Living with Asperger’s: about Ellis
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- Опубликовано: 27 авг 2024
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Ellis is 13 and has Asperger’s disorder, also called Asperger’s syndrome. In this short video, Ellis and his family talk about living with Asperger’s. He is slowly learning how to respond the right way in social situations, but it doesn’t come naturally. Ellis says, ‘Having Asperger’s is a permanent thing, but not necessarily a bad thing’.
How I wish I’ve known that my son has aspergers. He’s 30 years old now and drifted away from me. He has almost all the characteristics of a person who has aspergers. I wish I can turn back time and dealt with it differently. Maybe we could have a better relationship. I feel so guilty now that I learned about aspergers.
Hey you did things to the best of your knowledge. Sometimes that’s all you can do
My daughter is 47 and I feel the same. Wish I knew.
I hope you guys can start talking again. maybe you should reach out to him
What exactly happened?
I very likely have it and because of it my mom has believed me to be possessed as my family are strictly fundamentalists and believe in mental illness being demonic. I haven't spoken to my mom in years but I would be in contact if she ever reached out. It's not too late to mend relationships.
I was recently diagnosed with aspergers but i've always been super in depth. Instead of looking at a flower and admiring it for its looks I look at it and think something along the lines of "that flower is a genetical code that takes sunlight to individually add particles to itself so it can grow and thrive." Sometimes I spend my entire days just thinking about stuff and can even get trapped within my own thoughts. If anyone else experiences something like this please reply so I know i am not the only one.
My son is called Ethan and has Aspergers and this is how he thinks too. You are not alone Ethan.
Same here. Hyper analyze everything and try to find logic in social interactions
@@JD-pj1hx Yes, i feel like it is a great gift to have as ive been seen by many as a very smart person but i also begin to go crazy sometimes because of it. The best solution is usually to go for a walk, where I analyse what happened and speak to myself about it.
@Ethan Yes same here. It can be a great gift once one learns how to manoeuvre it. I've experienced great insights into the nature of things that other people (neurotypicals) cannot grasp, also ability to detect patterns in basically everything to a point where it becomes unnerving and keep getting the "stop hyper-analysing everything" from others around me. Looking at it as an opportunity to learn and grow, I found, makes much easier to navigate.
@@JD-pj1hx But I have to wonder, what exactly inside our brains is causing this? Increase in a certain energy, different part of our brains being used, or just our brain being taught this, since up until I was 13/14 i was never like this. I just put myself into a time period where I was having constant brain loops (E.g: Overthinking about the fact you're overthinking) and afterward i had a much different way of thought.
It's not a bad thing at all! Neurotypicals always want to think we are "bad" because we are different. There are a lot of pluses to having us around. We keep our heads during times of crisis because we are very logical and don't let emotions destroy our thinking process. We don't give into peer pressure nearly as much. Like that saying, "if you're friends jumped off a cliff, would you?" We wouldn't, but neurotypicals do. My brother jumped off so many cliffs and roofs to impress his friends he's lucky he's alive. We can see through bs a lot easier, even though it usually confuses us why so many people go along with the bs (normies like to conform even if they are conforming to something which to us appears absolutely ridiculous and harmful).
Couldn’t have said it better myself
You know what, you are right because I would become so emotional when we argue but sometimes I was amazed by how logical his arguments were.
im a mix of both so. We're all assholes
Literally the most successful man in the world has it
Were better than NT'S
Sharon Moffat.... Thank you so much for saying that. I am 36 and recently diagnosed with Asperger's which explains A LOT. I am estranged from my family because they think I'm a terrible person even though I only ever wanted them to love me for who I am, not for what I stand for. Like this kid, PC culture is weird and strange to me because you have to divorce yourself from reality to believe it. My family is extremely PC so they just view me as some kind of freakish abomination. It's sad to me. I never wanted to hurt them, but they very much enjoy hurting me because that's what the TV tells them to do. I wish everyone could have asperger's, the world would be a better, more rational place.
I’m sorry that your family’s treating you like that but for what it’s worth, it’s there problem and there loss.
Dictator.
Find a way to educate them. You can have a Dr explain it to them with videos.
I didn't realize that not being PC was part of Asperger's
@@aurora8749 PC prinicipal?!?!!!
As an individual with Asperger's, I have to disagree with the comment, "once he gets the hang of... the world and .... it's expectations, and everyone else's expectations of him, then he will cope, and cope very well".
My life has been a series of failure, after failure, after failure. I understand the expectations that society has for me, but society does not understand how to deal with a neurodivergent individual.
I have Asperger's too. Look up Kurt Gödel
. His philosophy changed my life.
I feel you. I just learned about aspergers and I think my 30year old has it. I didn’t know anything about it and we had a very tense and strained relationship. How I wish I knew better.
so true
Same. I am an unofficially diagnosed person with autism and I do see that society has expectations (have a stable job, earn money, as a girl to „dumb it down“ sometimes, for boys to show little to no emotion, following the school system without questioning it) but I don’t WANT to follow most of them to be honest !!
Don't be discouraged. Maybe what they're expecting and forcing of you is your weakness. So don't do be discouraged and feel like a failure if you're not able to do it. You still have your towering strength as an aspie that's going to make you impeccable.
I am 14 and I have Asperger’s Syndrome. Me personally, it’s a love and hate disability with me. One day I thank my condition and the next day I’m complaining about it. Has anyone else experienced this?
Absolutely! Jesus wants to guide you. Please trust me when I say this but he’s real and can work wonders in you. I had a near death experience and experienced his love and it’s the most wonderful feeling you could ever imagine. Become a born again Christian and he will give you his spirit
I have a 12 year old that is the same, some days are harder for him to cope with everything. Usually it's what happens in school that decides if it's a good day or not. People not behaving within the rules are hardest for him. Days where he doesn't have to deal with social situations are easier for him because then he can focus 100% on what he finds interesting. Is it similar for you?
@@mj6598 not Jesus, but God. Listen I am a Muslim and I want you to read and learn about islam. Don’t care about TV and social media, you go and read and learn. We believe in jesus but as a son of God. God doesn’t have a son but Jesus is a messanger from God and the last messanger is Mohammed.
@@khalid.6540 I’ve encountered him for myself. Get behind me Satan.
I have a 13 year old I would like to know your symtoms
Coping is exhausting!
Real shit but we gotta keep pushing💪
I haven't been diagnosed, but whatever I am, I can definitely relate. Made me pretty emotional
living with asperger's has been difficult for me and this Dr imenherbal I meet on channel makes me feel great that someone knows what my life is like .
understandable
I have never been really diagnose for autism, Asperger’s or anything, really. I have been diagnosed recently with ADHD and depression and generalized anxiety disorder. I have more concerned with being attentiveness than anything! I relate to all the symptoms, but that doesn’t mean I have it, I am going to get tested soon! I know what is going through, as person with severe learning difficulties and disabilities, he is not alone!
I hope he’s doing better now it kind of reminds me of my younger bro it aint different it’s extraordinary
@Shitu Kabir ❤❤❤❤ they are good gamers too 😎
I've certainly gotten better about mumbling, that's for sure.
At work i do my job the same exact way every day and get upset and anxious when coworkers get in my way of getting things done. I also can't stand when people skip parts of their job, we have routines for a reason and it's just so weird to me that "normal" people are the lazier ones who don't care as much about what they do. It's frustrating. Fortunately for me, i have a couple of coworkers on the spectrum. I can tolerate working with them.
I was diagnosed with asperger syndrome when I was 15 ,and now I've gotta learn to live with that , it's been quite difficult but I try to make friends
I was diagnosed with Asperger syndrome at 14 years old.
I want to say, there are people with autism out there that I admire way more than Neurotypical people. Some of them really attract me.
I have austim Asperger's I find it hard to socialize with others and I like routine as well
Do I have aspergers? I m sitting here thinking something is different about me. I just left my first job (training), my parents are angry, teacher angry, they can't believe i m like this. So rebellious. I m not trying to be rebellious. Bullied relentlessly through childhood, unsupportive parents, I've no friends, I have so many ideas about the world, theories about the universe. No stable romantic relationship ever. Called intelligent. Bachelors in genetics, masters in neuro. Focus intensely on singular tasks that interest me. Can't focus on many things together. Have a very righteous sense of being. Can't drive, can't ride a scooty. Always making a routine, its my most fav thing to do. Have many different habits than others, and people keep asking why i do it like this. Always called different, unique and/or weird. Emotional regulation is very different than normal. All tecahers had problem with me while i was growing up. 11 and 12 standard sucked too much, cuz soo much syllabus in bits and parts and i wanted to study each topic in length. I find it very difficult to conform to societal terms. Very very difficult. Will go out of all ways to help someone in genuine need.
I think you might have aspergers, some of the things you mentioned I grew up with as well. I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 35. So I was completely unaware and just tried to navigate through life, but it wasn’t working very well for me. Not much has really changed, just find what works for you and follow your routine. I’m not sure what to do about making friends bc I don’t have any. Good luck and don’t think bad of yourself, I’m sure you’re a good person, just a bit different.
I have Asperger's Syndrome. I was diagnosed at 7 or 8.
As a post-script... My family literally wanted to kill me. They said it themselves. Why do neurotypicals hate us so much? Everyone laughs at Sheldon but in real life they would kill him without mercy and laugh about it.
What?
What why?
@@stalemate8227 bro did you read the comment?
@@EggBenis yeah i just dont get it
What
I knew i was an asperger since i was 6 but It didnt bother me at all because i love my routine.
How old were you when you already had a routine ?
@@marlo2853 8
I have Asperger’s but I am very sarcastic and freak out and lose my cool easily.
Successful thinking requires emotions to be removed
GREAT video! I like you, Ellis :)
Thanks :)
i have asperger autism and it's hard for me but i am good at making friends.
People who commnicste with, thru and from the Brain, which is called intellectual communication
Do allow emotions to interfere with the critical thinking process
hes so hansome n beautiful skin
You should marry him
Weirdo
Someone should check your hard drive for illegal stuff
@@mtndew490 why ? Because they gave a compliment? You need help. Sexualizing a compliment ……… are you okay? Get help fast! Sick
@@aayonce4 omg a twitter user im gonna get cancelled omg omg!, nah i found it VERY weird how a guy would randomly say that about a kid
I’m 15 and I got aspergers or however u spell it but I have a lot of the same problems as he does so ye this is fax
What does a fax have to do with it?
@@skrawn1342 fax is a shorter term for facts some people use
I have Asperger's aswell, but I don't really have alot of problems, I usually control my situation.
@@channelflim2397 wow nice. good for you 👍
I can read emotions i just fucking hate change and i like certain things a certain way
Not one among you is a chief medical correspondent like me
I was diagnosed with Asperger's after moving to the U.K. with my parents in 2018 at the age of 26. I wish people would understand that this isn't a weakness and to stop negatively viewing us as weaker or less of a person just because we have with condition. People with Autism in short are neurologically wired differently and due to that parts of the brain closer together form stronger connections while one further apart have weaker ones which can explain why people who have Aspergers like myself struggle with social aspects such as empathy, body language, tone, and etc. On the other hand though the information processing part of the brain is stronger allowing us to excel in areas we have interest in or feel related to and often allow us to see connections and solutions to problems neuro-typical people cannot. We are not worthless and we are not weak and many of us succeed even with some of the difficulties we fact. I also highly recommend parents and those with Autism to try CBT therapy (cognitive behavioural therapy) as it helped me deal with the depression that I experience along with my Aspergers as well as learning to cope with some of the more negative parts of my condition such as emotions. Here in the U.K. the NHS provides all sorts of support to those diagnosed with Autism no matter where you are on the spectrum and honestly I wish the U.S. had the same. Autism is a strength and if you look at famous people in history you be surprised that some of those such as Issac Newton did in fact have Aspergers. This should make those who have Aspergers or any form of Autism feel more empowered.
Hi thanks for your comment and hope all is well . My 8 year old son got diagnosed with Asperger’s almost 2 years ago . Do you have any valuable advises for me as a parent ?
@@marlo2853 As someone with Aspergers who tried just about every medication, I can assure you that Jesus is the only way. I’m not talking about simply going to church, I’m talking about becoming born again and receiving his Holy Spirit. I’m not completely healed but he has guided me along the way and I have noticed significant improvements in daily living. As a former skeptic myself, please believe me. I want to see your entire family in heaven and all your sins have been paid for ❤️
@@mj6598 thanks bro
@@marlo2853 anytime my man
My son have suffered autism spectrum since childhood and Have battled with it all his life . But recently taking of Dr imenherbal have help his get rid of it completely , his speech is vibal and his social skill is perfect . I'm so glad and happy now
They are not this self aware.
Its so hard to listen for that afectation voice "i dont give a fuck" kind of voice. I tried. I have aspergers aswell.
How long did it take him to learn that putting your hand on a hot burner hurts? I bet one time. The discipline a child must learn cannot be learned in the same way as an adult. It's funny you never hear of adults with aspergers or autism. Why not? Because they learn that such behavior is not tolerated when you're an adult. Suddenly it's someone besides mom and dad who are telling you to do something and your livlihood is suddenly dependent on it.
What?? Lord. There are massive amounts of aspie adults. This is not a choice....it's high functioning autism.