How to be an Independent Wife in a Wheelchair!
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- Опубликовано: 13 июн 2024
- Friend of the channel Ally Grizzard shows us how she manages her home independently as a wife, partner, and spouse in a wheelchair! ⬛️OFFICIAL MERCH ⬛️ shopwheels2walking.com
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Please remember that all relationships are different and these are the things Ally chose to show how she contributes to her family and how she maintains her independence as wife.
This is how she chooses to live her life and wanted to share that. Isn’t that the whole point of women’s empowerment? A woman’s right to choose how she lives her life?
Wheels2Walking hey man I’m a c6 quadriplegic currently learning to be more independent. These videos have been so motivational. I appreciate you!
I love these tips. It's a big help to me being a newer wheelchair user. Even if I don't do things exactly the way she does it helps me figure out what ways will work best for me. And it helps me figure out what won't work for me too. I’m a mom to a 21-year-old and a 16-year-old so taking care of my daughters isn't a huge issue but there are still things they need me to help them with sometimes. And being a wife things are changing to so it's a learning process. Any and all tips are worth at least listening to and considering.
I m really thankfull to her for showing us how something's can be handled in a household. I can't work right now and doing the jobs in the house really give me something I can be proud of. I live back at my mums and I get my first wheelchair on Friday in so excited to be able to do so much more.
Thank you so much for sharing!!!
great video rick
SJW's will always come out and be offended for other people bro, it's what gives their life meaning
Paraplegic since 14 , married and had a child when I was 20 , divorced single mom at 26 . Raised my child alone ... shes now 34 and the most compassionate person you will ever meet . She now lives with a newish paraplegic to help him out (her and her GF live with him ) . Being a child of someone disabled gives you more insight on the world and much more education about disabilities . Proud Para Mom who did it herself .
btw , carrying a child as a para is rough . The last 3 month I had to be in bed due to my kid resting on my bladder . Was able to use a catheter for about a month but then my kid would kink the catheter so it wouldnt drain ... hence having to be bed ridden for 3 months . I was induced but that didnt work so I had to have a C section .
Wow. You and your family are inspirational and aspirational to all 🥰
@@Wheels2Walking naw , just a bull headed , jackass willed paraplegic . :D
Awesome story, gives me hope! Starting a family is pretty scary as a paraplegic
Freddo Smith to be honest, I’m a para and it hasn’t been that scary for me. You learn to be creative and adapt as time goes on. I have a 3 year old. I’ve found that he has adapted to my disability as well.
Arrrhgh I HATE the baby question. So so much. My daughter took 3.5 years and 12 rounds of Clomid to conceive. By the end of those 3.5 years, I was so fed up with people asking that I would just smile and answer honestly: "I would love children but I'm infertile." It made people uncomfortable but hopefully, they think twice before asking someone that question again. 9 months after I was finished with breastfeeding her, my son was conceived spontaneously... I think fertility issues are sometimes meant to be our first lesson in parenting - expect the unexpected! I wish you lots of luck on your journey to parenthood!
Also, Wheels No Heels is a para mom, but I think she's based in the UK.
This is a great lesson and honestly a funny way to deal with the “asking too many personal questions” type of people.
Yes, Gem is in the UK. Hoping to find a mom locally but willing to travel once it’s safe to again.
Once again, I LOVE how open you are even about sex and -related! It's SO helpful to have someone explaining directly instead of being vague and bothered by the topic!
Yeah, we don’t like vague stuff. Enough of that grey stuff exists on the internet. Even in medical environments they don’t get into super specifics
I love it! I used to have some pretty shady, unreliable, unskilled "care providers" assigned to me when I was finally discharged to my new accessible apartment. I really disliked the idea of dependence. Well, even though my apartment is not exactly ADA ready, especially the bathroom, I needed my independence. So, I fired them all and went for it. First I strategized how to execute. Then I executed mistakes and all. Then I evaluated the results for successes and failures. Finally, I made adjustments to the plan until it worked for me. The vacuum, the moping, hand washing dishes (don't care for the dishwasher), cleaning surfaces, cleaning the bathroom, making and changing linens on the bed, doing laundry. All this with an insistence for beauty and order. Thank you for the latest installation and the affirmation it gave me. I am, at heart, a southern woman with OCD too. LOL.
Great..
I have Spina Bifida and am completely wheelchair bound. When I was married it was astounding the number of people who couldn’t believe that not only were we married but *gasp* we could have sex! (He was also in a wheelchair)
They’d always asked us things like who took care of us. Uhm.... we do, thank you for playing “Let’s make assumptions!”
Now that I’m single and my elderly mother is living with me due to her health issues, people assume I’m living with her and she’s “taking care of me”. When they find out she needs help they want to know who comes in and helps.....I’m her sole caretaker, thank you for playing Round 2 of “Let’s Make Assumptions!”
Some people lack the empathy or awareness to realize that some things are inappropriate to say or ask about, but i've also noticed people will say awkward things when trying to make conversation, i know i'm guilty of that sometimes lol. I learned about Spina Bifida from a youtuber called Andrea Lausell. I hope your mom is doing well, i helped take care of my grandmother when her health and mind started to deteriorate, and it can be rough.
I understand this also well I just look at them and laugh 😂❤
I understand this also well I just look at them and laugh 😂❤
came across your video tonight and it was just what I needed to pick my spirits up. I have been disabled since birth and started using a wheelchair at 13, so nearly 30 years ago now and while I try and be as independent as possible, the last few years have been extra hard. I have been married for 15 years now and always worry I am not being as good of a wife as I could be. You have reminded me that even when things feel extra hard, I can't give up (which has always been my motto, but lately its been hard to remember)
Thank you for your spirit
I admired you making the most beautiful bed,the whole house is clean and presentable too,that’s how we are raced shoes outside regardless of your stance in life,visitors shoes stays outside,being clean is the definition of beautiful
Thank you for talking about female infertility and SCI. I feel like this needs to be talked about because it seems that society makes it so taboo. I have a sci and unexplained secondary infertility. We've been trying for 2 years as well. Thank you again.
We like to keep things raw and real around here and I am super grateful we have people like Ally willing to open up about their lives for the rest of us to learn.
Although I don't have a spinal cord injury, I have MS and it's thoughly leaked into all areas of my life. I would be pleased to have a friend like Ms. Ally. Sh is so positive and uplifting. Thank You for having her on your show.
My son recently became a paraplegic and I (his mom) am helping navigate this new set of circumstances. Thank you, thank you, thank you for making these videos. You and your team are amazing!
thank you for making this video, this helps so much building up peoples self confidence. Please stay safe, and keep up your great work.
Big mission of the channel is to improve lives and increase or regain independence. Thank you so much for this positive feedback 😊
Kuch?
@@johnbounds5278 did i make a spelling mistake, i've read it a few times and cant see one.
Omg!!! OCD people rule!! I was diagnosed as an adult. Along with adhd, medication was a nightmare. I learned to cope. Something was wrong with the rest of the world, not me. Then a spinal cord tumor entered the picture. I mourned the loss of cleaning the house more than I did the loss of my ability to walk. I was so depressed that I couldn’t clean my floors anymore that I literally stayed in bed all the time. This video means so much to know they’re are others like me out there. Thank you!!
I just made a video about fertility as a male paraplegic, and the ejaculation test, so I can relate to the struggle Ally. Best of luck and I hope all goes well for you. I also clean the floor the same way as you, turns out I’m a pretty good house husband 😉 Also, I love your accent!
That video was great! Thanks for opening up about that! She really does have a great accent
I am always amazed of how good we are at adapting. New situations are hard but we push through and make it work. Thanks for sharing!
It’s incredible how adaptable the human body and mind are and with today’s technologies it’s easier than ever before!
Yes!! More videos like this! I do not have a SCI. I have a spinal disorder and sometimes theres difficulty to do everyday things. These help SO much!
Loving this series about how different people go about their daily life as independently as possible, it's certainly made me rethink a couple of ideas I had about myself, so thank you so much for these, and don't worry about the "ists" they're always looking for something to complain about
Oh my gosh. I love her. So admirable. I love how raw and real ally is and how well she's adapted! This is true resilience!
I found edlcs (everyday living chores) extremely easy until about 7 years ago. They get a little harder at 60, but you just have to power through it! Good job folks!
i’ve been binging your videos and i love them! so so helpful because i’m getting a wheelchair for the first time since i can’t walk long distances anymore . really changed my perspective on it; thank you!
Ally please read up on endometriosis. It’s the #1 cause of unexplained infertility in women. Unfortunately the only way to get diagnosed is with a laparoscopy surgery. You can read up on everything on the Centre For Endometriosis Care’s (Atlanta) website. They have some of the best surgeons in the WORLD!
I needed to see this .... Ally you totally INSPIRE me every single time I see one of your videos . This one definitely hit me 😭😭 . You inspire me to be a better version of myself to do better each day to strive and push harder each and every day and to never give up even though I have days I want to . Thank you for this and thank you for being such an inspiration to me .. So so proud of you and how far you have come and for never giving up ... ❤️- Angie
This is such a inspiration to me when I got down and out and now using a wheelchair from so much health problems I got depressed because i felt like my life was over but to see these videos help me to get better with me and know that everything will be ok I absolutely love your channel
Still young to be married but I'm living in my own apartment soon and this video helped so much in giving me ideas on how to do simple tasks like making my own bed, vacuuming and mopping. I thought I'd have to hire someone to help me with those tasks but this video showed me how to try to do these on my own first.
Don't worry about it, some countries have cleaners every few days just because it's easier to pay someone else who might not have a job otherwise.
Ally is fierce! and a good mentor for people earlier in the process. Thanks for making useful content for us.
She’s great. I bet a lot of women are worried about what they can and can’t do after their injury
The five thumbs down, probably ride to work on a unicycle with a flat tire. This was an excellent interview, very interesting to get it from my wife’s point of you.
Thank you for these videos. I'm an able bodied parent of a 6 year old with Spina Bifida. Its not the same as an injury, but I'm always looking for ways to think about what I can do both now and for her future to help her be as independent as she is feisty! She is a part time wheeler, and your practical info has helped me SO MUCH to anticipate and help her mitigate obstacles etc. Watching you is always so encouraging both for things we face now, and for a clear vision of what it is to meet this particular set of challenges as an adult. Much love!
Wheelie mama, from Scotland and I love these videos, I started watching you a bit before I got my first chair- you helped make it a much easier for me to start using a wheelchair, you made me see it in a much more positive way and when I got my chair it felt like a huge moment of pure joy in my life- thanks to your videos I’ve never ONCE felt ashamed or embarrassed by my chair, actually the opposite I love it (and when I go outside my pup pulls me cause I can’t really push much outside- it’s one of her tasks but she did it anyway by herself, I’m training her as my service dog) 1yr chairaversary was April 17th and Freya pup just turned 1 a few months ago. Much love from Scotland and remember to do everything from the heart. Stay safe and well.
Ps I love her accent and her chair- does anyone know the male/model?
These kind of comment really warm my heart 🥰 I’m so grateful the videos have been helpful for you!
Hey Emilia, I agree with you 100% - Richards content has been super helpful and I too have been very positively affected by his influence. I also got a puppy after my injury that just turned 1 in April ❤️ 🐶
Freddo Smith aww April is my birthday! Late Happy birthday to your pupper!! I’m so grateful for Richard like I went from full time crutches and occasion chair use (as a kid when I had a cast from toes to hip and again a bulky powered chair if I had no other options and I hated it- I’d feel so humiliated and just angry and frustrated every single time so 5 months being stuck in a bed trying to not admit I needed a chair was extra tough but then like 2 of Richards videos and somehow by total coincidence me and my mum messaged each other like “I think it’s time I/you got a wheelchair” and it only took 2 videos to completely change how I looked and felt about it but I didn’t expect how much more that would double when I finally got my wheelchair)
I’m about to do my first video about my wheelchair in the next coming week and I’m so excited to share my excitement and found love of wheelchair life. I really hope you’re doing well and have managed to stay safe from everything going on in the world- sending you wheelie hugs and love ☺️💙☺️💜
Wheels2Walking keep going Richard! Keep working from the heart ☺️ ps- last year I got a bunch of toddlers at my kids kindergarten/nursery school to like wheelchairs, they had me showing them how I turn and wheelies and tried pushing me around (apart from my 2 youngest being worried I’d get hurt or they’d ruin my chair- protective sons 😅) it was awesome and i was so happy to be able to show them how genuinely happy I am in my wheelchair life (I don’t often get to go outside cause I don’t have a ramp or anything) so when I do go out I absolutely love little opportunities to show it as a good thing not a sad or end of the world thing ☺️ thank you for helping me change my perspective for myself and to pass on to others incluso my sons and mum- much love.
@@Hopeandpeaceinjesus Awesome, I'll have to check out that vid when you make it. So you're a para mama eh? My friends just visited with their 1 month old baby and she was so adorable, I really want one ❤️
Yo Guys are Great , I'm a amputee with prosthetic leg and i hate it watching you enjoy the wheel chair makes me want to just be on my wheelchair which is a lot more confortable for me. Thank you
Thank you for making these videos. It really does help me feel less alone in my life.
You’re definitely not alone! There is a large community of us and together we can overcome anything 🙏🏻
Wheels2Walking thank you.
I am hooked to these videos the whole weekend...😃
I am fully disabled due to a lung ailment. This video was wonderful for anyone facing disability. Thanks :)
I am really impressed with the way that Ally can get things accomplished from her wheelchair, and her positive outlook on the life that she shares with her husband
I have Multiple Sclerosis, so know how that can complicates life, but by watching the videos on your channel, I can see how others work around difficult situations and it's providing me with hope and a more positive and productive outlook on things around me.
As I said before, I have been confined to a wheelchair since 2005, and am now learning more techniques to make my life easier.
Thank you for all and your friends have shared. I broke my back about 4 years ago 2 roddings later I am now a part time wheelchair user, I can walk but not far, and naturally my ins. co. is an ass and won't get me an ultralight wheelchair so I can't go anywhere by myself because I can't lift the chair even the "light weight one we had to buy ourselves" even if it is taken apart, and my husband has a back injury so he can't lift it either so my life is leaving the house for hospital or doctor visits only, but I have hope one day I will have the right chair, and the ability to go out without needing one of my kids with me. Your videos have shown me how independent I can be and seeing you go out having fun really give me hope and have given me answers to questions I have had so Thank You for sharing your story with all of us. I was super active I was a dirt bike racer and did everything around the house, but now I can't, but I now have hope to do more. If I do stand up I am so bent over I can't reach things above my head so that has made life no fun, I feel like my back is going to break in half, but my husband is starting to get what I am dealing with because he has watched some of your videos. You are awesome. Keep it up, and who knows when one day I do get the right chair that fits me right and I can handle on my own I might make my own videos. Thanks for the tips, the honesty, and answering all the questions I have wondered about.
Thank you for making this video!
My son is 16 and has been in the hospital for over a year. He should be home with in two months. He just got measured for his electric wheelchair. He has been very depressed about no one will want to be his friend and he’s not worth anything. I sent him this video. I want to thank you for all the videos you have made. It is helping me so much.
Great interviewer and great subject matters!
You make such quality videos man. Props!
Awesome interview
Dude these kinds of videos are so great keep it up!
Thanks! I’ve been doing my best to add more women into the mix and recently I’ve been inspired to add more POC into the mix. There have been a few, but honestly not enough.
😘💞❤😘❗
Good luck Ally, you are an inspiration
As a student OT I love seeing the independence with those activities of daily living!
Great video and thanks for sharing
Awesome demostration 🙂
Ally. You are stronger than what you are. And do not let anybody tell you different. Love you loads X
I tried to comment before but somehow it got lost I just want U2 to know how much you’ve meant to me today I’m 60 years old and very depressed. you both have given me a lot of motivation and the will to live.
Great video! I'd love to see a wheelchair mommy video. Thanks for the great work!
she is such an inspiration her walking down the isle amazing her husband is blessed to have such a great wife thanks for sharing she is a housewife yet independent and strong she can handle things
I loved everything about this video thank you Ally :)
ya know, it's a common saying with every story of someone who lives full or part-time in a wheelchair. "The doctors told me I'd never do 'this/that/whatever" Maybe if the doctors had a different narrative and weren't such assholes sometimes, more of us would have fewer issues in getting back up and going again
My wife and I have 4 dogs (1 is my Service Dog). I vacuum the house using a shop vac, mop the floors when needed, wash the dishes by hand (we have a dishwasher, but I prefer washing by hand), do laundry using front load machines, pickup the dog poop in the back yard and take out the trash. I think as a couple we figure out what we can and can’t do, and then work together to get stuff done. FYI, my wife and I have been married 35 years of which I’ve been a wheelchair user for the last 9 years.
Love this lady! She is awesome!
Good luck to you both of this activity
Awesome video
Another great video
This was so helpful, thank u
Thanks Jennifer! I’m so happy it hear that 😁
Great video. Wish those vaccuums were more affordable! Thanks for all the tips!
Thank you for sharing ❤️
Thank you for being such good open minded motivational people. I’m 60 years old and not in a weel chair all the time yet. I hope you both don’t mind me commenting I just want you to know that you too will motivate people young and old I’m feeling very depressed today but you’ve given me hope I’d like to get my housework done the people in my house don’t understand me some days they do.
Awesome video, info
Wow, she is my hero. Ty🌿
Love your videos ❤️
Thanks! I really enjoy making them 😁
This is very informative...as thinking of writing a comic series about a character who had lost all feeling from waist down,
Would love more tips about being at home or out and about
This video is awesome! I love your honesty Ally! I am a mother with a spinal cord injury. I'm a single mom with a 4 year old but unfortunately I live in NC. I would love to help though! :)
11 years is how long we waited to have kids. We married young, 20 and 19. Family was relentless with the kid question.
Being a wheelchair user doesn't mean that life is over it just means life is different . But as long as you have breath in your body. Everything is good
Great video
Thanks Peter!
Have a look at the Gtech AirRam I’ve recently changed from the Dyson and find it a lot easier to use in my chair because all the weight is on the floor not in your hand Good video
i would love to see a collab with an ambulatory wheelchair user to discuss differences and different struggles! i can walk a tiny bit with a cane but i usually use my chair and I'd love to see other rep like me! i feel like you'd have great questions and commentary with that
Good news! I’m an ambulatory wheelchair user so feel free to check out my channel and further playlists.
Also, we have collaborated and will continue to collaborate with ambulatory wheelchair users. Keep an eye out for next weeks video!
I am an ambulatory wheelchair use as well.
Me too. A lot of the struggles are the same I think - we all just have our battles and need to find our ways to overcome them.
She’s not “so ocd” any more than I’m “so wheelchair bound” if I have a stubbed today. Ocd is debilitating, it’s not a silly quirk about neat sheets.
She said she was diagnosed with severe OCD when she was seven.
Thank you !! I’m in a chair trying my hardest to become independent
It's incredible how much she looks like Mindy Minx.
Not sure who that is!
@@Wheels2Walking hav u herd of googel
I was thinking the same thing haha. I think it's the bun
@@Wheels2Walking She's another RUclipsr 😁
Andrew Deitsch Savage 😅
There is a robot mop now as well
Ally thank you for your personal sharing and being vulnerable with us! Is there a reason why you don't just remove the nightstand? That way you don't have to move that heavy thing back and forth every week right? Or switch to something on a lighter?
I am happy that she had her baby.
i feel her i sit in a wheelchair too
I'm not a spinal cord injury but I am a wheelchair mother. I've asked doctors for 20+ years what is wrong with me, and they haven't been able to diagnose me, but I believe I have Ankylosing Spondylitis (or something very similar). I was using the wheelchair a year before I fell pregnant (wasn't trying, actually thought I was barren) and decided to keep my baby. I did babywearing to carry her safely on the wheelchair. I'm in Australia.
It’s overwhelming and everyone comes so fast and so many and than hardly any-
Hello. I had my accident when I was 15. Currently 44 and I had my son when I was 20. Normal pregnancy and delivery which the doctors thought could be tuff. 3 hours of labor and 20 min of pushing. No help with any tools. I was always worried If I would be able to do it. But it all worked out. I also felt the pressure from my then husband about being able to get pregnant at the beginning of our marriage. Having my son was one of the most fulfilling part of my life.
you can try the Shark IONFlex 2X DuoClean Cordless Ultra-Light Stick Vacuum, it good accommodation
damn. a wheelchair user + having OCD. thought i was the only one. it's rough.
Yes I love it im a paraplegic I have been since 2012 and since have had 1 child but I already had 3 kids it took me about a year to start doing everything on my own now I love it im proud of myself
I am feeling good after watching this. .
I'm not in a wealchair.
But I got the diagnosis for Mastozythose when I was 16.
Now I'm 21 and I always see all my friends be spontaneous.
I can't do this😅
And this frustrates me pretty often.
But I have to know where I can buy fresh food that I can eat(I'm highly allergic to some stuff)
I need to pack enough medicine and so on.
But it's okay the way it is.
It is different, but is a good life after all.
We are just another kind of normal- all of us, no matter the conditions or injuries. Remember to accept and love yourself.
Great video ❤️ just wanted to mention check out D Mannose supplement for UTI prevention.
i think Drs have to tell you you won't ever walk again? Imagine if they said you might walk in a year or two and you couldn't because your break was to high! you'd be pissed and probably try to sue them?
A few lightweight casters under those nightstands would make it easier.
Was wondering if you or she could answer some things.
1. Are wrap around bedskirts an online order item? Never seen/noticed any in a common brick and mortar store. Why not start at the head of the bed when putting on a fitted bed sheet? Seems easier I would think.
2. What model Roomba? Expensive ones from reviews I've read are the only ones worth it. Am undecided on those.
Liking the Dyson cordless. Tip about mopping with the wood grain should alleviate my floor streaks, thanks for that tip. Have a blessed day...
Links for those three things in the description below!
@@Wheels2Walking Ok, cool. Seeing links now. I didn't beforehand expand the description of the video when I watched it. Thanks again.
Here in Australia those sheets are called fitted sheets, sometimes searching a different name can help
I admire you. It must not be easy at times. But, I admire your get up, and go drive. I have a get up, and go drive. I admire your independence.
I'm in a wheelchair too, and I 've live with my boyfriend, I have Ataxia, so it's very very difficult to do the house work. I'm very dependent on him and obviusly, I do not like it.
Kisses from Buenos Aires💙
T6 Para and Mother of 4. I've been in my chair now for 3 years and the first question I asked was how I was going to continue being a mother. My youngest was just 18 months old when I was injured. I wanted to know how I was going to hold my son who happens to have down syndrome, comb my daughter's hair, cook dinner, do laundry, clean the house, grocery shop. I watched soooo many RUclips videos and life was a lot of trial and error. I needed to feel like their Mother still so 5 months post injury I sent everyone home and it was just me and my kids. I know this may seem a little selfish but it was needed for my mental health. If I was not mentally healthy how could I be present for them. At this stage, my kids give me no slack and expect me to do everything. If dinner isn't cooked or they can't find "their" stuff, they are looking at me crossed.....lol
You guys are amazing! Truly inspiring!
This is why, people like you are one of the reasons MUNCHAUSENS MAGGOTTS DRIVE ME MAD!
A useful and wonderful meeting. I want to ask. I want to get rid of the urinary catheter. As your follow-up, I did not notice the presence of a catheter
11:20 I agree!
your inspirational.
Some people ask you if you have children regardless of ever being married or not.
I have orthostatic tremor makes standing almost impossible for longer than around 30 seconds on a bad day , I hate making the bed but you put me to shame youmake it look so easy.
Je veux bien encore d'autres videos comme celle ci donc je laisse un commentaire :) merci !
We have always had a no shoes house, but now I worry because my wheelchair comes in straight from the street… have not seen anybody addressing this …