@@ThatIrishGamer07 my wife and I lived in one of these places. It specifically had a noise clause in the lease about the fact that even though the apartments were sound treated the dog barking could still be heard (or something to that effect it’s been 10 years since we lived there). We had a neighbor threaten to shoot all the dogs (this was in Texas) before he knew what was going on4 people had their guns drawn and 2 went to get theirs. That guy was out in less than a week.
We had a mentally unstable woman buy the house next door to us. We initially got along, but quickly realized that nobody in the house worked, and discovered that she lived off lawsuits and various settlements. She "worked" as a delivery driver for one of the big delivery companies, (think red and yellow). She would work a few days, do a slip and fall while delivering a package, sue the homeowner, and sue her company, go on disability, rinse and repeat. Her sister was also playing this scam. She also sued us for supposedly getting a spot of paint (the size of a quarter) on her house, which I offered to clean for her, even though it is questionable that the spot even came from me. She refused and said she was suing to have her entire house resided. She found out who was our insurer, and eventually got a $5000 check, she knew how to work the system. Anyway, then the complaints started about our dogs barking. Dogs bark, but ours barked less than even her dog. She would constantly call the police for this, and it was just our word against hers. So, when we were going on vacation, and we had dropped our dogs off with the people who were watching them for us while we would be gone, and it was just my wife and myself in the house, I played a recording of dogs barking. Sure enough the cops show up. I asked the cop if she was sure that it was our dogs who were barking. He stated that she was. I then informed him that my dogs were currently elsewhere, and he was welcome to search my house to see if any dogs were on the premises. He said that wouldn't be necessary. Instantly she lost her credibility with the police. Thankfully she eventually sold her house and peace returned to our neighborhood.
Story 1: So totally not a jerk, the guy kept harassing the OP and other neighbors and threatening them like he was in the right. When the OP used actual legal method to fight back, the guy went silent realizing he had effed up royally. The OP doing his homework on legality of things was a very good idea. Story 2: The daughter is 10, for her to have gone through that much for that long at such a young age is incredible. But she is 10 and can't endure all that constantly.
@@32202masterj coming from someone who's autistic. (Before it was called the Austsim spectrum an having Asperger's.) The 10 year old should have there own fun. The parent of the child is just being rude. Trying to use there child as some Vitim card just feels like my stomach downed a gallon of expired milk
@@asvaomega6920 My little bro (now 18) has asperger himself. He had to miss out on so many schooltrips including overnight stays because of the school being a bunch of ignorant jerks. It only got better when my mom once told the now vice-principal that he is trying to pull away the wheelchair by not supporting the woman who was with my bro to help him concentrate. During his last two years at this school he was better accepted by students and most of the teachers (some were still little jerks), maybe because he did not need his supporter anymore (probably thanks to covid and remote schooling). However back to what i want to say. After hearing the full story i do not think the OP is the jerk at all. Izzy clearly said she needs a break from her friend. Even tho i do understand the mom of the autistic girl, you cannot expect a ten year old girl to help your daughter basically 24/7 on the trip. If your daughter cannot handle it alone it might be better for her to not go. Either that or you risk her having a full blown break-, shut- or meltdown.
I have a service dog, if that butthole neighbor threatened me like that, I’d have the ADA (Americans with disabilities act) ALL OVER his butt, like a flock of vultures on a dead zebra.
Okay but Izzy really, really deserves a break. I mean I feel bad for Maisy because I have anxiety and my sister has mild separation anxiety but if Izzy wants a break she really deserves a break
It sucks for Maisy as she probably can't go on the trip because of it, but Izzy is not her keeper. She's a child and needs some time for herself as well.
Story 1: No, they are not the jerk. They were in compliance with local law and with the leasing agreement. The other tenant very clearly issued threats to the OP and their mother, in violation of the leasing agreement. Frankly, my pets are members of my family. If you threaten my dog or my cat? You are threatening my family, and I will do whatever is necessary to protect my family. Totally agree with the OP on this; They were quite frankly, FAR more pleasant about it than I would have been. Story 2: No, OP Mom is not the jerk. Her daughter already very clearly said what she did and did not want. It is not the responsibility of other students in the class to make another student comfortable. That responsibility falls solely on the School, the Teacher, and the Student's parent. From the sound of things, Izzy was on the verge of an anxiety attack; Forcing the issue would do more damage to Izzy, than not giving Maisy what she wanted. 10 Years Old is WAY too young to be forced to deal with such emotionally and mentally stressful situations.
If what you say about Story 2 is accurate, if Izzy doesn't take a break from helping Maisie now, it may hinder her capacity to help Maisie (and Luke) in the future.
He needs to, for the protection of the child. If nothing else. He was in the shower, what if he was called in early and wasn't there? The three year old would have been by themselves. That can easily happen with a nurse. Emergency is part of their field. Whether that is other nurses not being able to come in or a major accident. Neither of these is unheard of. I would say it probably happens to all nurses at least once. I don't say this as a nurse, but a paitent. Just one incident, I was in a hospital for 6 months.
Honestly for story 2, I relate to izzy's situation despite being the youngest; When I was in middle school, I would often help my admittedly somewhat mentally unstable friends and the special aid students. My friends would be trauma dumping, and I would be helping the children, since I'm "naturally good" at helping them. At that point in life, I had a great time. Loving albeit somewhat misunderstanding parents, a supporting older sister, so I was thankful for my life. I had extremely minor and not yet doctor diagnosed ptsd, so I felt that my past was really good compared to my friends'. Eventually, after almost a full school year of listening to my friends trauma, I was pretty depleted. Combined with my parents not wanting to take me to a mental diagnostic checkup, I was not feeling great. I was starting to see red flags in my friends trauma dumping and was constantly having to persuade them to not go back to their old drastic measures, and I decided to distance myself a bit; stop inviting them over to my house, start sitting with others during lunch and not hanging with them after school. I'd definitely say that it was the correct choice objectively, but I felt guilt like I was further pushing their situation. So I'd like to ask: AITA for distancing myself to take time and possibly worsening my friends self esteem?
No. You are absolutely not the asshole, I've been in a very similar situation growing up and that guilt will eventually fade. In my opinion, if they at all thought of you as an actual friend and not a therapist, they would not have dumped all of their trauma on you to the point of depletion. I'm saying this from my own experience, and being way out of school now, I do remember my friends at the time having those issues as well, however, school should not include being a therapist for trauma. Break ups? Sure, falling outs with friends? Complaining about family? Homework? Teachers? Yeah, definitely. Not trauma dumping. As someone who had that happen and was dealing with a fuck ton of anger issues, clinical depression and anxiety as well as suicidal thoughts, I can guarantee that on your part, moving away from those friends, as shitty as it felt, was the right move. Regardless, I hope you find/have lovely friends that will treat you like proper friends. Kind Regards, Ella
I can relate to story 2, I was forced to take care of a kid in my class with epilepsy since I was in second grade because "we live close" we don't, just have the same path. he once had a epilepsy attack and the teacher blame me for leaving him after school, I wanted to go home 😩. the kid purposely starts his epilepsy attacks, I'm not responsible for him being an idiot . _.
Still, you're not responsible for a classmate. The school is responsible for the kid during school, the parents or other caretakers outside of school. A child is never the responsible party.
Number 2 OP should feel bad about noting. The grumpy old git was being a twat and had to pay the price. He just wanted to start problems as he has nothing better to do. OP should be proud of what they did and probably helped the rest of the apartment complex
@@creocrimson836 yeah but what i mean is that even if he didnt had the keys he would still find a way to dump his child on his brother to go make another, also he is already abandoning his child by leaving him on his brother's house without saying before
@@cototototorra7106 all the girl would have to do is call the police, they'll take him into custody and get child services involved and he'll be in crazy hot water. Considering she already threatened him and he came to get him he'd have to be mentally disabled to think leaving his son outside the door would work. Most likely he'd see the door is locked (changed locks) and leave.
I feel bad for izzy. I grew up with adhd being diagnosedat 10. I had a friend throughout elementary school for awhile who had mental illness that impaired her speech and I was good friends with her. Now her mom was a good mom and understood what it meant for me to be a child. I'm also visually impaired too so I was also special needs for that as well being born with my condition. I don't remember what happened and why we couldn't hang out anymore but I hope she's well.
for the story about the special needs kid,when i first heard you say " am i the jerk for not wanting my child to be with a special needs kid" i was like"OF COURSE YOU ARE YOU ENTITLED PARENT just cause there different doesnt mean yu shouldnt let your son around them"but then when i heard the story i was like oh okay maybe thats fair ;so i say n not jerk
I’m 16 I have Four cousins who all had autism and they were just shy and they were picky but they liked playing with us and I love my cousins there are a few years younger than me so I take care of them when I saw the headline for the second story I felt the same way as you but I also knew it could be stressful but once I heard the story I knew there’s nothing wrong with what the girl wanted she’s not the jerk or the mom
the entlitled ones are the ones who think everyone else has to put up with their childrems bullshit because they are not able to properly handle having a neurodivergent child
Third story: a terrible father and if he told me to call I'll tell her the truth and change the locks and tell him if he ever pulls another stunt like that I'll call the cops
If Maisie's mom is so certain that she can't handle the separation anxiety from sending her on that trip, then she shouldn't send her. I understand where she's coming from, but regardless of her intent or feelings, she's being a Karen here. She's asking another parent to sacrifice their child's happiness and mental well being for the sake of that of her own child. OP already has one child that their daughter helps with under these circumstances, so it's unfair to her to expected her to do it for someone else's child as well, ESPECIALLY when she's supposed to be at an event where she can let go of that stress and just have fun. It's comparable to those parents who constantly force their children to babysit their younger siblings at the expense of their own social lives. It's unfair to them, regardless of the circumstances.
This! I'm autistic and ADHD with anxiety, and I have an older brother who has learning difficulties and (violent) mental health issues and took up most of our parents' attention. I became known at school as that girl that kids with issues could talk to, and I felt obliged to help. It was really heavy stuff, especially for a kid. I was basically acting like a therapist, and I had NONE of the training to do so. There were times where I had to ask my mother to "be the bad guy" and not allow me to hang out with certain classmates, because I was just too tired and stressed. I see this in Izzy. She's not just babysitting, she's being forced to be a CAREGIVER like a special needs aid. Also, as an autistic person with anxiety, it's a good idea to push comfort areas, in safe ways. So a class trip is a good idea, especially if the right prep work is done BY THE CAREGIVERS (teachers, teacher aid's/special needs teachers, PARENTS, NOT a CLASSMATE). No matter how helpful Izzy is, she's also a kid. And it's not her job to be a caregiver to a classmate. It's her job to be a kid, to learn and to have fun. And it sucks cause Maisie might not be able to handle the trip. So either she doesn't go and misses out, or else her caregivers be prepared in case Maisie might need to leave early.
as someone who has took care of people from a young age more than i should’ve, izzy needed a break and it’s not being a jerk ro take time for yourself. I’m currently trying to be less of the therapist friend and it’s going well so far. Don’t feel the need to help everyone that need help 24/7
I completely understand what Izzy is going through and I am actually going through it right now, I can say with certainty that my mental health has dropped ever since I became friends with said person (no hate to them they are going through a hard thing but they also has made it impossible for me to hang out with any of my friends and etc), I also had a severe panic attack bc of the situation, I think it will be best to listen to Izzy or Izzy will most likely have issues in the future with her own anxiety and dealing with her own emotions
As someone from part of the expectrum i completely understand both. Luckily my parents gave the best for me and I'm fully functional adult and follow the carrier I wanted and live happy with my now fiance
Something happened to my friend similar to story 1 a long time ago so basically when she moved into wales (from Poland) with her family when she was only 5 her family kept getting notes from a stranger saying that her family has to leave bc they’re polish. They found out this guy writing the notes didn’t even live in that area he was just a plumber who came every month or smth. What an idiot
In the first story you are Not the one that was wrong. What you did was justice not just for you but the other dog owners. In the 2nd story I can understand how you wanted to protect your daughter. I myself raised my grandson who was autistic, from birth to around 12 yrs old. Just because someone is really good with special needs children it does not mean they don't need breaks. Its good that you are raising your children especially your oldest daughter to be inclusive and independent. You are not wrong. Prayers to all of you 🙏🙏🙏
Listening to the second storyt I understand how the girl is feeling, As someone who has Autism and ADHD, I know how hard and stressful it can be helping someone especially if they have Anxiety and need someone around and you're honestly right it's a little girls job to fit another person's needs it's the person's, the school/place of work and their families job to help them out and help with sensory issues, anxiety and that sort of stuff
That last story was crazy, how idiotic and irresponsible can you be leaving your son anywhere for a simple date. For someone like me being a nurse it kinda freaked me out the situation, getting out of shower and out of nowhere my nephew is inside my house. I could take him with me, but nurse shifts are not so calm as they seem, and my hospital doesnt have a daycare. Just thinking of this hypothetical scenario makes me anxious. And for all those who think i'm overthinking the situation and i should be just calling the parent (you are RIGHT), but im not good at confrontating others especially if it's family.
Story #1: As a landlord I can certainly say any kind of karen is a nightmare to deal with. They have a tendency to scream at other tenants and constantly reference the property as, "My building" or "My apartments". They even try doing this to me. I encourage tenants to call the police and get a report number from the officer. When I get the report, I contact the proper authorities and get a copy of the report which is used in court against the karen. Without police reports, the judge will probably side the Karen since the complaints can't be too bad if no one has ever called the police. Too many times I get calls from tenants asking me to call the police for them b/c their personal beliefs will not allow them to call the police on another person. I have to explain that I'm not there, I didn't hear the noise or the threat, I can not call it in since I'm not directly involved. I do try to calm the situation and talk to the karen, but it's difficult when a man or woman in their 40's acts like a 5 year soiled brat. The OP did a good job in getting him removed as we always advise customers to read the lease. My other recommendation is to request a copy of the leasing agreement before you meet to sign if you get approved for an apartment and read it over. You may find something in it that makes you rethink your decision to move there. The best tenants we have are always the ones who requested and read the lease before they sign.
Dude the one about that girl named Izzy and the special needs girl named Mazey just hit me hard personally- I was in a very similar situation where I had special needs siblings and had to help with them a lot, and as a result I'm very tolerant with kids. Mazey's mom in that story is so very entitled if she really thinks that another kid abandoning her own is a personal thing. It isn't Izzy's responsibility to watch someone else's kid. I get that Mazey has issues, and I even understand the separation anxiety because I suffer from it myself, but honestly someone needs to find better accommodation for both parties.
2nd story makes me so said. It is a lose lose sinario. Izzy rooms with Maisy and is stressed the whole trip, as she has to ack like a adult, or Izzy does not room with maisy and feels bad about it and maisy freaks out, which is not Izzy’s problem, but could cause guilt
I have to say, I love your videos. Every time I watch one, it gives me a break from the crazy things in my life by letting me hear about even crazier life stories that happened to others. Keep up the quality content and look foreword to your next video. P.S. I have to say, that is a spot-on Cleveland Brown impression.
I agree with not having your daughter Izzy share a room with a special needs kid unless your daughter says it's okay. The mom is not a jerk the jerk is the mother who expects someone else to take care of her child.
Honestly story 2 is quite a big question, but respecting a girl's choice on her adgency and wanting to live as a child and not as an adult is extremely important. I think it's a problem the school and the parents need to solve, and the girl must absolutely get out of a system on which adults rely on her to take care of some her age ! It's very good that she is fond of taking care of children with the same problem as her sibling, but to gazlight her into taking the role against her will ? Absolutely destrictive for her, she'll learn that she has to live through the guilt of letting people in need down vs the fact that she needs to take care of her and what she feels first. If people push her in this direction, which the school and Izzy's mother inconciously do, she'll break down from the responsabilities sooner or later. Kids should be responsabilized, but not at the expense of sacrificing their freedom and young years because they feel they need to please. Let them be dirty, angry and make mistakes before they decide to be role model kids for the adults, show them the way but also let them explore what they truly want to do.
Story with Maisie. The mother should know better than to try to manipulate others by using her daughter. It's a shitty tactic, and she should feel ashamed for trying to do that. Izzy deserves time to herself. That other mother is terrible. 😮💨
Story 1: The monster got what he deserved. Honestly, I wouldn't mind some legal consequences for false reporting on top, but eviction will have to do. Story 2: I get why Maisie's mother is advocating for her own daughter. I do think we need to be kind and help each other out from time to time, but Izzy has a right to say no when it becomes to much. Story 3: Babysitting the nephew is a good thing to do. But a date is not an emergency. The brothers poor planing is not OPs responsibility. I don't know what the dad in the story is smoking but he needs to stop because it is making him crazy. Time to take back that key!
In the first story the male karen could have just asked nicely "Hey, can you and your dogs be a bit quieter please? It's kind of a bother." "Sure thing!" "Thank you." **leaves**
It's not easy and it probably won't be in time for the trip, but maybe the school can teach some more of the kids in the class in helping out Mazie. Lizzie isn't going to be there forever.
My brother drops the kid off at my place, I ask where he is. He tells me I take the kid there and in front of the date say "I'm your brother, not your baby sitter- take your son to someone else I have to work". Either that or I get CPS involved and say his father abandoned him.
how can anyone be a jerk for asking their daughter to not share a room when she is crying because she doesn't want to be stressed out because of responsibility of helping a person with needs
Anybody notice the irony in the final story: The brother calling his date an emergency and saying this to a literal nurse??? Like You could not pick a worse profession to say this to as they know exactly what an emergency was. (I mean worse for you not going to get that shit past them about something being an emergency when it clearly isn't. not disrespecting nurses. Thank you for your services during this pandemic.)
the first story about the dogs. the reason why the Kevin (male karen) didn't get violent when the guy threatened through get him evicted was because he's a bully all bark, no bite 😂😂😂😂
The first story: why live somewhere in a apartment that has a dog park you know there will be dogs barking.
Right also they said "I'm very rich and this apartment needs my money" then buy a house common sense needs to be sold nowadays
@@ThatIrishGamer07 my wife and I lived in one of these places. It specifically had a noise clause in the lease about the fact that even though the apartments were sound treated the dog barking could still be heard (or something to that effect it’s been 10 years since we lived there). We had a neighbor threaten to shoot all the dogs (this was in Texas) before he knew what was going on4 people had their guns drawn and 2 went to get theirs. That guy was out in less than a week.
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Your so right
And he was even offered a spot AWAY from any dogs
We had a mentally unstable woman buy the house next door to us. We initially got along, but quickly realized that nobody in the house worked, and discovered that she lived off lawsuits and various settlements. She "worked" as a delivery driver for one of the big delivery companies, (think red and yellow). She would work a few days, do a slip and fall while delivering a package, sue the homeowner, and sue her company, go on disability, rinse and repeat. Her sister was also playing this scam. She also sued us for supposedly getting a spot of paint (the size of a quarter) on her house, which I offered to clean for her, even though it is questionable that the spot even came from me. She refused and said she was suing to have her entire house resided. She found out who was our insurer, and eventually got a $5000 check, she knew how to work the system. Anyway, then the complaints started about our dogs barking. Dogs bark, but ours barked less than even her dog. She would constantly call the police for this, and it was just our word against hers. So, when we were going on vacation, and we had dropped our dogs off with the people who were watching them for us while we would be gone, and it was just my wife and myself in the house, I played a recording of dogs barking. Sure enough the cops show up. I asked the cop if she was sure that it was our dogs who were barking. He stated that she was. I then informed him that my dogs were currently elsewhere, and he was welcome to search my house to see if any dogs were on the premises. He said that wouldn't be necessary. Instantly she lost her credibility with the police. Thankfully she eventually sold her house and peace returned to our neighborhood.
Buddy... He has a place where you can submit stories. Ain't no one reading this
@@avengersfans5343I read through it
@@flamingamer1659 well looks like someone doesn't have anything to do with their day
@avengersfans5343 It literally only takes like 2 minutes to read, plus you're wasting your own time by replying to a comment made a year ago.
@@flamingamer1659 and I guess you're wasting more time actuay reading and replying
Story 1: So totally not a jerk, the guy kept harassing the OP and other neighbors and threatening them like he was in the right. When the OP used actual legal method to fight back, the guy went silent realizing he had effed up royally. The OP doing his homework on legality of things was a very good idea.
Story 2: The daughter is 10, for her to have gone through that much for that long at such a young age is incredible. But she is 10 and can't endure all that constantly.
Nobody can, everybody has limits. Even adults trained for this need breaks. Much less a child.
Agreed
@@32202masterj coming from someone who's autistic. (Before it was called the Austsim spectrum an having Asperger's.) The 10 year old should have there own fun. The parent of the child is just being rude. Trying to use there child as some Vitim card just feels like my stomach downed a gallon of expired milk
@@asvaomega6920 My little bro (now 18) has asperger himself. He had to miss out on so many schooltrips including overnight stays because of the school being a bunch of ignorant jerks. It only got better when my mom once told the now vice-principal that he is trying to pull away the wheelchair by not supporting the woman who was with my bro to help him concentrate. During his last two years at this school he was better accepted by students and most of the teachers (some were still little jerks), maybe because he did not need his supporter anymore (probably thanks to covid and remote schooling).
However back to what i want to say. After hearing the full story i do not think the OP is the jerk at all. Izzy clearly said she needs a break from her friend. Even tho i do understand the mom of the autistic girl, you cannot expect a ten year old girl to help your daughter basically 24/7 on the trip. If your daughter cannot handle it alone it might be better for her to not go. Either that or you risk her having a full blown break-, shut- or meltdown.
I have a service dog, if that butthole neighbor threatened me like that, I’d have the ADA (Americans with disabilities act) ALL OVER his butt, like a flock of vultures on a dead zebra.
Okay but Izzy really, really deserves a break. I mean I feel bad for Maisy because I have anxiety and my sister has mild separation anxiety but if Izzy wants a break she really deserves a break
the voices that he makes for the neighbors are beautiful simply beautiful
Lol he sounds like Old Greg from WKUK
@@Aaron-ej9ql he sounds like Cleveland from family guy
@@jakethesnake2511yup
On the first story, the "very rich guy" should've been sued for harassment.
If he is so very rich, why the fuck is he living alone in an apartment surrounded by dogs?
@@radfatdaddy4169 EXACTLY! he should buy a damn house!
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nah, just tell John Wick he threatened to kill your dogs, he's kinda touchy about that sort of thing
It sucks for Maisy as she probably can't go on the trip because of it, but Izzy is not her keeper. She's a child and needs some time for herself as well.
For the last story, it's funny that a date night would be considered more of an emergency than a nurse doing their shift in a hospital or clinic.
Can we get a F for Izzy? idk how someone can handle that at such a young age
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Story 1: No, they are not the jerk. They were in compliance with local law and with the leasing agreement. The other tenant very clearly issued threats to the OP and their mother, in violation of the leasing agreement. Frankly, my pets are members of my family. If you threaten my dog or my cat? You are threatening my family, and I will do whatever is necessary to protect my family. Totally agree with the OP on this; They were quite frankly, FAR more pleasant about it than I would have been.
Story 2: No, OP Mom is not the jerk. Her daughter already very clearly said what she did and did not want. It is not the responsibility of other students in the class to make another student comfortable. That responsibility falls solely on the School, the Teacher, and the Student's parent. From the sound of things, Izzy was on the verge of an anxiety attack; Forcing the issue would do more damage to Izzy, than not giving Maisy what she wanted. 10 Years Old is WAY too young to be forced to deal with such emotionally and mentally stressful situations.
Yeah i wouldve treid to rip him lim from lim
If what you say about Story 2 is accurate, if Izzy doesn't take a break from helping Maisie now, it may hinder her capacity to help Maisie (and Luke) in the future.
Number 3: I’d switch the locks for sure.
Same
Amogus said your right 👍
He needs to, for the protection of the child. If nothing else. He was in the shower, what if he was called in early and wasn't there? The three year old would have been by themselves. That can easily happen with a nurse. Emergency is part of their field. Whether that is other nurses not being able to come in or a major accident. Neither of these is unheard of. I would say it probably happens to all nurses at least once. I don't say this as a nurse, but a paitent. Just one incident, I was in a hospital for 6 months.
Honestly for story 2, I relate to izzy's situation despite being the youngest; When I was in middle school, I would often help my admittedly somewhat mentally unstable friends and the special aid students. My friends would be trauma dumping, and I would be helping the children, since I'm "naturally good" at helping them. At that point in life, I had a great time. Loving albeit somewhat misunderstanding parents, a supporting older sister, so I was thankful for my life. I had extremely minor and not yet doctor diagnosed ptsd, so I felt that my past was really good compared to my friends'. Eventually, after almost a full school year of listening to my friends trauma, I was pretty depleted. Combined with my parents not wanting to take me to a mental diagnostic checkup, I was not feeling great. I was starting to see red flags in my friends trauma dumping and was constantly having to persuade them to not go back to their old drastic measures, and I decided to distance myself a bit; stop inviting them over to my house, start sitting with others during lunch and not hanging with them after school. I'd definitely say that it was the correct choice objectively, but I felt guilt like I was further pushing their situation. So I'd like to ask:
AITA for distancing myself to take time and possibly worsening my friends self esteem?
No. You are absolutely not the asshole, I've been in a very similar situation growing up and that guilt will eventually fade. In my opinion, if they at all thought of you as an actual friend and not a therapist, they would not have dumped all of their trauma on you to the point of depletion. I'm saying this from my own experience, and being way out of school now, I do remember my friends at the time having those issues as well, however, school should not include being a therapist for trauma. Break ups? Sure, falling outs with friends? Complaining about family? Homework? Teachers? Yeah, definitely. Not trauma dumping. As someone who had that happen and was dealing with a fuck ton of anger issues, clinical depression and anxiety as well as suicidal thoughts, I can guarantee that on your part, moving away from those friends, as shitty as it felt, was the right move. Regardless, I hope you find/have lovely friends that will treat you like proper friends.
Kind Regards,
Ella
No.
You were the therapist friend for a lot of time and everybody needs some time for themselfes
in an alternate universe where cleveland has a raspy voice and hates dogs.
I was thinking the same thing like is this Cleveland?????
He made him sound like a white version on Cleveland Brown.
I can relate to story 2, I was forced to take care of a kid in my class with epilepsy since I was in second grade because "we live close" we don't, just have the same path.
he once had a epilepsy attack and the teacher blame me for leaving him after school, I wanted to go home 😩.
the kid purposely starts his epilepsy attacks, I'm not responsible for him being an idiot . _.
Still, you're not responsible for a classmate. The school is responsible for the kid during school, the parents or other caretakers outside of school. A child is never the responsible party.
Number 2 OP should feel bad about noting. The grumpy old git was being a twat and had to pay the price. He just wanted to start problems as he has nothing better to do. OP should be proud of what they did and probably helped the rest of the apartment complex
you mean story one
Story #3: Change the damn locks, his brother wouldn't be leaving his nephew on HIS house if he didn't had the keys...
He still would, he would text “watch my kid I got a date” and leave the kid on the door
@@cototototorra7106That wouldn't work, that would still be child endangerment and he definitely wouldn't do that anymore after being charged.
@@creocrimson836 yeah but what i mean is that even if he didnt had the keys he would still find a way to dump his child on his brother to go make another, also he is already abandoning his child by leaving him on his brother's house without saying before
@@cototototorra7106 all the girl would have to do is call the police, they'll take him into custody and get child services involved and he'll be in crazy hot water.
Considering she already threatened him and he came to get him he'd have to be mentally disabled to think leaving his son outside the door would work.
Most likely he'd see the door is locked (changed locks) and leave.
First story : if the guys so rich why don’t he move to a next apartment
probably because his work place is closer
@@MarxGen2408 tbh, thats dumb. he could move even closer tho???
He's not rich
Ya why would you live there if your “Rich”
I feel bad for izzy. I grew up with adhd being diagnosedat 10. I had a friend throughout elementary school for awhile who had mental illness that impaired her speech and I was good friends with her. Now her mom was a good mom and understood what it meant for me to be a child. I'm also visually impaired too so I was also special needs for that as well being born with my condition. I don't remember what happened and why we couldn't hang out anymore but I hope she's well.
for the story about the special needs kid,when i first heard you say " am i the jerk for not wanting my child to be with a special needs kid" i was like"OF COURSE YOU ARE YOU ENTITLED PARENT just cause there different doesnt mean yu shouldnt let your son around them"but then when i heard the story i was like oh okay maybe thats fair ;so i say n not jerk
Yeah the title is a big jebait, rofl.
I’m 16 I have Four cousins who all had autism and they were just shy and they were picky but they liked playing with us and I love my cousins there are a few years younger than me so I take care of them when I saw the headline for the second story I felt the same way as you but I also knew it could be stressful but once I heard the story I knew there’s nothing wrong with what the girl wanted she’s not the jerk or the mom
the entlitled ones are the ones who think everyone else has to put up with their childrems bullshit because they are not able to properly handle having a neurodivergent child
Third story: a terrible father and if he told me to call I'll tell her the truth and change the locks and tell him if he ever pulls another stunt like that I'll call the cops
Not a jerk, this guy deserved to defend his home and family.
Def
So right
Sooo... Are we gonna ignore the fact that he sounded like Cleveland Brown over here? Lmao 1:23
If Maisie's mom is so certain that she can't handle the separation anxiety from sending her on that trip, then she shouldn't send her. I understand where she's coming from, but regardless of her intent or feelings, she's being a Karen here. She's asking another parent to sacrifice their child's happiness and mental well being for the sake of that of her own child. OP already has one child that their daughter helps with under these circumstances, so it's unfair to her to expected her to do it for someone else's child as well, ESPECIALLY when she's supposed to be at an event where she can let go of that stress and just have fun. It's comparable to those parents who constantly force their children to babysit their younger siblings at the expense of their own social lives. It's unfair to them, regardless of the circumstances.
This!
I'm autistic and ADHD with anxiety, and I have an older brother who has learning difficulties and (violent) mental health issues and took up most of our parents' attention. I became known at school as that girl that kids with issues could talk to, and I felt obliged to help. It was really heavy stuff, especially for a kid. I was basically acting like a therapist, and I had NONE of the training to do so. There were times where I had to ask my mother to "be the bad guy" and not allow me to hang out with certain classmates, because I was just too tired and stressed. I see this in Izzy. She's not just babysitting, she's being forced to be a CAREGIVER like a special needs aid.
Also, as an autistic person with anxiety, it's a good idea to push comfort areas, in safe ways. So a class trip is a good idea, especially if the right prep work is done BY THE CAREGIVERS (teachers, teacher aid's/special needs teachers, PARENTS, NOT a CLASSMATE).
No matter how helpful Izzy is, she's also a kid. And it's not her job to be a caregiver to a classmate. It's her job to be a kid, to learn and to have fun. And it sucks cause Maisie might not be able to handle the trip. So either she doesn't go and misses out, or else her caregivers be prepared in case Maisie might need to leave early.
The mother was being so manipulative it's shocking. Using the other mothers own son as an example is horrible.
beautifully said
as someone who has took care of people from a young age more than i should’ve, izzy needed a break and it’s not being a jerk ro take time for yourself. I’m currently trying to be less of the therapist friend and it’s going well so far. Don’t feel the need to help everyone that need help 24/7
I completely understand what Izzy is going through and I am actually going through it right now, I can say with certainty that my mental health has dropped ever since I became friends with said person (no hate to them they are going through a hard thing but they also has made it impossible for me to hang out with any of my friends and etc), I also had a severe panic attack bc of the situation, I think it will be best to listen to Izzy or Izzy will most likely have issues in the future with her own anxiety and dealing with her own emotions
As someone from part of the expectrum i completely understand both. Luckily my parents gave the best for me and I'm fully functional adult and follow the carrier I wanted and live happy with my now fiance
You stood up for your mom you stood up for your dog she stood up for your home that's wonderful I'm glad you and doggies and Mom are okay❤
I love it whenever ya dudes do the Cleveland or Marg voices for the Karens
Something happened to my friend similar to story 1 a long time ago so basically when she moved into wales (from Poland) with her family when she was only 5 her family kept getting notes from a stranger saying that her family has to leave bc they’re polish. They found out this guy writing the notes didn’t even live in that area he was just a plumber who came every month or smth. What an idiot
that voice for the neighbor got me laughing
I know and he said"I can do that because I’m SUPER RICH." So why not just go buy a house away from dogs.??
The last one 😂😂😂😂. You always need to be clean and honest if you have children. Never lie or hide that from someone you are getting to know.
the OP from the dog apartment story is actually a hero.
The Cleveland brown impression is hysterical
Number 1: You were not the Jerk.. you were the Hero
12:28. Not the jerk. The child needs a break. I have 2 autistic kids and in social groups a lot. I never got how some moms treat people.
Everyone, I made a discovery! Instead of calling males “male karens”, I’ll call them Karls.
What happened to Kevin
@@destinywright1816 Oh yeah. Kevin. Forgot about that. Edit: who invented Kevin, as in like the male version of a Karen?
😂
Karl is good, kyle can be a bitch
Nah, I know a pretty cool guy named Señor Karlos, Kevin is pretty evil though
In the first story you are Not the one that was wrong. What you did was justice not just for you but the other dog owners.
In the 2nd story I can understand how you wanted to protect your daughter. I myself raised my grandson who was autistic, from birth to around 12 yrs old. Just because someone is really good with special needs children it does not mean they don't need breaks. Its good that you are raising your children especially your oldest daughter to be inclusive and independent. You are not wrong. Prayers to all of you 🙏🙏🙏
in the first story when he was reading the note I laughed so hard because of the voice he made
Nah man that voice of the neighbor was so funny🤣🤣
Dog owner is not a jerk. I am glad the mean neighbor had to move. And I think it is genius what the dog owner did.
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You’ll never be bored again.
1: not a jerk
2: not a jerk
3: not a jerk
One is a jerk she probablemente made him homeless
Listening to the second storyt I understand how the girl is feeling, As someone who has Autism and ADHD, I know how hard and stressful it can be helping someone especially if they have Anxiety and need someone around and you're honestly right it's a little girls job to fit another person's needs it's the person's, the school/place of work and their families job to help them out and help with sensory issues, anxiety and that sort of stuff
That last story was crazy, how idiotic and irresponsible can you be leaving your son anywhere for a simple date. For someone like me being a nurse it kinda freaked me out the situation, getting out of shower and out of nowhere my nephew is inside my house. I could take him with me, but nurse shifts are not so calm as they seem, and my hospital doesnt have a daycare. Just thinking of this hypothetical scenario makes me anxious.
And for all those who think i'm overthinking the situation and i should be just calling the parent (you are RIGHT), but im not good at confrontating others especially if it's family.
i have only started watching this channel today and i LOVE IT
keep up the good work :D
I constantly thought that Cleveland Brown complained whenever you did that karen voice. It‘s pretty funny.
Keep doing your best!
I love how these male Karens sound like Cleveland Brown from the show.
Story #1: As a landlord I can certainly say any kind of karen is a nightmare to deal with. They have a tendency to scream at other tenants and constantly reference the property as, "My building" or "My apartments". They even try doing this to me. I encourage tenants to call the police and get a report number from the officer. When I get the report, I contact the proper authorities and get a copy of the report which is used in court against the karen. Without police reports, the judge will probably side the Karen since the complaints can't be too bad if no one has ever called the police. Too many times I get calls from tenants asking me to call the police for them b/c their personal beliefs will not allow them to call the police on another person. I have to explain that I'm not there, I didn't hear the noise or the threat, I can not call it in since I'm not directly involved. I do try to calm the situation and talk to the karen, but it's difficult when a man or woman in their 40's acts like a 5 year soiled brat. The OP did a good job in getting him removed as we always advise customers to read the lease. My other recommendation is to request a copy of the leasing agreement before you meet to sign if you get approved for an apartment and read it over. You may find something in it that makes you rethink your decision to move there. The best tenants we have are always the ones who requested and read the lease before they sign.
I like how the Male Karen sounds like Cleveland Brown.
the first story is literally an uno reverse card moment
Nope, the guy is plain rotten if not evil. I am glad the owner of dogs stood up to that creep.
i left my ex just a few weeks ago because he basically just disposed of his dog, after he was being generally abusive towards him.
Man really sounds like evil Cleveland Brown😂😂
I rarely react to stuff like this but the end to the story of the dog owning gigachad made me happy
How does this guy do a perfect cleveland impression without trying to do one?
That neighbor impression sounded like Cleveland Brown
Dude the one about that girl named Izzy and the special needs girl named Mazey just hit me hard personally- I was in a very similar situation where I had special needs siblings and had to help with them a lot, and as a result I'm very tolerant with kids. Mazey's mom in that story is so very entitled if she really thinks that another kid abandoning her own is a personal thing. It isn't Izzy's responsibility to watch someone else's kid.
I get that Mazey has issues, and I even understand the separation anxiety because I suffer from it myself, but honestly someone needs to find better accommodation for both parties.
The first story : As a dog owner, this OP is my new hero and I wish I could shake their hand.
I feel you izzy I practically had to deal with the same thing at a gold club I used to go to as a kid with my parents
2nd story makes me so said. It is a lose lose sinario. Izzy rooms with Maisy and is stressed the whole trip, as she has to ack like a adult, or Izzy does not room with maisy and feels bad about it and maisy freaks out, which is not Izzy’s problem, but could cause guilt
6:58 I would say in a passive aggressive tone “to-da-loo”
I like how the angry dude’s impression sounds like cleveland from family guy
The voice he does for the neighbor kinda sounds like Cleveland from family guy
The evil voices kill me 😂
Edit: sounds like old Greg
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I have to say, that is a spot-on Cleveland Brown impression.
I agree with not having your daughter Izzy share a room with a special needs kid unless your daughter says it's okay. The mom is not a jerk the jerk is the mother who expects someone else to take care of her child.
That male Karen sounds like an evil Cleveland Brown. 🤣🤣
I’ve never seen a male Karen this is very rare footage
There is a hell of a lot to unpack in the first 10 seconds of this video. 😂😂
No, the OP is the hero of the all the dog owner in that apartment.
So angry Cleavland is mad at a dog even though he can move away from it
Hmmmm why is this calming
Honestly story 2 is quite a big question, but respecting a girl's choice on her adgency and wanting to live as a child and not as an adult is extremely important. I think it's a problem the school and the parents need to solve, and the girl must absolutely get out of a system on which adults rely on her to take care of some her age ! It's very good that she is fond of taking care of children with the same problem as her sibling, but to gazlight her into taking the role against her will ? Absolutely destrictive for her, she'll learn that she has to live through the guilt of letting people in need down vs the fact that she needs to take care of her and what she feels first. If people push her in this direction, which the school and Izzy's mother inconciously do, she'll break down from the responsabilities sooner or later. Kids should be responsabilized, but not at the expense of sacrificing their freedom and young years because they feel they need to please. Let them be dirty, angry and make mistakes before they decide to be role model kids for the adults, show them the way but also let them explore what they truly want to do.
First story I think the dude shut up and acted peaceful cuz he realised he f’ed up and couldn’t possibly win which is suprisingly calm for a Karen
if that tenant had threatened MY dog, HE would have been the one in a cardboard box.
The moment people threaten my pets, I'm getting me mallet
the first story: I would try and find any thing I can sue them for
Story with Maisie. The mother should know better than to try to manipulate others by using her daughter. It's a shitty tactic, and she should feel ashamed for trying to do that. Izzy deserves time to herself. That other mother is terrible. 😮💨
THAT LAUGH AT THE END OF THE NOTE😂
the angry neighbor sounds like a pissed off cleveland
Props for this guy to put so many time stamps
Who else didn’t noticed that the male karen almost sound like Cleveland from family guy
Story 1: The monster got what he deserved. Honestly, I wouldn't mind some legal consequences for false reporting on top, but eviction will have to do.
Story 2: I get why Maisie's mother is advocating for her own daughter. I do think we need to be kind and help each other out from time to time, but Izzy has a right to say no when it becomes to much.
Story 3: Babysitting the nephew is a good thing to do. But a date is not an emergency. The brothers poor planing is not OPs responsibility. I don't know what the dad in the story is smoking but he needs to stop because it is making him crazy. Time to take back that key!
For the first story, someone should have told him to get earplugs if he is that rich. It would cover up any “barking” he may be hearing.
lol his impression of the dog hater sounds like Southern Squidward😂
First story: That guy would be in the hospital because I would never tolerate that behavior.
I did not know Cleveland hated dogs😅
In the first story the male karen could have just asked nicely "Hey, can you and your dogs be a bit quieter please? It's kind of a bother."
"Sure thing!"
"Thank you." **leaves**
It's not easy and it probably won't be in time for the trip, but maybe the school can teach some more of the kids in the class in helping out Mazie. Lizzie isn't going to be there forever.
My brother drops the kid off at my place, I ask where he is. He tells me I take the kid there and in front of the date say "I'm your brother, not your baby sitter- take your son to someone else I have to work". Either that or I get CPS involved and say his father abandoned him.
That neighbor sounds like an evil Cleveland.
The first story: The neighbor is straight up sadistic
how can anyone be a jerk for asking their daughter to not share a room when she is crying because she doesn't want to be stressed out because of responsibility of helping a person with needs
Time to hear this while im trying to sleep
🤣 same
Yep also hi aitj and Gustav
the neighbor sounds like cleveland brown
Smart & loving son, No Jerk !
Came from tik tok, now ik binging your vids
Anybody notice the irony in the final story: The brother calling his date an emergency and saying this to a literal nurse??? Like You could not pick a worse profession to say this to as they know exactly what an emergency was. (I mean worse for you not going to get that shit past them about something being an emergency when it clearly isn't. not disrespecting nurses. Thank you for your services during this pandemic.)
the first story about the dogs. the reason why the Kevin (male karen) didn't get violent when the guy threatened through get him evicted was because he's a bully all bark, no bite 😂😂😂😂
The first OP should become a lawyer!