How to Process Your Emotions
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- Опубликовано: 13 сен 2024
- In order to be calm and at ease with ourselves, we need regular periods where we do something rather strange-sounding: process our emotions. Here is a guide to this essential psychological move.
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“It is a quirk of our minds that not every emotion we carry is fully acknowledged, understood or even truly felt. There are feelings that exist in an ‘unprocessed’ form within us. A great many worries may, for example, remain disavowed and uninterpreted and manifest themselves as powerful directionless anxiety. Under their sway, we may feel a compulsive need to remain busy, fear spending any time on our own or cling to activities that ensure we don’t meet what scares us head on (these might include internet pornography, tracking the news or exercising compulsively). A similar kind of disavowal can go on around hurt. Someone may have abused our trust, made us doubt their kindness or violated our self-esteem but we are driven to flee a frank recognition of an appalling degree of exposure and vulnerability. The hurt is somewhere inside, but on the surface, we adopt a brittle good cheer (jolliness being sadness that doesn’t know itself), we numb ourselves chemically or else adopt a carefully non-specific tone of cynicism, which masks the specific wound that has been inflicted on us…”
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"We grow depressed about everything because we can't be sad about something"
This really spoke to me
Man these videos are so good. Soo true. End up with a generalized feeling of anxiety or gloom instead of every pin pointing it down.
That was one of the best things ever said about depression.
yes, this really spoke to me also. anybody with tips on how to cry ... bring them on....
@@GQElvie Maybe working on the barriers that prevent crying: unfelt anger, fear of crying,...
@@Paseosinperro thanks . will try that
Instead of dealing with my emotions, I'm going to watch this RUclips video on dealing with my emotions
or watchout for the pseudo-bullshit
I'm So Meta, Even This Acronym
Dexterity whoa
You sound like JP Sears on RUclips haha ❤️
That is 100% me!
Facing your demons can be hard and scary, but it's the one battle truly worth the fight.
JavierCR25 your demons are not your battle to fight my friend. God alone can fight your demons. If God is for yo who can be against you! For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son so that whomever would believe in him should not perish but have everlasting life
As long as you know your limits and what your demons are capeable of. Like it or not we're all pieces of shit and are fucked up in our own special way. We just gotta learn how to live and be aware of our demons. Keep angels close coz you don't have to worry about those beauties but have the demons closer so you can keep your eye on them.
😔
They have guns and i have my fingernails
Well my demons killed me then
The school of life is my third parent.
sherlock holmes it's my only functional parent
Bende My Dende Exactly!
It's my second, and for some people it's their first lol :')
Its my only parent.
Yep
It hurts me when I talked about my problems to people, they usually back away. They only want to talked about achievements and success or a fun adventure you had. Of course I know they don't want negativity in their life, perhaps they may have many problems too. But sometimes a fake smile is even difficult to pull off than being just sad and depressed and in other moments anxious.
LouLou Some people back away because they can see themselves in you but unlike you they don't have the courage to expose these feelings.
Be in peace with yourself, treat yourself kindly, be your best friend and embrace your shadow aswell as your light. Good luck!
LouLou i'm the opposite ,i don't like it when people act like everything is fine even though it isn't."i'm fine.me too. Is a real boring conversation nobody gains from.Of course i don't wan't people i barley know to start bursting out in tears and self pity when i quickly ask the how they are doing either.
Same.. I always just feel like people don't care
LouLou that's weird because problems are the only subject anybody ever wants to talk about. We are living in a world of complainers
This is why we need therapy.
I see people supressing instead of processing and People get broken by it. I am a introvert myself and I don't show my feelings often, but I still take time to experience difficult emotions. When I am feeling these unpleaseant emotions I do not distract myself. Quite the opposite, I sit down and experience them fully. You can hide your emotions, but you can't run from them. They will catch up, so why not face them right now. I always feel better after I embraced them completely. And after all if there were no bad feelings, then we wouldnt know what "good" feelings are. I'm glad a fellow RUclips channel talked about this!
you exactly say something like my psychologist said. omg its feel unreal
But how do i do that? how do i face my emotions? right now im just alone in my home, can i fix this problem right now? or i have to wait for something to happen?
@@Wado379 This is the real problem. How do we face our emotions?
@@Wado379 you have to observe your thoughts, there is gonna be like past thoughts or something that makes you mad or sad and you just have to like observe it and figure out why and ask questions
i experience and do the same thing! only, i find a sense of comfort in drowning in my own sadness. does that even make sense? like, yeah it hurts, but at the same time it’s better than being hurt by something rather than being hurt because of nothing at all.
People are always looking for the outside fix to and inside job! To look inside oneself takes a lot of courage but it is worth it!! Look inside my friends......
Watching this felt unbearable, I even got anxiety thinking about clicking on it, but watched it all and listened.
Looking inside isn't actually that easy because you might not have learned how to do it in a caring way. Sometimes it might result into strengthening bad images of oneself, which keep hurting. But that's what therapists are for.
VCG Construction don't let BS comments on RUclips discourage you from seeking medical "outside" help if you need it. Humans are chemical beings, and if your brain can't make happy chemicals anymore IT IS OK to buy them from the pharmacy. It is GOOD to seek therapy.
Nice sounding platitude but very vague and not really helpful
I looked inside myself once...
It was disgusting. I burned the endoscope and promised myself never to do it again.
"we avoid processing emotions because we feel is so contrary to our self image" that hit home!
Sometimes I lie in bed looking at my phone because I'm scared of being completly alone with my own thoughts :(
SylenDraws well write them down here,you are not alone with them if you share them with the people who watched this video.:)
Don't focus on thoughts, focus on the sensations in your body and embrace them. 1 thought can produce 100 other thoughts, so it has no point to focus on thoughts.
we are all prisoners of our own minds
Jasper Alkmaar
Same...
Im here for the healing
ayyy lemon but how
Same.
But the real question is how ?
Im in a situation that i cant feel sad or happy or in love or cry . I dont have a human emotions im just alive
Its too late for healings i must accept the fact that its empty and dark inside me
Same here Patrick star
I just got cheated on a few days ago, and this could not be more true. I wanted so desperately to move on and kept my mind busy with gym, work etc. i never sat down and felt to grief. I'm starting to realise this now and its helping with the healing process. It still hurts, especially when alone at night when my mind races. However, feeling these emotions and not ignoring them is so important otherwise i think ignoring them will manifest its self in other unhealthy ways.
Yes this is very true. I did this strange thing when I was going through something like this. I would allow myself to be as sad as I possibly could, and then angry as I possibly could, once a day, all by myself. The processing and catharsis made the whole experience much more tolerable and I healed more naturally. It hurts to feel, but it feels better to have worked through the hurt versus ignoring it all. I'm healed now and living life just fine, and you will too, don't worry. Best of luck.
Yes this is very true. You got to FORCE yourself to be sad. Sometimes its hard to be sad because we all know that we should be strong. But forcing yourself to be sad is telling yourself, "Now its alright to let it all collapse." By forcing yourself to be sad, you get rid of that other voice that is telling you to be strong. I do it myself. I delete all my social media, the games in my phone. I actually prep myself to be sad. I play all the saddest song i can think of and just go into this cocoon stage of sadness. After i am done with all that, i feel so new.
You gotta feel it to heal it
Sorry to hear ...I lost my mom a few years ago and went into a similar period of hypervillagence and then started acting out compulsively sexually. I think it all came from an inability to process my emotions and tell people exactly what I was feeling. Hope you find that inner peace we all our looking for. Bless 👍
I get my emotions out by talking/venting to myself everything in my head- it helps;however, when my mom comes around and starts being mean I let my emotions out on her it's not her fault but she picks the wrong times to pick at me then she feels my wrath. I'm not happy that I react that way but it's a who IAM
How are the comments so untoxic here compared to the rest of the videos I have clicked on today? Incredible.
You could feel the compassion.
Excellent observation! Shows that deep down, we are all just trying to get through this journey called life and it truly helps to have empathy, compassion, and understanding from others. 💕
"We grow depressed about everything because we cannot be sad about something." This is so true and so powerful. There's a difference between noticing a feeling and allowing ourselves to full engage with and feel it.
"We can no longer sleep, insomnia being the revenge of all the many thoughts we've ommitted to process in the day"
Me, at 2:47 a.m. feeling exposed while watching the video
Martina Merola 4:18AM after hours sleep and a sleep aid pill. I *feel you* **solidarity fist bump**
Omg it’s 2:47 for me too
2:55 am here
"Will people like the real me?"How do I find the real me? How I know which me is the real one?This is serious question. -Me
Lynda O all of them are different versions of the same thing
I so get you. I have no idea who I am. There's no way I can so many opposites at the same time. It's driving me crazy.
You are whoever you wanna be that’s the real you. Everyday you become more and more you. It’s your choice what you want to think, feel, behave and do with yourself. It’s all up to you. Whoever you wanna be.
It also means to not allow others opinions or views affect who you are as long as you’re not hurting anyone physically and emotionally
That’s where you need to do some soul-searching. Find what you want, what you dislike, what you fear, what habits you want to change etc. You pretty much need to make a profile about yourself to understand who you are.
Once again, your timing is impeccable. I was finally processing some feelings I've pushed down for a few years earlier today. Got a good cry out of it, too.
And we all know that you get the best night's sleep after a good long needed cry. 😊
I sure hope that's true because I've been struggling with sleep the past few weeks.
HonestlyKaren hope everything is well, keep going
Based on experience, it never helps to bury your feelings and pretend they didn't exist. You're only lying to yourself, and eventually your emotions will resurface threefold and hit you like a freight train.
The hardest part for me is not understanding a situation and wanting to know why. But usually we don't get to know why, so my process has been stunted because of that. It really did help to just say outloud everything I've been feeling and going through, even if it was just to myself. x
I'm tortured by my memories of injustice and shame, and the realisation of my inadequacies within a world seemingly blind to its own, on more or less an hourly basis.
Repressing emotions causes depression. Never though of it that way. I've been rejected by an individual I fell in love with past year. The emotional and mental roller coaster was something. Never have I felt greater emotional pain, not just due to self esteem issues, but mostly due letting go. That one person only exists as one. No one like that. And letting go and never seeing that person again is like having a relative die. In fact it's part of you dying. This is the reason why casual hook ups are so dominating today, because of pain like this that comes from falling in love. I'd say the worst part were the mornings. Waking up to a nightmare after remembering that "oh yeah, that one who made your world colorful....yeah she's gone". This heart piercing moment that spiked up my adrenaline levels would go on for months. When I was a kid and a teen I hated the concept of love and those "weak adults" who were acting like children. Crying, screaming, having tantrums. Now I know. This is in the essence part of being human, and avoiding rejection, failure or painful emotions is cowardly. These are all the risks and trials that lead to a colorful life and happiness. I rather be happy at the cost of eventual sadness, than never to have experienced happiness due to fear of being sad.
Beautifully said, I will take your advice
Kinda now how that feels, I hope you get better!!!
I would rather be safe than sorry. Real happiness comes from within not externally 😊
I'm going through this right now. This was beautiful, thank you.
I loved the part where you said, 'Our minds grow unoriginal from a background anxiety about their contents.' I have this constant unrelenting fear that my thoughts won't cohere, the words I speak won't make sense, and that generally my personality won't come out. And, as easily as that, it happens. It must appear to the rest of the world that I'm constantly distracted, and indeed I am, but not with anything specific like an incident at work, a relationship breakdown or the like.
I know this might be slightly idiosyncratic, but those few words in the video capture so much of the essence of my experience. It has implications for my writing, which grows unoriginal from a background anxiety about its contents (and....I think I just proved my point lol).
David Mitchell And often, we're just prescribed medication for how we feel, rather than learning to process and deal, so anxiety continues. One day, maybe mental health care will be a right.
I am writer, too, and had feared I was suffering from this "background anxiety" but didn't quite have a name for it.
I think wwe should all try making a journal about our thoughts and life in general.
yeah I used to feel like this. And I feel like i had mild adhd becuase of it. If i can give any advice, is to embrace every thought as it comes into your head. Follow the train of thought where it leads you. Don't worry about coherency, becuase after all no one hear these thoughts. It's only you. This helped me focus on lot more. Your brain needs to process thoughts through and if you stop them then those unresolved thoughts are just going to be humming in the background.
You are most definitely not alone on that.
I always liked to draw, ever since childhood. Yet, here I am, feeling like it is my first time with it, while in a non-art-related job, just to pay the bills.
There is more to that, but basically: yes, my ideas often sound stupid and worthless to put on paper. There is this lingering feeling of "why bother, what's the point?"
I think it's very easy and appealing to avoid directly facing one's emotional difficulties because in many ways, there is very little one can do about the hardships and sadness of life. And by trying to solve these issues, we soon discover they can't really be solved and we only worsen our state of disillusion. I believe doing things that require our focus and energy like working, art, exercise, etc. can distract us from our existential dread and still remain healthy, sustainable solutions.
your comment made me think of bojack horseman, even if you confront your feelings, there is no guarantee we will be better.
@@vsssa1845 then why are we even worried about it. We should move on from it
Love you. I don't know who unsucrirbed me
They can have that impact, but they can also allow us to avoid things that can rather easily be triggered later- we can also end up developing behaviors that don’t serve us well at all due to not processing the emotions. I’ve found many dharma based meditations help, therapy helps…but keeping ourselves busy just slows the processing and spreads it over a longer time period. We don’t need to solve them, we just need to feel them, feel the sucky parts and process through them so we can more quickly find some peace and happiness.
You are absolutely right
It's hard to process emotions. It's scary. There can be a huge feeling of panic, worry, and the urge to avoid the hard feelings. It can be extremely overwhelming and sometimes painful to go through the emotion.
One thing I can say is that it hurts for a much longer time when you don't process the emotion that is coming up. You can try to stuff it down, but it'll come out in different ways (usually in neurotic/anxiety/depressive ways), and then you're dealing with a whole bunch of problems. 😒
Someone gave me this advice once and it helped me see my emotions differently and actually start to process them in a healthy way:
There is no such thing as a GOOD or BAD emotion.
There can sometimes be bad actions, like acting possessive, but simply expressing an emotion is not good or bad.
Over the years this is how I learned to process (and eventually move on from) my emotions.... just sit in it and feel the emotion. Don't fight the emotion or try to control it. Notice the emotion in your body, and how your body is reacting to it. At first it'll be very scary, but remind yourself that you'll be ok and that this feeling will eventually pass.
Practice self-compassion: Thank yourself for allowing yourself to process the emotion. Acknowledge how much strength and courage it took to sit through the pain.
Give yourself a pat on the back and repeat whenever you feel emotions bubble up again.
I had letten a guy broke my hearth severely. I did not think about him much afterwards, occasionally looking back in bitterness and cynic commenting. Eventually I almost forgot about him, then one day I thought about how he hurt me and what he did to me emotionally. I broke down, experiencing how I started to cry as if someone told me a loved one had just died. I could not take it and lied there crying like a baby for an hour, fully aware and concious of what was happening. I watched myself doing it, just told my inner self "Sure, go ahead. I am surprised, yet I will follow your demand and grief in despair" and afterwards I had this strange feeling of self love, thankfulness from my inner self, and tge feeling that is was what I surpressed all along.
Understandably because the "How To"/Solution to Processing your Emotions part
was said only briefly and towards the end of the video, people may have missed it! >.<
So the main was:
- Friends
- Therapist
- Meditation / Self-introspection
It is possible to do all 3 within yourself (being your own friend, therapist, and doing self-introspection) but if not and you need help ASAP, I really suggest finding a good therapist to help organize your thoughts..
Another thing I'd like to recommend, 7CupsOfTea is an online thing where you talk to people about your problems and stuff. Really good if you're the type of person who wants multiple opinions or needs someone else to talk to if no one is free and you need it. Absolutely free and easy to use! Stay calm my friends
Channel for Positivity l Understanding l Justice Only if they were not that expensive.....
Hi ..that's what I got out of it to...question though what if your "friends " are somewhat pretty superficial and there is no one you can really tell your true feelings to ....I ask the therapist is a good idea .. I'm an introvert so meditation is easy but I've always used it more as a relaxation tool ...I might try writing or journalising it ...maybe this will help ...just seems I have a little to much bottled up lately. ..ty for listening to whoever read this.👍
I don't have friends. People can't be trusted. Went to intensive therapy for 2 years, didn't help much and it's so expensive I can't afford to go again even if I wanted to. No other option, but to suffer until death finally gives me peace.
Hamm Hamm Sending you the biggest HUG 🤗 on the planet and TONS of LOVE. You matter! 🐵
Let go of your "fantasy-self", or the "perfect version" you like to see yourself as, or your "perfect life". It helped me a lot. It can be pretty sad to realize how hard reality is, and how far you are from being who you like to think you are. And it's good to be sad, otherwise it gets stuck in yourself. Bad karma haha
I don't think I'm perfect at all. I think ppl want me to play the role of a b. I mean, I'm human. Obviously I have some insecurities, fears here & there. But I do get complimented so much, I'll even cut that stuff short in my head. Even in the compliments, my head: did I ask. Compliment me too much, I'll just maybe think you're up to something 🤔💁🏻♀️.🥴 I cut so many things in my head short, it's like if ppl only knew. I don't have a massive ego. & It's ok, u really don't hafta kiss my arse. & I don't really see myself as some ppl pleaser. But I simply don't like ppl being rude. Who does? Honestly, look past the obvious. Bc I'm not even the greatest at faking ish anyways. But most ppl r, so I hafta learn how to, as well. Maybe I just need to get out my bubble, idk. In short I pretty much just mean do more talk less
These animations tho
The animations are in the league of their own...
reminds me of picasso for some reason
This is some of the best animated illustrated I've seen.
Very creative plz
Man ...6 years ago...
This was about avoiding emotions. NOT how to process them.
Dr K talked about this; it’s as simple as, giving your brain idle time, while your body does something , anything that doesn’t stimulate your brain too much: examples that he gave were walking, journaling and hiking(obv without listening to or watching anything)
👍👍👍It is important to acknowledge of your own feeling first before trying to get any better. Ignoring feelings through drugs and friends will just cover it until the next crisis. Thank you for helping us all dear School of Life! 😀
Wow uploaded at exactly the right timing in my life. I have been facing deeper parts of myself recently and this video gave me something to think about.
Thank you for repeating the same things over and over again. It makes the concepts clearer and easier to incorporate in our daily life.
Not sure if this is sarcastic or not. But it's true in both cases.
Really helpfully thought provoking and beautifully put together.
I love how your videos are so short. I wish more people would just get to their point in 3-6 minutes too
Sadness is beautiful... My beloved melancholy ❤
The narrator's voice is superb
superb is the right word
I've been so stubborn in thinking I don't need help for anything my whole life. Finally, I submitted and decided that it couldn't hurt. I still hold the final decision in anything I hear... and so I got over the stigma. I saw a therapist for the first time today... Then I watched this video. Thank you for this. I wept after watching and felt a wonderful release. I don't have words to express my gratitude for the work you've put into these videos. You've clearly done your research.
I feel like you guys make videos JUST for me, and it's comforting knowing that so many other people are going through what I am going through.
At first I thought "it's called 'how to process your emotions'? where's the 'how to' bit?"... but then I realised this actually helped a lot, potentially more so because it evades that prescriptive element. As a result I had to think a bit more deeply and organically - as the answer is simply to do that; think genuinely, honestly and thoroughly about potential factors and hardships which you've experienced , which you may not have actually fully emotionally experienced, and process them consciously and vigorously, so they can't build and overwhelm you suddenly in other forms, such as anxiety - because you have consciously taken them on and placated them, even if difficult or upsetting. For me these things were very obvious and considerable, but for others they may be more subtle, and so potentially more difficult to pinpoint. Very interesting; thanks!
Emotions are messengers which communicate to us how in alignment we are with our true self. Negative emotions hold so much importance if we learn how to utilise the information they hold without become consumed by the emotion.
the timing of this video was so perfect...i've just started cognitive behavioural therapy and realised that so many of my problems just leave me feeling overwhelmed and like i want to run away, so i don't even think about them until negative emotions rear their ugly head at unexpected moments...sometimes it just hurts too much for your mind to process how it is feeling
It takes courage to face your feelings.
As a sensitive person, I always saw emotions as a negative thing because it makes you appear weak. But I later realized in life that it takes courage to even speak out about your problems to people.
I also learned that suppressing it makes it even worse. So even though its very painful to face your emotions, at least you're actually doing something about it. 😁
As a sensitive person I'm just like it's ok tho. Bc at 1 time, past present or future, u were gonna need my sensitivity for something. But my u ished on it so kbyyyeee. Byyyyeeee & hiiii is legitimately my new thing. Bc I enjoy annoying ppl ... Like if ppl actually knew how extra I was behind closed doors. But that's ok tho bc at least I'm ...harmless
it is a little unsettling how relevant this video is. As if itwas was ordered on demand.
Dear School of Life!
Happy birthday! I know it was on the 9th. But in Germany, even if you are two days late, you always have the option to say " happy birthday nachträglich". So I will take the chance to thank you for the 1000th time ( !!! ) for your wonderful work, for all your efforts and sacrifices and for all the enrichment, serenity and wisdom you bring to our lives. You have reached almost 3 million people in three years. Touching so many lives in such a short time is something to be extremely proud of!
As always I send you lots of love and my best wishes :- )
Thank you so much for your kind words and continuing support! TSOL Team
It's scary to me how some of the visual (and amazing) artwork in these videos match recent events or past events for me.. it helps me relate to the message even more, thanks to coincidences like those. Anyways, don't be afraid to share your gifts and always appreciate, thank you Alain and this channel for making me realize how little I know.. of myself, of others.. I'm glad i can always expect a reminder that I'm not alone, the reassurance is comforting to say the least.
The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another
Meditation helped me a lot, I recommend it to anyone who doesn't know how to process their emotions or where to start
I am back for the voice, no matter what he talks about.
Hello there Mia! Then you could watch his documentaries too. They are on his other youtube channel. All of them are terribly interesting, enriching, and very funny. To find the channel just search for: " Status Anxeity" or " The Art of Travel". If you seach for his name on Itunes you can hear some excellent interviews on different podcasts too. My favourites are these two:
1. " On Being with Krista Tippett, Alain de Botton, The True Hard Work of Love".
2 BBC, A point of View, The advantage of pessimism
Have a nice evening :- )
Lua Veli I have watched some recommended/related videos and keep finding you in the comment section Lol! You must be his biggest fan ever, I hope you get to visit one of his public appearance soon! Wishing you luck 💕
Hi Ria! Yes, yes I am a devoted subscriber of this channel:- ) Nice to meet you.
Alain de Botton. I love his voice too.
I can't explain how much this channel has helped me cope with so many things in my life, it has even given me more compassion and understanding towards other people and myself.
This was my life during my teens and twenties. Now I'm halfway through my thirties I acknowledge and explore my feelings, no matter how painful, through writing and talking about them. I can't say I'm a lot happier since I've been doing it but I do understand my unhappiness a lot better now. Maybe that's the best we can hope for.
stevebrizzle who do you talk to? I feel like people dont wanna hear about my shit
@@claudiak9392 i may be too late, but letus share our thoughts here. Im a teen, with no medically identified mental illness but I'm shy and introverted and i feel very left out. I feel very jealous of people and it hurts me a lot to see other people enjoying their social lives. I used to write a diary during days like this but it only mademe sadder and eventually made me cry so I'm here watching this video on how to manage our feelings.
What about you?
Nah bruh I be looking at ppl like how did they manage to fake it so long 🥴
This should be on trending page! Everyone should know this.
I spend a lot of time thinking about the depths of universe, this world and our minds, and I have a sense we know so little. Seems that we should dedicate more of our resources to knowing ourselves and each other than knowing what's on the bottom of the ocean or far away from our planet...
Shut up I'm supposed to be obsessing on how dedicated I am to ppl being petty. Bc it makes me the "bigger person" as the "little girl ".
That's why I stay up until my head demands sleep, because if I have time to feel, _I'll feel all the negative emotions I'm constantly suppressing._
How does one throw out regretful memories? Where is the blank silence that comes with putting your phone down and closing your eyes? That's when I'm most awake...
This is my second time watching this video.
I've been digging very deeply into my heart for the past 7 years or so and it has been worth it. I was very angry and misserable at one point and I suffered a lot, about anything. And one day I said no more. I want to be happy.
And slowly things have began to change for me. Nothing has changed over night, I've had ups and downs but I'm finally understanding what caused so much of my suffering as a teenager. And I'm in the process of dealing with that. Then, I'll be above ground again, and then I'll continue to build up and make my own castle.
I love you and wish you all the best in your journeys.
I always distract myself, but I guess I need to spend some time dealing with stuff that happened to me. I'm slowly but surely falling and I can't continue like this. I need a chance and a change. I need a change now. Thanks for great video.
Going through this right now. The depression, the insomnia, everything. This video brought tears to my eyes. You guys understand me somehow. Thank you.
I was having a pankc attack when this video popped up in my feed. I dont know why but whenever im going through something troubling, this channel releases a video directly relating to how I feel or whats hurt me.
Not many people I know discuss the topics covered in these videos but its nkce to jnow that theres at least one light shining in the darkness.
Thank you for sharing this so that my eyes can be opened. I never understood exactly how and why my mother suffered from depression. But I found that she recovered wherever she received support, acceptance, help from her family. It took acknowledgment from her and from us. It has to start somewhere.
i sometimes feel like you are following me and getting ideas for videos :)) this one really nailed my mood for the past 2 weeks.
Journalling is a really great way of getting your thoughts out of your sub concious and into the open where you can properly examine them.
I watch my favorite movies and shows, drink coffee, listen to good music, read books. and watch youtube videos. I hate people and they are disappointing so I try and stay away from emotions.
Totally relate
Brian Katz now that we relate we need to fix it
I just want to say “thank you” for this video. At 2am unable to sleep, this is exactly what I needed to hear.
Honestly the hardest part for me is just being able to find someone to talk to. I don’t like asking or talk to someone because that makes me seem like I’m attention seeking, but then if someone points out that I look like I’m sad I immediately hide it. I just wish someone would ask me how I was feeling because it breaks me down when I just bottle all my emotions up. I just want to feel like someone cares
This is exactly how I feel, there's this thing I fill at times, and I can't explain it. But this video explains how I feel.
THIS VIDEO SPOKE TO ME ON LEVELS I DIDN’T KNOW I COULD GO TO I-
Thank you School Of Life for making such an apt video about dealing with emotions. I am going to be forever grateful.
I Been slogging thru the process, feeling like I was in a mineshaft. This was like having the lights switched on, and getting a good map. . . Perfect. Great work! Thank You.
"Carefully masked cynicism" oh boy that one was for me
That attitude is quite the norm in fact, that's how society works ! so most people live this every day and hour, except maybe for the more innocent lowest classes, or a few minority, privileged enough, who don't need to hide their cynicism ?
At least you are aware of it, I suspect many people learn to live like that at an early age, and don't even believe you could function differently - meaning that those who are not cynical are fools.
what is cynical??
TheLifeofJoe Being brutally honest and always expecting the worst.
One of the MOST important videos ever published on youtube..
Every human being needs to know this stuff..
This video really helped me. I need to process, but hard part is finding what thoughts and emotions I need to look at. Thanks!
Recently asked to review the one hour mental health session I had with the rest of year 10 classmates which have been the same for the past 4 years and tell us things like 'be positive', 'smile', and 'be grateful' where we used to think we understand what it meant but now doubt its usefulness when it's challenged by everyday adversities.
We've barely scratched the surface and it's no wonder that we feel bad and embarrassed because it seems like we're not allowing these pieces of advice to solve our problems. It's not thought provoking when they just remind us what we already know but find useless sometimes unless they tell us how to combine it with more complicated examples like compassion, processing thoughts, jealousy and philosophical topics.
ima kinda just let it out here,
i’m scared about going to 8th grade. i’m not scared about having bad grades, i’m scared about being called on in class. the week after coming back from winter vacation my math teacher had a sub. he called on me in class and i burst into tears for a moment i stopped and i could feel the humiliation. i could feel the students staring at me. i couldn’t move all i did was look at my friend next to me. she could tell i wasn’t good and i was about to burst. she tried to calm me down but i couldn’t. the teacher told me to take a break. so i just sat there with my hands on my face. I was so scared. I felt humiliated. all i wanted to do was leave the room. he came up to my desk after teaching the lesson. he explained to me how he knows how it feels to have social anxiety because his daughter has it too. that brought joy to me because when other teachers call on me i just stare at them and they make fun of me. i want to tell the school counselor about how i feel so she could tell the teachers and stop making me so stressed. this is why i stay up till 5 in the morning crying... because of school
Compassion for the self, regardless of emotions is the way of untangling the mess we sometimes find ourselves in.
Absolutely missed the mark explaining “how to process emotions” . Certainly the author explained where emotions come from, what happens, but no common sense steps about “processing, working thru, negative emotions like, some unhealthy anger, anxiety, fear, shame, guilt.
I dont think there is a common sense step a video could give
I embrace those thoughts the dissection of them leads to an understanding and a new found better perspective
"We grow depressed about everything because we cannot be sad about something."👍
Psychiatry and the influence of NAMI set me back a few decades in being able to live as a human being.
what is NAMI?
and did psyche give drugs?
Seriously is nobody gonna talk about the art in this video!
The designs and colours are perfect, the transitions are somehow mesmerising💙
A big applause to whoever Made this💙
Thank you School of Life and Alan D B. I add everything to my studying relationships playlist, I am applying knowledge here and really trying . I love life, others and things have been tough but you provide anaswer, clarity, comfort, immense gratitude to you all. !
"Insomina is the revenge of the many thoughts we've omitted to process in the day" such a beautifully sad way to put it.
I'm at the philosophical meditation phase, it ain't easy, but it sure feels promising
Matt
What's your philosophical ideas???
Pizaerable Pizaerable they all revolve around facing ur issues instead of denying or running away from. If im afraid of rejection, i put myself in situations where i might get rejected and i try to keep doing it until i realize that the crippling fear i have is controllable or removable. So trying to be more Vulnerable is key.
Matt That sounds sadomasochistic....but if it is helping you..
Matt Pray to Gd the Father of the universe to reveal his true self to you. Also ask him to protect you from the enemies lies.
I wish this was taught to us in schools.
I really needed this back then!
Love this gloomy black and white animation.
The level of satisfaction that you're doing the right thing towards your goals in life is the reason of a large part of emotions.
I have a bad thing that happened to me that I literally cannot get over even a year after. Like I can think about it rationally all I want, and try to just get over it which works to an extent but like every once and awhile it'll just worm its way back into a dream or something
I had that too. It was 4 years ago and still affects my everyday despite my not wanting it to... Traumatic things will do that. Sometimes there are multi layers to work through. I guess we both need a good counselor or even psychotherapist. And I need to prioritise putting that into my budget, if it is ever realistically going to happen. But I don't want this thing to affect my marriage any more, so I have to. Why is it sometimes so hard to do the one thing we most need to do? Oh yeah... The topic of this video encapsulates that!
Literally looking at rainy-day-sad-tea book images on Internet made me feel so good. I knw it sounds odd but whn I do that I see what I feel and it helps me recognise it a lot quicker and better *instantly*
I thought the embedded advert was the video for a moment, some hippy lifestyle coach on a beach...
Phew!
My advert was about suïcide:')
I think the ability to Proccess emotions helps a lot especially if your a drug addict or lonely it just gives a clear idea of what an emotion means and how we can better oursleves for sure edit:School should teach this education but how ironic this channel name is school of life tho lol.
i used to be okay for staying up late till wee hours for next day's lectures but the night get scary when it's filled with thoughts that come in all at once and leave me sleepless. like, im aware im tired, that my body wants rest, but not long ago i've been losing sleep to an active brain with scary thoughts. i have this deep need to talk to someone, but i can't seem to find who because those closest to me are all busy. so here i am... hahahahaha (a laugh to put a light feeling just so it doesn't sound too sad)
Try talking to a doctor maybe. It sounds like some hormonal problem that might be due to stress or lifestyle but could also have another medical cause. Either way dealing with elevated stress hormones for a long time is not great news. I can tell you for free to cut out all caffeine and alcohol because why not, they can not help you cope with this.
School of life, you always upload videos that really help me coping with current struggles in my life. Thank you, this channel is truly amazing.
Animations look like Franz Kafka's book covers
But they're not.
Damn, you guys always make videos right when they're relevant to me. I was depressed, angry, and cynical for the past 5 years. Couldn't emotionally connect with people. I had a huge, long cry a few days ago and I feel a little better. Still feel bad, but it's a little better, i think.
Exactly who I am. Thank you !
I understand more now. I will
make my dreams come true !
Knuckles hhh
I needed this video right now. I have been very unmotivated, and distant from other people especially my roommates lately. Consciously Ive been focusing on their flaws and absorbed in my personal woes.
Watching this video in dawned on me: all be the only one who doesnt graduate this semester, they all move out December and I'll lose the best friends I've ever had.
Processing emotions has always been a very difficult thing for me and still continues to be a difficult thing for me to this day. Even more so, is explaining these emotions to others and how I am feeling. I am wondering how anyone else has been able to explain their emotions to others and their process of how they came to do that. If anyone has some insight that could potentially help me out with this and making it a bit easier to talk with others about this that would be extremely helpful. Some info or anything will help, a page to possibly help me with my communication. Someone to talk about it with me and talk me through their process.
i am reading this in 2020, i hope you are all well now after this years! we can connect on facebook if you would like :-) i can be a friend!
what a absurd existence we are living! and we are here living it! what a day!
there are some special people around us
so let us try and lift each other up
so everyday lift each other up
or every other day
let's do it guys!
(oh, you are special also, like really special)
Thanks for putting in seemingly simple words what can be such a big hideous fearsome monster in my head
'We avoid processing emotions because what we feel is so contrary to our self-image, so threatening to our society's ideas of normality and so at odds with who we would like to be.' - This is so true. I don't know how to overcome these issues.
Just what i need. As always
Yes! This video is so incredibly honest like all the others you post. Being kind to ourselves/compassion is what most AVOID doing but it's something that has to be done. Thank you
Yea
I don't know what path to follow in life. I don't know what my personality is. sometimes it's outgoing, sometimes it's easily angered, and sometimes it's quiet and polite. I don't know what God wants from me. I don't know if i am just going through the motions. I dont know what my mind truly desires. Some of it i do know, and I hate myself for preferring those things. But if I try to do something about it, I will feel forced and inexisting, and things will just get worse. My mom tells me not to dwell on these things, but if I don't i will feel forced. Or maybe I'm just too lazy. Maybe I'm just too lazy to not dwell on things. I know that very well, but I don't do anything about it, because im too lazy. This is why I sometimes hate myself. I sin and do poor things, all the while knowing it and how bad it is, but not fixing it. I want to fix it. But I can't. I will feel forced and inexisting. I am very self aware. I watch myself screw things up over and over, and every time I know it. I know what people most likely think of it. I know that right now I may sound dramatic to people. I'm watching myself failing. I want to have hope, I also realize while writing this that I dont want to lose hope. But sometimes I do. And I hate it. I don't know who or what I am. I'm in oblivion. There's so many things I can't accept. That's another reason I hate myself sometimes. Because I can't accept them, and I know it. What if I'm questioning God right now? I don't know what to do, I at least want to please God. But still, what if i am only going through the motions? What if my entire thought process is artificial? It feels like it sometimes. I WANT HELP, BUT MY MIND IS TOO LAZY TO GET HELP. MAYBE IT WANTS ATTENTION. WHAT IF I'M STAYING MISERABLE JUST FOR ATTENTION? I KNOW THAT'S PROBABLY WHAT IT IS, AND I KNOW THAT IT'S A TERRIBLE THING TO LUST FOR. WHY AM I LIKE THIS???? AM I QUESTIONING GOD BY ASKING THAT? I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING!!!!
I cried reading your comment bc I get exactly what you mean 😭
@@azwaaali1693 aw.. 😢 If you're going through similar feelings then you aren't alone.. I hope that wherever you are you can keep pushing through these feelings, and talk to those you can trust. This stuff is hard to understand, but just try to keep hope
I.. also know how this is. I don't know how to help myself either, I don't know how to deal with it. I know there's help out there and I've tried reaching out but I feel like I'm just putting my bullshit on other people who also have to deal with their own bullshit. It's kind of drowning..
What does G_d want? For each person to "Live justly, love mercy and walk humbly with your G_d." That is in the book of Micah. What do you want? Firstly, you sound like the Apostle Paul who said something like "I don't understand myself! I do not do the things I want to do, that I know are good, but I go ahead and do the things that I don't want to do which are bad! Oh unhappy soul am I! Is this me sinning or is it the law of sin? My not wanting to do it shows that the law is good... So It is the law of sin living in me, which brings death, ... but G_d gives us the law of life through his son!:" That's my own paraphrase, but check out Romans 7. It is in there. Secondly, What do you delight in doing- once you find that thing, do it with all your heart. Where your passion and your relationship with G_d meet, that is the most powerful place to live your life in.
Bravo! The most eloquent, humane video I have seen on youtube. This channel is the ish and then some!
His voice calms me even more than Bob Ross
Thank you for this reminder to acknowledge our feelings and to stay true to our emotions. To ignore our feelings is to ignore oneself, which can lead to loneliness, so it's important to take time to stay in tune to our inner thoughts.
How do you know when you're OVER analyzing feelings?
Marisa Cabral-Munoz you'll get paralysis by analysis
Marisa Cabral-Munoz processing emotions isn't about analysing them
I don't know but I'd like to know.
Accept the way things are and keep moving on.