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'facts dont care about your feelings' wont work on your spouse
Fax
Feelings don't care about your facts.
@@firstcynic92that's a very interesting and accurate spin on it
It can, you just might have to sleep on the couch for it.
They work on me 🤷♀️🤷♀️... I don't want to argue and I prefer to solve problems the quickest way possible
Mark Twain said there are two ways to argue with women. Neither works..
uhh, the secret is to use a disguise of some sort....
cscam56/// I thought one of them was taking her over your knee? 😂
@@carollen5633 that sounds kinky lol
@@HugoStiglitz88I mean...it'd probably stop an argument with me real quick...😅
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
As an emotionally mature 50yr old female…my husband never feels this way because my communication skills are the same age as the rest of my experience and brain. Articulate clearly what you want from a conversation ladies. Its far less exhausting for everyone and a peaceful life is a happy one.
Amen 🙏❤❤❤. I'm 56 and I so agree.
Agree, mid 40's and im getting there 😊
41, I have less time to speak to, but being married for 20 years-can say I wholly agree with you. If I want help solving a problem? **Diamond sharp reasoning, logic, actionable steps?
**All come from the collaboration of me listening to my husbands advice. (He’s much more invested in me than anyone else!) 😂 just makes sense. If I want to vent and not so much to **fix** something? TELL him that first! You’ll stress a man to the gils telling him all about something he can’t fix! (And that’s a compliment, I believe. He wants to keep you safe, and to help. Chivalry isn’t dead, ladies.) ❤ love comments like this and wish I saw more older women handing out sound advice to younger women. It seems the opposite is so prevalent. “You don’t need no man”
Ugh
Dear Men,
Speaking as a lifelong Female, when we are complaining about something, we aren’t looking for a physical fix. We’re seeking an Emotional fix .
We truly do appreciate your efforts, even if it doesn’t seem like it.
Thank you for trying so hard.
What? Why would you seek an emotional fix when you meed a solution to a problem?? Or you could just take care of your own emotions.
Also why complain? Or you could just fix the problem yourself and then you'll have the solution.
Good enough reason not to get married.
That’s why women should go complain to other women(but not badmouthing your man)… and then come to the man when they want a fix, spare us of the emotional drama…
Ben has even said that when his wife has a problem... he asks if she wants a solution, or just wants to "vent."
yes, we men need to learn how to emotion better. and women need to learn how to fix better.
together we make an unstoppable team.
God is married, and if we want to realize the full promise of Romans 8: 16-18. we should also pursue marriage.
My wife literally said to me once, "you think you can win any argument using facts!" I just stood there with a dumb look on my face, not knowing how to respond lol
Sounds like a W on her scoreboard 🤣
if that happen to me my brain would jsut short circuted
That’s why I’m *Gay* bro 😂
@@roblo8188 the simplist way is to just be asexual
😅
When you win you lose and when you lose you’ll never hear the end of it
I would hear the end of it. I would tell her to give it a rest, and move on.
My ex lived to fight. Started arguments for her own personal enjoyment. I found that just saying "you're right" became my winning tactic because not fighting with her drove her even more crazy... her name is Karen and she may very well be the original "Karen".
@Retro Media She took the cake... one day, I woke up and decided to scrub the kitchen top to bottom... wiped off every surface inside and out... got down on hands and knees with a butter knife to clean under the sill plate to the door even. She came home from work, took one look at it and decided to bake something... she purposely flung flour from one end to the other and left it like that. She was full of contempt and was only happy when fighting with someone.
I was working on the computer one day and tried to copy and paste a document but didn't copy and instead, it pasted her letter to a guy in England, laying out her plans to travel and have an affair with this married man. That was my out and even after 10 years of marriage, I never missed her once. She moved back with her mother and never left. That was well over 20 years ago. No other man fell into that trap.
I now have a wonderful marriage with a wonderful woman. 5 years and counting. No petty arguments, mutual respect and a true friendship.
You just were satisfying her needs. That's all it was.
@@gforceforever agreed
@@TheDogLife5225, thank you for not assuming I was referring to specific physical needs. Women often don't get emotional support from family and peers, so they expect their spouse/mate to be and do it all. It's not reasonable, but it's reality.
I would never be able to deal with that. I'm argumentative but I actually hate arguing. I just can't help doing it sometimes. A woman like that would give me hypertension
My husband tries that then gives up and just says something cheeky to make me laugh instead and I crumble like a deck of cards 😂
Hilarious
No 3 words are scarier than “I’m just saying.”
There is no response. There is no solution. There are just words.
Well the 'solution' is in the Manual: 'husband's love your wives as Christ loves the Church' 'wives, respect your husband' etc etc
lol I was so emotional during both pregnancies 😂. I told my husband “I don’t have time for your logic and reason sir.” We both had a good laugh.
Not married yet but I find there's a balance. Sometimes she just wants you to comfort her for the sake of having you comfort her, sometimes she wants a solution to her problem and it's up to you to pick the right option.
Men are t psy hic! Eo.enneedto day what they want and notbe childish- i am a womn- factory original kind!😊
…You sound like you’re not married.
When she's calmed down after she feels like you understand what she's feeling(ie validating her), then you can bring in the facts and logic and solve her problems
😂😂😂😂😂
Balance is key, yes.
Someone had to say it. Women argue with emotion; men argue with logic.
Unless u r dem then facts r irrelevant
Facts don’t care about your feelings, some would tell the women.
Of course some people do that but you shouldn't separate the genders like that because anyone can speak with logic and anyone can speak with emotion.
im a women and i study Jordan Peterson for regular speaking advice and i go off of logic and dont let my emotions get in the way
@@oliviamizzi33 Statements like the one I made obviously have an implied “on average” clause. Yes, we all know outliers exist.
Wow! Women don't even hide their negative qualities anymore.
“Whenever you win, you lose”
The truth has been spoken.
Then the ultimate victory is to not participate, walk away, and be happy alone.
No it hasn't. If you believe that, you're not a man.
@@Normal1855 You are not neither licensed nor qualified to critique me as a person.
Lmao I tell my husband sometimes I don't need him to solve my problem, just need him to listen to me rant
Literally when reps bring up facts and dems be like:
Hahahahaha dems are like overly emotional women.
Had a discussion about bills passed in Washington and my dem friend called me let’s see.. Transphobic,homophobic(I like men but whatever), fasicst, and a fucking idiot.
I was right on everything so he pissed and cried about it
Seen it both ways
Trump saying the 2020 election was stolen is a fact? Because so far he has failed to provide any evidence.
Right and they just deny deny deny because the media has told them otherwise, and it just CANT be true ☹️😞😩 just CANT, A REPUBLICAN said it 😭😩🙄
We are wired differently... men's wires run parallel........😂
And theirs are like a plate of spaghetti
@@lawr5764... and shorted out!
"There Are Two Theories When It Comes To Arguing With Women. Neither One Works."
-Dutch Van Der Linde
I wait to tell my husband what I'm feeling until I'm ready for the solution. I call my friends if I need emotional validation.
We have one who thinks.
Hey, that reminds me of how political debates work!
Why are they always fckn right 😂 I think we get too much into our heads ❤
My late husband used to tell people he learned not to argue with me. When asked why, he told them I used logic and he couldn't argue with that😂
I would love it if my husband said anything (and no, I don't argue or just want my way).
Men: keeping quiet and not bringing anything to the table in terms of conflict resolution doesn't work either. Maybe some women like it that way, if all she wants is control. But, I think most women want to believe they have been heard and not just dismissed. Just a thought.
Why should we bother saying anything? Every time I say something no matter what it is, I’m getting yelled at
Never any praise
Why does it have to be this way
I’m about to leave my lady cause she’s mean to me all the time no matter if I’m right or wrong
Yeah- society teaches we are pointless and stupid with no control of emotions and therefore others have no reason to actually reason with us or care for us more then providing needs
Basically- we are taught that we have to fight to be treated as humans (same for men but in different ways usually)
So when marriage gets involved we have to be untaught that
Best relationship advice I have ever received: If someone is upset, ask if the person wants comfort or advice. I use this all the time and it's my way of knowing whether they want me to try and solve the problem or listen and be supportive.
I dunno. I think I disagree. When I was first married I had plenty of emotional responses. My husband would be like “I love you. We can talk about it when you’re ready for a solution.” I got upset at first because I thought he didn’t “get it” but I quickly matured and came to appreciate his logical responses. But, to each their own.
She purposely missed the couch. The point was set and driven home. Bravo Madame
*Ben Sharpiro does not destroy his wife's argument with Facts and Logic!*
If you can't efficiently communicate with your partner then what's the point of having one?
I envy the guy in the other room to have a wife willing to goof around in this way. I'm sure that is one happy family!
If you try to use logic in an argument with your wife, remember the immortal words of General Akbar: “It’s a trap!!”
General Akbar? Gial Ackbar did not attend 8 years of Admiral school to be called General!
My wife's feelings never care about my facts. I've accepted that though and we're at 15 years married so far.
Why does it have to be this way?
I’m about to leave my lady cause she’s mean to me all the time no matter if I’m right or wrong
@@blackfacegaming191 one thing is to be abusive and another altogether is to have a different communication system. Have you tried couple's therapy?
@@blackfacegaming191 leave that bitch immediately and get your life back sir
@@blackfacegaming191 I was making a comment in jest. We actually get along great. We both hate conflict and have fought only a handful of times over the last 2 decades and it's usually when I make a stand on something and draw a clear line that will not be crossed. Overall though, women are emotional and men are logical. Thankfully, my wife is on the logical side of the bell curve for women and not with the majority of the emotional women.
That's the way the cookie crumbles 😅😅😮
That TikTok is great. My type of humor lol
Facts don’t care about your feelings, but feelings don’t care about the facts.
As a female, yes it’s good to get out ur emotions but you should also be looking for a literal solution to ur problem, much better then emotion validation/support, much better when u can fix the problem physically!
How dare my husband for being genuinely sincere! 😭
Never a truer word spoken. 😊
I used to tell my supervisor that i didn't want to hear his logic right now when i was complaining. He'd laugh
I'm the logical one. My husband is a toddler! Soon to be married 38 years and things haven't changed...
the wisest words you ever spoke, Ben!
I got lucky, my girlfriend is actually willing to accept my answer at times.
“Let me just be dramatic for a bit and then I’ll come to my senses” is what I tell him😂
Great advice on relationship!
Win the argument, lose the war, and eventually her heart
I once was told in an argument with my significant other that “not everything has to be logical.”
To which I responded: “Is that statement logical?”
I actually prefer them to use logic. I HATE having emotional responses and appreciate someone helping me get out that with reason. Rational over emotion EVERY time for me.
As a woman I will say it myself....Women do need to learn that your feelings are not facts. Your feelings can escalate a situation and not solve anything. A person that cannot be reasoned with, is a difficult person. Remember...self-control also applies to your emotions/feelings....Proverbs 4:7 "The beginning of wisdom is: get wisdom! And along with all your getting, get insight!"
I said what I said...😅
That’s why I love work so much. Nothin but solvable problems all day, nobody bothers your about feelings and when you get home there’s beer 🍺 😂
Marriage: Gentlemen, even when you win, you lose
Only if you're a weak, non man.
Then just…don’t get married if that’s how y’all feel???
@@annabruce5194 Marriage isn’t all bad
This is very true they just need someone to listen most of the time
This is something we should be working on. Equal rights equal lefts
Wise words to follow.
I had an ex refuse to argue with me because she said i would use reason and win.... she left a couple months later. Honestly, it was a good thing she did but it was certainly a learning lesson for my next relationship
Seeing ben reacting to normal funny happy content feels nice for some reason😂😂
You don't lose if you're right. No matter her emotional punishment or extortion.
This is the TRUTH
Why does it have to be this way
I’m about to leave my lady cause she’s mean to me all the time no matter if I’m right or wrong
You lose her 😂
@@blackfacegaming191 f that women
@@dibsdibs3495no you don't. You gain the loss of a negative female. Net profit .
yea you don't lose you just lose wife snuggle time and tbh seeing her venting make her look like a mad pomeranian and it honestly more adorable then i care to admit
Men hate that too. Lol. Sometimes people just need someone to relate to.
He wasnt even winning an arguement, he was fixing her problem that she just wanted him to losten to and affirm.
I found I won when I said goodbye.
Some women after long rants say you never listen to me and men say to themselves if only this were true my brain wouldn't hurt so much.
Ha! It's the other way around with my husband's histrionics! 😅
THANK YOU.
😂😂 when you have a 12 hour day and you try relax and every word she says sounds like “meow meow meow”… and instead of just nodding your head and ignoring her you say “what are you meowing about?”
It pisses me off sooo bad!! And then I’m mad at myself for being pissed!! Quiet time, it easier for me to swallow my pride when I’m alone!!
The advice of the Century!! Thanks Ben!!
That's right. No win, no lose situation . Sorry, we're emotional.
Lol honestly left or right this is CORRECT...love ben
The dad should look at the little girl and say "whenever you're wrong or fail, accept it & move on with quiet dignity and grace. Try to improve and don't do what your mom just did."
Ya, my husband is so good at reasoning and I have gotten better at telling him I need a hug.
Am I the only woman who can have my husband speak to me with reason and logic? I will respond reasonably in return. I hate when he tries to cater to my emotions cause he’ll most likely lie and I don’t want to be lied to.
Unfortunately you are in the precious minority. Never change ❤
And I'm not going to apologize to anyone when I am correct not even a spouse
Yeah same here
I wish there would come a day when people can acknowledge a difference between men and women without the comments section being so overwhelmingly full of sexist comments saying that the opposite sex is stupid and wrong and terrible just because they operate differently.
💯% agree. i knew the comment section would be a hot ass mess and i was still dissapointed 👨🦯
Ok clown it's not sexists, no men want a women with emotional drama so shut your mouth.
I love these home movies of Ben in her childhood .
This is why when women complain to me about anything, before I make an actual response, I ask them if they are looking for a shoulder to vent on or an actual solution 99.9% of the time its the former, but I still ask.
It's good practice and prevents alot of arguments.
Sooo right!!! You are a wise man!😅😅😅
So wise, Mr. Shapiro. Teach a master class.
It's the 1 time facts must play second fiddle to feelings
Good response
His smile is contagious 😂
There is emotional support (friendship/listening and being in a moment with someone who needs to vent) and then there is physical support (fix/help). It's a good practice to ask which a person is looking for when things come up. As a lifelong woman, I use logic too and I'm not sure of the implication that women don't use logic. Things are just more entangled, perhaps, which makes the logic get muddled. Some people are just idiots (regardless of gender) and should still be treated with kindness.
My husband knows to ask, " Do you want a male response or a female response?" Works well, married 41 years. 😊
As a woman I prefer logic in discussions lmao.
That's actually the standard I use when determining if I want to have a relationship with a woman. How does she respond to facts and logical reasoning?
If she responds poorly, or expects emotional validation, then I cut my losses and break things off.
I'm looking for a life partner. Not some child that I have to take care of. And if I end up single as a result of this requirement, so be it, I'll be happier for it.
My Daddy said that he ALWAYS got in the last word with my Mama & it was, "YES DEAR!". Ben, you've demonstrated that your wisdom also extends to your personal life, lol. Keep up the great work that you're doing & God Bless Y'all.😅😊❤
100%
Agree to disagree and be graceful about it.
That’s why men make better leaders 😂
Unless you temporarily identify yourself as a woman during the argument in question…? It’s fair play then, son!
especially when it's that time of the month when we're extra emotional 😂
Literally had this conversation with my bf last night 😂 it ended with me saying “dammit is it so hard to ask you to just be mad with me?? Ugh… I don’t want an answer or solution. Just be mad with me!” 😂 (granted I am pregnant and dealing with that so)
Too funny 😂 I love when Ben laughs!
Fight and argue with your wife on every battle and hill. Say as many jokes as you can. It's the funniest thing in the world.
It's true. Women are emotional not logical in some situations.
Top 2 things that hurt women
1. Telling the truth
2. Not telling the truth
Sometimes we just need our husbands to listen and let us rant, and then we feel better
That's exactly what my 5 yr old grandson does...😂
Most will then say you are not listening to me.
Better to just stay single.
Only person that can debate Ben Shapiro has to be his wife 😭 lol
🙋♀️ I prefer logic, thank you very much
Drives me absolutely insane
I live for Shapiro's reactions 😂😂
U said it, "so true"!
I can't win arguments with my husband's "logic", so he thinks he wins everything. 'Yep, you're right babe. My mistake.' Wins everytime.