Who I should be? Finish grad school and work to pay endless bills 💸 Who you want to be? I want to be happy with my job but....... honestly I am miserable with my current job. Please let's keep this hush hush 🤫 Who you are? Since I find joy traveling the world, I would like to visit less developed countries in order to help people in need, whether it be assisting with public projects, financially, medically, etc. In short, I want to live a more meaningful life than I do now and be able to contribute to the life of those less fortunate. That for me would be personally satisfying. Thank you for putting out such thought provoking questions. It makes people reexamine their lives, my life. Take care always Nick ✌🏻
@@juliaangelicaa5395 WOW! thank you julia. I love how you took the time to lay it all out. It's very beautiful to see how our lives can be disconnected. They way you describe traveling is beautiful. I hope you'll get a chance to pursue that more :)
It’s incredible how difficult is for people to understand why some of us don’t fit in their definition of success. For me success is inner peace. Thank you 🙏
Succes for me is that i don´t have speciel interest in material things, working with nature at my job, my bonsai trees and of course studying wisdom. I wont say that i am at peace, because that´s very diffecult to obtain in this universel cycle - The age of Kali.
@@cinereus3601 I think you misread the comment that you responded to. They didn't say that it was difficult for them because other people don't understand. They said that they are amazed at how difficult it is for other people to understand/be accepting of contrary points of view/ways of living.
@@cburne1051 I understood what she was trying to say. And again, why care what other people think or why other people have trouble understanding things. It only gives you a false sense of superiority. She is talking about "they" and "us". We all follow a different path and some of us are at a different stage in life.
Im also an introvert. An hermit. I dont fit into society. I am at peace in my personal space & happy with my choices. I realised its not about pleasing people. Do what aligns with your inner peace & happiness. I enjoy deep conversations & understanding people's emotions. Thank you Nick. Profound advice.
Hi Nick thank you for your videos they really speak to me and nourish my soul’ I was born and raised into a ethnic group who suffered rejection and both my parents were binge alcoholic’s I didn’t get a education and life has been very difficult being surrounded with toxic narcissistic people I’ve cut myself away from them in recent years as it nearly destroyed my mental health ‘ but I’ve got my Christian faith although I’m not a brilliant Christian as god knows but I try my best to be kind to ppl and I have found your channel and it’s helping me a lot also 2more channels that are also helping me I’m working on my house to be minimalistic and get my life on track as much as possible and like a natural therapeutic like as humanly possible’ thank you so much for sharing your amazing videos
Its amazing how many people are feeling this exact same way, from all walks of life. We aren't taught to be true to ourself. We are taught money money money money work work work work!!!!! It's madness.
The hard part is when you're partner has a totally different idea of what success is. How to navigate living very differently in the same house. Or trying to!
I was an engineer for 1.5 years. I earned more money than any other job, but I was the most depressed I'd ever been. now i spend a lot of time in the woods. definitely by no means perfect but a lot happier. I like to skateboard and rock climb also
@@OGecalien you don't need a shrink to do that. Leave the job you hate, simplify and pare down your life so you can work doing something you enjoy even if you make a lot less. Spend time in nature, try new things to see what you really love. Therapy goes nowhere.
Eric Carrillo being aware that you are unhappy is good it means you want change, you should check out Eckard Tollie and start meditating today. You got this :)
@John Smith I honestly don't want to get married or have kids. If I happen to get into a long term relationship thats one thing, but a legal binding contract doesn't seem logical to me. And kids would really stress me out, I have no desire for that. And any women that cares that much about status or material things is not for me.
I have reached a point in my life where I am profoundly silent, going through my life seperating myself from what doesn't serve me any longer, and I find myself pulling away from people because their energy weighs heavy on me. Rather, I prefer to be on my own, doing things on my own, and it is when I'm in silence that I am most peaceful. I have also gone into living minimalistically. I don't use use my finances to "over purchase" anymore. I simply use them as a means for security so I dwell in financial abundance because of that. Because I no longer long to "have things". People think that I'm reverting into depression, but that isn't it at all. I have never been happier than in this present moment and I guess the fear of those who don't understand find themselves confused, but it is my life and my journey and slowly I am building my foundation in complete peace and tranquility because it's what I've always longed for. Thank you for your video. It is of great value to me to realize that I am in fact living my best life at the moment. For the future, I can only hope to dig deeper into my spirituality and continue to find resourcefulness within myself.
Do you live alone? Retired. Staying in for Covid reasons. Asking because at my stage of life, I’m lonely. Will focus on minimalizing..that calls to me. I just want more people around. I like what this guy is saying. I like both, being with people and being alone. At 79, still growing.
@@lesliegreen1237 meditation if you do it right helps with loneliness / aloneness. You stop feeling like needing people and "things" to keep you happy and slowly zliely start to realise you are just fine by yourself and as you are :) That's not to say you shouldn't strive though . it will teach you to be patient ..over time
@@vvelvettearss thanks for your response. Meditation is very good for so many reasons. I think what I’m expressing is this: when I have a choice, knowing I can be around people, I enjoy aloneness. When I feel no choice, that’s when I can feel lonely. I love my own time to think, to be, and so forth, just being me. Yet I love socializing too. I think not having children or grandchildren is a ‘decision’ I didn’t think thru. This Covid time has been good for me because I’m reaching out & making closer friends…not sure your age..I’ve done so much throughout my life including meditation, and still am avid about expanding and growing…I’m happy you connected with me. Yet another soul in the world who (while I’ll never know you in person) I’ve connected with…albeit briefly. I just truly like knowing other people’s situations. I find it fascinating & also learn , perhaps, yet another new thing. Again, thank you for taking the time to answer. And being open as to who you are. 😊
@@lesliegreen2183 oh well thankyou most kindly :) that touched me I'm 32 this year and do get lonely my self. I can also relate to feeling panicked if "forced" to be around people and craving an escape to solitude which I regularly feel haha and equally in a similar league I'm also childless and have never tried very hard to find or keep a partner which in the world these days often means a lot of older men and women are more likely to be alone for very long periods a day unless they have a very large regular group and social outlet. I'm working on the above and slowly realising the importance of the internet for maintaining human contact too as I have friends but perhaps I'm a hermit at heart :D We all need each other when times get tough I'm very happy you connected with me also and glad that my message was some benefit :) have a nice day !
I found this advice to be absolutely true. I am now 82. I lived much of my life till age 46 out of alignment with my true nature. It took years to move into and through depression until I slowly realized that I felt peace and quiet fulfillment living the new life I had moved into by letting go of my old life and dream. I felt like I had let go of everything, but I learned to look inside of myself for everything I really need. Now I end each day with gratitude and the wish for a long life because this feels so right to me.
My 3 years old daughter knows all the secrets to happiness, she's always happy. All the small details in life, just enjoy what she has and make the most of it.
I appreciate so so much how you emphasized that it's completely okay to keep a job because bills need to be paid and to keep a relationship if we need that security right now, instead of trying to pushing your viewers to change their lives even if they are not ready to. I love how understanding and empathic you are.
That is a very powerful and influential message! I’m a 59 year old American white male who was born and raised in the Christian,(Catholic),faith/religion.I have become quite interested in eastern philosophy and religions over the past few years,they actually make more sense to me and are a calming influence to me in these dangerous and hectic times we are living in today in this world.I’m strongly considering making a leap of faith so to speak and converting to the Buddhist religion/faith! I just want to learn some more about it first.I think i will get some books on Buddhism and read up on it,so i can learn more about it and make sure that it’s right for me.
You don’t have to convert or anything in order to comprehend the message. I was raised Christian, but I’ll find solace in Hinduism and their view of human nature, Buddhist pursuit of happiness, Sufism as a mystical expression of Islam, stoic teachings, Christian view of forgiveness….Everything can be a lesson when you are open to it. I’ll leave you from one of my favourite quotes from Taoism: The Tao that can be told is not the eternal . The Tao that can be named is not the eternal . The nameless is the beginning of heaven and earth. The named is the mother of ten thousand things.
Hey Robert, IMHO, being a 73 y.o. male, raised catholic, having studied Buddhism some and lived over in Thailand for a few years, and before that 1 year in Viet Nam in the USMC you can be a Buddhist now if you consider that the basic principles of the religion/faith make sense to you. And that goes without turning away from the Church or not. You can be a Buddhist and also be a Christian and a Taoist too... Even an atheist, i guess. You don't have to join in and go to the ceremonies, or to profess to believe any idea that does not seem right to your way of thinking. But maybe Buddhist monks can help guide you to become what you were meant to be. The story of Siddhartha is interesting and it makes its point, like and story. You don't have to "believe" the story to get the point. He found his way to enlightenment and so you are finding your way.
i believe buddhism religion was founded just from idiolizing gautama budha, i heard even him told them to not worship him , it was a way of life and a mindset but not a religion,he wanted them to realize the true nature of this reality
@@nickkeomahavong01 Im budist stay in forest temple in the past inn What suan Mok special what in Thailand wich monk have damma close the nature actual practise inside deep jungle but today when covid 19 arise in planet meny monnk demonstrate that deep inside then no escape from suffer dukka they cover mask in face and with this act schow how they are scare from onne nothing special and no danger virus real monk are free from fears iven is covid 19 so free from fears he never cover mask in face and today meny budist monk recive poison vacine and demonstrate how are far from buda brain wasch from mainstream media wich is fake and propaganda so buda will never recive vacine because buda teach no intoxicate body with poison and chemical product and drugs alchohol all of this demage for body and mind
@@ralphlaguna5433 There is a teaching which claims, "as within, so without". That seeking things to be happy will ensure you will never be fully happy, because there will always be more things. And that being happy seems to help you get things much easier. They come to you in some small way. But you said, life's basic necessities. That would be food, water, shelter and clothing, I believe. What do you mean as 'basic necessities'? Buddha taught 'the cessation of suffering'. And he was a mendicant monk.
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My friend sent me this video today. I'm sobbing. Finally there are words, an explanation to what i have been feeling for the last couple of years. Thank you! I now have a place to start 🙏🏾❤️
I was in my mid 50's before I questioned what I was doing with my life and closely examined what I had been taught as a child and what others expected me to do as an adult. I found peace. It's not a selfish thing. Quite the contrary. I find that there are more opportunities to serve others than ever before. At 62 years old now, I wish this peace for everyone, though most people don't understand, or so it seems.
My true nature has always been living life the way that it doesnt bother someone else. I have always preferred quietness and nature. But I lost myself while trying to overcome my introvert nature by trying to do what other people do for happiness. But slowly I have understood that it is important for me to live a life that makes me happy.
Namaste my brother. 🕉 I am a Muslim and I embrace that which agrees with Islam from Buddhism. I love you as part of my human family and I wish you blessings for your words of peace and wisdom.
This really got me crying, thinking about your wise words and thinking of my own life and what i could/should be doing and havent been honoring myself.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom. 🙏 When I was a child and then a young woman, I was so shy and I didn't feel comfortable about that. As years passed, I learned that I am a soul on a journey and I became self confident and discovered my own nature as a person who likes helping people, taking care of nature and that the most important thing in life is follow a spiritual path.
I can definitely relate to the "shy" part and not being comfortable with it. It also took me a very long time to own it. But once we know our nature, we can empower ourselves. Thank you so much for sharing Maria :)
I used to be so busy all day long, working hard everyday, full of stress, commitment, imsomnia and unhappy feeling. It changed slowly when i start knowing Dhamma. I started reduce my working hour, practice mindful and slow living as a habit, and have more time to my self, getting know my self, what i like, what i don't like, less commitment, less obligation, less stress, less anxiety, more time to my self, more good sleep, more time to meditate, more stable inside. Thank you so much Ven. Nick for your sharing. It resonates with me in many ways. May you always be healthy.. Sadhu.. Sadhu.. Sadhu..
Same here, after working hard for 27 years I quit the rat race about 4 years ago and now I'm spending more time with my family, take care of myself more and riding my electric unicycle around the park almost every day is so much fun.
Thank you Nick for sharing. I, like many people, suffer from the question: who am I? Today was a very sad day. I am suffering from anxiety disorder, the second time since 2019 but had these feelings like a young child. Never had save feelings in youth and growing up stages, everything can be a threat to me and with some good periods it always comes back to me. I am not who I am supposed to be. Struggling with what I want and what is the best option to me. I know I have to change, but it's so hard to take a decision. I love the way you became authentic to yourself, would be proud to reach that level. Many love to you.
Thank you so much my friend. It's okay, just be very gentle and compassionate with yourself. I'm not sure if you have a meditation or mindfulness practice, but it may be helpful for grounding 😊
@@nickkeomahavong01 thank you so much for your advise. I must retry earlier mindfulness practice to create some rest inside my mind and body. You really are the perfect example for change in a better way. Thank you for being here!
I got a burn-out 4 years ago and my therapist suggested to return to my true nature. This was the beginning of my journey. I am not there yet but the difference is enormous. Best advice I ever got. You tell the same wise words. Thank you!
I feel alone often in a crowd of people. Or overly affected by their perspectives and attitudes. I have a great sense of company when im amongst the trees
Actually you can make it work for you. Move out to a small town on the countryside for example and take a part time or full time job as a gardener or something serene like that. I did it, make very little money but am close to nature and a bit simpler but more down to earth people. I see life as an onion. You are the middle and the core of the onion. We get persuaded to grow a large and as fat of an onion as possible with as many layers as possible. Each layer represents material wealth and therefore possibilities in the external world. I used to travel twice a year, worked full time and had my own business on the side. I had a large and multilayered onion but I was never peaceful. These days I work part time only and keep to myself a lot and read books and pursue some casual guitar playing and photography. Very carefree at 31. And I also moved to a small rural town and therefore could buy my own apartment because the pricing is very low. So today I have a small income but also small day to day costs. I’m happy and thrive in my solitude. It’s not for everyone though.
@@alexanderstyrlander7991 not 4 everyone bec of the preferences. I think this easy lifestyle is whst everyone did like in the past. So its just the desire. I consinder or strive same Situation like u. Way more qualitative. Instead of quantities
@@alexanderstyrlander7991 l admire you, and your life style. My son lives a similar life as you. So proud of him, and your sharing about your life. Thank you.
I love this so much. I am 30 and honestly I'm so tired of this insane heavy life.... I need something different. Like true healing and a true transformation.
Good for you, it is called the rat race for a reason. it is also the matrix and your well being is not of an intrest to those who are pulling the strings.I wish we can all escape in to a free and joyfull loving respectfull life where sharing and caring is the norm. This system is built on fear (poverty, lack, loneliness, seperation from meaningfull occupation, relations with other humans and nature. It wants you working and consuming and becoming more and more unhappy and sick.
This video really registered with me, im making more money then I ever thought I would yet im still not happy at all (very depressed actually). Im a quiet person by nature and I just feel totally lost at times when I interact with people. Im like you I like deep conversations about life and not just boring chit chat about the most random things. Im gonna try to start meditating consistently again hopefully that can help. I really admire you for taking such a life altering course with what you did and am happy you seem to be very happy with your decision.
I honestly got exited when you started describing yourself lol I was like hey!! He’s an introvert like me! I’ve always just been really quiet and enjoyed sitting back and observing. I’ve never liked large crowds and always preferred to be with a small group or none at all.
I understand this now. My true nature is creating in my own time and taking care of animals, spending time in nature. I do love children but I prefer to be solitary and that is enough. I used to feel lonely, but I prefer being alone to create better. I would rather honor my creative self than resent my child because I need time alone. I want to treat myself the best that I possibly can and that can't be selfish when done with love.
Thanks for sharing your insight. I've been depressed and anxious for years. A few years ago I found myself at Chithurst Buddhist Monastery in the UK (in the lineage of Ajahn Char. I was lucky to live there for 18 months as the monastery Caretaker. Since leaving I got back into working for money in the care industry and as a sound therapist, and more recently self employed as a maintenance man. I've been in a relationship for the last 2 years with a caring spiritual woman. However I've still felt dissatisfied with my life, despite living right by the sea. I realised that I need more solitude and space to develop my spiritual practice. I have now decided to go back to Chithurst as a novice monk to understand myself and my true nature. I never thought I would ever become a Buddhist monk but the more I see if technological change in the world the more I seek refuge in a supportive, nurturing and environment. Wishing you metta and sending blessings to Thailand. 🙏
I think this is the best words of wisdom that anyone has ever shared with me. I am suffering because I have mal de debarquement syndrome from a plane ride 4 years ago. My brain is still on the plane due to some kind of freak disconnect between my eyes, ears and cerebellum. I feel like I am always in motion and cannot be still in my brain. Always swaying, bobbing, bouncing in my mind, I have turned to meditation and to you, Nick, to get myself back whole again or learn how to deal with a possible lifetime of having MdDS and yet not suffer anymore.
Ven. Nick, I have watched this video of yours three times, because it hits the nail on the head. Thank you. When I was growing up my parents would not have been surprised If I became a priest or a pastor or at least a monk like you. I was "one of those." But then I became educated, a writer, a poet, an author of books, but in the end none of them was me. Then I studied Advaita Vedanta, and then Theravada Buddhism, but they were not me either. Then I found it. A higher calling.
Thank you so much for this. I can really relate to you journey. I am in my 60s and it wasnt til my 40s that I learnt this. Your message should be taught in all schools then I am sure there would be less mental health issues in our society. I love your channel. Namaste.❤😊
Introvert. Hermit. Truth Seeker. This is me, but am feeling some sadness/grief with the loss of friends and family members as a result of honouring my true nature.
it is ok FB…like the seasons friends must come and go periodically as you grow…new space within yourself is born, and new friends will come, those that live in places like yours…every cycle of release, make more space, and then new friends brings in fewer friends each time, however they are always deeper and more wise
Hello nick. I am from the canary islands . One day a discoverd you in youtube and now i can't stop listening to all your coment. It realy helps me on my daily life . I discoverd budism a few years ago and i am in love with they way living and how they see
@@tawkinhedz Agree tkw…and also people often think karma is negative, it is neither negative or positive although it may effect you as so…it is merely a counterbalance to fruits sewn, and as such is designed to bring us back into equilibrium
I can relate to this I live in LA and it’s constant hustle as society puts it as what we need to do and coming from an immigrant background too. Its what’s expected but I am an introvert in an extrovert world
I experienced what you described because i just realized my job didn't suit my true nature... you turned the light on so I could see why I wasn't happy. I have left my job to pursue what I live which I feel more aligned with my true nature. Thank you Nick for your wisdom and genuine kindness.
Thank you for this! It makes sense for me. I am an Emergency Room physician. I love to help. I love to entertain. I have much suffering. It is funny because I am at my correct purpose in a foreign system. Your presentation here is helping me to address my own suffering and my own health. Your sharing here gives light that can help me feel better and live more.
i have tears....you speak to my heart....i have parents, they fleed as young man and women (20J) to an other country with a few money - they grow up during 2. World war...they raised up 4 children, always with not a lot of money... i am a hermit too and i love to learn a lot about this world and spirituality and my true nature... may elder brother and my parents died 4 J. ago...my younger brother was in Thailand 1 year as a monk.. Kup khun mak khaa 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🌸 thanks sooo much!
This was very helpful! I especially liked when you said that just because you are good at something, doesn’t mean that it honors your nature. I used to be a social worker, and was always told that I was a help to others. However,, witnessing the deep suffering of my clients on a daily basis took a huge toll on my health. My nature did not allow me to separate my personal life from the job, the way many of my colleagues could.
Ven. Nick...U are spreading so much love and purity into the world, enabling me, and I am sure others too, to allow myself to be who I am, even at 73, to be fully accepting the real me, that was always there, but never really accepted by my surrounding. I am so relieved, always, to listen to and absorb your goodness. Thank you so.
I have never considered Buddhism before but right now in this day and age, hearing this feels right. I am naturally a quiet introvert and I always feel that I never measure up to others expectations of who I should be. I try my best to work so hard and please everyone (which I never do btw, I always fall short) but I feel so tired and exhausted on the inside. I can work and work but I feel like I need rest. I cannot help who I am. I have learned that people's opinions don't matter, but it still hurts knowing I will never measure up. I was told by a kind person that I need to continue looking inward, but not in the way I have been doing it.
I don't know why this video was in my recommendation, I never searched for Buddhism or any other religion on youtube, but I watched it, and I am impressed!
Any time i listen to you i'm touched. you speak so quietly and it's like you know what is deeply hidden in me. my wish is to see you one day and discuss. thx you for all you do
True success is peace of mind. 💛 Sending love to all of you. Thank you for this video. I've been fighting my nature far too long. I will try to be better better about this.
Thank you for this. This validates what I only recently discovered about myself. In my culture, extroversion is valued so highly that societal institutions almost always have no place for introverts. In college a psychologist told me I needed help because I kept to myself and liked books better than socializing. Now I know there was nothing wrong with me. Unfortunately I need to keep a job I am unhappy in. But I'm working towards my freedom. One day I can be truly myself.
I can totally relate. I'm also from the Philippines, our culture doesn't really understand introversion. I wish you the best! May we become who we really are, in time. :)
Thank you for your insights and your calmness. I was a college professor and never understood why I hated teaching. Seriously, I couldn't stand it. As a result, I was lousy at it. I was always shy and loved being alone with a good book, yet I was making a living being in crowds (of students). As soon as I left the job, I was profoundly relieved and almost happy, in spite of the fact that my new job was less "prestigious." "Prestige" is based on what others think of you and your profession, not what you think of yourself. I'm not sure I've ever been--or will ever be--really happy, but I occasionally find contentment, which beats what I had before.
Analysing four generations in my own family, I believe highly sensitive person, empath, introvert suffers and *seeks for truth* all life. I adore someone like You who are so few who have mastered how to find inner peace. We all know how to do it but very difficult to achieve it :)
This video has helped me realize the importance of finding what fits our own mold/nature within ourselves that makes us happy. Whatever job/career, or relationships we choose, it is important to 1st identify if it is in alignment with who we truly are. Thank you for this video! I appreciate it.
Wow.... You just cleared up all of what is truly wrong with me in 17 min... And for free! 🥺 I have been to countless therapists and read TONS of books but nothing has spoke to me like you just did. 💗 Thank you for your insight and now to apply these tips so that maybe I can finally experience real joy, my joy that is based on my nature and not on what others try to force on me as joy. 🌹 Thank you
I'm a family oriented person. From my youngest age I never understood why everyone separated from their families. Obviously in certain situations families aren't safe but for me my family is everything but society says that men should be these strong, self reliant individuals and it shames those who don't fit that mould. It's taken me until my 30s to realise that what society says doesn't matter. I'm allowed to be me and live how I want to. I still freak out from time to time that I'm not living up to some kind of male standard but most of the time I realise it's okay to be me.
Yes of course, it's a great asset you have to be a family oriented person. Screw others, who may judge you as not being macho or whatnot. Standards set by the society are not right.
Trust yrselves, most people follow a path not necessary fullfilling(but it pay's the bills) You are intelligent and truthfull to your inner knowing(better than others beliefs)wishing you a happy fulfilled life
Very honest to say that Stuart. I felt the same way about families and it does suck. Other cultures who stick together is something something in these crazy times.
I love this true nature talk. It is hard to not constantly strive for perfection when all the while the perfection is in our heart. We have to go forth with courage … the courage of perfection.
This actually makes perfect sense. I just spent the last thirty years of my life working in a factory in Toronto. I made decent money because I worked with the machines, but I grew to despise it. I retired towards the end of 2019, early, and sold my house and moved to a small town near one of my sisters. I bought a one way ticket to Thailand for an extended trip to Asia. Then Covid put an abrupt end to that plan. I have always been a traveler. Since I was seven years old I have had the travel bug. It is a lifelong fantasy for me. I did quite a lot of travel while I worked because I had to. Not for my job, but for my sanity. I worked overtime for that next plane ticket, and felt pure joy when I was out in the world, seeing new people and all of their treasures and beautiful foods, and natural sites. So I totally understand what you mean by finding the opposite of suffering. Being home for too long makes me feel like a caged animal. So now I am using my time planning my travels for when this Covid is over and thinking about where I will visit. Thank you for this wonderful video, because although travel has always been my inner joy, you really put it all into perspective. Peace and love and light. ☮️💕
I too stray away from small talk and enjoy being alone, only talking to others when there is meaning behind it, and studying others to the point I know too much. I’ve tried living the American dream and it was the most unhappy I’d ever been, even though I had everything I was told I needed for happiness. Since then I’ve been lost, not knowing what to do in a society so unaware and unhappy even tho I’ve since found inner piece myself and continue to spread knowledge and help anyone I can. Ive felt so alone in my journey, going as far to think I was going crazy and getting out on medication. Come to find out I was more sane that I ever thought. I’m glad I’ve found your channel, hopefully we can talk some time.
It's amazing that you shared those pictures and your life with us.Really helped me to know you much much better.TY for your care for humanity.So Very much!
This video is "MY JOURNEY" the exact same!!!! I am an introvert, empath, & I have reached 777 spiritually❤ My calling, my purpose is to be a Life Coach, to travel the world & tell my story, to help others....this video is exactly what I have done, & now what I plan on doing!! I have the love for learning more about nature, spirituality, animals....I AM A TRUE BLESSING❤ THANK YOU...I can 110% relate!!
I have spent my entire life trying to live up to others expectations of me. Its been a struggle to let that go and live for myself and how I am designed.
This goes straight into my heart because it is exactly the journey I went through. I'll try to condense the story a little so it's not too long but as you and I seem like we are very similar in nature I suspect you might relate. As a young kid I was an observer. I watched bugs, animals, people, a glass of water.... all shapes of glass of water. I watched leaves, I watched wind, I watched grasses and weeds and grains of sand. Before long I got told I didn't engage enough, take enough space in the classroom and other "fit into the world" critiques and it planted the idea that I was the one that had to shape myself according to my environment. Fast forward at 22-23 I had up to 8 panic attacks a day, PTSD and several other issues. Life wasn't working and I realized that we weren't born with an instruction manual so we all are just guessing how to run this machine we call body in this environment we call life and I accepted that I evidently had guessed wrong. Next was "So how do I change the course of my life?" And how do you run a machine? The control room. I knew I had to "take control" of my brain through better management. 10 years deeper I am now free from depression, anxiety, etc and I'm now living on a farm in quietness near nature where I can observe nature all I want. I can sit in quietness and listen to the rhythmic sound of the cows grazing. The less I have to talk the happier I am. ❤ Bonus similarities I also love helping people with sufferings (but online because I don't have to talk) and I also love learning! :)
All of this💯 self-education is the best education🤞🏿 I love being by myself 99% of the time. I've been this way from I was a child= introvert. It made my mom very uncomfortable. I am very sensitive, very empathetic, very intuitive, very giving, and I was not too fond of this about myself. When I denied this part of me or tried to be someone or something that I wasn’t, I suffered tremendously🤞🏿 this is my true nature. Embracing all of me was the best thing I did for my life. It led me to my earthly calling. I am free💯
My body is dying because of health... lack of real sleep due to health ... i like this as an Filipino american we are hard workers, for me its not about status its about helping others being a good person was instilled by my parents and grandparents. Your words make me think yet my problem is i overthink..
Every culture has its specific thing, for Filipino people family is al you sacrifice yrself for, we want to be accepted and loved so we sell out, but yr inner voice will fight and struggle with the voice of yr father, mother , uncle... There is a battle going on
Thank you for this video. It was comforting for me. I suffered in the same way you did. I had to try out a couple of different careers and relationships. I have been meditating since 1976. It has brought me closet to God I believe. I finally found the relationship (marriage) that brings me peace happiness and fulfillment. I raised a son who is a lovely adult. I found what I love to do. Cooking and baking and I taught catechism for five years.I loved that too. I'm retired now and enjoying it and the things I like to do. I'm glad you are happy now.I don't feel so alone now in what I suffered.
This is such a beautiful video Ven. Nick. It resonates with me a lot. I worked in retail for 36 years. I loved helping people but I was so constricted by corporate policies & there was a toxic work environment. Now retired, I can be my free spirited, loving self. I still help people by being positive & supportive. Blessings always dear one❤️🙏🏻
Aww thats wonderful to hear how you are using your abilities to still help support others. Thats great. keep up the great work valerie. We need more of this great energy :)
Thank you. I feel like I am getting to know myself better in my thirties. I changed my job a couple of years ago so that I can have a slower life and experiment doing the things that I like. I feel more connected to myself now and I am starting to see things more clearly. I love your videos.
I’m very happy to finally find a teacher to fallow! I’m vegetarian for almost 3 years and I’m practicing meditation for 3 years. But I never had a good meditation until I found you! Thank you teacher! 🙏🏻 Please continue to teach us we are desperately need you! Sincerely, Oksana from Texas.
Nicks I don’t know where to start. I’m so grateful you make these videos and keep uploading regularly. Thank you for making me understand and accept my true nature. This is one of the most freeing feelings in the world!! ❤️😭 thank you again!!
Where do I begin. Thank you for sharing and being so open, unknowingly helping so many. This spoke volumes. I was always quiet and shy but thought this was abnormal so gradually changed myself to be outspoken worldly person that always felt unauthentic and sad. But I was always in truth deeply an introvert, hermit, quiet reflective person. I don’t even like to talk or be with people. I just can’t relate, everything seems so superficial. I love nature and giving. This is when I am truly happy. I am happy this opened my eyes to my true self and that’s ok. So much love to you Nick!! 🙏🏼
Thank you so much Cathy. I'm glad this resonates with you. I hope people can take the idea that however they are designed, ITS OKAY. We need to embrace ourselves fully :)
Thank you for sharing your own true life experience and your Buddhist wisdom, Ven. Nick. I hope you have finally found your happiness. Great advice. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
Hi venerable Nick I’m listening to this video again I’m turning 60 years old on Tuesday and I’ve had to live my whole life under other people’s expectations of me I’ve also lived under mental abuse and fear my 3 children are now grown adults married and living their own lives and I’m divorced but the sad thing is I feel lost and lonely with no direction it’s almost like I’ve wasted my life allowing such treatment I wish I could have had the sense to follow my own path with strength and dignity and found my true self and walked my own path instead of being a victim to other people’s expectations I feel stuck in a rut and don’t know what to do anymore to help make myself feel better thank you so much for speaking truth and wisdom
Wonderful and insightful video! I wish everyone could watch this and learn. I feel like with the toxic influence of social media, people want to live these fake and superficial lives. They will never find out who they really are by following the crowd. The best thing I ever did was get off social media four years ago. My life is at peace and I can learn and study without negative influences. Thank you for this channel. 🙏
Thank you so much. Yes you are absolutely right about social media. It has magnified and influenced our culture so much. I hope people can find the balance soon :)
That is quite admirable that you’ve been off social media for 4 years! I have had several attempts at deleting it, but I always go back, why ? I do not know.
@@kellyssimplesouthernlife2174 You can do it! I think it's that dopamine hit that people crave with social media, even if it's on a subconscious level. It gets addicting. Trust me, you aren't missing anything in life by not having it. I communicate with people the old fashioned way...email, phone and messenger. 😊 No drama, no toxic negativity, no noise. It's wonderful. Try it in baby steps. You will find you just don't need it anymore to live a good life. YT I still use but you can choose what you watch, so it's a great source for learning. This channel, for example. 😊. Good luck!
Thank you, Nick, for a lovely presentation of attending to our true nature. I have spent so many years disliking and punishing myself for not being as good as others. I'm starting to understand, through my own Buddhist practice and now your guidance, that I'm good enough as me. Namaste 🙏
Turning inward after repeated experience that all outward appetites prove ultimately fruitless and empty, is to discover a bottomless ocean of harmony both within and without. This is the flowering of a sustaining true love within oneself, and ultimately a calmer loving peace with the world you have chosen to come into, in all it's forms, and without judgement. Thank you for this insight.
Thank you for reminding us of the blessing of authenticity! It has been a difficult lesson but I keep moving forward... greetings from Richardson Texas!
Dear Nick, Thank you for this video. The magic serendipity of the RUclips algorithm made recommended me this video and it is reaching me with perfect timing. Seeing the images from your past and you sharing your story makes it much more relatable and will help me with some of my upcoming decisions.
Your words are so true Beto,I truly affirm what you too have experienced, me more recently the last few days in fact. It's been so amazing and the soul Nd depth that one is being guided by Nik.is outstanding. Videos of icy water,meditation by babbling Brook and the thought about 15/20 minutes through the meditation " breathe" Made me realise yes! Thanks to this series truly loving the sincerity of it at this time in2021. Espavo! NAMASTE Blessings To all Beingness.
With all the "spiritual teachers" online this man is the real deal. I can say that absolutely with watching just 1,5 videos. He goes straight to the bulls eye. Finally! Thank you!
I am very grateful that i found you. 2 months ago i got panic attack doctor put me on antidepressants. Doing tm meditatitoon twice a day with cold shower, helped me a lot. Today i feel a bit down and i am glad that i found your video. :) All the time running from job to job nothing from that makes me happy, but i know i feel that stillness and peace are somewhere deep inside me .
Objectively examine your life. Now answer this question: What has always been YOUR true nature?
Self confidence
Who I should be? Finish grad school and work to pay endless bills 💸
Who you want to be? I want to be happy with my job but....... honestly I am miserable with my current job. Please let's keep this hush hush 🤫
Who you are? Since I find joy traveling the world, I would like to visit less developed countries in order to help people in need, whether it be assisting with public projects, financially, medically, etc. In short, I want to live a more meaningful life than I do now and be able to contribute to the life of those less fortunate. That for me would be personally satisfying.
Thank you for putting out such thought provoking questions. It makes people reexamine their lives, my life.
Take care always Nick ✌🏻
@@Seyva209 :)
@@juliaangelicaa5395 WOW! thank you julia. I love how you took the time to lay it all out. It's very beautiful to see how our lives can be disconnected. They way you describe traveling is beautiful. I hope you'll get a chance to pursue that more :)
Thank You
It’s incredible how difficult is for people to understand why some of us don’t fit in their definition of success. For me success is inner peace. Thank you 🙏
Thank you so much Ana :-) greetings to you from thailand.
Succes for me is that i don´t have speciel interest in material things, working with nature at my job, my bonsai trees and of course studying wisdom. I wont say that i am at peace, because that´s very diffecult to obtain in this universel cycle - The age of Kali.
perhaps you should care less about what other people think
@@cinereus3601 I think you misread the comment that you responded to. They didn't say that it was difficult for them because other people don't understand. They said that they are amazed at how difficult it is for other people to understand/be accepting of contrary points of view/ways of living.
@@cburne1051 I understood what she was trying to say. And again, why care what other people think or why other people have trouble understanding things. It only gives you a false sense of superiority. She is talking about "they" and "us". We all follow a different path and some of us are at a different stage in life.
Im also an introvert. An hermit. I dont fit into society. I am at peace in my personal space & happy with my choices. I realised its not about pleasing people. Do what aligns with your inner peace & happiness. I enjoy deep conversations & understanding people's emotions. Thank you Nick. Profound advice.
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much
Hi Nick thank you for your videos they really speak to me and nourish my soul’ I was born and raised into a ethnic group who suffered rejection and both my parents were binge alcoholic’s I didn’t get a education and life has been very difficult being surrounded with toxic narcissistic people I’ve cut myself away from them in recent years as it nearly destroyed my mental health ‘ but I’ve got my Christian faith although I’m not a brilliant Christian as god knows but I try my best to be kind to ppl and I have found your channel and it’s helping me a lot also 2more channels that are also helping me I’m working on my house to be minimalistic and get my life on track as much as possible and like a natural therapeutic like as humanly possible’ thank you so much for sharing your amazing videos
Its amazing how many people are feeling this exact same way, from all walks of life. We aren't taught to be true to ourself. We are taught money money money money work work work work!!!!! It's madness.
You are right and we all fall into this ideology unfortunately. I wish we were taught to be ourselves first then go from there.
Exactly maybe then the world wouldn’t be so stressful and crazy
The hard part is when you're partner has a totally different idea of what success is. How to navigate living very differently in the same house. Or trying to!
@@goldielocs4359 you need to be with who respects your believes.
I was an engineer for 1.5 years. I earned more money than any other job, but I was the most depressed I'd ever been. now i spend a lot of time in the woods. definitely by no means perfect but a lot happier. I like to skateboard and rock climb also
great - the best proof that money doesn’t make you completely happy ;-)
@@OGecalien you don't need a shrink to do that. Leave the job you hate, simplify and pare down your life so you can work doing something you enjoy even if you make a lot less. Spend time in nature, try new things to see what you really love. Therapy goes nowhere.
@@catherineshaw1122 if he doesn’t earn a good income, how will he get married and have kids? Won’t it become harder to find a good wife?
Eric Carrillo being aware that you are unhappy is good it means you want change, you should check out Eckard Tollie and start meditating today. You got this :)
@John Smith I honestly don't want to get married or have kids. If I happen to get into a long term relationship thats one thing, but a legal binding contract doesn't seem logical to me. And kids would really stress me out, I have no desire for that. And any women that cares that much about status or material things is not for me.
I have reached a point in my life where I am profoundly silent, going through my life seperating myself from what doesn't serve me any longer, and I find myself pulling away from people because their energy weighs heavy on me.
Rather, I prefer to be on my own, doing things on my own, and it is when I'm in silence that I am most peaceful. I have also gone into living minimalistically. I don't use use my finances to "over purchase" anymore. I simply use them as a means for security so I dwell in financial abundance because of that. Because I no longer long to "have things".
People think that I'm reverting into depression, but that isn't it at all. I have never been happier than in this present moment and I guess the fear of those who don't understand find themselves confused, but it is my life and my journey and slowly I am building my foundation in complete peace and tranquility because it's what I've always longed for.
Thank you for your video. It is of great value to me to realize that I am in fact living my best life at the moment. For the future, I can only hope to dig deeper into my spirituality and continue to find resourcefulness within myself.
Do you live alone? Retired. Staying in for Covid reasons. Asking because at my stage of life, I’m lonely. Will focus on minimalizing..that calls to me. I just want more people around. I like what this guy is saying. I like both, being with people and being alone. At 79, still growing.
@@lesliegreen1237 meditation if you do it right helps with loneliness / aloneness. You stop feeling like needing people and "things" to keep you happy and slowly zliely start to realise you are just fine by yourself and as you are :)
That's not to say you shouldn't strive though . it will teach you to be patient ..over time
@@vvelvettearss thanks for your response. Meditation is very good for so many reasons. I think what I’m expressing is this: when I have a choice, knowing I can be around people, I enjoy aloneness. When I feel no choice, that’s when I can feel lonely. I love my own time to think, to be, and so forth, just being me. Yet I love socializing too. I think not having children or grandchildren is a ‘decision’ I didn’t think thru. This Covid time has been good for me because I’m reaching out & making closer friends…not sure your age..I’ve done so much throughout my life including meditation, and still am avid about expanding and growing…I’m happy you connected with me. Yet another soul in the world who (while I’ll never know you in person) I’ve connected with…albeit briefly. I just truly like knowing other people’s situations. I find it fascinating & also learn , perhaps, yet another new thing. Again, thank you for taking the time to answer. And being open as to who you are. 😊
@@lesliegreen2183 oh well thankyou most kindly :)
that touched me
I'm 32 this year and do get lonely my self. I can also relate to feeling panicked if "forced" to be around people and craving an escape to solitude which I regularly feel haha
and equally in a similar league I'm also childless and have never tried very hard to find or keep a partner which in the world these days often means a lot of older men and women are more likely to be alone for very long periods a day unless they have a very large regular group and social outlet.
I'm working on the above and slowly realising the importance of the internet for maintaining human contact too as I have friends but perhaps I'm a hermit at heart :D
We all need each other when times get tough
I'm very happy you connected with me also and glad that my message was some benefit :)
have a nice day !
Excellent
God bless you
I found this advice to be absolutely true. I am now 82. I lived much of my life till age 46 out of alignment with my true nature. It took years to move into and through depression until I slowly realized that I felt peace and quiet fulfillment living the new life I had moved into by letting go of my old life and dream. I felt like I had let go of everything, but I learned to look inside of myself for everything I really need. Now I end each day with gratitude and the wish for a long life because this feels so right to me.
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much for taking the time to share your experience. It's beautiful.
Love your comment..Thank you for sharing 💓
Beautifully! I wrote your comment in my journal. Thank you
My 3 years old daughter knows all the secrets to happiness, she's always happy. All the small details in life, just enjoy what she has and make the most of it.
Yes we can learn so much from them :-) they're beautiful
That’s beautiful! Congrats 🌸
My daughter is my biggest teacher...
there is no secret, that is the secret :))
Great advice ! Tks
I appreciate so so much how you emphasized that it's completely okay to keep a job because bills need to be paid and to keep a relationship if we need that security right now, instead of trying to pushing your viewers to change their lives even if they are not ready to. I love how understanding and empathic you are.
Thank you Elena 😊
"The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything"
- Unknown
Thats a great quote. thank you for sharing :)
I'm new to your channel and I can't stop listening to so much good wisdom. Thank you, as I need this in a time of turbulence. Just subscribed.
I really like the way you bring mental health in to Buddhism!
Thank you so much my friend :-)
You should read the Dhammapada. The whole thing is like a mental health book.
Thats how the practice tends to be honestly, overall wellbeing is core to the practice after all
That is a very powerful and influential message! I’m a 59 year old American white male who was born and raised in the Christian,(Catholic),faith/religion.I have become quite interested in eastern philosophy and religions over the past few years,they actually make more sense to me and are a calming influence to me in these dangerous and hectic times we are living in today in this world.I’m strongly considering making a leap of faith so to speak and converting to the Buddhist religion/faith! I just want to learn some more about it first.I think i will get some books on Buddhism and read up on it,so i can learn more about it and make sure that it’s right for me.
You don’t have to convert or anything in order to comprehend the message. I was raised Christian, but I’ll find solace in Hinduism and their view of human nature, Buddhist pursuit of happiness, Sufism as a mystical expression of Islam, stoic teachings, Christian view of forgiveness….Everything can be a lesson when you are open to it. I’ll leave you from one of my favourite quotes from Taoism: The Tao that can be told is not the eternal . The Tao that can be named is not the eternal . The nameless is the beginning of heaven and earth. The named is the mother of ten thousand things.
Hey Robert, IMHO, being a 73 y.o. male, raised catholic, having studied Buddhism some and lived over in Thailand for a few years, and before that 1 year in Viet Nam in the USMC you can be a Buddhist now if you consider that the basic principles of the religion/faith make sense to you. And that goes without turning away from the Church or not. You can be a Buddhist and also be a Christian and a Taoist too... Even an atheist, i guess.
You don't have to join in and go to the ceremonies, or to profess to believe any idea that does not seem right to your way of thinking. But maybe Buddhist monks can help guide you to become what you were meant to be.
The story of Siddhartha is interesting and it makes its point, like and story. You don't have to "believe" the story to get the point. He found his way to enlightenment and so you are finding your way.
i believe buddhism religion was founded just from idiolizing gautama budha, i heard even him told them to not worship him , it was a way of life and a mindset but not a religion,he wanted them to realize the true nature of this reality
I was a christian for 30 years, then I read the ENTIRE bible. Now I'm atheist.
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius is a great read. So is the Tao Te Ching.
The greatest success in life is happiness. We seek many things, looking for happiness. But when we are happy, we seek nothing else. - Aristotle.
Beautiful ❤❤❤
@@nickkeomahavong01 Im budist stay in forest temple in the past inn What suan Mok special what in Thailand wich monk have damma close the nature actual practise inside deep jungle but today when covid 19 arise in planet meny monnk demonstrate that deep inside then no escape from suffer dukka they cover mask in face and with this act schow how they are scare from onne nothing special and no danger virus real monk are free from fears iven is covid 19 so free from fears he never cover mask in face and today meny budist monk recive poison vacine and demonstrate how are far from buda brain wasch from mainstream media wich is fake and propaganda so buda will never recive vacine because buda teach no intoxicate body with poison and chemical product and drugs alchohol all of this demage for body and mind
@@ralphlaguna5433 There is a teaching which claims, "as within, so without".
That seeking things to be happy will ensure you will never be fully happy, because there will always be more things. And that being happy seems to help you get things much easier. They come to you in some small way.
But you said, life's basic necessities. That would be food, water, shelter and clothing, I believe. What do you mean as 'basic necessities'?
Buddha taught 'the cessation of suffering'. And he was a mendicant monk.
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如果是佛弟子求解脫，放生時，將功德回向給法界眾生。如果是俗人求財，可將功德回向給自己的事業。如果家有病人，將功德回向給病人。都會有很好的效果。
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My friend sent me this video today. I'm sobbing. Finally there are words, an explanation to what i have been feeling for the last couple of years. Thank you! I now have a place to start 🙏🏾❤️
Welcome to the channel and I’m glad this video resonates with you tiffany 😊
@@nickkeomahavong01 Thank you so much!!
Start today sweet soul. Ven Nick shared on routine to consider in morning and evening. Very wise. Wishing you peace and alignment in your new journey.
@@SundayBoy72 Thank you!!!
I was in my mid 50's before I questioned what I was doing with my life and closely examined what I had been taught as a child and what others expected me to do as an adult. I found peace. It's not a selfish thing. Quite the contrary. I find that there are more opportunities to serve others than ever before. At 62 years old now, I wish this peace for everyone, though most people don't understand, or so it seems.
Yes you are right and i am in my 30s now...sometimes I feel that what I am doing in my life
Omg the dedication of replying to so many messages is amazing and makes these videos more personal. Thank you for this important message 🙏🙏
Aww thank you so much nick. I try my best 😊😊
My true nature has always been living life the way that it doesnt bother someone else. I have always preferred quietness and nature. But I lost myself while trying to overcome my introvert nature by trying to do what other people do for happiness. But slowly I have understood that it is important for me to live a life that makes me happy.
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you wimal.
The better I get to know myself, the more connected I feel. I will never be lonely.
Namaste my brother. 🕉 I am a Muslim and I embrace that which agrees with Islam from Buddhism. I love you as part of my human family and I wish you blessings for your words of peace and wisdom.
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you rogerio.
This really got me crying, thinking about your wise words and thinking of my own life and what i could/should be doing and havent been honoring myself.
Thank you so much. Yes please take the time to reflect and examine your life. Its never too late to start implementing these new changes ❤❤
Im teary too❤️
Thanks for sharing your wisdom. 🙏
When I was a child and then a young woman, I was so shy and I didn't feel comfortable about that. As years passed, I learned that I am a soul on a journey and I became self confident and discovered my own nature as a person who likes helping people, taking care of nature and that the most important thing in life is follow a spiritual path.
I can definitely relate to the "shy" part and not being comfortable with it. It also took me a very long time to own it. But once we know our nature, we can empower ourselves. Thank you so much for sharing Maria :)
I used to be so busy all day long, working hard everyday, full of stress, commitment, imsomnia and unhappy feeling. It changed slowly when i start knowing Dhamma. I started reduce my working hour, practice mindful and slow living as a habit, and have more time to my self, getting know my self, what i like, what i don't like, less commitment, less obligation, less stress, less anxiety, more time to my self, more good sleep, more time to meditate, more stable inside.
Thank you so much Ven. Nick for your sharing. It resonates with me in many ways. May you always be healthy.. Sadhu.. Sadhu.. Sadhu..
Thats so wonderful to hear Yenni. I'm glad you had this opportunity to slow down, reflect and implement tht changes. Keep up the great work :)
Same here, after working hard for 27 years I quit the rat race about 4 years ago and now I'm spending more time with my family, take care of myself more and riding my electric unicycle around the park almost every day is so much fun.
Thank you Nick for sharing. I, like many people, suffer from the question: who am I? Today was a very sad day. I am suffering from anxiety disorder, the second time since 2019 but had these feelings like a young child. Never had save feelings in youth and growing up stages, everything can be a threat to me and with some good periods it always comes back to me. I am not who I am supposed to be. Struggling with what I want and what is the best option to me. I know I have to change, but it's so hard to take a decision. I love the way you became authentic to yourself, would be proud to reach that level. Many love to you.
Thank you so much my friend. It's okay, just be very gentle and compassionate with yourself. I'm not sure if you have a meditation or mindfulness practice, but it may be helpful for grounding 😊
@@nickkeomahavong01 thank you so much for your advise. I must retry earlier mindfulness practice to create some rest inside my mind and body. You really are the perfect example for change in a better way. Thank you for being here!
I got a burn-out 4 years ago and my therapist suggested to return to my true nature. This was the beginning of my journey. I am not there yet but the difference is enormous. Best advice I ever got. You tell the same wise words. Thank you!
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I feel alone often in a crowd of people. Or overly affected by their perspectives and attitudes. I have a great sense of company when im amongst the trees
Who looks outside dreams - Who looks inside awakes (Carl Jung) Thank you for this and the other videos!
I like being alone and exploring my inner nature. But that's not how today life's working.
Yes the environment can be challenging at times.
@Jay M Just get out of situation when you can.
Actually you can make it work for you. Move out to a small town on the countryside for example and take a part time or full time job as a gardener or something serene like that. I did it, make very little money but am close to nature and a bit simpler but more down to earth people.
I see life as an onion. You are the middle and the core of the onion. We get persuaded to grow a large and as fat of an onion as possible with as many layers as possible. Each layer represents material wealth and therefore possibilities in the external world. I used to travel twice a year, worked full time and had my own business on the side. I had a large and multilayered onion but I was never peaceful. These days I work part time only and keep to myself a lot and read books and pursue some casual guitar playing and photography. Very carefree at 31. And I also moved to a small rural town and therefore could buy my own apartment because the pricing is very low. So today I have a small income but also small day to day costs. I’m happy and thrive in my solitude. It’s not for everyone though.
@@alexanderstyrlander7991 not 4 everyone bec of the preferences. I think this easy lifestyle is whst everyone did like in the past.
So its just the desire.
I consinder or strive same Situation like u. Way more qualitative. Instead of quantities
@@alexanderstyrlander7991 l admire you, and your life style. My son lives a similar life as you. So proud of him, and your sharing about your life. Thank you.
My life began to change for good when I started meditating and developed awareness.. thats when the magic starts. Thank you so much♥️♥️♥️
Wonderful 😊😊
I was also born from Dutch immigrant parents. I discovered your videos yesterday and I cannot stop watching. In one day you have taught me so much. ❤️
Aww thank you so much and welcome to the channel 😊
I love this so much. I am 30 and honestly I'm so tired of this insane heavy life.... I need something different. Like true healing and a true transformation.
Yes slowly take the time to design a life that honors your nature. It's worth it :)
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Good for you, it is called the rat race for a reason. it is also the matrix and your well being is not of an intrest to those who are pulling the strings.I wish we can all escape in to a free and joyfull loving respectfull life where sharing and caring is the norm. This system is built on fear (poverty, lack, loneliness, seperation from meaningfull occupation, relations with other humans and nature. It wants you working and consuming and becoming more and more unhappy and sick.
@@nickkeomahavong01 … how wonderful. I have transitioned from science to the arts over 20 years. I am suffering less!!! Bless you my friend. 🙏🙏
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This video really registered with me, im making more money then I ever thought I would yet im still not happy at all (very depressed actually). Im a quiet person by nature and I just feel totally lost at times when I interact with people. Im like you I like deep conversations about life and not just boring chit chat about the most random things. Im gonna try to start meditating consistently again hopefully that can help. I really admire you for taking such a life altering course with what you did and am happy you seem to be very happy with your decision.
Thank you so much Cody. Yes please take up meditation. It will only help you along your path. Please keep us updated on your progress :)
I honestly got exited when you started describing yourself lol I was like hey!! He’s an introvert like me! I’ve always just been really quiet and enjoyed sitting back and observing. I’ve never liked large crowds and always preferred to be with a small group or none at all.
Wonderful. I'm always glad to hear from a fellow extrovert :)
I am happy for buddism coming into my life at this time!! Heaven bless you for helping all of us lost souls out here.
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂it's my pleasure.
I come here to learn English and the monk also teaches me about life 😁 I’m so happy and honored .... thank you thank you 🙏🏻
I understand this now. My true nature is creating in my own time and taking care of animals, spending time in nature. I do love children but I prefer to be solitary and that is enough. I used to feel lonely, but I prefer being alone to create better. I would rather honor my creative self than resent my child because I need time alone. I want to treat myself the best that I possibly can and that can't be selfish when done with love.
Thanks for sharing your insight. I've been depressed and anxious for years. A few years ago I found myself at Chithurst Buddhist Monastery in the UK (in the lineage of Ajahn Char. I was lucky to live there for 18 months as the monastery Caretaker. Since leaving I got back into working for money in the care industry and as a sound therapist, and more recently self employed as a maintenance man. I've been in a relationship for the last 2 years with a caring spiritual woman. However I've still felt dissatisfied with my life, despite living right by the sea. I realised that I need more solitude and space to develop my spiritual practice. I have now decided to go back to Chithurst as a novice monk to understand myself and my true nature. I never thought I would ever become a Buddhist monk but the more I see if technological change in the world the more I seek refuge in a supportive, nurturing and environment. Wishing you metta and sending blessings to Thailand. 🙏
Wow. Sadhu sadhu. That is so wonderful to hear. Rejoice in your merits of ordination my friend. anumotanaboon.
I think this is the best words of wisdom that anyone has ever shared with me. I am suffering because I have mal de debarquement syndrome from a plane ride 4 years ago. My brain is still on the plane due to some kind of freak disconnect between my eyes, ears and cerebellum. I feel like I am always in motion and cannot be still in my brain. Always swaying, bobbing, bouncing in my mind, I have turned to meditation and to you, Nick, to get myself back whole again or learn how to deal with a possible lifetime of having MdDS and yet not suffer anymore.
I’m glad the videos are helpful. May you have a speedy recovery Debra! Sending you my blessings 😊😊
Ven. Nick, I have watched this video of yours three times, because it hits the nail on the head. Thank you. When I was growing up my parents would not have been surprised If I became a priest or a pastor or at least a monk like you. I was "one of those." But then I became educated, a writer, a poet, an author of books, but in the end none of them was me. Then I studied Advaita Vedanta, and then Theravada Buddhism, but they were not me either. Then I found it. A higher calling.
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Thank you so much for this. I can really relate to you journey. I am in my 60s and it wasnt til my 40s that I learnt this. Your message should be taught in all schools then I am sure there would be less mental health issues in our society. I love your channel. Namaste.❤😊
Thank you so much for your kind words :-)
Introvert. Hermit. Truth Seeker. This is me, but am feeling some sadness/grief with the loss of friends and family members as a result of honouring my true nature.
Yes that's normal to feel. Just observe it and let it pass through.
it is ok FB…like the seasons friends must come and go periodically as you grow…new space within yourself is born, and new friends will come, those that live in places like yours…every cycle of release, make more space, and then new friends brings in fewer friends each time, however they are always deeper and more wise
Hello nick. I am from the canary islands . One day a discoverd you in youtube and now i can't stop listening to all your coment. It realy helps me on my daily life . I discoverd budism a few years ago and i am in love with they way living and how they see
Remember too, no matter what karmas you plant, it requires others to fruit. People are the soil that provide our karmas the base to grow.
@@tawkinhedz Agree tkw…and also people often think karma is negative, it is neither negative or positive although it may effect you as so…it is merely a counterbalance to fruits sewn, and as such is designed to bring us back into equilibrium
I can relate to this I live in LA and it’s constant hustle as society puts it as what we need to do and coming from an immigrant background too. Its what’s expected but I am an introvert in an extrovert world
One of the best RUclips channels. You're very easy to understand and have the information sink in and remember. Thank you!
Aww thank you so much for your kindness 😊😊
I experienced what you described because i just realized my job didn't suit my true nature... you turned the light on so I could see why I wasn't happy. I have left my job to pursue what I live which I feel more aligned with my true nature. Thank you Nick for your wisdom and genuine kindness.
And that is so wonderful to hear Denny. Keep up the great work :-)
Thank you for this! It makes sense for me. I am an Emergency Room physician. I love to help. I love to entertain. I have much suffering. It is funny because I am at my correct purpose in a foreign system. Your presentation here is helping me to address my own suffering and my own health. Your sharing here gives light that can help me feel better and live more.
I’m glad it’s helpful 😊
Wow i can see the deep emotion in you Nick, more so than any other video of yours, thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience with all of us.
Awww thank you so much Beau. Its been a very long journey, but I'm glad to have an opportunity to share 😊😊
After listening to this video and reading you guys comments I feel some much more at peace with myself knowing I’m not alone in my solitude.
You'll feel better if i tell you nobody has literally visited me for the last 11 years (not once) even though i see people everyday outside.
A feeling of inner peace
@@ericastier1646 that seems so peacefully honestly.
i have tears....you speak to my heart....i have parents, they fleed as young man and women (20J) to an other country with a few money - they grow up during 2. World war...they raised up 4 children, always with not a lot of money...
i am a hermit too and i love to learn a lot about this world and spirituality and my true nature...
may elder brother and my parents died 4 J. ago...my younger brother was in Thailand 1 year as a monk..
Kup khun mak khaa 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🌸 thanks sooo much!
My heart goes out to you Fioretta. Sending blessing to you and your family at this time :)
@@nickkeomahavong01 much thanks!
You are a Master with inner wisdom....🙏
This video opened a new world to me. Thank you very much 🙏🏻. Sadhu
Wonderful. I'm glad to hear :-) thank you my friend
This was very helpful! I especially liked when you said that just because you are good at something, doesn’t mean that it honors your nature. I used to be a social worker, and was always told that I was a help to others. However,, witnessing the deep suffering of my clients on a daily basis took a huge toll on my health. My nature did not allow me to separate my personal life from the job, the way many of my colleagues could.
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Ven. Nick...U are spreading so much love and purity into the world, enabling me, and I am sure others too, to allow myself to be who I am, even at 73, to be fully accepting the real me, that was always there, but never really accepted by my surrounding. I am so relieved, always, to listen to and absorb your goodness. Thank you so.
Aww thank you so much Dina and please keep shining 😊😊 we need you!
I have never considered Buddhism before but right now in this day and age, hearing this feels right. I am naturally a quiet introvert and I always feel that I never measure up to others expectations of who I should be. I try my best to work so hard and please everyone (which I never do btw, I always fall short) but I feel so tired and exhausted on the inside. I can work and work but I feel like I need rest. I cannot help who I am. I have learned that people's opinions don't matter, but it still hurts knowing I will never measure up. I was told by a kind person that I need to continue looking inward, but not in the way I have been doing it.
Yes the practice of daily meditation help help bring us more clarity. Keep practicing my friend. It takes time.
I don't know why this video was in my recommendation, I never searched for Buddhism or any other religion on youtube, but I watched it, and I am impressed!
Thank you Michael 😊
maybe you were suffering and this is his topic.
Any time i listen to you i'm touched. you speak so quietly and it's like you know what is deeply hidden in me. my wish is to see you one day and discuss. thx you for all you do
sadhu sadhu. Thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂 Glad it's helpful.
Venerable Nick I honor the divine within you!
Thank you so much eve 😊
True success is peace of mind. 💛 Sending love to all of you.
Thank you for this video. I've been fighting my nature far too long.
I will try to be better better about this.
Thank you for this. This validates what I only recently discovered about myself. In my culture, extroversion is valued so highly that societal institutions almost always have no place for introverts. In college a psychologist told me I needed help because I kept to myself and liked books better than socializing. Now I know there was nothing wrong with me. Unfortunately I need to keep a job I am unhappy in. But I'm working towards my freedom. One day I can be truly myself.
I can totally relate. I'm also from the Philippines, our culture doesn't really understand introversion. I wish you the best! May we become who we really are, in time. :)
Thank you for your insights and your calmness. I was a college professor and never understood why I hated teaching. Seriously, I couldn't stand it. As a result, I was lousy at it. I was always shy and loved being alone with a good book, yet I was making a living being in crowds (of students). As soon as I left the job, I was profoundly relieved and almost happy, in spite of the fact that my new job was less "prestigious." "Prestige" is based on what others think of you and your profession, not what you think of yourself. I'm not sure I've ever been--or will ever be--really happy, but I occasionally find contentment, which beats what I had before.
Beautiful Harold. Thank you for taking the time to share. That's wonderful 😌😌
Analysing four generations in my own family, I believe highly sensitive person, empath, introvert suffers and *seeks for truth* all life. I adore someone like You who are so few who have mastered how to find inner peace. We all know how to do it but very difficult to achieve it :)
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you Simona
Thank you for sharing this RUclips Video. The more you seek materially and trying to live the big American dream the more stress and unhappiness.
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This video has helped me realize the importance of finding what fits our own mold/nature within ourselves that makes us happy. Whatever job/career, or relationships we choose, it is important to 1st identify if it is in alignment with who we truly are. Thank you for this video! I appreciate it.
Wow.... You just cleared up all of what is truly wrong with me in 17 min... And for free! 🥺 I have been to countless therapists and read TONS of books but nothing has spoke to me like you just did. 💗 Thank you for your insight and now to apply these tips so that maybe I can finally experience real joy, my joy that is based on my nature and not on what others try to force on me as joy. 🌹 Thank you
Thank you so much my friend. I'm glad it was helpful :-) keep up the great work and also keep us updated on your progress.
I'm a family oriented person. From my youngest age I never understood why everyone separated from their families. Obviously in certain situations families aren't safe but for me my family is everything but society says that men should be these strong, self reliant individuals and it shames those who don't fit that mould. It's taken me until my 30s to realise that what society says doesn't matter. I'm allowed to be me and live how I want to. I still freak out from time to time that I'm not living up to some kind of male standard but most of the time I realise it's okay to be me.
Yes of course, it's a great asset you have to be a family oriented person. Screw others, who may judge you as not being macho or whatnot. Standards set by the society are not right.
Trust yrselves, most people follow a path not necessary fullfilling(but it pay's the bills) You are intelligent and truthfull to your inner knowing(better than others beliefs)wishing you a happy fulfilled life
Very honest to say that Stuart. I felt the same way about families and it does suck. Other cultures who stick together is something something in these crazy times.
to honor one's nature
Yay! I’m glad it helped 😊
Dear Nick ,
this one is one of the most important topic in our lives and you truly showed your deep knowledge of human mind....
Thank you so much my friend 😊😊
I love this true nature talk. It is hard to not constantly strive for perfection when all the while the perfection is in our heart. We have to go forth with courage … the courage of perfection.
Beautiful my friend :)
This actually makes perfect sense. I just spent the last thirty years of my life working in a factory in Toronto. I made decent money because I worked with the machines, but I grew to despise it. I retired towards the end of 2019, early, and sold my house and moved to a small town near one of my sisters. I bought a one way ticket to Thailand for an extended trip to Asia. Then Covid put an abrupt end to that plan. I have always been a traveler. Since I was seven years old I have had the travel bug. It is a lifelong fantasy for me. I did quite a lot of travel while I worked because I had to. Not for my job, but for my sanity. I worked overtime for that next plane ticket, and felt pure joy when I was out in the world, seeing new people and all of their treasures and beautiful foods, and natural sites. So I totally understand what you mean by finding the opposite of suffering. Being home for too long makes me feel like a caged animal. So now I am using my time planning my travels for when this Covid is over and thinking about where I will visit. Thank you for this wonderful video, because although travel has always been my inner joy, you really put it all into perspective. Peace and love and light. ☮️💕
I too stray away from small talk and enjoy being alone, only talking to others when there is meaning behind it, and studying others to the point I know too much. I’ve tried living the American dream and it was the most unhappy I’d ever been, even though I had everything I was told I needed for happiness. Since then I’ve been lost, not knowing what to do in a society so unaware and unhappy even tho I’ve since found inner piece myself and continue to spread knowledge and help anyone I can. Ive felt so alone in my journey, going as far to think I was going crazy and getting out on medication. Come to find out I was more sane that I ever thought. I’m glad I’ve found your channel, hopefully we can talk some time.
Thank you so much chance and welcome to the channel 😌☺️
"Study the fabric of you." This resonates with me. A worthy pursuit.
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂
It's amazing that you shared those pictures and your life with us.Really helped me to know you much much better.TY for your care for humanity.So Very much!
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much Angelique
This video is "MY JOURNEY" the exact same!!!! I am an introvert, empath, & I have reached 777 spiritually❤ My calling, my purpose is to be a Life Coach, to travel the world & tell my story, to help others....this video is exactly what I have done, & now what I plan on doing!! I have the love for learning more about nature, spirituality, animals....I AM A TRUE BLESSING❤ THANK YOU...I can 110% relate!!
I have spent my entire life trying to live up to others expectations of me. Its been a struggle to let that go and live for myself and how I am designed.
This goes straight into my heart because it is exactly the journey I went through. I'll try to condense the story a little so it's not too long but as you and I seem like we are very similar in nature I suspect you might relate. As a young kid I was an observer. I watched bugs, animals, people, a glass of water.... all shapes of glass of water. I watched leaves, I watched wind, I watched grasses and weeds and grains of sand. Before long I got told I didn't engage enough, take enough space in the classroom and other "fit into the world" critiques and it planted the idea that I was the one that had to shape myself according to my environment. Fast forward at 22-23 I had up to 8 panic attacks a day, PTSD and several other issues. Life wasn't working and I realized that we weren't born with an instruction manual so we all are just guessing how to run this machine we call body in this environment we call life and I accepted that I evidently had guessed wrong. Next was "So how do I change the course of my life?" And how do you run a machine? The control room. I knew I had to "take control" of my brain through better management.
10 years deeper I am now free from depression, anxiety, etc and I'm now living on a farm in quietness near nature where I can observe nature all I want. I can sit in quietness and listen to the rhythmic sound of the cows grazing. The less I have to talk the happier I am. ❤
Bonus similarities I also love helping people with sufferings (but online because I don't have to talk) and I also love learning! :)
That's so wonderful to hear that you were able to navigate your way. Congratulations and continue to inspire others :)
You Glow Now!
Infinite Gratitude.
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The DNA of who you are.... vs the perception of who you think you are !!!!
I love this !!!!!!!
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All of this💯 self-education is the best education🤞🏿 I love being by myself 99% of the time. I've been this way from I was a child= introvert. It made my mom very uncomfortable. I am very sensitive, very empathetic, very intuitive, very giving, and I was not too fond of this about myself. When I denied this part of me or tried to be someone or something that I wasn’t, I suffered tremendously🤞🏿 this is my true nature. Embracing all of me was the best thing I did for my life. It led me to my earthly calling. I am free💯
That's so wonderful. I'm glad you were able to embrace it. Up the good work my friend :-)
Yes, I can totally relate to that.
My body is dying because of health... lack of real sleep due to health ... i like this as an Filipino american we are hard workers, for me its not about status its about helping others being a good person was instilled by my parents and grandparents. Your words make me think yet my problem is i overthink..
Every culture has its specific thing, for Filipino people family is al you sacrifice yrself for, we want to be accepted and loved so we sell out, but yr inner voice will fight and struggle with the voice of yr father, mother , uncle... There is a battle going on
Most enlightening ...honour yourself. The beautiful way to begin transformation of who we really are...
Thank you Nick for your thoughtful and caring insights that help me and others. I really appreciate your help. Thank you again.
Thank you so much Joanne 😊
Thank you for this video. It was comforting for me. I suffered in the same way you did. I had to try out a couple of different careers and relationships. I have been meditating since 1976. It has brought me closet to God I believe. I finally found the relationship (marriage) that brings me peace happiness and fulfillment. I raised a son who is a lovely adult. I found what I love to do. Cooking and baking and I taught catechism for five years.I loved that too. I'm retired now and enjoying it and the things I like to do. I'm glad you are happy now.I don't feel so alone now in what I suffered.
"Know who you actually are by fabric" this is really insightful
Thank you so much ❤❤
This is such a beautiful video Ven. Nick. It resonates with me a lot. I worked in retail for 36 years. I loved helping people but I was so constricted by corporate policies & there was a toxic work environment. Now retired, I can be my free spirited, loving self. I still help people by being positive & supportive. Blessings always dear one❤️🙏🏻
Aww thats wonderful to hear how you are using your abilities to still help support others. Thats great. keep up the great work valerie. We need more of this great energy :)
Retail can be such soul sucking work. Good for you that you're free to be yourself now! 💛
@@JaxAndree Thank you! Indeed it can be. Blessings always dear one ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you. I feel like I am getting to know myself better in my thirties. I changed my job a couple of years ago so that I can have a slower life and experiment doing the things that I like. I feel more connected to myself now and I am starting to see things more clearly. I love your videos.
So happy I have found your videos Nick, I start each day now looking at you and listening to your beautiful, wise messages
Aww thank you so much. I’m glad you’re here. Welcome my friend 😊
Thank you very much Nick! 🙏🏻 Every video of yours helps me in my personal life. Just want to express my gratitude to you! 🙏🏻
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you Oksana. I'm glad to hear
I’m very happy to finally find a teacher to fallow! I’m vegetarian for almost 3 years and I’m practicing meditation for 3 years. But I never had a good meditation until I found you! Thank you teacher! 🙏🏻 Please continue to teach us we are desperately need you!
Sincerely, Oksana from Texas.
real talk be alone is great af. i'm able to focus on things that i like and enjoy god
Nicks I don’t know where to start. I’m so grateful you make these videos and keep uploading regularly. Thank you for making me understand and accept my true nature. This is one of the most freeing feelings in the world!! ❤️😭 thank you again!!
Thank you 😊
Where do I begin. Thank you for sharing and being so open, unknowingly helping so many. This spoke volumes. I was always quiet and shy but thought this was abnormal so gradually changed myself to be outspoken worldly person that always felt unauthentic and sad. But I was always in truth deeply an introvert, hermit, quiet reflective person. I don’t even like to talk or be with people. I just can’t relate, everything seems so superficial. I love nature and giving. This is when I am truly happy. I am happy this opened my eyes to my true self and that’s ok. So much love to you Nick!! 🙏🏼
Thank you so much Cathy. I'm glad this resonates with you. I hope people can take the idea that however they are designed, ITS OKAY. We need to embrace ourselves fully :)
Thank you for sharing your own true life experience and your Buddhist wisdom, Ven. Nick. I hope you have finally found your happiness. Great advice. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
Hi venerable Nick I’m listening to this video again I’m turning 60 years old on Tuesday and I’ve had to live my whole life under other people’s expectations of me I’ve also lived under mental abuse and fear my 3 children are now grown adults married and living their own lives and I’m divorced but the sad thing is I feel lost and lonely with no direction it’s almost like I’ve wasted my life allowing such treatment I wish I could have had the sense to follow my own path with strength and dignity and found my true self and walked my own path instead of being a victim to other people’s expectations I feel stuck in a rut and don’t know what to do anymore to help make myself feel better thank you so much for speaking truth and wisdom
Wonderful and insightful video! I wish everyone could watch this and learn. I feel like with the toxic influence of social media, people want to live these fake and superficial lives. They will never find out who they really are by following the crowd. The best thing I ever did was get off social media four years ago. My life is at peace and I can learn and study without negative influences. Thank you for this channel. 🙏
Thank you so much. Yes you are absolutely right about social media. It has magnified and influenced our culture so much. I hope people can find the balance soon :)
That is quite admirable that you’ve been off social media for 4 years! I have had several attempts at deleting it, but I always go back, why ? I do not know.
@@kellyssimplesouthernlife2174 You can do it! I think it's that dopamine hit that people crave with social media, even if it's on a subconscious level. It gets addicting. Trust me, you aren't missing anything in life by not having it. I communicate with people the old fashioned way...email, phone and messenger. 😊 No drama, no toxic negativity, no noise. It's wonderful. Try it in baby steps. You will find you just don't need it anymore to live a good life. YT I still use but you can choose what you watch, so it's a great source for learning. This channel, for example. 😊. Good luck!
Thank you, Nick, for a lovely presentation of attending to our true nature. I have spent so many years disliking and punishing myself for not being as good as others. I'm starting to understand, through my own Buddhist practice and now your guidance, that I'm good enough as me. Namaste 🙏
Thank you for sharing some of your personal story. How beautiful it is to know ourselves and accept ourselves.
Thank you so much :)
Turning inward after repeated experience that all outward appetites prove ultimately fruitless and empty, is to discover a bottomless ocean of harmony both within and without. This is the flowering of a sustaining true love within oneself, and ultimately a calmer loving peace with the world you have chosen to come into, in all it's forms, and without judgement. Thank you for this insight.
Thank you so much my friend. Your words are very poetic. It's beautiful :-)
I admire you already, a kind and humble person. The way you talk, it calms the mind . Thanks for sharing your thoughts 😊
Thank you for reminding us of the blessing of authenticity! It has been a difficult lesson but I keep moving forward... greetings from Richardson Texas!
Thank you so much Kent. Just keep pushing through and forward. Its worth it ❤❤
Dear Nick,
Thank you for this video. The magic serendipity of the RUclips algorithm made recommended me this video and it is reaching me with perfect timing. Seeing the images from your past and you sharing your story makes it much more relatable and will help me with some of my upcoming decisions.
Thank you so much beto. I'm glad you enjoyed it. And welcome to the channel :-) hope you are doing well. Stay safe my friend.
Your words are so true Beto,I truly affirm what you too have experienced, me more recently the last few days in fact.
It's been so amazing and the soul Nd depth that one is being guided by Nik.is outstanding.
Videos of icy water,meditation by babbling Brook and the thought about 15/20 minutes through the meditation " breathe"
Made me realise yes! Thanks to this series truly loving the sincerity of it at this time in2021.
Espavo! NAMASTE Blessings To all Beingness.
With all the "spiritual teachers" online this man is the real deal. I can say that absolutely with watching just 1,5 videos. He goes straight to the bulls eye. Finally! Thank you!
Thank you for your kind words my friend :-)
8/8/2022.. Thanks for such revelation concerning my suffering for many years..
You’re welcome my friend 😊
I am very grateful that i found you. 2 months ago i got panic attack doctor put me on antidepressants. Doing tm meditatitoon twice a day with cold shower, helped me a lot. Today i feel a bit down and i am glad that i found your video. :)
All the time running from job to job nothing from that makes me happy, but i know i feel that stillness and peace are somewhere deep inside me .