My Mom Replaced My Sister’s Ashes With Burnt Wood and Lied to Me... | Reddit Updates

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  • Опубликовано: 25 дек 2024

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  • @brusselsproutses
    @brusselsproutses 11 дней назад +167

    i absolutely adore it when op, despite going through a terrible journey during all the updates , starts talking about the friends they are making, the hobbies they are picking up, how their therapist is helping them. i just love it. i forget about what the story was even about in the first place.

    • @matt-1989
      @matt-1989 11 дней назад +3

      Same here. It made me bawl. I'm so proud of them, and I hope they heal and find peace with their family. And they're very lucky to have such great neighbors who seem to be very understanding. I just wish I could give them a hug.

    • @peridotasadeadbritishmonar7924
      @peridotasadeadbritishmonar7924 10 дней назад +2

      Same. Something tells me OP’s sister would be SO PROUD of them in that last update, especially the part where they say that their sister isn’t taking up every single thought they have anymore. What little OP said about the sister makes me think that she would absolutely hate that they’ve been drowning.

  • @HylianWolfMage55
    @HylianWolfMage55 11 дней назад +240

    It would've been one thing if OP's mom discussed this with the entire family (not just the step-dad) and they all agreed but going behind their backs, changing the plans, lying to her family about where the ashes were for years, not telling her family why she did it and now not telling her family where the plot is has now officially killed any and all chances at reconciliation.
    Edit: I don't think we'll ever get the answer but I really want to know what OP's mom actually did with the ashes. A thousand different possibilities entered my mind and none of them good.

    • @MCNarret
      @MCNarret 11 дней назад +12

      There's your answer, the mother desecrated the ashes.

    • @BrightElk
      @BrightElk 11 дней назад +26

      @@MCNarretMy grandma flushed my grandpas ashe’s down the toilet because she was mad at him. Mom was broken because of it. That was her dad. She was charged with malicious mischief. Didn’t know that was a thing.

    • @ingegerdandersson6963
      @ingegerdandersson6963 11 дней назад +1

      I think it is very strange that you are allowed to not bury a dead person. In my country, after a cremation, the ashes are collected and kept locked up either at the crematorium or at the cemetery where the burial is to take place. It is not allowed to store ashes of a deceased person at home. Cremation must take place no later than one month after the death and the burial of the ashes must take place no later than one year after the cremation. If you want to spread them somewhere other that on a cemetery you have to get a permit.

    • @MCNarret
      @MCNarret 10 дней назад +3

      @@ingegerdandersson6963 my mom kept my grandmother's ashes for many years (I grew up with the urn being in the house) before the family came together to spread them somewhere, I see no problem with that.

  • @MegaHarvickFan29
    @MegaHarvickFan29 11 дней назад +182

    I remember this post. The moment they offered to sell them the plot, I immediately thought this was some plan between the mom and stepdad to effectively ransom money from her ex and kids. Honestly, I don't trust a single word that comes from that woman's mouth.

  • @Kyu_Ran
    @Kyu_Ran 11 дней назад +107

    I’m glad op is slowly healing away from the toxic mother

  • @BrightElk
    @BrightElk 11 дней назад +54

    If the mom couldn’t bare to ’destroy’ her daughter anymore. Why lie about the ashe’s? why not just tell them that? Something weird is going on…

    • @spoof2062
      @spoof2062 11 дней назад +18

      Mom couldn't bare destroying the ash's but didn't mind threatening to flush them down the toilet wtf

  • @Marja1992
    @Marja1992 11 дней назад +96

    Op becoming a part of the local community made me fucking weep

    • @cototototorra7106
      @cototototorra7106 9 дней назад +1

      tbh this might be one of the sweetest op's, not spineless nor overly spiteful

  • @winterking4738
    @winterking4738 11 дней назад +67

    I just read the title alone and it had me like 😮
    Edit: damn that final update made me kinda emotional, but at least she’s getting her life back on track even through all the mess her mom pulled. Wish her all the best.

  • @screamyposum
    @screamyposum 11 дней назад +22

    I want to congratulate OP for 100+ days now. This is such an amazing milestone

  • @eezy1176
    @eezy1176 11 дней назад +46

    Lied about it for almost half a decade man Jesus

  • @n.jboltz599
    @n.jboltz599 11 дней назад +42

    I don't think mom did get rid of sisters ashes, she's just saying anything so she doesn't have to give some of the ashes over.
    The one thing I will say to Op is Therapy is not about the therapist telling you what you want to hear. It isn't about them just agreeing with you and affirming your feelings. Therapy is about taking a long hard look at yourself and working through your thoughts and feelings---the therapist will guide you but shouldn't be telling you how to think or feel.
    If you are looking for a therapist that will tell you what you want to hear rather than one who will talk you through what you need to process it isn't going to help you heal. a therapist that tells you what you want to hear isn't a therapist

  • @HistoriasMisteriosas8888
    @HistoriasMisteriosas8888 9 дней назад +3

    This is absolutely heartbreaking. The betrayal of trust, especially when it comes to something as sacred as a loved one’s ashes, is unimaginable. I can't imagine the pain of discovering something like this. I hope you find peace and closure somehow. You deserve honesty and respect. 💔

  • @rhiarebecca2000
    @rhiarebecca2000 9 дней назад +9

    The mum had no right to be so selfish, everyone else suffered from losing OPs sister, the rubbish mum has no excuse, grieving or not. Everyone deserved to have some of her ashes if they wished to, the mum shouldn’t have lied

    • @rhiarebecca2000
      @rhiarebecca2000 9 дней назад +4

      OP and other family members essentially had to grieve the loss again because they lost what they thought was her ashes

  • @lunasnake5697
    @lunasnake5697 10 дней назад +12

    22:00 did anyone else notice this? Or am l interrupting it wrong? Did the mother threaten op by saying she will “pour her ashes down the drain” referring to op’s sister’s ashes?

    • @laramaaike3050
      @laramaaike3050 10 дней назад +5

      Yeah, I jeard that too. So that means she still has the ashes, right?

    • @hue_lord_4208
      @hue_lord_4208 8 дней назад +3

      Could be a lie to get OP back into contact with her. She's been unclear about the ashes on purpose the entire time, so I wouldn't be surprised if she tried to pull something like that.

  • @RanchoSantaAnadelChino
    @RanchoSantaAnadelChino 11 дней назад +8

    The stepfather is such a doormat for acting like the motive is not important.

  • @Winteraha
    @Winteraha 11 дней назад +36

    title had me jaw dropped

  • @L3seyy45
    @L3seyy45 11 дней назад +3

    “Losing a loved one, is unbearable. Losing a child in a war is just unimaginable-“

  • @jackofhearts7351
    @jackofhearts7351 11 дней назад +23

    8 mins in,the step dad is scummy af

  • @pretzelicious4200
    @pretzelicious4200 11 дней назад +12

    14:34 I would've taken the ashes of the burnt crafts and mailed them to her xD

  • @angel_wingz44
    @angel_wingz44 11 дней назад +26

    Stop being cruel but you put their sisters ashes on an abandoned plot without telling anyone? 😭

  • @laquietagray9323
    @laquietagray9323 10 дней назад +1

    This is terrible that horrid woman needs to be in prison.

  • @WardNightstone
    @WardNightstone 11 дней назад +8

    Make mom disclose the plot info before you will consider purchase so that you can do a title search

  • @summerstorytrue
    @summerstorytrue 11 дней назад

    I can't even begin to imagine how devastating and confusing this situation must be for you. It's hard to process the depth of betrayal you must be feeling, especially when it involves something as deeply personal as your sister’s ashes. The actions described are not only hurtful but also undermine trust in family relationships. It's important for everyone to acknowledge and respect the emotional significance of such sensitive matters. I hope you're able to find support from those who care about you and take time to process your feelings. If you ever feel the need, talking to a professional might help navigate such complicated emotions. Stay strong and take care of yourself

  • @pupuntold
    @pupuntold 10 дней назад +1

    Mom didn't say a thing because she knew she messed up

  • @crazysaturdays9724
    @crazysaturdays9724 11 дней назад +1

    Everybody deals with grief differently I had a C-section and after my baby passed I work nonstop until I felt like I was going to pass out even after 2 years I still take work for some form of therapy crazy but I do it

  • @HernanMartinez-n8l
    @HernanMartinez-n8l 11 дней назад +4

    Never talk to your mom again

  • @atlus6412
    @atlus6412 10 дней назад

    OP'S mother & step dad are Evil.

  • @ai_d_in
    @ai_d_in 11 дней назад

    🕊️🕊️

  • @DrunkenDemon
    @DrunkenDemon 11 дней назад

    This is me leaving aside the lie. But it think the part when the mother did not want to destroy her dead daughter any further seem really important here. That neclace idea sounds more and more like a peer pressure thing ( from the motherboard point of view). Really overall failure of a mother though.

  • @splairs
    @splairs 11 дней назад

    Very slight overreaction

  • @Dmitrisnikioff
    @Dmitrisnikioff 10 дней назад

    Yeah, no wonder a therapist isn't working if he's playing pretend games with his identity.