Remember. Keep your circle small. Quality over quantity. Furthermore, dont expect them to stay. Not everyone is happy for your growth and success. Finally, never forget that the loneliest experience in the world is not being alone. Its being with people who makes you feel alone. Choose your friends wisely.
@@alesgerbet3212 I had a narcisisstic classmate who claims im an asshole. Thats the reason why I only have a few friends. She said. I didnt retaliate. The last time I heard from her, (not exactly heard, I saw her profile before I blocked her. She kept verbally harassing me online so I had to) shes a single mom now. Welp! GG I guess. Shes the typical narcissistic woman who thinks her worth is above anything or anyone while constantly looking down on others. The type of woman who ends up being a single mom.
Timestamp! -0:24 Stoic wisdom on friendships -0:55 You embrace your true nature -1:29 It might not be you, but them -2:22 Life is ever changing, so are you -3:11 You understand the essence of true friendship -3:50 Can signify inner peace and fulfillment
Being a person who is constantly lonely and losing friends…this was kinda comforting. I do have a small circle of online friends, but the IRL circle is empty.
I am a very forgettable person when it comes to socializing, if I don't do anything people will just forget that I exist, but when I make myself known I suddenly become visible to those people, it's basically my superpower
@@NoobStudios414 it's worse for me, I am nice and really care about the people around me and they still forget about me and it always happens no matter what I do
Other young people just seem so cold, rude and selfish these days.. Idk if it's because of social media but it makes me feel more disconnected and lonely for sure
yeah, I feel you bro.. being a guy just means you have to put a smile on your face and suck it up.. like 90% of people don't give a crap when they see you crying or in obvious pain
Same. I’ve been hurt one too many times with friends in the past, so I don’t make many anymore. I have my boyfriend and small group of three people. That’s it.
I am a bad person and because I and up disappoint every person I get too close to, and the pain they get through by getting close to me it's better for me beeing alone.... I just got to a point where I realized I am just broken from a young age, and I don't have the money for a therapist or people who understand human nature as I do, and don't expect the too... so loneliness there be...
I can safely say I don't have friends as of today. The thing is, I completely understand the value of friendship and connecting with others (and I'm still figuring out what kind of friend do I want to be), but I've been walking a path where I'm not negotiating my worth, my values nor my well-being in exchange for not being on my own. Not anymore. I'm alone, yes, but never lonely.
For me, not having friends has actively made my life worse. I feel like I lead a very boring life, and don't do anything interesting, and that includes not hanging out with anyone, which just makes me feel empty. I live alone with my mother, but she's away a lot because she hangs out with her boyfriend, meaning that I'm often home alone for days if not weeks at a time. While I can handle being alone, after a while, I start to feel lonely, and as is important to know, there's a HUGE difference between the two. People say that forming connections, whether platonic or romantic, is best when it happens naturally, and while I agree with this, I always end up asking: "Ok, but where do I go to form them? Where do I find people?" This is what frustrates me the most about making friends or finding love, I have no idea what to do about it. I have considered dating apps (for friends too in cases like Bumble) but I hear so many bad things about them, especially from men, and since I am one, it really turns me off from them. As for going out, I feel screwed in that way too. I'm not attending school, where I live doesn't have a lot of "third spaces" or such to hang out with people, and while I'm starting a new job soon, it's completely up in the air if I'll have time to talk to people, and if there'll be people my age working there too. I don't mean to disrespect people who prefer being alone, but I just can't understand them at all. Like I said, not having friends just makes me feel worse, and I just don't know what to do about it. And even if I did find a place to make them, I also have social anxiety and am autistic, which makes forming connections even harder. Also, because of how boring my life is, I wonder if I'd be able to connect with others at all, since I feel I'd have no stories to tell about my life. Plus, people always say to work on yourself, and while it's good to do that, most of the areas in which I'd want to work on myself revolve around feeling lonely, and you can't fix that by yourself, that literally makes no sense. It's also ironic, I grew up on only child, so I never had to learn to share, but now more than ever, I want someone to share my life with. I also have a good life in terms of my hobbies (video games, music, RUclips videos, etc.) which I'm happy about, but I would be so much happier if I could share them with others. I can't even remember the last time I played a multiplayer game with someone else. I really want to have faith that I'll find some great friends (or even love) one day, but it's really hard to with how my life has gone so far. I definitely won't give up and will try one day, and I do hope for the best, but I'm not gonna get my hopes up too much.
@@alesgerbet3212 Thanks, I appreciate the support! But yeah, having no friends does have an unsettling feeling, especially during my idle time where I do self-reflection, and when I think about the future, and if I'll still have this problem. But like I said, I will try my best at some point to form connections one day, just don't know when prime opportunities will come their way.
Same it used to be good but has slowly gotten very boring as time went on. I used to make friends easily but they were all backstabbers & I could get rid of them easily. It's the opposite now I can't make friends & everyone wants to get away from me when their in a group I'm in
@@IdkWhatToCallThisBruh Yeah, I get what you mean. For me, the feeling of people not liking me only comes from my own insecurities. I always fear trying to talk to someone or enter a conversation because I'm afraid they won't like me or think I'm weird. And it's a fear that's hard to get rid of since I can't exactly practice socializing everyday to get used to it. Either way, I also wish you luck in finding great friends as well!
And during my college life, I got alienated for many reasons. One of them is this: I remembered I had to deal with a really emotional classmate of mine during group activities in a prestigious university (in my home country the Philippines). I was often labeled as a freeloader and a worthless student (when in reality, I did a fairly decent amount of work). Another day, she got so angry at me because of the same reason. We had a talk with my professor on that, and the blame was put all on me. When the whole class saw it, they gave me a negative look, I was unfairly humiliated. It is sad that my professor never saw my side of the story (only her side). After all of that, I am seen as worthless and I became a huge loser in my university.
Out of the way.. your not useless, don't let that ever get to your head. People work in different ways and speeds and not just that. You actually do your part.. If your still in that college, try talking to that professor. Telling your side of the story because that is not fair. Imagine a court without the other person to speak up. I'll be honest? I don't think even if you did explain to everyone your side of the story people wouldent change or care.. maybe a little understanding.. but that sort of stuff kinda sticks doesn't it? So in my opinion.. tell the truth, and if they don't care, you shouldn't either. If you have to do group projects, do help, prove to others you aren't a so called burden they say. Just remember not to go over board with the proving and helping- Second, if your out (thank God) it will be hard but.. move on, what they did was just not right and you know that. This may shake your self esteem or self worth but.. I know it hurts, but we can't change what happened and what they did... we can only change now. I promise you, you will find people you will socialise with, that respect you, care for you and don't say your a freeloader.. and you to them, likewise. Stay true to yourself, be kind to yourself, be yourself because like the video says, you can only find content with yourself. I'm sorry if I couldn't help as much but I dint want to make you feel alone- I live in the Philippines too, system here is stressing. Group leaders like that are.. sadly real, I had an experience- I dint know how to video edit but I did know how to draw. I was basically useless so I drew 5 images that, fully coloured with backgrounds and characters in a bustling plaza, she never used them.. in the end I got called out for being the slacker. I dint sleep that Sunday day and I had a fight with my parents just to finish this drawings in time over joining dinner.. I felt.. stupid.. but I tried my best, isent that wjay matterd most? We got a good grade anyway, and.. I am content with myself, for doing as much as I can.. i regret it though because.. it took my time with my family.. and made them worried.. that's why I said don't over due the help- I don't know if I can ever forget that, but I do know I can forgive and move on with what I want to do. It was very similar to yours my situation so.. I thought I'd come by and tell you something I would have wanted to hear. I hope it helps.. have a good day and again, I'm sorry if I was doin something wrong-
With this day and age, making friends is basically unheard of. I for someone who consistently tries too make sure others are okay, have a suprising lack of friends lol (probably because of anxiety). (eitherway, for those who look for friends in any sort of way, make sure you find the ones like you, the ones that have the same interests) Please do not go into websites too find friends, it can work but most of the time it leads too fake friends or people who use and manipulate you. ^ perosonal experience. Sorry for the long message but too those who read or didn't and will never know...i hope you have a genuinely great time and the best of luck!
I'm sorry to hear about your personal experiences. You sound like a good friend, definitely the kind i'd like to have. Mind if I ask what you're so anxious about that stops you?
@@morijin4034 Heya, sorry for the somewhat late response, where I am it's extremely hot and I have a rough time sleeping due too it. Mhm, I wouldn't consider myself a truly good friend too be honest, yeah i do actively check on people I'm friends with and make sure they're okay, if not then I'll happily talk too them and stuff, (but I also have times where I'm so just...down? Depressed?) I don't actually know, that I'll just not talk too anyone for quite a long time. Nothing against them, just me dealing with mental stuff. ^ that may or may not be one of the reasons I atleast try and help peeps. (my bio explains it very simply and better) but I try too help people i can relate too as its easier in conversation aswell as I would be speaking with knowledge on my side. Anyhows, my main reason for having anxiety is mainly due too my treatment from other people, I was bullied and judged for 7 years straight because I was small and didn't talk very much. (there's other medical reasons but those were the main ones). It's left a general impact on me since and I find it difficult talking too people, mainly afraid of judgement so I tend too not be friends with people and usually only give the bare minimum about me as too avoid said judgment. (I know this was way too long but still, that's probably the main reason for my anxiety minus I couple medical stuff as said) And lastly of course, if you did read this then of course like I said in my previous comment, I hope you have/had a genuinely great and best of luck!
I seriously agree with the online friends thing, because I personally have only one person that’s my friend online and we talked for about a year before we even knew each other’s real names XD Tbh it’s kind of the same thing with dating apps, most of the time I think. Also, good luck to you in your life (:
@@morijin4034 (I swear I responded too this sorry) anyhows, I mainly got bullied for most of my conscious life. (mostly too do with my size and a certain health condition) I'm simplifying it here as let's be honest "story of my life isn't all that fun lol" but long story short, it messed up my entire trust on people in general and basically crushed my self esteem wich I only got back around a year ago only too get it crushed again after my ex ditched me for generally unknown reasons. (the usual for me lol) Anyhows, I wouldn't mind being friends if that's what you would like, [stuffs in my bio] and eh, if I can help in some way I'll happily do so! And of course, have a generally great time and day/night!
I'm someone who had many friends though only 2 actually cared enough about me and my interests to stay. Everyone else just expected me to be like them so I cut my ties to them best choice of my life. I have 2 great friends
I've had the same thing happen recently, all the friends I had kinda drifted away and my close friends started lying to me so now I only have one close friend. The thing is this friend is the gf of who used to be my closest friend who I have recently found out is a habitual liar and may be cheating on her.
As someone who doesn’t have any friends or a boyfriend I am still learning how to cope with being alone and learning how to be ok with being alone/single some days it is harder than other days but for me it is getting easier and some day I will find the right friends even if it’s a few or one person to be my friend I will still be grateful for it.
@GentlePiposaru Yeah I journal my thoughts before but now I rarely do it but sometimes I write my own quotes for wisdom to teach someone else not to make the wrong mistakes I made in my life.
I learned the hard way that its better to have no friends than bad friends. When I was younger, I used to be friends with people who I knew weren't good people because i had no one else to be friends with. All those friendships ended HORRIBLY. So even though i am painfully lonely nowadays, i am very cautious about who i allow in my life
There is a difference between being lonely and being alone, and I’m glad that this video came out… it helps a lot with understanding oneself and also understanding those of us that like to keep a small circle or be alone.
Wanted to chat with old school friends, but distance makes us fall apart... True Friendships doesn't end bcz of this reasons, but when uh r the only one, who is living elsewhere, it hurts you... They start to make uh feel lonely
I’m so used to being alone that I don’t know how to be a good friend. I’ve never felt like I fit in or was accepted anywhere, so I guess at some point I just stopped trying.
This is why 2020 didn't affect me at all, I've always valued my solitude, it gaves me time to understand myself better. I have such a good relationship with myself that I don't even feel like I need friends, I respect myself more than others seem to do...
I lost one of my best friends a couple days ago. I'm so incredibly heartbroken but I really hope that I can find friendship similar to the friendship I had with them again. Thank you psych2go, your videos help some of us more than you know.
I have gotten used to being the one alone at the table, going places alone, doing things alone. Friends have gotten used to me not going along with everything and know I need time without people. I very seldom feel lonely even though I am alone much of the time.
I really needed to hear this. I’ve been struggling with loneliness and trying to find the friendships I used to have. Wondering if I was not trying hard enough to find friends. This helped me realize that I am doing my best, and that it’s ok to not be a super social person or be able to make friends easily. I won’t stop going to events and places, or stop talking to my coworkers, but this video helps remove the pressure and just be myself. I also do like having moments to myself, and it helps to know that’s ok too.
It sounds like you're really putting in the effort. You definitely seem like the kinda person i'd want to be friends with. You're doing great! And i'm rooting for you!
I only have one irl friend, and we've known each other since 3rd grade. We still keep in touch since our graduation of highschool, and not a day goes by where I don't text them good morning and good night.
I like how the video talk about how it okay to not have fiends, this is an opportunity to have a deeper connection with oneself an and to see what one is really like. Thank you for opening my mind to this kind of thought
I’ll find this insightful because as an introvert, I see where I’ve learned to be cordial with people I meet but in terms of bringing people close to me being selective. But as an only child being OK to be alone, this video helps me see like it’s OK. And it’s OK to celebrate the times when you’re with everybody and relish in the times when you’re alone as well and be OK with wherever you are, and with whoever you are
I’ve reached 36 and can say I’ve honestly given up with people. Two of my closest friends became distant last year and I’d not changed. I just got fed up with me being the only one to plan to meet up and so I stopped and they stopped reaching out to me. People are exhausting 😅
Without watching the video i fulfilled the title in my thoughts: "Traumatized". Was a bit shook, ngl, but personally i don't think me not having a lot of friends and even less actually good friendships has to do with me liking time with myself. I had rather bad parents that didn't teach me trust and self-worth and a bunch of social trauma from school too. I'd love to have friends i can really lean and rely on. I'm always willing to do the same for the friends that i do have. Though i know that my expectations of a valuable friendship is perhaps a little high and I'm too anxious to actually go out and meet new people. Being lonely isn't a good thing. Being a lone wolf isn't necessarily a good thing. You shouldn't always have to deal with everything by yourself, it's not cool.
I've been trying to reach out more to my friends and classmates from college and high school. No expectations of them replying, just putting myself out there.
needed this. for the first time in my life, I've seen the bright side and positive aspect of having few friends. but i envy people with many friends. it's fun but not possible for me. I'll be moving to another city and hope to make good friends even if they're few of them;; everyone watching this video, be happy ◡̈
Usually friends are like lovers. Do they suit you or not...i'm constantly losing friends because they don't like to see me grieve for my mother which in reality is normal bcs i am an only child who is close to my mother. They rushed me to get over it, left and ghosted me. And i am having trust issues now because i can't seem to find a good and genuine friendships in my life. Some other time when i thought they are good for me and then poof they're gone and being lost contact with me. They don't communicate clearly, while most of them are toxics who like to receive gifts but never the one to give anything back
I'm really sorry to all of that. Taking time to process everything is important. If by chance you need to talk, i'm here. Anyways I hope things improve for you! Good luck!
I have always been very happy on my own and contented with who I am am. I have been single for 25 years and have just two friends who are great but see occasionally for a catch-up. I travel abroad on my own three times a year and love to rest and read by the beach and swim. I never feel lonely just blessed to feel so happy. I always make friends on my holidays but being alone means I can choose to do my own things.
I’ve learned that I aam very picky about who I let close to me. I’m highly observant and skilled in recognizing people who aren’t genuine, from a distance. I can’t expect my social circle to be the same as people who let everyone in, or don’t have discernment skills. I’m positive that I’ll connect with atleast one genuine person some day, who will never make me feel like we need to separate. Just haven’t experienced that yet.
Thanks I needed this ,all my friends have pictures with each other and they never have me in them ,and I know social media is fake ,when I'm having fun last thing I want to do is take my phone out ,but i realize I don't need to change for anyone I am ambitious and don't need friends who bring me down
These always seem to come at the right time. I'm in LA, and been finding that its harder to make friends here compared to other places I lived at. I've been attending different meetups, and learning that there are a lot of people who aren't worth my time. It's draining trying to get approval from certain groups of people. I'm learning more about who I am, and what I'm looking for. The few friends that I've made, I really value. At times, I wished I was more seen and more popular. I haven't been very successful with dating lately. A bigger friend circle could help with dating. In the meantime, I'll try to explore more, enjoy my own company, and spend time with my hobbies.
i feel bad also for not having a lot of "friends" since it's really hard for me as a sensitive individual (they, too, have said that) and part of me was trying to hide that side since i think no one would appreciate that or maybe just few peeps. it sucks tho.🤦🏻♀️
Well, I've recently had to let some friends go because of some things they did that deeply upset me. The idea of those friendships being complete feels at stark contrast to the wounds where the friendships used to be
You guys are like therapy to me. I feel like ive been going through a rough patch, but when i come to watch your videos it helps release some stuff off my mind.
It's so hard for me to make friends. I prefer being surroundee by family. And I'm good with it I was told many times before to be friends with people I'm surrounded with, because I go to church But for me, IT'S SO HARD TO FORCE RELATIONSHIPS. I even stress over it because I just can't I'm shy, not really good with interaction, socially awkward. Majority of the time my interests do not match with the people I'm surrounded with So I just distance myself and so do they. Which is also painful but I got used to it. But deep down I do want to have friends that I can share what I like and bond over that.
I accept the fact that I'm alone I already know what most of this video said but this video helped me feel less bad about myself I wish everyone good luck on their journey of healing and self-love because I'm trying to love myself and so can you.
i recently moved to a new school, ive made a lot of friends but most of them have their own friend. so i was feeling so lonely since nobody approaches me whenever im alone. this video absolutely changed my perspective, thank you :))
I've had many friends. It is EXHAUSTING. There are so many relationships to manage, balance, and nuances to keep an eye on. I have 6 friends across the country. Some I'm more emotionally involved with. The others treat me how I treat them. We go months without talking, but a quick phone call is as if we had just hung out yesterday. I'd rather have a handful of nurtured relationships over a bucket of obligations.
What I disliked about school, aside from being up so early, was having to say goodbye to my friends when I graduate. Sure, you might end up seeing two or three in highschool or college again, but for the most part, you and your friends are gonna go in a different direction. I have reached out to a few but they’re often more busy or have kids to look after. It’s understandable, but can be lonely. I don’t know why it’s harder as an adult to make friends. Maybe the world is just more dangerous now and you grow skeptical of who people are.
I have always struggled to keep friends I seem to make them easily but a lot of my friends never actually stay for that long so over the years I've kind of just given up making friends deliberately. I now leave up to the other person to approach me and then I put in the effort, I don't know if it's wrong but it's exhausting to put in so much effort only to have them drop you anyway. Edit: I do want to add that I do have a few friends but only one of them I can speak to about anything and everything. She's truly my heart and soul and it's funny because she became my friend right after my best friend of 7 years left me with no explanation. I was ready to just give up on everything and then this literal ray of sunshine came into my life and just showed me honest kindness and patience. It's now 6 years later and I have never been happier with someone being so present in my life before❤
Finding friends these days are impossible at least for me. I never really had friends growing up all my life I kept myself isolated from people because I was being bullied and picked on and I didn't want to talk to or deal with anybody and I was just miserable and I stay in the house for most of my life. Now I'm currently seeing a therapist and so far it has helped me to let things out and seek how to improve my social anxiety. I'm going out a little bit more but after what I went through in the past it's still difficult to actually talk to people because I'm very introverted, I don't trust anyone and the fact that most people in this world are still shitty. So I'm still going back in fourth in a way it would be nice to have one or two friends but I'm not a people person.
Thanks, I needed that. I never realised how much better of now as I am. I find that ocasional companionship is okay but a person hanging around you for hours can be annoying at times even if the person doesn't mean any harm but like me has a need for companionship. Maybe he feels he has no friends to speak of and he sees me as the only one who can give some comfort.
There were people who tried to be friends with me, but I knew it wouldn't work out. I'm just not interested in having friends, because I'm fine with my family. I see so many people who are desperate for friends, and I feel like something is wrong with me because I don't feel the need to have them.
I used to have many friends but after the pandemic I lost all of them, its hard to find a true and good friend nowadays. I feel so lonely I feel like Im cursed or the world hates me.
I love this its exactly how i am a person whon cherishes true relationships over superficial friendships abd im indeed a lone wolf someone whom prefers time alone over time spent making other people happy just for apearences i also thought i was broken because no one would talk to me and would look at me like i was nobody not worth their time when in reality its the other way around they arent worth my time and efort to be someone im not thank you for this video 😁
I was in a situation for a few months and continueing now of not having friends and being lonely because my autism/lonewolf makes it hard to communicate to people, this video really touched me and made me feel better, I will do my best to stay strong and look to a bright future.
Pretty accurate, I just got away from a situationship, Like I'm fine with lesser friends as long as I have a woman to love and take care for, and It doesn't help that my shitty cousins have very loving gfs even tho they treat their gfs like trash, I hope they break up (Sorry for the yap lol)
Self isolation is better for inner peace, friends don’t always put in the effort to understand you, and it happens, you can still love and care for others wo sacrificing your own self worth.
The fact is that I know a lot of people but our friendships where at a different times and under different situations and even in different cities or countries. I been pondering why does it feel like I am losing contact with them and I have even started to ask why is this happening to some of them and distance is the answers I am getting. But I've also feel distant from friendships that I have in the same city where I live and it seems that my health issues are preventing me from joining them and it doesn't seem right to invite them to visit me all the time. I though that with internet and social medial I will be able to keep all these friends but I can't and it hurtsIt hurts not to be able to do the things I used to do, and suddenly becoming a pariah. Even though I agree with what is said in this video.
You still have a chance to do whatever you want without any friends or fake ones, sometimes no matter what you do to make 'em happy it's not enough for your family and friends, don't ever listen to' em, they're not helping enough on your mental health, they just make it worse
Watching your videos makes me think that i may feel like i have some sort of childhood trauma but that it's more complicated than that, like i feel like i know what's wrong with me and i want and try to fix it but i just can't, i keep falling into the same loop of self doubt and worthlessness, but then come times where i feel like "no i can fix that, i will try again" only for the loop to begin all over, ive stopped responding to all my friends messages because i just want to be alone and I've reached a point where im completely okay with it. But then theres days where i do miss a part of what having friends feels like, only for my brain to remind me that "we dont need friends" and then i decide to keep being alone, this has been going on for months now and i really dont know how to break this loop, i find it all so confusing and exhausting and being an overthinker on top of my extreme introvertedness (if thats even a word) doesnt make things any easier or better... Sorry for the long rant.
I'm an introvert, but I've always found a group of friends I can hang out with (without feeling awkward) in school, summer camp and college. Until I started grad school in a new city, I found myself standing outside of every social group there, and no matter how hard I tried to talk and connect with people, I still haven't felt "close" to anyone enough to call them friends. I'm fine with it most of the time, but there are times I feel lonely and often ask myself "Why don't I have any friends?". Is it because the people here are too different from me? Or is it because of me? Am I even belong here? It's almost like this video speaks to me, consoles me, like a gentle pat on the back. So...thank you very much 🥲
I had 10 best, truly close friends. I had to release them one by one when i worked on myself. Today, i value different things and rather spend my time on my own if i can’t be around people who i feel comfortable and happy ❤😊
I was not popular in school. It wasn’t until I hit college that I made more connections with people. My friend Bethany said it best “what I lack in quantity, I make up in quality.”
It shouldn’t matter for me I’m in deep problems to deal with than worry about being alone I had grown tired of complaining how life sucks but accept it day at a time they say happiness isn’t everyday
It was always difficult for me to make friends. I’m socially awkward and have social anxiety. When I was in school, I got made fun of and bullied a lot. Towards the end of high school, I had a nice group of friends, and it felt good. But now, 10 years later, I have two friends. And I’ve felt really alone lately.
Timestamps 1). Stoic wisdom on friendship 0:23 1.1). You embrace your true nature 0:54 1.2). It might not be you, but them 1:28 1.3). Life is ever changing, and so are you 2:21 1.4). You understand the essence of true friendship 3:10 1.5). A lack of friends can also signify inner peace and fulfillment 3:49 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
making friends is insanely hard for me, keeping them is even harder; i just keep pushing everyone away and i dont even know why
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Remember. Keep your circle small. Quality over quantity.
Furthermore, dont expect them to stay. Not everyone is happy for your growth and success.
Finally, never forget that the loneliest experience in the world is not being alone. Its being with people who makes you feel alone. Choose your friends wisely.
Very Well Said! 👏🏾
Well put, so true. Quality over quantity indeed.
@@alesgerbet3212 I had a narcisisstic classmate who claims im an asshole. Thats the reason why I only have a few friends. She said. I didnt retaliate.
The last time I heard from her, (not exactly heard, I saw her profile before I blocked her. She kept verbally harassing me online so I had to) shes a single mom now. Welp! GG I guess.
Shes the typical narcissistic woman who thinks her worth is above anything or anyone while constantly looking down on others. The type of woman who ends up being a single mom.
Great advice and you're very right about it
There's no such thing for a lot of us
"Friendships come and go, but your relationship with yourself is forever." Those are golden words to me 😊
I don't know, depending on how you take it, those words feel very haunting.
@@ianr.navahuber2195 yeah same
Yikes. I’m not even sure I’m friends with myself. 😢
That sounds like something a narcissist would say…
@@goofyahdemoman1134Not really
I don't want YT aiming constantly at my weaknesses, I guess algorithm knows a lot about me
See for the bright side, at least you're not paranoic. ^^
algorithms know more about you than you know about you
I crave attention.
Look at the video... its positive
The algorithm helped me get diagnosed with autism and adhd
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-0:24 Stoic wisdom on friendships
-0:55 You embrace your true nature
-1:29 It might not be you, but them
-2:22 Life is ever changing, so are you
-3:11 You understand the essence of true friendship
-3:50 Can signify inner peace and fulfillment
Thank you❤
@@Vampire_cat13 :)
Thank you as always ❤
Thank you! 🖤
@@noonegirl😁
Being a person who is constantly lonely and losing friends…this was kinda comforting. I do have a small circle of online friends, but the IRL circle is empty.
I can relate with this sm...losing friends to their toxic behaviors for me. No real life friends that i can hang out with
Yeah, me too.
Me too
Same I have 1 online friend that I met 7-8 years ago on Minecraft and he is my only friend
I am a very forgettable person when it comes to socializing, if I don't do anything people will just forget that I exist, but when I make myself known I suddenly become visible to those people, it's basically my superpower
Same, it's horrible. Everyone leaves you until needed
Lucky I wish people would ignore me I’d rather do nothing then deal with people everyone hates me so being invisible would be great
@@NoobStudios414 it's worse for me, I am nice and really care about the people around me and they still forget about me and it always happens no matter what I do
Other young people just seem so cold, rude and selfish these days..
Idk if it's because of social media but it makes me feel more disconnected
and lonely for sure
Same. Read up on more people being lonely after early 2000’s
This is exactly what I relate to...
It’s all the tech and crap like Tiktok
In general, younger folks and I will agree folks from my own age group just aren't all that friendly. Lot of folks just have really bad social skills.
@@jackofthecoke how young are you, what age group
The title just made me cry..
Pressing us where it hurts. Keep strong, mate 🔥🖤
I like boobs
Lack of friends means I'm a big boy who's gotta be tough everytime even if it kills me...
Same :')
yeah, I feel you bro.. being a guy just means you have to put a smile on your face and suck it up.. like 90% of people don't give a crap when they see you crying or in obvious pain
@tractorman7733 I really hope it gets better for you and everyone finds people who understands them and are loyal people :3
I'll recommend you stop calling yourself a boy, you are a man.
Well said bud
I don't feel comfortable with a lot of people, that's why I dont keep many friends
Same here
Same. I’ve been hurt one too many times with friends in the past, so I don’t make many anymore. I have my boyfriend and small group of three people. That’s it.
When you said that friendships doesn't end, but actually they've been completed, it made me cry a few tears.
One good thing about not having a family or friends is that after I die, nobody would feel sad nor even care about my nonexistence.
I think there's always someone caring for you at one moment or another :) you're worthy even if you don't believe it!!
After this comment , I will think about you everyday and wonder how you’re doing. And if I ever feel it’s been a whole, I’ll stress if you’re alive.
@@sarah-louise7527not true. No one cares for me and I’m alive
I am a bad person and because I and up disappoint every person I get too close to, and the pain they get through by getting close to me it's better for me beeing alone.... I just got to a point where I realized I am just broken from a young age, and I don't have the money for a therapist or people who understand human nature as I do, and don't expect the too... so loneliness there be...
Plz don't say this there always be the one who is always with you and that is God and your good deeds ❤
Is it just me but this channel is like a therapeutic friend to me advising and letting me know about ppl
Mutual ching harts make good shoulders!
You are not alone man this a place where people can connect to each other without being judged and ignored a safe place in this toxic online world
Im sorry but the narrator for this has a very nice voice very calming i need him to read a bed time story 😭
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Agreed 👍 I always imagined him voicing Disney cartoons or something like this. I didn't think there was anyone who thought similar to me. 😊
Listen to the “organic chemistry tutor” guy he also has such a nice voice.👾😭
I can safely say I don't have friends as of today. The thing is, I completely understand the value of friendship and connecting with others (and I'm still figuring out what kind of friend do I want to be), but I've been walking a path where I'm not negotiating my worth, my values nor my well-being in exchange for not being on my own. Not anymore. I'm alone, yes, but never lonely.
For me, not having friends has actively made my life worse. I feel like I lead a very boring life, and don't do anything interesting, and that includes not hanging out with anyone, which just makes me feel empty. I live alone with my mother, but she's away a lot because she hangs out with her boyfriend, meaning that I'm often home alone for days if not weeks at a time. While I can handle being alone, after a while, I start to feel lonely, and as is important to know, there's a HUGE difference between the two.
People say that forming connections, whether platonic or romantic, is best when it happens naturally, and while I agree with this, I always end up asking: "Ok, but where do I go to form them? Where do I find people?" This is what frustrates me the most about making friends or finding love, I have no idea what to do about it. I have considered dating apps (for friends too in cases like Bumble) but I hear so many bad things about them, especially from men, and since I am one, it really turns me off from them. As for going out, I feel screwed in that way too. I'm not attending school, where I live doesn't have a lot of "third spaces" or such to hang out with people, and while I'm starting a new job soon, it's completely up in the air if I'll have time to talk to people, and if there'll be people my age working there too.
I don't mean to disrespect people who prefer being alone, but I just can't understand them at all. Like I said, not having friends just makes me feel worse, and I just don't know what to do about it. And even if I did find a place to make them, I also have social anxiety and am autistic, which makes forming connections even harder. Also, because of how boring my life is, I wonder if I'd be able to connect with others at all, since I feel I'd have no stories to tell about my life. Plus, people always say to work on yourself, and while it's good to do that, most of the areas in which I'd want to work on myself revolve around feeling lonely, and you can't fix that by yourself, that literally makes no sense.
It's also ironic, I grew up on only child, so I never had to learn to share, but now more than ever, I want someone to share my life with. I also have a good life in terms of my hobbies (video games, music, RUclips videos, etc.) which I'm happy about, but I would be so much happier if I could share them with others. I can't even remember the last time I played a multiplayer game with someone else. I really want to have faith that I'll find some great friends (or even love) one day, but it's really hard to with how my life has gone so far. I definitely won't give up and will try one day, and I do hope for the best, but I'm not gonna get my hopes up too much.
Well... Goodluck man! Hope ya succeed. I can totally understand how lack of connection can be quite unsetteling to say atleast.
@@alesgerbet3212 Thanks, I appreciate the support! But yeah, having no friends does have an unsettling feeling, especially during my idle time where I do self-reflection, and when I think about the future, and if I'll still have this problem.
But like I said, I will try my best at some point to form connections one day, just don't know when prime opportunities will come their way.
This is me…. Really!
Same it used to be good but has slowly gotten very boring as time went on. I used to make friends easily but they were all backstabbers & I could get rid of them easily. It's the opposite now I can't make friends & everyone wants to get away from me when their in a group I'm in
@@IdkWhatToCallThisBruh Yeah, I get what you mean. For me, the feeling of people not liking me only comes from my own insecurities. I always fear trying to talk to someone or enter a conversation because I'm afraid they won't like me or think I'm weird. And it's a fear that's hard to get rid of since I can't exactly practice socializing everyday to get used to it.
Either way, I also wish you luck in finding great friends as well!
Disconnect the fake friends, kick back, empower yourself, and enjoy whatever life throws at ya
And during my college life, I got alienated for many reasons. One of them is this:
I remembered I had to deal with a really emotional classmate of mine during group activities in a prestigious university (in my home country the Philippines). I was often labeled as a freeloader and a worthless student (when in reality, I did a fairly decent amount of work). Another day, she got so angry at me because of the same reason. We had a talk with my professor on that, and the blame was put all on me. When the whole class saw it, they gave me a negative look, I was unfairly humiliated.
It is sad that my professor never saw my side of the story (only her side). After all of that, I am seen as worthless and I became a huge loser in my university.
Out of the way.. your not useless, don't let that ever get to your head. People work in different ways and speeds and not just that. You actually do your part..
If your still in that college, try talking to that professor. Telling your side of the story because that is not fair. Imagine a court without the other person to speak up. I'll be honest? I don't think even if you did explain to everyone your side of the story people wouldent change or care.. maybe a little understanding.. but that sort of stuff kinda sticks doesn't it? So in my opinion.. tell the truth, and if they don't care, you shouldn't either. If you have to do group projects, do help, prove to others you aren't a so called burden they say. Just remember not to go over board with the proving and helping-
Second, if your out (thank God) it will be hard but.. move on, what they did was just not right and you know that. This may shake your self esteem or self worth but.. I know it hurts, but we can't change what happened and what they did... we can only change now.
I promise you, you will find people you will socialise with, that respect you, care for you and don't say your a freeloader.. and you to them, likewise. Stay true to yourself, be kind to yourself, be yourself because like the video says, you can only find content with yourself.
I'm sorry if I couldn't help as much but I dint want to make you feel alone-
I live in the Philippines too, system here is stressing. Group leaders like that are.. sadly real, I had an experience-
I dint know how to video edit but I did know how to draw. I was basically useless so I drew 5 images that, fully coloured with backgrounds and characters in a bustling plaza, she never used them.. in the end I got called out for being the slacker. I dint sleep that Sunday day and I had a fight with my parents just to finish this drawings in time over joining dinner.. I felt.. stupid.. but I tried my best, isent that wjay matterd most? We got a good grade anyway, and.. I am content with myself, for doing as much as I can.. i regret it though because.. it took my time with my family.. and made them worried.. that's why I said don't over due the help-
I don't know if I can ever forget that, but I do know I can forgive and move on with what I want to do. It was very similar to yours my situation so.. I thought I'd come by and tell you something I would have wanted to hear. I hope it helps.. have a good day and again, I'm sorry if I was doin something wrong-
@@whosfredol5194, thank you so much for your message. Also, I hate it that I am called a spoonfed person.
Forgotten.
I dropped off the face of the earth, and they all just let me.
I totally understand.
I always loved having less friends! Tbh, big groups are chaotic and i get drained from socializing easily
Arrived at the perfect time 😭
It just arrived where I thought I needed to hear.
With this day and age, making friends is basically unheard of.
I for someone who consistently tries too make sure others are okay, have a suprising lack of friends lol (probably because of anxiety).
(eitherway, for those who look for friends in any sort of way, make sure you find the ones like you, the ones that have the same interests)
Please do not go into websites too find friends, it can work but most of the time it leads too fake friends or people who use and manipulate you.
^ perosonal experience.
Sorry for the long message but too those who read or didn't and will never know...i hope you have a genuinely great time and the best of luck!
I'm sorry to hear about your personal experiences.
You sound like a good friend, definitely the kind i'd like to have. Mind if I ask what you're so anxious about that stops you?
@@morijin4034 Heya, sorry for the somewhat late response, where I am it's extremely hot and I have a rough time sleeping due too it.
Mhm, I wouldn't consider myself a truly good friend too be honest, yeah i do actively check on people I'm friends with and make sure they're okay, if not then I'll happily talk too them and stuff, (but I also have times where I'm so just...down? Depressed?) I don't actually know, that I'll just not talk too anyone for quite a long time. Nothing against them, just me dealing with mental stuff.
^ that may or may not be one of the reasons I atleast try and help peeps. (my bio explains it very simply and better) but I try too help people i can relate too as its easier in conversation aswell as I would be speaking with knowledge on my side.
Anyhows, my main reason for having anxiety is mainly due too my treatment from other people, I was bullied and judged for 7 years straight because I was small and didn't talk very much. (there's other medical reasons but those were the main ones).
It's left a general impact on me since and I find it difficult talking too people, mainly afraid of judgement so I tend too not be friends with people and usually only give the bare minimum about me as too avoid said judgment.
(I know this was way too long but still, that's probably the main reason for my anxiety minus I couple medical stuff as said)
And lastly of course, if you did read this then of course like I said in my previous comment, I hope you have/had a genuinely great and best of luck!
I seriously agree with the online friends thing, because I personally have only one person that’s my friend online and we talked for about a year before we even knew each other’s real names XD Tbh it’s kind of the same thing with dating apps, most of the time I think. Also, good luck to you in your life (:
@@morijin4034 (I swear I responded too this sorry) anyhows, I mainly got bullied for most of my conscious life. (mostly too do with my size and a certain health condition)
I'm simplifying it here as let's be honest "story of my life isn't all that fun lol" but long story short, it messed up my entire trust on people in general and basically crushed my self esteem wich I only got back around a year ago only too get it crushed again after my ex ditched me for generally unknown reasons. (the usual for me lol)
Anyhows, I wouldn't mind being friends if that's what you would like, [stuffs in my bio] and eh, if I can help in some way I'll happily do so!
And of course, have a generally great time and day/night!
This is easily the most wholesome RUclips channel I know of.
I have never had any friends at all because I find hard and annoying having someone outside your family and in this world, it's hard to trust people
That’s just trust issues at least you have a option to make friends I wish I could do that and you can trust your family even more lucky
I'm someone who had many friends though only 2 actually cared enough about me and my interests to stay. Everyone else just expected me to be like them so I cut my ties to them best choice of my life. I have 2 great friends
I've had the same thing happen recently, all the friends I had kinda drifted away and my close friends started lying to me so now I only have one close friend. The thing is this friend is the gf of who used to be my closest friend who I have recently found out is a habitual liar and may be cheating on her.
As someone who doesn’t have any friends or a boyfriend I am still learning how to cope with being alone and learning how to be ok with being alone/single some days it is harder than other days but for me it is getting easier and some day I will find the right friends even if it’s a few or one person to be my friend I will still be grateful for it.
@GentlePiposaru Yeah I journal my thoughts before but now I rarely do it but sometimes I write my own quotes for wisdom to teach someone else not to make the wrong mistakes I made in my life.
I learned the hard way that its better to have no friends than bad friends. When I was younger, I used to be friends with people who I knew weren't good people because i had no one else to be friends with. All those friendships ended HORRIBLY. So even though i am painfully lonely nowadays, i am very cautious about who i allow in my life
It’s better to have bad friends then none
There is a difference between being lonely and being alone, and I’m glad that this video came out… it helps a lot with understanding oneself and also understanding those of us that like to keep a small circle or be alone.
Wanted to chat with old school friends, but distance makes us fall apart... True Friendships doesn't end bcz of this reasons, but when uh r the only one, who is living elsewhere, it hurts you... They start to make uh feel lonely
I’m so used to being alone that I don’t know how to be a good friend. I’ve never felt like I fit in or was accepted anywhere, so I guess at some point I just stopped trying.
Am in the same boat
This is why 2020 didn't affect me at all, I've always valued my solitude, it gaves me time to understand myself better.
I have such a good relationship with myself that I don't even feel like I need friends, I respect myself more than others seem to do...
This video makes me feel a lot better about having few friends but if anyone wants a friend ill be one
I lost one of my best friends a couple days ago. I'm so incredibly heartbroken but I really hope that I can find friendship similar to the friendship I had with them again. Thank you psych2go, your videos help some of us more than you know.
Been there, exspirenced that! 😢 Hang in there; it does get easier.! But feels like it takes for-ever!
@@aaronthenorm5400 thank you so much, I appreciate that more than you know
It might be tough for you to move on, but i'm sure things will get better
I have gotten used to being the one alone at the table, going places alone, doing things alone. Friends have gotten used to me not going along with everything and know I need time without people. I very seldom feel lonely even though I am alone much of the time.
His voice is so comforting 😌
I really needed to hear this.
I’ve been struggling with loneliness and trying to find the friendships I used to have. Wondering if I was not trying hard enough to find friends.
This helped me realize that I am doing my best, and that it’s ok to not be a super social person or be able to make friends easily. I won’t stop going to events and places, or stop talking to my coworkers, but this video helps remove the pressure and just be myself.
I also do like having moments to myself, and it helps to know that’s ok too.
It sounds like you're really putting in the effort. You definitely seem like the kinda person i'd want to be friends with. You're doing great! And i'm rooting for you!
I only have one irl friend, and we've known each other since 3rd grade. We still keep in touch since our graduation of highschool, and not a day goes by where I don't text them good morning and good night.
honestly sometimes a best friend is all you need
This video is really comforting. It makes me feel less alone, especially with all the comments who relate 😊
I have my best friend's in my life. God, my kids, and of course myself.
I don’t have one human friend, and the loneliness is getting to me!
Do you have a dog? Best friends!
I just feel like it’s hard to keep my friends nowadays, everytime I do something careless on accident, the friendship will be completed
i don't have friends because i find most people are flaky. they say they care, but they really don't. #4 and #5 are so true for me
I like how the video talk about how it okay to not have fiends, this is an opportunity to have a deeper connection with oneself an and to see what one is really like. Thank you for opening my mind to this kind of thought
I’ll find this insightful because as an introvert, I see where I’ve learned to be cordial with people I meet but in terms of bringing people close to me being selective. But as an only child being OK to be alone, this video helps me see like it’s OK. And it’s OK to celebrate the times when you’re with everybody and relish in the times when you’re alone as well and be OK with wherever you are, and with whoever you are
I’ve reached 36 and can say I’ve honestly given up with people. Two of my closest friends became distant last year and I’d not changed. I just got fed up with me being the only one to plan to meet up and so I stopped and they stopped reaching out to me. People are exhausting 😅
Without watching the video i fulfilled the title in my thoughts: "Traumatized".
Was a bit shook, ngl, but personally i don't think me not having a lot of friends and even less actually good friendships has to do with me liking time with myself. I had rather bad parents that didn't teach me trust and self-worth and a bunch of social trauma from school too. I'd love to have friends i can really lean and rely on. I'm always willing to do the same for the friends that i do have. Though i know that my expectations of a valuable friendship is perhaps a little high and I'm too anxious to actually go out and meet new people.
Being lonely isn't a good thing. Being a lone wolf isn't necessarily a good thing. You shouldn't always have to deal with everything by yourself, it's not cool.
Its like the only people that are there are in my head, some of those are dead and others are not even real.
I've been trying to reach out more to my friends and classmates from college and high school. No expectations of them replying, just putting myself out there.
Y been feeling alone too this past days
You wanna talk?
needed this. for the first time in my life, I've seen the bright side and positive aspect of having few friends. but i envy people with many friends. it's fun but not possible for me. I'll be moving to another city and hope to make good friends even if they're few of them;; everyone watching this video, be happy ◡̈
You got this! Good luck!
Usually friends are like lovers. Do they suit you or not...i'm constantly losing friends because they don't like to see me grieve for my mother which in reality is normal bcs i am an only child who is close to my mother. They rushed me to get over it, left and ghosted me. And i am having trust issues now because i can't seem to find a good and genuine friendships in my life.
Some other time when i thought they are good for me and then poof they're gone and being lost contact with me. They don't communicate clearly, while most of them are toxics who like to receive gifts but never the one to give anything back
I'm really sorry to all of that. Taking time to process everything is important. If by chance you need to talk, i'm here. Anyways I hope things improve for you! Good luck!
I have always been very happy on my own and contented with who I am am. I have been single for 25 years and have just two friends who are great but see occasionally for a catch-up. I travel abroad on my own three times a year and love to rest and read by the beach and swim. I never feel lonely just blessed to feel so happy. I always make friends on my holidays but being alone means I can choose to do my own things.
I’ve learned that I aam very picky about who I let close to me. I’m highly observant and skilled in recognizing people who aren’t genuine, from a distance. I can’t expect my social circle to be the same as people who let everyone in, or don’t have discernment skills. I’m positive that I’ll connect with atleast one genuine person some day, who will never make me feel like we need to separate. Just haven’t experienced that yet.
Thanks I needed this ,all my friends have pictures with each other and they never have me in them ,and I know social media is fake ,when I'm having fun last thing I want to do is take my phone out ,but i realize I don't need to change for anyone I am ambitious and don't need friends who bring me down
It’s only because your not a good friend if you were good they would want you
These always seem to come at the right time. I'm in LA, and been finding that its harder to make friends here compared to other places I lived at. I've been attending different meetups, and learning that there are a lot of people who aren't worth my time. It's draining trying to get approval from certain groups of people. I'm learning more about who I am, and what I'm looking for. The few friends that I've made, I really value.
At times, I wished I was more seen and more popular. I haven't been very successful with dating lately. A bigger friend circle could help with dating. In the meantime, I'll try to explore more, enjoy my own company, and spend time with my hobbies.
i feel bad also for not having a lot of "friends" since it's really hard for me as a sensitive individual (they, too, have said that) and part of me was trying to hide that side since i think no one would appreciate that or maybe just few peeps. it sucks tho.🤦🏻♀️
yk that feeling when you wanna be a heartless person but u just can't the moment you are in AAAAAAAAH
As always, this video comes with the right topic at the right time... 👍🏻
Well, I've recently had to let some friends go because of some things they did that deeply upset me. The idea of those friendships being complete feels at stark contrast to the wounds where the friendships used to be
I appreciate how kind this person's voice is
You guys are like therapy to me. I feel like ive been going through a rough patch, but when i come to watch your videos it helps release some stuff off my mind.
It's so hard for me to make friends. I prefer being surroundee by family. And I'm good with it
I was told many times before to be friends with people I'm surrounded with, because I go to church
But for me, IT'S SO HARD TO FORCE RELATIONSHIPS. I even stress over it because I just can't
I'm shy, not really good with interaction, socially awkward. Majority of the time my interests do not match with the people I'm surrounded with
So I just distance myself and so do they. Which is also painful but I got used to it.
But deep down I do want to have friends that I can share what I like and bond over that.
I accept the fact that I'm alone I already know what most of this video said but this video helped me feel less bad about myself I wish everyone good luck on their journey of healing and self-love because I'm trying to love myself and so can you.
Same
i recently moved to a new school, ive made a lot of friends but most of them have their own friend. so i was feeling so lonely since nobody approaches me whenever im alone. this video absolutely changed my perspective, thank you :))
I’m like this but I often tell people that being alone isn’t synonymous with being lonely some people prefer solitude
I've had many friends. It is EXHAUSTING. There are so many relationships to manage, balance, and nuances to keep an eye on.
I have 6 friends across the country. Some I'm more emotionally involved with. The others treat me how I treat them. We go months without talking, but a quick phone call is as if we had just hung out yesterday.
I'd rather have a handful of nurtured relationships over a bucket of obligations.
What I disliked about school, aside from being up so early, was having to say goodbye to my friends when I graduate. Sure, you might end up seeing two or three in highschool or college again, but for the most part, you and your friends are gonna go in a different direction.
I have reached out to a few but they’re often more busy or have kids to look after. It’s understandable, but can be lonely.
I don’t know why it’s harder as an adult to make friends. Maybe the world is just more dangerous now and you grow skeptical of who people are.
Why don’t you know why it’s harder it’s not like you go to a classroom 5 days a week with 30 people in it anymore
I've completely given up. It hurts less. I turned my heart to stone.
I have always struggled to keep friends
I seem to make them easily but a lot of my friends never actually stay for that long so over the years I've kind of just given up making friends deliberately. I now leave up to the other person to approach me and then I put in the effort, I don't know if it's wrong but it's exhausting to put in so much effort only to have them drop you anyway.
Edit: I do want to add that I do have a few friends but only one of them I can speak to about anything and everything. She's truly my heart and soul and it's funny because she became my friend right after my best friend of 7 years left me with no explanation. I was ready to just give up on everything and then this literal ray of sunshine came into my life and just showed me honest kindness and patience. It's now 6 years later and I have never been happier with someone being so present in my life before❤
I always believe in friendship…Quality > Quantity ❤😊
I had lots of friends when I was young but I don't think I was truly friends with most of them, now I'm wary of who I'm friends with
Finding friends these days are impossible at least for me. I never really had friends growing up all my life I kept myself isolated from people because I was being bullied and picked on and I didn't want to talk to or deal with anybody and I was just miserable and I stay in the house for most of my life. Now I'm currently seeing a therapist and so far it has helped me to let things out and seek how to improve my social anxiety. I'm going out a little bit more but after what I went through in the past it's still difficult to actually talk to people because I'm very introverted, I don't trust anyone and the fact that most people in this world are still shitty. So I'm still going back in fourth in a way it would be nice to have one or two friends but I'm not a people person.
Thanks, I needed that. I never realised how much better of now as I am. I find that ocasional companionship is okay but a person hanging around you for hours can be annoying at times even if the person doesn't mean any harm but like me has a need for companionship. Maybe he feels he has no friends to speak of and he sees me as the only one who can give some comfort.
There were people who tried to be friends with me, but I knew it wouldn't work out. I'm just not interested in having friends, because I'm fine with my family. I see so many people who are desperate for friends, and I feel like something is wrong with me because I don't feel the need to have them.
I used to have many friends but after the pandemic I lost all of them, its hard to find a true and good friend nowadays. I feel so lonely I feel like Im cursed or the world hates me.
I love this I really needed something like this cause I lack friends myself
Wow I didn't expect such a positive video, about lonelyness. Thank you☺️
I love this its exactly how i am a person whon cherishes true relationships over superficial friendships abd im indeed a lone wolf someone whom prefers time alone over time spent making other people happy just for apearences i also thought i was broken because no one would talk to me and would look at me like i was nobody not worth their time when in reality its the other way around they arent worth my time and efort to be someone im not thank you for this video 😁
I was in a situation for a few months and continueing now of not having friends and being lonely because my autism/lonewolf makes it hard to communicate to people, this video really touched me and made me feel better, I will do my best to stay strong and look to a bright future.
Having fewer friends defy leads to more peace.
I have enough friends, but there’s just one thing I don’t feel complete without; a girlfriend. All I want is someone to love.
You're not alone. I'm in the same boat. I have plenty of platonic friends who are really supportive, but no significant other. 😞
Pretty accurate, I just got away from a situationship, Like I'm fine with lesser friends as long as I have a woman to love and take care for, and It doesn't help that my shitty cousins have very loving gfs even tho they treat their gfs like trash, I hope they break up (Sorry for the yap lol)
@@Pratt11 you can be jealous just don’t express it OK. It ain’t gonna make you feel better and it’s gonna make them hate you.
Wishing to have a girlfriend because of the experiences together is healthy. Wishing to have one because you feel incomplete without her is not.
@@LTono-iu9mg that and I’m also lonely.
Not me just talking about this with my sis 24 seconds before this dropped, so needed🙏
Self isolation is better for inner peace, friends don’t always put in the effort to understand you, and it happens, you can still love and care for others wo sacrificing your own self worth.
It hits hard when you're so early that you don't see the time stamp comments
The fact is that I know a lot of people but our friendships where at a different times and under different situations and even in different cities or countries. I been pondering why does it feel like I am losing contact with them and I have even started to ask why is this happening to some of them and distance is the answers I am getting. But I've also feel distant from friendships that I have in the same city where I live and it seems that my health issues are preventing me from joining them and it doesn't seem right to invite them to visit me all the time. I though that with internet and social medial I will be able to keep all these friends but I can't and it hurtsIt hurts not to be able to do the things I used to do, and suddenly becoming a pariah. Even though I agree with what is said in this video.
this video made me stay in my section this year. Thank you.
You still have a chance to do whatever you want without any friends or fake ones, sometimes no matter what you do to make 'em happy it's not enough for your family and friends, don't ever listen to' em, they're not helping enough on your mental health, they just make it worse
making or keeping friends now that I am a mom is the hardest thing ever.
Watching your videos makes me think that i may feel like i have some sort of childhood trauma but that it's more complicated than that, like i feel like i know what's wrong with me and i want and try to fix it but i just can't, i keep falling into the same loop of self doubt and worthlessness, but then come times where i feel like "no i can fix that, i will try again" only for the loop to begin all over, ive stopped responding to all my friends messages because i just want to be alone and I've reached a point where im completely okay with it. But then theres days where i do miss a part of what having friends feels like, only for my brain to remind me that "we dont need friends" and then i decide to keep being alone, this has been going on for months now and i really dont know how to break this loop, i find it all so confusing and exhausting and being an overthinker on top of my extreme introvertedness (if thats even a word) doesnt make things any easier or better...
Sorry for the long rant.
IF YOU HAVE A FEW FRIENDS? THAT MEANS THAT THE REST DOESN'T DESERVE YOU! ❤
I'm an introvert, but I've always found a group of friends I can hang out with (without feeling awkward) in school, summer camp and college. Until I started grad school in a new city, I found myself standing outside of every social group there, and no matter how hard I tried to talk and connect with people, I still haven't felt "close" to anyone enough to call them friends. I'm fine with it most of the time, but there are times I feel lonely and often ask myself "Why don't I have any friends?". Is it because the people here are too different from me? Or is it because of me? Am I even belong here? It's almost like this video speaks to me, consoles me, like a gentle pat on the back. So...thank you very much 🥲
I had 10 best, truly close friends.
I had to release them one by one when i worked on myself. Today, i value different things and rather spend my time on my own if i can’t be around people who i feel comfortable and happy ❤😊
A friend I haven't heard from in years managed to contact me on Discord. Nice to know she's doing well.
I was not popular in school. It wasn’t until I hit college that I made more connections with people. My friend Bethany said it best “what I lack in quantity, I make up in quality.”
Got it
“Don’t be yourself
you only have friends
when you’re someone else”
18 years, not a single real friend, not a lover, the last time i hugged someone I was 7.
It shouldn’t matter for me I’m in deep problems to deal with than worry about being alone I had grown tired of complaining how life sucks but accept it day at a time they say happiness isn’t everyday
It was always difficult for me to make friends. I’m socially awkward and have social anxiety. When I was in school, I got made fun of and bullied a lot. Towards the end of high school, I had a nice group of friends, and it felt good. But now, 10 years later, I have two friends. And I’ve felt really alone lately.
What i consider a friend is subjective to me. What makes a friend a friend. Who said a friend is a friend.
Timestamps
1). Stoic wisdom on friendship 0:23
1.1). You embrace your true nature 0:54
1.2). It might not be you, but them 1:28
1.3). Life is ever changing, and so are you 2:21
1.4). You understand the essence of true friendship 3:10
1.5). A lack of friends can also signify inner peace and fulfillment 3:49
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Birds of a feather. We are not all the same.