Because of my autism and CPTSD, I get triggered by rejection, and sometimes criticism. I even have a physical handicap, and I sometimes feel like I’m even criticized and/or rejected because of it. I set such high expectations on myself, and I even expect myself to change overnight. And if I don’t, I say things to myself like, “what the heck is your problem? You get angry a lot. Do you always have to do that all the freaking time?” And this is one of the many reasons why I hide from the world, because I know I’m a bit quirky. Also, I give myself extreme tough love for having emotions. So I try to bottle them up.
Sometimes when I’m mad or upset because of criticism or whatever is bothering me, I sometimes smack myself while saying things like, “why are you mad?” Or, “why the hell are you angry? Get over it!” People tell me that I’m hard on myself, and they’re not wrong.
Thanks for sharing you experiences with RSD, I never heard that term before and now I am educated. I can greatly relate to what you are going through because I am dealing with very similar issues, I was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome as a kid and all my life I've struggled with handling being rejected, being berated, being guilt tripped by family even when I was being a naughy boy, I am very lucky I've been able to hold down a factory job that pays a bit above minimum wage as I have an understanding boss as I have many meltdowns there but I am starting to become a liability and my workmates are starting to become scared of me on how they approach me when they need to be stern with me, it's most particularly difficult when I am prestressed because anything can set me off in the moment! Throughout my life I fly off the handle when someone yells at me, I literally hit myself as punishment when I know I'm in the wrong, whenever I stuff up and upset someone it plays on repeat in my head and I struggle to let it go, I overreact a lot when things go wrong and equipment malfunctions and have tantrums whether it be verbal profanity shouts or throwing objects to the floor etc., I get very defensive when someone tells me off even if I am in the wrong and afterward when I calm down I feel guilty afterward, I can either get very angry or cry when I get berated or get criticised when I'm incredibly prestressed, I catastrophize a lot fearing bad things fearing criticism so I struggle to want to apply for new jobs, ask women out, communicate with strangers etc. , I am hypercritical of my flaws, and the list goes on and on, and it continuously harms the quality of my life! Sadly I have a very bad temper and yell and have tantrums which makes it difficult for me at work and at home, thankfully I an automatic self control which I will hit walls, break malfunctioning stuff but I won't hit people, that I am thankful for! So yeah I feel like I have a massive challenge with this issue along with other issues associated with my condition and I am desparately looking for a solution so I can function better! One technique that has helped me a little bit recently is the 5x5 breathing method which is breath in for 5 sec hold breath for 5 sec breath out and repeat it 5 times, did that at work the other day when a job got ridiculously difficult for me and I was at boiling point and yeah I calmed down! Anyhow that's my long winded story on my struggles with RSD which I am confidient I have it!
Yeah I have RSD too. It was life changing when I found out about it. I have bad meltdowns because of it, I can literally spiral to suicidal. Now I recognise it I've written a notecard to remind me of things that help. For myself I've found to take a mild sedative and Stim for a few minutes and then try and write lists or research on a random special interest topic because I need to get brain away from overthinking the terrible feelings.
Hi, I have just recently come across your channel, and I love your videos! Very helpful and useful. I am currently being assessed for autism, I don’t think I really relate with ADHD so much but something I do experience is RSD! And omg it is painful and can be so debilitating:( I am really interested to know what would help with it. Thank you for making this video!
No-one likes criticism but sometimes it's well-intentioned, fair and constructive and can help us progress; other times it's unfair, destructive or malicious (often linked to bullying) and that is no good to anyone. I think people with autism may face more criticism - often of a very personal and hurtful kind - than neurotypicals because we are so often misunderstood and seen as outsiders. Social isolation often then means we have fewer people we can ask for support in these circumstances. More people need to think much harder about what they say to others - criticism is sometimes necessary but it needs to be accurate, realistic and most of all supportive. If the person being criticised is autistic it needs to be done even more sensitively.
Hi savannah I don't know if this is a hard question for you to answer and you don't have to answer it if you don't want to but do you use chew necklaces to prevent sib specifically biting yourself for me I use pacifiers and it helps love you alot and I have severe nonverbal autism
Because of my autism and CPTSD, I get triggered by rejection, and sometimes criticism. I even have a physical handicap, and I sometimes feel like I’m even criticized and/or rejected because of it. I set such high expectations on myself, and I even expect myself to change overnight. And if I don’t, I say things to myself like, “what the heck is your problem? You get angry a lot. Do you always have to do that all the freaking time?” And this is one of the many reasons why I hide from the world, because I know I’m a bit quirky. Also, I give myself extreme tough love for having emotions. So I try to bottle them up.
Sometimes when I’m mad or upset because of criticism or whatever is bothering me, I sometimes smack myself while saying things like, “why are you mad?” Or, “why the hell are you angry? Get over it!” People tell me that I’m hard on myself, and they’re not wrong.
Thanks for sharing you experiences with RSD, I never heard that term before and now I am educated. I can greatly relate to what you are going through because I am dealing with very similar issues, I was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome as a kid and all my life I've struggled with handling being rejected, being berated, being guilt tripped by family even when I was being a naughy boy, I am very lucky I've been able to hold down a factory job that pays a bit above minimum wage as I have an understanding boss as I have many meltdowns there but I am starting to become a liability and my workmates are starting to become scared of me on how they approach me when they need to be stern with me, it's most particularly difficult when I am prestressed because anything can set me off in the moment! Throughout my life I fly off the handle when someone yells at me, I literally hit myself as punishment when I know I'm in the wrong, whenever I stuff up and upset someone it plays on repeat in my head and I struggle to let it go, I overreact a lot when things go wrong and equipment malfunctions and have tantrums whether it be verbal profanity shouts or throwing objects to the floor etc., I get very defensive when someone tells me off even if I am in the wrong and afterward when I calm down I feel guilty afterward, I can either get very angry or cry when I get berated or get criticised when I'm incredibly prestressed, I catastrophize a lot fearing bad things fearing criticism so I struggle to want to apply for new jobs, ask women out, communicate with strangers etc. , I am hypercritical of my flaws, and the list goes on and on, and it continuously harms the quality of my life! Sadly I have a very bad temper and yell and have tantrums which makes it difficult for me at work and at home, thankfully I an automatic self control which I will hit walls, break malfunctioning stuff but I won't hit people, that I am thankful for! So yeah I feel like I have a massive challenge with this issue along with other issues associated with my condition and I am desparately looking for a solution so I can function better! One technique that has helped me a little bit recently is the 5x5 breathing method which is breath in for 5 sec hold breath for 5 sec breath out and repeat it 5 times, did that at work the other day when a job got ridiculously difficult for me and I was at boiling point and yeah I calmed down! Anyhow that's my long winded story on my struggles with RSD which I am confidient I have it!
Lovely video Savannah. Watching from London.
Yeah I have RSD too. It was life changing when I found out about it. I have bad meltdowns because of it, I can literally spiral to suicidal. Now I recognise it I've written a notecard to remind me of things that help. For myself I've found to take a mild sedative and Stim for a few minutes and then try and write lists or research on a random special interest topic because I need to get brain away from overthinking the terrible feelings.
My little boys when told off acts like he's been hit. He cries then runs away from you. Won't let you near him for a least an hour.
Hi, I have just recently come across your channel, and I love your videos! Very helpful and useful. I am currently being assessed for autism, I don’t think I really relate with ADHD so much but something I do experience is RSD! And omg it is painful and can be so debilitating:( I am really interested to know what would help with it. Thank you for making this video!
No-one likes criticism but sometimes it's well-intentioned, fair and constructive and can help us progress; other times it's unfair, destructive or malicious (often linked to bullying) and that is no good to anyone. I think people with autism may face more criticism - often of a very personal and hurtful kind - than neurotypicals because we are so often misunderstood and seen as outsiders. Social isolation often then means we have fewer people we can ask for support in these circumstances. More people need to think much harder about what they say to others - criticism is sometimes necessary but it needs to be accurate, realistic and most of all supportive. If the person being criticised is autistic it needs to be done even more sensitively.
Going to have to look into this, a lot is sounding very familiar.
Good job :) :) :)
i don't know what people mean when criticism is mentioned. criticism has a line, and there's a difference between criticism and abuse.
Nice video
Hi savannah I don't know if this is a hard question for you to answer and you don't have to answer it if you don't want to but do you use chew necklaces to prevent sib specifically biting yourself for me I use pacifiers and it helps love you alot and I have severe nonverbal autism
I do yes :)