The 9 SIGNS You've Found Your SOULMATE | Lewis Howes

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  • @laurenbrown5587
    @laurenbrown5587 3 года назад +596

    I never “dated.” Had 3 long term relationships. Last one - my husband and I met randomly and instantaneously knew it was love at first sight. Moved in together that week. Our daughter was born the following year (not knowing we were pregnant while we married)... Been married 13 years now with 3 kids. Still electric. Sex is amazing. Love is amazing. However, don’t let anybody convince you love is bliss. A marriage isn’t rainbows and butterflies. There are major ups.. then major downs. Most couples now give up rather than putting in the work.

    • @hankclingingsmith8707
      @hankclingingsmith8707 3 года назад +26

      NICELY SAID.

    • @brendond.3158
      @brendond.3158 3 года назад +41

      l find Men and Women who are married are far more interesting, humorous, intelligent and all around fun to talk to. Especially if they have developed their spiritual component of mind, body and soul.

    • @brendond.3158
      @brendond.3158 3 года назад +16

      It's the Journey not the Destination. Life is between B and D....C= choices

    • @laurenbrown5587
      @laurenbrown5587 3 года назад +22

      @Beautiful diva if the foundation is built on love and moral values... it will last. There have been times he hasn’t cared or I put in 99% of the effort... but then situations many years later reverse with age. It’s a lot of work. You need to have a strong foundation of love, trust, and similar values. Otherwise - it’s doomed. There’s been times I wanted to leave and him as well. Only made us stronger.

    • @laurenbrown5587
      @laurenbrown5587 3 года назад +5

      @Beautiful diva not really marriage beans.. just more if recent values and culture placed more emphasis on a true marriage foundation and didn’t frown upon it

  • @nicoleonfeels
    @nicoleonfeels 3 года назад +827

    Don’t be in a relationship to fill a void. Choose to be with someone that actively adds to your life and makes it better.

    • @CaseyBurnsInvesting
      @CaseyBurnsInvesting 3 года назад +7

      Hi 🙋🏾‍♂️

    • @colognearmy4506
      @colognearmy4506 3 года назад +5

      Nice metaphor!

    • @zaria5785
      @zaria5785 3 года назад +4

      @Love One another maybe he doesn’t know how to get help. Nudge him in the right direction by getting him the number but let him make the phone call. Find a reputable therapist for him but let him make the appointment.

    • @colognearmy4506
      @colognearmy4506 3 года назад +3

      @Love One another I used to love alcohol then I gave up for health reasons. Now I love call.of duty mobile. It's much better to be addicted to games than alcohol. You can't play games while drinking because you're just do extremely badly. Play games a group activity. When he loses all the time he will want to give up drinking because he will want to win.

    • @zaria5785
      @zaria5785 3 года назад +4

      @Love One another I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Looks to me like he’s lost himself or forgot who he is. Aside from the pandemic is there anything else that tripped him up and made him want to go numb? I know you love him enough to want what’s best for your family. But maybe ask him what he thinks is best for him ? A vacation, maybe golf/a game or let his answer surprise you. Let him figure that out. If you’re doing all the asking then he’s not having to take any responsibility or initiative for coming up with a solution for his problem. Does he even think it’s a problem? Sending you prayers for strength and rapid recovery for your husband.

  • @brownie9100
    @brownie9100 3 года назад +334

    I love what Esther said. I was scared to be in a relationship because i thought i wasnt good enough and needed to fix myself. When I did feel ready and got into a relationship.. it challenged me in different ways and made me realize i still have a lot to work on and change, and its beautiful to be able to be open with your partner about those things and to have their moral support❤️

    • @stephaniejames9572
      @stephaniejames9572 3 года назад

      Message me on WhatsApp

    • @MichelleASamiee
      @MichelleASamiee 2 года назад +2

      I just had such a Aha moment. I thought I needed to heal because I wanted to come complete. Ty for this perspective.

  • @a7dv7en7t
    @a7dv7en7t 3 года назад +413

    Your soul mate wants to find someone awesome, so go ahead and make yourself awesome first!

    • @ansleythompson5473
      @ansleythompson5473 3 года назад +8

      Good looking out lil homie, thanks for the super chat 💖

    • @KathyHussey063
      @KathyHussey063 3 года назад +9

      Same advice I've given my son, instead of focusing on searching for someone, or on what you do not have... yet, you'll change your life by changing your focus to a positive instead of a negative. Focus on getting ready for what you decide that you'll have one day, focus there and go ahead and have faith that your heart's desire will be coming. Then your perspective can change & you can take steps towards that happening & who YOU will be when that person comes into your life. Start getting more into all the things that excite & interest you & develop who you are, your skills, hobbies, fun things you like to do, friends. Have a life to share with her. At the very least it will build who you are and give you positive things to do, a positive mind set and energy, and give you a better life than if you sent the time sitting around looking at pictures of women, wondering why you aren't with one. ?Building the future you, who you want to be and enjoying your life will bring meaning into your life and also mean you'll draw a like person to you.

    • @rogerehughes
      @rogerehughes 3 года назад +7

      Not really, your soul mate wants to find someone who can help them grow. And vice versa. Otherwise your work is done here, if you’re not learning and growing, you’re teaching and showing. Most relationships fall into the previous.

    • @a7dv7en7t
      @a7dv7en7t 3 года назад +6

      @@rogerehughes I agree! The ability to learn and grow and to encourage someone to do the same is part of being awesome. When you have finally become "awesome" you have gotten to the point where you were able to learn and grow into awesomeness. However, part of that is the ability to continue that growth and learning and taking others with you to new heights.

    • @michaeldyer6304
      @michaeldyer6304 3 года назад +1

      @@KathyHussey063 Well spoken!!!

  • @CaseyBurnsInvesting
    @CaseyBurnsInvesting 3 года назад +485

    Two halves don’t make a whole when it comes to people. Choose you first, you’ll attract your partner.

    • @swamptoedenliving4924
      @swamptoedenliving4924 3 года назад +31

      Yep! Just like the Bible says love your neighbor like you love yourself. Problem is most people don’t properly love themselves or know how to

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      @ChristinePikisapaMungu 3 года назад +2

      @@swamptoedenliving4924 no

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      @ChristinePikisapaMungu 3 года назад +1

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      @ChristinePikisapaMungu 3 года назад +1

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  • @jaeldepardo9035
    @jaeldepardo9035 3 года назад +41

    Devon Franklin just blew my mind! He said so much that needed to be said! Today I was struggling with getting over a former partner who could not stay faithful (through our relationship and beyond ours), and this just opened my eyes about where’s he’s at and who he is right now. He has all the external surroundings dialed, but there is something internally amiss that he is avoiding, and he is not at peace. Thank you for bringing this tough subject to the table, Lewis! So important for male health and relationships.

  • @elsh332
    @elsh332 Год назад +21

    It's not just a male problem with lust.
    This part of the conversation was really insightful and helpful.
    I've been meeting with someone who is helping me temper my lust by growing in love and it is phenomenal!
    Just his act of being willing to not only wait but to help me maintain self control and support me in waiting is making me fall for this man.
    It is, by far, the most attractive thing I've ever seen in any man EVER! To be valued highly enough to be treated like more than just a body is invaluable to developing a true deep love that will last.

    • @poedottaviano6924
      @poedottaviano6924 Год назад +7

      For me, lust is shallow and empty. When you find true love, when clothes are off, you make love which is on a level that makes lust seem like a childish act.
      If a man cannot devote himself to the woman he loves, then he must grow up as a person and leave that relationship, and only until he is mature enough to be faithful, then never date for love.

    • @bcbro142
      @bcbro142 Год назад +1

      100% ❤

    • @bcbro142
      @bcbro142 Год назад +1

      The sex is just the icing on the cake but without the cake you got nothing

  • @gionagrace6279
    @gionagrace6279 3 года назад +46

    Matthew hit the nail on the head 110 %!! It is absolutely all about "unique pairing" ...it makes the person seem irreplaceable

    • @elsh332
      @elsh332 2 года назад +1

      Yes! This was so insightful!
      It helped me see why so many men have wanted to keep me when I was younger... and why I got bored so often and so easily in those younger days 😔

  • @lorraine8306
    @lorraine8306 3 года назад +18

    Truth is definitely the crucial factor. You meet someone and you get to know them. If there is nothing that you want to change about each other then the next step is if you are willing to make this person a priority every day. If the answer is YES then that is the commitment.
    Compatibility is when you both are at the same level of understanding and both are at a comfortable with their decision and with their mutual understanding.
    It starts with loving and accepting yourself.
    You can not value someone else when you dont value and appreciate yourself.

  • @user-mv2tg8hc8c
    @user-mv2tg8hc8c 2 года назад +17

    Such wisdom here!! As a woman it’s soooo great to hear a man awake, reflecting on how lust damages relationships, and sharing about how to really love!! Wow! Love this:) Many women don’t want to be lusted after, it makes us feel used and objectified.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад

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    • @lilyflower1168
      @lilyflower1168 Год назад

      A big problem is the hoes with no moral compass dragging good men out of their marriages and destroying their homes

  • @natalieaxl804
    @natalieaxl804 3 года назад +14

    Self worth!! Value your life and what makes you happy!! The rest will come to you. 🙏

  • @ashleymariecoleman7158
    @ashleymariecoleman7158 3 года назад +289

    The Biggest Investment in your life is choosing the right partner that fits your life and makes you evolve as a human being!✨🙏☝️👍

    • @SharonKenny
      @SharonKenny 3 года назад +3

      It should be because happiness starts within but shared experiences brings more love. But, sadly people invest more in nights out more than love. Start working on you first. Better dating means happier marriages because we master our confidence.

    • @colognearmy4506
      @colognearmy4506 3 года назад +1

      Obviously! Dah

    • @gmc22340
      @gmc22340 3 года назад +3

      Exactly: The Best Match is when each partner brings out the Best in his/her mate...

    • @isiboranointed7147
      @isiboranointed7147 3 года назад

      I want to testify of how i got back my girlfriend after breakup, we have been together for 3 years, recently i found out my girlfriend was having an affair with another boy, when i confronted her, it led to quarrels and she finally broke up with me, i tried all i could to get her back but all to no avail until i saw a post in a relationship forum about a spell caster who helps people get back their lost love through spell, at first i doubted but decided to give it a try, when i contacted this spell via his email, he helped me cast a reunion spell and my girlfriend left the boy and returned to me within 12 to 16 hours, we are happily together again. Contact this great spell caster for your relationship, marriage and other problems via Email: landylovespell@gmail.com or landylovespell@yahoo.com you can also call him or add him on Whats-app: +2347053160384 thanks so much dr landy

    • @susanllemes2428
      @susanllemes2428 3 года назад +2

      I agree with it.i hope. I can find that.

  • @dfromtheblock1537
    @dfromtheblock1537 Год назад +10

    Love this order of dating: Admiration, connection, commitment, compatibility 2:15:22

  • @lovepeace9929
    @lovepeace9929 3 года назад +6

    discussing peacefully after healing / recovery instead of screaming . That's a very good point.

  • @kimberlyrandolph5306
    @kimberlyrandolph5306 3 года назад +29

    Spiritual & physical discipline is a key to a happy life. Managing lust & the art of manipulation for selfishness keeps you focused. You have to stand firm in what you will accept & what will not be tolerated. Love & Peace .

  • @leahparsons7907
    @leahparsons7907 3 года назад +83

    Thank you for your voice .Talking about not sexualizing women as objects. This is the topic I talk about often because my daughter was raped by 4 males and a photo taken of her assault and shared everywhere. If she was not seen as an object to conquer that night she would not be dead at 17. We need more men talking about these important topic.

    • @marionb9116
      @marionb9116 3 года назад +23

      Oh that is terrible. I can't imagine the suffering you must have felt.

    • @user-dn1pj3db2k
      @user-dn1pj3db2k 3 года назад +16

      Wow I am so sorry 😣 that is just awful I pray for your strength and healing ❤️‍🩹

    • @Chap17
      @Chap17 3 года назад +10

      So sorry your daughter had this horrific act happen to her 😭and for your pain and sorrow
      ❤️Sending you Love and may Peace enter your soul

    • @florentinalaura7994
      @florentinalaura7994 3 года назад +12

      So sorry for your loss💔Hope you will find peace🌈

    • @leahparsons7907
      @leahparsons7907 3 года назад +18

      @@florentinalaura7994 I have found peace.Thank you

  • @sagsunlibrarisingvirgomoon3007
    @sagsunlibrarisingvirgomoon3007 2 года назад +6

    Peace is the compass. Amazing... men heal or inflect pain. Such words of wisdom. This guy and his book should be shared the world over.

  • @metal.queen88
    @metal.queen88 2 года назад +8

    I truly believe, and I speak for myself only, that when you find “the one”, there will no words for an explanation to describe the feeling, you just have this knowing the person is your person by what you feel when you are with him/her - when the connection is right, you feel a sense of peacefulness, harmony, passion, love, comfort.. and just feel a sense of home in that person.🥰 I do feel like I’ve found my person because I feel all of this and just feel a very strong, intense connection with him that I’ve never felt with anyone else before, BUT it is just not the right timing to be with them; right person, wrong time.💛🕊💞

    • @gypsysundrop
      @gypsysundrop Год назад

      I feel this so deeply. Do you still feel the same about this person a year later? Have they come around?

  • @RamadaTheFemme
    @RamadaTheFemme 3 года назад +39

    Thank you, Lewis. I watch your videos as I lay in bed and fall asleep and honestly it changes my perspective in a positive way

    • @dronefreezone4866
      @dronefreezone4866 2 года назад

      Hopefully you'll meet the girl of your dreams. Life is so short. Then, it's a reality that never ends. 😎✌🏽

  • @lowellbellinger427
    @lowellbellinger427 3 года назад +19

    Success is inner wealth especially for relationships. Truth!

  • @UplifterofHumansCharity
    @UplifterofHumansCharity Год назад +7

    Thank you for sharing this. His advice at 10 minutes and 30 seconds is so refreshing to me because I have honestly just wanted to give up after dating so many men who were dishonest and misleading. To hear him say the sentence “humanize her“ is exactly what I needed to hear and teach . This guy is magic to my ears. It gives me hope in a very chaotic world .

    • @lilyflower1168
      @lilyflower1168 Год назад

      The fact that "humanize her" needs to be taught shows just how far our culture has fallen. Thanks to TV media sexualized movies dancing programming. Salacious and base movies like American Pie really planted evil in the minds of young men. Women are more than body parts...duh!!!!!!!

  • @gemini7903
    @gemini7903 3 года назад +39

    A healthy relationship is a consequence of the union of two mature, life smart healthy people...Most people are on survival mode...physically and mentally sick...and they want to have a healthy relationship ...🤣Good luck!

  • @christinajackson3461
    @christinajackson3461 3 года назад +8

    As far as looking at someone as an individual, I have found it helpful to imagine them as a child.

  • @suzanneboily5224
    @suzanneboily5224 3 года назад +9

    Love passion trust communication and if you find your soulmate you will know its so poweful in all its ways.Everyday it gets stronger! And you walk with butterflies in your stomach everyday its amazing! Your soulmate is out there. And to find your soulmate you will feel it and I mean it you will feel it because its powerful .

  • @PranaChi369
    @PranaChi369 3 года назад +33

    I've found myself....why haven't I've attracted my soul mate yet?🤔
    Patience is a virtue🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @MrMoarpienao
    @MrMoarpienao 3 года назад +8

    be the person you think and feel your soulmate deserves

  • @youngharrio
    @youngharrio 3 года назад +19

    I really needed this, my marriage is on the cusp of divorce...I don’t want too, because I truly love my W.I.F.E. (Where I find encouragement)! I’m Praying that our marriage and relationship gets restored to a better place!

    • @stephaniejames9572
      @stephaniejames9572 3 года назад

      hello dear do you need any help I can help you out it worked for me WhatsApp me let's chat better.

    • @stephaniejames9572
      @stephaniejames9572 3 года назад

      Message me on WhatsApp

    • @stephaniejames9572
      @stephaniejames9572 3 года назад

      + 1 ( 2 1 3 ) 9 9 2 7 9 3 7

    • @cindyshaver3432
      @cindyshaver3432 3 года назад +4

      Prayer absolutely does work..Praying you both will realize how much you have to lose & value each other!

  • @kristyharvie1299
    @kristyharvie1299 3 года назад +11

    Honesty is key as it builds trust. Meet someone 10 years ago got together didn't sleep with him immediately. Than the confusion set in, so gave him space to date other women the rule for me was you can date other women just don't come to me to get what you can't get from other women while your playing around. I knew he would be back for good theirs only one of me. We are together better than ever our relationship is trusting, playful respectful we gave it time to grow so worth it. 💖

  • @lioness2927
    @lioness2927 Год назад +65

    Esther nailed it - we fix ourselves in relationships together - I focus on me being who I want to be and most importantly I ask do I like myself with him? Am I being authentic - am I being true to me - instead he says being with her has enriched my life in every way - we always have each other’s back - my man and I say the perfect marriage is 2 imperfect people who won’t give up on each other - we accept all imperfections flaws habits addictions sickness illness cellulite flab sag false teeth balding injuries disability all of it - he said to me the other night ‘even when we’re 90 I will love you more till I die’

    • @theresas.3808
      @theresas.3808 Год назад +1

      Your relationship is beautiful! Your message has inspired me to keep on trying. My guy and I are having a rough patch. He’s the man I’ll love til I die. Thank you!

  • @MindNow
    @MindNow 3 года назад +25

    *Sometimes you just KNOW* 🙏
    I might be completely wrong though 😅

    • @jennlenay570
      @jennlenay570 3 года назад +3

      Right. Thought the same a few times here and "knew" but apparently thought wrong because that blew up like a tornado 🌪️ lol

    • @MindNow
      @MindNow 3 года назад +1

      @VICC acc wow, that’s very beautifully said! 🙏❤️

    • @vincentwiese8414
      @vincentwiese8414 3 года назад +1

      @VICC acc you don't have a clue your friends are not your soulmate your family is your family. Other people can hurt you or take advantage of you. Just like this guy in this video he doesn't know he is actually clueless. He just believes he thinks he knows some secrets about women to sell a book.

    • @tinaperez7393
      @tinaperez7393 3 года назад +4

      Yeah - you might be attracted temporarily or on just a sexual level but then you don't have to act on it just because you are. If we sense someone's wrong for us long term, we should move on as soon as we're aware of that.

    • @Grace8381
      @Grace8381 3 года назад

      @VICC acc How is everyone our soul mate?

  • @deepdiver849
    @deepdiver849 3 года назад +3

    I think Online dating during the pandemic is the best possible way to get to know a person, if both parties are truthful...

  • @beatasynowiec4165
    @beatasynowiec4165 Год назад +5

    Exactly. Love! When we love we know why that person, not the other. When there are doubts, it comes back to us, do we truly love this person, or not? The rest is just noise. 🤭🌹🌹 Beautiful subject, awesome guest Mr. Howes. 🌹😊

  • @crystalclear863
    @crystalclear863 2 года назад +3

    I’m still trying to find mine , someday I will and it will be a blessing for me

  • @miraflorolarte8593
    @miraflorolarte8593 2 года назад +4

    I love Esther the way she explained everything so clear and very specific I really want to watch over and over again I have a lot to learn in her.i like this video so much.

  • @tianiemitchell5692
    @tianiemitchell5692 2 года назад +1

    That's where the saying each day is a gift so when you wake up if you wake up and you're blessed with the gift of a new day, live it to your fullest every minute because even in that gift you never know from one minute to the next if it is your last

  • @RaylonK2
    @RaylonK2 Год назад +3

    This 3 hours gave me healing. Thank you a lot ❤

  • @idcook
    @idcook 2 года назад +2

    Life isn't simple. You cannot assure anything. You have to accept that not everything will go as you imagine or like.

  • @johannalacson3363
    @johannalacson3363 3 года назад +9

    Love your shows Louis. I always pray for your success. May Almighty God bless you always.

  • @barbyyakubu6718
    @barbyyakubu6718 5 месяцев назад

    I like his practical approach and clarity on this. The success of everything begins with intent , planning, determination , principled and commitment. So mutual connection is expedient, it would promote selflessness, teamwork and tolerance.
    Stay blessed 🙏

  • @ptyh27
    @ptyh27 3 года назад +3

    I'm going through a divorce a few month after covid pandemic started. I think COVID really impacts everyone and staying home together 24)7 makes it become boring and see every little things the other person do or say and it annoys you in the things you don't like and if someone lose a job they take it out on the other person and it becomes a big problem. Every relationship needs space to appreciate the person you love. This is my perspective

  • @johnnydhollywood1587
    @johnnydhollywood1587 2 года назад +1

    boredom is insanity i can be bymyself forever and be happy

  • @leonardallen7380
    @leonardallen7380 3 года назад +7

    Lewis Howes thank you for your hard work and have a profitable day, learning about oneself, the energy the vibration

  • @ATeitter
    @ATeitter 3 года назад +2

    @Lewis - I am a person who is "dead inside". A stranger at a party said it to me without even having spoken to me. This all comes down to Cluster B personalities from Narcissistic parenting. The needs of us have not been met. I'm a covert borderline who just got out of a very toxic relationship with a Narcissist. Richard Grannon has an emotional literacy test. It's for CPTSD. He has a 30 day bootcamp to teach people how to feel their emotions and not over react. So does Lisa Romano.

  • @doinindo3106
    @doinindo3106 3 года назад +8

    Loved the first interview! I thought he was in touch and connected. That was nice to listen to, very close to the emperor energy!

    • @raqueljoshua5899
      @raqueljoshua5899 2 года назад +1

      What was his name?

    • @thenutritariannurse9074
      @thenutritariannurse9074 2 года назад

      Devon Frankin… full circle today I saw that he is in the process of getting a divorce? Wondering in retrospect if what he was saying then resonates with him today?

    • @recuerdos2457
      @recuerdos2457 2 года назад

      My mom said men and marriage are some of the smallest parts in life like sesame and beans… there will be wasting of energy to try to ensure the relationship lasts but instead, we should put our energy mostly on ourselves, so that we can handle life no matter what happens. She divorced twice and she s happily planning to remarry soon, but my mom is very independent and her confidence about herself and life.

  • @aliciaperez1136
    @aliciaperez1136 3 года назад +5

    I love Lewis, he really knows about women’s feelings 😘🌺❤️

  • @romarkks6298
    @romarkks6298 3 года назад +2

    Be awesome to yourself. The rest will follow❤

  • @deepali3227
    @deepali3227 2 года назад +3

    I loved that peace in the relationship then only go forward. Wow…
    Thanks for sharing this wonderful insight 😊

  • @LilithTheAquarian369
    @LilithTheAquarian369 3 года назад +48

    You know who your “Soul Mate” is?
    -Goooo look in the mirror, & say “You are my Soul Mate!” 😉

  • @beeblebomb
    @beeblebomb 2 года назад +3

    I had a partner who would look past
    My words, but always rolled his eyes. That actually deeply affected me because I felt I wasn’t being taken as an equal. It created a tough dynamic. I’m glad
    I’m no longer in that relationship. It was clearly a guilt and shame ridden type of thing, and you can’t start from shame thinking that you’ll heal it with more shame. Now I have a lot higher standards for partners and for my own way of life, and I’m very grateful for that

  • @ceaseraropfreed3138
    @ceaseraropfreed3138 3 года назад +8

    Soul mate makes you forget all your stress and focus on your goals.no lust there

  • @janpruitt
    @janpruitt 3 года назад +5

    Both male and female energies do the same thing until Self Love is accomplished 👋.... Who really taught us how to love... the TV?.... These lessons come from within as we learn to find true love within...This is why we were directed to a God in the sky... something outside of ourselves to keep us from knowing what power we have within💯 .There are consequences for these type of behaviors especially in the aspect of abusing people....however everyone came to learn different lessons individually.... Not everyone is meant to be put in a prison of marriage or a prison of relationship... but at the same time one must learn that they have been programmed to look for love in all the wrong places.... because love is already inside of Us.... As Whitney Houston sang... The Greatest Love of is inside of Us... learning to love Ourself is the Greatest Love and when We get to this point...we will definitely know how to love and care for others👋 until we accomplish this task.... We will not know how to treat others properly💯.....and until we find Ourselves and be happy with Ourself...we will not be happy with another individual...and continue to judge them as They accomplished their own individual learning experiences necessary for their growth. It's that simple👍 Know ThySelf.... Know Inner Guidance or Energy within or whatever you want to label it as.... Spirit... Soul ...Source or Infinite Intelligence.... It's all within us.... No need to look on the other outside until we get the Inside together.....and when we get to this point we will attract people with similar behaviors.... Are they going to stay? We don't know.... But we must know We will always be in our own life......We don't even know if that's how life is supposed to be trying to corral others to be in relationships of marriages.... That's what we were told.... So live life without hurting others or abusing others and you will have a great life 🙏 Peace and LOVE 💯🎁

  • @FeelGoodWithin
    @FeelGoodWithin 3 года назад +3

    You asked great questions👏 Now m more clear. It's important to be with someone who have same core values, mindset & Mission.

  • @rutharia6809
    @rutharia6809 2 года назад +3

    We are a spiritual being having a human experience

  • @vomitt1
    @vomitt1 2 года назад +2

    WOW!! what a great talk! All men should listen to this video, all the guys ! This man is exceptionally wise even though he speaks with common sense, it's incredible a man can be above sex as I never meet any! Thank you for restoring my FAITH. 💗💗

  • @lexiemontgomery5955
    @lexiemontgomery5955 3 года назад +4

    WOW TY I DON'T FEEL SO BAD NOW BY NOT GIVING MY BODY WHICH IS THE MOST PRECIOUS PART OF MYSELF!! Although does cause a very lonely life!

    • @tinameyers8726
      @tinameyers8726 2 года назад

      By knowing your natal chart, you can know when love will come into your life. You can find your best foot to be brought forward, which makes you shine and then love finds you quickly.

  • @christineludlam4170
    @christineludlam4170 2 года назад +2

    Men who are cocky and teasing are impressed with there own banter.They think a girl is dazzled by amusing talk.No.Be who you really are,not a 'personality'.

  • @jemeliedelray1901
    @jemeliedelray1901 3 года назад +6

    Okay!!! I watch a lot of RUclips videos about self-help relationships etc. etc. but this has to be one of my freaking favorites it’s absolutely amazing wow!!! This has so much value 🙌🏻🙌🏻 great compilation of videos. Also I love Esther Perel 💕

  • @gitanjalinandan
    @gitanjalinandan 3 года назад +3

    Thanks so much for sharing your experience with your partner Lewis. It isn't my experience that even instant deep connection ("recognition of some deep thing") is always the indicator of a long-term partnership. But it sounds like it is yours. Good luck!

  • @evamcinnis7992
    @evamcinnis7992 3 года назад +8

    GOD ALMIGHTY is my soul mate!!😘😘🇺🇸🇺🇸🤗🙏👣👣people are okay certain ones.

  • @BlackPearlMinistries
    @BlackPearlMinistries 2 года назад

    You're alive but not living. Absolutely how I felt two weeks ago. Now I am living. It is amazing.

  • @Freedom-2BME
    @Freedom-2BME Год назад +10

    “I don’t think we can eradicate lust and that’s a truth most men don’t want to hear… lust is in every woman no matter who than women is” 💯❤

  • @domesticdiva1045
    @domesticdiva1045 2 года назад +2

    There’s no easy answer to this I have been with the same man for 38 years and I did not marry until I was almost 28. The best word of advice I ever heard and I cannot think of the authors name but it’s called lies at the altar the truth about great marriages. In her book she tells you to sit at the marital table and look around and it will give you a vision of your life if that’s what you choose.

  • @maryborrego4981
    @maryborrego4981 2 года назад +6

    Can you talk about age difference in a relationship or marriage and how much of a gap in the age ? And a woman being the oldet.one. Thank you guys so much for this information and insight . Is very helpful, interesting and even inspiring. ❤ Honest and open really enjoyed it .

    • @tinameyers8726
      @tinameyers8726 2 года назад +2

      Age doesn’t matter. If your soul feels satisfied and excited, not in a sexual way, when in the presence of your partner. You feel healing occurring when you are around them, and your partner makes you feel young as they breath life in you with just their words, they are meant for you.

    • @Joy-mm3cz
      @Joy-mm3cz Год назад

      Look up Susan Winter. She dates 15 yrs younger and wrote books on it. She talks about it in her RUclips videos.

  • @lauramazoch4552
    @lauramazoch4552 3 года назад +2

    Self love first. This is an awesome conversation. It is biology for men...

  • @Jesusagendaministry
    @Jesusagendaministry 3 года назад +6

    Lewis, I love and greatly appreciate your transparency about the sexual abuse... 🙏💜🙏 Very powerful!!!

  • @Montacap1
    @Montacap1 Год назад

    26 years . We are not perfect but man we have been threw life stuff most would curl up and die from . We are still alive and ticking.

  • @judybargenquast7669
    @judybargenquast7669 2 года назад +2

    The gray area is interesting because I have noticed if a woman turns the tables on being in the gray area and let's him know she intends to or is dating others he will disappear. And it does not mean he was wanting something real with her. He wanted to have the choices, knowledge and power for himself.

    • @jtowensbyiii6018
      @jtowensbyiii6018 2 года назад

      I've seen this, but I've NEVER seen staying dedicated to that woman matter, probably my personal bad luck though

  • @jamilgotcher5456
    @jamilgotcher5456 2 года назад +3

    Biggest question you can ask yourself about your significant other is, do I feel like this person is on my team? I knew my marriage was over when my husband of 8 years would not come pick up myself, my daughter and my mother at the library when my car wouldn't start. It took an old man that was going into the library to stop and offer help and he asked if I had called my husband and I told him that I had and that he said he couldn't come pick me up. The old man said "Your husband won't come pick you up and would leave you and your child stranded?" He knew I was married to a selfish person who didn't love me. I suspected he didn't love me but it took a stranger to confirm my suspicions.

    • @ceecee8757
      @ceecee8757 Год назад

      @Jamil Gotcher I hope you made some tough decisions and are happy now. That's a major red 🚩. ❤

  • @SM-qb7ce
    @SM-qb7ce 3 года назад +2

    OMG THIS VIDEO WAS BY FAR ONE OF THE BEST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE VIDEO I HAVE EVER SEEN & HEARD!!!💯💯💯🙌

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  3 года назад

      Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

  • @ligiasommers
    @ligiasommers 3 года назад +8

    Super interesting and helpful to see all the episodes together 🙏🏻💖🌷

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  3 года назад

      Glad you enjoy!

    • @melg2222
      @melg2222 2 года назад

      @@lewishowes hi how and where can I get that beautiful graffiti love back drop??? Oh it's so beautiful. And really glad I watched, realised that I was on the right track👍😍thank you so much for all your videos, well the ones I've watched so far😁😎

  • @blueglassesgirluk9445
    @blueglassesgirluk9445 3 года назад +1

    When your talking about unique pairing. And what makes you a unique pairing I would say that applies to any gender and sex.

  • @Mike-xf4ps
    @Mike-xf4ps 3 года назад +5

    My best 3 h on RUclips thanks to everybody 🙏 all this people's are great and I.m happy that ii can hear this information before is to late to take action 💯 motivated to make a better life for me and my Girlfriend ❤

  • @MyShapeofmyHeart
    @MyShapeofmyHeart Год назад

    The lady at 1 hour and 16 minutes is so awesome can't have a great life without great relationship with people of course you need to take care of yourself but our life is made up in the moments with special people in our lives

  • @blazeme2
    @blazeme2 3 года назад +4

    Wow! I luv this interview. It was extremely insightful

  • @maryfraraccio2572
    @maryfraraccio2572 Год назад

    I agree it will flow smooth as water.

  • @amandagodfrey3907
    @amandagodfrey3907 3 года назад +2

    I think its all about loving yourself before you can love others but I do love myself and as an Aquarius some times you have certain gifts and then you help that person even though you know their not right for you but you want to see them grow as you are going ya feel me

    • @gypsysundrop
      @gypsysundrop Год назад

      I think it’s about loving yourself before you can let others love you the way you deserve to be loved. Bc I know without a doubt the love I have for a few people in my life but when it comes to letting them love me, I start putting up my walls. I can love others without loving myself- which I am actively working on. It’s no easy journey with decades of negative self talk and feelings of worthlessness.

  • @Jeanninecomeau
    @Jeanninecomeau 2 года назад +3

    I think a guy that isn't trying to sleep with you, but rather trying to get to know you, is a much better way to go.

  • @hotchopicwdanny4034
    @hotchopicwdanny4034 3 года назад +3

    The gratitude 🙏 is real!

  • @lexiemontgomery5955
    @lexiemontgomery5955 3 года назад +4

    I've found these days it's impossible to find a good partner... I've been single for almost 20yrs because it's so hard.

  • @tabathaletts2054
    @tabathaletts2054 2 года назад +1

    Wow!! Valuable and insightful!!! Thanks for sharing

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +1

      You're welcome,thank you for being here 💜

  • @actuallybusiness1622
    @actuallybusiness1622 3 года назад +7

    Action takers are money makers!!💯🎯

  • @AudioRevelation144Hz
    @AudioRevelation144Hz 2 года назад

    You need an aligned destiny with differences to keep things fresh

  • @lornag9608
    @lornag9608 3 года назад +7

    So true- brilliant interview and all true re men

  • @rubinapope3822
    @rubinapope3822 3 года назад

    Grateful to hear this. Yes men was say what they wants and respect women for they wants the best for their mother sister and daughter. Respect is good enough

  • @johnnydhollywood1587
    @johnnydhollywood1587 2 года назад +1

    you guys are so eloquent thank you

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
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  • @thelongevityproject
    @thelongevityproject 3 года назад +5

    Awesome advice!

  • @denisemills5572
    @denisemills5572 3 года назад +1

    How you repair and taking responsibility, great lessons, thank you 🙏

  • @danielsea6479
    @danielsea6479 3 года назад +7

    The problem is society is disposable, cheap and not loyal. Same with dating. There isn’t such as a soulmate, it’s about choices. It’s about two people who Make it Work, it doesn’t just happen. It leads back to the purpose of Mankind created for a purpose. Look at the Fruit of this person.

    • @tinameyers8726
      @tinameyers8726 2 года назад +1

      No. It starts with you. Once you figure out your life purpose, you will shine your light bright and your soulmate finds you quickly. Chastity and purity is key.

  • @tianiemitchell5692
    @tianiemitchell5692 2 года назад

    Yes regarding arguing arguing, blame throwing, cussing anything negative does not derive from love respect honor.
    This can cause a breakup in marriage love each other enough to help guide each other when you're at your weakest points in your union whatever that is

  • @GivenFactNotFiction
    @GivenFactNotFiction 3 года назад +2

    What were are the names and introductions?

  • @divinealignedjewelry
    @divinealignedjewelry 3 года назад +7

    This is so good 👌🏾.

  • @Mercysmommy
    @Mercysmommy 3 года назад +1

    You all have helped me and my child so much. Thank u

  • @YogawithAliBeale
    @YogawithAliBeale 3 года назад +6

    I am loving these compilations. 💗 Combining all the gems from great thinkers.

  • @shweetiepetina1563
    @shweetiepetina1563 2 года назад

    @Samantha James : Find your interests. Do what fulfills you and that is when you will be where you’re suppose to meet not only him but the right friends and community. Know thyself first. Wishing you all the best.

  • @AlexRider589
    @AlexRider589 3 года назад +11

    You did him dirty with that thumbnail. 🤣🤣

  • @ramitch5583
    @ramitch5583 3 года назад +1

    Thank you for sharing and I am rewatching and may have already committed on this. Always love your interviews and conversations. You find great topics and wonderful people on the subjects you choose. Again, thank you for all. I found your channel during quarantine and will continue to watch. I have not contributed to your channel yet and have not paid attention to where to. Have a great Sunday.

  • @tianiemitchell5692
    @tianiemitchell5692 2 года назад

    Regarding the resentment statement. Instead of just focusing on the resentment focus on what your part in a relationship lacked because it can affect the next one if you don't

  • @TonganJedi
    @TonganJedi 3 года назад +5

    Soulmates aren't found. They're made.

  • @neliaagpalo1884
    @neliaagpalo1884 2 года назад +1

    Who is my soulmate? I think he died long time ago! I can find the right one but he is not my soulmate. Still believe in the power of love.

  • @דינהששור
    @דינהששור 3 года назад +3

    I learned a lot! Thank you, outstanding content 👏