How To Be The Type Of Person Everyone Wants To Know

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  • Some people are simply a joy to be around. The conversation flows effortlessly. You laugh. You feel genuinely interested. You find yourself looking forward to seeing them, and you leave them feeling like their company was a valuable use of your time.
    Obviously, this connection has something to do with how much you have in common, but I think there’s more to it than just that. I think they have a secret ingredient.
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Комментарии • 90

  • @alasdair4161
    @alasdair4161 6 лет назад +81

    It's easy to distinguish the traits in people we don't want to know, but much harder to recognise those same traits in ourselves.

  • @77777aol
    @77777aol 6 лет назад +29

    Never compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to yourself of yesterday ! [Really inspirational and clear videos. Thank you]

  • @pandalyn2267
    @pandalyn2267 6 лет назад +72

    These little lectures are my therapy. Thank you for addressing these difficult but human topics with such candor and insight.

  • @tylergcole1727
    @tylergcole1727 6 лет назад +21

    I feel like I'm a fixed mindset and I've been wanting to change this for years

  • @allisonwilliams3714
    @allisonwilliams3714 6 лет назад +6

    Good lord this just explained a very influential person in my life and how living with their fixed mindset made me afraid of mistakes. Again, thank you!

  • @SuperMutantSomething
    @SuperMutantSomething 6 лет назад +29

    You put words to my thougts. What's frightening to learn is that the crabs in a bucket mentality exists across family ties and friendships.

    • @cassielee1114
      @cassielee1114 6 лет назад

      Yes! This is why independence is a wonderful thing.

  • @voltaire5427
    @voltaire5427 6 лет назад +13

    I love improvement channels, but this by far lays it out the clearest and doesn’t over complicate. Well done sir. Subbed.

  • @ClassicJukeboxBand
    @ClassicJukeboxBand 5 лет назад +2

    She's right! I recognize these people almost immediately upon watching this video. Lots of musicians that I have auditioned are arrogant. They constantly talk about how great they are. I noticed that the arrogant ones are the ones who quit improving their skills and cannot take any kind of constructive criticism. This video was really eye opening for me!

  • @gregvangaasbeek813
    @gregvangaasbeek813 6 лет назад +2

    Growing like a beautiful flower to the light. Shine on crazy diamond.

  • @Demi.d3mi
    @Demi.d3mi 6 лет назад +8

    Damn you just blew my mind😂. Someone's fixed mentality definitely stuck to me and ive been insecure about myself and being seen as fixed when im not but kinda am, just thinking that way🤔 self realization. Thank you!

  • @tomislavvinkovic827
    @tomislavvinkovic827 3 года назад +1

    Half of what you said about a fixed mindset applies to me! I thought this was normal and everyone was like that! You widened my field of view, so thank you

  • @TripleTheat
    @TripleTheat 5 лет назад +4

    You can’t make a mistake. Words to live by.

    • @SoundJudgment
      @SoundJudgment 5 лет назад +1

      Don't make a single mistake. Make lots of them.

  • @DeborahGilson
    @DeborahGilson 5 лет назад +2

    Thank you, Hazel, for adding this article to your RUclips station. I have Dr. Carol Dweck's book and learning about a growth mindset changed my life for good.

  • @ahmedaldarmaki8430
    @ahmedaldarmaki8430 6 лет назад +1

    The description of each individual has been quote on point. Great video

  • @mrprimeconsigliere
    @mrprimeconsigliere 5 лет назад +2

    This is an excellent video. Cut through all the layers of what makes a good personality to the core of it.

  • @okay4567
    @okay4567 5 лет назад +4

    I hate liking my friends posts and now I know why 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’m so scared of people not liking me and that’s why I’m so insecure with myself:/

  • @DrumWild
    @DrumWild 6 лет назад +7

    I'm old enough to remember when "an ask" used to be called "a question."

  • @dinelli630
    @dinelli630 Год назад

    Fear of failure!!! Maybe that need a lot of courage and knowledge and to be among the right people. ,,,💕

  • @Spontaneouscontent7
    @Spontaneouscontent7 2 месяца назад

    Now i understood that problem is not me but the people in the school who are around me with fixed mindset .
    Whereas in tuition i m very good with people who have growth mindset.

  • @sergio3428
    @sergio3428 6 лет назад +2

    Amazing video! Everyone stay motivated and stay positive. Anything is possible

  • @warrenbradford2597
    @warrenbradford2597 2 года назад

    I will make sure I will perfect my own mind to do this.

  • @junce723
    @junce723 7 месяцев назад

    Thanks for the lesson ❤❤❤

  • @abhishekbhaskar7490
    @abhishekbhaskar7490 5 лет назад +1

    this is a goldmine in youtube. thanx for making videos.. :)

  • @laeconomistablockchain8177
    @laeconomistablockchain8177 4 года назад

    I found myself some of those persons, people usually tend to drop me them private issues pretty soon after meeting me and I realized is for two fundamental things.
    Listening + Non Judging, when they talk about problem, mental issues, tendency to suicide, people don't want to listen the same thing : "Love your life, you good, I love you" or at least I wouldn't like, instead I just listen and do some jokes like: "So I am glad you failed that time because that Way I meet you" and you can feel the change

  • @kingofwilcoxstreetkows8351
    @kingofwilcoxstreetkows8351 6 лет назад +1

    To me forever to learn this ... better late than never

  • @JustHereToHear
    @JustHereToHear 5 лет назад +2

    Woah this is enlightening.. I've been a fixed person for so long. Got to change -.-

  • @barryirlandi4217
    @barryirlandi4217 6 лет назад +24

    Wow! Hit they nail on the head!

  • @truthseeker4666
    @truthseeker4666 6 лет назад +1

    Excellent video! Thank you very much!

  • @Shadowfoxx5
    @Shadowfoxx5 6 лет назад +6

    Those reality bullets though. More enlightening than painful.

  • @PaperRaines
    @PaperRaines 6 лет назад +2

    He basically just described amorality. You're not aware of what's good or bad, you're just there. That is highly attractive and highly configurable. Especially around lower hanging fruit groups of people.
    I like the advice, it's good. But that's what it is

  • @DrumWild
    @DrumWild 6 лет назад +9

    But I have Asperger's. Once people start to get to know me, they run away.

    • @jaysan2674
      @jaysan2674 6 лет назад

      Relatable

    • @Lady_of_Winds
      @Lady_of_Winds 6 лет назад +1

      Same. But. Have a "Growth" Mindset. I have Aspergers too but with lots of training I managed to have friends and even became the committee president of a youth parliament. All thanks to daily training and constructive critique from my parents (On the other hand I am not too deep into the spectrum)

    • @lisamcallister6534
      @lisamcallister6534 5 лет назад +1

      Try cognitive behavior therapy. It helps, then you'll feel better about yourself. Take care.

  • @MoizRafay
    @MoizRafay 6 лет назад +1

    What you're talking about sounds eerily familiar to "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. However, you could add more material and insight in a followup video by reading that book.

  • @tonydark6
    @tonydark6 6 лет назад

    What a great video. Really nicely put together.

  • @natesmith5778
    @natesmith5778 6 лет назад +1

    Very well said, ty

  • @AldousHuxley7
    @AldousHuxley7 6 лет назад +1

    Ur gonna be yt famous. Subscribed

  • @afnanrazzak2280
    @afnanrazzak2280 4 года назад

    Thank you

  • @wolfsmith2865
    @wolfsmith2865 6 лет назад

    I have long said that it is ok to take what you are doing seriously, but never take yourself seriously.

  • @TheFlyingReporters
    @TheFlyingReporters 5 лет назад

    Your channel is great!

  • @Michael-4
    @Michael-4 6 лет назад +1

    Very good.

  • @yamunajolicoeur2807
    @yamunajolicoeur2807 2 года назад

    I LOVE THIS CHANNEL 💕💜💖🥂💯👌

  • @serafinaobi
    @serafinaobi 3 года назад

    True

  • @b.v.brian4479
    @b.v.brian4479 6 лет назад

    nice video :) i think i learnt something today

  • @anthonydmorse
    @anthonydmorse 6 лет назад +1

    ..Thank you

  • @nuotykis6350
    @nuotykis6350 4 года назад +1

    i feel attacked

  • @InnisSnelling
    @InnisSnelling 6 лет назад +7

    Loads of people make this style of video - what program do you use?

  • @opheosmedia7809
    @opheosmedia7809 5 лет назад

    So, is it for being among the people with the fixed mindset or those with the growing one? I don't think it is going to work if you are surrounded with the fixed minded ones.

  • @nicholasatom4563
    @nicholasatom4563 6 лет назад +1

    Culture of Narcissism (fixedness at 3:30-ish)

  • @pavlepetkovic3048
    @pavlepetkovic3048 6 лет назад

    Your videos are great :)

  • @SoulWhisperer
    @SoulWhisperer 6 лет назад +1

    Nice!

  • @MilkySuit
    @MilkySuit 2 года назад

    Thanks onion

  • @xcross8537
    @xcross8537 5 лет назад

    I am still evolving, care less what people think of me.

  • @intagiblemist9676
    @intagiblemist9676 6 лет назад

    I want to see the comments for this 1.

  • @tomjackson2565
    @tomjackson2565 6 лет назад

    Lovely...

  • @nictanghe98
    @nictanghe98 3 года назад

    just be hot and lie to people`s faces about everything and just tel em what they want to hear .

  • @JaysonT1
    @JaysonT1 6 лет назад

    What is "maths"?

  • @k4temis
    @k4temis 4 года назад

    Thumbs up if this is your favourite youtube channel!

  • @aeustimothymiguel8111
    @aeustimothymiguel8111 6 лет назад +1

    Eudaimonia?

  • @aaronzywicki2688
    @aaronzywicki2688 6 лет назад

    It Seems Most People I Know Come To Me With Their Problems ! And Seek An Opinion From Me I don't Know Why Maybe Because I Take The Time To Listen ! But In My Head I Say Do You Really Want My Opinion!

  • @ronniespain7142
    @ronniespain7142 5 лет назад

    Possibly Some of Yous Could help Congress.

  • @aeustimothymiguel8111
    @aeustimothymiguel8111 6 лет назад +1

    Is that you Eudaimonia?

  • @RS-io6vm
    @RS-io6vm 6 лет назад +5

    I can't make people laugh. what's the opposite of being funny? ...not funny? anywho I'm an easy target to be the butt of others jokes. I'm fine with it. gives me some kind of attention. I know most people would say get away from a toxic person that does that to you. but I need attention. I'm hurting on the inside cause I'm so lonely

    • @2ashamed2change
      @2ashamed2change 6 лет назад +2

      :-(

    • @troywarren1075
      @troywarren1075 6 лет назад +3

      I think your comment proves you have a sence of humor

    • @jamiesimms7084
      @jamiesimms7084 6 лет назад +1

      If this is true then that's a shame. Everyone is cool

    • @abdsabiri6793
      @abdsabiri6793 6 лет назад +1

      the only attention you really need is the attention of your true self your persona if you can keep yourself good companies give him treat when you both succed and forgive yourself when you f**k up then you wouldn't feel the necessity to seek attention.

    • @hangfried9429
      @hangfried9429 6 лет назад +1

      Look me up we'll talk.

  • @gretawilliams8799
    @gretawilliams8799 6 лет назад

    FIXED people are Fools

  • @montesforeman5079
    @montesforeman5079 5 лет назад +1

    7:40
    No cerebellum on that brain, don't trust this guy. :)

  • @mestill6329
    @mestill6329 6 лет назад

    Ah. This further explains Trump's fixed mindset.