INFJ Personality Type Explained | What are the Cognitive Transitions of an INFJ? | CS Joseph
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- Опубликовано: 10 май 2020
- Today we will discuss the INFJ personality type, learn about the four sides of the mind of an INFJ as well as their cognitive transitions. INFJ Personality Type Explained in depth.
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I love being bullied into becoming a better person.
Maybe the only way for INFJs 😂
Take your painful medicine and thank Chase afterwards 🤣
@@godspeed6991 I donno...the tests always go between infj infp intj and intp...but people critizise me and they often fail to see my corcumstances as they are I think. They don t have all the informarion so I think it's unjust of them to judge me
Find yourself an ESTJ, and you are good to go.
Oh yeah
@@almostashish lol I'm married to one and yes, that's exactly what happens
“What business do you have, INFJs, loving others and caring for others if you will not care or love yourself first?”
Most important line of the entire lecture. Currently my biggest struggle as an INFJ. It’s painful to consider, because when you realize the depth of love an INFJ has inside of them, and then realize that NONE of it goes to them, it’s sad. It’s not something to admire. It’s not selflessness; it’s suicide.
This is the kind of sacrificial altruism that the INTJ Ayn Rand detested. Why give up everything you are to serve other people if it gives you no pleasure? Why sacrifice so much of who you are to people who don’t give a damn, and aren’t walking in the truth? Maybe we could learn a thing or two from our other Ni Hero cousins.
The next question: how do we get there? It’s easier said than done, of course, but it’s right here in the lecture. Learn how to forgive people who hurt you by examining your role in their doing so (outside of abuse, that is), come to an understanding of why they did it, forgive them, then forgive yourself for what you did to drive them away.
This is an almost impossibly tall order. Luckily, INFJs are finishers. Once you have the humility and presence of mind to start on this path, your Ni hero will take you home, like an arrow pointing in the right direction out of your heart. Follow your heart. Walk in truth. Understand and accept people the way they are. Love them the way they are. And then maybe you’ll follow.
very profound
Words to live by. I found that “unconditional forgiveness“ by Mary Hayes Grieco gave me a profound understanding and the tools necessary to be able to forgive.
AMAZING comment🙏✨
Beautifully stated.
Thank you sir, your comment helped me to complete my take-away thoughts.
Follow your Heart
Be always Present
Walk in the Truth with Humility
Listen to People, Accept and Understand them
Have faith in your Practice
Dare to loose everything
This community is so intimate. Silent and magical. I love you people beyond words.
“The harder you squeeze, the more they want to leave.”
You just said something my ENFP girlfriend said to me at the beginning of our relationship. And it’s funny, the less I’ve squeezed, the more she has wanted to be around.
Funny how that works. Sometimes people actually follow through on what they say!
Boris Van Druff they see you know your worth and when you know your worth other people want to be around you -because that confidence is real and lasting and rooted in truth. The truth always sets us free- glad for you that you have a beautiful golden pair relationship that’s awesome ❤️💕🙏
Hang on loosely and let go loosely
I feel like I'm always in a battle with myself on trying to choose between creating peace and harmony and telling the truth lol bc most of the time the two don't seem to go together, most people get pissed off at the truth thus disrupting my harmony, but harmony means withholding truth, oh the struggle lol. Thank you for a wonderful lecture.
THIS.
This man is Gold we must protect him at all costs 💫
We need people like him in this fake world !!
🔥 I’m here to get roasted. 🔥
Edit: I am burnt 💀 👍 very enjoyable, would recommend.
The roast at last. INFJs in these comment sections become masochists whenever CS Joseph makes a video about us.
Only the naïve ones. That's why he likes them. He knows he can break their balls and they'll say thank you.
I and likely many other infjs are already masochists, at least this is actually a psycho emotional training rather than plain torture
I know right, I thought I'm weirdo (actually I am lol) for liking the roast, I just enjoys it 😂
Become?
Only when CSJ makes a video?
CS Joseph: "You need to get to a point where you are left for dead in a ditch in the rain naked with nothing and understanding that no one else actually cares."
Me: dead😂
I love you, Chase. Keep doing you🙌🏽
It happened to me, so to speak. It's true af
Nobody cares
I care and this INFJ HSP is fighting back for my financial security after 40 years to the death....my death if it must be....wills are signed! I will win!
When you realize the narc is a coward start to trust yourself! My personality is very very very RARE!
If I will die for a stranger, go to China to adopted my little China doll then I surely with fight for myself!
All I want is love and peace for all of humanity and all God's nature and animals!🌺🙏❣😘
Once we get a grip on SE , success is inevitable
Yes, INFJs, learn to love and forgive yourself. It is worth the struggle or even the trauma needed to get there... then we can love the world in a way that makes a difference.
C.S. Joseph is intense! Awesome lecture. So articulate. He gets INFJs. I get the part about losing it all. I think about death a lot, as both my parents have passed. I don’t mean that I think about death in a depressing or negative way, rather, as a very practical matter. I worry a lot less about things than I used to. I used to have a lot of anxiety. I really don't consider “problems” to be anything other than situations for me to deal with. Having a so-called “problem” means that I have the opportunity to experience life. What a gift. I’m grateful for that. When I am gone from this world I won’t have any problems. Somehow this realization makes me feel like I can handle anything. Actually, it’s more than a feeling. It is true knowledge in the depths of my soul. That gives me peace.
Well said😮
What you say about performance anxiety is so true! I didn't practice my math skills as much as I should because I was afraid of looking incompetent at math despite studying hard. Consequently, I ended up not qualifying for med school. I also realized later on that people become more loyal to me when I am open about my mistakes, not when I hide them.
Maria Anya Paola Sanchez Ugh, same happened to me. I wanted to be a physicist and I was so scared of being seeing as dumb but NO MORE! Life is too short for that performance anxiety BS!
Maria Anya Paola Sanchez again, uncanny accuracy. Sometimes I feel this guy is sweet, because he is so earnestly certain, and I believe a lot of it as well, but whenever he says things I know are inaccurate, I realize that everyone does this, maybe, except for INFJS. I think it’s the awareness. It’s like we have a Greek chorus of awareness within us at all times. And the other types just don’t. And it is t a blessing or anything to have it, of everyone else doesn’t. It’s sort of the source of the frustration. So other types will always be coming to conclusions with out the full picture, because of it. Because they won’t be aware, in those ways.
I have suffered from extreme performance anxiety my whole life. There were 2 key points in this lecture that spoke directly to me. First you must stop the self loathing, lose everything until there is nothing more to lose and rebuild from there. The second is the art of practicing. Practice makes perfect - makes an INFJ get off his duff and start acquiring skills that makes him a superpower. It’s happened to me a time or two until I forget ...All I can say about this lecture is it was the good swift kick in the pants I needed. I and every other INFJ needs to watch this video once a week until it’s etched in their brain.
I've recently noticed that these INFJ posts are all describing us as "cool" "unique" and "mysterious" and I just hate it. It's like they're saying that INFJs are better than everyone else.
That's why I like this guy cuz he doesn't just compliment us .
Or that you want validation for your negative self worth. I see too much self loathing from INFJ's on youtube (something explained by CS Joseph even in this video) so let the ones that feel positive about their personality feel that way.
it's also chase who describe infjs as the peak of humanity. not all infjs though lol
Those are mostly mistyped infps
@@BC-pl3df I don't have a negative self worth. I just dont think I'm all that.
...wait, is that what someone with negative self worth would say?
As much as this cuts I absolutely love it! And I don't believe anyone can be harder on a infj then the infj themselves, I am SO hard on myself and work so hard to not fall into total isolation and feeling useless. I love all my infjs 💓 Thank you Chase!
In tears. Seriously, thank you.
you are most welcome
Janet Antene why? But why in tears? I’m not. Maybe I was years ago or something. Over - nope nope, never broke down. Your photo is intense. Deep breath.
From my observations, a major Se inferior problem is about actually feeling alienated about having a human body and living in a society focused on the material things. I didnt know any other infjs until I started buddhist practice, now I know at least 6 or 7 whereas 3 of them buddhist monks. Doing things like sports, having kids, a house, a car, a garden and so on simply dont give any fulfillment to many us. I dont have performance anxiety, I simply just find a lot of the modern Westerns pursuits to be meaningless (and a bit primitive). I found my sense of purpose when I stopped pretending to conform to these conventional beliefs of what a human is supposed to do and started to practice for transcendence :)
I feel the same. The idea of settling down, living in the suburbs, having kids and a 9 to 5 job and basically living a conventional lifestyle is such a turn off for me personally (not that there's anything wrong with those things of course). I'm not interested in any of that.
you ovbviously have very undeveloped Se---a mature infj actually enjoys material things and see them for what they really are!!! but yeah diff timelines for everyone :)
@@redefinedliving5974well I spent very much time of my life with friends and partners with sensory preferanse, and I surely have done my share of exploring the sensory realm. At I point I just gave up and reconciled with that my mind is simply not wired to enjoy the material world so much. My true pleasures in life come from spirituality. But do you have any tips on how to develop the Se more?
@@elisabethw9189 Our Ni is tied with our Se. Maybe yours is expressed by being really observant of the surroundings? We are to choose how our reality will look like, feel like, smell like etc and I think that's the beauty of it. We're very particular on our surroundings.
Though most infjs have this wild-child side thats kinda hidden and subtle where they kinda mirror Se-doms love for hiphop, sex, extreme sports, tattoos, metal music, theatrics, exercise etc it's how we ground ourselves for being too much inside our heads, our ideals and our feels. This has to be balanced or else we get stuck on Ni-Ti loop and get very unhealthy. Fe is helpful but it still isn't enough as this has the tendency to overwhelm us afterwards and not a means for release. How do you ground yourself? What makes you feel rooted on earth and in the present? It's all unique to every individual but a grasp on Se is an integral part for any infjs.
@@redefinedliving5974 Sure I can enjoy occasional sense pleasures of course, from black metal to forest walks. And absolutely love physical affection with my partner, my dog and so on. My problem with the body prison is the endlessness of needs and routine doings to attend to. Feeding the body, resting the body, cleaning it, taking it to the toilet, dressing it, then doing laundry, shopping groceries, washing the house, the car, this and that, it is endless, boring and super exhausting. Who would not rather want to be a cloud of consciousness :)
I'm tired of giving 120% to people just to get back stabbed all the time. I have no interest in making friends anymore. I'll keep that 120% to myself since it looks no one deserves it.
This sounds like our SI demon at play. Im sorry for all the backstabs. Hopefully the world can experience your contributions again soon. I know its very hard to open up once SI is unleashed
It sucks. But you must know how bad what you wrote makes you look, in the sense that no one has much empathy for bitterness. Especially other INFJs. You are seeking pity, and I personally, understand exactly what this is, because I’ve done it too, and then I saw how awful it looked from the outside. It looks weak. And needy. We hate that. So either you are a very young INFJ, or you aren’t an INFJ. If you are a young INFJ, just forgive yourself for putting it out there, and learn never to express this again. And, recognize the value of how things look from the outside looking in, and what we can learn about ourselves if we look at ourselves from a different perspective.
I've been in those shoes before, but I've come to find that character discernment is more practical & realistic.
Perhaps you could benefit from scheduling consistant alone time to recharge.
....and/also start cutting back and keep going...over time these people may begin to take notice and change....unless these people are total jerks, in which case they dont matter and its time to keep walking.
I've been waiting sooooooooooo long for this 😭
ditto
Really wish your videos existed in the 80s when I was in my teens. It would have cleared up a lot for me. Instead I had to learn all of these lessons the hard way (better late than never though, amirite?). I envy the Gen Z and millenial viewers that will be able to leverage these insights so early in their lives.
Please be happy for us instead
@@cherrymarriedindiscord1404 We will be but stop being so arrogant and such know it alls. -Gen Zs in particular XD
@@redefinedliving5974 ... You're right but the habbit is too ingrained in me👁️👄👁️
As an INFJ, and as your follower, Chase, I treasure the mentee/mentor dynamic (that I learned of through your teaching) I receive of you being an ENTP. I receive the truths you tell me (it feels like you're talking to me) about my archetypal character flaws with gratitude. They are soothing. If I know the truth, that means I can change, and become who I'm meant to me. Even your free content is liquid gold, and I receive your didactic passion often in near tears of inspiration. Thank you for your truthful speech in service of love. I pray good vibes over your journey into subconcious happiness; you deserve it, friend. Your mentee, Mumbi.
You are most welcome
“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.”
Thank you always, from an ENFP.
Awesome
Your quote is refreshing. Thank you 🙏.
I appreciated this video. I'm starting to understand the difference between 'self righteously' using Ti child vs. wielding it maturely as the fiery sword of truth. It's not easy, especially if we use other people's reactions to our truth to determine how 'well' we did. Sometimes you just have to let it go if people aren't ready to be in your wolfpack (yet?) because they they aren't ready to burn away the comforting lies and live in Truth.
Such a constant stream of information. Your lectures have become more compressed and fast paced. Keep up the good work!
I hope so
C.S. Joseph he’s right chase, this is your best lecturer that I’ve seen. Just reconfirming so u know what the audience wants.
It was a bit too all over the place and ranty for me personally
@@chiltthruya1935 are you new to the channel? 😂
Chilt Thruya I will agree with that, but compared to his other ones it’s not as bad. He’s a starter type so there’s not much change that’ll be made 🤷♂️
for the past couple of weeks, i have been diligently watching and obsessing over every single video you have about INFJ and then eventually the other types as well. thank you so much for teaching truth. thank you for taking the time to actually learn and share this information so effectively. i wish there was a channel in existence, by you that was JUST for us INFJ’s. lol i just feel like i can never get tired of the information. thank you thank you thank you.
I don’t have a Christian upbringing, but when you mentioned the bible verse where Jesus says he did not come to unite, but with a sword. That was dope. True wisdom knowing that sometimes division is more valuable for humanity than unity is
@@michellewei9139 sadly,it has been corrupted for selfish needs
You hit ALL of them on the spot, Joseph. I'm 22 and still afraid of driving. About the hypocrisy and worthlessness are all true. Also especially about alienating people and I found out this is the real reason why I left and never contact my old friends from elementary school until high school, and that's because I'm afraid of not being successful enough to make them pride of myself as their friends, afraid because I have so many problems and those might somehow affected them, because I always thought that I'm perfectionist. Thankyou for the enlightenment! I'll share this to my fellow infjs group and so we can improve to be better.
As an INTP I can see why INFJs benefit me in a beneficiary relationship.
Jared Vaughan Do you think this relationship is worth it in the long run?
TheRealYeti personally no. Se inferior is pretty good but I crave strong Te more than anything. Could just be me
Let's just hope the people we believe are INFJ actually are.
It doesn't matter what type anyone is, what matters is that it is accurate, yet so many people mistype still.
My boyfriend is an INTP. Been together for 3 years, complete ying and yang. Im all movement, he is all control. I just love love love it
You reminded me of the things I figured out in my soul but sometimes forget! I liked the video so you can remind me this hard truths every once in a while.
thank you for saying
INFJ here...slayed.
Man...you just read my mail.
I'm just gonna sit here and be silent for a while.
Total truth...
TR Life slayed? I still don’t get it. Why? Did you not know this? I’m pretty sure you did if you are an INFJ.
This lecture is intense. You okay INFJs? Lol
I'm sure they are all just fine in their ivory towers contemplating their navels with their doors slammed.
Jerson René yeah. Fi critic is hard to live with. So this isn’t much of anything. No one could ever be as hard on an INFJ as an INFJ living in their own head.
NeTiFeSi Alexander As an INFJ, yes Fi critic is the worst thing. It takes away my dignity and rights as a person to show up and be part of the world. It’s irrational and dumb but here we are listening to it and devaluing ourselves. It’s like the devil v angel analogy but it’s mostly always the devil. Like having a war with yourself and you’re left like trash not worthy of being. So this video is uplifting because Joseph’s telling the truths we forget to be responsible for. It’s crazy how INFJs care about things yet we don’t care about ourselves to be capable of executing.
Issa yes and no for me
A little 😂 Im okay, I think 🤣
bro. This video litterally saved my life. I can't thank you enough. ❤
This is interesting. Debt to someone with interest, is a personal nightmare. I have zero debt because I live within my means (a novel idea to most Americans). I refuse to be a slave to my finances or the government. This quarantine has been eye opening to how many people are willing to give up their civil liberties just because the government recommended it. The ignorance is absolutely astounding.
Admitting fault is quite difficult, but I heard a quote once, "You can be right at the top of your voice, and be incredibly wrong". I have to constantly ask myself, "What is my part in this? Where are my blind-spots? What is my goal in wanting to be right? Am I being a hypocrite?". It helps to have a goal in mind if conflict arises. If the goal is to love the other person and understand them, then defending myself and trying to prove my point is not going to accomplish the goal.
Also, when do you sleep? haha. Don't overdo it, Chase. Your voice is an instrument to bring knowledge, but even it has its limits. Give it rest, and we will give you grace while you do.
INFJs do you love it? Do you love the roast? Oh yeah
😩
Yes, he obviously understands us more than people who compliment me.
Yes, I love the roast
Love your energy, man! Love your energy! As a typical INFJ I wrote a 70-line commentary, that I deleted, obviously. Just to avoid conflict. We, INFJs do that always. :)
Even though I take MBTI as a grain of salt nowadays, I really needed this talk. I have severe ADHD as well so motivation and actually doing things is a real struggle. Although when I do, it tends to be rewarding. I need to form a habit to start doing and stop thinking.
I have gone so long feeling like I didn’t belong in the world. Since doing research and finding your videos, THANK YOU! Thank you for your honesty! Thank you for the call outs, thank you for not saying “you’re too emotional!”. Even though you are just a face on the screen, you have made me felt seen and understood and I can’t even explain how much that means and how amazing that feels. You’re a beautiful creature! Thank you!
This just seems like a repeat of the who are the INFJs video ranting about what we should be doing not really informing us about the 4 sides of our minds. Feel like if you wanna grow more and get your message heard it may be useful to have more planned concise videos and maybe make them a bit less ranty, although your passion is clear to see!
ENFP unconscious is the activist side of their minds, once they're able to trust others and have a precise set of believes they can defend, they're able to use it, ESTP subconscious is their go to side for commanding and getting things done in the cool and relaxed manner they're known for, they can access this part of their mind by practicing and confronting their performance anxiety, lastly, ISTJ superego is the hellish inspector, they will go out of their way to find any evidence that you have betrayed them, or you are showing suspicious behaviour, the subconscious can play role in creating traps and tests in order to know how loyal you really are. This is how normally works, although every side of the mind can be cognitively transitioned in an orderly or chaotically way, changing the way each side of the mind behaves drastically.
@@waltertaboada9319 thank you that's really helpful! What is it about the cognitive functions that gives our ENFP unconscious those qualities? Maybe aspirational Fi Critic allows INFJs to trust in their feelings instead of critiquing them?
@@chiltthruya1935 basically when they're able to trust others intentions (this is the actual gateway to the unconscius) Ne Nemesis, and accept others will do wrong, but believing in them nonetheless because of their inner philosophy
That explains why he keep going and going about this rant for all of his INFJ videos! lol I liked his INFJs vs INFP because that one is on point without much rant.
Your sincerity is insanely powerful. Thank you for what you are doing.
Best roasting I've had since your Who Are the INFJs lecture. Thank you, I need to hear all of this regularly.
He roasted me to a medium rare and Gordon Ramsey liked it.
I just saw this upload and I have a big smile on my face. I’m so excited to watch this🙈❤️
I love how passionate you are in these videos.
Thank you, I could relate to that a lot.
Loved this thoroughly. Brutal honesty is the need of hour for improvement. Shying away from truth and not facing the problems which holds a person down is a recipe for further downfall. Thank you for this lucid video on much needed issues :)
NO ONE DESERVES BETRAYAL
many Si users, especially NTP and SFJ types would disagree.
Sure 'bout that ?
How do gamma quadra (wayfayrers) feel about betrayal? As they are also Se users
@@bobbyjean1581
Pain, they are the one to say 'I lost my biggest treasure when I lost you'
Edit : when they value you and are mature
But when they are man-children then they'll drown in art or work and won't have the humility to accept the reason it happened and will blame you or try to control you
Some additional info :
INTJ get super MEGA trust issues
ENTJ won't feel the same about that person anymore (honnestly they are the most precious snowflakes, don't hurt them and they'll be amazing to you) but they'll will themselves out of that rut, doing so may be in unhealthy or unethical ways
ESFP won't react well because they demand loyalty. They'll ruin your rep or get as many women as they can to prove something to themselves
ISFP questions themselves, becomes even more background to find a way to tunel their emotions out to the physical world
@@CSJoseph haha 😄
You make the best informative typology personality videos,, all of this is so so amazing, interesting, and extremelyyyyy helpful to me. I’m understanding so many things that I didn’t quite get before and this really does wanna push me to be even better and reach such heights of potential. It is true that I put myself down a lot, but I can also rebuild myself up and if I really want something I’ll work really hard even if it takes a lot outta me lol. Thank you for your insight and motivation(Especially during these hard times.) xx.
you are most welcome
Thankyou for putting all this content out there. Just wanted you to know it's really changing my life.
Thank you so much for making all of your videos. I was scared of the length at first, but now I can't stop learning!
Thank you for your effort, it's very precious for me. Lightening up my side that I never liked and understood. Thank you again. We won't fail.
Your advice about the practicing and having faith in the process means a lot to me. I struggle with this daily. Thank you
Yeasss been waiting so long for this!
This was actually pretty helpful.
I appreciate that you drop the BS attitude towards the INFJ unlike most others on this platform that depict us to be some kind of demi god.
I feel the urgency to actualize and move past the barriers that hold me back. The hypocrisy note was very interesting to me because I've been examining these areas as of late. I do feel there are times where I get comfortable and activate "pot calling the kettles black mode". However, these moments have become further apart and only really become debilitating when I lose confidence or am depressed about my own feeling/thought/behavior patterns. Tough love has always been present in my life - being able to discern where criticism is coming from (a loving place because they want you to succeed, or an insecure place that's being projected back to me) has come with time, though it certainly hasn't always been easy. Letting go of the victim mentality and taking personal responsibility is the only way forward ... Your videos serve as breadcrumbs to show me I am on the right path forward ... a little rough around the edges with the delivery ... but those are my favorite type - raw, uncensored, authentic, and unyielding. You are definitely a force to be reckoned with, Mr. Joseph, thanks for sharing.
Watching this and I sit up straighter. Yes, I will be strong, I will speak the truth, I will be a double edged sword, I will help people, I will not be afraid of failure, I will live out my God given purpose. Thanks for the pep talk, I will keep it close to my heart. The slightly insulting delivery is quite effective even if it hurts a little bit. Thank you Sir 😊
Hi C.S. Joseph, I just wanted to say a huge thank you and I really appreciate what you are saying and specifically the message to us INFJ's in this video. It is very applicable in my life right now (even down to the WoW comments, lol). Can't wait to take some of these teaching and apply them! Big love, J
I'm forever indebted to you for this deduction, and I'm paying it forward 🙏🏼
My favorite lecture of all time. Beats all the lectures I've had in the past 20-something years of my life in formal education. You have so much personality, it's hard not to like you even when you're being a hard ass.
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Thank you for what you do! You're the first videos that helped me start to learn about the INFJ complexity.
I've now started up a yt channel to journal my INFJ self discovery.
You are so welcome!
I remember watching one of your first INFJ videos in the morning before going to a job I was struggling with. It was the wake up call I NEEDED. I VALUE the time you take to be direct and that you are not afraid to emphasize your message. I broke down and cried hard while watching the video and I watched it again and again when I felt lost. I quit my shitty job in February 2020. I have quite literally joined a wolf pack by working with dogs and taking care of them. It's tough, but the key really was forgiveness. I HAD to forgive who I was hating to move on. It is one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life, but it gave me freedom to forgive myself for being imperfect and permission to try, try again because I have nothing to loose. I'm currently deciding what to do to make a living after working with dogs. Thank you for helping me hear what I know in my heart. I have a journal I call my spell book where I write down what I want to manifest. I'm going to practice coding and develop a new career without getting into debt. I can't thank you enough. Thank you.
Omgggg new lecture !!! And its aboutt INFJss , i'm in time where i reallyy need this , m already happy before even watching itt ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
CS Joseph you are the only one that ever made me hit rock bottom and build me right up again. Thank you.
I absolutely love this lecture. With my ESTJ mother leaving I suddenly got thrown out my comfort zone and literally lost everything. I always thought that I was weak and sad and artistic and only my mom understood me, she saw me for more than what I was. It’s time to get my life together and become the person that I’m meant to be.
Oh my, I really love this video. Thank you Chase.
My face through the entirety of the lecture-
“🥺😔” I felt it when he called us “pathetic!, worthless!!, Hypocrites!!” This truly made me realise, all the times I could’ve been a better version of me, and helped out others instead of being an immature person. But I think its time to literally face my demons and be the best version. Thank you for this Sir Joseph!!
Hi C.S Joseph, I've recently found your channel and I'm blown away by everything you're saying as I've gone my whole life without knowing anything about this MBTI and it's all making sense to me now (wish I knew about it in my younger years). I definitely need to book an appointment with you as so much of what you've discussed, particularly in this vid rings true - a lot of experiences and dealings in my life, it's like you're talking directly to me. Around the 48- 50 mins mark, this was where I was at in 2015, nothing to lose, put myself on the internet, got a whole lot of people mimicking me (including well known celebrities, got loads of proof of it, not BS'ing). I'm so impressed by your knowledge and I know that I'm needing to learn more about INFJ and grow as a person. Would love to work with you soon in coaching if you consider me a good fit, thank you C.S.
Hopefully it stays that way, because eventually I will hit everyone’s precious ego investments
@@CSJoseph Hahaha yes! It is certainly needed at this time, more than ever. I took the test on 16 personalities website, but oh man, you have spoken so much more in depth. Thanks C.S!
U have the most informative videos out of everybody I've found. It appears that I'm an INFJ based on all the personality tests I've taken the last 2yrs and all the videos I've watched. Even the B.S. ones that make it sound like INFJs are some sort of super rare, superheroes. For the people who
just want to feel special and hear how unique and powerful they are. I don't need videos to tell me how rare I am. I've been me for 41yrs and I don't think anybody that knows me could compare me to anybody else they know. It's cool and I take pride in always being myself and staying true to my values but it's kind of a giant a pain in the ass too lol. It's starting to look like I did a pretty damn good job of developing myself as an INFJ. I understand your whole + and - episode strategy to paint a more complete picture. I've sat n listened to you yell at me and berate me for like 3hrs cuz I genuinely want to learn how the psychology behind everything works. I think you seem to be the most knowledgeable and give the most scholarly explanation of things. It's a bit unpleasant getting yelled at for loaný ho
Ljj7uur about what a POS I am, when the majority of the stuff has never applied to me and most of what does/did, was 15-25yrs ago. U should do one, or even a whole series about the more well developed individuals of each type. I'm far from perfect and have regressed in some areas after a devastating break up a few years ago. Which I followed with my most powerful and longest self destruction. I ended up finally understanding that happiness is a choice and so your mood and what kind of day u wanna have. I haven't had a bad day in a year and a half. If I could get back what I lost in the devastation, I would be a force to be reckoned with. I have a 21yr old son I raised from 5 months old til the present. I was barely 20 when i got sole custodyof him. I used to be a Certified Personal Trainer and have helped a bunch of people get the results they wanted over the years. Still have the knowledge, not the Certificate. I've been asked to be a best man at friends weddings 4x, I've been a groomsmen 2x and backed out of contention to be one 2-3 times. I have at least 3 Godsons and have also passed on consideration for that honor a time or 2 as well. I'd very very interested to know more about upper end of development for INFJs. U could probably yell at me for some relevant stuff if u did lol. All the stuff you're chastising people for, I started working on changing when I was 7 lol. Nobody showed me what to be like or how to be it, so I ended up deciding what I didn't want to be when I grew up. I didn't want to be anything like people. So I started trying to become all things people pretend to be but arent.
Yay!! I've been waiting for this!!
Mindfulness practice has been helping me TREMENDOUSLY with the worthlessness and recognition need piece. It is so important to take care of that to truly feel useful which is what we really need to feel fulfilled.
Love it chase - thanks for pulling out your own fiery sword of truth.
I really love and appreciate these. As you say, iron sharpens iron.
Mine is Icy :)
Iron sharpens iron. I like that 👌
This is a cathartic and enlightening video for me, thank you. Watching this from time to time itself is like a practice to take criticism without tearing up. However, not everyone I have door-slammed deserve a second chance from me (yet)...and while I no longer harbour hatred for them, it was the right thing to do at the moment, because, self-love comes first. We cannot serve from an intoxicated vessel.
I'll be the infj paladin!!
Thank you cs joseph
I'm subscribed to your channel through another account, I watched this episode before I have progressed a lot in my life,I re-watched it now. This is one of the most valuable advice I can hear in my life!
Our whole family is the pack of my youngest son (INFJ). He is the one we all go to for the final say in any of our endeavors. He is also the DM of his very successful D&D group. He is altogether a most admirable man.
I am an INFJ, rewatching this after one a half year marrying ENFP, I remember watching this while getting to know him. I was literally applying everything that i learnt from you, from all the videos (cognitive transition, social engineering, 4 pillars of self intimacy, Including relationship) and it works. It is truee, we need to reach the mental point in our life "we have nothing to lose".
At that time, I was even aiming to know ENFPs, ENFP when they meet INFJ, they will just not let INFJ go, they will try the hardest to protect INFJs and trying to make us happy. Basically everything we need in a partner, definitely a gifts from heaven to INFJs.
I just have to let u know Chase, thanks so much for all the efforts and changing our INFJS life. 😊
Thank you!! I really needed to hear this! Yeah, the sound quality wasn't the greatest, but that just made me listen harder! I wish more people would tell us like it is without worrying about hurting our feelings. Not all INFJs take thier feelings that seriously! This motivated me to make some serious changes that have been on my mind. It's a calling I can't ignore and it's going to be difficult, but thanks to you, I'm F'ing READY to bring awareness to the cold hard truth. A lot of people need to be yanked straight up and out of the comfortable life they're living in. I'm gonna get people off the couch. I'm gonna tell them to turn the TV off and get off the couch. We're going to burn TVs in the street like Germany burned books and it's gonna be the best block party/bonfire/chain breaking ceremony ever. Thanks to you. God I hate/love ENTPs
So interessting to hear you talk... now i get the idea of informative talking... instead of saying "the seasion wont be available anymore, so sign up and get it. Dont miss out this oppurtunity" you really just inform us... thats so refreshing and it doesnt pressure me that much... you really leave it open to the listenter...i myself must admit that i definetly have had made clearer instructions because i see the benefit in them and i want as much people as possible to watch them and to benefit... i would encourage them more directly...
Loving my life as a foster parent! Leaving a legacy of love ❤️ thank goodness I’ve grown passed those weaknesses.
High performing is so exhausting but the most rewarding. ☺️
Great video! This was a really good message, really enjoy your content
Finaly the thing ive been waiting for :)
This was a really good lecture... I’ve written notes and appreciated the criticism.
The way the INFJ mind flows sounds similar to the Enneagram tritype of 4 (dramatic, pity, idealistic), 6 (skeptical and loyal), & 8 (anger issues and commanding). I mentioned this because I’ve just recently looked into tritypes and thought how weirdly similar the descriptions were to the ones in this video.
Thank you for clearing up patterns I have or haven’t recognized before about myself, “who are infj” hit me good w good timing and so does this one, very irresponsible w my ni n I see how it trickles into alienating people along w my se being so insecure, I’m nasty at most video games but practicing discipline and focusing on the truth went aways for me and choose to stick w the same person or (select few) that don’t that don’t take my advice or anything n I feel like I’m not getting anywhere n fizzle back into a worthless depression where I don’t say shit n hate people when ik that’s not what I really want to believe n I’m strugglin
30:08 '' he preaches a message of love and not of hatred, how is that possible for an INFJ? " it's formulated so weirdly as if they have to try their best not to be evil
Can’t wait to hear this!
This lecture is smashing me and I love it hahaha
Every few months, I come back to the same videos to listen to C.S. Joseph shouting at me and rebuking me for having the oh-so-familiar sense of worthlessness and self-pitying, so that I can be reinvigorated to help others, and myself again.
Same
This one really pushed the needle with me. An all time good lecture.
Finally.... was waiting for this one. Thank youuu 😀
This will be the first of many comments on this video, probably.
First thing that has jumped out at me is the Si Demon stuff. Not attempting to make excuses, just to explain from my point of view.
Yeah, the memories of people who abandon us tend to be bad, and it’s because of where our experiences with that person ended up. But we’re aware that the person isn’t all bad. It’s why we let them in close enough to have it hurt that much when they abandon us. It’s tough to remember good things about a person who abandoned you, especially when you deserve to be abandoned (whether it’s actually deserving or just Fi critic).
well said
With this video you have surpassed yourself, believe me. This time I have a lot to say: sorry if it's too long. I was an INFJ (probably 5w4 or 4w5) when I was a child. I was as you comment until I was 16 years old. Then came a great crisis (or depression) that lasted 2 years and caused hypercholesterolemia (I had no action at all before that age). It was in that crisis that I moved to a more ISTJ state (I got excellent grades, played sports, was "hyperresponsible" with myself and with all my surroundings). I went to university: I wanted to choose between physiotherapy, medicine, psychology or biology. I chose physiotherapy, because it seemed to me that it was the only one who had a little of everything (my grades had been so high that I could choose any university degree, so I chose what I wanted to choose). That "adaptation" phase lasted until I was 21-24. Between that age and 35 everything was "success" and "well-being" in everything I did. At the age of 35 I had another crisis, I think this time of "anxiety", because it was a different sensation than the one I had at 16 years old, but different, since it generated insomnia, something I had not felt before. See if my evolution was so strange (and following more or less the same steps that you suggest in this video) that I am now an ENTJ, 8w7 enneagram, that uses "introverted thinking" as the main function. I hardly use "extroverted feeling". The evolution you comment sounds great, but trust me, it doesn't sound the same when an INFJ (5w4 or 4w5) tells you what they think than if it an ENTJ 8w7 does, even though their feelings and intentions remain exactly the same. ;-)
If one person wants to keep being a real INFJ must listen to their guts about "other's feelings" (extroverted feeling)... If you loose that part, you become something different, not an INFJ anymore... the question is that this "something different" you become can be even more helpful than you as an INFJ with "inaction".
This is why a lot of INFJs are mistyped as "other types"... they stop being real "INFJs" because "being an INFJ is weird even for your family. ;-)
There is not much on my mind I'd like to say right now, only a simple thank you. Thank you for yelling out the facts I need to hear.
Can I just say thank you for putting out this video and doing what you do? -INFJ
I love that part of Josephs style is consistently and vehemently arguing with NOBODY lmao
They are all past arguments
@@CSJosephwow...
This reminds me of the time my best friend decided to stop talking to me all of a sudden, not telling me why, and mind this, we were like 13 years old at the time. I took it so personally, i hated her for 9 years straight. Only 9 years later, and after working on myself for 3 years, have i relaized how much wrong i had done. For example, when she stopped talking to me i cried a lot. But i never told her and just accepted her ignoring and had never confronted her about it so I never let go. And when I was able to see how she wasn't the only one who was wrong and that i made mistakes too, only then was i able to get rid of that hatred completely...
Thanks for this.This is really life changing.
Not gonna lie, it took me 5 years to get my driver's license now i'm almost in my mid-20s and i don't have a job yet. I favor my Ni-Ti way too much that Fe-Se hit me like a pile of bricks and it's tough to exercise them but I'm not giving up on my growth because i so want to reach my goals in this ONE life. Such is why i love and appreciate your content C.S Joseph, it brings me back to base and reality. I gotta remind myself these things.
The advice to practice, practice, practice and just get over your fears can be damaging for INFJs. This can lead to burnout and feeling even worse about their perfectionist tendencies.
You have to figure out your reasons, why you want to do something, why you are afraid to do something. You have to figure out your limits take breaks, take time for yourself. Since you are so sensitive to the external world and to other people, you need to take time and get rid of all this noise. Don't just blindly put in 12 hour work days and think that's ok, even ESTPs can't do that for a long time.
Just "practice, practice, practice" may work for a while, but not long term. Being persistent and not giving up even if you know you didn't do as much as you wanted, starting over again even if you think your progress is very slow, forgiving yourself for not working "hard enough", now that would be a good long term strategy.
Obviously to practice, you have to know what it is you want to master.
Wowwww!!! You really did blind fold us and put us against the wall, ready for a bullet!!! Not being " butt hurt" at all though. Just as we need to "wield" the truth as much as we need to "hear" the truth in order to aspire. I have used my Ti to a degree in the past where I made my manager cry. He so respected me after that. I have so much admiration for what you do and the reality of what humanity is that you drive into us. I really do wish that humanity would be more interested in the functions of our minds. I strongly believe, and I bet you've heard it a lot, that it should be a school curriculum. Thanks again for another amazing lecture. your passion at the end made me cry.👍
After I had worked on myself, I was finally able to speak out some necessary truths. Thankfully some of the ppl closest to me is an ESTP and an ENTJ and they were a great support when I did so, helping me not waver and stay consistently behind my words and decisions, sometimes calling me out on some faulty emotional thinking doing so. At times, getting the truth out there may be one of the most difficult thing you'll ever have to do, but it's tried and true - the right ppl will stay by your side no matter what. Also worth mentioning: my physical health noticeably improved as I did so.
I've only watched this vid today, but Chase is pointing out the exact things an INFJ should work on and I can back up his words on what the results will be.
Work on yourself with regular honest self-reflection, surround yourself with friends who help you become the better version of yourself (and not just suck you dry), trust them and get the needed truths out there. An INFJ can get to the point of loving yourself, even to the point of sleeping soundly despite having had to say some very difficult things. Really, things are rarely as bad as we may (doom)think they are XD
Its true about INFJs not letting go, I was in love with an ENFP who never reciprocated and just got over her today after 8 years when I watched your vids on self intimacy. im gonna be 27 in a month or two.
I also have become corrupt and not allowed me to burn as many lies lately, being more understanding due to lack of progress in what I want.
I have been arrogant and boasting so that i could lie my way into avoiding my performance anxiety.
Good Vid. (:
Had the same issue for 5 years, good that you got past it.