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Комментарии • 123

  • @katyc.1402
    @katyc.1402 Год назад +85

    Why didn't the hotel clerk call the police when he was repeatedly doing that? I would've been way too scared to let that keep happening

    • @viviennemorgan7217
      @viviennemorgan7217 Год назад +1

      i don't know.

    • @venomshadowblood8353
      @venomshadowblood8353 Год назад +6

      Because he didn’t think much of it at first until the threats came

    • @tigernotwoods914
      @tigernotwoods914 Год назад +2

      What difference would it make? OP called the police in the end and they did nothing so call me them earlier would’ve done less.

    • @LegendStormcrow
      @LegendStormcrow 8 месяцев назад

      Because they are useless.

  • @lauramiller7690
    @lauramiller7690 Год назад +38

    His conduct was definitely disorderly and you should have called the police after the second incidence of him yelling and screaming painting a lot of people would have after the first time explain to him that he either needs to calm down or he will be asked to leave and thrown out

  • @Regden1000
    @Regden1000 Год назад +38

    The third story. The OP deciding to take care of her sister's children was a very brave thing to do. And the OP is better off without her so called friends who can't seem to understand the sacrifices she is making so that those kids can, more or less, have a normal life. And I can't blame her former fiance for leaving her, the guy has his own life to live.

  • @otkucorner8274
    @otkucorner8274 Год назад +18

    Story 2: yea that guy seemed like either an angry drunk, a druggie, a karen or all 3

    • @LunaP1
      @LunaP1 Год назад

      He's all three and would've been a dead man if he did this shit in NYC.

  • @ep697
    @ep697 Год назад +9

    I have never heard a better story than story one.

  • @lauramiller7690
    @lauramiller7690 Год назад +5

    A lot of hotels have list of people that they were no longer rent to this man should definitely be on yours

  • @misst1928
    @misst1928 Год назад +10

    The last story. The O.P should apply for surviving child benefits, it's based off of what the mother put in and last until the children hit 18.

    • @viviennemorgan7217
      @viviennemorgan7217 Год назад +1

      i like how op took care of her fiancee's sister's kids but i think that her friends are bitter when they exclude her from conversations.

    • @misst1928
      @misst1928 Год назад

      ​@vivienne morgan I read "my sister had always struggled with mental illness"

  • @bond8714
    @bond8714 Год назад +14

    Dud all these story's are fire I always watch this when I want drama 🤣

  • @tylerharris2689
    @tylerharris2689 Год назад +3

    I could not deal with aggressive costumers, that only enrages me and will more than likely to lash out violently to end any aggressive behaviors

  • @venomshadowblood8353
    @venomshadowblood8353 Год назад +53

    Story2: Go to internal affairs and report that cop he failed to do his job and that is not allowed.

    • @rjgaynor8
      @rjgaynor8 Год назад +8

      The police investigated themselves and found they did nothing wrong.

    • @kano8
      @kano8 Год назад +3

      Umm, if its not an active shooter and nobody has suffered any bodily harm, the police cannot walk into any private room or house and arrest or remove someone without a warrant. Thats tenfold for hotels. This is why you have security guards, security guards are employed by the hotel and such privacy laws the police have to follow security doesn't. As security is directly employed by the business and has full rights to do such. The cop didn't fail his job, in fact he followed it to a tee. If he did what the clerk wanted too, he would be a corrupt cop that violated someone's constitution. You would be asking for the cop to get fired if he did that.

    • @venomshadowblood8353
      @venomshadowblood8353 Год назад +7

      @@kano8 Actually, if a person of authority requests you to leave and you don’t cops are supposed to trespass em if the said person requests it

    • @rjgaynor8
      @rjgaynor8 Год назад

      @@kano8 where do you get this crap. It’s called being trespassed. You have someone trespassed and the police are required to remove them from the property. Hotel guests are not considered residents anywhere and are not protected under that. By your logic I can sit down in Your living room and you would have to remove me. By your logic if I were sitting on your couch and you wanted me to leave your property the police can’t do anything until after you try to remove me and I put a sharp object in your chest. Please stop being stupid.

    • @kano8
      @kano8 Год назад +2

      @@venomshadowblood8353 the clerk never asked the person to leave, she called the cops and ask them to tell them to leave. Cops do not have the authority to do that at a private business on private property. Security guards can and do have the authority. You as a private individual need to be informed you are trespassing when on a business private property that is open to the public. And for criminal trespassing, both the clerk, and individual would have to sign trespassing orders before the cop could pyschical remove them. I've dealt with the process enough and have gone to court many times as a result of being a security guard.

  • @RicardoWARElizondo
    @RicardoWARElizondo Год назад +9

    And the woman that took in her nephews despite everyone else abandoning her you are not the jerk you are a saint God bless you because you are a blessing towards his children they are lucky to have you

    • @acc4586
      @acc4586 Год назад

      This is the right answer. 😇

  • @TheOmegaRiddler
    @TheOmegaRiddler Год назад +6

    Wait, I call BS on the hotel story. If a business asks that someone be trespassed, their expectation of privacy is gone. They are no longer welcome, GTFO or GTFO in cuffs. Once they have been trespassed, a refusal to leave is a crime. They are not acting as agents of the hotel. The hotel should file a complaint against the officers.

    • @skittlemenow
      @skittlemenow Год назад +1

      Too true, I work at a mental health program that also happens to be a house and you can imagine it's not easy to get those into nice neighborhoods. I have had to explain the law to police on several occasions when they tried to refuse to do their jobs. I would bet it's usually that they don't want the paperwork or it's close to shift change. Took me ten minutes one night to get them to remove some random homeless lady from our porch. They tried to claim that we had no grounds to trespass her because they had arbitrarily decided despite our actual license that we were an emergency shelter. Most absurd conversation ever.

  • @thenerdbeast7375
    @thenerdbeast7375 Год назад +8

    In the second story the author or their manager should have filed a complaint with the police department, that was some piss poor service from the pigs.

    • @kano8
      @kano8 Год назад

      The "pigs" followed the law to a tee, and didn't violate someones rights. That's what security is for, if they had security that night, the security guard would have been able to remove the person so the police could arrest them. But as they where in a room on private property they couldn't remove the person unless one of 4 things happened. Active shooter, caused bodily harm to another, properly damage, active arrest warrant.

    • @Icalasari
      @Icalasari 5 месяцев назад

      As much as I HATE to say it, the police actually did everything right there. Think of it from an outside perspective, you only have the clerk's word. Innocent until proven Guilty is the name of the game, the police doing more would have actually been an overstep of their powers.
      It's utterly bizarre, but this is actually police doing things correctly. What the hotel needs is security detail so they can trespass unruly guests instead of putting the clerk in danger

  • @tsutsuyuasuifroppy5764
    @tsutsuyuasuifroppy5764 Год назад +15

    Story 3: My opinion on this is the friends are the only jerks here, it’s not the fiancés fault they didn’t want kids, OP however is not the jerk either for taking them in. The friends are however just because she can’t go out doesn’t mean to just stop being friends with OP.

  • @sarahkrupa7345
    @sarahkrupa7345 3 дня назад

    As a former front desk clerk, if a police officer told me it was not his job to trespass individuals from private property, I would have burst out laughing. Then told him, 'That's okay. I'll just call the staties. What was your name again? I'm sure they'll get a kick out of the town cop who doesn't know his job description."
    Last trespass I did before I changed to an out of state university, the college bros opened the door to the police with powdered donuts minus the donuts RIGHT THERE on the table. The locals were in pretty high spirits while leading the bros out in handcuffs. I guess busts aren't normally that easy, hahaha.

  • @kunfussed213
    @kunfussed213 Год назад +3

    Just a good old boy. Never meaning no harm. 💃💃💃

  • @lemonwasabi5663
    @lemonwasabi5663 Год назад +15

    wonder what branson did to get an arrest warrant

    • @ep697
      @ep697 Год назад +1

      Me too

    • @harudiaz8077
      @harudiaz8077 Год назад +6

      Prob some car theft
      But i feel like that he was planning to rob the store and “tried” to gain trust of the higher ups by tattletaling so he is less of a suspect

    • @dylanclay2741
      @dylanclay2741 Год назад +2

      ​​@@harudiaz8077 that sounds pretty accurate. Seen it before

    • @eric98292
      @eric98292 Год назад +2

      Based on his general behavior, harassment maybe.

    • @viviennemorgan7217
      @viviennemorgan7217 Год назад

      i think he got arrested for bragging rights.

  • @A_randombatchofthings
    @A_randombatchofthings Год назад +5

    Legendary channel love these storys

  • @beasty909
    @beasty909 Год назад +8

    the last story........OP? you have escaped a HELL of a jerk off twit!!!! GG on taking care of those sweethearts!!! your "friends & fiance" are utter sobs, just leave them all!!!! take care of your family bud :) x

    • @go.a.t
      @go.a.t Месяц назад

      I don’t think the fiancé was the jerk

  • @TheGoodPrincess
    @TheGoodPrincess Год назад

    I wonder what he got a warrant for, lol 🤣

  • @SuperTheGorilla
    @SuperTheGorilla 7 месяцев назад

    As soon as I heard my name in the first story i felt flabbergasted

  • @ethanh9275
    @ethanh9275 Год назад +1

    In story 3, I agree with the general consensus that the friends were definite jerks who couldn't stand to stay still for even a minute or two, but the fiance made a fair decision of leaving, as agreeing to have no children then suddenly having several is a break of the agreement between that couple and he's allowed to do what he feels is right for him after that. But of course, what the OP there did for their sister's kids was amazing and I'm glad that they take care of the kids properly even though it means losing a big part of their life before
    Edit: To clarify, I don't think the OP is a jerk for taking in the kids despite the fiance not wanting any, life throws curveballs one after another and sometimes they hit those close to you too

  • @johnnymcneal5914
    @johnnymcneal5914 Год назад

    This is the way they treated and they weren't friends to begin with you don't need these people in your life

  • @lauramiller7690
    @lauramiller7690 Год назад +2

    So they what they can't help you till he comes down and beat the crap out of you or shoot you first that's utterly ridiculous you see videos where they try to arrest people and trespassing them for being on the public sidewalk but they can't trust passing for being in the hotel room when she no longer has any claim to that's ridiculous

  • @johnnymcneal5914
    @johnnymcneal5914 Год назад

    They didn't treat you like a boring person they treated you more like a pariah

  • @Sakuko09
    @Sakuko09 Год назад +3

    The child free story. I get it, do you know how many "friends" ditch me because I was pregnant? I was 21 and married, but once pregnant, I was definitely told not to bother them, because I now had a kid. Let's just say the quality of friends I had left, was better. (Only 2 stayed in my life) ✌️🤟

  • @mew-mellow8980
    @mew-mellow8980 11 месяцев назад +1

    In the last story I'd honestly say no one did anything wrong/jerk-ish. Fact of the matter is a lot of people lose friends when they become a parent. Your life no longer fits with your old life. Some friends can work around that and some friendships can last, but it's normal for friendships to kind of end at that point. Nothing wrong with that, the old friends weren't bad or anything just because they wanted to keep living their lives as they've been living them.

  • @beasty909
    @beasty909 Год назад +3

    the guy who started on the poor employee........wtf????? yeah, he on something, not just beer /: what an idiot, bet he just wanted to feel like a big guy by bullying someone, i reckon he just was trying to gain confidence to hurt OP or someone else /:

  • @Your_Local_We1rd0
    @Your_Local_We1rd0 Год назад +2

    I'm early for once, and this was a very interesting episode.

  • @lolbrawlrefferencerawat3657
    @lolbrawlrefferencerawat3657 Год назад +1

    LUMBERRRR CHO CHOP HEEHAAAA
    LOL

  • @4givablyun4givable
    @4givablyun4givable 7 месяцев назад

    For the hotel story i wouldve called him when the cops were there and spun up some bs about how the hotel was so sorry for the inconvenience and if he would come down to the lobby they have some complimentary food, alcohol, or maybe some kind of voucher they would happy to give them to him. I cant say for sure it would work but its worth a try.

  • @peturjonarnason5052
    @peturjonarnason5052 Год назад

    In story 2 the guy could've seen the cops called the front desk then ran out maybe using another exit or something so he could scare the op without being caught

  • @greytala
    @greytala Год назад

    They are a genius in their own mind. I know someone like that and can’t stand it!

  • @AMLS1922
    @AMLS1922 Год назад

    The woman in the last story should start a web page looking for others that have done what she has done for her nephews. That way the like minded people can share their thoughts, experiences and feelings with each other.
    I for one congratulate her for showing us what a good person is. While her story also shows how shallow her so called friends and Fiance were. She's better off without them.

  • @Leith_Crowther
    @Leith_Crowther Год назад

    Why is it all these people who “would give the shirt off their backs” never actually do?

  • @jonathonwerntz6499
    @jonathonwerntz6499 Год назад

    Cops definitely didn't do their job, you and the hotel should have sued them....

  • @LegendStormcrow
    @LegendStormcrow 8 месяцев назад

    Story 2: And that's ehy the 2A is important.

  • @avinashrishi1411
    @avinashrishi1411 Год назад +3

    Yoooooopoo

  • @ronniepickett4586
    @ronniepickett4586 Год назад

    What if you went into that room with him in there and open door for the cops?

  • @oofroboxislit
    @oofroboxislit Год назад

    Story 2 Yeah he has the right to privacy if he pays for the room

    • @kano8
      @kano8 Год назад

      He did pay for one, and the police still don't have the authority to enter and psychically remove the person from the room by law. That would be the jib if a security guard, which they honestly should of had.

  • @go.a.t
    @go.a.t Месяц назад

    Story 3 nobody was the jerk the only jerk was the friends because in the end the fiancé did not sign up for that

  • @CharlotteNEO
    @CharlotteNEO Год назад

    wow. this is kinda surprising, i did NOT expcect a story like that to wind up on Am I The Jerk

  • @55cent15
    @55cent15 Год назад +2

    Not even my dad raised his voice on me *jump over the counter with a shotgu*

  • @tylerharris2689
    @tylerharris2689 Год назад

    Cops in the second story are cowards

  • @STARS048
    @STARS048 29 дней назад

    that third story...."oh your boring now" "OH I'M SORRY I DIDN'T RELIZE TAKING CARE OF A PAIR OF KIDS WHO FOUND THERE MUM DEAD WOULD BE SHUSH A DOWNER ON YOUR LIFE!!" for you OP the trash toke it self out

  • @Zeruel3
    @Zeruel3 Год назад

    Story 2: This hotel isn't near Uvalde is it?

  • @christianmarshal6117
    @christianmarshal6117 Год назад

    This isn’t a problem with underperforming cops, this is a problem with overencumbered cops.

  • @liamspruyt
    @liamspruyt Год назад

    last lady, i do understand your fiance. if i was him i might do the same i'd maybe try to help in some way at least. but those friends are trash! you're better off with them!

  • @skittlemenow
    @skittlemenow Год назад

    It's apoplectic not apocalyptic. Damn it! Next someone going to say anticlimatic instead of anticlimactic. Yeah sometimes you have to call the police officer's supervisor. That hotel thing was a horrific example of poorly trained police. Once he was informed he was trespassed he's out period. The only expectation of privacy in his hotel room ended the second the hotel ended his stay for gross misconduct and threats of violence.

  • @svpracer98
    @svpracer98 Год назад +1

    Hotel story... Is this in Ca? I bet this is in Ca...

  • @wolfiejess6811
    @wolfiejess6811 Год назад

    THis is to the final story. Im the oldest of three now. And if something were to ever happen to my parents there is no if and or buts about it I will take in my little brothers. My husband knows that. Im already a mother to a 8 month old. My oldest sibling is 16 and very independent so he wouldldn't be difficult at all, well he is on the special side but I know how to care for him. Now my youngest sibling the new baby of the family hasn't even been born yet. HE would be tricky because babies are tiring and mildly frustrating. But comply worth it.

  • @johnnymcneal5914
    @johnnymcneal5914 Год назад

    Bucky is not as smart as he thinks he is the last thing you want to do if you're hiding from the law is make yourself conspicuous so really Bucky is really stupid fortunately I've never had that problem having to hide from the law

  • @ThatStormTrooper1914
    @ThatStormTrooper1914 Год назад +4

    If you start a chain you’re weird

  • @tukes1234
    @tukes1234 Год назад

    If this story is true it shows you how fragile the cops little ego is what a cry baby

  • @user-rr5jl7hp5b
    @user-rr5jl7hp5b Год назад

    my dad is a know it all just imagine

  • @Callsign_Reaper4
    @Callsign_Reaper4 Год назад

    Am I the jerk for rubbing and looking at my palms? I know I'm not the jerk but I figured I'd share this short story. I used to work at a grocery store. We wore red shirts, but despite me having worked at a certain bullseye store, I've never considered it a grocery store and it isn't the store in question.
    I had worked at the store, at the time, for about a year and 8 months. I was good at it, as I was told by managers often that if they could clone me, they'd happily do so just cause everything would be done so fast and efficiently. This was back when covid was starting to pick up and after I had been sick for a month with what I could only assume was covid. I've never been one to use moisturizer, and with all the hand sanitizer I was being asked to use, the palms of my hands had begun to peel quite a bit from skin drying out and dying. I had been working the self checkout, on a very slow morning. It had been an hour of the store being open and only one person had came in before the one in question.
    So I was sitting at the self checkout, chatting with a coworker, when this man walks in. He looked like one of the rather common panhandlers we saw at the gas station nearby. He had rather shaggy dirty blonde hair, was rather thin and looked like he may have been late 30s, early 40s, had a lazy eye and was clearly on something or drunk. At the time, I had been looking at my hands and rubbing at the skin, as it was rather annoying to have it peeling off, when this guy yells over at me, "What's that supposed to mean?!"
    I looked over at him in confusion, and asked "Pardon me?"
    He kept walking over, and moved his hand in front of his face in a similar fashion to what you'd see John Cena do, and said, "What's that, some sort of gang sign?"
    I stared a moment and shook my head, saying, "No.. my hands were itching and the skin is peeling."
    The guy preceded to get up close, within a foot of me and said,
    "You don't want to mess with me, I'll mess you up. I know Tai Chi."
    I admittedly almost laughed at that, as at the time I carried a karambit on my left hip for self defense specifically. I had never used it, and when my coworker saw my face grow cold, they quickly called the manager up. I simply said, "Okay. Cool."
    The guy started walking around, rambling on about how he'd seen gang signs and blah blah blah. Now I'm not a huge guy but I am a very strong guy and I apparently look larger to others when I grow the cold mood. I'm about 6 foot, but only weight about 150-160 lbs. My weight fluctuates a lot. Now I was also strong, as my coworker and manager knew. I was capable of pushing 68 carts that weighed 55 lbs each in a row up an incline. Once I got started, I wouldn't stop. The manager came up as I was staring the guy down, and immediately said that he needed to get out. The guy just muttered more stuff and walked out. When the manager and my coworker asked if I was okay, I said, "Yeah, I'm alright. That guy definitely had something wrong with him."
    My coworker started snickering and said, "What did he say he knew?"
    I laughed and said "Tai Chi. But I don't know if it would've mattered as with his lazy eye AND the substances he had probably had, he probably saw way more of me than I did of him, and I doubted he'd be able to do much." My manager, coworker and I laughed and joked about it for a few weeks then left it at that. The guy never came back in the store and I never saw him specifically again. But regardless, am I the jerk?

  • @jessicabeshears3275
    @jessicabeshears3275 Год назад

    I suggest that you choose a different game background such as shooter games

  • @beaston-hw3qz
    @beaston-hw3qz Год назад

    What country was this hotel in? I call BS if it was supposedly in the USA.

  • @gentlememe3381
    @gentlememe3381 Год назад

    The Game in the background?

  • @DanielGonzalez-qk6sd
    @DanielGonzalez-qk6sd Год назад

    Story 3: I disagree with AITJ. No one is wrong in their respective actions. OP wanted to ensure the children were safe and cared for. That is respectable. However, if this means OP does not have the time to hang out with friends and as such the friends wish to cut ties. That is also respectable. Every choice, good and bad, has consequences. This is the consequence of OP's choice.

  • @viviennemorgan7217
    @viviennemorgan7217 Год назад

    1st story: how did branson get arrested?, second story: this guy is a jerk for yelling at op at the front desk of the hotel, last story: there's nothing wrong with taking care of your finacee's sister's kids it's just you have toxic friends and your fiancee left you

  • @ashleygriffith4906
    @ashleygriffith4906 2 месяца назад

    Whats the game at 12:03 used 4 the background

  • @Jimothy_the_frog
    @Jimothy_the_frog Год назад

    Interesting

  • @pocketsycho8720
    @pocketsycho8720 Год назад +2

    Story 1: sounds extremely sus. A police officer gets insulted by a guy with a warrant I don’t believe it.

  • @theown3o.
    @theown3o. Год назад +2

    Hi !!

  • @ZoeMuller80
    @ZoeMuller80 Год назад

    What game is this

  • @ArmaniGaming445
    @ArmaniGaming445 Год назад

    Hi

  • @victorramos3791
    @victorramos3791 Год назад

    But i remenmber one time you go jail for dollars store front 7 street.

  • @frogridge
    @frogridge Год назад +1

    Having a warrant does not automatically make you a criminal. It simply means you felled the show up to court. And you can get warrants for failure to appear as a witness

  • @victormurta3321
    @victormurta3321 Год назад

    What's the name of this game?

  • @victorramos3791
    @victorramos3791 Год назад

    See i dont write this

  • @marklindjr.2017
    @marklindjr.2017 Год назад +1

    The hotel absolutely has the right to have that guest removed and the cops should have used the master key to remove him the instant op said “yes, I am officially trespassing the guest.” In almost every state, as soon as a trespass is issued, it’s a felony to remain on the property or to return

    • @kano8
      @kano8 Год назад

      For it to become a felony trespass on business private property they and yourself have to sign a document stating as such.
      Futhermore even if the guest was no longer a guest. The cops legally cannot remove him on private property if he is locked behind a closed door. Security guards employed by the hotel could if one was stationed. The only time the police could have broken their constitutional right and removed him was if he did 1 of 4 things. Active shooter, bodily harm, property damage, or had an arrest warrant. Learn the laws on what police can and cannot do on private property. As a security guard, I have thrown police out of hotels many of times or completely denied them entery as they had no grounds to be there at said time.

  • @ambreenijaz3919
    @ambreenijaz3919 Год назад +2

    Day 16 of saying the same thing until I get pinned
    Karen's getting destroyed is one of the best parts of my life

    • @elainegoates9792
      @elainegoates9792 Год назад +1

      Pls pin this guy

    • @ambreenijaz3919
      @ambreenijaz3919 Год назад +1

      @@elainegoates9792 bruh do I even have to say anything you're name literally has goat in it

  • @TheScaletIbisNW
    @TheScaletIbisNW Год назад

    I wouldn't crap on op's friends too much. Obviously it's an awful Situation. However it's also not easy to have a friend that also just disappears out of Nowhere. again obviously OP is going through a much harder time, But it's hard to maintain a relationship with someone who just no longer has time to hang out anyMore. Even worse than that o p's entire life has changed. What are they going to talk to anymore? She's right none of Her friends have kids so they really can't join in on that conversation. Suddenly OP his life is all about these kids. Op made the right decision, But it doesn't change the fact that now she's walking a completely different road than her friends are.. I had this whole thing happened with a friend of mine. When we first met she was single and I was single. We were both child free. It's a long story and personal but eventually she had some children and also some pets. I really try to maintain a friendship and be a part of her life but it became very clear that we were no longer in the same place we were when we first met. I just didn't connect with their children and and we just didn't have time anymore. We haven't talked in yes and the last time talking to a stranger compared the person I first met. There is nothing wrong with the life that she choseBut it just seemed like we were growing apart. I still hope she is doing well but it was one of those things where we both had to let go of each other and find people That were heading in the same direction in life.

  • @adamluce1901
    @adamluce1901 Год назад

    About story one some people work hard to know stuff sorry

  • @kosopaty
    @kosopaty Месяц назад

    I think its bit unfair to call ex/friends in the last story "not good people"... Its not that "people cant see you're trying to do best thing for kids", they see it, but should they all change their lifestyle because one person have kids? If their whole relationship and most of interactions was parties and trips... and OP cant participate in any of them... then what else there's to do? Oh kid-friendly trip to petting zoo for whole friend group every weekend?
    There was story from the other side on AITA, where among group of young, child-free people, one of them ended up with a baby... And yeah, they tried for a bit, suggested babysitters... But it just didn't work, their lifestyles, wants and needs were just too different. It was judged as clear NTA on the friends side.
    You cant hold on to friendship just by meeting for lunch 2 times a year... so its either forced lifestyle change for whole group or that friendship is gone.
    Even more with boyfriend. He wasn't angry, he didn't demand she abandons the kids, he just choose best option he could in this situation. Doing full 180 on your life, breaking every agreement and expectation you had before entering the relationship and taking in (at least two) traumatised kids you have zero relation with is not a small favour... and forcing someone not ready and not wanting to have kids into parenthood will end up bad for everyone included. Especially kids.
    OP has love and and connection with the kids and already feels burned, boyfriend would only have resentment.
    Its sad, life is cruel, but it doesn't make the other "side" outright "toxic" and bad people. Nobody is the bad guy here, just life.

  • @001Nennine
    @001Nennine Год назад +3

    Guy sounds like Trump with his arrogance lol

  • @Bigmike-rv6kw
    @Bigmike-rv6kw Год назад

    The story that the OP took in her nephews just want to say you did the right thing if your friends and fiance can't understand then good riddance to bad rubbish as a farther of 2 my advice is to legally adopt them I wish you the best and be the best Aunt/mom you can be to them and keep your sisters memory alive with pictures and stories that's is what I do for my kids I lost my wife almost 2 years ago again I wish you all the best and I hope to hear an update soon