I look at being single as a blessing. Why do some people demonize being single? You dont have to deal with drama, heartbreak, etc.... As long as you have your hobbies, career, etc... you'll be too busy to worry about being single 👍☺️
AlbumLeViola Life isnt all about relationships! Mind you, you can have relationships with your family and friends. You dont always need a romantic partner. Its a want. Not a necessity.
'Loneliness' is not a lack of other people - it's a 'loss of self' usually after an attack by a narcissist - there is a need to concentrate on oneself in order to effect self-recovery - solitude helps and it does take time.
If u feel alone, remember everyone you see is alone and isolated in their own mind. togetherness is an illusion but no one can live alone, hence life is all about relationship without desperation and clinginess/neediness
We need to stop viewing being alone as a negative thing. There's nothing wrong with being single. I'm 32, no kids, no husband or boyfriend and I love my life. I live in a different country every year, I'm self employed, and have all the freedom and fun I worked hard for. There's a difference between not wanting to be alone because everyone else is in a relationship verses just not wanting to be single. Make sure you want it for the right reason.
nylotus... I use to feel the same way you did but guess what? It doesn’t work in your 50s. And I’m not referring to an intimate relationship...I have a grown daughter but she’s living her life so I’m alone. Friends can only fill so much of that void. I thought I didn’t need anyone...As you age connections mean EVERYTHING💔
@@tigerlily1034 I have to disagree... my grandmother was the only one out of 4 girls to get married and have kids. They also have had thriving careers and socials lives and never died at 95 with no regrets. One even bought a car for her 91st birthday so she could continue going out with her friends. If you think a man/woman is going to fill that void because you're lonely you're in trouble my friend. It is not a significant other's place to fill that void and if that has been your mentality in the past that may be why you're single. I hope you find other things that make you happy and once you are whole and complete on your own, you will attract the right person. All the best.
IMO the right advice for someone who is afraid of ending up alone isn't, "Don't worry, of course you're not going to end up alone," or, "That's not the norm and it's not gonna happen," but rather, "You can be perfectly happy and satisfied being alone. You don't have to fear being alone." Because yes, some people do end up alone.
It can get really hard having no one. Break an ankle, can't mow the grass and no one wants to show up or work anymore. Need help holding something, forget it. Maybe need a surgery and can't get a ride, no Uber in your area. On and on it goes till maybe suffering chronic pain alone and just being tired of alone after a few decades. Could be looking at the grass is greener but seems life would be reeeally easier with a partner. 😞
Marie, thank you so much for making this video! It truly was a blessing. I promised myself that I'm going to focus on bettering myself this year. I've grown really uncomfortable in my own skin, but I'm seeing a lot of changes so far with it only being the second full week of the year. However, I somehow became a bit depressed about how much I've missed out and this translated into feeling lonely. I've been in a distracting funk for the last few days, and I've been spiraling in this "will I ever meet someone" phase. What you said in this video is exactly what I've been trying to tell myself. At least I was able to hear it from someone else to finally pick my head up and keep going.
Yep. I’m in my late 20s and keep going on terrible dates haha. Luckily, I have the best family and friends in the world but unfortunately that’s not the same thing as a relationship. I love what you said about doing the work! You can’t meet someone sitting on your couch! That’s why I don’t like it when people say “stop looking and it’ll happen” I get that they are saying to not be desperate, but you’ve gotta put the work in.
Can anyone hear me in the universe??? There are worse things than being alone Life is what you make it. Consider that life is like a bowl--you can fill it up any way you want. I have been in an abusive marriage 20 years ago and I ended it....since then I have been happy and I create my own interests. I volunteer and love the people I meet.
@@AlbumLeViola I do not love him from afar. I have learned that I may attract abusive personalities to myself and thus make myself miserable. Being with a person who is never happy with anything you do, is critical of you and your family and who is a narcissist is a miserable existence. I got away! We had no children and I felt happy to be on my own. I could breathe again. I learned to love being alone. I am not lonely usually and happy to control my own environment. I am afraid of getting into a relationship again that is anywhere near the one I left. I make myself happy.
Marie u are a wonderful person, wish i had a friend like you, you are someone i feel i can trust and be myself and talk about all my insecurities. Thank you so much for such encouraging videos, i just found them today and now i cant stop watching you. New subscriber!
If your Young it’s common and hang in there if your a grown up then being single happens for many reason and everything is always okay it always turns out okay people should never live life in a negative mind..we all live and and we all die remember that enjoy life
..."and that is, how they treat you.". So true. I'm 53 and am with someone I've been trying to leave for a couple years because of how he treats me. I've so wanted the relationship to work out because I don't want to live the rest of my life alone, so I keep going back. It's a nightmarish vicious cycle. Thank you for posting this wonderful video.
Being afraid of being alone is not a good way to be..it can impair your judgment..cause you to make bad decisions. A restraining order could be a result..being afraid of being alone can make you vulnerable. It can cause you to neglect your health. There are people out there who are not happy with their relationships but they say it's better than being alone.. I'm a 60 year old who has out lived everyone who was important to me..I'm not in the least bit interested in getting out and meeting people. I'm perfectly content with being alone.
Wow! How are you so sweet and loving with your words. I really appreciate you putting this up here.. listening to this helped me to rethink my dating preferences and the mistakes I made in the past and understand the things I am doing wrong. I guess, I found this at a perfect time.
I’m 61 and lived all but the last 4 years of it with other people. I intend to live the rest of my life alone. It does take some intention though: I own my own home, so gradually set it up in preparation for a comfortable future, I live near family so I am lucky that way though I don’t try to rely on them too much. I intend down the track to see what govt support is out there so I can stay in my home as long as possible. At the moment I have great neighbours. I like to spend most of my time alone so don’t need a lot of company. Don’t be afraid of singledom if you find yourself there- create the life you want and embrace it!
Hi Marie. My name is Carlos. Thank you for making this video! I agree that regardless of how long it might take me, I will meet the right person that’ll be good for me! I’m 22 years old and I’m autistic! In the past, I’ve wondered if a girl would understand and accept the fact that I’m autistic! I’ve gone with friends and have invited them to my house before. I have a lot of friends and have gone out to lunch with friends and with a couple of different girls from my school in the past and I know that those were very good ways to start! I just joined a group/club called “Meetup” and there’s a group for people with aspis and I hope to meet more and more people. Because truth is, I myself don’t want to spend the rest of my life alone. I want to get older and get married one day and have my own family just like anyone else. I know it takes time but I’m really trying to meet more people. I’m going to graduate from my current community college and then eventually transfer to a Cal State university and I hope I meet more people including girls there too! After hearing what you said in this video, I believe I should continue meeting more ppl as much as possible and just NEVER give up hope and give my heart a chance because I believe that if I have that, it will lead me to success and also to what I like to say, “the kingdom of romance”. I love watching your videos. I’ve watched so many of your other videos and I’ve tried some of your advice and some of them have really helped me! Thank you for all your advice! This video has inspired me have patience and to NEVER give up! I believe that I will one day meet and find the right person!
Marie I just adore your videos. When I experience something new or have thoughts about certain topics, you’re my go to. Thanks for sharing this video today. I don’t like relationships or being touchy touch lovely dovely with people. I like being alone and just watch movies lol!
Marie May I suggest a topic ? I know this may be hard for some, but you spoke your about father’s passing and I mean no disrespect at all. How do you cope with that ? I would love to hear your advice and pointers on what that’s like. My parent is very ill and I’m ready to face reality, but I would love to hear your input on this difficult topic
I have this fear of ending up alone. Without a partner anr close friends. Fortunately i have my sister who supports me but at the same time she criticizes me a lot but a lot which annoys me. I don't have a supportive family. I don't make friends easily. Men don't flirt me. I don't know. I lose my motivation very easily. I cry a lot.
Let me tell you...finding a close group of friends is just a difficult as finding a partner. And having no family it's important to have that but no luck and I'm trying.
I am a happy loner. Its not for everyone but I have very few friends and gain satisfaction with acquaintances around my community. Its enough, then I have enrichening hobbies I'm passionate about.
Hold up this video just came out and There’s already one dislike wow that lets you know that these people aren’t listening they just don’t like the message.
61 year old here. Ended up alone. Learned to like it. Got a service to call me every day to see if I'm alive so I don't rot in the house. It's a numbers game for sure, but I got tired at 234. I suppose it's me though. Livin la vida solo.
Better alone than in bad company! Women afraid of being alone often end up marrying losers and abusers who deliberately prey on their vulnerabilities! And physical intimacy is NOT what it is cracked up to be anyway! Chances are, the guy will just expect you to behave like some chick he saw last night on porn hub! They insist that you live up to some unearthly fantasy in their heads! Better "lonely" than hurt by a man! I found my loneliness for a man cured by being consistently lied to, cheated on and undervalued!
I want to be treated properly but there has to be chemistry. Some people are great to have as a friend but not in a romantic fashion. I haven't found what I want but happy being alone and traveling and doing whatever I like. I actually prefer the company of animals.
What would you say to someone like me? Im a divoced man in my 60s (married for over 20 years and divorced the last 10 plus years). Im only 5'7" and make less than 50k (both things are deal breakers for most women). Im borderline Asperger's and ADHD. Im quiet introverted shyband reserved. Im constantly friend zoned now. Im told often that Im a great guy yet I cant get any lady to even meet me for coffee a drink or a bite to eat. Im told often that Im a great guy by women who I run into but theybare the same ones whom Im inciaible to. It has gotten increasing frustrating for me sobI have resigned tobthe notion that I may be flying solo the rest of my life. Not everyone will meet someone and it is possible that may happen to me.
Hi my name is Divine and I live in London I have a friendship group and right now is quite difficult. Recently one of the girls Jessica (who is like the leader of the group)said mean stuff about another girl to me and at first I didn't really care but later on I felt really bad.A day or two later,I accidentally told this girl called Leanne and Leanne told the girl then the girl told Jessica and now she says she wants nothing to do with me because she doesn't trust me but it is awkward because I am in the same FRIENDSHIP group that she's in and it is kind of hard to let go.Also this other girl called aaliyah stopped speaking to me because Jessica did but when Jessica wasn't speaking to her I still did and was there for her. Little does she know that Jessica says mean stuff about her to but she is so dumb that she would still be her friend.My best friend in the group AKA the reason I'm friends with her ,is brainwashed by Jessica and never sees anything wrong that Jessica does which is really annoying.What should I do please? can you help me?do you think that Jessica and I will be friends again?
I would just let all of this roll off your back. These girls are acting petty, and the ring leader girl is down right mean. I would talk to them (even the ones who won't speak to you) as if there is nothing wrong. Don't confront anyone because then the drama will continue. If you act "business as usual," so will they. And the whole thing will blow over. Just remember that when the ring leader starts talking smack about someone else, leave the conversation. While you can stay friends with these people on a superficial level, I would start to expand your social circle and begin to look for more genuine friends. Also, If you say something to the person who is ignoring you and she doesn't answer back, simply don't react, and start talking to someone else.
@@mariedubuque Thank you so much it's really hard though to sit on the same table as her and speak to everyone else.I try to but then it gets awkward.Yesterday this new girl came from Ivory Coast and I was welcoming her and were making jokes and it was really fun but then Jessica saw us together and then we went in the table and she started speaking to the girl in French about the whole situation between us and it was really embarrassing. I just wish that Jessica would leave!Howevver,when this happened my other friendn"Jessica I know what you are speaking about " and now I don't know if I should speak to her
But how do u meet a lot of people naturally? I go to social places but mostly im alone there and i dont know how to naturally engage in the conversation with strangers. I sould love to meet a lot of ppl, but dobt know how:((
I'm not sure if I'm compatible with the woman in my country. I've learned that the woman here in the Americas have an outlook & view of men like, "so how are you different from all of the others" as if we have to do something to prove right of the bat that makes us worthy of merely their attention. Whereas the woman abroad the Americas are seemingly greatful when a man simply gives them attention and that gives the woman the inclination to actually allow themselves to fall into the opportunity of possibly discovering a deeper connection on the soul level. I'm a spiritual man; I dont care about the smiley selfies, how independent you are or your mondern worldly status you have. I want your heart, the vulnerable you, the problems you take on. So we can build our own world from the ground up together in synchronicity with the universe.
Spiritual for spiritual, worldly for worldy. Ppl can talk shit and bitch whatever they want but this is ur life Remember life is a very unique journey for each individual so dont listen to others even me coz u know urself better
Hello! I’ve just watched a video from about 8 years ago about a friend being closer friends with another person. My best friend sent me a baby picture of her boyfriend and me think it was funny when it was really not, posted it on a groupchat with her boyfriend in it. He obiously saw, got mad at me and my friend. Shes really mad at me and i feel really bad. Any advice? Edit: also i sit next to him in homeroom and i have to go to school to tomorrow
You could simply explain to both of them that you are truly sorry and meant no harm. And then wait or this to blow over. I bet they will forgive you. Just give them time.
Could you do a video on people who try to use leverage on you tgo make you talk to them and or be your friend who are just using you. This is the thing I see over and over and over again. I just want to choose my own friends and talk to people that I want to. I don't want other people forcing themselves on me. Do you know what I mean? On the internet I can easily ignore people. But in real life I can't talk to someone I want to without these people immediately coming over and eavesdropping and then joining in on the conversation. The person who s;ays things like "yo9u can't be friends with one of us unless you are friends with all of us" The lady at the post office who makes you come into the post office to pick up a parcel which could have instead been put into one of the large boxes where you can pick up the parcel at a time that is convenient for you. The guy who you are trying to do a simple business transaction with who stalls and stalls on delivering the item that you ordered from him and tries to get you to call him up andtalk with himj on the phone. etc. Those kinds of people.
This depressed me when she said "you're in your mid-twenties and afraid of ending up alone"...I'm 42 and alone so I guess that means I "ended up" alone?
Man, 24, single, healthy and virgin. Medical career going well. Graduating in 4 years. Healthy and sporty. Still can't find anybody. Fear of ending up alone is very real and mentally damaging me. I don't want to be alone. What should I do?
At this age, you are alone for a reason, mostly because the people you choose are to picky in their choosing a mate, So you either either lower your own standards and settle or continue waiting for your needle in a haystack.
I look at being single as a blessing. Why do some people demonize being single? You dont have to deal with drama, heartbreak, etc.... As long as you have your hobbies, career, etc... you'll be too busy to worry about being single 👍☺️
I feel that buddy but my poor pathetic heart doesn't sadly 😑
Coz life is all about relationship. As much as i love singleness, life feels more like a paradise when u have someone u want in ur life
i have been single since forever :(
Life is not good being scared of relationships because of drama, heart break, etc. It's things like that what make you grow as a person.
AlbumLeViola Life isnt all about relationships! Mind you, you can have relationships with your family and friends. You dont always need a romantic partner. Its a want. Not a necessity.
Your a lovely woman you have a lot of empathy in your eyes and personality
'Loneliness' is not a lack of other people - it's a 'loss of self' usually after an attack by a narcissist - there is a need to concentrate on oneself in order to effect self-recovery - solitude helps and it does take time.
Love this comment
If u feel alone, remember everyone you see is alone and isolated in their own mind. togetherness is an illusion but no one can live alone, hence life is all about relationship without desperation and clinginess/neediness
We need to stop viewing being alone as a negative thing. There's nothing wrong with being single. I'm 32, no kids, no husband or boyfriend and I love my life. I live in a different country every year, I'm self employed, and have all the freedom and fun I worked hard for.
There's a difference between not wanting to be alone because everyone else is in a relationship verses just not wanting to be single. Make sure you want it for the right reason.
Exactly, thank you!
nylotus... I use to feel the same way you did but guess what? It doesn’t work in your 50s. And I’m not referring to an intimate relationship...I have a grown daughter but she’s living her life so I’m alone. Friends can only fill so much of that void. I thought I didn’t need anyone...As you age connections mean EVERYTHING💔
@@tigerlily1034 Absolutely!💜
@@tigerlily1034 I have to disagree... my grandmother was the only one out of 4 girls to get married and have kids. They also have had thriving careers and socials lives and never died at 95 with no regrets. One even bought a car for her 91st birthday so she could continue going out with her friends. If you think a man/woman is going to fill that void because you're lonely you're in trouble my friend. It is not a significant other's place to fill that void and if that has been your mentality in the past that may be why you're single. I hope you find other things that make you happy and once you are whole and complete on your own, you will attract the right person. All the best.
IMO the right advice for someone who is afraid of ending up alone isn't, "Don't worry, of course you're not going to end up alone," or, "That's not the norm and it's not gonna happen," but rather, "You can be perfectly happy and satisfied being alone. You don't have to fear being alone." Because yes, some people do end up alone.
It can get really hard having no one. Break an ankle, can't mow the grass and no one wants to show up or work anymore. Need help holding something, forget it. Maybe need a surgery and can't get a ride, no Uber in your area. On and on it goes till maybe suffering chronic pain alone and just being tired of alone after a few decades. Could be looking at the grass is greener but seems life would be reeeally easier with a partner. 😞
Agreed.
Totally understand but we need the RIGHT partner...picking the wrong one leaves us worse off than not having anyone
Marie, thank you so much for making this video! It truly was a blessing. I promised myself that I'm going to focus on bettering myself this year. I've grown really uncomfortable in my own skin, but I'm seeing a lot of changes so far with it only being the second full week of the year. However, I somehow became a bit depressed about how much I've missed out and this translated into feeling lonely. I've been in a distracting funk for the last few days, and I've been spiraling in this "will I ever meet someone" phase. What you said in this video is exactly what I've been trying to tell myself. At least I was able to hear it from someone else to finally pick my head up and keep going.
Ending up alone ? After some years looking for someone ,im not looking for anyone anymore.I have given up and don't want to keep on searching.
Yep. I’m in my late 20s and keep going on terrible dates haha. Luckily, I have the best family and friends in the world but unfortunately that’s not the same thing as a relationship. I love what you said about doing the work! You can’t meet someone sitting on your couch! That’s why I don’t like it when people say “stop looking and it’ll happen” I get that they are saying to not be desperate, but you’ve gotta put the work in.
Can anyone hear me in the universe??? There are worse things than being alone Life is what you make it. Consider that life is like a bowl--you can fill it up any way you want. I have been in an abusive marriage 20 years ago and I ended it....since then I have been happy and I create my own interests. I volunteer and love the people I meet.
Hi. What have u learned from the previous relationship?, do u still love him from afar?thx
@@AlbumLeViola I do not love him from afar. I have learned that I may attract abusive personalities to myself and thus make myself miserable. Being with a person who is never happy with anything you do, is critical of you and your family and who is a narcissist is a miserable existence. I got away! We had no children and I felt happy to be on my own. I could breathe again. I learned to love being alone. I am not lonely usually and happy to control my own environment. I am afraid of getting into a relationship again that is anywhere near the one I left. I make myself happy.
Marie u are a wonderful person, wish i had a friend like you, you are someone i feel i can trust and be myself and talk about all my insecurities. Thank you so much for such encouraging videos, i just found them today and now i cant stop watching you. New subscriber!
You made my day, thank you.
If your Young it’s common and hang in there if your a grown up then being single happens for many reason and everything is always okay it always turns out okay people should never live life in a negative mind..we all live and and we all die remember that enjoy life
..."and that is, how they treat you.". So true. I'm 53 and am with someone I've been trying to leave for a couple years because of how he treats me. I've so wanted the relationship to work out because I don't want to live the rest of my life alone, so I keep going back. It's a nightmarish vicious cycle. Thank you for posting this wonderful video.
Your kind words mean a lot. Thank you. You can do this.
Being afraid of being alone is not a good way to be..it can impair your judgment..cause you to make bad decisions. A restraining order could be a result..being afraid of being alone can make you vulnerable. It can cause you to neglect your health.
There are people out there who are not happy with their relationships but they say it's better than being alone..
I'm a 60 year old who has out lived everyone who was important to me..I'm not in the least bit interested in getting out and meeting people.
I'm perfectly content with being alone.
You tackle some really heart wrenching topics I have dealt with a LOT in my self. Thank you. It is NOT easy.
Wow! How are you so sweet and loving with your words. I really appreciate you putting this up here.. listening to this helped me to rethink my dating preferences and the mistakes I made in the past and understand the things I am doing wrong. I guess, I found this at a perfect time.
I’m 61 and lived all but the last 4 years of it with other people. I intend to live the rest of my life alone. It does take some intention though: I own my own home, so gradually set it up in preparation for a comfortable future, I live near family so I am lucky that way though I don’t try to rely on them too much. I intend down the track to see what govt support is out there so I can stay in my home as long as possible. At the moment I have great neighbours. I like to spend most of my time alone so don’t need a lot of company. Don’t be afraid of singledom if you find yourself there- create the life you want and embrace it!
the aunt i always needed but never had, thank you Marie
Hi Marie. My name is Carlos. Thank you for making this video! I agree that regardless of how long it might take me, I will meet the right person that’ll be good for me! I’m 22 years old and I’m autistic! In the past, I’ve wondered if a girl would understand and accept the fact that I’m autistic! I’ve gone with friends and have invited them to my house before. I have a lot of friends and have gone out to lunch with friends and with a couple of different girls from my school in the past and I know that those were very good ways to start! I just joined a group/club called “Meetup” and there’s a group for people with aspis and I hope to meet more and more people. Because truth is, I myself don’t want to spend the rest of my life alone. I want to get older and get married one day and have my own family just like anyone else. I know it takes time but I’m really trying to meet more people. I’m going to graduate from my current community college and then eventually transfer to a Cal State university and I hope I meet more people including girls there too! After hearing what you said in this video, I believe I should continue meeting more ppl as much as possible and just NEVER give up hope and give my heart a chance because I believe that if I have that, it will lead me to success and also to what I like to say, “the kingdom of romance”. I love watching your videos. I’ve watched so many of your other videos and I’ve tried some of your advice and some of them have really helped me! Thank you for all your advice! This video has inspired me have patience and to NEVER give up! I believe that I will one day meet and find the right person!
Yes, you absolutely will!!
Thank you so much for your every advice. Each video of yours is so specific and yet so general that everyone can link one's self to it.
Very good advice!
It’s a hard pattern to break
Marie I just adore your videos. When I experience something new or have thoughts about certain topics, you’re my go to. Thanks for sharing this video today. I don’t like relationships or being touchy touch lovely dovely with people. I like being alone and just watch movies lol!
Thank you for your kind words, means a lot.
Marie May I suggest a topic ? I know this may be hard for some, but you spoke your about father’s passing and I mean no disrespect at all. How do you cope with that ? I would love to hear your advice and pointers on what that’s like. My parent is very ill and I’m ready to face reality, but I would love to hear your input on this difficult topic
I have this fear of ending up alone. Without a partner anr close friends. Fortunately i have my sister who supports me but at the same time she criticizes me a lot but a lot which annoys me. I don't have a supportive family. I don't make friends easily. Men don't flirt me. I don't know. I lose my motivation very easily. I cry a lot.
Go n enjoy life !!!..you’ll attract the right people when they see u having fun !!
@@kennyzboss8631 thank you very much. I hope your advice will help
Let me tell you...finding a close group of friends is just a difficult as finding a partner. And having no family it's important to have that but no luck and I'm trying.
I am a happy loner. Its not for everyone but I have very few friends and gain satisfaction with acquaintances around my community. Its enough, then I have enrichening hobbies I'm passionate about.
Hold up this video just came out and There’s already one dislike wow that lets you know that these people aren’t listening they just don’t like the message.
Heart Donor why would someone dislike any of Maries advice videos? Shes always straight to the point and so helpful 🤷♀️
No advice is one size fits all
I was bullied out of a great paying job , by a coworker who I thought was my friend
You're "over-qualified".
i struggle for a long time with survivin, no matter what you keep finding something to fight for.......
61 year old here. Ended up alone. Learned to like it. Got a service to call me every day to see if I'm alive so I don't rot in the house. It's a numbers game for sure, but I got tired at 234. I suppose it's me though. Livin la vida solo.
Are you fat or ugly or boring?
@@XPrincess30 Nope. Cute, in shape, and smart. Being smart is the issue.
Marie, you are an angel!
Hi Mary, welcome back, glad to see ur vidz again in Utube.. 😊
Better alone than in bad company! Women afraid of being alone often end up marrying losers and abusers who deliberately prey on their vulnerabilities! And physical intimacy is NOT what it is cracked up to be anyway! Chances are, the guy will just expect you to behave like some chick he saw last night on porn hub! They insist that you live up to some unearthly fantasy in their heads! Better "lonely" than hurt by a man! I found my loneliness for a man cured by being consistently lied to, cheated on and undervalued!
I want to be treated properly but there has to be chemistry. Some people are great to have as a friend but not in a romantic fashion. I haven't found what I want but happy being alone and traveling and doing whatever I like. I actually prefer the company of animals.
im 47... single no kids and alone... never thought i would be...i just don't know what to do
What would you say to someone like me? Im a divoced man in my 60s (married for over 20 years and divorced the last 10 plus years). Im only 5'7" and make less than 50k (both things are deal breakers for most women). Im borderline Asperger's and ADHD. Im quiet introverted shyband reserved. Im constantly friend zoned now. Im told often that Im a great guy yet I cant get any lady to even meet me for coffee a drink or a bite to eat. Im told often that Im a great guy by women who I run into but theybare the same ones whom Im inciaible to. It has gotten increasing frustrating for me sobI have resigned tobthe notion that I may be flying solo the rest of my life. Not everyone will meet someone and it is possible that may happen to me.
Good advice; thank you 👍
Hi my name is Divine and I live in London I have a friendship group and right now is quite difficult. Recently one of the girls Jessica (who is like the leader of the group)said mean stuff about another girl to me and at first I didn't really care but later on I felt really bad.A day or two later,I accidentally told this girl called Leanne and Leanne told the girl then the girl told Jessica and now she says she wants nothing to do with me because she doesn't trust me but it is awkward because I am in the same FRIENDSHIP group that she's in and it is kind of hard to let go.Also this other girl called aaliyah stopped speaking to me because Jessica did but when Jessica wasn't speaking to her I still did and was there for her. Little does she know that Jessica says mean stuff about her to but she is so dumb that she would still be her friend.My best friend in the group AKA the reason I'm friends with her ,is brainwashed by Jessica and never sees anything wrong that Jessica does which is really annoying.What should I do please? can you help me?do you think that Jessica and I will be friends again?
Also i just went on the video most recent
I would just let all of this roll off your back. These girls are acting petty, and the ring leader girl is down right mean. I would talk to them (even the ones who won't speak to you) as if there is nothing wrong. Don't confront anyone because then the drama will continue. If you act "business as usual," so will they. And the whole thing will blow over. Just remember that when the ring leader starts talking smack about someone else, leave the conversation. While you can stay friends with these people on a superficial level, I would start to expand your social circle and begin to look for more genuine friends. Also, If you say something to the person who is ignoring you and she doesn't answer back, simply don't react, and start talking to someone else.
@@mariedubuque Thank you so much it's really hard though to sit on the same table as her and speak to everyone else.I try to but then it gets awkward.Yesterday this new girl came from Ivory Coast and I was welcoming her and were making jokes and it was really fun but then Jessica saw us together and then we went in the table and she started speaking to the girl in French about the whole situation between us and it was really embarrassing. I just wish that Jessica would leave!Howevver,when this happened my other friendn"Jessica I know what you are speaking about " and now I don't know if I should speak to her
What if your over 240 like myself it’s hard dating when your bigger
But how do u meet a lot of people naturally? I go to social places but mostly im alone there and i dont know how to naturally engage in the conversation with strangers. I sould love to meet a lot of ppl, but dobt know how:((
I'm not sure if I'm compatible with the woman in my country. I've learned that the woman here in the Americas have an outlook & view of men like, "so how are you different from all of the others" as if we have to do something to prove right of the bat that makes us worthy of merely their attention. Whereas the woman abroad the Americas are seemingly greatful when a man simply gives them attention and that gives the woman the inclination to actually allow themselves to fall into the opportunity of possibly discovering a deeper connection on the soul level.
I'm a spiritual man; I dont care about the smiley selfies, how independent you are or your mondern worldly status you have. I want your heart, the vulnerable you, the problems you take on. So we can build our own world from the ground up together in synchronicity with the universe.
Spiritual for spiritual, worldly for worldy. Ppl can talk shit and bitch whatever they want but this is ur life
Remember life is a very unique journey for each individual so dont listen to others even me coz u know urself better
The volume on your videos is low.
John Richard I try listening at home where it’s quiet
This video was so quiet i had to turn up the volume all the way up. :(
Hello! I’ve just watched a video from about 8 years ago about a friend being closer friends with another person. My best friend sent me a baby picture of her boyfriend and me think it was funny when it was really not, posted it on a groupchat with her boyfriend in it. He obiously saw, got mad at me and my friend. Shes really mad at me and i feel really bad. Any advice?
Edit: also i sit next to him in homeroom and i have to go to school to tomorrow
You could simply explain to both of them that you are truly sorry and meant no harm. And then wait or this to blow over. I bet they will forgive you. Just give them time.
There was someone who truly was there for me but after 4 years, I realized I was not attracted to him and I feel like shit.
I may never find "the one."
Could you do a video on people who try to use leverage on you tgo make you talk to them and or be your friend who are just using you. This is the thing I see over and over and over again. I just want to choose my own friends and talk to people that I want to. I don't want other people forcing themselves on me. Do you know what I mean? On the internet I can easily ignore people. But in real life I can't talk to someone I want to without these people immediately coming over and eavesdropping and then joining in on the conversation. The person who s;ays things like "yo9u can't be friends with one of us unless you are friends with all of us" The lady at the post office who makes you come into the post office to pick up a parcel which could have instead been put into one of the large boxes where you can pick up the parcel at a time that is convenient for you. The guy who you are trying to do a simple business transaction with who stalls and stalls on delivering the item that you ordered from him and tries to get you to call him up andtalk with himj on the phone. etc. Those kinds of people.
❤️❤️❤️ Marie ur amazing
This depressed me when she said "you're in your mid-twenties and afraid of ending up alone"...I'm 42 and alone so I guess that means I "ended up" alone?
No, not at all! You will find love. Be patient and don't give up!
Being single is not that bad, being alone is something else.
absolutely- look for dull and not too hot looking 😀!!!! and then enjoy life
Marie I wanna know where you can find a private place to talk to a girl
Bathroom is a private place
Man, 24, single, healthy and virgin. Medical career going well. Graduating in 4 years. Healthy and sporty. Still can't find anybody. Fear of ending up alone is very real and mentally damaging me.
I don't want to be alone. What should I do?
I want to find somebody, but guys don't ask me out on dates.
So do i have to diminish my standards on boyfriend? I don't want to be in a relationship because of a need and desperation
At this age, you are alone for a reason, mostly because the people you choose are to picky in their choosing a mate,
So you either either lower your own standards and settle or continue waiting for your needle in a haystack.
Stop chasing the chad girl