their wrath.
2). DON'T BLOCK THEM NOR GO NO CONTACT, YET that makes them come looking for you, change their cell number, stalk you on ALL social sites, and start stalking your job, friends, family, and places that they know you frequent. Again, them having some type of access to you somehow keeps them from going all Rambo on you and keeps them calm. So allow them to talk to your voicemail and text messages just DON'T RESPOND NOR REPLY BACK.
3). LEAVE ONLY AFTER THEY HAVE WRONGED YOU IN A MAJOR WAY... This is the 1 that I used to leave my narc, that I bet you've probably never heard anyone say before. Yes, This is the ONLY TIME when a narc is Vulnerable. It is the ABSOLUTE ONLY TIME you can get away without things becoming severely violent and dangerous because their Guilt will be at an all time High and they will allow you to leave. So play on that guilt, make them leave or you leave, don't shut them out your life, but DON'T GO BACK TO THEM. This only works if you use what they have done to you as the excuse for NEVER giving them another chance and going back to them.
Besides, if or when you go back their niceness is very short lived and they WILL abuse you way worse the next time for leaving them and showing them your true strength in the first place. I hope this helps you'll escape the narcs in y'all's lives as well. 💖STAY NARC FREE💖
RESPECT. I AM PRACTICING THIS RIGHT NOW.💯
Sometimes their shame/guilt isn’t enough (or long lived enough) to keep them from narcissistic injury/rage. My ex lost his mind & became violent towards my 10 year old son… it was “the big incident” that caused me to realize I HAD to get out (me & my 2 kids, thankfully from a prior relationship, not his kids) - after the big blow up, he was walking towards me with contempt in his eyes, clenching his fists, repeating over & over “that kid deserves to be punched in the face, he deserves to be punched”… I was afraid. I asked him to please leave. He did … for about an hour. When he returned, he walked in the door & calmly said to me “you are abusive.” It was his way of shifting the blame - no apology or admittance of guilt, instead it was my fault for “always protecting my kids & choosing their side over his” - that’s what made him so angry he lost his temper repeatedly. What followed was a huge smear campaign accusing me of years of emotional abuse & “selfishness” towards him. He made a whole RUclips channel about it.
Thankfully I had support of friends & family despite his attempts to isolate me over the 7 years we were together. He still claims I was abusive & cheating on him & that I left him for someone else, when in reality I still haven’t been able to bring myself to try dating again… 4 years later. I think it was more a fear of being exposed than it was his own guilt that at least kept him from trying to come back. If they know you understand the truth about them, regardless of everything else, you might be in danger when you try to leave.
What I did to counteract this, was write him an apology letter in which I admitted fault for ALL the things he was accusing me of, even though it was bogus & I know I wasn’t the cause of my own abuse, it did the trick & he hasn’t bothered me since. Even the RUclips videos have ceased, because he no longer thinks I can “prove” he was a monster. It was a hard letter to write, but my kids & I are safe & regaining our peace little by little every day that passes without him in it…
@ktwhims6946... It DEFINITELY was the Guilt/Shame that made him leave, even though he came back, but when he did return an hour later, he returned in a very calm manner. That is the ONLY TIME in my 16 years of experience that the narc in my life was calm, I noticed that I would now have the upper hand, and he would now do ABSOLUTELY WHATEVER I wanted for him to do😂. I'm glad that you and your kids are now safe, but that admission of Guilt letter that you wrote him, is the very same letter, that he is going to use to try and disrupt your new relationship, whenever you do decide to start seeing someone else, in the future. So, remain NO CONTACT, for as long as humanly possible, because he is going to use that same letter to try to get back with you or to try to smear you later, if you don't take him back. It is my hope and prayer that he permanently has left you and yours alone, just be VERY MINDFUL, that if it seems to Good to be true, that he has left you alone for Good, then it probably is. If you don't already, PLEASE have a plan together in place, just in case, he comes back and starts trying to be with you again... My prayers are with you and your family... Thanks for sharing your experience with me, hopefully we can keep each other strong from them🙏💖
He accidentally left a butt dial voicemail and he was comforting a woman asking her if she’s sad, if she wants him to fix her boxing gloves, if she wants the light on. He told her he found his phone, she asked where. He said here in my room. Then told her, you know why I act like that? Because I’m an asshole. That whole conversation was exactly how he would have them with me. Even if I have shown him the voicemail he says he has not been with anyone else. There are many text messages on his phone flirting with so many women and now that I’m really blown with anger and hurt, he told me I can be with who ever I want. Just the day before he text me saying he loves me so freakin much. He’s totally homeless now cause I threw him out and is with a bunch of crackheads so I don’t get why it’s so hard for me to just get him out of my heart and mind if he put me through hell. Stole all my stuff, stole my new car, even my food and some un replaceable items. When he packed he had stuff like, my favorite shirt in his stuff, my ID’s that I saved from 7th grade all the way to my current license. I have them all and he had those in his stuff. All this is so weird and confusing. He told me not long ago that he hopes I find someone so he can shoot them in the face but now tells me to find a weak minded man that I can control. What’s happening? He only calls when he needs something
Blocked him and it been 6 going on 7 months of NC. Don’t entertain those texts messages because they believe they still have a chance with you. Your walking away is all the closure you need. Watch how many doors open watch how God bless you in ways that had been held up. Messing with those birds will handicap you and hinder you. They have been sent by the enemy
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Girl this was a word !! I’m in tears when I left God begin to open doors that were closed while I was dealing with him. I’m thankful I got out of that relationship
@@MsDlo85 amen yes so happy for you 🥲
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@@jamiethomas627 thank you sis 😊
My ex saw me last week after 5 months of us broken up and said I love you and I looked at him crazy and said don’t say that and he said I do love u and u know that and it’s a game to him but I’m over it period and thank u for all of these videos because of you I know about narcissists
Mine thinks it the “push/pull” 🙄
No fool. You pushed pulled pushed me off the dang edge.
It is over. 🙅🏽♀️ Finité
"You must got your taxes" 😂 I had laughed so hard the other day.. no I just want some peace 😩
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That's💯%Facts the Narc will say or do anything so u won't leave them.
I think he had a grand discard planned for soon but I went the day when he broke boundary to see if I would cave. He believed I would cave. I didn't cave. Exit stage left. I didn't block him till last week.
My narcissist ex did the 3rd one. He begged me not to leave him. He swore that he’d never hurt me again. I never gave him another chance. After I saw his true color, I couldn’t unsee it. Also I knew perfectly well that he apologized & acted “remorseful” simply because he got caught cheating, lying, using me for money, manipulating me, & much more. If he didn’t get caught, he would NEVER stop doing all those evil things to me. And of course I was right. Later on I caught him trying to get back with his mistress at the same time he begged me for another chance. My next step was exposed him to his mistress then blocked him for good.
My ex boyfriend acted like he didn't care until I left..an when he's in some crap he put himself in he knew how to act all of a sudden. I really pray for people with this disorder 😢😮
@fyd999 that's when they hoover you. Not when you hoover them like a reverse discard
I left while he was at work & he came home to me and my stuff gone.. He called me LOSING HIS DAMN MIND!! He surely would've hit me if I was there. Be careful yall!
If the narcissist was waiting for the victim to let them go then why in the hell the narcissist comes right back again. If the narcissist wants to be let go then just stop coming back to us victims when we can just move on to someone else our selves 😉
Our break up got violent in the streets in front of neighbors we both were on the ground called the police made a report so glad the neighbors got to see what I had to deal with for 6 years really got embarrassed because other men saw what he did.
My therapist told me he was diagnosed as having NPD. After a few months, it became clear that he needed therapy more than I did, so I changed therapists. He found out and bombarded me with emails and texts and voicemails asking why I abandoned our therapeutic relationship. Crazy!
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Like Stevie Wonder says, CREEP CREEP CREEP AWAY, become a Magician, just dissapear
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You nailed this one. I dumped my narcissistic ex, she immediately started the cheating allegations, threw a temper tantrum, then wouldn't let me leave. Then came the begging and the smear campaign.
I saw him with his so call fling. I'm telling you.she look like she was not happy at all.😂😂 you want him honey enjoy the ride with him.😂😂
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He thinks I'll change my mind in a few weeks...
Hope youre hanging in there , It only. been a week for me.
Reverse Discard was what happened for me. So when I filed for divorce I got it all ~ she wanted a second chance, then temper tantrums, then lies, then new supply and finally secretly moving out when I was at work. You're killin' it Lee!
You tell no one nothing not even your children. You just leave like a Whisper
When I told my narc ex that I wanted to leave he said good one. Then he started cleaning out of no where. My mom called the authorities based from what I had told her. He was in the military, and they made him leave. He was livid and made my life a living hell for years after we split up. Thankfully, we have been in no contact for 11 years. But he did move near by, I really hope to never run into him.
I had been questioning if the guy I been seeing for 3 months if he was a narcissist. I was with one previously and the new guy was showing all the signs. It’s crazy this video popped up because I broke up with him yesterday and I forgot I had my location shared with him and he popped up on me where I was shopping! He would not let me go home. He took my house key and told me if I did not go to his house, he was going to follow me all night! I ended up going to his house and I pray he actually leaves me alone but he knows where I live and has popped up. He told me before he will never let me leave😢
Can you move and change phone numbers?
You're so animated with your delivery at times. Its entertaining and informative. Great content 😂🥰
Thank you so much 😁
Dont tell them in person and don't be harsh, your life depends on it
It nice to talk to someone normal❤
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My narc twice said “don’t think this is working we should split up “ cos he kept starting on me and got to stage where I reacted - reactive abuse ….so I said “ yep agree f……. Off “ and he said “ no ur not going ! “ and I said “ it’s ur idea and I agree “ now he’s like a stalker …ur not leaving me blah blah blah …. I feel trapped plus difficult business wise
I feel trapped business wise too but I think we just have to wait it out until they go away. They need supply so they have to get distracted. That or we use Pseudonyms or business titles. Maybe we can brainstrom together!
I was hoping I lost my sh*t in the form of reactive abuse enough to scare him into not ever getting domineering with me again. I told him I stored all the emails from his contact list and all it would take was one mass email to all of his contacts to ruin his preistine professional image. I told this to him when he was calm one day and he said it freaked him out (and I was GLAD!). I was pshyah you think i;m stupid? I've got my own insurance for you. I hope it pays off now because I just left him. This is my third NARC partner so I hope to GOD I have a good handle on this LAST one.
Be careful if your person turns on the love bombing again.... once they get you back they'll punish you eventually for trying to leave them
We are LIKE NO! We want to be left ALONE!
😂😂😂 they put you in position to do this knowing there the one that push you to that limit.I kicked mine out for his lies and cheated on me.he was in shock no words to say.
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Wow Lee your the best. Thank you for helping us and teaching us how to value and protect ourselves against those malignant people. ❤ 💪
I did a reverse discard 10 months ago. He was already sneaking off to talk to the old/new supply. He became inconsistent so I stopped returning his calls and blocked/deleted that narc. His mask fell off and he became so toxic I had to get rid of him asap. I thank GOD everyday for giving me the strength to walk away from someone who I cared about but never existed. He’s a 63 year old loser. 😊TGBTG
stay strong
I just had this same experience and reacted how you did. He wasn't prepared for it.
@@Amandalee80 Gurl, it’s goodbye 👋 like you NEVA seen it before. Like Loretta Devine said in the Colored Girls movie. 😃
@@user-by4sd2jy2c I'm a very nice person. Very giving and caring, but when I feel it's off I completely disconnect and pull the rug and have zero emotions. He didn't even know what to do.
@@Amandalee80 That’s the best part of it.
Years ago I tried to break up with mine in person…he became so enraged and physically assaulted me. I started running for my life. Nope…never again.
He convinced his delusional self that it’s for someone else- I left FOR MY KIDS AND MYSELF he tried to be sweet but when it didn’t work he got so much worse til I was able to escape- but he pretends I was the bad one he was arrested for stalking me
😂 when I got discarded, a month later after NC we reconnected to try and talk some things out - not fix things just talk cuz this man literally threw me out like garbage without a word and I just wanted to hear something from his mouth about what happened.
Y'all why was this "man" so shook and heartbroken that I was already seeing other people?? The relationship was over a long time ago I just wanted him to fix his issues and it never happened.
Why did he ask "why are you dating other people? Are you done with me? Does that mean things are over between us?" SIR?! YOU *dumped* ME and told me not to talk to you for 30 days!!! Delulu is not just a river in Egypt y'all wtf.
The weirdest/worst part about it too, like Lee said I'm positive he was pulling a reverse discard, he became a total monster in the months leading to the discard. He definitely wanted me to be the one to leave
He said not that i have someone else but, as i told him the relationship was over as he never thought of me. He replied ive had enough of you changing your mind insulting me. I never want to have anything to do with you again. I said you said this before its emotional abuse if you dont leave me alone. He said ill leave you alone alright i dont want to speak to you. He got angry when i called him a fake and began verbal abuse. I hung up on him. Blocked, deleted etc. 2 months on im free.
They Flip it arround because they are ignorant and You killed His Ego !!! I left in Silence to avoid the Drama and blocked Him , Im glad that I moved and He don't know where I live now , thank GOD ❤
When the narc finally left, she was forced out by my rescuer, who has now become family to me. But for WEEKS after, she kept calling trying to attack me and play up my rescuer, then apologizing, etc. and then swear off the rescuer and trying to be buddy-buddy with me again. SMH. So back and forth. It never worked. Once my eyes were opened, I’ve never seen or been the same.
The lights were flickering on & off so many times I was living under a strobe light for 7 years 😂
My ex did this when I tried to leave. He would make me feel guilty for leaving and would accuse me of cheating and lying when he was the one doing it and that’s why I was leaving. When he raged over me not giving him any money and he ran back to his ex, again, I blocked him on everything and closed the door for good and forever. This was a horrific over two years experience of him abusing me, cheating on me, lying to me, then blaming me for him putting his hands on me and then calling me sick in the head for documenting those beatings. I am so glad that it’s over but so sad I allowed myself to tolerate that mess for so long.
I told her good bye, and then I blocked her.
On a closing note, watering your front yard to look like a swamp and placing land mines may deter future hoover attempts.
I'm done! Leaves no room for whining, pleading, begging or demanding and arguing.
I have been preparing my escape for 5 months. In these months i kept silent and i made sure i acted like the robot i have been for years. After my escape he was angry. I had lied to him for 5 months while he had lied to me for 13 years. But still in his mind my 5 months of hiding my escape was far worse than his 13 years of lying to me and using me. I am glad i did not tell him. He has been agressive in the past so i was sure he would do anything to stop me if i told him
There was this cowardly, passive aggressive, effeminate Covert Narc in my life. I thought that we were platonic friends. He was telling everyone that I was in love with him even though he initiated 99 percent of contact. He’d play nothing but mind games and ignore me after asking me to hang out. He’d play dumb and fiend innocence when I’d confront him about his bizarre behaviour. I’ve finally gone no contact one year ago. At first, he laughed about our friendship ending. After a few months of seeing that I was serious and not coming back, he’s still harassing me with creepy, cryptic and baiting texts every 3-6 months. I’ve outright told him that I’m not attracted to him but he won’t snap out of the delusion. I’ve recently blocked his number.
Always keep one foot out the door in a relationship with a narcissist. Save up some cash. Always have a back door plan of escape when they least expect it. Once the other foot is out the door, be sure to slam the door shut on this chapter and never look back. Things will only get better once the abused person takes their life back and reclaim their power.
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You are so right, he’s waiting for me to ask him to leave, so he can go, instead of going on their own, smh
It is enought to find out the truth about them... They will run over the hills because they know you will confront them (and they just can´t handle confrontation). And they are very angry if the lose (so when you have the upper hand - they don´t like that at all). I experienced the hell at the end - what you see clearly that person is really not well. Just be safe and careful everyone.
When I discarded him a week later he gonna text me and say “I texted you that I miss you you didn’t respond, I was really concerned about you and wanted to talk to you about you and what you think about me” I said nothing and blocked him smh. I see him still because we work together I make it my business to keep it moving don’t want him in my space he be wanting to talk and I just move right along. Then got the courage one day and asked me did I block him I said yes he looked shocked and I kept it moving. ✌🏾✌🏾stand on your business with that disregard don’t go back yall it won’t never 👎 be good it gets worse trust me
Typo discard
Both times he came busting in my room THATS EXACTLY the 1st thing that came out his mouth....
EXACTLY thanks Lee
Mine did the reverse discard because he’s a coward and wanted to get rid of me as soon as he started making more money. Not realizing that he wouldn’t have any options without his money because his personality is trash.
Lee is ABSOLUTELY correct. My ex husband held me hostage until he was convinced that I wasn’t going to leave. After that terrifying incident I plotted and planned carefully, raising no suspicion and left with the clothes on my back, cash I secretly saved, my driver’s license and birth certificate. I didn’t care about the material things or anything else. I only wanted to escape to take my life back before he took it literally. My advice to anyone who is dealing with this type of person is to plan carefully, secretly ,and safely. No good things come from being in a relationship with a narcissist.
That's how it is with me. I'm done with him and he's trying everything, but I'm no longer receptive to it. He love bombs me, he thinks I have someone else, and so on and so forth. His affair, which he's been having for 1 3/4 years, can't give him what he got from me. Now he doesn't get anything from me, I don't even make him a coffee anymore. He runs away to his affair for a few days and then comes back so he can get on my nerves again. Unfortunately he still lives in my house. When I told him I'm done with you, he said I know, but I'm not done with you yet. That sounds like a threat to me.
I dated mine on/off for ten weeks. Turned out he was on ankle tag so I did Clare’s Law (a disclosure scheme where the police will tell you their domestic related criminal history if you’re in danger). He stalked and harassed me until he ended up in prison. Then his flying monkeys stalked me and reported my every move to him whilst he was in prison. He got released and somehow has managed to convince the entire town that me and ALL FIVE of his ex girlfriends are lying and that there’s evidence to prove his innocence… Despite pleading guilty to ALL TEN convictions with evidence to back it all up. His only “evidence” is a legal document describing one of his physical attacks on his ex girlfriend and he has gotten a pencil, drawn an arrow to it and written “this didn’t happen” 🤦🏻♀️ The flying monkey’s are more baffling than he is at this point.
Wow 😮10 weeks 🙏🏽🫂
I love this video. Right on time
I definitely know about that reverse discard! Then started boohooing once I left and try to hoover me back in, naw I'm good after seeing the proof after questioning what I was I concerned about.
I love when you talk with a little bit of yelling
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The first time, I tried to leave, he love bomb me right back into the relationship. I wasn't quite ready yet. About two weeks later. I wanted to work on the relationship, but I found out that he's cheating and lying to me. I blocked 🚫 his number and disconnected my second line. I was done ✔️ no looking back. No Contact for 53 days now! I am so proud of myself. It can be done! Good luck 👍
They love the reverse discard because it helps them preserve that false image they strive to maintain. That way they play victim to the flying monkeys for validation. Ole Uno Reverso!
SO true!
So will they TELL YOU every awful thing they did then promise to get help? Mine told me he was leaving and had a place ready, then I called his bluff and said "ok" and started making plans, and he came to pieces. 😶
Yep, the keeping you in the dark- the putting you on the back burner until they are board- the using you as a personal ATM - the the MANY other women- but if I leave.. it’s MY fault. Yeah right, ok buddy. 🙄🤦♀️. They are really pitiful sad people.
No one will love you as much as I did.. Blah blah blah.... 😂That was my ex narc..
Mine tells me if I tell him that I'm done, he will actually be done and leave.
Mine is in the "lets get marriage counseling so i can understand why you are so hell bent on leaving me" stage. I almost did not leave this comment but Im so sick of living in fear, under emotional, mental and financial abuse and in isolation. Im not taking it anymore and im working hard at getting back on my feet for me and our kids because this is an evil and dark environment and i wish this on no one. 🙏🏽praying so hard for all of us. We got this and we are worth it!
Great video thanks Lee for your time and explanations love from UK ❤❤❤❤❤
Glad you enjoyed it
My narc husband cried for hours said " I'm sorry, I promise to change" non stop. I said no it's over, i showed no emotion. Two days later threatened to have me arrested, called me a lot of harsh names. Thank goodness I got a support system.
I cosign with everything that was described in this video. I went through damn near all of those things when I broke up with my ex. I ended up breaking it off with her 3 different times before it stuck. The first time she literally tried to bust up my steel reinforced front door with a big ass rock. My dumb ass took her back about 2 weeks later and got the most intense love bombing of my life, with promises of reforming herself. The second time was when she was out of work and I was helping her out with her bills. Cut her off again and she found a great job in what seemed like days, so I got the love bombing plus gifts. The third time was a charm because she knew that I had no problem cutting her off and my boundaries got stronger each time. My guess is that she had a new supply (thank goodness) because she didn't put up much of a fight. I still find myself looking over my shoulder, but it's been all good for a long time.
(Edited to add that the banging on the door happened because she thought I had another woman at my place. I didn't, but that was her first thought.)
I left. And he had someone already. He said “what did you want me to do …. You left me !” After the hovering 5 days later. I wish I knew then what I know now.
Yup… I told mine to get out my car.. and I’m done.. well let me tell ya.. he lost it and grabbed me so fast😳
Less than 20 days later my wife was with someone new. Yet I had confronted her about cheating.
Hey Lee, I don't know if you covered this, but what happens if you tell a narc to stop playing the victim? If you haven't done it, maybe it could be a good topic.
Don’t tell them that. They lose their minds. I tell my husband that all the time
I would advise you have a 3rd party with you for protection, and try and keep someone around you for months at all time. Never ever put yourself in a vulnerable situation with a narc. They are extremely dangerous and have no limits. You will be in danger
Look at the cute cat behind you 😍😍
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Well they won't be civil… and they will rage!
Yes my narc H is waiting for me to file the divorce but then threatens me when I talk about the divorce. Recently he lost his supply(I’m guessing, through his actions) because suddenly he went from being a wall, neglectful, not talking or interacting(for years) to suddenly love bombing. I don’t even know how to react to his love bombing because I’ve been grey rocking for so long and he’s been a wall for so long. My(adult)kids and I don’t know how to handle his love bombing. I wish it was easier to divorce these narcs. I can’t just secretly leave. I wish I could.
Just out of curiosity l, why can’t you just secretly leave?
@@VGH1967 There’s lots of reasons why I can’t escape quietly but the main one is no support. It’s 20 years worth of stories with this narc.
Not enough money to just take off.
Also 11 years ago(before I figured out what he truly was) he had me quit my job(love bombing and a lot of it to get his way) to start a business for his trade skills. This was my last ditch effort to “salvage” the marriage, back then. I thought we’d work together and be successful. I didn’t know he was a huge scammer. He took total control over the clients and business making it appear as if I didn’t even exist. He’s made it to where we completely relied on him and this business. To this day he threatens to take all the clients when he leaves. This business is all I have to survive with.
I also suffer from a birth defect on my face which needed constant care. We couldn’t even afford insurance because he controls how many clients we have. There’s too much to these stories I’m leaving out. Instead he watches me suffer and deteriorate as the time passes. I also have endometriosis and adenmoisis which is debilitating. Ive been falling apart in those years as he watches. I’m still suffering from my health issues. There just not enough solid help and support for people in our position.
I figured out what he(and what my family was) in 2017. That’s also when I found out I needed brain surgery. It is very difficult to carry the world on your back(because of their inability to handle normal life) and on top of that have serious health issues that needs attention. All these years I’ve been trying to stay alive and afloat.
Since 2017, I’ve been working on myself on recognizing and breaking the abusive cycles I was so conditioned to accept since my childhood. Now that I’m fully aware of what is all going on, I still can’t just escape. My now adult kids and I have learned how to deal with him. But now that he’s suddenly love bombing, we don’t know how to handle it. We can’t accept his sudden fake “kindness” after so many years of neglect and hate from him. It would have been easier had we had support a long time ago. Once you’re stuck in their deep web with kids, It’s hard to escape.
I hope my comment reaches the person who is confused if they were in a situation of reverse discard because it could be very confusing.
I have years of narcissistic abuse experience before that, I didn't even know the term "narcissist". It's when I started to Google my scenarios and came across some people talking about the same exact scenario. That's when I was introduced to "narcissist" and that's when I realized I'm not crazy.
Unfortunately, I didn't have anyone to explain to me because I'm an orphan and don't have much friends. Also I was embarrassed of him consistently telling there's something wrong with "me".
I'll make it easy for whoever is reading this to understand the difference between when they wanted to discard you VS when they feel discarded by you and take that offensively.
When a narcissist has a replacement supply to replace you, slowly he'll become sour & unavailable to you because something or someone else is entertaining him. This is their 1st tactic to make you react or make you leave him. If you don't leave him immediately, it'll get worse, day by day. Until the day, you have no choice but to leave him. If you reach that point and finally tell him that you'll leave him. He'll 1st make you feel guilty of taking that decision just to confuse you & make you feel bad for him, so they feel a better person than you. 2nd, he'll make sure that you feel that you're the bad person for leaving them & that you'll miss out on all the good things. 3rd, (very important to notice this), although he might show fake emotion and make you feel guilty, if you suddenly feel bad and change your mind to want to make it work, suddenly you'll notice how he'll make it seem impossible to fix it example "no no its ok, I understand, it's fine, you're right we should break up, bye" suddenly cut the conversation real quick so there's no way of reconciliation. Because this is his opportunity to go cry to the new supply of how you mistreated them and seek sympathy. Extremely soon, trust me, he's gonna be in an official new relationship with new supply.
Now, how does the narcissist react when they don't have a solid new supply? They might react in many ways (because I have seen all the reactions lol), 1. They might make you feel sooo guilty 2. When that won't work, they'll break down in front of you, if possible they'll wanna meet in person and show you how broken they are. 3. If that doesn't work, they will explode in love bombing and make fake promises about things you have always asked for (FAKE PROMISES PLS REMEMBER), 4. if all that didn't work, they might forcefully show up at your place, work, start talking about you to your friends, make plans with them and 5. When nothing worked, they might threaten you by telling you harmful things or tell you that your new partner will be harmed if you don't return to him. Lastly, if you call the police or don't react to anything, they'll stalk you forever everywhere !!! Seriously obsessed over you and will ALWAYS contact you or find new ways to contact you here n there.
Why? Because you're the best thing that ever happened to them. They know but they don't appreciate because to them everything has a flaw except themselves. It's beyond their understanding that some people love genuine because they can't offer same thing.
Looking nice in black 🖤💯
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I moved in silence and didn't tell him I was moving out until it was time to start packing. I blamed it on the therapist that he wanted me to see so he wouldn't completely rage out.
Don't forget narcissistic think they own you!
Everytime i tried to leave he wouldn't let me. (but when he discarded me there was no talking to him) untill I found away and I took it and never looked back!
Leeeeee!!! ❤ Haven’t been here in awhile but thanks again for all you do!! And IM BACKKKK!!! 😂😂😂
Mine waited too long for bettering himself.Im at peace with out him took 5 years but I am at peace.
Don't tell them. Just up and be gone one day without a word. Best decision you will ever make in life .. oh an block them that they as if they never existed.
I won't tell u ,I'll show u, u don't deserve to hear from me
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My discussion was being gone.
😂 wow, you just described the end of even one of the relationships I thought was “healthy”. 😂😂😂
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Funny he started ghosting me again last night after finding he was cheating for almost a year with a coworker and the kitchen light was flickering all last night.
My Narc ex started, literally, begging me to reconsider and promised he would end things with the girl he was cheating with. He even shed some tears! Lol! I went on and gave it another round and he behaved for a good 2 months ..... before I found out he was back seeing the girl he was cheating with. I walked away for good that time. And he started a relationship with her. I ran into his older brother one day at the end of 2023 and he filled me in. We broke up in 2018 ... cut all communication in 2019. He and the girl he was cheating with ended their relationship in 2023. So, he was with her for 4 years. His brother told me the entire 4 years, they were on and off, due to his cheating. And she finally cut him loose right before Thanksgiving last year when she found out about another woman he was cheating with. So, she basically went thru what I was dealt with. But I don't feel sorry for her one bit because she knew he had a girlfriend when she was cheating with him and didn't care about me. These people that Narcs cheat with are so funny. For some strange reason, they think when the Narc ends up with them, they are going to be faithful. Smh....