1. Go no contact and ignore them 2. Cut off supply completely 3. Don't engage despite hoovering 4. Expose them where you can 5. Instruct your close friends and family to not engage with the narc 6. Don't engage with their flying monkeys either 7. Don't put up too much in social media 8. Choose not to suffer even for a day 9. Make new friends 10. Grow professionally 11. Live the best life you can without the narc
You are so right!! Karma is already visiting him. I didn't have to do anything but live my life and ignore his antics. Just got a text from him the other day that he can't find a job and he can't find new supply.
That’s right! I was on a feeding tube at 78 lbs. I’m a fighting 150 lbs now. He’d say to me “ look at you. No one would want you anymore. “. I’m happier now than I have been married 30 yrs to him. I’m in the middle of a divorce! 😊
I am glad you are getting away from him. Your life just started my friend. You're strong! Corageus for being free from him. Like he said you will be free🙏
You will have those because it's fresh and new - your releasing him. You're strong and I feel you can hang in there without contacting him. I felt the same way but I was able to go no contact for 2 yrs. and you can too. You will have those urges to call but always remember why you left. You got this.
keep strong. Iam in a discard situation, he rung me to tell me he has cut our relationship 4 days ago and iam relieved bcoz i was ready. Watch more of these podcasts and do all things he never all to do and boom u will b less anxious
It's REAL. You are going through a trauma bond. Just keep at it and if/when you do slip up, don't be too hard on yourself and keep on the path to healing. This too shall pass.
😂I used to want the WORST for him. I hoped he would collapse, fck up, and put back in jail. My friend works with him. Eventually I had the balls to go back there. I had to have surgery because of him and that surgery saved my life. I told her about it and other things she didn’t know that he did to me. She said I looked good, happy. She spread the message to him, and I got a Hoover I ignored. She said he wants me back, he’s even going to the gym. He’s a big dude and I never thought…but hearing about me seems like it got to him. I don’t wish harm on him anymore. Im happy, healthy. I still have my days…I pray he heals too. I’ve seen so much pain in that man. I did everything you said 😁 and at the end of the day I feel good about how I turned this around . I won this one.
Yep. No contact, walk away, ignore…find your on closure through knowledge…your narcex will do more to themselves than most of you would ever do to them anyway…revenge for the hurt they inflict on you or others they will do to themselves…💯💯💯
I left some narcissist in GOD'S hands. One had a massive stroke, another dealing with Parkinson's, another died from neglect in a nursing home, another got sued for many thousands of dollars, another his son suffered & died young. Many other ppl are suffering of various kinds of cancers. I just try to treat ppl right & leave ppl in GOD'S hands! I'm free of guilt! Not all of these were partners. Some were family members & ppl I've known,
Amen! Same here I give him in God's hand. The vengeance is God's, he will take care of my ex husband he is a covert narcissist. God removed me from that marriage.
Usually when the above sickness you just mention happen to people is when they wrong a child of God. I can attest to this. My ex-husband is sick with cancer, a racist man died after being mean to me and pulled a major electrical contract from my now ex husband and I. Another guy put a boot on my Jag because he was jealous and I didn't log the car with my employer for the parking lot. It was so embarrassing. A month later he got fired DUI on the Indian reservation. And now the ex narc situationship having problems closing on his house in NC. I just laughed and said to myself that's what happen when you mess around with different women playing mind games with his new supply. God will not bless you and you know mentally you are doing women wrong. So that why I tell people don't cross me with bad intentions because I'm God's child or they say the chosen angel that he place on earth to help people. I didn't understand it until I did some research on it.
The quick answer is: don’t waste your time. The best thing you can do to get revenge on them is move on and be happy. Let them know through your happy life how unimportant they are.
I do not need to take revenge on this narcissistic player. He will get what's coming to him. The more he uses people, someone will use him eventually. I am happy not having him in my life. Thank you Lee. 🙏😎
It has been 2 years since I left my ex-husband and I still have moments where I get angry about what he put me through. I’ve wanted to get revenge on him. But I realized that his karma is that he is who he is. He will never experience a healthy relationship. He will likely continue the same patterns in relationships until he is no longer living. He said he can’t be alone. But he treated me and at least 1 other ex terribly. He currently has a girlfriend that he’s been with for a year and a half. She’s 22. He’s 31. He’s just going to keep using people for supply and a place to live until he can’t anymore. He also can’t keep a job. That doesn’t seem like a happy life to me.
I don’t want vengeance, I want justice. I’m choosing to put it in God’s hands over me stooping to his level and causing further harm (and guaranteed retaliation). It’s been almost 1 year next month since I’ve cut him from my life and I’ve already seen the repercussions while healing.
I didn't want vengeance, I want him to pay his fair share of the bills that were incurred during the 6 of 8 years we were together that he mooched off me bc he couldn't keep a job
Leave them alone and live a good life. Their actions are the same with all the people, you are not special, how you are upset other people are upset with them also, this leads to them being alone, not seen the way they want to be seen.
I don't want to get revenge on my ex-narc. I'll let God handle that because He saw/heard everything he did/said to me. When that narcissist dies, they have to answer to God on EVERYTHING they've done/said in their life. And if they never repented for what they did, then that's between them and their God. Trust and believe there is a day of judgment that we all have to answer to. Just let go and let God get the vengeance and you go on living your best life!💯 The time you spend trying to figure out how to get revenge on your narcissist, or anyone for that matter, is time you'll NEVER get back!
I pray for my ex narc when he pops into my head … I pray that I will continue to detach from him and I pray that he will find the path to healing for himself (for his own sake). Then I focus on self care and reconfirm my oath of no contact. Healing takes time … but you must be intentional.
@@MentalHealness especially if I know I did right by u, and loved u and you did it purposely I will walk away and ask the Lord to make my enemies my footstool
@@MentalHealness just a way I handle things now in life. It takes so much out of you to be angry I watch things see how it will turn out and if I c it's going to cost me my health and strength or change me in any negative way I will walk.
I used to try to warn my ex’s long string of girlfriends, but eventually gave up because they didn’t believe me and said I wanted him back or was jealous. 🙄 They usually apologized later. 🙃
You’re still attached and healing if you want them to hurt. I’m speaking for myself of course. My solace is understanding that they are a human and humans are flawed. It’s no excuse for their wretched ways. But when you’re doing well, healing, looking and feeling good and not paying attention to them, it’s a great injury. Also a fatal blow to their ego. Chile mine absolutely despises me because I went cold turkey when I discarded him after a week of being weak and wanting to get back with him and finally told him the ugly truth about himself. Those who are mutual friends know the truth although he tried to make me out to be the villain. I have a gift of giving the element of surprise.
I’m waiting for that perfect opportunity to expose my ex. I’ll be as covert as her. Not that I’m a narcissist but … sometimes you have to be calculated just like them to “tell your story” without naming names :) I’m patient.
My ex accused me of some very hateful things which I am totally innocent of. I told him that I would not do such as he well knows. That he was looking to argue and i have zero energy for someone so insignificant. So far he has left me alone!
Wanting revenge is all kinds of a mistake. If you are stuck in needing to feel the narcissist was the most wrong person in the universe, you are just trying to feel better than them. The best 'revenge' is to be successful in what you choose to do with your life and the best cure is to recognise the narcissist for all their broken parts, feel compassion for their struggle and love them as a sentient being. Then you can move on with your life; no need to think negatively about them, but put your welfare above being manipulated. No need for contact or closure. Your closure is the ending of that chapter in your life. Thanks Lee. You are a legend.
W O W … “They took me out of my character” 🤯 Lee, that right there - I went Warp Speed to resonance land! Thank you for YOU & caring & sharing with us/others. ❤✌🏻
I don't have the energy to get back to him for what he did to me. I've just been moving on and healing. He did show up at my door and he had the nerve to ask me "How long was I going to stay angry?" My response was "if roles were reversed and I did the same thing to you what you did to me you'd be mad too, so don't expect me to just get over it." After explaining that I told him to not come over to my house or contact me again. It's been a week since that happened. Been separated from him for two months.
Watching your videos has been so good for my heart. It hurts less just knowing people out there understand my situation. I am thinking less and less about things like how my future wasbund feels and more how he ignored my feelings and insulted me for expressing them
Yasssssss for the lion king analogy!!!!😂😂😂 Spirit works thru you so beautifully when you hit these analogies But yes I have also dealt with wanting revenge and feeling bad for that feeling I’ve realized that vengeance is a natural emotion And like all our emotions we must learn to honor them in a healthy way I notice that we are constantly labeling thereby judging things as “ good” or “ bad” when they simply are Vengeance isn’t bad it simply doesn’t work for you if you honor your Self and your dignity The key I think is not allowing your inner child to entertain vengeance and exact it but to call in your adult self acknowledging that yes that” mofo got me fucked up” and moving on quietly What fascinates me most about the narcissist is that we don’t realize that each day of their life they are suffering in a way that is unmatched!! There really is no need to DO anything to them that would be worse than what they are doing to themselves Think of their existence and what it must be like to do all that they do A vile entity is not having a good time no matter how they may seem to be I believe Lee has told us once before “ their karma is losing you” That’s enough!! We realize we were the prize and we take away that prize That’s all the revenge we shall ever need
I think i am over and can see the narcissist coming. Been studying for 3 years. Then I let a homeless man stay on my property for 6 months for labor and not only did he steal me blind but when I wanted him gone for stealing he started threatening to kill me. 3 times, then he moved out with an eviction, came back to take my trailer and I blocked him. 16 times he threatened me, and then drives by revving his engine to keep me from sleeping and intimidate me. Sheriff will not lift a finger to help me. I have to move, I guess before his psychotic self actually kills me. Why after all I have learned, do I keep attracting them. I had suspicions he was evil but it took awhile to show up.
He has his Karma. The one he told me not to worry about is now his girlfriend and she is a complete psychopath. She tried to assault me. When she finds out how many women and men he is involved with....oooohhhh it's going to be bad for him 😂😂😂I hear the have an extremely violent relationship. Life is good.
Thank you so much for this video! I've been looking forward for this video for a long time. I'm really glad you shed your perspective as a narcissist on how to get revenge. This was a very insightful and a helpful video. Thank you once again. Y'all moral of the story, if you want revenge...level up and thrive. Narcissists(non-self aware ones ofc) hate it when they are made to feel non-existent. Sending everyone reading this love❤ Hope y'all have blessed day❤
You are so right. You dont. You can have justice. You can have your day in court. You can live well and feed your mind and body and heart. You can tip the scales. You can have justice, but you can never have revenge. I would even go as far as to say nothing will ever bother them quite as much as the disorder does.
I left the church I’ve been going to since graduating college a couple months ago because I couldn’t get him to totally leave me alone even though he’s married. And I dropped the mutual friend who enabled him and discounted the emotional abuse. I’m burning lots of bridges.
I used to, but Ive seen it before. The best and only revenge is to move on and b happy. But they might try to ruin it by rumors and such. It doesn't last.
Its great youre rooting for everyone. I think people forget how to feel that they can win. Its like when youre told how smart you are but every idea you have is stupid. Unless its their opinion, because thats the only opinion that matters. Thanks for rooting for everyone whos trying to remember how to win and that its okay to win. Thats something we all need to remember. In my opinion.
They are living in pain, so, you are correct!!! Just move along...happily... I'm a 60yr old woman that recently broke free from my narc ex-husband. My healing journey has been HARD, LONG AND PAINFUL ... BUT WORTH EVERY STEP!!!! WISHING EVERY SURVIVOR THE SUCCESS YOU DESERVE!!!!!! AND, yes I exposed my ex to MANY of his new supplies. However, not to hurt him, but to save those innocent women!! Know your motives ...
AND, Thank you so much Lee for these videos. Your courage as someone with NPD to be so transparent. As someone working in the medical field, I know how hard this must have been for you. I truly hope your viewers realize that it's no easy task for you!! Congrats on your self awareness. From... #oneheyokaempath
I was the "new supply" an didnt listen. After goin thru it, wish i had of but had someone come to me with proof since im so stubborn id left and saved myself. Usually i feel if someone has plenty of proof tp expose their true nature they could decide for themselves bc at some point whats been told to the new supply comes more apparent and true for them to decide on their own safety. But i loved this video ❤
You wouldn’t have listened anyway they would have made you think whoever was telling you was jealous or you would have thought it too. You had to experience it fortunately you are now wise to it and their cycle goes on. I personally wouldn’t warn his new supplies as I appreciate the many lessons I learned through his disgusting existence I needed it though hard to swallow I too wouldn’t haven listened to previous supplies. Again I wouldn’t waste breathe telling his future supplies I’m saving all my breath for myself and my happiness. However if a supply knew of me I always thanked the Lord she didn’t know as when she found out she took every headache I had off my hands I would have thanked her. New supplies are a huge relief off the previous supplies life I encouraged mine to find one
Yes its so true what your saying Lee thankyou. Staying active & concentrating on my life doing the things i love to do has made my life peaceful. When they see that your thriving & you go no contact like they dont exist thats your revenge right there.😂
8:20 No contact.. This causes narcissistic injury when they lose you. But for how long does it bother them, especially when they have new supply? Does it hurt for moments, hours, weeks, months? When they check back a year later, does it wound them to find they are still blocked??
I talk too much, I can tell whomever I want about what I've been through with my husband, I told the new supply's family friend. Also it drives him nuts realizing he has no control over me
Can you do a video on narcs acting like they take care of their kids but haven’t seen them in months? Narc loves to post pictures on bday n holidays as if he has seen his son and haven’t even called or sent or paid his child support!! My friend commented under his post and he erased it!
My narcissistic ex is living happy and tries to trigger me to get me to respond to him. Loads of couple pics all over social media, he bought a car my favourite colour knowing that it is. And I'm staying quiet and keeping myself to myself. For 4yrs I've healed and tried hard to be happy while he moved on like I was nothing. He cheated on me and was just horrible to me. I think his gf is just as bad as him and I just hope something good happens for me.
@@richardleeuwenburg9093 yeah I've noticed that aswell people who post soppy couple pics on social media are usually not happy and dont stay together for long lol
I always think it's good IF it occurs to us to do bad things and then not doing them. That means our shadows are integrated. Narcs think of doing something bad? they do it. They can't stop the clock and evaluate.
It makes us human. However, we must let it go and move on for your own sake and hand it over to a greater power than yourselves, whom ever your God is.
I never want to see anyone hurt. Although I hurt and I'm trying to heal. Vengeance is mine thus says the Lord, so I'm just going to bounce back from this like I was never phased! I'm going to get therapy, go back to church and do all the things I used to do before I was 💔 be truly happy again!
Beautiful mindset to have. I'm 49 and don't live with my mum but live in the same area. The pain she has inflicted on me makes me literally hate her. I had to take a step bk and bring biblical principles bk in my life..'honour your mother & father' and place everything in God's hands🙏 This has been so hard cos I wld love my mum to the moon and back, do everything fir her unconditionally...yet she doesn't like me and puts me down and insults me whenever she can.....God help me🙏
I divorced my then narcissist husband. I didn’t tell him that I processed the divorce on purpose. I wanted it to be a surprise. He was served while he was in jail begging me not to leave him. Sweet revenge! I wish I could pay the sheriff to take a video when he was being served. He called me from jail right after he was served sounded like he was about to cry. Boy, I felt soooo good! After that I exposed him to his mistress (with proofs of course), his whole family & his friends, also with proofs. His mistress apologized to me & left him. I then cut all benefits he got from me like health insurance & money. He now has to work 3 times harder just to pay his bills, & also has to live with his mother because he can’t afford paying rent by himself.
After the one i had claimed she was pure light and pure love. Could see how pure i was etc then over time no matter all the stuff i did, how i tolerated geting spoken to it really feels like no light is around and yet she labeled me as the dark all because i didnt do as or think like her and any time she got stressed or felt bad then boom on me.
Living well, life comes for us all. ❤🎉 they are no exception. Yes no one knew that side of him, since he bragged to everyone that we were together. Without me saying his name everyone knows how he truly is . Him running his mouth sealed his fate😂😂😂
Thanks you 💐 Can you please do a video from your short with the smirk when you react to the narcs bs they are doing to us? I saw this smirk so often, it took me years to really see it and not gaslight myself that it doesn't happend.
I, too, have seen my narcissist smirking at me. It's the contempt that they are stupid enough to have for the people kind enough to be in their lives. My narcissist got drunk again, "got me to admit" Star Wars wasn't perfect, and sat there, gloating. I have never felt such disgust for a human being in my life. I just didn't think it was funny, so I wasn't smirking back. If he had just asked like a normal person, my answer would be no, Star Wars isn't perfect, however much I love it. He literally said, "Ha! You just admitted it wasn't perfect." O_o Well, he claims he's a genius. I don't claim he's a genius. So yeah, it's real. You saw it. It was there. Narcissists are basically made out of the same cookie cutter, so I'd question you if you didn't see that smirk. You're not losing your mind.
You don’t want to see it. That’s different then vengeance. Vengeance = stooping to their level, becoming what you hate. The Narc won’t let you get away with revenge, it’s going to repeat the cycle. Or worse. Moving on, is the only option. ♥️🙏 just my thoughts though.
My narcissist is being sued by someone else for 300k ..for slander and defamation..meanwhile still stalking and smearing me every chance he gets. Ive gotten a newfound power in just staying quiet and not reacting
My ex is a DJ in a bar karaoke. The week-end after our breakup, he brought his new supply to that place. Everybody told me about it, she was all over the place, acting-out, she was disgusting, barefoot, nasty, even calling him names in front of everybody and all that. Days after, I went to that bar 2 days in a row with a group of people. I was super sexy-classy, dressed up, 3 men in the group were very friendly with me. We were laughing, dancing, having fun as hell ! My ex was petty because he didn’t put my karaoké songs but I was singing along with my friends OR my friends were giving my songs onto their names so that I could karaoké. He was mad. That was a sweet revenge. Since then, I went a few times. He even told me not to greet him, so now I am indifférent. But last time I saw him he came to greet me so I put shame on him in front of a woman he was talking to. Stupid man !
Your revenge is walking away & healing & being happy something they will never have.
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Yes
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1. Go no contact and ignore them
2. Cut off supply completely
3. Don't engage despite hoovering
4. Expose them where you can
5. Instruct your close friends and family to not engage with the narc
6. Don't engage with their flying monkeys either
7. Don't put up too much in social media
8. Choose not to suffer even for a day
9. Make new friends
10. Grow professionally
11. Live the best life you can without the narc
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What about when i have a baby with a narc mother?
"If you shine bright enough, the light will reach the darkest places."
I love this so much.
🙏🏽🙏🏽
I left it up to Karma. That did more than anything I could’ve ever dreamed up.
I went on to a wonderful life.
I told this to my mother - Their karma is being them. Your karma is being you.
I read this awesome meme “the best revenge is none. Move on and heal and don’t become like those who hurt you”❤️
“The best revenge is to improve yourself.”
- Ali Bin Abi Thalib
Leave and never ever look back
And protect your peace
I encourage anyone dealing with this type of abuse to just keep living your life and be happy without them. That's the best revenge there is ❤
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My revenge is becoming better for ME.
I thought I could get my revenge, but it made me feel more miserable... I'm healing and I love my solitary moments 👩🏽❤️💋👩🏽
No contact used to hurt, now its easier to just to stay quiet! I dont need the mental stress
You are so right!!
Karma is already visiting him. I didn't have to do anything but live my life and ignore his antics. Just got a text from him the other day that he can't find a job and he can't find new supply.
😂 good 👍🏼
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That’s right! I was on a feeding tube at 78 lbs. I’m a fighting 150 lbs now. He’d say to me “ look at you. No one would want you anymore. “. I’m happier now than I have been married 30 yrs to him. I’m in the middle of a divorce! 😊
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I am glad you are getting away from him. Your life just started my friend. You're strong! Corageus for being free from him.
Like he said you will be free🙏
Best revenge is being yourself and live your life to the fullest and be happy
I blocked contact with him last week. Our relationship was intense. I should be happy that I'm now free, but I'm feeling withdrawals.
Talk to anyone but them. You deserve a real relationship
You will have those because it's fresh and new - your releasing him. You're strong and I feel you can hang in there without contacting him. I felt the same way but I was able to go no contact for 2 yrs. and you can too. You will have those urges to call but always remember why you left. You got this.
keep strong. Iam in a discard situation, he rung me to tell me he has cut our relationship 4 days ago and iam relieved bcoz i was ready. Watch more of these podcasts and do all things he never all to do and boom u will b less anxious
It's REAL. You are going through a trauma bond. Just keep at it and if/when you do slip up, don't be too hard on yourself and keep on the path to healing. This too shall pass.
@@misskaren6730 Thanks
😂I used to want the WORST for him. I hoped he would collapse, fck up, and put back in jail. My friend works with him. Eventually I had the balls to go back there. I had to have surgery because of him and that surgery saved my life. I told her about it and other things she didn’t know that he did to me. She said I looked good, happy. She spread the message to him, and I got a Hoover I ignored. She said he wants me back, he’s even going to the gym. He’s a big dude and I never thought…but hearing about me seems like it got to him. I don’t wish harm on him anymore. Im happy, healthy. I still have my days…I pray he heals too. I’ve seen so much pain in that man. I did everything you said 😁 and at the end of the day I feel good about how I turned this around . I won this one.
victory!!
Yep. No contact, walk away, ignore…find your on closure through knowledge…your narcex will do more to themselves than most of you would ever do to them anyway…revenge for the hurt they inflict on you or others they will do to themselves…💯💯💯
So this is the most evil revenge: introduce them to a beautiful young narcissist that you know will play with them, then drop them.
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I left some narcissist in GOD'S hands. One had a massive stroke, another dealing with Parkinson's, another died from neglect in a nursing home, another got sued for many thousands of dollars, another his son suffered & died young. Many other ppl are suffering of various kinds of cancers. I just try to treat ppl right & leave ppl in GOD'S hands! I'm free of guilt! Not all of these were partners. Some were family members & ppl I've known,
Amen, me too.
AMEN
Amen! Same here I give him in God's hand. The vengeance is God's, he will take care of my ex husband he is a covert narcissist. God removed me from that marriage.
Usually when the above sickness you just mention happen to people is when they wrong a child of God. I can attest to this. My ex-husband is sick with cancer, a racist man died after being mean to me and pulled a major electrical contract from my now ex husband and I. Another guy put a boot on my Jag because he was jealous and I didn't log the car with my employer for the parking lot. It was so embarrassing. A month later he got fired DUI on the Indian reservation. And now the ex narc situationship having problems closing on his house in NC. I just laughed and said to myself that's what happen when you mess around with different women playing mind games with his new supply. God will not bless you and you know mentally you are doing women wrong. So that why I tell people don't cross me with bad intentions because I'm God's child or they say the chosen angel that he place on earth to help people. I didn't understand it until I did some research on it.
my soon to be ex husband is also a covert narcissist. Divorcing after 30 yrs
The quick answer is: don’t waste your time. The best thing you can do to get revenge on them is move on and be happy. Let them know through your happy life how unimportant they are.
Left a toxic relationship on January 25th and I’ve been in a toxic relationship for 9 months. Now since I’m single I’m healing
“Notice Simba where the light can’t hit. Never look for your lioness there.”
The Lion King reference was great!
They want a rise outta someone. Just ignore em and keep doing you.
I do not need to take revenge on this narcissistic player. He will get what's coming to him. The more he uses people, someone will use him eventually. I am happy not having him in my life. Thank you Lee. 🙏😎
It has been 2 years since I left my ex-husband and I still have moments where I get angry about what he put me through. I’ve wanted to get revenge on him. But I realized that his karma is that he is who he is. He will never experience a healthy relationship. He will likely continue the same patterns in relationships until he is no longer living. He said he can’t be alone. But he treated me and at least 1 other ex terribly. He currently has a girlfriend that he’s been with for a year and a half. She’s 22. He’s 31. He’s just going to keep using people for supply and a place to live until he can’t anymore. He also can’t keep a job. That doesn’t seem like a happy life to me.
The best revenge is left in God’s hands 🙏🏽💛 We just have to work on healing ourselves
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Not even God wants them
I don’t want vengeance, I want justice. I’m choosing to put it in God’s hands over me stooping to his level and causing further harm (and guaranteed retaliation). It’s been almost 1 year next month since I’ve cut him from my life and I’ve already seen the repercussions while healing.
I didn't want vengeance, I want him to pay his fair share of the bills that were incurred during the 6 of 8 years we were together that he mooched off me bc he couldn't keep a job
Leave them alone and live a good life. Their actions are the same with all the people, you are not special, how you are upset other people are upset with them also, this leads to them being alone, not seen the way they want to be seen.
I don't want to get revenge on my ex-narc. I'll let God handle that because He saw/heard everything he did/said to me. When that narcissist dies, they have to answer to God on EVERYTHING they've done/said in their life. And if they never repented for what they did, then that's between them and their God. Trust and believe there is a day of judgment that we all have to answer to. Just let go and let God get the vengeance and you go on living your best life!💯 The time you spend trying to figure out how to get revenge on your narcissist, or anyone for that matter, is time you'll NEVER get back!
I pray for my ex narc when he pops into my head … I pray that I will continue to detach from him and I pray that he will find the path to healing for himself (for his own sake). Then I focus on self care and reconfirm my oath of no contact. Healing takes time … but you must be intentional.
Same with this girl who I dated
I believe the best revenge would be is to move on, and be the best you, because KARMA will get them eventually, so move on and shine on.
I love that…..the best revenge is to expose them without mentioning their name, heal out loud! 👏🏼❤️
Never felt revenge but i felt leaving it to the lord and he sees all.
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@@MentalHealness especially if I know I did right by u, and loved u and you did it purposely I will walk away and ask the Lord to make my enemies my footstool
@@MentalHealness just a way I handle things now in life. It takes so much out of you to be angry I watch things see how it will turn out and if I c it's going to cost me my health and strength or change me in any negative way I will walk.
“The best revenge is living well”👌💯❤️😌
“It hurts worst if they can’t see it “🎉🎉🎉 BLOCK !!
I used to try to warn my ex’s long string of girlfriends, but eventually gave up because they didn’t believe me and said I wanted him back or was jealous. 🙄 They usually apologized later. 🙃
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You’re still attached and healing if you want them to hurt. I’m speaking for myself of course. My solace is understanding that they are a human and humans are flawed. It’s no excuse for their wretched ways. But when you’re doing well, healing, looking and feeling good and not paying attention to them, it’s a great injury. Also a fatal blow to their ego. Chile mine absolutely despises me because I went cold turkey when I discarded him after a week of being weak and wanting to get back with him and finally told him the ugly truth about himself. Those who are mutual friends know the truth although he tried to make me out to be the villain. I have a gift of giving the element of surprise.
I’m waiting for that perfect opportunity to expose my ex. I’ll be as covert as her. Not that I’m a narcissist but … sometimes you have to be calculated just like them to “tell your story” without naming names :) I’m patient.
28 years of pure hell for me. I left!! Get away.
Stay empowered
My ex accused me of some very hateful things which I am totally innocent of. I told him that I would not do such as he well knows. That he was looking to argue and i have zero energy for someone so insignificant. So far he has left me alone!
No Contact whatsoever and do better and make more.
Stay empowered
Wanting revenge is all kinds of a mistake. If you are stuck in needing to feel the narcissist was the most wrong person in the universe, you are just trying to feel better than them. The best 'revenge' is to be successful in what you choose to do with your life and the best cure is to recognise the narcissist for all their broken parts, feel compassion for their struggle and love them as a sentient being. Then you can move on with your life; no need to think negatively about them, but put your welfare above being manipulated. No need for contact or closure. Your closure is the ending of that chapter in your life. Thanks Lee. You are a legend.
W O W …
“They took me out of my character”
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Lee, that right there -
I went Warp Speed to resonance land!
Thank you for YOU & caring & sharing with us/others.
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You’re welcome
Not a fan of many influencers, but Lee my boy you are him! Thanks for all the game brother, keep it up! 💯
I really appreciate it
I don't have the energy to get back to him for what he did to me. I've just been moving on and healing. He did show up at my door and he had the nerve to ask me "How long was I going to stay angry?" My response was "if roles were reversed and I did the same thing to you what you did to me you'd be mad too, so don't expect me to just get over it." After explaining that I told him to not come over to my house or contact me again. It's been a week since that happened. Been separated from him for two months.
Watching your videos has been so good for my heart. It hurts less just knowing people out there understand my situation. I am thinking less and less about things like how my future wasbund feels and more how he ignored my feelings and insulted me for expressing them
Yasssssss for the lion king analogy!!!!😂😂😂
Spirit works thru you so beautifully when you hit these analogies
But yes I have also dealt with wanting revenge and feeling bad for that feeling
I’ve realized that vengeance is a natural emotion
And like all our emotions we must learn to honor them in a healthy way
I notice that we are constantly labeling thereby judging things as “ good” or “ bad” when they simply are
Vengeance isn’t bad it simply doesn’t work for you if you honor your Self and your dignity
The key I think is not allowing your inner child to entertain vengeance and exact it but to call in your adult self acknowledging that yes that” mofo got me fucked up” and moving on quietly
What fascinates me most about the narcissist is that we don’t realize that each day of their life they are suffering in a way that is unmatched!!
There really is no need to DO anything to them that would be worse than what they are doing to themselves
Think of their existence and what it must be like to do all that they do
A vile entity is not having a good time no matter how they may seem to be
I believe Lee has told us once before
“ their karma is losing you”
That’s enough!!
We realize we were the prize and we take away that prize
That’s all the revenge we shall ever need
I think i am over and can see the narcissist coming. Been studying for 3 years. Then I let a homeless man stay on my property for 6 months for labor and not only did he steal me blind but when I wanted him gone for stealing he started threatening to kill me. 3 times, then he moved out with an eviction, came back to take my trailer and I blocked him. 16 times he threatened me, and then drives by revving his engine to keep me from sleeping and intimidate me. Sheriff will not lift a finger to help me. I have to move, I guess before his psychotic self actually kills me. Why after all I have learned, do I keep attracting them. I had suspicions he was evil but it took awhile to show up.
No contact and move on 🙌🏾🙏🏾 I decided to be silent. My peace is more important.
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He has his Karma. The one he told me not to worry about is now his girlfriend and she is a complete psychopath. She tried to assault me. When she finds out how many women and men he is involved with....oooohhhh it's going to be bad for him 😂😂😂I hear the have an extremely violent relationship. Life is good.
Thank you so much for this video! I've been looking forward for this video for a long time. I'm really glad you shed your perspective as a narcissist on how to get revenge. This was a very insightful and a helpful video. Thank you once again. Y'all moral of the story, if you want revenge...level up and thrive. Narcissists(non-self aware ones ofc) hate it when they are made to feel non-existent. Sending everyone reading this love❤ Hope y'all have blessed day❤
you’re welcome. have a blessed day as well
You are so right. You dont. You can have justice. You can have your day in court. You can live well and feed your mind and body and heart. You can tip the scales. You can have justice, but you can never have revenge. I would even go as far as to say nothing will ever bother them quite as much as the disorder does.
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Well my daughter father is now homeless from what i heard... that revenge is worth it
I got a gag order for posting screenshots & video between my narc and myself. Stay safe peeps!
Protect your peace
I left the church I’ve been going to since graduating college a couple months ago because I couldn’t get him to totally leave me alone even though he’s married. And I dropped the mutual friend who enabled him and discounted the emotional abuse. I’m burning lots of bridges.
I used to, but Ive seen it before. The best and only revenge is to move on and b happy. But they might try to ruin it by rumors and such. It doesn't last.
Its great youre rooting for everyone. I think people forget how to feel that they can win. Its like when youre told how smart you are but every idea you have is stupid. Unless its their opinion, because thats the only opinion that matters. Thanks for rooting for everyone whos trying to remember how to win and that its okay to win. Thats something we all need to remember. In my opinion.
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Lee.your are a one of kind of narcissist that truly cares for people thats been through narcissist abuse
Lee great advice!!👏🏽🙏🏾 (as always!)👍🏾
Appreciate it!
Thank you so much! Your videos bring clarity, truth, and positivity during such a dark and difficult time 🥰🙏
Stay strong
You’re free now, vengeance is your freedom - 11:55. So powerful Lee I felt like these words moved me.
They are living in pain, so, you are correct!!! Just move along...happily...
I'm a 60yr old woman that recently broke free from my narc ex-husband. My healing journey has been HARD, LONG AND PAINFUL ...
BUT WORTH EVERY STEP!!!!
WISHING EVERY SURVIVOR THE SUCCESS YOU DESERVE!!!!!!
AND, yes I exposed my ex to MANY of his new supplies. However, not to hurt him, but to save those innocent women!! Know your motives ...
AND, Thank you so much Lee for these videos. Your courage as someone with NPD to be so transparent. As someone working in the medical field, I know how hard this must have been for you. I truly hope your viewers realize that it's no easy task for you!!
Congrats on your self awareness.
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I was the "new supply" an didnt listen. After goin thru it, wish i had of but had someone come to me with proof since im so stubborn id left and saved myself. Usually i feel if someone has plenty of proof tp expose their true nature they could decide for themselves bc at some point whats been told to the new supply comes more apparent and true for them to decide on their own safety. But i loved this video ❤
You wouldn’t have listened anyway they would have made you think whoever was telling you was jealous or you would have thought it too. You had to experience it fortunately you are now wise to it and their cycle goes on. I personally wouldn’t warn his new supplies as I appreciate the many lessons I learned through his disgusting existence I needed it though hard to swallow I too wouldn’t haven listened to previous supplies. Again I wouldn’t waste breathe telling his future supplies I’m saving all my breath for myself and my happiness. However if a supply knew of me I always thanked the Lord she didn’t know as when she found out she took every headache I had off my hands I would have thanked her. New supplies are a huge relief off the previous supplies life I encouraged mine to find one
Yes its so true what your saying Lee thankyou. Staying active & concentrating on my life doing the things i love to do has made my life peaceful. When they see that your thriving & you go no contact like they dont exist thats your revenge right there.😂
Don't go to sleep with their best friend or boss, get married to his best friend or his boss and Be Happy!
8:20 No contact.. This causes narcissistic injury when they lose you. But for how long does it bother them, especially when they have new supply? Does it hurt for moments, hours, weeks, months? When they check back a year later, does it wound them to find they are still blocked??
That’s a great simba impression as well as video. Thanks for the info.
I talk too much, I can tell whomever I want about what I've been through with my husband, I told the new supply's family friend. Also it drives him nuts realizing he has no control over me
Can you do a video on narcs acting like they take care of their kids but haven’t seen them in months? Narc loves to post pictures on bday n holidays as if he has seen his son and haven’t even called or sent or paid his child support!!
My friend commented under his post and he erased it!
I just caught this ... can't wait for this
My narcissistic ex is living happy and tries to trigger me to get me to respond to him. Loads of couple pics all over social media, he bought a car my favourite colour knowing that it is. And I'm staying quiet and keeping myself to myself. For 4yrs I've healed and tried hard to be happy while he moved on like I was nothing. He cheated on me and was just horrible to me. I think his gf is just as bad as him and I just hope something good happens for me.
People who post loads of couple pictures on social media are probably not happy at all. Social Media isn't real life 😉
@@richardleeuwenburg9093 yeah I've noticed that aswell people who post soppy couple pics on social media are usually not happy and dont stay together for long lol
Best revenge is to block them!!!!
And stay safe
Thanks a lot Mr. Lee 🙏❤
Your videos are very helpful 💯💯
I'm just going to post your videos on my facebook and let everybody get the hint
Thanks again Lee! It’s hard to not want vengeance! But I have to Glow up and heal! Lots of healing and peace!💪💪😘
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I always think it's good IF it occurs to us to do bad things and then not doing them. That means our shadows are integrated. Narcs think of doing something bad? they do it. They can't stop the clock and evaluate.
Best advice.
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It makes us human. However, we must let it go and move on for your own sake and hand it over to a greater power than yourselves, whom ever your God is.
Thank you for sharing ❤️
You are so welcome
Thank you Lee, 🙏😎
Great message Lee❤
I never want to see anyone hurt. Although I hurt and I'm trying to heal. Vengeance is mine thus says the Lord, so I'm just going to bounce back from this like I was never phased! I'm going to get therapy, go back to church and do all the things I used to do before I was 💔 be truly happy again!
Beautiful mindset to have. I'm 49 and don't live with my mum but live in the same area. The pain she has inflicted on me makes me literally hate her. I had to take a step bk and bring biblical principles bk in my life..'honour your mother & father' and place
everything in God's hands🙏
This has been so hard cos I wld love my mum to the moon and back, do everything fir her unconditionally...yet she doesn't like me and puts me down and insults me whenever she can.....God help me🙏
thank you lee
I divorced my then narcissist husband. I didn’t tell him that I processed the divorce on purpose. I wanted it to be a surprise. He was served while he was in jail begging me not to leave him. Sweet revenge! I wish I could pay the sheriff to take a video when he was being served. He called me from jail right after he was served sounded like he was about to cry. Boy, I felt soooo good! After that I exposed him to his mistress (with proofs of course), his whole family & his friends, also with proofs. His mistress apologized to me & left him. I then cut all benefits he got from me like health insurance & money. He now has to work 3 times harder just to pay his bills, & also has to live with his mother because he can’t afford paying rent by himself.
1:43 I knew you were gona say that
Bless you Lee
After the one i had claimed she was pure light and pure love. Could see how pure i was etc then over time no matter all the stuff i did, how i tolerated geting spoken to it really feels like no light is around and yet she labeled me as the dark all because i didnt do as or think like her and any time she got stressed or felt bad then boom on me.
Living well, life comes for us all. ❤🎉 they are no exception. Yes no one knew that side of him, since he bragged to everyone that we were together. Without me saying his name everyone knows how he truly is . Him running his mouth sealed his fate😂😂😂
Thanks lee very good advice. But honestly YOU DO WAVY TO GET REVENGE but the best thing is to just walk the hell away. Not lowering myself
I hope I can win in court against him . Pray for me please . He does not deserve to get away for hurting me so bad
Roman 12 verses 19 says don’t take revenge leave it for me I will treat them as they treated you . I believe God take care about him 💯 sure
Thanks you 💐
Can you please do a video from your short with the smirk when you react to the narcs bs they are doing to us? I saw this smirk so often, it took me years to really see it and not gaslight myself that it doesn't happend.
I, too, have seen my narcissist smirking at me. It's the contempt that they are stupid enough to have for the people kind enough to be in their lives.
My narcissist got drunk again, "got me to admit" Star Wars wasn't perfect, and sat there, gloating. I have never felt such disgust for a human being in my life. I just didn't think it was funny, so I wasn't smirking back. If he had just asked like a normal person, my answer would be no, Star Wars isn't perfect, however much I love it. He literally said, "Ha! You just admitted it wasn't perfect."
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Well, he claims he's a genius. I don't claim he's a genius.
So yeah, it's real. You saw it. It was there. Narcissists are basically made out of the same cookie cutter, so I'd question you if you didn't see that smirk. You're not losing your mind.
You let God do it. Things work out better that way.
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This absolutely works. 😂
You don’t want to see it. That’s different then vengeance. Vengeance = stooping to their level, becoming what you hate. The Narc won’t let you get away with revenge, it’s going to repeat the cycle. Or worse. Moving on, is the only option. ♥️🙏 just my thoughts though.
My narcissist is being sued by someone else for 300k ..for slander and defamation..meanwhile still stalking and smearing me every chance he gets. Ive gotten a newfound power in just staying quiet and not reacting
oh wow
My ex is a DJ in a bar karaoke. The week-end after our breakup, he brought his new supply to that place. Everybody told me about it, she was all over the place, acting-out, she was disgusting, barefoot, nasty, even calling him names in front of everybody and all that. Days after, I went to that bar 2 days in a row with a group of people. I was super sexy-classy, dressed up, 3 men in the group were very friendly with me. We were laughing, dancing, having fun as hell ! My ex was petty because he didn’t put my karaoké songs but I was singing along with my friends OR my friends were giving my songs onto their names so that I could karaoké. He was mad. That was a sweet revenge. Since then, I went a few times. He even told me not to greet him, so now I am indifférent. But last time I saw him he came to greet me so I put shame on him in front of a woman he was talking to. Stupid man !
They make us feel bad 1:01
A Narcissist I know gave himself self-inflicted revenge. Apparently, too much alcohol for too long causes shrinkage of the gonads.
I don't think it serves me to want revenge. However I do wish just once to see justice served.
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