@@MentalHealness Also share them to myself in my email and my Messenger so there's easy to get to and remind myself of what's. Going on anytime I need you in doctor r
@@MentalHealness I'm the one still stuck in it 32 years later and I'm so strong. I don't understand I guess too many trauma bonds love bonds. I forgot what they call those strings they are supposed to cut.
I dated a narcissist and he ended up in prison because of his actions and how he treated so many decent women it's not always about karma it's about how THE MOST HIGH GETS TRIED OF THESE PEOPLE FOOLISH I'M A LIVING WITNESS OF THIS MESSAGE MR LEE 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@ItsSoarTimemy ex is about to go to prison for burglarizing my home and threatening to hurt my roommate. He also cheated multiple times and lied during the whole relationship. He has a porn addiction and seggs addiction. Now he will be all alone with no women to feed his addiction and no more doormat ex gf (me) to have seggs with while trying to simultaneously smash “better” women and upgrade. I was a placeholder for something better but ahahahaha now he will be downgrading to a prison cell and will have to play with himself with no porn to watch unless his mama and gf’s pay for internet access. No more seggs tho unless he wants a man in there to finish him off. KARMA! ❤
That´s not the problem. They don´t want to be alone because they begin to think then... (And they don´t want that - they don´t want to feel shame). And they need supplies like we need air to breath. But yeah they hate even themselves - that is true.
@@MentalHealness I will never be alone because I still have my children on my side. And I don´t feel lonely by myself - I never did because if you are in a narcissistic relationship you are lonely.
@@MentalHealness correct, I chose the exact word I meant to use. They will never be alone, they will always have someone there, even if it’s someone they don’t want or care for
Hi, I was dating a narcissist for over twenty years. We planned on getting married or so I thought. When we first started out he said everything I to hear. But when he got me his mask came off. He was abusive but I stayed. I always left but I always came back. But last year I finally had enough. I made plans looked for a place to stay in another town and I moved away. He's 59 and I'm 51 now. He's always trying to connect with me on social media. But my life is so much better without him. It feels so good coming home to piece. Even though I'm alone I'm not lonely. I know the right guy is out there somewhere. I thank God I came across your channel. You have no idea how much you've helped me. Thanks so much Lee🙂
I know as they age.. they hate it. Quality Supply gets harder and harder to get. So they get low value people who are just like them .. angry and bitter . They ruminate on their best supplies of their past and hate their current lives. I have seen men in their 70’s &80’s they yell insults to their wives in public . Their insecurities really come out . The mask can’t stay on . Now one thing I notice is all the addictions they have - alcohol, Sex, Gambling are very pronounced in their old age . The new supply gets tortured - threatened divorce or unliving .. and their own children distance themselves because of their bitterness . They don’t become loving , caring, and appreciative . I think their punishment is living to old age !
ooo. ouch! smh. i feel sorry for them. i really do. BUT NOT SORRY ENOUGH TO ALLOW ONE TO ENSLAVE ME OR MAKE ME AN ADDICT OF HIM!!!!! EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
All true. My ex narc isn't yet 50 but because of his low self esteem he attached himself to the first thing on his path a woman closer to 60. She's definitely a downgrade from me (if I do say so myself😊) and he actually took me to court for threatening to kill them and myself 😂😮 when it was all a rage to get back at me for not reconciling with him. I had no idea he would go to those extremes. She's the same as he bc she has cheated on her own husband multiple times. Everything was dismissed. The unfortunate part is I have a child w this person. A beautiful and wonderful child who deserves so much more and I feel awful they are in this situation. This too shall pass.
I read a tweet the othet day from a man in his 70's who was pulled in & pushed out his entire life by his narcissist girlfriend. He did everything he could in the last years of her life to care for her despite being treated like dirt. After she died, her attorney gave him a sealed letter to read after her passimg. It was nothing but complaints about everything she felt he'd failed at in life & their relationship. Being the loving man he is, he really thought the letter would contain some type of kindness in her goodbye. She broke his heart yet again, even from the grave. So sad 😞
DAAAAAAAA-------N!!!!!!!! WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this CAN'T be real!!!!!!!!! smh. yeah, that...moved me...quicker and closer to the point where i STOP feeling sorry for the person i was exposed to ...
My ex is in his late 60s and looks great for his age, so he’s still getting new supply. Some women just want a man in their life. 🤷🏾♀️ They don’t change.
Yes mine was 63, he has numerous health problems because of his previous illicit drug use and alcoholism. He just had major surgery last year. He thinks he is the whole show and superior to everyone else. He had never met a woman as smart and industrious as I am, I was able to positively improve every aspect of his life. Instead of being grateful he chose to cheat. I quietly removed my energy, blocked him and never looked back . Let them enjoy one another because I know my worth. I realized I never knew him, the mask fell off and the negative energy was stifling. I couldn’t function in a productive manner until I blocked him. I was able to remodel my whole bathroom on my own. I thank GOD everyday that I no longer have to deal with the toxicity and evil spirits that he possessed. 😊❤
These words could have come from me, thank you! Just had the same thoughts! But I will never understand how well they can play a person they never were or will be. Great actors, sad pay they will get in the end.... Blown up so many chances.
Chunky lumps of regret! 😂 Thanks for that laugh Lee. One would think age would be humbling, and to a normal, self reflecting person it is, but it just makes a narcissist angrier.
I agree plus I recently had a sideline view to a 96 yr old malignant narcissist the last 6 years of her life before she recently passed. She became even more religious but cussed out the help because “don’t they know they work for her…she pays their salary…no is not an option”. Minutes later she would be singing hymns in the lobby looking for compliments. She had alienated all the help and all the other residents so she tried to find new people to interact with since the residents and aides avoided her. She sat alone for meals. People would scoot away if she was coming. She wanted to be told her voice was beautiful and she was still an ambassador to the world - she wanted all to know she was better then them and had maintained her figure . However in her last months she revealed to one person “I have done a lot of good but I’ve done a lot of bad and terrible things to others too” …she owed many amends but she continued the terrible behavior nonetheless and never said “I was wrong”. She didn’t ask for forgiveness and no one gave it. She appeared very sad but “knew she’d be at Gods door soon” and he would put her in charge of heaven. I believe she choose to pass on to get out of the mental anguish she was in. She deeply hurt and harmed many many people through out life and did not clean it up or acknowledge it and she knew she had done it!! I’ve never seen anything like it and it was and is hard for me to feel I miss her because I don’t. I do hope she has found peace however.
Spot on I got with him when I was 20 and hes worse every year going on 32 years now. I've gotta get the freak out here. He's going to un alive me through stress
My soon to be ex husband was trying to kill me through stress. I just turned 40. He's an alcoholic and he's 34 , been married for 10yrs years. He lives in another house and so do I. It's peaceful without him . But we have kids together 😢I feel sorry for my boy's when they have to go to his house. Because he mentally and emotionally hurting them. I'm trauma bonded 😢
you must act because he's already unalived you in other ways in 32 years???? 32. listen to the playlists beginning with RAW TRUTHS ...; HEAL the Narcissist ...; and VERY POWERFUL ... AND ACT IN 2024 to FREE yourself once and for all WHILE YOU'RE STILL 6 FEET OVER GROUND. PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@nicosiabrown7501 Is it necessary for him to be in their life, if he’s causing them emotional harm? I pray that you break that soul tie with him. Pray for wisdom and God’s guidance in this difficult situation. You deserve a healthy peaceful life as much as possible. You’re young, get healthy and be strong for your sons. You can do this 🙏
My narcissistic grandpa is old, has cancer, and his younger wife is abandoning him. He has three kids he refuses to meet or ever took care or claimed (found out with the dna and me tests) he abused women and children and was a chomo. Some of my aunts went down to visit him and said he isn’t doing good. I don’t even know why my aunts would visit him. I’ve noticed the most evil ppl live the longest.
@@ka8155Because they know what follows death.. truly facing what they have done in this life. Fear keeps them here. It’s the sheer willpower to prolong and avoid shame, accountability, and discomfort both in life and after death.
This had me cracking up!!! 😂 they will never be able to connect with others in their authenticity. They love appearance, pride and ego. But when you truly connect with who you are you’ll be able to hear inconsistencies in their stories. I ruminate over the many stories my wife told me and I’m repulsed . Thinking were they true 🤔. They’re like a cold shell. And are like crabs in a bucket, she was never happy with my business ideas. She spit on my diploma on my wall. 🤦🏾♀️. I have many stories. Lee I would love to send you voice recordings of her for instagram. I heard them after she left me. Months and months of recording. I wish I would have heard them sooner I would have left her A$$.
It makes so much sense into why the narc ex always used to say he dont want to get old...that old age is a curse. Wow now I understand! Thank you for this video!
I just left this 69yr old narc, he called and insinuated that I was out, being tired of all the goastng gas lighting a complete emotional wreck, yes I took the opportunity, I told him I went to dinner, with a friend, he assumed it was a man, and I was happy to ablige his sentiment, when I refused to tell him the name of the restaurant we went to, he hung up on me, he got so mad he blocked me, after 21yrs, I must say, I had prayed about this situation, for years and it finally happened, leaving me heart broken and mad as hell, Im going through the healing process, now, but I would never look back at that old miserable basterd, thank you for sharing your video's, they're helping me, to move on, ❤
My narcissist 65 going on 80...I walked away 1.5 years ago. Just wanted to say hi. He sent me a quick pic. Wow! He looks so different,old looking...He was so handsome, good looking....so sad
When my Mom died, I felt a mixture of sadness and relief. All I ever wanted was her approval, and in the end, I could tell that she finally appreciated me even though she never said it out loud.
Why won't they self reflect Lee you are doing the inner healing work on yourself my ex narrissist has lost so much and has has good ladys who treated him with respect and dignity and he broke them I am lucky I survived it a never ending life off misery sad we Heal and they stay the same worse with age take care all ❤️
Whatever happens - people choose their own path. Everyone is responsible for their own life (nobody else). The narcissist makes the whole world responsible but that doesn´t change the fact that he/she is responsible too. So if I did shit I always got it back (so that is just my view of the things and I know I deserved and earned it). But what I never earned (no matter what) is physical and emotional abuse - but I know I was not responsible for that. (People have issues - and sadly are very ill-minded).
So true sir. They question EVERY DECISION THEY EVER MADE. They always think about what the path not taken would have been and don’t give their mind rest.
Sir, ive learned alot from you and truly i appreciate it. My twins age 12 and I thank you very much for all you speak which has helped us see their dad, my xhusband for who and what he is. Bless you.
i heard Mr. Lee say he's friends with the guy on the Raw Motivations channel. so i'm assuming he won't mind if i encourage you to also check out the RAW TRUTHS from that guy!!!!! also, the Heal NPD channel offers excellent education about this disorder ... and/or check out my playlist: Heal the Narcissist with CPTSD. VERY EDUCATIONAL!!!! PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My grandfather was bitter to the end and still trying to bully from his hospital bed smh… I recognized that personality in my last FWB and just cut him off 😞
Still can't decide if my ex is a narc. He was incredibly controlling and selfish. He's been 4 years going through hundreds of women, trying to find a replacement, one that will dress, do, act and be just as he wants..like he trained me up to be over the years..
Narcissistic people will break you down and take so much from you, that your happy light just gets dimmer and dimmer, and you begin to feel stuck like you’ll always be a narcissist slave forever….Your true self and how you used to be before the toxicity of the narcissist, is something you can’t experience or be again until you break the chains of bondage. Thanks to prayer, and guidance through the Holy Spirit, I was finally able to break free, to my surprise without violence, and I’m not looking back.
Yes I agree! My father is an overt narcissist in his 70s now. I can say that he’s been getting worse over the years. I truly believe he’s lonely and bitter, even though he and my mother are still married. He still treats her badly. He’s very stuck in his ways and won’t change. I have already accepted it. This video also makes me curious about how my ex-husband and ex-boyfriend will be in the future. They are both covert narcissists in their early 30s. I doubt that they will work on themselves. I’m glad I got away from both of them. I am no-contact with both. I am low-contact with my father.
Lee thank you for the videos. I wish I knew about this a long time ago. Sometimes the words you say are exactly the words/threats that were said/yelled to me. I am lucky to have survived. Flashbacks still terrify me.
Great heartfelt video. I have to pause it for a second to comment bc as you were speaking about the abusive husband who lost certain physical abilities and youth and how he still grew MORE bitter and angry with this and age (taking it out on the wife)… I hope everyone can see and get validation that there are many instances where abusive people get WORSE with age. Some haughty people mellow out or reflect on their life and choices and mature to some extent. But with a lot of abusive narcissistic people, they just get messier and worse psychologically. We hear all the time, unfortunately, including in celebrity scandals, how previous girlfriends, or wives, thought the world of a current abuser and to the day will disbelieve any intimate partner at their later stage in life could be telling the truth about how abusive he was to her. In fact, narcs and psychopaths will mentally manipulate you by using their past partners or the fact that they’re on good terms with all of their exes or their freakin mamas, to somehow make you think what you are DEFINITELY seeing, feeling and experiencing from them can’t possibly be real- it must just be a you problem; you must be the ONE in the world who deserves their wrath. Take it from someone who knows. An abusive husband can still kill you in your 80s… literally. 😔 Please get out, people.
There's nothing funny about the horrible abuse of a person, especially one with NPD, but Lee, that humorous side of you cracks me up. It feels good to be able to laugh even through such pain in your life. Pick and choose battles, y'all. On that battlefield, claim victory. Abuse is real and serious. Choose wisely survivors and continue to thrive in it. Peace in righteousness best you can❤
This is so sad... They spend their lives generating intense emotions, but in the end they get the exact opposite of what they crave. Instead of controlling everyone, they have the people who once loved them deeply, barricading against them. It's why I'm still around this lucky idiot that I'm married to, but our children are slowly and steadily turning their backs on him. And good for them for being survivors, but they used to adore him...
I would adore if you made more content for narcissists trying to minimize/not cause harm. (Having a hard time getting back into therapy bc of needing other clearances)
Lee, you here this a lot. But last year when I tried to leave I got sucked back in the same day. I've been watching your videos every day since November. I left this past Monday and I have stayed gone. He did and said everything word for word in your videos. You really prepared me for this this time and I thank you so so much!!!! 15 years and it was getting worse every day. I finally slept the whole night last night for the first time and feel so much peace now. God bless you and your work!!!!!!!! Id have stayed with him forever pitying him but now he's being forced to man up again and hopefully do better as better can be for him. Thank you I have my happiness back and i dont have to worry about the abuse anymore...... Thank you!!!!!
i almost clicked off this page. ditto the comments i left for Ms. Cybill on this page. please avail yourself of the channels and playlists i mentioned so that you can STAY STRONG AND BECOME STRONGER!!!!!!!! Channels: Raw Motivations; Heal NPD my playlists beginning with: RAW TRUTHS ...; VERY POWERFUL ...; HEAL the Narcissists ... PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My narc mother starved my dad, neglected him, refused to take him to PT, took his phone, took his money, etc. When he died, he wanted to. We should have took her to court. She manipulated us so much we could not see how bad it was!
The one I know has got much worse after six years no contact even though he's now homeless, carless, and jobless he's not learned anything from all the therapy, finding God, and multiple parenting and mental health courses.
Told my marc ex to leave me alone today you ate so right he's 53 an getting crazier an accusing everyone of crazy things. So sad he is pushing anyone good to him away stalking wanting revenge for things he made up in this head.
Am glad everyday my narcissist didn't become a brain surgeon, it's a scary image. Best case scenario he gets promoted and stops tracking me. Honestly have no clue how he is doing. It scares my mom when he sends/leaves things at the house though, he left a lantern before valentine's day by the front door. I think he will be with someone and they will intellectualize how miserable they both are and how they would be happy with other people.
Not all npds end up the same. Some become successful pediatricians and live retired in Malaysia on a sailboat with their new supply. My belief is God will deal with them.
@@MentalHealness He claims it. It " floats his boat." 😆 Npds may end up miserable, and then again, they may not. The main idea should be that you focus on you. Not "It from the pit" and what "chains" he or she may be rattling. 🤗You do you.
@@newmusicvibez does it matter? If he's shallow or not? If he's Changed or not? " It from the pit" can be so happy that they are delirious. What about you? What about your life? Your happiness? If they can still chain you down,.make you miserable even when they are not there, they run your life and affect your choices. They win. If you focus on you and your happiness, they lose.because you don't care anymore. Im trying my darndest to get to where I just don't care anymore. Then I will know that I have defeated him. He has only the power I give him. And it stops now.
I literally just purchased your kids book for my 8 year old daughter. I been watching your videos for about about 2 years now and your so on point! I commend you for spreading awareness and shedding light on this topic. My ex-husband/ daughters father is Narcissistic as well as other mental health dx and the amount of abuse we have been through is incredible. It’s really sad to watch someone leave a path of destruction in so many peoples lives but like you say if they truly don’t want help then pushing them won’t help. Everyday I keep education myself so that I can protect myself and my child from the abuse.
I think what I don't understand is that they always have someone no matter what. I'm still healing and trying to find peace. I'm terrified to get into another relationship with someone.
Ah, there’s the important qualifier: “unless they get therapy.” They can and do get better if they get help. Lee, it helps even more if the partner gets help too, doesn’t it?
after this video and reading these comments, and watching Raw Motivations' videos (i've compiled into a playlist as reminders!!), i've reached a point where I DO NOT CARE if he gets help. STAY AWAY FROM ME!!!!! i'm too empathetic for THISSSSSS. it's too much!!!! i wish him well, but leave me be.
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Naaah, they are too proud to work on themselves or even get therapy.
So Lee I’m not a narcissist and love your broadcasts! I will tell you in a weird way I see how you could be a narcissist because you start out hello beautiful people and your voice is like so comforting. Totally draws me in. I’m married so promise this is a compliment not a weird I’m hitting on you. Thank you for all your advice! Watch you often!!
It's interesting theme. I mean about the end of the life for such people. For last year i was recollecting my memories about grandfather and grandmother. when I was young, I didn't notice many things, that looks strange now. Yes, there was something back those days. something different from our family, but I couldn't point my finger on anything, or ask a question. First of all, my mother was his favourite daughter and I was favourite grandson. I lived almost a year at grandparents home. My grandfather always asked my mom to see me more often. I loved my grandfather, he told me a lot of interesting stuff about cinematography and photography (he was a photographer at local cinema studio for many years). Same time, there was no such enthusiasm about my young brother from GF. Grandparents was living in separate rooms. GF was spending most of the time reading newspaper, watching TV or sleeping. Granny did all the homework and she was more like a servant to GF. There was not much of arguing between the (at least in front of me). few times maybe. But once a GF was real in rage mod. I don't remember what i did wrong back then, but it was like something... terrifying. First it was rage from him, and after he guilt trip me. And granny was like "listen what he said!" She was on his side. It was long evening. He was angry hours and hours... and next morning he was nice again, like nothing happened. I don't know, was he a narcissist or not. But there was much more of things and stuff. a lot more. For example, i remember, that granny was always WRONG. I mean, everything she did he always told her that "she did it wrong". sometimes openly, most time in passive-agressive way. He died one night. Not alone, granny was sleeping next room and blamed herself. And for years after she always repeated, that it was her fault.
What makes me heal through the pain of detaching myself from the Narc is believing that he's out living life. Going from one supply to the other. Not a care in the world. Enjoying his time. I cant mope and be depressed knowing he's out living carefree. I may be wrong but this works for me. I intentionally get up get out and do things I used to enjoy.
I was with my narcissist husband in the end where he refused to believe he was dying even though he was constantly on a large hospital breathing device keeping him alive due to his lung cancer. He arrogantly asked his group of doctors who had gathered at his bedside, “Are you gonna just let me lie here and die?”. It was only at the very last moments of his life when he was undecided about whether to die taking morphine, or not, he decided to take the morphine to ease the process. His two daughters and I cared for him as an adjuncts to his doctors but we were basically treated as servants by him. Still I am glad that we showed love even though he was incapable of really being there for us emotionally. It was a long 47 year marriage and it has taken me years to recover from the emotional abuse. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.
Depends on the flying monkeys that have surrounded them and why. My mom her flying monkeys are there for the $$. She is now losing her memory All of these people are just waiting for her to croak as if they were going to collect. I think after everything our lesson is not to be like them. If I get a call and my mom is in a bad way I'll do what I can to make sure she is safe and not being taken advantage of. Life is not about settling a score It's about learning from our and others mistakes. Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die
The guy my nex shot and un-alived 3 years ago was also a narc. They burned his his body No one came to his defense,no one even came for those ashes They still sitting in a gov building on a shelf in inyo
@@MentalHealness There's a 2003 documentary A Certain Kind of Death that follows what happens to people who die with no next of kin. If they can't find anyone to consult about the person's wishes, and they don't have a will or burial plans, the default is they get cremated and the ashes put in a box on a shelf. Every so many years they dig up a plot of land to bury all the unclaimed cremains and the cycle repeats.
I think my story would definitely help others! 14 year age gap and everything you have said in your channels... she has done everything.. been almost a year and I'm the one that got away! Thank you for your channel
My grandmother died before my narcissistic grandfather… my mom helps to take care of him and he cries a lot especially when they go to her grave. Oh and he’s in his 80s
I believe that my husband of 7 years is an undiagnosed narcissistic alcoholic, and for the last year when we’ve gotten in an argument, I’ve threatened divorce. I’ve even had a couple months that I stayed with a friend and came back after he begged me to come home, now that we have a 3-year-old and just bought a new house 3 weeks ago we got into an argument, and he suddenly wants a divorce. We’ve never done marriage counseling and he mentioned before that he wanted to, so I’ve talked him into doing marriage counseling before we just end everything! Last night he admitted to me that he thinks he has a sex addiction because he’s been seeing prostitutes for the past couple of weeks and he said he thinks he has a problem and we’re going to do marriage counseling and he might even do some of his own therapy and counseling, so I’m not sure if I should give this a chance to see if he can change the way that you have changed even though he is verbally, emotionally, mentally and physically abusive. It sounds like you have changed as a person and started a channel to help people. I guess I’m trying to hold everything together for our 3 year-old and because we just bought a new house less than a month ago,
NOPE, YOU'RE NOT!!!! STOP TELLING YOURSELF THAT!!!!! if he gave you a reason or many reasons not to be there, it is what it is. write down those reasons, repeatedly go over them, and they will prove to you that your statement is false!!
Hey Lee, my husband just turned 44 he is so depressed about this, he has a fear of turning old I mean it scares him BAD! he does everything he can to look younger the bold spot on top my goodness! He calls it the Peter Pan syndrome. Oh my gosh, it is just so much to the story. It’s kind of scary because I can see his father and him and his mother before she died said that his father was the same exact way and he is named after his father.
I will tell ya how my dad ended up. I was goin thru a tough time in my marriage. Needed a place of refuge for a short time. Big house all to himself. He said, No room for you here. Guess what my answer was when he wanted me to live with him as his health was declining. He ended up falling down his stairs. I guess he shouldn't have been such a cruel violent bully. He never spoke a kind word to anyone in the family ever.
My mother has been married to my narc father for over 40 years. Ive pleaded with her to leave him for her health (he's stressed her to weight loss and hair loss) but she claims hes not that bad and at least he doesnt hit her. She keeps going to the doctor for her health but her tests show up fine because I keep telling her the illness is external not internal. She's frustrated because she knows im right but he caught her at 20 years old and he was 37. The mind control he has on her is sad and crazy. I told my mother if she passes before he does, I wont be talking to my narc father and definitely wont be looking after him. He's a toxic man even at 82.
Your channel is great. When you have been abused by narcissists it is always nice to listen to other people that have experienced it, yet listening to someone on the other side of it is perfection. Keep speaking the truth🎉❤
Only found out last month that my BF was a narcissist. When I think back, it was nice in the beginning, then all of a sudden he got really insulting at me, finding fault at everything. Talking down to me and feels he is always right, snobbish, he would diss me, no apology, no empathy, he seem not to care. I found out he was from one woman to the other, visitors to the island would hook up with him for sex and would give him money. When they depart, he would be on to someone else whether Foreign or local. He can't seem to e alone and he is rather restless. Like to be the center of attention. One day I insulted him and it made him sad with his fragile ego. But he is from woman to woman on a daily basis. I read up and realized he had every trait of a narcissist. I let him know that I knew what he was doing. He doesn't play an part I his familys life. He doesn't connect with his mother, his children or grandchildren. He dont remember none of they Bdays. He doesnt know which school his grand kids attend. It's very sad that a person can be like this. Also the word gigolo describes his behavior. He always wanted something from me or want me pick up something for him. These narcissist dont care, they just live from day to day pretending and trying to score with the women in return for gifts etc. They dont even know that they are narcissist. They world is a fake reality and they operate at a low level of consciousness. Karma takes care of them.
This is just so very SAD. Those of us who have escaped MUST consider ourselves fortunate. Educate ourselves, protect ourselves, love ourselves. BTW, address that “inner child” as you move though your healing. Think about YOU not the idiot. I’m 63. Yup you can teach an ole bird 🤗. Gotta laugh yo keep from crying. Thank God got my young adult children!!! My army snd tribe. Get yourself a tribe
I didn't gain weight I've been losing for the last 2 years. I'm done to a hundred and nine pounds... I intend to get out before i'm fifty three one year
Oh wee they are evil asf! My baby daddy treated me so bad my whole pregnancy to the point I thought about driving my car off the bridge with my son and while pregnant. Every other day he says he hates me, I’m a b, and goes out to do drugs and drink. Hung over the next day and don’t help out with the kids and complain and yell about everything.
I would rather be lonely alone than lonely with him
Stay strong
@@MentalHealness Thanks sweetie i've never missed an episode
@@MentalHealness Also share them to myself in my email and my Messenger so there's easy to get to and remind myself of what's. Going on anytime I need you in doctor r
@@MentalHealness I'm the one still stuck in it 32 years later and I'm so strong. I don't understand I guess too many trauma bonds love bonds. I forgot what they call those strings they are supposed to cut.
Amen! Me too!
I can say from experience when a narcissist passes away NO ONE misses them. Most are relieved
THIS.
Thats the truth 💯
That includes parents. ❤😊
Thats True 👍🏾
💯💯💯
You can also end up alone if you are an abuse survivor and simply can't trust any more.
Exactly
But you can stand loneliness - narcissist don´t (they can´t be alone).
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Amen amen did I say amen
True, so don't do it! Get free and get back out there!
I dated a narcissist and he ended up in prison because of his actions and how he treated so many decent women it's not always about karma it's about how THE MOST HIGH GETS TRIED OF THESE PEOPLE FOOLISH I'M A LIVING WITNESS OF THIS MESSAGE MR LEE 🙏🙏🙏🙏
So sorry to hear that 😢
call it whatever. THE FACT IS for EVERY deed there is a consequence! smh. this topic is beginning to exhaust the hell out of me!!!
@@ItsSoarTimemy ex is about to go to prison for burglarizing my home and threatening to hurt my roommate. He also cheated multiple times and lied during the whole relationship. He has a porn addiction and seggs addiction. Now he will be all alone with no women to feed his addiction and no more doormat ex gf (me) to have seggs with while trying to simultaneously smash “better” women and upgrade. I was a placeholder for something better but ahahahaha now he will be downgrading to a prison cell and will have to play with himself with no porn to watch unless his mama and gf’s pay for internet access. No more seggs tho unless he wants a man in there to finish him off. KARMA! ❤
Oh God yes
Whatsoever a man sows, that shall he reap.
Narcs end up lonely and confused and stuck with supply that are just like them 😂
My stepfather ended alone and died behind the front door. Never went to the doctor he says "They don't know what they talking about" Sad but true🥺🤐
This is my prayer 🙏
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They do end up alone
They will never be alone, they hate themselves too much to be alone
That´s not the problem. They don´t want to be alone because they begin to think then... (And they don´t want that - they don´t want to feel shame). And they need supplies like we need air to breath. But yeah they hate even themselves - that is true.
Alone and lonely are different
@@MentalHealness I will never be alone because I still have my children on my side. And I don´t feel lonely by myself - I never did because if you are in a narcissistic relationship you are lonely.
@@MentalHealness correct, I chose the exact word I meant to use. They will never be alone, they will always have someone there, even if it’s someone they don’t want or care for
@@user-sp4vq6et7w true clowns 🤡
Hi, I was dating a narcissist for over twenty years. We planned on getting married or so I thought. When we first started out he said everything I to hear. But when he got me his mask came off. He was abusive but I stayed. I always left but I always came back. But last year I finally had enough. I made plans looked for a place to stay in another town and I moved away. He's 59 and I'm 51 now. He's always trying to connect with me on social media. But my life is so much better without him. It feels so good coming home to piece. Even though I'm alone I'm not lonely. I know the right guy is out there somewhere. I thank God I came across your channel. You have no idea how much you've helped me. Thanks so much Lee🙂
I love this 🥰 same feeling. so afraid to leave, and then when you do, it turns out the world is a beautiful place
@@TheShitArtist I'm afraid and excited all at the same time
I know as they age.. they hate it. Quality Supply gets harder and harder to get. So they get low value people who are just like them .. angry and bitter . They ruminate on their best supplies of their past and hate their current lives. I have seen men in their 70’s &80’s they yell insults to their wives in public . Their insecurities really come out . The mask can’t stay on . Now one thing I notice is all the addictions they have - alcohol, Sex, Gambling are very pronounced in their old age . The new supply gets tortured - threatened divorce or unliving .. and their own children distance themselves because of their bitterness . They don’t become loving , caring, and appreciative . I think their punishment is living to old age !
Yes.
ooo. ouch! smh. i feel sorry for them. i really do. BUT NOT SORRY ENOUGH TO ALLOW ONE TO ENSLAVE ME OR MAKE ME AN ADDICT OF HIM!!!!! EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
All true. My ex narc isn't yet 50 but because of his low self esteem he attached himself to the first thing on his path a woman closer to 60. She's definitely a downgrade from me (if I do say so myself😊) and he actually took me to court for threatening to kill them and myself 😂😮 when it was all a rage to get back at me for not reconciling with him. I had no idea he would go to those extremes. She's the same as he bc she has cheated on her own husband multiple times. Everything was dismissed. The unfortunate part is I have a child w this person. A beautiful and wonderful child who deserves so much more and I feel awful they are in this situation. This too shall pass.
Are they aware of their craziness.as to go get help, i mean they can be vicious worst than a pitt bull.
I came to understand there is a correlation with narcissist disorder and Autism disorder.
I read a tweet the othet day from a man in his 70's who was pulled in & pushed out his entire life by his narcissist girlfriend. He did everything he could in the last years of her life to care for her despite being treated like dirt. After she died, her attorney gave him a sealed letter to read after her passimg. It was nothing but complaints about everything she felt he'd failed at in life & their relationship. Being the loving man he is, he really thought the letter would contain some type of kindness in her goodbye. She broke his heart yet again, even from the grave. So sad 😞
Extremely sad
DAAAAAAAA-------N!!!!!!!! WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this CAN'T be real!!!!!!!!! smh. yeah, that...moved me...quicker and closer to the point where i STOP feeling sorry for the person i was exposed to ...
Christ. May God have mercy on that poor man’s soul… what a waste of his love….. my heart aches for him.
Heartbreaking! Nothing is ever enough for them , like trying to fill a bucket with a hole in it ❤
Snakes only grow into bigger snakes
My ex is in his late 60s and looks great for his age, so he’s still getting new supply. Some women just want a man in their life. 🤷🏾♀️ They don’t change.
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Truly the biggest curse and punishment in the end 😬 Themselves.
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@@MentalHealnessStay strong. You're definitely worthy, peace and blessings to you 🙏
My ex-narcissist is 65 and is more bitter than ever with no intentions of healing.
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Yes mine was 63, he has numerous health problems because of his previous illicit drug use and alcoholism. He just had major surgery last year. He thinks he is the whole show and superior to everyone else. He had never met a woman as smart and industrious as I am, I was able to positively improve every aspect of his life. Instead of being grateful he chose to cheat. I quietly removed my energy, blocked him and never looked back . Let them enjoy one another because I know my worth. I realized I never knew him, the mask fell off and the negative energy was stifling. I couldn’t function in a productive manner until I blocked him. I was able to remodel my whole bathroom on my own. I thank GOD everyday that I no longer have to deal with the toxicity and evil spirits that he possessed. 😊❤
These words could have come from me, thank you! Just had the same thoughts! But I will never understand how well they can play a person they never were or will be.
Great actors, sad pay they will get in the end....
Blown up so many chances.
Yes, Mines 53
He's 71 and his 7th marriage ended last year. Hamster wheel of dysfunction.
So true . At least I'm not dealing with him anymore. No contact is best way to go.
Stay strong
Chunky lumps of regret! 😂 Thanks for that laugh Lee. One would think age would be humbling, and to a normal, self reflecting person it is, but it just makes a narcissist angrier.
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I think it’s an absolute shame and hurtful that the regret of an aging Narcissist doesn’t involve their treatment of you😢😢😢.
My 81 year old NM took her life last month. Ppl think that’s rare for a narc, but it happens. And no, they don’t get better.
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Condolences...it's not easy losing someone regardless of how they treated you. Hopefully, she made peace with herself...somehow 😢
@@queenmacsis thank you. It was shocking. She was the LAST person I’d ever thought would do this.
So sorry 😞 my condolences
Happens a lot.
They rather die than lose their charms and with it all. 😂
I agree plus I recently had a sideline view to a 96 yr old malignant narcissist the last 6 years of her life before she recently passed. She became even more religious but cussed out the help because “don’t they know they work for her…she pays their salary…no is not an option”. Minutes later she would be singing hymns in the lobby looking for compliments. She had alienated all the help and all the other residents so she tried to find new people to interact with since the residents and aides avoided her. She sat alone for meals. People would scoot away if she was coming. She wanted to be told her voice was beautiful and she was still an ambassador to the world - she wanted all to know she was better then them and had maintained her figure .
However in her last months she revealed to one person “I have done a lot of good but I’ve done a lot of bad and terrible things to others too” …she owed many amends but she continued the terrible behavior nonetheless and never said “I was wrong”. She didn’t ask for forgiveness and no one gave it. She appeared very sad but “knew she’d be at Gods door soon” and he would put her in charge of heaven. I believe she choose to pass on to get out of the mental anguish she was in. She deeply hurt and harmed many many people through out life and did not clean it up or acknowledge it and she knew she had done it!! I’ve never seen anything like it and it was and is hard for me to feel I miss her because I don’t. I do hope she has found peace however.
I wonder why they live so long but they do.
She will never find peace my friend
Spot on I got with him when I was 20 and hes worse every year going on 32 years now. I've gotta get the freak out here. He's going to un alive me through stress
My soon to be ex husband was trying to kill me through stress. I just turned 40. He's an alcoholic and he's 34 , been married for 10yrs years. He lives in another house and so do I. It's peaceful without him . But we have kids together 😢I feel sorry for my boy's when they have to go to his house. Because he mentally and emotionally hurting them. I'm trauma bonded 😢
You made me laugh out loud
you must act because he's already unalived you in other ways in 32 years???? 32.
listen to the playlists beginning with RAW TRUTHS ...; HEAL the Narcissist ...; and VERY POWERFUL ...
AND ACT IN 2024 to FREE yourself once and for all WHILE YOU'RE STILL 6 FEET OVER GROUND.
PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@nicosiabrown7501 Is it necessary for him to be in their life, if he’s causing them emotional harm? I pray that you break that soul tie with him. Pray for wisdom and God’s guidance in this difficult situation. You deserve a healthy peaceful life as much as possible. You’re young, get healthy and be strong for your sons. You can do this 🙏
@@joycecorwell848 why
My narcissistic grandpa is old, has cancer, and his younger wife is abandoning him. He has three kids he refuses to meet or ever took care or claimed (found out with the dna and me tests) he abused women and children and was a chomo. Some of my aunts went down to visit him and said he isn’t doing good. I don’t even know why my aunts would visit him. I’ve noticed the most evil ppl live the longest.
You're so right about noticing wicked people live very long. I've noticed that too, and I don't understand why
@@ka8155Because they know what follows death.. truly facing what they have done in this life. Fear keeps them here. It’s the sheer willpower to prolong and avoid shame, accountability, and discomfort both in life and after death.
Being near a narcissist is bad for your health. Of course they are going to outlive those around them
Many end up alone in Ling term care facilities. Please note.. there is now a link between narcissism and dementia
i believe it! who can remain sane acting insanely AND since NPD IS a mental disability ... the link between the two makes sense! no pun intended.
There is never authenticity in their lives. The hell image was spot on.
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Yeah, that is accurate
This had me cracking up!!! 😂 they will never be able to connect with others in their authenticity. They love appearance, pride and ego. But when you truly connect with who you are you’ll be able to hear inconsistencies in their stories. I ruminate over the many stories my wife told me and I’m repulsed . Thinking were they true 🤔. They’re like a cold shell. And are like crabs in a bucket, she was never happy with my business ideas. She spit on my diploma on my wall. 🤦🏾♀️. I have many stories.
Lee I would love to send you voice recordings of her for instagram. I heard them after she left me. Months and months of recording. I wish I would have heard them sooner I would have left her A$$.
My estranged husband died alone at 59. He had terminal illness but he even alienated his sister…the only person willing to help him.
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It makes so much sense into why the narc ex always used to say he dont want to get old...that old age is a curse. Wow now I understand! Thank you for this video!
i understand now too.
I just left this 69yr old narc, he called and insinuated that I was out, being tired of all the goastng gas lighting a complete emotional wreck, yes I took the opportunity, I told him I went to dinner, with a friend, he assumed it was a man, and I was happy to ablige his sentiment, when I refused to tell him the name of the restaurant we went to, he hung up on me, he got so mad he blocked me, after 21yrs, I must say, I had prayed about this situation, for years and it finally happened, leaving me heart broken and mad as hell, Im going through the healing process, now, but I would never look back at that old miserable basterd, thank you for sharing your video's, they're helping me, to move on, ❤
My narcissist 65 going on 80...I walked away 1.5 years ago. Just wanted to say hi. He sent me a quick pic. Wow! He looks so different,old looking...He was so handsome, good looking....so sad
When my Mom died, I felt a mixture of sadness and relief. All I ever wanted was her approval, and in the end, I could tell that she finally appreciated me even though she never said it out loud.
Why won't they self reflect Lee you are doing the inner healing work on yourself my ex narrissist has lost so much and has has good ladys who treated him with respect and dignity and he broke them I am lucky I survived it a never ending life off misery sad we Heal and they stay the same worse with age take care all ❤️
“It’s like a regret stew, it’s chunky regret, it’s got chunky lumps” 😂😂😂
Whatever happens - people choose their own path. Everyone is responsible for their own life (nobody else). The narcissist makes the whole world responsible but that doesn´t change the fact that he/she is responsible too. So if I did shit I always got it back (so that is just my view of the things and I know I deserved and earned it). But what I never earned (no matter what) is physical and emotional abuse - but I know I was not responsible for that. (People have issues - and sadly are very ill-minded).
So true sir. They question EVERY DECISION THEY EVER MADE. They always think about what the path not taken would have been and don’t give their mind rest.
Sir, ive learned alot from you and truly i appreciate it. My twins age 12 and I thank you very much for all you speak which has helped us see their dad, my xhusband for who and what he is.
Bless you.
You are very welcome
i heard Mr. Lee say he's friends with the guy on the Raw Motivations channel. so i'm assuming he won't mind if i encourage you to also check out the RAW TRUTHS from that guy!!!!!
also, the Heal NPD channel offers excellent education about this disorder ... and/or check out my playlist: Heal the Narcissist with CPTSD. VERY EDUCATIONAL!!!!
PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My grandfather was bitter to the end and still trying to bully from his hospital bed smh… I recognized that personality in my last FWB and just cut him off 😞
Still can't decide if my ex is a narc. He was incredibly controlling and selfish. He's been 4 years going through hundreds of women, trying to find a replacement, one that will dress, do, act and be just as he wants..like he trained me up to be over the years..
Narcissistic people will break you down and take so much from you, that your happy light just gets dimmer and dimmer, and you begin to feel stuck like you’ll always be a narcissist slave forever….Your true self and how you used to be before the toxicity of the narcissist, is something you can’t experience or be again until you break the chains of bondage. Thanks to prayer, and guidance through the Holy Spirit, I was finally able to break free, to my surprise without violence, and I’m not looking back.
Yes I agree! My father is an overt narcissist in his 70s now. I can say that he’s been getting worse over the years. I truly believe he’s lonely and bitter, even though he and my mother are still married. He still treats her badly. He’s very stuck in his ways and won’t change. I have already accepted it. This video also makes me curious about how my ex-husband and ex-boyfriend will be in the future. They are both covert narcissists in their early 30s. I doubt that they will work on themselves. I’m glad I got away from both of them. I am no-contact with both. I am low-contact with my father.
Stay empowered on your journey
@@MentalHealness thank you! Will do.
Lee thank you for the videos. I wish I knew about this a long time ago. Sometimes the words you say are exactly the words/threats that were said/yelled to me. I am lucky to have survived. Flashbacks still terrify me.
wow!!!! ditto my comments to Ms. Cybill ...
I get so happy seeing your videos! Beautiful way to start my morning!
You are so kind
Great heartfelt video. I have to pause it for a second to comment bc as you were speaking about the abusive husband who lost certain physical abilities and youth and how he still grew MORE bitter and angry with this and age (taking it out on the wife)… I hope everyone can see and get validation that there are many instances where abusive people get WORSE with age. Some haughty people mellow out or reflect on their life and choices and mature to some extent. But with a lot of abusive narcissistic people, they just get messier and worse psychologically.
We hear all the time, unfortunately, including in celebrity scandals, how previous girlfriends, or wives, thought the world of a current abuser and to the day will disbelieve any intimate partner at their later stage in life could be telling the truth about how abusive he was to her.
In fact, narcs and psychopaths will mentally manipulate you by using their past partners or the fact that they’re on good terms with all of their exes or their freakin mamas, to somehow make you think what you are DEFINITELY seeing, feeling and experiencing from them can’t possibly be real- it must just be a you problem; you must be the ONE in the world who deserves their wrath.
Take it from someone who knows. An abusive husband can still kill you in your 80s… literally. 😔 Please get out, people.
You’ve been a huge help in my healing. Thank you.
You’re welcome
They are poor, damned creatures!! The one I know is being abandoned even by his blood fam & birth givers coz he brought them so much pain & shame..
There's nothing funny about the horrible abuse of a person, especially one with NPD, but Lee, that humorous side of you cracks me up. It feels good to be able to laugh even through such pain in your life. Pick and choose battles, y'all. On that battlefield, claim victory. Abuse is real and serious. Choose wisely survivors and continue to thrive in it. Peace in righteousness best you can❤
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She won't suffer nearly as much as she should.
This is so sad... They spend their lives generating intense emotions, but in the end they get the exact opposite of what they crave. Instead of controlling everyone, they have the people who once loved them deeply, barricading against them.
It's why I'm still around this lucky idiot that I'm married to, but our children are slowly and steadily turning their backs on him. And good for them for being survivors, but they used to adore him...
I would adore if you made more content for narcissists trying to minimize/not cause harm.
(Having a hard time getting back into therapy bc of needing other clearances)
Me too
Lee, you here this a lot. But last year when I tried to leave I got sucked back in the same day. I've been watching your videos every day since November. I left this past Monday and I have stayed gone. He did and said everything word for word in your videos. You really prepared me for this this time and I thank you so so much!!!! 15 years and it was getting worse every day. I finally slept the whole night last night for the first time and feel so much peace now. God bless you and your work!!!!!!!! Id have stayed with him forever pitying him but now he's being forced to man up again and hopefully do better as better can be for him. Thank you I have my happiness back and i dont have to worry about the abuse anymore...... Thank you!!!!!
i almost clicked off this page.
ditto the comments i left for Ms. Cybill on this page. please avail yourself of the channels and playlists i mentioned so that you can STAY STRONG AND BECOME STRONGER!!!!!!!!
Channels: Raw Motivations; Heal NPD
my playlists beginning with: RAW TRUTHS ...; VERY POWERFUL ...; HEAL the Narcissists ...
PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My narc mother starved my dad, neglected him, refused to take him to PT, took his phone, took his money, etc. When he died, he wanted to. We should have took her to court. She manipulated us so much we could not see how bad it was!
The one I know has got much worse after six years no contact even though he's now homeless, carless, and jobless he's not learned anything from all the therapy, finding God, and multiple parenting and mental health courses.
that hurt! because i'm STILL hoping that won't be the end result for the person i encountered. lordhavemercy!!!!!
You are so wise. I mean, sometimes you tend to go the long way around, but you make sense.
summed up in one word: contempt 💯
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Told my marc ex to leave me alone today you ate so right he's 53 an getting crazier an accusing everyone of crazy things. So sad he is pushing anyone good to him away stalking wanting revenge for things he made up in this head.
Am glad everyday my narcissist didn't become a brain surgeon, it's a scary image. Best case scenario he gets promoted and stops tracking me. Honestly have no clue how he is doing. It scares my mom when he sends/leaves things at the house though, he left a lantern before valentine's day by the front door. I think he will be with someone and they will intellectualize how miserable they both are and how they would be happy with other people.
Not all npds end up the same. Some become successful pediatricians and live retired in Malaysia on a sailboat with their new supply.
My belief is God will deal with them.
Yeah I hear you and add that's the higher harder row to hoe. But once there, it keeps a smile on my face.
Lol..WTF is WRONG with you?
I didn’t see you mention happiness in there lol
@@MentalHealness He claims it. It " floats his boat." 😆
Npds may end up miserable, and then again, they may not.
The main idea should be that you focus on you. Not "It from the pit" and what "chains" he or she may be rattling. 🤗You do you.
@@newmusicvibez does it matter? If he's shallow or not?
If he's Changed or not?
" It from the pit" can be so happy that they are delirious.
What about you? What about your life? Your happiness?
If they can still chain you down,.make you miserable even when they are not there, they run your life and affect your choices. They win.
If you focus on you and your happiness, they lose.because you don't care anymore.
Im trying my darndest to get to where I just don't care anymore. Then I will know that I have defeated him. He has only the power I give him. And it stops now.
I literally just purchased your kids book for my 8 year old daughter. I been watching your videos for about about 2 years now and your so on point! I commend you for spreading awareness and shedding light on this topic. My ex-husband/ daughters father is Narcissistic as well as other mental health dx and the amount of abuse we have been through is incredible. It’s really sad to watch someone leave a path of destruction in so many peoples lives but like you say if they truly don’t want help then pushing them won’t help. Everyday I keep education myself so that I can protect myself and my child from the abuse.
I think what I don't understand is that they always have someone no matter what. I'm still healing and trying to find peace. I'm terrified to get into another relationship with someone.
Yep in their 50s sad bc they do think their the shit and know more than you ALWAYS N IN EVERYTHING
My former covert narcissist neighbor kept on quoting the ten commandments and then says read it. 🙄
He told me that he has rescinded himself to living in obscurity in a hole in a wall.
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I belueve this is a sad truth.
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Ah, there’s the important qualifier: “unless they get therapy.” They can and do get better if they get help. Lee, it helps even more if the partner gets help too, doesn’t it?
Partner needs help regardless
after this video and reading these comments, and watching Raw Motivations' videos (i've compiled into a playlist as reminders!!), i've reached a point where I DO NOT CARE if he gets help. STAY AWAY FROM ME!!!!! i'm too empathetic for THISSSSSS. it's too much!!!! i wish him well, but leave me be.
Naaah, they are too proud to work on themselves or even get therapy.
So Lee I’m not a narcissist and love your broadcasts! I will tell you in a weird way I see how you could be a narcissist because you start out hello beautiful people and your voice is like so comforting. Totally draws me in. I’m married so promise this is a compliment not a weird I’m hitting on you. Thank you for all your advice! Watch you often!!
thanks for being here
Yep love you Lee only gets worse
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It's interesting theme. I mean about the end of the life for such people.
For last year i was recollecting my memories about grandfather and grandmother. when I was young, I didn't notice many things, that looks strange now. Yes, there was something back those days. something different from our family, but I couldn't point my finger on anything, or ask a question. First of all, my mother was his favourite daughter and I was favourite grandson. I lived almost a year at grandparents home. My grandfather always asked my mom to see me more often. I loved my grandfather, he told me a lot of interesting stuff about cinematography and photography (he was a photographer at local cinema studio for many years). Same time, there was no such enthusiasm about my young brother from GF.
Grandparents was living in separate rooms. GF was spending most of the time reading newspaper, watching TV or sleeping. Granny did all the homework and she was more like a servant to GF. There was not much of arguing between the (at least in front of me). few times maybe. But once a GF was real in rage mod. I don't remember what i did wrong back then, but it was like something... terrifying. First it was rage from him, and after he guilt trip me. And granny was like "listen what he said!" She was on his side. It was long evening. He was angry hours and hours... and next morning he was nice again, like nothing happened.
I don't know, was he a narcissist or not. But there was much more of things and stuff. a lot more. For example, i remember, that granny was always WRONG. I mean, everything she did he always told her that "she did it wrong". sometimes openly, most time in passive-agressive way.
He died one night. Not alone, granny was sleeping next room and blamed herself. And for years after she always repeated, that it was her fault.
What makes me heal through the pain of detaching myself from the Narc is believing that he's out living life. Going from one supply to the other. Not a care in the world. Enjoying his time. I cant mope and be depressed knowing he's out living carefree. I may be wrong but this works for me. I intentionally get up get out and do things I used to enjoy.
I was with my narcissist husband in the end where he refused to believe he was dying even though he was constantly on a large hospital breathing device keeping him alive due to his lung cancer. He arrogantly asked his group of doctors who had gathered at his bedside, “Are you gonna just let me lie here and die?”. It was only at the very last moments of his life when he was undecided about whether to die taking morphine, or not, he decided to take the morphine to ease the process. His two daughters and I cared for him as an adjuncts to his doctors but we were basically treated as servants by him. Still I am glad that we showed love even though he was incapable of really being there for us emotionally. It was a long 47 year marriage and it has taken me years to recover from the emotional abuse. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.
Thank you for more educational content Lee🎉🎉
My pleasure!!
Depends on the flying monkeys that have surrounded them and why.
My mom her flying monkeys are there for the $$.
She is now losing her memory
All of these people are just waiting for her to croak as if they were going to collect.
I think after everything our lesson is not to be like them.
If I get a call and my mom is in a bad way I'll do what I can to make sure she is safe and not being taken advantage of.
Life is not about settling a score
It's about learning from our and others mistakes.
Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die
The guy my nex shot and un-alived 3 years ago was also a narc.
They burned his his body
No one came to his defense,no one even came for those ashes
They still sitting in a gov building on a shelf in inyo
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Woooow what
Oh oh that is cold 😢
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@@MentalHealness There's a 2003 documentary A Certain Kind of Death that follows what happens to people who die with no next of kin. If they can't find anyone to consult about the person's wishes, and they don't have a will or burial plans, the default is they get cremated and the ashes put in a box on a shelf. Every so many years they dig up a plot of land to bury all the unclaimed cremains and the cycle repeats.
My narc husband’s friends are mostly older, he may indeed end up alone.
Karmic debts never go unpaid.
I'm not ready for this video yet. It's like a spoiler for me.
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I think my story would definitely help others! 14 year age gap and everything you have said in your channels... she has done everything.. been almost a year and I'm the one that got away! Thank you for your channel
My grandmother died before my narcissistic grandfather… my mom helps to take care of him and he cries a lot especially when they go to her grave. Oh and he’s in his 80s
I believe that my husband of 7 years is an undiagnosed narcissistic alcoholic, and for the last year when we’ve gotten in an argument, I’ve threatened divorce. I’ve even had a couple months that I stayed with a friend and came back after he begged me to come home, now that we have a 3-year-old and just bought a new house 3 weeks ago we got into an argument, and he suddenly wants a divorce. We’ve never done marriage counseling and he mentioned before that he wanted to, so I’ve talked him into doing marriage counseling before we just end everything! Last night he admitted to me that he thinks he has a sex addiction because he’s been seeing prostitutes for the past couple of weeks and he said he thinks he has a problem and we’re going to do marriage counseling and he might even do some of his own therapy and counseling, so I’m not sure if I should give this a chance to see if he can change the way that you have changed even though he is verbally, emotionally, mentally and physically abusive. It sounds like you have changed as a person and started a channel to help people. I guess I’m trying to hold everything together for our 3 year-old and because we just bought a new house less than a month ago,
oh my goodness
@@MentalHealness do you think I can fix this if we go to therapy? You were able to rehabilitate.
@@truth-px2pq It’s not going to fix things hun, sorry.
When my dad passed. I'm a horrible daughter because I didn't go to his funeral
Stay strong
No you're not, you have every right to how you feel!
NOPE, YOU'RE NOT!!!! STOP TELLING YOURSELF THAT!!!!! if he gave you a reason or many reasons not to be there, it is what it is. write down those reasons, repeatedly go over them, and they will prove to you that your statement is false!!
Hey Lee, my husband just turned 44 he is so depressed about this, he has a fear of turning old I mean it scares him BAD! he does everything he can to look younger the bold spot on top my goodness! He calls it the Peter Pan syndrome. Oh my gosh, it is just so much to the story. It’s kind of scary because I can see his father and him and his mother before she died said that his father was the same exact way and he is named after his father.
Thanks!
No problem!
This is spot on
Hey bro, you are cheering me up, good sense of humor, I like, respect from Croatia, God bless you
I will tell ya how my dad ended up. I was goin thru a tough time in my marriage. Needed a place of refuge for a short time. Big house all to himself. He said, No room for you here. Guess what my answer was when he wanted me to live with him as his health was declining. He ended up falling down his stairs. I guess he shouldn't have been such a cruel violent bully. He never spoke a kind word to anyone in the family ever.
No they don't give out compliments very much but they're the first to criticize you.
Well cudos to u on ur healing journey ❤
I appreciate it
My mother has been married to my narc father for over 40 years. Ive pleaded with her to leave him for her health (he's stressed her to weight loss and hair loss) but she claims hes not that bad and at least he doesnt hit her. She keeps going to the doctor for her health but her tests show up fine because I keep telling her the illness is external not internal. She's frustrated because she knows im right but he caught her at 20 years old and he was 37. The mind control he has on her is sad and crazy. I told my mother if she passes before he does, I wont be talking to my narc father and definitely wont be looking after him. He's a toxic man even at 82.
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Your channel is great. When you have been abused by narcissists it is always nice to listen to other people that have experienced it, yet listening to someone on the other side of it is perfection. Keep speaking the truth🎉❤
Only found out last month that my BF was a narcissist. When I think back, it was nice in the beginning, then all of a sudden he got really insulting at me, finding fault at everything. Talking down to me and feels he is always right, snobbish, he would diss me, no apology, no empathy, he seem not to care. I found out he was from one woman to the other, visitors to the island would hook up with him for sex and would give him money. When they depart, he would be on to someone else whether Foreign or local. He can't seem to e alone and he is rather restless. Like to be the center of attention. One day I insulted him and it made him sad with his fragile ego. But he is from woman to woman on a daily basis. I read up and realized he had every trait of a narcissist. I let him know that I knew what he was doing. He doesn't play an part I his familys life. He doesn't connect with his mother, his children or grandchildren. He dont remember none of they Bdays. He doesnt know which school his grand kids attend. It's very sad that a person can be like this. Also the word gigolo describes his behavior. He always wanted something from me or want me pick up something for him. These narcissist dont care, they just live from day to day pretending and trying to score with the women in return for gifts etc. They dont even know that they are narcissist. They world is a fake reality and they operate at a low level of consciousness. Karma takes care of them.
😂 "Chunky lumps of Regret"! Now, that's colorful.
Sitting! 🙌🏾🙌🏾♥️
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This is just so very SAD. Those of us who have escaped MUST consider ourselves fortunate. Educate ourselves, protect ourselves, love ourselves. BTW, address that “inner child” as you move though your healing. Think about YOU not the idiot. I’m 63. Yup you can teach an ole bird 🤗. Gotta laugh yo keep from crying. Thank God got my young adult children!!! My army snd tribe. Get yourself a tribe
I didn't gain weight I've been losing for the last 2 years. I'm done to a hundred and nine pounds... I intend to get out before i'm fifty three one year
Thanks bruv
You’re welcome
God in heaven and your family is glad you got your life on track sir. Please stay in your Bible and praise God.
Thankful for you not gatekeeping ISH!! cuz homeboy looked 43 at 33 😩; all that stress built from manipulating I guess
Having grown up in the insane asylum of a family of malignant narcissists, I can tell you most of them died alone with no personal contacts.
Good morning Lee 👊
Morning!
Thats what makes a ghost in the end
So many truths here 😢
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Loving being alone and not lonely ❤❤❤❤❤❤2024 new thang
Gosh there is just no hope
Oh wee they are evil asf! My baby daddy treated me so bad my whole pregnancy to the point I thought about driving my car off the bridge with my son and while pregnant. Every other day he says he hates me, I’m a b, and goes out to do drugs and drink. Hung over the next day and don’t help out with the kids and complain and yell about everything.
My mother sits alone and is still mean to us, smears is, and abuses us. She is 83