This is a pro. I was single when I was on active duty. I did not have to worry about a wife cheating or leaving. As to my battle buddies that were married I saw some of their marriages thrive and some fail. All in all, in a marriage it takes 2 to make it work. 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Sure you dont HAVE to go to FRG meetings but as soon as someone says "No PT for those who go to the meeting" next thing you know the whole company shows up 😂😂
No matter how bad your barracks are, it’ll never be worse than being in the Navy and being forced to live aboard your ship while it’s in home port because your installation doesn’t have enough housing.
From my time in the Army through my career of a public servant just shy of 30 years, I heard too many "horror stories" of guys who got taken by vengeful ex-spouses. Scared me enough not to get married.
@@rand_-mk5lb Taking all or most of their pensions, messy divorces, paying child support and/or alimony for years on end, etc. Taking the house, cars, etc.
When I was single we would get picked for extra detail duty or when someone didn't show up for duty. When I got married the con was being away for long time. Being single you save money when you are deployed
I knew several people who looked up their old sweethearts from back home and married them because barracks life was that unbearable. None of them regretted it and I never met a married soldier who would've traded places with single soldiers.
Just graduated BCT and am now in AIT as a married soldier for 46S, and as hard as it can be being away from her if you have the strength and persistence to get through it it’s definitely worth it if it’s someone you love in my opinion. However I also understand everyone’s situation is different
@@golfery5119 I’m currently in AFI (awaiting further instructions) so I haven’t actually started classes yet but from what the people who have have been saying it’s a very good course. You learn journalism, video production, photography, graphic design, and social media skills. It’s a lot packed together and I’m definitely looking forward to it
@@TheBlubberWhale thanks. i'd definitely like to look into it more when my reenlistment window opens later this year, assuming i still want to stay in the army on active duty and assuming that the in/out calls for it are available for me as a choice to reclass to.
@@golfery5119 yeah man I definitely recommend it! I was going to college for Mass communications anyway but it didn’t work out because everything switched to online so I got extremely lucky they had this opening. If you can get it definitely do it it’s such a cool job
Barracks Inspections were on every Monday and Friday.. they would do home visits every thursday each month.. my unit were so in our faces that I don't even like having guests unless they schedule a week in advance
@@Holyhandgrenade-tx6xd the barracks suck for even more reasons than just room inspections though. I and others one time were woken up at 3:30 in the morning on a duty day to stand in a formation to watch a dude walk up and down the hallway back and forth for thirty minutes all because some staff sergeants wanted to humiliate him and involve us in it. And in army if you don't get married you cant leave until e6 whereas the air force and navy let you leave at e4
When I was an MP at Benning in 1997 or so, I got a call to go to the Custer Terrace housing area because a shot had been fired. I parked about a block away and walked to the address. It was a guy doing a solid for a single Soldier by holding onto his new .40 S&W pistol. He had accidentally 'test fired' it 45 minutes or so after the guy dropped it off. The round went out the kitchen window just above the sink, shot across the street, and ended up on the threshold of the quarters across the street. The bullet went through the lower part of a screen door, hit the inner wooden door but then bounced back onto the threshold. I remember telling the guy that he had not done so well by his buddy.
Out of sight, out of mind... 😎.... if you are a enlisted, get OUT when not assigned or working. Even if you work shifts, ⌚, most NCOs or company officers dont care. Lower enlisted soldiers get treated like 🗑.
Made the mistake of getting married so I didn't have to live in the barracks. Big mistake, don't do it for that reason, you'll regret it probably. Also, the work stress will lead you to take a lot of those stress problems home with you to your spouse. So again, don't get married unless you can handle that well. I didn't and it lead to a divorce. I didn't last a year before we split up.
pro for both: getting to traveling around the world, I was on active duty, I was able to travel around the world. Also, when I was a single parent in the military, it was hard to travel as much due to the responsibility of being that NCO and mom. Now that I am a veteran, and now married to an active duty soldier, we are still able to travel, expect when he is in the field and now deployed to Poland, I'd rather wait until he get home and travel as a family.
First thing I noticed while watching wasthe thunder cats sword and I'm 18 lmao but in all honesty these videos help me out a lot because I will be shipping off to the ay soon and I'm looking forward to it to any other future recruits I'd listen to what he is saying
Before homosexuality was more widely accepted in the army same sex military couples would find another same sex couple (opposites sex) and would get married for the benefits and live together.
It's not for everyone. The spouses always seem to enjoy the romanticism at first, but once reality sets in, it's fleeting. Unless you can homestead somewhere for years and you have time with each other and whatever kids you want to have, don't do it until you've been in for at least 3 years. If you're serious about the military, you don't need the distraction. Just my .02 inches ..🤷♂️
I see all these men bashing women as cheaters when it goes both ways and not all women marry for the damn benefits I am marrying my fiance because of how I feel about him and we actually enjoy doings things together like working on a project vehicle learning how to fix a vehicle and going trail offroading. I am proud of my fiancé for joining the army and I support him and his goals.
@@LegendDairyKat oh damn, well that's wassup. If only there was an easy way for both parents to be in the military active duty while there child could be watched over and taking good care of
@@houseofcotes4402 yeah, I'm just of course doing all the research I can for when he does come out of basic I'll be ready for atleast most of it, my fiancé MOS is 11 B infantry because his goal is for the 75th rangers
@@LegendDairyKat yeah that's good and hahaha that's funny bc that's what I'm going for 11b option 40. I want the whole package rasp and airborne school. I also wanna be in the 75th. that's wassup I hope he gets there; maybe if me and him both pass and get there we might see eachother lol. Only thing I'm waiting on is my hand tattoo, im getting it removed. I'm honestly done it's barely noticeable but as soon as my recruiter says I'm good to go I'll be on my way there haha. I sure hope you and him enjoy the military experience haha
I'm planning to join im single all I got in life is my dad. My sisters are married i already learned to live without my mom, all I have is my dad were close and he doesn't want to join in a way
@@rustybuckshott1810 His worried I could get injured or kill. In a way I want to join to learn new job skills, get discipline, and travel. But I'm just concerned about the toxic leadership, bad roles in upper rank, receiving verbal abuse and discrimination
@@rodolfomorenoiii135 I’m in the same situation as you, no one else in my life besides my dad and he doesn’t want me to join. But it’s the right decision man, somebody has to do the job, and it’s worth the experience and life long training, and the lifelong friends. I made the decision to enlist for 6 years and am shipping out next fall.
@@rodolfomorenoiii135 it’s not really like that though, they’re not allowed to treat you like shit anymore they can be fired for that, and I’m joining the army. What branch we’re you thinking about joining?
When I joined I stated 11B and airborne. Got both. Where I ended up we all had privite owned firearms in our barracks We also had issue M16A1s and ammo as well as other arms and ammo. Don't forget the hundreds of frags. No barracks insectiona or health and wellness inspections. Highly classified compound. Post commander didn't get in if we did not want him in.
@@rustybuckshott1810 at that point I was not wearing uniforms. Traveled on all black airplanes. I did not work for the army but someone else in government. Our barracks were not typical barracks.
I can't image having been single while on active duty. Life would be comparative shit.... living in a barracks, eating in a chow hall, living on post.... every single day, year after year. No thank you. The big problem for many though is marrying someone who is vastly too emotionally immature for the real stresses of military life, deployments, etc, and things fall apart. Whoever you marry needs to be mentally strong, and reasonably independent and self-reliant. They need to be comfortable living and run a household, alone, in a new town/State/country, for long periods of time. Hard to find in someone, particularly a female, less than 25-30 years old or so.
I'm single & 50. I served as a lower enlisted, Spc E4 in the 1990s. 95B, 🚔. I HIGHLY suggest not having a spouse or get married 🤵🏻👰🏼 until you have 10-12/15 years on active duty. Like if you enter as a E-1, get married, engaged 💍 like E-7, E-8. A warrant officer or lower commissioned officer might be able to deal with a wife/husband but it depends on the MOS, couple. I read in the 1990s SF/SOF had around 95% divorce rate(first marriage). Some younger guys would think a wife may mean free or supported 🏡. Also less hassles from senior NCOs or platoon officer. I considered that a scam but the Army pushed for couples, married to encourage re enlistment, retention.
I don’t care about love. I need a marriage of convenience So I can bring my child with me 😂. But seriously I think it’s kind of BS that You can’t be enlist as a single parent, but single women that get knocked up DURING active duty are allowed to stay in as long as they have a family care plan. Make it make sense
It was easier being single on active duty . You just had to do your job and get things accomplished. There are plenty of single female soldiers to spend time with ,unless you have a gf off post or just to goof around with . Overall it is easier to be single on active duty. It can even be more fun as well.
I’m currently going through the enlistment process now (my wavier should be passed soon) but I have a child with my girlfriend and I had to “sign away rights” temporarily while I’m in training. I had to speak with JAG and a few other higher ups cause they wanted to make sure I was making the right decision. My question is, if we don’t get married by the time I ship to basic, will she and our child be able to live off post together? I’ve asked my recruiter and he’s not too sure, there could be an exception to policy kinda thing. You have any idea Mr. Chaos
Only if you have costody of the child. You could qualify for BAH and BAS. If she is still the only one with costody rights then no. You would have to get married to get BAH and BAS.
@@christopherchaos that’s what I was told by my recruiter too brother, but we don’t have any legal custody agreements arranged through law expect written statements by us both that my recruiter told us to do and it stated that she can take care of our child and she has full custody while I’m in initial training only
one pro to being single is that you don't have to worry about someone cheating on you or you cheating on them. a con to being single is if you're enlisted you have to stay in the barracks and deal with all the drama regardless of how well you keep your bedroom spotless clean. One time we were woken up at 3:30 in the morning on a duty day to stand in a formation to watch a dude walk up and down the hallway back and forth for thirty minutes all because some staff sergeants wanted to humiliate him and involve us in it. Join the army and you will deal with this for a much longer time as long as you stay single and enlisted (can't leave the barracks in the army until you reach e6 whereas air force and navy let you out when you get to e4) also a con to being single I hadn't thought about was dealing with your vehicle if you have to deploy, and remember in army you will be gone for a much longer time compared to other branches. Yes there is military storage for your vehicle, but your vehicle is NOT going to be maintained and started up for the year you are gone. So you have to have someone you can trust and give them power of attorney and raise your insurance payments to get them to have your vehicle while your gone. In my case, that meant having my parents make plans to come all the way up from my home state to my duty station to get my vehicle.This is something I'm not sure can still be done if I get sent to another duty station even farther away from my home state. Some other single people even wind up selling their vehicle. You really have to take this into consideration when you join and active duty, as well as what branch you want to join considering it is harder for a longer time for army than other branches.
See this is why your a good person, so what do you mean I can't leave the barracks until rank E6, so like if I got to e4 I can't like ever leave to go buy me like new jeans or socks or anything, or a new rug? I am a single guy I am quite I read my Bible and stay to myself you know but I do still like my Air forces and jeans and stuff, so do I ever get to go off base and go to stores. I want to be a 12 bravo Combat engineer act duty.
also like see if I do 4 years can I save all my money untill I get out, like if I am single and I live on post in the barracks can I save alot of money and keep putting it into my bank account.
also hey, is it ture that if you do a 12 month delployment you don't deploy again for a year? Well I would think if the army needs you bad enough then you go wherever they tell you but yea get back with me on this.
Simple answer find someone that won't cheat, and if you feel the need to cheat dont do it communicate with the person you are with and see if you can work out whatever may be causing the thought of cheating or if you dont feel like there's a connection tell them. All relationships needs are communication, faithfulness and loyalty.
don't you get hardship pay as well if you are in a training environment for more then 31 days (outside of basic training and AIT) even if you are single?
No wife means that a serviceman CAN NOT be held responsible for her actions. Civilian wife gets ticketed by the MPs. 2 weeks remedial driving school. She opened a joint account in Columbus Georgia and bounced checks. I returned from overseas and heard about it.The bank was getting ready to contact the army. Bad checks was one reason for my being barred from re-enlistment. 12 years gone. She borrowed money from the Fort Benning Red Cross. They called the captain and I had to fork over. A dumb female 2nd Lieu Tenant in the Army Emergency Relief fund gave about $300. Forked over again. I had 9 years Time in Grade, but was kept from the promotion board. One Paragraph under Article 137 is Failure to pay just debts.Not paying could have caused a Federal Felony conviction, jugged for 90 days and a Dishonorable Discharge. Anyone jugged gets an automatic reduction in rank to Pay Grade E-1.Under the Uniform Code of Military Justice(UCMJ) every case is a Federal felony.
Begs the question. Why join the service if you're subject to that nonsense? And why get married knowing you'll assume that risk? BTW, can you appeal that DD?
Lemme tell you, as a single NCO you'll be called into work or asked to stay later/do duty more often. Since you're single, your time doesn't matter as much as married folks 😂 If it were less cons than pros, you wouldn't see all of these contract marriages lol. I never had any pros to list as a single soldier
The only guys that should get married - ever - are the dudes who would jump out of an airplane knowing that over 60% of the time the parachute fails. Stay single and your pockets will jingle!
Nah, pick carefully and you'll be fine. Besides a lot of people don't get married through the state but they own cars, houses and have children together. They really fooled themselves lol
Anyone here seen jarhead? Be single, just wait right? You’ll be in good shape anyway once you return and some girl or guy could be like “ Hey soldier let me buy you a drink” Sounds like ww2 cartoon love to me Joining af soon being single seems like the move lolol
Con... your spouse can spend zero days in a combat zone, zero time in the field but she can divorce you then you gotta pay her child support, alimony AND give her half of your retirement, so no fellas don't get married.
@@christopherchaos Kinda reminds of a story my platoon sergeant told me when he snuck two girls into his room then barracks inpection came around they found both of them 😂😂😂 surprisingly got off easy tho the only thing he had to do was just cut the grass
In most cases NO. Due to the current sex crimes, sexual harassment 📑, DA or post DEH offices may start cracking down on "over night guests" 🛏. Does it occur? In the 1990s? Yes. BUT in 2021, I would be careful. A girl might OD 😵 or have a medical issue too then you get in BIG UCMJ, ⚖ hassles.
If the Army wanted you to have a spouse, they would’ve issued you one.
I thought that was the Marines.
If they did I would join asap
@@diegofuerte8580 nah fr
This is a pro. I was single when I was on active duty. I did not have to worry about a wife cheating or leaving. As to my battle buddies that were married I saw some of their marriages thrive and some fail. All in all, in a marriage it takes 2 to make it work. 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Pro: You never have to worry about Jody
Smh, man... Jody can have my wife! 🤣
I’m dead asf 😂😂😂good one
Sure you dont HAVE to go to FRG meetings but as soon as someone says "No PT for those who go to the meeting" next thing you know the whole company shows up 😂😂
Family support gossip.
Family prostitution ring.
So true.
I'm joining the army and I watch ur videos to get advice. There really good😁
I lik his vids but personally I use Matt Ward a lot more for information abt the army and tips in general. Chris is still really great though
Rule number one if you are joining as a single soldier, DON’T MARRY QUICKLY‼️
Nice I’m joining the Marines
@@prestong515 Go army spec ops (like Rangers) if you wanna actually fight
@@leif4419
Inter service rivalries are childish
No matter how bad your barracks are, it’ll never be worse than being in the Navy and being forced to live aboard your ship while it’s in home port because your installation doesn’t have enough housing.
From my time in the Army through my career of a public servant just shy of 30 years, I heard too many "horror stories" of guys who got taken by vengeful ex-spouses. Scared me enough not to get married.
Like what?
@@rand_-mk5lb Taking all or most of their pensions, messy divorces, paying child support and/or alimony for years on end, etc. Taking the house, cars, etc.
Yup!
Dependa! 🛒
@@dougtheeliminator1077 That's jacked up. Can they take the pension with a marriage of 2 years ending in divorce? Or alimony?
my wife and I were in the Navy when we got married in 1988 and we are still married 33 years later!
Being in a relationship is a skillset
When I was single we would get picked for extra detail duty or when someone didn't show up for duty. When I got married the con was being away for long time. Being single you save money when you are deployed
I knew several people who looked up their old sweethearts from back home and married them because barracks life was that unbearable. None of them regretted it and I never met a married soldier who would've traded places with single soldiers.
Just graduated BCT and am now in AIT as a married soldier for 46S, and as hard as it can be being away from her if you have the strength and persistence to get through it it’s definitely worth it if it’s someone you love in my opinion. However I also understand everyone’s situation is different
hows AIT for 46 sierra ? Is it like a journalist?
@@golfery5119 I’m currently in AFI (awaiting further instructions) so I haven’t actually started classes yet but from what the people who have have been saying it’s a very good course. You learn journalism, video production, photography, graphic design, and social media skills. It’s a lot packed together and I’m definitely looking forward to it
@@TheBlubberWhale thanks. i'd definitely like to look into it more when my reenlistment window opens later this year, assuming i still want to stay in the army on active duty and assuming that the in/out calls for it are available for me as a choice to reclass to.
@@golfery5119 yeah man I definitely recommend it! I was going to college for Mass communications anyway but it didn’t work out because everything switched to online so I got extremely lucky they had this opening. If you can get it definitely do it it’s such a cool job
Barracks Inspections were on every Monday and Friday.. they would do home visits every thursday each month.. my unit were so in our faces that I don't even like having guests unless they schedule a week in advance
Pro: you don’t have a spouse to deal with.
Con: your boyfriend/girlfriend won’t stop bugging you to get married.
Con: Barracks inspections
@@Holyhandgrenade-tx6xd
Pro: not dealing with housing bills
No barracks inspection if you are living in Fort Polk because single soldiers that are SPC or higher can move into housing😎
If you dont wanna commit dont get a girlfriend 😂
@@Holyhandgrenade-tx6xd the barracks suck for even more reasons than just room inspections though. I and others one time were woken up at 3:30 in the morning on a duty day to stand in a formation to watch a dude walk up and down the hallway back and forth for thirty minutes all because some staff sergeants wanted to humiliate him and involve us in it. And in army if you don't get married you cant leave until e6 whereas the air force and navy let you leave at e4
When I was an MP at Benning in 1997 or so, I got a call to go to the Custer Terrace housing area because a shot had been fired. I parked about a block away and walked to the address. It was a guy doing a solid for a single Soldier by holding onto his new .40 S&W pistol. He had accidentally 'test fired' it 45 minutes or so after the guy dropped it off. The round went out the kitchen window just above the sink, shot across the street, and ended up on the threshold of the quarters across the street. The bullet went through the lower part of a screen door, hit the inner wooden door but then bounced back onto the threshold. I remember telling the guy that he had not done so well by his buddy.
Just gotta put as much work into your relationship as your PT
Pros: few and far in between
Cons: you don’t get good details even if you’re e4 you still get shitty details
So I see single status discrimination is still alive and well in the modern age.
Yep
Always answer the phone with “I’ve been drinking and I’m out of town preferably at the range limit” answer your barracks door with a beer in hand.
Out of sight, out of mind... 😎.... if you are a enlisted, get OUT when not assigned or working. Even if you work shifts, ⌚, most NCOs or company officers dont care. Lower enlisted soldiers get treated like 🗑.
☝️this right here that’s the wisdom of the e4 mafia or just make a bullshit appointment either way you get out of some fuck fuck games
Just join Air Force. Better dorm and better food. Quality of life is better. A lot of single airmen can save 20k in cash before tsp & roth
the real pro there is that if you are enlisted and single you get to leave the barracks much earlier, as an E4 in the Air Force vs E6 in the Army
@@golfery5119 tis 3 years too. So e3 on some bases get bah
Made the mistake of getting married so I didn't have to live in the barracks. Big mistake, don't do it for that reason, you'll regret it probably. Also, the work stress will lead you to take a lot of those stress problems home with you to your spouse. So again, don't get married unless you can handle that well. I didn't and it lead to a divorce. I didn't last a year before we split up.
I used to rent a trailer off post with a battle buddy
pro for both: getting to traveling around the world, I was on active duty, I was able to travel around the world. Also, when I was a single parent in the military, it was hard to travel as much due to the responsibility of being that NCO and mom. Now that I am a veteran, and now married to an active duty soldier, we are still able to travel, expect when he is in the field and now deployed to Poland, I'd rather wait until he get home and travel as a family.
I hate marriage
I was a single soldier my whole contract at fort hood we were mandatory to go to all FRG meetings
Fuckin fort Hood strikes again
That sucks!
I enjoy watching all these content. :]
You are the best ! Thanks for answering my question last night !
My NCOs recommended I either hide my paintball marker or store it in the arms room and essentially never use it again.
First thing I noticed while watching wasthe thunder cats sword and I'm 18 lmao but in all honesty these videos help me out a lot because I will be shipping off to the ay soon and I'm looking forward to it to any other future recruits I'd listen to what he is saying
Barracks lawyers like to talk about contract marriage
Before homosexuality was more widely accepted in the army same sex military couples would find another same sex couple (opposites sex) and would get married for the benefits and live together.
It's not for everyone. The spouses always seem to enjoy the romanticism at first, but once reality sets in, it's fleeting. Unless you can homestead somewhere for years and you have time with each other and whatever kids you want to have, don't do it until you've been in for at least 3 years.
If you're serious about the military, you don't need the distraction.
Just my .02 inches ..🤷♂️
Genuinely good advice. Thank you.
I see all these men bashing women as cheaters when it goes both ways and not all women marry for the damn benefits I am marrying my fiance because of how I feel about him and we actually enjoy doings things together like working on a project vehicle learning how to fix a vehicle and going trail offroading. I am proud of my fiancé for joining the army and I support him and his goals.
That's wassup. Have you ever considered joining the army aswell? Itll be another thing yall enjoy doing together
@@houseofcotes4402 i honestly thought of it but I wouldn't know what I would do because I also have child, but yes I thought about it
@@LegendDairyKat oh damn, well that's wassup. If only there was an easy way for both parents to be in the military active duty while there child could be watched over and taking good care of
@@houseofcotes4402 yeah, I'm just of course doing all the research I can for when he does come out of basic I'll be ready for atleast most of it, my fiancé MOS is 11 B infantry because his goal is for the 75th rangers
@@LegendDairyKat yeah that's good and hahaha that's funny bc that's what I'm going for 11b option 40. I want the whole package rasp and airborne school. I also wanna be in the 75th. that's wassup I hope he gets there; maybe if me and him both pass and get there we might see eachother lol. Only thing I'm waiting on is my hand tattoo, im getting it removed. I'm honestly done it's barely noticeable but as soon as my recruiter says I'm good to go I'll be on my way there haha. I sure hope you and him enjoy the military experience haha
I'm planning to join im single all I got in life is my dad. My sisters are married i already learned to live without my mom, all I have is my dad were close and he doesn't want to join in a way
Your dad doesn’t want you to join?
@@rustybuckshott1810
His worried I could get injured or kill.
In a way I want to join to learn new job skills, get discipline, and travel. But I'm just concerned about the toxic leadership, bad roles in upper rank, receiving verbal abuse and discrimination
@@rodolfomorenoiii135 I’m in the same situation as you, no one else in my life besides my dad and he doesn’t want me to join. But it’s the right decision man, somebody has to do the job, and it’s worth the experience and life long training, and the lifelong friends. I made the decision to enlist for 6 years and am shipping out next fall.
@@rustybuckshott1810
What branch are you joining?.
As I said I'm worried about toxic leadership and the ugly attitude
@@rodolfomorenoiii135 it’s not really like that though, they’re not allowed to treat you like shit anymore they can be fired for that, and I’m joining the army. What branch we’re you thinking about joining?
Can you do a video about Green Berets and the Specific MOS within it...Such as 18B?
When I joined I stated 11B and airborne. Got both. Where I ended up we all had privite owned firearms in our barracks We also had issue M16A1s and ammo as well as other arms and ammo. Don't forget the hundreds of frags. No barracks insectiona or health and wellness inspections. Highly classified compound. Post commander didn't get in if we did not want him in.
I thought you weren’t allowed to have personal firearms in the barracks?
@@rustybuckshott1810 at that point I was not wearing uniforms. Traveled on all black airplanes. I did not work for the army but someone else in government. Our barracks were not typical barracks.
@@stevejorgensen5523 what we’re you doing? How would one get into that role. We’re you fbi, delta force, cia?
@@rustybuckshott1810 delta did not exist.
Im 40 and not married. Never had been. I've lived way too long on my own to give up my freedom.
You really should look for someone. My dads friend ended up committing suicide because of a midlife crisis. He was so lonely and had no one.
@@lyas4640 why? Im retired in the private sector of at 40 with enough money that its hardly rich but enough to comfortably live on with budgeting
@@chrismc410 38 and also never married and never had children.
I can't image having been single while on active duty. Life would be comparative shit.... living in a barracks, eating in a chow hall, living on post.... every single day, year after year. No thank you. The big problem for many though is marrying someone who is vastly too emotionally immature for the real stresses of military life, deployments, etc, and things fall apart. Whoever you marry needs to be mentally strong, and reasonably independent and self-reliant. They need to be comfortable living and run a household, alone, in a new town/State/country, for long periods of time. Hard to find in someone, particularly a female, less than 25-30 years old or so.
On post housing had endpections when I was at Fort drum
What about single soldiers that also have a kid ??? Also I’m in the process of joining
What about if you're single and have a child because you're separated from the child's mother?
Cant join active duty as a single parent unless you give up custody. Other wise you can join the reserves or national guard.
worked second shift inspections every Friday I was in the rack during inspection the
But first i need to pass the asvab
Same this test is irritating af
I'm single & 50. I served as a lower enlisted, Spc E4 in the 1990s. 95B, 🚔. I HIGHLY suggest not having a spouse or get married 🤵🏻👰🏼 until you have 10-12/15 years on active duty. Like if you enter as a E-1, get married, engaged 💍 like E-7, E-8. A warrant officer or lower commissioned officer might be able to deal with a wife/husband but it depends on the MOS, couple. I read in the 1990s SF/SOF had around 95% divorce rate(first marriage). Some younger guys would think a wife may mean free or supported 🏡. Also less hassles from senior NCOs or platoon officer. I considered that a scam but the Army pushed for couples, married to encourage re enlistment, retention.
I don’t care about love. I need a marriage of convenience So I can bring my child with me 😂. But seriously I think it’s kind of BS that You can’t be enlist as a single parent, but single women that get knocked up DURING active duty are allowed to stay in as long as they have a family care plan. Make it make sense
It was easier being single on active duty . You just had to do your job and get things accomplished. There are plenty of single female soldiers to spend time with ,unless you have a gf off post or just to goof around with . Overall it is easier to be single on active duty. It can even be more fun as well.
What happened if you were too become a single father
You just don't tell the storage unit
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Hey I'm in jrtoc and a question hkw can I join the spartan troopers
I’m currently going through the enlistment process now (my wavier should be passed soon) but I have a child with my girlfriend and I had to “sign away rights” temporarily while I’m in training. I had to speak with JAG and a few other higher ups cause they wanted to make sure I was making the right decision. My question is, if we don’t get married by the time I ship to basic, will she and our child be able to live off post together? I’ve asked my recruiter and he’s not too sure, there could be an exception to policy kinda thing. You have any idea Mr. Chaos
Only if you have costody of the child. You could qualify for BAH and BAS. If she is still the only one with costody rights then no. You would have to get married to get BAH and BAS.
@@christopherchaos that’s what I was told by my recruiter too brother, but we don’t have any legal custody agreements arranged through law expect written statements by us both that my recruiter told us to do and it stated that she can take care of our child and she has full custody while I’m in initial training only
Sir, I have a question in here is it true that is very hard to marry a military?
Not hard at all go to the courthouse pay your fee and you’re married in a couple hours.
Keep it in the Arms room...
Person you're holding captive?
This could have made a great Hannibal episode :)
Do you know that 50% of marriage dont end in divorce. My God, can't imagine being in that position, nightmare
50 50 are suckered odds. Add being away for long periods it's probably closer to 75% fail.
@@robertlogan9682 no hablo ingles
Is this the same in the marines
one pro to being single is that you don't have to worry about someone cheating on you or you cheating on them.
a con to being single is if you're enlisted you have to stay in the barracks and deal with all the drama regardless of how well you keep your bedroom spotless clean. One time we were woken up at 3:30 in the morning on a duty day to stand in a formation to watch a dude walk up and down the hallway back and forth for thirty minutes all because some staff sergeants wanted to humiliate him and involve us in it.
Join the army and you will deal with this for a much longer time as long as you stay single and enlisted (can't leave the barracks in the army until you reach e6 whereas air force and navy let you out when you get to e4)
also a con to being single I hadn't thought about was dealing with your vehicle if you have to deploy, and remember in army you will be gone for a much longer time compared to other branches. Yes there is military storage for your vehicle, but your vehicle is NOT going to be maintained and started up for the year you are gone. So you have to have someone you can trust and give them power of attorney and raise your insurance payments to get them to have your vehicle while your gone. In my case, that meant having my parents make plans to come all the way up from my home state to my duty station to get my vehicle.This is something I'm not sure can still be done if I get sent to another duty station even farther away from my home state. Some other single people even wind up selling their vehicle.
You really have to take this into consideration when you join and active duty, as well as what branch you want to join considering it is harder for a longer time for army than other branches.
See this is why your a good person, so what do you mean I can't leave the barracks until rank E6, so like if I got to e4 I can't like ever leave to go buy me like new jeans or socks or anything, or a new rug? I am a single guy I am quite I read my Bible and stay to myself you know but I do still like my Air forces and jeans and stuff, so do I ever get to go off base and go to stores. I want to be a 12 bravo Combat engineer act duty.
also like see if I do 4 years can I save all my money untill I get out, like if I am single and I live on post in the barracks can I save alot of money and keep putting it into my bank account.
also hey, is it ture that if you do a 12 month delployment you don't deploy again for a year? Well I would think if the army needs you bad enough then you go wherever they tell you but yea get back with me on this.
Simple answer find someone that won't cheat, and if you feel the need to cheat dont do it communicate with the person you are with and see if you can work out whatever may be causing the thought of cheating or if you dont feel like there's a connection tell them. All relationships needs are communication, faithfulness and loyalty.
@golfrey so I am still wondering about these things?
don't you get hardship pay as well if you are in a training environment for more then 31 days (outside of basic training and AIT) even if you are single?
there's hardship pay in the Army? I thought that was only Air Force people who have to deal with Army?
No wife means that a serviceman CAN NOT be held responsible for her actions. Civilian wife gets ticketed by the MPs. 2 weeks remedial driving school. She opened a joint account in Columbus Georgia and bounced checks. I returned from overseas and heard about it.The bank was getting ready to contact the army. Bad checks was one reason for my being barred from re-enlistment. 12 years gone. She borrowed money from the Fort Benning Red Cross. They called the captain and I had to fork over. A dumb female 2nd Lieu Tenant in the Army Emergency Relief fund gave about $300. Forked over again. I had 9 years Time in Grade, but was kept from the promotion board. One Paragraph under Article 137 is Failure to pay just debts.Not paying could have caused a Federal Felony conviction, jugged for 90 days and a Dishonorable Discharge. Anyone jugged gets an automatic reduction in rank to Pay Grade E-1.Under the Uniform Code of Military Justice(UCMJ) every case is a Federal felony.
Begs the question. Why join the service if you're subject to that nonsense? And why get married knowing you'll assume that risk? BTW, can you appeal that DD?
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Con: having duty during holidays!
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When I was active guys who were married would get an article 15 If your wife wrote a bad check!
How long do you have to live in the barracks as a single active duty soldier?
For as long as you are single or reach the rank of around E6 or E7.
@@christopherchaos thank you for the info!! Shipping out on my 18th birthday in late June as a 74D to FLW!
If you get married can you still use the dfac? A
Yes. You just have to pay for your meal but it's really cheap.
The thumbnail picture should read " Don't get married....to a camp rat
Lemme tell you, as a single NCO you'll be called into work or asked to stay later/do duty more often. Since you're single, your time doesn't matter as much as married folks 😂
If it were less cons than pros, you wouldn't see all of these contract marriages lol. I never had any pros to list as a single soldier
Did you get paid
The only guys that should get married - ever - are the dudes who would jump out of an airplane knowing that over 60% of the time the parachute fails.
Stay single and your pockets will jingle!
Nah, pick carefully and you'll be fine. Besides a lot of people don't get married through the state but they own cars, houses and have children together. They really fooled themselves lol
Anyone knows if I can own a dog if I’m a single soldier living in the barracks?
I don’t plan in getting married
No. Can't have pets in the barracks.
Buy a gold 🐠
Or become a military dog handler
Hibro
Pro: Chicks dig the uniform :)
There's no cons to being single in the military...
Anyone here seen jarhead? Be single, just wait right? You’ll be in good shape anyway once you return and some girl or guy could be like “ Hey soldier let me buy you a drink”
Sounds like ww2 cartoon love to me
Joining af soon being single seems like the move lolol
Since you can't have a firearm In the barracks can you have an airsoft gun since it's not a real firearm
Eh. Kinda a grey area. Some restrict them as well and others don't really say you can or can't.
Can you own and use a car if you live in barracks?
Yes
You will use your personal vehicle for the military more than your own assigned military vehicle.
Con... your spouse can spend zero days in a combat zone, zero time in the field but she can divorce you then you gotta pay her child support, alimony AND give her half of your retirement, so no fellas don't get married.
I am chatting with someone from a military base working as an UN intelligence office. So I am curious
In today's Army, if you are a single male soldier living in the barracks, can a female stay with you in your room, for overnight stays etc?
Nope especially with COVID
Most if not all barracks have a cerfew for visitors. There are ways to have someone spend the night with you but it's not allowed.
@@christopherchaos Kinda reminds of a story my platoon sergeant told me when he snuck two girls into his room then barracks inpection came around they found both of them 😂😂😂 surprisingly got off easy tho the only thing he had to do was just cut the grass
In most cases NO. Due to the current sex crimes, sexual harassment 📑, DA or post DEH offices may start cracking down on "over night guests" 🛏. Does it occur? In the 1990s? Yes. BUT in 2021, I would be careful. A girl might OD 😵 or have a medical issue too then you get in BIG UCMJ, ⚖ hassles.
Thanks. My roommate used to sneak in some skanks. Real filthy sluts.
I'm not interested into guys who are in the military as I have HUGE separation issues
Even if you are a civilian, Never get married!!!
Pre-nup.
Don't marry the strippers!
My team leader married a stripper from Hood. Didn't work out when he got to Ft. Wainwright.
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Why wouldn't you get married in the Army? Lol 😆?
Just dont get married period!
Its a trap!
Well boys……should I break up with my girlfriend or no? 😂 😂 😂