Growing up, every time my mother touched my hair, she informed me that I had “bad” hair. With this programmed in my mind, getting a relaxer at 12 was a no brainer. I am 50 years old now, therefore I remember the time when it was unacceptable to go to work with braids or natural hair. I know for a fact that most jobs I had would not have hired me with natural hair. This also really hurt the potential to “learn” how to manage my own hair. I didn’t get comfortable going to work with a more natural style until 2010. Let’s face the fact that systemic racism played a huge part in our lack of hair progress. If I didn’t know how to manage my natural hair I couldn’t teach it to my daughter. Fortunately I had the good sense to never relax her hair. She has beautiful hair! I’m grateful to you and channels like this. Thank you all for what you do. ❤ You are teaching the young and older how to manage our beautiful, unique hair. You are creating a world where we are changing the way we think about, treat, and love our hair! 😊🌺
I think that it's difficult for those who haven't yet figured out a routine. Also, figure out hair styles that work for you. Accept the hair on your head.
@@CoilyDiaries It was difficult for me for a while, but I didn't complain. I just didn't know what the heck I was doing. Now I keep it simple like we did back in the day. The only difference is that I deep condition 1-2 times a month. I've also become a master of the tuck and roll.
@belindasanders1719 Difficult may be a strong word, but the truth is it takes time, observation of your hair and skill to finally master it. And for women with small children, especially without help from family, that is a huge challenge. Now if a mom wants to keep her hair short, then it’s a bit easier. But desiring and trying to manage length, it’s completely different, for some, though not for all. I don’t think it’s entirely about accepting one’s hair. There are other variables to consider for some.
Yes, my 4C hair is time consuming to manage. That is why I wore a teeny weeny afro from 1970 until 2023. Raising my daughter as a single mother while working and managing all the racism life in America has to offer, it was just easier, plus I refused to relax my God given hair. I knew that relaxers were not good for me. I am 75 now, and have decided to grow it in Aug/Sept 2023. So far so good. I don't know how long it will get, but I am enjoying my hair for the first time in my life I take care of it myself with the help of you and other natural hair influencers. I don't trust hair stylists, having had questionable experiences at their hands. My mother was a hair dresser back in the day and I learned that not all stylists know what they are doing. Anyhow, my hair is growing nicely. I am having to deal with thinning edges. Having never worn any artificial braids or wigs, I can only believe that it is age related. I have a dermatology appt to see what they think. Sometimes I wear a big Afro to church, but immediately put it back into braids. It works for me. Thanks for all your advice. I'll keep you posted. So far it is about 6-7 inches in length. God bless.
Thanks for sharing this! I think it’s important to hear different perspectives and people’s differing experiences. Interesting how you wore shorter hair while life was busy and choosing different now. More women need to be liberated to do what is necessary for the stage of life they are at! Only respect ✊🏽
I have to respectfully disagree. Natural hair is different, not hard, no matter how loose or tight the curl/coil. The education is what is missing. I loved your tips on the second half of the video, and following methods like those will definitely help!
My hair is not difficult but it does require me to be patient with it. When I let me hair go too long without the moisture and washing, THEN I can call it difficult. It’s ME! I’m the drama!! When I care for and consider my hair and love it the way it deserves, my hair gives me no problem. Hydration and single strand knots are a constant focus. Since following you for the challenge, I love my hair even more!! Working with my hair and learning what it needs makes my routine easier!!
I agree with this comment. I don’t like the term “difficult”. If we care for it as we’re supposed to, it’s a breeze. But most of us don’t know how. Indian women have beautiful hair because of Ayurveda. We don’t hear them complaining about oiling and massaging their hair. The knowledge was passed down from generation to generation. That’s all they know.
@abioni6092. You have to remember that a lot of us black women just learned how to care for our natural hair as adults. The only thing that was passed down to us was how to get out the kinks, via hot combs, Jheri curls and relaxers. It would benefit us to give ourselves and each other some compassion and grace, in my opinion.
@@abioni6092 a breeze? I wish. My hair has never been a walk in the park. Also Indian women don’t HAVE TO use oils etc- they choose to and not all of them follow this 🌺
@A_Wilson you’re correct, we’re all learning. I’m hopeful that in time, we will not use these types of words to describe caring for our hair when it becomes second nature. Language matters.
I do not think the creator is saying that natural hair is hard, even though she may use that phrase, as some are alluding to. At the core, she is saying it is more time-consuming, and you cannot do wash-and-goes with some hair textures. The current routines we have for natural hair are more time-consuming than for other textures. Some hair textures don't even require much effort, yet it looks luscious. For other textures, people don't have to learn how to manage their hair; it grows effortlessly, even for the laziest people. Yet for us, we are doing a few gymnastics and scientific equations to retain length. Then when we add all these factors and compare to other textures it is seen as "hard" even though it is not literrally hard. I think it is ok to admit that. trying to convince someone that "you is not hard to manage" is trying to convince someone to deny what they feel and see. a lot of natual 4c are really struggling.
wow! someone reasonable finally! you are spot on! a lot of us are stuck in the word “difficult “ negating everything else mentioned in the video. people are really struggling and returning g to relaxers etc. validating their frustrations is part of helping them progress! thank you 🙏🏽
When I first went natural, my oldest son was quite a bit older so I had time to spend trying to learn it and figure out what I could with it. My hair flourished. Years later, I had my daughter and I became a blow dried natural, trying to “speed up wash day”. It took a few years but that eventually damaged my hair and I had to cut a significant amount off. I had to lean on protective styles and scarfs to get me through initially while I nursed and grew my hair back. Now that I have another son who’s 8 months, I’m a braided natural, still in protective styles. The other part to mention is the guilt of spending a lot of time on your hair that you’d rather spend with your children. You really have to master skills and techniques to simplify and make caring for hair easier, without sacrificing the health of it. And we don’t want to neglect ourselves completely for our children, so we have to establish a balance. It can be difficult but once you do, it makes things better. Great video! I’m like you, I don’t judge what ladies do to their hair. We all have to do what works for us! 🌺
At the core, I think we know it is “difficult”. We grew being told this. Most of us ended up with relaxers because a relaxer was supposed to make our hair easier. Not sure if we don’t know the truth. I think we have heard it so much that we are trying not focus on how difficult it is so that we can forge ahead with taking care of our hair❤
@@CoilyDiaries Not really positivity. I am about neutrality. Will not gaslight others. Choosing not to compare it but rather just accept it for what it is, deal with it, and understanding skill and effort is required. Much love❤Thank you for all your content.
Textured hair can come in various ethnicities on each inhabited continent,including Asia. All ethnicities have individuals who may find it difficult to style and maintain their natural hair. Perming/relaxing, curling, straightening with tools, etc. to get unruly hair to behave is a human experience. Even though natural textured hair in ethnicities known to have more of a tighter kinkier curl pattern may have a more time consuming process in taking care of their hair, they're not the only ones who catch the blues about their hair texture and length. Humans worldwide have more in common than we may personally think and believe. But those who know, the struggle is real in all ethnicities no matter where they are in the world. (I posted this because after having conversations with pale skinned American women and reading about how a few Asians who have textured natural hair deal with their everyday struggles with their hair. One woman said she hated her hair 😔) This doesn't mean to downplay what ethnic groups from Hamitic descent have to go through from day to day with their natural straight, wavy,curly,coily, and kinky hair every day. We all just have to learn what works for us as individuals and love on our hair no matter how it grows out of our scalp. Keep it simple and don't stress over it has helped me tremendously. As well as praying to Jehovah God for help dealing with hair He blessed me with and created for me to take care of. (Gen 3:20;10;Psalm 83:18; John 17:3; Rev 4:11) Didn't mean to write an essay,CC,but your topic got me thinking and wanted to express my thoughts on the matter presented in your video. Thanks for sharing. "You look marvelous "(Billy Crystal) with your hair and dress.🎉
I have been natural since 2014 but only truly started caring about a year ago and finally found a natural salon which I started going to about a month ago (which takes about 2 hours to get to). I pledged to myself to try their method (they are natural hair coaches and the salon owned by a natural hair trichologist) because it has been difficult trying to learn all I need from youtube. I am a full time working mom of 2 little kids and I barely make time for myself. You can imagine how it maybe like for me with type 4c hair having to leanr how to wash, detangle and style my hair on top of doing both my kids hair (who are both girls mind you). Most times I wish I could just pay someone to do my hair every wash day lol
Hey mama! Totally feel you!! You are doing great with finding help! Sis even learning is a whole mission 🤣🤣! Be liberated to do exactly what will work for you and your girls 🌺
@@CoilyDiariesThanks sis. Was so encouraging to hear that it is difficult from someone with your length of hair 🫶🏾 makes me feel I will eventually get there I just need to enjoy the good moments in this journey
I think it is difficult for some but not for others. Personally, my type 4 hair isn't difficult for me to manage. It takes me about an hour to shampoo, condition, detangle, and style my hair and I do this every 3 to 4 days. Additionally, my hair is long.
Same here. I wash twice a week and have long thick type 4 hair. I care more about moisturization then curl definition and I don't try to make it do what it doesn't want to do.
To attain longer and healthy hair is difficult no matter how one chooses (natural or relaxed)to keep her hair. I was relaxed and now natural. Either ways I give my hair the same attention and time because retaining length and hair healthy are always my priority. Thank you for always putting up informative videos. I ❤ your videos a lot.
You added quite a bit of nuance that I appreciate. I agree from the perspective that truly, everything that's worth doing requires some amount of effort on your part. Also, I usually refrain from telling people that natural hair is easy because I know the work it takes to achieve a style/length goal...etc. Where I disagree is that when you're genuinely struggling to maintain your natural hair, it can feel 10 times harder. The frustration makes you feel like you're getting nowhere. Then when you figure out what was giving you a difficult time, you kind of go...wow, now my hair is so easy to maintain/style...etc. I think a lot more people should add nuance when making statements like 'natural hair is/ isn't difficult' because what's easy to me may be difficult for you.
Unfortunately, calling our hair difficult is what has lead to many years of black people not embracing our hair. In the end what should we do accept its hard and go back to self hate? Truth is yes its time consuming but isnt that where the beauty lies? Comparing our hair to "easy hair" is where the problem begins.....overall it's about acceptance of what we have and finding a way to manage just like everything else in life lol.
Moisture training has been the key to manageability for me. I have 4b hair and I experience minimal tangles. I truly believe that if more type 4 naturals prioritize moisture training their hair, their natural hair experience would be a lot less difficult.
I am sitting here listening and questioning myself.... Is this true? No, my hair is not difficult as I also sit here thinking about how I am going to manage the time to detangle this weekend to prevent breakage. LOL I will say it's time consuming for me and it's because I have chosen to make it that way. I have hair goals and on a mission. I do enjoy it. :-) Maybe one day I will simplify it. Washing only once a month makes me feel like my hair deserves to be "Spa'd Up"! :-) Great video!
Amazing! CD, I suspect that a lot of ladies making comments about “knowing your hair” and “learning how to manage it” have not watched a lot of your content. You’ve been schooling us on some techniques and products that have made managing our type 4 hair so much easier. 😅 It’s all good! You’re appreciated girl!! 🥰
Thanks girl 🥰. it’s fascinating to me how we want to be so quick to call natural hair care a breeze when so many women are still struggling with it and being told “ once you accept your hair and establish a routine “ it’s easy. validating the challenges of natural hair really makes us all feel seen, heard and understood I think aiding us to continue finding ways to enjoy it and manage it better.
I agree! 💜 Couple that with other outside variables like family, job….acknowledging challenges and encouraging each other to stay the course till it’s second nature is great.
Honestly it irks me when people try to say 4C or even 4 type hair does not require as much work as looser hair types. Even if you've managed to have a great routine down pat and your hair is flourishing, it's still more work than straighter hair types.
Natural hair is difficult that’s why there a billions of of videos on RUclips helping us to care for our hair. I live in New York and it difficult here. When I lived in Jamaica I had a whole village to help me care for my hair lol
I have noticed women obtaining a texture release hair service. It’s not a relaxer. After the texture release is rinsed out. The hair is still natural. Then the hair is silk pressed is hair looks amazing. The texture release can last 2-4 months. Jennifer Cynthia Demonstrates texture release on her RUclips channel as well as on her Instagram,Facebook n TikTok. Check out all her clients who choose texture release are so happy. If they want to do a wash n go or double strand twist they still have their coily hair
@valeriesignaturesalon, Thank you for posting about Jennifer Cynthia's demonstrations of texture release. I may give texture release a try after high humidity takes a toll on my 4C hair this summer.
You don’t have to wear freeform locks to have long highly textured hair. I’ve been wearing Sisterlocks since 1999 and it is equally easy. I retightened every couple of months and can achieve any styles worn by those in wigs, braids, and twists. (See Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson). I’m in my 60s with waist length locks and still get asked if I have extensions or wearing a wig. It will always be difficult when those with tightly coiled hair prefer to have long straightened hair. Too bad more people don’t like tightly coiled hair AS IT IS.
Natural hair is difficult Like she said you can’t just wake up and put your work clothes on and go You need some form for taming, styling always something which is time consuming and requires personal know how.
Our natural hair is not difficult. Anything in life that you try to do, with which you have no experience, with which you do not spend time and truly understand, will be difficult. Try riding a bicycle for the first time ever, difficult. Put that bike away for 2 weeks are more and then try it again, still difficult. To understand something, our hair included, needs our attention, practice, love and care. Only then will we understand it. Other people with different types of hair also have their difficult moments, some from since childhood and if you listen to their plight, it is a lack of understanding of their hair. Be it that their parents or their guardian did not know how to properly care for it, therefore it was difficult. Once we understand and learn about something, everything else becomes second nature because you are armed with knowledge....like finally learning and having practiced riding a bike. Learning and practicing to do your hair will bring love and understanding of it.
Fact my loose natural was not retaining length for many years I went back natural 2009 not knowing that it was going to be a lot of work I used to wear yarn braids that I did myself but when i would take them out my hair was still at ear length I would shampoo condition & moisturize the problem at time was combing & brushing but I didn’t know any better at the time I was sooo frustrated I thought my hair would never see length I almost gave up until one day I was watching RUclips videos of other natural ladies getting sisterlocs which I wanted at first until I found out the price then seen another RUclipsr start her locs with plaits so I installed plaits now my hair is finally retaining length with locs best decision ever I will never go back to having loose natural hair
@@CoilyDiarieslocs do not limit me I can still do styles if I want especially having small size locs that is all in your mind yes you have to be ready for the loc journey
Say ALL you want but natural hair ain't for the weak. Natural hair has SO MANY RULES. There are things you can do and A LOT of things you can't do. You can't just do your hair quickly and you're out the door. I don't mean to say anything negative about our hair type BUT let's call a spade a spade. Natural hair is NOT easy. It takes a lot of time, paitence and skills to work with it. We say it's easy just to ease the tension and help us to work with the hair easier. The type of hair that requires hours of detangling especially if you leave it in a protective style for awhile and the other lists of things you have to do. You can't rush it 😂 Well, let's be honest with ourselves please 😂
The thing is, we don’t want to be honest. We want to gaslight each other and only say positive things because if you view it as difficult then it will be… but if you view it as positive it will be easy? Sounds like fantasy to me🤣
@@CoilyDiaries help me o 😂 my sister. Claiming that it's easy doesn't necessarily mean that it'll automatically change the texture of the hair 🤣oh please. We just have to accept the REALITY of this hair of ours AND find ways to make it a bit easier to take care of it ☺️that's what I think.
Everything you said is true thats why I have locs now for 5 years it is the best no detangling washing only takes 20 minutes then I air dry & moisturize I condition only once a month I am not trying to tell others to install locs but having them does make my life easier
Once you understand your hair won’t be like everyone else’s. It becomes easy. Expecting to wear your type 4 hair out and not prepare for tangles is diabolical
Yes, I accept the hsir I have, not the one that's hanging out with me 😮🥺. But your hair is very beautiful, voluminous, African. If I was looking for advice, I'd listen to you because you have long hair and don't complain about your hair. Btw, you're talking about those type of ppl that encircle them, black women with short hair and extensions. Lastlei, I would love to know how you cared for your hair in your😮😁 childhood.
I think it can be difficult depending on how you like to style your hair. For instance if I wanted to wear a sleek ponytail it's going to take a lot of manipulation to achieve that look. If I wanted to minimize frizz I usually have to layer a couple of products to achieve that goal and that takes time. I don't like using a lot of product in my hair. Now if didn't care about frizz then the process of styling my hair would be pretty easy. Wash, moisturize, air dry and go.
7:34 I will tell you. It does not take the WHOLE DAY to wash your hair and I have thick long type 4 hair, it may take me like 3-4hrs and that’s including a wash & deep condition. If you all are having trouble detangling your hair I will recommend IT’S A 10 leave in conditioner, this stuff is $42 but it lasts, it’s for all hair types and it detangles hair like butter literally. I have been using that for 4+ years.
I found freedom when i decided to have dreadlocks. I used to have afro hair when i was single with no babies. now i don't have time for that. guys please try dreadlocks. the best thing ever
thank you 🙏🏽! here is the website to the wig. they seem to be closed for summer but hopefully they open back soon. I have done a full review of the wig to 🙂www.manecurator.com.au it’s a human hair headband wig
thank you 🙏🏽! here is the website to the wig. they seem to be closed for summer but hopefully they open back soon. I have done a full review of the wig to 🙂www.manecurator.com.au
Yea it can be diffiult oil spray it takes me from 10 in the morning till 2pm to wash and platt my hair...i wash my hair once a month thats it..i wear wigs which is best for me....god if i could have good hair...i have 4c low prosivity hair now my hairs going grey thats another problem..DYING IT our hair is a problem carnt bare it...greases grease and grease
Growing up, every time my mother touched my hair, she informed me that I had “bad” hair. With this programmed in my mind, getting a relaxer at 12 was a no brainer. I am 50 years old now, therefore I remember the time when it was unacceptable to go to work with braids or natural hair. I know for a fact that most jobs I had would not have hired me with natural hair. This also really hurt the potential to “learn” how to manage my own hair. I didn’t get comfortable going to work with a more natural style until 2010. Let’s face the fact that systemic racism played a huge part in our lack of hair progress. If I didn’t know how to manage my natural hair I couldn’t teach it to my daughter. Fortunately I had the good sense to never relax her hair. She has beautiful hair! I’m grateful to you and channels like this. Thank you all for what you do. ❤
You are teaching the young and older how to manage our beautiful, unique hair. You are creating a world where we are changing the way we think about, treat, and love our hair! 😊🌺
Thanks for sharing your story! It’s so relatable 😍
Hello. If i plait weave can i still wash my hair often, mosturize & do the a treatment while having with it?
Yassssss!! Well said sis!!!
I think that it's difficult for those who haven't yet figured out a routine. Also, figure out hair styles that work for you. Accept the hair on your head.
True but I also think even with a routine there are challenges. The simple fact we need to establish routines 🤔…
Yes! 👏🏾
This ❤
@@CoilyDiaries It was difficult for me for a while, but I didn't complain. I just didn't know what the heck I was doing. Now I keep it simple like we did back in the day. The only difference is that I deep condition 1-2 times a month. I've also become a master of the tuck and roll.
@belindasanders1719 Difficult may be a strong word, but the truth is it takes time, observation of your hair and skill to finally master it. And for women with small children, especially without help from family, that is a huge challenge. Now if a mom wants to keep her hair short, then it’s a bit easier. But desiring and trying to manage length, it’s completely different, for some, though not for all. I don’t think it’s entirely about accepting one’s hair. There are other variables to consider for some.
Yes, my 4C hair is time consuming to manage. That is why I wore a teeny weeny afro from 1970 until 2023. Raising my daughter as a single mother while working and managing all the racism life in America has to offer, it was just easier, plus I refused to relax my God given hair. I knew that relaxers were not good for me. I am 75 now, and have decided to grow it in Aug/Sept 2023. So far so good. I don't know how long it will get, but I am enjoying my hair for the first time in my life I take care of it myself with the help of you and other natural hair influencers. I don't trust hair stylists, having had questionable experiences at their hands. My mother was a hair dresser back in the day and I learned that not all stylists know what they are doing. Anyhow, my hair is growing nicely. I am having to deal with thinning edges. Having never worn any artificial braids or wigs, I can only believe that it is age related. I have a dermatology appt to see what they think. Sometimes I wear a big Afro to church, but immediately put it back into braids. It works for me. Thanks for all your advice. I'll keep you posted. So far it is about 6-7 inches in length. God bless.
Thanks for sharing this! I think it’s important to hear different perspectives and people’s differing experiences. Interesting how you wore shorter hair while life was busy and choosing different now. More women need to be liberated to do what is necessary for the stage of life they are at! Only respect ✊🏽
It's definitely difficult but I love and embrace it
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I have to respectfully disagree. Natural hair is different, not hard, no matter how loose or tight the curl/coil. The education is what is missing. I loved your tips on the second half of the video, and following methods like those will definitely help!
That’s perfectly fine!
My hair is not difficult but it does require me to be patient with it. When I let me hair go too long without the moisture and washing, THEN I can call it difficult. It’s ME! I’m the drama!! When I care for and consider my hair and love it the way it deserves, my hair gives me no problem. Hydration and single strand knots are a constant focus. Since following you for the challenge, I love my hair even more!! Working with my hair and learning what it needs makes my routine easier!!
Love it 🥰
I agree with this comment. I don’t like the term “difficult”. If we care for it as we’re supposed to, it’s a breeze. But most of us don’t know how. Indian women have beautiful hair because of Ayurveda. We don’t hear them complaining about oiling and massaging their hair. The knowledge was passed down from generation to generation. That’s all they know.
@abioni6092. You have to remember that a lot of us black women just learned how to care for our natural hair as adults. The only thing that was passed down to us was how to get out the kinks, via hot combs, Jheri curls and relaxers. It would benefit us to give ourselves and each other some compassion and grace, in my opinion.
@@abioni6092 a breeze? I wish. My hair has never been a walk in the park. Also Indian women don’t HAVE TO use oils etc- they choose to and not all of them follow this 🌺
@A_Wilson you’re correct, we’re all learning. I’m hopeful that in time, we will not use these types of words to describe caring for our hair when it becomes second nature. Language matters.
I do not think the creator is saying that natural hair is hard, even though she may use that phrase, as some are alluding to. At the core, she is saying it is more time-consuming, and you cannot do wash-and-goes with some hair textures. The current routines we have for natural hair are more time-consuming than for other textures. Some hair textures don't even require much effort, yet it looks luscious. For other textures, people don't have to learn how to manage their hair; it grows effortlessly, even for the laziest people. Yet for us, we are doing a few gymnastics and scientific equations to retain length. Then when we add all these factors and compare to other textures it is seen as "hard" even though it is not literrally hard. I think it is ok to admit that. trying to convince someone that "you is not hard to manage" is trying to convince someone to deny what they feel and see. a lot of natual 4c are really struggling.
wow! someone reasonable finally! you are spot on! a lot of us are stuck in the word “difficult “ negating everything else mentioned in the video. people are really struggling and returning g to relaxers etc. validating their frustrations is part of helping them progress! thank you 🙏🏽
When I first went natural, my oldest son was quite a bit older so I had time to spend trying to learn it and figure out what I could with it. My hair flourished. Years later, I had my daughter and I became a blow dried natural, trying to “speed up wash day”. It took a few years but that eventually damaged my hair and I had to cut a significant amount off. I had to lean on protective styles and scarfs to get me through initially while I nursed and grew my hair back. Now that I have another son who’s 8 months, I’m a braided natural, still in protective styles. The other part to mention is the guilt of spending a lot of time on your hair that you’d rather spend with your children. You really have to master skills and techniques to simplify and make caring for hair easier, without sacrificing the health of it. And we don’t want to neglect ourselves completely for our children, so we have to establish a balance. It can be difficult but once you do, it makes things better. Great video! I’m like you, I don’t judge what ladies do to their hair. We all have to do what works for us! 🌺
Goodness! Well said! The guilt!!😞
Managing 4c hair is definitely difficult, particularly when you’re busy ( my own experience). Thank you for sharing your perspective.
So true!🌺🌺🌺
At the core, I think we know it is “difficult”. We grew being told this. Most of us ended up with relaxers because a relaxer was supposed to make our hair easier. Not sure if we don’t know the truth. I think we have heard it so much that we are trying not focus on how difficult it is so that we can forge ahead with taking care of our hair❤
Positively is great 👍🏽
@@CoilyDiaries Not really positivity. I am about neutrality. Will not gaslight others. Choosing not to compare it but rather just accept it for what it is, deal with it, and understanding skill and effort is required. Much love❤Thank you for all your content.
Textured hair can come in various ethnicities on each inhabited continent,including Asia. All ethnicities have individuals who may find it difficult to style and maintain their natural hair. Perming/relaxing, curling, straightening with tools, etc. to get unruly hair to behave is a human experience. Even though natural textured hair in ethnicities known to have more of a tighter kinkier curl pattern may have a more time consuming process in taking care of their hair, they're not the only ones who catch the blues about their hair texture and length. Humans worldwide have more in common than we may personally think and believe. But those who know, the struggle is real in all ethnicities no matter where they are in the world.
(I posted this because after having conversations with pale skinned American women and reading about how a few Asians who have textured natural hair deal with their everyday struggles with their hair. One woman said she hated her hair 😔)
This doesn't mean to downplay what ethnic groups from Hamitic descent have to go through from day to day with their natural straight, wavy,curly,coily, and kinky hair every day. We all just have to learn what works for us as individuals and love on our hair no matter how it grows out of our scalp. Keep it simple and don't stress over it has helped me tremendously. As well as praying to Jehovah God for help dealing with hair He blessed me with and created for me to take care of.
(Gen 3:20;10;Psalm 83:18; John 17:3; Rev 4:11)
Didn't mean to write an essay,CC,but your topic got me thinking and wanted to express my thoughts on the matter presented in your video.
Thanks for sharing.
"You look marvelous "(Billy Crystal) with your hair and dress.🎉
Speak on it! I love this perspective! I hope someone feels validated by it
Yess ❤it actually is ,it takes a lot of TLC that's why most people don't wear their natural hair or think natural hair doesn't grow
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I have been natural since 2014 but only truly started caring about a year ago and finally found a natural salon which I started going to about a month ago (which takes about 2 hours to get to). I pledged to myself to try their method (they are natural hair coaches and the salon owned by a natural hair trichologist) because it has been difficult trying to learn all I need from youtube. I am a full time working mom of 2 little kids and I barely make time for myself. You can imagine how it maybe like for me with type 4c hair having to leanr how to wash, detangle and style my hair on top of doing both my kids hair (who are both girls mind you). Most times I wish I could just pay someone to do my hair every wash day lol
Hey mama! Totally feel you!! You are doing great with finding help! Sis even learning is a whole mission 🤣🤣! Be liberated to do exactly what will work for you and your girls 🌺
@@CoilyDiariesThanks sis. Was so encouraging to hear that it is difficult from someone with your length of hair 🫶🏾
makes me feel I will eventually get there I just need to enjoy the good moments in this journey
@@kaodiumerah2830 yes!!!
Back to back contents , I give you that ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you 🙏🏽
Thank you ,us naturals need you here. You aproach our hair in a scientific stand point.💚🍃🌱🌿🙏🏾
Awww!! Thank you 🙏🏽
I think it is difficult for some but not for others. Personally, my type 4 hair isn't difficult for me to manage. It takes me about an hour to shampoo, condition, detangle, and style my hair and I do this every 3 to 4 days. Additionally, my hair is long.
Love this for you!!!
Is your hair 4b-4a ?
Same here. I wash twice a week and have long thick type 4 hair. I care more about moisturization then curl definition and I don't try to make it do what it doesn't want to do.
@@gazagxrlx2974I'm not sure because it doesn't look like any of the patterns on the type 4 charts. It's just type 4 that's all I know.
@@LPcapricorn1980For me, I think twice a week washing keeps it moisturized and makes it easy to care for. Is it the same for you?
To attain longer and healthy hair is difficult no matter how one chooses (natural or relaxed)to keep her hair. I was relaxed and now natural. Either ways I give my hair the same attention and time because retaining length and hair healthy are always my priority.
Thank you for always putting up informative videos. I ❤ your videos a lot.
well said sis ❤️
You added quite a bit of nuance that I appreciate.
I agree from the perspective that truly, everything that's worth doing requires some amount of effort on your part. Also, I usually refrain from telling people that natural hair is easy because I know the work it takes to achieve a style/length goal...etc.
Where I disagree is that when you're genuinely struggling to maintain your natural hair, it can feel 10 times harder. The frustration makes you feel like you're getting nowhere. Then when you figure out what was giving you a difficult time, you kind of go...wow, now my hair is so easy to maintain/style...etc.
I think a lot more people should add nuance when making statements like 'natural hair is/ isn't difficult' because what's easy to me may be difficult for you.
Thanks for sharing! I like your perspective…
And remember even if your hair is flat if it's growing from the scalp the hair is natural 😘🥰😍
Unfortunately, calling our hair difficult is what has lead to many years of black people not embracing our hair. In the end what should we do accept its hard and go back to self hate? Truth is yes its time consuming but isnt that where the beauty lies? Comparing our hair to "easy hair" is where the problem begins.....overall it's about acceptance of what we have and finding a way to manage just like everything else in life lol.
difficult may be the wrong word but what I was trying to communicate is the reality and true lived experience of a lot of naturals
Moisture training has been the key to manageability for me. I have 4b hair and I experience minimal tangles. I truly believe that if more type 4 naturals prioritize moisture training their hair, their natural hair experience would be a lot less difficult.
Thanks for sharing!! Moisture training is great 😊
I am sitting here listening and questioning myself.... Is this true? No, my hair is not difficult as I also sit here thinking about how I am going to manage the time to detangle this weekend to prevent breakage. LOL I will say it's time consuming for me and it's because I have chosen to make it that way. I have hair goals and on a mission. I do enjoy it. :-) Maybe one day I will simplify it. Washing only once a month makes me feel like my hair deserves to be "Spa'd Up"! :-) Great video!
Ahahahh love it! Time consuming is a better way to put it. 👍🏽👍🏽
Great video! Thank you ❤
Welcome 🙏🏽
Amazing! CD, I suspect that a lot of ladies making comments about “knowing your hair” and “learning how to manage it” have not watched a lot of your content. You’ve been schooling us on some techniques and products that have made managing our type 4 hair so much easier. 😅 It’s all good! You’re appreciated girl!! 🥰
Thanks girl 🥰. it’s fascinating to me how we want to be so quick to call natural hair care a breeze when so many women are still struggling with it and being told “ once you accept your hair and establish a routine “ it’s easy. validating the challenges of natural hair really makes us all feel seen, heard and understood I think aiding us to continue finding ways to enjoy it and manage it better.
I agree! 💜 Couple that with other outside variables like family, job….acknowledging challenges and encouraging each other to stay the course till it’s second nature is great.
Honestly it irks me when people try to say 4C or even 4 type hair does not require as much work as looser hair types.
Even if you've managed to have a great routine down pat and your hair is flourishing, it's still more work than straighter hair types.
facts!!!!
Natural hair is difficult that’s why there a billions of of videos on RUclips helping us to care for our hair. I live in New York and it difficult here. When I lived in Jamaica I had a whole village to help me care for my hair lol
Ahhahaha 🤣 a whole village sounds amazing!!
I have noticed women obtaining a texture release hair service. It’s not a relaxer. After the texture release is rinsed out. The hair is still natural. Then the hair is silk pressed is hair looks amazing. The texture release can last 2-4 months.
Jennifer Cynthia
Demonstrates texture release on her RUclips channel as well as on her Instagram,Facebook n TikTok.
Check out all her clients who choose texture release are so happy. If they want to do a wash n go or double strand twist they still have their coily hair
Will definitely check her out. Thank you 🙏🏽
@@CoilyDiaries you are awesomely welcome
@valeriesignaturesalon, Thank you for posting about Jennifer Cynthia's demonstrations of texture release. I may give texture release a try after high humidity takes a toll on my 4C hair this summer.
You don’t have to wear freeform locks to have long highly textured hair. I’ve been wearing Sisterlocks since 1999 and it is equally easy. I retightened every couple of months and can achieve any styles worn by those in wigs, braids, and twists. (See Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson). I’m in my 60s with waist length locks and still get asked if I have extensions or wearing a wig.
It will always be difficult when those with tightly coiled hair prefer to have long straightened hair.
Too bad more people don’t like tightly coiled hair AS IT IS.
Free form locs is an expression but most definitely all locs apply!
Natural hair is difficult
Like she said you can’t just wake up and put your work clothes on and go
You need some form for taming, styling always something which is time consuming and requires personal know how.
yeah..
Our natural hair is not difficult. Anything in life that you try to do, with which you have no experience, with which you do not spend time and truly understand, will be difficult. Try riding a bicycle for the first time ever, difficult. Put that bike away for 2 weeks are more and then try it again, still difficult. To understand something, our hair included, needs our attention, practice, love and care. Only then will we understand it.
Other people with different types of hair also have their difficult moments, some from since childhood and if you listen to their plight, it is a lack of understanding of their hair. Be it that their parents or their guardian did not know how to properly care for it, therefore it was difficult. Once we understand and learn about something, everything else becomes second nature because you are armed with knowledge....like finally learning and having practiced riding a bike. Learning and practicing to do your hair will bring love and understanding of it.
thanks for Sharing your views!
Fact my loose natural was not retaining length for many years I went back natural 2009 not knowing that it was going to be a lot of work I used to wear yarn braids that I did myself but when i would take them out my hair was still at ear length I would shampoo condition & moisturize the problem at time was combing & brushing but I didn’t know any better at the time I was sooo frustrated I thought my hair would never see length I almost gave up until one day I was watching RUclips videos of other natural ladies getting sisterlocs which I wanted at first until I found out the price then seen another RUclipsr start her locs with plaits so I installed plaits now my hair is finally retaining length with locs best decision ever I will never go back to having loose natural hair
Oh wow!!! I admire locs from afar but fill like it’s such a final decision and it would limit me. I know I’d love the simplicity they offer though
@@CoilyDiarieslocs do not limit me I can still do styles if I want especially having small size locs that is all in your mind yes you have to be ready for the loc journey
Because I love my hair, I don't find it difficult but a process necessary and it's precious that is why it needs sxtra attention and time.
nice 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Say ALL you want but natural hair ain't for the weak. Natural hair has SO MANY RULES. There are things you can do and A LOT of things you can't do. You can't just do your hair quickly and you're out the door. I don't mean to say anything negative about our hair type BUT let's call a spade a spade. Natural hair is NOT easy. It takes a lot of time, paitence and skills to work with it. We say it's easy just to ease the tension and help us to work with the hair easier. The type of hair that requires hours of detangling especially if you leave it in a protective style for awhile and the other lists of things you have to do. You can't rush it 😂
Well, let's be honest with ourselves please 😂
The thing is, we don’t want to be honest. We want to gaslight each other and only say positive things because if you view it as difficult then it will be… but if you view it as positive it will be easy? Sounds like fantasy to me🤣
@@CoilyDiaries help me o 😂 my sister. Claiming that it's easy doesn't necessarily mean that it'll automatically change the texture of the hair 🤣oh please. We just have to accept the REALITY of this hair of ours AND find ways to make it a bit easier to take care of it ☺️that's what I think.
@@davitatukura2520 true!
Everything you said is true thats why I have locs now for 5 years it is the best no detangling washing only takes 20 minutes then I air dry & moisturize I condition only once a month I am not trying to tell others to install locs but having them does make my life easier
@@fatimamanneh9432 girl soft life!!!
Once you understand your hair won’t be like everyone else’s. It becomes easy. Expecting to wear your type 4 hair out and not prepare for tangles is diabolical
that’s great! for me, understanding it or accepting it does not change its nature or the requirements for its care
Yes, I accept the hsir I have, not the one that's hanging out with me 😮🥺.
But your hair is very beautiful, voluminous, African. If I was looking for advice, I'd listen to you because you have long hair and don't complain about your hair. Btw, you're talking about those type of ppl that encircle them, black women with short hair and extensions.
Lastlei, I would love to know how you cared for your hair in your😮😁 childhood.
more to come on my childhood habits
I think it can be difficult depending on how you like to style your hair. For instance if I wanted to wear a sleek ponytail it's going to take a lot of manipulation to achieve that look. If I wanted to minimize frizz I usually have to layer a couple of products to achieve that goal and that takes time. I don't like using a lot of product in my hair. Now if didn't care about frizz then the process of styling my hair would be pretty easy. Wash, moisturize, air dry and go.
I appreciate your approach. You left out DETANGLING in that process though, which were a lot of the work is
Lady you look beautiful
Thank you 🙏🏽
7:34 I will tell you. It does not take the WHOLE DAY to wash your hair and I have thick long type 4 hair, it may take me like 3-4hrs and that’s including a wash & deep condition. If you all are having trouble detangling your hair I will recommend IT’S A 10 leave in conditioner, this stuff is $42 but it lasts, it’s for all hair types and it detangles hair like butter literally. I have been using that for 4+ years.
It could for some with many steps in their routine- finger detanglers etc
@@CoilyDiaries that’s the thing, you don’t NEED that many steps lol
@@YummiLolZ I know !! You are right! Doesn’t stop people from doing them 😅
@@CoilyDiaries which is crazy!!
I found freedom when i decided to have dreadlocks. I used to have afro hair when i was single with no babies. now i don't have time for that. guys please try dreadlocks. the best thing ever
More life to you!! I love it!🥰
Excellent video thanks
Glad you enjoyed it!
You look good. Is that a natural or synthetic wig. Where can I order and what do I ask for? Love it
thank you 🙏🏽! here is the website to the wig. they seem to be closed for summer but hopefully they open back soon. I have done a full review of the wig to 🙂www.manecurator.com.au
it’s a human hair headband wig
You look really beautiful😊
Can you share the details/link to the hair you have on? Thank you!
thank you 🙏🏽! here is the website to the wig. they seem to be closed for summer but hopefully they open back soon. I have done a full review of the wig to 🙂www.manecurator.com.au
Is it a headband wig? Love it
Thank you!
@@sandraboullineau5283 yes it is
Coils do yo have to straighten the wig or just wear and go?
o straightened it in this video!
Yea it can be diffiult oil spray it takes me from 10 in the morning till 2pm to wash and platt my hair...i wash my hair once a month thats it..i wear wigs which is best for me....god if i could have good hair...i have 4c low prosivity hair now my hairs going grey thats another problem..DYING IT our hair is a problem carnt bare it...greases grease and grease
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽