Play is the essence of game: how to effectively seduce anyone

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  • Many people misunderstand game to be a suite of gimmicky tactics or the Machiavellian manipulation of another. While these exist, this is not what game truly is. Game is the ability to effectively seduce, and play is the essence of game. Play is neither frivolous nor silly. It is the ability to create a separate reality that is only accessible to the initiated and in which the objects of play come to assume special significance. This is the heart and soul of seduction, and anyone who can do this well has game.
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  • @psychacks
    @psychacks  21 день назад +89

    Many people misunderstand game to be a suite of gimmicky tactics or the Machiavellian manipulation of another. While these exist, this is not what game truly is. Game is the ability to effectively seduce, and play is the essence of game. Play is neither frivolous nor silly. It is the ability to create a separate reality that is only accessible to the initiated and in which the objects of play come to assume special significance. This is the heart and soul of seduction, and anyone who can do this well has game.
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    #psychology #dating #play

    • @cosmictreason2242
      @cosmictreason2242 21 день назад

      This episode dovetails perfectly with Sargon's Purpose of Lore and Canon where he talks about shared fantasy

    • @indexplus
      @indexplus 21 день назад +6

      Bordering on fluff. Please refine and add examples

    • @daxmafesi
      @daxmafesi 21 день назад

      Thank you for everything you have done in my life. I hope to talk to you one day. Your work has helped me beyond what you can imagine.

    • @1989Mordwin
      @1989Mordwin 21 день назад

      Hey maybe go for a playful/flirtatious roleplay on the upcoming Pearl interview. Good opportunity for a demo, just sayin.

    • @michael07
      @michael07 21 день назад

      great episode, probably my favourite yet.. you just get better and better mr taraban! touche! (was my game good? :D )

  • @geniusjimmy
    @geniusjimmy 21 день назад +413

    That shirt is a play in itself, drawing us into a separate reality where Orion is at vacation in the Tahiti's.

    • @xdude57
      @xdude57 20 дней назад +2

      Let this stay at 69 please

    • @zeg2651
      @zeg2651 19 дней назад +3

      Well played, you got me cracking 😂

    • @robs7741
      @robs7741 19 дней назад

      😂😂 so true!!

    • @winnmatthews
      @winnmatthews 17 дней назад

      Is that a reference to AoS/Coulson? lol

    • @someguyik
      @someguyik 17 дней назад

      Orion has a plan! Become a mango farmer in Tahiti!

  • @johnqdoe
    @johnqdoe 21 день назад +587

    I grew up with a guy that was a natural at this. He consistently punched above his weight. He was always able to “play” with any girl through lighthearted jokes, banter, and touch, in a subtle and overt ways that made her feel desired. It’s timeless and very effective. It turns any alpha competition into instant betas. It’s a talent and the highest level of game. Orion, please delve deeper into this topic!

    • @solalee4693
      @solalee4693 21 день назад +10

      He has to be very cute 😂

    • @TheBeatle49
      @TheBeatle49 21 день назад +23

      ​@@solalee4693Not at all true.

    • @attroenergizer8115
      @attroenergizer8115 21 день назад +16

      did he just joke around OR DID HE SCORE is what i want to know!!!

    • @williamclayton9566
      @williamclayton9566 21 день назад +24

      Best friend from college was like this, and he got LAID. Not a bad looking guy, but certainly no Chad - 5'9", kinda skinny, Indian (dot-head, not casino and no accent). Pluses? He played the guitar and was in a band.

    • @tdaye6978
      @tdaye6978 21 день назад +47

      Do you HAVE to be good looking to score with women if you have good game? No. But if you are, it's 10x more effective, and the women you score with will be MUCH more attractive on average. There's no ONE thing that any guy can do to get all the girls. But every quality can either help or hurt his chances. For instance, I'm 6'2, in great shape, and good looking, ESPECIALLY for a bald guy. But I have next to no game. I've got good one liners here and there, but I've never mastered the art of seduction. I still get laid. A LOT. Many times with very pretty (but problematic) women. I get laid more than most guys I know who are short and average looking with great game. If they looked like me, I probably wouldn't get laid because they'd get every woman every time. If I had their level of game, no one else around me would be getting laid. There's so much that goes into it
      Women have it so easy. Don't let yourself get fat, and be easy going with a guy. And don't be a hoe. Boom, 95% of men want to marry you. Too bad most women can't get those 3 things right.

  • @ModernDatingMastery
    @ModernDatingMastery 21 день назад +207

    *A little eye contact, a warm smile, and mirroring their energy can create a powerful, magnetic vibe without needing to say much. Sometimes, it's the unspoken connection that does all the work!*

    • @patgiogi1291
      @patgiogi1291 20 дней назад +2

      Sei un esperto hai capito tutto. Funziona proprio così chi sta cercando di sedurmi da molto tempo pratica questa tecnica ..

  • @1989Mordwin
    @1989Mordwin 21 день назад +185

    Just my interpretation of the video
    1. adopt playful attitude
    2. be willing to transgress polite boundaries
    3. identify vain desires that are hidden beneath their persona
    4. draw out those desires to the surface by guiding the imagination
    5. further engage sincere fantasy roleplay in order to make the world disappear

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 20 дней назад +5

      How does a guy do number 4 and 5?

    • @edheldude
      @edheldude 20 дней назад

      @@Chud-mb7gl Be attractive.

    • @michaelgarrow3239
      @michaelgarrow3239 20 дней назад

      @@Chud-mb7gl- mirrors and magnets… 😹

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 20 дней назад +2

      @@michaelgarrow3239 the question was serious

    • @michaelgarrow3239
      @michaelgarrow3239 20 дней назад +11

      @@Chud-mb7gl - Well eye contact is very important when you’re talking to women. I usually let them touch me first- on the arm or something that is an invitation to move forward. You can try it first if they are not doing it at the correct time.
      The big thing is your frame (do you know what I’m saying by frame?). You want to have a world she can walk into and play her apart in the scene.
      Liquor helps if short term. I don’t drink but not against them drinking… 🙄🎶🎵
      Take some time to get to know them. You should be evaluating them to see if there is potential, or if there is enough there for a challenge/intrest. Because; they are, evaluating you.
      I will say be selective in relationships, you don’t know how long they will last. As your standards go up your eligible dating pool shrinks.
      Good luck 🍀
      As you get better more opportunities present themselves. Have fun. 😎

  • @RaidenK963
    @RaidenK963 21 день назад +346

    YO, nice shirt man 👍

    • @immortaljanus
      @immortaljanus 21 день назад +3

      Was going to say that too. 😊

    • @Focusembedded
      @Focusembedded 21 день назад +4

      I like the fact that it contrasts with the shirt worn in the pitch for the book. I've already bought the book and read it cover to cover, so I feel justified in fast-forwarding through the pitch. And by the way, I don't usually pay so much for a paperback, but this one was worth it. I didn't agree with everything in it, but I could see the author had put in a lot of effort thinking about his assertions, and it was clearly well-reasoned. So even after reading it, I would still say it's thought-provoking. And for the places where I disagreed with the author's assertions, I've found them all testable hypotheses. That's given me a chance to have some fun observing people (and myself) through lenses I don't typically use. If I always have the portrait lens on the camera, I miss a few things I might get with the fisheye.

    • @ARdave311
      @ARdave311 21 день назад

      Idk where dr Orion is but with that shirt I like to imagine he's at a sick condo in the Bahamas and the beach is right out his door

    • @DataWiseStrategies
      @DataWiseStrategies 20 дней назад +1

      Shirt nice man, yo!

    • @MiddelEarthQA-zv3tc
      @MiddelEarthQA-zv3tc 10 дней назад

      Hahaha so going to have to replay this, was too busy with the shirt

  • @TheBiggestAlEver
    @TheBiggestAlEver 21 день назад +70

    Great explanation! Winners don’t play the game, they live the game! Living the game, is therefore the ultimate form of playing the game! ✊🏾🦉💯

  • @FrankM
    @FrankM 21 день назад +157

    10:17 "Most women desire an emotional experience." That sums up what play and game is.

    • @Tgogators
      @Tgogators 21 день назад +11

      Along with the main idea of all those self help books, articles, etc on the differences between men & women. They crave emotional experiences; change her mood, not solve her problem, and so on.

    • @agcouper
      @agcouper 19 дней назад +2

      The right kind of emotional experience. This is why it's tricky.

    • @edheldude
      @edheldude 19 дней назад +1

      ​@@agcouperNah they'll crave chaos and negative emotions. Feelings of loss, grief, destruction of goodness etc.
      The whole spectrum; no matter the cost to themselves or people around them.

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 18 дней назад

      So how do you give emotional experience to women you've just met or seen?

    • @edheldude
      @edheldude 18 дней назад +1

      @@Chud-mb7gl This assumes you're attractive to her:
      Flirt. Say 'no'. Have boundaries. Don't bend the knee. Hold her accountable. Call her out.
      There's other more playful ways too but those work. She'll fight you at first but then she'll admire you.

  • @dreamdiction
    @dreamdiction 21 день назад +699

    The purpose of "playing the game" is for both participants to help each other pretend that they are not monkeys.

    • @mryouben
      @mryouben 21 день назад +10

      Amen

    • @mohamadmottaghi4519
      @mohamadmottaghi4519 21 день назад +40

      that's actually not a bad take

    • @jimbalio
      @jimbalio 21 день назад +23

      ee ee oo oo ah ah !!!

    • @isaiahexile
      @isaiahexile 21 день назад +18

      Really? Because letting out our monkey nature sounds more natural and fun in my opinion. How about I act overtly playful and not give a F what anyone thinks. Probably peak attraction in that

    • @mindgames7411
      @mindgames7411 21 день назад +24

      It’s stupid. And wastes time. If people just came out and admitted whether or not they liked each other and what they each desired from the other person……things would be much simpler and efficient

  • @dominicanfrankster
    @dominicanfrankster 20 дней назад +37

    I almost agree. I think that rather than trying to taylor my playing to another individual, I'll just have fun and whoever likes the game can play along, or otherwise move along. Honestly, the more I listen to you, the more I realize I'm already enough.

    • @luckyjayakody
      @luckyjayakody 20 дней назад +1

      100% agree.

    • @leninfernandez9279
      @leninfernandez9279 20 дней назад +2

      That’s another option, you play your song and if someone likes it they come, but well, most songs are not popular, so don’t expect too much if yours isn’t

    • @larahuffmaster5857
      @larahuffmaster5857 19 дней назад

      @@dominicanfrankster 👋👋👋

  • @niallcurran7894
    @niallcurran7894 20 дней назад +9

    That's the single best description I've heard. What's brilliant, is that it takes the pressure off.

  • @marriagecausesdivorce7540
    @marriagecausesdivorce7540 21 день назад +439

    "You can do anything to a woman, except bore her"

    • @vecter
      @vecter 21 день назад +23

      Actually true. I've got the scars to prove it.

    • @nammi895
      @nammi895 21 день назад +6

      Damm true

    • @bathlar
      @bathlar 21 день назад +24

      Nah, you can bore her if she likes you, if you try hard she will lose attration more

    • @Staticbrain
      @Staticbrain 21 день назад +5

      That logic is full of holes

    • @parvent3556
      @parvent3556 21 день назад +3

      define 'bore'. 😉

  • @Hari983
    @Hari983 21 день назад +24

    That was a fantastic perspective. I have spent the last few years of my life investing my social life in warm communities where it feels like a "village" of sorts (where everyone knows everyone and through different connections too). The guys thriving with women in such warm communities can be better understood through the perspective of this episode rather than the lenses of the red pill alpha male. It's more sustainable. More sincere. It works much better in warmer circles where you tend to build a reputation for yourself that lives in the hivemind (especially in the women hivemind as they're master gossipers compared to us men who are lousy gossipers by comparison). Women in such tight-net social circles collectively fall most for the guys that make them feel special (AKA, seen the way they want to be seen, as Orion explained), more than anything else. That was a great take.

    • @transforgoku
      @transforgoku 17 дней назад +4

      I realized this early on in my life, women are truly slaves to the hivemind and when they rebel or forsake it to gain independence from it they cannot avoid suffering the consequences of doing so (isolation, being outcasted, anxiety, depression, fomo, mental stress, paranoia, fear of being assaulted/exploited, bullying, etc.) since the hivemind functions both as a safety net and a ruthless overlord inside/outside them, for any man that wants a particular woman you first must *seduce the hivemind* in order to get her, and the only way to do so is with good reputation and charm, otherwise your only prospects will be the outcasts or trying with a different hivemind/social circle.
      A good thing that happens in our modern society is that because we live mostly in cities surrounded by a lot a strangers instead of villages with few people, including the rise in secularity, technology and the internet have weakened the hivemind, making it more fragmented and less influential than a few decades ago so we, the men of this generation can enjoy casual sex, premarital sex, having rosters, side pieces, ONS, etc. without having to commit to a particular woman and without the approval of their peers, parents or belief system, of course it has also made the current date scene/sexual marketplace a complete chaos but that's a tricky subject I'm too lazy to discuss...

  • @Newtorin
    @Newtorin 21 день назад +31

    Man, you are a genius. Every episode is so full of meaning, and the topics while under one umbrella have such variety. I love what you do!

    • @robs7741
      @robs7741 19 дней назад

      Oryan is on the level as Jordan Peterson.

  • @nnamdi.u
    @nnamdi.u 20 дней назад +14

    I hate that you make such good videos… I put money ONLY in this channel because it adds so much value to my life, it’s unbelievable. KEEP GOING MAN!

  • @ronmexico5908
    @ronmexico5908 21 день назад +48

    The #1 psychology channel on the tube. Better than so many because the genuineness comes through.

  • @antebellum606
    @antebellum606 6 дней назад +1

    This is true in strong friendships. Some people are talented at seeing fragments of what you believe to be your ideal self. They celebrate you and make you feel like you can be more than you have been. You become drawn to their company because they make you feel how to want to feel about yourself.

  • @nogroup5861
    @nogroup5861 21 день назад +102

    This is great advice, really. I exchanged some comments with an attractive mature female youtuber and she insisted a lot on how she needed to feel "chosen" by the man, not like a random piece of meat. So, she goes on how she wants men to care about stuff males don't care about when choosing a partner. She wants to be seen in a certain way. She doesn't care about how men really are or what do men want, she just cares about them playing the fantasy she has or you don't get play time. Period.
    So, what do I think overall? It's all so tiresome. I don't want to be fake and I don't want to be "loved" for being fake either. I don't want to be involved. Any young woman has tens or hundreds of online men already telling her what she wants to hear, trying to play. Why would I want to do the same, when I don't even feel like it?
    Get fit, get money, dress well, drive a nice car... just improove, bro. After that, just play pretend and never ever be yourself... and then, maybe you can create a family, but you won't ever be loved, it's just the resources you provide and/or your fake self.
    I wonder why men are leaving society in droves (delf-deletion, leaving the workforce, leaving university, not dating, self-isolation, drugs, videogames...). Maybe... this whole "gameplay" feels more like an existential torture for men today?

    • @Ratclan
      @Ratclan 21 день назад +8

      Yea this relations is tough for young men.
      I went into life and relationships thinking I want long term love.
      Been in 2 3 year long relationships with beautiful women wnd eventually there are always problems with hypergamy, lust, cheating, jealousy, arguments.
      the sex is good while it last for years but the love does not stay? Please why

    • @LocoWhoEatsCOCO
      @LocoWhoEatsCOCO 20 дней назад +9

      As a young male who is checked out of the modern Western dating, I share the same sentiments and the reason you listed is why I am checked out. I dont want to pretend to be someone I'm not because eventually when the charade falls apart, the woman will quickly notice and will soon leave you because of the act you've put up with since the first day you've met her as fallen apart. Would rather have her love me for me and not whom she thinks/wants of me.

    • @bornaghadamzan2223
      @bornaghadamzan2223 20 дней назад +3

      @@LocoWhoEatsCOCOdude I have contemplated with this too! How old are you?

    • @LocoWhoEatsCOCO
      @LocoWhoEatsCOCO 20 дней назад

      @@bornaghadamzan2223 I'm in my 20s. How long have you have been contemplating this and at what moment of your life did you realise this?

    • @IAmTheEggMan111
      @IAmTheEggMan111 20 дней назад +14

      I’m an old married man. Been with my wife for 40 years. When you find the right girl, none of this feels like putting on an act. My wife really is an amazing woman in my eyes. She’s everything I could have dreamed about wanting. And she feels the same way about me. None of this is hard to maintain because it’s how we really feel about each other. As hard as it is, you just gotta find the right person for you and it will all be effortless

  • @kiatalks555
    @kiatalks555 20 дней назад +8

    Yes!!!! This is gold. It is so true that play is a seducer. I have used it and have been used by it and it is an experience you never forget. My husband and I live in our play, it is a world that we live in everyday and I cannot imagine ever leaving this world. He has trapped me. He's clever.

    • @soccerspidy18
      @soccerspidy18 18 дней назад

      Because you cannot handle blind def and dumb truths.....or more so accurate statements. Game on means lying to women.

    • @soccerspidy18
      @soccerspidy18 18 дней назад +1

      But hope you marriage works out regardless. The streets ain't better.

  • @guntgunderson2829
    @guntgunderson2829 20 дней назад +4

    Orion is the man, I love how he breaks things down and explains things, he is the guy! He is one of my chosen teachers, everyone should listen to him and even repeat his lessons 🙏

  • @ddonnelly22
    @ddonnelly22 20 дней назад +6

    This is easily one of your BEST videos! Fascinating. I love it!

  • @bloodriot96503
    @bloodriot96503 20 дней назад +11

    I don't think anyone has ever given me such an explicitly clear instruction manual in my entire life.

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 20 дней назад +5

      Can you translate this lesson in human language?

    • @bloodriot96503
      @bloodriot96503 20 дней назад +6

      ​@@Chud-mb7gl Life has no inherent meaning. We escape nihilism by playing pretend. Everything other than the direct reproduction of the species is an elaborate game, and the keys to that game are compassion and empathy, not because you're a simp, but to freely give the one resource that will always be in demand: an escape from existential dread.

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 20 дней назад +4

      ​@@bloodriot96503I said human language, not more riddles
      If you understood what he's babbling about so well, explain it so others understand that too

    • @bloodriot96503
      @bloodriot96503 19 дней назад

      ​@@Chud-mb7gl Challenge accepted!
      1. We are in constant pain due to anxiety of not knowing what's next. This is existential dread (hint: it's the fear of death in disguise).
      2. We want to fill that void with predictive models. To gaslight ourselves into certainty by playing pretend games because the only reality is what is happening in the present moment.
      3. Thus, we all start our day in an emotional debt. (Dr. Orion Taraban's views are strongly influenced by behavioral economics which means thought/feelings/actions act like money)
      4. So, if everyone is in debt, that means women are in debt too. They want various currencies from men in an attempt to pay off this debt. Currencies that bring a sense of certainty like wealth, status, physical attractiveness, etc. All of these currencies are exchanged based on the stories they contribute to, the ideas in women's heads regarding what they believe will relieve them of their emotional debt.
      5. So they want to be paid in physically tangible currencies, but our ability to earn/have those currencies are limited by their tangibility. Things like our genetics, our upbringing, environment, circumstances, obey the laws of physics. Even if you can control them, they still take time and energy.
      6. Then someone comes along and invents seduction. Seduction is so effective because it goes straight to the source and costs almost nothing: stories. All of the things women believe they want are just promises that a good enough story replaces the emptiness in their hearts.
      7. To tell the right story, you need to know your audience. Hence compassion and empathy are the tools with the highest ROI and a relatively low physical cost. According to some perspectives, our hearts have an infinite capacity for compassion and empathy.
      8. To liberate another human from existential dread is one of the greatest gifts you can give. Afterwards, if you want to barter for a blowjob in exchange, the price is likely miniscule in comparison.

    • @yoohoo952
      @yoohoo952 19 дней назад +1

      @@Chud-mb7gl you pretend you are a friend of a person and approve their inner world hoping to get laid or take money or whatever is the quest

  • @secondrickamendment4770
    @secondrickamendment4770 21 день назад +21

    36 yo male here. I never understood why some people stop “playing” I could pencil spaceship all day with a kid! Use another shorter pencil or ruler for wings, bend some paper clips for landing gear etc. However I am realizing that when I was in debt, and did not have my finances in order, or my room, or relationships, that it would have been difficult to play.

    • @soccerspidy18
      @soccerspidy18 18 дней назад +2

      Playing with women and play with children Lego or drawing are completely different. I agree with the analogy. It just mean lie to women. Years of talking to them failing and trying shit......even when I was hitting game righteously it still fails. Only times are when I ACTED like a movie role, aka lie to them.

  • @AlphaStrategyGuides
    @AlphaStrategyGuides 21 день назад +30

    Also referred to as "Charisma". Watch a few compilations of Craig Ferguson and how he plays with female guests on his show. The very cheeky grin, quick-wit, etc shows how much women at least have fun with people like Craig.

    • @ibubezi7685
      @ibubezi7685 21 день назад +3

      You do realise they 'laugh' with Conan as well, don't you? He's /was the most unfunniest guy, with a fake laugh - but, they put on their show-mask - as they need(ed) him for selling their product/movie/themselves.

    • @LeadLeftLeon
      @LeadLeftLeon 17 дней назад +1

      @ibubezi7685 Better to befriend confident guys who get laid a lot.

  • @ourochroma
    @ourochroma 12 дней назад +2

    You know. I am In love with a wonderful person. And I’ve noticed the meaning on play. In the simpler and honest sense, to engage in play means peace, and that’s what I enjoy most about it. The person who can do that, then are capable of engaging with peace.

  • @MatthewSmith-cp3hu
    @MatthewSmith-cp3hu 21 день назад +24

    helpful, i don't want to seduce anyone but the principles are helpful in other ways of communicating

  • @darkrebel123
    @darkrebel123 21 день назад +71

    I've always said that seduction is a dance. You can't dance if you are too stiff and serious. So yeah, that fits right a long with the idea of play.

    • @rolfroessig4039
      @rolfroessig4039 21 день назад +7

      ❤ your comment is wonderful. Really improvised Argentine Tango is such a kind of dance, its almost a visualisation of a seductive dialogue within the framework of the rules of this dance...and even those rules a subject to the game...

    • @soccerspidy18
      @soccerspidy18 18 дней назад +1

      I've Latin danced for 10 years, stiff flowing smooth dialed in. Even when your years better at the dance it doesn't matter. You still have to lie to them.

  • @stevenlee9064
    @stevenlee9064 21 день назад +7

    Just like the Hindu’s life is a drama or Shakespeare’s “the world is a stage….” and Oscar Wildes “life imitates art”. All very true and understood by Orion whose background in acting and psychology really makes him a master at this. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

  • @slartibartfast2452
    @slartibartfast2452 21 день назад +81

    Game is just sales. When done properly, everyone feels they got what they wanted.
    And sales, sales is just banter.
    Banter, when done well, is just riding your bicycle in the rain, at play. Always aim for the big puddles.
    Your feet might get wet, but it's a hell of a ride.

  • @Jubal.Harshaw
    @Jubal.Harshaw 19 дней назад +2

    Your best video yet.
    I believe you should expound more completely on this topic.

  • @ke1tor
    @ke1tor 16 дней назад +1

    I bought "The Value of Others" as soon as I found it available. The content is next level when it comes to interpersonal relationship. Great book, highly advisable buy. Thank you Dr Taraban!

  • @glendaanderson4969
    @glendaanderson4969 13 дней назад

    I'm living this right now. We even described it as play. We've called it healthy limerence. It's been so much fun. It's interesting to hear this explanation after yrs of learning about narcissistic abuse. It's sorta how limerence can either be a recipe for love or an OCD like behavior. As long as we keep our wits about us, focus on our own path, & living our lives for ourselves and not others, we are free to play in this space when we feel safe to do so. Great talk!!!

  • @Tangi_ENT
    @Tangi_ENT 21 день назад +105

    Holy moly. THIS WAS A FREE VIDEO ?
    I don’t think people truly understand how powerful of a lesson this was ?!
    This is a Phd in NARRATIVE in less than 12 mins.

    • @Tgogators
      @Tgogators 21 день назад +8

      It’s also what some of those self-help guys he mentions charge around $500 to attend a webinar that mostly explains this.

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 20 дней назад +3

      12 minutes of zero useful knowledge and practical explanations

    • @Vexed711
      @Vexed711 20 дней назад +3

      Yeah but it’s like teaching someone how to dribble with a PowerPoint presentation and not a real life demonstration

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 20 дней назад +4

      @Vexed711 seriously this, what's the point in talking in riddles instead of providing and example, it's not like he would have insulted our intelligence

    • @omkardixit4428
      @omkardixit4428 20 дней назад

      ​@@Chud-mb7glyou have already insulted your intelligence by calling this video a "zero useful knowledge" stuff. 😂 If you can't read in between the lines, you deserve to be insulted.

  • @cupidsfavouritecherub9327
    @cupidsfavouritecherub9327 21 день назад +8

    Information like this is what TRP used to be about, before the Tates and the podcasters. Def getting that book

    • @LeadLeftLeon
      @LeadLeftLeon 17 дней назад

      Pua? Pua was pure game and nothing else. Works great when you’re an attractive guy. The unfortunate guys would pull mediocre girls

  • @Thdlsicnekslfjeindk
    @Thdlsicnekslfjeindk 6 дней назад +1

    My takeaway here is WAY less about play, and more about recognizing the inner glow people see / want to see in themselves, and fanning those flames. I’ve used this in teaching, sales, and networking. Need to apply it to dating.

  • @michelea1010
    @michelea1010 21 день назад +22

    Seduction does not need to be thought of as negative or evil. Being seduced can be viewed as being taken into a private playful experience. One has to feel competent in control over one’s own life and life’s choices. You can’t possibly enjoy seduction if you are victim minded. And it helps to believe in the goodness of others.

    • @michelea1010
      @michelea1010 19 дней назад +2

      @ I understand your post. But just like I refuse to study body language that claims to expose liars, I believe in the goodness of others . I’m 70 and I’ve had an enjoyable life with risk, adventure, some injury but overall a wonderful time. But everyone else is entitled to their own approach to life.

    • @yoohoo952
      @yoohoo952 19 дней назад

      they won't necessarily show their goodness to you, but to someone else

  • @thomasjpuleo8112
    @thomasjpuleo8112 21 день назад +125

    Notice how he wore his crazy palm frond shirt when talking about play but then switiched to his hardworking but successful salesman white shirt and tie when he wanted to sell his book? Ah, yes, but he was also playing at being a salesman. Or was he playing at not playing?

    • @twoine21
      @twoine21 20 дней назад +6

      Underrated comment!

    • @michaelgarrow3239
      @michaelgarrow3239 20 дней назад +4

      Um,,, they were filmed at different times…

    • @zEsitos
      @zEsitos 11 дней назад +1

      Not even that, it's a pre-recorded pitch? How do you not understand this?

    • @thomasjpuleo8112
      @thomasjpuleo8112 11 дней назад +3

      @ The fact that it is prerecorded does not invalidate my point. In the chronology of the narrative of the video, the time in which you experience the appearance of the two modes of fashion, he switches from one to the other. Understand?

    • @bobbobson4030
      @bobbobson4030 10 дней назад

      Bang on, two different games! Let's play!

  • @faustopf-.
    @faustopf-. 19 дней назад

    Masterpiece of a video. The way you seamlessly unpack such a board topic in just 11 minutes is outstanding. So many things to take note ✍

  • @canneddinners6059
    @canneddinners6059 20 дней назад +2

    I'm currently reading your book and l just wanted to say being someone from Liechtenstein that I appreciate you shouting out Vaduz as our little capital

  • @pberggre
    @pberggre 19 дней назад +1

    Woah. This was mind blowing and explains all the times I naturally understood this however I’m still confused. I need more

  • @arianjamali6183
    @arianjamali6183 21 день назад +38

    What you say is reminding of me of Robert Greene's thoughts on seduction

    • @blairdurward4324
      @blairdurward4324 21 день назад +1

      His book is a strange read, but he’s trying to explain something absurd to people who don’t get it. Worthwhile though.

    • @yuritzigov1524
      @yuritzigov1524 20 дней назад +1

      Agree with you, he pretty much extracted the essence of the book and shared it. So good.

  • @maxwellbeckconrad7606
    @maxwellbeckconrad7606 17 дней назад

    This is great!! Thank you! Emotional relevance is something to be talked about more. Great job as always.

  • @xtnuser5338
    @xtnuser5338 21 день назад +117

    I reject the notion that a guy trying to get laid is, "At a woman's expense." If she gives him what he wants, then he must have given her something she wants too.
    Women act like it's at their expense if they aren't given EVERYTHING they want, but the fact is that they got enough of SOMETHING to say yes to the sex.

    • @SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor
      @SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor 21 день назад +12

      I'm not a player and have had very few sexual partners in my long life (to be precise, only two). That said, I can honestly say I have had women throw themselves at me sexualmente because, like you said, there's a low threshold for them to want to have sex. I have had far more requests for sex than I have actually exploited.

    • @chipsteve
      @chipsteve 21 день назад

      Underrated comment. Women plot to take whatever they can get from men, enjoy sex & have multiple Os, but reserve the right to cry victim "hE uSeD mE!"

    • @melenico4512
      @melenico4512 20 дней назад

      Also as well women enjoy sex with the men they want. If they didn't, they wouldn't participate.

    • @frg700
      @frg700 20 дней назад

      So true.

    • @xdude57
      @xdude57 20 дней назад

      Wow!! That’s incredible insight 🎉🎉🎉

  • @donniblanco5239
    @donniblanco5239 21 день назад +46

    I’ve played “the Game” All my Life but I’m done Now - Social Media has Shown me the True Shallow Nature of Most People and I Prefer My Own Company and Not wasting My Efforts on Impressing Anyone Else - I will Give my Love to Nature and Nurturing my Soul..

    • @TheOrrican
      @TheOrrican 21 день назад +17

      I hear your pain man. Truly I do, I've been there. But ultimately no person can live a fulfilling life alone, and the idea that the soul can be nurtured in a vacuum is a deep error. We only grow and cultivate ourselves within the context of relationships with other Hunan beings, whatever they might be. I urge you to look for materials from Dr. Jordan Peterson who speaks to this point and to the heart of men. All men have the capacity to live a fulfilling life

    • @immortaljanus
      @immortaljanus 21 день назад +8

      @@TheOrrican Agree. You can still be an introvert who needs a lot of solitude and also have a decent social life. It takes strong boundaries and some organization skill but it can be done.

    • @donthatetheflayerhatethega4170
      @donthatetheflayerhatethega4170 21 день назад

      I can tell you are bitter

    • @jaydee2072
      @jaydee2072 21 день назад +1

      @@TheOrrican Jordan Peterson is a great talk artists. But his attitudes towards women are those of a 5 year old child and his advice upon thus should be avoided.

    • @TheBeatle49
      @TheBeatle49 21 день назад

      ​@@jaydee2072absolutely.

  • @manugrend
    @manugrend 7 дней назад

    Wow! So good! I've seen many of Dr. Orions videos and they've all been good, very good, however this one just tops it. Really well said and explained! Tops! 👍💯

  • @tips777
    @tips777 День назад

    Wow a real definition on game can’t wait to share this knowledge with others 😁

  • @MuscleBandit
    @MuscleBandit 19 дней назад +1

    Epic insight as always good sir. Keep those wisdom nuggets coming. Cheers, from the UK.

  • @DenVolotovsky
    @DenVolotovsky День назад

    Orion explains in 10 minutes the things that pickup masters sell for thousands of dollars, stretch it into an hours of courses and wrapping it into weird techniques. In pretty straight, sober and sincere way. Appreciate it

  • @furkaneagleusa
    @furkaneagleusa 15 дней назад +2

    I thought i knew how to speak and understand english until i started watching ur videos dude, literally i don’t understand %50 of ur videos, helps me to improve my language and hate u at the same time

  • @thomashulan8866
    @thomashulan8866 21 день назад +2

    Yes Girls Just want to have FUN.Dont like BOREDOM.ENGAGED EMOTIONS.WELL DONE ORIAN

  • @Summer-fi4qi
    @Summer-fi4qi 7 дней назад

    I’m naturally playful in my approach and have managed to calm the most difficult clients, customers and people in general in many difficult situations. Play really is the answer

  • @jayford1482
    @jayford1482 20 дней назад +11

    Naming my firstborn son after you for this one

  • @aaronfaucett6442
    @aaronfaucett6442 20 дней назад +2

    Thank you! Everything you said resonated with me. I also hate pick-up lines and manipulation. I was just wondering about this last week. How to "play the game" but remain sincere and authentic? And you explained it perfectly. Thank you!

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 20 дней назад +1

      Since it resonated with you, can you explain it in human language so it resonates with others as well

  • @shelovejimmy
    @shelovejimmy 21 день назад +3

    speaking from the book art of seduction. interesting message

  • @danieljuan5723
    @danieljuan5723 21 день назад +10

    Had to watch this twice because it was so good. Let's keep playing the game of life!

  • @1000bottles
    @1000bottles 20 дней назад +3

    And seriousness is the essence of respect

    • @yoohoo952
      @yoohoo952 19 дней назад

      and of examining someone's attractiveness

  • @j-star1
    @j-star1 21 день назад +5

    Loving the shirt!

  • @glennlgg6871
    @glennlgg6871 21 день назад +7

    A song in French of decades ago, song by a gall, contains the following (translated) "tell me that you love me, even if it's a lie. Life is so sad. I need some romance." This captures the felling that women do want that "play" and they need emotion. Well seen by Orion.

  • @tiomoidofangle102
    @tiomoidofangle102 21 день назад +5

    Love the shirt. Welcome to Miami.

  • @andreelliott467
    @andreelliott467 18 дней назад

    Love the idea. We do it everyday without knowing. When we do win and what we created, only then have we come to the reality we just created.

  • @redtiger7268
    @redtiger7268 21 день назад +5

    The movie "Hook" showed this perfectly in the concept of play with us at the dinner scene.

  • @EdEmJuPe
    @EdEmJuPe 18 дней назад +2

    @psychacks Someone has been reading "The Art of Seduction" lately. 😛
    When are you going to do an interview with Robert Greene?
    That would be fun to watch.

  • @radoslavkalinov3073
    @radoslavkalinov3073 20 дней назад +1

    Please make a more detailed video of how to do this in practice with examples. Would love to see that.

  • @ihaurimadariaga
    @ihaurimadariaga 18 дней назад +3

    He is absolutely right. You don’t need anything material to seduce a woman.

  • @TrailBlazer5280
    @TrailBlazer5280 21 день назад +1

    This is a lesson hard learned for me, and ive only started to understand the value, requirement, of play in my adult years. This is a great breakdown. The movie Amadeus demonstrates some of this really well i think

  • @ayush138
    @ayush138 18 дней назад

    Play enables the temptation of joining to be more than the capacity to resist , provided the desire can be cultivated
    Bravo man 🔥

  • @maxpowers2965
    @maxpowers2965 21 день назад +127

    Game is making a woman think you actuality believe the delusions in her head.

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 20 дней назад +3

      Please elaborate, I'm too dumb to get it

    • @katejoy5787
      @katejoy5787 20 дней назад

      😂

    • @balrajrai8071
      @balrajrai8071 20 дней назад +21

      @@Chud-mb7gl The delushion that they are special...the delusion that you are going to be there Hero, and knight in shinning armour. The delusion that your there soul mate ...the delsion of the romantic fanasties they read about in the top selling romantic novels they read. If a girl says she's into star signs, but your not...instead of calling it "stupid" you cultivate a reality where you admire that as well (can be seen as gaslighting)...it's like when guy's tell girls. your the "only one", even through they're dating multiple girls/women. If anyone has more to add, feel free to give your own persepctive as well.

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 20 дней назад +4

      @balrajrai8071 Isn't that the exact opposite of all the advice about being masculine, holding frame and not simping or whatever else the advice bros tell you?
      As far as I know everyone and their grandpa says whamen supposedly have a superhuman ability to detect fake flattery in a guy, especially if he pretends to like feminine stuff.
      I've had trouble convincing people and especially girls that I don't like watching or playing sports even though I genuinely hate them

    • @balrajrai8071
      @balrajrai8071 20 дней назад +4

      @@Chud-mb7gl yes, your correct, like Orion said, game is more like ‘play’ whereas what I have described can be seen as ‘manipulation’ or ‘simping’ (which some guys do) - which mimics confidence which girls mistake for competence (which is what they are ultimately looking for). Holding frame and being in your masculine is a sign of a competent man (who doesn’t let others knock him off his path/frame).

  • @babybambi8389
    @babybambi8389 21 день назад +2

    What a beautiful example you used to explain it.

  • @chrislee176
    @chrislee176 20 дней назад

    This was actually an excellent discussion 👏

  • @PapiCaballo
    @PapiCaballo 21 день назад +1

    Great perspective. I suggest doing a follow up with specific examples. There's a lot of material here.

  • @Vexed711
    @Vexed711 20 дней назад +25

    This seems like an interesting concept, but it’s like teaching someone how to dribble with a PowerPoint presentation and not a real life demonstration

    • @DArtagnanFurioso
      @DArtagnanFurioso 20 дней назад +4

      😂😂 same feeling

    • @IAmTheEggMan111
      @IAmTheEggMan111 20 дней назад +6

      Yes. Some concrete examples would go a long way here

    • @yoohoo952
      @yoohoo952 19 дней назад +2

      I think next time should be a real PowerPoint presentation included

  • @Excrucior17
    @Excrucior17 8 дней назад

    Amazing, remarkable video. Incredibile job.

  • @SiavashNikpour
    @SiavashNikpour 21 день назад +2

    Also, your shirt reminds me of GTA Vice City which was one of favorite games to "PLAY"!👌

  • @lemurpotatoes7988
    @lemurpotatoes7988 19 дней назад +2

    Could you make a video on recognizing manipulative vulnerability in women? I fall for it every time. Just recently had one distract me from asking questions about her past by detouring into an emotional breakdown over abuse and guilt tripping... when she was literally married and hiding it.

    • @Leoo117
      @Leoo117 18 дней назад +1

      The moment you noticed her avoid answering questions about her past was the red flag you need to know she had something to hide that she knew you would disapprove of. Also, anyone avoiding answering any question at all is a way to let you know that person is not trustworthy and has something to hide. The only exception is if that particular question is too personal and is trying to elicit obviously private information.

  • @rilo3075
    @rilo3075 21 день назад +3

    That was crazy brilliant.

  • @stevejakab
    @stevejakab 19 дней назад

    Great video, loved it Orion

  • @NdiforKhan
    @NdiforKhan 20 дней назад +1

    Love the shirt doc

  • @eduardohernandez520
    @eduardohernandez520 20 дней назад +1

    Follow up videos with examples/scenarios that show the reprased material, vanities, hidden desires and/or fantasies people have and how to fulfill their respective desire for seduction, play, escape, and emotional experience would be enlightening

  • @0bsolet
    @0bsolet 21 день назад +2

    Deep stuff. Will listen again.

  • @zanderschoeman3898
    @zanderschoeman3898 19 дней назад +1

    Which state you in Orion. Seems summer there with the awesome shirt🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦

  • @beanrunnerWA
    @beanrunnerWA 21 день назад +9

    Game gets such a bad wrap when all we are doing is walking through this life with different masks playing different games. It's when it goes off the gynocyntric narrative is when it's bad.

  • @Livinginthepresentmoment07
    @Livinginthepresentmoment07 20 дней назад +1

    Thank You Orion! That´s it. You take her into different reality where she deeply craves but the question is HOW DO YOU KNOW HER INNER REALITIES?
    PLEASE MAKE ONE VIDEO ABOUT THIS ONE?
    Thank you in advance!

  • @Crimson_Skull52
    @Crimson_Skull52 21 день назад +2

    This video was 🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @coldspell8676
    @coldspell8676 20 дней назад +1

    You’re a genius. Thank you so much for uploading this.
    P.S. did I do it right? Jk, I was being serious

  • @coltonkennedy5826
    @coltonkennedy5826 21 день назад +4

    Robert Greene would approve this episode

  • @njabulondiweni5914
    @njabulondiweni5914 2 дня назад

    Great shirt Doc

  • @KelvinTroyJohnson
    @KelvinTroyJohnson 20 дней назад +2

    There are men who teach game who have never summarized their teaching, and philosophy is good. What they have done is discussed the effect of game, but never pinpointed the cause in such a pointed way. I feel like sending this to them. This was crisp and clean. Well done!

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 20 дней назад +2

      Where did he summarize it? He talked about nothing for 10 minutes straight
      Also there's no point in philosophizing about something billions of humans have done automatically without secret knowledge
      Guy meets girl, guy thinks girl is hot, girl thinks guy is hot, they end up together
      There's your philosophy

  • @DawnFromNZ
    @DawnFromNZ 11 дней назад

    A great explanation of play. One that allows anyone, male or female, to effectively draw another person closer. 😊

  • @drmatthewhorkey
    @drmatthewhorkey 18 дней назад

    This is a deep, rich episode!

  • @bobanderson7524
    @bobanderson7524 20 дней назад

    I love watching your videos-I learn so much! What is the difference between "game" and being a "SIMP?"

  • @winnmatthews
    @winnmatthews 17 дней назад +1

    Nice shirt, complements your eyes so well

  • @abdelrahmandwidar4154
    @abdelrahmandwidar4154 15 дней назад

    Thank you for valuable talk and priceless information, but I'm not an American or English speaker so, I'm asking you to simplify your talk and your words to make me understand it well.
    thank you again for your effort and valuable information that you gives us.

  • @robertbenedek4463
    @robertbenedek4463 17 дней назад +1

    It's a jibberisch mixture of intellectual ideas, blended together with unprecise observations, presented eloquently...

  • @gsftom
    @gsftom 21 день назад +29

    I am a strong, fit, brave, honest, good looking guy that is super tired of “game” advice. I don’t do game (bs, lies, posing). I have values, ethics, work ethic. I am tired of the game bs. Obviously some game is important. I stand up for what I think is right, don’t take any wooden nickels or bs.
    If people are stupid enough to respond to game, they deserve exactly what they get. If game is the basis of dating and relationships, then ppl will be disappointed by the game. Real, honest, good people with strength of values and character are people that you should seek. If you follow the advice of Dr. (game) Teraban, you will get what you seek. Game. If you are foolish enough to seek the gamer, you will be gamed…

    • @tarun9542
      @tarun9542 21 день назад +17

      You seem to be a 10/10 guy, if only you listened more than you speak. 🤣

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 21 день назад +2

      Game is not for you. But it works of many others.

    • @cosmicsea89
      @cosmicsea89 21 день назад +1

      How else are we gonna get laid? 😅

    • @DArtagnanFurioso
      @DArtagnanFurioso 20 дней назад +3

      Great comment, in fact "game" or "play," is essentially what the snake did with Eve in the Genesis: promising an alternative reality, appealing to inner and dark desires, but that is false and inevitably will face the harsh reality. Reality requires our submission at any time, and playing game is just acquiring a debt towards reality that will be required to be paid

    • @genegene6570
      @genegene6570 20 дней назад

      Strait 100% Fax!

  • @ELanguageGeneration
    @ELanguageGeneration 20 дней назад

    Next-level depth and insight. Thanks for your work!

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 20 дней назад +1

      If you understood what he's talking about, can you explain it?

    • @ELanguageGeneration
      @ELanguageGeneration 22 часа назад

      @@Chud-mb7gl The main point I took is that play is an enjoyable alternate reality... something like a story... that you engage in with people in many different contexts. Everyone has a unique story that especially engages them. With any given woman, your job is to listen very carefully to understand her particular story to unlock the seduction code. Stay in that story as much as possible to be "the man"

  • @chrisstein2612
    @chrisstein2612 18 дней назад +3

    I have abs and I can attest that this video is more helpful than having abs

  • @marlenefuchs669
    @marlenefuchs669 11 дней назад +1

    One has to actively engage in combinatorial play of presenting multi-faceted personality traits

  • @Trithus
    @Trithus 20 дней назад +8

    I couldn't help but chuckle in some parts of the video due to sheer correlation with reality. It made me remember, the times I've been successful at pick-ups and one night stands, it all went like Orion put it.
    I just didn't think it explicitly because it all happens so fast!

    • @Chud-mb7gl
      @Chud-mb7gl 20 дней назад +2

      @@Trithus How did it go? Because he provided zero explanation of when and what to do and how it's supposed to work

  • @luminyam6145
    @luminyam6145 18 дней назад

    I share your channel with my son.

  • @njjj3338
    @njjj3338 16 дней назад +1

    Everyone is playing a game - there is a very good book about it. I personally hate it because in order to get what you want (to please society), you normally have to play a different game than the game you are playing as default.