How To Deal With Anxiety At Work

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  • Опубликовано: 28 июн 2024
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    Noah Elkrief
    This video is about how to deal with anxiety at work, and how to handle anxiety at work. If you have been dealing with anxiety at work, it most likely seems as though the anxiety is created by your job, your co-workers, or your boss. But, in any moment that you don't think about any of these, you will experience no anxiety at work. If your anxiety at work was caused by the facts of your situation, then you would feel anxiety in every moment at work.
    If you want to know how to deal with anxiety at work, or get anxiety relief, you first have to recognize that your anxiety is created by your thoughts and not by the facts. The next step for how to deal with anxiety at work is to recognize that your actions at work are not who you are.
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  • @ADHDaf1
    @ADHDaf1 4 года назад +412

    I always get dressed an hour before work and just think about all the things that could go wrong. I hate asking for help and feel scared constantly.

    • @Alfreditop
      @Alfreditop 3 года назад +6

      Hey man are you better now?

    • @ADHDaf1
      @ADHDaf1 3 года назад +30

      @@Alfreditop I'm in a job I really love and the people around me are incredibly supportive.

    • @phoebeashley3348
      @phoebeashley3348 3 года назад +20

      omg this is what I’m feeling now. it’s my first ever job and I feel sick all week knowing I have to go, any tips I’m really strugging

    • @Alfreditop
      @Alfreditop 3 года назад +9

      @@phoebeashley3348 I don't know is this going to help you but it is important to talk to someone you love about how you are feeling, you dont have to keep this to yourself and understand that it is ok to feel this way, we are human and there are many people that are or were in your situation. Don't let this affect your health. What I have noticed is that I keep worrying about everything, not feeling prepared or that I am not good enough and I'll be fired and I need to make a living etc etc etc.... but I am not doing somthing about it, meaning that I need to create a plan for when I am working so at the end of the day I know I have accomplished something also recognize that you are new and you'll need help for some time and it is ok. Eventually with time you'll gain confidence for now try to find a mentor in your workplace or outside. And my final recommendation, is that if you feel that you are underprepared you should put some extra hours studying or practicing whatever it is that you do. Also recognize your situation and be grateful of what you have, not many people right now have jobs, you should do everything on your power to be better everyday because you are able to do it.

    • @user-xx4oh3ot2g
      @user-xx4oh3ot2g 3 года назад

      That's so meeeeeee

  • @figgie-pudding
    @figgie-pudding 8 лет назад +818

    i am so nervous before work that I don't want to work anymore it makes me so nervous

    • @JonnyQ408
      @JonnyQ408 8 лет назад +42

      Have you ever had an anxiety or panic attack at work? My second attack happened at work, my first one was at the mall it came out of no where, both times I was dizzy, lightheaded, blurry vision, I just felt uneasy, scared etc. So once I parked my car at work, I start to get anxious, I'm fine driving but I start to think about my first attack at work, so I get them at work because I kept thinking, I lost my job because I couldn't handle going to work anymore it sucks. I only wish I didn't left the mall when I had my first attack, and left work with my second attack, maybe if I didn't my brain wouldn't make me scare of leaving my house.

    • @mstango2850
      @mstango2850 7 лет назад +13

      Kennedy C I feel like that. I ran away from a situation and moved locations. Thing is lost my confidence and my integrity as I didn't act in a professional manner. Need to let it go, don't feel happy and comfortable anymore.

    • @christiantribo8858
      @christiantribo8858 6 лет назад +41

      I feel you dude, I shake so much when I'm on my way to work

    • @luckyrubi6128
      @luckyrubi6128 6 лет назад +88

      I called in sick 3 times already and im only 2 months into my new job... im mentally so drained and physically sick cause i dont like going there and i dont feel that i belong there either. I honestly thought that im alone in this battle but its comforting to see that there are people going through the same situations like myslef...

    • @ZiomekPatrykC
      @ZiomekPatrykC 6 лет назад +19

      Yeah, I know what you mean. I was surpsrised that I even made it to work today. The worst thing is that I have no control over my thoughts and behaviour when I'm stressed, which is basically all the time, so people at work must think I'm some freak

  • @carlabarbosa2122
    @carlabarbosa2122 8 лет назад +547

    omg I had no idea so many people felt work anxiety like I do. makes me feel so much better!

  • @Cakefacexochi
    @Cakefacexochi 6 лет назад +844

    I have a fear that I’ll never find a job that I’ll know how to do. I’m so scared of making mistakes and think everyone judges me. I’m so hard on myself bc when I start a new job I think I have to know everything. I get scared I’ll never get the hang of a job. I hate having anxiety 😕

    • @marinussnyman273
      @marinussnyman273 5 лет назад +23

      Cakefacexochi Im feeling you, same for me

    • @XxGiffy23xX
      @XxGiffy23xX 5 лет назад +24

      We are literally the same person 😔

    • @twinklenayak8917
      @twinklenayak8917 4 года назад +38

      I feel like you just described me.. I thought i was the only one.

    • @deathbymyside
      @deathbymyside 4 года назад +2

      @@helenarichard That's actually quite wise.. How long do you stay at a company before making the move though ?

    • @maxpayne206
      @maxpayne206 4 года назад +11

      Same here I have social anxiety it’s hard for me to work with people I don’t know so I drink before I start work

  • @landerv9551
    @landerv9551 3 года назад +161

    It's so hard. Everyday waking up everyday knowing I'll be going through this feeling again. Preparing for work is just as bad as work itself.

    • @adventureswithhorses5045
      @adventureswithhorses5045 2 года назад +3

      I feel the same way because I get anxiety attacks every day at work the last one lasted 40 minutes and it sucked

    • @lrockbr
      @lrockbr 2 года назад

      I can relate! You must be a teacher like me.

    • @landerv9551
      @landerv9551 2 года назад +2

      @@lrockbr I'm actually a nurse. I'm doing a lot better now!

    • @lrockbr
      @lrockbr 2 года назад +1

      @@landerv9551 Yea--teachers and nurses--we suffer the most. I'm doing better too :)

  • @GeoffreyHammy16
    @GeoffreyHammy16 7 лет назад +378

    It's so relieving to look through the comments and see that others feel the exact same way I do about my job. I have an anxiety attack practically every day before I go to work, but this made me realise that it's because I'm imagining future problems and also associating how good I am at my job with my personal value - when my job has nothing to do with my personal value or who I am in any way. Hopefully this will help me feel better in the future

    • @nuttmare9438
      @nuttmare9438 6 лет назад +8

      Beth Anthony I relate to what you've said here and so many of the other comments. I wish you well and hope you can begin to feel comfortable in your working environment. My issue is confidence and always has been. I've been used to for soo long of people telling me they have to let me go and each time I have to bounce back and start over somewhere else. I wouldn't wish this on anyone

    • @anneneville6255
      @anneneville6255 4 года назад +4

      Beth Anthony right? Me too. It’s jut sad that u can’t find people like me irl. At my work everyone seems to me so confident and that I am the only one with anxiety.

    • @Rebecca-gu2sg
      @Rebecca-gu2sg 3 года назад

      I can so relate to this, you’re not alone and you’re doing your best ❤️ all the best to you and everyone else here

    • @darlingxluxii7977
      @darlingxluxii7977 2 года назад

      I feel same way Beth, I do feel I get worried of making mistakes or something I forget of a task I made a mistake while working. 💖💖

  • @JEFFMAN90
    @JEFFMAN90 8 лет назад +304

    I get anxiety at work because I fear failure. I'm scared that I'm gonna fuck up and its affecting my work performance.

    • @OrthodoxChristianBeliever
      @OrthodoxChristianBeliever 8 лет назад

      +JEFFMAN90, who tells u u're a failure?

    • @JEFFMAN90
      @JEFFMAN90 8 лет назад +27

      LTCWM1
      Nobody but I'm scared of making mistakes and scared about what people will think of me

    • @OrthodoxChristianBeliever
      @OrthodoxChristianBeliever 8 лет назад +25

      JEFFMAN90, well, u know u're human, right? What would u say if I tell u I've made mistakes? What would u say if I told u countless numbers of human being here on youtube have also made mistakes? I know exactly what u're talking about, because I've been right where u r, I used to be afraid of making mistakes too, and I was down on myself a lot as well. That's the truth, and I'm sure u're a decent dude, I think u need a good look at u'reself, like honestly, take a good look at all u're achievements. In addition, look at how many people through out history have made mistakes. There r numerous, famous people who've made mistakes in their life time who've overcome them. Besides, u're not perfect, I'm not perfect, u c somebody on youtube, they're not perfect, we're not perfect, we make mistakes, and u're not defined by u're mistakes. U're not junk, u're a human being w values, beliefs, interests, a personality, so take a look at those things for a moment.

    • @JEFFMAN90
      @JEFFMAN90 8 лет назад +11

      Thanks for the advice bro I appreciate it. I mostly fear failure due to me having ADHD and a learning disability so I'm always cautious when I do anything so I won't screw up.

    • @OrthodoxChristianBeliever
      @OrthodoxChristianBeliever 8 лет назад +3

      u're welcome, well, what would u say if I told u I struggled through high school? I'm in college, and I found what my learning style is. I detect u're a hands on learner, r u? What do u do for work?

  • @Yakita60
    @Yakita60 8 лет назад +350

    Thanks for this. I started a new job recently, and so every morning before I head to work I get severe anxiety.
    "What if I fail a task today and they decide to fire me on the spot? What do my co-workers, supervisor, and boss *really* think of me? I don't really relate to any of my co-workers. Maybe I don't belong at this job..."
    I agree with the point about me confusing my tasks with my personal value. Learning that a mistake made in the workplace does *NOT* mean I am just a failure overall.

    • @maxpayne206
      @maxpayne206 8 лет назад

      Ever think of taking an ssri?

    • @ernestalab6592
      @ernestalab6592 6 лет назад +13

      Yakita60 bless you ..I do understand you so well ..as I m exactly in the same situation
      :( 3weeks at new place and still terrified every morning, when is it going to end... i do make mistakes time to time as my anxiety kicks in I stop thinking logically, and boom failure. I hope we will get through this! We can do it girl! I am with you ! X

    • @7Mushrooms7
      @7Mushrooms7 6 лет назад +16

      I've been so anxious also at my new job... I've been making some stupid mistakes and I'm always very nervous of messing up. I also don't feel comfortable enough with my team yet.

    • @noraysakasan6134
      @noraysakasan6134 6 лет назад +1

      Im not alone either., thank u guys

    • @aliaasalem3095
      @aliaasalem3095 6 лет назад +2

      Same, plus I noticed that there are a toxic coworkers I must deal with them everyday 😞😯

  • @jessicastrangelove4920
    @jessicastrangelove4920 6 лет назад +148

    I don't know what I would do without these videos. I'm here trying not to cry, getting ready for work listening to your words...I hope to get better.

    • @emilycunningham2556
      @emilycunningham2556 5 лет назад +2

      Did it help?

    • @KaykaysUniverse931
      @KaykaysUniverse931 5 лет назад +7

      You are definitely not alone we will get through it we always do

    • @parmindersinghmaan6311
      @parmindersinghmaan6311 3 года назад +7

      I am going through the same thing right now i cry lying on the bed thinking like a loser🥺

    • @warrior0078
      @warrior0078 3 года назад +3

      @@parmindersinghmaan6311 me too you are not alone

    • @timcoleman3421
      @timcoleman3421 3 года назад +5

      @@parmindersinghmaan6311 You are not alone. I feel like such a baby. I cry all of the time thinking about my new job. I told my wife I didn’t want to wake up from sleep last week. It’s slowly getting better as I learn each day. Hang in there.

  • @seanmartin6773
    @seanmartin6773 4 года назад +53

    I can't speak for everyone but I am learning after a while to not be perfect and just do my job.
    Perfectionism should not be a goal. Perfectionism is a sickness.The goal should be growth. Allow yourself to make
    Mistakes and stop making everything into a crisis. Also don't be afraid to speak up if you believe something
    Is wrong or you need help.

    • @MrIdiot1and2
      @MrIdiot1and2 9 месяцев назад

      Thank you for this comment, genuinely made me feel relaxed. Why do I strive for perfection at a place paying me bare minimum and where I'm not even happy?

  • @nefariousbum9982
    @nefariousbum9982 5 лет назад +99

    It’s so comforting to see that other relate. I recently got my first real job. I have an anxiety attack every time when I go. It’s all I think about before it, during it, after it. It feels like it takes over my life. My anxiety over it makes me nauseous and feel like I’m going to die sometimes, that’s how bad it is. I’ll sit and cry all day before I even have to be to work. It’s horrible. I can’t get a break and I feel like it’s taking over my life. All that I hope for right now is that in the months to come, I will get more comfortable in my job and with the people I work with.
    I have to go to work in about an hour and a half. I am terrified. I had a full on panic attack over it a few hours ago. Now I’m just trying to find comfort to get over it. I’m terrified because I never know what to expect in shift to come. I don’t understand how things work. I don’t know how to figure out what the tasks are for the day. I don’t know where to go half the time. I feel so uneducated and confused and I’m terrified to mess up. I already have at the job multiple times and it made me feel horrible. I dread going. Dread is an understatement. And I can quit but then I would just have to find another job and it would be the same thing. I feel trapped. I’m terrified and I just hope that I don’t feel this way in the next few months

    • @LetsdoDes
      @LetsdoDes 5 лет назад +22

      Omg I feel the exact same way that I knew I had to comment on this. I'm only about a month into my new job and I've found myself in the same exact situation. I tend to overthink then my mind gets flooded to the extent that I feel nauseous and light headed. It feels like I can't escape from it that only recently I woke up in the middle of the night only to realize that my mind still had been overthinking about work even when I'm asleep. Not only do I feel restless but it messes with my emotions so much that I find myself crying alone in the bathroom a lot lately.

    • @brendachvrr
      @brendachvrr 4 года назад +2

      I hope you got through this...I started my new job yesterday and I got physically sick and it caused me to miss work today...I dread going back to work...it's so hectic...I can relate to you so much.

    • @timcoleman3421
      @timcoleman3421 3 года назад +1

      @@LetsdoDes Same here. I hope it eventually gets better. I get so worked up and then make mistakes. I beat myself up all of the time.

    • @khogan7661
      @khogan7661 3 года назад +2

      did it ever get better?? i’m going through the same exact thing. it was my third day together and i had a full on panic attack in front of all my coworkers and customers i was so embarrassed and i felt like i couldnt breathe and i couldn’t stop crying for a good 30 minutes. i rlly don’t wanna go back i’m just hoping it’ll get better or i’ll get the hang of it because i’m not even sure what caused the panic attack.

    • @nefariousbum9982
      @nefariousbum9982 3 года назад +7

      @@khogan7661 it does get better. And that’s a promise. I still struggle heavily with anxiety and life in general. I still get very anxious at work sometimes but it is nothing nearly as bad as it once was. Like I said in the post, it felt like it consumed me. The absolute dread and anxiety in the back of my head about either being at work or having to go back. I did end of quitting the job that I mention in this post. It’s was heavily damaging to me. But I applied at a different job and it ended up being much better. A smaller environment where you know everyone and it’s okay to ask questions. I have now been at said job for almost 2 years. And what’s crazier is I am actually working 2 jobs right now. I got another job last year. Both of course were very scary starting at but after a while it becomes routine and before you know it, you are the one helping or comforting other coworkers that struggle just as much as you did at one point. Just keep going. And it’s okay to make changes and go somewhere new. As long as you’re doing your best in any situation I’m at work, that’s all you can do. But just don’t give up. :)

  • @emma-8492
    @emma-8492 5 лет назад +117

    I’m in a high stress environment that constantly monitored and high pressure and I’ve been having panic attacks in the bathroom before my shifts 😭😭

    • @anamay29
      @anamay29 4 года назад +6

      How are you? I hope youre better now

    • @starlight9823
      @starlight9823 3 года назад +2

      My heart goes out to you because I know what it feels. My anxiety and panic attacks began due to work stress and pressure. Did you find another job?

    • @LifeGrowers
      @LifeGrowers 2 года назад

      True

    • @adventureswithhorses5045
      @adventureswithhorses5045 2 года назад +1

      I am in the same position my work place is soo fast paced that I can’t keep up with my slow processing speed which is stressing me out even more which then causes the anxiety attacks

    • @tenor335
      @tenor335 2 года назад

      I feel the same way. So much goes on and I have trouble remembering and keeping up. I went through an entire divorce and only missed one day because I didn’t feel like I could

  • @michelledavis9700
    @michelledavis9700 6 лет назад +224

    I have social anxiety at work I always worry what others think of me. why does it matter at my job? I want to enjoy work not worry about others judging me.

    • @SophiesWorld2024
      @SophiesWorld2024 4 года назад +29

      Maybe you had a judgemental parent growing up or judgemental school "mates". It's highly likely this came from somewhere before work.

    • @anneneville6255
      @anneneville6255 4 года назад +11

      I even have social anxiety NOW even tho I work from home :(( this cycle is never getting over ;(

    • @random-accessmemory9201
      @random-accessmemory9201 3 года назад +6

      Maureen Almudena Work from home made my anxiety worst. 😞☹️

    • @wanhakim3953
      @wanhakim3953 3 года назад

      Omg same dude

    • @lizmorin6390
      @lizmorin6390 3 года назад

      I have the same problem

  • @SherrieB7979
    @SherrieB7979 8 лет назад +171

    I am in that boat I have extreme anxiety at work. It just seems to get worse every day. It feels endless.

    • @michael367
      @michael367 8 лет назад +3

      If other people can feel calm, relaxed, present at the same location as you, then why are you not? It's very simple, you're thinking and they're not. Thats why NkAhs process is helful, because you might end up discovering that what you thought was true is bullshit

    • @VarietyMusicLover
      @VarietyMusicLover 7 лет назад +5

      My anxiety got so bad at work one day that I told my boss I'm done I just can't take it anymore now I am struggling to find a job and afraid I won't be able to keep it

    • @VarietyMusicLover
      @VarietyMusicLover 7 лет назад +6

      no because they took advantage of me by putting most of the work load on me sorry for not answering recently i have to schedule a day to see a therapist to deal with my social anxiety

    • @thedream8466
      @thedream8466 7 лет назад +1

      I feel the same way and I can never put my finger on what it is . Hope it eases for you

    • @rashd4742
      @rashd4742 7 лет назад +1

      Pink Skies

  • @lgdurocher
    @lgdurocher 5 лет назад +103

    I feel like a failure every day at work. The stress of my job on top of being so new just kills me. I want to quit but I also will feel embarrassed if I give up after just 1.5 months.

    • @anamay29
      @anamay29 4 года назад

      I feel you

    • @yadd13
      @yadd13 4 года назад +10

      Operator 104 I am exactly in the same position as you “were” I hoped. Don’t know what to do. I am afraid I am not good enough at my job and I am not valued and ppl think I am a failure

    • @lgdurocher
      @lgdurocher 4 года назад +9

      GAURAV SANKAR well I will tell you that I managed to steel myself & push through that first 6 months. Now, I honestly love my job. Have for awhile. I may still end up leaving for reasons at the national level, but as far as me personally, I love what I do & im super grateful that I stuck with it. Idk what your job is but, if it’s something you’ve spent all your passion & energy workin towards, something that you feel in your heart you want to do, then you should stick with it. Give it 6 months-1 year.

    • @Alfreditop
      @Alfreditop 3 года назад +7

      @@lgdurocher thank you for answering. I am glad things got better for you and I hope I'll feel like you in six months. Right now.... It is just hard... I feel like a failure and that everyone notices, I cannot sleep right, don't feel like eating etc etc.

    • @timcoleman3421
      @timcoleman3421 3 года назад +5

      I started a new job a couple of months ago and frequently feel like a failure. I sometimes cry on the way home thinking of the mistakes I’ve made. It’s slowly getting better. It’s a good paying job but it’s a lot to learn. It’s loud and we have to wear masks because of COVID so it’s difficult to communicate. I often can’t understand what my coworkers are trying to tell me and get frustrated. I’d hate to lose this job.

  • @zoeng3757
    @zoeng3757 8 лет назад +72

    I had a major anxiety attack at my internship last Friday and now it's Sunday I'm having it again because my boss now knows my anxiety attack and I embarrassed and cried infront of him till my dad came to speak to him. I need to stop caring what they think of me. Let them think of me as incompetent all they want, my value is peace and happiness.

    • @happinesssomewhere18
      @happinesssomewhere18 8 лет назад +3

      I am so sorry this was posted in 2015. I can't help but notice the word axiety and internship. I am doing internship as well and I broke down out of no where because I made a mistake. I was turning red, couldn't breathe, and had tears coming down. I had to go to another room before the tears came down more. how did it turn out for u? and I fear messing up and peopled thoughts about it ...I need help

    • @zoeng3757
      @zoeng3757 8 лет назад

      no worries!

    • @zoeng3757
      @zoeng3757 8 лет назад +2

      marwa elashrfi
      hi marwa! You will make it through. For me, the place itself was toxic. The people there made my anxiety worse. One thing i got from my internship was that honestly, no one cares. Everyone will be busy with their jobs and have all been an intern once. It is their loss if they are treating you bad or make you feel terrible. This internship will make you see if this is the kind of place you want to work in, and find your values. it also gave me hindsight on my future career prospects! whatever may seem troubling to you there will pass and you will come out stronger! Remember to ask questions and keep asking when in doubt, there is no reason for you to feel guilty about it. Once theres clarity, it will ease ur anxiety. Dont worry about messing up, everyone messed up before during internship, its a learning process.

    • @happinesssomewhere18
      @happinesssomewhere18 8 лет назад +1

      +Zoe Ng thank u for kindly responding , you are so right. everyone at the internship were once an intern as i. so how did u find peace and finally not care what they think of u ? did u ever see a therapist ? thanks

    • @happinesssomewhere18
      @happinesssomewhere18 8 лет назад

      +Zoe Ng and I agree it def. is a learning process which they hve to understand that as well because no one is perfect

  • @Kazious
    @Kazious 3 года назад +28

    I get so nervous at work.. I lack confidence because of it and I’m always second guessing myself and over complicating things 😔 I also get really timid with coworkers and customers

    • @mizumi8462
      @mizumi8462 3 года назад

      Me too it’s the same it’s so tiring...

    • @themadcapkolla
      @themadcapkolla 3 года назад

      Literally me

    • @Mrschillijones
      @Mrschillijones 2 года назад

      Yep, that’s me to a t. And yes it is completely exhausting, every single day

  • @dillonmennie8694
    @dillonmennie8694 8 лет назад +29

    you just saved my life noah.

  • @ciarafield2392
    @ciarafield2392 3 года назад +13

    I thought I was alone with how I was feeling.... I honestly thought I was crazy!

  • @marcvandesandt4959
    @marcvandesandt4959 6 лет назад +31

    This guy is so underrated

  • @DaemonK1895
    @DaemonK1895 5 лет назад +11

    I recently started a new job hand washing cars and all I do is dread going. I'm scared of what others think of me, I'm scared of not performing well, and I'm scared of failing. I want to show my girlfriend and family I have value and I belong somewhere. I'm terrified if I fail my girlfriend will leave me and find someone else who can provide a better way of life for her. I have been miserable ever since I started working this job. I can't take any criticism without crying and trying to hide it from my co-workers. I cry myself to sleep some nights thinking about how I will eventually have to suck it up and deal with going into work everyday until the day I die.. I want everyone to know that you aren't alone and I wish there were more people who understood this feeling in our workplaces. I hope everyone finds peace and happiness one day.

  • @evancassidy2049
    @evancassidy2049 4 года назад +17

    This was one of the best RUclips videos I’ve seen on anxiety, thank you for this!

  • @haleynichole9279
    @haleynichole9279 6 лет назад +69

    I get anxiety before work everyday. I have had this job for 3 weeks. I am so scared of messing up. I am so scared of letting people down. I have already gotten a raise at this job so I know I must be doing something right. The people I work with are friendly but I find myself isolating myself. My job is so easy... why can't I just get myself to go? I missed 3 days in a row because my anxiety was making me physically ill. :(

    • @christiantribo8858
      @christiantribo8858 6 лет назад +10

      Haley Bowser bro same, my coworkers are nicr, my job is simple-ish. I ask too much questions to my coworkers that it makes me think that I can never memorize my job.

    • @marinussnyman273
      @marinussnyman273 5 лет назад +1

      Haley Nichole, I struggle also. Its like living a lie every day, not being tru to myself and coming home exhausted at the end of the day

    • @sagittariuslady2846
      @sagittariuslady2846 5 лет назад +1

      Marinus Snyman I feel the same 😞

    • @cogtroper
      @cogtroper 5 лет назад

      You got a raise in 3 weeks?

    • @SharlenesJourney
      @SharlenesJourney 3 года назад

      Same here!!! Ugh it’s the worst how’s it going now though ?

  • @celticarchie
    @celticarchie 8 лет назад +16

    Actually, peace and happiness was my first thought, because when I'm peaceful I can use my imagination to create and when I create I feel successful.

  • @Stompnado
    @Stompnado 4 года назад +39

    i dream of finding a job that doesn't stress me and going to work stress free, that would be incredible

  • @jasminejp5899
    @jasminejp5899 7 лет назад +43

    wow, he's dope!! friends and family always tell me I'm basing my worth on my work performance. if I have a good day I feel like I have a purpose. When I have a bad day I always feel I'm worthless😔😔. Thanks for teaching me how wrong and foolish these thoughts are😄😄

    • @helenarichard
      @helenarichard 4 года назад

      Try to use your natural skills more, maybe you're a good listener or writer. Maybe you're really kind and fun. Life became so much better for me when I started to chitchat more with co-workers, and when I started having small talk more with clients on the phone. In fact it improved my perfomances because I listened better and everyone around me was happier

  • @Daniel-qj3tp
    @Daniel-qj3tp 7 лет назад +50

    Don't worry guys and girls! everyone has some form of anxiety, I just go with it, learn to fell it, accept it, just go with it, don't fight it, it will pass in time. There will be good and bad times in your life daily..

    • @carolwhelihan1514
      @carolwhelihan1514 5 лет назад +3

      so much of my work anxiety is that my bosses can be so humiliating...i go right to feeling inadequate, not good enough, and a failure....it is my lack of self worth due to years in an abusive marriage. Now at work i have 2 bosses similar to my ex-husband, and it brings up so much triggering...i walk in in the morning already anxious. also i so need this salary...single mom and i need to support people! That thought just adds to it.

    • @sangredemusica
      @sangredemusica 3 года назад

      @@carolwhelihan1514 awe honey, are you okay now? Please tell me you talked to HR.

  • @joz228
    @joz228 2 года назад +1

    Stumbled across this after a hard week at work… been at this job for just over a year now and every time I make a mistake, receive a complaint, or even a harshly worded email from a customer, I immediately think I am a failure, I’m not worthy, my confidence drops and I think I should quit because this job is not for me… Last week was particularly hard, burnt out, difficult customers and a busy manager that leaves my message cold and make me feel like I don’t have support. My mental health hit a dip. Never thought I needed to watch this video to see that I’ve been tying how I perform at work to my self worth. I am still me even when mistakes are made and when people complain. They don’t define who I am.

  • @harrietcraig7817
    @harrietcraig7817 3 года назад +5

    I have a tremendous sense of personal value and self-love.
    I still get terrified to go to work, terrified to open the mail, email or answer the phone.
    I don’t think my anxiety IS who I am, but it’s always there terrorizing me.

  • @ramlehamdam7241
    @ramlehamdam7241 3 года назад +10

    I'm scared of going to work everyday.. I'm scared of people and when I get nervous, I become really clumsy and I can't control my movement. I become really clumsy and jumpy

  • @MrSonnyProductions
    @MrSonnyProductions 3 года назад +10

    My morning panick attacks before work has now started to affect me even when I have days off. I keep breathing and when I get to work everything is usually okay. I stopped drinking caffeine and started drinking decaffeinated coffee and that seems to help whilst I'm there.

  • @rissagotvideos09
    @rissagotvideos09 7 лет назад +8

    Being 19 and working at my first retail job these past couple days. I truly felt as if I should be working to have value and to be good at work and to be a good employee as well as being a good employee when it comes for customers. But now that I watch these. I now have different perspective of retail. When it comes to retail, and wanting to succeed, I want to be happy. Not succeed, I want happiness and peace as well as performing on what I can do. Putting my skills at work. Well being a person who has anxiety in social situations that create an illusion that I have to be perfect and successful to be a good employee under heavy social circumstances. I now I feel like as long as I am being me, as long as I'm doing what I'm good at. Being detail oriented, and handling customers with my knowledge I know, and speaking to them in the way that I know I can speak with them. Then I'm doing the task in my efficient way. Not what of others think what my efficiency should be.

  • @fahadhum
    @fahadhum 8 лет назад +26

    Very moving ...
    Can you make a video about , getting fired in jobs due to nervousness / anxieties...

  • @flatswing
    @flatswing 9 лет назад +51

    If Oprah calls, don't answer. We need your weekly insights right here:)

  • @stiliqnkn
    @stiliqnkn 7 лет назад +23

    Thank you very much! I used to go on interviews and just get panic attacks over and over again, after I watched your videos I went to two of them and was completely calm. Guess what happened. I got a job now and can't stop talking... and I thought that I am an introvert. thank you again !

  • @gianninasubaran8207
    @gianninasubaran8207 3 года назад +3

    Associating our personal value with how well we perform in our job causes anxiety. Because when you make a mistake or sense you are judged by others based on your knowledge or skills it affects your personal worth. Currently learning how to separate these two.

  • @guidoylosfreaks
    @guidoylosfreaks 4 года назад +2

    If I fail at another job I just don't know what I am going to do next. It isn't exactly like there are plenty of jobs in my country and in this pandemic circumstances. I'm anxious about losing my job all the time. Even in my day off I can only think I have to go to work next day. I can't stop recalling every single mistake I make at work and how it's getting me closer to being fired. I'm almost 30 and I feel like I already failed at life.

  • @arc6144
    @arc6144 4 года назад +1

    Seriously opened my eyes to the way I think of myself and the "hobbies" and "skills" I've picked up just to feel worth something

  • @renyukgoncangmakan
    @renyukgoncangmakan 3 года назад +1

    About a month ago, I started a new job at a completely new place. The working environment is fast-paced and my boss always expect highly from me. On top of carrying tasks in the office, I am also responsible to perform as his personal assistant. So I have to always be on top of the game, every single day. I have to be quick, think fast, be prepared at all times. It gives me severe anxiety every day. Every night, I will spend about 3 hours planning on what to do tomorrow. Getting everything ready, the notes, the reminders, the updates, the lists. And on the next day, I will be working non stop from 8am to 7pm. I sleep late and tend to forget my own personal things to do. Every morning while I driving to work I just cant stop playing scenarios in my head of how the day would go. I did mess up twice because I forgot to remind him things, he was so mad that he said “this is the second strikes” when I messed up the second time about a week ago. I cant get over it and I am just so scared if I really mess up again. It was an honest mistake of forgetting to remind him, because I was still learning and getting the “rhythm” right.

  • @ghostboy474
    @ghostboy474 3 года назад +1

    The #1 most important thing that I want in my life is to simply be happy and I really don’t see that in my future at all which is rlly great

  • @Evil_Lebaron14579
    @Evil_Lebaron14579 3 года назад +2

    I literally search for videos about handling work anxiety, cause I'm experiencing it right now. Thank you for this vid!

  • @flowers1193
    @flowers1193 5 лет назад +1

    Thank you so much for this video Noah. I was about to have a panic attack because of my new job but this video really helped me. You are helping a lot of people through these videos. Thank you.

  • @oblivion2967
    @oblivion2967 8 лет назад +7

    This will change it for me. Thank you so much for breaking down what's been so confusing for me.

  • @natashakalanda622
    @natashakalanda622 3 года назад +1

    I go through this and would not wish it on anyone. I'm so sorry you guys are going through it.

  • @TheDede508
    @TheDede508 4 года назад +3

    Everything you said was how I felt my whole life and now that I've finally found a job after looking for one for a while, it makes me have crippling anxiety even when I don't fail.

  • @6898130
    @6898130 8 лет назад +1

    Hi Noah,
    I am a counselor in another country/language and although I use a lot of what is in your videos already in cognitive therapy, it is always wonderful to be able to expand the ideas and consider new insights. Thank you very much for that! I hope you have a lot of sucess! Luv from Brazil.

  • @hannahmoynihan1833
    @hannahmoynihan1833 9 лет назад +4

    Dear Noah,
    Thank you so much for your video. It has really calmed me this morning listening to it. Keep up the good work x

  • @katiejhowell
    @katiejhowell 5 лет назад +1

    This resonates so much with me. Thank you. “Worth” based on opinions is an illusion because it is just that: an opinion, something that exists in the mind. It is not reality. Wow. ❤️

  • @abiola33
    @abiola33 4 года назад +2

    My last job I was unhappy but I more or less mastered what the job required of me (I was contracting). I left for a multitude of reasons even though management wanted me to stay. It was too much stress, many people taking sick leave because we were all over worked (I went GP for a sick note once as well etc). Fast forward some months and I start a new job which pays so much more, a permanent role, but it went from starting off very well to not going so well in some key areas. My flaws are highlighted (which I'm working on using feedback I've received), and it's a whole new sector I'm in. My probation was extended, and I am feeling the anxiety. I have been reading self help stuff, I have support from my good friend and my siblings. I've always gotten good reviews with all of my jobs and I've been praised for how I've received my feedback at my new job but I feel overwhelmed. My workload has increased a whole lot and I am nervous about it all. A bit tearful writing this but all I can do is try my best and hope for the best.

  • @richalodhi2488
    @richalodhi2488 7 лет назад +3

    Thank you so much Noah Elkerif:) you have truly changed my life.

  • @kennethagustin4275
    @kennethagustin4275 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for this wonderful reminder, Noah. I've been having some terrible time with my work -- but I know that I do just right and well with all the tasks that I'm given with. But I was too caring of what other people might think of me. Good job for making this video!

  • @owingswhitney
    @owingswhitney 3 года назад +2

    Thank you so much for this! I now know what to do to combat this anxiety, and it's nice to know I'm not the only one who experiences this.

  • @FLOATINGAWAYSLOWLY
    @FLOATINGAWAYSLOWLY 8 лет назад

    thank you. the message made me realize how some people are helped just by saying positive affirmations on a regular basis

  • @ChardonnaySundae
    @ChardonnaySundae 9 лет назад +15

    Thanks but now I need to know how to get rid of my negative thoughts.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  9 лет назад +2

      Kya Sinclair Have a look through my other videos for ones that seem relevant.

  • @binnyschwarz9376
    @binnyschwarz9376 5 лет назад +1

    I felt you were talking to me!! Beautiful video, thank you very much!!!

  • @fatimadoucoure4024
    @fatimadoucoure4024 3 года назад

    Wow! "Facts don't determine how we feel, Thoughts Do!" So true!! Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us all!

  • @pilarsilva1246
    @pilarsilva1246 3 года назад

    This is exactly how I feel! I’m so grateful for your video. I want more videos like this!

  • @uniquelyneecee7609
    @uniquelyneecee7609 9 лет назад

    Showing soo much gratitude!! Thank you Noah :)

  • @mimimgl2557
    @mimimgl2557 3 года назад

    This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you 🙏.

  • @i2thadean
    @i2thadean 7 лет назад

    just found your channel, this particular video (value of work vs peace) really hit me!

  • @somyaprasad5086
    @somyaprasad5086 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on Anxiety. It really helped me to understand about anxiety which we all go through in our lives and our capabilities of thinking goes far away from us.
    I am also dealing with anxiety but your video helped me to re think on my thought process again.
    Thank you so much Noah :)

  • @jovsamson5080
    @jovsamson5080 6 лет назад

    Thanks so much. I feel anxious about my job but I feel so much better now that I’ve watched your video. :)

  • @tddsctt
    @tddsctt 7 лет назад +1

    Great talk. I'm currently without a job and I feel less than on so many fronts. Your talk helped me so much today. I've had a few different careers in my life but none of them were me.

  • @dropintheocean44
    @dropintheocean44 4 года назад

    THANK YOU. THIS VIDEO IS LEGENDARY

  • @darlingxluxii7977
    @darlingxluxii7977 2 года назад +1

    This is helpful and less stressful. Just started a new placement job and it’s still kinda scary because as soon your skills are good you be put even more work and expected to be quick for it otherwise you’ll be judged. 😭❤️😭✨💞

  • @stephenwilliams1439
    @stephenwilliams1439 7 лет назад

    Thank you so much for your videos! You really have a calling for this and your videos help me in my life. I am so happy I found your channel! 😊

  • @euginmassey7017
    @euginmassey7017 4 года назад

    really really thank you from bottom of my heart for uploading this video! i truly understand now how i can control my anxiety.. hoping for more videos from you😊👌

  • @carlabarbosa2122
    @carlabarbosa2122 8 лет назад +3

    wow this made so much sense to me. I just started a new job and I was concerned about what everybody thought. I was mixing up the task that I do everyday with who I am.

  • @staceychance1
    @staceychance1 5 лет назад

    Wow I’ve never seen anyone take this approach and have this perspective on it. Really makes you think.

  • @Blobblee-lo6tv
    @Blobblee-lo6tv 9 лет назад +1

    This is very liberating. Thank you Noah.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  9 лет назад

      william knutzen Glad to hear it William

  • @isaaclopez-eb6yg
    @isaaclopez-eb6yg 2 года назад

    This video I wish I had seen long ago cause it hit the nail on the coffin with my anxiety at work. I recently got fired and couldn't understand why I felt so depressed and direction less like I had no meaning in my life after I lost my job. I had tied my self worth and value to what I did without even noticing it. Thank you for the help.

  • @nariko47
    @nariko47 6 лет назад +1

    Excellent video brother, thank you!!

  • @DipnSpitn
    @DipnSpitn 4 года назад

    Thank you so much i cant even tell you how much this moved me

  • @marienegron3171
    @marienegron3171 9 лет назад +1

    You are a beautiful person. Your videos are brilliant.You have helped me so much with my thought process and anxiety.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  9 лет назад

      marie negron Really glad to hear it marie

  • @gabriellelucas22
    @gabriellelucas22 8 лет назад

    Your videos helped me so much this week. I appreciate your w

  • @angieblackman5019
    @angieblackman5019 5 лет назад

    First time ive watched Noah, so calm and sensible and lovely to look at!
    feels very genuine, and he said some mind blowing stuff, that has really made me think
    will be repeating his mantra, thank you will now follow and subscribe.

  • @andreatan1992
    @andreatan1992 5 лет назад

    Wow this is amazing. Thank you so much for this!!

  • @cheliae8560
    @cheliae8560 6 лет назад +1

    Very well explained. Thank you.

  • @rachelberry3366
    @rachelberry3366 7 лет назад

    Thank you so much! You are a lifesaver. This really helped

  • @srikanthappanabhotla4924
    @srikanthappanabhotla4924 9 лет назад

    I love what you said at the end, I've been asking myself the same questions
    Thanks for your help Noah !

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  9 лет назад

      Srikanth Appanabhotla You're very welcome Srikanth

  • @PiggoNZ
    @PiggoNZ 10 месяцев назад

    So much wisdom. Thank you

  • @Michu507
    @Michu507 4 года назад +1

    Social Anxiety have shape my life in a very strong way. To the point on not wanting to work or study at a fiscal school. But I never saw it from this point of view. I've been to so many so call "psychologists" and psychiatrist and all they do is teach me that without a job or a degre, I'm not worthy, valuable, or successful. But what you say makes more sence and is true. Thank you so much!

  • @conorgorman1301
    @conorgorman1301 3 года назад

    Thank you. This video really helped me at a difficult time.

  • @maheshirk
    @maheshirk 3 года назад

    Fantastic detailed explanation

  • @runhigh123
    @runhigh123 8 лет назад

    your videos are very very helpful and valuable. I have been realizing many things, that may never have been solved to lighten my suffering.
    some things I am still confused is motivation and addiction (harming addiction).
    thank you so much, and hope your insights be more well known so that it can help much more people

  • @narruh
    @narruh 3 года назад +2

    Literally sobbing rn because I was so excited about this job that i was training to get but i got so anxious and nervous and i ended up overthinking things and got extremely overwhelmed and I ended up asking to leave which resulted in me not getting the job and now i feel terrible

  • @ronrivera4395
    @ronrivera4395 3 года назад

    Thanks for this, continue to help other people. God bless and more power 🙏🙏🙏

  • @lorenzorivera4618
    @lorenzorivera4618 8 лет назад

    Makes perfect sense. Thank you!

  • @gerry2345
    @gerry2345 9 лет назад +1

    That's good clarity in this vid...

  • @superduper9812
    @superduper9812 7 лет назад

    this was very helpful to me...Thank You So Much!

  • @TheStephenRussell
    @TheStephenRussell 8 лет назад

    Since as long as I can remember I have been a very successful and driven individual - don't get me wrong I have had some great failures too and nearly lost everything but I looked at these as experiences and have no regrets. I have won awards and my passion is success in everything I do (this includes my day job) and now more so, helping others to succeed and grow. I enjoy helping people who have found themselves in unfortunate situations through to business owners and leaders with whom I can engage with stimulating and meaningful discussions. As a family we are competitive in all aspects and we constantly achieve, my kids always receive glowing reports on their attitude and their results both academically and with extra curricula activities - this is our DNA.I have now found myself in a position where I face continuous anxiety at work - I don't want to post the reasons on here but when I watch some of your videos I can't relate my situation 100% to what you discuss. I can't possibly believe that I am the only one in this situation but I believe that I am quite unique in a positive sense (this is what I have been told a number of times) and the situation I find myself in goes completely against my values and beliefs and this is what I think I am struggling with - It's not a situation I can easily change in the short term.Would be great to know your thoughts.Many thanks, Stephen

  • @Noneofyourbusiness99999
    @Noneofyourbusiness99999 6 лет назад

    Thanks Noah - you’re a credit to RUclips - you manage to get to the crux of negative thinking and how illogical it is

  • @AllThingsGaming82
    @AllThingsGaming82 5 лет назад +1

    This dude is great!

  • @anamay29
    @anamay29 4 года назад

    Thank you noah for this video

  • @Joisu121
    @Joisu121 8 лет назад

    Thank you. You are the best and have helped me a lot.

  • @ayumihonda223
    @ayumihonda223 2 года назад +1

    Oh my God, I needed to hear this

  • @jeremydevine2096
    @jeremydevine2096 9 лет назад +1

    Amazing clarity

  • @traciwright1776
    @traciwright1776 4 года назад +4

    I have anxiety before work. And it makes it worse when I have to walk there

  • @artlego1007
    @artlego1007 7 лет назад

    Wow! Very wise young man.

  • @KeventeLewis
    @KeventeLewis 7 лет назад

    This was awesome. Thank you