Goodmorning! I just came across this one podcast even though I've watched many.. Husband and I are 8 months into discovering his affair( this was the second time within the last 15 years). Everything he says seems to be talking from his heart and alot has change in our relationship for the better I feel but he has no interest in any therapy or coaching of any kind. We have been married almost 41 years and I'm so afraid of it happening again. And I don't want to throw it all away at this this point in our lives. All I can do is pray for us to continue down this path until we are called home.🙏 Thank you for all that you share...it has helped me cope in situations more then you know.
So many will need to hear this but it’s exactly the heart that needs to hear this. This has been my experience on the receiving end but I have noticed that the length of time where I have been receiving this has turned me harder of heart also. Being the one the only one of the two that brings the heart hurts. But it absolutely needs two, not one, both hearts turning up in this way. The right heart would acknowledge the one who has always turned up ready and willing. The right heart would see the effort and energy of the other. If it doesn’t then I would just focus on you because their heart is only interested in itself, defending no matter the cost. 😢
yes i agree. we can't do another's work for them but we can do our work and hold our head up high. i'm sorry for your pain my friend but i'm proud of how resilient and courageous you are.
I hear you. I live with a reactive, escalating, gotta be right, gotta yell, cannot hear my soft words husband for 40+ years. I try to just avoid discussion, but it has been very lonely. There’s no safe connection there. Just pathways of eggshells. Thankfully, he has many wonderful qualities-I focus on those and compliment him for them, always expressing appreciation. But….😢
Goodmorning! I just came across this one podcast even though I've watched many.. Husband and I are 8 months into discovering his affair( this was the second time within the last 15 years). Everything he says seems to be talking from his heart and alot has change in our relationship for the better I feel but he has no interest in any therapy or coaching of any kind. We have been married almost 41 years and I'm so afraid of it happening again. And I don't want to throw it all away at this this point in our lives. All I can do is pray for us to continue down this path until we are called home.🙏 Thank you for all that you share...it has helped me cope in situations more then you know.
This is a great message that can be shared without the receiver feeling chastised. Thank you!
Hello Sam. I'm glad I found your podcast. I loved your videos on Affair Recovery. They helped me more than you know. God bless you.
means the world to hear that my friend. thank you for watching and leaving a great comment. makes my Monday for sure.
Oh my broken heart. So much to work thru. Grateful to you.
So many will need to hear this but it’s exactly the heart that needs to hear this. This has been my experience on the receiving end but I have noticed that the length of time where I have been receiving this has turned me harder of heart also. Being the one the only one of the two that brings the heart hurts. But it absolutely needs two, not one, both hearts turning up in this way. The right heart would acknowledge the one who has always turned up ready and willing. The right heart would see the effort and energy of the other. If it doesn’t then I would just focus on you because their heart is only interested in itself, defending no matter the cost. 😢
yes i agree. we can't do another's work for them but we can do our work and hold our head up high. i'm sorry for your pain my friend but i'm proud of how resilient and courageous you are.
@@samshealingpodcast thank you Sam🙏🏻
Yikes. I can’t be so relentless in my need to be right and have the last word. Really needed this.
I hear you. I live with a reactive, escalating, gotta be right, gotta yell, cannot hear my soft words husband for 40+ years. I try to just avoid discussion, but it has been very lonely. There’s no safe connection there. Just pathways of eggshells. Thankfully, he has many wonderful qualities-I focus on those and compliment him for them, always expressing appreciation. But….😢
Thanks Sam, I needed this. ❤
so glad it helped. messages like that never get old.
yessss the HEART is where the empathy and messages of safety comes from ❤🩹
Another great podcast. Thanks
never gets old hearing that. thank you so much.