Yes! Met the woman of my dreams just after my t3 spinal injury. We were in college. She's an able bodied woman who happened to fall in love with a guy who uses wheels instead of legs. That was 36 years ago... been married for 33 years and we have four children (the last two are twins). I'm still a very active and outdoorsy wheelchair user and she is still in great shape and works out at the gym three or four times a week. We've had our ups and downs just like any other couple who've been married for 33 years... but we still love each other and keep rolling along!
I'm going to college to become a physical therapist and your videos are very helpful to help me understand some things about the people that I will be working with in the future.
LOL. I lost it when, in editing, the conversation changed abruptly from a discussion on sex to...grocery shopping. LOL. I am totally afraid of exploring a new sex life as a gay man. So, when it starts getting intense, I'll go grocery shopping. love you guys. Thank you.
Today is our 50th anniversary. On our 5th he was in the burn unit at Cleveland Metro. On our 10th, I was in a wheelchair. He has now been diagnosed with a series of spinal cord injuries and is in a chair. Pretty much one thing after another forever. You guys have nailed exactly how a relationship works well. He is a C4, incomplete Asia d. We are always there for each other, complete honesty and trust. Love of my life and best friend. Hang in there, you are teaching some great things.
As a wheelchair user seeing things through Jalila's experience of going from LEVEL 0: Had never been to a hospital due to any emergency to LEVEL 10: Watching someone you love (Richard) deal with the car accident experience, I'm sure would mess with anyone's psyche.
This video is so insightful for someone about to be in a relationship with a wheelchair user, I'm literally going to give this link to any future love interest and tell them if they want to know about me, but are afraid that I'd be misrepresenting some things to appear in a more favorable light, just take it from someone else, because this is 100% me. Thank you Jalila and Richard!
Hello Dominic. My name is Garland, I am in a wheelchair and fiance is a full able body. We have a channel about our interabled relationship. We are continuing a series that she did about her insight inside our relationship. If you are interested, you can go to our channel and watch the series. She is also going to continue it and it will be Thursdays.
You two are such a lovely couple ❤ Both myself and my boyfriend have chronic illnesses, but neither of us are in wheelchairs or use mobility aids. I think a lot of what you talk about is true for couple's with any medical issues. I have some systems in place to help my health and my bf has his systems too. We are long distance so don't get to see each other often, and with this coronavirus it's been at least 3 months :( I think a useful phrase in any relationship is "is there anything I can do to help?" It lets the other person know you're there and available and puts them in charge. I think problems arise when we assume someone needs help and assume what they need doing. Asking is a better bet. Also it sounds like Jelila (sorry I've probably spelt that wrong) understandably experienced second hand trauma from the crash. I'm proud of her for coping with it in healthy ways, and Richard how you cope with set backs and new problems is inspiring. It is telling of the work you've put in over the years to rebuild life from rock bottom. I've heard there are 5 ways of expressing and feeling loved: physical touch, kind words, thoughtful deeds, gifts and companionship. It sounds like to me you have both figured out what the other needs which is fantastic and so important to have a healthy and strong relationship. Much love to both of you ❤❤❤
Thank you for posting this video. I just lost my ability to walk due to my cancer and I’m married. We r having such a hard time dealing with everything! Even intimacy. I’m forwarding the video to my husband I hope he gives it a try to listen. Thanks again and God bless u guys.
Thanks for making these films. I was given a wheelchair years ago, but I haven't used it. I haven't even been outside for 2 years! You've taught me more in a few minutes than my physiotherapist ever did! I feel much more confident to use it now. I'm actually quite excited to learn what I've been watching! Cheers very much! 👍🏻
2 months into Dating my Partner my metal burst through my skin and brought 9 vertebra with it, during a lunch Date. I had to get airlifted to a hospital 6 hours away and have major back surgery. Probs not the best start to a relationship 😅
Thank you for this video. I really wish this was around when I was newly injured. I am a t6-t8 paraplegic. I've been with my husband 7 years (married 4) and we have a 3 year old son.
I’m an above knee amputee and use my chair more than my prosthesis due to nerve damage and injury to my meat leg. I also have kids. My beautiful husband took us all on. My accident was 17 years ago and my amputation was 11 years ago. We met six years ago. Not only do we have a strong and loving relationship but we have had children together and he took on my other kids. Too many people assume that, because I’m disabled, our relationship can’t possibly be fulfilling for him and he must be in more or a parent type role. That is absolutely not the case. He works outside the home and I work from home. I’m the primary caregiver for the children and he steps in as soon as he gets home. I also take care of the house because I’m home. When he’s home we share all the duties. He’s an excellent husband and father and we have a very close and very “normal” relationship. My wheelchair is a part of me but it doesn’t define me.
The part about not creating systems that constantly rely on your partner really struck me. I’ve only ever been in relationships with “able-bodied” men & SO many times that has happened & I’ve felt like a mother or a maid. I do think I would feel differently if I was dating a guy who legitimately required assistance with ADLs but when its just laziness its so annoying!
This was so helpful. I think everyone striving to be a good partner can take something away from this regardless of their abilities. What you both do so well is communicate - something so often overlooked. I can't read your mind man!
I'm a wheelchair user and never had a gf. Although it may present a challenge I dont think it stops me from being in a relationship. My problem is I'm a bit of an oddball. Or I suppose you can say I'm unique depending on how you look at it. Some people aren't meant to be in relationships and I guess I can accept that. Despite my disability and no romance I still enjoy life! Got good friends and a beautiful family. Thanks for such an inspirational video!
Damn bro I understand exactly how you feel because I’ve been through a lot in my life and I do appreciate your videos. You are a very lucky guy to find someone like her God bless you guys
Communication is soooo important in relationships on it's own but even more important for a disabled/ able bodied couple's relationship. I'm not in a wheelchair, I'm visually impaired, but a lot that was mentioned in this video is very relavent to my fiance and I. So important to talk about this stuff.
Of course they can. I’m a paraplegic, complete. My boyfriend and I were together for 8 yrs. We even lived together and had a baby daughter. She’s now 22 and even though the two of us aren’t together anymore we’ll still spend time together during certain holidays with our daughter and other family members.
The systems thing is actually really helpful hearing y'all talk about as I'm someone who's very particular and there are many things that I need to do a certain way. I've been worried how that'll play into things and it's nice seeing it work!
So funny to watch what is happening in the background. One second a person is walking along, the next they're gone. But I paid attention to the main topic as well. Some great observations, for you two, and in general.
I've always been independent, when my disability started taken it's toll, I still had to find a way to things on my own, I've been in a wheelchair of and on, now in my later years full time, I still don't ask for any help, that may stem from my PTSD, but I have had to learn/adapt, on the flip, it still amazes me that when I look like I am struggling to reach something, or do something that people act like your invisible, I like your videos. not all info videos are inform ably there, your girlfriend is amazing and a rare find in this day in age of over ego people trapped in there phones and such
I met my husband 10 1/2 years after my injury. We’ve been Married for almost 20 years, 3 grown kids (first two from his previous marriage, his first passed away due to breast cancer, third... I gave birth, too). I live my life as a wife and mother, we don’t focus on the chair. They help when needed. Advice from your video... don’t live together. Treat her like a lady and marry her if you love her. Marriage is a huge commitment and I love it!!
Wow! 2 adults talking so good. So good. As a female in mid-70's I know everyone is going to change sooner or later and to be adaptable. And thanks for including the open sex discussion. Now I use a rollator and if I want to enjoy cruising a path in a park - give me my powerchair. Thanks for the great videos. And wise words.
Absolute BANGER of a video!! So much I want to say but I'm gonna have to watch it again right now, SO good, these are the types of videos I love from you guys! I love to see Richard when he's with Jalila, he seems so much more relaxed and comfortable. You guys are adorable.
Catching up on some of your videos - Y’all are such a cute couple!! I notice you talked about some of the 5 Love Languages!! Understanding that is key to all relationships!! I literally busted out when you said that you had to tell two stories just to get to the main story. My husband hates that about me. I have had to learn to get to punchline then give the back stories. 😂
Listening to you both talk about your relationship is refreshing, your honesty with each other and us viewers is awe inspiring. I am from an older generation where such openness was frowned apon if not taboo. I think if more people communicated as well as you two do then relationships would flourish and last, I have seen too many relationships flounder and die because of a misunderstanding or/and embarrassment, A lot of able bodied relationships would benefit from your experiences. I think you compliment each other in so many ways and if the truth be told your girlfriend is right when she says the wheelchair is just part and package of who you are... All relationships able bodied or otherwise should be based on mutual respect for each other and each others space. You guys are awesome together, may you have a long life together... One thing for sure your sex life will never be boring (I am almost jealous... Lol) 👍❤️
Hi There is a lot of things I did not know about people in wheelchairs, this is so educational. I’m sure you have your moments,and we all do. I think you’re amazing and so brave. God bless
3rd: l'm happy you found each other! You're kind of chef in yopr life and she's strong enough to be her chef in your relationship. That's necessary! That you're your own chef and she's not your nurse but your partner is the first important thing! Dignity says this! Thanks for this all!
You guys are awesome since iv been watching your videos it's been getting my my self-esteem up more nd giving me the will to go nd shoot my shot at the one person who would love me for me
Although, we can express love by helping our significant other - whether or not they have a disability - nobody wants to be in a relationship with their mom (or Dad). Meaning a caretaker. It's a delicate balance.
Hello Dennis. My name is Kyzia. I am in an interabled relationship. My fiance is paralyzed from the waist down. We have been together for almost ten years. We just dealt with a wound that finally healed after a year. She helped with many things I needed taken care of that I personally couldn't do myself because I was in bed for a year. Caretaking is apart of our relationship but it's not like a mom or dad taking care of their child. She takes care of me because she loves me. Now, I am able to do many things that I couldn't do while in bed. But, its not like that at all.
I love love love Julia. She is amazing...you better be keeping her around, she's pretty awesome. ;) Who'd ever thought, Richard is the gurl in the relationship!! LOL Oh, Georgia Gal here too!! I'm in Flowery Branch but only recently. Cumming, GA is my hometown.
Your videos are really helping me out to get use to the idea that I am going to have to have a wheelchair. In my case it is not because of injury it is because of safety. I fall way too much and the falls are getting more serious, to the point that doctors and I are worried about brain injury or spinal cord injury from the falls. I have already had major kidney damage from a major fall. The fact that I don't know when a fall will happen is what is very scary
The most important sentence was: help doing it my way" and to be as indepedndent as possible and that the peartner shouldn't be opset with it. That's so true! Important like hell is to sve indignity of every person. That has nothing to do with disability but with all humanity!
5:46 I also have some things I like to do myself because it gets me moving, and I have things I like to do or have done a certain way because it's more convenient for me. 13:14 I feel that should be the case in *any* relationship. Jalila is kind of like my dearest Cori, in that she just says things the way she feels them. I think that's good, especially because I'm Dutch. If you want to know why that matters, I'd be happy to recommend a video for you to watch.
Mentor teacher Leader thank you Richard for being so amazing you truly inspire me in so many different ways your inner strength tenacity and perseverance shines in such a wonderful way you have a wonderful gift to motivate and encourage people you inspire me to be a better person I also have videos on RUclips (spiritual health is wealth ibn Washington)
At the local low income senior apartment were a couple who had had polio. She would drive a scooter with him in a trailer like seat. Together to the end. Slowly the polio effects came back, sort of. Years of disability took its toll on her. Married many years, their decades love was forever. Many disabled people have long love life’s and failure is not from their limitations. I will never ever have a lover or mate. Because I am not looking for love anymore. Good luck with love.
My husband cries when watching movies/tv shows too. It's funny we will both be bawling about a sad moment. Lol he is emotional too it's one of the things I love about him.
Me and my boyfriend have a very similar situation … my boyfriend went to so many training to be able to help me took us a few years in order to be intimate. It’s still not perfect
You mentioned Bowel and Bladder stuff. When do you think it’s okay to talk about that kind of ‘awkward’ topic? I’m not dating right now, but it’s been a scary topic to me to think that I might meet someone I’m interested in and scare them away because of my weird problems. Like... “Hey dude, I pee with a catheter FYI” 😶
Maybe once you start to stay at their place overnight. My bestie cannot have kids and because that can be a big deal breaker she bring that up on the first date.
I always thought it was something you should just keep to yourself until it’s a serious relationship. the only person who’s not in my family that knows that kind of stuff about me is my best friend.
Personally, I would just assume any wheelchair user would have a bladder/bowel program. But I probably have more experience with such subjects than the average Joe. And personally, I’m ok with bodily fluids and helping in such situations.
Yes they can. I am a home care nurse. I had several clients who were in a long term relationship. 1980-2020 when she died of Covid. They couldn’t get married because if they did, they would have lost 1/2 of their disability income
I was injured from a car accident at 52. Hardly seems real that it’s already been about 10 years now. I’m no longer taking any pain meds or anything for spasms. I feel blessed that those things are now minor and tolerable. I did develop blood clots about a year and a half ago, so now I do take Eliquis. I’m curious about your journey with going vegan. How long did you do that? Never did I realize I’d be going poop so much. I guess that’s why I’m a Flexitarian... Standard American Diet 20% / vegan 80%. Hence the term, Flexitarian. That diet does not affect my bowels in the same way. I already have to cath 5 times a day. I didn’t want to deal with added bowel movements too. 😂🤣
As a Wheelchair user (Lifelong) I am loving your Vlogs. She is HOT as (Yes, I am Jealous LOL) I also took notice of her shirt "Authentic & Genuine". Is she for real? Congratz.
You mentioned your pain in the video, can you do one that goes into more detail about your pain. Based on my disability, my partner needs to do the majority of things around the house & when we leave the house. I try to be as independent as I possibly can, but not even close to how you are.
Hi. I have a question. I want to buy Kuschall K series 2.0 Right now i have quickie wheelchair. My seat depth on quickie is about 44cm,and mu knees are in front of the frame..and I want on Kuschall to be longer seat depth 47,5cm. My question is,if I make my seat depth longer on Kuschall,will frame be in front of my knees automatically,or I have to choose also longer frame for about 5cm? I want a longer seat depth,but I also want frame to be in front of my knees-legs.. I have the same problem as you do,when you went to manually adjust your chair..Thank you in advance 🙂
@@davidalavarado8792 I always feel like a burden on the other half because I can't do as much for myself and sometimes I need help with my wheelchair and things but there's actually more that I can do...
Wow ! Thank you ! nice to see open talk about this. 42 years of sci, with the last ten completely single, got me thinking I may stay that way forever. Realizing I just have mostly non negotiable "systems" that well work for me, helped me think about possibly "integrating" again. Unfortunately most single gals my age, need a guy, however cool and independent, in a chair, as much as a fish might need a bicycle...
So the one trick here is finding a person thats a better person than yourself. But its damn hard though....i personally never want to discuss the deets of my struggles because i feel i dont need to trouble my partner at the time with any issues that a normal relationship with a normal person would not have. Perhaps its all about finding the right person who you can open up to...
I didn't know people in wheelchair have a certain way to do things even though I use a wheelchair. I thought that it was my ^autistic trait" that made me to do certain things
iTS Amazing to find some one that dose not care that your disabled dont end it when I talk or try n date has ben for over 10 Years since i was ran over by a drunk. But always its about bing fiscal able and Money and how could I take care of them? I take care of my self and have scince the run over, But women I have found are shallow and its what u due n give them..Noting bad on you two, Congrats on finding each other Cherish your time together. Good luck. Be safe n healthy . take care of each other.
Yes! Met the woman of my dreams just after my t3 spinal injury. We were in college. She's an able bodied woman who happened to fall in love with a guy who uses wheels instead of legs. That was 36 years ago... been married for 33 years and we have four children (the last two are twins). I'm still a very active and outdoorsy wheelchair user and she is still in great shape and works out at the gym three or four times a week. We've had our ups and downs just like any other couple who've been married for 33 years... but we still love each other and keep rolling along!
"We can't control the situation, but we can control how we how we react to it". Beautifully said my friend.
A bit differant but married for 42 years. First twenty before my accident, last twenty a paraplegic. My wife would put angeles to shame.
That’s a great way to put it!
I'm going to college to become a physical therapist and your videos are very helpful to help me understand some things about the people that I will be working with in the future.
That’s great! So awesome to know these videos are helping for different reasons :)
Love the honesty. LOVE the way the wind is blowing her hair.
Thanks Hanna! She’s gorgeous and I’m so lucky 😍
@@Wheels2Walking are you and Jalila still together?
LOL. I lost it when, in editing, the conversation changed abruptly from a discussion on sex to...grocery shopping. LOL. I am totally afraid of exploring a new sex life as a gay man. So, when it starts getting intense, I'll go grocery shopping. love you guys. Thank you.
LMAO 😂😂 I wanted to spice up the beginning of the convo
I’d expect gay dudes to be the most open to explore sexually! I mean, come on, you gotta get creative already. What’s one extra step 🤷🏻♂️
That was funny 😆
Today is our 50th anniversary. On our 5th he was in the burn unit at Cleveland Metro. On our 10th, I was in a wheelchair. He has now been diagnosed with a series of spinal cord injuries and is in a chair. Pretty much one thing after another forever. You guys have nailed exactly how a relationship works well. He is a C4, incomplete Asia d. We are always there for each other, complete honesty and trust. Love of my life and best friend. Hang in there, you are teaching some great things.
As a wheelchair user seeing things through Jalila's experience of going from LEVEL 0: Had never been to a hospital due to any emergency to LEVEL 10: Watching someone you love (Richard) deal with the car accident experience, I'm sure would mess with anyone's psyche.
You’re right! Quite literally anyone would be shook
This video is so insightful for someone about to be in a relationship with a wheelchair user, I'm literally going to give this link to any future love interest and tell them if they want to know about me, but are afraid that I'd be misrepresenting some things to appear in a more favorable light, just take it from someone else, because this is 100% me. Thank you Jalila and Richard!
This video and the one we did before is also good!
Hello Dominic. My name is Garland, I am in a wheelchair and fiance is a full able body. We have a channel about our interabled relationship. We are continuing a series that she did about her insight inside our relationship. If you are interested, you can go to our channel and watch the series. She is also going to continue it and it will be Thursdays.
@@SteakandKupcakes Hello! Thanks, I will definitely check it out later this day!
So sweet of you both to share details of your relationship. Always giving hope,encouragement and love.
You two are such a lovely couple ❤ Both myself and my boyfriend have chronic illnesses, but neither of us are in wheelchairs or use mobility aids. I think a lot of what you talk about is true for couple's with any medical issues. I have some systems in place to help my health and my bf has his systems too. We are long distance so don't get to see each other often, and with this coronavirus it's been at least 3 months :(
I think a useful phrase in any relationship is "is there anything I can do to help?" It lets the other person know you're there and available and puts them in charge. I think problems arise when we assume someone needs help and assume what they need doing. Asking is a better bet.
Also it sounds like Jelila (sorry I've probably spelt that wrong) understandably experienced second hand trauma from the crash. I'm proud of her for coping with it in healthy ways, and Richard how you cope with set backs and new problems is inspiring. It is telling of the work you've put in over the years to rebuild life from rock bottom.
I've heard there are 5 ways of expressing and feeling loved: physical touch, kind words, thoughtful deeds, gifts and companionship. It sounds like to me you have both figured out what the other needs which is fantastic and so important to have a healthy and strong relationship.
Much love to both of you ❤❤❤
Thank you for posting this video. I just lost my ability to walk due to my cancer and I’m married. We r having such a hard time dealing with everything! Even intimacy. I’m forwarding the video to my husband I hope he gives it a try to listen. Thanks again and God bless u guys.
Thanks for making these films. I was given a wheelchair years ago, but I haven't used it. I haven't even been outside for 2 years!
You've taught me more in a few minutes than my physiotherapist ever did!
I feel much more confident to use it now. I'm actually quite excited to learn what I've been watching! Cheers very much! 👍🏻
Hie Scott..can we be friends
Go for it S Grant!!! I am a wheelchair user and lately I’ve been working out and just learning ways to love myself more! So go for it!!!
Been married 5 years before I needed a wheelchair. I’ve been on a wheelchair over 4 years now and things are going pretty well.
Honestly I wasn't expecting this video to be so good. This is a very important subject.
Congrats Richard!
Happy to hear we were able to exceed your expectations 🙏🏻
2 months into Dating my Partner my metal burst through my skin and brought 9 vertebra with it, during a lunch Date. I had to get airlifted to a hospital 6 hours away and have major back surgery.
Probs not the best start to a relationship 😅
Thank you for this video. I really wish this was around when I was newly injured. I am a t6-t8 paraplegic. I've been with my husband 7 years (married 4) and we have a 3 year old son.
I’m an above knee amputee and use my chair more than my prosthesis due to nerve damage and injury to my meat leg. I also have kids. My beautiful husband took us all on. My accident was 17 years ago and my amputation was 11 years ago. We met six years ago. Not only do we have a strong and loving relationship but we have had children together and he took on my other kids. Too many people assume that, because I’m disabled, our relationship can’t possibly be fulfilling for him and he must be in more or a parent type role. That is absolutely not the case. He works outside the home and I work from home. I’m the primary caregiver for the children and he steps in as soon as he gets home. I also take care of the house because I’m home. When he’s home we share all the duties. He’s an excellent husband and father and we have a very close and very “normal” relationship. My wheelchair is a part of me but it doesn’t define me.
The part about not creating systems that constantly rely on your partner really struck me. I’ve only ever been in relationships with “able-bodied” men & SO many times that has happened & I’ve felt like a mother or a maid.
I do think I would feel differently if I was dating a guy who legitimately required assistance with ADLs but when its just laziness its so annoying!
This was so helpful. I think everyone striving to be a good partner can take something away from this regardless of their abilities. What you both do so well is communicate - something so often overlooked. I can't read your mind man!
I'm a wheelchair user and never had a gf. Although it may present a challenge I dont think it stops me from being in a relationship. My problem is I'm a bit of an oddball. Or I suppose you can say I'm unique depending on how you look at it. Some people aren't meant to be in relationships and I guess I can accept that. Despite my disability and no romance I still enjoy life! Got good friends and a beautiful family. Thanks for such an inspirational video!
Damn bro I understand exactly how you feel because I’ve been through a lot in my life and I do appreciate your videos. You are a very lucky guy to find someone like her God bless you guys
Communication is soooo important in relationships on it's own but even more important for a disabled/ able bodied couple's relationship. I'm not in a wheelchair, I'm visually impaired, but a lot that was mentioned in this video is very relavent to my fiance and I. So important to talk about this stuff.
Married for 25 years..my age 23 I meet my wife a able body..I had an accident since than still positive thinking..keep on going guys👍
Married 20 years, 9 year old twinson/daughter and 14 year old daughter. My wife is unbelievable patient to put up with me.
I think the same thing, but she assures me that she thinks SHES the difficult one lol
Of course they can. I’m a paraplegic, complete. My boyfriend and I were together for 8 yrs. We even lived together and had a baby daughter. She’s now 22 and even though the two of us aren’t together anymore we’ll still spend time together during certain holidays with our daughter and other family members.
The systems thing is actually really helpful hearing y'all talk about as I'm someone who's very particular and there are many things that I need to do a certain way. I've been worried how that'll play into things and it's nice seeing it work!
So funny to watch what is happening in the background. One second a person is walking along, the next they're gone. But I paid attention to the main topic as well. Some great observations, for you two, and in general.
lol yeah that can happen with a busy background :)
I appreciate it!!! All of your videos are SO INSIGHTFUL. Greatly appreciated
I’m so grateful you’re enjoying them!
I've always been independent, when my disability started taken it's toll, I still had to find a way to things on my own, I've been in a wheelchair of and on, now in my later years full time, I still don't ask for any help, that may stem from my PTSD, but I have had to learn/adapt, on the flip, it still amazes me that when I look like I am struggling to reach something, or do something that people act like your invisible,
I like your videos. not all info videos are inform ably there, your girlfriend is amazing and a rare find in this day in age of over ego people trapped in there phones and such
I added this to my public play list to let people know it's NOT a big deal❣️
Thank you!
As a wheelchair user I'd just be happy to find a short term relationship lol
I met my husband 10 1/2 years after my injury. We’ve been Married for almost 20 years, 3 grown kids (first two from his previous marriage, his first passed away due to breast cancer, third... I gave birth, too). I live my life as a wife and mother, we don’t focus on the chair. They help when needed. Advice from your video... don’t live together. Treat her like a lady and marry her if you love her. Marriage is a huge commitment and I love it!!
My wife has dealt with a major pressure sore in the first year of our marriage. It was scary for her but she didnt blink she just was there for me.
Yes we can , I’ve been married for 3 years 💪🏼✅
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Wow! 2 adults talking so good. So good. As a female in mid-70's I know everyone is going to change sooner or later and to be adaptable. And thanks for including the open sex discussion. Now I use a rollator and if I want to enjoy cruising a path in a park - give me my powerchair.
Thanks for the great videos. And wise words.
This sure gives me hope
Thank you for making this video! It was something that I had to see and hear!
Getting straight into the dirties! I love your honesty!
Dirty stuff is the best kinda stuff 😋
@@Wheels2Walking I'll drink to that 😂
Absolute BANGER of a video!! So much I want to say but I'm gonna have to watch it again right now, SO good, these are the types of videos I love from you guys! I love to see Richard when he's with Jalila, he seems so much more relaxed and comfortable. You guys are adorable.
@@drawingdragons4097 ikr
They're probably PATREON supporters and, people on PATREON usually get to see these videos about 24hrs before they go live on the normal W2W channel.
@@ilichiregius2884 😏😏😏😏
@@drawingdragons4097 Yeah dude, I'm on Patreon so I get to see it early. Thats why 😊
Freddo Smith that’s what I assumed lol
I feel so relax and peace to see your video.
Catching up on some of your videos - Y’all are such a cute couple!! I notice you talked about some of the 5 Love Languages!! Understanding that is key to all relationships!! I literally busted out when you said that you had to tell two stories just to get to the main story. My husband hates that about me. I have had to learn to get to punchline then give the back stories. 😂
I'm SCI c5-c6 since 1995 and with my wife since 1997. We have two children and never have been happier than now. Best regards.
This is such good advice for any couple, wheelchair or not. Great vid
This was not "can they" but "how can they be in a long time relationship" and that was so great! Thank you!
I like the video and I love you guys Energy in how you both can tell the real truth about each other with no problem and still laugh at the same time
That’s how it’s gotta be. Open and real about everything and laugh at the uncomfortable stuff 😂
This was a fantastic video! And I teared up a little at the end, not gonna lie!
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Awesome ....been waiting to see another video from you
New videos every Tuesday!
Listening to you both talk about your relationship is refreshing, your honesty with each other and us viewers is awe inspiring. I am from an older generation where such openness was frowned apon if not taboo. I think if more people communicated as well as you two do then relationships would flourish and last, I have seen too many relationships flounder and die because of a misunderstanding or/and embarrassment, A lot of able bodied relationships would benefit from your experiences. I think you compliment each other in so many ways and if the truth be told your girlfriend is right when she says the wheelchair is just part and package of who you are... All relationships able bodied or otherwise should be based on mutual respect for each other and each others space. You guys are awesome together, may you have a long life together... One thing for sure your sex life will never be boring (I am almost jealous... Lol) 👍❤️
Hi There is a lot of things I did not know about people in wheelchairs, this is so educational. I’m sure you have your moments,and we all do. I think you’re amazing and so brave. God bless
I love the open and honest attitude in this vigeo
I am happy that you two are happy :)
3rd: l'm happy you found each other! You're kind of chef in yopr life and she's strong enough to be her chef in your relationship. That's necessary! That you're your own chef and she's not your nurse but your partner is the first important thing! Dignity says this! Thanks for this all!
the two of you are so cute together
Shes lucky to have you ❤️
Your a survivor 💪 and a badass. Just starting watching your videos and love your honest talk
You're strong man~ i think you'll win fight with Superman.^^ i feel so happy from your video. Thank you . I'm disabled person too!
You guys are awesome since iv been watching your videos it's been getting my my self-esteem up more nd giving me the will to go nd shoot my shot at the one person who would love me for me
As always, excellent information.👍✌
Such an inspiration thanks for all the great videos
Great video and very helpful. Thanks for sharing
Although, we can express love by helping our significant other - whether or not they have a disability - nobody wants to be in a relationship with their mom (or Dad). Meaning a caretaker. It's a delicate balance.
Hello Dennis. My name is Kyzia. I am in an interabled relationship. My fiance is paralyzed from the waist down. We have been together for almost ten years. We just dealt with a wound that finally healed after a year. She helped with many things I needed taken care of that I personally couldn't do myself because I was in bed for a year. Caretaking is apart of our relationship but it's not like a mom or dad taking care of their child. She takes care of me because she loves me. Now, I am able to do many things that I couldn't do while in bed. But, its not like that at all.
Wow you two are incredible. Loved this episode and thanks for being a badass
Thanks bro! I’m so glad I can keep showing her off and the dynamics of our relationship :)
I love love love Julia. She is amazing...you better be keeping her around, she's pretty awesome. ;) Who'd ever thought, Richard is the gurl in the relationship!! LOL Oh, Georgia Gal here too!! I'm in Flowery Branch but only recently. Cumming, GA is my hometown.
Long live together 🙌🏼❤️❤️ LOVE move the world!
Your videos are really helping me out to get use to the idea that I am going to have to have a wheelchair. In my case it is not because of injury it is because of safety. I fall way too much and the falls are getting more serious, to the point that doctors and I are worried about brain injury or spinal cord injury from the falls. I have already had major kidney damage from a major fall. The fact that I don't know when a fall will happen is what is very scary
Dude I surf every week and I’m hiking Machu Picchu this year... T1 complete.
The most important sentence was: help doing it my way" and to be as indepedndent as possible and that the peartner shouldn't be opset with it. That's so true! Important like hell is to sve indignity of every person. That has nothing to do with disability but with all humanity!
I wish I(non-wheelchair) would even attempt half(25%?) of the activities you partake in!🤔
Another great video bud!
Thanks Kim!
This was so great to watch and hear :) Congratulations you are very cute and sweet together.
Two angels met. Wonderful !
The food part lmfao 😂😂😂 systems my ass 🤣🤣
5:46 I also have some things I like to do myself because it gets me moving, and I have things I like to do or have done a certain way because it's more convenient for me.
13:14 I feel that should be the case in *any* relationship.
Jalila is kind of like my dearest Cori, in that she just says things the way she feels them. I think that's good, especially because I'm Dutch. If you want to know why that matters, I'd be happy to recommend a video for you to watch.
You motivate me so much bro specially to get a beautiful good woman as far as being in a wheel chair
As a person who uses a wheelchair I can't stand when ppl give me help when I would figure things out my way lol 😂
He is so in love!
Smitten 😍
You two are a totally adorable couple ! ❤
1st love the way u two gell together ( u know a great couple ) 2nd do u do the swimming pool?
Mentor teacher Leader thank you Richard for being so amazing you truly inspire me in so many different ways your inner strength tenacity and perseverance shines in such a wonderful way you have a wonderful gift to motivate and encourage people you inspire me to be a better person I also have videos on RUclips (spiritual health is wealth ibn Washington)
At the local low income senior apartment were a couple who had had polio. She would drive a scooter with him in a trailer like seat. Together to the end. Slowly the polio effects came back, sort of. Years of disability took its toll on her. Married many years, their decades love was forever. Many disabled people have long love life’s and failure is not from their limitations.
I will never ever have a lover or mate. Because I am not looking for love anymore. Good luck with love.
My husband cries when watching movies/tv shows too. It's funny we will both be bawling about a sad moment. Lol he is emotional too it's one of the things I love about him.
I’m an emo little biotch lol
😹 it’s cool. Better to be an emo biotch than a heartless hag.
9:59 pogchamp, what a beautiful girl you got! lucky and great video too!
Broke up widepeepoSad
Me and my boyfriend have a very similar situation … my boyfriend went to so many training to be able to help me took us a few years in order to be intimate. It’s still not perfect
You mentioned Bowel and Bladder stuff. When do you think it’s okay to talk about that kind of ‘awkward’ topic? I’m not dating right now, but it’s been a scary topic to me to think that I might meet someone I’m interested in and scare them away because of my weird problems. Like...
“Hey dude, I pee with a catheter FYI” 😶
Maybe once you start to stay at their place overnight. My bestie cannot have kids and because that can be a big deal breaker she bring that up on the first date.
I've been wondering the same thing...
Maybe a video with your girlfriend on this topic could be helpful @wheels2walking
I always thought it was something you should just keep to yourself until it’s a serious relationship. the only person who’s not in my family that knows that kind of stuff about me is my best friend.
Personally, I would just assume any wheelchair user would have a bladder/bowel program. But I probably have more experience with such subjects than the average Joe. And personally, I’m ok with bodily fluids and helping in such situations.
Idk, I think it comes out when it comes out. Don’t think too much about it. I know every girl I’ve ever dated never cared. It’s was all in my head.
So relatable! And you two make a cute couple!
Your girlfriend is BEAUTIFUL 💚
Yes they can. I am a home care nurse. I had several clients who were in a long term relationship. 1980-2020 when she died of Covid. They couldn’t get married because if they did, they would have lost 1/2 of their disability income
I’ve heard about that issue and it’s a real problem 😢
I was injured from a car accident at 52. Hardly seems real that it’s already been about 10 years now. I’m no longer taking any pain meds or anything for spasms. I feel blessed that those things are now minor and tolerable. I did develop blood clots about a year and a half ago, so now I do take Eliquis.
I’m curious about your journey with going vegan. How long did you do that? Never did I realize I’d be going poop so much. I guess that’s why I’m a Flexitarian... Standard American Diet 20% / vegan 80%. Hence the term, Flexitarian. That diet does not affect my bowels in the same way. I already have to cath 5 times a day. I didn’t want to deal with added bowel movements too. 😂🤣
As a Wheelchair user (Lifelong) I am loving your Vlogs. She is HOT as (Yes, I am Jealous LOL) I also took notice of her shirt "Authentic & Genuine". Is she for real? Congratz.
OMG LOL.... I LOVE HER. She is BRUTAL & you deserve it LOL.
You mentioned your pain in the video, can you do one that goes into more detail about your pain. Based on my disability, my partner needs to do the majority of things around the house & when we leave the house. I try to be as independent as I possibly can, but not even close to how you are.
Hi. I have a question. I want to buy Kuschall K series 2.0 Right now i have quickie wheelchair. My seat depth on quickie is about 44cm,and mu knees are in front of the frame..and I want on Kuschall to be longer seat depth 47,5cm. My question is,if I make my seat depth longer on Kuschall,will frame be in front of my knees automatically,or I have to choose also longer frame for about 5cm? I want a longer seat depth,but I also want frame to be in front of my knees-legs.. I have the same problem as you do,when you went to manually adjust your chair..Thank you in advance 🙂
I love these couple videos!
I'd like to read The Untold Story but the link doesn't work on my computer.
I'm so glad I watched this video
Me too!
@@nickydonnelly3547 It makes me want to wait patiently for a girlfriend
@@davidalavarado8792 it's made me realise I can't do alot more than I think I can do within a relationship
@@nickydonnelly3547 what do you mean by that
@@davidalavarado8792 I always feel like a burden on the other half because I can't do as much for myself and sometimes I need help with my wheelchair and things but there's actually more that I can do...
Wow ! Thank you ! nice to see open talk about this. 42 years of sci, with the last ten completely single, got me thinking I may stay that way forever. Realizing I just have mostly non negotiable "systems" that well work for me, helped me think about possibly "integrating" again. Unfortunately most single gals my age, need a guy, however cool and independent, in a chair, as much as a fish might need a bicycle...
Can we be friends pliz
So the one trick here is finding a person thats a better person than yourself. But its damn hard though....i personally never want to discuss the deets of my struggles because i feel i dont need to trouble my partner at the time with any issues that a normal relationship with a normal person would not have. Perhaps its all about finding the right person who you can open up to...
I didn't know people in wheelchair have a certain way to do things even though I use a wheelchair. I thought that it was my ^autistic trait" that made me to do certain things
Oh I’m sure if I was “observed” some shrink could diagnose me with so many things 😂 I don’t think you’re alone in your particular ways 😉
@@Wheels2Walking thank you for teaching me a lot of things about being in a wheelchair. I struggle a lot understanding what people are saying to me.
Keep posting
She so pretty, I’m jealous
iTS Amazing to find some one that dose not care that your disabled dont end it when I talk or try n date has ben for over 10 Years since i was ran over by a drunk. But always its about bing fiscal able and Money and how could I take care of them? I take care of my self and have scince the run over, But women I have found are shallow and its what u due n give them..Noting bad on you two, Congrats on finding each other Cherish your time together. Good luck. Be safe n healthy . take care of each other.