What an amazing piece of information. Thank you for sharing. I’m just so excited that I’ve been doing this work for awhile now and just want someone to do it with in relationship.
My trigger is knowing ive been used as a pathetic joke for years and are now a chump for staying. What do you say would be a good way of working on that, huh?
From a different perspective someone shared with me she saw her husband as her hero saved her life after she made the worst mistake of her life in a downward spiral of self sabotage. Cheating isnt because of the other person it's about the problems the cheater has usually low self esteem and needs attention or validation form others which sadly is usually offered as sexual. She has been totally in love and faithful to her spouse for over 20 years. Sometimes people just make terrible mistakes they regret for life!
What if there was no back ground trauma? My husband said he had the opportunity to do it and he did, had a friend with benefits, for 6 years, and when she wanted more than being friends, that when my husband stopped his affair, otherwise he’d still be with her, also at that time his buddy was doing the same thing, cheating on his wife, so I think it was influence also, but whatever, my husband was caught and it’s changed me forever
What an amazing piece of information. Thank you for sharing.
I’m just so excited that I’ve been doing this work for awhile now and just want someone to do it with in relationship.
My trigger is knowing ive been used as a pathetic joke for years and are now a chump for staying.
What do you say would be a good way of working on that, huh?
I absolutely feel this statement. I'm sorry you've been hurt as well
From a different perspective someone shared with me she saw her husband as her hero saved her life after she made the worst mistake of her life in a downward spiral of self sabotage. Cheating isnt because of the other person it's about the problems the cheater has usually low self esteem and needs attention or validation form others which sadly is usually offered as sexual. She has been totally in love and faithful to her spouse for over 20 years. Sometimes people just make terrible mistakes they regret for life!
1) individual work
2) group work
3) relationship work
What if there was no back ground trauma? My husband said he had the opportunity to do it and he did, had a friend with benefits, for 6 years, and when she wanted more than being friends, that when my husband stopped his affair, otherwise he’d still be with her, also at that time his buddy was doing the same thing, cheating on his wife, so I think it was influence also, but whatever, my husband was caught and it’s changed me forever
I would love to meet and talk to Job as his experiences sound extremely similar to my own. Very good talk that felt targeted at me. Thanks.
Do you have a book that you recommend?
1. The State Of Affairs by Ester Perel
2. One more try by Gary Chapman
3. The pbt Institute