I love how Sam bragged about their reading comprehension, after they missed the HUGE point that the stepdaughter continued the bullying long after the "5 years ago" incident.
sam is lowkey terrible 😭 because he literally was on op side on story 1 and then just switched all of a sudden. 1. it’s her money she can spend however she pleases 2. the stepdaughter never stopped bullying them.
1st story it sounds like OP finding out her daughter being bullied by the step daughter was a lsat straw moment. Like she’s been dealing with her BS for so long she’s to the point where ending the relationship is the better option.
My parents divorced when I was 3, my mom remarried to a guy a couple of years later with a girl that was in high school & a boy that was one year older than me. My mom ended up passing away within a year/1.5 years of their marriage but during that time, I always felt like I didn’t matter to my ex-step dad. He treated me far differently than he did with his 2 biological kids. I hated it. After my mom passed, he also didn’t want me to have any of her belongings and my dad and grandparents actually had to take him to court over it. I honestly don’t think he cared about me whatsoever. Long story short, I understand how these people feel - and my ex-step dad sucks. The end.
Not an overreaction and I’m glad to see I’m not the only one who thinks so in the comment section! Maybe Sam hasn’t experienced bullying like some of us have. That is a whole lot of money to give your child or anyone at once, though!
For the girl marrying the boyfriend Alex, i hope her aunt and uncle both walk her down the isle. Id consider aunt and uncle her real parents from now on
As someone from norcal, who also did the "pan for gold" field trip, you guys are BOTH right! They supplement the area the kids pan in with fools gold, but there are still real gold flakes found in the water. It is just a minuscule amount so they add the iron pyrite to make it more interesting for the kids. Kids go home with a little vial of fools gold and whatever flakes they find (aka more fools gold and *tiny* amount of real gold.)
45:04 the abuse she went through is real, the real question is “AITA for not allowing herself to be bullied.” Cuz what is she supposed to say in defense? “No Alex, let him keep degrading me! Don’t be the only person defending me!” Technically, OP should’ve stood up for OP, but this is a lifelong dynamic she’s fighting against. Idk if many in her position could do better, so I can’t say if how OP reacted was right or wrong, just understandable.
I don't understand the debate, cause the question is basically "how dare you not defend me for bullying you in front of your bf who stood up to me?" and everybody but the bf is jist ok with that. I feel for OP though, it's tough to find that "last straw" that switches your perception
49:50 THIS! This is exactly what happened! I really don’t think it’s overreaching to say OP was abused her whole life. Her parents made it clear Tom was the favored child and that OP just didn’t matter and that’s so sad.
18:08 is it? How is he actually stopping his daughter from bullying his stepdaughter? All he did was send her away and then was all Pikachu shocked face that OP wasn’t doing the same for the girl who bullied OPs daughter. And then asked OP to share her daughter’s fund, again with her bully and then added insult to injury by taking a jab at OPs daughter. Was that comment really reaching?
48:14 they’re saying Alex should leave OP because Alex stood up for OP and the way they see it, she just let it all happen. They were def doing too much saying Alex should dump OP.
I think its because they misunderstood a part they read like around 40 min mark about tom was upset op didn't side with him. They thought it was Alex was upset she didn't side with him against brother. I think Alex would understand she didn't say anything because she probably didn't know what to do in the situation I admit I have not made it to the 48 min mark yet to hear the part your talking about. But I think their opinion stems from that misunderstanding
My dad once dated a woman that my 2 siblings and I immediately disliked from the moment we met her. There were so many red flags with #1 being their 1st date was because her kids didn't want to spend her bday with her. We were all very against him moving in with her and the next 6 years were awful...he still laments not listening to us over 2 decades later.
22:20 but even with therapy, is it really unhealthy to not want your child to go through what you went through or worse? Like, maybe therapy will help and maybe it wouldn’t, but the stepdaughter is still a bully and OP was still right to want to protect her daughter from that treatment.
Last story: I'm a victim of very bad favoritism. Ops response of not backing up her partner is a reaction of being abused and having no self worth. I'm glad she came around and didn't take her abusers side. I'm glad she has a great support system now.
@StellaDavis I've also had an order of protection against my sister for the past like 3 years. I'm sorry you've also got a really poor relationship with your sister. ❤❤❤
Recend now just got to spot that they realized they misunderstood......original comment:Ok I got confused and had to rewind. I think yall misunderstand on the part about op not sticking up for Alex against tom... she stated Tom was upset that op didn't side with him (bully brother) against her bf who was sticking up for her.
Being from Sacramento, there really is gold in the river. I used to go gold panning in the American River up by Folsom all the time and got gold flakes, real gold flakes.
I’m so happy for you Alex proposed and good for you I’m happy that you have your aunt uncle that are like parents to you.May your life be filled with happiness love joy forever 🥰🥰
Sam, I think you got that backwards Tom, the brother is the one that's furious with his sister and is saying that she should have stuck up for Tom against Alex, basically saying that what he was doing to her is okay.
I will never understand why parents play favorites. I stayed with my cousins a lot growing up and my aunt always favored my male cousin over my female cousin. It messes with both of them TO THIS DAY. You are hurting ALL of your kids when you play favorites even then one who is the "favorite". You force one child to take care of themselves while the other learns no life skills whatsoever. It is an absolutely shameful thing to do and I wish people could see that.
So when the wife sat her step daughter and husband down to talk and confronted and confirmed the continued bullying the husband stayed quiet then after his daughter left he said he was “just trying to protect her” umm so you enable and protect a bully, instead of be a parent to your daughter and protect your step daughter. I would seriously be considering divorce because it was confirmed that the husband is willing to put the step daughter in harms way to coddle his daughter when she is in the wrong. What a shame.
1st story: I think op couldn't have handle the step daughter's bullying worse than she did. The girl was thirteen. The worst age to be, like feeling bad in your own skin, being overly conscious of other people's vision of you... Also new step mom everything changed for her at that age. I'm not saying bullying is okay or justifiable, it is not. I am saying that the dad or even op should have done something about it, not simply ostracizing her. They should have disciplined her for it but also should've tried be a safe place. Like listening to her, try to be understanding of her worries and finding a way to navigate and maybe channeling her anger in another direction. So many things could have been done other than what happened. Now that's said, time has already passed and I do not think the step daughter deserves the money. She did not deserve to be cast out either. All of this is my personal opinion and some people may disagree. Also the dad sucks.
It seems like OPs daughter does nothing wrong. I would love to know the things OPs daughter has said to her step daughter. It’s crazy to think that the step daughter is beefing with her daughter and it’s NOT provoked.
I don't believe it's an overreaction. I am biased on this subject, admittedly, though. I was bullied growing up, so I have no talrance as an adult for bullying. Every time the teachers gave slaps on the wrist to the bullies, it never stopped the bullying.
i hate bullies, i was bullied by 3 girls (sarah, michelle, and hannah=real names) right through primary and secondry school, although the bullying was bad in primary school name calling, biting, scramming me, and hair pulling (i had waist length hair) it got so much worse in comprehensive school as at that point instead of 3 girls it was 3 girls and thier F**K buddies (robert, oliver and mathew= real names), it was the original incedents mentioned and on top of that there were 4 major incidents/accidents that finally drew the attention of my deputy head and head of year, after 4 years they finally sort of caught them bullying me, so after incident number 4, 3 of them got suspended, 1 expelled, 1 became a friend and still is to this day, and 1 transferred to military school 4 monhs later number 1) i was pushed down a flight of concrete stairs resulting in a broken wrist and ankle, wrist had to be pinned, number 2) they threw my clothes in a farmers field when we were doing our swimming lesson and i had to finish the school day in my wet swimsuit and a towel which they kept trying to pull off as i was a "fat ugly smelly cow" (thier words all the time to me) and started nicknaming me "stench" and "fat S**G", they had this stupid mindset a farmers family all smelled off cow crap....the farm was a EQUINE farm with some pet dogs, cats,sheep, goats, chickens, ducks and other small animals, number 3) i was in the library getting a book for the pregnant librarian down when they came in saw me and pushed the ladder out from under me causing me to fall off on to a metal bench fracturing my colar bone and hip socket (i was born with hip dysplasia and sarah knew about it as her mum was my nans neighbour), librarian had a go at them and called it in to the office making the office aware this is the second time she seen them bully me while my friend group was away from me, number 4) i was talking to a friend on the bus, michelle and mathew laughed and cheered as sarah, and robert decided to SET ME ON FIRE, SO how it all went, SO....sarah had been carrying a bottle of butane and a lighter as she and her F.buddy robert smoked at the time she saw me sitting on the second row from the front and wanted my seat even though there was plenty of seats i said "no" and carried on my conversation 2 minutes later she stomps up behind me and poured the lighter fluid over the bottom of my hair and robert light the lighter, my friend screamed "WTF" and i stood up trying to put my hair out, sarah, robert and michelle were all laughing and cheering, my friend grabbed his bag and hit my hair several times with it to put out the flames, unfortunatly bag had his rugby boots in it and he accidently broke 3 of my ribs in the back helping me put my hair out, the driver realised something wa off and stopped the bus yelling for us to all sit down, we sat down and he came over and poured his bottle of water from his lunch over my head to stop the hair or me burning furthur, he called the school and told them he was not moving until a teacher got to the bus (we were less than 2 minutes from the school), 10 minutes after our head of year aproached the bus and asked what happened the driver told him what happened and they tried to deny it until 14 other students called BS including my friend (thomas and his friend hugh=real names as they saved me that day like a true heros are firemen now) and told head of year the full details on what had transpired, sarah, mathew, hannah, robert and myself were all told to get off the bus, well several students and the driver asked why i had to get off and the teacher said he had to assess the damage and then pass me over to my parent, well all the parents showed up (apart from mine as they were working away and my aunt the farmer was disabled from the neck down and wheelchair bound) but she was on the phone to listen in and be in the know of what was happening (head of year drove me home afterwards), sarah's parents tried to say i was lying about the bullying and getting people in trouble was my talent and i should be expelled for being a attention seeking liar, deputy head ripped in to them for saying that and said the bus had a camera and they were going to have the evidence in the morning but he had seen my hair and the burns and bruises on my back plus witnesses, roberts parents claimed sarah did it all alone, michelles dad aproached me lifted the back of my shirt let it go turned around and slapped michelle right across the face (did not know at the time but michelles dad was a fire marshal) i shouted "no" and he asked why i would defend what she did and i explained the ones who did it were sarah and robert, michelle and mathew only laughed, mathews parents looke angry as F and told him he should appologise as i had just saved him form having his butt kicked across the parking area, well the following day at 2.30pm all 6 bullies and thier parents, me and my aunt (on the phone) went to the office, deputy head showed the bus, stairs and library incidents on the cameras to the parents and informed them that sarah and robert were going to be expelled due to thier dangerous actions, but as sarah claimed and the cctv proved robert struck the lighter she was taken from expulsion to suspention for 3 months, hannah and michelle were going to be suspended for 2 months and mathew was going to have dinner detentions with me in the library until i healed completely (this was agreed with me, my aunt, mathew and his parents, he was going to basically be my personal helper while i healed from the burns), so by the end of 3 months me and my group of friends accepted a new member (mathew) and kept a close eye out for each other, but after "fire starter" as we were calling it name calling and nicknames were all sarah, michelle, hannah and oliver had the balls to do, eventually due to his bullying, grades dropping and hannahs influence his parents took oliver from the school and put him in military school 4 months later, mathew, myself and 2 of my original friend group including thomas and huhg are still friends to this day
If the first story's children had been give 100 k whilst living in a place like the UK yes that is a lot of money, most people who are middle class don't earn that much or just about earn that if they're lucky. The average minimum wage is about 24k. Per year I uni maximum loan - to spend on rent and living expenses was 9k before and you could get more if living in a high cost city or had certain extenuating circumstances. If you want to travel and eat whatever you want and have an expensive course I can see you spending maybe like 18 k in the year and this is like you being free, maybe a little mire if you drink heavily. Rent for students is discounted in countries like these as well. But if you have it why not. If my parents had the money I knoe their main interest besides me having an easier time in uni, but it'd also be to see how I use my money and how I choose to invest or whatever.
At the 14:00 mark, that commenter was *SO WILD* and sounded so unhinged and scorned. They sound like someone who was scorned. All this talk about, “oH hE cHoSe YoU oVeR hIs KiDs ClEaRlY hE dOeSn’T cArE aBoUt HiS kIdS,” when clearly his son had a great life and a great upbringing. His son is turning out really well. Meanwhile, the daughter is being a little shit. You can’t spite your one child just to stick with the other child. I wouldn’t be surprised if this is the result of the raising and poisoning of the well of the husband’s ex-wife. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ The commenter sounds like a woman scorned as well.
100000€? Even if he studied for 5 years (which would be pretty long for a bachelor), that's 1600€ a month. That's what I earn every month. That's a crazy amount. How should he learn to manage his money, if he has so plenty?
I want to say this I do not agree with the bully, but just like what this person saying I feel like the husband has some form of resentment toward his wife for kicking his daughter out and forcing the daughter to live with the Mom because you wouldn’t get this upset over money when you’re OK with your son having this money, but I feel like that that he wants his daughter to be on his side like on his good side because maybe the daughter feel some also some form of resentment because She was like well. My dad didn’t choose me. He chose a person who isn’t blood so I think that’s the reason why the father was going so so hard for his daughter because he feels some sort of the way of like I shouldn’t have done that and I just stick up for my daughter, but I chose to stick up for my wife and my wife’s daughter and that is the reason why I think he went so hard to bat for his daughter because he feels that he didn’t do enough for his daughter again not agreeing that the 35:21 stepdaughter was bullying OP’s daughter, but is trying to make sense with the father like going so hard to bat because he feels low-key a little resentment that he had to kick his daughter out
12:26 I mean, arguments towards him being gold digger, he went through with moving in with OP when then kids were against it.and then sent his daughter to live with her mom. I get that we can’t negotiate with terrorists, my bad I meant kids, but Idk 14:02 I can kinda see the merits of this comment tbh
I also think it was an overreaction. She was only 13, every kid deserves a chance to learn from their mistakes instead of being separated from their new home and father. Stuff like this breeds hate. If granted the opportunity, she could have learned to love her new step-sister and step-mother and grow as a family.
Omg, seriously. So being 13 is an excuse for being a bully for the next 5 years and behaving like an ahole with her stepmother. And then she comes and expects to have the same treatment. She hurt her daughter for years and she only felt sorry when she saw she wasn't getting any money out of it. And the dad had no right to ask her to give her money, much less leave her own daughter with less so they could share. He was the one that had to provide for her
She was 13, now she’s 18 + and remains a bully… she knows better and she hasn’t learned to respect her step mom while simultaneously sounds entitled along with her father. You don’t bite the hand that feeds you. She can ask her own mother and father to finance medical school.
Is it just me or does the step mom have some issues and seen what she decided was a bully in a young child and from what sounds like it voiced it and labled the child and treated the child as such… then was shocked the child never turned it around or liked her with time after accepting her in time like it takes a child from divorce. Sounds like she helped create the situation because she hasn’t worked with her past.
So bullying is acceptable if the child has issues? Keep in mind this was not a one time incident, I happened continuously for 5 years and her own brother is in bad terms with her
But the stepdaughter kept it going on for years, and when they had the "tea", OP brought up the high-school bullying, and the stepdaughter was surprised she knew about it. Doesn't seem like they really talked, nor the father parented the stepdaughter. Yes, OP may be projecting a bit. At the same time, it was justified.
@@alexiatr No one is saying bullying is acceptable, she was a child and she needed help. She never got that help and it continued for years. Hence the "she helped create the situation."
The first story is unfortunate, bc I do feel like OP overreacted. If I didn't hear it wrong, the stepdaughter was 13 at the time and OP was the adult in that situation. There's a chance that all these hate between the two could have been resolved if the stepdaughter didn't get send away? I felt like OP projected her trauma onto her daughter a bit, and now the stepdaughter learnt there're no 2nd chances in life. Some ppl act even worst bc they're already on the edge and they'll think "you already think the worst of me so why should I be nice?" And that's why I think she continued her disrespectful behaviour. I'm not defending the bully behaviour, I'm just explaining this hate could have been transmuted if there's love from both parent & step parent. As for the money, I think it's pretty hard to work part-time and also do med school. But of course it is OP's rights to not give the money. However, in this particular situation she is driving the edge even further between the stepbrother & stepsister. As a bystander I can't say if it's right or wrong, but I'm just seeing the cause and effect aka karma.
@@alexiatr Actually the way the story was written was confusing for me bc facts were put in here and there. So no, I really didn't hear it. But thanks for the info.
Op overreacted when the atep daughter bullied her step sister. Yes a correction is needed, however kids naturally fight especially sisters, its worse that they are the same age. All she is doing is alienating her step daughter, and no wonder she is spiteful to this day, and continued to bully her.
It's not natural to enlist friends in a different school to continue bullying your stepsibling. OP read the stepdaughter's character correctly and made the right call.
Bullying is never acceptable. Coments like "siblings fight" "boys would be boys" are just justification for the bullies. The stepmother owed her zero. She did not raise them, she didn't promise anything. Her stepdaughter is not entitled to her money.
@@erima4270 She was a troubled child whose parents divorced, her father remarried then (likely out of fear of being replaced) bullied her new step sister and not only got alienated by her new family members but her own father too- so yes, it is not natural to do that. The child clearly needed help.
I think op totally overreacted in the first story. The daughter was young and both parents did nothing to discipline her. All op did was send her away. Of course the daughter will probably hate her more, especially since she's a new person in their lives. Op did nothing to gain any bond with her.. I don't feel like Opie respects that her partner has children also and they should all be treated equally
It’s difficult to combine two families, especially when one of the kids is a B… I think op did everything right in trying to protect her biological daughter ❤️ I’m really wondering what happened next 🫣
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I love how Sam bragged about their reading comprehension, after they missed the HUGE point that the stepdaughter continued the bullying long after the "5 years ago" incident.
Exactly 😂
Yea they talk so much that they forget the whole story lol😂
@@uncontrolledgirlz it happens to me too until they retake it
RIGHT!! She obviously did not change!
At least he's confidently incorrect 🤣
sam is lowkey terrible 😭 because he literally was on op side on story 1 and then just switched all of a sudden. 1. it’s her money she can spend however she pleases 2. the stepdaughter never stopped bullying them.
Step daughter in story 1 is off to med school. Gee, I'd hate to have her as a doctor
This is definitely not overprotection, OP needs to assess and reevaluate her relationship if husband enables his daughters behavior.
1st story it sounds like OP finding out her daughter being bullied by the step daughter was a lsat straw moment. Like she’s been dealing with her BS for so long she’s to the point where ending the relationship is the better option.
My parents divorced when I was 3, my mom remarried to a guy a couple of years later with a girl that was in high school & a boy that was one year older than me. My mom ended up passing away within a year/1.5 years of their marriage but during that time, I always felt like I didn’t matter to my ex-step dad. He treated me far differently than he did with his 2 biological kids. I hated it. After my mom passed, he also didn’t want me to have any of her belongings and my dad and grandparents actually had to take him to court over it. I honestly don’t think he cared about me whatsoever. Long story short, I understand how these people feel - and my ex-step dad sucks. The end.
I'm sorry.
Not an overreaction and I’m glad to see I’m not the only one who thinks so in the comment section! Maybe Sam hasn’t experienced bullying like some of us have. That is a whole lot of money to give your child or anyone at once, though!
Which, even the kid realized that lol. Even he was like, WOAH! That’s too much for me all at once!
For the girl marrying the boyfriend Alex, i hope her aunt and uncle both walk her down the isle. Id consider aunt and uncle her real parents from now on
SAM I cannot with your view on the evil stepdaughter story you are missing so many red flags lol
Your hair looks amazing btw
LOL same I was like omg I can’t believe he seems to not be HEARING WHAT IM HEARING lol.
As someone from norcal, who also did the "pan for gold" field trip, you guys are BOTH right! They supplement the area the kids pan in with fools gold, but there are still real gold flakes found in the water. It is just a minuscule amount so they add the iron pyrite to make it more interesting for the kids. Kids go home with a little vial of fools gold and whatever flakes they find (aka more fools gold and *tiny* amount of real gold.)
45:04 the abuse she went through is real, the real question is “AITA for not allowing herself to be bullied.” Cuz what is she supposed to say in defense? “No Alex, let him keep degrading me! Don’t be the only person defending me!”
Technically, OP should’ve stood up for OP, but this is a lifelong dynamic she’s fighting against. Idk if many in her position could do better, so I can’t say if how OP reacted was right or wrong, just understandable.
I don't understand the debate, cause the question is basically "how dare you not defend me for bullying you in front of your bf who stood up to me?" and everybody but the bf is jist ok with that. I feel for OP though, it's tough to find that "last straw" that switches your perception
49:50 THIS! This is exactly what happened! I really don’t think it’s overreaching to say OP was abused her whole life. Her parents made it clear Tom was the favored child and that OP just didn’t matter and that’s so sad.
I wonder if he spent the sons money and now he’s trying to get her to give the daughter money so he can pay it back to the son
Good point!
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18:08 is it?
How is he actually stopping his daughter from bullying his stepdaughter? All he did was send her away and then was all Pikachu shocked face that OP wasn’t doing the same for the girl who bullied OPs daughter. And then asked OP to share her daughter’s fund, again with her bully and then added insult to injury by taking a jab at OPs daughter.
Was that comment really reaching?
48:14 they’re saying Alex should leave OP because Alex stood up for OP and the way they see it, she just let it all happen.
They were def doing too much saying Alex should dump OP.
I think its because they misunderstood a part they read like around 40 min mark about tom was upset op didn't side with him. They thought it was Alex was upset she didn't side with him against brother. I think Alex would understand she didn't say anything because she probably didn't know what to do in the situation I admit I have not made it to the 48 min mark yet to hear the part your talking about. But I think their opinion stems from that misunderstanding
babe wake up, new okop just dropped
My dad once dated a woman that my 2 siblings and I immediately disliked from the moment we met her. There were so many red flags with #1 being their 1st date was because her kids didn't want to spend her bday with her. We were all very against him moving in with her and the next 6 years were awful...he still laments not listening to us over 2 decades later.
Who knows what happens, they're just blind and deft and don't want to see what is in front of them
In his words: "the sex was great"
Last story makes you think is OP an affair child. Meaning not the fathers, most mothers protect their children to side on the bully's side is crazy.
The character the step sister has, she shouldn’t even be able to work in healthcare!! I’d be terrified to have her as a nurse or doctor 😅
22:20 but even with therapy, is it really unhealthy to not want your child to go through what you went through or worse? Like, maybe therapy will help and maybe it wouldn’t, but the stepdaughter is still a bully and OP was still right to want to protect her daughter from that treatment.
you can find flakes of gold by river beds.
Last story: I'm a victim of very bad favoritism. Ops response of not backing up her partner is a reaction of being abused and having no self worth. I'm glad she came around and didn't take her abusers side. I'm glad she has a great support system now.
@StellaDavis I've also had an order of protection against my sister for the past like 3 years. I'm sorry you've also got a really poor relationship with your sister. ❤❤❤
Recend now just got to spot that they realized they misunderstood......original comment:Ok I got confused and had to rewind. I think yall misunderstand on the part about op not sticking up for Alex against tom... she stated Tom was upset that op didn't side with him (bully brother) against her bf who was sticking up for her.
Why would the father not have money for his daughter when OP paid for almost everything and she didn't have to give the stepson 100k
First story please leave him protect your precious child don’t give money
Being from Sacramento, there really is gold in the river. I used to go gold panning in the American River up by Folsom all the time and got gold flakes, real gold flakes.
First story: she sounds like she’ll be a great doctor!
You can't bribe your daughter into being a good person.
Last story: Freezing is a trauma response & like John says after being beaten down so much you lose energy to fight back
I’m so happy for you Alex proposed and good for you I’m happy that you have your aunt uncle that are like parents to you.May your life be filled with happiness love joy forever 🥰🥰
Sam, I think you got that backwards Tom, the brother is the one that's furious with his sister and is saying that she should have stuck up for Tom against Alex, basically saying that what he was doing to her is okay.
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Love the hair Sam. Keep it, you remind me of James Dean. It worked on you
I will never understand why parents play favorites. I stayed with my cousins a lot growing up and my aunt always favored my male cousin over my female cousin. It messes with both of them TO THIS DAY. You are hurting ALL of your kids when you play favorites even then one who is the "favorite". You force one child to take care of themselves while the other learns no life skills whatsoever. It is an absolutely shameful thing to do and I wish people could see that.
Ahhhhh hahaha. I love the Kendrick Lamar references you sprinkle into streams, John 😂❤
My dad found gold flakes in Sacramento River. You can pan for gold in the Sacramento River also my step dad has also done it.
So when the wife sat her step daughter and husband down to talk and confronted and confirmed the continued bullying the husband stayed quiet then after his daughter left he said he was “just trying to protect her” umm so you enable and protect a bully, instead of be a parent to your daughter and protect your step daughter.
I would seriously be considering divorce because it was confirmed that the husband is willing to put the step daughter in harms way to coddle his daughter when she is in the wrong. What a shame.
Sam, are you ok?
That red flag edge is a fluffy mess!
14:42 I mean y’all thought it was weird that dude was like “deuce’s baby girl, off to your mom!”
1st story: I think op couldn't have handle the step daughter's bullying worse than she did.
The girl was thirteen. The worst age to be, like feeling bad in your own skin, being overly conscious of other people's vision of you... Also new step mom everything changed for her at that age.
I'm not saying bullying is okay or justifiable, it is not.
I am saying that the dad or even op should have done something about it, not simply ostracizing her. They should have disciplined her for it but also should've tried be a safe place.
Like listening to her, try to be understanding of her worries and finding a way to navigate and maybe channeling her anger in another direction.
So many things could have been done other than what happened.
Now that's said, time has already passed and I do not think the step daughter deserves the money. She did not deserve to be cast out either.
All of this is my personal opinion and some people may disagree.
Also the dad sucks.
Has Sam been smoking up? He is really chill/mellow...
It seems like OPs daughter does nothing wrong. I would love to know the things OPs daughter has said to her step daughter. It’s crazy to think that the step daughter is beefing with her daughter and it’s NOT provoked.
I don't believe it's an overreaction. I am biased on this subject, admittedly, though. I was bullied growing up, so I have no talrance as an adult for bullying. Every time the teachers gave slaps on the wrist to the bullies, it never stopped the bullying.
i hate bullies, i was bullied by 3 girls (sarah, michelle, and hannah=real names) right through primary and secondry school, although the bullying was bad in primary school name calling, biting, scramming me, and hair pulling (i had waist length hair) it got so much worse in comprehensive school as at that point instead of 3 girls it was 3 girls and thier F**K buddies (robert, oliver and mathew= real names), it was the original incedents mentioned and on top of that there were 4 major incidents/accidents that finally drew the attention of my deputy head and head of year, after 4 years they finally sort of caught them bullying me, so after incident number 4, 3 of them got suspended, 1 expelled, 1 became a friend and still is to this day, and 1 transferred to military school 4 monhs later
number 1) i was pushed down a flight of concrete stairs resulting in a broken wrist and ankle, wrist had to be pinned,
number 2) they threw my clothes in a farmers field when we were doing our swimming lesson and i had to finish the school day in my wet swimsuit and a towel which they kept trying to pull off as i was a "fat ugly smelly cow" (thier words all the time to me) and started nicknaming me "stench" and "fat S**G", they had this stupid mindset a farmers family all smelled off cow crap....the farm was a EQUINE farm with some pet dogs, cats,sheep, goats, chickens, ducks and other small animals,
number 3) i was in the library getting a book for the pregnant librarian down when they came in saw me and pushed the ladder out from under me causing me to fall off on to a metal bench fracturing my colar bone and hip socket (i was born with hip dysplasia and sarah knew about it as her mum was my nans neighbour), librarian had a go at them and called it in to the office making the office aware this is the second time she seen them bully me while my friend group was away from me,
number 4) i was talking to a friend on the bus, michelle and mathew laughed and cheered as sarah, and robert decided to SET ME ON FIRE,
SO how it all went, SO....sarah had been carrying a bottle of butane and a lighter as she and her F.buddy robert smoked at the time she saw me sitting on the second row from the front and wanted my seat even though there was plenty of seats i said "no" and carried on my conversation 2 minutes later she stomps up behind me and poured the lighter fluid over the bottom of my hair and robert light the lighter, my friend screamed "WTF" and i stood up trying to put my hair out, sarah, robert and michelle were all laughing and cheering, my friend grabbed his bag and hit my hair several times with it to put out the flames, unfortunatly bag had his rugby boots in it and he accidently broke 3 of my ribs in the back helping me put my hair out, the driver realised something wa off and stopped the bus yelling for us to all sit down, we sat down and he came over and poured his bottle of water from his lunch over my head to stop the hair or me burning furthur, he called the school and told them he was not moving until a teacher got to the bus (we were less than 2 minutes from the school), 10 minutes after our head of year aproached the bus and asked what happened the driver told him what happened and they tried to deny it until 14 other students called BS including my friend (thomas and his friend hugh=real names as they saved me that day like a true heros are firemen now) and told head of year the full details on what had transpired, sarah, mathew, hannah, robert and myself were all told to get off the bus, well several students and the driver asked why i had to get off and the teacher said he had to assess the damage and then pass me over to my parent, well all the parents showed up (apart from mine as they were working away and my aunt the farmer was disabled from the neck down and wheelchair bound) but she was on the phone to listen in and be in the know of what was happening (head of year drove me home afterwards), sarah's parents tried to say i was lying about the bullying and getting people in trouble was my talent and i should be expelled for being a attention seeking liar, deputy head ripped in to them for saying that and said the bus had a camera and they were going to have the evidence in the morning but he had seen my hair and the burns and bruises on my back plus witnesses, roberts parents claimed sarah did it all alone, michelles dad aproached me lifted the back of my shirt let it go turned around and slapped michelle right across the face (did not know at the time but michelles dad was a fire marshal) i shouted "no" and he asked why i would defend what she did and i explained the ones who did it were sarah and robert, michelle and mathew only laughed, mathews parents looke angry as F and told him he should appologise as i had just saved him form having his butt kicked across the parking area, well the following day at 2.30pm all 6 bullies and thier parents, me and my aunt (on the phone) went to the office, deputy head showed the bus, stairs and library incidents on the cameras to the parents and informed them that sarah and robert were going to be expelled due to thier dangerous actions, but as sarah claimed and the cctv proved robert struck the lighter she was taken from expulsion to suspention for 3 months, hannah and michelle were going to be suspended for 2 months and mathew was going to have dinner detentions with me in the library until i healed completely (this was agreed with me, my aunt, mathew and his parents, he was going to basically be my personal helper while i healed from the burns), so by the end of 3 months me and my group of friends accepted a new member (mathew) and kept a close eye out for each other, but after "fire starter" as we were calling it name calling and nicknames were all sarah, michelle, hannah and oliver had the balls to do, eventually due to his bullying, grades dropping and hannahs influence his parents took oliver from the school and put him in military school 4 months later, mathew, myself and 2 of my original friend group including thomas and huhg are still friends to this day
If the first story's children had been give 100 k whilst living in a place like the UK yes that is a lot of money, most people who are middle class don't earn that much or just about earn that if they're lucky. The average minimum wage is about 24k. Per year I uni maximum loan - to spend on rent and living expenses was 9k before and you could get more if living in a high cost city or had certain extenuating circumstances. If you want to travel and eat whatever you want and have an expensive course I can see you spending maybe like 18 k in the year and this is like you being free, maybe a little mire if you drink heavily. Rent for students is discounted in countries like these as well. But if you have it why not. If my parents had the money I knoe their main interest besides me having an easier time in uni, but it'd also be to see how I use my money and how I choose to invest or whatever.
At the 14:00 mark, that commenter was *SO WILD* and sounded so unhinged and scorned. They sound like someone who was scorned. All this talk about, “oH hE cHoSe YoU oVeR hIs KiDs ClEaRlY hE dOeSn’T cArE aBoUt HiS kIdS,” when clearly his son had a great life and a great upbringing. His son is turning out really well. Meanwhile, the daughter is being a little shit. You can’t spite your one child just to stick with the other child. I wouldn’t be surprised if this is the result of the raising and poisoning of the well of the husband’s ex-wife. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ The commenter sounds like a woman scorned as well.
When was Sam in Sacramento I wish I would have known about this wish I could have had the opportunity to meet him
100000€? Even if he studied for 5 years (which would be pretty long for a bachelor), that's 1600€ a month. That's what I earn every month. That's a crazy amount. How should he learn to manage his money, if he has so plenty?
Y’all two are so out of touch with reality and quick to defense cause you won’t acknowledge your privileges to their extent.
Wrf are you even talking about
@@maddiewetter6572 exactly what I said? If you watched the video you’d know what part I was talking about.
I was talking about Sam and Sophia
I think the man doesn't like OP's daughter and talks about her to his daughter. I feel, to him, this has been a long con.
I want to say this I do not agree with the bully, but just like what this person saying I feel like the husband has some form of resentment toward his wife for kicking his daughter out and forcing the daughter to live with the Mom because you wouldn’t get this upset over money when you’re OK with your son having this money, but I feel like that that he wants his daughter to be on his side like on his good side because maybe the daughter feel some also some form of resentment because She was like well. My dad didn’t choose me. He chose a person who isn’t blood so I think that’s the reason why the father was going so so hard for his daughter because he feels some sort of the way of like I shouldn’t have done that and I just stick up for my daughter, but I chose to stick up for my wife and my wife’s daughter and that is the reason why I think he went so hard to bat for his daughter because he feels that he didn’t do enough for his daughter again not agreeing that the 35:21 stepdaughter was bullying OP’s daughter, but is trying to make sense with the father like going so hard to bat because he feels low-key a little resentment that he had to kick his daughter out
You can actually get gold anywhere. 👀
12:26 I mean, arguments towards him being gold digger, he went through with moving in with OP when then kids were against it.and then sent his daughter to live with her mom. I get that we can’t negotiate with terrorists, my bad I meant kids, but Idk
14:02 I can kinda see the merits of this comment tbh
Sam hair is better messy/spiky not beaber hair
Did bo say "eat out the rich"? 😮 2:26
First story divorce
woow 2 mins ago! I caught it early this time! Wow 5th comment and 6th like, I feel like the early Pidgeon that got the Ok Storytime worm!
Honestly Sam, we’d be fine with any position, front or back 😂
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I also think it was an overreaction. She was only 13, every kid deserves a chance to learn from their mistakes instead of being separated from their new home and father. Stuff like this breeds hate. If granted the opportunity, she could have learned to love her new step-sister and step-mother and grow as a family.
Omg, seriously. So being 13 is an excuse for being a bully for the next 5 years and behaving like an ahole with her stepmother. And then she comes and expects to have the same treatment. She hurt her daughter for years and she only felt sorry when she saw she wasn't getting any money out of it. And the dad had no right to ask her to give her money, much less leave her own daughter with less so they could share. He was the one that had to provide for her
She was 13, now she’s 18 + and remains a bully… she knows better and she hasn’t learned to respect her step mom while simultaneously sounds entitled along with her father. You don’t bite the hand that feeds you. She can ask her own mother and father to finance medical school.
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Is it just me or does the step mom have some issues and seen what she decided was a bully in a young child and from what sounds like it voiced it and labled the child and treated the child as such… then was shocked the child never turned it around or liked her with time after accepting her in time like it takes a child from divorce. Sounds like she helped create the situation because she hasn’t worked with her past.
I feel the exact same way. Shame on OP for treating a child that way and expecting anything from that child afterward.
So bullying is acceptable if the child has issues? Keep in mind this was not a one time incident, I happened continuously for 5 years and her own brother is in bad terms with her
But the stepdaughter kept it going on for years, and when they had the "tea", OP brought up the high-school bullying, and the stepdaughter was surprised she knew about it. Doesn't seem like they really talked, nor the father parented the stepdaughter. Yes, OP may be projecting a bit. At the same time, it was justified.
@@alexiatr No one is saying bullying is acceptable, she was a child and she needed help. She never got that help and it continued for years. Hence the "she helped create the situation."
@@Py-Py-Py but that was something for the dad to fix, not OP
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The first story is unfortunate, bc I do feel like OP overreacted. If I didn't hear it wrong, the stepdaughter was 13 at the time and OP was the adult in that situation. There's a chance that all these hate between the two could have been resolved if the stepdaughter didn't get send away? I felt like OP projected her trauma onto her daughter a bit, and now the stepdaughter learnt there're no 2nd chances in life. Some ppl act even worst bc they're already on the edge and they'll think "you already think the worst of me so why should I be nice?" And that's why I think she continued her disrespectful behaviour. I'm not defending the bully behaviour, I'm just explaining this hate could have been transmuted if there's love from both parent & step parent.
As for the money, I think it's pretty hard to work part-time and also do med school. But of course it is OP's rights to not give the money. However, in this particular situation she is driving the edge even further between the stepbrother & stepsister. As a bystander I can't say if it's right or wrong, but I'm just seeing the cause and effect aka karma.
Nobody heard the fact she bullied her daughter for 5 years? And now she is expected to give her money as a reward?
@@alexiatr Actually the way the story was written was confusing for me bc facts were put in here and there. So no, I really didn't hear it. But thanks for the info.
Op overreacted when the atep daughter bullied her step sister. Yes a correction is needed, however kids naturally fight especially sisters, its worse that they are the same age. All she is doing is alienating her step daughter, and no wonder she is spiteful to this day, and continued to bully her.
It's not natural to enlist friends in a different school to continue bullying your stepsibling. OP read the stepdaughter's character correctly and made the right call.
You are the bully apologist she was talking about 😂
Bullying is never acceptable. Coments like "siblings fight" "boys would be boys" are just justification for the bullies. The stepmother owed her zero. She did not raise them, she didn't promise anything. Her stepdaughter is not entitled to her money.
The bullying continued. I blame the father, he is a coward.
@@erima4270 She was a troubled child whose parents divorced, her father remarried then (likely out of fear of being replaced) bullied her new step sister and not only got alienated by her new family members but her own father too- so yes, it is not natural to do that. The child clearly needed help.
I think op totally overreacted in the first story. The daughter was young and both parents did nothing to discipline her. All op did was send her away. Of course the daughter will probably hate her more, especially since she's a new person in their lives. Op did nothing to gain any bond with her.. I don't feel like Opie respects that her partner has children also and they should all be treated equally
It’s difficult to combine two families, especially when one of the kids is a B… I think op did everything right in trying to protect her biological daughter ❤️ I’m really wondering what happened next 🫣