I told my future wife I was going to marry her on our 2nd date. She replied with "I hope so", that was 27 years ago. We have been in a wonderful honeymoon every day since then.
I’ve been married for 18 years and I can say this man is talking the truth!!! I was the person with the connection and needed to heal. Thank God my husband was patient with me because I definitely needed to heal before marriage. I’ve been fortunate enough to heal with him. I have to be honest that I made it hard for him and would have understood if he would have left. I wish I could take back those early years because my husband really deserved much better than what I gave him. I do my best now to cherish and honor him every day. He is my best friend and life partner…. Please Take Stephens advice and HEAL people!!!
I 100% agree that healing is so important!! I'll be married 20 years in December. As a Christian woman I didn't realize how wounded I was. I brought with me past hurts from being burned in a previous relationship with my son's dad. I put a wall up, and as soon as I showed vulnerability, and it wasn't reciprocated, that wall went back up. I have a very patient loving husband. He stayed through all my drama. Here I was blinded, saying Lord I want out of this marriage, but the Lord being so loving and patient towards me said "just wait". We started marriage counseling, and I also started praying a prayer for my husband that I've been saying almost daily, and the Lord is not only doing a work in his heart, but especially mines. I was praying for the Lord to restore our marriage to where he wants it to be, and he honored my prayer. My heart is full, I'm thankful, grateful, and so appreciative. I'm thankful God allowed me to have a patient husband, and not someone like how I used to be. We're like two lovebirds, holding hands, plenty of hugs, and great intimacy.🥰
That's because your husband has emotional intelligence and I don't know if he is spiritual or not but that patience is in God's Word...Patience and kindness is very hard to find especially if you need healing from something and they know u not just being evil to them but really trying to unlearn some things from previous to be the best u can be for them...I must say I am very excited and happy for u I love to hear that...I was with a very impatient individual I went from being a laughable kind of person to so serious now I don't remember the last time I actually laughed around this person 😒...wishing u many, many great years of marriage 😃!
I gained a lot of weight (90lbs) during my 1st pregnancy. My husband always made me feel beautiful and sexy. Now I'm down 40 lbs and feel like a deflated balloon. He still treats me like I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. That's love 💕
The world of a woman, accept them the way they are, how long it took you to loss weight, if your husband was broke after your marriage would you have stayed if he takes that long to get back to his feet.
Pregnancy weight and lazy weight is the difference she has a reason to have the weight when pregnant but once the baby drops she need to be dropping the weight
I love seeing a man of color as a role model in this arena of life who expresses himself so throughly and embodies what he’s preaching. I love to see it. #RepresentationIsImportwnt
The key is to get so busy working on yourself doing you and healing any traumas in Yourself that you don’t need to look for anyone.you’ll be so surprise of how you’ll start attracting people without you trying.I have always been busy working on myself and my inner and outer healthy self that I’ve never had to go looking for relationships. You really do become a magnet to positive energy.Never stop doing for yourself to the fullest.Your cup should always be full of goodness.
Hello it work☝☝☝ I can't I'm with my love again after so many years of break-up 🏃♂🏃♀🏃♀,,,,,, he do alot of work okay,,.and keep to his words and it works within 48hours
Isn't this the other way around? Just saying? If they DO something - isn't this SHOWING👀 Me? Just saying?Doesn't action speaks louder than words? Just saying?🥴🤫
@Mattejko Hello. XX chrosome vs XY chromosome?I watch what people do along with their pattern of behavior 80%& listen to what they say 20%. At the end ,the proof is in the pudding.
Women in community of oppressed men have additional dysfunctional factors to handle that are not problematic in other ethnicities. An oppressed man may have issues on display and behaviors women must overcompensate for. Dysfunctional behavior has a domino effect upon women and children through community.
5 minutes in and what he is saying about healing or you will miss out on who could be your person is so true. I met a guy a decade ago now. He was related to a friend of mine at the time, and in a group setting he was cool, but my friend kept saying y’all need to go out. Y’all will hit it off and holy shit she was right. All we did was talk for 4-5 hours just talking and it was as easy as breathing. We both admitted we had never felt anything that intense ever. I met his mom and best friend a couple weeks after talking and they both said they never saw him like this before, but he had past traumas and commitment issues and became distant so I had to let it go. It would be another 3 years before I found something like that again, but this time it stuck and I’ve been with my husband for 7 years this July and we have a 1 year old son. 😊
Actually what you did is use him to "level up" to the husband you have now. Either bigger penis size or different attitude. Maybe you were the one who was wrong at first. Its a literal thing women do you can look it up. You dont seem aware that you did it tho smh
You also know that you have healed from past pain is when it doesn't hurt you like it once did. You can see or think about the person/situation and actually look at it as a lesson learned instead of a lamenting loss. When the hurting decreasing, the healing is increasing. :)
I did that. I sent a letter to my mother. This practice can only be received by a normal person. My mother is a textbook narcissist. I did it for me. I said my peace. She didn’t take it well. It’s okay. I have healed from her negative and toxic upbringing. Sometimes we don’t need to keep people in our lives. And we need to be okay with that.
@@ksquareshow4480 The best thing for a narc that I have learned and done research on is to grey rock them. Doesn;t matter what you say, they either wont believe you, gas light you or worse, feel a narcissistic injury and then plot to somehow ruin or interfere with your life. The best revenge you can get on a narc is to live your life perfectly and peacefully without them. Without them knowing anything about you, because in the end, it doesn’t matter. They will never feel remorse and the remorse they feel is dilute to THEIR loss of narcissistic supply, not because they hurt you.
@@lm3729 true, yea I was blocked by her anyway. I personally think the reason I likely won’t ever hear from her again is because she feels too guilty to speak
That's a sly way of saying God is ok with Divorce. God hates divorce. He will never divorce us. Acting a fool go to counselling. People give up on marriage so easily just because of pride. It's really sad..forget the bible I'm out..
@@theprophet7482 no it isn't and sometimes a marriage can be so toxic that a divorce could be the best way to go when no amount of counseling could fix.
@@fucker661 So true. A toxic mind is a breeding ground for negativity to prosper. If you aren't at the level in your own life that you can rise above adversity & tackle problems with an open mindset, then it's nearly impossible to go forward with a sense of reasoning that is necessary when problems to arise. If anything, not having the ability to communicate effectively will only cause even the smallest problems to manifest themselves into something that inevitably will destroy any sense of well being amongst either party. Husband or wife. Just my personal opinion though. 😉
These 2 guys make a great intelligent and sinergic team. The level of this conversation is so high, enriching and enlightening that is pure gold. Probably they have become great friends after some of these incredible conversations. I'm becoming really addicted to this incredible content ❤
I've been healing for 2-3 years now and I love myself, spend time alone, try to put myself first. I stopped telling myself stories and instead I faced all my wrong doings. I no longer fear being hurt. I trust myself that whatever happens I will make the right decision. I met some great guys that I just didn't connect with and thought I was crazy.....now I know I wasn't. Great vid guys, thank you XXX :)
"There is a difference between a man who loves you but does not know how you want to be loved and the man who doesn't care about what you want and how you want to be loved"
People have to respect "Sex as Sacred". Its the most beautiful thing when two souls intertwined each other during the process and doing it with compassion , respect and LOVE.
@yolanda jerginson thats for animals insects not humans even though people take anyone for their needs, men are wired like this thats why men dont respect women cause they know it's easy buy them a drink or dinner desert will be sex lol, noble women/men will do their reasearch first. We were born to produce not used. Animals can do this. The most devorced are women/men who gave their lives time 100%.Not been rude. here.
@yolanda jerginson These are sincere questions. I want to understand your perspective. Do you believe in the spirit(doesn't have to be biblically)? Do you believe that there is a deep connection in sex whether that be mixing of energy or spiritually. Do you believe that sex can be one of the most vulnerable interactions two ppl can have?
“Let the children see happy, healthy relationships, not just with other people but within yourself!” Amen!! Loved this. Loved the ending of this interview btw, his story how he got into this work is amazing & how god has def guided him to serve his gifts is beautiful.
Within seconds of meeting my fiancée, I knew (I felt) she was absolutely the one. Happened so fast and so intense I kept my mouth shut and just let her talk. I didn’t want to be babbling idiot. It only intensified as she talked and revealed herself. She did not know the woman I was searching for. Little did I know at the time, she was experiencing the same thing. Within less than one hour, we both shared what we were experiencing. It has never lessened. Only increased and became deeper. Back then it was mind, heart, soul and after these, only then did anything physical in nature be thought of. Very interesting that it was our spirits and not our eyes or minds. It’s true! Definitely avoid anything and everything physical whether through your eyes, mind or more. To say physical is a distraction is in understatement. I totally agree!
This was one of the best q&A sessions I've ever watched, concerning relationships, self-healing, individual spirituality, and overcoming relationship-based traumas.
I definitely believe your spirit knows immediately. That’s why we ignore red flags in the beginning and stay longer than we should, even though our spirit was speaking to us from the jump.
I have a laugh with the guys I know they never think to seduce me there are men and there is thee man. Its better to not look if it comes gud if it dosent its ok too people come into our lives for a reason and a season not for who we are.
You are absolutely right with this statement! Red flags getting thrown up like an NFL referee, yet we still choose to ignore those and stay in a toxic relationship thinking, this is only a temporary I know things will get better. Unfortunately it only gets worse!
I love Stephan, I have been listening to his coaching videos everyday, he is the best relationship coach on RUclips ❤️. Thank you for having him interviewed 🙏
Wow! My late husband asked me to marry him on our first Weekend we met three months later on his Birthday after meeting everyone we were married for 16 years until death did us apart in 2010 So I know they know 🙏❤️
I feel the exact same way about my fiance that I lost to COVID 2 years ago...we were planning our wedding and as I trudge and I triumph through my grief process...I realize how truly, TRULY rare and PRECIOUS true love is. I find myself becoming more and more grateful for the time we had in this physical incarnation, but in my mind, heart and soul he is and always will be my husband. I am so blessed to have been loved by and have learned from him. May they both live on through love, that is an energy that never, EVER dies...it simply transmutes. I try to walk in that and honor that on that days where ever cell in my body screams and agony and I'd give everything I've every desired or earned...to just look that man in his beautiful loving eyes and express my gratitude to him and The Most High for allowing me to experience that pure spiritual connection at all. If you ever need an ear or a shoulder (albeit, virtually...or otherwise cause I love to travel! Feels like I'm taking my baby with me without having to plan around his hectic corporate work schedule lol)
Read the book “The Five Love Languages”. Take the quiz. When you find someone who you a-line with at least the top 3, a relationship is more effortless. Even in friendships.
With every breath, the old moment is lost; a new moment arrives. manifestation.guide We exhale and we let go of the old moment. It is lost to us. In doing so, we let go of the person we used to be. We inhale and breathe in the moment that is becoming. In doing so, we welcome the person we are becoming. We repeat the process. This is meditation. This is renewal. This is life.
I knew as soon as I saw my husband. I saw him and nothing else around him,it was spiritual. Even with all that we've gone through, and even after 22 years.
@@bonniebraden9534 that is negative thinking, we been married for 23 years. I knew him for over 25. There is not set time for a relationship fail. We have had many problems, but it is about willing to fight through them and work them out.
The more i listen to people's assessments on people it's faaar fetched!! It's like its too much toxicity going on with so many different variables being the reasons!! It's kind of smart to just spend time fulfilling yourself fully before even considering to be with one!! Take time, as much as you need!! As much as it takes!! As much as you can!!!
With my very busy schedule in healthcare, Stephan Speaks is what I need every week to listen to. He makes my day offs more productive. Thank you for interviewing him.
Holy cow....this guy's views are so refreshing and all of them resonated with me. He's wonderful to listen to. I was mesmerized. This is my first time listening to Stephan. Fantastic video and the interviewer asked great questions.
He is so right! I wished I saw this video 23 years ago before I entered into a marriage that I now understand it was the wrong reason when we got together. I was young and inexperienced, now at 49 I understand that he was the wrong person from the beginning not because he didn’t love me or still love me but because he was obsessed with me and dominant to the point to get me physically sick… then comes a beautiful son and then you stuck for half of your life…
@Jordan Aubrey- Real Estate Investing Done Right (that's a long name lol), I've been teaching my sisters in Christ for a very long time that those same walls you've built around your heart to stop people from coming in to love you, are the very same walls that will block people from coming in to love you. Thankfully, that when we pray for spiritual maturity in this area, The LORD will send a soldier who is equipped to break down those walls like it's Jericho! Blessings!
This is GOLD! These are such amazing truths! I love this guy! Thank you Stephan for the work you're doing. We NEED people like you on this planet doing this beautiful work, talking about healing and connection. It is so true that when you heal, you have so much more perspective. You SEE people for who they are. Your intuition is honed. It really does feel like you're more in touch with spirit. Thank you for spreading this message!
Stephan is an incredibly powerful coach and I'm amazed at how he gives such great information and advice without being in a relationship or married! I took his advice and wrote down a list of how I was hurt in previous relationships and WOW! It became crystal clear what I had to release and the patterns I was shown through my parents behavior and marriage. Thank you this was much needed.
I think that makes him even more authentic. One, most adults that are mature and choose to be single are generally doing so as a healthy decision for themselves. 2 He can look at scenarios and be more logical and less emotional about the situations. 3 More than likely he is also very busy doing this to help people that it would take away from a healthy relationship.
And that's why I can't take him seriously ...sometimes I can't hear him ..... prefer Tony Gaskins ..... married .... children .. been through a lot .. very transparent for a man ...
Wait, so he’s NOT married or in a relationship? Then how can he be a "relationship expert”? That’s like going to a real estate expert who doesn’t own any real estate.
@@UncleSwell707 U don't need your doctor to be sick in order to understand your illness. It's called medical school and training. He studied psychology or counseling. Education is powerful; which is the reason it was denied to certain people who white supremacy had deemed inferior.
I believe that it would be extremely beneficial for anyone to not only hear this video,but to truly hear these words & apply it to their lives ♥️ Thank you so much for sharing 🙏🏼✨
Attraction is huge. Letting yourself go is huge. EGOes are fragile in these situations. Hold on to yourself and do what you did before the relationship. I literally tell myself "Hold on to yourself honey"....its deep.
@Deus Vult not paying? Really? that must make you feel more masculine if you dont pay 😂 its true tho, she dont need your money or your your male insecurities. Seriously, pay for the fucking meal and tell her to have a nice life, if she's not what you're into. It's not that serious bro. Hang on tight to your $60 tho if that makes you more secure im your manhood 💀 a secure man won't be bothered by a petty meal or who tf pays for it. I get it youre trying to be Alfa but complaining about not paying is very beta. Try again!
@@theresemeggitt8455 you are right sad that someone would do that. But sometimes an individual does it without knowing their doing it because it is the normal for them. Imagine that person saying “let me destroy this before they can destroy it”. It is more common than we know. Bless up!!
@@michelleadams5951 Hi, Happy New Year. I would like to first say that we have emotions as humans. When your spirit feels out of place that’s when it’s time to reevaluate what & why this has even occurred. I’m not for sure if you have heard that old saying” You know your body better than a doctor”? You & your body are connected by your spirit. Your spirit is telling you something is wrong. If you have always felt like things do not always turn out right for you This could be the # 1 reason you would self destruct good things. I want you to know that God Almighty loves you. You are worth every good thing in this life. Breathe & acknowledge this. Bless up!
I wholeheartedly agree with all the points Stephan makes in this video! People are so quick to settle down out of loneliness and fear that they miss the person who is truly for them.
I recently was forced to end a six year on and off relationship that was extremely toxic on both of our ends. I'm attempting to work on myself as a man and move forward with my life. I'm trying to work on forgiving those who've done me wrong so that I don't carry that negative energy with me to my next relationship. I'm trying to get closer to God. My ex lied to and cheated on me which has made me really question myself. Irregardless I will become better from this!
Same here - my girl was sleeping around behind my back, including two of my "friends". What gets me is I had so many good times and laughs with my friends. Now as I in thinking back, realizing they were probably laughing at me. It damages you for a long time. That was almost 30yrs ago for me. I am happily married now for 15-yrs, but I don't have male friends around. In fact, I don't call any man a best friend. I just know dudes from work or church and that's it. But I sometimes think in the back of my mind, "what if..". That's part of the damage I suppose.
Let God get inside of you through REPENTANCE of sins and accept JESUS CHRIST AS SAVIOR, READ THE HOLY BIBLE REGULAR THEN YOU'LL BE CLOSE TO HIM, HE LOVES YOU SO MUCH, ME TOO IN JESUS CHRIST
When he said the feeling was the spirit finding its match, I burst into tears! I was so overwhelmed emotion because that's what I've been trying to find the words for with my man . The second we met we talked for almost an hour , people thought we knew each other before! I had never met him but he was so familiar like it is still a beautiful feeling we both reminisce on a year later 💜
I absolutely agree 100%, my husband told me he loved me the very first night he met me We were engaged and married within 3 months and we have been married for 6 and 1/2 years now 🥰
Ohhhh.... I have been working on my healing, softening my masculine and re-connecting with my free playful feminine energy. WOW!!!! My life is so much juicier, work has gotten easier, life is so much more FULL!!
This video is my first time ever hearing from him & I usually scroll right pass 1hr + videos UNLESS I’m really interested in it & he went down my street plenty of times in this video.. made me realize some very deep things about myself & my marriage.. wow.. thanks man, I already feel healed a little bit!
I would definitely say in times like this to focus on YOURSELF, that way when times go back to as normal as they can you’ll be so confident in what you’ve built with all that time to yourself💪🏼
Yesss exactly what I've been doing. I feel like a whole different person spiritually, mentally and emotionally. I feel great and I thank my God, my close friends/family for that.* 💕
This is a different subject from the usual guys you bring on. But this guy is amazing! Lots of deep insight, knowledge, understanding and strategies. This is by far one of my favorite interviews Lewis. Thanks for introducing Stephan.
I had this experience with an classmate and I knew that very moment that I could love him!!! But I was afraid! I also was still holding on to a past relationship and he was too! I never had this experience in my whole life! When I tried to explain it to my friends, they didn't understand me. But the way you explained it, was 100% my story!!!
I have watched so many videos on relationships and I have to say this was probably the best I have ever seen. It was so on point on so many topics. Can't say enough about Stephan and also Lewis with incredibly well thought out and directed questions. Just awesome!!
Connection is created by... connecting: talking, relating, understanding, working together; connecting. Chemistry is just “there”. It’s the chemicals in our bodies that are just “there”. And it’s like these chemicals “magnetize” two people...”pull“ them together. The chemicals aren’t created or developed or “worked on”. They just “are”. That’s why people use the term “magnetic attraction” or “magnetic chemistry” or a “chemical attraction”.
I am 65, I thought I was healed. But I have been seeing someone I’ve known for fifty years who is as broken as I am. But at 70, even more hardened. Five years in I am just exhausted.
THE ONE Actually, no. At my age I process things differently, definitely not willing to interact with someone new. I actually have no regrets. What is interesting to me is how many famous, rich young women have been played. Some like Jill and Mary J and Anita actually having Husbands trying to take their money. For me, having known this person since childhood, I knew he wasn’t predatory. Just broken. And I had a kidney transplant two years ago. Definitely mitigating circumstances
I love being feminine and feeding into my man it's a wonderful feeling when it's reciprocal and I love letting him know that I'm so proud of him everyday thank you for all your help
Lewis Howes is the man he is so in tuned and so righteous and touching I should be speechless I actually do have so much I wish I could tell him and thank him for mainly just for being him
Just because you have a connection with someone doesn't necessarily mean that person is "the one". Sometimes it can be a person that has a similar purpose in life as you, feeds off your energy, etc. Some ppl are meant to only be friends. And the gentleman also stated something about fear...well that's not fear, that's call being cautious. God said guard your heart. So making sure that the person you have an instant connection with is not an imposter. Sometimes it takes months to be aware of that person's intent.
Or maybe years. This is my case. The man that I just wasted 1year 9mos of my time with only took me the long way to his depression, bipolarism, and anxiety. Come to find out he was deeply hurt with no confidence, no masculinity, no passion, no positivity about life itself. He thought being cocky and sarcastic was confidence , he thought goin to the gym 6 days a week was masculine because he had muscles, but was very weak in other areas. We did have a connection as far as wanting the same things in our future, we was sexually attracted to each other but come to find out that was it. What was revealed to me over time was , he had no respect for women , he hated the idea of paying all the bills, he had a stigma against successful women , he only viewed women as a sexual object, he's for the 50/50 relationship. Hates ig models because he thinks they just sit and look pretty and get the best men with money, but deep down he really wants to be with one but he knows he dosen't have the money or the status to even hold a conversation with them let alone go on a date. Everything with him was a constant competion. He resent his mother subconsciously, he never gained direction from his father, btw his mom and dad had been married for 20 years plus he amplify that as if its him , I accidentally viewed that as "oh he's goin to be with me 20 plus years and were gonna have a successful relationship" boy was i wrong. So back to your statement just because you have a connection with someone dosent mean yall are ment to be. And you should continue to guard your heart above all else.
@@msve3730 Thanks for sharing and thanks for your honesty. That's why you take the time to hear that person's views ( childhood, relationships, parenting, duties of a spouse, beliefs, discipline, finances, etc). We rarely investigate...yes I said investigate. Ask questions and come up with your own conclusions to determine if that person is the one for you. So yes you're right it can take years to get to know a person.
Excellent video! Confirmation for me. After healing and spiritual awakening and transformation. I have been single for 7 years. I’m a high valued business woman who refused to settle because I worked so hard to become who I seek. So, I waited and my true soul connection came into my life through the most unexpected way. It was worth waiting for. The connection was so strong that we couldn’t deny our emotions to express our feelings to each other. Thank you for the confirmation.
He’s speaking my language!!! I’ve been single for a very long time time on purpose to heal. I had to heal a lot 😃 and now I love myself so much more and are closer to a great relationship
This talk remind me of a book I read when I tried to understand my ex girlfriend behavior. The 7 habits of highly effective people. By reading that book I understood her fear and why she put up a 42 foot wall. We are not together now but I'm at peace more than ever
I felt the energy in the room of my husband before O even looked snd it scared the 🌸🦄🦋✨ out of me. Bc I knew that the moment I turn my head and see Him, my life as I have known it, has ended (at that moment I was married for 15 years + little son). This recognition is brutal and in my case fear is so understandable. I am super grateful though I kept honoring my soul and turned my head 🙏❤️❤️❤️
I have learned to watch for signs that I missed before in a past negative relationships, and if that man is throwing off all these red flags, 🚩🚩🚩 during the first three months, I end the relationship before it gets too serious or automatic they go in the friend category and I expect nothing from them from this point moving forward, so when we do get into an argument and breakup I was already gone to begin with, I emotionally detached myself from the situation months ago. 😁 And I don't become the crazy psycho ex stalker and when I see them in a new relationship with somebody else, in my mind, I've already made peace with the situation, I'm good. 🦋
Word. I felt that these two brothers was speaking poetry to my ears. Yass!! Y’all got me and my girls friends together. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 2020 Ain’t over yet!
Some men are a lot more proactive than others and some men are reactive. I think it’s important to know the type of person you’re dealing with before getting upset when things happen that would appear as common sense. It just may not be common sense to the other person and a lot of the time it may not be something the person has ever learned in life. Or they never had anyone worth utilizing this level of knowledge for. Staying in touch with this can determine how long a relationship lasts. At the end of the day, if you want to be with someone, you will stay and work things out and not look for the door when you aren’t happy without having a non-attacking or confrontational conversation. This was a great video. Thanks for all you guys do!
So glad I stumbled across this video. I want to attract more than a person who likes how I look, it’s about changing the type of ppl that are attracted to me in general.
1.34 Dont put so high expectations on the new person. It's not there responsibility to please a wounded person. No one will be good enough for that person if he or she is still emotionally connected to previous ex
@@GuerreroDelInfo that's not ALL women, I can take care of myself!! I don't date because of what someone else has..God bless the child who has their OWN.
"If you're broken, you will look for someone who is broken..."
I felt that.
Like attracts like with good or bad.
Well said and very true....
Broken people watching this video
Yeah but we are all broken in some ways and degrees
Deep and truthful.
I told my future wife I was going to marry her on our 2nd date. She replied with "I hope so", that was 27 years ago. We have been in a wonderful honeymoon every day since then.
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Awww, I want this
A man said that to me and I got really scared.
I wish I could have this!! You, Robert, are so blessed!!
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“The same walls you have up to protect you, are the same walls that are blocking your blessings” 🔥💥 This.
I felt that!!
Thats right. Women are constantly looking to be "blessed" by looking for a successful male who already has it or is on his way there.
I’ve been married for 18 years and I can say this man is talking the truth!!! I was the person with the connection and needed to heal. Thank God my husband was patient with me because I definitely needed to heal before marriage. I’ve been fortunate enough to heal with him. I have to be honest that I made it hard for him and would have understood if he would have left. I wish I could take back those early years because my husband really deserved much better than what I gave him. I do my best now to cherish and honor him every day. He is my best friend and life partner…. Please Take Stephens advice and HEAL people!!!
Very nice to hear from a wife. Go forward. Love your husband. Blessings to you both.
Thank you for sharing 💕 blessings to you, your partner, your relationship.
I 100% agree that healing is so important!! I'll be married 20 years in December. As a Christian woman I didn't realize how wounded I was. I brought with me past hurts from being burned in a previous relationship with my son's dad. I put a wall up, and as soon as I showed vulnerability, and it wasn't reciprocated, that wall went back up. I have a very patient loving husband. He stayed through all my drama. Here I was blinded, saying Lord I want out of this marriage, but the Lord being so loving and patient towards me said "just wait". We started marriage counseling, and I also started praying a prayer for my husband that I've been saying almost daily, and the Lord is not only doing a work in his heart, but especially mines. I was praying for the Lord to restore our marriage to where he wants it to be, and he honored my prayer. My heart is full, I'm thankful, grateful, and so appreciative. I'm thankful God allowed me to have a patient husband, and not someone like how I used to be. We're like two lovebirds, holding hands, plenty of hugs, and great intimacy.🥰
People do bring baggage with them into a marriage. My wife knew that when we got married and she has handled it well.
That's because your husband has emotional intelligence and I don't know if he is spiritual or not but that patience is in God's Word...Patience and kindness is very hard to find especially if you need healing from something and they know u not just being evil to them but really trying to unlearn some things from previous to be the best u can be for them...I must say I am very excited and happy for u I love to hear that...I was with a very impatient individual I went from being a laughable kind of person to so serious now I don't remember the last time I actually laughed around this person 😒...wishing u many, many great years of marriage 😃!
I gained a lot of weight (90lbs) during my 1st pregnancy. My husband always made me feel beautiful and sexy. Now I'm down 40 lbs and feel like a deflated balloon. He still treats me like I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. That's love 💕
Yes Wendy... keep him!
The world of a woman, accept them the way they are, how long it took you to loss weight, if your husband was broke after your marriage would you have stayed if he takes that long to get back to his feet.
Pregnancy weight and lazy weight is the difference she has a reason to have the weight when pregnant but once the baby drops she need to be dropping the weight
@@auchvett6372 you sound either very single or frustrated in your marriage 😁😁 stop projecting.
I don't get pregnancy weight. Your not eating for 2, you're eating normally + something the size of a cat
I love seeing a man of color as a role model in this arena of life who expresses himself so throughly and embodies what he’s preaching. I love to see it. #RepresentationIsImportwnt
people of ANY race can express intelligence...why do you bring up race?
@@cloudsunicorns194 yeah you totally read that wrong. But hey no one's going to sit and explain to you what she meant by that.
Yes me too!!!!! 🔥🥰
cause feminism is a no no it causes problems like this guy saying here
IKR! It's super refreshing 😌
The key is to get so busy working on yourself doing you and healing any traumas in Yourself that you don’t need to look for anyone.you’ll be so surprise of how you’ll start attracting people without you trying.I have always been busy working on myself and my inner and outer healthy self that I’ve never had to go looking for relationships. You really do become a magnet to positive energy.Never stop doing for yourself to the fullest.Your cup should always be full of goodness.
Hello it work☝☝☝ I can't I'm with my love again after so many years of break-up 🏃♂🏃♀🏃♀,,,,,, he do alot of work okay,,.and keep to his words and it works within 48hours
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex 3 days ago without delay.
contact him right away ☝..
I agree💯💯
Yes I’m totally agree 💯..thank you 😍
We really have to pay attention to what a person says vs. what they do. When a person shows you who they are believe them.
Isn't this the other way around? Just saying? If they DO something - isn't this SHOWING👀 Me? Just saying?Doesn't action speaks louder than words? Just saying?🥴🤫
@Mattejko Hello. XX chrosome vs XY chromosome?I watch what people do along with their pattern of behavior 80%& listen to what they say 20%. At the end ,the proof is in the pudding.
Women in community of oppressed men have additional dysfunctional factors to handle that are not problematic in other ethnicities.
An oppressed man may have issues on display and behaviors women must overcompensate for. Dysfunctional behavior has a domino effect upon women and children through community.
@Mattejko He or she can tell you they love you, if there is no action behind it, it don't mean a thing point blank.
Can I get a witness!!!😊
5 minutes in and what he is saying about healing or you will miss out on who could be your person is so true. I met a guy a decade ago now. He was related to a friend of mine at the time, and in a group setting he was cool, but my friend kept saying y’all need to go out. Y’all will hit it off and holy shit she was right. All we did was talk for 4-5 hours just talking and it was as easy as breathing. We both admitted we had never felt anything that intense ever. I met his mom and best friend a couple weeks after talking and they both said they never saw him like this before, but he had past traumas and commitment issues and became distant so I had to let it go. It would be another 3 years before I found something like that again, but this time it stuck and I’ve been with my husband for 7 years this July and we have a 1 year old son. 😊
Enjoy it while it lasts! =D
@@sokushinbutsu2877 everything is on borrowed time
I don’t
God bless you ma'am.
Actually what you did is use him to "level up" to the husband you have now. Either bigger penis size or different attitude. Maybe you were the one who was wrong at first. Its a literal thing women do you can look it up. You dont seem aware that you did it tho smh
You also know that you have healed from past pain is when it doesn't hurt you like it once did. You can see or think about the person/situation and actually look at it as a lesson learned instead of a lamenting loss. When the hurting decreasing, the healing is increasing. :)
Excellent choice of words
You know you’ve healed when you can talk frankly with others about it.
Indeed
I did that. I sent a letter to my mother. This practice can only be received by a normal person. My mother is a textbook narcissist.
I did it for me. I said my peace. She didn’t take it well. It’s okay. I have healed from her negative and toxic upbringing.
Sometimes we don’t need to keep people in our lives. And we need to be okay with that.
Exactly!!!!
Thanks for saying this. I want to send to my ex. I know she’s a narc but at the end of the day it takes strength to send it
Wow! I honor your courage. I need to do this. Same situation. I have just cut all contact. It feels better but the history still infects my thoughts
@@ksquareshow4480 The best thing for a narc that I have learned and done research on is to grey rock them. Doesn;t matter what you say, they either wont believe you, gas light you or worse, feel a narcissistic injury and then plot to somehow ruin or interfere with your life. The best revenge you can get on a narc is to live your life perfectly and peacefully without them. Without them knowing anything about you, because in the end, it doesn’t matter. They will never feel remorse and the remorse they feel is dilute to THEIR loss of narcissistic supply, not because they hurt you.
@@lm3729 true, yea I was blocked by her anyway. I personally think the reason I likely won’t ever hear from her again is because she feels too guilty to speak
When he said, "God doesn't want divorce but God didn't say act a fool in the marriage either" that hit so hard
That's a sly way of saying God is ok with Divorce. God hates divorce. He will never divorce us. Acting a fool go to counselling. People give up on marriage so easily just because of pride. It's really sad..forget the bible I'm out..
@@theprophet7482 no it isn't and sometimes a marriage can be so toxic that a divorce could be the best way to go when no amount of counseling could fix.
@@fucker661 So true. A toxic mind is a breeding ground for negativity to prosper. If you aren't at the level in your own life that you can rise above adversity & tackle problems with an open mindset, then it's nearly impossible to go forward with a sense of reasoning that is necessary when problems to arise. If anything, not having the ability to communicate effectively will only cause even the smallest problems to manifest themselves into something that inevitably will destroy any sense of well being amongst either party. Husband or wife. Just my personal opinion though. 😉
@@chrisneukam : That’s IT right there!💯💯💯
Is god real have you seen him/her? When what did he say, I'm intrigued
These 2 guys make a great intelligent and sinergic team. The level of this conversation is so high, enriching and enlightening that is pure gold. Probably they have become great friends after some of these incredible conversations. I'm becoming really addicted to this incredible content ❤
Your Intuition IS YOUR GUARDIAN ANGEL
I've been healing for 2-3 years now and I love myself, spend time alone, try to put myself first. I stopped telling myself stories and instead I faced all my wrong doings. I no longer fear being hurt. I trust myself that whatever happens I will make the right decision. I met some great guys that I just didn't connect with and thought I was crazy.....now I know I wasn't.
Great vid guys, thank you XXX :)
@SL3ND3RMAN 😂😂😂
@SL3ND3RMAN I love this reply :)
I'm busy :)
Are you a Choosey Suzie? or a Debbie Do me? Men do the hunting, but women do the hiring.
@@mediacenterman8583 I'm a bit of everything, like everyone else.
"There is a difference between a man who loves you but does not know how you want to be loved and the man who doesn't care about what you want and how you want to be loved"
What about a woman lol
@The Mark Soto Show The statement begins with There is a difference..read again
Amen.
@@kaelenanderson8466 that's a great question! WHAT ABOUT the initiators of 70+% of all divorces?
And the women gravitate to the one who doesn't care about them💁🏾♂️.
People have to respect "Sex as Sacred". Its the most beautiful thing when two souls intertwined each other during the process and doing it with compassion , respect and LOVE.
Word, because SEX is - Sacred Energy Xchange
WHICH IS WHY WE SHOULD ADSTAIN OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE
100% whoo whoo
@yolanda jerginson thats for animals insects not humans even though people take anyone for their needs, men are wired like this thats why men dont respect women cause they know it's easy buy them a drink or dinner desert will be sex lol, noble women/men will do their reasearch first. We were born to produce not used. Animals can do this. The most devorced are women/men who gave their lives time 100%.Not been rude.
here.
@yolanda jerginson These are sincere questions. I want to understand your perspective. Do you believe in the spirit(doesn't have to be biblically)? Do you believe that there is a deep connection in sex whether that be mixing of energy or spiritually. Do you believe that sex can be one of the most vulnerable interactions two ppl can have?
“Let the children see happy, healthy relationships, not just with other people but within yourself!” Amen!! Loved this.
Loved the ending of this interview btw, his story how he got into this work is amazing & how god has def guided him to serve his gifts is beautiful.
Within seconds of meeting my fiancée, I knew (I felt) she was absolutely the one. Happened so fast and so intense I kept my mouth shut and just let her talk. I didn’t want to be babbling idiot.
It only intensified as she talked and revealed herself. She did not know the woman I was searching for.
Little did I know at the time, she was experiencing the same thing.
Within less than one hour, we both shared what we were experiencing.
It has never lessened. Only increased and became deeper.
Back then it was mind, heart, soul and after these, only then did anything physical in nature be thought of.
Very interesting that it was our spirits and not our eyes or minds. It’s true!
Definitely avoid anything and everything physical whether through your eyes, mind or more.
To say physical is a distraction is in understatement. I totally agree!
Amazing! I hope to have a connection as profound, real, and deep as this one with my partner
This was one of the best q&A sessions I've ever watched, concerning relationships, self-healing, individual spirituality, and overcoming relationship-based traumas.
Totally agree
I definitely believe your spirit knows immediately. That’s why we ignore red flags in the beginning and stay longer than we should, even though our spirit was speaking to us from the jump.
my spirit loves repeated heartache, apparently!
You know in Spirit You knew before..you knew.
I have a laugh with the guys I know they never think to seduce me there are men and there is thee man. Its better to not look if it comes gud if it dosent its ok too people come into our lives for a reason and a season not for who we are.
If not immidiately.. Within 3 months
You are absolutely right with this statement! Red flags getting thrown up like an NFL referee, yet we still choose to ignore those and stay in a toxic relationship thinking, this is only a temporary I know things will get better. Unfortunately it only gets worse!
I love Stephan, I have been listening to his coaching videos everyday, he is the best relationship coach on RUclips ❤️. Thank you for having him interviewed 🙏
Wow! My late husband asked me to marry him on our first Weekend we met three months later on his Birthday after meeting everyone we were married for 16 years until death did us apart in 2010 So I know they know 🙏❤️
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I feel the exact same way about my fiance that I lost to COVID 2 years ago...we were planning our wedding and as I trudge and I triumph through my grief process...I realize how truly, TRULY rare and PRECIOUS true love is.
I find myself becoming more and more grateful for the time we had in this physical incarnation, but in my mind, heart and soul he is and always will be my husband. I am so blessed to have been loved by and have learned from him.
May they both live on through love, that is an energy that never, EVER dies...it simply transmutes. I try to walk in that and honor that on that days where ever cell in my body screams and agony and I'd give everything I've every desired or earned...to just look that man in his beautiful loving eyes and express my gratitude to him and The Most High for allowing me to experience that pure spiritual connection at all.
If you ever need an ear or a shoulder (albeit, virtually...or otherwise cause I love to travel! Feels like I'm taking my baby with me without having to plan around his hectic corporate work schedule lol)
@@lewishowes Bless you for your acknowledgement ♥️.
No way you can no someone in a weekend. Glad it worked, but lots of people put on an act and time allows the truth to come out.
“I know he loves me but he doesn’t know how I want to be loved”
Wow!! I’ll always remember this line!!
Thank you!! 🔥LOVE & LIGHT🔥
Read the book “The Five Love Languages”. Take the quiz. When you find someone who you a-line with at least the top 3, a relationship is more effortless. Even in friendships.
@@Joy-mm3cz Thank you for the recommendation!
I know she loves me but doesn't know how to love me.
But love is all about giving with no expectation in returns.. one day someone will deserve ur love than someone who demands for it.
Hypergamy at its best
"Your spirit knows before you mind knows" that was a bar.... so powerful! And i not even talking about in love terms....#intuition
Matthew 18:18
I disagree. Feelings are not the way to gage a connection. Feelings must be guided by Knowledge
With every breath, the old moment is lost; a new moment arrives. manifestation.guide We exhale and we let go of the old moment. It is lost to us. In doing so, we let go of the person we used to be. We inhale and breathe in the moment that is becoming. In doing so, we welcome the person we are becoming. We repeat the process. This is meditation. This is renewal. This is life.
Ur not a bad person but ur not a positive person👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 for an empath that was everything
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I knew as soon as I saw my husband. I saw him and nothing else around him,it was spiritual. Even with all that we've gone through, and even after 22 years.
That's beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
Same here....It's a beautiful story to tell
Wait till 23 years....
@@bonniebraden9534 that is negative thinking, we been married for 23 years. I knew him for over 25. There is not set time for a relationship fail. We have had many problems, but it is about willing to fight through them and work them out.
No such thing as instant genuine attraction. U just gambled and got lucky.
The more i listen to people's assessments on people it's faaar fetched!! It's like its too much toxicity going on with so many different variables being the reasons!! It's kind of smart to just spend time fulfilling yourself fully before even considering to be with one!! Take time, as much as you need!! As much as it takes!! As much as you can!!!
I did see a quote that says whatever I don’t learn the lesson from , it will come back to my life till I have LEARNED THE POINT .
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With my very busy schedule in healthcare, Stephan Speaks is what I need every week to listen to. He makes my day offs more productive. Thank you for interviewing him.
Holy cow....this guy's views are so refreshing and all of them resonated with me. He's wonderful to listen to. I was mesmerized. This is my first time listening to Stephan. Fantastic video and the interviewer asked great questions.
"Your spirit recognizing it's match"
Love that. 💕
Beautiful
me: 2 hours? okay i’ll listen to some 🙂
2 hours later: oh wow, it’s been that long?! 😄
really good! 👏🏾👌🏾🙏🏾
The title is so misleading. This is a combination of Stephan Speaks podcasts or interviews. Still good knowledge, but misleading with the title.
He is so right! I wished I saw this video 23 years ago before I entered into a marriage that I now understand it was the wrong reason when we got together. I was young and inexperienced, now at 49 I understand that he was the wrong person from the beginning not because he didn’t love me or still love me but because he was obsessed with me and dominant to the point to get me physically sick… then comes a beautiful son and then you stuck for half of your life…
I love when the two of you get together and talk. It’s great
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The walls that are built to protect you are the same walls that keeps happiness out.
Yes, this is true but it so.............freaking HARD!!!
Wow... so true
@@HonestKay72 wow. I haven’t even watched the video. The comments got me 🤔
I felt this
@Jordan Aubrey- Real Estate Investing Done Right (that's a long name lol), I've been teaching my sisters in Christ for a very long time that those same walls you've built around your heart to stop people from coming in to love you, are the very same walls that will block people from coming in to love you.
Thankfully, that when we pray for spiritual maturity in this area, The LORD will send a soldier who is equipped to break down those walls like it's Jericho! Blessings!
This is GOLD! These are such amazing truths! I love this guy! Thank you Stephan for the work you're doing. We NEED people like you on this planet doing this beautiful work, talking about healing and connection. It is so true that when you heal, you have so much more perspective. You SEE people for who they are. Your intuition is honed. It really does feel like you're more in touch with spirit. Thank you for spreading this message!
Just thought that I would tell you... I love you! 💙 just in Case no one has told you lately!
This man is absolutely right, it is a feeling is a very strong feeling that overrides all your safety protocols and all you can do is react.
Stephan is an incredibly powerful coach and I'm amazed at how he gives such great information and advice without being in a relationship or married! I took his advice and wrote down a list of how I was hurt in previous relationships and WOW! It became crystal clear what I had to release and the patterns I was shown through my parents behavior and marriage. Thank you this was much needed.
I think that makes him even more authentic. One, most adults that are mature and choose to be single are generally doing so as a healthy decision for themselves.
2 He can look at scenarios and be more logical and less emotional about the situations.
3 More than likely he is also very busy doing this to help people that it would take away from a healthy relationship.
And that's why I can't take him seriously ...sometimes I can't hear him ..... prefer Tony Gaskins ..... married .... children .. been through a lot .. very transparent for a man ...
Wait, so he’s NOT married or in a relationship? Then how can he be a "relationship expert”? That’s like going to a real estate expert who doesn’t own any real estate.
@@UncleSwell707 U don't need your doctor to be sick in order to understand your illness. It's called medical school and training. He studied psychology or counseling. Education is powerful; which is the reason it was denied to certain people who white supremacy had deemed inferior.
@@raehicks7348 Exactly! U don't need 10 kids to know they need to be care for & if u r not ready to commit 100 % to them, u shouldn't have them.
I believe that it would be extremely beneficial for anyone to not only hear this video,but to truly hear these words & apply it to their lives ♥️ Thank you so much for sharing 🙏🏼✨
I'm only 20minutes in and I've learned so much about myself and those around me, thank you.
What did you learn?
Attraction is huge. Letting yourself go is huge. EGOes are fragile in these situations. Hold on to yourself and do what you did before the relationship. I literally tell myself "Hold on to yourself honey"....its deep.
@Deus Vult 😂🤣😂😂 okkkk 🤣😂
@Deus Vult Lol they listening to Beyonce..."GIRLS! Who Run this Muther"😆
@Deus Vult not paying? Really? that must make you feel more masculine if you dont pay 😂 its true tho, she dont need your money or your your male insecurities. Seriously, pay for the fucking meal and tell her to have a nice life, if she's not what you're into. It's not that serious bro. Hang on tight to your $60 tho if that makes you more secure im your manhood 💀 a secure man won't be bothered by a petty meal or who tf pays for it. I get it youre trying to be Alfa but complaining about not paying is very beta. Try again!
@Atilla The Hung 🤣🤣🤣
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Lewis, you are killing it during this quarantine! The best people to interview, you are welcoming to your channel! You go man! Thank you ❤️
This guy is so good. I'm love this knowleage & wisdom.
This conversation needs to be available on all streaming services in America. This is Real Reality Talk Show.. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Self sabotaging is so real with a person that has been very hurt.
Sad that anyone would do this.
@naé T QQ
How do you recognize and heal those hurts
@@theresemeggitt8455 you are right sad that someone would do that. But sometimes an individual does it without knowing their doing it because it is the normal for them. Imagine that person saying “let me destroy this before they can destroy it”. It is more common than we know. Bless up!!
@@michelleadams5951 Hi, Happy New Year. I would like to first say that we have emotions as humans. When your spirit feels out of place that’s when it’s time to reevaluate what & why this has even occurred. I’m not for sure if you have heard that old saying” You know your body better than a doctor”? You & your body are connected by your spirit. Your spirit is telling you something is wrong. If you have always felt like things do not always turn out right for you This could be the # 1 reason you would self destruct good things. I want you to know that God Almighty loves you. You are worth every good thing in this life. Breathe & acknowledge this. Bless up!
I wholeheartedly agree with all the points Stephan makes in this video! People are so quick to settle down out of loneliness and fear that they miss the person who is truly for them.
I recently was forced to end a six year on and off relationship that was extremely toxic on both of our ends. I'm attempting to work on myself as a man and move forward with my life. I'm trying to work on forgiving those who've done me wrong so that I don't carry that negative energy with me to my next relationship. I'm trying to get closer to God. My ex lied to and cheated on me which has made me really question myself. Irregardless I will become better from this!
Same fam
Do you mind to share the story
Same here - my girl was sleeping around behind my back, including two of my "friends". What gets me is I had so many good times and laughs with my friends. Now as I in thinking back, realizing they were probably laughing at me. It damages you for a long time. That was almost 30yrs ago for me.
I am happily married now for 15-yrs, but I don't have male friends around. In fact, I don't call any man a best friend. I just know dudes from work or church and that's it. But I sometimes think in the back of my mind, "what if..". That's part of the damage I suppose.
Knowing your worth is very important
Let God get inside of you through REPENTANCE of sins and accept JESUS CHRIST AS SAVIOR, READ THE HOLY BIBLE REGULAR THEN YOU'LL BE CLOSE TO HIM, HE LOVES YOU SO MUCH, ME TOO IN JESUS CHRIST
Lewy I seriously dont think you have any online material that I am bored with! You're Channel is A+! Thank You for sharing your gifts of knowledge!!!
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
Stephan Labossiere is truly an expert in relationships. Thanks Lewis for such valuable content.
THIS IS ONE OF THE BEST IF NOT THE BEST INTERVIEWS I HAVE SEEN ON RUclips
When he said the feeling was the spirit finding its match, I burst into tears! I was so overwhelmed emotion because that's what I've been trying to find the words for with my man . The second we met we talked for almost an hour , people thought we knew each other before! I had never met him but he was so familiar like it is still a beautiful feeling we both reminisce on a year later 💜
I love him! He has such a different view on connection than others in his field
He’s great!
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This man is so smart. He is always on point.
I learned intuition can feel like a detached knowing, free of emotion.
It's that little quick choice you hear when you're about to do something. You either dismiss or listen to it
Or aware of your emotion. You feel something aint right by their actions and what they are saying
I absolutely agree 100%, my husband told me he loved me the very first night he met me We were engaged and married within 3 months and we have been married for 6 and 1/2 years now 🥰
You are truly blessed!! May God be with you!!
6 years? That's all. Get to maybe 30 years then say that.
@@eljahsiemallah you too badmind!!! Six years is still a lot because a lot of people can't even commit pass a year.
@@kadinecampbell6466 They got a long way to go. May they have a life time marriage. Blessings if they do. They'll be a great example for us all.
Ohhhh.... I have been working on my healing, softening my masculine and re-connecting with my free playful feminine energy. WOW!!!! My life is so much juicier, work has gotten easier, life is so much more FULL!!
This video is my first time ever hearing from him & I usually scroll right pass 1hr + videos UNLESS I’m really interested in it & he went down my street plenty of times in this video.. made me realize some very deep things about myself & my marriage.. wow.. thanks man, I already feel healed a little bit!
"Balance and Connection, you have those two things, you win!"
I didn't really recognize a hard outline on the 6 ways to become more attractive, but I sure did appreciate this amazing conversation!! ❤️
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1. Heal (who hurt me list)
2. Go to therapist or coach
3. Don't be afraid
4. Forgiveness
5. Be vulnerable
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Sorry had to go and make lunch.
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Fit, Feminine, Friendly. That's literally all you need to know.
Relationships are for our healing and increasing our depth of capacity to love. We learn how to love ourselves more through loving.
Most of us are living in the flesh and not in the spirit so when the spirit speaks we tend not to listen.
Amen!
Amen, you have to know how to build that spiritual man or woman that lives in you, that will protect you.
@@1001tlewis Yes, I know, I'm actually in the process of that. I've let go for too long!!!
ABSOLUTELY
That good point universal siater!
I would definitely say in times like this to focus on YOURSELF, that way when times go back to as normal as they can you’ll be so confident in what you’ve built with all that time to yourself💪🏼
Yesss exactly what I've been doing. I feel like a whole different person spiritually, mentally and emotionally. I feel great and I thank my God, my close friends/family for that.* 💕
Wise words👍👍
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Yes do true I had to do that
This is a different subject from the usual guys you bring on. But this guy is amazing! Lots of deep insight, knowledge, understanding and strategies. This is by far one of my favorite interviews Lewis. Thanks for introducing Stephan.
I had this experience with an classmate and I knew that very moment that I could love him!!! But I was afraid! I also was still holding on to a past relationship and he was too! I never had this experience in my whole life! When I tried to explain it to my friends, they didn't understand me. But the way you explained it, was 100% my story!!!
I am on my healing journey. I am grateful this video found me.
Any man I fell in love with. I felt it from the beginning. When you meet you actually feel like you know the person.
I have watched so many videos on relationships and I have to say this was probably the best I have ever seen. It was so on point on so many topics. Can't say enough about Stephan and also Lewis with incredibly well thought out and directed questions. Just awesome!!
This man is the genuine article....pure wisdom!
Connection is created by... connecting: talking, relating, understanding, working together; connecting. Chemistry is just “there”. It’s the chemicals in our bodies that are just “there”. And it’s like these chemicals “magnetize” two people...”pull“ them together. The chemicals aren’t created or developed or “worked on”. They just “are”. That’s why people use the term “magnetic attraction” or “magnetic chemistry” or a “chemical attraction”.
That intuition or gut feeling is your future self sending you signs by thinking of the past.
I am 65, I thought I was healed. But I have been seeing someone I’ve known for fifty years who is as broken as I am. But at 70, even more hardened. Five years in I am just exhausted.
You're a slow learner, eh love?
THE ONE Actually, no. At my age I process things differently, definitely not willing to interact with someone new. I actually have no regrets. What is interesting to me is how many famous, rich young women have been played. Some like Jill and Mary J and Anita actually having Husbands trying to take their money. For me, having known this person since childhood, I knew he wasn’t predatory. Just broken. And I had a kidney transplant two years ago. Definitely mitigating circumstances
Wow!
I love being feminine and feeding into my man it's a wonderful feeling when it's reciprocal and I love letting him know that I'm so proud of him everyday thank you for all your help
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Lewis Howes is the man he is so in tuned and so righteous and touching I should be speechless I actually do have so much I wish I could tell him and thank him for mainly just for being him
You're welcome,thank you for being here 💜
Your spiritual intuition is your SIXTH SENSE. This was great discourse...Q&As :)
Just because you have a connection with someone doesn't necessarily mean that person is "the one". Sometimes it can be a person that has a similar purpose in life as you, feeds off your energy, etc. Some ppl are meant to only be friends.
And the gentleman also stated something about fear...well that's not fear, that's call being cautious. God said guard your heart. So making sure that the person you have an instant connection with is not an imposter. Sometimes it takes months to be aware of that person's intent.
Or maybe years. This is my case. The man that I just wasted 1year 9mos of my time with only took me the long way to his depression, bipolarism, and anxiety. Come to find out he was deeply hurt with no confidence, no masculinity, no passion, no positivity about life itself. He thought being cocky and sarcastic was confidence , he thought goin to the gym 6 days a week was masculine because he had muscles, but was very weak in other areas. We did have a connection as far as wanting the same things in our future, we was sexually attracted to each other but come to find out that was it. What was revealed to me over time was , he had no respect for women , he hated the idea of paying all the bills, he had a stigma against successful women , he only viewed women as a sexual object, he's for the 50/50 relationship. Hates ig models because he thinks they just sit and look pretty and get the best men with money, but deep down he really wants to be with one but he knows he dosen't have the money or the status to even hold a conversation with them let alone go on a date. Everything with him was a constant competion. He resent his mother subconsciously, he never gained direction from his father, btw his mom and dad had been married for 20 years plus he amplify that as if its him , I accidentally viewed that as "oh he's goin to be with me 20 plus years and were gonna have a successful relationship" boy was i wrong. So back to your statement just because you have a connection with someone dosent mean yall are ment to be. And you should continue to guard your heart above all else.
@@msve3730 Thanks for sharing and thanks for your honesty. That's why you take the time to hear that person's views ( childhood, relationships, parenting, duties of a spouse, beliefs, discipline, finances, etc). We rarely investigate...yes I said investigate. Ask questions and come up with your own conclusions to determine if that person is the one for you. So yes you're right it can take years to get to know a person.
That is soo true
@@msve3730 I'm thinking we dated the same man lol
@@michelles6820 chileeeeee its carbon copies of these guys out here 🤣😅. Im like why do I keep meeting thr same just with a different face.
Excellent video! Confirmation for me. After healing and spiritual awakening and transformation. I have been single for 7 years. I’m a high valued business woman who refused to settle because I worked so hard to become who I seek. So, I waited and my true soul connection came into my life through the most unexpected way. It was worth waiting for. The connection was so strong that we couldn’t deny our emotions to express our feelings to each other. Thank you for the confirmation.
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I completely agree with Stephan, change your energy to positive you will attract positive.
I love Lewis' and Stephan's connection, makes for a great interview
@Alvin Johnson
To be fair, the questions asked were also brilliant & very helpful.
Agree
Spot on with healing from the past. I am healing and fear creeps up like a bad penny. Love you guys.
He’s speaking my language!!! I’ve been single for a very long time time on purpose to heal. I had to heal a lot 😃 and now I love myself so much more and are closer to a great relationship
This talk remind me of a book I read when I tried to understand my ex girlfriend behavior. The 7 habits of highly effective people. By reading that book I understood her fear and why she put up a 42 foot wall. We are not together now but I'm at peace more than ever
I felt the energy in the room of my husband before O even looked snd it scared the 🌸🦄🦋✨ out of me. Bc I knew that the moment I turn my head and see Him, my life as I have known it, has ended (at that moment I was married for 15 years + little son). This recognition is brutal and in my case fear is so understandable. I am super grateful though I kept honoring my soul and turned my head 🙏❤️❤️❤️
Everyone needs to watch this with their partners as a dating exercise and answer the questions posed before getting serious.
I have learned to watch for signs that I missed before in a past negative relationships, and if that man is throwing off all these red flags, 🚩🚩🚩 during the first three months, I end the relationship before it gets too serious or automatic they go in the friend category and I expect nothing from them from this point moving forward, so when we do get into an argument and breakup I was already gone to begin with, I emotionally detached myself from the situation months ago. 😁 And I don't become the crazy psycho ex stalker and when I see them in a new relationship with somebody else, in my mind, I've already made peace with the situation, I'm good. 🦋
What you resist, persist
Word. I felt that these two brothers was speaking poetry to my ears. Yass!! Y’all got me and my girls friends together.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 2020 Ain’t over yet!
Some men are a lot more proactive than others and some men are reactive. I think it’s important to know the type of person you’re dealing with before getting upset when things happen that would appear as common sense. It just may not be common sense to the other person and a lot of the time it may not be something the person has ever learned in life. Or they never had anyone worth utilizing this level of knowledge for. Staying in touch with this can determine how long a relationship lasts. At the end of the day, if you want to be with someone, you will stay and work things out and not look for the door when you aren’t happy without having a non-attacking or confrontational conversation. This was a great video. Thanks for all you guys do!
EVERYTHING SAID WAS 10000% ACCURATE.
This is a BIG HEAP of GOLD!!! PURE GOLD!
So glad I stumbled across this video. I want to attract more than a person who likes how I look, it’s about changing the type of ppl that are attracted to me in general.
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Dont put so high expectations on the new person. It's not there responsibility to please a wounded person. No one will be good enough for that person if he or she is still emotionally connected to previous ex
Stephan is the best! Thank you, Sir, for all your knowledge and wisdom!❤️
I agree, I can not have sex with just anyone. I have to be emotionally invested and spiritually inclined with a man.That makes it so much better.
Disagree, women are hypergamous. If a guy who was your type came along, you’d try to hook up especially if he has more going on than your bf.
@@GuerreroDelInfo that's not ALL women, I can take care of myself!! I don't date because of what someone else has..God bless the child who has their OWN.
@@GuerreroDelInfo this has to be the most idiotic comment I’ve seen in RUclips. Completely incorrect.
@@GuerreroDelInfo very untrue.
This young man is So Wise .
Spot on, soul recognizes the other soul.
This is the best video i have ever heard on relationships. Its absolutely profound.
Excellent choice of words.
You can tell Lewis really be learning from these interviews in his personal life and i love that. Lol
"The spirit recognising it's perfect match." Intense
me and my girl was instant! and we are already planning our wedding..after 4.5 years of being single I knew what I was looking for in a woman
Congratulations!
We're not here to be equal we're here to balance each other out
Balance what out?